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December 6, 2024 9 mins
On this episode of The Thought Shower, Intern John talks about how to know if someone is a sociopath 

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
And a happy Friday friend to welcome to the Thought Shower.
Intern John is my name, gonna be honest. Feeling a
little dry today, mainly because I forgot to put on
moisturizer when I left the house.

Speaker 2 (00:14):
Son of a gun.

Speaker 1 (00:16):
And now that I thought about it, it's like in
my mind, I'm like, I feel really dry, and my
mind's telling me right now that like I should be
more moist That's not the way you're ready to say
that anyway, Big weekend, exciting weekend coming up tonight. I've
been coaching hockey at George Shawn Prep for Gollay eight years.

(00:39):
First league game of the season tonight. Very excited for
the boys, very excited taus. To me, I think, you know,
for a teenager, high school sports is one of the
last pure things they have left. And that sounds really sad. However,
I think adults ruin everything they do, so high school

(01:01):
sports to me is when the last like you know,
when the last moments your childhood you can hold on to,
you know, where it's it's about having fun.

Speaker 2 (01:11):
I always tell my kids this. It's like, you know,
when you.

Speaker 1 (01:15):
Get older, you realize it's hard to get people to
show up for you, especially a show up for you
to see what you're good at doing, right Like at
this point, for my hockey kids, they've probably been skating
half their lives more than and they're good, Like they've
gotten good at it, and it's fun to have people
come out and watch you do the thing you're good at.

(01:38):
It's hard to get people do that once you get older,
So I'm excited for that. Then on Saturday, we're doing
the Whitman Walker five Kid and HIV and I don't
know of us sauceage Uncle Tim. I'm very excited for
that as well. Then we got an event with Under
Armour on Saturday. There's a lot going on. Then my
parents are in town next week. It's a lot right now,
my friends, but it's a good a lot. Things are busy,

(02:01):
things are good. Business is moving. I'm kind of bummed.
I haven't had a chance to watch anything the last
couple of days. I got home from practice yesterday and
started packing for the weekend and then passed out. Man,
it's passed out. My body's been telling me I want
to say the word, but I've been getting the S
word recently, like not full on, but just like so

(02:21):
I've been trying to dial it back, relax a little bit,
be good to go. So anyway, Happy Friday, Happy Pizza
Friday Day if you celebrate Friday. In my household growing
up was always pizza Friday and we have to have
pizza and pop as we call them Midwest. Also, we
could watch TV because of my household growing up with

(02:43):
parents for teachers Nope, teachers for parents couldn't watch TV
during the week We have to wash in the weekends.

Speaker 2 (02:50):
So may you wash TV? What? Let me get to
this for your Friday.

Speaker 1 (02:56):
The subtle traits of high functioning sociopaths. So, first of all,
sociopath is it's a mental health condition in which a
person consistently shows no regard for right and wrong and
ignores the feelings and the rights of others. If I
dealt with sociopaths in the past, absolutely, and it's bizarre.

(03:20):
I think it's more bizarre once you realize what's going on,
where it's like, oh, it's almost like you're like you're
a clown in the sense that you are pretending to
be somebody else. Like I think sociopaths psychopaths as well,
And be honest, it's like they've studied how to be human,
and then it's like the alien trying to be human.

(03:40):
The first sign is they lie about the smallest things. Yeah,
sociopaths are compulsive liars, but their deceit isn't always a big,
life altering things. They'll lie about trivial details like what
they ate for lunch or where they were last night,
just to maintain control or test boundaries. I've dealt with
this before, with somebody who would lie about the dumbest things,

(04:01):
and I was kind of like, man, at this point,
is anything in your life truthful?

Speaker 2 (04:08):
Like do you know where the truth is?

Speaker 1 (04:09):
I don't even mean that in a accusatory way, but
I was like, golly, Like, eventually you lie so much,
it's like, how do you know what the truth is?
I had a person in my life many years ago
who they asked if I want to meet them for dinner,
me and my girlfriend at the time. I was like, yeah,
So we went to Uncle Julio's and then they just

(04:31):
didn't show up, just didn't show up at all. And
I was like, Okay, well this is weird. So my
girl from the time and I got our food, YadA YadA,
maybe like two hours later, maybe man at two hours
an hour later texting me, Hey, where are you? We've
been here? I was excuse me. He's like, yeah, we've
been here the whole time. I was like, why would
you not answer my call? Answered my text on? To

(04:52):
be fair, it is a big restaurant, but it was
just bizarre, Mike. Why would you lie about being at
the restaurant when I was. I mean, there's no reason to.
They push boundaries without a second thought, they say. High
functioning sociopaths often have a reckless shriek, ignoring rules and
boundaries that most people respect, whether it's skipping safety precautions

(05:15):
or breaking my laws. They seem to live for the
thrilled to find norms. I think we see this with
people like at like in lines at places when people
cut you in line at like a store or at
the airport, are waiting with zero regard. And I've always
told that I've been with exodus, where like you should
say something, I'm like, no, because the person that's gonna

(05:37):
cut you in line like that has no regard for
social norms and you don't know what they're gonna do next.
I fully believe that, and it's not wre me getting
swung on because somebody cut me off in line boarding
a DCA.

Speaker 2 (05:49):
You know what I mean. They overwhelm you with affection
at first.

Speaker 1 (05:54):
Yes, when a sociopath enters your life, they often come
on strong, showering you with compliments and have his attention.
Well might feel like love is more like manipulation tactic
known as love bombing. Had this happen before too, where
they make you feel like you're you're very special and
then they'll start to pull back And the idea is
you wonder like, well, what I do? What I do wrong?

(06:17):
Why are you pulling back?

Speaker 2 (06:18):
You know?

Speaker 1 (06:19):
And it can mess with you first absolutely can. He's
kind of like, I don't know what I do. They
seem completely care free, they say. At first glance they're
living the moment. You might seem refreshing, But dig deeper,
you see more about the reckless than freedom. Soo's sociopaths
often neglect responsibilities like paying bills, showing up for work,

(06:42):
or planning for the future. With the work thing, I've
worked with people in the past who would show up
like three minutes for the show starts.

Speaker 2 (06:53):
It was crazy.

Speaker 1 (06:55):
I couldn't imagine doing that like I would the anxiety
I would have, my goodness, Yeah, their social circles are
always changing. Now this makes sense. Despite being charming and outgoing,
sociopaths often lack deep, lasting friendships. Their relationships tend to
be superficial and transactional. If someone in your life seems
to have plenty of acquaintances but no close friends, and

(07:17):
they're oddly secretive about their personal life, it might be
a sent the before keeping people at arm's length. I
would also add that with this, they can't keep long
term friends because eventually the long term friends realize what's
going on. They realize they're being taken advantage of, they
realize that they're not really talking to a friend. They

(07:39):
kind of wake up. If you will get been there
confrontations and in chaos. If you call them out in
bad behavior, expect fireworks. Sociopaths hate being challenged will do
anything to avoid accountability. I've dealt with this with sociopaths,
where they'll do I called the stupid tornado wherever you
say like, hey, you set to my shoe, they'll be like,
well you set the shoe, you hit my cat, you

(08:01):
stole my dog, you lie on my face, and they'll
throw it up a bunch of accusations in that like
you have to address every single one right and if
you don't, like, oh so you admit it, you do
steal bananas, you know what I mean. It's just like
they will do that to kind of keep you off guard,
and like the the accusations are so outlandish you can't

(08:23):
ignore them. So that's the to me, It's one of
the main main tactics if you if you will file
one will do today. They're masters of manipulation. Yeah, say,
sociopaths are experts at bending people to their will, whether
it's subtle guilt chips, strategic compliments, or playing the victim.
They always seem to get what they want they see.

(08:43):
The manipulation is often so subtle you may not realize
you're being controlled until it's too late. If you feel
like you're second guessing yourself around someone, and I'd be
pulling the strings more than you know. Again, been in
spots like this, or I've had to call people and
be like, hey, here's what's going on. Am I imagining this?
Or am I crazy? You know what I mean?

Speaker 2 (09:06):
It's wild.

Speaker 1 (09:07):
If you know somebody like that, get out fam we
all need that that's not the vibe for this year.

Speaker 2 (09:13):
Listen.

Speaker 1 (09:14):
I hope you have a fantastic weekend, fantastic Friday.

Speaker 2 (09:17):
Appreciate you a listening.

Speaker 1 (09:18):
As always, make sure to follow me wherever you get
your stuff from at YMS Radio for the show, at
Internjohn Radio for me get the show podcast. Just search
intern John in your morning show wherever you get your podcasts.
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