May 24, 2023 • 14 mins
Jess Hilarious helps callers with life advice.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
It's the one the most dangerous morning to you to breakfast club
God just hilarious. DJ Envy is off today, but it's time.
But just fix my mess Just tell them what, Just
fix my messages?
Speaker 2 (00:10):
Just fix my mess.
Speaker 3 (00:10):
You can find that on the Black Effect Network under iHeart.
Speaker 4 (00:14):
That ain't true. Ain't none of that true.
Speaker 2 (00:16):
It ain't.
Speaker 1 (00:16):
The podcast called Carefully Reckless just said that, didn't you
have a segment on there called.
Speaker 4 (00:20):
Just fix my mess? See you still hung over?
Speaker 2 (00:22):
No, I'm not.
Speaker 3 (00:22):
I just that's not how I say it. You're not
gonna tell me how I said. Okay, I'm listening, all right,
So just fix my mess as a segment on my podcast,
Carefully Reckless under the Black Effect Network. Y'all, y'all can
catch it each and every Wednesday. Actually air today a
new episode came out to new episode comes out each
and every Wednesday. Also, will make sure y'all catch that
anyway you find your podcast, but mainly iHeart make sure
(00:43):
now I'm about to do just fix my mess.
Speaker 2 (00:45):
I want to take some calls.
Speaker 1 (00:47):
Just does give good advice though, because she's a mother
and I love the way her and her baby daddy
brother Roome co parent with each other. And you know,
she got a she's an entrepreneur, she's a business woman,
so she does give good advice.
Speaker 3 (00:58):
Absolutely, thank you the nicest thing you said to me online.
Speaker 4 (01:01):
But go ahead, yeap, who's on the forearad?
Speaker 2 (01:04):
Oh, let's stop it. The first one.
Speaker 3 (01:06):
I love it.
Speaker 5 (01:08):
Good morning, sunshine, good morning.
Speaker 6 (01:11):
I need you to fix my mask. And I mean
it gets pretty messy.
Speaker 2 (01:14):
Okay, okay, I see her.
Speaker 3 (01:16):
You say, how long to wait to bring in a
significant other to introduce to your kids?
Speaker 5 (01:20):
Ooh yeah, and I and I'm asking that because her
my situation, it was a mutual friend of he and ours,
my baby daddy, and he chose to move her into
the house like immediately after I left, right and my
kids know her as you know, just the friend or
(01:43):
the babysitter because she used to actually.
Speaker 6 (01:44):
Babysit our kids.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
Oh wow.
Speaker 5 (01:47):
And now they live together and we are trying to
cope it peacefully. And it bothers me when my six
year old would come home and say, you know, why
is daddy sleeping in the bed with the babysitter legend
and so you know, I just felt like that was
a little too fresh to just put in front of
the kids like that, especially when I mean like it
(02:09):
could be any other to be to be very honest,
but you could be any other bitual world, but this
one in particular. And then you're putting that in our
kid's face like it's normal. Yeah, so what is the
appropriate way.
Speaker 3 (02:22):
Time to introduce Okay, well that that wouldn't even apply
to this situation because she was already around them. She
was their nanny, right, yeah, yeah, so she had already
known the kids. Oh my god.
Speaker 2 (02:34):
So then the question this don't even apply to you.
They already knew her. That the thing is just for myself.
Speaker 7 (02:41):
Sorry, go ahead, Bay.
Speaker 3 (02:42):
No, no, no, no, no, that was Charlaine Chawlaine making noise.
All right, what you say, James Man, Now I'm.
Speaker 5 (02:48):
Asking for myself because I've actually been out here and
you know, jump back on the bandwagon a little bit
and started dating and like I have a little I
have a start lineup, and I I really like the
first top three, but I don't want to introduce them
to my kids because I don't know.
Speaker 3 (03:05):
Better not introduce three niggas to your children. You better
not do that, damn all right, now are you past?
But are you fully past?
Speaker 2 (03:14):
Their father.
Speaker 4 (03:15):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (03:15):
Absolutely, we actually talked about this on your Brother and
Baby Daddy Talk. Okay, I don't like that nigga at all.
Speaker 3 (03:22):
Yeah, okay, oh oh okay, yeah, okay, I remember your voice,
all right. So, yeah, it's really nothing that you can
do about that. If they together, they living together, that's
just what it is. I know you don't like the
way it happened, but damn that dad is notorious for that,
to be honest. But it's really nothing because that look
like they just gonna be together and it doesn't really
seem like he has a lot of other women around
(03:43):
just her.
Speaker 5 (03:44):
Right, Actually, no, they actually date other women together. Messy bro,
excuse me, it gets massy.
Speaker 3 (03:53):
Well, that's still like, you know, his personal life. As
long as the kids ain't around that, then that's a
you know what I'm saying person.
Speaker 5 (04:01):
Like that's part of the reason why he and I
aren't together anymore, because he wanted me to be like
the HBI C and like, that doesn't work for me.
That's not the lifestyle that I'm trying to live. No,
he wants my ques to be accepting of that.
Speaker 2 (04:15):
Well, girl, did you know who you married before you
married him? Because doing I did not. Yeah, so that's
the advice for.
Speaker 6 (04:23):
You, slater.
Speaker 5 (04:24):
He turned into a completely different person.
Speaker 2 (04:26):
That's the advice for you. Pay attention to.
Speaker 3 (04:29):
That's them starting three, so another one will end up
like the ex husband.
Speaker 5 (04:33):
All right, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, I can do that.
Speaker 3 (04:35):
I can do that.
Speaker 2 (04:36):
I love it. I love you damn all right.
Speaker 1 (04:39):
I mean that that was something appropriate going on when
from the beginning he ain't just start sleeping with that baby.
Speaker 4 (04:44):
Babies, they didn't got knocked off in that house.
Speaker 3 (04:45):
You dare going right, and this is something that he
been doing obviously. Shana, Hello, good morning.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
How are you, bab Good morning?
Speaker 8 (04:53):
That's how you doing.
Speaker 2 (04:55):
I'm good, I'm good. I'm trying to forguret. What's going
on with you? Your boyfriend married, but you love him?
Speaker 6 (04:59):
Yes, girl, let me tell you so. My boyfriend he
probably is just a whole bunch of mess. Actually, what
coming out of my mouth? My boyfriend he just got
out in January. He did five years and that's fair.
I did not hold him down, so I knew he
came home he was gonna be looking for me. When
he found me, you know, he whooped me out, hurt
(05:20):
my feet and then I found out he was married,
like he'd been married for ninety days.
Speaker 2 (05:25):
Oh, he was married for ninety days, so they still
was in May.
Speaker 5 (05:29):
He's married right now for still and then got married and.
Speaker 6 (05:34):
Then came looking for me and then went back to
his wife.
Speaker 3 (05:37):
But he knew you before he before he went to
go find his wife.
Speaker 2 (05:42):
Yeah, well boom, there you go me.
Speaker 6 (05:45):
After came and found me after he got married though.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
But no, that that's but see you wasn't.
Speaker 3 (05:50):
If you was just a little bit before then you
would have probably been a white But now you're not.
Speaker 6 (05:55):
Damn my wife or nobody that's going to find people
that wasn't even holding them out in jail.
Speaker 2 (06:01):
Oh so you mad at the wife.
Speaker 6 (06:04):
I'm mad at Yeah, I am mad at the wife.
Speaker 4 (06:06):
Actually she never was.
Speaker 3 (06:07):
You look in the mirror and be mad at yourself,
because girl, you were second, and you don't need to
be second.
Speaker 2 (06:15):
Yeah, that's why you got. You gotta laugh at yourself.
I'm ready to give you don't get a day, damn it,
don't be doing it. Get me donkey a damn right.
Speaker 3 (06:22):
Girl, because this nigga is all right, and he got
me down down back.
Speaker 4 (06:28):
Just said with your stupid ass.
Speaker 2 (06:29):
Lease ain't my dad time for this JJ.
Speaker 1 (06:34):
Just Fix My messundred and five five one oh five one.
If you need any type of advice, She's not an
expert than anything, but she asked some experiences.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
I bet. Look, but I'm getting the most calls that
y'all ever got in the history.
Speaker 1 (06:44):
Of shut with the Breakfast Club, one of the most
dangerous morning show to Breakfast Club CHARLAMAGNEA God, Just Hilarious
DJ Envy is off today. We're in the middle of
Just Fix My Mess. That is where Just Hilarious gives
you advice on all things.
Speaker 4 (06:58):
Look what you got over that? Who you got?
Speaker 2 (07:00):
Oh? Line eight? Line eight? I want to see what's
going on? This is this is good. Hello, Hey, what's up? Hi?
Speaker 6 (07:07):
How you doing?
Speaker 2 (07:07):
Rick?
Speaker 7 (07:08):
I'm good. I love y'all. Bet to the Lack Effect podcast.
Speaker 2 (07:12):
Oh thank you.
Speaker 7 (07:13):
My question, Rick, My question is, so I lost my father,
then I lost my mother saw the kind of like
uh Dionne, Yeah, I did change. I got real snappy,
I got real moody.
Speaker 8 (07:26):
Yeah.
Speaker 7 (07:27):
And I started to like fitsiness myself from friends and
family members even loved ones, and like relationships and stuff
like that. And now I feel like I'm getting myself back,
But don't nobody really want me?
Speaker 2 (07:41):
Okay?
Speaker 4 (07:41):
Well curse Rick?
Speaker 3 (07:42):
Yeah, well Rick first and foremost, I'm sorry. I'll give
you my condolences for both of your parents, but just
an obvious question, what the hell do they expect you
to do? What does anybody expect of you when you
lose not one but both of your parents?
Speaker 7 (07:55):
You know, like, what the within a year less than
a year, I lost both.
Speaker 2 (07:59):
Of my parents, broke both of them.
Speaker 3 (08:01):
And I'm very sorry, and I can imagine that it's
still hard to even talk about. But like Dion said,
you would think that people would notice that something is wrong,
see it changing you with them even knowing what's what
you're going through. And it's like, okay, you know what,
he needs some time away from everything. How can we
cater better to our friend until he get back?
Speaker 8 (08:20):
Right?
Speaker 3 (08:20):
Even if you do snaping me, brother, you ain't got
your parents and and you know you one of your
parents or your friend's parents are still here. Maybe maybe
they are, maybe they're not, but they're supposed to understand,
you know what I'm saying. So that that's just the
advice that that's the advice if if those if you
have those that left you behind this, then you don't
need to go back.
Speaker 7 (08:40):
Yeah, and just for you. So my baby mom, she's
trying to be like, you know, cool for the kids
and stuff like that. How did you and you get
to a point where y'all was cool?
Speaker 2 (08:53):
I'm gonna do it with you for one, thanks, he said.
Speaker 3 (08:56):
So me and Rom got to the point where we
was cool, man, because we we got past the feelings,
said it was no feelings, no intimacy involved anymore.
Speaker 2 (09:03):
And Rome, it's really just my friend. We've just bonded. Uh,
just eight years straight.
Speaker 3 (09:09):
No intimacy, no, nine years I'm sorry, nine years straight,
No intimacy, no, none of that.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
He's just really my friend.
Speaker 3 (09:14):
I'm like, in somewhat like a therapy sister for Rome.
Speaker 2 (09:18):
You know, I help him unload all his.
Speaker 3 (09:21):
All his trauma, you know, all his mental you know
it's it's I help I make it better for that
black man to want to be able to be vulnerable
and talk about what he got going on without being judged.
Speaker 2 (09:31):
And it's okay for him to cry to me.
Speaker 3 (09:34):
So that is how we that's how we move, that's
how we got to where we're at.
Speaker 2 (09:39):
I'm his friend.
Speaker 7 (09:40):
Yeah, I I feel like that's your stile me. But
I probably just feel like that because I want my
baby mom be my sofa.
Speaker 3 (09:45):
Yeah, I think you did. We're gonna take the next
call and get get wrong. Rick Themester of that, you
already got two questions.
Speaker 4 (09:54):
Somebody say that.
Speaker 2 (09:54):
No, I don't blush, thank you. Line three, Yo, you
get on my nerves. Show Man the vone. What's going on?
How you doing?
Speaker 8 (10:04):
I'm doing pretty good?
Speaker 2 (10:05):
Are you sure?
Speaker 8 (10:10):
Yeah? Please don't tell me. You're gonna say, oh, you
sound depressed like everybody else said.
Speaker 2 (10:14):
No, no, no, no, you just sound like you want a cheeseburger.
Speaker 3 (10:17):
You sound hungry. I don't sound depressed. Nah, okay, Well
tell me your problems.
Speaker 2 (10:22):
I see it. Say you're having co parents and issues
with the mother of your child. What's going on?
Speaker 6 (10:26):
All?
Speaker 4 (10:26):
Right?
Speaker 8 (10:26):
So the mother and my daughter, Like I try to
like co parent and keep like communication and everything open
with her, and like try to be there for my
daughter and everything all still trying to be there for
like the mother and my son and everything else. But
the problem is it's like it's like it really comes
(10:50):
down to like money. Yeah, But then at the same time,
it's like I also don't like when she makes like
decisions and things like that without like like without even
telling me.
Speaker 2 (11:01):
So you want to be more included.
Speaker 3 (11:03):
You want to be more included like cole parents, and
you want to come to a decision as a whole,
you know, when she does things without me.
Speaker 8 (11:09):
Yeah, okay yeah, And then like at the same time,
like it's like when I'm like, okay, can we do
something together so at least our daughter can see us
together versus like always oh, you just go to your
daddy's house and oh, you just come to your FAM's house,
and we're always separated because like me, growing up, I
never really seen my father and as soon as I
(11:31):
turned eighteen went to go see my father that was
like the worst experience ever. So I always vowed to
myself I would.
Speaker 7 (11:37):
Never do that to my kids.
Speaker 2 (11:38):
Okay, oh, that's the same time.
Speaker 8 (11:40):
I would want my kids to see that I'm able
to talk to their mothers and stuff like that, get
around them and everything is still cool, right right. So
with her, it's like when it comes to like okay,
for example, like she might need something, and then she'll
go off on a tangent talking about how I take
care of my son more than I take care of
(12:02):
my daughter, but I paid child score for both of
my kids. But I paid more for my son than
I do for my daughter. But I see my son
more than I do my daughter because my son lives
closer than me than my daughter does.
Speaker 3 (12:14):
Okay, And so I was, okay, So y'all got two
different baby mothers. Okay, so with the one the current
one does give you the hard problem right now? So
how long ago has the business y'all.
Speaker 8 (12:22):
Broke up the start of the pandemic?
Speaker 2 (12:25):
Oh wow?
Speaker 3 (12:26):
Okay, So I think maybe it just sounds like two
different types of ways that y'all raise, because I think,
is she dating somebody or is she you know, y'all
y'all not trying to get back together and none of that, right, y'all,
y'all done.
Speaker 2 (12:38):
You're just trying to find a way to cope.
Speaker 8 (12:41):
I mean, to me, I don't mind getting back together
and everything else, because it was like, when the whole
pandemic thing happened, everybody wanted to be fly and yea
whatever they wanted to do, and she just went off
of her own tangent ended up getting with somebody else,
and that was pretty much that. And I was like Hey,
(13:01):
you're moving too fast because we just had a child
and okay that ended up being a whole situation and
stuff like that.
Speaker 3 (13:07):
Okay, cool, So before I get out of here because
we have to go. Yeah, what is not helping that
you're not over her either, that that's the thing too.
And she maybe feels like she don't want to confuse
the kids or confuse you and do things as a
family when that's not where her head is. She seems
like she's well past you. And so I'm sorry, but yes,
you do sound depressed, and I think you do need
to talk to somebody, and I think you should just
(13:27):
even just just work on getting joint custody of your
baby and just focus on the baby and less on
her only. Just focus on your kids and try to
move past the love that you have for her, because
it don't sound like she coming back. But I do
love you, and I want you if you have any
more other problems or anything you want to follow up
with me carefully, reckless, write me on that page and
then we can continue there.
Speaker 1 (13:48):
But let me know your cash after almost gen you
some money for a chief Burger.
Speaker 3 (13:52):
Absolutely I want you to laugh at that, because you
sound depressed, so you need to laugh Devon.
Speaker 1 (13:58):
Yeah, and I'm gonna give them a there's some information
from the Mentalwealth.
Speaker 4 (14:01):
Onlines dot org. Thanks Vegan, you the money, you get
a plant based cheat burger. Yes, we'll be.
Speaker 2 (14:08):
Very big after this, I think. Is that what we're
supposed to say?
Speaker 1 (14:10):
Well, actually, we got to thank you, Jess for doing
just it's my mess, no problem, and we have just
with the mess coming up, right, Yes we do. You
don't know what we're talking about, no, no, okay, So
when we come back, it's just gonna make it all
all the better.
Speaker 2 (14:24):
See it coming.
Speaker 4 (14:26):
It's such a work in progress. It's the Breakfast Club.
The Breakfast Club.
It's the one the most dangerous morning to you to breakfast club
God just hilarious. DJ Envy is off today, but it's time.
But just fix my mess Just tell them what, Just
fix my messages?
Speaker 2 (00:10):
Just fix my mess.
Speaker 3 (00:10):
You can find that on the Black Effect Network under iHeart.
Speaker 4 (00:14):
That ain't true. Ain't none of that true.
Speaker 2 (00:16):
It ain't.
Speaker 1 (00:16):
The podcast called Carefully Reckless just said that, didn't you
have a segment on there called.
Speaker 4 (00:20):
Just fix my mess? See you still hung over?
Speaker 2 (00:22):
No, I'm not.
Speaker 3 (00:22):
I just that's not how I say it. You're not
gonna tell me how I said. Okay, I'm listening, all right,
So just fix my mess as a segment on my podcast,
Carefully Reckless under the Black Effect Network. Y'all, y'all can
catch it each and every Wednesday. Actually air today a
new episode came out to new episode comes out each
and every Wednesday. Also, will make sure y'all catch that
anyway you find your podcast, but mainly iHeart make sure
(00:43):
now I'm about to do just fix my mess.
Speaker 2 (00:45):
I want to take some calls.
Speaker 1 (00:47):
Just does give good advice though, because she's a mother
and I love the way her and her baby daddy
brother Roome co parent with each other. And you know,
she got a she's an entrepreneur, she's a business woman,
so she does give good advice.
Speaker 3 (00:58):
Absolutely, thank you the nicest thing you said to me online.
Speaker 4 (01:01):
But go ahead, yeap, who's on the forearad?
Speaker 2 (01:04):
Oh, let's stop it. The first one.
Speaker 3 (01:06):
I love it.
Speaker 5 (01:08):
Good morning, sunshine, good morning.
Speaker 6 (01:11):
I need you to fix my mask. And I mean
it gets pretty messy.
Speaker 2 (01:14):
Okay, okay, I see her.
Speaker 3 (01:16):
You say, how long to wait to bring in a
significant other to introduce to your kids?
Speaker 5 (01:20):
Ooh yeah, and I and I'm asking that because her
my situation, it was a mutual friend of he and ours,
my baby daddy, and he chose to move her into
the house like immediately after I left, right and my
kids know her as you know, just the friend or
(01:43):
the babysitter because she used to actually.
Speaker 6 (01:44):
Babysit our kids.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
Oh wow.
Speaker 5 (01:47):
And now they live together and we are trying to
cope it peacefully. And it bothers me when my six
year old would come home and say, you know, why
is daddy sleeping in the bed with the babysitter legend
and so you know, I just felt like that was
a little too fresh to just put in front of
the kids like that, especially when I mean like it
(02:09):
could be any other to be to be very honest,
but you could be any other bitual world, but this
one in particular. And then you're putting that in our
kid's face like it's normal. Yeah, so what is the
appropriate way.
Speaker 3 (02:22):
Time to introduce Okay, well that that wouldn't even apply
to this situation because she was already around them. She
was their nanny, right, yeah, yeah, so she had already
known the kids. Oh my god.
Speaker 2 (02:34):
So then the question this don't even apply to you.
They already knew her. That the thing is just for myself.
Speaker 7 (02:41):
Sorry, go ahead, Bay.
Speaker 3 (02:42):
No, no, no, no, no, that was Charlaine Chawlaine making noise.
All right, what you say, James Man, Now I'm.
Speaker 5 (02:48):
Asking for myself because I've actually been out here and
you know, jump back on the bandwagon a little bit
and started dating and like I have a little I
have a start lineup, and I I really like the
first top three, but I don't want to introduce them
to my kids because I don't know.
Speaker 3 (03:05):
Better not introduce three niggas to your children. You better
not do that, damn all right, now are you past?
But are you fully past?
Speaker 2 (03:14):
Their father.
Speaker 4 (03:15):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (03:15):
Absolutely, we actually talked about this on your Brother and
Baby Daddy Talk. Okay, I don't like that nigga at all.
Speaker 3 (03:22):
Yeah, okay, oh oh okay, yeah, okay, I remember your voice,
all right. So, yeah, it's really nothing that you can
do about that. If they together, they living together, that's
just what it is. I know you don't like the
way it happened, but damn that dad is notorious for that,
to be honest. But it's really nothing because that look
like they just gonna be together and it doesn't really
seem like he has a lot of other women around
(03:43):
just her.
Speaker 5 (03:44):
Right, Actually, no, they actually date other women together. Messy bro,
excuse me, it gets massy.
Speaker 3 (03:53):
Well, that's still like, you know, his personal life. As
long as the kids ain't around that, then that's a
you know what I'm saying person.
Speaker 5 (04:01):
Like that's part of the reason why he and I
aren't together anymore, because he wanted me to be like
the HBI C and like, that doesn't work for me.
That's not the lifestyle that I'm trying to live. No,
he wants my ques to be accepting of that.
Speaker 2 (04:15):
Well, girl, did you know who you married before you
married him? Because doing I did not. Yeah, so that's
the advice for.
Speaker 6 (04:23):
You, slater.
Speaker 5 (04:24):
He turned into a completely different person.
Speaker 2 (04:26):
That's the advice for you. Pay attention to.
Speaker 3 (04:29):
That's them starting three, so another one will end up
like the ex husband.
Speaker 5 (04:33):
All right, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, I can do that.
Speaker 3 (04:35):
I can do that.
Speaker 2 (04:36):
I love it. I love you damn all right.
Speaker 1 (04:39):
I mean that that was something appropriate going on when
from the beginning he ain't just start sleeping with that baby.
Speaker 4 (04:44):
Babies, they didn't got knocked off in that house.
Speaker 3 (04:45):
You dare going right, and this is something that he
been doing obviously. Shana, Hello, good morning.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
How are you, bab Good morning?
Speaker 8 (04:53):
That's how you doing.
Speaker 2 (04:55):
I'm good, I'm good. I'm trying to forguret. What's going
on with you? Your boyfriend married, but you love him?
Speaker 6 (04:59):
Yes, girl, let me tell you so. My boyfriend he
probably is just a whole bunch of mess. Actually, what
coming out of my mouth? My boyfriend he just got
out in January. He did five years and that's fair.
I did not hold him down, so I knew he
came home he was gonna be looking for me. When
he found me, you know, he whooped me out, hurt
(05:20):
my feet and then I found out he was married,
like he'd been married for ninety days.
Speaker 2 (05:25):
Oh, he was married for ninety days, so they still
was in May.
Speaker 5 (05:29):
He's married right now for still and then got married and.
Speaker 6 (05:34):
Then came looking for me and then went back to
his wife.
Speaker 3 (05:37):
But he knew you before he before he went to
go find his wife.
Speaker 2 (05:42):
Yeah, well boom, there you go me.
Speaker 6 (05:45):
After came and found me after he got married though.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
But no, that that's but see you wasn't.
Speaker 3 (05:50):
If you was just a little bit before then you
would have probably been a white But now you're not.
Speaker 6 (05:55):
Damn my wife or nobody that's going to find people
that wasn't even holding them out in jail.
Speaker 2 (06:01):
Oh so you mad at the wife.
Speaker 6 (06:04):
I'm mad at Yeah, I am mad at the wife.
Speaker 4 (06:06):
Actually she never was.
Speaker 3 (06:07):
You look in the mirror and be mad at yourself,
because girl, you were second, and you don't need to
be second.
Speaker 2 (06:15):
Yeah, that's why you got. You gotta laugh at yourself.
I'm ready to give you don't get a day, damn it,
don't be doing it. Get me donkey a damn right.
Speaker 3 (06:22):
Girl, because this nigga is all right, and he got
me down down back.
Speaker 4 (06:28):
Just said with your stupid ass.
Speaker 2 (06:29):
Lease ain't my dad time for this JJ.
Speaker 1 (06:34):
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If you need any type of advice, She's not an
expert than anything, but she asked some experiences.
Speaker 2 (06:42):
I bet. Look, but I'm getting the most calls that
y'all ever got in the history.
Speaker 1 (06:44):
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Speaker 4 (06:58):
Look what you got over that? Who you got?
Speaker 2 (07:00):
Oh? Line eight? Line eight? I want to see what's
going on? This is this is good. Hello, Hey, what's up? Hi?
Speaker 6 (07:07):
How you doing?
Speaker 2 (07:07):
Rick?
Speaker 7 (07:08):
I'm good. I love y'all. Bet to the Lack Effect podcast.
Speaker 2 (07:12):
Oh thank you.
Speaker 7 (07:13):
My question, Rick, My question is, so I lost my father,
then I lost my mother saw the kind of like
uh Dionne, Yeah, I did change. I got real snappy,
I got real moody.
Speaker 8 (07:26):
Yeah.
Speaker 7 (07:27):
And I started to like fitsiness myself from friends and
family members even loved ones, and like relationships and stuff
like that. And now I feel like I'm getting myself back,
But don't nobody really want me?
Speaker 2 (07:41):
Okay?
Speaker 4 (07:41):
Well curse Rick?
Speaker 3 (07:42):
Yeah, well Rick first and foremost, I'm sorry. I'll give
you my condolences for both of your parents, but just
an obvious question, what the hell do they expect you
to do? What does anybody expect of you when you
lose not one but both of your parents?
Speaker 7 (07:55):
You know, like, what the within a year less than
a year, I lost both.
Speaker 2 (07:59):
Of my parents, broke both of them.
Speaker 3 (08:01):
And I'm very sorry, and I can imagine that it's
still hard to even talk about. But like Dion said,
you would think that people would notice that something is wrong,
see it changing you with them even knowing what's what
you're going through. And it's like, okay, you know what,
he needs some time away from everything. How can we
cater better to our friend until he get back?
Speaker 8 (08:20):
Right?
Speaker 3 (08:20):
Even if you do snaping me, brother, you ain't got
your parents and and you know you one of your
parents or your friend's parents are still here. Maybe maybe
they are, maybe they're not, but they're supposed to understand,
you know what I'm saying. So that that's just the
advice that that's the advice if if those if you
have those that left you behind this, then you don't
need to go back.
Speaker 7 (08:40):
Yeah, and just for you. So my baby mom, she's
trying to be like, you know, cool for the kids
and stuff like that. How did you and you get
to a point where y'all was cool?
Speaker 2 (08:53):
I'm gonna do it with you for one, thanks, he said.
Speaker 3 (08:56):
So me and Rom got to the point where we
was cool, man, because we we got past the feelings,
said it was no feelings, no intimacy involved anymore.
Speaker 2 (09:03):
And Rome, it's really just my friend. We've just bonded. Uh,
just eight years straight.
Speaker 3 (09:09):
No intimacy, no, nine years I'm sorry, nine years straight,
No intimacy, no, none of that.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
He's just really my friend.
Speaker 3 (09:14):
I'm like, in somewhat like a therapy sister for Rome.
Speaker 2 (09:18):
You know, I help him unload all his.
Speaker 3 (09:21):
All his trauma, you know, all his mental you know
it's it's I help I make it better for that
black man to want to be able to be vulnerable
and talk about what he got going on without being judged.
Speaker 2 (09:31):
And it's okay for him to cry to me.
Speaker 3 (09:34):
So that is how we that's how we move, that's
how we got to where we're at.
Speaker 2 (09:39):
I'm his friend.
Speaker 7 (09:40):
Yeah, I I feel like that's your stile me. But
I probably just feel like that because I want my
baby mom be my sofa.
Speaker 3 (09:45):
Yeah, I think you did. We're gonna take the next
call and get get wrong. Rick Themester of that, you
already got two questions.
Speaker 4 (09:54):
Somebody say that.
Speaker 2 (09:54):
No, I don't blush, thank you. Line three, Yo, you
get on my nerves. Show Man the vone. What's going on?
How you doing?
Speaker 8 (10:04):
I'm doing pretty good?
Speaker 2 (10:05):
Are you sure?
Speaker 8 (10:10):
Yeah? Please don't tell me. You're gonna say, oh, you
sound depressed like everybody else said.
Speaker 2 (10:14):
No, no, no, no, you just sound like you want a cheeseburger.
Speaker 3 (10:17):
You sound hungry. I don't sound depressed. Nah, okay, Well
tell me your problems.
Speaker 2 (10:22):
I see it. Say you're having co parents and issues
with the mother of your child. What's going on?
Speaker 6 (10:26):
All?
Speaker 4 (10:26):
Right?
Speaker 8 (10:26):
So the mother and my daughter, Like I try to
like co parent and keep like communication and everything open
with her, and like try to be there for my
daughter and everything all still trying to be there for
like the mother and my son and everything else. But
the problem is it's like it's like it really comes
(10:50):
down to like money. Yeah, But then at the same time,
it's like I also don't like when she makes like
decisions and things like that without like like without even
telling me.
Speaker 2 (11:01):
So you want to be more included.
Speaker 3 (11:03):
You want to be more included like cole parents, and
you want to come to a decision as a whole,
you know, when she does things without me.
Speaker 8 (11:09):
Yeah, okay yeah, And then like at the same time,
like it's like when I'm like, okay, can we do
something together so at least our daughter can see us
together versus like always oh, you just go to your
daddy's house and oh, you just come to your FAM's house,
and we're always separated because like me, growing up, I
never really seen my father and as soon as I
(11:31):
turned eighteen went to go see my father that was
like the worst experience ever. So I always vowed to
myself I would.
Speaker 7 (11:37):
Never do that to my kids.
Speaker 2 (11:38):
Okay, oh, that's the same time.
Speaker 8 (11:40):
I would want my kids to see that I'm able
to talk to their mothers and stuff like that, get
around them and everything is still cool, right right. So
with her, it's like when it comes to like okay,
for example, like she might need something, and then she'll
go off on a tangent talking about how I take
care of my son more than I take care of
(12:02):
my daughter, but I paid child score for both of
my kids. But I paid more for my son than
I do for my daughter. But I see my son
more than I do my daughter because my son lives
closer than me than my daughter does.
Speaker 3 (12:14):
Okay, And so I was, okay, So y'all got two
different baby mothers. Okay, so with the one the current
one does give you the hard problem right now? So
how long ago has the business y'all.
Speaker 8 (12:22):
Broke up the start of the pandemic?
Speaker 2 (12:25):
Oh wow?
Speaker 3 (12:26):
Okay, So I think maybe it just sounds like two
different types of ways that y'all raise, because I think,
is she dating somebody or is she you know, y'all
y'all not trying to get back together and none of that, right, y'all,
y'all done.
Speaker 2 (12:38):
You're just trying to find a way to cope.
Speaker 8 (12:41):
I mean, to me, I don't mind getting back together
and everything else, because it was like, when the whole
pandemic thing happened, everybody wanted to be fly and yea
whatever they wanted to do, and she just went off
of her own tangent ended up getting with somebody else,
and that was pretty much that. And I was like Hey,
(13:01):
you're moving too fast because we just had a child
and okay that ended up being a whole situation and
stuff like that.
Speaker 3 (13:07):
Okay, cool, So before I get out of here because
we have to go. Yeah, what is not helping that
you're not over her either, that that's the thing too.
And she maybe feels like she don't want to confuse
the kids or confuse you and do things as a
family when that's not where her head is. She seems
like she's well past you. And so I'm sorry, but yes,
you do sound depressed, and I think you do need
to talk to somebody, and I think you should just
(13:27):
even just just work on getting joint custody of your
baby and just focus on the baby and less on
her only. Just focus on your kids and try to
move past the love that you have for her, because
it don't sound like she coming back. But I do
love you, and I want you if you have any
more other problems or anything you want to follow up
with me carefully, reckless, write me on that page and
then we can continue there.
Speaker 1 (13:48):
But let me know your cash after almost gen you
some money for a chief Burger.
Speaker 3 (13:52):
Absolutely I want you to laugh at that, because you
sound depressed, so you need to laugh Devon.
Speaker 1 (13:58):
Yeah, and I'm gonna give them a there's some information
from the Mentalwealth.
Speaker 4 (14:01):
Onlines dot org. Thanks Vegan, you the money, you get
a plant based cheat burger. Yes, we'll be.
Speaker 2 (14:08):
Very big after this, I think. Is that what we're
supposed to say?
Speaker 1 (14:10):
Well, actually, we got to thank you, Jess for doing
just it's my mess, no problem, and we have just
with the mess coming up, right, Yes we do. You
don't know what we're talking about, no, no, okay, So
when we come back, it's just gonna make it all
all the better.
Speaker 2 (14:24):
See it coming.
Speaker 4 (14:26):
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