Dating App Coach Erika Ettin @ALittleNudge Shares Pick Up Line Tips

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Okay, I need to bring in the back room. Mikayla.

Speaker 2 (00:10):
This might be interesting for you because you've got that
real interesting uh wow opening line from the guy that
was creepy and yeah, I think made people not want
to be on some.

Speaker 1 (00:21):
Still thinking about that line and the line he said one.

Speaker 3 (00:28):
If you're regularly taking birth control, you should match with me.

Speaker 1 (00:31):
That's what the guy said as an opening line on
Hinge with people. Yeah, it was Hinge Hinge. Well, Erica etin.
You might want to meet her, Mikaela. I'm excited. She's
an online dating coach.

Speaker 2 (00:47):
Everybody's excited. Hello, online dating coach, Erica ed.

Speaker 1 (00:50):
How you doing.

Speaker 3 (00:52):
I'm great, I'm glad you found me.

Speaker 1 (00:55):
Well, we listen this guy.

Speaker 2 (00:57):
We have a couple of staff members here who are
single and looking and are on different dating apps, and
it's really astonishing how tricky it can be and how
difficult it can be for starters. One of the pickup
lines that we heard here from a guy that was
reached out to Mikaela on Hinge was just weird and
creepy and you know, kind of made her run the

(01:18):
opposite direction.

Speaker 1 (01:20):
So do you what do you? What do you do?
What is your work?

Speaker 3 (01:24):
Okay, so a good question. So I'm an online dating coach.
I help people with all aspects of online dating. So
think your profile, your pictures, the messaging, what do you
say all the way to the point of the first date,
because that is where people struggle. And you know, it's
not rocket science on how to send a good message
or not, but when it comes down to it, people
seem to lose common sense sometimes. And so I guide

(01:46):
people through that process because I really just want to
get them on dates.

Speaker 2 (01:49):
And is the biggest or most important thing to do
out of the gate, just coming up with that initial
way of connecting.

Speaker 3 (01:58):
Yeah, I put people on what I call how are
you cleansed? I don't allow hey, how are you? How's
your day? How's it going? All you can do is
read the profile, find something anything in the profile you
want to comment on, and ask a question about it.
So like, for example, I just wrote for someone this morning.
A guy said he was a pilot, and as you know,
I suggested to her to write, were you one of

(02:19):
those kids? Who was always playing with Foy airplanes. Like,
that's cute. It shows that you read the profile and
it gets the conversation started.

Speaker 2 (02:28):
I like that, because how are you doing what was
your daily I'm not so benign, right, But here's the thing, So, Perkat,
let's say that one of us has your assistance and
your expertise helping us along.

Speaker 1 (02:39):
Will I be a worst performer without you?

Speaker 2 (02:43):
I worry that, like, Okay, well my game's going to
go not as strong once you aren't with me.

Speaker 3 (02:48):
Well, welso, way you can learn from everything I do.
So I do I consorder my work. So for some people,
I do their work with them, which is coaching. So
they'll actually get on a zoom with me. They'll share
their screen and I will watch them swipe and I
will give very direct feedback when we're doing that. Why
are you picking this person? Why aren't you picking this person? Right?
And then for some people, as crazy as this sounds,

(03:10):
they do hire me to actually do the legwork of
the online dating for them. They want to go on
the dates that they don't want to do that work.
And so many people get stuck in the you know,
in the texting game, and they can't actually get on
the date. I try to keep that conversation as short
as possible because ultimately I just want to give people opportunities.
I want to put them on dates. So if they're smart,

(03:31):
even when we're working together, they take all of the
tools that I provide. I give a lot of tips
and tricks, like how to you know what words to
say to get to the date faster. If they use
all of those on their own, great.

Speaker 2 (03:44):
And you must check in with people when there's success.
It's got to feel pretty good if you help them out.

Speaker 3 (03:50):
It does feel pretty good. The most frustrating part of
my job, though, is that people love telling me when
they go on bad dates, and I won't really hear
the goods. So I encourage people to tell me the
good But if I'm going to give you one tip
or trip or anything. If your conversation is taking too
long on the dating apps and you just want to
get to the date, just say to the other person, Hey,
I'm really enjoying our conversation. Where should we go from here?

(04:12):
You will have a mob where should we go?

Speaker 2 (04:14):
That's a good thing for us to use in our
meetings sometimes because they go long as.

Speaker 3 (04:18):
Well through all of that.

Speaker 1 (04:22):
That's a great it's a great way of saying it.
I love Eric is here.

Speaker 2 (04:27):
You can go on Instagram at a little nudge at
a little nudge on Instagram, and she can help you
out when it comes to the dating uh mikail, Hopefully
you glean a little something there. I think somebody did. Oh,
I know, I wanted to ask you. We liked this one.
This is when we saw ranked as a great opening
line on a dating app. Okay, what's your go to appetizer?

(04:48):
And when are we splitting it this weekend? Is that
too forward?

Speaker 3 (04:52):
I love it. It's it's a horrible it's a little forward.
And I would only write that if somebody actually mentioned
food in their profiles. Again, I mean, you want to
comment on something someone has written because it shows that
you actually read the profile. But what you just said
is clever and cute and still better than how's it going?

Speaker 2 (05:11):
Yes, thank you for coming on. I think we all
feel better about ourself right now. Okay, you take care
and good luck. I think the appetizer line people should
write it down and use it.

Speaker 1 (05:19):
I love you, I love it.

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