September 9, 2024 • 37 mins
Today, Doug Pike interviews author Kay Towns about her book "Grace: A Model For Grieving".
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Speaker 3 (00:50):
All Right, Monday afternoon starts. Well, it started what four
minutes ago? Will something like fab four or five minutes ago?
I'm not sure. A day when I feel fairly confident
that we have dodged a swirling bullet out in the
golf of Mexico with movement of what is now the
fifth tropical story, well, fifth tropical event to be named
(01:14):
this one. Francine abcde Hey, will wait a minute, is
it the fifth or the sixth? It's the sixth. It
is the sixth, sixth storm. Fran scene is out there
swirling and dancing and what is that? What is that
lyric swirling and dancing and something along by whom I
(01:36):
can't remember. It wasn't whom though, huh, I got you
on that one.
Speaker 2 (01:42):
Anyway.
Speaker 3 (01:42):
The models show a a just to kind of a
drive by as it goes through the Gulf of Mexico
and lands somewhere in Louisiana. Probably bear in mind, that's
still two days away, and the trend has been almost
every time they move it, almost every time they refresh
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their information, it's moved a little farther wet or east.
So hopefully, hopefully, maybe it'll just spin around the Gulf
of Mexico and then exit out South Florida somewhere and
not bother anybody. It'll make landfall somewhere along the upper
Gulf coast. But I do think that we will have
been spared. We have, after all, had our turn in
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the well, I hope, and maybe we can breathe a
little more easily until maybe next hurricane season. Just one
to a customer, it should be. I remember going through
Florida years ago on a trip that I took over
there to do some live broadcasts. A little farther down
the coast from that Pensacola and Fort Myers area. But
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the bottom line was they had had two hurricanes come
through there that summer, and the place had just almost
kind of sword of gotten a little bit back up
to speed when the second one hit, which would be
about where we are really on the heels of Beryl.
And then that tremendous rain event we got only a
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week after Barrel, we got another several days of it.
Big mess, just a big mess. But I just with
this one, at least with Francine, I feel confident now
in saying that there's really no cause for major concern
unless it, of course totally changes course, which sometimes they do.
We'll get some rain probably and win, but nothing like
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what Beryl threw at us. So no need to go
hoard water and bread and stock up on essentials like
sorryy I talked about. I talked about not necessarily survival food,
but comfort food for times when you need something to
eat over the weekend. I talked about about that on
the Outdoor Show. And one of the things that came
(03:54):
up with spam, and the only reason I will mention
it to you is because a listener let me know
after he did a little research on spam that you
are not supposed to feed that to your dog. It's
dangerous for dogs, it's harmful to dogs. I don't know
why specifically, but there was a big caution there, and
(04:18):
according to that listener, it's actually on the can don't
feed this to your dog, or something to that effect.
So anyway, we're we're moving forward. I got a hunch too,
that Center Point is almost a little bit disappointed, because
you know, they've got they've got people stacked up. Now.
What they need to do, and what they've probably already
(04:39):
been asked to do by somebody in Louisiana is send
some trucks over there. We have some fantastic linemen, fantastic
field service personnel, and they certainly got plenty of hands
on experience a couple of months ago. And I'll bet
that over in Louisiana, those people would be glad to
(05:02):
see the trucks rolling in from Center Point in Texas
and hopefully they'll get over there that you know, they're
sitting on the edge of their seats right now, just
ready to go. If a single tree limb falls on
a power line or a bolt of lightning takes out
a transformer around here, for the next few days. So anyway,
so thanks to Texas Indoor air quality specialists. Because cleaner
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air is healthier air. I'll pound two fifty say healthy
air to learn more about that. Here are your highs
and lows in haiku. Will Are you ready? Yes? Where
did it go? Hold on there? It is right there.
Good news for Texans, all Texans, not just football storm
not landing here, Let's hope. So don't be a pessimist.
(05:49):
Will not being a pessimist.
Speaker 1 (05:52):
I'm just.
Speaker 3 (05:54):
Until it happens, I know, I'm just gonna be on
my heel. I knew as I spoke that I run
the risk of jinxing us. I don't even think that
it's a SUPERSTI I'm not superstitious either. It's gonna do
what it does. But even have Texas in the map,
look there at the television. Let's city's gonna get pounded.
(06:15):
Let's hope it stays that way. I'm okay again.
Speaker 4 (06:17):
I Doug and I were talking about this prior to
the show starting, and I said that I would be
happy with just some rain, light wind, but we cannot
handle anything. I mean, I'm looking at this advisory and
it's saying fifty miles an hour wind, and I'm not
even sure we can handle that.
Speaker 3 (06:38):
Boy. Based on what happened with Beryl, I would almost
agree with you, fifty miles an hour isn't terrible. We
got a lot worse than fifty miles an hour now.
But in that straight line thing that now, they're just
naming random wind events just so that they can put
them into history books and direcho they call that one,
which means what in Spanish?
Speaker 2 (06:58):
Will?
Speaker 3 (06:59):
I don't know what is it? Right? What does it mean?
It means right? R I g h t. There's something left,
something is left. I don't recall the word for it.
I apologize, and then I think that show is right.
But I may be wrong. Maybe it's maybe it's heavy wind.
I don't know. It's uh, the Spanish adjective for straight
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or direct straight. Okay, we'll go with that. Then I'm
trying to I don't know what what is the word?
What is the Spanish word for right? Then? R I
g h t. Correct? Well, it's correct, though, I know,
but I think there's another word for it is no,
it is it's also see I told you, But I
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think they're using it for the straight line reference, so
that makes sense in any event. Uh, that's that okay,
and the market's cursed. Courtesy of Houston Gold Exchange dot
Com green across the board this morning after Friday's heavy slide,
which mostly was caused by corrections to this past month's
jobs report. It's kind of funny how mainstream media puts originals,
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the original jobs reports on the front page, the ones
that are super optimistic already. Will where's my clock? Dude? Well,
I was watching uh huh the Weather Channel. Well what
was first then?
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Speaker 3 (10:25):
All right, here we go. Second segment of the show
Stars right now, Can I get my big clock on
the wall wheel? I need that. It's a crutch, I know,
but I need it. I'm not a fortune teller, and
nor do I trust myself to know exactly when the
segment started so that I could use my clock or
(10:46):
my watch, my wristwatch. I still wear one of those.
By the way. You don't wear a watch, do you?
Without even looking?
Speaker 2 (10:54):
Do you?
Speaker 3 (10:54):
Or don't you?
Speaker 2 (10:55):
No?
Speaker 3 (10:55):
No, because the time is available on your phone. What
if your battery go dead? Will you won't know what time?
Speaker 4 (11:01):
It is?
Speaker 3 (11:02):
Not true? You know you know what time it'll be
if your battery's dead. Get a watch, a clock? No, Well,
you're warm charge your first time to charge your phone.
That's that's all. And he's kind of killed the joke,
the whole joke by even even asking, even even submitting
an answer to that one. That's all right, though, So
(11:23):
you're just gonna put a random clock up there. It's
not even a countdown clock. That's what I'm talking about, Will,
That's what I need. I need a countdown clock. This
tells you the exact time. I know, and I have
to be out at twenty eight? Is that car yez okay,
and we'll be close probably somewhere around there. You know,
you know what's gonna happen. All right, back very quickly
(11:45):
because I got interrupted by Will's grinding hands, meaning I
had to stop talking and move to the break the markets.
We kind of touched on all green across the board.
UH oil was still south of seventy dollars a barrel,
which is which is a good place to be, since
it was about seventy eight or seventy nine only a
(12:08):
week and a half ago, if that, so hats off
to that. But it was on the rise. It was
up about fifty cents I think this morning the last
time I looked, and so it should. I don't think
there's anything nothing I read this morning that would indicate
a major upward tick for that. Gold also jumped up
(12:28):
a few bucks this morning, still north pretty comfortably north
of twenty five hundred dollars an ounce, which means those
bars of gold you got around are worth a million
dollars apiece. Moving to the impossible to ignore world of
politics between now and November, and I promise just briefly
today we'll finally see President Trump on the stage alongside
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Kamala Harris for what I expect will be a pretty
telling debate. I wanted to use the word lie, but
in some cases, I don't know that it will be.
I think it'll be somewhat confrontational. I think there's a
lot of things that's gonna be. And at some point,
(13:13):
I hope somebody asks Harris, why if she's got all
these grand plans to fix the economy that she and
Biden broke, to close the border they opened, to make
sure schools are secured and not demilitarized, as she she
said to do that. That's what she wanted done to
schools not long ago. And she'll just do She'll do
(13:34):
all these wonderful things if only we'll elect her president.
So why in the hell hadn't she done anything yet?
President Biden has checked out. He took a two week vacation,
two weeks of vacation as president of the United States,
which I think is just I think it's hard. I
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think they're deliberately just hiding him and allowing him to
do stuff like that, not to not to worry about
how the country's going, because I'm not sure he would
understand what to do about it. Honestly, I really I'm
not sure. Only the truth is that even Harris isn't
in charge right now, and that's what's keeping her from
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promising or doing anything not promise. She's promising the moon
and the stars. Wherever she is, she promises what they
want to hear. And I hope that gets changed very
quickly tomorrow when she's put on the spot, because if
Biden's not in charge, then she is supposed to be.
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On paper, she's supposed to be in charge, and she's
but I'm pretty sure she's been told to keep her
mouth shut about the party's plans to strike the final
blow against America. I don't think they can convince enough
Americans that she'd do anything different or better as president,
so they'll have to do it otherwise. And I'm sure
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there are plans in place to make sure she becomes president.
And that scares me as much as anything else. It
really does. Out in Arizona. By the way, no, you
know what I'm gonna I'll deliver this stuff in tiny doses.
And by the way, in the next segment at the
bottom of the hour here in about three minutes, two
minutes and forty four seconds, I'm watching your clock? Now,
(15:17):
will you proud of me? We're gonna talk to a
woman named Kay Towns who is author of a book
that's called Grace, A Model for Grieving, and it really
is good. I've read not the entire book. It's not
a big long read either, which I think is pretty
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pretty well thought out for a book of this sort.
But she outlines a plan to help any of us
no matter how we grieve, or how long we grieve,
or how short a time we grieve. It allows us
to get through that process and move forward with our lives.
And we'll talk about that at length in a little
bit anyway. Right now, back to a little bit of
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new No, no, no, no, We're gonna go to something fun.
Will do you want?
Speaker 2 (16:06):
Well?
Speaker 3 (16:06):
This is just kind of a boring headline, but there
I couldn't think of anything really quippy and clever. You
want acronyms? Do you want Happy birthday to y'all? Or
do you want how much is that doggie? How much
is that doggy? I know why because you have a dog?
Speaker 2 (16:23):
Right?
Speaker 3 (16:23):
I have two? Well, then how much are those doggies?
It would just be more.
Speaker 1 (16:28):
Uh.
Speaker 3 (16:29):
Sportscasting dot Com says that NFL fans are gonna have
to pay uh pop quiz? Will you walk yourself right
into it? How much on average for a beer and
a hot dog? This season when they go to a
game on average?
Speaker 4 (16:44):
On average, I'm gonna say, I mean, stadium prices are crazy.
Speaker 3 (16:49):
Well, that's yeah, we've that's been the same since the
Roman Colisseum. I bet it costs a lot to get
a piece of bread and a glass of wine. I
don't go with eighteen dollars. Oh no, it's not that much,
I believe it or not. No, fifteen dollars and two
cents on average. So the good news is there are
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a lot of people getting what at stadium prices would
be considered a bargain. I would have thought it would
have been seventeen or eighteen bucks, probably fourteen for the beer,
twelve or fourteen for the beer, and four or five
for the for the dog. But it's only fifteen oh two.
Seattle has the highest prices, the most expensive concessions, and
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for the pop quiz extra credit, what stadium has the
least expensive? Then you think this through, well, never mind
thinking it through, it has no there's no logic behind this.
The least expensive yeah, and it's not Houston. I'll go
with the Jacksonville Jaguar.
Speaker 1 (17:55):
No.
Speaker 3 (17:56):
And you know, I think the reason you did this
is because it's a little bit smaller market, right, Yes,
it's a big market that has the lowest prices for concessions,
and that would be Atlanta the Falcon Falcons, home of
the fighting Falcons. Yeah, they have the lowest price concessions,
which is awesome. I think they ought to just slash
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those prices at least for a couple of games. They
ought to have dollar dog night like the Astros do.
Have you ever been there for one of those?
Speaker 4 (18:25):
No.
Speaker 3 (18:26):
I don't know how many hot dogs I could eat,
But I will tell you this. I had the friend
my good friends from oh gosh, we're late again, will
you didn't even tell me. Well, I put the cork
up there so you could tell I'll have to turn.
You're supposed to be looking at it. Well, you're just
making us later. Now, don't interrupt. Now, I'm trying to
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Aging Aged to Perfection. This is fifty plus with Dougpike.
All right, welcome back segment three.
Speaker 3 (20:41):
Already, Holy col how quickly this day is going. We
will talk in this and thanks for sharing your lunch hour.
By the way, I do appreciate that we're going to
talk in this segment about a pretty pretty somber topic
really about grief, uh, something we all experience with dreadfully
and reacing frequency as we get older and our peers
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begin to pass away. And to help me help you
get through the grieving process, however you ultimately navigate it,
I'll bring in k Town's, author of fantastic book titled Grace,
A Model for Grieving. Welcome aboard, k.
Speaker 2 (21:19):
Hi, Doug. How are you doing today?
Speaker 3 (21:22):
You know I'm pretty well. Actually, thank you for asking.
There are lots of ways to define grief. It's almost
an well, it is an individual thing, really, but if
you would maybe try to define that word as concisely as.
Speaker 2 (21:34):
Possible, I'd be happy too. So let's think of it
this way, in its simplest form, loss is the event.
So loss is losing that loved one, a divorce, a layoff,
not getting a promotion. There's all different types of loss.
So loss is the event. Grief. Grief is simply our
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reaction to those losses. And grief is to unpack it
a little bit more. It's so much more than that,
because grief affects every person because at some point in
everyone's life and throughout our lives, individually and communally, we're
going to experience a multitude of losses. True and so
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and so grief is simply our reaction to those losses.
Speaker 3 (22:23):
That's a really good way to put it. I'm going
to hang on to that. I'm going to tuck that
away and drag it out at some point somewhere and
sound really smart, but I will give you credit, I
promise uh in one way or another. It's just it's
a struggle and it is a process. And I'm I
I don't know where do you even start? Where do
you start the journey back from where this has taken you?
Speaker 2 (22:48):
Well, I think to begin is just to begin with
an acknowledgment that that grief is kind of this ubique,
ubiqulated thing that exists in.
Speaker 3 (22:56):
All of our life.
Speaker 2 (22:57):
So it's I think of where we are right So
here we are in this world, and we seem to
be in a state of suspended and collective, suspended, collective
and individual grief. You know, in a larger context, we've
got wars and conflicts and the lingering effects of COVID
pandemic and global and political unrest and justices, natural disasters,
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you know, all of that's taking center stage. And in
a personal level, our families and at an individual levels
were pained with these with these losses that include the
deaths of loved ones and illnesses and financial woes that
we're dealing with rising health care costs while at the
same time limited access to medical care and needed medications
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and so forth. And so all of this is putting
strains on us, and relationship strains that are just compounding
the stressors that we're having to deal with. And all
of this creates this this kind of almost this crushing loss,
this revolving door of loss after loss which result and
what feels like somewhat of an untethering for almost.
Speaker 3 (24:03):
All of us in this time.
Speaker 2 (24:05):
Thinking of this week alone, So here we are, most
of your listeners this week are going to be dealing
with losses big and small, and a lot of those
losses are going to include, like the political divide, rupturing
friendships and families, people wondering gosh, am I going to
be able to sit across from Uncle Bob at the
Thanksgiving dinner table because he has a different political view
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from me? Or my goodness, is Uncle Bob even going
to show up this year for Thanksgiving because of that. Also,
we've got a lot of listeners that are dealing with
empty nest syndrome as kiddos go back to college or
maybe leave home for the first time. And obviously, in
a couple of days we're going to be going through
another anniversary of the nine to eleven attacks. So losses
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all around us, whether we acknowledge it or not, losses
big and small. So a place to start though, is
again being aware that everyone experiences loss and instead of
running from that, opening our mind up to kind of
redefine what loss is in the sense that loss, or
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excuse me, what grief is in the sense that while
loss is the event as I mentioned, grief is the
grief is the very thing that comes to heal us.
Grief is what gets us through loss. Simply put, when
we grieve then healthy healthy ways. When we grieve in
healthy ways, that's how we heal from loss period. And
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so opening up and maybe redefining and re engaging with
this idea of grief and grief work in a new
and healthy ways, that's the place to begin. That's how
we can get through loss.
Speaker 3 (25:43):
Kay Town's, author of Grace, a Model for Grieving. There's
got to be a story about about how you came
to write this book, is there and can you share it?
Speaker 2 (25:54):
Absolutely? I came about this because this was for me.
This was out of at a necessity. So I happened
to be a licensed professional counselor, and I also happened
to be an ordained United Methodist minister, and I practiced
in I serve in.
Speaker 3 (26:11):
The Order of Deacon.
Speaker 2 (26:13):
And so what that means is that I often spend
time helping others and walking through loss. Now, as a counselor,
I became frustrated because the evidence based models out there
were a bit lacking. They're good, but they were a
bit lacking when it came to dealing with grieving and
how to how to help people, especially those that were
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stuck or struggling move forward in a healthy way. And
so by default, when I was working at the Minninger
Clinic in Houston, I began I began compiling what eventually
would become a new grief model for kind of addressing
some of those known struggles that are in existing models
for grief. So that's how I came about. It was
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just quite simply, it was a need, a need that
I had to be able to address and help more people.
And they're in their struggles with loss, Yeah.
Speaker 3 (27:06):
No question about it. Very quickly, believe it or not.
We're almost out of time already, Holy cal And I
want to touch on this, make sure that everybody help
everybody understand that this grief process is going to take
a little while, but it's not and it's not that
you're trying to get back to where you were. It's
trying to establish kind of a new path after having
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dealt with that grief. Does that make sense?
Speaker 2 (27:31):
Absolutely? So you walk through this grief journey and the
idea is to kind of invite it in and think
of it as again, like I said, this is this
is the this is the healing component that we're looking
for when we're struggling with loss is this thing we
call grief work, but bear in mind it's called grief
work for a reason because it is work. And so
to ultimately get to this place where where we adopt
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not just a new normal, but a new normal within
a livable pattern of grief work, of healing grief work.
That's where you know, where we process those emotions, where
we where we navigate and work through the stories of loss,
where we invite people that can help us do that
into our world.
Speaker 3 (28:13):
That's that's that's a.
Speaker 2 (28:15):
Big component of what's missing is just not just getting
to the end of grief, because the reality is the
end of grief is often just the beginning. How many
of us have gone through a loss event and we think, oh,
I grieve that that's over, only to have it bubble
up again. That doesn't that doesn't mean you didn't grieve
correctly the first time. What it is is it's offering
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you and inviting you a new opportunity, a new opportunity
to grieve a little bit deeper.
Speaker 3 (28:42):
At is it's a good way to look at it, okay,
and it's it's it's not done yet. You're just not
done with it. You're you're it's okay. You've got to
finish what you started. And at that point, and I
guess you'll know, believe it or not. I know what
Will's telling me here. And we're kind of out of town,
I mean, out of time for anybody who's who's dealing
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with grief right now, or anybody who maybe sees some
around the corner with a family member, whatever. I can't
encourage you to read this book enough. I've read enough
of it now to know that I'm going to read
the whole thing cover to cover at one point, and
I'll be much better for it. Thank you. The book
is called Grace, A Model for Grieving Kay Towns.
Speaker 2 (29:21):
Thank you, Thanks Doug, and thanks to your listeners.
Speaker 3 (29:26):
My pleasure. All right, we got to take a little
break here. Unfortunately, boy, I would love to have gone
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later you realize you're not done. You got to go
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right back in there. Those are all signs of a
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In their clinics, what they'll do is go in and
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Doesn't affect the rest of your health at all. It
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as it shrinks, the problems that it had that it
was causing go away. Same for fibroids with women. Same
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And of course women never get old. If you want
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that sounds like a good plan. Fifty plus continues. Here's
more with Doug Hi. Welcome back to fifty plus. Thanks
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for and certainly do appreciate it on this beautiful Monday.
Made all the better, of course, because it's not gonna
bring up. The storm's not coming our way. Thank goodness
for that. Thank goodness for that. Let's go back to
a little bit of newsy stuff, because I want to
hit a couple of these things and then I'll get
(32:20):
to some good news. And I'll even let Will jump
in and see if he knows what all these acronyms
are that are the most popular searches among acronyms. You
probably know all of these. You're kind of the social
media butterfly, right, you're a texter, all day, everyday texter. No, okay, Well,
(32:40):
then's see if there's any of these that you don't know.
I'll jump in them quickly and then we'll get out
and go do some other stuff. Smh, shaking my head. POV,
that's too easy point of view. Even old people know
that n SFW. A lot of people in this audience
might not know that one not safe for work because
they're retired. Fomo. We all know that one tld R
(33:05):
too long, didn't read. I didn't know that one. Iyk,
y k, I know that one. If you know you
know OFC of course, yes, Imo, everybody knows that. In
my opinion. And by the way, anything you ever say,
you don't have to start. You don't have to lead
(33:26):
it by saying in my opinion, because the fact that
you're saying it, unless you preface it with I think
this is Will's opinion. I could anything I say is
my opinion, and I r C. I wasn't aware of
that one. I I r C. Yeah, I have no
idea that is was searched monthly average monthly searches sixty
(33:50):
six thousand times. At least you won't have to be
one of those. Now it stands for if I recall correctly,
which is somewhat obscure. I think that's kind of good.
And the last one on here hmu. I had no idea.
I just thought they misspelled home h m u. Oh
hit me up. Yeah, that's it. What does that mean?
Speaker 5 (34:12):
Call me?
Speaker 1 (34:12):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (34:13):
No, No, nobody wants to be called anymore. It means
text me. Why don't you just put TM on there?
Save yourself a keystroke? Mm hmm in okay, oh uh
here in Houston, by the way, in case you missed it,
I see u M. I. County Judge Lennahidalgo use her
(34:35):
State of the County address recently. I think it was
last week. She's gonna propose taxes she says are necessary
for infrastructure maintenance and improvement. Well, it's pretty obvious we
need that. But here's the deal. I might get on
board for raising taxes only if she can promise the county,
(34:57):
that the rate hike will actually fix flooding issues and
potholes for starters at least, and that the money won't
disappear elsewhere into county government, and that the estimates for
those improvements won't spiral through the roof before the work
even starts. Then maybe I'd go for it. But without
those promises, it's kind of I fool me once, And
(35:20):
actually most people in Houston have been fooled a dozen
times at least, they've lived here long enough about taxes.
And in case you were wondering why not to vote
for that all Red guy, the guy the Democrat who's
going up against Ted Cruz for one of Texas Senate seats,
remember that it was he who said. Allred said that
if a border wall gets built, it'll be his generation
(35:43):
that tears it down. How can anybody be so naive
and so blind to the destruction that Biden Harris's open
border has been for this country. Even Kamla's walking back
or refusal to close that door, and it well, she's
walking it back to find votes. But I got a
(36:03):
hunch that if she gets in, whatever wall we have
will start coming down. It's frightening in good news, since
I've only got about a minute left. A device called
a diadem, which is it's an old word. It's a
very old word for kind of a crown, like something
that people wore a long time ago. There's a diadem
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medical device now that's being hailed as a game changer
for people who suffer from pain and depression. It uses
therapeutic sound waves delivered to very targeted region in the
brain with millimeter precision, and thus far it's been very
effective in as little as one forty second treatment. Believe
(36:46):
it or not, gone through two phases of testing, most
patients report positive results after that first treatment, which is
just fantastic to know. September ninth. September ninth is the
most common birthday in the United States. The top ten
all are between the ninth and twentieth of September.
Speaker 2 (37:07):
You know why?
Speaker 3 (37:09):
You know why? Will you know? What happens? About nine
months in change? Right before that New Year's holidays. Merry Christmas, honey,
Happy New Years. We'll be back tomorrow. Audios.
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Speaker 3 (00:50):
All Right, Monday afternoon starts. Well, it started what four
minutes ago? Will something like fab four or five minutes ago?
I'm not sure. A day when I feel fairly confident
that we have dodged a swirling bullet out in the
golf of Mexico with movement of what is now the
fifth tropical story, well, fifth tropical event to be named
(01:14):
this one. Francine abcde Hey, will wait a minute, is
it the fifth or the sixth? It's the sixth. It
is the sixth, sixth storm. Fran scene is out there
swirling and dancing and what is that? What is that
lyric swirling and dancing and something along by whom I
(01:36):
can't remember. It wasn't whom though, huh, I got you
on that one.
Speaker 2 (01:42):
Anyway.
Speaker 3 (01:42):
The models show a a just to kind of a
drive by as it goes through the Gulf of Mexico
and lands somewhere in Louisiana. Probably bear in mind, that's
still two days away, and the trend has been almost
every time they move it, almost every time they refresh
(02:03):
their information, it's moved a little farther wet or east.
So hopefully, hopefully, maybe it'll just spin around the Gulf
of Mexico and then exit out South Florida somewhere and
not bother anybody. It'll make landfall somewhere along the upper
Gulf coast. But I do think that we will have
been spared. We have, after all, had our turn in
(02:25):
the well, I hope, and maybe we can breathe a
little more easily until maybe next hurricane season. Just one
to a customer, it should be. I remember going through
Florida years ago on a trip that I took over
there to do some live broadcasts. A little farther down
the coast from that Pensacola and Fort Myers area. But
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the bottom line was they had had two hurricanes come
through there that summer, and the place had just almost
kind of sword of gotten a little bit back up
to speed when the second one hit, which would be
about where we are really on the heels of Beryl.
And then that tremendous rain event we got only a
(03:11):
week after Barrel, we got another several days of it.
Big mess, just a big mess. But I just with
this one, at least with Francine, I feel confident now
in saying that there's really no cause for major concern
unless it, of course totally changes course, which sometimes they do.
We'll get some rain probably and win, but nothing like
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what Beryl threw at us. So no need to go
hoard water and bread and stock up on essentials like
sorryy I talked about. I talked about not necessarily survival food,
but comfort food for times when you need something to
eat over the weekend. I talked about about that on
the Outdoor Show. And one of the things that came
(03:54):
up with spam, and the only reason I will mention
it to you is because a listener let me know
after he did a little research on spam that you
are not supposed to feed that to your dog. It's
dangerous for dogs, it's harmful to dogs. I don't know
why specifically, but there was a big caution there, and
(04:18):
according to that listener, it's actually on the can don't
feed this to your dog, or something to that effect.
So anyway, we're we're moving forward. I got a hunch too,
that Center Point is almost a little bit disappointed, because
you know, they've got they've got people stacked up. Now.
What they need to do, and what they've probably already
(04:39):
been asked to do by somebody in Louisiana is send
some trucks over there. We have some fantastic linemen, fantastic
field service personnel, and they certainly got plenty of hands
on experience a couple of months ago. And I'll bet
that over in Louisiana, those people would be glad to
(05:02):
see the trucks rolling in from Center Point in Texas
and hopefully they'll get over there that you know, they're
sitting on the edge of their seats right now, just
ready to go. If a single tree limb falls on
a power line or a bolt of lightning takes out
a transformer around here, for the next few days. So anyway,
so thanks to Texas Indoor air quality specialists. Because cleaner
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air is healthier air. I'll pound two fifty say healthy
air to learn more about that. Here are your highs
and lows in haiku. Will Are you ready? Yes? Where
did it go? Hold on there? It is right there.
Good news for Texans, all Texans, not just football storm
not landing here, Let's hope. So don't be a pessimist.
(05:49):
Will not being a pessimist.
Speaker 1 (05:52):
I'm just.
Speaker 3 (05:54):
Until it happens, I know, I'm just gonna be on
my heel. I knew as I spoke that I run
the risk of jinxing us. I don't even think that
it's a SUPERSTI I'm not superstitious either. It's gonna do
what it does. But even have Texas in the map,
look there at the television. Let's city's gonna get pounded.
(06:15):
Let's hope it stays that way. I'm okay again.
Speaker 4 (06:17):
I Doug and I were talking about this prior to
the show starting, and I said that I would be
happy with just some rain, light wind, but we cannot
handle anything. I mean, I'm looking at this advisory and
it's saying fifty miles an hour wind, and I'm not
even sure we can handle that.
Speaker 3 (06:38):
Boy. Based on what happened with Beryl, I would almost
agree with you, fifty miles an hour isn't terrible. We
got a lot worse than fifty miles an hour now.
But in that straight line thing that now, they're just
naming random wind events just so that they can put
them into history books and direcho they call that one,
which means what in Spanish?
Speaker 2 (06:58):
Will?
Speaker 3 (06:59):
I don't know what is it? Right? What does it mean?
It means right? R I g h t. There's something left,
something is left. I don't recall the word for it.
I apologize, and then I think that show is right.
But I may be wrong. Maybe it's maybe it's heavy wind.
I don't know. It's uh, the Spanish adjective for straight
(07:21):
or direct straight. Okay, we'll go with that. Then I'm
trying to I don't know what what is the word?
What is the Spanish word for right? Then? R I
g h t. Correct? Well, it's correct, though, I know,
but I think there's another word for it is no,
it is it's also see I told you, But I
(07:45):
think they're using it for the straight line reference, so
that makes sense in any event. Uh, that's that okay,
and the market's cursed. Courtesy of Houston Gold Exchange dot
Com green across the board this morning after Friday's heavy slide,
which mostly was caused by corrections to this past month's
jobs report. It's kind of funny how mainstream media puts originals,
(08:09):
the original jobs reports on the front page, the ones
that are super optimistic already. Will where's my clock? Dude? Well,
I was watching uh huh the Weather Channel. Well what
was first then?
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And I'm glad to tell you about that. Every time
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I expect that almost now from kirk Hoolmmes because they've
been so sucessful taking care of people and making their
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Speaker 3 (10:25):
All right, here we go. Second segment of the show
Stars right now, Can I get my big clock on
the wall wheel? I need that. It's a crutch, I know,
but I need it. I'm not a fortune teller, and
nor do I trust myself to know exactly when the
segment started so that I could use my clock or
(10:46):
my watch, my wristwatch. I still wear one of those.
By the way. You don't wear a watch, do you?
Without even looking?
Speaker 2 (10:54):
Do you?
Speaker 3 (10:54):
Or don't you?
Speaker 2 (10:55):
No?
Speaker 3 (10:55):
No, because the time is available on your phone. What
if your battery go dead? Will you won't know what time?
Speaker 4 (11:01):
It is?
Speaker 3 (11:02):
Not true? You know you know what time it'll be
if your battery's dead. Get a watch, a clock? No, Well,
you're warm charge your first time to charge your phone.
That's that's all. And he's kind of killed the joke,
the whole joke by even even asking, even even submitting
an answer to that one. That's all right, though, So
(11:23):
you're just gonna put a random clock up there. It's
not even a countdown clock. That's what I'm talking about, Will,
That's what I need. I need a countdown clock. This
tells you the exact time. I know, and I have
to be out at twenty eight? Is that car yez okay,
and we'll be close probably somewhere around there. You know,
you know what's gonna happen. All right, back very quickly
(11:45):
because I got interrupted by Will's grinding hands, meaning I
had to stop talking and move to the break the markets.
We kind of touched on all green across the board.
UH oil was still south of seventy dollars a barrel,
which is which is a good place to be, since
it was about seventy eight or seventy nine only a
(12:08):
week and a half ago, if that, so hats off
to that. But it was on the rise. It was
up about fifty cents I think this morning the last
time I looked, and so it should. I don't think
there's anything nothing I read this morning that would indicate
a major upward tick for that. Gold also jumped up
(12:28):
a few bucks this morning, still north pretty comfortably north
of twenty five hundred dollars an ounce, which means those
bars of gold you got around are worth a million
dollars apiece. Moving to the impossible to ignore world of
politics between now and November, and I promise just briefly
today we'll finally see President Trump on the stage alongside
(12:52):
Kamala Harris for what I expect will be a pretty
telling debate. I wanted to use the word lie, but
in some cases, I don't know that it will be.
I think it'll be somewhat confrontational. I think there's a
lot of things that's gonna be. And at some point,
(13:13):
I hope somebody asks Harris, why if she's got all
these grand plans to fix the economy that she and
Biden broke, to close the border they opened, to make
sure schools are secured and not demilitarized, as she she
said to do that. That's what she wanted done to
schools not long ago. And she'll just do She'll do
(13:34):
all these wonderful things if only we'll elect her president.
So why in the hell hadn't she done anything yet?
President Biden has checked out. He took a two week vacation,
two weeks of vacation as president of the United States,
which I think is just I think it's hard. I
(13:55):
think they're deliberately just hiding him and allowing him to
do stuff like that, not to not to worry about
how the country's going, because I'm not sure he would
understand what to do about it. Honestly, I really I'm
not sure. Only the truth is that even Harris isn't
in charge right now, and that's what's keeping her from
(14:15):
promising or doing anything not promise. She's promising the moon
and the stars. Wherever she is, she promises what they
want to hear. And I hope that gets changed very
quickly tomorrow when she's put on the spot, because if
Biden's not in charge, then she is supposed to be.
(14:36):
On paper, she's supposed to be in charge, and she's
but I'm pretty sure she's been told to keep her
mouth shut about the party's plans to strike the final
blow against America. I don't think they can convince enough
Americans that she'd do anything different or better as president,
so they'll have to do it otherwise. And I'm sure
(14:57):
there are plans in place to make sure she becomes president.
And that scares me as much as anything else. It
really does. Out in Arizona. By the way, no, you
know what I'm gonna I'll deliver this stuff in tiny doses.
And by the way, in the next segment at the
bottom of the hour here in about three minutes, two
minutes and forty four seconds, I'm watching your clock? Now,
(15:17):
will you proud of me? We're gonna talk to a
woman named Kay Towns who is author of a book
that's called Grace, A Model for Grieving, and it really
is good. I've read not the entire book. It's not
a big long read either, which I think is pretty
(15:37):
pretty well thought out for a book of this sort.
But she outlines a plan to help any of us
no matter how we grieve, or how long we grieve,
or how short a time we grieve. It allows us
to get through that process and move forward with our lives.
And we'll talk about that at length in a little
bit anyway. Right now, back to a little bit of
(16:01):
new No, no, no, no, We're gonna go to something fun.
Will do you want?
Speaker 2 (16:06):
Well?
Speaker 3 (16:06):
This is just kind of a boring headline, but there
I couldn't think of anything really quippy and clever. You
want acronyms? Do you want Happy birthday to y'all? Or
do you want how much is that doggie? How much
is that doggy? I know why because you have a dog?
Speaker 2 (16:23):
Right?
Speaker 3 (16:23):
I have two? Well, then how much are those doggies?
It would just be more.
Speaker 1 (16:28):
Uh.
Speaker 3 (16:29):
Sportscasting dot Com says that NFL fans are gonna have
to pay uh pop quiz? Will you walk yourself right
into it? How much on average for a beer and
a hot dog? This season when they go to a
game on average?
Speaker 4 (16:44):
On average, I'm gonna say, I mean, stadium prices are crazy.
Speaker 3 (16:49):
Well, that's yeah, we've that's been the same since the
Roman Colisseum. I bet it costs a lot to get
a piece of bread and a glass of wine. I
don't go with eighteen dollars. Oh no, it's not that much,
I believe it or not. No, fifteen dollars and two
cents on average. So the good news is there are
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a lot of people getting what at stadium prices would
be considered a bargain. I would have thought it would
have been seventeen or eighteen bucks, probably fourteen for the beer,
twelve or fourteen for the beer, and four or five
for the for the dog. But it's only fifteen oh two.
Seattle has the highest prices, the most expensive concessions, and
(17:34):
for the pop quiz extra credit, what stadium has the
least expensive? Then you think this through, well, never mind
thinking it through, it has no there's no logic behind this.
The least expensive yeah, and it's not Houston. I'll go
with the Jacksonville Jaguar.
Speaker 1 (17:55):
No.
Speaker 3 (17:56):
And you know, I think the reason you did this
is because it's a little bit smaller market, right, Yes,
it's a big market that has the lowest prices for concessions,
and that would be Atlanta the Falcon Falcons, home of
the fighting Falcons. Yeah, they have the lowest price concessions,
which is awesome. I think they ought to just slash
(18:18):
those prices at least for a couple of games. They
ought to have dollar dog night like the Astros do.
Have you ever been there for one of those?
Speaker 4 (18:25):
No.
Speaker 3 (18:26):
I don't know how many hot dogs I could eat,
But I will tell you this. I had the friend
my good friends from oh gosh, we're late again, will
you didn't even tell me. Well, I put the cork
up there so you could tell I'll have to turn.
You're supposed to be looking at it. Well, you're just
making us later. Now, don't interrupt. Now, I'm trying to
(18:46):
get out of here, and you're making it hard. Ut
Health Institute on Aging is an amazing collaborative really of
providers from every medical discipline, most of whom work at
least some of the week in the medicenter, which is
the hub of medicine really throughout the entire South Houston's
Medical Center is, but a lot of them also work
(19:09):
in outlying clinics and hospitals around Houston, so that if
you want to go see one of these people, which
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you'll be able to do it close to home. Everyone
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figured out how to apply their specific knowledge exclusive will
not exclusively, but specifically to seniors and how we tick
and what makes us healthier and what makes us sicker
and what helps us heal faster. All of these things
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they know because they have gone back and gotten that
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Go there, look at all the resources they provide, look
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There really are anything that's wrong with you, there's somebody
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Speaker 1 (20:23):
Aging Aged to Perfection. This is fifty plus with Dougpike.
All right, welcome back segment three.
Speaker 3 (20:41):
Already, Holy col how quickly this day is going. We
will talk in this and thanks for sharing your lunch hour.
By the way, I do appreciate that we're going to
talk in this segment about a pretty pretty somber topic
really about grief, uh, something we all experience with dreadfully
and reacing frequency as we get older and our peers
(21:03):
begin to pass away. And to help me help you
get through the grieving process, however you ultimately navigate it,
I'll bring in k Town's, author of fantastic book titled Grace,
A Model for Grieving. Welcome aboard, k.
Speaker 2 (21:19):
Hi, Doug. How are you doing today?
Speaker 3 (21:22):
You know I'm pretty well. Actually, thank you for asking.
There are lots of ways to define grief. It's almost
an well, it is an individual thing, really, but if
you would maybe try to define that word as concisely as.
Speaker 2 (21:34):
Possible, I'd be happy too. So let's think of it
this way, in its simplest form, loss is the event.
So loss is losing that loved one, a divorce, a layoff,
not getting a promotion. There's all different types of loss.
So loss is the event. Grief. Grief is simply our
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reaction to those losses. And grief is to unpack it
a little bit more. It's so much more than that,
because grief affects every person because at some point in
everyone's life and throughout our lives, individually and communally, we're
going to experience a multitude of losses. True and so
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and so grief is simply our reaction to those losses.
Speaker 3 (22:23):
That's a really good way to put it. I'm going
to hang on to that. I'm going to tuck that
away and drag it out at some point somewhere and
sound really smart, but I will give you credit, I
promise uh in one way or another. It's just it's
a struggle and it is a process. And I'm I
I don't know where do you even start? Where do
you start the journey back from where this has taken you?
Speaker 2 (22:48):
Well, I think to begin is just to begin with
an acknowledgment that that grief is kind of this ubique,
ubiqulated thing that exists in.
Speaker 3 (22:56):
All of our life.
Speaker 2 (22:57):
So it's I think of where we are right So
here we are in this world, and we seem to
be in a state of suspended and collective, suspended, collective
and individual grief. You know, in a larger context, we've
got wars and conflicts and the lingering effects of COVID
pandemic and global and political unrest and justices, natural disasters,
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you know, all of that's taking center stage. And in
a personal level, our families and at an individual levels
were pained with these with these losses that include the
deaths of loved ones and illnesses and financial woes that
we're dealing with rising health care costs while at the
same time limited access to medical care and needed medications
(23:41):
and so forth. And so all of this is putting
strains on us, and relationship strains that are just compounding
the stressors that we're having to deal with. And all
of this creates this this kind of almost this crushing loss,
this revolving door of loss after loss which result and
what feels like somewhat of an untethering for almost.
Speaker 3 (24:03):
All of us in this time.
Speaker 2 (24:05):
Thinking of this week alone, So here we are, most
of your listeners this week are going to be dealing
with losses big and small, and a lot of those
losses are going to include, like the political divide, rupturing
friendships and families, people wondering gosh, am I going to
be able to sit across from Uncle Bob at the
Thanksgiving dinner table because he has a different political view
(24:27):
from me? Or my goodness, is Uncle Bob even going
to show up this year for Thanksgiving because of that. Also,
we've got a lot of listeners that are dealing with
empty nest syndrome as kiddos go back to college or
maybe leave home for the first time. And obviously, in
a couple of days we're going to be going through
another anniversary of the nine to eleven attacks. So losses
(24:49):
all around us, whether we acknowledge it or not, losses
big and small. So a place to start though, is
again being aware that everyone experiences loss and instead of
running from that, opening our mind up to kind of
redefine what loss is in the sense that loss, or
(25:09):
excuse me, what grief is in the sense that while
loss is the event as I mentioned, grief is the
grief is the very thing that comes to heal us.
Grief is what gets us through loss. Simply put, when
we grieve then healthy healthy ways. When we grieve in
healthy ways, that's how we heal from loss period. And
(25:30):
so opening up and maybe redefining and re engaging with
this idea of grief and grief work in a new
and healthy ways, that's the place to begin. That's how
we can get through loss.
Speaker 3 (25:43):
Kay Town's, author of Grace, a Model for Grieving. There's
got to be a story about about how you came
to write this book, is there and can you share it?
Speaker 2 (25:54):
Absolutely? I came about this because this was for me.
This was out of at a necessity. So I happened
to be a licensed professional counselor, and I also happened
to be an ordained United Methodist minister, and I practiced
in I serve in.
Speaker 3 (26:11):
The Order of Deacon.
Speaker 2 (26:13):
And so what that means is that I often spend
time helping others and walking through loss. Now, as a counselor,
I became frustrated because the evidence based models out there
were a bit lacking. They're good, but they were a
bit lacking when it came to dealing with grieving and
how to how to help people, especially those that were
(26:36):
stuck or struggling move forward in a healthy way. And
so by default, when I was working at the Minninger
Clinic in Houston, I began I began compiling what eventually
would become a new grief model for kind of addressing
some of those known struggles that are in existing models
for grief. So that's how I came about. It was
(26:57):
just quite simply, it was a need, a need that
I had to be able to address and help more people.
And they're in their struggles with loss, Yeah.
Speaker 3 (27:06):
No question about it. Very quickly, believe it or not.
We're almost out of time already, Holy cal And I
want to touch on this, make sure that everybody help
everybody understand that this grief process is going to take
a little while, but it's not and it's not that
you're trying to get back to where you were. It's
trying to establish kind of a new path after having
(27:28):
dealt with that grief. Does that make sense?
Speaker 2 (27:31):
Absolutely? So you walk through this grief journey and the
idea is to kind of invite it in and think
of it as again, like I said, this is this
is the this is the healing component that we're looking
for when we're struggling with loss is this thing we
call grief work, but bear in mind it's called grief
work for a reason because it is work. And so
to ultimately get to this place where where we adopt
(27:55):
not just a new normal, but a new normal within
a livable pattern of grief work, of healing grief work.
That's where you know, where we process those emotions, where
we where we navigate and work through the stories of loss,
where we invite people that can help us do that
into our world.
Speaker 3 (28:13):
That's that's that's a.
Speaker 2 (28:15):
Big component of what's missing is just not just getting
to the end of grief, because the reality is the
end of grief is often just the beginning. How many
of us have gone through a loss event and we think, oh,
I grieve that that's over, only to have it bubble
up again. That doesn't that doesn't mean you didn't grieve
correctly the first time. What it is is it's offering
(28:38):
you and inviting you a new opportunity, a new opportunity
to grieve a little bit deeper.
Speaker 3 (28:42):
At is it's a good way to look at it, okay,
and it's it's it's not done yet. You're just not
done with it. You're you're it's okay. You've got to
finish what you started. And at that point, and I
guess you'll know, believe it or not. I know what
Will's telling me here. And we're kind of out of town,
I mean, out of time for anybody who's who's dealing
(29:02):
with grief right now, or anybody who maybe sees some
around the corner with a family member, whatever. I can't
encourage you to read this book enough. I've read enough
of it now to know that I'm going to read
the whole thing cover to cover at one point, and
I'll be much better for it. Thank you. The book
is called Grace, A Model for Grieving Kay Towns.
Speaker 2 (29:21):
Thank you, Thanks Doug, and thanks to your listeners.
Speaker 3 (29:26):
My pleasure. All right, we got to take a little
break here. Unfortunately, boy, I would love to have gone
another segment with her. I may may have to pull
her back in here at some point. A late Health
is a well, it's a collective of clinics around town.
There are several actually, and at any of their locations
they're vascular clinics. What they do most often, actually is
(29:48):
a procedure for men called prostate artery embolization, which takes
a non cancerous prostate that's problematic and caused you to
get up two or three times in the night to
go to the bathroom. You go to the bathroom during
the day or night or whatever, and you go back
to what you were doing and you were five minutes
later you realize you're not done. You got to go
(30:09):
right back in there. Those are all signs of a
situation that can be remedied within just a couple of hours.
In their clinics, what they'll do is go in and
identify the artery that is feeding that prostate, and then
they just turn it off. They use very fine, very
specific tools to get in there and plug that artery.
(30:32):
Doesn't affect the rest of your health at all. It
just plugs that one artery and that prostate shrinks, and
as it shrinks, the problems that it had that it
was causing go away. Same for fibroids with women. Same
for even head pain in some instances can be done
vascularly and ugly veins. If you've got those and you
(30:54):
hit a certain age and you look down, you're looking
at your legs in the mirror and you're like, where
did that come from? Well, they can make it wherever
it came from doesn't matter. Because of the Late Health
they can make that goal way. A latehealth dot com
is the website. Most of what they do is covered
by Medicare and Medicaid, by the way, so you don't
have to worry about that. They're also doing a lot
(31:14):
of regenerative medicine over there too, which is proving extremely
helpful with chronic pain. Seven one three, five eight, eight
thirty eight eighty eight. Callum, set up a consultation and
see what they can do for you. Seven one three,
five eight eight thirty eight eighty eight. Old guys rule.
(31:34):
And of course women never get old. If you want
to avoid sleeping on the couch. Okay, well, I think
that sounds like a good plan. Fifty plus continues. Here's
more with Doug Hi. Welcome back to fifty plus. Thanks
(31:59):
for and certainly do appreciate it on this beautiful Monday.
Made all the better, of course, because it's not gonna
bring up. The storm's not coming our way. Thank goodness
for that. Thank goodness for that. Let's go back to
a little bit of newsy stuff, because I want to
hit a couple of these things and then I'll get
(32:20):
to some good news. And I'll even let Will jump
in and see if he knows what all these acronyms
are that are the most popular searches among acronyms. You
probably know all of these. You're kind of the social
media butterfly, right, you're a texter, all day, everyday texter. No, okay, Well,
(32:40):
then's see if there's any of these that you don't know.
I'll jump in them quickly and then we'll get out
and go do some other stuff. Smh, shaking my head. POV,
that's too easy point of view. Even old people know
that n SFW. A lot of people in this audience
might not know that one not safe for work because
they're retired. Fomo. We all know that one tld R
(33:05):
too long, didn't read. I didn't know that one. Iyk,
y k, I know that one. If you know you
know OFC of course, yes, Imo, everybody knows that. In
my opinion. And by the way, anything you ever say,
you don't have to start. You don't have to lead
(33:26):
it by saying in my opinion, because the fact that
you're saying it, unless you preface it with I think
this is Will's opinion. I could anything I say is
my opinion, and I r C. I wasn't aware of
that one. I I r C. Yeah, I have no
idea that is was searched monthly average monthly searches sixty
(33:50):
six thousand times. At least you won't have to be
one of those. Now it stands for if I recall correctly,
which is somewhat obscure. I think that's kind of good.
And the last one on here hmu. I had no idea.
I just thought they misspelled home h m u. Oh
hit me up. Yeah, that's it. What does that mean?
Speaker 5 (34:12):
Call me?
Speaker 1 (34:12):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (34:13):
No, No, nobody wants to be called anymore. It means
text me. Why don't you just put TM on there?
Save yourself a keystroke? Mm hmm in okay, oh uh
here in Houston, by the way, in case you missed it,
I see u M. I. County Judge Lennahidalgo use her
(34:35):
State of the County address recently. I think it was
last week. She's gonna propose taxes she says are necessary
for infrastructure maintenance and improvement. Well, it's pretty obvious we
need that. But here's the deal. I might get on
board for raising taxes only if she can promise the county,
(34:57):
that the rate hike will actually fix flooding issues and
potholes for starters at least, and that the money won't
disappear elsewhere into county government, and that the estimates for
those improvements won't spiral through the roof before the work
even starts. Then maybe I'd go for it. But without
those promises, it's kind of I fool me once, And
(35:20):
actually most people in Houston have been fooled a dozen
times at least, they've lived here long enough about taxes.
And in case you were wondering why not to vote
for that all Red guy, the guy the Democrat who's
going up against Ted Cruz for one of Texas Senate seats,
remember that it was he who said. Allred said that
if a border wall gets built, it'll be his generation
(35:43):
that tears it down. How can anybody be so naive
and so blind to the destruction that Biden Harris's open
border has been for this country. Even Kamla's walking back
or refusal to close that door, and it well, she's
walking it back to find votes. But I got a
(36:03):
hunch that if she gets in, whatever wall we have
will start coming down. It's frightening in good news, since
I've only got about a minute left. A device called
a diadem, which is it's an old word. It's a
very old word for kind of a crown, like something
that people wore a long time ago. There's a diadem
(36:25):
medical device now that's being hailed as a game changer
for people who suffer from pain and depression. It uses
therapeutic sound waves delivered to very targeted region in the
brain with millimeter precision, and thus far it's been very
effective in as little as one forty second treatment. Believe
(36:46):
it or not, gone through two phases of testing, most
patients report positive results after that first treatment, which is
just fantastic to know. September ninth. September ninth is the
most common birthday in the United States. The top ten
all are between the ninth and twentieth of September.
Speaker 2 (37:07):
You know why?
Speaker 3 (37:09):
You know why? Will you know? What happens? About nine
months in change? Right before that New Year's holidays. Merry Christmas, honey,
Happy New Years. We'll be back tomorrow. Audios.
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