Every single tall person known to existence has had a complicated relationship with their height.
And speaking from my experience as a tall girly, I know I’ve had quite the tricky relationship with mine.
There were times when I loved being tall. It was the greatest thing ever; it made me feel powerful and unique and beautiful even. And there were times when I was like why did my tall dad and above-average height mom have to make me tall again? From the self comparisons to my awkward tall teen phase to even the adults closest to me making me feel insecure about my height, it was a lot to deal with.
Can any other tall girls relate?
It’s almost like do the cons outweigh the pros? When it comes to being a tall girl, is there more bad than good? Honestly, it gets to a point where you have to ask, do tall girls hate being tall?
Okay, that was a bit extreme, but we’re gonna answer this question and more in the episode, so make sure you tune in!
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And speaking from my experience as a tall girly, I know I’ve had quite the tricky relationship with mine.
There were times when I loved being tall. It was the greatest thing ever; it made me feel powerful and unique and beautiful even. And there were times when I was like why did my tall dad and above-average height mom have to make me tall again? From the self comparisons to my awkward tall teen phase to even the adults closest to me making me feel insecure about my height, it was a lot to deal with.
Can any other tall girls relate?
It’s almost like do the cons outweigh the pros? When it comes to being a tall girl, is there more bad than good? Honestly, it gets to a point where you have to ask, do tall girls hate being tall?
Okay, that was a bit extreme, but we’re gonna answer this question and more in the episode, so make sure you tune in!
Buy Me A Coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/atallgirlspodcast
Subscribe to A Tall Girl's Newsletter: https://atallgirlspodcast.beehiiv.com/subscribe
Let's stay connected: https://beacons.ai/atallgirlspodcast
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Every single tall person known to existence has had a
complicated relationship with their height, and speaking from experience as
a tall girlly myself, I know I have had quite
a tricky relationship with mine. There were times where I
loved being tall and it was the greatest thing ever.
It made me feel powerful and unique and beautiful even
but there are also times where I'm like, why did
(00:21):
my tall dad and above average height mom have to
make me tall again? From the self comparisons to my
awkward tall teen phase to even the adult's closest to
me making me feel insecure about my height, it has
been quite the journey. Sometimes It's kind of like do
the cons outweigh the pros when it comes to being
a tall girl? Is there more good than bad? And
honestly gets to the point where you ask, as a
(00:42):
tall girl, do you hate being tall? Okay, that was
a bit extreme, but Who're going to answer that question
and more in this episode, so let's get into it.
Good morning, everybody. You are currently listening to a tall
girls podcast hosted by a tall girl named India. I
hope everyone who is tuning in today is doing super fantastic.
(01:05):
Before I get into this episode, I do want to say,
make sure you're following me on my socials at a
Tall Girls podcast on Instagram, TikTok, and pincher so that
you can stay up today on all of the latest
podcast episodes and catch a glimpse of my everyday life. Also,
feel free toly me review and let me know how
tall you are. I'm genuinely curious. I also have a
monthly newsletter, make sure you subscribe to that. Everything is
(01:26):
going to be linked in the description. I hope you
all are doing super duper fantastic today. This episode is
actually a request from one of you guys, So shout
out to alexandrok are actually buying me three coffees on
buying me a coffee and writing a super lovely note
along with it, and of course, in that note, requesting
the topic of today's episode, which is going to be
(01:46):
talking about the evolution of comments that we get as
tall girls growing up from younger age to now, the
evolution of responses to those comments from younger age to now,
and determining how tall women feel about it and feel
about their height? Aka do we hate all of these experiences?
Do we hate our height? If you want to support
this podcast number one, I am beyond grateful that you
(02:08):
even would consider that. First of all, I'm beyond grateful
that you're even listening right now. Thank you so much.
But if you want to support this podcast, feel free
to buy me a coffee that's going to be linked
in the description. And big thank you and shout out
to Alexandra and Kayla for being supporters of this podcast.
Now for this episode, growing up tall men, Constantly being
ridiculed by your peers, adults, making unwarded to comments about
(02:31):
your heightened body, and ultimately being made to feel as
though there's something wrong with being a tall girl. Let's
listen to this clip.
Speaker 2 (02:38):
Hey guys, since everybody was to pretend that they love
tal girls, now here are things people said or did
to me back in the day kind up as a girl.
Firstly nastist one. This one will come from my friends
may need to be honest or people are children whatever
our girls obviously, Like, I don't think you're ever going
to find love, will get married A way to take
because you're so tool Like I just don't feel there's
(02:59):
a man out there that's taller than I was, Like,
like you might be onto something or boys trying to
guess like me about my hat, Like for boy was
like five seven, I'm five ten black. Now that's impossible
because I'm five ten, so you can't be five ten
as well. So you're six ft three and I'm like, nah, babe,
I'm not You're just sure like nah, I'm not sure,
(03:20):
you're just really t you're a really tall girl. Girls
I meant to be just talk okay, and you're like,
it doesn't tae the path. It's like just because it
doesn't real or like again, girls would like use my
hat as like a comparison for like what they want
their boyfriends to be. Like they'll bring me, oh yeah,
(03:40):
if my mine isn't taller nus now, then he's not
tall enough. So I'm a man Like obviously I don't
really care about this one now. But it's just like
I don't know, maybe feel like, am I a girl?
Like am I meant to be? Decided?
Speaker 3 (03:52):
Did that mean?
Speaker 2 (03:53):
Or like if there was a girl that was a
bit shorted me like the first six five seven babes,
They'll you know, make sure everyone in the room is
that I'm not the toalleest personal, but you see I'm personal.
But told me that I feel so small, just get
away from me.
Speaker 1 (04:09):
That growing up tall can be extremely difficult, especially when
you don't have that support system or at least other
tall girlies to help you feel less lonely, and it
could be ruthless. There are gonna be a lot of
how is the weather up there type of questions, a
lot of name calling like jolly green giant, or if
you're anything like me, mommy long legs, and oh my gosh.
Having a crush on a guy, especially if he's shorter
(04:32):
than you, he will definitely have something to say about you,
and it most likely was not something nice, and it
most likely involved something with your height or you being
taller than him. And then on top of that, the
adults constantly made it a point to bring up your height.
They're always saying, oh my gosh, you're so tall, or
asking are you going to join the basketball team or
are you going to join the volleyball team? And essentially
(04:52):
early on in life, we learn how society views height,
especially when a girl has a lot of height. When
a girl is tall, and the view are not the prettiest.
And because this is earlier in our lives, especially during
our formative years, we're gonna feel bad, We're gonna feel
insecure because we don't have that self confidence yet that
often develops over time, especially when we don't have that
(05:13):
support system or other tall women around us inspiring us
and making us feel confident or better about our heights.
And because this is in our earlier years, in our
more formative years, and our brains are still developing in
hormones or raging, we are gonna have we're gonna lack
that confidence a little bit that we tend to have
when we're older and feel the need to shrink ourselves.
(05:34):
And because of that, our responses to these comments and
questions and so forth are going to reflect those insecurities
and that lack of confidence or low self esteem. So
we may often dismiss our height and say we're not
even that tall, or if you're anything like me, laugh
along with those jokes and comments, And honestly, I thought
that laughing along to those jokes and comments, we're going
(05:55):
to help them accept me or make it seem as though, oh,
like she's a tall girl, like she's a weirdo or
freak or whatever, but she's not that bad because she
actually agrees with us and laughs along with us. So
in my personal opinion, when we're younger, the comments are
more surface level and shallow and childish and immature. However,
(06:16):
because of our insecurities, we tend to downplay our height
and our presence, and it's almost like a coping mechanism.
I did ask you guys in a poll over on Instagram,
and I'm gonna do a quick little plug here. Make
sure you follow me at a Tall Girl's podcast on
Instagram so you can participate in these polls and have
your opinions heard on these episodes. But I did ask
(06:36):
you guys in a poll, how did you typically respond
to comments about your height when you were younger. Thirty
seven percent of you guys said I would get really
insecure or passive, sixteen percent said I would laugh it
off with everyone else, five percent said I would clap
back so hard, and forty two percent said a bit
of everything. Now this is very interesting because my thought
(07:00):
process was, you know, our response to these high comments
when we're younger is more so like insecure, passive, maybe
even like laughing it off, just being dismissive overall. But
it's interesting to see that a majority of you guys
said a bit of everything. So I mean, obviously it
varies in terms of how people were raised, especially because
(07:22):
in my last episode with Ali, she was talking about
how her mom raised her to be extremely confident in
her height. And when speaking with a lot of you guys,
whether it's like in person, over DMS or even on
these podcast episodes, if you were a guest, a lot
of you guys have been raised to love your height.
So from a young age you really learned to have
like some of that, like some type of confidence or
(07:44):
a lot of confidence in your height. And so when
people would make comments about your height, you'd have a
very different response to those who would be more insecure
about it or have a lower self esteem. So I
found this very interesting. Now as we get older, the
comments and question never stop. Oh my gosh, I've been
getting comments on my TikTok recently, by the way, follow
me on TikTok out of Tall Girls podcast. But I've
(08:07):
been getting comments in some of my recent videos, and
I've been seeing tall women say, oh, I'm fifty three
and I still get this comment, or oh, I'm like
in my sixties. The comments never stop. I'm in my
forties and I'm sitting here like, dude, Like, I'm twenty
three years old, and it's like I've been dealing with
this basically for twenty three years, for as long as
(08:28):
I can remember, and you're telling me that I have
another still let's say forties, twenty thirty, forty years of
this at least bare minimum. Girl, Oh my gosh. Anyways,
the comments never stop. They just evolve, and in my opinion,
they get worse. Like yeah, we still have some surface
(08:49):
level childish comments like ha ha, you're tall, or do
you play basketball? But now that's mixed with things that
are more aggressive and argumentative and in more invasive and
sometimes even sexual. Let's hear about a couple of these experiences.
Speaker 4 (09:04):
I swear tall girls cannot just exist in peace, like
someone always has something to say about my height.
Speaker 1 (09:10):
Literally, just walking.
Speaker 4 (09:11):
Down the street walking home from work, I passed this couple,
guy and a girl holding hands, and the girl stops
and looks at me and goes, what are you a
basketball player? So what if I am?
Speaker 3 (09:21):
These are some passive, aggressive comments I've gotten as a
tall woman, and some of my pet peeves. So Number one,
I used to hear this from guys in college. If
I wore heels would be oh, you must feel so
powerful when you're wearing keels, And it's always the guys
that are shorter than me that would say this. My
question is am I intimidating or are you intimidated? And
whose problem is that? The next one is when people
(09:43):
look at your feet And I only noticed it was
a thing when I was wearing little kin heels and
I passed by like two people and they were like, oh,
she's wearing keels, as if the two little inches are
the reason why I look tall to them. Clicked that
people look at your feet when you're tall to see, like,
is that why you're tall? Is when a guy who
is very clearly at least three to four inches shorter
(10:04):
than you insists that you are lying as a woman
about being six feet tall because he's six feet tall
when he's very like obviously five nine. And it's so
funny because like they'll try to gaslight you about your
own height while being shorter than you. Like, why as
a woman, would I lie about being a six footer
when I'm not the one that's being sought after for
being taller as a woman. You get what I'm saying,
(10:25):
all right? Next one I usually hear from women, which
is rare because usually it's men that piss me off.
But it's when women say, oh my god, don't stand
next to me. I feel so tiny. I feel so small.
It's like insane, how tall you are? I feel so tiny?
Like okay, or if you ever hear this common as
a tall person, oh my god, I wish I was tall,
but not as tall as you though, like I wish
(10:45):
I was taller. Do you only feel good about yourself
by trying to put other people down? Because thankfully, like
I'm at a point where it doesn't put me down,
but it doesn't make sense, like, do you really only
feel good by trying to put someone else down?
Speaker 1 (10:57):
And the older we get, the more experience is we have,
you know, the older we get, we're experiencing more life.
We're making more friends, we're spending more time socializing with
other people that's not really our family members. We're starting
our careers, we're going off to school and so forth.
We're even dating, or we may even be posting ourselves online,
whether it's like tall related like my accounts, or just
(11:19):
in general. And every once in a while you may
bring up your height and so the comments are going
to look very different. People may misgender you, people, especially men.
I wouldn't even say shorter men. Insecure men are going
to question or even challenge your height. They'll be like, oh,
you're six to two. That is so impossible because I'm
six two. You have to be like six'. Five, like, no,
(11:40):
sir you're five to. Ten you're five to. Nine what's
what's going on? Here there was even one tall. Girl
it was actually the last episode THAT i did with
six four Fashionistat Ali. Alexis make sure you go check
out that episode where she literally described the time where somebody,
physically like involving touching, her making physical, contact physically tried
(12:02):
to dunk on her and they were not playing basketball at.
All there are also insecure women who may feel the
need to make you feel, huge or there are creepy
people online asking about your weight or your size or
making these really, weird, creepy sexualized comments about your body
or and your. Height and along with the evolution of the,
(12:25):
comments we also have the evolution of our. Responses at
this point in our, lives we're becoming more confident and
more like this is something we can't. Control there's more
to me than my, height so please shut, Up like
that's basically how we're. Feeling so the responses vary from
ignoring people and giving them a, look to clapping, back
(12:45):
especially about their height essentially something, snarky or even just
standing on business and telling them that they sound. Ridiculous
actually did a TikTok in response to a girl, asking, oh,
like if someone says you're tall or you're so, tall
how do you respond to? THAT i literally did like
a little stitch type of video to. That i'm gonna
play that. Here still don't really know how to respond
(13:05):
to people, who just like in, public will say you're so?
Speaker 3 (13:09):
Tall what DO i? SAY i still don't.
Speaker 1 (13:12):
KNOW i just oh my, gosh thanks, wow and you
are so?
Speaker 3 (13:21):
Short?
Speaker 1 (13:22):
Okay and my personal, favorite what does it have to
do with? ANYTHING i hope this helps and let me
know IF i missed. Anything and WHEN i posted that, video,
y'all the comments literally went. Off people were, saying, OH
i would just say you're so, short OR i would
just say thank. You one that stood out to me
(13:43):
was my responses over the years have gotten harsher BECAUSE
i just can't. Deal so my go to is oh my,
Gosh i'm so. SORRY i must have given you a
sign THAT i give oh what you. Think so in
response To, alexandra it's interesting to see how tall women's
responses to high comments evolve as we get. Older, like
when we're, younger our responsors are more dismissive and passive
(14:04):
because we're more insecure about our height and we tend
to care what people. Think but when we're older and
more confident and don't really care as, much we tend
to be pretty harsh with our. Responses have you noticed?
That and all of these experiences lead to one, question
do tall girls hate being? Tall because with the childhood,
bullying the unsolicited height and body, comparisons and creepy stories
(14:26):
about what some men have said to y'all or asked
y'all to, do it really seems like you guys are
not having it like at, All and some of the
tall girls On reddit are having very mixed emotions about.
It some absolutely love their height and woodn't trade it
for the, world and others are, like, please if there's
any way to make me, shorter, PLEASE i beg at
(14:49):
you take by height away from. ME i might be
acting a bit dramatic right. NOW i personally think that
tall girls don't hate being tall like their actual. Height
they hate the experiences that come with being, tall like
not finding clothes and feeling out of, place and even
the aggressive behaviors from random. STRANGERS i did ask you
guys in another poll On, instagram do you think tall
(15:10):
women hate their? Height eleven percent said, yes they definitely
hate being, tall and eighty nine percent said, no they
hate the experiences it. Brings AND i really do agree
with the second. One they do hate the experiences that
come with, it because if those crusty experiences never, happened
like if nobody said anything about our, height would we
(15:34):
hate the quote unquote idea of being? Tall are you
getting What i'm? Saying are you picking up What i'm putting?
Down so, YEAH i definitely agree with the results of this,
poll AND i just want to say thank you for
participating in my. Polls LIKE i, mean, Yes i've been
doing this for, years and you, Know i'm Just i'm
just a tall girl with a. Mic and so WHEN
i put like content, ana WHEN i put like poles
(15:55):
like this, out SOMETIMES i think to, myself, like are
people even going to like look at? It or they're
going to. Participate but seeing that you guys actually do,
it and it's quite a lot of you guys actually
doing it, too, participating, watching, commenting sending messages and so,
FORTH i really do appreciate. It SO i just wanted
to say that really. Quickly, anyways back to the. Episode but,
(16:16):
honestly think about it this, way if all this ridiculous
stuff was not happening to us because of our height
as a tall, woman would we actually like dislike being,
Tall like if we were able to easily find clothes in,
store if people weren't so rude about our, height if
people weren't pointing out things about our height or making
(16:37):
us feel insecure about, it and so, forth and so,
On LIKE i, mean aside from the fact that you,
know we have growing, pains and Then i'm sure you
understand how excruciating that probably. Was but aside from the
growing pains and so, forth if we'd never experienced any
of those, things would we care that? Much but because
of our, insecurities because of the aggressive behavior from other,
(17:01):
people from random, strangers and so, Forth because when we
wear clothes it makes us look stupid because it doesn't
it looks like it either shrank in the wash or
is meant for. Toddlers because of all of those, things
it makes it harder and it makes us feel worse
about ourselves just looking at it from the, outside like being,
tall quite, literally like there's nothing wrong with. It it's just
(17:23):
all of the things that we have to experience and
we have to go through from our younger years all
the way till now and all the way to people
who are in their fifties and sixties and so. Forth
because of all of those, experiences it's, like, dang like
this is really. Annoying do you know WHAT i? Mean
are you understanding What i'm trying to. Say but it's
the whole insecurity thing and the whole other people's action
(17:45):
things that makes it. WORSE i, mean we can't really
control other people's, actions. Unfortunately, Fortunately, unfortunately it's just we
can't really control what other people do in response to
us being tall or them seeing us and. Whatever we,
can over a time overcome a lot of our. Insecurities
i'm not going to say all of, them BECAUSE i
don't think anything is really an. Absolute there's no way
(18:07):
to one hundred percent absolutely be insecure, free if that makes.
Sense BUT i will say that tall looks good on
a woman who wears it with confidence. Periods we're tall
girly listening to this right, now and you're struggling with
your insecurities and your self esteem because of your. Height
i'm here with you every step of the. Way this
is WHY i made this podcast SO i can help,
(18:29):
you guys feel less alone about being, tall about being
a tall, girl and letting you, know, hey, like there
are other tall women out, there and there are other
tall women who absolutely love their height and embrace, it
and there's so many things to love about being, tall
and it can be hard to understand that at. Times
but while you're going through that process of trying to
figure it, out trying to figure out how to love your,
(18:51):
height or just trying to navigate being a tall girl in,
General i'm here for you to support you every step
of the. Way so, YEAH i think we're going to
end the episode. Here thank you so much for tuning
into this. EPISODE i really appreciate, it AND i appreciate,
you AND i appreciate your. Existence of, course as, always
feel free to hit me up on my socials at
A Tall girls podcasts are going to be linked in
(19:12):
the description and let me know what you thought about this? Episode,
like do you agree that the evolution of these responses
to these height comments are often due to our? Confidence
our growing confidence as we get. Older you, know when we're,
younger we're more dismissive and passive about it because we're
insecure about our height and we want to downplay our
height in our. Presence versus when we're, older then the
(19:33):
responsors are like harsher, ruder we're clapping, back or we
just straight up ignore, It, like do you agree that
there's like a difference between the. Two do you agree
that these responses evolve over time because of our growing? Confidence,
also what do you think about the question THAT i
posed about do tall girls hate their? Height and what
do you think about my response to that saying that
they don't necessarily hate their actual, height they hate their
(19:56):
experiences that come with. IT i want to know your.
Thoughts drop it in the, comment send me A, dm so,
forth and so. On i'm genuinely interested to know what
you guys think about. This and of, course if you
have any other episode topics or requests or whatever that
you want me to talk, about feel free to let
me know And i'll do. It and, YEAH i hope
you have a good rest of your day week. Monthier,
(20:17):
Also i'm gonna See, kesha. Y'all kesha this place About. Hell,
actually by the time this episode is, UP i would
have Seen kesha. Yesterday make sure you follow me on my.
Socials i'm gonna post a little luggivlog about, it but
like On instagram and TikTok. NOT i MEAN i could
put on YouTube on. Shorts just make sure you follow
(20:38):
me so you could see My kesha concert. Experience, okay
and until, THEN i will catch y'all in the next.
One good night and. Goodbye
Every single tall person known to existence has had a
complicated relationship with their height, and speaking from experience as
a tall girlly myself, I know I have had quite
a tricky relationship with mine. There were times where I
loved being tall and it was the greatest thing ever.
It made me feel powerful and unique and beautiful even
but there are also times where I'm like, why did
(00:21):
my tall dad and above average height mom have to
make me tall again? From the self comparisons to my
awkward tall teen phase to even the adult's closest to
me making me feel insecure about my height, it has
been quite the journey. Sometimes It's kind of like do
the cons outweigh the pros when it comes to being
a tall girl? Is there more good than bad? And
honestly gets to the point where you ask, as a
(00:42):
tall girl, do you hate being tall? Okay, that was
a bit extreme, but Who're going to answer that question
and more in this episode, so let's get into it.
Good morning, everybody. You are currently listening to a tall
girls podcast hosted by a tall girl named India. I
hope everyone who is tuning in today is doing super fantastic.
(01:05):
Before I get into this episode, I do want to say,
make sure you're following me on my socials at a
Tall Girls podcast on Instagram, TikTok, and pincher so that
you can stay up today on all of the latest
podcast episodes and catch a glimpse of my everyday life. Also,
feel free toly me review and let me know how
tall you are. I'm genuinely curious. I also have a
monthly newsletter, make sure you subscribe to that. Everything is
(01:26):
going to be linked in the description. I hope you
all are doing super duper fantastic today. This episode is
actually a request from one of you guys, So shout
out to alexandrok are actually buying me three coffees on
buying me a coffee and writing a super lovely note
along with it, and of course, in that note, requesting
the topic of today's episode, which is going to be
(01:46):
talking about the evolution of comments that we get as
tall girls growing up from younger age to now, the
evolution of responses to those comments from younger age to now,
and determining how tall women feel about it and feel
about their height? Aka do we hate all of these experiences?
Do we hate our height? If you want to support
this podcast number one, I am beyond grateful that you
(02:08):
even would consider that. First of all, I'm beyond grateful
that you're even listening right now. Thank you so much.
But if you want to support this podcast, feel free
to buy me a coffee that's going to be linked
in the description. And big thank you and shout out
to Alexandra and Kayla for being supporters of this podcast.
Now for this episode, growing up tall men, Constantly being
ridiculed by your peers, adults, making unwarded to comments about
(02:31):
your heightened body, and ultimately being made to feel as
though there's something wrong with being a tall girl. Let's
listen to this clip.
Speaker 2 (02:38):
Hey guys, since everybody was to pretend that they love
tal girls, now here are things people said or did
to me back in the day kind up as a girl.
Firstly nastist one. This one will come from my friends
may need to be honest or people are children whatever
our girls obviously, Like, I don't think you're ever going
to find love, will get married A way to take
because you're so tool Like I just don't feel there's
(02:59):
a man out there that's taller than I was, Like,
like you might be onto something or boys trying to
guess like me about my hat, Like for boy was
like five seven, I'm five ten black. Now that's impossible
because I'm five ten, so you can't be five ten
as well. So you're six ft three and I'm like, nah, babe,
I'm not You're just sure like nah, I'm not sure,
(03:20):
you're just really t you're a really tall girl. Girls
I meant to be just talk okay, and you're like,
it doesn't tae the path. It's like just because it
doesn't real or like again, girls would like use my
hat as like a comparison for like what they want
their boyfriends to be. Like they'll bring me, oh yeah,
(03:40):
if my mine isn't taller nus now, then he's not
tall enough. So I'm a man Like obviously I don't
really care about this one now. But it's just like
I don't know, maybe feel like, am I a girl?
Like am I meant to be? Decided?
Speaker 3 (03:52):
Did that mean?
Speaker 2 (03:53):
Or like if there was a girl that was a
bit shorted me like the first six five seven babes,
They'll you know, make sure everyone in the room is
that I'm not the toalleest personal, but you see I'm personal.
But told me that I feel so small, just get
away from me.
Speaker 1 (04:09):
That growing up tall can be extremely difficult, especially when
you don't have that support system or at least other
tall girlies to help you feel less lonely, and it
could be ruthless. There are gonna be a lot of
how is the weather up there type of questions, a
lot of name calling like jolly green giant, or if
you're anything like me, mommy long legs, and oh my gosh.
Having a crush on a guy, especially if he's shorter
(04:32):
than you, he will definitely have something to say about you,
and it most likely was not something nice, and it
most likely involved something with your height or you being
taller than him. And then on top of that, the
adults constantly made it a point to bring up your height.
They're always saying, oh my gosh, you're so tall, or
asking are you going to join the basketball team or
are you going to join the volleyball team? And essentially
(04:52):
early on in life, we learn how society views height,
especially when a girl has a lot of height. When
a girl is tall, and the view are not the prettiest.
And because this is earlier in our lives, especially during
our formative years, we're gonna feel bad, We're gonna feel
insecure because we don't have that self confidence yet that
often develops over time, especially when we don't have that
(05:13):
support system or other tall women around us inspiring us
and making us feel confident or better about our heights.
And because this is in our earlier years, in our
more formative years, and our brains are still developing in
hormones or raging, we are gonna have we're gonna lack
that confidence a little bit that we tend to have
when we're older and feel the need to shrink ourselves.
(05:34):
And because of that, our responses to these comments and
questions and so forth are going to reflect those insecurities
and that lack of confidence or low self esteem. So
we may often dismiss our height and say we're not
even that tall, or if you're anything like me, laugh
along with those jokes and comments, And honestly, I thought
that laughing along to those jokes and comments, we're going
(05:55):
to help them accept me or make it seem as though, oh,
like she's a tall girl, like she's a weirdo or
freak or whatever, but she's not that bad because she
actually agrees with us and laughs along with us. So
in my personal opinion, when we're younger, the comments are
more surface level and shallow and childish and immature. However,
(06:16):
because of our insecurities, we tend to downplay our height
and our presence, and it's almost like a coping mechanism.
I did ask you guys in a poll over on Instagram,
and I'm gonna do a quick little plug here. Make
sure you follow me at a Tall Girl's podcast on
Instagram so you can participate in these polls and have
your opinions heard on these episodes. But I did ask
(06:36):
you guys in a poll, how did you typically respond
to comments about your height when you were younger. Thirty
seven percent of you guys said I would get really
insecure or passive, sixteen percent said I would laugh it
off with everyone else, five percent said I would clap
back so hard, and forty two percent said a bit
of everything. Now this is very interesting because my thought
(07:00):
process was, you know, our response to these high comments
when we're younger is more so like insecure, passive, maybe
even like laughing it off, just being dismissive overall. But
it's interesting to see that a majority of you guys
said a bit of everything. So I mean, obviously it
varies in terms of how people were raised, especially because
(07:22):
in my last episode with Ali, she was talking about
how her mom raised her to be extremely confident in
her height. And when speaking with a lot of you guys,
whether it's like in person, over DMS or even on
these podcast episodes, if you were a guest, a lot
of you guys have been raised to love your height.
So from a young age you really learned to have
like some of that, like some type of confidence or
(07:44):
a lot of confidence in your height. And so when
people would make comments about your height, you'd have a
very different response to those who would be more insecure
about it or have a lower self esteem. So I
found this very interesting. Now as we get older, the
comments and question never stop. Oh my gosh, I've been
getting comments on my TikTok recently, by the way, follow
me on TikTok out of Tall Girls podcast. But I've
(08:07):
been getting comments in some of my recent videos, and
I've been seeing tall women say, oh, I'm fifty three
and I still get this comment, or oh, I'm like
in my sixties. The comments never stop. I'm in my
forties and I'm sitting here like, dude, Like, I'm twenty
three years old, and it's like I've been dealing with
this basically for twenty three years, for as long as
(08:28):
I can remember, and you're telling me that I have
another still let's say forties, twenty thirty, forty years of
this at least bare minimum. Girl, Oh my gosh. Anyways,
the comments never stop. They just evolve, and in my opinion,
they get worse. Like yeah, we still have some surface
(08:49):
level childish comments like ha ha, you're tall, or do
you play basketball? But now that's mixed with things that
are more aggressive and argumentative and in more invasive and
sometimes even sexual. Let's hear about a couple of these experiences.
Speaker 4 (09:04):
I swear tall girls cannot just exist in peace, like
someone always has something to say about my height.
Speaker 1 (09:10):
Literally, just walking.
Speaker 4 (09:11):
Down the street walking home from work, I passed this couple,
guy and a girl holding hands, and the girl stops
and looks at me and goes, what are you a
basketball player? So what if I am?
Speaker 3 (09:21):
These are some passive, aggressive comments I've gotten as a
tall woman, and some of my pet peeves. So Number one,
I used to hear this from guys in college. If
I wore heels would be oh, you must feel so
powerful when you're wearing keels, And it's always the guys
that are shorter than me that would say this. My
question is am I intimidating or are you intimidated? And
whose problem is that? The next one is when people
(09:43):
look at your feet And I only noticed it was
a thing when I was wearing little kin heels and
I passed by like two people and they were like, oh,
she's wearing keels, as if the two little inches are
the reason why I look tall to them. Clicked that
people look at your feet when you're tall to see, like,
is that why you're tall? Is when a guy who
is very clearly at least three to four inches shorter
(10:04):
than you insists that you are lying as a woman
about being six feet tall because he's six feet tall
when he's very like obviously five nine. And it's so
funny because like they'll try to gaslight you about your
own height while being shorter than you. Like, why as
a woman, would I lie about being a six footer
when I'm not the one that's being sought after for
being taller as a woman. You get what I'm saying,
(10:25):
all right? Next one I usually hear from women, which
is rare because usually it's men that piss me off.
But it's when women say, oh my god, don't stand
next to me. I feel so tiny. I feel so small.
It's like insane, how tall you are? I feel so tiny?
Like okay, or if you ever hear this common as
a tall person, oh my god, I wish I was tall,
but not as tall as you though, like I wish
(10:45):
I was taller. Do you only feel good about yourself
by trying to put other people down? Because thankfully, like
I'm at a point where it doesn't put me down,
but it doesn't make sense, like, do you really only
feel good by trying to put someone else down?
Speaker 1 (10:57):
And the older we get, the more experience is we have,
you know, the older we get, we're experiencing more life.
We're making more friends, we're spending more time socializing with
other people that's not really our family members. We're starting
our careers, we're going off to school and so forth.
We're even dating, or we may even be posting ourselves online,
whether it's like tall related like my accounts, or just
(11:19):
in general. And every once in a while you may
bring up your height and so the comments are going
to look very different. People may misgender you, people, especially men.
I wouldn't even say shorter men. Insecure men are going
to question or even challenge your height. They'll be like, oh,
you're six to two. That is so impossible because I'm
six two. You have to be like six'. Five, like, no,
(11:40):
sir you're five to. Ten you're five to. Nine what's
what's going on? Here there was even one tall. Girl
it was actually the last episode THAT i did with
six four Fashionistat Ali. Alexis make sure you go check
out that episode where she literally described the time where somebody,
physically like involving touching, her making physical, contact physically tried
(12:02):
to dunk on her and they were not playing basketball at.
All there are also insecure women who may feel the
need to make you feel, huge or there are creepy
people online asking about your weight or your size or
making these really, weird, creepy sexualized comments about your body
or and your. Height and along with the evolution of the,
(12:25):
comments we also have the evolution of our. Responses at
this point in our, lives we're becoming more confident and
more like this is something we can't. Control there's more
to me than my, height so please shut, Up like
that's basically how we're. Feeling so the responses vary from
ignoring people and giving them a, look to clapping, back
(12:45):
especially about their height essentially something, snarky or even just
standing on business and telling them that they sound. Ridiculous
actually did a TikTok in response to a girl, asking, oh,
like if someone says you're tall or you're so, tall
how do you respond to? THAT i literally did like
a little stitch type of video to. That i'm gonna
play that. Here still don't really know how to respond
(13:05):
to people, who just like in, public will say you're so?
Speaker 3 (13:09):
Tall what DO i? SAY i still don't.
Speaker 1 (13:12):
KNOW i just oh my, gosh thanks, wow and you
are so?
Speaker 3 (13:21):
Short?
Speaker 1 (13:22):
Okay and my personal, favorite what does it have to
do with? ANYTHING i hope this helps and let me
know IF i missed. Anything and WHEN i posted that, video,
y'all the comments literally went. Off people were, saying, OH
i would just say you're so, short OR i would
just say thank. You one that stood out to me
(13:43):
was my responses over the years have gotten harsher BECAUSE
i just can't. Deal so my go to is oh my,
Gosh i'm so. SORRY i must have given you a
sign THAT i give oh what you. Think so in
response To, alexandra it's interesting to see how tall women's
responses to high comments evolve as we get. Older, like
when we're, younger our responsors are more dismissive and passive
(14:04):
because we're more insecure about our height and we tend
to care what people. Think but when we're older and
more confident and don't really care as, much we tend
to be pretty harsh with our. Responses have you noticed?
That and all of these experiences lead to one, question
do tall girls hate being? Tall because with the childhood,
bullying the unsolicited height and body, comparisons and creepy stories
(14:26):
about what some men have said to y'all or asked
y'all to, do it really seems like you guys are
not having it like at, All and some of the
tall girls On reddit are having very mixed emotions about.
It some absolutely love their height and woodn't trade it
for the, world and others are, like, please if there's
any way to make me, shorter, PLEASE i beg at
(14:49):
you take by height away from. ME i might be
acting a bit dramatic right. NOW i personally think that
tall girls don't hate being tall like their actual. Height
they hate the experiences that come with being, tall like
not finding clothes and feeling out of, place and even
the aggressive behaviors from random. STRANGERS i did ask you
guys in another poll On, instagram do you think tall
(15:10):
women hate their? Height eleven percent said, yes they definitely
hate being, tall and eighty nine percent said, no they
hate the experiences it. Brings AND i really do agree
with the second. One they do hate the experiences that
come with, it because if those crusty experiences never, happened
like if nobody said anything about our, height would we
(15:34):
hate the quote unquote idea of being? Tall are you
getting What i'm? Saying are you picking up What i'm putting?
Down so, YEAH i definitely agree with the results of this,
poll AND i just want to say thank you for
participating in my. Polls LIKE i, mean, Yes i've been
doing this for, years and you, Know i'm Just i'm
just a tall girl with a. Mic and so WHEN
i put like content, ana WHEN i put like poles
(15:55):
like this, out SOMETIMES i think to, myself, like are
people even going to like look at? It or they're
going to. Participate but seeing that you guys actually do,
it and it's quite a lot of you guys actually
doing it, too, participating, watching, commenting sending messages and so,
FORTH i really do appreciate. It SO i just wanted
to say that really. Quickly, anyways back to the. Episode but,
(16:16):
honestly think about it this, way if all this ridiculous
stuff was not happening to us because of our height
as a tall, woman would we actually like dislike being,
Tall like if we were able to easily find clothes in,
store if people weren't so rude about our, height if
people weren't pointing out things about our height or making
(16:37):
us feel insecure about, it and so, forth and so,
On LIKE i, mean aside from the fact that you,
know we have growing, pains and Then i'm sure you
understand how excruciating that probably. Was but aside from the
growing pains and so, forth if we'd never experienced any
of those, things would we care that? Much but because
of our, insecurities because of the aggressive behavior from other,
(17:01):
people from random, strangers and so, Forth because when we
wear clothes it makes us look stupid because it doesn't
it looks like it either shrank in the wash or
is meant for. Toddlers because of all of those, things
it makes it harder and it makes us feel worse
about ourselves just looking at it from the, outside like being,
tall quite, literally like there's nothing wrong with. It it's just
(17:23):
all of the things that we have to experience and
we have to go through from our younger years all
the way till now and all the way to people
who are in their fifties and sixties and so. Forth
because of all of those, experiences it's, like, dang like
this is really. Annoying do you know WHAT i? Mean
are you understanding What i'm trying to. Say but it's
the whole insecurity thing and the whole other people's action
(17:45):
things that makes it. WORSE i, mean we can't really
control other people's, actions. Unfortunately, Fortunately, unfortunately it's just we
can't really control what other people do in response to
us being tall or them seeing us and. Whatever we,
can over a time overcome a lot of our. Insecurities
i'm not going to say all of, them BECAUSE i
don't think anything is really an. Absolute there's no way
(18:07):
to one hundred percent absolutely be insecure, free if that makes.
Sense BUT i will say that tall looks good on
a woman who wears it with confidence. Periods we're tall
girly listening to this right, now and you're struggling with
your insecurities and your self esteem because of your. Height
i'm here with you every step of the. Way this
is WHY i made this podcast SO i can help,
(18:29):
you guys feel less alone about being, tall about being
a tall, girl and letting you, know, hey, like there
are other tall women out, there and there are other
tall women who absolutely love their height and embrace, it
and there's so many things to love about being, tall
and it can be hard to understand that at. Times
but while you're going through that process of trying to
figure it, out trying to figure out how to love your,
(18:51):
height or just trying to navigate being a tall girl in,
General i'm here for you to support you every step
of the. Way so, YEAH i think we're going to
end the episode. Here thank you so much for tuning
into this. EPISODE i really appreciate, it AND i appreciate,
you AND i appreciate your. Existence of, course as, always
feel free to hit me up on my socials at
A Tall girls podcasts are going to be linked in
(19:12):
the description and let me know what you thought about this? Episode,
like do you agree that the evolution of these responses
to these height comments are often due to our? Confidence
our growing confidence as we get. Older you, know when we're,
younger we're more dismissive and passive about it because we're
insecure about our height and we want to downplay our
height in our. Presence versus when we're, older then the
(19:33):
responsors are like harsher, ruder we're clapping, back or we
just straight up ignore, It, like do you agree that
there's like a difference between the. Two do you agree
that these responses evolve over time because of our growing? Confidence,
also what do you think about the question THAT i
posed about do tall girls hate their? Height and what
do you think about my response to that saying that
they don't necessarily hate their actual, height they hate their
(19:56):
experiences that come with. IT i want to know your.
Thoughts drop it in the, comment send me A, dm so,
forth and so. On i'm genuinely interested to know what
you guys think about. This and of, course if you
have any other episode topics or requests or whatever that
you want me to talk, about feel free to let
me know And i'll do. It and, YEAH i hope
you have a good rest of your day week. Monthier,
(20:17):
Also i'm gonna See, kesha. Y'all kesha this place About. Hell,
actually by the time this episode is, UP i would
have Seen kesha. Yesterday make sure you follow me on my.
Socials i'm gonna post a little luggivlog about, it but
like On instagram and TikTok. NOT i MEAN i could
put on YouTube on. Shorts just make sure you follow
(20:38):
me so you could see My kesha concert. Experience, okay
and until, THEN i will catch y'all in the next.
One good night and. Goodbye
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