June 26, 2025 • 17 mins
Every tall girl knows the feeling of being the odd one out.
In fact, I’m sure you were the one tall girl among your friends, classmates, teammates, or peers. You’d be a head taller than them to the point where other people would assume that you’re the random older sibling babysitting them. Or maybe that was just me and my situation lol.
Your friends were able to share clothes with each other, but you can’t because your friends’ clothes won’t fit you. People may treat you differently from them. Sometimes, your friends may make fun of you for being the tallest one in the group, making you feel even more insecure about your height.
What if I told you that some of your friends may be doing that last part on purpose? Yeah…some of your “friends” may not be your for real for real friends. Geesh, that got kinda dark lol…But I mean it IS real life.
Anyways, so today we’re gonna be talking about how our shorter friends may have made us insecure about our height, whether they meant to or not. Tune in to the full episode for more!
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In fact, I’m sure you were the one tall girl among your friends, classmates, teammates, or peers. You’d be a head taller than them to the point where other people would assume that you’re the random older sibling babysitting them. Or maybe that was just me and my situation lol.
Your friends were able to share clothes with each other, but you can’t because your friends’ clothes won’t fit you. People may treat you differently from them. Sometimes, your friends may make fun of you for being the tallest one in the group, making you feel even more insecure about your height.
What if I told you that some of your friends may be doing that last part on purpose? Yeah…some of your “friends” may not be your for real for real friends. Geesh, that got kinda dark lol…But I mean it IS real life.
Anyways, so today we’re gonna be talking about how our shorter friends may have made us insecure about our height, whether they meant to or not. Tune in to the full episode for more!
Tall and Fabulous Facebook community: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1807964506602961
Buy Me A Coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/atallgirlspodcast
Subscribe to A Tall Girl's Newsletter: https://atallgirlspodcast.beehiiv.com/subscribe
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Every tall girl understands the feeling of being the odd
one out, especially in a friend group. In fact, I'm
sure you were that one tall girl among your friend's classmates, teammates,
or peers, you'd be a head taller than them, to
the point where other people would assume you were the
older sibling. Or maybe that was just my situation. Who knows.
Your friends were able to share clothes with each other,
(00:20):
but you can't because your friend's clothes will not fit you.
People may treat you differently from them. Sometimes your own
friends may make fun of you for being the tall
one in the group, making you feel even more insecure
about your height. Well what if I told you that
some of your friends may be doing that last part
on purpose? Okay, I didn't mean to sound that intense
(00:42):
or sad, but this is real life. Anyways, Today we're
going to be talking about how some of our shorter
friends may have made us insecure about our height, whether
they meant to or not. So let's get into it.
Good morning, everybody. You are currently listening to a tall
Girls podcast hosted by a tall girl named India. I
(01:04):
hope everyone who's sitting in today is doing super fantastic.
Before I get into this episode, I do want to
say make sure following me on my socials at a
Tall Girls podcast and instill going to take talk and
pincher so that you can stay up to date on
all of the latest podcast episodes and catch a glimpse
of my every day life. Also, feel free to leave
your review and let me know how tall you are.
I'm genuinely curious. I also have a monthly newsletter and
(01:24):
make sure you subscribe to that. Everything is going to
be linked in the description. Also, by the way, I
apologize in advance for this episode because it is quite
literally ninety degrees and my room does not have an
AC and honestly, even if I did have an AC
in here, it would be super loud, so I would
still have to turn it off. But I have my
big window open right now. So if you hear car alarms, ambulances, pigeons, birds, crows,
(01:49):
whatever is going on outside, people yelling at each other outside,
if you hear any of that, just don't mind it, Okay.
I need to keep my window open so I can
make it through this episode all right. After that, I
don't want you thinking that your friends hate you or
are purposely making you feel insecure about your height, or
this and that and the other. I don't want you
thinking that. I just think that this is something to
(02:10):
be very aware of, especially when you're in your friend
groups in your teen years and even in your twenties.
Not every single situation is going to be like this,
but there are some situations out there that are like this.
And if you're feeling this way, if you're feeling insecure
about your high, for your friends are making you insecure
about your height, whether they're outright doing it, which you're
(02:31):
going to talk about a little bit later, or if
it's even indirectly making you feel insecure about your height,
I just want you to know that your feelings are
valid and you are not stupid or weird for thinking
that way. Listen, as a tall girl, when you're making friends,
some many, probably most of them are going to be
shorter than you. Every tall girl has at least five
(02:53):
short friends at least, like bare minimum. It's practically inevitable.
Low key, how tall is your shortest friend? At one
point in time, I had a friend who was literally
a foot shorter than me. If you're a tall girly,
at some point in time, you were probably the tallest
friend in your friend group, and it'll be so obvious,
like you'll be towering over everyone in group photos. As
(03:15):
I said earlier in the intro, people may assume that
you're like the older sibling in the group or something,
or like one of their older siblings or one of
the older friends. You even stick out like a sore thumb.
And social events, first of all, literally there was no hiding,
like if you wanted to hide from someone, where are
you gonna go? They're gonna find you. But there was
no hiding your height. You were always going to be
(03:38):
the visible, the noticeable one. Let's just hear an example
from a tall girl and what it felt like being
the tall girl in the friend group.
Speaker 2 (03:45):
I don't like doing group photos with my friends. You
want to know why cause they're all five foot one five
foot two and I'm a normal human size. So someone
showed up piggybox. Guess who's caring them all? Little Charlie
Chocolate actor. There my balloon bu we're doing a pyramid, gus,
who's the base?
Speaker 1 (04:02):
And that honestly reminded me of this trend that was
going around on a TikTok a while ago, and the
sound was like, oh, I'm fat, I'm a fatty, or
something along those lines, and the text on the screen
is how I feel as a tall girl because everyone
around me is short. Now personally, I don't think that
they took that sound super literally, like when it said
I'm fat, I'm a fatty, blah blah blah. I think,
(04:25):
in a sense, what they really meant was that they
just felt big or huge or large in comparison to
their shorter friends because of their height. But then on
top of that, if you have height, let's say you
have more of an athletic build, if you had broad shoulders,
if you have a thicker bones and so forth, then
that kind of contributes to that feeling, if that makes sense.
(04:47):
And I probably should have said this earlier, But what
I'm talking about, like your shorter friends and having that
height difference in the friend group, I mean, like a
good four five six inches at least between you and
your friends. But I mean one of the biggest reasons
that tall women ultimately dislike their height is because they
(05:08):
feel like the odd one out. They always stick out,
They always stand out whenever they're in a crowd, whenever
they're with their friends, their peers, because I mean, you
want to be similar to your friends, not to say
that you want to be like an exact carbon copy
of them or whatever. But one of the big reasons
why you're friends with your friends is because you have
some type of commonality or a lot of similarities. And
(05:28):
so when you're with a group of people, I think
that's just human nature overall. You want to be able
to relate to your community. You want to be able
to relate to the people that you're around, and you
want them to be able to relate to you, but
they can't because they're not tall. And so when you're
talking about your struggles or you're feeling some type of
(05:49):
way about it, they may not necessarily be able to
I don't want to say feel empathy, because I feel
like they could, but they just don't truly one hundred
and ten percent understand the feeling, you know. And then
on top of that, you know, not being able to
relate to them in some ways, and them not always
being able to relate to you in some ways. You know,
sometimes you want to wear the heels, but then you're
(06:11):
with your friend group, you're already so much taller than
them without heels, You're gonna be even taller than them
with the heels on, and then you may not want
to do that because you're gonna feel self conscious about it.
And something else is that you know sometimes you may
often compare yourself, compare your body, compare your tendencies to them.
Speaker 3 (06:28):
Let's chat, could it play it for a chat? Yeah?
I am insecure and what may I What am I
insecure about? With? The list goes on and on, but
specifically right now, I'm insecure about my height. That is
like the root of my insecurities because I am five
to eleven. Right the average female is like, I think
it's five six, but the average male, by the way,
(06:49):
I think it's five to nine. So I'm even taller
than the average male. High point is when I meet somebody,
they are always like right here on me, So I
can't help but feel like this giant monster.
Speaker 1 (07:03):
I hate it.
Speaker 3 (07:03):
I hate it because I am the odd one out.
I have a completely different body shape and structure from
majority of other women that I have met. They all
just have smaller features, daintier features because they're shorter people.
I don't look like that, and I want to. I
wish I did because that's what I see. I'm proud
(07:25):
of what I've accomplished and stuff in my body, but
yet I still compare myself. I am not petite. I
am not petite. My body is not shaped like that.
I will never be that because of five to eleven.
Why do I still feel this way, like I'm just
so much more human because I literally physically am. I
(07:46):
can reach the top shelf.
Speaker 1 (07:48):
But it would cost self. Comparison is the thief of
joy for Toll Girls, well really everyone, but this is
a Toll Girls podcast, comparing how much you eat to
your shorter friends, how much you weigh, how clothes may
fit you, how people may treat you, and honestly, and
I know that this can be hard to remember at times,
but there's really no point because your bodies are just
so different. Now, I feel like that was the more
(08:11):
indirect way that your friends can make you insecure about
your heart. They're not outright saying anything to you about it,
but you know, just being around them often and seeing
their tendencies and the clothes that they're wearing and so forth,
and just comparing it to yours that can make you insecure. Now,
on the flip side, we have some people, some friends.
Well they're not real true friends, but for the purpose
(08:33):
of this episode, friends and quotation marks, you have people
or quote unquote friends who outright make you feel insecure
about your height. Oh, I'd hate to be your height.
It must suck finding clothes. You make me feel so small.
If your friends are saying any of these things to you,
you need to drop them, like yesterday. But anyways, it
could be anything from backhanded compliments like oh I wish
(08:55):
I were as tall as you, but just not that tall,
or wow, you are so often for someone your's size,
to certain looks and how they may treat you, to
outright insults about your height. The comments, the compliments, the looks,
the way they treat you. It can all add up
over time and it could cause insecurities and self comparison
(09:16):
and even body or hype dysmorphia. Let's take a listen
to this really quickly.
Speaker 4 (09:21):
Five eight really isn't that tall in my opinion, Like
it's above average obviously, but like people treated me like
I had some type of like pituitary gland disorder or
something like I was yowling and hindsight. What I think
it also was was that I had a lot of
friends and like, if you're my friend right now, I'm
not talking about you. But I had a lot of
friends in the past who were picknies and they love
to bring up like how big I was in comparison
(09:43):
to their small, petite bodies. And they especially love to
do this, like when we were around other guys and
like if you do that, you are you're a loser.
Like I'm gonna tell you right now, you're lame. But
that's like where I got this like mentality that like
I was so big that like I'm really not. But
more of the story is that some of our friends
are actually haters and they love to make you feel
(10:05):
like you have flaws that don't even exist. I've been tall,
like my whole life, Like I hit puberty at twelve,
like I was five eight, like in middle school. And
maybe this is also shocking to me because my whole life,
people have always over exaggerated how tall I actually am.
Like I said, I'm five eight, but like my whole life,
people will call me Amazon or like you're a giant,
like you're cetal, you're so talent, Oh my god, are
(10:26):
you six to one? And I think that made me
like have like a little bit of like height dysmorphia
and think that I'm like way bigger than I actually am.
Speaker 1 (10:34):
And you know, it can make you feel bad and
feel alone and left out and like there's even something
wrong with you or your height. And yet all you
want to do is feel accepted by your friends, and
you want them to, you know, make you feel good
and hype you up and make you feel confident. But
there are some people other who just can't let us
have that moment. Why do some people from strangers all
(10:55):
the way to your own friends and yes, your own friends,
make you feel batter into care about your height? Well,
there can be plenty of reasons, but two very possible
ones are A they could be jealous of your height
or b they can be insecure about their own height,
which honestly can tie into the first one. But yeah,
your friends can be insecure about their height. They could
be insecure about their own bodies. They could even be
(11:16):
jealous of your height or jealous of your body. But
I'm not saying it's one hundred and ten percent for
sure that your friends are going to be jealous of
your height or insecure about their bodies. Et cetera. But
it could be a possibility. And you know, there are
some people out there that literally keep their quote unquote
friends around or just keep people around to constantly keep
bringing them down to boost their own egos. And as
(11:39):
weird as that sounds, it happens. Okay, it happens. It's
a possibility. And listen, it's very human to feel these emotions.
It's human to feel jealous, it's human to feel insecure.
We've all felt it. There's quite literally no escaping it.
It's just how you handle those feelings, you know what
(12:01):
I mean. Some people just internalize it and maybe make
them feel worse about themselves, or maybe hopefully they seek
help or maybe they work on it. And others often
project that onto other people, and they feel the need
to keep other people who are often insecure about themselves too.
They feel the need to keep those people close but
keep bringing them down to make them feel better about themselves,
(12:23):
to boost their own ego or to kind of have
like this sense of control over other people's emotions. And
then that I don't know, and then that listen. I
am not a therapist or psychologist. Please don't come for me,
but I personally think, in my personal opinion, they do
all of that as a way to just you know,
make them feel better about themselves or their lives. And listen,
(12:47):
I'm not saying that your friends definitely hate you because
of your height and so forth, or are trying to
do those types of things to you or whatever. But
it's just something to be aware of because this can happen.
I am not saying that all of your shorter friends
are like this or are doing this. Okay, there are
amazing people out there who are shorter than you who
(13:09):
will make you feel appreciated and make you feel accepted,
and make you feel beautiful and confident and hype you
up and so forth, will support you and all of that. Like,
there are amazing people out there, no matter their height,
that will accept you for who you are and not
try to make you feel down about yourself or your body.
And I think that there's also this appreciation from like
(13:30):
a tall girl's perspective to have another tall girl as
a friend, like an appreciation for tall girl friendships, Like
there are no awkward side eyes when you put heels on,
no weird energy in group photos, and really no need
to shrink yourself to make somebody feel better about themselves
or just no need to shrink yourself at all. And see,
(13:50):
this is why tall girls need to be friends with
tall girls, because you know we're gonna hype each other up,
make each other feel confident and beautiful. Okay, no one
is allowed to hate their height. Here tag your tall
bestie in the comments. I asked you guys in another
poll on Instagram, do you think having tall friends makes
or made you confident in your height? Eighty four percent
said oh yes, one hundred and ten percent, and sixteen
(14:12):
percent said not really. I'm gonna have to go with
the oh yes one hundred and ten percent because, as
I said earlier, a lot of us feel bad about
our height or even hater height because of how much
we stick out in comparison to our friends, or to
people around us, or to other women. So that was
more so how I felt when I was younger. I
(14:36):
just really I didn't like my height because wow, in
comparison to other people, I was like, wow, I'm like
so much bigger than my stick out, Like there has
to be something wrong with me and something of that sort.
But I think that once I started, well, once I
started this podcast, for sure, and started connecting with a
lot of you guys, a lot of tall women online.
(14:57):
I was like, oh, like there's more of us out there, Like,
you know, being tall isn't so bad. Like there's a
whole community out there. And I started meeting you guys
in person and actually started getting friends that were a
little bit closer to my height. I didn't feel so
bad about it because I didn't feel like the odd
one out anymore. I was like, Okay, these are my people.
I can relate to them. So I'm definitely with the
(15:19):
eighty four percent of people who say that, you know,
having tall friends made them love their height more, because honestly,
that's how I started loving my height by surrounding myself
with other tall girlies or at least connected with other
tall girlies and also shout out to the tall and
Fabulous community over on Facebook. I joined them who knows
how long ago, but I've been with that. I've been
(15:40):
with them for like a couple of months. I know
that because I've been on like what to get togethers
through that community. I'll probably link it below, but it's
more so for like the tall girlies in like the
New York, New Jersey area, I think also Pennsylvania. I'm
not too sure, but I'll link it below so you
could take a look at that. Because it's just an
amazing community of tall women on there that we just
(16:01):
get together and we just vibe and love being tall slight.
I went to the past two amazing, beautiful, stunning, and
I would do it again and again. Hopefully there's another
one before the summer's out. I'm gonna talk. I'm gonna
talk to one of the hosts about that. Anyways, I'm
gonna end the episode here as getting hot in my room,
and I really want to turn my fan back on,
but y'all are not gonna hear me properly, so I'm
(16:24):
gonna conclude now. Thank you for tuning in. I really
appreciate it, and I appreciate you of course. As always,
feel free to hit me up on my socials at
a Tall Girls Podcast and let me know your thoughts
on this episode. Do you feel like you know some
shorter friends who may be insecure about their height or
maybe jealous of tall women's high Do you think that
they feel the need to make the tall girlies or
(16:45):
the tall girls in their friend group feel bad about
their height and give these like backhanded compliments and just
give these insults or weird looks or whatever in order
to make them feel better about themselves or at least
make the tall girl feel bad about her height. So
it's like, oh, we're both miserable at the same time.
Do you agree or do you disagree? Do you have
(17:05):
amazing short friends? Let me know, I'm down to chat,
and until then, I'll catch hell in the next one.
Good night and goodbye.
Every tall girl understands the feeling of being the odd
one out, especially in a friend group. In fact, I'm
sure you were that one tall girl among your friend's classmates, teammates,
or peers, you'd be a head taller than them, to
the point where other people would assume you were the
older sibling. Or maybe that was just my situation. Who knows.
Your friends were able to share clothes with each other,
(00:20):
but you can't because your friend's clothes will not fit you.
People may treat you differently from them. Sometimes your own
friends may make fun of you for being the tall
one in the group, making you feel even more insecure
about your height. Well what if I told you that
some of your friends may be doing that last part
on purpose? Okay, I didn't mean to sound that intense
(00:42):
or sad, but this is real life. Anyways, Today we're
going to be talking about how some of our shorter
friends may have made us insecure about our height, whether
they meant to or not. So let's get into it.
Good morning, everybody. You are currently listening to a tall
Girls podcast hosted by a tall girl named India. I
(01:04):
hope everyone who's sitting in today is doing super fantastic.
Before I get into this episode, I do want to
say make sure following me on my socials at a
Tall Girls podcast and instill going to take talk and
pincher so that you can stay up to date on
all of the latest podcast episodes and catch a glimpse
of my every day life. Also, feel free to leave
your review and let me know how tall you are.
I'm genuinely curious. I also have a monthly newsletter and
(01:24):
make sure you subscribe to that. Everything is going to
be linked in the description. Also, by the way, I
apologize in advance for this episode because it is quite
literally ninety degrees and my room does not have an
AC and honestly, even if I did have an AC
in here, it would be super loud, so I would
still have to turn it off. But I have my
big window open right now. So if you hear car alarms, ambulances, pigeons, birds, crows,
(01:49):
whatever is going on outside, people yelling at each other outside,
if you hear any of that, just don't mind it, Okay.
I need to keep my window open so I can
make it through this episode all right. After that, I
don't want you thinking that your friends hate you or
are purposely making you feel insecure about your height, or
this and that and the other. I don't want you
thinking that. I just think that this is something to
(02:10):
be very aware of, especially when you're in your friend
groups in your teen years and even in your twenties.
Not every single situation is going to be like this,
but there are some situations out there that are like this.
And if you're feeling this way, if you're feeling insecure
about your high, for your friends are making you insecure
about your height, whether they're outright doing it, which you're
(02:31):
going to talk about a little bit later, or if
it's even indirectly making you feel insecure about your height,
I just want you to know that your feelings are
valid and you are not stupid or weird for thinking
that way. Listen, as a tall girl, when you're making friends,
some many, probably most of them are going to be
shorter than you. Every tall girl has at least five
(02:53):
short friends at least, like bare minimum. It's practically inevitable.
Low key, how tall is your shortest friend? At one
point in time, I had a friend who was literally
a foot shorter than me. If you're a tall girly,
at some point in time, you were probably the tallest
friend in your friend group, and it'll be so obvious,
like you'll be towering over everyone in group photos. As
(03:15):
I said earlier in the intro, people may assume that
you're like the older sibling in the group or something,
or like one of their older siblings or one of
the older friends. You even stick out like a sore thumb.
And social events, first of all, literally there was no hiding,
like if you wanted to hide from someone, where are
you gonna go? They're gonna find you. But there was
no hiding your height. You were always going to be
(03:38):
the visible, the noticeable one. Let's just hear an example
from a tall girl and what it felt like being
the tall girl in the friend group.
Speaker 2 (03:45):
I don't like doing group photos with my friends. You
want to know why cause they're all five foot one five
foot two and I'm a normal human size. So someone
showed up piggybox. Guess who's caring them all? Little Charlie
Chocolate actor. There my balloon bu we're doing a pyramid, gus,
who's the base?
Speaker 1 (04:02):
And that honestly reminded me of this trend that was
going around on a TikTok a while ago, and the
sound was like, oh, I'm fat, I'm a fatty, or
something along those lines, and the text on the screen
is how I feel as a tall girl because everyone
around me is short. Now personally, I don't think that
they took that sound super literally, like when it said
I'm fat, I'm a fatty, blah blah blah. I think,
(04:25):
in a sense, what they really meant was that they
just felt big or huge or large in comparison to
their shorter friends because of their height. But then on
top of that, if you have height, let's say you
have more of an athletic build, if you had broad shoulders,
if you have a thicker bones and so forth, then
that kind of contributes to that feeling, if that makes sense.
(04:47):
And I probably should have said this earlier, But what
I'm talking about, like your shorter friends and having that
height difference in the friend group, I mean, like a
good four five six inches at least between you and
your friends. But I mean one of the biggest reasons
that tall women ultimately dislike their height is because they
(05:08):
feel like the odd one out. They always stick out,
They always stand out whenever they're in a crowd, whenever
they're with their friends, their peers, because I mean, you
want to be similar to your friends, not to say
that you want to be like an exact carbon copy
of them or whatever. But one of the big reasons
why you're friends with your friends is because you have
some type of commonality or a lot of similarities. And
(05:28):
so when you're with a group of people, I think
that's just human nature overall. You want to be able
to relate to your community. You want to be able
to relate to the people that you're around, and you
want them to be able to relate to you, but
they can't because they're not tall. And so when you're
talking about your struggles or you're feeling some type of
(05:49):
way about it, they may not necessarily be able to
I don't want to say feel empathy, because I feel
like they could, but they just don't truly one hundred
and ten percent understand the feeling, you know. And then
on top of that, you know, not being able to
relate to them in some ways, and them not always
being able to relate to you in some ways. You know,
sometimes you want to wear the heels, but then you're
(06:11):
with your friend group, you're already so much taller than
them without heels, You're gonna be even taller than them
with the heels on, and then you may not want
to do that because you're gonna feel self conscious about it.
And something else is that you know sometimes you may
often compare yourself, compare your body, compare your tendencies to them.
Speaker 3 (06:28):
Let's chat, could it play it for a chat? Yeah?
I am insecure and what may I What am I
insecure about? With? The list goes on and on, but
specifically right now, I'm insecure about my height. That is
like the root of my insecurities because I am five
to eleven. Right the average female is like, I think
it's five six, but the average male, by the way,
(06:49):
I think it's five to nine. So I'm even taller
than the average male. High point is when I meet somebody,
they are always like right here on me, So I
can't help but feel like this giant monster.
Speaker 1 (07:03):
I hate it.
Speaker 3 (07:03):
I hate it because I am the odd one out.
I have a completely different body shape and structure from
majority of other women that I have met. They all
just have smaller features, daintier features because they're shorter people.
I don't look like that, and I want to. I
wish I did because that's what I see. I'm proud
(07:25):
of what I've accomplished and stuff in my body, but
yet I still compare myself. I am not petite. I
am not petite. My body is not shaped like that.
I will never be that because of five to eleven.
Why do I still feel this way, like I'm just
so much more human because I literally physically am. I
(07:46):
can reach the top shelf.
Speaker 1 (07:48):
But it would cost self. Comparison is the thief of
joy for Toll Girls, well really everyone, but this is
a Toll Girls podcast, comparing how much you eat to
your shorter friends, how much you weigh, how clothes may
fit you, how people may treat you, and honestly, and
I know that this can be hard to remember at times,
but there's really no point because your bodies are just
so different. Now, I feel like that was the more
(08:11):
indirect way that your friends can make you insecure about
your heart. They're not outright saying anything to you about it,
but you know, just being around them often and seeing
their tendencies and the clothes that they're wearing and so forth,
and just comparing it to yours that can make you insecure. Now,
on the flip side, we have some people, some friends.
Well they're not real true friends, but for the purpose
(08:33):
of this episode, friends and quotation marks, you have people
or quote unquote friends who outright make you feel insecure
about your height. Oh, I'd hate to be your height.
It must suck finding clothes. You make me feel so small.
If your friends are saying any of these things to you,
you need to drop them, like yesterday. But anyways, it
could be anything from backhanded compliments like oh I wish
(08:55):
I were as tall as you, but just not that tall,
or wow, you are so often for someone your's size,
to certain looks and how they may treat you, to
outright insults about your height. The comments, the compliments, the looks,
the way they treat you. It can all add up
over time and it could cause insecurities and self comparison
(09:16):
and even body or hype dysmorphia. Let's take a listen
to this really quickly.
Speaker 4 (09:21):
Five eight really isn't that tall in my opinion, Like
it's above average obviously, but like people treated me like
I had some type of like pituitary gland disorder or
something like I was yowling and hindsight. What I think
it also was was that I had a lot of
friends and like, if you're my friend right now, I'm
not talking about you. But I had a lot of
friends in the past who were picknies and they love
to bring up like how big I was in comparison
(09:43):
to their small, petite bodies. And they especially love to
do this, like when we were around other guys and
like if you do that, you are you're a loser.
Like I'm gonna tell you right now, you're lame. But
that's like where I got this like mentality that like
I was so big that like I'm really not. But
more of the story is that some of our friends
are actually haters and they love to make you feel
(10:05):
like you have flaws that don't even exist. I've been tall,
like my whole life, Like I hit puberty at twelve,
like I was five eight, like in middle school. And
maybe this is also shocking to me because my whole life,
people have always over exaggerated how tall I actually am.
Like I said, I'm five eight, but like my whole life,
people will call me Amazon or like you're a giant,
like you're cetal, you're so talent, Oh my god, are
(10:26):
you six to one? And I think that made me
like have like a little bit of like height dysmorphia
and think that I'm like way bigger than I actually am.
Speaker 1 (10:34):
And you know, it can make you feel bad and
feel alone and left out and like there's even something
wrong with you or your height. And yet all you
want to do is feel accepted by your friends, and
you want them to, you know, make you feel good
and hype you up and make you feel confident. But
there are some people other who just can't let us
have that moment. Why do some people from strangers all
(10:55):
the way to your own friends and yes, your own friends,
make you feel batter into care about your height? Well,
there can be plenty of reasons, but two very possible
ones are A they could be jealous of your height
or b they can be insecure about their own height,
which honestly can tie into the first one. But yeah,
your friends can be insecure about their height. They could
be insecure about their own bodies. They could even be
(11:16):
jealous of your height or jealous of your body. But
I'm not saying it's one hundred and ten percent for
sure that your friends are going to be jealous of
your height or insecure about their bodies. Et cetera. But
it could be a possibility. And you know, there are
some people out there that literally keep their quote unquote
friends around or just keep people around to constantly keep
bringing them down to boost their own egos. And as
(11:39):
weird as that sounds, it happens. Okay, it happens. It's
a possibility. And listen, it's very human to feel these emotions.
It's human to feel jealous, it's human to feel insecure.
We've all felt it. There's quite literally no escaping it.
It's just how you handle those feelings, you know what
(12:01):
I mean. Some people just internalize it and maybe make
them feel worse about themselves, or maybe hopefully they seek
help or maybe they work on it. And others often
project that onto other people, and they feel the need
to keep other people who are often insecure about themselves too.
They feel the need to keep those people close but
keep bringing them down to make them feel better about themselves,
(12:23):
to boost their own ego or to kind of have
like this sense of control over other people's emotions. And
then that I don't know, and then that listen. I
am not a therapist or psychologist. Please don't come for me,
but I personally think, in my personal opinion, they do
all of that as a way to just you know,
make them feel better about themselves or their lives. And listen,
(12:47):
I'm not saying that your friends definitely hate you because
of your height and so forth, or are trying to
do those types of things to you or whatever. But
it's just something to be aware of because this can happen.
I am not saying that all of your shorter friends
are like this or are doing this. Okay, there are
amazing people out there who are shorter than you who
(13:09):
will make you feel appreciated and make you feel accepted,
and make you feel beautiful and confident and hype you
up and so forth, will support you and all of that. Like,
there are amazing people out there, no matter their height,
that will accept you for who you are and not
try to make you feel down about yourself or your body.
And I think that there's also this appreciation from like
(13:30):
a tall girl's perspective to have another tall girl as
a friend, like an appreciation for tall girl friendships, Like
there are no awkward side eyes when you put heels on,
no weird energy in group photos, and really no need
to shrink yourself to make somebody feel better about themselves
or just no need to shrink yourself at all. And see,
(13:50):
this is why tall girls need to be friends with
tall girls, because you know we're gonna hype each other up,
make each other feel confident and beautiful. Okay, no one
is allowed to hate their height. Here tag your tall
bestie in the comments. I asked you guys in another
poll on Instagram, do you think having tall friends makes
or made you confident in your height? Eighty four percent
said oh yes, one hundred and ten percent, and sixteen
(14:12):
percent said not really. I'm gonna have to go with
the oh yes one hundred and ten percent because, as
I said earlier, a lot of us feel bad about
our height or even hater height because of how much
we stick out in comparison to our friends, or to
people around us, or to other women. So that was
more so how I felt when I was younger. I
(14:36):
just really I didn't like my height because wow, in
comparison to other people, I was like, wow, I'm like
so much bigger than my stick out, Like there has
to be something wrong with me and something of that sort.
But I think that once I started, well, once I
started this podcast, for sure, and started connecting with a
lot of you guys, a lot of tall women online.
(14:57):
I was like, oh, like there's more of us out there, Like,
you know, being tall isn't so bad. Like there's a
whole community out there. And I started meeting you guys
in person and actually started getting friends that were a
little bit closer to my height. I didn't feel so
bad about it because I didn't feel like the odd
one out anymore. I was like, Okay, these are my people.
I can relate to them. So I'm definitely with the
(15:19):
eighty four percent of people who say that, you know,
having tall friends made them love their height more, because honestly,
that's how I started loving my height by surrounding myself
with other tall girlies or at least connected with other
tall girlies and also shout out to the tall and
Fabulous community over on Facebook. I joined them who knows
how long ago, but I've been with that. I've been
(15:40):
with them for like a couple of months. I know
that because I've been on like what to get togethers
through that community. I'll probably link it below, but it's
more so for like the tall girlies in like the
New York, New Jersey area, I think also Pennsylvania. I'm
not too sure, but I'll link it below so you
could take a look at that. Because it's just an
amazing community of tall women on there that we just
(16:01):
get together and we just vibe and love being tall slight.
I went to the past two amazing, beautiful, stunning, and
I would do it again and again. Hopefully there's another
one before the summer's out. I'm gonna talk. I'm gonna
talk to one of the hosts about that. Anyways, I'm
gonna end the episode here as getting hot in my room,
and I really want to turn my fan back on,
but y'all are not gonna hear me properly, so I'm
(16:24):
gonna conclude now. Thank you for tuning in. I really
appreciate it, and I appreciate you of course. As always,
feel free to hit me up on my socials at
a Tall Girls Podcast and let me know your thoughts
on this episode. Do you feel like you know some
shorter friends who may be insecure about their height or
maybe jealous of tall women's high Do you think that
they feel the need to make the tall girlies or
(16:45):
the tall girls in their friend group feel bad about
their height and give these like backhanded compliments and just
give these insults or weird looks or whatever in order
to make them feel better about themselves or at least
make the tall girl feel bad about her height. So
it's like, oh, we're both miserable at the same time.
Do you agree or do you disagree? Do you have
(17:05):
amazing short friends? Let me know, I'm down to chat,
and until then, I'll catch hell in the next one.
Good night and goodbye.
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