May 26, 2023 • 6 mins
Old school never gets old because human nature ain't changed.
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Old school relationship advice means well most of the time,
but some of it is out of touch and should
become a thing of the past. Some of these rules
or tips need to be redefined and clarified for the
time we live in now. This is according to psychologist
doctor Joshua Clapowe for example. Clap Clapow for example, Steve
(00:26):
the old cliche and this is biblical, don't go to
bed angry. Doctor Clapow says, we've heard this classic, but
it's unrealistic, and sometimes going to bed mad and sleeping
on it is better.
Speaker 2 (00:40):
What do you say, do you well?
Speaker 3 (00:43):
I don't know we were you were with that. I
wish we could go to bed and not be mad.
I really do, right, I do. Nobody won't go to
bed mad. You know you got to sleep back to
each other. Somebody roll over in, touching you, jumping.
Speaker 2 (00:59):
Foot off. I want nobody want to. I think it's
better to do that.
Speaker 4 (01:04):
Now.
Speaker 2 (01:04):
Is it realistic to expect not to ever go to
bed mad?
Speaker 3 (01:07):
Now?
Speaker 2 (01:07):
I don't think it is. That's what he's saying, But.
Speaker 3 (01:10):
That show ain't good to go to bed, man, it's
gonna be.
Speaker 2 (01:14):
Up all that or you wake up mad. Let me
tell you something that you You know.
Speaker 3 (01:19):
If you let a woman go to bed, man she
wake up, she gonna be just as mad or mad
her because she'd.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
Have thought about some mostuff. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (01:30):
Really, Now, dudes wake up and go, hey, baby, how
you doing? How the hell you think?
Speaker 2 (01:35):
How was I last night? When you shut your eyes? Exactly? Yeah,
so exact.
Speaker 4 (01:41):
No.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
I think he's wrong about that. It's not healthy, all right.
Speaker 1 (01:44):
Doctor klap House says you can change them. He says
it's a romantic idea, the old cliche you can change them,
But he points out it's not your responsibility to change anyone. Right.
Speaker 2 (01:57):
I agree with him. It's not your job to change anyone.
Speaker 3 (02:02):
Nor.
Speaker 2 (02:02):
Don't you know do you have the ability? Right?
Speaker 1 (02:05):
That's something that women have. I mean, we may as
well admit that. We're always trying to change. And I
think it's the nurturer in us.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
We always Yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:14):
Yeah, I know he's like that right now.
Speaker 2 (02:17):
But once he gave me six months, Yeah, let me
work on him.
Speaker 4 (02:20):
Girl. Don't you're going have to work it every day?
Don't work every day? I changed you do it everything?
Speaker 1 (02:29):
Yeah, but women, I get that, all right. Here's another one.
Some people never change that's the cliche, the old school cliche.
Doctor Clepal says, on the flip side, the suggestion that
someone is incapable of changing is wrong, and it ignores
the fact that we all have control over our choices.
Speaker 3 (02:49):
So I absolutely agree with that. That's one hundred percent.
He's only saying one thing I didn't.
Speaker 2 (02:55):
Agree with, and that was the first one. Yeah, I
agree with that. You don't go to bed. We'll change. Yeah,
people change, man, all right all the time.
Speaker 1 (03:03):
Here's another one, old school love will keep you together.
Love will keep you together. He says. This works in
an old romantic movie, but in real life it takes
a lot more than love to make it work.
Speaker 2 (03:18):
Whoa what love got to do? Got to do?
Speaker 4 (03:26):
What love?
Speaker 2 (03:28):
But a second handy move? Sha, take it up? Gotta do.
I ain't got nothing to do with it, man.
Speaker 1 (03:39):
Yeah, you gotta honor that commitment that you got.
Speaker 2 (03:42):
A compromise understanding. Take the blame.
Speaker 1 (03:48):
Not be right all the time? Yeah, own, it never
worked for me never. All right here, No, it's that
love thing I told her I love, but my replacement
with at the dope.
Speaker 2 (04:05):
When I'm just like, who is this? Oh this Chris,
We's going to dinner. I love you though the love
to the left through.
Speaker 1 (04:17):
Yeah, it's almost like, what but you've grown up now,
you're now you're good now?
Speaker 2 (04:23):
Yeah that was back. Yeah I ain't, hadn't. We've all
been through some things up to the game, right, old
school love will?
Speaker 1 (04:32):
I mean, know your role in the relationship, that's old school.
Doctor clip House says, forget this old gender stereotype, and
remember there's not a required way for you to act.
Your role in the relationship shouldn't always be the same.
It's constantly shifting. Know your role in the relationship. That's
(04:57):
old school thinking. Okay, doctor clip How's says, forget this
old gender stereotype, and remember there is not a required
way for you to act.
Speaker 2 (05:07):
That's new school thinking.
Speaker 1 (05:09):
He says, your role in a relationship isn't going to
be the same all the time. It's constantly changing. And
that's a good thing, that's what he's saying. He says,
it'll shift organically and that's a good thing. Yeah, and
that's a good thing. You think your roles should stay
the same in a relationship, Well.
Speaker 2 (05:28):
I mean I think.
Speaker 3 (05:31):
I think your roles have to be defined so that
everybody has an understanding of positioning, and then I think
there has to be some type of all give and
take where sometimes the other person can do that.
Speaker 2 (05:47):
I'm not saying like.
Speaker 3 (05:48):
Roles like you do all the cleaning and I I'm
not talking about that.
Speaker 1 (05:52):
Yeah, but if you're good with money, yeah, do that
many things.
Speaker 2 (05:56):
Yeah, I mean, you know side old plan, and your
roles change.
Speaker 4 (06:02):
Like you know, I might be Batman one night, you
know what I'm saying, but then next night I might
be incredible hook.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
You know what I'm saying. Your roles do change.
Speaker 3 (06:10):
You have to know that organically, right or organically and
realistically you neither one.
Speaker 1 (06:20):
All right, here's the old school. You should stay with
them for better or for worse, won't you? He says.
We all want to think our partner will stick around
no matter what. But if a relationship is unhealthy, you don't.
You don't need to stick it.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
Out out to death to us.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
We get.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
All right, we do have to get out.
Speaker 1 (06:43):
You're listening Morning show
Old school relationship advice means well most of the time,
but some of it is out of touch and should
become a thing of the past. Some of these rules
or tips need to be redefined and clarified for the
time we live in now. This is according to psychologist
doctor Joshua Clapowe for example. Clap Clapow for example, Steve
(00:26):
the old cliche and this is biblical, don't go to
bed angry. Doctor Clapow says, we've heard this classic, but
it's unrealistic, and sometimes going to bed mad and sleeping
on it is better.
Speaker 2 (00:40):
What do you say, do you well?
Speaker 3 (00:43):
I don't know we were you were with that. I
wish we could go to bed and not be mad.
I really do, right, I do. Nobody won't go to
bed mad. You know you got to sleep back to
each other. Somebody roll over in, touching you, jumping.
Speaker 2 (00:59):
Foot off. I want nobody want to. I think it's
better to do that.
Speaker 4 (01:04):
Now.
Speaker 2 (01:04):
Is it realistic to expect not to ever go to
bed mad?
Speaker 3 (01:07):
Now?
Speaker 2 (01:07):
I don't think it is. That's what he's saying, But.
Speaker 3 (01:10):
That show ain't good to go to bed, man, it's
gonna be.
Speaker 2 (01:14):
Up all that or you wake up mad. Let me
tell you something that you You know.
Speaker 3 (01:19):
If you let a woman go to bed, man she
wake up, she gonna be just as mad or mad
her because she'd.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
Have thought about some mostuff. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (01:30):
Really, Now, dudes wake up and go, hey, baby, how
you doing? How the hell you think?
Speaker 2 (01:35):
How was I last night? When you shut your eyes? Exactly? Yeah,
so exact.
Speaker 4 (01:41):
No.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
I think he's wrong about that. It's not healthy, all right.
Speaker 1 (01:44):
Doctor klap House says you can change them. He says
it's a romantic idea, the old cliche you can change them,
But he points out it's not your responsibility to change anyone. Right.
Speaker 2 (01:57):
I agree with him. It's not your job to change anyone.
Speaker 3 (02:02):
Nor.
Speaker 2 (02:02):
Don't you know do you have the ability? Right?
Speaker 1 (02:05):
That's something that women have. I mean, we may as
well admit that. We're always trying to change. And I
think it's the nurturer in us.
Speaker 2 (02:12):
We always Yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:14):
Yeah, I know he's like that right now.
Speaker 2 (02:17):
But once he gave me six months, Yeah, let me
work on him.
Speaker 4 (02:20):
Girl. Don't you're going have to work it every day?
Don't work every day? I changed you do it everything?
Speaker 1 (02:29):
Yeah, but women, I get that, all right. Here's another one.
Some people never change that's the cliche, the old school cliche.
Doctor Clepal says, on the flip side, the suggestion that
someone is incapable of changing is wrong, and it ignores
the fact that we all have control over our choices.
Speaker 3 (02:49):
So I absolutely agree with that. That's one hundred percent.
He's only saying one thing I didn't.
Speaker 2 (02:55):
Agree with, and that was the first one. Yeah, I
agree with that. You don't go to bed. We'll change. Yeah,
people change, man, all right all the time.
Speaker 1 (03:03):
Here's another one, old school love will keep you together.
Love will keep you together. He says. This works in
an old romantic movie, but in real life it takes
a lot more than love to make it work.
Speaker 2 (03:18):
Whoa what love got to do? Got to do?
Speaker 4 (03:26):
What love?
Speaker 2 (03:28):
But a second handy move? Sha, take it up? Gotta do.
I ain't got nothing to do with it, man.
Speaker 1 (03:39):
Yeah, you gotta honor that commitment that you got.
Speaker 2 (03:42):
A compromise understanding. Take the blame.
Speaker 1 (03:48):
Not be right all the time? Yeah, own, it never
worked for me never. All right here, No, it's that
love thing I told her I love, but my replacement
with at the dope.
Speaker 2 (04:05):
When I'm just like, who is this? Oh this Chris,
We's going to dinner. I love you though the love
to the left through.
Speaker 1 (04:17):
Yeah, it's almost like, what but you've grown up now,
you're now you're good now?
Speaker 2 (04:23):
Yeah that was back. Yeah I ain't, hadn't. We've all
been through some things up to the game, right, old
school love will?
Speaker 1 (04:32):
I mean, know your role in the relationship, that's old school.
Doctor clip House says, forget this old gender stereotype, and
remember there's not a required way for you to act.
Your role in the relationship shouldn't always be the same.
It's constantly shifting. Know your role in the relationship. That's
(04:57):
old school thinking. Okay, doctor clip How's says, forget this
old gender stereotype, and remember there is not a required
way for you to act.
Speaker 2 (05:07):
That's new school thinking.
Speaker 1 (05:09):
He says, your role in a relationship isn't going to
be the same all the time. It's constantly changing. And
that's a good thing, that's what he's saying. He says,
it'll shift organically and that's a good thing. Yeah, and
that's a good thing. You think your roles should stay
the same in a relationship, Well.
Speaker 2 (05:28):
I mean I think.
Speaker 3 (05:31):
I think your roles have to be defined so that
everybody has an understanding of positioning, and then I think
there has to be some type of all give and
take where sometimes the other person can do that.
Speaker 2 (05:47):
I'm not saying like.
Speaker 3 (05:48):
Roles like you do all the cleaning and I I'm
not talking about that.
Speaker 1 (05:52):
Yeah, but if you're good with money, yeah, do that
many things.
Speaker 2 (05:56):
Yeah, I mean, you know side old plan, and your
roles change.
Speaker 4 (06:02):
Like you know, I might be Batman one night, you
know what I'm saying, but then next night I might
be incredible hook.
Speaker 2 (06:08):
You know what I'm saying. Your roles do change.
Speaker 3 (06:10):
You have to know that organically, right or organically and
realistically you neither one.
Speaker 1 (06:20):
All right, here's the old school. You should stay with
them for better or for worse, won't you? He says.
We all want to think our partner will stick around
no matter what. But if a relationship is unhealthy, you don't.
You don't need to stick it.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
Out out to death to us.
Speaker 1 (06:37):
We get.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
All right, we do have to get out.
Speaker 1 (06:43):
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