January 17, 2017 • 11 mins
Dealing with death or the terminal illness of a loved one can often send us into a downward spiral of devastating grief. Sometimes this type of pain can literally paralyze and rob us of faith and hope. In this podcast I would like to acknowledge that and call upon the truth. There is no way around pain. There is only a way through it. If you are facing this most difficult of life's circumstances, you are not alone. You are on holy ground. Call on your faith at this moment and if you can't do that call on your friends. Know that I wish to be counted among them.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
So in addition to being on the radio every night,
I've decided that I want to do a podcast. I'm
going to do a podcast, at least one a week
for you with you, where we explore in a little
more depth some things we talk about on the year
at night. See on when I'm on the radio at night,
(00:23):
I can only talk for a few minutes because you know,
we have to play those songs which I love and
which are great. But there's so much more that I
want to say. There's so much more that I want
to share and explore with you. And so we're going
to be doing a podcast, maybe one a week, maybe
two or three a week, who knows, depends on how
inspired I am right now. I am inspired to talk
(00:46):
about the new year, about hopes and dreams and goals
and aspirations. And the folks at Twining's t have asked
if they could be the sponsor of our podcast. So
we've created this broadcast podcast. You can listen anytime you want.
(01:06):
It doesn't have to be at night, and you can
pause and stop the podcast and think about what we're
talking about. You can come back to it, you can
share it with friends, and I would invite you to
fix yourself a lovely cup of Twinings tea while we talk,
while we share, while we have this conversation. Okay, Twinings
Tea is delicious. It's got a history like you would
(01:31):
not believe. They traveled the world looking for the finest tea.
Is the finest herbs, the finest spices, the finest ingredients
to put together these delicious, wonderful, warming Twinings tea. So
thank you to Twinings Tea for being our sponsor to
(01:52):
the podcast. So the new year is upon us, this
new month, peace, joy, good health, happiness, universal wishes. Everybody
is thinking about. It's a new year, a clean slate,
an opportunity to begin again. And we ask you to
share some of your specific hopes and dreams and goals
(02:12):
for And Nita wrote to me and this just really
broke my heart. But um, I know many of you
will relate. Nita says, my husband has cancer. So my
hopes and dreams are for another moment, another day, another month,
(02:33):
another year with my love enjoying our life together moment
by moment, we are thankful for another year together. Nita,
Thank you for sharing that, Thank you for writing that.
Anyone who has loved a person who is critically ill,
(02:55):
seriously ill, or terminally ill, knows that feeling. And let's
be honest, we're all terminally ill. Every person born on
this earth will eventually die. But some people are told
sooner than others. They know that it's coming. That's that's
what a diagnosis is. A diagnosis like that where it's
(03:20):
like a head's up, this is coming. But for many
of us who have lost loved ones, we didn't get
the heads up. It was an accident, it was a
plane crash, it was an infection, something that happened that
you weren't prepared for. I know that feeling, Nita, of
(03:44):
praying for one more day, facing those excruciatingly beautiful but
numbered days. It's it's a holy time. It really is.
Is when you are walking through those treasured days with
(04:04):
someone you love, it's holy. It's like you shut the
world out, you really do. You shut the world out
and you focus on what really matters, and that's the
love that you share, the memories that you've created, the
conversations that you've had. You recognize, you are acutely aware,
(04:29):
like a not just a magnifying glass, but like a telescope,
like a powerful microscope. You are acutely aware of how
precious every moment is and what a gift every moment is,
and you become so enriched by letting your walls down
(04:54):
and letting that person all the way in, Because when
you know that time short, when you know that the
angels are one day going to come and take your
loved one home to Heaven, I hope you know that.
I hope you at least have that peace. When I
was young, before I made a commitment to God and
(05:17):
had faith, I lost my brother and I didn't know
where he was. I didn't have a belief system. I
wasn't raised with the belief system. I didn't have a
belief system, and I was so crushed, not knowing, not understanding,
not having any peace about what happened to my brother
(05:40):
and his young wife. They were in their twenties. After
I did a whole lot of reading and a whole
lot of exploring, and a whole lot of investigating into
a multiple multitude, I should say, of different belief systems,
I came back to where my brother had been all along.
(06:01):
My brother had a very strong faith. He and his
wife used to go to churches and sing and perform
and share their story. He had a very strong faith,
and he tried to share it with me dozens of times,
and I didn't want anything to do with what he
had to say. I thought he was being I thought
he had been brainwashed. I thought he had lost his backbone.
(06:24):
I thought that everything he was saying was contrary to
my very progressive thoughts. I was in my early twenties,
and I thought I knew it all. But after my
brother and his wife died and I started exploring different theologies,
different belief systems, I found myself right back where my
(06:45):
brother had been. I found my faith through losing my brother,
and I found that everything he said rang true in
my heart. Everything he had tried to tell me rang true.
And I asked God into my heart, and my faith
became the cornerstone of everything that I do. And in
(07:12):
finding that faith, I also found so much peace in
knowing where my brother and his wife were. And since then,
God has called my mom home, my dad home, my grandparents.
I became the oldest person in our immediate family when
I was thirty five. Thirty five years old, and I've
(07:32):
lost a child, I lost a son, but I have
that peace of knowing where my family is and knowing
that I will be with him one day. But when
you are walking through that process of caring for someone,
loving somebody who has been told there's there's no cure,
(07:54):
there's there's nothing more the doctors can do, and your
living moment by moment, hanging on to each moment. When
you are walking through that that process of watching someone
you love, whether it's your spouse, your partner, your child,
your parents, your best friend, when you are watching them battle,
(08:19):
using all their energy to just get through the day,
and you want to take away their pain. How many
of us have prayed God, just take it away and
put it on me, especially when it's your child. You
are so focused on how precious each and every moment is,
and it shows you how foolish the rest of life
(08:42):
can be. When you are holding the hand of someone
you love who you know is dying, suddenly you realize
it doesn't matter what kind of car you drive, or
if your hair is perfect or not, because there's his
fallen out, and you realize how much of our time
(09:03):
and energy is wasted, flushed down the toilet on foolishness.
When you are walking through that process, as Nita our
listener who wrote sharing her her gratitude for every day
with her husband who has cancer. When you are walking
(09:25):
through that process with someone you love, you realize that
all that matters is love. All that matters is love
and the moments that you share and the depth of
your connectedness to that other person. So, if that is
(09:46):
what you're going through, if you are facing this new
year and walking through that process with someone you love,
or maybe you're the one who's who's sick, maybe you're
the one that has the diagnosis and the doctors are
not giving a lot of hope. Please please let the
people in that you love. Let them all the way in,
(10:07):
even though you don't want them to hurt, even though
you want to protect them, even though you want to
be strong for them because you don't want them to
suffer with you, Let them in, Let them all the
way into your heart. I hope this podcast has touched
your heart given you encouragement for this new year as
(10:28):
we uh, as we stand in this first month, this
month of January and look forward to the months, the weeks,
the days ahead, I hope you have been encouraged, and
I hope you listen to my radio show every night.
I hope you visit my website, Delilah dot com and
look for more podcasts to come.
So in addition to being on the radio every night,
I've decided that I want to do a podcast. I'm
going to do a podcast, at least one a week
for you with you, where we explore in a little
more depth some things we talk about on the year
at night. See on when I'm on the radio at night,
(00:23):
I can only talk for a few minutes because you know,
we have to play those songs which I love and
which are great. But there's so much more that I
want to say. There's so much more that I want
to share and explore with you. And so we're going
to be doing a podcast, maybe one a week, maybe
two or three a week, who knows, depends on how
inspired I am right now. I am inspired to talk
(00:46):
about the new year, about hopes and dreams and goals
and aspirations. And the folks at Twining's t have asked
if they could be the sponsor of our podcast. So
we've created this broadcast podcast. You can listen anytime you want.
(01:06):
It doesn't have to be at night, and you can
pause and stop the podcast and think about what we're
talking about. You can come back to it, you can
share it with friends, and I would invite you to
fix yourself a lovely cup of Twinings tea while we talk,
while we share, while we have this conversation. Okay, Twinings
Tea is delicious. It's got a history like you would
(01:31):
not believe. They traveled the world looking for the finest tea.
Is the finest herbs, the finest spices, the finest ingredients
to put together these delicious, wonderful, warming Twinings tea. So
thank you to Twinings Tea for being our sponsor to
(01:52):
the podcast. So the new year is upon us, this
new month, peace, joy, good health, happiness, universal wishes. Everybody
is thinking about. It's a new year, a clean slate,
an opportunity to begin again. And we ask you to
share some of your specific hopes and dreams and goals
(02:12):
for And Nita wrote to me and this just really
broke my heart. But um, I know many of you
will relate. Nita says, my husband has cancer. So my
hopes and dreams are for another moment, another day, another month,
(02:33):
another year with my love enjoying our life together moment
by moment, we are thankful for another year together. Nita,
Thank you for sharing that, Thank you for writing that.
Anyone who has loved a person who is critically ill,
(02:55):
seriously ill, or terminally ill, knows that feeling. And let's
be honest, we're all terminally ill. Every person born on
this earth will eventually die. But some people are told
sooner than others. They know that it's coming. That's that's
what a diagnosis is. A diagnosis like that where it's
(03:20):
like a head's up, this is coming. But for many
of us who have lost loved ones, we didn't get
the heads up. It was an accident, it was a
plane crash, it was an infection, something that happened that
you weren't prepared for. I know that feeling, Nita, of
(03:44):
praying for one more day, facing those excruciatingly beautiful but
numbered days. It's it's a holy time. It really is.
Is when you are walking through those treasured days with
(04:04):
someone you love, it's holy. It's like you shut the
world out, you really do. You shut the world out
and you focus on what really matters, and that's the
love that you share, the memories that you've created, the
conversations that you've had. You recognize, you are acutely aware,
(04:29):
like a not just a magnifying glass, but like a telescope,
like a powerful microscope. You are acutely aware of how
precious every moment is and what a gift every moment is,
and you become so enriched by letting your walls down
(04:54):
and letting that person all the way in, Because when
you know that time short, when you know that the
angels are one day going to come and take your
loved one home to Heaven, I hope you know that.
I hope you at least have that peace. When I
was young, before I made a commitment to God and
(05:17):
had faith, I lost my brother and I didn't know
where he was. I didn't have a belief system. I
wasn't raised with the belief system. I didn't have a
belief system, and I was so crushed, not knowing, not understanding,
not having any peace about what happened to my brother
(05:40):
and his young wife. They were in their twenties. After
I did a whole lot of reading and a whole
lot of exploring, and a whole lot of investigating into
a multiple multitude, I should say, of different belief systems,
I came back to where my brother had been all along.
(06:01):
My brother had a very strong faith. He and his
wife used to go to churches and sing and perform
and share their story. He had a very strong faith,
and he tried to share it with me dozens of times,
and I didn't want anything to do with what he
had to say. I thought he was being I thought
he had been brainwashed. I thought he had lost his backbone.
(06:24):
I thought that everything he was saying was contrary to
my very progressive thoughts. I was in my early twenties,
and I thought I knew it all. But after my
brother and his wife died and I started exploring different theologies,
different belief systems, I found myself right back where my
(06:45):
brother had been. I found my faith through losing my brother,
and I found that everything he said rang true in
my heart. Everything he had tried to tell me rang true.
And I asked God into my heart, and my faith
became the cornerstone of everything that I do. And in
(07:12):
finding that faith, I also found so much peace in
knowing where my brother and his wife were. And since then,
God has called my mom home, my dad home, my grandparents.
I became the oldest person in our immediate family when
I was thirty five. Thirty five years old, and I've
(07:32):
lost a child, I lost a son, but I have
that peace of knowing where my family is and knowing
that I will be with him one day. But when
you are walking through that process of caring for someone,
loving somebody who has been told there's there's no cure,
(07:54):
there's there's nothing more the doctors can do, and your
living moment by moment, hanging on to each moment. When
you are walking through that that process of watching someone
you love, whether it's your spouse, your partner, your child,
your parents, your best friend, when you are watching them battle,
(08:19):
using all their energy to just get through the day,
and you want to take away their pain. How many
of us have prayed God, just take it away and
put it on me, especially when it's your child. You
are so focused on how precious each and every moment is,
and it shows you how foolish the rest of life
(08:42):
can be. When you are holding the hand of someone
you love who you know is dying, suddenly you realize
it doesn't matter what kind of car you drive, or
if your hair is perfect or not, because there's his
fallen out, and you realize how much of our time
(09:03):
and energy is wasted, flushed down the toilet on foolishness.
When you are walking through that process, as Nita our
listener who wrote sharing her her gratitude for every day
with her husband who has cancer. When you are walking
(09:25):
through that process with someone you love, you realize that
all that matters is love. All that matters is love
and the moments that you share and the depth of
your connectedness to that other person. So, if that is
(09:46):
what you're going through, if you are facing this new
year and walking through that process with someone you love,
or maybe you're the one who's who's sick, maybe you're
the one that has the diagnosis and the doctors are
not giving a lot of hope. Please please let the
people in that you love. Let them all the way in,
(10:07):
even though you don't want them to hurt, even though
you want to protect them, even though you want to
be strong for them because you don't want them to
suffer with you, Let them in, Let them all the
way into your heart. I hope this podcast has touched
your heart given you encouragement for this new year as
(10:28):
we uh, as we stand in this first month, this
month of January and look forward to the months, the weeks,
the days ahead, I hope you have been encouraged, and
I hope you listen to my radio show every night.
I hope you visit my website, Delilah dot com and
look for more podcasts to come.
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