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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hello friends, Welcome int to the After Show podcast. It's
justin here. It is on Monday. Today is Wow, November tenth,
fresh back from Vermont. I had a beautiful weekend with
my wife. We went up there like we do every
single year for many years. I'll share more about that
in a minute. No guests today. Tomorrow, though, we got
Maddie and Damon from Power of Recovery. These are my

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favorite podcasts to do. They're gonna be sad, obviously because
you know, last time they were in when he was
here and now she's not, so that'll be an adjustment.
But I love these guys so much. Obviously I got
clean with Damon and Maddie that for that matter. And
you know, I love Power of Recovery. I love what
they do and I love having them on because you know,
it's raw and we'll share about recovery stuff and maybe

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some you know, some of the not so good times.
So I do want to say, though, if you have
any questions, because Maddie loves to answer questions. He is
the recovery guy. If you you know a loved one,
anyone you know is struggling, or if you have any
general questions about recovery and what he does and sober
houses and adolescent units and anything. If you have kids,
leave a talkback on the iHeart App. I will play

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them for Maddie and Damon tomorrow so they can answer them.
So on the iHeart App, leave a talkback for Maddie
and Damon from Power of Recovery. And I did miss them.
This weekend, I was at a recovery event in Burlington, Vermont.
My wife and I have been going there since like
two thousand and nine, I believe was my first year.
She had gone the year before. It's every single year.

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It's right in downtown Burlington, Vermont. It is beautiful up there,
and it's kind of, you know, it's changed a bit.
You know, before when I had just gotten clean and stuff,
we'd go up every year and we'd be at this
you know, recovery event all day long, in and out
of different meetings and events and all that stuff. And
we still still are to some degree, but mostly it's

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a getaway for us. So it's about going to the
event in the recovery part, but it's also a getaway.
So for example, you know, Saturday, typically we would be
at the event all day, you know, in and out
of meetings and hanging and hanging with all the people.
But now, like I send her on a SPA day,
I go to the gym. They have this sick gym
up there, which I love, and then you know, we
meet up after that, we get dinner, and then we

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go to like the main event that they have there.
They've speakers from all over the country. It's a really
really cool event, and you know, I love every part
of it. I love to drive up there. Vermont is
beautiful and there's so many great memories of going up there,
So I'm so happy we get to do that once again.
Obviously we had kids, we took some years off, but
now we go again. And you know, I think these

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weekends are so important to our marriage. Listen, man, Being
in a relationship long term, you know, relationship, marriage is
so it's hard. It takes work, it really does, and
especially when you have young kids, it becomes very what's
the word, very routine, right, It becomes like it's all

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about the kids, and it's very easy to forget about
us in what we need as a couple. And so
that's why these weekends are so important for us to
get away and to kind of not reignite the flame,
but you know, spend some quality time together, some intimate
times to get together. And when I say intimate, I
just don't. I don't mean just sex. I mean, obviously

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that's a part of it, but it just means intimate
together closeness. And we had a great talk on the
way up there. We spent some time together. I did,
you know, I sent her off to like, you know,
here's my credit card, like go you know, every day
she got a massage, a foot rub, she went on
a shopping spree. You know, just here. You deserve this,
Like she does most of the work with our kids.

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You deserve this. So that was really cool. She loved that,
and we come back refreshed and full of energy. I
don't know, man, I just feel like I feel like
when you're in a long term relationship and this is
for the guy or the girl, Like I said, you
can get caught into that routine thing. But I also
think that, you know, you need to do things to

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spice up the relationship, right, you need to do things
that are exciting again, you know, and going with going
out with my wife and going to a cool restaurant
and having good conversation. Not being on our phones like
that to me is spicing it up. You know, it's
about changing things, doing things differently. You know it's not easy,
but I just believe in life, like you find somebody,

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you find your person, and you work to work on
that relationship. You know. We would driving home and she
was asking me. She asked me a random question. She said,
you know, do you ever think about other women, like sexually?
She asked me that question. It's a long story how
we got there. I can't talk about all that, but
she just like randomly asked me. She was like, well,

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what about you? And I'm like, do I look at
other women? Of course, I'm not even gonna ask you.
If you look at other guys and be like, oh,
he's cute. If you have that thought, that's human nature.
But for me, it's like from a guy's perspective, if
I get into the point of view, right of Oh,
I've been with the same woman for so many years. Right,

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you've here this, You've hear this all the time. Right, Oh,
I've had sex with the same woman, this, this, this
amount of times I've been with her so long. It's boring.
If you have that mentality then you're fucking doomed. Man.
You know, like, you find your person, and when it
gets to a point where maybe it comes off like
boring or the same old thing over and over again,
then switch it up, right, have communication with your person

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to say, hey, let's try this. Are you willing to
try this, Let's let's do this, you know, whatever that
may be. Use your imagination and make it exciting again. So, like,
that's what I took from this weekend, especially because the
weeks leading up to going away had gotten like that.
You know, every day is the same thing. It's Groundhog Day, right,
It's all about the kids, getting the kids home from school,

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getting them dinner, putting them to bed, We go to bed.
We you know, we don't have any time together. So
this weekend was really important. So you know, I love
my wife so much. Man, she really is is is
the Queen. You know, She's really special. And so for you,
I hope that you have found that special person or
you will eventually one day find that person, because that

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person is definitely out there, Like, look, there could be
there's how many people in the world, you know, you
don't just I don't believe you just have one person
in the world that you're destined to be with. I
don't believe that. I believe you have people that you
vibe with and you gel with, and like those are
the people that when you get with them, you work
on that relationship. That's what I'm saying. So other than that,

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I hope you had a great weekend. Lisa is out
this week. She is taking some time off. This has
been planned for months and months and months, like even
before all the changes happened on the show, it was
always gonna be, you know, when Billy's out, Mikey sits in.
When Lisa's out, Gianna sits in. You know, they do
the afternoon show. So it's been fun having her in,
having you know, a Gianna new person fill in for

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the show and then produce a Riley cover in the
traffic too. It's good. It's a good little switch up,
and it's a good rest and relaxation for Lisa. Obviously
she's had quite the year busy personal things going on,
so she took some time off just to like sleep
in a little bit, you know what I mean. So
Gianna will be here all week and then tomorrow Power
of Recovery, Maddie and Damon leave a talkback. Let's let's

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start the discussion. If you have any crazy questions, or
you know, if you have somebody that's struggling, or if
you're struggling yourself, you can leave a talkback on the
iHeart app I after that. I don't know what's gonna
happen with the after show as far as guests, but
I'm working on it, man, And you know, if you
don't mind, some days, I'll just talk and I'll just
share what's on my mind, whether it be like relationship

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stuff or stuff with the show, of stuff with my friends,
is always things going on that we can chat about.
My after show, Army, So have a great day. Everybody
kind of shitty out there today, but I think hopefully
the weather will get better tomorrow. I I peace,