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Speaker 1 (00:00):
A while ago.
Speaker 2 (00:01):
I'm just reading this, says, this is not my story. Okay,
a while ago. My wife and her friend is a
guy who wrote the story. A while ago, my wife
and her friend went on a weekend trip.
Speaker 1 (00:15):
Okay, are you following? Uh okay, which seemed fine. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (00:18):
Turns out the friend didn't really want to go on
the trip. She was going to meet a guy. Quote
her best friend, her soulmate. Apparently the friend and this
guy have been messaging each other for years. My wife
(00:39):
didn't know this, but obviously found out about it and
told me, but she just ignored it because it wasn't
our business. We didn't tell the friend's husband. Oh, it
was weird. It was a WTF kind of thing. I
don't know the husband at all. I barely know the friend.
(01:02):
I was thinking, quote, not my circus, not my monkey's right,
so quick recap his wife inherit. The wife's girlfriend go
out of town for a weekend. They want to go
on a trip. Turns out the friend, the wise friend,
was really wanting to go meet up with this dude.
But it's her husband who didn't know the whole thing right,
So as he says, here's the thing. The friend has
(01:27):
now asked my wife to go on another trip.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
Okay, can I please?
Speaker 2 (01:34):
The friend has asked my wife to go on another trip,
and that she will even pay for my wife to go.
The sole purpose is to cheat on her husband again.
Speaker 1 (01:49):
He thinks that are he the guy's going to be there? Oh?
Speaker 2 (01:53):
Okay, so he knows that my wife was gleefully ecstatic
about going on the free trip.
Speaker 1 (02:00):
She will be the alibi for her friend cheating. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (02:06):
Am I the a hole for being outraged, feeling betrayed,
feeling that my own marriage is an effing joke, and
frankly wanting to end it. If her and the girls
make such a farce of marriage and help each other
out and cover for each other's cheating, what the F
is my marriage? I am seriously considering telling my wife
(02:30):
that she can make her own decisions, but they have consequences,
and when she returns for the cheating, when she returns
from the cheating weekend, the locks will be changed and
the divorce papers will be pinned to the front door.
Speaker 1 (02:44):
Wow.
Speaker 3 (02:45):
So, as the kids say, that escalated quickly, But I
kind of get it.
Speaker 1 (02:51):
It's not where my head was at initially.
Speaker 3 (02:52):
No, I don't get it at all, But to take
me and explain to that next level where you're wh
watching somebody comfortable with being this quote unquote alibi and
making a mocker.
Speaker 2 (03:08):
They're not asking, they're not asking the wife to do
anything wrong.
Speaker 1 (03:11):
No, no, But it's I'm going with her, that's the alibim.
Speaker 2 (03:14):
Yeah, she the woman's telling her husband, Oh, I'm going
with I'm going with Diane and Sarah and we're going
to We're just going away for a weekend. Now she's
choosing not to tell her husband we are going away
for a weekend. I'm going to go bang some dude. Whatever.
But the wife, what the wife do wrong? She's going
on a free trip.
Speaker 3 (03:33):
But she's being used and comfortable with it. So you
can't say she's being used. She is an accomplice in
this scheme.
Speaker 2 (03:41):
No, no, no, she's not.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
She's not telling the woman to go cheat on her husband.
She's just going along for the trip. Understood. But it's
it's a smoke screen.
Speaker 2 (03:51):
And for the other woman, not for her, she to
have known about it now, right, the first time she
had no clue, she was clueless about.
Speaker 3 (03:59):
But this time she does is so do they even
spend any time together or does this a woman run
off to this boyfriend.
Speaker 2 (04:08):
I told you what I know, man, it would be
aw the only place for me that it would be awkward.
Speaker 1 (04:16):
If you were the if I were the I accomplice.
Speaker 2 (04:18):
Yeah, the the like if if it were if it
were just Tyler and I and but Tyler was going
to hook up with Diane to cheat on lindsay if
I'm there for it, and I don't mean like I'm awkward,
like seeing it, not like room but like no, not
while they're coughing, but the the like I don't, I like,
I still want to be able to have fun, like
(04:39):
I just I don't want to be a third wheel
in the cheating.
Speaker 4 (04:41):
Well doesn't sound like she is, but it's still like
weird knowing like, Okay, the whole reason I'm the whole
reason I'm invited on this trip is because I'm the
smoke screen.
Speaker 2 (04:53):
No, yes, yes, and no, the whole yes. The reason
you're invited is.
Speaker 1 (04:58):
So that so I haven't oh girl trip yeah.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
So that the wife has an excuse, the cheater has
an excuse to tell her husband. You're still going just
to have fun, like your your plan of going doesn't.
Speaker 1 (05:11):
Change the.
Speaker 3 (05:14):
I love that she's only going this is again the
cheating wife to be with this boyfriend.
Speaker 1 (05:21):
Right this jigglow. But they may.
Speaker 3 (05:25):
And you're like the hey, but we're still gonna have fun.
Right Yeah, I don't know honestly, the way you say,
why can't it be both?
Speaker 1 (05:31):
As you said, the.
Speaker 3 (05:31):
Wife's extatic just about a free trip. It doesn't sound
like she's extatic to get away with the friend. She
knows the friend is going to be preoptist, so she's
going to be like hanging by herself.
Speaker 2 (05:39):
Or I don't maybe there he does say, a couple
of girls, it would.
Speaker 4 (05:42):
Definitely not be okay. I mean, I guess if it's
a couple, you have somebody to hang out with.
Speaker 1 (05:47):
But I would hope that there let's all go out
to dinner. I thought it was a girl's trip.
Speaker 2 (05:51):
It's the two of them feeling okay.
Speaker 1 (05:54):
Frankly, I'm seriously that she can make her own decisions.
Speaker 2 (06:00):
The friend asked, my wife was gleefully excited about going
on a free trip.
Speaker 1 (06:03):
Oh yeah, so I guess it's not. It's not a
whole group. Okay, Yeah, you're right, and that this threw
me off.
Speaker 2 (06:11):
Hang yeah, maybe, but maybe on Saturday, the woman goes
into hooks up. But on Friday, we're still having dinner
and drinks and hanging out.
Speaker 1 (06:20):
On Saturday, I'll go out by myself. When was their
first trip? How long has it been since she's seen
this guy? Between like trip one and trip two? You know,
it's been a bit. You're not hanging out with now,
it's been a bit. Yeah, it's been not my circus,
not my monkeys. That's fun.
Speaker 3 (06:32):
That's how really gets upset and tells the husband, But like,
why did.
Speaker 4 (06:38):
The the smoke screens? Husband goes zero to one thousand?
Speaker 1 (06:42):
What do you mean?
Speaker 4 (06:43):
Like he He's like saying, well, how well, how seriously
are you taking marriage?
Speaker 2 (06:48):
And you know what I mean, like, yeah, if you
don't care about your best friend's marriage, this is not
my marriage.
Speaker 1 (06:53):
This is not the only thing that's bothering him.
Speaker 2 (06:58):
Oh, I don't know the answer to that. He's just saying,
you don't take marriage seriously. So why you don't take
You don't take marriage seriously?
Speaker 1 (07:06):
So why would you? Why would I think you take
my marriage seriously? And at first glance that does seem
it seems very dramatic.
Speaker 3 (07:13):
But oh, I kind of get it. And I'm reading
now the comments and the social media lounge. People think
that this other wife maybe also that she did that's
a bad that's a bad there each other. That's a
bad jump. That's a bad jump.
Speaker 5 (07:28):
I have.
Speaker 2 (07:29):
I have friends that do plenty of bad things that
the well, that makes it sound but.
Speaker 4 (07:34):
Would you tell because but she told the husband like, hey,
this is what happened on that first trip.
Speaker 1 (07:40):
Right, so good on them. They got a good relationship.
Speaker 3 (07:46):
When don't you say something to Jackie like, oh my god,
I was totally like, dude, dwindled into a trip that
was just an affair.
Speaker 1 (07:54):
The yeah.
Speaker 2 (07:55):
I would tell Jackie all day and then when I
went back, if Jackie was like, so you're gonna go
back and get and I'd be like, yeah, I had.
Speaker 1 (08:00):
Fun, I got a free trip. I'm not going on
trip number two. I don't know. I do not want
to be involved in that. You're not involved, Yes I am.
I'm on the smoke screen.
Speaker 2 (08:12):
So the friend's husband says, hey, were you on the
trip with Margaret? You would go yeah, and you were.
You're not why I.
Speaker 4 (08:18):
Would feel dirty the why because you're like that's on them? No, No, yes,
that's on that did you I do not want to
get involved in that car.
Speaker 1 (08:27):
Did you cheat? I know I do not need that mess.
Speaker 3 (08:30):
I question. I questioned my friendship because I, oh, my god,
in the first trip used you were used in the
first trip at least that she didn't know whatever.
Speaker 1 (08:39):
But I'd be like, what what kind of friendship do
we have? I'm sure I've been used before? I mean,
are you going on a third trip? The free trip?
Is it free? The no?
Speaker 2 (08:50):
No, I'm sure, But why can't it be a little
column may, a little column B.
Speaker 1 (08:54):
I could have I could have chosen to use anybody.
Speaker 2 (08:57):
But I'm using but excre's you can I sink yes,
I mean yes exactly.
Speaker 1 (09:01):
Oh, thank you.
Speaker 2 (09:02):
No, because you're fun to hang out with, You're not hanging.
Speaker 1 (09:05):
No that those five minutes were together. We got to
get there. I'm fun to travel with. Wait are we flying?
Are we driving? Are we driving separately? I don't know.
I know she's breaking down and that dude's pushing her home.
Speaker 3 (09:17):
You are the one who a trip like this would
make the most sense, and at the same time the
person who didn't say anything after the first trip, So
you can be trusted as both the setup and the
follow through, which is going to be lying by omission
the rest of your relationship.
Speaker 1 (09:36):
Okay, but but it's not really lying by omission.
Speaker 2 (09:40):
Why is it on me to call his wife the
woman's husband and go, hey, bro, here's what's going on.
That's not lying by omission? Makes you feel dirty, Nimby,
not my backyard. Now, you guys went away?
Speaker 1 (09:54):
You do you? You do you? Oh my god, everyone
thinks they're both cheating.
Speaker 2 (10:00):
That never even crossed my mind. Now, that never even
crossed my mind. Just because you hang out with a
cheater doesn't make you a cheater.
Speaker 1 (10:09):
Oh, Ethan thinks it's a threesome. I didn't even know
that either.
Speaker 3 (10:14):
Donna writes, I've been the smoke screen, did it a
few times when I was younger?
Speaker 2 (10:19):
Yeah, how about Donna? No, that's what I mean, like, hey,
I need somebody to cover for me. Hey, sit over
there in that chair. I'm gonna go in the bedroom
and uh and run one out.
Speaker 3 (10:31):
The second part of her message, it is a one
now it is very wrong.
Speaker 2 (10:37):
Oh okay, Well that's like the person who like found gospel. No,
she grew converted the Yeah, it was like, oh that's
all bad.
Speaker 1 (10:48):
Joe writes, show me your friends, and I'll show you
who you are.
Speaker 2 (10:51):
Wait, oh, that's not true either. That's not true. That
that is that is a load. Now, your reputation may
hurt because of your friends, but that's not who you are.
Speaker 1 (11:04):
Well, that's not great for your future.
Speaker 2 (11:06):
The no, But I mean I I have I have
good friends when I say bad like, I don't. I'm
not friends with anybody who's like, you know, like a
wanted murderer on the street.
Speaker 1 (11:15):
I have friends who may do some questionable things. Whoa
I would turn on Kristen's Mike. Uh oh wait Kristen's Michael.
Speaker 2 (11:25):
Oh, all you got to do is tickle him under there? Hi, Kristin,
how are you? What'd you do? I was?
Speaker 1 (11:35):
Were you the smoke screen?
Speaker 6 (11:37):
Uh?
Speaker 2 (11:38):
I was?
Speaker 6 (11:40):
I had a friend in high school, right who was
coming quote coming over to my house?
Speaker 1 (11:48):
Right?
Speaker 6 (11:48):
She was married.
Speaker 1 (11:51):
In high school. You're high school? High school?
Speaker 2 (11:53):
Oh? Okay, okay, but you're not after high school.
Speaker 1 (11:57):
Also, remember where she's from.
Speaker 6 (11:59):
I don't even think she she wasn't even twenty one
yet when she got married.
Speaker 1 (12:02):
So ever.
Speaker 6 (12:03):
Anyway, so she had been married for like two years, right,
And so I got a call from her and said, hey,
if my husband calls, I'm with you. And I'm like, okay,
is everything okay? And she's like, i'll tell you later,
all right. So then like the day passed and I
kept waiting, I'm like, what the heck's going on? I
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didn't hear anything from either of them. So then I
called her again and so here to find out she
had been cheating on him and she wanted to use
me right as the cover up, and I was totally
not on board with it. And you guys know that
I'd like to be confrontational, right, So I told her
how I felt about the situation.
Speaker 2 (12:42):
And well, you told her the husband her, right, I said, like,
all right, last time, I'm using you as a smoke screen.
Speaker 6 (12:49):
I'm like, I have I didn't say this, but I'm like,
I have morals, I'm not I don't think I don't
agree with that whatsoever.
Speaker 1 (12:56):
Right, So I lost a friendship over it, and I
don't care.
Speaker 2 (13:03):
By the way, by the way, everyone everyone, hey, you're
listening to blame breed. No, but listen, this is this
is no different than Hey, we're just we're teenagers and
we're telling our parents that we're spending the night at
Diane's house.
Speaker 1 (13:20):
That's very different. Different. We're around on your spouse. No,
but you're lying to your parents. So what everybody likes
their parents were teenagers. Everybody cheats on their wife.
Speaker 3 (13:29):
No, this is me now, everyone, come on, No, but
how is it? It's it's just a different part of
your life.
Speaker 2 (13:41):
But all that happened there was like, Hey, if your
mom asked, I told her I was going to spend
the night here because I'm.
Speaker 1 (13:47):
We've a done that all night.
Speaker 4 (13:48):
But that was only because we wanted to go to
a party or something. That parents is that not every
teenager does. Is that we're not screwing around on your husband.
Speaker 3 (13:59):
Lying is lying, and everyone who agrees with you, Elliott
is about to jump off the ship if you continue
to compare us.
Speaker 2 (14:06):
Just say, everybody's trying to be all pontiff and it's
not working out for him or pious. What is the
word I'm looking for That doesn't matter. Yeah, papal. Everybody's
trying to be all papal.
Speaker 1 (14:19):
It's wrong. Which part you're what you're agreeing with? Cheating?
Speaker 3 (14:24):
Yes, yes, of course it is, yeah, said put someone
in that position.
Speaker 6 (14:28):
My friend told me, she said, you we're like best friends.
It's girl code. You need to have my back. And
I said, no.
Speaker 1 (14:36):
Right, okay, when you're allowed to say no.
Speaker 2 (14:38):
Why didn't just let me ask you this? Why didn't
you tell the husband? I mean, you're all righteous, what
like telling her? Oh, so you told the cheater that
you think it's wrong to cheat? Well?
Speaker 1 (14:49):
I did.
Speaker 2 (14:49):
How about the one who? How about the one that
she's dicking over?
Speaker 1 (14:52):
In high school?
Speaker 6 (14:53):
I told that he was my best friend and his
girlfriend was cheating on him, And I said, if you
don't tell him, I will, And she didn't tell him,
so I did.
Speaker 1 (15:01):
Oh god, oh god, friendship too, But I don't care.
I had enough friends that conversation.
Speaker 6 (15:09):
Like the high school one. Yes, I she was also
another cover up, but they weren't married. There was some
high school and uh, I said, if you don't tell him,
I'm going to tell him. I gave her from an
entire week to tell him. She's like, I'll tell him,
I'll tell him. I said, no, he's my best friend.
I've known him since I was five. If you don't
tell him, I will.
Speaker 1 (15:30):
Well.
Speaker 6 (15:31):
Then I took him aside and said, hey, this is
what's happening. So then he broke up with her. She
was mad at me, but then she got over it.
Speaker 2 (15:37):
Oh my god, here's what I can tell you. Nobody
lied about spending the night at your house. I mean,
she's also the worst friend, but she's a great friend.
Speaker 1 (15:47):
Right.
Speaker 6 (15:48):
And they also covered up for my friends who were
like cheated boyfriends in the neighborhood, who weren't supposed to
have boyfriends.
Speaker 2 (15:55):
Oh, because they were dating bad guys. So so you
just pick and choose where you're righteous. They're sorry, That's
what I mean. So you're a pick and check.
Speaker 1 (16:03):
You were covering for them with their parents.
Speaker 2 (16:06):
Yes, so as long as you're just digging over your parents,
Kristen's cool with it.
Speaker 1 (16:11):
But if it's a friend, no, no dice, no d check.
Speaker 6 (16:15):
That one's different. My friend wasn't allowed to have a
boyfriend in junior high or high school.
Speaker 1 (16:20):
Oh my god.
Speaker 6 (16:21):
Yeah, so my parents are also kind of covering because
I'm like, hey, so and so it's coming over, we're
going to go. I was very honest with my parents,
and they said, hey, we're going to go to the playground,
which I lived near a playground, right, and then we're
also going to see some of the boys.
Speaker 2 (16:35):
Right, and the boys and Mary who's not allowed to
have a boyfriend. Tim's gonna play with them titties, and
I would let them.
Speaker 6 (16:42):
Like go to the ballpark and I'd walk away.
Speaker 1 (16:44):
So you covered for them.
Speaker 2 (16:47):
Different again, all the pontiffson tiff, you're cheating on your parents.
Speaker 1 (16:54):
You're not breaking a vow. Yeah, oh my god, you're not.
Oh my god. But I'm sorry. I didn't take a
vow with my parents, to be honest. That's that's a
very real argument.
Speaker 3 (17:09):
The original post kind of spoke to that, where he said,
this is commentary on how she treats marriage.
Speaker 1 (17:15):
Right. But okay, so so you're okay, you're you're better off.
Let's use Marley.
Speaker 2 (17:21):
You're you would be more upset that Marley cheated on
a dude than just boldface lied to you because quote,
you two never made a vow to different.
Speaker 4 (17:30):
That's different on the parentally different rules change.
Speaker 1 (17:38):
All right, very good, Thank you, Kristen. Note to self
from al Toyedo.
Speaker 2 (17:42):
Oh you know I one time saw Michael Keaton.
Speaker 3 (17:46):
Anyway, Yes, I was an unwilling smoke screen during a
guy's weekend, and it is the worst all capital letters.
Speaker 1 (17:55):
How is could you feel like you're holding this secret
from somebody.
Speaker 2 (17:58):
You are, Oh, yes you are, but you know who
you're holding the secret from the husband.
Speaker 1 (18:04):
But nobody has said, I'm gonna go tell the husband.
But it's like he said, unwell's you that's who. Okay,
I witness a crime and I'm an unwilling pleader. We
need to have the balls.
Speaker 2 (18:15):
Like Kristin, they're giving you a week the no no,
but nobody's telling the husband. That is who you're keeping
the secret from. But nobody's telling the husband. You're mad
at your friend, you're mad at your husband, but nobody
has said, I'm going to the husband. That's who you're
keeping the secret from.
Speaker 3 (18:32):
Again, I do think that you could end the friendship
like Kristin obviously did in her case, right, and not
be the one that has to go.
Speaker 1 (18:39):
Tell the husband.
Speaker 3 (18:40):
No, that's on them, right, But you then can't be
a willing participant.
Speaker 1 (18:47):
I didn't know it was gonna happen again. Yes, you've
heard that. I understand that every story is different, but
the story you read, Yes, they know.
Speaker 2 (18:56):
The second trip is for the sole purpose of playing
with like like back in fifth grade, playing with them.
Speaker 3 (19:03):
Ditties, chicken loaf, wants to know how long until Elliott
compares this to the first time you try.
Speaker 2 (19:08):
Pizza line seven.
Speaker 1 (19:14):
Hi Elliott the morning, Hello, Yeah, Hi, who's this right?
This is Kimberly right.
Speaker 5 (19:22):
So years ago I had one of my friend's husband
call me and she tried to use me as a
smoke screen but did not inform me, and so he
was like, is so and so stare with you?
Speaker 7 (19:38):
I was like, what are you talking about? And so
she blew her own cover by not.
Speaker 1 (19:44):
Oh oh yeah.
Speaker 2 (19:46):
So the friend said she was going to your house
but didn't tell you yes, by the way.
Speaker 7 (19:52):
And so when he called, I was like, what is
this what.
Speaker 2 (19:56):
That's where you have to And again I hate to
resort back to being a team ager, but that's where
you have to have a code with a couple of friends.
If my we did, if my mom ever calls your house,
I'm in the bathroom, I'm in the shower, like I'm doing,
like find an excuse, but don't say I'm not there,
like oh he ran to the store, Like you got
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to have a better cover. So I could almost argue
your friend listen, whatever marriage issue they're having, but your
friend should have told you up front. If my husband
ever calls your house. I'm here, but I'm busy, right,
and then you just have them.
Speaker 7 (20:36):
I thought they had had a good marriage, but apparently not,
and they're still like, none of your business.
Speaker 1 (20:44):
It isn't now.
Speaker 2 (20:45):
I like the gossip, don't get me wrong, Like I
love here in the gossip, but that is but.
Speaker 3 (20:51):
That's not that's not on me, Thank you, ma'am. Billy
writes Elliott. I believe if you attend a close friend's wedding,
then you are making an implied commitment to support that marriage.
I do support it, just maybe after this trip.
Speaker 1 (21:05):
No, but I, like Diane said, things change. Brian wants
to know, by the way, I didn't.
Speaker 2 (21:08):
I still supported they're getting married. They're the ones who
have a problem with their marriage, not me.
Speaker 3 (21:13):
Brian wants to know where Elliott is on the idea
of birds of a feather.
Speaker 1 (21:19):
Where am I on that idea? Yeah, I mean, it's
not gonna end up cheating, it's not.
Speaker 2 (21:26):
Well, that's what everybody thinks, that they're going to have
a three just in general, it's not a literal.
Speaker 1 (21:31):
It's not a literal. Idiot. Well, Nick thinks the smoke
screen role is cheating too, everybody is. Everybody thinks no.
Speaker 3 (21:39):
No, no, no, no, that is just cheating, like change
the locks, that's cheating.
Speaker 1 (21:45):
How is that cheating?
Speaker 2 (21:47):
Going going away to see someone else cheat is the
same as cheating on your own spouse?
Speaker 1 (21:52):
Must be Diane?
Speaker 2 (21:54):
Would you would you rather I'm going to wait for
the weekend to cheat on Jackie?
Speaker 1 (21:59):
Okay?
Speaker 2 (22:00):
Yeah, Scott is coming with me, right?
Speaker 1 (22:05):
Would you rather he bangs someone or not bang someone?
Speaker 3 (22:09):
Not?
Speaker 1 (22:09):
Okay, thank you, there's your answer. But perhaps it's not.
It's not trust. Trust that is the ultimate trust. You're
trusting that person to keep their mouth shut.
Speaker 2 (22:23):
They're going on a cheating weekend and he doesn't cheat.
Speaker 3 (22:27):
The person that they're accompanying is trusting that person. Yeah,
but then you take it and look in the mirror
of your own life.
Speaker 2 (22:35):
No bag, Listen the Does everybody know somebody that's been
that has had a cheated marriage?
Speaker 1 (22:43):
I do, Kristen does, and if I remain friendly.
Speaker 2 (22:49):
First of all, I'm not birds of a feather and
it's not a commentary on my marriage. I've never cheated
on Jackie. I'm assuming she hasn't cheated on me. I mean,
none of us really knows. It's a weird go to,
but it is true. If you call Scott and go Scott,
have you ever cheated on me? And he says no,
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do you believe him?
Speaker 1 (23:13):
Yes? But are you do? You know with one hundred
percent certainty, I guess you're right. Thank you. That's getting
all pontiff.
Speaker 2 (23:24):
But you trust them, you believe them, Like I would
say with Jackie, if she said no, I would I
would say with ninety nine point ninety nine Gretzky point
Gretzky certainty, she's telling the truth. That's where beyond a
reasonable doubt comes, or we would never solve any crime
because unless the jury was there, you would have no.
Speaker 3 (23:47):
Idea from Instagram? Who I have been a double smoke screen?
Speaker 1 (23:54):
I don't even know how you do that.
Speaker 2 (23:56):
Long time ago, both both spouses were cheating.
Speaker 3 (23:59):
And his girl girlfriend though, yeah, but I've several years
cheated on each other within a week and sprung the
idea of me covering for them against my will from
both sides.
Speaker 1 (24:12):
So what did she say?
Speaker 3 (24:14):
Well, now she tell both spouses neither ever found out
because they did break up a month later. Someone must
have discovered.
Speaker 1 (24:21):
Well, they could have broken up over something else.
Speaker 8 (24:23):
Oh, it was irreconcille differences the no no, but again, everybody,
could you imagine the husband confides in you and then
the wife confides in you, Oh, that.
Speaker 1 (24:34):
You're living for that drama. I am like that.
Speaker 2 (24:36):
That's make a wish material right there. That's awesome. Like
that gets me hot, m But but again, everybody here,
nobody's saying anything. But everybody thinks it's wrong, but nobody
saying anything.
Speaker 3 (24:56):
The Instagram message didn't make it seem like there was
somebody in his or her life that they were telling
the story too, who then felt like, well, why would
you ever consider covering for this person?
Speaker 2 (25:09):
Because I'm a friend. I'm not lying. I'm just not
telling lying too. Hi, y Ellie at the Morning.
Speaker 5 (25:21):
One.
Speaker 1 (25:23):
Yes, sir, Hey, this is Will from DC.
Speaker 9 (25:29):
So when I was in college, I was I was
dating a girl and I was covering for her friend.
Her friend had a boyfriend and her friend was sleeping
with my friend. Now I didn't really care either way,
but I sort of told her boyfriend she'd been doing
(25:50):
that because she gave my buddy an STD there it is.
But then I found out actually he got it from
someone else, So I.
Speaker 10 (25:59):
Blew the whole.
Speaker 2 (26:03):
Oh and you thought you thought you were using her
herpe's code, but it was the wrong person.
Speaker 1 (26:10):
Oh wow, wow.
Speaker 2 (26:11):
Yeah.
Speaker 9 (26:12):
My friend was like, hey, it turns out I didn't
get that from her. But the damage was done, so
you know what are somehow I threw the whole friendship,
but I got off scott free, so nothing happened to.
Speaker 1 (26:29):
Oh the way exactly.
Speaker 2 (26:30):
And and again the person the wife's going along on
the trip, like the husband, like you're divorcing over that?
Speaker 1 (26:36):
Like that, that's pretty drastic, that's pretty I wonder if
there's other stuff at play. There be angry break a
plate Elliott.
Speaker 3 (26:44):
This is our Michael Elliott. The lookout and a bank
robbery is also robbing the bank.
Speaker 2 (26:51):
Yes, because the lookout is actually committing a crime. It
is against the law to be the lookout or the
getaway driver.
Speaker 1 (27:01):
That is against the law.
Speaker 2 (27:03):
It is not against the law to go away for
the weekend. And while I'm having fun, somebody else is
doing something else.
Speaker 1 (27:10):
Well I don't know what they're doing. The argument is
that it's bad. Oh, well, they come with a better example.
It can can be convicted, and right now I understand
what they're saying.
Speaker 2 (27:21):
But this in the bank robbery scenario, you're actively that
you may as well be if you were the third
person in the manage ATOI, then yes, But in the
in the in this scenario, you're just there, You're just
a cover. Great Listen, I'm not saying it's the right
thing to do.
Speaker 1 (27:43):
Oh okay, so that's actually a good first step for you.
Speaker 2 (27:47):
Yeah it is. Yes, it's it's not the right thing
to do, but it ain't but it but it ain't
worth making a mountain out of.
Speaker 1 (28:00):
Please mine eight hi Ellie at the morning one, two, three,
four or five six.
Speaker 10 (28:12):
Hey, uh so, I'm not gonna say my name, but
my husband just always cheated on me, and his friends
and his family would cover for him. Like almost every
single time. He would be like, oh, I'm going to
go over to my cousin's house, and of course, like
I'd call his cousin and his cousin be like, yeah,
he's here, or like his friend that lived in Virginia
(28:33):
p She's like, yeah, I'm definitely there visiting for the weekend,
and we're definitely here right now. And he was always
like off at some other girls house, like every single.
Speaker 1 (28:43):
Well, how do you know? How do you know that?
Speaker 10 (28:47):
Because I uh eventually looked at the text messages and
saw that the times that he was saying that he
was got into his house.
Speaker 1 (28:55):
He was actually at point for you. Okay, no, no, listen,
I don't want you to get cheated on. I don't
want anybody to get cheated on. It doesn't feel good.
Number number with.
Speaker 10 (29:06):
Respect to that, yes, I will say that I would
one hundred percent. Like if I knew that any of
my friends were cheating on their significant others, I would
one hundred percent tell them now.
Speaker 1 (29:17):
Just because who the significant other?
Speaker 10 (29:19):
How can you trust? I know I would tell the
significant other. If I knew a friend that was cheating
on them, I would go to their boyfriend or husband
or girlfriend or wife or whatever and.
Speaker 1 (29:31):
Be like, hey, you're christ they're cheating on you. You
know what, And I'll give you this.
Speaker 2 (29:37):
That is this is the first pontiff person where it's
like they you would you want to solve the problem,
Go tell the person that's getting dicked over. Although they
say that that just really they didn't. That just hurts
them being all right, very good, very good, thank you, ma'am.
Speaker 1 (29:52):
Would you cover so? But we agree you wouldn't cover
for your kid I would not.
Speaker 2 (29:57):
Not in this case. I'd cover for my kid a lot.
I'd be like, he wasn't the lookout at the bank,
he was here.
Speaker 3 (30:03):
There are social situations and I've told you guys, is
off air, and because the blink's gone off, I know
Lindsay's walking the dog listening, So we'll keep the details vague.
But where I've turned in the car to the backseat
and said, just so you know, I am not comfortable
with this lie.
Speaker 1 (30:22):
We are living.
Speaker 3 (30:24):
And it's like a birthday party invite or something like that,
where you have to be vague about your plans.
Speaker 1 (30:29):
You should stop talking. But I'm just telling you what
it is.
Speaker 3 (30:34):
It's not something that is life changing like a marriage,
but it is a ninth birthday party.
Speaker 2 (30:41):
Right, which, by the way, when you're nine, is a
big deal, much like your marriage.
Speaker 1 (30:45):
How about this one? This is from Instagram.
Speaker 3 (30:47):
I was I don't say the names for Instagram. I
was a smoke screen but had no idea for a coworker.
I barely knew she was using me told her husband
at the time that we were longtime family friends. When
the husband found out she was cheating, he called me
(31:09):
in a rage and blamed me for all of it. Wow,
that's pretty good. So that's really being an unwilling accomplice.
You didn't know, you had no idea, you had no idea.
Speaker 2 (31:27):
Yeah, well then then then you what, there's no blame,
you didn't do anything wrong.
Speaker 1 (31:32):
Well no, the husband cop blamed her. No no, no,
But like so I'm getting screamed out anyway, I.
Speaker 2 (31:37):
Would just say, why don't you shut your mouth. I
don't know anything. I'm barely even friends with them.
Speaker 1 (31:40):
I think they recommend you get combat at and then.
Speaker 2 (31:42):
Your full time family friend I don't even know, I
barely know your wife.
Speaker 3 (31:47):
Lies go on, And this is from the person who
was asked by both parties, oh to cover Like this person,
The follow up was, I was so scared to say
anything to either of them lol,
A while ago.
Speaker 2 (00:01):
I'm just reading this, says, this is not my story. Okay,
a while ago. My wife and her friend is a
guy who wrote the story. A while ago, my wife
and her friend went on a weekend trip.
Speaker 1 (00:15):
Okay, are you following? Uh okay, which seemed fine. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (00:18):
Turns out the friend didn't really want to go on
the trip. She was going to meet a guy. Quote
her best friend, her soulmate. Apparently the friend and this
guy have been messaging each other for years. My wife
(00:39):
didn't know this, but obviously found out about it and
told me, but she just ignored it because it wasn't
our business. We didn't tell the friend's husband. Oh, it
was weird. It was a WTF kind of thing. I
don't know the husband at all. I barely know the friend.
(01:02):
I was thinking, quote, not my circus, not my monkey's right,
so quick recap his wife inherit. The wife's girlfriend go
out of town for a weekend. They want to go
on a trip. Turns out the friend, the wise friend,
was really wanting to go meet up with this dude.
But it's her husband who didn't know the whole thing right,
So as he says, here's the thing. The friend has
(01:27):
now asked my wife to go on another trip.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
Okay, can I please?
Speaker 2 (01:34):
The friend has asked my wife to go on another trip,
and that she will even pay for my wife to go.
The sole purpose is to cheat on her husband again.
Speaker 1 (01:49):
He thinks that are he the guy's going to be there? Oh?
Speaker 2 (01:53):
Okay, so he knows that my wife was gleefully ecstatic
about going on the free trip.
Speaker 1 (02:00):
She will be the alibi for her friend cheating. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (02:06):
Am I the a hole for being outraged, feeling betrayed,
feeling that my own marriage is an effing joke, and
frankly wanting to end it. If her and the girls
make such a farce of marriage and help each other
out and cover for each other's cheating, what the F
is my marriage? I am seriously considering telling my wife
(02:30):
that she can make her own decisions, but they have consequences,
and when she returns for the cheating, when she returns
from the cheating weekend, the locks will be changed and
the divorce papers will be pinned to the front door.
Speaker 1 (02:44):
Wow.
Speaker 3 (02:45):
So, as the kids say, that escalated quickly, But I
kind of get it.
Speaker 1 (02:51):
It's not where my head was at initially.
Speaker 3 (02:52):
No, I don't get it at all, But to take
me and explain to that next level where you're wh
watching somebody comfortable with being this quote unquote alibi and
making a mocker.
Speaker 2 (03:08):
They're not asking, they're not asking the wife to do
anything wrong.
Speaker 1 (03:11):
No, no, But it's I'm going with her, that's the alibim.
Speaker 2 (03:14):
Yeah, she the woman's telling her husband, Oh, I'm going
with I'm going with Diane and Sarah and we're going
to We're just going away for a weekend. Now she's
choosing not to tell her husband we are going away
for a weekend. I'm going to go bang some dude. Whatever.
But the wife, what the wife do wrong? She's going
on a free trip.
Speaker 3 (03:33):
But she's being used and comfortable with it. So you
can't say she's being used. She is an accomplice in
this scheme.
Speaker 2 (03:41):
No, no, no, she's not.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
She's not telling the woman to go cheat on her husband.
She's just going along for the trip. Understood. But it's
it's a smoke screen.
Speaker 2 (03:51):
And for the other woman, not for her, she to
have known about it now, right, the first time she
had no clue, she was clueless about.
Speaker 3 (03:59):
But this time she does is so do they even
spend any time together or does this a woman run
off to this boyfriend.
Speaker 2 (04:08):
I told you what I know, man, it would be
aw the only place for me that it would be awkward.
Speaker 1 (04:16):
If you were the if I were the I accomplice.
Speaker 2 (04:18):
Yeah, the the like if if it were if it
were just Tyler and I and but Tyler was going
to hook up with Diane to cheat on lindsay if
I'm there for it, and I don't mean like I'm awkward,
like seeing it, not like room but like no, not
while they're coughing, but the the like I don't, I like,
I still want to be able to have fun, like
(04:39):
I just I don't want to be a third wheel
in the cheating.
Speaker 4 (04:41):
Well doesn't sound like she is, but it's still like
weird knowing like, Okay, the whole reason I'm the whole
reason I'm invited on this trip is because I'm the
smoke screen.
Speaker 2 (04:53):
No, yes, yes, and no, the whole yes. The reason
you're invited is.
Speaker 1 (04:58):
So that so I haven't oh girl trip yeah.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
So that the wife has an excuse, the cheater has
an excuse to tell her husband. You're still going just
to have fun, like your your plan of going doesn't.
Speaker 1 (05:11):
Change the.
Speaker 3 (05:14):
I love that she's only going this is again the
cheating wife to be with this boyfriend.
Speaker 1 (05:21):
Right this jigglow. But they may.
Speaker 3 (05:25):
And you're like the hey, but we're still gonna have fun.
Right Yeah, I don't know honestly, the way you say,
why can't it be both?
Speaker 1 (05:31):
As you said, the.
Speaker 3 (05:31):
Wife's extatic just about a free trip. It doesn't sound
like she's extatic to get away with the friend. She
knows the friend is going to be preoptist, so she's
going to be like hanging by herself.
Speaker 2 (05:39):
Or I don't maybe there he does say, a couple
of girls, it would.
Speaker 4 (05:42):
Definitely not be okay. I mean, I guess if it's
a couple, you have somebody to hang out with.
Speaker 1 (05:47):
But I would hope that there let's all go out
to dinner. I thought it was a girl's trip.
Speaker 2 (05:51):
It's the two of them feeling okay.
Speaker 1 (05:54):
Frankly, I'm seriously that she can make her own decisions.
Speaker 2 (06:00):
The friend asked, my wife was gleefully excited about going
on a free trip.
Speaker 1 (06:03):
Oh yeah, so I guess it's not. It's not a
whole group. Okay, Yeah, you're right, and that this threw
me off.
Speaker 2 (06:11):
Hang yeah, maybe, but maybe on Saturday, the woman goes
into hooks up. But on Friday, we're still having dinner
and drinks and hanging out.
Speaker 1 (06:20):
On Saturday, I'll go out by myself. When was their
first trip? How long has it been since she's seen
this guy? Between like trip one and trip two? You know,
it's been a bit. You're not hanging out with now,
it's been a bit. Yeah, it's been not my circus,
not my monkeys. That's fun.
Speaker 3 (06:32):
That's how really gets upset and tells the husband, But like,
why did.
Speaker 4 (06:38):
The the smoke screens? Husband goes zero to one thousand?
Speaker 1 (06:42):
What do you mean?
Speaker 4 (06:43):
Like he He's like saying, well, how well, how seriously
are you taking marriage?
Speaker 2 (06:48):
And you know what I mean, like, yeah, if you
don't care about your best friend's marriage, this is not
my marriage.
Speaker 1 (06:53):
This is not the only thing that's bothering him.
Speaker 2 (06:58):
Oh, I don't know the answer to that. He's just saying,
you don't take marriage seriously. So why you don't take
You don't take marriage seriously?
Speaker 1 (07:06):
So why would you? Why would I think you take
my marriage seriously? And at first glance that does seem
it seems very dramatic.
Speaker 3 (07:13):
But oh, I kind of get it. And I'm reading
now the comments and the social media lounge. People think
that this other wife maybe also that she did that's
a bad that's a bad there each other. That's a
bad jump. That's a bad jump.
Speaker 5 (07:28):
I have.
Speaker 2 (07:29):
I have friends that do plenty of bad things that
the well, that makes it sound but.
Speaker 4 (07:34):
Would you tell because but she told the husband like, hey,
this is what happened on that first trip.
Speaker 1 (07:40):
Right, so good on them. They got a good relationship.
Speaker 3 (07:46):
When don't you say something to Jackie like, oh my god,
I was totally like, dude, dwindled into a trip that
was just an affair.
Speaker 1 (07:54):
The yeah.
Speaker 2 (07:55):
I would tell Jackie all day and then when I
went back, if Jackie was like, so you're gonna go
back and get and I'd be like, yeah, I had.
Speaker 1 (08:00):
Fun, I got a free trip. I'm not going on
trip number two. I don't know. I do not want
to be involved in that. You're not involved, Yes I am.
I'm on the smoke screen.
Speaker 2 (08:12):
So the friend's husband says, hey, were you on the
trip with Margaret? You would go yeah, and you were.
You're not why I.
Speaker 4 (08:18):
Would feel dirty the why because you're like that's on them? No, No, yes,
that's on that did you I do not want to
get involved in that car.
Speaker 1 (08:27):
Did you cheat? I know I do not need that mess.
Speaker 3 (08:30):
I question. I questioned my friendship because I, oh, my god,
in the first trip used you were used in the
first trip at least that she didn't know whatever.
Speaker 1 (08:39):
But I'd be like, what what kind of friendship do
we have? I'm sure I've been used before? I mean,
are you going on a third trip? The free trip?
Is it free? The no?
Speaker 2 (08:50):
No, I'm sure, But why can't it be a little
column may, a little column B.
Speaker 1 (08:54):
I could have I could have chosen to use anybody.
Speaker 2 (08:57):
But I'm using but excre's you can I sink yes,
I mean yes exactly.
Speaker 1 (09:01):
Oh, thank you.
Speaker 2 (09:02):
No, because you're fun to hang out with, You're not hanging.
Speaker 1 (09:05):
No that those five minutes were together. We got to
get there. I'm fun to travel with. Wait are we flying?
Are we driving? Are we driving separately? I don't know.
I know she's breaking down and that dude's pushing her home.
Speaker 3 (09:17):
You are the one who a trip like this would
make the most sense, and at the same time the
person who didn't say anything after the first trip, So
you can be trusted as both the setup and the
follow through, which is going to be lying by omission
the rest of your relationship.
Speaker 1 (09:36):
Okay, but but it's not really lying by omission.
Speaker 2 (09:40):
Why is it on me to call his wife the
woman's husband and go, hey, bro, here's what's going on.
That's not lying by omission? Makes you feel dirty, Nimby,
not my backyard. Now, you guys went away?
Speaker 1 (09:54):
You do you? You do you? Oh my god, everyone
thinks they're both cheating.
Speaker 2 (10:00):
That never even crossed my mind. Now, that never even
crossed my mind. Just because you hang out with a
cheater doesn't make you a cheater.
Speaker 1 (10:09):
Oh, Ethan thinks it's a threesome. I didn't even know
that either.
Speaker 3 (10:14):
Donna writes, I've been the smoke screen, did it a
few times when I was younger?
Speaker 2 (10:19):
Yeah, how about Donna? No, that's what I mean, like, hey,
I need somebody to cover for me. Hey, sit over
there in that chair. I'm gonna go in the bedroom
and uh and run one out.
Speaker 3 (10:31):
The second part of her message, it is a one
now it is very wrong.
Speaker 2 (10:37):
Oh okay, Well that's like the person who like found gospel. No,
she grew converted the Yeah, it was like, oh that's
all bad.
Speaker 1 (10:48):
Joe writes, show me your friends, and I'll show you
who you are.
Speaker 2 (10:51):
Wait, oh, that's not true either. That's not true. That
that is that is a load. Now, your reputation may
hurt because of your friends, but that's not who you are.
Speaker 1 (11:04):
Well, that's not great for your future.
Speaker 2 (11:06):
The no, But I mean I I have I have
good friends when I say bad like, I don't. I'm
not friends with anybody who's like, you know, like a
wanted murderer on the street.
Speaker 1 (11:15):
I have friends who may do some questionable things. Whoa
I would turn on Kristen's Mike. Uh oh wait Kristen's Michael.
Speaker 2 (11:25):
Oh, all you got to do is tickle him under there? Hi, Kristin,
how are you? What'd you do? I was?
Speaker 1 (11:35):
Were you the smoke screen?
Speaker 6 (11:37):
Uh?
Speaker 2 (11:38):
I was?
Speaker 6 (11:40):
I had a friend in high school, right who was
coming quote coming over to my house?
Speaker 1 (11:48):
Right?
Speaker 6 (11:48):
She was married.
Speaker 1 (11:51):
In high school. You're high school? High school?
Speaker 2 (11:53):
Oh? Okay, okay, but you're not after high school.
Speaker 1 (11:57):
Also, remember where she's from.
Speaker 6 (11:59):
I don't even think she she wasn't even twenty one
yet when she got married.
Speaker 1 (12:02):
So ever.
Speaker 6 (12:03):
Anyway, so she had been married for like two years, right,
And so I got a call from her and said, hey,
if my husband calls, I'm with you. And I'm like, okay,
is everything okay? And she's like, i'll tell you later,
all right. So then like the day passed and I
kept waiting, I'm like, what the heck's going on? I
(12:25):
didn't hear anything from either of them. So then I
called her again and so here to find out she
had been cheating on him and she wanted to use
me right as the cover up, and I was totally
not on board with it. And you guys know that
I'd like to be confrontational, right, So I told her
how I felt about the situation.
Speaker 2 (12:42):
And well, you told her the husband her, right, I said, like,
all right, last time, I'm using you as a smoke screen.
Speaker 6 (12:49):
I'm like, I have I didn't say this, but I'm like,
I have morals, I'm not I don't think I don't
agree with that whatsoever.
Speaker 1 (12:56):
Right, So I lost a friendship over it, and I
don't care.
Speaker 2 (13:03):
By the way, by the way, everyone everyone, hey, you're
listening to blame breed. No, but listen, this is this
is no different than Hey, we're just we're teenagers and
we're telling our parents that we're spending the night at
Diane's house.
Speaker 1 (13:20):
That's very different. Different. We're around on your spouse. No,
but you're lying to your parents. So what everybody likes
their parents were teenagers. Everybody cheats on their wife.
Speaker 3 (13:29):
No, this is me now, everyone, come on, No, but
how is it? It's it's just a different part of
your life.
Speaker 2 (13:41):
But all that happened there was like, Hey, if your
mom asked, I told her I was going to spend
the night here because I'm.
Speaker 1 (13:47):
We've a done that all night.
Speaker 4 (13:48):
But that was only because we wanted to go to
a party or something. That parents is that not every
teenager does. Is that we're not screwing around on your husband.
Speaker 3 (13:59):
Lying is lying, and everyone who agrees with you, Elliott
is about to jump off the ship if you continue
to compare us.
Speaker 2 (14:06):
Just say, everybody's trying to be all pontiff and it's
not working out for him or pious. What is the
word I'm looking for That doesn't matter. Yeah, papal. Everybody's
trying to be all papal.
Speaker 1 (14:19):
It's wrong. Which part you're what you're agreeing with? Cheating?
Speaker 3 (14:24):
Yes, yes, of course it is, yeah, said put someone
in that position.
Speaker 6 (14:28):
My friend told me, she said, you we're like best friends.
It's girl code. You need to have my back. And
I said, no.
Speaker 1 (14:36):
Right, okay, when you're allowed to say no.
Speaker 2 (14:38):
Why didn't just let me ask you this? Why didn't
you tell the husband? I mean, you're all righteous, what
like telling her? Oh, so you told the cheater that
you think it's wrong to cheat? Well?
Speaker 1 (14:49):
I did.
Speaker 2 (14:49):
How about the one who? How about the one that
she's dicking over?
Speaker 1 (14:52):
In high school?
Speaker 6 (14:53):
I told that he was my best friend and his
girlfriend was cheating on him, And I said, if you
don't tell him, I will, And she didn't tell him,
so I did.
Speaker 1 (15:01):
Oh god, oh god, friendship too, But I don't care.
I had enough friends that conversation.
Speaker 6 (15:09):
Like the high school one. Yes, I she was also
another cover up, but they weren't married. There was some
high school and uh, I said, if you don't tell him,
I'm going to tell him. I gave her from an
entire week to tell him. She's like, I'll tell him,
I'll tell him. I said, no, he's my best friend.
I've known him since I was five. If you don't
tell him, I will.
Speaker 1 (15:30):
Well.
Speaker 6 (15:31):
Then I took him aside and said, hey, this is
what's happening. So then he broke up with her. She
was mad at me, but then she got over it.
Speaker 2 (15:37):
Oh my god, here's what I can tell you. Nobody
lied about spending the night at your house. I mean,
she's also the worst friend, but she's a great friend.
Speaker 1 (15:47):
Right.
Speaker 6 (15:48):
And they also covered up for my friends who were
like cheated boyfriends in the neighborhood, who weren't supposed to
have boyfriends.
Speaker 2 (15:55):
Oh, because they were dating bad guys. So so you
just pick and choose where you're righteous. They're sorry, That's
what I mean. So you're a pick and check.
Speaker 1 (16:03):
You were covering for them with their parents.
Speaker 2 (16:06):
Yes, so as long as you're just digging over your parents,
Kristen's cool with it.
Speaker 1 (16:11):
But if it's a friend, no, no dice, no d check.
Speaker 6 (16:15):
That one's different. My friend wasn't allowed to have a
boyfriend in junior high or high school.
Speaker 1 (16:20):
Oh my god.
Speaker 6 (16:21):
Yeah, so my parents are also kind of covering because
I'm like, hey, so and so it's coming over, we're
going to go. I was very honest with my parents,
and they said, hey, we're going to go to the playground,
which I lived near a playground, right, and then we're
also going to see some of the boys.
Speaker 2 (16:35):
Right, and the boys and Mary who's not allowed to
have a boyfriend. Tim's gonna play with them titties, and
I would let them.
Speaker 6 (16:42):
Like go to the ballpark and I'd walk away.
Speaker 1 (16:44):
So you covered for them.
Speaker 2 (16:47):
Different again, all the pontiffson tiff, you're cheating on your parents.
Speaker 1 (16:54):
You're not breaking a vow. Yeah, oh my god, you're not.
Oh my god. But I'm sorry. I didn't take a
vow with my parents, to be honest. That's that's a
very real argument.
Speaker 3 (17:09):
The original post kind of spoke to that, where he said,
this is commentary on how she treats marriage.
Speaker 1 (17:15):
Right. But okay, so so you're okay, you're you're better off.
Let's use Marley.
Speaker 2 (17:21):
You're you would be more upset that Marley cheated on
a dude than just boldface lied to you because quote,
you two never made a vow to different.
Speaker 4 (17:30):
That's different on the parentally different rules change.
Speaker 1 (17:38):
All right, very good, Thank you, Kristen. Note to self
from al Toyedo.
Speaker 2 (17:42):
Oh you know I one time saw Michael Keaton.
Speaker 3 (17:46):
Anyway, Yes, I was an unwilling smoke screen during a
guy's weekend, and it is the worst all capital letters.
Speaker 1 (17:55):
How is could you feel like you're holding this secret
from somebody.
Speaker 2 (17:58):
You are, Oh, yes you are, but you know who
you're holding the secret from the husband.
Speaker 1 (18:04):
But nobody has said, I'm gonna go tell the husband.
But it's like he said, unwell's you that's who. Okay,
I witness a crime and I'm an unwilling pleader. We
need to have the balls.
Speaker 2 (18:15):
Like Kristin, they're giving you a week the no no,
but nobody's telling the husband. That is who you're keeping
the secret from. But nobody's telling the husband. You're mad
at your friend, you're mad at your husband, but nobody
has said, I'm going to the husband. That's who you're
keeping the secret from.
Speaker 3 (18:32):
Again, I do think that you could end the friendship
like Kristin obviously did in her case, right, and not
be the one that has to go.
Speaker 1 (18:39):
Tell the husband.
Speaker 3 (18:40):
No, that's on them, right, But you then can't be
a willing participant.
Speaker 1 (18:47):
I didn't know it was gonna happen again. Yes, you've
heard that. I understand that every story is different, but
the story you read, Yes, they know.
Speaker 2 (18:56):
The second trip is for the sole purpose of playing
with like like back in fifth grade, playing with them.
Speaker 3 (19:03):
Ditties, chicken loaf, wants to know how long until Elliott
compares this to the first time you try.
Speaker 2 (19:08):
Pizza line seven.
Speaker 1 (19:14):
Hi Elliott the morning, Hello, Yeah, Hi, who's this right?
This is Kimberly right.
Speaker 5 (19:22):
So years ago I had one of my friend's husband
call me and she tried to use me as a
smoke screen but did not inform me, and so he
was like, is so and so stare with you?
Speaker 7 (19:38):
I was like, what are you talking about? And so
she blew her own cover by not.
Speaker 1 (19:44):
Oh oh yeah.
Speaker 2 (19:46):
So the friend said she was going to your house
but didn't tell you yes, by the way.
Speaker 7 (19:52):
And so when he called, I was like, what is
this what.
Speaker 2 (19:56):
That's where you have to And again I hate to
resort back to being a team ager, but that's where
you have to have a code with a couple of friends.
If my we did, if my mom ever calls your house,
I'm in the bathroom, I'm in the shower, like I'm doing,
like find an excuse, but don't say I'm not there,
like oh he ran to the store, Like you got
(20:18):
to have a better cover. So I could almost argue
your friend listen, whatever marriage issue they're having, but your
friend should have told you up front. If my husband
ever calls your house. I'm here, but I'm busy, right,
and then you just have them.
Speaker 7 (20:36):
I thought they had had a good marriage, but apparently not,
and they're still like, none of your business.
Speaker 1 (20:44):
It isn't now.
Speaker 2 (20:45):
I like the gossip, don't get me wrong, Like I
love here in the gossip, but that is but.
Speaker 3 (20:51):
That's not that's not on me, Thank you, ma'am. Billy
writes Elliott. I believe if you attend a close friend's wedding,
then you are making an implied commitment to support that marriage.
I do support it, just maybe after this trip.
Speaker 1 (21:05):
No, but I, like Diane said, things change. Brian wants
to know, by the way, I didn't.
Speaker 2 (21:08):
I still supported they're getting married. They're the ones who
have a problem with their marriage, not me.
Speaker 3 (21:13):
Brian wants to know where Elliott is on the idea
of birds of a feather.
Speaker 1 (21:19):
Where am I on that idea? Yeah, I mean, it's
not gonna end up cheating, it's not.
Speaker 2 (21:26):
Well, that's what everybody thinks, that they're going to have
a three just in general, it's not a literal.
Speaker 1 (21:31):
It's not a literal. Idiot. Well, Nick thinks the smoke
screen role is cheating too, everybody is. Everybody thinks no.
Speaker 3 (21:39):
No, no, no, no, that is just cheating, like change
the locks, that's cheating.
Speaker 1 (21:45):
How is that cheating?
Speaker 2 (21:47):
Going going away to see someone else cheat is the
same as cheating on your own spouse?
Speaker 1 (21:52):
Must be Diane?
Speaker 2 (21:54):
Would you would you rather I'm going to wait for
the weekend to cheat on Jackie?
Speaker 1 (21:59):
Okay?
Speaker 2 (22:00):
Yeah, Scott is coming with me, right?
Speaker 1 (22:05):
Would you rather he bangs someone or not bang someone?
Speaker 3 (22:09):
Not?
Speaker 1 (22:09):
Okay, thank you, there's your answer. But perhaps it's not.
It's not trust. Trust that is the ultimate trust. You're
trusting that person to keep their mouth shut.
Speaker 2 (22:23):
They're going on a cheating weekend and he doesn't cheat.
Speaker 3 (22:27):
The person that they're accompanying is trusting that person. Yeah,
but then you take it and look in the mirror
of your own life.
Speaker 2 (22:35):
No bag, Listen the Does everybody know somebody that's been
that has had a cheated marriage?
Speaker 1 (22:43):
I do, Kristen does, and if I remain friendly.
Speaker 2 (22:49):
First of all, I'm not birds of a feather and
it's not a commentary on my marriage. I've never cheated
on Jackie. I'm assuming she hasn't cheated on me. I mean,
none of us really knows. It's a weird go to,
but it is true. If you call Scott and go Scott,
have you ever cheated on me? And he says no,
(23:12):
do you believe him?
Speaker 1 (23:13):
Yes? But are you do? You know with one hundred
percent certainty, I guess you're right. Thank you. That's getting
all pontiff.
Speaker 2 (23:24):
But you trust them, you believe them, Like I would
say with Jackie, if she said no, I would I
would say with ninety nine point ninety nine Gretzky point
Gretzky certainty, she's telling the truth. That's where beyond a
reasonable doubt comes, or we would never solve any crime
because unless the jury was there, you would have no.
Speaker 3 (23:47):
Idea from Instagram? Who I have been a double smoke screen?
Speaker 1 (23:54):
I don't even know how you do that.
Speaker 2 (23:56):
Long time ago, both both spouses were cheating.
Speaker 3 (23:59):
And his girl girlfriend though, yeah, but I've several years
cheated on each other within a week and sprung the
idea of me covering for them against my will from
both sides.
Speaker 1 (24:12):
So what did she say?
Speaker 3 (24:14):
Well, now she tell both spouses neither ever found out
because they did break up a month later. Someone must
have discovered.
Speaker 1 (24:21):
Well, they could have broken up over something else.
Speaker 8 (24:23):
Oh, it was irreconcille differences the no no, but again, everybody,
could you imagine the husband confides in you and then
the wife confides in you, Oh, that.
Speaker 1 (24:34):
You're living for that drama. I am like that.
Speaker 2 (24:36):
That's make a wish material right there. That's awesome. Like
that gets me hot, m But but again, everybody here,
nobody's saying anything. But everybody thinks it's wrong, but nobody
saying anything.
Speaker 3 (24:56):
The Instagram message didn't make it seem like there was
somebody in his or her life that they were telling
the story too, who then felt like, well, why would
you ever consider covering for this person?
Speaker 2 (25:09):
Because I'm a friend. I'm not lying. I'm just not
telling lying too. Hi, y Ellie at the Morning.
Speaker 5 (25:21):
One.
Speaker 1 (25:23):
Yes, sir, Hey, this is Will from DC.
Speaker 9 (25:29):
So when I was in college, I was I was
dating a girl and I was covering for her friend.
Her friend had a boyfriend and her friend was sleeping
with my friend. Now I didn't really care either way,
but I sort of told her boyfriend she'd been doing
(25:50):
that because she gave my buddy an STD there it is.
But then I found out actually he got it from
someone else, So I.
Speaker 10 (25:59):
Blew the whole.
Speaker 2 (26:03):
Oh and you thought you thought you were using her
herpe's code, but it was the wrong person.
Speaker 1 (26:10):
Oh wow, wow.
Speaker 2 (26:11):
Yeah.
Speaker 9 (26:12):
My friend was like, hey, it turns out I didn't
get that from her. But the damage was done, so
you know what are somehow I threw the whole friendship,
but I got off scott free, so nothing happened to.
Speaker 1 (26:29):
Oh the way exactly.
Speaker 2 (26:30):
And and again the person the wife's going along on
the trip, like the husband, like you're divorcing over that?
Speaker 1 (26:36):
Like that, that's pretty drastic, that's pretty I wonder if
there's other stuff at play. There be angry break a
plate Elliott.
Speaker 3 (26:44):
This is our Michael Elliott. The lookout and a bank
robbery is also robbing the bank.
Speaker 2 (26:51):
Yes, because the lookout is actually committing a crime. It
is against the law to be the lookout or the
getaway driver.
Speaker 1 (27:01):
That is against the law.
Speaker 2 (27:03):
It is not against the law to go away for
the weekend. And while I'm having fun, somebody else is
doing something else.
Speaker 1 (27:10):
Well I don't know what they're doing. The argument is
that it's bad. Oh, well, they come with a better example.
It can can be convicted, and right now I understand
what they're saying.
Speaker 2 (27:21):
But this in the bank robbery scenario, you're actively that
you may as well be if you were the third
person in the manage ATOI, then yes, But in the
in the in this scenario, you're just there, You're just
a cover. Great Listen, I'm not saying it's the right
thing to do.
Speaker 1 (27:43):
Oh okay, so that's actually a good first step for you.
Speaker 2 (27:47):
Yeah it is. Yes, it's it's not the right thing
to do, but it ain't but it but it ain't
worth making a mountain out of.
Speaker 1 (28:00):
Please mine eight hi Ellie at the morning one, two, three,
four or five six.
Speaker 10 (28:12):
Hey, uh so, I'm not gonna say my name, but
my husband just always cheated on me, and his friends
and his family would cover for him. Like almost every
single time. He would be like, oh, I'm going to
go over to my cousin's house, and of course, like
I'd call his cousin and his cousin be like, yeah,
he's here, or like his friend that lived in Virginia
(28:33):
p She's like, yeah, I'm definitely there visiting for the weekend,
and we're definitely here right now. And he was always
like off at some other girls house, like every single.
Speaker 1 (28:43):
Well, how do you know? How do you know that?
Speaker 10 (28:47):
Because I uh eventually looked at the text messages and
saw that the times that he was saying that he
was got into his house.
Speaker 1 (28:55):
He was actually at point for you. Okay, no, no, listen,
I don't want you to get cheated on. I don't
want anybody to get cheated on. It doesn't feel good.
Number number with.
Speaker 10 (29:06):
Respect to that, yes, I will say that I would
one hundred percent. Like if I knew that any of
my friends were cheating on their significant others, I would
one hundred percent tell them now.
Speaker 1 (29:17):
Just because who the significant other?
Speaker 10 (29:19):
How can you trust? I know I would tell the
significant other. If I knew a friend that was cheating
on them, I would go to their boyfriend or husband
or girlfriend or wife or whatever and.
Speaker 1 (29:31):
Be like, hey, you're christ they're cheating on you. You
know what, And I'll give you this.
Speaker 2 (29:37):
That is this is the first pontiff person where it's
like they you would you want to solve the problem,
Go tell the person that's getting dicked over. Although they
say that that just really they didn't. That just hurts
them being all right, very good, very good, thank you, ma'am.
Speaker 1 (29:52):
Would you cover so? But we agree you wouldn't cover
for your kid I would not.
Speaker 2 (29:57):
Not in this case. I'd cover for my kid a lot.
I'd be like, he wasn't the lookout at the bank,
he was here.
Speaker 3 (30:03):
There are social situations and I've told you guys, is
off air, and because the blink's gone off, I know
Lindsay's walking the dog listening, So we'll keep the details vague.
But where I've turned in the car to the backseat
and said, just so you know, I am not comfortable
with this lie.
Speaker 1 (30:22):
We are living.
Speaker 3 (30:24):
And it's like a birthday party invite or something like that,
where you have to be vague about your plans.
Speaker 1 (30:29):
You should stop talking. But I'm just telling you what
it is.
Speaker 3 (30:34):
It's not something that is life changing like a marriage,
but it is a ninth birthday party.
Speaker 2 (30:41):
Right, which, by the way, when you're nine, is a
big deal, much like your marriage.
Speaker 1 (30:45):
How about this one? This is from Instagram.
Speaker 3 (30:47):
I was I don't say the names for Instagram. I
was a smoke screen but had no idea for a coworker.
I barely knew she was using me told her husband
at the time that we were longtime family friends. When
the husband found out she was cheating, he called me
(31:09):
in a rage and blamed me for all of it. Wow,
that's pretty good. So that's really being an unwilling accomplice.
You didn't know, you had no idea, you had no idea.
Speaker 2 (31:27):
Yeah, well then then then you what, there's no blame,
you didn't do anything wrong.
Speaker 1 (31:32):
Well no, the husband cop blamed her. No no, no,
But like so I'm getting screamed out anyway, I.
Speaker 2 (31:37):
Would just say, why don't you shut your mouth. I
don't know anything. I'm barely even friends with them.
Speaker 1 (31:40):
I think they recommend you get combat at and then.
Speaker 2 (31:42):
Your full time family friend I don't even know, I
barely know your wife.
Speaker 3 (31:47):
Lies go on, And this is from the person who
was asked by both parties, oh to cover Like this person,
The follow up was, I was so scared to say
anything to either of them lol,
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