HE'S HOOKING UP WITH HIS COWORKER

In tonight’s episode of "Crystal’s Nightcap" it’s back to domestication life, I met Danny Trejo in the streets of NYC, I hung out with Billy McFarlan from Fyre Festival, we interview Chloe Bailey about her new album, a Synygogue Rave, my first pottery class in NYC, he’s hooking up with his coworker, and MORE!

Episode Transcript

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Hello to your beautiful hair hula hoop. It's a Crystal Rosas back with another
episode of a Crystal's Nightcap. Forme, It's back to domestication life.
I met Danny Trehole in the straitsof New York City and I hung out
with Billy McFarlane from Fire Festival.We'll interview Chloe Bailey about her new album.
I'm going to a synagogue rave.I took my first pottery class here
in New York City and he's hookingup with his co worker gets. My

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name is Crystal Rosas. I'm atwenty something Latina who just moved from California.
It's the Big Apple's Happy. Sorrythat was my cat frappuccino. They're
still getting used to the city life. Anyways. Where was I? Oh?
Yeah, I take over afternoon radioevery day on the world famous Z
one hundred but one Nightfalls. I'mlooking for all the cloud I can get

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and casually searching these streets from myPrince Charming. Come on this sexy single
journey where we'll go on a datewith a new guy from the apps every
week, host red carpets and interviews, and weasel our way into the secret
society of New York's top social lights. Oh yeah, someone's always watching.
That's my overprotective mom. This isCrystal's Nightcap. Heapy Monday, and welcome

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to another episode of Crystal's Nightcap.Thanks so much for hanging out. Hope
you had a great weekend. Hopeyou had a great week You already know
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going to get straight into it,Crystal's Nightcap. This is where I talk
about was going on in my life. So we're getting into it right me
out, Sit back, relax,It's Crystal's Nightcap. Well, first of

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all, thank you to everyone that'sbeen reaching out about last week's episode.
I know Lisa you're listening with Ariela. Hi. Thank you so so much,
and I love you guys and y'allhave just been sending me a lot
of positive vibes and thoughts and prayersbecause I shared in last week's episode that
I'm having a really tough time withliving here in New York City away from

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my family, especially after I getto see them for really short teases.
I go home sometimes for birthdays orbulas and big events like that, and
it's just hard when I get awhole weekend where I get to spend it
with my besties and my family andmy boyfriend, and then I come back
here to New York City and thevibe is just different. You know.

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I love my apartment, I lovemy kid at Caffrappuccino. I love my
job here at Ze one hundred,but it's just different. Like it's hard
because in the Bay, I'm withmy peoples, and even though I have
friends out here and I have amazingcoworkers there, it's still an issue here
that's really hard for me to workthrough every day. But I do get

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help from my managers. I doget help from other people here at work.
It's just really tough, and Ifind myself kind of going full gremlin
mode when I come back from California. I just kind of want to coop
myself up in my apartment and justeat hell of food and just not really
talk to anybody or not really doanything. But at the same time,
I do have amazing friends, andI do have an awesome support system out

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here that helps me. For example, I have my BFF David. I
talked about him all the time.He is the one that loves to go
to concerts and loves to go onexperiences. So he invited me to go
see Chloe this week at Terminal five, which is a venue out here on
the West Side in a New YorkCity. And Chloe Bailey, she is
amazing. We got to interview herehere on ZE one hundred. Check that

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out on YouTube at ZE one hundredNew York and just look up Chloe Bailey.
But it was great, just likekind of getting out and having a
fresh breath of fresh air. Assoon as me and David and our other
friend Brittany were walking down to thevenue, I saw a whole commotion on
the side of the street, andI was wondering, what is that about,
Like, what are people doing overthere? We're walking towards it,

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and oh, my goodness, gracious, it's freaking Danny Trejol one of the
most famous actors of all time.I know him as Uncle Felix from Spy
Kids. I don't know you knowhim from, but everybody knows him.
Everyone sees his face. He isan American icon. He is a Mexican
legend. And I saw him onthe side of the fricking street and had
to do a little drive by.Watched even come out tonight we had there.

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You can watch that clip on myInstagram. Again. I'm at Black
Crystal Rosas. But I was justrunning into him and him being so freaking
sweet, Like he got into hiscar and there was kind of traffic,
so I was just standing around andkind of had my phone out. He
put down his window and then putout his arm to kind of like welcome
you to go give him a hug. And it's just little moments like that

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really made me realize how awesome itis that I live in New York City
and why I love it here.And it gave me that little extra umph
that I needed that week. Itwas great. Then we got to have
dinner before the concert with David andBrittany. We went to the Meatball Shop.
It was pretty good. They havea few of them are out here
in New York City. And thenwe made our weight over to the concert,

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which was amazing. So thankful forJason Griffin, who is part of
the record label and he's always hookingit up. We got amazing seats.
We were pretty much in the vipabove right next to the stage, able
to watch Chloe do her thing,and she is a per four mirr.
I know some people have talked ishabout her album and her sales and how

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Beyonce you didn't help promote that,But at the end of the day,
she's out here, signed to alabel by Beyonce, she has a sold
out tour, she is in moviesand TV shows. Her performance is amazing.
People all the way, even upin the nosebleeds at the concert,
are singing word for word her songsfor her album that just came out like

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two weeks prior. So big andrest to Chloe. Her energy is always
so sweet. We had a reallygreat interview, like I said, with
her here at the station, Sogo check that out again on our YouTube,
ad Z one hundred New York.The rest of the week, I
decided that I was going to getmy domestication on and get back into cooking.
Because when I first moved to NewYork City, actually when I was
living in the Bay during pandemic time, I really started throwing down in the

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kitchen. And then I moved toNew York. My little brother Steven helped
me move out here. Him andI were cooking a lot. But because
I've been traveling so much this year, I've been going to LA and Home
and Orlando, I haven't been ableto buy groceries because whenever I buy groceries,
ages end up going bad because withinthat week I'll be traveling somewhere.
But I am going to be settledhere for I'm guessing the next few months.

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I don't have anything planned. I'mworking a lot on the weekends.
So I decided to know what,let me get back into cooking. Let
me give myself something forward to whenI get home. I wanted to make
some Panera broccoli cheddar soup and asksome bacon on there and let me tell
you, Okay, it was nottoo bad. If you follow me on

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Instagram, you would have seen thewhole issue with the broccoli cheddar soup and
the cheddar cheese. Oh my gosh, This is definitely a first world problem.
But my mom, she every oncein a while, maybe like once
or twice a year, she'll sendme big old packages from Costco. She'll
send me a real supply of papertowels and toilet paper and frozen fish and

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chicken and things like that, chickenbroth, almond milk, a whole bunch
of things. She'll set me up. I mean, I am so blessed
with my parents. The support isbeyond And I know some people might,
Hey, Amy, you might belike Crystal, aren't you almost thirty?
Why is your mom still sending yourgroceries? Let me live, Let us
live. Groceries aren't roses out here, and it's hard to live, Okay.

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I know that I have a salary, I know that I get endorsements,
but it's still really tough to liveout here, especially because I travel
so much and go back home.A lot of what I make goes two
flights. But yeah, you know, your parents, if they can,
and if they have the means,let them help you out, you know.
And I help my parents out towhat I can. So let me

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tell you what happened with my mom. This is probably less summer, No,
it was probably fall time. Itwas probably around the fall. I
usually ask for a reup of Costcostuff when I run on to bacon,
but this time she really went offwith the bacon. So it's been a
while that I've needed to help withthe groceries. So yeah, I think
this was last fall, and Iasked if she can hook it up with

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some cheddar cheese slices because out herearound where I live in New York City,
For a pack of cheddar cheese slices, let's say there's six in the
pack. I'm not lying or exaggerating. It is probably about fourteen dollars,
so a little over two dollars persice of cheese. So if we can
get them on Costco, where youget a bulk, then that would be

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easier. My mom, bless hersoul, instead of sending me a few
packs of sliced cheddar cheeses right forsandwiches or things like that, she sent
me an entire block of cheese,a good old like six seven pounds of
ghistle and it came frozen, soI wasn't able to split it up into

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individual packages, and I was justthinking, how the heck am I going
to portion this ten pound block offrozen cheese. So when I was out
getting groceries to make this broccoli cheddarbacon soup, I was like, the
one thing I don't need is cheddarcheese. I'm not going to do that
to myself. And with the pricesand with knowing I already have a frozen
block in my freezer, we're goingto figure it out. So I'm looking

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it up online. I'm getting allthe ingredients from the store. I get
home, I bring out the blockof cheese, and as I'm making the
broccoli cheddar soup, I'm trying tocut like char off chunks of the cheese
as it's kind of defrosting, butnot really. This is so dang difficult.
This is so hard, and atthe end of my whole broccoli cheddar

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soup process, it doesn't taste thatbad. I was getting really tired and
sore from like literally striking pieces ofcheese off of this big old block.
So I could have used a littlemore cheddar, but it's okay, Like
it did what had to do,and I didn't follow the instructions exactly exactly

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exactly. I kind of mixed upa few steps, but let me tell
you like panera wishes, I reallyam out here. It was so good.
I made a little tiny Oh yeah, I had enough to serve myself
maybe for the next three days.And honestly today I want to go back
home and make some more. Likewe really that so look at us domesticating

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and getting back into the adulting grooveof things. I was really proud of
myself. It looked really good andit tasted so good. Actually even tasted
better the leftovers. As as thedays were going on, I was like
this again, better and better andbetter. So that was earlier in the
week, and then towards the endof the week. Okay, Friday comes
along and I'm like, all right, I ran out of broccli triter soup.

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I have to make something again.Let me make some shrimp, let
me get some yams, let meget some baby broccoli. Let's do some
little healthy stuff. So I did. I made some garlic lemony shrimp.
I made my little sweet potato friesand some Brussels sprouts thumbion. I ate

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the plate. It was good.I feel like, I don't know what
it was, the shrimp just itneeded a little pizzaz. I don't know
what I could have added or whatI could have taken more time with,
but it just it didn't really hitand I was kind of annoyed by it.
I ordered a Wingstop and I hada whole other meal afterwards, and
it was amazing. Now the nextfew week is, like I said,

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I am going to be working,so actually, yeah, the next few
weeks, yeah, I am goingto be working. So I don't like
to go out too too much onthe weekends that I work, because if
I work, it's going to bean early shift and I'm not trying to
come in alone being hungover as heck. So I was a good guirrel and
I stayed in on Friday night,then woke up early to go to work,

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and I was invited to a Dartya day party if you remember.
Over the weekend, I was goingto quite a few of these Darty's day
parties with my neighbor Jase, andhe invited me to the first of the
season. So I got all cube. I was excited for this Darty.
I knew that I didn't really wantto go crazy, but whenever I'm with

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neighbor Jase, I don't know what'sgoing to happen. But I scaddled right
after work to the Lower East Side. It's the same apartment that we always
have darties at, and it's prettymuch the same type of darty every time
I go. It's with the samecrew of people. These are alumnis that
we're also part of the Jewish fratat Cornell University, and a lot of

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them are grown up. Some arebarely grads, but a lot of them
do have regular jobs now. Andour New York City civilians and just like
terrage and rave and party a lot. And the guy who always has these
darties, he's an amazing DJ.He kind of started from the bottom.

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Now he's here. He has aDJ Parity account that has a lot of
clout now and he's again invited toa lot of music festivals. At first
it was just him and the CDJdoing it for the homies, but now
he's actually invited to like a lotof big festivals and he's lightway doing the
things. So congrats to him.Yes, I pull up hang out with

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neighbor jays for a little bit.I bring a bottle of Japanese sake and
there's some drink of drinks. Theywere two I know some of the guys
there, I know some a littlemore than others, and this Dartie surprisingly
has an amazing ratio. Sometimes it'sa little more bro than girls, and
it's just kind of like a sausagefest. But I don't know, maybe

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it's the new wave of college crabs, but the ratio was on point.
And it's just funny because you know, I'm twenty nine and a lot of
these kids were like twenty four,twenty five, and even j Jas is
a little younger than I am.Even my neighbor j he was like,
I feel kind of old Crystal.It's like, it's okay, we're gonna
have a good time. So we'rethere, and like I said, as

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some other friends that I know throughJ pull up and I'm having a good
old time with my friend Eby andwe're just all vibe in. We're playing
beer pong. I'm awful at beerpong. I completely troll the first game,
which means I don't even make onecup, and then the second game,
I do make a cup ib whilewe are down like seven cups,
makes four cups in a row duringthe rebuttal shot killing the game. I

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mean, if I wasn't there towitness this in real life. I would
not have believed it. But hesank aggressively, sank one, two,
three, four, and it wasincredible. It was a moment. I
was so thankful I was there towatch this. But yes, I'm at
a good twenty nine years old.At three thirty four pm in the afternoon
on Saturday, I'm at a dartieplaying beer pong with the Jewish graduated frat

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of Cornell University and it's nice.I'm making some friends there. I'm talking
to some of the girls. I'mbeing the backup dancer for the DJ and
the makeshift DJ booth. It's cool. One guy brings out a whole bag
of shrooms. I'm not into that. So I'm watching everyone as they're doing
that, and it's a whole whiteJewish vibe. I love it. So

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I'm part with them, and everyone'skind of asking what the plans are for
a later later later, someone bringsup the fact that they are going to
a synagogue rave. Yes, asynagogue grave is exactly what you think it
is. It is a rave ina synagogue. And I told him,
no way, you are not going. He's like, yes, I bought

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my sixty dollars ticket. I'm goingtonight, and he shows me this video.
It is sickening. It is socool. This looks amazing. Obviously
I'm not Jewish, I'm Catholic.I don't know if this is offensive or
not. I wasn't asking any questions. I want to go to the synagogue
grave. I'm telling neighbor Jays Jays, if you get tickets for the synagogue
grave, you have to take me. I will go get a ticket from

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me. He's like, cool,cool, we're out. We're out,
We're out. We're all really juiceand excited for the synagogue grave. Now.
I was there for a few hours. I think it was probably maybe
only two hours. It was gettingclose to like five o'clock in the afternoon.
I was like, this has beencute. Mommy's getting hungry to go
home and eat. So I startedsaying by to all the frat ros.

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I started giving hugs to all theCornell University alumnis, and I soberly make
my way home. I only hadone shot in like half a white clock.
I really did not drink because it'sjust like it's so early and if
I'm going to be awake for thesynagogue grave. Then I'm not gonna go
hard. Now I'm gonna go hardat the synagogue. Later on, I

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go home, and by the timeI lay on the couch, I just
already know it's just it's not goingto be it. For like, I'm
not getting up from this couch.I'm getting a few texts from other friends
asking what I'm doing. There's aRangers game, a hockey game, New
York Rangers game at Madison Square Garden, and my friend that invited me.
I know he always hugs it upwith good tickets to things, but I

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just did not want to get upfrom the couch, so I kindly pass.
And I don't get hit up aboutthe synagogue grave. So I'm guessing
that's not going to happen, soI just cut on myself in bed,
I have a cute little FaceTime datewith my boyfriend Zach, and I call
it a night. I have towake up again early the next day because
I am leading hospitality after missa afterchurch. So I get up, I

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get my little church outfit. Irun over and this time I'm in charge
of bringing the snackies, so Iget some little cutie oranges. I get
some muffins. I give options ofmuffins. You want some blueberry muffins,
you want some corn muffins. Wegot both, okay, And I'm setting
up things. My homie Kathy,she's there as well. Francisco, my

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partner helping host hospitality, is theretoo, So we're excited that we're going
to be hosting hospitality again after church. I've told you this before, but
I love my priest father. Johnis just the best priest ever. I
look forward to every Sunday his homilies, you know, him explaining the good
news, the word of the Lord. And for the story and the reading,

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it was about how Jesus saw peoplewalking. This is after he already
rose after Easter, write and hewas walking he saw a couple and he
started talking and chatted up with thecouple, and the couple invited him to
go hang out. So Jesus goesand hangs out with this couple and they're
sharing food as well, and Jesusis telling him about the good News and
all that stuff, and the couple'stelling Jesus about this guy Jesus that got

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killed and unknowingly he was the one. He is the one, the Messiah,
the Jesus, and after they finishedeating, Jesus just vanished, and
that's what the reading is talking about. And our priest father John was explaining
how it was really deliberate that Jesusjust vanished after they ate. You know
some people you go out, youhang out with, and after you eat,

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they just run somewhere. They justleave. There's no lingering, there's
no chatted up, there's no cheesemay or whatever. You just go.
You get your food any a dip. And that's what Jesus did to this
couple. And the way that hewas connecting it to our real lives was
by saying that Jesus is there forus always, but he isn't there to

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give us what we need exactly.At every single step of the way.
Jesus will give us what we need, not what we want. So we
can pray and pray and we canwant all these things and it's up to
him. Like we cannot dictate howJesus or whatever God you believe in,
works. They are going to dictatethat for themselves. But the blessings will
come and he will do what isneeded for us, not at our becking

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call. So I thought that wasa great reading, and then afterwards we
went to hospitality. And it wasreally funny because for hospitality, I've shared
before, we at the end ofchurch tell everyone that's there, Hi,
please come to the right and wehave cookies and coffee and some snacks so
you can join us for hospitality.So all the times, every single time

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I've been a hospitality, we'll havea few new people. There's a solid
four, five, six of us, but then we'll get a few new
people and then they'll get some coffeeand tea and buffins, and then we'll
all chat and they'll linger around,and then we'll be there for maybe an
hour. This time, this isthe first time this has ever happened to
us, which is really funny becauseit was literally like what we heard about

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at church. Every single person thatcame through other than the US core,
like four and five came through atethe muffins and then immediately left, like
they didn't even stay to pray withus, which is fine. I mean,
however much time people have is howevermuch time they can spend with us,
and there is no problem. Ijust thought it was so funny and
ironic that literally that day where welearn about that reading that's literally what happened

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at hospitality. But nonetheless, therewas a few of us and it was
the same the same homies that weget to see every Sunday that I'm there,
and it was great to just catchup and pray for each other and
share our blessings and share what weneed help with to continue with the rest
of the week. So it wasreally great. It was really fun.
Actually, my neighbor j was goingto meet me because afterwards we had some

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plans and we still weren't done withour readings, so I invited him in,
even though he's Jewish. He camein and he's never been in a
church before, and we asked himwhat his blessing was and what we should
pray for him for, and thenwe all collectively prayed together, and we
have an app on our phone,so we play kind of like the reading
on our phone. And then ithad a reflection that we listened to and

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then we all reflect about it.It's a cool little powow. It's like
a lighthearted therapy sesh. It's notwe're not diving deep in but we do
know each other pretty well, sosome people do share more than others and
it's just a support group. Really, it's just a faith based support group.
And so after that, I waslike, Jase, how do you
feel. Are you doing good?He was like that was so wholesome.

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I was like, thank you.He was like, no, I've never
been in a church before. Ithought I was going to see like an
all turn a lot of pews,and I told him, no, this
is just the side of the congregation. This is our actual church. And
he said, oh, oh yeah, no, I've never been inside of
one. And that looks fun.It looks like you guys have a really
good community there. I said,yeah, even though it's just a few
of us, I mean, they'reamazing and I love spending time with them

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and it really gives me something tolook forward to in a sense of community
every Sunday, especially because I don'thave my family here. And everyone there
was really great and has good intentions. And he was like, yeah,
I could really see that. Soafter Mesa at me and Jay's headed to
the Lower East Side because there wasa little situation. If you remember Fire

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Festival, if you saw any ofthe documentaries, you know the name Billya
McFarlane. You probably know the nameAndy King, Yes, Billy McFarlane is
the man behind the Fire Festival thatnow owes twenty seven million dollars to investors
that he borrowed money to try toput on this huge festival that flopped.

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And then Andy King is a hugepart of that as well, because he
is a throatgo He was the onethat was willing to do throat go activities
to help pay for certain things forthe festival. Now it's Billy McFarland that
was actually charged and put away tojail for a few years. He just

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got out a few months ago andhe has been working vigorously to try to
pay these investors back. I've actuallybeen watching a lot of his interviews and
I know you might have your opinionson the guy, either good or bad.
At the end of the day,I would suggest you to check out
the interviews because they're very interesting,they're very entertaining, and Billy is just
a real likable guy. It seemsfrom what I've been seeing that he just

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gone way over his head and noweverything he is doing is to pay back
these investors twenty seven million dollars.Will he do it, we don't know,
but him and Andy we're out givenout grill cheese sandwiches, and all
the proceeds were going back to thosewho were owned for Fire Festival. So
me and my neighbor Jays were like, this is amazing. We gotta go
check this out. So we did, and I got to hang out with

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Andy. We had mimosas. Igot to hang out with Billy McFarland.
He was amazing. He was socool, like they were both so nice.
Andy and me and my neighbor Jay'stalked for probably like fifteen twenty minutes
drinking mimosas, and then Billya McFarland, really sweet dude. I told him
that he had to come here toiHeart so we can do an interview,
and he said he's totally down.But honestly, the reason why I'm so

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connected to this story is because Iremember when this was popping off and went
viral. I was associate producer onThe JB Show, and I remember seeing
all those orange posts and we wereall collectively like, what is going on?
Why is ggaded posting about this?Why is Kendall Jenner posting these orange
squares of what's going on? Andthen we found out it was going to

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be this crazy festival on an island, and then we saw it was super
expensive to be part of so wewere all kind of hating that we couldn't
go and be a part of it. And I remember specifically the morning that
I was on Graham's computer going throughTwitter and I see the white styrofoam with
the sandwich in there, supposed tobe a VIP meal and it was just

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a struggle meal. And I rememberwhen it went so so viral. Of
course we talked about it. Ofcourse everybody was talking about it, and
then obviously when the documentaries came out, everyone was like, WHOA, this
is crazy. And then when weknew that he was going to jail,
everyone was even more so, thinkingthis is crazy. And I just really
wanted to meet them because they werea huge moment. They were an iconic

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moment in history, really for real, and in pop culture and in the
meme culture and in social media right. So I just wanted to see in
person, see in the flesh apart of history. So me and Jay's
had a really good time hanging outwith them and saying hi. And then

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after our short little rendezbuts over there, I had to scatadtle to Hell's kitchen
because I signed up for a potteryceramus class, a throwing wheel class.
Now, listen, as I alreadymentioned, I'm down on the dumps.
Okay, when I come back toNew York, I get a little sad
that I'm not in the Bay inCalifornia with my family. So I decided
that I'm going to have control ofthat, and I'm going to do things

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and sign up for things that makeme happy. And back in high school,
I was a standout ceramics student.I was so good, in fact,
that I got invited to a pceramics Advanced placement Ceramics. I kindly
declined because I'd rather have not hadan elective my senior year so I can
just go home early. But ifI did, I could probably be one

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of the most famous sculptures in theworld by now. So I was like,
you know what, I throw back, let me throw some McLay on
that thing, and let me signup for one of these ceramic pottery classes,
a little wheel class. Let metell you, I thought that I
was going to be the shining starin the class. Absolutely not it.
It's been over ten years since I'vethrown it down and I'm rusty, dusty,

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crusty, emphasis on the crusty.There is ceramic crust all over my
jeans that I took. So ifyou're going to go do a pottery class
like that, make sure you takesome clothes that you don't mind getting dirty.
But nonetheless, I pull up.I'm by myself. I'm not the
only one by myself. There's afew other people that are taking a class
by themselves too, and I'm chattedup with them and being cool with them.
You know me, I'm I'm kindof a social butterfly. And I

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start doing this wheel thing. Itis hella hard. It is so hard.
I'm trying, but my bowls comingout wonky. I'm trying to make
a vase. I'm like, yeah, girl, you are not going to
make a vase your first time doingthis in ten years. It's a struggle.
So I made two little bowls.Barely any cereal will fit in them.

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I'm probably just going to use themas an extra water bowl for my
kiddycap frappuccino. A little frappy,and I'm just not impressed. These classes
are super expensive. But it wassomething that I was like, you know,
I want to do this for me. I want to have fun,
and it was fun. I hada really good time. I want to
get back in there, but Ijust unreasonable for me to be buying these

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classes because they're so dang expensive.So I think that I'm going to look
into investing in a ceramic wheel,a pottery wheel and seeing if this is
something I really want to do.I found a few used ones on Facebook
marketplace, So if you see methrowing that clay back, mind you business
and support me. That's all Ineed for me. That's all I need.
Okay, and I'm some were lookingforward to having my bowl fired and

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ready for pickup next week. Aftermy ceramics class, I just went home
and ate a whole bunch of foodand binged YouTube and that's pretty much it.
I've been living my best cooking athome life, my best random hobbies
life, sprinkling in some friends hereand there, and making sure I spend

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some time FaceTime in with my boyfriend. And that is all I've really been
up too. I am very thankfulthat I'm working on getting myself out of
that little so I don't get intobad habits that I don't get into that
sad, depressive mood that I couldget into. I'm really thankful for my

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friends that reach out to me andtry to get me at the house and
do stuff with them, because ifit wasn't for them, I really would
just want to be at home doingnothing all the time. So that really
helps. And at the end ofthe day, I have an amazing job
that I love with amazing people aroundme. Even though there are still parts
of my job that's really really hardfor me to maneuver, I'm strong enough

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to work through it and get throughit, and that's what matters most important
to me. So that is howmy week went. And I'm really happy
that you are asking me for adviceon Snapchat. I got a few questions
and some of y'all need help withthings. So let's do this inside of
Crystals Cave. Let's get into yourcrevices. Okay, this is a segment

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called Crystal's Cave where we do weget into the crevices of anything. And
we're getting into the crevis of you. Now, Okay, hello, who's
in here? It's so dark?You what's dripping on something? You're now
inside Crystals. So I always tellyou if you need help with anything,

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if you have comments, questions,or concerns, you can let me know
on Snapchat. I'm at lack CrystalRosas. We're gonna keep you anonymous,
but I got a message Crystal,I really need your help. There's this
guy I've been seeing for the lastthree years, and the last year it
got really serious. The last fourmonths, he's been living with me,
but all of a sudden, hesays he needs space and we need space
to do our own things. Solast week I decided to go through his

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phone and I find out that heis seeing someone else. I love him
so much, but I'm just stuckon what to do. I asked him
clearly why he thinks we need spacethat I do something. Are you seeing
someone? He said, no,it's not like that at all, that
he loves me, blah blah blahblah blah. But I did find out
that I was lying, So thenI asked, or what did you see

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on his phone? She said,a whole bunch of things, hooking up
with girls prior to moving in withme. I found that he has a
tender account. We used to worktogether, so he's been texting two of
the girls that worked with us andtucking up with them. So I asked
him, yo, what is thisand he just goes, We've been together
every night. I'm committed to you. He said, it's a relationship,
but it's not, and I'm like, what does that mean? Friends who

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know him say he wants to holdon to me, but it's still out
there. But I just don't knowanymore. He still comes over, he
tells me he loves me and whatnot, but it's still seeing other girls every
other night. I'm not gonna lie. I feel like ish, I still
love him. I just don't knowwhat to do, says I think you
do know what to do. Ithink you just know it's hard to do
what you're gonna do. And Ithink that you would tell any of your

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friends that were in your situation exactlywhat they should do. And I think
everybody knows what you should do,but it's hard when you have, you
know, history of somebody, youlived with, some do you love somebody.
We're gonna start getting detached day byday. We're gonna start ignoring his

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texts because when you're someone that heknows he can always go to you.
That means that when he has theseother girls and he's not getting the exact
tension he wants from them. He'sgoing to continue to go back to you
because you are that safety net forhim, and he's walking all over you.
How dare he live in your houseand be on tender? How dare
he live in your house and beflirting and hooking up with your guys's co

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workers. That's mad, disrespectful.You don't deserve that. You shouldn't want
that for you, You shouldn't wantthat for anybody. And it's not fair
to you that he has like onefoot in, one foot out. So
if he wants to go and exploreother people, he should totally do that.
But that's not what you want andwhat you're doing. So you should
take a step back and reflect onhow he is making you feel, and

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if it's not good, then wegotta started attaching. How we're gonna start
attaching baby steps. Let's say youguys text five times a day, only
respond two times a day, andthen we're gonna scale back the two to
one, and then we're gonna scaleback the one to zero. Because if
he ain't bringing you happiness, ifhe ain't bringing you food, if he

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ain't bringing you loyalty, what theheck, what the heck is he bringing
you. He's bringing you elestres,he is bringing you heartbreak, and I'm
sure you're going to sleep hungry.So it's sounding like we need to work
on moving on. That doesn't meanthat you guys can't maybe down the line

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and get back together or something likethat. But he is wasting a year
time And I know you guys havebeen together for a while, but it
is time for you to really thinkabout what is going on and be reasonable
and ration rational. Yes, wecan start rationally the other people. So
take time for yourself, start detachingwith the baby steps. Maybe you guys

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twenty times a day, just textback five times, try to text back
like in hours intervals, because it'sjust very unhealthy what's going on. And
I want the best for you,and I'm so sorry that he's not treating
you like the queen that you are. He should be kissing your feet,
and he's treating you like a roach. He's squishing your little heart. Don't

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take it, sists. Please,if you need more help on like microways
on how to get over and detach, let me know I can help you
with this. But the first thingis first, just no understand that this
is all bad. This is allbad. I'm seeing red flags after red
flags, And this is why I'mnot so angry when couples share their phone

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passwords and stuff like I don't havea problem, Like there should be no
problem looking at each other's phones.We all get insecure every once in a
while. If we have these feelings, like do a little snoopy stuff,
what is the issue? If youfind nothing, then you're like, oh,
thank goodness, I'm in is aloyal one. My woman is a
loyal one. I don't have todo that again. But if you find

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something, then what's the problem.Your instinct, your intuition was correct.
So yeah, I always find itodd when partners have those rules about phones
and like not having each other's passwordsor being super freaky with the phone's like,
oh, I won't privacy, privacyfor who? For what? For?
When we share everything we share inwards, Like why all of a sudden,

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all we're gonna be private about ourphones? Like if somebody looked into
my phone, they would be bored. They would be bored. So that's
what I think. I wish youall the best, sending you all the
positive energy you got this, ciss. Anyone else need advice, If you
have questions and if you need tohelp with something, please let me know
on Snapchat again. I'm at LackCaristal Rosas and on everything at Lack Cristal

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Rosas. Thank you so much forhanging out with another episode of Crystal's Nightcap.
Don't forget that I'm live in NewYork City Money through Friday two to
six pm on zero one hundred.I'm on tons of stations across the country
on everything you can check me out. Like I said, at Lack,
Crystal Ursus and we like to leavewith a little inspiration. So here's one
of our positive, uplifting motivations fortoday. It's titled Abundance of living.

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Fill the day, fill the season, fill your life with life. This
moment is your opportunity to do whatyou haven't already done in previous moments.
Take the opportunity and make the mostof it. Add new dimensions of richness
to your experience, to your world. Sure, there are tasks that are
important to repeat or enjoyable and fulfillingto engage in again and again. Even
so, you can always add newexperiences, new challenges, new ideas,

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relationships and activities along the way.Doing so intensifies your energy level, broadens
your understanding, brings freshness and zestto life. It enables you to taste
a whole range of possibilities. Youcan't say yes to everything, nor would
you want to get. There areplenty of new directions that it's appropriate and
worthwhile for you to explore. Giveto yourself an abundance of living. Continue

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to discover how full and rich lifecan be. I like that, I
really like that one. How canwe make things more fulfilling, more enjoyable.
How can you take experiences into newdimensions of richness? I love it
all. We can reflect on thatand think about it for ourselves. And
if that means listening to a newpodcast, if that means doing a scripture

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reading for the day, if thatmeans testing or hitting up a friend,
you have it for a while.Do that all right? I love you
and I'll see you on the nextone.