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Speaker 1 (00:00):
You don't when it gets the last call and all
the dudes kind of start creeping up on you.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
We have the solution.
Speaker 1 (00:07):
Give them the John Jay and Rich Drunk Dial Line
six two eight, nineteen thirty three is John Jay and
Ridge Serenity.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
Good morning, Hey, good morning, what's going on?
Speaker 3 (00:18):
Thanks for holding Yeah, okay, So I just want to know, like,
I want you guys to tell me why this happened
the other day.
Speaker 4 (00:28):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (00:28):
So the situation is that I was just scrolling through TikTok.
I'm minding my own business, and I get this notification
on my phone that's a friend request, and some girl
like friend requested me on Facebook and then also followed
me on Instagram like at the same time, and so
(00:49):
I don't think much of it. I figured she's like,
I don't know someone I know, maybe from school or work,
or it's just one of those like random you know,
follow her follow people. But I kind of forget about it.
Fast forward a few hours. I am hanging out with
(01:10):
my situationship, like we're we're like not in a relationship,
we're just friends with benefits and we're just hanging out
or chilling, and then out of nowhere, She's like, oh,
who's the girl who just added you? I'm like, what,
(01:32):
what girl? And she's like the you know, the one
on on Instagram and Facebook? Like is she someone that
you're talking to?
Speaker 4 (01:37):
Now?
Speaker 3 (01:39):
My jaw hit the ground. I like, how how does
she even know about this? First of all? And like
is there a way to set up notifications for me
or something? Is she stalking my friends list?
Speaker 5 (01:54):
Uh?
Speaker 3 (01:55):
I don't know. It's giving FBI agents?
Speaker 2 (02:00):
Do you know what?
Speaker 4 (02:00):
The first thing I thought of is that you were
being catfished by your situationship.
Speaker 2 (02:04):
Oh to see if maybe you would buy or whatever.
Speaker 4 (02:09):
You would because that's why she's asking, well, who's this
new follow because it's her, she has access to it.
Speaker 2 (02:15):
That's what your mind went.
Speaker 6 (02:17):
My mind I got into the whole, like what do
you think of friends with benefits? To me, I'm always
think of heterosexual friends of benefits, and I just start
thinking about woman on woman friends of benefits and what
that would be.
Speaker 2 (02:27):
Like you just we lost you lost me completely? Yea completely,
That's exactly where I was going.
Speaker 6 (02:32):
I was like, Wow, I after do they want to
cuddle and stuff or do you just get up and go?
Speaker 2 (02:37):
Like because with a guy friend, your friend's benefit. It's
bam bam.
Speaker 6 (02:40):
Oh, hey, so you gotta go wait a minute, where
you're going, Hey, we set this up, you know how
this is, but it's the girl's just kind of watch TV?
Speaker 2 (02:46):
Can you out?
Speaker 3 (02:47):
You know?
Speaker 2 (02:47):
That's where my literally, I was just thinking of the drama.
How I just rather, I mean, there is.
Speaker 1 (02:51):
Drama here right right?
Speaker 4 (02:53):
Spoiler like, girls are way more toxic than men.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
Oh, I like total.
Speaker 5 (02:58):
Every relationship I ever had with like a woman is
ten times more toxic any relationship I ever had to.
Speaker 2 (03:05):
Did you ever have a female friends with benefits?
Speaker 4 (03:07):
Mmm?
Speaker 6 (03:09):
Because the guy friends with benefits. That's where the phrase
hit it and quit it comes from.
Speaker 4 (03:14):
I have a female?
Speaker 2 (03:15):
Do you want to talk Later's fine? Okay, yeah, it
seems like something I would not want to dabble in.
Speaker 6 (03:21):
Okay, that's what That's where my mind was. I was
trying to experience what that would be like. So did
you open my eyes a little bit of that serenity?
Speaker 4 (03:28):
Well?
Speaker 3 (03:28):
Okay, So the whole point of this that we're not
in a relationship is so that there isn't drama like that, right,
because it can totally happen and it.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
Sounds like your situationship is in love with you.
Speaker 7 (03:38):
Yeah, she's taking it a little more seriously than you are.
Speaker 3 (03:42):
Yeah, I mean yeah, because this person is just like
I don't even know who is, and it's already causing trauma.
Speaker 7 (03:49):
But here's where that's like always a dangerous road to
go down, because someone's always gonna catch feelings, right, and
so when that happens, it's like you kind of have
to like just define it. It can't just be like
on her as like okay, listen, pump the brakes. Apparently
there are more feelings here and I don't I don't know, serenity,
if you have feelings and you think you could see
it going into an actual relationship or not, but I
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feel like that boundary needs to be drawn.
Speaker 3 (04:13):
No. Yeah, like that's the whole point that I want
it is because I don't want a relationship right now,
and I I don't know. I tried to laugh it off.
She was not having it, so like I don't know,
I don't know if like I broke a silent rule book.
It just sounds like it's maybe more about her side.
Speaker 2 (04:35):
What sounds I think Rich has a point. Maybe she's
got she's catfishy fish I mean, it's detely who else
you're talking to more than a situationship.
Speaker 6 (04:42):
Just by the fact that she, let's just say she's
not catfishing you, let's say she is catfishing. Her asking
you about these people is already crossing the boundary. So
there you have to you have to run or second,
go google friends with benefits or relationship say.
Speaker 2 (05:00):
Hey, this is this is this kind of not what
we are.
Speaker 4 (05:02):
But if she comes out of signs like your friend
has really good insurance, it's a friend with benefits, So
what do you think you're gonna do? Serenity Like, that's
kind of weird.
Speaker 1 (05:12):
That she knew that.
Speaker 3 (05:14):
Yeah, I mean it just really freaked me out. And
I it's a whole other level of exhausting that I'm
just not ready for. So yeah, I blocked her on everything,
and she's sending me like emails constantly.
Speaker 2 (05:34):
I look, look, look, you can end this right now.
Speaker 6 (05:36):
Friends with benefits is a relationship dynamic which people who
are friends are friendly with each other agree to be
physically or sexually intimate without the commitment or the expectations
typically associated with traditional or magic relationship.
Speaker 2 (05:49):
Send her that and say it doesn't matter. Who I
follow or who follows me. Just push it on your Instagram.
She'll see it, and then you're gonna be like, if
that's not that's not what I want to see you
later you could probably deal with it a little more tenderly.
Speaker 6 (06:04):
Maybe maybe if you want intimacy without commitment, this relationship
is right for you, is what it says.
Speaker 5 (06:12):
There you go, just just yeah, clean your hands with
that surrendered You know you don't need those problems.
Speaker 3 (06:18):
Oh my god? Should I stop dating girls? Which is insane?
Speaker 2 (06:23):
It sounds like everybody likes you. That's good at least?
Speaker 7 (06:27):
Good luck?
Speaker 2 (06:28):
That's crazy. Yeah, thanks for calling in, good luck?
Speaker 3 (06:31):
Thanks guys.
Speaker 2 (06:32):
You know what I want to play this off my computer?
I want to do. This is a video, but it
says understanding friends with benefits.
Speaker 5 (06:41):
Hey, everybody, we're back with more terminology. This one's a
little bit more known. Yeah, everybody knows friends with benefits
w B. Are you in an FWB relationship? What does
it really mean?
Speaker 6 (06:58):
What do you need to.
Speaker 2 (06:58):
Watch out for? The difference?
Speaker 5 (07:00):
First of all, between a situationship and an after WB
is that the situationship? Remember, you haven't communicated what you want,
where something's going and you're probably hoping one of you
is probably hoping that the situationship leads to a relationship.
Speaker 2 (07:15):
Oh, I didn't know that. Did you guys know that?
Speaker 4 (07:17):
No?
Speaker 7 (07:17):
I didn't really either. But that sounds exactly like what
she's in.
Speaker 6 (07:20):
Yeah, it sounds like she's in a situationship and she
thinks she's in Friends of Benefits.
Speaker 4 (07:24):
And isn't that what she called it?
Speaker 2 (07:25):
She needs to watch the video. She called it a situationship.
She called it friends with benefits. Ye should not have
called it a lot of confusion. They're not interchangeable. No,
this has a million views. Wow, all right, there you go.
That's John Jay and Rich of case. I've been friends
of Benefits.