May 2, 2025 • 10 mins
On this episode of The Thought Shower, Intern John talks about his weekend, and the toxic things couples mistake for love
Intern John's "Chuy Forever" is a weekend of comedy shows 6/20 & 6/21 in Arlington, Va benefitting Warrior Canine Connection. They train puppies to be service animals for veterans! Tickets are on sale now, InternJohnComedy.com
Every week Intern John discusses adulting, dating, radio life, and more! You can follow Intern John on social media: @InternJohnRadio. You can listen to past episodes at TheThoughtShower.com
Intern John's "Chuy Forever" is a weekend of comedy shows 6/20 & 6/21 in Arlington, Va benefitting Warrior Canine Connection. They train puppies to be service animals for veterans! Tickets are on sale now, InternJohnComedy.com
Every week Intern John discusses adulting, dating, radio life, and more! You can follow Intern John on social media: @InternJohnRadio. You can listen to past episodes at TheThoughtShower.com
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
And a happy Friday friend. Welcome to the Thought Shower
intern John is my name. Voting, by the way, going
on right now. You have like another week to do this.
Baltimore's Sons Best of Baltimore. It's me a very exciting battle.
If you will up for Hosts of the Year Shelby Sauce.
(00:21):
I'm up as well, very exciting podcast of the year
Hoodies Crisis podcast is up. My Thoughts Shower podcast is up,
and then the station Z one O four to three
is up, and then I'm up for a couple social
media ones as well. It's very simple to vote. Vote
yms dot com. That's vote yms dot com. You scroll
down has all the media categories. If you get a
(00:44):
chance to vote, it means a lot to me. Obviously,
be nominated is fantastic. However, winning pretty cool as well.
Vote yms dot com. You can vote every single day
until next Friday. Kind of a chill weekend. I think
last week was pretty eventful just throughout the week with
(01:04):
the golfing, did the baseball game, did the hockey game,
And so this week gonna be more hopefully the planets relax,
hopefully doing some wellness stuff later today doing a float session,
you know, a massage as well.
Speaker 2 (01:20):
Very excited for that. Then a plan this weekend.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
I gotta start packing, going to London and Milan next
week with my dad. So this week hopefully the plan
is to somewhat pack and get things ready. Skittles give
me spending time, but it's on shelby, so making sure
he's ready to go. And for me, you know, two
different climates for sure, England kind of not blah but
(01:47):
kind of like eh when it comes to weather. Italy
hopefully a little bit better. Excited because the next Saturday
going to the Manchester United soccer game, then going to
Milan to see where they film Star Wars, and I
do kind of want to make like, depending on how
this goes, I think it'd be cool to keep on
visiting sites where they filmed movies. I think that'd be cool.
(02:09):
Like when I was in Chicago for a radio convention
man four years ago, maybe like the hotel was by
where they filmed Batman Dark Knight.
Speaker 2 (02:18):
That was pretty sick.
Speaker 1 (02:19):
And even though like it's not anything uh like over
the top, it's more like, oh, this is like where
the underground scenes where this building's Wayne manor I want
to see more sub I mean, I think the Humbleone house.
Maybe you know that's like in the suburbs of Chicago.
That might be kind of cool to see. I just
(02:40):
saw a video on TikTok. I was kind of pissing
sauce that the main building basically for the Hunger Games
is a hotel in Atlanta, and I was like, girl,
I've been to Atlanta. Why wouldn't you tell me to
stay at that hotel? You know it looks sick on
the inside. I mean growing up in Minnesota and loving
the Mighty Ducks. I skate in basically every rink they
(03:02):
have the my Ducks, that part is pretty cool. But
I think doing that because, like you know, in Italy,
the Milan part of it on Lake Como, that's where
in Star Wars Attack of the Clones and a king
gets married.
Speaker 2 (03:15):
So pretty.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
I'm saying, insightful, but pretty memorable spot for that. So
if you know any good movie locations nine nine three
three eight to text you have any tips for London, Italy?
Also nine nine three three eight to text, let me
hit this for your Friday. The Toxic Habits, Couple's Mistake
for Love Man. Some of these I feel like I
(03:40):
need to say louder, you know.
Speaker 2 (03:44):
Uh.
Speaker 1 (03:44):
Starting with being overdependent on each other. They say it's
easy to assume it needing someone for everything to scign
deep love, but over dependence often suffocates personal growth while
being a couple meets top porting each other, Ryan heavily
your partner for emotional, social, and financial needs can create
unhealthy dynamic. Yeah, especially early on, I always kind of
(04:05):
sit back in that situation and watch, being like, this.
Speaker 2 (04:08):
Isn't gonna work out. You know.
Speaker 1 (04:11):
It is one of those things where I think it's
tempting to want to skip ahead a couple steps in
a relationship, right, like skip to you know, six months in.
But you can't do that. And when you see couples
do that, to me, it's obvious, like, okay, like what
you guys are queuing up for a breakup? Needing constant communication?
Speaker 2 (04:30):
Oh boy?
Speaker 1 (04:31):
Well, open lines communication or crucial for relationships. Constant texting,
Colin can become more of a leash than a lifeline.
Yet I've never been a fan of calling just to
call or talking just to talk. And yeah, I think
for me, like I'm very busy, I think that's a
(04:51):
part of it. So like I even like with an
ex girlfriend calling and knowing she's in the car and
just wants to talk to part of me is always like, girl,
you have girlfriends who would love this right now, you
know what I mean, who would absolutely love it. But
if you're asking me, like what do I think free
Willie's favorite type of peanut butter and jelly sandwiches, you know,
(05:13):
maybe we wait to talk till later because I don't
want to get in trouble and go I don't know.
And that sounds like a real conversation. It wasn't, but
you get the idea. It's a big one. Taking jealousy
as proof of love. I have seen this before, and
I've had female friends, and I guess the guy friends
who are female friends who their boy would get jealous
(05:36):
and they kind of think it's a good thing, like
he's showing that he cares. I'm like, yo, that's not
good though, That's not good, especially if it's a the
jealousy veiled as they don't trust you. You know, I
had an next girlfriend who got angry once because I
never got jealous, which was an odd, odd spot to
(05:57):
be in, right odd spot to be in.
Speaker 2 (05:59):
And she's like he's never get jealous if I.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
I'm out, and I remember saying like, I mean, if
you're gonna cheat, you're gonna cheat. Yeah, me being jealous
isn't gonna affect that. If you're gonna do that to me,
you're gonna do it to me. So why why ruin
my day now? If it doesn't necessarily come? You know,
That's kind of where I'm at with that. If you
sacrifice personal goals, who sacrificing personal ambitions with the sacred
(06:26):
relationship might seem noble but can lead to long term
discontentment and regret. It's a tough one, right. I would
assume if we're taking you know, no kids and you know,
not married, then probably not right. But there might be
a time I suppose, like if you are married or
(06:47):
if you are having kids, that like you need to
make some of those sacrifices. But I do think early on, yeah,
it kind of makes no sense if there's no reason
to be to be doing that making your partner your everything.
I've mentioned this on this podcast, and I said this before.
I had an ext girlfriend who that was kind of that,
like she wanted me to let me phrase this the
(07:10):
wrong way. She I was her everything, that's the best
way of putting it. And I was like, I can't.
I can't do that for you, you know. And this
person like they had like large chunks of time off
from work, but then didn't have any hobbies. And I
was like, hey, like you need to get a hobby.
And not in the mean way, but it's like, it
(07:32):
can't be that. I'm doing podcasts, comedy, hockey, whatever. I
come home from work and I still those things, and
you're just kind of there, like, hey, it's time to
hang out. It's like, nah, girl, you need to have
something that you like to do outside of work.
Speaker 2 (07:48):
And uh yeah.
Speaker 1 (07:48):
But I was like, I can't. I can't be the
source of your happiness, not the soul source. I barely
make myself happy, you know what I mean. I can't
be your soul starts of happiness. That's not fair. That's
not fair at all. Neglecting individual needs is a big one,
they say in pursuit of harmonious existence. Neglecting individual needs
(08:12):
is a common pitfall. Sacrificing personal desires for the sake
of the relationship can relate to dissatisfaction and resentment.
Speaker 2 (08:19):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (08:19):
Again, I think especially It's one of those things where
if you don't feel like you're being recognized every single
day for the sacrifice, that's gotta be tough. If you
put your goals aside. I couldn't do that. Yeah, I
couldn't do that. I'm not big enough person I think
to do that. So if he can, God bless by
the way, speaking of goals. June twentieth. June twenty first
(08:43):
Arlington Draft House Chewy Forever in honor of my dog Chewy.
Raising money for this fantastic, fantastic group, the Warrior Canine Connection.
They help veterans be placed with their service dogs and
they train these dogs from birth to the time. The
way to be off. I would love to see you there,
(09:04):
Internsjohncomedy dot com. Tickets start at fifteen bucks. Once the
show sell out, it's over. And if I can be honest,
had no plans doing shows this year, you know. Last year,
going through a breakup I thought was good, like kind
of therapy to do a show. Was going to take
this year off, and then losing Chewy at the beginning
(09:24):
of the year.
Speaker 2 (09:25):
It's been hard.
Speaker 1 (09:25):
Man. It's one of those things where it doesn't get
easier despite what people say, it doesn't get easier. It's
very hard every day. It's just kind of like you
just kind of learned not to deal with it. But
you know, I know that he can do a lot good.
And he did a lot good for me when he
was alive, did a lot good for other people in
his live I know he can do even more good
(09:48):
now that he's gone. So if you get a chance
to get tickets, Internshooncomedy dot com. That's Internsjooncomedy dot com.
This is the thought Shower. Have fantastic weekend. I will
see you on Monday.
And a happy Friday friend. Welcome to the Thought Shower
intern John is my name. Voting, by the way, going
on right now. You have like another week to do this.
Baltimore's Sons Best of Baltimore. It's me a very exciting battle.
If you will up for Hosts of the Year Shelby Sauce.
(00:21):
I'm up as well, very exciting podcast of the year
Hoodies Crisis podcast is up. My Thoughts Shower podcast is up,
and then the station Z one O four to three
is up, and then I'm up for a couple social
media ones as well. It's very simple to vote. Vote
yms dot com. That's vote yms dot com. You scroll
down has all the media categories. If you get a
(00:44):
chance to vote, it means a lot to me. Obviously,
be nominated is fantastic. However, winning pretty cool as well.
Vote yms dot com. You can vote every single day
until next Friday. Kind of a chill weekend. I think
last week was pretty eventful just throughout the week with
(01:04):
the golfing, did the baseball game, did the hockey game,
And so this week gonna be more hopefully the planets relax,
hopefully doing some wellness stuff later today doing a float session,
you know, a massage as well.
Speaker 2 (01:20):
Very excited for that. Then a plan this weekend.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
I gotta start packing, going to London and Milan next
week with my dad. So this week hopefully the plan
is to somewhat pack and get things ready. Skittles give
me spending time, but it's on shelby, so making sure
he's ready to go. And for me, you know, two
different climates for sure, England kind of not blah but
(01:47):
kind of like eh when it comes to weather. Italy
hopefully a little bit better. Excited because the next Saturday
going to the Manchester United soccer game, then going to
Milan to see where they film Star Wars, and I
do kind of want to make like, depending on how
this goes, I think it'd be cool to keep on
visiting sites where they filmed movies. I think that'd be cool.
(02:09):
Like when I was in Chicago for a radio convention
man four years ago, maybe like the hotel was by
where they filmed Batman Dark Knight.
Speaker 2 (02:18):
That was pretty sick.
Speaker 1 (02:19):
And even though like it's not anything uh like over
the top, it's more like, oh, this is like where
the underground scenes where this building's Wayne manor I want
to see more sub I mean, I think the Humbleone house.
Maybe you know that's like in the suburbs of Chicago.
That might be kind of cool to see. I just
(02:40):
saw a video on TikTok. I was kind of pissing
sauce that the main building basically for the Hunger Games
is a hotel in Atlanta, and I was like, girl,
I've been to Atlanta. Why wouldn't you tell me to
stay at that hotel? You know it looks sick on
the inside. I mean growing up in Minnesota and loving
the Mighty Ducks. I skate in basically every rink they
(03:02):
have the my Ducks, that part is pretty cool. But
I think doing that because, like you know, in Italy,
the Milan part of it on Lake Como, that's where
in Star Wars Attack of the Clones and a king
gets married.
Speaker 2 (03:15):
So pretty.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
I'm saying, insightful, but pretty memorable spot for that. So
if you know any good movie locations nine nine three
three eight to text you have any tips for London, Italy?
Also nine nine three three eight to text, let me
hit this for your Friday. The Toxic Habits, Couple's Mistake
for Love Man. Some of these I feel like I
(03:40):
need to say louder, you know.
Speaker 2 (03:44):
Uh.
Speaker 1 (03:44):
Starting with being overdependent on each other. They say it's
easy to assume it needing someone for everything to scign
deep love, but over dependence often suffocates personal growth while
being a couple meets top porting each other, Ryan heavily
your partner for emotional, social, and financial needs can create
unhealthy dynamic. Yeah, especially early on, I always kind of
(04:05):
sit back in that situation and watch, being like, this.
Speaker 2 (04:08):
Isn't gonna work out. You know.
Speaker 1 (04:11):
It is one of those things where I think it's
tempting to want to skip ahead a couple steps in
a relationship, right, like skip to you know, six months in.
But you can't do that. And when you see couples
do that, to me, it's obvious, like, okay, like what
you guys are queuing up for a breakup? Needing constant communication?
Speaker 2 (04:30):
Oh boy?
Speaker 1 (04:31):
Well, open lines communication or crucial for relationships. Constant texting,
Colin can become more of a leash than a lifeline.
Yet I've never been a fan of calling just to
call or talking just to talk. And yeah, I think
for me, like I'm very busy, I think that's a
(04:51):
part of it. So like I even like with an
ex girlfriend calling and knowing she's in the car and
just wants to talk to part of me is always like, girl,
you have girlfriends who would love this right now, you
know what I mean, who would absolutely love it. But
if you're asking me, like what do I think free
Willie's favorite type of peanut butter and jelly sandwiches, you know,
(05:13):
maybe we wait to talk till later because I don't
want to get in trouble and go I don't know.
And that sounds like a real conversation. It wasn't, but
you get the idea. It's a big one. Taking jealousy
as proof of love. I have seen this before, and
I've had female friends, and I guess the guy friends
who are female friends who their boy would get jealous
(05:36):
and they kind of think it's a good thing, like
he's showing that he cares. I'm like, yo, that's not
good though, That's not good, especially if it's a the
jealousy veiled as they don't trust you. You know, I
had an next girlfriend who got angry once because I
never got jealous, which was an odd, odd spot to
(05:57):
be in, right odd spot to be in.
Speaker 2 (05:59):
And she's like he's never get jealous if I.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
I'm out, and I remember saying like, I mean, if
you're gonna cheat, you're gonna cheat. Yeah, me being jealous
isn't gonna affect that. If you're gonna do that to me,
you're gonna do it to me. So why why ruin
my day now? If it doesn't necessarily come? You know,
That's kind of where I'm at with that. If you
sacrifice personal goals, who sacrificing personal ambitions with the sacred
(06:26):
relationship might seem noble but can lead to long term
discontentment and regret. It's a tough one, right. I would
assume if we're taking you know, no kids and you know,
not married, then probably not right. But there might be
a time I suppose, like if you are married or
(06:47):
if you are having kids, that like you need to
make some of those sacrifices. But I do think early on, yeah,
it kind of makes no sense if there's no reason
to be to be doing that making your partner your everything.
I've mentioned this on this podcast, and I said this before.
I had an ext girlfriend who that was kind of that,
like she wanted me to let me phrase this the
(07:10):
wrong way. She I was her everything, that's the best
way of putting it. And I was like, I can't.
I can't do that for you, you know. And this
person like they had like large chunks of time off
from work, but then didn't have any hobbies. And I
was like, hey, like you need to get a hobby.
And not in the mean way, but it's like, it
(07:32):
can't be that. I'm doing podcasts, comedy, hockey, whatever. I
come home from work and I still those things, and
you're just kind of there, like, hey, it's time to
hang out. It's like, nah, girl, you need to have
something that you like to do outside of work.
Speaker 2 (07:48):
And uh yeah.
Speaker 1 (07:48):
But I was like, I can't. I can't be the
source of your happiness, not the soul source. I barely
make myself happy, you know what I mean. I can't
be your soul starts of happiness. That's not fair. That's
not fair at all. Neglecting individual needs is a big one,
they say in pursuit of harmonious existence. Neglecting individual needs
(08:12):
is a common pitfall. Sacrificing personal desires for the sake
of the relationship can relate to dissatisfaction and resentment.
Speaker 2 (08:19):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (08:19):
Again, I think especially It's one of those things where
if you don't feel like you're being recognized every single
day for the sacrifice, that's gotta be tough. If you
put your goals aside. I couldn't do that. Yeah, I
couldn't do that. I'm not big enough person I think
to do that. So if he can, God bless by
the way, speaking of goals. June twentieth. June twenty first
(08:43):
Arlington Draft House Chewy Forever in honor of my dog Chewy.
Raising money for this fantastic, fantastic group, the Warrior Canine Connection.
They help veterans be placed with their service dogs and
they train these dogs from birth to the time. The
way to be off. I would love to see you there,
(09:04):
Internsjohncomedy dot com. Tickets start at fifteen bucks. Once the
show sell out, it's over. And if I can be honest,
had no plans doing shows this year, you know. Last year,
going through a breakup I thought was good, like kind
of therapy to do a show. Was going to take
this year off, and then losing Chewy at the beginning
(09:24):
of the year.
Speaker 2 (09:25):
It's been hard.
Speaker 1 (09:25):
Man. It's one of those things where it doesn't get
easier despite what people say, it doesn't get easier. It's
very hard every day. It's just kind of like you
just kind of learned not to deal with it. But
you know, I know that he can do a lot good.
And he did a lot good for me when he
was alive, did a lot good for other people in
his live I know he can do even more good
(09:48):
now that he's gone. So if you get a chance
to get tickets, Internshooncomedy dot com. That's Internsjooncomedy dot com.
This is the thought Shower. Have fantastic weekend. I will
see you on Monday.
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