July 21, 2026 • 18 mins
Feeling Lost? 8 Ways to Reconnect With Yourself
Somewhere between meeting expectations, caring for everyone else, surviving heartbreak, building careers, and simply getting through life, many women find themselves asking a painful question: "Who am I now?"
In this week's episode of Mid Week Tease, Adelle Onyango shares eight practical ways to reconnect with yourself, not by becoming someone new, but by remembering the woman you've always been. Drawing from psychology and everyday practices, this episode explores how identity is slowly rebuilt through curiosity, joy, solitude, and self-compassion.
In this episode:
If you're navigating life after divorce, or supporting someone who is, we'd love to hold space for you. Divorce Care: When the Marriage Ends, Finding Yourself Again Hosted by psychologist Faith Guchu, we'll explore:
• The grief nobody talks about
• Rebuilding your identity after divorce
• Untangling yourself from the relationship
• Rebuilding your village
• Co-parenting and new realities
• Creating a life you genuinely love again
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Somewhere between meeting expectations, caring for everyone else, surviving heartbreak, building careers, and simply getting through life, many women find themselves asking a painful question: "Who am I now?"
In this week's episode of Mid Week Tease, Adelle Onyango shares eight practical ways to reconnect with yourself, not by becoming someone new, but by remembering the woman you've always been. Drawing from psychology and everyday practices, this episode explores how identity is slowly rebuilt through curiosity, joy, solitude, and self-compassion.
In this episode:
- Why you haven't actually "lost" yourself
- The psychology of the True Self vs the False Self
- How spending intentional time alone reconnects you with yourself
- Why revisiting childhood joys can reveal your authentic self
- A simple practice to rediscover what you genuinely enjoy
- The power of solo dates and noticing what gives you energy
- Why your roles are only one part of your identity
- How giving yourself permission to evolve is one of the greatest acts of self-love
If you're navigating life after divorce, or supporting someone who is, we'd love to hold space for you. Divorce Care: When the Marriage Ends, Finding Yourself Again Hosted by psychologist Faith Guchu, we'll explore:
• The grief nobody talks about
• Rebuilding your identity after divorce
• Untangling yourself from the relationship
• Rebuilding your village
• Co-parenting and new realities
• Creating a life you genuinely love again
Get your ticket here:
https://legallycluelessafrica.hustlesasa.shop/products/6a3e9f14658513739e5d9e0f
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to the Midwick Te's with me adele Jangle, where
I share some random and not too random thoughts on things.
And in this episode, I want to answer the question
how do I find myself again? Last week we spoke
about the hidden costs of losing yourself in love. We
unparked how slowly that happens, how we can begin organizing
(00:23):
our lives around somebody else's needs, their preferences, their dreams,
and then one day wake up and it hits you.
Who the heck am? I? And I loved all your
responses to that episode, but there was one question that
kept coming up, how do I find myself again? And
I actually think the word is fined right because I
(00:45):
don't think you've disappeared. I think maybe you've just become
disconnected from yourself. This is not only possible in romantic relationships.
You can lose yourself in friendships. You can lose yourself
in your work your career right. You can lose yourself
in your business, you can lose yourself in your family right.
(01:06):
And so in this episode, I want to share eight
ways to remember who you are again. Number one, spend
time alone without trying to be productive. Your first thought
is probably, Oh, I do spend a lot of time alone,
But are you ever actually with yourself when you are
(01:28):
going through your alone time? Are you busy answering emails?
Are you watching a series? Are you scrolling? Are you cleaning?
Are you, you know, moving and thinking that it's alone time,
but you're actually not being alone with yourself. You're doing
doing stuff. But when was the last time you simply
(01:48):
sat with yourself. I really treasure the moments where I
will just drag a little blankie, especially when it's a
nice sunny day, sit outside in silence, not carrying my
bluetooth speaker, and just sit in the nothingness, not be
(02:09):
on social media, just me and my sunscreen. Actually, the
most work I will do at that moment is to
reapply my sunscreen because I have exibats, so your sunscreen
has to stay really close when you're in the sun.
But I treasure those moments when I'm not trying to
(02:30):
think about oh, have I responded to this email or
tomorrow I need to do ABCD, have I sent this
to that person. No, I'm just like, oh wow, look
at that bird, Oh wow, look at that worm. The
other day I saw a really riggly warm. You know
what I mean, And it reminds me of something that
(02:50):
falls under the work of a psychologist called Donald Winnicott,
and he believed that developing a healthy sense of self.
A healthy sense of self requires the capacity to simply be,
requires the capacity to simply be, to exist without performing,
(03:12):
to exist without producing, to exist without pleasing anyone else.
So this week, let's make that happen. Right, give yourself
thirty minutes of proper alone time, no agenda, no productivity.
You can sit in the sun, you can go for
a walk, you can drink your coffee or your tea
(03:33):
in silence. Give yourself those thirty minutes and see what
thoughts arise when there's no one else's voice competing with
your own. Number two, start collecting evidence of yourself. Oh
this one I really love. It's on my favorite practices.
You can use the notes up on your phone. Open
(03:54):
it up, create a note called things I'm learning about myself,
Then start paying attention. Right, it could be I actually
love waking up early. I don't enjoy crowded restaurants I
loved so much when I was painting. Or I feel
calm near water. I've realized I don't like networking events,
(04:19):
you know what I mean, Like you're collecting data. And
the reason I love this one is this is how
I started remembering who I am. I started remembering that
I love putting outfits together, and I was like, oh, yeah,
I've always loved that. I started realizing how much I
love nature and trees and birds, which have always been
(04:42):
the case, you know, specifically with trees. I started writing
poetry when I was twelve years old, and my first
poem was about trees. Yeah, guys, the love is deep,
and I'd forgotten that. And recently it's when I was
remembering and I'm like, I've always loved these guys, you
know what I mean. Start writing the things you enjoy.
(05:06):
You know, it could be even a restaurant or a meal,
or a specific way you like your tea. These things
might seem insignificant, but they are not. Please they are
not because identity isn't discovered in like one big dramatic moment. No,
(05:27):
it's remembered through hundreds of tiny observations. Number three, Revisit
something you loved before adulthood became so loud. Oh my days.
This I actually learned in therapy when we were working
on my sense of self. And I've been through all
the crying and all the messy heavy work, and at
(05:49):
the end my therapist faith. She asked me, let's think
back to Adele, who was eight years old nine, ten,
eleven twelve. What were you interested in, guys? I was
interested in musical instruments. I was interested in fashion. I
was interested in poetry. I was friends with everyone. Even
(06:11):
at that age. Different students would be telling me their issues.
I was a healing space for so many people, even adults.
As an ethical is that is like when I was
what nine and my parents were going through their divorce.
My dad and I would be having conversations that he
(06:32):
really needed to be having with a therapist. But I
was like genuinely asking him, like, why do you drink?
You're such a cool guy when you're not drunk. Why
do you think you drink? Can you imagine? Can you
imagine that? So let's go back to when you were eight, nine, ten,
eleven twelve? What lit you up? Was it dancing? Did
(06:54):
you love reading? Did you love writing? Did you like
climbing trees, drawing music, making up stories in your mind?
Because somewhere along the line, many of us stopped doing
things simply because they brought us joy. And it wasn't
because we stopped loving these things. Life just got busy
or someone convinced us that they weren't practical or their childish.
(07:17):
We need to go back, and it's not to go
back with the pressure of like now I'm trying to
become a professional painter or a professional dancer. No is
just to go back to the joy, to the joy
and have found that joy is one of the clearest
breadcrumbs that leads you back to yourself. Number four, Notice
(07:42):
what gives you energy. There is a psychologist called me
highly and they spent decades studying what he called flu,
which Lucy defined is those moments when you're absorbed in
something so deeply that you lose track of time. This
(08:03):
happens to me on my drums, which is when I
know I have a busy week ahead. I always tell like,
I have an AGM with myself, and I'm like, Adele, please,
whatever you do, don't hop on those drums this week,
because you know all the work we have to get done.
I could start drumming in the morning at like nine.
(08:24):
When I enter my office, my drums are in my
office and it like the next time I put my
head up, it's like twelve noon and I'm like what how?
I'm like, how did that happen? How did that happen?
I was in flow the moments when you're so absorbed
(08:45):
in something that you lose track of time. So ask yourself,
what activities leave me feeling more alive than when I started?
And the question is not synonymous with what am I
good at know or what pays well or what impresses people? Know?
What activities leave me feeling more alive than when I started?
(09:08):
So it's really about the things that energize you, because
there is where you will find your authentic self. Number five,
Start asking what do I think? This sounds so simple,
but you and I know that it is not okay.
Like you know, when you're thinking about maybe resigning or
(09:30):
buying a new car or moving house, or changing your
wardrobe or buying a phone, or whatever the case may be,
you always start by saying, hmm, let me ask my partner,
or let me ask my siblings or my parents or
my best friend or you know. So what this habit
(09:51):
forces you to do is to ask what do I think?
Before asking your partner, before asking your family, before checking
the comments, ask yourself what do I think? And a
lot of work has been done around this in psychology.
One psychologist Carl Rogers He believes that psychological well being
(10:15):
comes from living in alignment with your own values rather
than seeking external approval. Now, that doesn't mean becoming stubborn.
It means remembering that your voice deserves to be heard
by you first. Once you're clear on what you think,
(10:37):
you can, you know, bounce the idea off of other people,
but you and what you think, and your voice has
to be heard by you first. Number six, go on
a date with yourself. And I'm so happy that I
see a lot of women doing this now. I think
it's so important, almost as important as solo travel if
(10:59):
you ask me. Right, But let's not with a date.
Go on an actual date, not running errands, not grocery shopping,
not ticking things off your to do lists. Plan something
simply because it delights you. It could be a visit
to an art gallery. It could be that you want
(11:19):
to try a new cafe. It could be that you
want to go hiking, or you want to watch a film,
or you want to take yourself out for lunch. One
of my close friends. She loves music so much, and
live music is at that. She takes herself for concerts
all the time, all the time. She might meet people
(11:43):
she knows there, she might not, doesn't matter. She is
there because she knows something about herself. She loves live music,
so she takes herself out on a date to concert
very frequently. You know, and while you are out on
a date with yourself, try and notice something, you know,
(12:04):
Try and notice are you enjoying this or are you
choosing it because you think it's the kind of thing
someone like you should enjoy. All right, lean in with
curiosity and then find like, actually, I really don't give
a damn about going to visit galleries. That's not my thing.
I would rather go to a concert, you know what
(12:27):
I mean. Just be curious, and I think curiosity. I've
talked about this a lot. Curiosity is a huge part,
or plays a huge part in you remembering yourself. Number seven,
Stop introducing yourself by your rules. This is a serious one,
especially in the African context. Right think about how you
(12:51):
answered this question. Someone asks you, tell me about yourself.
Many of us immediately start saying, I'm a wife, I'm
I'm a mom, I'm a lawyer, I'm a business owner.
Those things are important and could be very important in
your life, but they are roles. They're not who your
whole identity is. So instead, ask yourself this, If all
(13:16):
of those titles disappeared tomorrow, who would you still be?
And it's an uncomfortable question, but it's an incredibly freeing one.
And one caveat I want to put here that I
found while answering this particular question throughout my life. I
think I first met it when I was resigning from
(13:36):
my radio present and producer role. I really had to
do a lot of self work to be like, who
the heck am I? Without this huge title and this
job that is so glamorous from the outside inn and
the like celebrity status, Who is Adele? I knew I
had to do that work, and that's when I met
this question. But the caveat I will put is the answer,
(13:59):
once you remove all those titles, can evolve and that's okay.
And that brings us to the last important one. Give
yourself permission to change. I think maybe the biggest reason
women struggle to remember themselves is because they're trying to
become the woman they used to be. But that's not
(14:20):
the goal. You are allowed to evolve. Imagine, like you're
allowed to outgrow dreams, you're allowed to change your mind.
That part, you're allowed to discover new passions. And back
to psychologist Carl Rogers, he once said, and I'm quoting,
the curious paradox is that when I accept myself just
(14:43):
as I am, then I can change. It's beautiful, right.
You don't have to earn the right to become someone new.
All that needs to happen is that you just need
to give yourself permission to evolve. That's all. Give yourself
permission to change. Now. If there's one thing I hope
(15:04):
you take away from this episode is that remembering yourself
isn't one big breakthrough. It's a practice. It is a
choice that you make every single day to become a
little more curious about who am I? Who is this
woman underneath all of these expectations? Right, So don't pressure
(15:27):
yourself this week by asking yourself who should I be? No,
just lean into what feels true to me, and in
a very poetic way. I think that's how we start
to make our way back home to who we are
that's how we start remembering. And if you're listening to
(15:48):
this and you're navigating the end of a marriage or
the end of a long term relationship, or you're navigating
another significant life transition, I want to remind you that
you're not only grieving what you've lost, but you're also
rediscovering who you are outside of that thing. You know.
(16:09):
And here's an invitation to you to join us at
our upcoming wellness talk Divorce Care. We're looking at when
the marriage ends and how do you find yourself again.
Our guest speaker is my therapist, Faith Guccu, and we're
going to explore the grief nobody talks about when it
comes to the end of a long term relationship and
(16:31):
how do you rebuild your identity after that, how do
you navigate family expectations or create a new support system
and start taking those first steps to remembering who you
are and designing a life that genuinely feels like it
is yours, you know. I hope you'll join us. Our
ticket portal closes on Thursday, and the talk is on
(16:54):
the twenty fifth of July this Saturday and booky slot.
It's at ten am. It's to Africa Time. It's virtual,
so wherever you are you can join us. There's no shame.
It's a safe space. You can join with a different
name if you want to preserve your anonymity, and you
can also ask questions anonymously. We have a hotline during
(17:16):
the Wellness Talk. I do hope you join us. I
wish I had when I was in the trenches of
my divorce. I wish I had a willderness talk like
this to commune with other women who are navigating the
same So in the show notes, there's a link for
you to book your slot to the Wellness Talk. Thank
(17:38):
you for listening to this episode to the very end,
and if it resonated with you, share it with someone
that you love. Thanks for listening to the midwik T's
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legally Clueless Africa dot com. Op
Welcome to the Midwick Te's with me adele Jangle, where
I share some random and not too random thoughts on things.
And in this episode, I want to answer the question
how do I find myself again? Last week we spoke
about the hidden costs of losing yourself in love. We
unparked how slowly that happens, how we can begin organizing
(00:23):
our lives around somebody else's needs, their preferences, their dreams,
and then one day wake up and it hits you.
Who the heck am? I? And I loved all your
responses to that episode, but there was one question that
kept coming up, how do I find myself again? And
I actually think the word is fined right because I
(00:45):
don't think you've disappeared. I think maybe you've just become
disconnected from yourself. This is not only possible in romantic relationships.
You can lose yourself in friendships. You can lose yourself
in your work your career right. You can lose yourself
in your business, you can lose yourself in your family right.
(01:06):
And so in this episode, I want to share eight
ways to remember who you are again. Number one, spend
time alone without trying to be productive. Your first thought
is probably, Oh, I do spend a lot of time alone,
But are you ever actually with yourself when you are
(01:28):
going through your alone time? Are you busy answering emails?
Are you watching a series? Are you scrolling? Are you cleaning?
Are you, you know, moving and thinking that it's alone time,
but you're actually not being alone with yourself. You're doing
doing stuff. But when was the last time you simply
(01:48):
sat with yourself. I really treasure the moments where I
will just drag a little blankie, especially when it's a
nice sunny day, sit outside in silence, not carrying my
bluetooth speaker, and just sit in the nothingness, not be
(02:09):
on social media, just me and my sunscreen. Actually, the
most work I will do at that moment is to
reapply my sunscreen because I have exibats, so your sunscreen
has to stay really close when you're in the sun.
But I treasure those moments when I'm not trying to
(02:30):
think about oh, have I responded to this email or
tomorrow I need to do ABCD, have I sent this
to that person. No, I'm just like, oh wow, look
at that bird, Oh wow, look at that worm. The
other day I saw a really riggly warm. You know
what I mean, And it reminds me of something that
(02:50):
falls under the work of a psychologist called Donald Winnicott,
and he believed that developing a healthy sense of self.
A healthy sense of self requires the capacity to simply be,
requires the capacity to simply be, to exist without performing,
(03:12):
to exist without producing, to exist without pleasing anyone else.
So this week, let's make that happen. Right, give yourself
thirty minutes of proper alone time, no agenda, no productivity.
You can sit in the sun, you can go for
a walk, you can drink your coffee or your tea
(03:33):
in silence. Give yourself those thirty minutes and see what
thoughts arise when there's no one else's voice competing with
your own. Number two, start collecting evidence of yourself. Oh
this one I really love. It's on my favorite practices.
You can use the notes up on your phone. Open
(03:54):
it up, create a note called things I'm learning about myself,
Then start paying attention. Right, it could be I actually
love waking up early. I don't enjoy crowded restaurants I
loved so much when I was painting. Or I feel
calm near water. I've realized I don't like networking events,
(04:19):
you know what I mean, Like you're collecting data. And
the reason I love this one is this is how
I started remembering who I am. I started remembering that
I love putting outfits together, and I was like, oh, yeah,
I've always loved that. I started realizing how much I
love nature and trees and birds, which have always been
(04:42):
the case, you know, specifically with trees. I started writing
poetry when I was twelve years old, and my first
poem was about trees. Yeah, guys, the love is deep,
and I'd forgotten that. And recently it's when I was
remembering and I'm like, I've always loved these guys, you
know what I mean. Start writing the things you enjoy.
(05:06):
You know, it could be even a restaurant or a meal,
or a specific way you like your tea. These things
might seem insignificant, but they are not. Please they are
not because identity isn't discovered in like one big dramatic moment. No,
(05:27):
it's remembered through hundreds of tiny observations. Number three, Revisit
something you loved before adulthood became so loud. Oh my days.
This I actually learned in therapy when we were working
on my sense of self. And I've been through all
the crying and all the messy heavy work, and at
(05:49):
the end my therapist faith. She asked me, let's think
back to Adele, who was eight years old nine, ten,
eleven twelve. What were you interested in, guys? I was
interested in musical instruments. I was interested in fashion. I
was interested in poetry. I was friends with everyone. Even
(06:11):
at that age. Different students would be telling me their issues.
I was a healing space for so many people, even adults.
As an ethical is that is like when I was
what nine and my parents were going through their divorce.
My dad and I would be having conversations that he
(06:32):
really needed to be having with a therapist. But I
was like genuinely asking him, like, why do you drink?
You're such a cool guy when you're not drunk. Why
do you think you drink? Can you imagine? Can you
imagine that? So let's go back to when you were eight, nine, ten,
eleven twelve? What lit you up? Was it dancing? Did
(06:54):
you love reading? Did you love writing? Did you like
climbing trees, drawing music, making up stories in your mind?
Because somewhere along the line, many of us stopped doing
things simply because they brought us joy. And it wasn't
because we stopped loving these things. Life just got busy
or someone convinced us that they weren't practical or their childish.
(07:17):
We need to go back, and it's not to go
back with the pressure of like now I'm trying to
become a professional painter or a professional dancer. No is
just to go back to the joy, to the joy
and have found that joy is one of the clearest
breadcrumbs that leads you back to yourself. Number four, Notice
(07:42):
what gives you energy. There is a psychologist called me
highly and they spent decades studying what he called flu,
which Lucy defined is those moments when you're absorbed in
something so deeply that you lose track of time. This
(08:03):
happens to me on my drums, which is when I
know I have a busy week ahead. I always tell like,
I have an AGM with myself, and I'm like, Adele, please,
whatever you do, don't hop on those drums this week,
because you know all the work we have to get done.
I could start drumming in the morning at like nine.
(08:24):
When I enter my office, my drums are in my
office and it like the next time I put my
head up, it's like twelve noon and I'm like what how?
I'm like, how did that happen? How did that happen?
I was in flow the moments when you're so absorbed
(08:45):
in something that you lose track of time. So ask yourself,
what activities leave me feeling more alive than when I started?
And the question is not synonymous with what am I
good at know or what pays well or what impresses people? Know?
What activities leave me feeling more alive than when I started?
(09:08):
So it's really about the things that energize you, because
there is where you will find your authentic self. Number five,
Start asking what do I think? This sounds so simple,
but you and I know that it is not okay.
Like you know, when you're thinking about maybe resigning or
(09:30):
buying a new car or moving house, or changing your
wardrobe or buying a phone, or whatever the case may be,
you always start by saying, hmm, let me ask my partner,
or let me ask my siblings or my parents or
my best friend or you know. So what this habit
(09:51):
forces you to do is to ask what do I think?
Before asking your partner, before asking your family, before checking
the comments, ask yourself what do I think? And a
lot of work has been done around this in psychology.
One psychologist Carl Rogers He believes that psychological well being
(10:15):
comes from living in alignment with your own values rather
than seeking external approval. Now, that doesn't mean becoming stubborn.
It means remembering that your voice deserves to be heard
by you first. Once you're clear on what you think,
(10:37):
you can, you know, bounce the idea off of other people,
but you and what you think, and your voice has
to be heard by you first. Number six, go on
a date with yourself. And I'm so happy that I
see a lot of women doing this now. I think
it's so important, almost as important as solo travel if
(10:59):
you ask me. Right, But let's not with a date.
Go on an actual date, not running errands, not grocery shopping,
not ticking things off your to do lists. Plan something
simply because it delights you. It could be a visit
to an art gallery. It could be that you want
(11:19):
to try a new cafe. It could be that you
want to go hiking, or you want to watch a film,
or you want to take yourself out for lunch. One
of my close friends. She loves music so much, and
live music is at that. She takes herself for concerts
all the time, all the time. She might meet people
(11:43):
she knows there, she might not, doesn't matter. She is
there because she knows something about herself. She loves live music,
so she takes herself out on a date to concert
very frequently. You know, and while you are out on
a date with yourself, try and notice something, you know,
(12:04):
Try and notice are you enjoying this or are you
choosing it because you think it's the kind of thing
someone like you should enjoy. All right, lean in with
curiosity and then find like, actually, I really don't give
a damn about going to visit galleries. That's not my thing.
I would rather go to a concert, you know what
(12:27):
I mean. Just be curious, and I think curiosity. I've
talked about this a lot. Curiosity is a huge part,
or plays a huge part in you remembering yourself. Number seven,
Stop introducing yourself by your rules. This is a serious one,
especially in the African context. Right think about how you
(12:51):
answered this question. Someone asks you, tell me about yourself.
Many of us immediately start saying, I'm a wife, I'm
I'm a mom, I'm a lawyer, I'm a business owner.
Those things are important and could be very important in
your life, but they are roles. They're not who your
whole identity is. So instead, ask yourself this, If all
(13:16):
of those titles disappeared tomorrow, who would you still be?
And it's an uncomfortable question, but it's an incredibly freeing one.
And one caveat I want to put here that I
found while answering this particular question throughout my life. I
think I first met it when I was resigning from
(13:36):
my radio present and producer role. I really had to
do a lot of self work to be like, who
the heck am I? Without this huge title and this
job that is so glamorous from the outside inn and
the like celebrity status, Who is Adele? I knew I
had to do that work, and that's when I met
this question. But the caveat I will put is the answer,
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once you remove all those titles, can evolve and that's okay.
And that brings us to the last important one. Give
yourself permission to change. I think maybe the biggest reason
women struggle to remember themselves is because they're trying to
become the woman they used to be. But that's not
(14:20):
the goal. You are allowed to evolve. Imagine, like you're
allowed to outgrow dreams, you're allowed to change your mind.
That part, you're allowed to discover new passions. And back
to psychologist Carl Rogers, he once said, and I'm quoting,
the curious paradox is that when I accept myself just
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as I am, then I can change. It's beautiful, right.
You don't have to earn the right to become someone new.
All that needs to happen is that you just need
to give yourself permission to evolve. That's all. Give yourself
permission to change. Now. If there's one thing I hope
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you take away from this episode is that remembering yourself
isn't one big breakthrough. It's a practice. It is a
choice that you make every single day to become a
little more curious about who am I? Who is this
woman underneath all of these expectations? Right, So don't pressure
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yourself this week by asking yourself who should I be? No,
just lean into what feels true to me, and in
a very poetic way. I think that's how we start
to make our way back home to who we are
that's how we start remembering. And if you're listening to
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this and you're navigating the end of a marriage or
the end of a long term relationship, or you're navigating
another significant life transition, I want to remind you that
you're not only grieving what you've lost, but you're also
rediscovering who you are outside of that thing. You know.
(16:09):
And here's an invitation to you to join us at
our upcoming wellness talk Divorce Care. We're looking at when
the marriage ends and how do you find yourself again.
Our guest speaker is my therapist, Faith Guccu, and we're
going to explore the grief nobody talks about when it
comes to the end of a long term relationship and
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how do you rebuild your identity after that, how do
you navigate family expectations or create a new support system
and start taking those first steps to remembering who you
are and designing a life that genuinely feels like it
is yours, you know. I hope you'll join us. Our
ticket portal closes on Thursday, and the talk is on
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the twenty fifth of July this Saturday and booky slot.
It's at ten am. It's to Africa Time. It's virtual,
so wherever you are you can join us. There's no shame.
It's a safe space. You can join with a different
name if you want to preserve your anonymity, and you
can also ask questions anonymously. We have a hotline during
(17:16):
the Wellness Talk. I do hope you join us. I
wish I had when I was in the trenches of
my divorce. I wish I had a willderness talk like
this to commune with other women who are navigating the
same So in the show notes, there's a link for
you to book your slot to the Wellness Talk. Thank
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you for listening to this episode to the very end,
and if it resonated with you, share it with someone
that you love. Thanks for listening to the midwik T's
a Legally Clueless Africa production. Episodes go out every Wednesday,
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