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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Cause you're waking up in the morning.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
Well, I survived hell this weekend, and you know it
wasn't that hot down there.
Speaker 1 (00:11):
We laugh to keep from crying a little bit.
Speaker 2 (00:13):
I went back to my hometown this weekend and help
my hoarder father scrub and clean out the first floor
of his hoarder house. And maybe you heard a little
bit of this on the show last week, or maybe
you follow along on social media were connected that way
and you were able to see the visuals in my stories.
(00:36):
I don't know if my dad's house would have qualified
to have made the TLC Horder show.
Speaker 1 (00:40):
But it was pretty bad. So let me catch up
to speed hair.
Speaker 2 (00:45):
I'm gonna try to keep my ADHD brain on track
because there's just so much to get into. My stepmom
is coming back from the hospital this coming weekend.
Speaker 1 (00:53):
She had a three week stay there, and.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
My stepsister and I were on the phone, maybe, like
I don't know, eight a week ago or so ago.
Time blends at this point, she said, TIF, the house
is really, really, really bad. And I had known that
I hadn't slept in my childhood home since I left
for college and I graduated in twenty twelve, so I
went back to my hometown.
Speaker 1 (01:16):
I didn't sleep in my house.
Speaker 2 (01:17):
I slept at my sister's house because I physically could
not sleep at my parents' house. But I hadn't been
back there, like really inside that home in like ten years.
Speaker 1 (01:25):
Talk about triggering, right, waking up in your hometown. Oh
my god. So she said, it's bad, and it's not.
Speaker 2 (01:32):
My dad loves to collect and he's a hoarder in
that way.
Speaker 1 (01:35):
But on the other side of it, it was dirty.
Speaker 2 (01:37):
It felt like there were fifteen years worth of cigarette
smell and dust in there.
Speaker 1 (01:42):
My stepmom smokes in the house.
Speaker 2 (01:43):
Oh yeah, she's a part of that boomer generation that
really just hangs on to it, the traditional SIGs. So
I said, okay, let me get I'll come home.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
By the way.
Speaker 2 (01:53):
I flew Breeze Airways, which I had never heard of
that airline in my life. I was prepared to just
hang onto the wing and just blow home in the breezte.
Speaker 1 (02:03):
But it was fine. I actually had no complaints about it.
It was all right. It got me to and from.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
It is one of those regional airlines that flies into
the budget airlines that flies into the smaller airports. I
actually went into Providence, Rhode Island, because it's closer to
get to my parents' house and is to fly into
Logan in Boston, but nonetheless highly recommend it. We'll spend
more time on that later Thursday night I get in
to give you some context, Friday was spent doing two bedrooms.
(02:31):
Imagine starting at eight o'clock in the morning on Friday
and ending at five pm on Friday afternoon and only
getting two bedrooms done.
Speaker 1 (02:42):
Let that sink in for you.
Speaker 2 (02:45):
The thing that I realized about this experience is that
my dad loves to collect newspapers, magazines, and bills. It
was just stacks and stacks and stacks of all of
those things, and people kept asking. I had hundreds of
dms from this experience. People wanted to know, how did
you get him to throw away those things? So that's
(03:05):
the first thing I'll tackle with you this morning. After
explaining it a little here, he knew that these things
needed to go, and I had kind of prepared him
for this before I came, I said, Dad, most people
in their seventies downsize at least once during this phase
of their life.
Speaker 1 (03:20):
They try to get rid of things. It's just time
to downsize.
Speaker 2 (03:23):
And two, you don't need it anymore, and you have
to do this stuff while you're mobile. So he knew
that he needed to do it. So when I say,
we survived hell, and it wasn't that bad. It wasn't
like I was fighting with him on a lot of
this stuff. However, he needed to go through every single
item before we could throw it away. That's what took
the longest. Oh, but it was just it was bad.
Speaker 1 (03:44):
It was so bad. It was gross in there. The
second day.
Speaker 2 (03:49):
Oh and by the way, the thing that he was
worried about the most was every bill that he saved.
He's like, well, we need to shred this, And I said, damn, dad,
shred it like n Zi's not digging through the landfill
to get your Social Security number.
Speaker 1 (04:04):
Just throw it away, Just throw it in the garbage.
Speaker 2 (04:08):
And then the next day my sister came down and
that's when we did the entire living room so that
and scrubbed the wall, scrubbed the floors, we threw away furniture.
Speaker 1 (04:18):
The other thing that I.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
Was asked about, outside of how did you get him
to do it, is what did you find in the house.
So on the first floor alone, I realized that my
stepmom likes to collect pez golden books, like watches, baseball cards,
things of that nature.
Speaker 1 (04:33):
So there was a lot of really.
Speaker 2 (04:35):
Cool jewelry that we were able to look at. We
saved the golden books and the cabbage patch dolls because
I think you can get some money for those, or
at least those are good collector's items.
Speaker 1 (04:42):
Outside of that, we threw away, not throw away.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
We donated probably three or four hundred books.
Speaker 1 (04:48):
That was a big one.
Speaker 2 (04:49):
But it was just it was it was just we
did it, and that was the first floor. I'll have
to go back probably at some time this year and
do that basement.
Speaker 1 (05:01):
But I feel for anyone else.
Speaker 2 (05:05):
That's what people kept saying, is like, you're such a
good daughter, this and that, And I said, well, you know,
I have the time and the space in my life
for something like this right now.
Speaker 1 (05:13):
It was okay, I didn't.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
Mind doing I don't mind helping him because he was
just overwhelmed.
Speaker 1 (05:17):
I think that's why he didn't do it. And am
I are you senile?
Speaker 2 (05:21):
Dad?
Speaker 1 (05:22):
This is fifteen.
Speaker 2 (05:23):
Years of cigarette smell dust that we had to get out.
Speaker 1 (05:27):
Ooh.
Speaker 2 (05:28):
So I'll put up a little recap video on my
stories if you're like, Okay, well now I'm invested. I
want to see what this hell was like at the
tip to F's potter like the Wizard, but those are
my tips. People ask like, how did you get.
Speaker 1 (05:40):
Him to do it?
Speaker 2 (05:41):
I just tried to talk to him the best way
I could give him a little bit of warning, and
then I just kind of pinned his aged against him.
I was like, you're in your seventies, this is the
time to do it. And then as someone asked me,
how did you start? I just started with one big
trash bag and we probably got rid of sixty trash
bag worth of magazines and et cetera.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
So there it is. That's the recap.
Speaker 2 (06:04):
In the meantime, we're still commercial free and we survived Hell.
Cause you're waking up in the morning.
Speaker 2 (00:03):
Well, I survived hell this weekend, and you know it
wasn't that hot down there.
Speaker 1 (00:11):
We laugh to keep from crying a little bit.
Speaker 2 (00:13):
I went back to my hometown this weekend and help
my hoarder father scrub and clean out the first floor
of his hoarder house. And maybe you heard a little
bit of this on the show last week, or maybe
you follow along on social media were connected that way
and you were able to see the visuals in my stories.
(00:36):
I don't know if my dad's house would have qualified
to have made the TLC Horder show.
Speaker 1 (00:40):
But it was pretty bad. So let me catch up
to speed hair.
Speaker 2 (00:45):
I'm gonna try to keep my ADHD brain on track
because there's just so much to get into. My stepmom
is coming back from the hospital this coming weekend.
Speaker 1 (00:53):
She had a three week stay there, and.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
My stepsister and I were on the phone, maybe, like
I don't know, eight a week ago or so ago.
Time blends at this point, she said, TIF, the house
is really, really, really bad. And I had known that
I hadn't slept in my childhood home since I left
for college and I graduated in twenty twelve, so I
went back to my hometown.
Speaker 1 (01:16):
I didn't sleep in my house.
Speaker 2 (01:17):
I slept at my sister's house because I physically could
not sleep at my parents' house. But I hadn't been
back there, like really inside that home in like ten years.
Speaker 1 (01:25):
Talk about triggering, right, waking up in your hometown. Oh
my god. So she said, it's bad, and it's not.
Speaker 2 (01:32):
My dad loves to collect and he's a hoarder in
that way.
Speaker 1 (01:35):
But on the other side of it, it was dirty.
Speaker 2 (01:37):
It felt like there were fifteen years worth of cigarette
smell and dust in there.
Speaker 1 (01:42):
My stepmom smokes in the house.
Speaker 2 (01:43):
Oh yeah, she's a part of that boomer generation that
really just hangs on to it, the traditional SIGs. So
I said, okay, let me get I'll come home.
Speaker 1 (01:52):
By the way.
Speaker 2 (01:53):
I flew Breeze Airways, which I had never heard of
that airline in my life. I was prepared to just
hang onto the wing and just blow home in the breezte.
Speaker 1 (02:03):
But it was fine. I actually had no complaints about it.
It was all right. It got me to and from.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
It is one of those regional airlines that flies into
the budget airlines that flies into the smaller airports. I
actually went into Providence, Rhode Island, because it's closer to
get to my parents' house and is to fly into
Logan in Boston, but nonetheless highly recommend it. We'll spend
more time on that later Thursday night I get in
to give you some context, Friday was spent doing two bedrooms.
(02:31):
Imagine starting at eight o'clock in the morning on Friday
and ending at five pm on Friday afternoon and only
getting two bedrooms done.
Speaker 1 (02:42):
Let that sink in for you.
Speaker 2 (02:45):
The thing that I realized about this experience is that
my dad loves to collect newspapers, magazines, and bills. It
was just stacks and stacks and stacks of all of
those things, and people kept asking. I had hundreds of
dms from this experience. People wanted to know, how did
you get him to throw away those things? So that's
(03:05):
the first thing I'll tackle with you this morning. After
explaining it a little here, he knew that these things
needed to go, and I had kind of prepared him
for this before I came, I said, Dad, most people
in their seventies downsize at least once during this phase
of their life.
Speaker 1 (03:20):
They try to get rid of things. It's just time
to downsize.
Speaker 2 (03:23):
And two, you don't need it anymore, and you have
to do this stuff while you're mobile. So he knew
that he needed to do it. So when I say,
we survived hell, and it wasn't that bad. It wasn't
like I was fighting with him on a lot of
this stuff. However, he needed to go through every single
item before we could throw it away. That's what took
the longest. Oh, but it was just it was bad.
Speaker 1 (03:44):
It was so bad. It was gross in there. The
second day.
Speaker 2 (03:49):
Oh and by the way, the thing that he was
worried about the most was every bill that he saved.
He's like, well, we need to shred this, And I said, damn, dad,
shred it like n Zi's not digging through the landfill
to get your Social Security number.
Speaker 1 (04:04):
Just throw it away, Just throw it in the garbage.
Speaker 2 (04:08):
And then the next day my sister came down and
that's when we did the entire living room so that
and scrubbed the wall, scrubbed the floors, we threw away furniture.
Speaker 1 (04:18):
The other thing that I.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
Was asked about, outside of how did you get him
to do it, is what did you find in the house.
So on the first floor alone, I realized that my
stepmom likes to collect pez golden books, like watches, baseball cards,
things of that nature.
Speaker 1 (04:33):
So there was a lot of really.
Speaker 2 (04:35):
Cool jewelry that we were able to look at. We
saved the golden books and the cabbage patch dolls because
I think you can get some money for those, or
at least those are good collector's items.
Speaker 1 (04:42):
Outside of that, we threw away, not throw away.
Speaker 2 (04:44):
We donated probably three or four hundred books.
Speaker 1 (04:48):
That was a big one.
Speaker 2 (04:49):
But it was just it was it was just we
did it, and that was the first floor. I'll have
to go back probably at some time this year and
do that basement.
Speaker 1 (05:01):
But I feel for anyone else.
Speaker 2 (05:05):
That's what people kept saying, is like, you're such a
good daughter, this and that, And I said, well, you know,
I have the time and the space in my life
for something like this right now.
Speaker 1 (05:13):
It was okay, I didn't.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
Mind doing I don't mind helping him because he was
just overwhelmed.
Speaker 1 (05:17):
I think that's why he didn't do it. And am
I are you senile?
Speaker 2 (05:21):
Dad?
Speaker 1 (05:22):
This is fifteen.
Speaker 2 (05:23):
Years of cigarette smell dust that we had to get out.
Speaker 1 (05:27):
Ooh.
Speaker 2 (05:28):
So I'll put up a little recap video on my
stories if you're like, Okay, well now I'm invested. I
want to see what this hell was like at the
tip to F's potter like the Wizard, but those are
my tips. People ask like, how did you get.
Speaker 1 (05:40):
Him to do it?
Speaker 2 (05:41):
I just tried to talk to him the best way
I could give him a little bit of warning, and
then I just kind of pinned his aged against him.
I was like, you're in your seventies, this is the
time to do it. And then as someone asked me,
how did you start? I just started with one big
trash bag and we probably got rid of sixty trash
bag worth of magazines and et cetera.
Speaker 1 (06:01):
So there it is. That's the recap.
Speaker 2 (06:04):
In the meantime, we're still commercial free and we survived Hell.
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