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November 22, 2024 9 mins
On this episode of The Thought Shower, Intern John talks about how to tell if they love you more than you love them

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 2 (00:30):
A happy Friday friend. Welcome to the thought Shower. Intern
John is my name. Hopefully had a good week, got
a lone done, whether it be professionally, maybe around the house,
whatever it may be. I've enjoyed the last couple weeks
because I have not had the heat on in my house,
And when you get to pay in your own bills,

(00:52):
that's excited. Like where it's cold enough where you can
just not have the heat on and be fine. My
house was like sixty seven this morning, felt so good,
felt so good, And luckily my dogs have furs so
they doesn't really bother them per se. But uh yeah,
I like the tame year where it's like a couple

(01:13):
of weeks where you have to pay for heat. You
don't gonna pay for ac. It's the little things, you know. Otherwise,
this week has been good. I've been so tired this week,
and that usually happens, like we have some vacations coming up,
that's usual when I get the most tired, and so
like the last couple of days, I've been taking like
two hour naps, which there's some weeks where I can't

(01:34):
even take a five minute nap because my brain won't
let it. I'm confident I got home yesterday from work,
I laid down around like eleven. I probably could have
slept from eleven to eleven next day, legitimately, like probably
for sure.

Speaker 3 (01:49):
Obviously with hockey.

Speaker 2 (01:50):
Going on and the show and the bar, just a
lot going on, which again is a good thing. It
means business is good in all accounts. It's just a
bit of an adjustment. This weekend gonna be at the
bar as well. We start brunch this weekend. Very exciting.
The restaurant I'm involved with, Hide Social in Clarendon. We

(02:11):
officially start brunch this weekend. It is so good, it's
so good like the menu is fantastic. I'm kind of
excited because I'm going tonight as well for dinner, and
like all of our food is so stinking good. If
you get a chance to come out, love you try it.
Hide Social Clarendon, VA. The next week's Thanksgiving. My goodness,

(02:36):
My goodness, the year's kind of flying by, right. I
am not going anywhere for Thanksgiving. My family's gonna be
in Nashville. I was thinking about going, but it's like
I need to stay put for a little bit, relax
a little bit, not even relax, but not travel a
little bit, and just kind of like try to focus

(02:59):
on resting and because for us, like the end of
the year in radio is always a lot, because there's
a lot going on making sure we're good for vacation,
you know, recording a bunch of stuff for vacation commercials
and that kind of stuff. So the end of the
year is like a full out sprint and to get there,
it's just a lot.

Speaker 3 (03:17):
So, especially with the.

Speaker 2 (03:19):
Way Thanksgiving fell this year kind of late in the year,
it just would have been paying the butt to fly
down on Wednesday then fly back on like Friday for
the bar. So staying here, no real plans yet. I mean,
I've been lucky that Eric's family invite me a Thanksgiving
and the Sauce family invite me and Thanksgiving, and so
we have options. But pardon me is like, maybe we

(03:41):
just stay in and do nothing, you know, like actually saying,
get that kind of reset if you will. I don't know,
big things coming, I suppose. Also a lot of Netflix
stuff come out too, very excited about that. I hope
you're right for your Thanksgiving as well. Let me get
to this for your Friday. The signs your partner is

(04:01):
more in love with you than you are with them, damn,
which I guess like selfishly nice problem to have, right
to have that feeling. But then I guess, like, I
don't know, you want it to be equal. According to
the expert, and starts with they're always the one making plans, Yeah,

(04:22):
whether it's planning date nights, suggests, the weekend adventures, they're
the one coming up with all the ideas. Meanwhile, you're
just along for the ride, they say. If you're not
as excited to contribute or make time for them, it
might be a sign that their feelings are running deeper.
I would just feel awkward to you, I suppose, right,
like a bit of a free loader if you are

(04:42):
the one just kind of there and they're always the
one setting things up, so you just like it's like
they're taking care of you.

Speaker 3 (04:51):
I feel a little bit guilty.

Speaker 2 (04:53):
I mean maybe it sounds nice in principle where it's like,
you know, I don't gotta think or plan, but like
i'd feel a little bit guilty if I felt that
they were pulling all the weight and I was just
kind of like along for the ride, if you will,
If they apologize even when it's not their fault, they'll
say sorry first to keep the peace, even when the

(05:14):
argument wasn't there doing. If you notice the benny ever
backwards while you're still hold on the grudges, it might
be time to admit. They're much more, much more invested.
That makes sense. Yeah, because they're afraid that it's gonna end.
They're afraid that it's gonna be it's gonna move on,
and something's gonna happen. Differently, that makes all the sense
in the world to me. Yeah, if they checking on

(05:35):
you constantly again makes sense. If how's your day going,
did you eat lunch, how the meeting go they're about
keeping up with you and what's happening in your life,
but you realize you can't remember the last time you
asked about theirs. Damn dude, damn yeah, because you're not invested,

(05:55):
because you don't even like really care what's going on
they're live, you know what I mean. That's also to
me a huge sign of a power imbalance. And if
you don't even care enough to ask about your person's day,
kind of wild. If they go out of their way
to make you smile, well, this one's a little bit
of a double edged sword, right, because that certainly should

(06:16):
happen more than once. You know, like, these should be
making these people smile all the time in a relationship
and vice versa. They remember your favorite snacks, surprise you
with thoughtful gestures, go out of the way to make
your life easier. But do you do the same if
you are not, that has to sign the investment is
not equal. I mean to me, this is a big

(06:38):
one too. If they're dreaming about the future and you
are not. They've talked about someday plans like traveling together,
moving on, Well, you're focused on the here and now.
If their vision for the future feels like pressure rather
than excitement. It might be a question if you love
them as much as they love you. I think that's true,

(06:58):
and I feel like I've been in relationships sometimes where
it kind of feels like that ridestart think of the future,
and then it's like they hadn't thought passed lunchhie, you
know what I mean, like that kind of vibe, and
it's been like, Okay, do I need to pull back?

Speaker 3 (07:12):
Am I too far in this?

Speaker 2 (07:15):
If they compliment you all the time, always telling you
how beautiful you are, how smart you are, how amazing
you are, but when's the last time you gave them
a genuine compliment in return?

Speaker 3 (07:26):
That is so sad.

Speaker 2 (07:28):
If they're always gassing you up and telling you how
amazing you are, but you're not doing it back. Dude,
do you even like this person? How could you be
with somebody if you're not even gonna tell them that
you care how much you like them?

Speaker 3 (07:44):
To me? I don't know.

Speaker 2 (07:45):
Maybe at that point you just kind of like being served.
You'd like the power balance if you don't want to
admit it.

Speaker 3 (07:51):
I think so.

Speaker 2 (07:53):
They're willing to bend, but you're not compromise comes easily
to them, they're always willing to meet you half way
what it is, but you find yourself less well into
the same when it's your turn. They say, that's a
huge sign of the scales of love might be tipping
in their favor.

Speaker 3 (08:10):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (08:11):
Again, to me, it's a partnership, right, it's supposed to
become an equal share.

Speaker 3 (08:15):
I would just feel guilty.

Speaker 2 (08:17):
I think you know what I mean, unless you maybe
you're so cupping your own stuff you don't realize. But
I feel so guilty because to me, all these things
make it seem fairly obvious who's wearing the pants, so
to speak, in the family, who's calling the shots. And
I would just feel really bad because it feels even
more of like a like they're your staff, then your equal.

(08:41):
You know, if they show you off, they beam a
pride when introducing you to friends with family, but you
realize you're not eyes.

Speaker 3 (08:48):
Eager to do the same.

Speaker 2 (08:50):
That is wild, dude, If you are not eager and
excited to introduce your person to your friends and family, yeah,
that should be a huge, huge sign something's off. I've
always said this too. As far as dudes go, dudes
want to show you off as soon as they can
dudes want to show you off to their friends, to

(09:11):
their family. It's kind of like a proof of like, hey,
I did something good. You don't get to worry about me.
If your man's is not showing you off to his
friends and family, something is wrong. I mean he's hiding something.
And to be honest, it might be you that he's hiding,
but something is wrong. I hope you have a fantastic weekend.

(09:33):
Thank you so much for listening. Make sure you fall
along to you at Internjohn Radio. I will see you
on Monday.

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