December 24, 2021 • 33 mins
Brian Tracy was where Dan once heard this great fact: an airplane uses 10x more energy to go from 0 to 85 MPH to achieve lift off than it does to maintain 400 MPH at 35,000 feet. Think about that when you wonder why you might not have reached your goals in 2021. The hardest part of any journey is just generating the energy and momentum to get your dreams off the ground to begin with.
But why is that so difficult?
This week on the podcast, we'll look at the internal and external forces that keep us playing small, talk about why you're already programmed to live your dreams and give you four steps to bring your dreams to life in 2022, even when you're afraid.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Brian Tracy was the first person I heard talk about
this idea that an airplane uses ten times more energy
to go from zero to eighty five miles an hour
and achieve lift off than it does to maintain a
rate of four hundred miles an hour at an elevation
of thirty thousand feet. Think about that when you consider
why you might not have reached your goals in the
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hardest part of any journey to live your purpose is
just generating and sustaining the energy to get your dreams
off the ground to begin with. But why is that
so difficult? This week on Life Amplified will look at
the internal and external forces that keep us playing small,
talk about why you're already programmed to live your dreams,
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and give you four steps to bring your dreams to
life in yes, even when you're afraid, welcome back. What
is an amplified life. It's having amplified relationships with people
who support and encourage you to be your best. It's
having amplified energy to conquer the challenges of the day.
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And it's having an amplified career, one that's meaningful to you,
the world, and your bank accounts. I'm Dan Mason, life
reinvention coach, helping you discover your calling and create an
amplified life on your terms. This is the Life Amplified Podcast.
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It feels like the perfect time of year for us
to be having this conversation. As I'm recording the podcast,
it is Christmas week. I know that that is a
tremendous religious celebration for some people in my audience, and
you're very connected to a religious meaning of holiday. Some
of you don't celebrate at all. And the way that
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I always approach these things is from a metaphorical perspective.
I think that there is a tremendous symbolism in the
idea of Christmas that works for anybody that we can
all learn from, no matter what you believe. And the
message is this, the Divine comes in humble packages. When
you look at the origin story of Jesus, born to
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a teenage mother and extreme poverty conditions, there was no
money or her budget, or not enough income to get
to get into a medical facility or to stay at
an end. He was literally born in a barn, slept
in a manger, and yet from those humble beginnings was
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able to rise up and become a transformational leader. Whose
teachings have survived four thousands of years. Now, what does
that have to do with us? Well, the lesson for
me is that it doesn't matter how small your beginnings are.
What matters is that you start something that expands love
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in the universe. That you start a message and idea
that is deeply personal to you that is the highest
expression of who you are and somehow serves humanity in
the process. And most people who listen to this podcast,
and people who come into my coaching practice from eighteen
different countries at this point, all have an idea like
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this thing germinating within them that they want to bring forward.
You know, for some of you, it's a coaching practice
or a podcast of your own. For others, it's just
a business idea and invention, a book, a ted talk
that you want to give. And yet, if you look
at where you are today in your goals versus where
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you were on January one, how much progress have you
really made? Sometimes we get so overwhelmed in the process
of beginning we never get started to begin with. So
when we look at these forces both internal and external
to keep us playing small, the first thing that we
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want to look at is your own personal narrative. You know,
there are many people who also grew up in those
humble beginnings that you didn't come from a family where
success or creativity or expression was really encouraged, nor was
it modeled for you by your parents. In fact, there
was a huge survival programming that money doesn't grow on trees.
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We have to save just enough money to get by.
You know, life is about chopping wood, carry and water.
I talked to a gentleman recently who had reached out
about one on one coaching, and he grew up in
a military home, you know, with a father who was
very hardcore, followed the rules and just told him that,
you know, you shut up and played by the rules.
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And he's been doing that in his corporate job for
thirty five years, where he's undervalued and underpaid, and he's
not pursuing the artistic vision that he has. This is
a man who has like this innate talent uh in
buying and flipping home. It's like he and his wife
bought a property at a pretty small price and rebuilt
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like HGTV style a Tuscan farmhouse and sold the thing
at a half million dollars profit. And yet he's not
going back and doing that. He's still obsessed about this
corporate job where he feels like he should be making
forty dollars more a year, and he's so obsessed on
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why can't I get the extra forty grand He's forgetting
the fact that Jesus God like I kind of gift
to within me, they can generate a half million dollars
profit once a year. Why would we do that? Why
would we abandon our creative visions and our natural abilities
and our talents. Well, because there was this survival programming
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from childhood that you just follow the rules and you
do what you're told. I also want to be clear
that small beginnings don't always mean this ongoing cycle of struggle,
although that may very well resonate for you, uh you know.
For I've shared the story here on the podcast of
growing up in high school. What I really wanted to
do was pursue theater and acting full time. But I
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had no base of reference in my life that anybody
could make a living in the arts. I had a
father who was very successful. We were not a family
that struggled for money, but he was very successful in
the radio industry. So when I was too afraid to
follow my dreams, and I just you know, I didn't
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believe in myself enough. I followed his path and I
was able to be very successful. And even though that
wasn't a traditionally small path, I'm making air quotes as
I say that it was small relative to my soul
and the work that I'm doing today. Right, So, you know,
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we want to look at just what was that internal
programming that you're dealing with. And this is very difficult
for people because a lot of times you're not even
aware of that. Like the things that you were told
growing up about money, about opportunity, about creativity, about following
your dreams. You know, those things were beaten into your
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head so many times you just believe it is truth.
You don't even stop to question whether it's actually spiritually
true in the broader sense. So we want to start
to bring awareness to some of those internal factors. And
then even when people have gone through a personal growth
journey and they've done the work and they've started to
illuminate those subconscious blind spots that keep them stuck, there
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is an external factor that keeps people playing small, and
that is the fact that they don't want to be
seen starting small. This is especially true for those of
you who have an identity around being successful, even if
the path that you've chosen isn't fulfilling. If it's generating
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money and it's got you a nice home and a
nice car and makes your life look great on Instagram,
it's hard to walk away from that and be perceived
as struggling or starting out in a new endeavor. I
think about my first year as a coach. You know,
I walked away from a job where I was making
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an excess of a hundred and sixty thousand dollars a year,
and everybody in my life told me I was crazy
either like Dan, you can't go just make that money
anywhere in another corporate job, which they were right, like,
you know, those jobs are hard to come by, especially
right now in this economy. But I ended up walking
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away to start something where I created more, but it
started very small. My first year as a coach, I
believe that my UH on my tax forms at the
end of the year, my income was twenty seven thousand,
eight hundred dollars and oh, I had so much shame
around that that I had essentially taken an eighty five
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pay cut. And I started out a little naive, right,
I was like, well, you know, I'm I'm going to
go pursue my purpose and live my dreams, so therefore
I should make half a million dollars in the first year.
And by the way, I think that that is possible
for people to walk away and be enormously financially successful.
But I was so afraid of starting out being seen
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taking small steps. What I did is I was really hiding.
I wasn't even talking to a lot of people in
my life about my coaching business when they could have
actually referred clients to me that I could have helped.
Because you know, here, I knew that I had this
website that wasn't getting any traffic, and I knew my
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mailing list when I started out was seven people. I
actually went back into my old email server and looked
at the very first email that I ever sent out
to my day a base in and I sent it
to seven people, and five of them were friends and
the other two addresses were mine. It was both of
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my email accounts, because I wanted to make sure that
you know that that the emails were going out correctly.
And what was funny is when I go back and
look at the open rates on those initial emails. It
was like a thirty percent open rate. So basically, my
friends weren't even opening the emails to read this inspiring
content I was sending out. I was the open rate,
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like the two emails out of seven that was reading
anything that I was sharing with the world, and that
perpetuated shame. And I had this little Facebook business page
that I invited, like, you know, my friends on Facebook
to like, and I think I only had about eighteen
of them who clicked and followed my page. And I
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was really embarrassed about that. And the thing that really
started to shift it for me, um, you know, because
once I had gone to my accountant and got through
that first year, this is when I learned the importance
of interpretation when we're going through any up level or
metamorphosis in our life. You know. When I had talked
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to some of my family members about what I made
in my first year of coaching, they immediately jumped all
over me, well, how are you gonna how are you
gonna grow that? I mean, you can't survive off that
amount of money. And the one person who was so
sweet about it was my ex girlfriend's mother, and she
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had made a comment. She's like, that's actually really really great.
She goes that, you know, you generated that you created
twenty eight thousand dollars from nothing. And that's when I
realized that there was a certain alchemy to what we do,
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is entrepreneurs or creatives, that we just sort of take
nothing and turn it into gold. And once I realized
that I was able to generate through my own work,
through my own service, twenty eight thousand dollars in my
first year of income, I actually felt a tremendous in surpride.
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I realized that that twenty eight thousand dollars was more
than I made in my first year as a full
time radio employee. When I graduated college in nine. The
first job that I took uh in in central Maine,
working at this little radio station in Gusta, Maine. I
made nineteen thousand dollars a year. So as I'm thinking
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in my mind, I was like, well, I started at
nineteen thousand dollars a year and I finished it a
hundred and sixty thousand. I was like, so, you know,
essentially I ten x my income over the course of
my career. I was like, well, certainly I could ten
x this twenty eight thousand dollars and make more than
I did in radio, and eventually I did that. But
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it's so important to have that perspective and focus on
the interpretation that you give to things, because it would
have been very easy for me to listen to my
family members who made me feel shameful and as if
that first year of income wasn't enough. And thank god
I had some people in my life. And then what
really drove it home for me is I talked to
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a friend of mine that I had done theater with
years and years before, and she asked how the business
was going, and when I told her what I made,
and she's like, well, that's more than I'm making in
this office job that I'm working at. And it gave
me that instant perspective and got me out of the
I'm not enough energy and got me focused on the
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gratitude for what I had created and kept me moving forward.
But it's very hard when our ego gets in the way,
particularly for those of you who are achievers and you
believe that you're only worth in the world is your
net worth. You know, when we confuse that with our
self worth and we think that our value is because
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of the income we make, or the amount of bitcoin
that we own, or the number on the online banking app.
Then you're always going to struggle. You know, you'll actually
replicate your old corporate income, living your dreams, but still
tell yourself that you're not enough, because it's always going
to be this energy of lack. So point number one
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here when we talk about why so many people don't
get started or go through years of starting and stopping
but never really making meaningful progress towards their goals, is
we have these internal and external forces that keep us stuck.
Number one, it's our own small beginnings in our life.
We take a look at our biography or our family lineage,
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and we can't ever dream bigger than that. It becomes
very difficult. For some people. It triggers fear that if
they do better than their family, that they'll actually be
rejected or pushed away from the family. But the second
thing is more of that external uh is the external influence,
which is our fear of how we're going to be
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perceived and will we be judged, and will we be
rejected by others. But the mindset shift that I want
to give you today to help you move beyond that,
when there is this fear of living your dream, and
I believe this to be true, you are already programmed
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to live your dream. Think about that for a second,
and let's look in nature. And acorn is pre programmed
from the time that it falls. It's pre programmed to
eventually grow into a magnificent oak tree. And embryo is
programmed to grow up into being a fully formed adult.
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A caterpillar is programmed to eventually uh go through chrysalis
and become a butterfly. The blueprint is programmed to eventually
become a house, And the same is true for you. Now,
some of you might be thinking, yeah, but Dan, that's nature.
Like who am I to think I'm really programmed to
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become a CEO of a company, or to become a
really well known podcast or or to become a famous actor.
Because you have to understand where your desires come from
in the first place. Your desires aren't really yours. They
were created and instilled into you by the same force
that created you. So just for the same reason that
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you would never stop and argue with me about well, Dan,
not all acorns are programmed to become oak trees, and
no dan like a caterpillar, it doesn't always become a butterfly. Well,
I guess if you step on it on a sidewalk,
then interrupt the natural flow of life. Yes, that could
be the case, but we don't really question these things
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in nature. We understand, you know that a rose is
programmed to bloom and to smell beautiful, but we don't
believe it for ourselves. And this is a little bit
of spiritual and metaphysical, but a great time of year
for it is we're here at the holiday season. The
same force in the world that created the oak tree,
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that created the caterpillars and the butterflies and the rose bush,
is the same thing that created you. You are one
with that divine energy. You are here is a physical
expression of the divine. The universe wants to express itself
through you. It wants to expand and grow through you.
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So of course you are given these dreams and desires
because you were biologically programmed from your conception to become thing.
You know. They talk about this in the Hindu text
that You Punishads, where they say whatever it is that
you desire, you're already that thing. That's the spiritual meaning
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here that we're talking about. So why do so many
people struggle to integrate this Because a lot of times
we're taught from an early age, especially depending on the
religious system that you grew up in, that the desires
of the heart are evil, uh that they're ungodly, that
wealth is bad, that sex is bad, that your creativity
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is bad, and that we're not here to create that
somehow we're here to serve this entity outside of us.
But the real thing that we come to understand in
the New Thought teachings is that there is no Yes,
that entity, the higher power is outside of us because
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God source universe is in everything, but it's also within us.
There is no separation. We are one with that divine energy. Therefore,
your success is assured. I'm gonna take a quick break,
and then I'm coming back with the four steps that
are gonna help you start your dreams even when it's scary.
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soul Coaching dot net. Okay, let's talk about the four
tips to help you get started on your dreams even
when you're ready to crap your pants. All right. The
first step is remembering to keep a sense of humility,
you know. And this gets into all the egoic stories
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and the fears that we talked about earlier around the
perceptions or will I be rejected if people see me
starting small? I told you about my you know, poor
mailing list where only two out of the seven people
on the mailing list opened my my initial messages and
they were both me from different email addresses. But had
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I not push through, if I've given that an interpretation
that dan, nobody cares about what you share, and nobody
really care is about this dream that you have and
you need to go back to what's safe and familiar.
I could have given that interpretation and I could have
walked away, but that fear of only having seven email addresses.
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Here I am six years later in a year where
I did national daytime TV talk shows, where I was
a guest on the Tamarain Hall Show, which has two
million viewers every single day, and that episode aired twice,
so you know, you could say that I could have
reached up to four million people there. I can get
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on a nationally syndicated radio show like the Elvis da
Ran Morning Show, which broadcast over ten million people every morning,
and those interviews live on in podcast form, where god
knows how many people could find it. I had to
have the humility to be the only person reading my
own content to now have the ability to read twelve
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to fourteen million people in a year. That's what I
would ask you to consider that the circumstances of where
you're starting today are not where you're going to be forever.
But you also need that faith, faith in yourself and
faith in some sort of higher power I think really helps.
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I'm not saying you have to believe in God or
an organized religion, but if you believe that the only
way that you're going to be able to create your
success is too single handedly push the boulder up the
hill by yourself, you'll get there. You will because what's
yours cannot be withheld from you. Right, You're not going
to miss it. But that's an exhausting way to go,
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and by the time you reach the top of the hill,
you might find yourself tumbling back down because your system crashes.
So it's really that faith in yourself, but faith in
a higher power are a universe that will support the
things that support life. So humility is the first step.
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The second thing though, when we talk about bringing your
dreams to reality even when you're afraid, is you need
a success plan, which we have to start looking at
wherever the gap is between where you're at now and
where you're trying to get to. What are the areas
where you need to skill up and become more knowledgeable.
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I've talked about this on the podcast before. When I
started coaching, the coaching part was easy for me. I
can sit with any client and you know, in the
span of an hour and especially over the span of
some hour long conversations in three to six months, completely
help people reprogram themselves for success, identify the hidden blocks,
and help them reach their dreams. Have done it time
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and time again. What I did not know when I
started out was where to go to find clients, how
to do online marketing, how to do podcast how to
um you know, create content on social media, how to
do webinars and free trainings. That was all this stuff
where I had to skill up. Um. One of these days,
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I'll tell you the story about the first ever webinar
I did and what a disaster that was. But that's
another story for another day. So really start getting clear.
You know, for those of you who want to get
out of debt and generate wealth, you might have to
start learning about investment strategies and where to put your
money so that it's growing for you when you're sleeping,
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for instance. Uh, those of you who want to lose weight,
it's it's probably you know, just learning to build a
meal plan that works for your body. But we want
you to start creating that success plan and identifying where
the places you need to scale up, which also means
that once you have the success plan, you need a
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setback plan. As personal growth or achieving your dreams is
not a linear journey. It doesn't mean that you're just
consistently just flying right up the top of the mountain.
There's gonna be days when you take a step forward
and then it feels like something notch, you off track,
and there's three steps back that you know, there's some
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external things going on with your family, or God forbid,
you get sick. We're seeing all the variants spread right now.
So you know things are going to happen because we're human.
But what is your plan when the circumstances of life
aren't meeting your expectations? What support do you have in place?
Do you have a coach, a mentor do you have
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a supportive community who will cheer you on and help
you get back up on the horse. It doesn't mean
that we're expecting to fail, I want to be very clear,
but we are expecting to encounter setbacks. Getting off track
is part of the journey, which means that you need
some sort of support plan in place to get back
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on track. And finally, step number four, uh, and this
isn't so much an action step as it is a
mindset shift is remembering that fear is not a reason
to quit. So many people are like, Dan, you know,
how do I build this next thing in my life
without wanting to vomit on myself when it's time to
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take action? Like? How do I do this without being afraid?
And I can't help you with that as a coach.
And you can go to the most famous coaches in
the world. You can go to Tony Robbins, you can
go to whoever they're not going to be able to
help you with that, because fear is a normal biological response.
And remember, when we're experiencing fear, all that is is
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a sign that we are done operating by the status quo,
we're done surviving, and we are taking some new action
that is taking us into uncharted territory, and it's going
to help us thrive instead of merely get by in life.
The human nervous system doesn't really care whether you're happy
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or not. That's not what the brain was desired to do.
What it's designed for is to give you certainty and
to keep you in a place of being prepared and
expecting what is next. Because the nervous system, for all
the the advanced thinking that we can do now, as
much as we've evolved as human beings, we've never evolved
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beyond fight or flight. So any sort of change to
our routine, the nervous system on some level thinks it's
going to kill us. If you continue to stay stuck
and a soul sucking job that under pays you what
you're worth. Well, the brain at least knows to expect that,
and it knows how you're going to cope with that.
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It knows that you're going to scrimp and save, or
that you can save coupon ones, or that you can
go without and maybe only eat two meals a day.
If you're in financial struggle, it will plan and in
no ways to work around that. What the brain doesn't
know is what do I do with all this wealth? Right?
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It has no frame of reference for that, and it
doesn't have a plan to manage those things, especially if
there is a subconscious part of the brain which pretty
much dictates how you're showing up in the world anyway,
that believes wealth is bad if it believes that wealth
means more people are going to want things from me,
if it means wealth means I'm going to turn into
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some sort of a whole and I won't be spiritual.
So the nervous system would much rather know what's going
to happen, even if the things that are going to
happen keep us in a place of struggle and frustration.
Then step into the unknown to take a step towards
our dreams. When it doesn't know what's going to happen there,
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you have to start to operate greater than your survival thinking,
and that's when fear comes in. You know, there's plenty
of cliches and personal growth about fear is actually a
compass leading you in the direction of where you should go.
And that's because the things that scare us are the
things that are helping us grow. It's getting us out
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of our survival response and helping us step into new expectations,
new standards, a new way of being in the world,
a new way of contributing and expressing ourselves to the world.
So fear and that regard is actually your friend. If
you're not feeling afraid, chances are you're not really doing
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much to push beyond your comfort zone. Those are your
four steps that are going to help you get started
on your dreams even when it's scary. Number one, keep
a sense of humility. Lead with a servant's heart, right,
just get worried about what can I give and what
can I offer to the world. Number two, you need
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a success plan, which means that you need some support
in your corner. You need to know the places where
you need to skill up to close the gap between
where you are and where you want to be. Number three,
you need a setback plan. You need systems of support
and accountability and immediate feedback in place when things aren't
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happening on your timeline or in the way that you imagine.
And number four, we want to keep this mindset shift
that fear is just a sign that you're done surviving
and you're ready to thrive. If this episode serves you,
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I love you with all my heart. I appreciate you
being here. I hope be able wonderful holiday season, and
I'll talk to you next week. In the meantime, turn
down the volume on your negativity, turn up the volume
on your purpose so you can live life amplified.
Brian Tracy was the first person I heard talk about
this idea that an airplane uses ten times more energy
to go from zero to eighty five miles an hour
and achieve lift off than it does to maintain a
rate of four hundred miles an hour at an elevation
of thirty thousand feet. Think about that when you consider
why you might not have reached your goals in the
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hardest part of any journey to live your purpose is
just generating and sustaining the energy to get your dreams
off the ground to begin with. But why is that
so difficult? This week on Life Amplified will look at
the internal and external forces that keep us playing small,
talk about why you're already programmed to live your dreams,
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and give you four steps to bring your dreams to
life in yes, even when you're afraid, welcome back. What
is an amplified life. It's having amplified relationships with people
who support and encourage you to be your best. It's
having amplified energy to conquer the challenges of the day.
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And it's having an amplified career, one that's meaningful to you,
the world, and your bank accounts. I'm Dan Mason, life
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It feels like the perfect time of year for us
to be having this conversation. As I'm recording the podcast,
it is Christmas week. I know that that is a
tremendous religious celebration for some people in my audience, and
you're very connected to a religious meaning of holiday. Some
of you don't celebrate at all. And the way that
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I always approach these things is from a metaphorical perspective.
I think that there is a tremendous symbolism in the
idea of Christmas that works for anybody that we can
all learn from, no matter what you believe. And the
message is this, the Divine comes in humble packages. When
you look at the origin story of Jesus, born to
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a teenage mother and extreme poverty conditions, there was no
money or her budget, or not enough income to get
to get into a medical facility or to stay at
an end. He was literally born in a barn, slept
in a manger, and yet from those humble beginnings was
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able to rise up and become a transformational leader. Whose
teachings have survived four thousands of years. Now, what does
that have to do with us? Well, the lesson for
me is that it doesn't matter how small your beginnings are.
What matters is that you start something that expands love
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in the universe. That you start a message and idea
that is deeply personal to you that is the highest
expression of who you are and somehow serves humanity in
the process. And most people who listen to this podcast,
and people who come into my coaching practice from eighteen
different countries at this point, all have an idea like
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this thing germinating within them that they want to bring forward.
You know, for some of you, it's a coaching practice
or a podcast of your own. For others, it's just
a business idea and invention, a book, a ted talk
that you want to give. And yet, if you look
at where you are today in your goals versus where
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you were on January one, how much progress have you
really made? Sometimes we get so overwhelmed in the process
of beginning we never get started to begin with. So
when we look at these forces both internal and external
to keep us playing small, the first thing that we
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want to look at is your own personal narrative. You know,
there are many people who also grew up in those
humble beginnings that you didn't come from a family where
success or creativity or expression was really encouraged, nor was
it modeled for you by your parents. In fact, there
was a huge survival programming that money doesn't grow on trees.
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We have to save just enough money to get by.
You know, life is about chopping wood, carry and water.
I talked to a gentleman recently who had reached out
about one on one coaching, and he grew up in
a military home, you know, with a father who was
very hardcore, followed the rules and just told him that,
you know, you shut up and played by the rules.
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And he's been doing that in his corporate job for
thirty five years, where he's undervalued and underpaid, and he's
not pursuing the artistic vision that he has. This is
a man who has like this innate talent uh in
buying and flipping home. It's like he and his wife
bought a property at a pretty small price and rebuilt
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like HGTV style a Tuscan farmhouse and sold the thing
at a half million dollars profit. And yet he's not
going back and doing that. He's still obsessed about this
corporate job where he feels like he should be making
forty dollars more a year, and he's so obsessed on
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why can't I get the extra forty grand He's forgetting
the fact that Jesus God like I kind of gift
to within me, they can generate a half million dollars
profit once a year. Why would we do that? Why
would we abandon our creative visions and our natural abilities
and our talents. Well, because there was this survival programming
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from childhood that you just follow the rules and you
do what you're told. I also want to be clear
that small beginnings don't always mean this ongoing cycle of struggle,
although that may very well resonate for you, uh you know.
For I've shared the story here on the podcast of
growing up in high school. What I really wanted to
do was pursue theater and acting full time. But I
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had no base of reference in my life that anybody
could make a living in the arts. I had a
father who was very successful. We were not a family
that struggled for money, but he was very successful in
the radio industry. So when I was too afraid to
follow my dreams, and I just you know, I didn't
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believe in myself enough. I followed his path and I
was able to be very successful. And even though that
wasn't a traditionally small path, I'm making air quotes as
I say that it was small relative to my soul
and the work that I'm doing today. Right, So, you know,
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we want to look at just what was that internal
programming that you're dealing with. And this is very difficult
for people because a lot of times you're not even
aware of that. Like the things that you were told
growing up about money, about opportunity, about creativity, about following
your dreams. You know, those things were beaten into your
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head so many times you just believe it is truth.
You don't even stop to question whether it's actually spiritually
true in the broader sense. So we want to start
to bring awareness to some of those internal factors. And
then even when people have gone through a personal growth
journey and they've done the work and they've started to
illuminate those subconscious blind spots that keep them stuck, there
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is an external factor that keeps people playing small, and
that is the fact that they don't want to be
seen starting small. This is especially true for those of
you who have an identity around being successful, even if
the path that you've chosen isn't fulfilling. If it's generating
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money and it's got you a nice home and a
nice car and makes your life look great on Instagram,
it's hard to walk away from that and be perceived
as struggling or starting out in a new endeavor. I
think about my first year as a coach. You know,
I walked away from a job where I was making
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an excess of a hundred and sixty thousand dollars a year,
and everybody in my life told me I was crazy
either like Dan, you can't go just make that money
anywhere in another corporate job, which they were right, like,
you know, those jobs are hard to come by, especially
right now in this economy. But I ended up walking
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away to start something where I created more, but it
started very small. My first year as a coach, I
believe that my UH on my tax forms at the
end of the year, my income was twenty seven thousand,
eight hundred dollars and oh, I had so much shame
around that that I had essentially taken an eighty five
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pay cut. And I started out a little naive, right,
I was like, well, you know, I'm I'm going to
go pursue my purpose and live my dreams, so therefore
I should make half a million dollars in the first year.
And by the way, I think that that is possible
for people to walk away and be enormously financially successful.
But I was so afraid of starting out being seen
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taking small steps. What I did is I was really hiding.
I wasn't even talking to a lot of people in
my life about my coaching business when they could have
actually referred clients to me that I could have helped.
Because you know, here, I knew that I had this
website that wasn't getting any traffic, and I knew my
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mailing list when I started out was seven people. I
actually went back into my old email server and looked
at the very first email that I ever sent out
to my day a base in and I sent it
to seven people, and five of them were friends and
the other two addresses were mine. It was both of
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my email accounts, because I wanted to make sure that
you know that that the emails were going out correctly.
And what was funny is when I go back and
look at the open rates on those initial emails. It
was like a thirty percent open rate. So basically, my
friends weren't even opening the emails to read this inspiring
content I was sending out. I was the open rate,
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like the two emails out of seven that was reading
anything that I was sharing with the world, and that
perpetuated shame. And I had this little Facebook business page
that I invited, like, you know, my friends on Facebook
to like, and I think I only had about eighteen
of them who clicked and followed my page. And I
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was really embarrassed about that. And the thing that really
started to shift it for me, um, you know, because
once I had gone to my accountant and got through
that first year, this is when I learned the importance
of interpretation when we're going through any up level or
metamorphosis in our life. You know. When I had talked
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to some of my family members about what I made
in my first year of coaching, they immediately jumped all
over me, well, how are you gonna how are you
gonna grow that? I mean, you can't survive off that
amount of money. And the one person who was so
sweet about it was my ex girlfriend's mother, and she
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had made a comment. She's like, that's actually really really great.
She goes that, you know, you generated that you created
twenty eight thousand dollars from nothing. And that's when I
realized that there was a certain alchemy to what we do,
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is entrepreneurs or creatives, that we just sort of take
nothing and turn it into gold. And once I realized
that I was able to generate through my own work,
through my own service, twenty eight thousand dollars in my
first year of income, I actually felt a tremendous in surpride.
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I realized that that twenty eight thousand dollars was more
than I made in my first year as a full
time radio employee. When I graduated college in nine. The
first job that I took uh in in central Maine,
working at this little radio station in Gusta, Maine. I
made nineteen thousand dollars a year. So as I'm thinking
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in my mind, I was like, well, I started at
nineteen thousand dollars a year and I finished it a
hundred and sixty thousand. I was like, so, you know,
essentially I ten x my income over the course of
my career. I was like, well, certainly I could ten
x this twenty eight thousand dollars and make more than
I did in radio, and eventually I did that. But
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it's so important to have that perspective and focus on
the interpretation that you give to things, because it would
have been very easy for me to listen to my
family members who made me feel shameful and as if
that first year of income wasn't enough. And thank god
I had some people in my life. And then what
really drove it home for me is I talked to
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a friend of mine that I had done theater with
years and years before, and she asked how the business
was going, and when I told her what I made,
and she's like, well, that's more than I'm making in
this office job that I'm working at. And it gave
me that instant perspective and got me out of the
I'm not enough energy and got me focused on the
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gratitude for what I had created and kept me moving forward.
But it's very hard when our ego gets in the way,
particularly for those of you who are achievers and you
believe that you're only worth in the world is your
net worth. You know, when we confuse that with our
self worth and we think that our value is because
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of the income we make, or the amount of bitcoin
that we own, or the number on the online banking app.
Then you're always going to struggle. You know, you'll actually
replicate your old corporate income, living your dreams, but still
tell yourself that you're not enough, because it's always going
to be this energy of lack. So point number one
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here when we talk about why so many people don't
get started or go through years of starting and stopping
but never really making meaningful progress towards their goals, is
we have these internal and external forces that keep us stuck.
Number one, it's our own small beginnings in our life.
We take a look at our biography or our family lineage,
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and we can't ever dream bigger than that. It becomes
very difficult. For some people. It triggers fear that if
they do better than their family, that they'll actually be
rejected or pushed away from the family. But the second
thing is more of that external uh is the external influence,
which is our fear of how we're going to be
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perceived and will we be judged, and will we be
rejected by others. But the mindset shift that I want
to give you today to help you move beyond that,
when there is this fear of living your dream, and
I believe this to be true, you are already programmed
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to live your dream. Think about that for a second,
and let's look in nature. And acorn is pre programmed
from the time that it falls. It's pre programmed to
eventually grow into a magnificent oak tree. And embryo is
programmed to grow up into being a fully formed adult.
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A caterpillar is programmed to eventually uh go through chrysalis
and become a butterfly. The blueprint is programmed to eventually
become a house, And the same is true for you. Now,
some of you might be thinking, yeah, but Dan, that's nature.
Like who am I to think I'm really programmed to
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become a CEO of a company, or to become a
really well known podcast or or to become a famous actor.
Because you have to understand where your desires come from
in the first place. Your desires aren't really yours. They
were created and instilled into you by the same force
that created you. So just for the same reason that
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you would never stop and argue with me about well, Dan,
not all acorns are programmed to become oak trees, and
no dan like a caterpillar, it doesn't always become a butterfly. Well,
I guess if you step on it on a sidewalk,
then interrupt the natural flow of life. Yes, that could
be the case, but we don't really question these things
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in nature. We understand, you know that a rose is
programmed to bloom and to smell beautiful, but we don't
believe it for ourselves. And this is a little bit
of spiritual and metaphysical, but a great time of year
for it is we're here at the holiday season. The
same force in the world that created the oak tree,
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that created the caterpillars and the butterflies and the rose bush,
is the same thing that created you. You are one
with that divine energy. You are here is a physical
expression of the divine. The universe wants to express itself
through you. It wants to expand and grow through you.
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So of course you are given these dreams and desires
because you were biologically programmed from your conception to become thing.
You know. They talk about this in the Hindu text
that You Punishads, where they say whatever it is that
you desire, you're already that thing. That's the spiritual meaning
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here that we're talking about. So why do so many
people struggle to integrate this Because a lot of times
we're taught from an early age, especially depending on the
religious system that you grew up in, that the desires
of the heart are evil, uh that they're ungodly, that
wealth is bad, that sex is bad, that your creativity
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is bad, and that we're not here to create that
somehow we're here to serve this entity outside of us.
But the real thing that we come to understand in
the New Thought teachings is that there is no Yes,
that entity, the higher power is outside of us because
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God source universe is in everything, but it's also within us.
There is no separation. We are one with that divine energy. Therefore,
your success is assured. I'm gonna take a quick break,
and then I'm coming back with the four steps that
are gonna help you start your dreams even when it's scary.
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soul Coaching dot net. Okay, let's talk about the four
tips to help you get started on your dreams even
when you're ready to crap your pants. All right. The
first step is remembering to keep a sense of humility,
you know. And this gets into all the egoic stories
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and the fears that we talked about earlier around the
perceptions or will I be rejected if people see me
starting small? I told you about my you know, poor
mailing list where only two out of the seven people
on the mailing list opened my my initial messages and
they were both me from different email addresses. But had
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I not push through, if I've given that an interpretation
that dan, nobody cares about what you share, and nobody
really care is about this dream that you have and
you need to go back to what's safe and familiar.
I could have given that interpretation and I could have
walked away, but that fear of only having seven email addresses.
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Here I am six years later in a year where
I did national daytime TV talk shows, where I was
a guest on the Tamarain Hall Show, which has two
million viewers every single day, and that episode aired twice,
so you know, you could say that I could have
reached up to four million people there. I can get
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on a nationally syndicated radio show like the Elvis da
Ran Morning Show, which broadcast over ten million people every morning,
and those interviews live on in podcast form, where god
knows how many people could find it. I had to
have the humility to be the only person reading my
own content to now have the ability to read twelve
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to fourteen million people in a year. That's what I
would ask you to consider that the circumstances of where
you're starting today are not where you're going to be forever.
But you also need that faith, faith in yourself and
faith in some sort of higher power I think really helps.
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I'm not saying you have to believe in God or
an organized religion, but if you believe that the only
way that you're going to be able to create your
success is too single handedly push the boulder up the
hill by yourself, you'll get there. You will because what's
yours cannot be withheld from you. Right, You're not going
to miss it. But that's an exhausting way to go,
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and by the time you reach the top of the hill,
you might find yourself tumbling back down because your system crashes.
So it's really that faith in yourself, but faith in
a higher power are a universe that will support the
things that support life. So humility is the first step.
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The second thing though, when we talk about bringing your
dreams to reality even when you're afraid, is you need
a success plan, which we have to start looking at
wherever the gap is between where you're at now and
where you're trying to get to. What are the areas
where you need to skill up and become more knowledgeable.
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I've talked about this on the podcast before. When I
started coaching, the coaching part was easy for me. I
can sit with any client and you know, in the
span of an hour and especially over the span of
some hour long conversations in three to six months, completely
help people reprogram themselves for success, identify the hidden blocks,
and help them reach their dreams. Have done it time
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and time again. What I did not know when I
started out was where to go to find clients, how
to do online marketing, how to do podcast how to
um you know, create content on social media, how to
do webinars and free trainings. That was all this stuff
where I had to skill up. Um. One of these days,
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I'll tell you the story about the first ever webinar
I did and what a disaster that was. But that's
another story for another day. So really start getting clear.
You know, for those of you who want to get
out of debt and generate wealth, you might have to
start learning about investment strategies and where to put your
money so that it's growing for you when you're sleeping,
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for instance. Uh, those of you who want to lose weight,
it's it's probably you know, just learning to build a
meal plan that works for your body. But we want
you to start creating that success plan and identifying where
the places you need to scale up, which also means
that once you have the success plan, you need a
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setback plan. As personal growth or achieving your dreams is
not a linear journey. It doesn't mean that you're just
consistently just flying right up the top of the mountain.
There's gonna be days when you take a step forward
and then it feels like something notch, you off track,
and there's three steps back that you know, there's some
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external things going on with your family, or God forbid,
you get sick. We're seeing all the variants spread right now.
So you know things are going to happen because we're human.
But what is your plan when the circumstances of life
aren't meeting your expectations? What support do you have in place?
Do you have a coach, a mentor do you have
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a supportive community who will cheer you on and help
you get back up on the horse. It doesn't mean
that we're expecting to fail, I want to be very clear,
but we are expecting to encounter setbacks. Getting off track
is part of the journey, which means that you need
some sort of support plan in place to get back
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on track. And finally, step number four, uh, and this
isn't so much an action step as it is a
mindset shift is remembering that fear is not a reason
to quit. So many people are like, Dan, you know,
how do I build this next thing in my life
without wanting to vomit on myself when it's time to
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take action? Like? How do I do this without being afraid?
And I can't help you with that as a coach.
And you can go to the most famous coaches in
the world. You can go to Tony Robbins, you can
go to whoever they're not going to be able to
help you with that, because fear is a normal biological response.
And remember, when we're experiencing fear, all that is is
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a sign that we are done operating by the status quo,
we're done surviving, and we are taking some new action
that is taking us into uncharted territory, and it's going
to help us thrive instead of merely get by in life.
The human nervous system doesn't really care whether you're happy
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or not. That's not what the brain was desired to do.
What it's designed for is to give you certainty and
to keep you in a place of being prepared and
expecting what is next. Because the nervous system, for all
the the advanced thinking that we can do now, as
much as we've evolved as human beings, we've never evolved
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beyond fight or flight. So any sort of change to
our routine, the nervous system on some level thinks it's
going to kill us. If you continue to stay stuck
and a soul sucking job that under pays you what
you're worth. Well, the brain at least knows to expect that,
and it knows how you're going to cope with that.
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It knows that you're going to scrimp and save, or
that you can save coupon ones, or that you can
go without and maybe only eat two meals a day.
If you're in financial struggle, it will plan and in
no ways to work around that. What the brain doesn't
know is what do I do with all this wealth? Right?
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It has no frame of reference for that, and it
doesn't have a plan to manage those things, especially if
there is a subconscious part of the brain which pretty
much dictates how you're showing up in the world anyway,
that believes wealth is bad if it believes that wealth
means more people are going to want things from me,
if it means wealth means I'm going to turn into
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some sort of a whole and I won't be spiritual.
So the nervous system would much rather know what's going
to happen, even if the things that are going to
happen keep us in a place of struggle and frustration.
Then step into the unknown to take a step towards
our dreams. When it doesn't know what's going to happen there,
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you have to start to operate greater than your survival thinking,
and that's when fear comes in. You know, there's plenty
of cliches and personal growth about fear is actually a
compass leading you in the direction of where you should go.
And that's because the things that scare us are the
things that are helping us grow. It's getting us out
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of our survival response and helping us step into new expectations,
new standards, a new way of being in the world,
a new way of contributing and expressing ourselves to the world.
So fear and that regard is actually your friend. If
you're not feeling afraid, chances are you're not really doing
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much to push beyond your comfort zone. Those are your
four steps that are going to help you get started
on your dreams even when it's scary. Number one, keep
a sense of humility. Lead with a servant's heart, right,
just get worried about what can I give and what
can I offer to the world. Number two, you need
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a success plan, which means that you need some support
in your corner. You need to know the places where
you need to skill up to close the gap between
where you are and where you want to be. Number three,
you need a setback plan. You need systems of support
and accountability and immediate feedback in place when things aren't
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happening on your timeline or in the way that you imagine.
And number four, we want to keep this mindset shift
that fear is just a sign that you're done surviving
and you're ready to thrive. If this episode serves you,
could you please share it with a friend. You can
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me at c SC Dan Mason. And if you're so
inspired and you know that January you want to hit
the ground running that you are ready to create your
success plan, that you're ready to have support in place
to help you during any setback, if you need a
supportive community to help you navigate the fear of the unknown.
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If you'd like some more personalized support in the coming year,
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Go to Creative Soul Coaching dot net for all the info.
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I love you with all my heart. I appreciate you
being here. I hope be able wonderful holiday season, and
I'll talk to you next week. In the meantime, turn
down the volume on your negativity, turn up the volume
on your purpose so you can live life amplified.
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