July 30, 2025 • 40 mins
On today's show: Sisanie confesses to keeping a snack stash hidden away, a listener calls in because his wife has a crush on a coworker and another listener shares about her experience on a 7 week course to find her forever person. Playing NOW on the On Air With Ryan Seacrest Podcast!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
From Hollywood to You air on Air with a Ryan Seacrest.
Speaker 2 (00:09):
Is Kiss FM. So think about which type you are
and ask or a guess person explain it and why
it matters.
Speaker 1 (00:16):
Okay, So have you ever noticed how some people ask
for what they need while others are a little bit
more passive aggressive. Maybe they drop hints and they just
hope you catch on. Yes, yeah, okay. So there's a
difference between them, and it's it all goes down to
the way you were raised and the families that you
come from. So either come from an ask family or
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you come from a guess family. So and ask families,
people say exactly what they want and the other person
simply just says yes or no. It's kind of more
of a blunt like, hey can you help me move Saturday?
Straight to the point no guessing involved. Yeah, okay, now
I like it a guess family. The director requests feel
too blunt for them, so they like to more hint
(01:00):
what they want. I'm moving this weekend. It's gonna be
a nightmare, which I exactly helping. The other person kind
of like comes in and offers to help. Neither style
I guess is right or wrong, but it's just so
interesting that there's two types of people.
Speaker 2 (01:18):
There's only one right way to do it, and that
is ask. Be direct. You want something, You've got to
ask specifically for it. Don't expect other people to connect
the dots. And frankly, if you're a guest person and
you're saying all that stuff about the moving, I'm definitely
not jumping in. I'm definitely not gonna connect that dot.
Speaker 1 (01:35):
I know exactly. I can't deal with the passive aggressiveness
like that just doesn't flow with me. I'm a very direct,
I'll ask type of person, but I only ask if
it's really needed. I am I almost hate asking for help.
That makes sense, I understand that.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
But I will tell you I was born and raised
with a father, a mother and a father, but a
father that is and was a lawyer, okay, offense attorney,
all right. Specificity and directness is how we were raised.
If you didn't complete the thought with absolute specificity, then
(02:14):
he would say, well, you didn't say that.
Speaker 1 (02:17):
You said, oh my gosh.
Speaker 2 (02:19):
Said can I go out this weekend? You didn't say
can I go out Sunday at four pm? With Barton
and Mitch? So you didn't ask the right question. Ryan.
Oh my gosh, I was on the stand every day.
Speaker 1 (02:30):
Oh wow.
Speaker 2 (02:32):
So are you a guest person, Tanya or now?
Speaker 3 (02:36):
I honestly think I'm a hybrid because sometimes I feel
like I can be very direct, but then sometimes I
also feel like I not. It's not passive, but sometimes
when you're people pleaser, you don't want to You don't
want to impose on anyone, you know.
Speaker 2 (02:48):
That's why we don't. I'm like Sisy, I don't ask
for anything, but I did. I would exactly. You were
raised a guest person and now you're an ask person.
Speaker 4 (02:57):
Yes, I come from a guest family, but I feel
like over the years I've.
Speaker 5 (03:01):
Morphed into an ask person.
Speaker 1 (03:03):
Now.
Speaker 2 (03:04):
Yeah, I think it serves one better when you can
be specific. If you want something, absolutely all right, ask yourself.
Are you an askeror a guess? Kiss? FM? So someone
who was?
Speaker 6 (03:16):
You know?
Speaker 2 (03:16):
People tell me things, and I believe it as law.
Some guy was telling me the other day Alejandro is
his name, and he was telling me that sharks only
eat ten thousand times in their lifetime, and that they
really don't want to eat you because they don't want
to wait, they don't love you, and they don't want
to waste one of their meals on you. But in
yurky water, and you're bigger than them generally, and in
(03:38):
murky water, they may think that your arm is a fish,
and that's when they might eat you. And I only
bring this up because you guys are surfing now in
the ocean, right, Saysney Antonia.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
It was actually really fun. I was a little do
it together. We did it together.
Speaker 2 (03:51):
Yeah, it's going on.
Speaker 1 (03:52):
It had been I haven't been on a surfboard in
twenty years and so it was a hot minute before
I was on one.
Speaker 2 (03:59):
How did you coordinate a surf lesson together behind my back?
Speaker 1 (04:02):
It wasn't behind your back. And actually, I'm pretty sure
you were invited. Yeah, I'm pretty sure you got the
calendar and Beata, our boss orchestrated this whole thing saying
that because we're having Wingo Tango in Huntington Beach, we
should all go down to Huntington Beach and really, yes,
put ourselves to the environment and chewy everybody.
Speaker 7 (04:22):
Did I miss all the stuff I don't want to do,
So it was a lot of fun.
Speaker 2 (04:33):
That was the best.
Speaker 1 (04:35):
No, Yeah, well I'll take it definitely.
Speaker 3 (04:39):
Okay, So I like got up and my guy, my instructor,
was like, so, like, you did so amazing, and I
was like, I just don't want to get my hair wet,
so I just wanted to stay on the board like
no matter what, come on and no. And I was
like thinking I was so good because I was like,
I can ski and I can snowboard.
Speaker 1 (04:55):
And then I watched the video that they took of me.
Speaker 3 (04:57):
Doing the surfing, and I was so bad, and my
instructor was like holding onto my board like.
Speaker 1 (05:02):
He was like swimming with me. That's why you felt
like you were so in control.
Speaker 2 (05:06):
Well, you think you're standing up straight, you're bent over.
You think you're going for minutes to.
Speaker 3 (05:10):
Go for me?
Speaker 1 (05:11):
Yes, yeah, I know. I felt the same way when
I look back at my videos. By the way, I
was like when I was on the board, I was like,
oh my gosh, it's like riding a bike. And then
I look at them as I'm like a grandma on
a board.
Speaker 2 (05:23):
I got to give credit to surfers who are just
they're dedicated to getting out there and getting those waves
first thing early in the morning, whether it's cold or
cloudy or whatever it is, They're out there getting those
waves and thank you for changing on the side of
the road to make me feel inadequate about my body. Yeah,
I appreciate it.
Speaker 1 (05:39):
They change and they get into a towel like it's
very part. Always catch them.
Speaker 2 (05:43):
I don't know what it is with my face. I
always catch somebody changing clothes on the side of the road.
Speaker 1 (05:47):
You have to do it, though, you know. I drove
home in a towel and my just my bean suit.
All the way back to La I was Jojo at surfing.
I missed Jojo. I had to leave early because I
had to go read to the kids in first grade.
Speaker 2 (06:00):
Anybody scared of the sharks or not?
Speaker 1 (06:03):
We were like, waste deep water.
Speaker 2 (06:05):
Doesn't matter, sharks swimming wastep water. There is no chance
it was Did you post.
Speaker 1 (06:10):
Anything I sent? I posted some We can actually someone
right now. We texted you.
Speaker 2 (06:15):
Okay, I'll read the text in the spray here. Uh,
surf lessons? Are we going to surf? Oh? My gosh, wahy,
who's the guy pushing into that bulk.
Speaker 1 (06:26):
That's the instructor that gives us a little hoist?
Speaker 2 (06:28):
Oh you were up? You're up that? Yeah, you guys
are right. You're in like one inch of water, not
deep at all. What's out of the cargo ship coming
in behind you? There's like cargo ships nearby.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
Yeah, by the way, Ryan. I went to go read
to the first graders and I had to bring five books,
and one of them was your Book to Make Gleams,
And they loved it, like because it was a brand
new book to them. All the other books they were
like being rowdy and like calling out. They're calling out,
and this one was the only book where they were
all wyat and their little eyeballs were so into it
(07:02):
and it was the cutest thing ever.
Speaker 2 (07:04):
Thank you for doing that. The make believers at a
bookstore near you. Yes, no green Eggs in ham No.
I asked you a questions, why don't two point seven
to see would you ever try and match make your kids?
Or would your parents ever try and set you up?
But I only set you up with somebody that they
know the parents of, but actually do it through Is
(07:26):
it a matchmaking app?
Speaker 1 (07:28):
Like the apps like hinge bumble whatever, you give you
give your your phone to your parent and say you
know what you swipe for me? You try to pick
the match, so.
Speaker 2 (07:38):
Hold on for you. For example, I would give my
mom tinder, yes, and she would pick the person for
me and then she call and go, hey, I set
you up with this person. You're gonna go out least. Yeah,
don't judge. You have to judge the apps. It's about
the person.
Speaker 1 (07:51):
Not everyone judges tender.
Speaker 2 (07:53):
Why does everyone judge tender?
Speaker 1 (07:55):
Kind of got like that.
Speaker 2 (07:55):
By the way, I have a funny story. So I
was talking to my doctor about a grinder, a coffee beat. O, man, okay,
where is this? Okay? And I don't have your cell
phone number, and so the next day, this weird number
comes in. I don't recognize the number, and you know,
(08:16):
you can read the first couple of sentences of the text.
All I saw was grinder, And I was like, is
this grinder trying to like solicit me?
Speaker 1 (08:26):
Like they're like, hey, do you want to.
Speaker 2 (08:31):
I forgot coffee grinder. I thought it was Grinder the
app trying to reach out. Turns out, is my doctor
recommending a coffee grinder. Oh that's so good. Would you
see how one could be confused?
Speaker 6 (08:41):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (08:41):
Which one did he recommend?
Speaker 2 (08:42):
By the way, I can't remember anyway, Can you explain
what parents are doing and how they're doing this?
Speaker 6 (08:49):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (08:50):
So it's kind of stepped from a few viral stories
that have gone all over social This twenty seven year
old named Sdi moved back home after a really bad breakup,
and her mom decided to help her get back out
there by literally taking over the dating apps and she
went full matchmaker. She even bought the hinge plus account,
which I didn't even know that you could pay to
get a better hinge And then her daughter was all
(09:11):
for it, trusting her mom's opinion, really kind of just
stepping into this and starting to go on dates that
her mom was choosing for her. And then they basically
shared this and there's more parents and there's more stories
out there of parents doing this now and as a mom, like,
I would love nothing more in a few years to
like match my kids up. I mean, we kind of
do it now. We can't do it now we have friends.
(09:33):
They were like, oh my god, they're going to marry
each other one day and then we'll be in laws.
Speaker 2 (09:37):
All right, Well, let's not wait, Mikaitla, you're close with
your mom, you're of dating age. Let's get her in
on this, right. I've talked to her before.
Speaker 1 (09:43):
Kayla, would you do that? But trust for my mom.
Speaker 5 (09:48):
You don't know that.
Speaker 1 (09:49):
Come on, you know what, In all, my sister matched
Michael and I up. And my sister is very different
than my My sister's very mommish, Like she's eight years
older than me, and she was always like that bossy
mom feeling of his sister, different than mom. And I'm
I'm happy that she matched us.
Speaker 2 (10:06):
My point, you're welcome, Mark, I'm gonna give you a segment.
Call my mother and ask her she wants to do
this for me? Oh, okay, I can do it today, tomorrow,
any day. Schedule book her, schedule her, call money, this
idea to her and see. I want to know what
she would look for for me.
Speaker 1 (10:19):
That's sort of like the key qualities that she wants
for you.
Speaker 2 (10:23):
Okay, that's got's coming up one day. I don't know, later, today, tomorrow,
this week, we will get so we.
Speaker 1 (10:28):
Would get Connie's bone.
Speaker 2 (10:30):
We understand how works, Toney. We've been through all of it.
We know we got it. We don't need to repeat it.
Speaker 1 (10:34):
Well, we're gonna have to help her. I'm sure she's
to do it.
Speaker 2 (10:37):
Yeah, Well, let's just talk to her and let's get her.
But I don't know what she'd even look for exactly
start there. It's kiss FM. Don't google this or you
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(11:03):
Scammers buy ads to appear at the top of search
results that have fake links and numbers, so you contact
the scammers instead of the company pay for so they
pay for them to come up to the top, to
rise to the top.
Speaker 1 (11:15):
Really good knowledge.
Speaker 2 (11:16):
That's why the cyber experts say, don't be fooled again
for me once for me again, don't fool me again.
Speaker 1 (11:21):
Yeah, for me once, shame on you, for me twice.
Speaker 2 (11:25):
There's a quote anyway, Uh several mark you got what
I was saying, right.
Speaker 6 (11:28):
I do? Yes?
Speaker 2 (11:30):
What was I saying?
Speaker 1 (11:31):
You're saying for me?
Speaker 6 (11:32):
Once?
Speaker 1 (11:32):
For me once? Shame on you. No for me twice,
shame on me because I trusted you again.
Speaker 2 (11:38):
I take George W.
Speaker 6 (11:39):
Bush.
Speaker 2 (11:39):
George W.
Speaker 1 (11:39):
Bush, nobody got except for mar Yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:45):
Somebody got it. I didn't even get it all right,
but somebody got it. Uh, for me once my dad.
Speaker 8 (11:53):
Uh.
Speaker 2 (11:54):
Some of the most important thing this is the quote, guys,
some of the most important things you'll.
Speaker 3 (12:00):
Ever do.
Speaker 2 (12:02):
Will never be seen or acknowledged, but do them anyway.
It's why we come to work. Yep. He kiss Los
Angeles is number one at music station Seacrest Sicony, We're
gonna hit the headlines right now. Then I've got some
free money. This FM headlines with yes.
Speaker 4 (12:21):
So.
Speaker 1 (12:22):
A tsunami advisory is still in effect for the southern
California coast after that eight point eight magnitude earthquake hit Russia.
LA County Board of Supervisors will consider an ordinance banning
law enforcement officers from hiding their identities while on duty.
Speaker 9 (12:39):
Westlake Village is the latest city to ban the use
of e bikes and electric scooters from all sidewalks, parks, trails,
and fields. And Victoria's Secret announced that fashion show will
in fact return again this fall.
Speaker 2 (12:55):
Cheating. I mean we're talking about on Ryan's roses, but
this is real life, gee in Ruby's life. Yes, cheating.
Ruby just got married. Yes, Ruby married to David. Yes,
and now we're talking about cheating. I know what happened,
but it's not me. I know, but she did just
get married and she's talking about cheating.
Speaker 1 (13:16):
It's all around us. It doesn't just stop because it's yet.
Speaker 2 (13:20):
Okay, go ahead, Ruby, it's a genuine question.
Speaker 5 (13:22):
So there's this couple I'm not that close to.
Speaker 4 (13:24):
They're kind of like acquaintances, but we do see each
other at events or parties, that sort of thing. I
ran into this guy's ex at a restaurant in Lincoln
Heights and she basically was spilling the tea that he
is still in contact with her and that he still
texts her. So he still texts his ex even though
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he is in a current relationship.
Speaker 2 (13:49):
Is he still with her, like getting together with her,
like cheating physically?
Speaker 4 (13:54):
He's trying to still see her, but she keeps trying
to avoid like texting him back.
Speaker 5 (13:59):
She even changed like her number. He's still hitting her up.
So it's like very.
Speaker 2 (14:05):
Juicy yees. So here's me. You said you don't know
them that well, right, other people's problem, bro, I know.
Speaker 4 (14:14):
But you know you feel bad because, like as an
old girl, you want to tell the other.
Speaker 1 (14:18):
Girl, but then you know that you're gonnamous note like
they did on the Jersey Shore.
Speaker 2 (14:24):
I think a lot of life lessons on the Jersey Shore.
Now so many life lessons.
Speaker 1 (14:29):
Yes, that was Sammy and what Ronnie broke up?
Speaker 2 (14:32):
I do think I understand you know, you carry the guilt,
but it's like something for you not to get involved with.
Speaker 5 (14:38):
I know, but the anonymous letter is not about it.
I'm telling you.
Speaker 1 (14:44):
No, she confronted him, they broke up. Sammy's much better
off now, she's way happier. I don't know about Ronnie.
Speaker 2 (14:50):
So would you do that?
Speaker 4 (14:53):
Tony wouldn't do that. I would feel like way too
much like guilt. But maybe someone I know would do that.
Speaker 2 (15:00):
Maybe somebody listening right now who knows the couple? Yeah,
talking about them. Gosh to think you ever broken up
with somebody and asked them if they cheated on you?
Speaker 6 (15:10):
I have.
Speaker 1 (15:12):
Why No, I don't want to know.
Speaker 5 (15:15):
Did you ever get a yes?
Speaker 6 (15:16):
No?
Speaker 2 (15:16):
So they're lying or they're not. But never got a yes? Okay,
actually yeah, I never got a yes.
Speaker 1 (15:23):
But I asked a question like in that moment, or like.
Speaker 2 (15:26):
Like months later, I say, by the way, cheat on me?
No exactly, I'm gonna say yes now as actually no.
Five one two seven, Irvine, n Hod, Good morning in Irvine.
How are you.
Speaker 6 (15:46):
Doing good? How are you doing today?
Speaker 2 (15:48):
Doing well? Thanks for asking you? So you need some
advice here?
Speaker 6 (15:52):
Yeah, hopefully you guys can can help me out.
Speaker 2 (15:55):
What's the topic, bro?
Speaker 6 (15:57):
Yeah, so little background on it. In a position at
work that has never been established before, one of a kind,
and just had my first quarter review went well. Any
metrics set were exceeded, and when the topic came up
of hey, doing a great job, would like my salary
(16:17):
to reflect that, looking for an increase, things got kicked
down the road. And this is in the first time,
and I'm looking for a way where it's not too pushy,
but where deadline of a timeframe can be set instead
of it being a topic for a later discussion.
Speaker 2 (16:34):
Oh, so there's a fine line. There's an art to this,
to being direct but not pushy exactly. Yeah, how would
you approach it? In your mind? What do you think
the approach is?
Speaker 6 (16:47):
Well, I came into it kind of guns blazing. I
knew where I stood in terms of the metrics are
supposed to hit and where I fell. And so one
of the aspects that is bringing in more money, right,
more money could come for revenue, and so I was
beyond it by about twenty six percent, told them for
my next quarter goals, I want to go past that
raised by about another thirteen percent, and for it would
(17:09):
be looking for an eleven percent raise, which would put
me out where I want to be. And well, that's
not something where it would take away money from the company.
Speaker 2 (17:17):
It's but it woul incentivize you to continue to grow.
So what's wrong with what you just said to me?
To your boss?
Speaker 1 (17:23):
The bosses like dodging him.
Speaker 6 (17:25):
So there's a couple of years of it. And so
when I took it to my direct boss, it was
something where hey, we have to take it to the
owners executive managements get their feedback. When I asked them,
can we arrange that meeting, it's always we'll get back
to you. They're busy, they're not time for it. When
I try to just reach out to them directly, it's
always something, hey, we'll schedule out of time. And when
I ask, okay, when's going to be a good time.
(17:45):
If I put something just directly on their calendar, it's
always postponed or tentative. Where that conversation, yeah, it's never happened.
Speaker 2 (17:52):
Yeah, it's lame. It's annoying. So, first of all. I
think presenting the data was fantastic. Yeah, and you know number,
their return is bigger, return should be bigger. That all
makes sense. I don't like the lameness, as Tanya said,
of the sketchiness of not locking down a date. So
can you say, can we lock down or could we
please get this appointment or conversation.
Speaker 1 (18:16):
We're all busy, but let's get it at the end
of the month.
Speaker 2 (18:20):
I think you need to give a reasonable deadline in
a finessed way, by the end of the month, in
two weeks. I think at the end of the month
actually is a fair way to say.
Speaker 5 (18:29):
It's the beginning.
Speaker 2 (18:33):
Yeah, just say it's the beginning of the month. It's perfect,
like by the end of the month. So you're doing everything.
You know what you're doing, and I love it, and
you should get.
Speaker 6 (18:40):
This, I hope. So I want to. I feel like
I deserve it and trying to. It's always the thing, right,
you work hard and you want it to show. Where
I just wanted to show it's not increasing anything from
them because I'm earning them more, and I just think
it would be fair.
Speaker 2 (18:55):
Authenticity. Your authenticity is what's going to get that for
you give them the month to set the meeting and
see what happens in Good luck to you, bro, happy.
Speaker 6 (19:04):
For you, Thank you. I really appreciate it. Good luck, good.
Speaker 2 (19:07):
Luck, bye bye. I mean I've had that had to
me so many times where it's like it's just you know, yeah,
it happens. It's going to be. It's gonna be summer.
We'll do it in the fall. What the fault, It's
going to be summer. So what you don't work in
the summer, it's gonna be. It's gonna be like October
twelfth Man, the holidays are coming. Can we do the
beginning of the year. No, I cannot do it beginning now.
It's wrong with you kicking the can. Do you hide?
(19:30):
If you're being honest with me, do you have a
little hidden secret from your significant other? Do you hide
anything from me?
Speaker 1 (19:41):
This wasn't me trying to hide it. I wasn't trying
to keep it a secret.
Speaker 2 (19:45):
Do you have a stash of something you don't want
them to find?
Speaker 1 (19:48):
I didn't not not want them to find it. Like
it was just like I think it didn't even cross
my mind as like, oh I'm being sneaky. It just
was like I'm going to keep this in my car,
and that's how life is.
Speaker 2 (20:01):
Well what happened, Hey, So.
Speaker 1 (20:02):
You know we started going to the farmer's market more,
you know, consecutively, consistently, consistently than I can not think
I'll take it either, And I visit the nut guy
and I you know, load up on the nuts for
the week. Well, the other day, Mike and I were
going to this movie premiere and we were really excited
for it, but we weren't going to eat until after
(20:22):
the reception. Was like after the movie, which is going
to be late, like nine, So it's like six point
thirty right now, and we're hungry, and we know that
all they're going to have with the movies is just popcorn.
I love popcorn. So I was like, well, I'm like,
I have some of the lemon almonds in here, and
also like the medley. And he's like what it was
like this like rice cracker medley. I don't know that
(20:44):
has like dried peas and dried I don't know it.
It's delicious, And so I keep it in my car
for this exact reason. When it's an emergency situation and
we need a handful of almonds or a handful of whatever,
and he was very taken aback that I had that's
in the car versus in the pantry, because he said
he was looking for the almonds the other day and
couldn't find them.
Speaker 3 (21:03):
Keeping the lemon almonds for yourself is so rude, because those.
Speaker 2 (21:08):
Are anything from the farmer's market people to yourself in
your car. Yeah, it's horting because that's a special occasion
going to a farmer's market and getting one of the
things that come from the farmer's list. That's horning.
Speaker 1 (21:18):
Here's the thing. Michael eats so fast that if this
was in the pantry, that bag of almonds would be
gone by now because he eats it like twenty times
too fine. But I didn't even think of it like that.
I was just like, oh, I'm going to bring these
and have them in the car for everybody, which I
was clearly sharing with him.
Speaker 2 (21:36):
These are these are fulfilled people problems. Okay, if you
look by yourself like me and you're single, you actually
hide stuff from yourself too high to get to to reach.
So come over someday and reach for my stuff. What
I can't even get to. Dang, what are you hiding
from your partner? Ask yourself that today.
Speaker 1 (21:52):
Yeah, I guess you should.
Speaker 2 (21:53):
My dad used to hide wine in the trunk. In
the trunk yep, why side wine in the trunk because
he didn't want my mom to see that he bought
some wine it wasn't supposed to buy.
Speaker 1 (22:02):
Would it stay good there?
Speaker 2 (22:04):
No, that was the problem. He learned that the old
fashioned labat the heat of the Pougio trunk.
Speaker 3 (22:10):
I was at the hair salon the other day and
this woman that was checking out before me asked if
she could pay for her hair on Venmocus.
Speaker 1 (22:17):
She didn't want her husband to see the bill. I
was like, yeah, hiding right there. Yeah, there's different accounts
for that.
Speaker 2 (22:25):
Well, there you go. There you go on air with
Ryan Seacrest. Let me grab Jesse in North Hollywood, Jesse
and no, thanks for listening to it. So your wife
has a crush on a co worker. Yeah, and how
did you discover this?
Speaker 8 (22:45):
Well, I've kind of known for a while. She's like,
they work really closely together. I've met him at work functions,
and I've never liked him. I just I've always had
this feeling. And then she actually admitted that she has
like a little work crush on him, which you know.
(23:08):
That obviously rubs me the wrong way. So I actually
went through their emails just to see what it looked like,
and they were, Yeah, they were being way too flirty,
and I mean like joking about running away together, talking
about each other's body. Email was an email privately between
(23:29):
the two of them, which I thought was completely inappropriate.
Speaker 7 (23:32):
It is and.
Speaker 8 (23:34):
Thank you. So I brought it up with her and
she got defensive. She was just saying I was just
being jealous, and she said it's harmless flirting, that she
would never cross the line. But I was like, you
already crossed the line, Like this is crossing a line,
so anyway, it's becoming It's just it's a problem, I think.
(23:54):
And I wanted her to stop working so closely with him,
but she said she doesn't want to make a thing
out of it, and he's like super annoyed and says,
I'm being ridiculous.
Speaker 2 (24:03):
Okay, so how about this. She needs to get with
the program here. First of all, I don't like that
you didn't like the guy from the get go. I
know guys like that. I know I know those guys
I know, and I know they try and move in
I know what they do they try to move in
on you and this is that guy, and he is
(24:23):
that guy and you didn't like him the get go.
I respect that. Now number two, she's completely cheating on
you with these words like, she's already way out of line.
So if she doesn't understand why this is bad, we
got a problem with her.
Speaker 6 (24:37):
And what is she like?
Speaker 2 (24:38):
What is how is she not hearing you out on
this and appreciating your position on this? She loves you, right, yeah,
I mean she wants to right.
Speaker 8 (24:50):
Yeah, as far as I can tell.
Speaker 2 (24:53):
You, you're not wrong at all. I think she needs to.
If she doesn't get this, then we got a bigger problem.
Let's hope we don't have a bigger problem. She needs
to get this.
Speaker 1 (25:04):
It's a pretty big problem already.
Speaker 2 (25:06):
And this guy needs to go out the picture. What's
up with this guy?
Speaker 8 (25:09):
I don't know. It's he's single, he's creepy. I don't
like it.
Speaker 1 (25:14):
You need to like all of this one hundred times again,
like I don't.
Speaker 2 (25:19):
Yes, and be you're just know that you're right in
saying all this. Yeah, Jesse, she's totally I feel she's
playing you. I don't like it at all. And you're
married I don't like.
Speaker 1 (25:29):
And is it just this guy? Like what if there's more?
Speaker 2 (25:34):
Okay, yeah, I just don't like it.
Speaker 1 (25:40):
Even if you nip this in the bus, like this
could happen again in a year. I think you need
to leave her.
Speaker 2 (25:45):
Oh okay, this is very drastic for Okay, that's well
you Okay, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (25:51):
It says a lot about character.
Speaker 2 (25:52):
Honestly, go take evaluate. Know you're right, keep us posted.
Speaker 6 (25:57):
Good luck.
Speaker 2 (25:58):
And this guy, by the way, I don't like this,
and I knew I didn't like this guy either at
the beginning. I know this guy. I met this guy.
See this guy too cool? Moving in on your girl?
Speaker 6 (26:08):
I hear you.
Speaker 2 (26:09):
You know who you are, by the way, you're that guy.
If you're that guy, you know who you are.
Speaker 1 (26:12):
Yeah, now it's like cool a guy.
Speaker 2 (26:14):
Get out of here, get away, move move on one
to two point seven. Kiss all right, Kate is on
the line.
Speaker 8 (26:22):
Kate.
Speaker 2 (26:22):
I love that you just took the initiative. You proactively
picked up the phone and you dialed eight hundred and
five to one on two seven, and here you are
patched right through. So what's happening with your friend's boyfriend?
How can we help?
Speaker 10 (26:34):
So This weekend, we were at another friend's birthday and
my friend's boyfriend was very touchy feely with one of
the other friends that was there. And I've noticed this
like the last few times we've hung out. He like
puts his arm around her and rubs her back and
sits really close and like touches her th eigh Like
it's just really weird. And he's also liked almost all
(26:57):
of her photos on Instagram.
Speaker 1 (26:58):
Too, hmm. And this is like a person in the
friend circle.
Speaker 2 (27:06):
Yeah, wow, So what do you What should you do here?
Speaker 10 (27:13):
I'm not sure should I like tell her, should I
get involved? Should I just like leave it alone?
Speaker 2 (27:17):
So my advice would be no, but I think you
should get involved. Just go ahead and tell her why
because it's the friend circle. Yeah, and here we are,
It's already on your mind. It's weighing you down. If
it were me, I wouldn't even get to this point
of calling me. But it is for you, And so
why don't you just follow through? Is an Tanya advice
on that.
Speaker 1 (27:37):
What if she's wrong?
Speaker 2 (27:40):
What if these No, I can't live in a world.
Speaker 6 (27:42):
Of what if.
Speaker 5 (27:42):
I know, but you're always mister, like, stay out of it.
Speaker 2 (27:45):
That's why I said I would not do this myself,
but I feel like in my in this situation, meeting
Kate for the last minute and twenty nine and if.
Speaker 1 (27:51):
She's not a touchy feely guy, like he doesn't treat
you that way or other girls in the group that way.
Speaker 10 (27:58):
No, it's just this one friend. But he only does
it when like his girlfriend, like my other friend is
like like elsewhere, I think you get in.
Speaker 3 (28:08):
On this one.
Speaker 6 (28:09):
Kate.
Speaker 2 (28:10):
It's driving you to this point.
Speaker 1 (28:13):
You need to get some evidence. Oh no, this is
oh jeez, no, it's not that big of a deal.
The next time you see this happening, just take a
little video.
Speaker 3 (28:25):
Okay, he's gonna notice somebody taking a video up now.
Speaker 1 (28:30):
But you know what, this happened to me in my
friend group, and I did it not even knowing. It
was like a weekend that we all went to Vegas
and the girlfriend didn't happen to go, but her boyfriend went,
and she's the one that noticed in all of the
pictures that he was touchy feely with the girl and
confronted him and turns out they actually did hook up
that weekend, and then that was it.
Speaker 2 (28:50):
There's your advice, from us. Good luck, and we appreciate
you reaching out and sharing it with us.
Speaker 6 (28:56):
Thank you, all right.
Speaker 2 (28:59):
I just sometimes feel like we were unhelpful. But let's
see how that is so helpful. Kiss up, m. Desiree's
on the line.
Speaker 8 (29:06):
Now.
Speaker 2 (29:07):
We've talked about this often. Tony went into deep labor
very laborious process, a seven week intensive course called Calling
in the One. It's a workbook where you write down
you manifest you rigidly sit down every night and base
take a class on how you're going to reel in
the one.
Speaker 3 (29:25):
Well, you also, like you you purge things that no
longer serve you, you know, like I hadn't made packs
if I were not married by the age of whatever,
we're going to marry each other, and those are all
very bad to have in the universe exactly.
Speaker 2 (29:38):
But you broke through it and you found your one. Yes,
and Desiree, you also are doing this workbook or did
you do it?
Speaker 11 (29:46):
I did it actually in twenty nineteen, so probably around
the same time as Tanya a little bit.
Speaker 2 (29:51):
So.
Speaker 11 (29:51):
I was living in New York City. I'd been dating
there for like seven years.
Speaker 1 (29:54):
I was over it.
Speaker 11 (29:55):
I moved to La went on some dates there was
really not feeling it. And then I don't even know
how I came across this book. I don't know if
they suggested to me or whatever ordered on Amazon started
doing it. Thought it was kind of ridiculous. But then
I met my fiance literally within three months of getting
that book and like doing all that.
Speaker 2 (30:11):
So I have a question though, like what were you doing? Really?
If you were to pinpoint what you were doing wrong
and what you had to purge, what would you say.
Speaker 11 (30:18):
Yeah, I think Tanya was like kind of on the
nose when I was really holding space for like ex
boyfriends or like like people like like she said, like
a pack, Like I had like a guy best friend
who we kind of said that when we were like
if we were by forty, you know, then we'd get married.
And I was at a very girly apartment, which like
it's fine, but it was just like it wasn't open
to receiving a partner. So it's really a mental clean out.
(30:43):
I don't know, that's how I felt. Yeah, it felt
like it was just like a mental practice.
Speaker 2 (30:48):
I'm just trying to think if I could. First of all,
not everybody has to get married, Okay, you don't need that.
I'm not saying that you got to do is to
get married. You might want to find your companion and
your partner, whatever it is. Yeah, but I don't know
that I could be disciplined enough to sit down for
seven weeks and fill out this workbook. I just don't know.
I think it would take it all of the excitement
(31:09):
out of it for me.
Speaker 1 (31:10):
No.
Speaker 5 (31:11):
Yeah, I think you're thinking of it wrong.
Speaker 3 (31:14):
I think that once you start working on yourself and
you start like seeing change and you start like having
these revelations, it doesn't become homework.
Speaker 1 (31:21):
It becomes like, I don't know, it's almost like therapy
in a way.
Speaker 11 (31:26):
Yeah, and it motivates you to like keep going.
Speaker 2 (31:28):
Yeah, I keep doing it. Well that I'm so happy
for you. Thank you for sharing that. Congratulations.
Speaker 11 (31:33):
Yeah, definitely. I recommend it to all my friends so same,
Thanks so much. All right, thank you too.
Speaker 2 (31:40):
Bye bye. So now now I know this right, So
I have the power of knowing that this would work
and I'm not doing it. Does that mean secretively I
don't want to find someone? What does it all?
Speaker 1 (31:49):
Maybe you're not ready but has just naturally happened.
Speaker 2 (31:52):
Anyways, though, I'd like to take a sound back.
Speaker 1 (31:55):
But even if you didn't do the book, eventually you
would find the one and get married and be do whatever.
Speaker 5 (32:01):
Are you asking me?
Speaker 2 (32:01):
I don't want Why do you keep saying I have
to get married?
Speaker 11 (32:03):
Not you?
Speaker 1 (32:04):
I'm talking to tell you. Yeah, I don't know, because
I did the thing and I met rob You met Robbie,
but like you could have just met Robbie without even
doing the workbook.
Speaker 2 (32:13):
I agree this whole thing about the book. It's just Robbie.
Speaker 1 (32:17):
I don't know. Guys, him wasn't going to change the
way you felt about him, But.
Speaker 3 (32:22):
Maybe I wouldn't have met him happy sound.
Speaker 1 (32:25):
Nobody cares what your sound bath sounds like.
Speaker 2 (32:34):
It's a sound bath, guys.
Speaker 1 (32:35):
You need one every morning, every morning a night. I
barely have enough time to like brush my teeth, get
out of the house.
Speaker 2 (32:43):
It's over. You talked the whole way through it, So
I don't even go other Welcome on air with a
Ryan Seacret because kids at back. So think about which
type you are and ask for a guest person. Explain
it and why?
Speaker 1 (33:00):
Okay, So, have you ever noticed how some people ask
for what they need while others are a little bit
more passive aggressive. Maybe they drop hints and they just
hope you catch on yes, yeah, okay. So there's a
difference between them, and it's it all goes down to
the way you were raised and the families that you
come from. So either come from an ask family or
(33:22):
you come from a guess family. So and ask families,
people say exactly what they want and the other person
simply just says yes or no. It's kind of more
of a blunt like, hey, can you help me move Saturday?
Straight to the point, no guessing involved. Yeah, okay, now
I like it. A guess family, the direct requests feel
too blunt for them, so they like to more hint
(33:44):
what they want. I'm moving this weekend. It's going to
be a nightmare helping. The other person kind of like
comes in and offers to help. Neither dile I guess
is right or wrong. But it's just so interesting that
there's two types of people.
Speaker 2 (34:02):
There's only one right way to do it, and that
is asked. Be direct. You want something, You've got to
ask specifically for it. Don't expect other people to connect
the dots. And frankly, if you're a guest person and
you're saying all that stuff about the move, and I'm
definitely not jumping in. I'm definitely not going to connect
that dot.
Speaker 1 (34:19):
I know exactly. I can't deal with the passive aggressiveness
like that just doesn't flow with me. I'm a very direct,
i'll ask type of person, but I only ask if
it's really needed. I am I almost hate asking for help.
Speaker 2 (34:33):
That makes sense, I understand that. But I will tell
you I was born and raised with a father, a
mother and a father, but a father that is and
was a lawyer, okay, a defense attorney. All right. Specificity
and directness is how we were raised. If you didn't
(34:53):
complete the thought with absolute specificity, then he would say, well,
you didn't say that. You said, oh my gosh, said
can I go out this weekend? You didn't say can
I go out Sunday at four pm? With Barton and Mitch?
So you didn't ask the right question, Ryan, Oh my gosh,
I was on the stand every day. Oh wow. So
(35:16):
are you a guess person, Tanya or Now?
Speaker 3 (35:20):
I honestly think I'm a hybrid because sometimes I feel
like I can be very direct, but then sometimes I
also feel like I not. It's not passive, But sometimes
when you're people pleaser. You don't wanna.
Speaker 1 (35:30):
You don't want to impose on anyone, you know.
Speaker 2 (35:32):
That's why we don't. I'm like sit saying I don't
ask for anything, but I did, I would exactly. You
were raised a guest person and now you're an ask person.
Speaker 4 (35:41):
Yes, I come from a guest family, but I feel
like over the years I've morphed into an ask person.
Speaker 6 (35:47):
Now.
Speaker 2 (35:48):
Yeah, I think it serves one better when you can
be specific. If you want something, absolutely all right, ask yourself.
Are you an ask or a guess? Kiss? So someone
was you know, people tell me things, and I believe
it as law. Some guys telling me the other day.
Alejandro is his name, and he was telling me that
sharks only eat ten thousand times in their lifetime and
(36:10):
that they really don't want to eat you because they
don't want to wait, they don't love you, and they
don't want to waste one of their meals on you.
Murky water, and you're bigger than them generally, and in
murky water, they may think that your arm is a fish,
and that's when they might eat you. And I only
bring this up because you guys are surfing now in
the ocean, right Saysnity Antonia.
Speaker 1 (36:29):
It was actually really fun. I was a little do
it together. We did it together? Yeah, going on, it
had been I haven't been on a surfboard in twenty
years and so it was a hot minute before I
was on one.
Speaker 2 (36:43):
How did you coordinate a surf lesson together behind my back?
Speaker 1 (36:46):
It wasn't behind your back. And actually, I'm pretty sure
you were invited. Yeah, I'm pretty sure you got the calendar.
And Beata, our boss orchestrated this whole thing saying that
because we're having Wingo Tango in Huntington Beach, we should
all go down to Huntington Beach and really, yes, put
ourselves this environment and chewy everybody.
Speaker 2 (37:05):
Did I miss all the stuff I don't want to do.
Speaker 5 (37:14):
All so it was a lot of fun.
Speaker 2 (37:17):
That was the best.
Speaker 1 (37:19):
No, yeah, well I'll take it definitely, Okay.
Speaker 3 (37:24):
I So I like got up and my guy, my instructor,
was like, so, like, you did so amazing, And I
was like I just don't want to get my hair wet,
so I just wanted to stay on the board like
no matter what come and no, And I was like
thinking I was so good because I was like I
can ski and I can snowboard. And then I watched
the video that they took of me doing the surfing,
and I was so bad, and my instructor was like
(37:45):
holding onto my board like he was like swimming with me.
Speaker 1 (37:48):
That's why you felt like you were so in control.
Speaker 2 (37:50):
You think you're standing up straight, you're bent over, you
think you're going for minutes.
Speaker 1 (37:56):
I know I felt the same way when I look
back at my videos. By the way, I was like
when I was on the board, I was like, oh
my gosh, it's like riding a bike. And then I
look at them it was I'm like, good grandma on
a board.
Speaker 2 (38:07):
I got to give credit to surfers who are just
they're dedicated to getting out there and getting those waves
first thing, early in the morning, whether it's cold or
cloudy or whatever it is. They're out there getting those waves.
And thank you for changing on the side of the
road to make me feel inadequate about my body. Yeah,
I appreciate it.
Speaker 1 (38:23):
They change and they get into.
Speaker 2 (38:25):
A towel like it's very away. I don't know what
it is with my pace. I always catch somebody changing
clothes on the side of the road.
Speaker 1 (38:31):
You have to do it, though you know. I drove
home in a towel and my just my bean suit.
Speaker 2 (38:35):
All the way back to La I was Jojo at surfing.
Speaker 1 (38:39):
I missed Jojo. I had to leave early because I
had to go read to the kids in first grade.
Speaker 2 (38:44):
Anybody scared of the sharks or not?
Speaker 1 (38:46):
We were like wasteep water.
Speaker 2 (38:48):
It doesn't matter, sharks swimming waistep water.
Speaker 1 (38:50):
There is no chance.
Speaker 2 (38:52):
It was weeks. Did you post anything I sent?
Speaker 1 (38:54):
I posted some We can actually have someone right now.
Speaker 2 (38:57):
We texted you, okay, I'll read the the s break here.
Uh surf lessons? Are we gonna surf? Oh? My gos.
Speaker 4 (39:08):
Wahy.
Speaker 2 (39:08):
Who's the guy pushing into that bulk?
Speaker 1 (39:10):
That's the instructor that gives us a little hoist?
Speaker 6 (39:12):
Oh you were up?
Speaker 2 (39:13):
You're up that? Yeah, you guys are right. You're in
like one inch of water, not deep at all. What's
out of the cargo ship coming in behind you? There's
like cargo ships nearby? Yeah, by the.
Speaker 1 (39:25):
Way, Ryan. I went to go to the first graders
and I had to bring five books, and one of
them was Your Book to Make Believers. And they loved it,
like because it was a brand new book to them.
All the other books they were like being rowdy and
like calling out, they're calling out, and this one was
the only book where they were all quiet and their
little eyeballs were so into it and it was the
(39:46):
cutest thing ever.
Speaker 2 (39:47):
Thank you for doing that. The make Believers at a
bookstore near you. Yes, no green eggs in ham No, guys?
Speaker 6 (39:53):
Is that it feel like?
Speaker 2 (39:55):
That went fast?
Speaker 6 (39:57):
We did it? Do you like?
Speaker 2 (39:59):
Do you like whipped? Are cool? Whipped sisany ah? I
want to know one more thing about all of us.
Speaker 1 (40:05):
I guess whipped. If I had to choose.
Speaker 2 (40:08):
Whipped cream or cool whipped whipped cream or cool whipped
Tanya whipped cream all day, I don't like either.
Speaker 1 (40:14):
Really, I don't know that was a choice, but yeah.
Speaker 2 (40:18):
Careful chewing ice. Sorry, coming up tomorrow, We've got Ryan's roses.
We're into it right here, so I's fun to learn
one more thing before you go, right m h kis.
Have a great day, guys. Thanks for listening to On
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From Hollywood to You air on Air with a Ryan Seacrest.
Speaker 2 (00:09):
Is Kiss FM. So think about which type you are
and ask or a guess person explain it and why
it matters.
Speaker 1 (00:16):
Okay, So have you ever noticed how some people ask
for what they need while others are a little bit
more passive aggressive. Maybe they drop hints and they just
hope you catch on. Yes, yeah, okay. So there's a
difference between them, and it's it all goes down to
the way you were raised and the families that you
come from. So either come from an ask family or
(00:38):
you come from a guess family. So and ask families,
people say exactly what they want and the other person
simply just says yes or no. It's kind of more
of a blunt like, hey can you help me move Saturday?
Straight to the point no guessing involved. Yeah, okay, now
I like it a guess family. The director requests feel
too blunt for them, so they like to more hint
(01:00):
what they want. I'm moving this weekend. It's gonna be
a nightmare, which I exactly helping. The other person kind
of like comes in and offers to help. Neither style
I guess is right or wrong, but it's just so
interesting that there's two types of people.
Speaker 2 (01:18):
There's only one right way to do it, and that
is ask. Be direct. You want something, You've got to
ask specifically for it. Don't expect other people to connect
the dots. And frankly, if you're a guest person and
you're saying all that stuff about the moving, I'm definitely
not jumping in. I'm definitely not gonna connect that dot.
Speaker 1 (01:35):
I know exactly. I can't deal with the passive aggressiveness
like that just doesn't flow with me. I'm a very direct,
I'll ask type of person, but I only ask if
it's really needed. I am I almost hate asking for help.
That makes sense, I understand that.
Speaker 2 (01:51):
But I will tell you I was born and raised
with a father, a mother and a father, but a
father that is and was a lawyer, okay, offense attorney,
all right. Specificity and directness is how we were raised.
If you didn't complete the thought with absolute specificity, then
(02:14):
he would say, well, you didn't say that.
Speaker 1 (02:17):
You said, oh my gosh.
Speaker 2 (02:19):
Said can I go out this weekend? You didn't say
can I go out Sunday at four pm? With Barton
and Mitch? So you didn't ask the right question. Ryan.
Oh my gosh, I was on the stand every day.
Speaker 1 (02:30):
Oh wow.
Speaker 2 (02:32):
So are you a guest person, Tanya or now?
Speaker 3 (02:36):
I honestly think I'm a hybrid because sometimes I feel
like I can be very direct, but then sometimes I
also feel like I not. It's not passive, but sometimes
when you're people pleaser, you don't want to You don't
want to impose on anyone, you know.
Speaker 2 (02:48):
That's why we don't. I'm like Sisy, I don't ask
for anything, but I did. I would exactly. You were
raised a guest person and now you're an ask person.
Speaker 4 (02:57):
Yes, I come from a guest family, but I feel
like over the years I've.
Speaker 5 (03:01):
Morphed into an ask person.
Speaker 1 (03:03):
Now.
Speaker 2 (03:04):
Yeah, I think it serves one better when you can
be specific. If you want something, absolutely all right, ask yourself.
Are you an askeror a guess? Kiss? FM? So someone
who was?
Speaker 6 (03:16):
You know?
Speaker 2 (03:16):
People tell me things, and I believe it as law.
Some guy was telling me the other day Alejandro is
his name, and he was telling me that sharks only
eat ten thousand times in their lifetime, and that they
really don't want to eat you because they don't want
to wait, they don't love you, and they don't want
to waste one of their meals on you. But in
yurky water, and you're bigger than them generally, and in
(03:38):
murky water, they may think that your arm is a fish,
and that's when they might eat you. And I only
bring this up because you guys are surfing now in
the ocean, right, Saysney Antonia.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
It was actually really fun. I was a little do
it together. We did it together.
Speaker 2 (03:51):
Yeah, it's going on.
Speaker 1 (03:52):
It had been I haven't been on a surfboard in
twenty years and so it was a hot minute before
I was on one.
Speaker 2 (03:59):
How did you coordinate a surf lesson together behind my back?
Speaker 1 (04:02):
It wasn't behind your back. And actually, I'm pretty sure
you were invited. Yeah, I'm pretty sure you got the
calendar and Beata, our boss orchestrated this whole thing saying
that because we're having Wingo Tango in Huntington Beach, we
should all go down to Huntington Beach and really, yes,
put ourselves to the environment and chewy everybody.
Speaker 7 (04:22):
Did I miss all the stuff I don't want to do,
So it was a lot of fun.
Speaker 2 (04:33):
That was the best.
Speaker 1 (04:35):
No, Yeah, well I'll take it definitely.
Speaker 3 (04:39):
Okay, So I like got up and my guy, my instructor,
was like, so, like, you did so amazing, and I
was like, I just don't want to get my hair wet,
so I just wanted to stay on the board like
no matter what, come on and no. And I was
like thinking I was so good because I was like,
I can ski and I can snowboard.
Speaker 1 (04:55):
And then I watched the video that they took of me.
Speaker 3 (04:57):
Doing the surfing, and I was so bad, and my
instructor was like holding onto my board like.
Speaker 1 (05:02):
He was like swimming with me. That's why you felt
like you were so in control.
Speaker 2 (05:06):
Well, you think you're standing up straight, you're bent over.
You think you're going for minutes to.
Speaker 3 (05:10):
Go for me?
Speaker 1 (05:11):
Yes, yeah, I know. I felt the same way when
I look back at my videos. By the way, I
was like when I was on the board, I was like,
oh my gosh, it's like riding a bike. And then
I look at them as I'm like a grandma on
a board.
Speaker 2 (05:23):
I got to give credit to surfers who are just
they're dedicated to getting out there and getting those waves
first thing early in the morning, whether it's cold or
cloudy or whatever it is, They're out there getting those
waves and thank you for changing on the side of
the road to make me feel inadequate about my body. Yeah,
I appreciate it.
Speaker 1 (05:39):
They change and they get into a towel like it's
very part. Always catch them.
Speaker 2 (05:43):
I don't know what it is with my face. I
always catch somebody changing clothes on the side of the road.
Speaker 1 (05:47):
You have to do it, though, you know. I drove
home in a towel and my just my bean suit.
All the way back to La I was Jojo at surfing.
I missed Jojo. I had to leave early because I
had to go read to the kids in first grade.
Speaker 2 (06:00):
Anybody scared of the sharks or not?
Speaker 1 (06:03):
We were like, waste deep water.
Speaker 2 (06:05):
Doesn't matter, sharks swimming wastep water. There is no chance
it was Did you post.
Speaker 1 (06:10):
Anything I sent? I posted some We can actually someone
right now. We texted you.
Speaker 2 (06:15):
Okay, I'll read the text in the spray here. Uh,
surf lessons? Are we going to surf? Oh? My gosh, wahy,
who's the guy pushing into that bulk.
Speaker 1 (06:26):
That's the instructor that gives us a little hoist?
Speaker 2 (06:28):
Oh you were up? You're up that? Yeah, you guys
are right. You're in like one inch of water, not
deep at all. What's out of the cargo ship coming
in behind you? There's like cargo ships nearby.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
Yeah, by the way, Ryan. I went to go read
to the first graders and I had to bring five books,
and one of them was your Book to Make Gleams,
And they loved it, like because it was a brand
new book to them. All the other books they were
like being rowdy and like calling out. They're calling out,
and this one was the only book where they were
all wyat and their little eyeballs were so into it
(07:02):
and it was the cutest thing ever.
Speaker 2 (07:04):
Thank you for doing that. The make believers at a
bookstore near you. Yes, no green Eggs in ham No.
I asked you a questions, why don't two point seven
to see would you ever try and match make your kids?
Or would your parents ever try and set you up?
But I only set you up with somebody that they
know the parents of, but actually do it through Is
(07:26):
it a matchmaking app?
Speaker 1 (07:28):
Like the apps like hinge bumble whatever, you give you
give your your phone to your parent and say you
know what you swipe for me? You try to pick
the match, so.
Speaker 2 (07:38):
Hold on for you. For example, I would give my
mom tinder, yes, and she would pick the person for
me and then she call and go, hey, I set
you up with this person. You're gonna go out least. Yeah,
don't judge. You have to judge the apps. It's about
the person.
Speaker 1 (07:51):
Not everyone judges tender.
Speaker 2 (07:53):
Why does everyone judge tender?
Speaker 1 (07:55):
Kind of got like that.
Speaker 2 (07:55):
By the way, I have a funny story. So I
was talking to my doctor about a grinder, a coffee beat. O, man, okay,
where is this? Okay? And I don't have your cell
phone number, and so the next day, this weird number
comes in. I don't recognize the number, and you know,
(08:16):
you can read the first couple of sentences of the text.
All I saw was grinder, And I was like, is
this grinder trying to like solicit me?
Speaker 1 (08:26):
Like they're like, hey, do you want to.
Speaker 2 (08:31):
I forgot coffee grinder. I thought it was Grinder the
app trying to reach out. Turns out, is my doctor
recommending a coffee grinder. Oh that's so good. Would you
see how one could be confused?
Speaker 6 (08:41):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (08:41):
Which one did he recommend?
Speaker 2 (08:42):
By the way, I can't remember anyway, Can you explain
what parents are doing and how they're doing this?
Speaker 6 (08:49):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (08:50):
So it's kind of stepped from a few viral stories
that have gone all over social This twenty seven year
old named Sdi moved back home after a really bad breakup,
and her mom decided to help her get back out
there by literally taking over the dating apps and she
went full matchmaker. She even bought the hinge plus account,
which I didn't even know that you could pay to
get a better hinge And then her daughter was all
(09:11):
for it, trusting her mom's opinion, really kind of just
stepping into this and starting to go on dates that
her mom was choosing for her. And then they basically
shared this and there's more parents and there's more stories
out there of parents doing this now and as a mom, like,
I would love nothing more in a few years to
like match my kids up. I mean, we kind of
do it now. We can't do it now we have friends.
(09:33):
They were like, oh my god, they're going to marry
each other one day and then we'll be in laws.
Speaker 2 (09:37):
All right, Well, let's not wait, Mikaitla, you're close with
your mom, you're of dating age. Let's get her in
on this, right. I've talked to her before.
Speaker 1 (09:43):
Kayla, would you do that? But trust for my mom.
Speaker 5 (09:48):
You don't know that.
Speaker 1 (09:49):
Come on, you know what, In all, my sister matched
Michael and I up. And my sister is very different
than my My sister's very mommish, Like she's eight years
older than me, and she was always like that bossy
mom feeling of his sister, different than mom. And I'm
I'm happy that she matched us.
Speaker 2 (10:06):
My point, you're welcome, Mark, I'm gonna give you a segment.
Call my mother and ask her she wants to do
this for me? Oh, okay, I can do it today, tomorrow,
any day. Schedule book her, schedule her, call money, this
idea to her and see. I want to know what
she would look for for me.
Speaker 1 (10:19):
That's sort of like the key qualities that she wants
for you.
Speaker 2 (10:23):
Okay, that's got's coming up one day. I don't know, later, today, tomorrow,
this week, we will get so we.
Speaker 1 (10:28):
Would get Connie's bone.
Speaker 2 (10:30):
We understand how works, Toney. We've been through all of it.
We know we got it. We don't need to repeat it.
Speaker 1 (10:34):
Well, we're gonna have to help her. I'm sure she's
to do it.
Speaker 2 (10:37):
Yeah, Well, let's just talk to her and let's get her.
But I don't know what she'd even look for exactly
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That's why the cyber experts say, don't be fooled again
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Speaker 1 (11:21):
Yeah, for me once, shame on you, for me twice.
Speaker 2 (11:25):
There's a quote anyway, Uh several mark you got what
I was saying, right.
Speaker 6 (11:28):
I do? Yes?
Speaker 2 (11:30):
What was I saying?
Speaker 1 (11:31):
You're saying for me?
Speaker 6 (11:32):
Once?
Speaker 1 (11:32):
For me once? Shame on you. No for me twice,
shame on me because I trusted you again.
Speaker 2 (11:38):
I take George W.
Speaker 6 (11:39):
Bush.
Speaker 2 (11:39):
George W.
Speaker 1 (11:39):
Bush, nobody got except for mar Yeah.
Speaker 2 (11:45):
Somebody got it. I didn't even get it all right,
but somebody got it. Uh, for me once my dad.
Speaker 8 (11:53):
Uh.
Speaker 2 (11:54):
Some of the most important thing this is the quote, guys,
some of the most important things you'll.
Speaker 3 (12:00):
Ever do.
Speaker 2 (12:02):
Will never be seen or acknowledged, but do them anyway.
It's why we come to work. Yep. He kiss Los
Angeles is number one at music station Seacrest Sicony, We're
gonna hit the headlines right now. Then I've got some
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Speaker 4 (12:21):
So.
Speaker 1 (12:22):
A tsunami advisory is still in effect for the southern
California coast after that eight point eight magnitude earthquake hit Russia.
LA County Board of Supervisors will consider an ordinance banning
law enforcement officers from hiding their identities while on duty.
Speaker 9 (12:39):
Westlake Village is the latest city to ban the use
of e bikes and electric scooters from all sidewalks, parks, trails,
and fields. And Victoria's Secret announced that fashion show will
in fact return again this fall.
Speaker 2 (12:55):
Cheating. I mean we're talking about on Ryan's roses, but
this is real life, gee in Ruby's life. Yes, cheating.
Ruby just got married. Yes, Ruby married to David. Yes,
and now we're talking about cheating. I know what happened,
but it's not me. I know, but she did just
get married and she's talking about cheating.
Speaker 1 (13:16):
It's all around us. It doesn't just stop because it's yet.
Speaker 2 (13:20):
Okay, go ahead, Ruby, it's a genuine question.
Speaker 5 (13:22):
So there's this couple I'm not that close to.
Speaker 4 (13:24):
They're kind of like acquaintances, but we do see each
other at events or parties, that sort of thing. I
ran into this guy's ex at a restaurant in Lincoln
Heights and she basically was spilling the tea that he
is still in contact with her and that he still
texts her. So he still texts his ex even though
(13:46):
he is in a current relationship.
Speaker 2 (13:49):
Is he still with her, like getting together with her,
like cheating physically?
Speaker 4 (13:54):
He's trying to still see her, but she keeps trying
to avoid like texting him back.
Speaker 5 (13:59):
She even changed like her number. He's still hitting her up.
So it's like very.
Speaker 2 (14:05):
Juicy yees. So here's me. You said you don't know
them that well, right, other people's problem, bro, I know.
Speaker 4 (14:14):
But you know you feel bad because, like as an
old girl, you want to tell the other.
Speaker 1 (14:18):
Girl, but then you know that you're gonnamous note like
they did on the Jersey Shore.
Speaker 2 (14:24):
I think a lot of life lessons on the Jersey Shore.
Now so many life lessons.
Speaker 1 (14:29):
Yes, that was Sammy and what Ronnie broke up?
Speaker 2 (14:32):
I do think I understand you know, you carry the guilt,
but it's like something for you not to get involved with.
Speaker 5 (14:38):
I know, but the anonymous letter is not about it.
I'm telling you.
Speaker 1 (14:44):
No, she confronted him, they broke up. Sammy's much better
off now, she's way happier. I don't know about Ronnie.
Speaker 2 (14:50):
So would you do that?
Speaker 4 (14:53):
Tony wouldn't do that. I would feel like way too
much like guilt. But maybe someone I know would do that.
Speaker 2 (15:00):
Maybe somebody listening right now who knows the couple? Yeah,
talking about them. Gosh to think you ever broken up
with somebody and asked them if they cheated on you?
Speaker 6 (15:10):
I have.
Speaker 1 (15:12):
Why No, I don't want to know.
Speaker 5 (15:15):
Did you ever get a yes?
Speaker 6 (15:16):
No?
Speaker 2 (15:16):
So they're lying or they're not. But never got a yes? Okay,
actually yeah, I never got a yes.
Speaker 1 (15:23):
But I asked a question like in that moment, or like.
Speaker 2 (15:26):
Like months later, I say, by the way, cheat on me?
No exactly, I'm gonna say yes now as actually no.
Five one two seven, Irvine, n Hod, Good morning in Irvine.
How are you.
Speaker 6 (15:46):
Doing good? How are you doing today?
Speaker 2 (15:48):
Doing well? Thanks for asking you? So you need some
advice here?
Speaker 6 (15:52):
Yeah, hopefully you guys can can help me out.
Speaker 2 (15:55):
What's the topic, bro?
Speaker 6 (15:57):
Yeah, so little background on it. In a position at
work that has never been established before, one of a kind,
and just had my first quarter review went well. Any
metrics set were exceeded, and when the topic came up
of hey, doing a great job, would like my salary
(16:17):
to reflect that, looking for an increase, things got kicked
down the road. And this is in the first time,
and I'm looking for a way where it's not too pushy,
but where deadline of a timeframe can be set instead
of it being a topic for a later discussion.
Speaker 2 (16:34):
Oh, so there's a fine line. There's an art to this,
to being direct but not pushy exactly. Yeah, how would
you approach it? In your mind? What do you think
the approach is?
Speaker 6 (16:47):
Well, I came into it kind of guns blazing. I
knew where I stood in terms of the metrics are
supposed to hit and where I fell. And so one
of the aspects that is bringing in more money, right,
more money could come for revenue, and so I was
beyond it by about twenty six percent, told them for
my next quarter goals, I want to go past that
raised by about another thirteen percent, and for it would
(17:09):
be looking for an eleven percent raise, which would put
me out where I want to be. And well, that's
not something where it would take away money from the company.
Speaker 2 (17:17):
It's but it woul incentivize you to continue to grow.
So what's wrong with what you just said to me?
To your boss?
Speaker 1 (17:23):
The bosses like dodging him.
Speaker 6 (17:25):
So there's a couple of years of it. And so
when I took it to my direct boss, it was
something where hey, we have to take it to the
owners executive managements get their feedback. When I asked them,
can we arrange that meeting, it's always we'll get back
to you. They're busy, they're not time for it. When
I try to just reach out to them directly, it's
always something, hey, we'll schedule out of time. And when
I ask, okay, when's going to be a good time.
(17:45):
If I put something just directly on their calendar, it's
always postponed or tentative. Where that conversation, yeah, it's never happened.
Speaker 2 (17:52):
Yeah, it's lame. It's annoying. So, first of all. I
think presenting the data was fantastic. Yeah, and you know number,
their return is bigger, return should be bigger. That all
makes sense. I don't like the lameness, as Tanya said,
of the sketchiness of not locking down a date. So
can you say, can we lock down or could we
please get this appointment or conversation.
Speaker 1 (18:16):
We're all busy, but let's get it at the end
of the month.
Speaker 2 (18:20):
I think you need to give a reasonable deadline in
a finessed way, by the end of the month, in
two weeks. I think at the end of the month
actually is a fair way to say.
Speaker 5 (18:29):
It's the beginning.
Speaker 2 (18:33):
Yeah, just say it's the beginning of the month. It's perfect,
like by the end of the month. So you're doing everything.
You know what you're doing, and I love it, and
you should get.
Speaker 6 (18:40):
This, I hope. So I want to. I feel like
I deserve it and trying to. It's always the thing, right,
you work hard and you want it to show. Where
I just wanted to show it's not increasing anything from
them because I'm earning them more, and I just think
it would be fair.
Speaker 2 (18:55):
Authenticity. Your authenticity is what's going to get that for
you give them the month to set the meeting and
see what happens in Good luck to you, bro, happy.
Speaker 6 (19:04):
For you, Thank you. I really appreciate it. Good luck, good.
Speaker 2 (19:07):
Luck, bye bye. I mean I've had that had to
me so many times where it's like it's just you know, yeah,
it happens. It's going to be. It's gonna be summer.
We'll do it in the fall. What the fault, It's
going to be summer. So what you don't work in
the summer, it's gonna be. It's gonna be like October
twelfth Man, the holidays are coming. Can we do the
beginning of the year. No, I cannot do it beginning now.
It's wrong with you kicking the can. Do you hide?
(19:30):
If you're being honest with me, do you have a
little hidden secret from your significant other? Do you hide
anything from me?
Speaker 1 (19:41):
This wasn't me trying to hide it. I wasn't trying
to keep it a secret.
Speaker 2 (19:45):
Do you have a stash of something you don't want
them to find?
Speaker 1 (19:48):
I didn't not not want them to find it. Like
it was just like I think it didn't even cross
my mind as like, oh I'm being sneaky. It just
was like I'm going to keep this in my car,
and that's how life is.
Speaker 2 (20:01):
Well what happened, Hey, So.
Speaker 1 (20:02):
You know we started going to the farmer's market more,
you know, consecutively, consistently, consistently than I can not think
I'll take it either, And I visit the nut guy
and I you know, load up on the nuts for
the week. Well, the other day, Mike and I were
going to this movie premiere and we were really excited
for it, but we weren't going to eat until after
(20:22):
the reception. Was like after the movie, which is going
to be late, like nine, So it's like six point
thirty right now, and we're hungry, and we know that
all they're going to have with the movies is just popcorn.
I love popcorn. So I was like, well, I'm like,
I have some of the lemon almonds in here, and
also like the medley. And he's like what it was
like this like rice cracker medley. I don't know that
(20:44):
has like dried peas and dried I don't know it.
It's delicious, And so I keep it in my car
for this exact reason. When it's an emergency situation and
we need a handful of almonds or a handful of whatever,
and he was very taken aback that I had that's
in the car versus in the pantry, because he said
he was looking for the almonds the other day and
couldn't find them.
Speaker 3 (21:03):
Keeping the lemon almonds for yourself is so rude, because those.
Speaker 2 (21:08):
Are anything from the farmer's market people to yourself in
your car. Yeah, it's horting because that's a special occasion
going to a farmer's market and getting one of the
things that come from the farmer's list. That's horning.
Speaker 1 (21:18):
Here's the thing. Michael eats so fast that if this
was in the pantry, that bag of almonds would be
gone by now because he eats it like twenty times
too fine. But I didn't even think of it like that.
I was just like, oh, I'm going to bring these
and have them in the car for everybody, which I
was clearly sharing with him.
Speaker 2 (21:36):
These are these are fulfilled people problems. Okay, if you
look by yourself like me and you're single, you actually
hide stuff from yourself too high to get to to reach.
So come over someday and reach for my stuff. What
I can't even get to. Dang, what are you hiding
from your partner? Ask yourself that today.
Speaker 1 (21:52):
Yeah, I guess you should.
Speaker 2 (21:53):
My dad used to hide wine in the trunk. In
the trunk yep, why side wine in the trunk because
he didn't want my mom to see that he bought
some wine it wasn't supposed to buy.
Speaker 1 (22:02):
Would it stay good there?
Speaker 2 (22:04):
No, that was the problem. He learned that the old
fashioned labat the heat of the Pougio trunk.
Speaker 3 (22:10):
I was at the hair salon the other day and
this woman that was checking out before me asked if
she could pay for her hair on Venmocus.
Speaker 1 (22:17):
She didn't want her husband to see the bill. I
was like, yeah, hiding right there. Yeah, there's different accounts
for that.
Speaker 2 (22:25):
Well, there you go. There you go on air with
Ryan Seacrest. Let me grab Jesse in North Hollywood, Jesse
and no, thanks for listening to it. So your wife
has a crush on a co worker. Yeah, and how
did you discover this?
Speaker 8 (22:45):
Well, I've kind of known for a while. She's like,
they work really closely together. I've met him at work functions,
and I've never liked him. I just I've always had
this feeling. And then she actually admitted that she has
like a little work crush on him, which you know.
(23:08):
That obviously rubs me the wrong way. So I actually
went through their emails just to see what it looked like,
and they were, Yeah, they were being way too flirty,
and I mean like joking about running away together, talking
about each other's body. Email was an email privately between
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the two of them, which I thought was completely inappropriate.
Speaker 7 (23:32):
It is and.
Speaker 8 (23:34):
Thank you. So I brought it up with her and
she got defensive. She was just saying I was just
being jealous, and she said it's harmless flirting, that she
would never cross the line. But I was like, you
already crossed the line, Like this is crossing a line,
so anyway, it's becoming It's just it's a problem, I think.
(23:54):
And I wanted her to stop working so closely with him,
but she said she doesn't want to make a thing
out of it, and he's like super annoyed and says,
I'm being ridiculous.
Speaker 2 (24:03):
Okay, so how about this. She needs to get with
the program here. First of all, I don't like that
you didn't like the guy from the get go. I
know guys like that. I know I know those guys
I know, and I know they try and move in
I know what they do they try to move in
on you and this is that guy, and he is
(24:23):
that guy and you didn't like him the get go.
I respect that. Now number two, she's completely cheating on
you with these words like, she's already way out of line.
So if she doesn't understand why this is bad, we
got a problem with her.
Speaker 6 (24:37):
And what is she like?
Speaker 2 (24:38):
What is how is she not hearing you out on
this and appreciating your position on this? She loves you, right, yeah,
I mean she wants to right.
Speaker 8 (24:50):
Yeah, as far as I can tell.
Speaker 2 (24:53):
You, you're not wrong at all. I think she needs to.
If she doesn't get this, then we got a bigger problem.
Let's hope we don't have a bigger problem. She needs
to get this.
Speaker 1 (25:04):
It's a pretty big problem already.
Speaker 2 (25:06):
And this guy needs to go out the picture. What's
up with this guy?
Speaker 8 (25:09):
I don't know. It's he's single, he's creepy. I don't
like it.
Speaker 1 (25:14):
You need to like all of this one hundred times again,
like I don't.
Speaker 2 (25:19):
Yes, and be you're just know that you're right in
saying all this. Yeah, Jesse, she's totally I feel she's
playing you. I don't like it at all. And you're
married I don't like.
Speaker 1 (25:29):
And is it just this guy? Like what if there's more?
Speaker 2 (25:34):
Okay, yeah, I just don't like it.
Speaker 1 (25:40):
Even if you nip this in the bus, like this
could happen again in a year. I think you need
to leave her.
Speaker 2 (25:45):
Oh okay, this is very drastic for Okay, that's well
you Okay, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (25:51):
It says a lot about character.
Speaker 2 (25:52):
Honestly, go take evaluate. Know you're right, keep us posted.
Speaker 6 (25:57):
Good luck.
Speaker 2 (25:58):
And this guy, by the way, I don't like this,
and I knew I didn't like this guy either at
the beginning. I know this guy. I met this guy.
See this guy too cool? Moving in on your girl?
Speaker 6 (26:08):
I hear you.
Speaker 2 (26:09):
You know who you are, by the way, you're that guy.
If you're that guy, you know who you are.
Speaker 1 (26:12):
Yeah, now it's like cool a guy.
Speaker 2 (26:14):
Get out of here, get away, move move on one
to two point seven. Kiss all right, Kate is on
the line.
Speaker 8 (26:22):
Kate.
Speaker 2 (26:22):
I love that you just took the initiative. You proactively
picked up the phone and you dialed eight hundred and
five to one on two seven, and here you are
patched right through. So what's happening with your friend's boyfriend?
How can we help?
Speaker 10 (26:34):
So This weekend, we were at another friend's birthday and
my friend's boyfriend was very touchy feely with one of
the other friends that was there. And I've noticed this
like the last few times we've hung out. He like
puts his arm around her and rubs her back and
sits really close and like touches her th eigh Like
it's just really weird. And he's also liked almost all
(26:57):
of her photos on Instagram.
Speaker 1 (26:58):
Too, hmm. And this is like a person in the
friend circle.
Speaker 2 (27:06):
Yeah, wow, So what do you What should you do here?
Speaker 10 (27:13):
I'm not sure should I like tell her, should I
get involved? Should I just like leave it alone?
Speaker 2 (27:17):
So my advice would be no, but I think you
should get involved. Just go ahead and tell her why
because it's the friend circle. Yeah, and here we are,
It's already on your mind. It's weighing you down. If
it were me, I wouldn't even get to this point
of calling me. But it is for you, And so
why don't you just follow through? Is an Tanya advice
on that.
Speaker 1 (27:37):
What if she's wrong?
Speaker 2 (27:40):
What if these No, I can't live in a world.
Speaker 6 (27:42):
Of what if.
Speaker 5 (27:42):
I know, but you're always mister, like, stay out of it.
Speaker 2 (27:45):
That's why I said I would not do this myself,
but I feel like in my in this situation, meeting
Kate for the last minute and twenty nine and if.
Speaker 1 (27:51):
She's not a touchy feely guy, like he doesn't treat
you that way or other girls in the group that way.
Speaker 10 (27:58):
No, it's just this one friend. But he only does
it when like his girlfriend, like my other friend is
like like elsewhere, I think you get in.
Speaker 3 (28:08):
On this one.
Speaker 6 (28:09):
Kate.
Speaker 2 (28:10):
It's driving you to this point.
Speaker 1 (28:13):
You need to get some evidence. Oh no, this is
oh jeez, no, it's not that big of a deal.
The next time you see this happening, just take a
little video.
Speaker 3 (28:25):
Okay, he's gonna notice somebody taking a video up now.
Speaker 1 (28:30):
But you know what, this happened to me in my
friend group, and I did it not even knowing. It
was like a weekend that we all went to Vegas
and the girlfriend didn't happen to go, but her boyfriend went,
and she's the one that noticed in all of the
pictures that he was touchy feely with the girl and
confronted him and turns out they actually did hook up
that weekend, and then that was it.
Speaker 2 (28:50):
There's your advice, from us. Good luck, and we appreciate
you reaching out and sharing it with us.
Speaker 6 (28:56):
Thank you, all right.
Speaker 2 (28:59):
I just sometimes feel like we were unhelpful. But let's
see how that is so helpful. Kiss up, m. Desiree's
on the line.
Speaker 8 (29:06):
Now.
Speaker 2 (29:07):
We've talked about this often. Tony went into deep labor
very laborious process, a seven week intensive course called Calling
in the One. It's a workbook where you write down
you manifest you rigidly sit down every night and base
take a class on how you're going to reel in
the one.
Speaker 3 (29:25):
Well, you also, like you you purge things that no
longer serve you, you know, like I hadn't made packs
if I were not married by the age of whatever,
we're going to marry each other, and those are all
very bad to have in the universe exactly.
Speaker 2 (29:38):
But you broke through it and you found your one. Yes,
and Desiree, you also are doing this workbook or did
you do it?
Speaker 11 (29:46):
I did it actually in twenty nineteen, so probably around
the same time as Tanya a little bit.
Speaker 2 (29:51):
So.
Speaker 11 (29:51):
I was living in New York City. I'd been dating
there for like seven years.
Speaker 1 (29:54):
I was over it.
Speaker 11 (29:55):
I moved to La went on some dates there was
really not feeling it. And then I don't even know
how I came across this book. I don't know if
they suggested to me or whatever ordered on Amazon started
doing it. Thought it was kind of ridiculous. But then
I met my fiance literally within three months of getting
that book and like doing all that.
Speaker 2 (30:11):
So I have a question though, like what were you doing? Really?
If you were to pinpoint what you were doing wrong
and what you had to purge, what would you say.
Speaker 11 (30:18):
Yeah, I think Tanya was like kind of on the
nose when I was really holding space for like ex
boyfriends or like like people like like she said, like
a pack, Like I had like a guy best friend
who we kind of said that when we were like
if we were by forty, you know, then we'd get married.
And I was at a very girly apartment, which like
it's fine, but it was just like it wasn't open
to receiving a partner. So it's really a mental clean out.
(30:43):
I don't know, that's how I felt. Yeah, it felt
like it was just like a mental practice.
Speaker 2 (30:48):
I'm just trying to think if I could. First of all,
not everybody has to get married, Okay, you don't need that.
I'm not saying that you got to do is to
get married. You might want to find your companion and
your partner, whatever it is. Yeah, but I don't know
that I could be disciplined enough to sit down for
seven weeks and fill out this workbook. I just don't know.
I think it would take it all of the excitement
(31:09):
out of it for me.
Speaker 1 (31:10):
No.
Speaker 5 (31:11):
Yeah, I think you're thinking of it wrong.
Speaker 3 (31:14):
I think that once you start working on yourself and
you start like seeing change and you start like having
these revelations, it doesn't become homework.
Speaker 1 (31:21):
It becomes like, I don't know, it's almost like therapy
in a way.
Speaker 11 (31:26):
Yeah, and it motivates you to like keep going.
Speaker 2 (31:28):
Yeah, I keep doing it. Well that I'm so happy
for you. Thank you for sharing that. Congratulations.
Speaker 11 (31:33):
Yeah, definitely. I recommend it to all my friends so same,
Thanks so much. All right, thank you too.
Speaker 2 (31:40):
Bye bye. So now now I know this right, So
I have the power of knowing that this would work
and I'm not doing it. Does that mean secretively I
don't want to find someone? What does it all?
Speaker 1 (31:49):
Maybe you're not ready but has just naturally happened.
Speaker 2 (31:52):
Anyways, though, I'd like to take a sound back.
Speaker 1 (31:55):
But even if you didn't do the book, eventually you
would find the one and get married and be do whatever.
Speaker 5 (32:01):
Are you asking me?
Speaker 2 (32:01):
I don't want Why do you keep saying I have
to get married?
Speaker 11 (32:03):
Not you?
Speaker 1 (32:04):
I'm talking to tell you. Yeah, I don't know, because
I did the thing and I met rob You met Robbie,
but like you could have just met Robbie without even
doing the workbook.
Speaker 2 (32:13):
I agree this whole thing about the book. It's just Robbie.
Speaker 1 (32:17):
I don't know. Guys, him wasn't going to change the
way you felt about him, But.
Speaker 3 (32:22):
Maybe I wouldn't have met him happy sound.
Speaker 1 (32:25):
Nobody cares what your sound bath sounds like.
Speaker 2 (32:34):
It's a sound bath, guys.
Speaker 1 (32:35):
You need one every morning, every morning a night. I
barely have enough time to like brush my teeth, get
out of the house.
Speaker 2 (32:43):
It's over. You talked the whole way through it, So
I don't even go other Welcome on air with a
Ryan Seacret because kids at back. So think about which
type you are and ask for a guest person. Explain
it and why?
Speaker 1 (33:00):
Okay, So, have you ever noticed how some people ask
for what they need while others are a little bit
more passive aggressive. Maybe they drop hints and they just
hope you catch on yes, yeah, okay. So there's a
difference between them, and it's it all goes down to
the way you were raised and the families that you
come from. So either come from an ask family or
(33:22):
you come from a guess family. So and ask families,
people say exactly what they want and the other person
simply just says yes or no. It's kind of more
of a blunt like, hey, can you help me move Saturday?
Straight to the point, no guessing involved. Yeah, okay, now
I like it. A guess family, the direct requests feel
too blunt for them, so they like to more hint
(33:44):
what they want. I'm moving this weekend. It's going to
be a nightmare helping. The other person kind of like
comes in and offers to help. Neither dile I guess
is right or wrong. But it's just so interesting that
there's two types of people.
Speaker 2 (34:02):
There's only one right way to do it, and that
is asked. Be direct. You want something, You've got to
ask specifically for it. Don't expect other people to connect
the dots. And frankly, if you're a guest person and
you're saying all that stuff about the move, and I'm
definitely not jumping in. I'm definitely not going to connect
that dot.
Speaker 1 (34:19):
I know exactly. I can't deal with the passive aggressiveness
like that just doesn't flow with me. I'm a very direct,
i'll ask type of person, but I only ask if
it's really needed. I am I almost hate asking for help.
Speaker 2 (34:33):
That makes sense, I understand that. But I will tell
you I was born and raised with a father, a
mother and a father, but a father that is and
was a lawyer, okay, a defense attorney. All right. Specificity
and directness is how we were raised. If you didn't
(34:53):
complete the thought with absolute specificity, then he would say, well,
you didn't say that. You said, oh my gosh, said
can I go out this weekend? You didn't say can
I go out Sunday at four pm? With Barton and Mitch?
So you didn't ask the right question, Ryan, Oh my gosh,
I was on the stand every day. Oh wow. So
(35:16):
are you a guess person, Tanya or Now?
Speaker 3 (35:20):
I honestly think I'm a hybrid because sometimes I feel
like I can be very direct, but then sometimes I
also feel like I not. It's not passive, But sometimes
when you're people pleaser. You don't wanna.
Speaker 1 (35:30):
You don't want to impose on anyone, you know.
Speaker 2 (35:32):
That's why we don't. I'm like sit saying I don't
ask for anything, but I did, I would exactly. You
were raised a guest person and now you're an ask person.
Speaker 4 (35:41):
Yes, I come from a guest family, but I feel
like over the years I've morphed into an ask person.
Speaker 6 (35:47):
Now.
Speaker 2 (35:48):
Yeah, I think it serves one better when you can
be specific. If you want something, absolutely all right, ask yourself.
Are you an ask or a guess? Kiss? So someone
was you know, people tell me things, and I believe
it as law. Some guys telling me the other day.
Alejandro is his name, and he was telling me that
sharks only eat ten thousand times in their lifetime and
(36:10):
that they really don't want to eat you because they
don't want to wait, they don't love you, and they
don't want to waste one of their meals on you.
Murky water, and you're bigger than them generally, and in
murky water, they may think that your arm is a fish,
and that's when they might eat you. And I only
bring this up because you guys are surfing now in
the ocean, right Saysnity Antonia.
Speaker 1 (36:29):
It was actually really fun. I was a little do
it together. We did it together? Yeah, going on, it
had been I haven't been on a surfboard in twenty
years and so it was a hot minute before I
was on one.
Speaker 2 (36:43):
How did you coordinate a surf lesson together behind my back?
Speaker 1 (36:46):
It wasn't behind your back. And actually, I'm pretty sure
you were invited. Yeah, I'm pretty sure you got the calendar.
And Beata, our boss orchestrated this whole thing saying that
because we're having Wingo Tango in Huntington Beach, we should
all go down to Huntington Beach and really, yes, put
ourselves this environment and chewy everybody.
Speaker 2 (37:05):
Did I miss all the stuff I don't want to do.
Speaker 5 (37:14):
All so it was a lot of fun.
Speaker 2 (37:17):
That was the best.
Speaker 1 (37:19):
No, yeah, well I'll take it definitely, Okay.
Speaker 3 (37:24):
I So I like got up and my guy, my instructor,
was like, so, like, you did so amazing, And I
was like I just don't want to get my hair wet,
so I just wanted to stay on the board like
no matter what come and no, And I was like
thinking I was so good because I was like I
can ski and I can snowboard. And then I watched
the video that they took of me doing the surfing,
and I was so bad, and my instructor was like
(37:45):
holding onto my board like he was like swimming with me.
Speaker 1 (37:48):
That's why you felt like you were so in control.
Speaker 2 (37:50):
You think you're standing up straight, you're bent over, you
think you're going for minutes.
Speaker 1 (37:56):
I know I felt the same way when I look
back at my videos. By the way, I was like
when I was on the board, I was like, oh
my gosh, it's like riding a bike. And then I
look at them it was I'm like, good grandma on
a board.
Speaker 2 (38:07):
I got to give credit to surfers who are just
they're dedicated to getting out there and getting those waves
first thing, early in the morning, whether it's cold or
cloudy or whatever it is. They're out there getting those waves.
And thank you for changing on the side of the
road to make me feel inadequate about my body. Yeah,
I appreciate it.
Speaker 1 (38:23):
They change and they get into.
Speaker 2 (38:25):
A towel like it's very away. I don't know what
it is with my pace. I always catch somebody changing
clothes on the side of the road.
Speaker 1 (38:31):
You have to do it, though you know. I drove
home in a towel and my just my bean suit.
Speaker 2 (38:35):
All the way back to La I was Jojo at surfing.
Speaker 1 (38:39):
I missed Jojo. I had to leave early because I
had to go read to the kids in first grade.
Speaker 2 (38:44):
Anybody scared of the sharks or not?
Speaker 1 (38:46):
We were like wasteep water.
Speaker 2 (38:48):
It doesn't matter, sharks swimming waistep water.
Speaker 1 (38:50):
There is no chance.
Speaker 2 (38:52):
It was weeks. Did you post anything I sent?
Speaker 1 (38:54):
I posted some We can actually have someone right now.
Speaker 2 (38:57):
We texted you, okay, I'll read the the s break here.
Uh surf lessons? Are we gonna surf? Oh? My gos.
Speaker 4 (39:08):
Wahy.
Speaker 2 (39:08):
Who's the guy pushing into that bulk?
Speaker 1 (39:10):
That's the instructor that gives us a little hoist?
Speaker 6 (39:12):
Oh you were up?
Speaker 2 (39:13):
You're up that? Yeah, you guys are right. You're in
like one inch of water, not deep at all. What's
out of the cargo ship coming in behind you? There's
like cargo ships nearby? Yeah, by the.
Speaker 1 (39:25):
Way, Ryan. I went to go to the first graders
and I had to bring five books, and one of
them was Your Book to Make Believers. And they loved it,
like because it was a brand new book to them.
All the other books they were like being rowdy and
like calling out, they're calling out, and this one was
the only book where they were all quiet and their
little eyeballs were so into it and it was the
(39:46):
cutest thing ever.
Speaker 2 (39:47):
Thank you for doing that. The make Believers at a
bookstore near you. Yes, no green eggs in ham No, guys?
Speaker 6 (39:53):
Is that it feel like?
Speaker 2 (39:55):
That went fast?
Speaker 6 (39:57):
We did it? Do you like?
Speaker 2 (39:59):
Do you like whipped? Are cool? Whipped sisany ah? I
want to know one more thing about all of us.
Speaker 1 (40:05):
I guess whipped. If I had to choose.
Speaker 2 (40:08):
Whipped cream or cool whipped whipped cream or cool whipped
Tanya whipped cream all day, I don't like either.
Speaker 1 (40:14):
Really, I don't know that was a choice, but yeah.
Speaker 2 (40:18):
Careful chewing ice. Sorry, coming up tomorrow, We've got Ryan's roses.
We're into it right here, so I's fun to learn
one more thing before you go, right m h kis.
Have a great day, guys. Thanks for listening to On
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