Ripples & Breadcrumbs: Trusting the Journey and Creating Impact

Description: In this reflective solo episode of The 3 Parallels Podcast, Dr. Jason Branch dives into the powerful metaphors of “ripples” and “breadcrumbs” to explore how small actions and subtle moments shape our lives.Ripples are the waves we create through our choices—intentional or not. Breadcrumbs are the hidden clues, opportunities, and quiet whispers of meaning we often overlook in the busyness of life. Dr. Branch challenges us to stay curious, step outside our comfort zones, and pay attention to what’s unfolding right in front of us.He shares a touching story about meeting a young guitarist in a park—an unexpected moment that revealed her talent while reminding him to recommit to his own purpose and voice. This episode is a powerful reminder that we’re all leaving ripples behind us, and there are breadcrumbs guiding us—if we’re willing to look. You are not lost. You are layered. Let your journey teach you, stretch you, and surprise you.

🎯 Listener Challenges to Create a Shift:

1. Create One Ripple Today
Do one thing—big or small—that might impact someone else positively. A kind word, a bold move, or simply showing up with intention.
2. Follow One Breadcrumb
Notice something today that sparks your curiosity or tugs at your heart. Don’t ignore it. Follow it. Ask what it might be trying to teach you.
3. Step Out Once This Week
Try something new that stretches you. Whether it’s a conversation, a creative effort, or a risk you’ve been avoiding—growth lives outside the comfort zone.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:02):
Welcome back to the Three PLS Podcast, which your host,
the Doctor Jason Branch, where we rediscover who we were,
we embrace who we are, and we make room for
who we're trying to become. On today's show, I got
something for you hashtag honey bun because I'm finna hit
you in the head and it's gonna be soft, it's
gonna be sweet, it's gonna be warm, cinnamon and sugar
and all the great things. And it's a salt because

(00:25):
you're finna get hit in the head with it. Although
it's soft and the honeybuton analogy I've been using forever
and I'll continue to you. So if you hear anybody
saying this, no where they got it from, and that
means it's an opportunity to connect with someone who's a
part of the community, this community that we're building in
real time. So today we're talking about ripples and breadcrumbs
because part of this community you speak the language ripples

(00:49):
and bread crumbs is the language of the three PLS podcast.
Me as your host, me as everything that I can
be for you and some So what are ripples and breadcrumbs?
I'm glad you had. I love analogies, metaphors. It's kind
of my thing. And part of that is just how
I think, how I process information. It's how I see things.
So I see things in pictures, and when I see pictures,

(01:11):
it paints a picture for me. So I'm able to
take really complex ideas and simplify it with pictures or
what I create as a picture. So ribbles and breadcrumbs,
I want you to imagine the picture. And you're gonna
need a journal for this, all right. If you don't
have a journal, it's okay. Whatever you got at the house,

(01:32):
use that composition book, no pad, whatever you got crayon, highlighter,
don't matter, use that. If you need a journal, I'll
let your boy. The Gator Show The Gator Skills Journal
is available now for purchase it on Amazon, so check
it out. If you want to autograph coffee, hit me up.
I'll autograph sign it and send it to you like personally.
So if you want to personally, I let your boy.

(01:53):
If you want it just available, go get it on Amazon.
There's that. So ripples. Ripples are action steps, Okay, ripples
is the action. The action comes from throwing a pebble
in the pond, anytime you take a chance, you take
a risk, you take action. You are throwing a pebble
in the pond. When you throw a pebble in the pond,
is going to create ripples. That ripple will go from

(02:15):
where that pebble landed all the way to the shore
of that lake, pond, beach, wherever you are. So whatever
you do, there's going to be ripples because of it.
Here's an example. If I work out seven days a week,
what's the ripple, I'm starting to look a lot better,
a lot different. Right. If I drink seven days a week,

(02:35):
what's the ripple? I'm starting to feel really bad, hydrated, skin,
dried up, just not doing well. Right, So, whatever you
choose to do is going to be a ripple, meaning
an impact, meaning results. Okay, Now my challenge to you
is how do I become more intentional around dropping gems, jewels, ripples? Okay,

(02:56):
So my challenge to you are and I'm starting now
with your challenge, is how how how do I become
more willing to take risk and do things I've never done?
In order to become a version of me I've never been,
I got to be willing to do things I've never done,
and I want to tell you a story about how
I did just that. But before I get to the story,
I want to talk about bread crumbs as well. Bred

(03:16):
crumbs are the things that's around you, hitting and playing sight.
From my experience in life, and I've been here for
a while forty plus years, I've seen a lot of things.
I haven't seen everything, but I've seen a lot of things,
and a lot of things that I see connects to
us as people. What I know about people for sure
is we are great with creating narratives and stories around

(03:39):
things that we perceive them to be instead of what
they actually are. And sometimes I can't recognize what things
actually are. If I spend so much time in my head,
I never get a chance to play in the game.
Playing in the game is being president in the living room.
That's where we're at right now, y'all. We're in the
living room. Okay, you see my background if you're watching it,
if you're listening, living room right now, sitting on the couch,

(04:02):
shoes and socks off, rubbing our toes together, watching our
favorite TV show movie. That's where we can be our
most authentic. However, sometimes it's scary to be authentic, so
we hide in the attic. The attic is comfortable. It's
only enough room for you, you and you, and you and
you and you, all different versions of you. That's stuck
in your head thinking about how everything will go wrong,

(04:25):
how you can't do certain things, how it's not possible
and it hasn't been this in the past. That's all
in your head is not reality until you try. For example, people,
I can't stand and I'm gonna be honest. If this
is you, If I step on your toes, I don't apologize.
You know what burns me up, what grinds my gears,
what boils my milk, what makes my ass itch? People

(04:49):
such as yourself, if this is you who say I
don't like sushi, I don't do sushi. That ain't really
my thing. Nah, I'm good, And then you ask them,
you know, have you ever tried sushi? And they said, no,
never try sushi. So how do you know if you
like it or not? How you know if it's good
or not? I don't know. I think it's gonna be this,
I think it's gonna be that, But you don't know

(05:10):
unless you try. My challenge to you all this week,
I'm giving you life work now is to begin stepping
outside your comfort zone. Do things you never done. Because
the breadcrumbs are all around you, hitting in plain sight.
In order to see them brightly, you have to be
willing to do things you never done, such as try sushi.
Once you try it now, some of y'all might be

(05:31):
allergedly selfish. Slow down, booboo, slow down, okay. For those
who are not, and you willing to try, try and
see what happens. Once you try and see what happens,
then you have a more accurate description on what you
do and what you don't do. Many of us talk
about the things that we do and we don't do,
but we never done it. I just want to talk
about facts. I will never be this, I will never
be that. Or looking at other people's situation and assuming

(05:53):
what you would do, you have no idea what that
life is like. For example, currently media in the news
diddy right, hashtag the diddler. The deadler probably goinna go
to jail for the rest of his life. Possibly right,
just depends on how this thing play out. But the
part of him being at risk of losing his livelihood

(06:15):
comes from actions, behaviors. Bread crumbs. You know, things that
we do in the dark comes to the light, but
not here to judge or criticize or anything like that.
We are all doing the best we can what we
have and that's enough. So the bread crumbs are not
just what I think, but it's what I know. So
all of us think about things related to this case

(06:38):
or the Diddy trial, but the reality is we don't know.
Unless you were there, unless you was at the freak all,
you don't know. And even if you was, that was
the freak off at that time. They changed, They've evolved
from the nineties to the twenty twenty fours, the freak
offfs have evolved. But we're not here to talk about
freak costs. We're here to talk about bread crumbs and ripple.

(07:00):
So the bread crumbs are things that's all around us
all the time, hitting in plain sight. If you really
think about this, human beings doing human things. Everything around
you right now in life has meaning, and it has
a meaning that you or someone else gave to it. Everything.

(07:22):
Here's an example, and this is definitely for my folks
in the South, because I was there eighteen year. I
did an eighteen year bid in that Alabama eighteen years. Man,
that will change your life. I'm telling you from Ohio.
Spent eighteen in Alabama and it was life changing for me.
And I'm thankful for my time there. I'm thankful for
all our experience there, and I learned a lot. One
of the biggest things I learned was us the culture

(07:44):
black folks. Superstitions. Yep, I want to talk about it.
It's a bread crumb. It's meaningful so for some people
in the South, and this is other places too, but
I just noticed it. In the South. They would knock
your head off before you split a pole. I mean
your whole head. Get over here, uppercut mortar combat, knock

(08:05):
your whole head off for trying to split the pole.
Even if you don't know the rules of these superstitions superstitions,
you will get seriously hurt trying to split a pole
with someone from the South who has the same mentality
around superstition, which are breadcrumbs, because the belief is if
we split the pole, something's going to happen bad. What

(08:28):
I have no idea who something is, what something is,
it don't matter, don't do it. And there's some grown
folks out here right now walking down the sidewalk listening
to this podcast wishing a mother would split a pole,
I gotta talk about it because if you think about
big picture as many times, if you accidentally or coincidentally

(08:51):
split a pole, nothing has happened. But the belief is
something will happen. Something's going to happen if I do this.
Same thing is you know, and some of y'all may
know about these urban legends or myths or things superstitions.
You may know of some of these yourself. You have some.

(09:11):
You just may not know of these, but you have them.
We all do. But the superstition is a belief about
a certain thing. Another superstition within the South. If somebody
sweeps your feet with a broom, you gotta spin on
a broom because if you don't, you're gonna go to jail.
That's the dumbest shit I ever heard in my life.
But some people live by it, die by it. And

(09:33):
that's a bread crumb because it's a belief, an idea
based off of what's in front of me, that's hitting
in playing site, hidden in plain sight, means I'm controlled
by this idea around this superstition. The reality is is
not likely to ever happen. How do you equate a
broom with jail? Oh, how do you equate something bad

(09:55):
happening from stepping on a crack, breaking your mama's back,
or walking between the pope. It's all belief, it's all
made up. We create meaning behind these random things. So
if I create meaning behind these random things, and I
will live and die by this conspiracy theory. Imagine if
I create meet, if I created meaning behind things that

(10:15):
served me, imagine that. Imagine instead of worried about splitting
a pole, I'm talking about splitting the check. Let's go,
let's go. I'm not worried about splitting no pole. Let's
split a check, real talk, let's do some business together.
Instead of worried about splitting a pole where some people

(10:36):
will pull you away from the pole so much you
end up getting hurt by trying not to split the pole.
You get where I'm coming from. If you don't, as
Grandmama and them say, keep on living, keep on living.
So let's dive in a little bit deeper with the
bread crumbs. My belief. When it comes to bread crumbs,
these are things that's around you, hitting in plain sight.

(10:56):
If you eat enough bread crumbs, you're gonna end up
with a slice of bread. And what I know about
slices of bread, It's just like a coin. There's two sides.
Shout out to Acamarron Myron Golden. If you ain't hip
YouTube him. That is my uncle. He don't even know
it yet. We're going to be on a private jet
together one day. He just don't know it. And he
don't know he adopted me years ago. Myren Golden says

(11:17):
that there is always two sides to everything. You've never had.
You never ate one side of the bread. You never
had a coin with one side. Everything has two sides.
And for me, I want to take it a step further.
Everything has two sides and everything else in between, and
we break it down. Two sides of a coin. You
got hairs of tails, and you have everything that it

(11:37):
took in life to create the coin, from a decision
being made, the design, the materials, the work, the labor,
the blueprint, the dissemination. All these things had to happen
in RLD for that coin. Is the same thing for
the bread. Right wheat gotta get the what gotta get,
the mixture, and all these things together took create lo

(12:00):
for bread, nothing is just black and white either. Nothing
is just one side of the other. There's a lot
of things going on, and I want to challenge you
to move away from just one sided thinking it's just
one thing. It's multiple things, multiple times a day if
you're paying attention. So this version of me now, the
who I am now, sees everything as an opportunity, sees

(12:22):
everything as a meaning for me. It's a message to me.
Don't matter what it is. Here's an example. I just
want to give you this, man. You can do whatever
you want want with it. I just want to give
it to you. The Three par Lels podcast playlist is
a breadcrumb within itself because every song on there can
take you somewhere you've never been before, or take you

(12:44):
somewhere you haven't been in a while, because every song
is curated by me and the guests on this show, students, listeners,
and everybody else in between. Because one thing I learned
about us as humans, there's two ways. There's two things
that we connect on. I don't care where you from,
where you at sees status, race, gender doesn't matter. Food

(13:06):
and music. If you got those two things, you're gonna
have a good time. I'm telling you what I know,
not what I heard. So, as I'm building this community
with this podcast, with this experience, I create curator a
playlist to give you an opportunity to listen and hear
and see the bread crumbs. So instructions are pretty simple.

(13:30):
Go to podcasts, look up the number three Parallels podcasts,
hit shuffle, hit play. Within the first three songs, you're
going to hear, see, or experience whatever you're supposed to.
That's a message hitting in playing sight. You get to
decide what you do with that information. My challenge to
you is make meaning out of things, because we're always
making meaning out of things, and I want to give

(13:52):
an example of how this works. So I listened to
the Parallels playlist daily. It's just a part of me.
It's a part of me. So the first three songs,
I need y'all to see this in real time. The
first three songs, this is when I listened to it yesterday,
just having a moment, feeling good. So the first three song,

(14:14):
Number one was Lucid Dreams by Juice World. Lucid Dreams,
how do I connect to that bread crumb? Lucid Dreams
is the type of dreams I'm having right now right.
It's opportunities are endless, and I see so much because
of the breid crumbs. LETNA tell you more in a minute.
Next twister Overnight Celebrity. That was the second song play

(14:37):
because I do feel as though people gonna perceive me
to be a celebrity overnight. Nah, It's been at least
twenty years in the making. I'm almost there though, y'all.
Finna start calling me Hollywood for it's all said and done,
because I am Hollywood, but in a different way, meaning
I go to these places and do these things. But
I'm chilling at the beach in San Diego. That's where

(14:57):
I live. La is World, I play so New York,
all these different places. So Overnight Celebrity, Yeah, it's going
to happen. It's only a matter of time. I can't
put out this good input, this good information, is good
content from the bottom of my heart, and it not
come back to me. Bread crumb, last, but not least,

(15:17):
although it's hard at this time. The third song was
be Strong by these one Be Strong. So those are
three bread crumbs, Lucid Dreams, Overnight Celebrity, Be Strong. I
look at words. That's what has meaning for me. Sometimes

(15:37):
it's pictures, but a lot of times it's words. So
those are some words that stood out to me that
helped me get through the day yesterday. Guess what podcast
is the podcast and the podcast playlist is available today.
I'm tapping back in seeing what comes up for me
because I'm looking for the bread crumbs. I hope you're
noticing what I'm talking about, right, these parallels. So if

(15:59):
I even have breadcrumb, I'm in it with a slice
and up with a slice of bread. I can look
at both sides, I can look at what's inside. And
if I eat enough slices, I'm going to end up
with a loaf. If I eat enough loaves, I'm going
to get hit in the head with a honeymoon. I'm meaning,
I'm going to wake up impanero bread. Yes, indeed, that's
why I wake up at every morning. Why because my
mind is a bread factory. I don't run out. I

(16:24):
don't run out, baby, I don't run out of this stuff.
I got too much of it. So I feel as
though all this information that I have I'm filing in
the place of my life and I can't even say found.
That kind of takes away from my greatness. I'm in
a place in my life now currently that all this
information I have, I'm giving it away to you whoever
else want to hear it, because I feel as though

(16:47):
I figured out life for me. I can't speak for
nobody else, but I figured it out for me, and
I'm doing just that and it's working. How do I
know you're listening? Just want to talk about pacts? How
do I know you're letting me know? You're telling me?
I'll get text I get phone calls, I got emails,
I get people letting me know. Yo, doctor Branch, Yo
Jay Yo, random black man who has this podcast, Thank

(17:10):
you for what you shared. I never thought about it
in this way or that way. To me, that's enough.
That is more than enough. I know I'm doing my job.
I'm doing my part, and doing my part means leaving
the legacy. Hashtag ripple Are you seeing it? This podcast
is a ripple. Every time you listen, you're going to
get something. Every time I put out content, you're gonna

(17:31):
get something. You get me twice a week, three times
a week if you've really into the game. So therefore,
Sunday you get an interview with me and somebody I
don't know who is gonna be. I'm telling y'all, I
have no idea who gonna end up on the show.
But I know a lot of people end up on
this show that I've admire from afar, celebrities, entertainers, regular
everyday people, the highest level of the lowest level. It

(17:54):
don't matter. It's people, and that's who I care about.
That's who I'm interviewing. Then Wednesday, you get me just
like now, you get me talking shit and it's good.
There's no way you can listen to an episode and
not get nothing. I mean you can, but you gotta
work real hard. And then Fridays, Fridays Gater Talk. This

(18:16):
is us Live, and I want to prepare you now.
Gaytor Talk is evolving right now. We do it on Zoom.
I'm trying out Instagram Live. I'm never gonna live until
last week. And big shout out to by number one
fan right now. Meg. Meg is number one right now

(18:37):
because Meg has been rocking at me since the beginning,
and I really want to shout out Meg. Yeah, Meg,
you you something else. I appreciate you. So no matter
what Gator scales, Gator Talk Meg is in the building.
Meg's in the building, taking notes, getting information building, and
she's growing with it. Here's a breadcrumb, here's a ripple.

(18:59):
Me and Meg, because that's who it is on the
call sometimes Me and Meg was just having conversation about
doing things we've never done before, and she started doing them.
She talked about them, she thought about it. Now she's
doing them. What's an example. She always went down the
Meg is a D one athlete, former D one athlete,
right ror, And she decided, you know what, I always

(19:20):
wanted to do a marathon. But you know, I ain't
doing the training stuff no more. I'm grown woman. Maybe
I'll reconsider doing a marathon. And that conversation was in
a few months back, and before I know it, she
crossed the finish line and sent me a picture. That's
ripples and breadcrumbs. That's life changing because there's only so

(19:40):
many people that you know, and the people that you
do know who's run a marathon, you know them and
you look at them differently. In my humble opinion, I
ain't never met somebody who ran full of marathon, and
I don't look at them differently because they've done something
I've never done. I've done a few halves. I ain't
never done a whole half. I'm always ready to die.
Oh dare I consider a whole? M I eat a

(20:02):
whole avocado. About the whole I'm gonna get or don't
at hope. But anyway, you get my point. I'm talking
about bread crumbs. Okay, So shout out to you Meg,
thank you for being you. Thank you for rocking with
your boy. I gotta give flowers when they do, so
thank you for being you. And this is my love
to you. This is my flowers to use and everybody
know it. So thank you for rocking with me. So

(20:25):
bread crumbs, This stuff works, Okay, waking up emplanetic bread
meaning I don't run out. That's all of us. You
don't run out of ideas of things you can do,
places you can be, things you can experiment, things you
can try. You don't run out because there's a plethora.
I look at this world as a beach, a big beach, right,
And as you know, a beach is endless within our

(20:48):
within this world, beaches are endless. You can't even fathom
how much, how how much room and space we have
for a beach, just beaches that had been touched by us,
yet can't get to it. You can see it, you
see a beach over there, can't even get to it.
And I believe there's parts of this world that has

(21:09):
been uncharted. It's just my belief. I don't know. Google maps,
you know, can give you a lot of information, but
that doesn't mean you were in that space. You may
see video from this space, but that doesn't mean somebody's
ever been there. That's how vast our world is. And
I want you to think about that as the beach.
So every granule of sand on the beach is an opportunity.

(21:31):
It is an idea, is a thought, is a challenge,
is a risk? Is a thing? Do you know how
much that is? Do you have any idea? Whe So,
regardless of this world and all of us being on
this beach, we have people who decided to put a
sandbox on the beach. And the sandbox, to me are

(21:52):
the rules, laws, ethics, things that somebody put together to
contain us, to put us in a space to follow system.
And a lot of these systems were created that doesn't
benefit everybody, doesn't benefit all, but it benefits some. And
to me, the challenges, how do I put both feet
from both worlds. So for you, for me, for doctor Branch,

(22:15):
I live on the beach. I play in the sandbox.
You know, I visit the sandbox, and sometimes you got
to go through the sandbox to get to the beach.
That's what your job, life, career, relationship, whatever. You know,
you got to kiss for a few frogs, right, So
you got to experience certain things to get to certain places,
and that's okay. Give yourself permission to experience it all

(22:37):
and accept what you experience for what you perceive it
to be, because that's what it is. Whatever experience that
you have in life, your perception makes it a reality.
And I perceive things a lot differently. Here's an example,
bread crum. Two sides of the bread, Right, for many

(22:58):
of us, two sides of the bread. One side is win,
one side is lose. Either win or lose. Either I'm
good or bad, either I'm great or I'm horrible. And
to me, I want to change that. My two sides
of bread. I win, no matter what's how to eat.
What's the win one side of the bread, I'm gonna win.
What's the other side of the bread, I'm gonna learn.
Come on within it, y'all with me? Either I'm winning

(23:20):
or I'm learning, which means I never lose. Hey, listen up,
I haven't lost since two thousand and five, and I've
been playing this game and I haven't lost since two
thousand and five. You know why, because I'm constantly learning
about myself, about other people, about this world, about these systems,
about life, and that doesn't end until we end, and
we don't end until death. And you don't know when

(23:40):
that is unless you know what it is. And if
you do, hit me up, you know, if you mean
me to come to the hospital and you know, sign
an autograph, dress up like a pirate. How does your
boy cancer treatment? Let's go. Let's go make a wish.
Make a wish for your boy right right now. I'm
dead serious, make a wish if your college boy and

(24:03):
I joke about these serious things, because that's what meaning
I have to it. We all gonna die. Just wanna
talk about facts. She ain't gotta feel some kind of
way about it. Folks gets cancer, Folks get cancer and die.
Folks get cancer and are cured or you know, in remission,
they can survive it. I just want to talk about it.
There's a spectrum if you think about life. Everything is

(24:23):
on the spectrum, even though I'm on the spectrum. I
just found out yesterday. Ah, we all are so moving
from win or loss to when or learn. I'm always winning.
And if I'm always winning, the bread crumbs are all

(24:44):
around me, and the ripples are all around me because
now I'm more intentional, more intentional meaning I'm throwing more
peppers in the pond. I'm looking for the bread crumbs.
So I want to share a story that happened to
me recently that really helped me see the bread crumbs
and ripples. So I'm at this park because most of
the time Battlecat Studios is held wherever I am, and

(25:06):
a lot of times i'm in nature, I'm at the park.
So I'm at this park when I see this family
getting out of this van and I would assume Hispanic family,
and it was a mom and a dad and a
little baby. The baby probably about two, and he just
could not keep his eyes off me. He just kept
staring at me where they're trying to pull him to
go to the playground. He's just like, I don't know

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what it is about this guy, but he has my
full attention, and he had mine, and I had his
I just was looking at him as much as he
was looking at me, because it was an energy there
where this two year old child saw me or looked
at me, or was curious about something. I was curious
about him too, because even though he was a little baby,
he looked like a grown man there. Grown man had

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work boots on, a flannel shirt and jeans. I thought
he was finna gonna work. So you know, they're speaking Spanish,
speaking some English giving me love him love, like come on,
dragging him along, and I'm just like, you know, it
was just a moment where I could appreciate being seen,
even if it was a two year old kid. And
as I'm turning to my car, I hear music and

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it's a guitar, like a strumming of a guitar, and
I'm like, that can't be the radio, what or is that?
And as I walk a little further, I see a girl,
I'm assuming maybe a teenage girl, sitting in that same
vand that the family just got out of playing her guitar,
you know, shooting socks off, like she in the living
room having a good time, just sitting in the car

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playing her guitar. And I approach her and I see
her and they're park right next to me, and I
let her know, like, yo, man, that is so good,
Like wow, that's that's great. What are you playing? And
she downplayed it immediately, like no, I'm just you know,
I'm just playing around this is this or that? And

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I said, no, you're like really, you're you're really good.
Do you mind if I watch, you, know, watch you
practice and she said yeah, I'm kind of new to it.
I'm like, tell me more. She said, yeah, I've only
been I've only been knowing this for about three months.
I said three My mouth dropped. I said three months.

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You play like you've been playing your whole life, like
you're really good, like you have a natural talent, natural gift.
I'm just giving this woman flowers right, And the whole
time she's down playing it like, well, I'm not this,
I'm not that. And I had to pour into her
because I believe in ripples and bread crumbs. Now I'm
doing this just out of the kindness of me being me.

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I ain't trying to prove none, I ain't trying to
get none on own. She it, I just want to
pour into you because that's what I do. If you met,
if you meet me, if you met me, You've been
poured into in some capacity some so I'm going to
continue to do that. So I just start pouring into
this woman because I felt as though this girl, because
I felt as though she could use it. So, you know,

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I asked her, you know what makes you think you're
not that great? And she's like, well, because it's only
been three months. I said, who said? Time has to
do with this? So as she was telling me the
things of what she's not, I'm telling her that I'm
sharing the things that I'm seeing, which made it hard
for her to hold on to this belief. And as
I'm sharing these things with her, she looks up where
her parents are and looks down and looks back at me.

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And it was this non verbal communication of they won't
allow me to be who you're sharing that I could be.
They don't allow that, and I felt it and my
heart just hurt because I remember being a kid as well,
where I wasn't able to express myself creatively because of

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beliefs and ideas about what that beings or what that is. Now,
that same creative energy got me to be a podcast
host and beyond being funny, being silly, being honest, being authentic,
whatever the case may be. So I was pouring into
her because I didn't have anyone and poring to me
related to this piece. So part of me felt I

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was talking to little meat. So as we continue the conversation,
there was a shift that happened because I continued to
pour in and the shift was, you know, she went
from her head down and downplaying to hmmm, maybe I
could do something. So once I saw the light bulb,

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I went a little deeper again. When you wake up
in panera bread, you got enough bread for everybody else
and yourself, so you don't mind giving it away. So
I gave her some fresh break bread. I gave her
a honey bun. Hear it upside the head, bust upside
the head with some sour dough, And before you know it,
she was singing a tune. But before we get there,
I was sharing with her an opportunity to see her

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capital hr. I ain't talking about their army taking with
the guitar. I'm talking about this girl in this van
with the guitar. And I asked her, I said, hey,
can you imagine who you're gonna become or who you
could be with this guitar and she said yeah. She
lit up. I say you you can see her, right,
she said yeah. I said you can also hear her,
but you're not listening. You're not whispering. You're not listening

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because she's whispering, and you're distracted by people, places and
things that prevent you from honing in on your craft
and trusting that you're doing the best you can. What
you're having is more than enough. And she lit up,
and I encourage her. I said, hey, you got to
listen to that girl. You got to listen to her
instead of listening to everybody else. Again, she looked at me,

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She looked up at where her parents were and looked
back and smiled. And that smile was you gave me
permission to give myself permission. And it was a moment
that we share. And I said, have a great day,
Thanks for you know, giving me your time and your attention.
Continue the great work, and you know, don't let nobody

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stop you from China, and she lit up. That was
enough for me, so I opened the door to get
in my car. She said, hey, have you heard of
this song? I can't even I can't tell you the
first three songs you mentioned. Have you heard of this
art of this song? I said, no, what about this
artist this song? I said no, what about this song
and this artist? I'm like no, because there's at least

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a twenty year age gap here. However, she did mention,
have you heard of Wonderwall by Oasis? And I'm like, Oases, Yeah,
I heard Oasis. We're straight to the nineties, right, And
she said, all right, I'll play something for you. Here.
I am standing at my car door wide open, and
she starts playing Oasis Wonderwall. And it was an instant

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Oh my god, this woman, this little girl who I
only see her, The woman is playing the hell out
of this guitar and she killed it. She killed it.
Ours already standing, so she got an ovation. Ah. I
clapped it up, gave her so much love and got
it in my car to Garay lead to Park. And

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as I get in my car Garay lead to Park,
I'm thinking about the song Oasis wonder whul So I'm
going three para levels playlists. I got to add it
to the playlist because it's not on there, and I
want to hear the song exactly what she just played
for me. And I want to play it for her,
So I'm scrambling my car trying to find the song.

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By that time i'm looking for the song, She's off
to go up and join her parents. So I rolled
down the windows, finally played the song and played it
in homage of her as I pulled out of the
out of the parking lot. I don't know if she
heard it or not, but I played it loud enough
for her and for me and everybody else at the park.

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And as I'm leaving the park, listening to Oasis, I
broke down in tears. I broke down in tears because
I recognize that what I shared with her, I was
sharing with myself. All of us have some doubts and
insecurities and imposter syndrome. And what I was telling myself
is to continue to listen to him, capital him, because

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he's whispering. And sometimes I get called up on the people,
places and things where I can't hear him, meaning the
future mean. So I'm shedding tattoo tears. Listen to Wonder
Whall by Oasis, and the tears are joy, the tears
are excitement, the tears are sad, and it's the tears
are expression of authenticity. The tears are different versions of

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me leaving because I'm not that guy anymore. So what
I gave this little girl, I actually gave to myself
and recognized it in real time. This is what I
mean by ripples and breadcrumbs. I'm pretty sure if she can,
if she takes the seed that was Plannet and keep

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diving in and digging in and doing the best she
can what she hass No, I have no doubt she's
going to be on a big stage. And I had
a chance to meet this person. Same rules for me
if I keep digging in and doing what I feel
us do his best, being authentic, investing in myself, trusting me,
finding meaning that works for me, and all of the
I'm doing listening to him, capital him. You're going to

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see me on that big stage as well. I'm already there,
and I'm so glad that you're here with me. This
has been another episode of three Paleos podcast with your host,
the Doctor Jason Brench, where we rediscover who we were,
we embrace who we are, we're me room for who
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