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Hey, hey, ladies, welcomeback to a Woman's Playbook for Dating.
I'm Chaven Lee and I am hereto be your number one cheerleader along your
dating journey. The last few episodeshave been preparing you for the game day,
and now we are headed into preseasonwith selecting the type of players who
will be on your roster. Andit's so funny. Every time I tell
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a guy about my podcast, theyimmediately want to listen in. They question
why it only has to be awoman's playbook for dating, And I'm like,
sir, I am here to bea cheerleader for my ladies. Now
y'all can stay, y'all asses onthe field and let us figure out our
strategies in building your dating roster.It can include a variation of player positions
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for the purposes of the dating game. You are the general manager, honey.
You are the head honcho. Youare running the show. You have
the ability to hire, you canfire, you can trade, you can
bench the buck. Honey, itstops with you. And while you may
not be able to control each ofthe player's actions while on the field,
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you damn sure have the ability tocall the shots. One way to imagine
an NFL offense line is it's likea well choreographed dance. You have your
rock star quarterback showing off all hislittle fancy moves and some of the most
notable quarterbacks that you might have heardof include Russell Wilson, Patrick Mahomes,
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Aaron Rodgers, and Jalen Hurts.Then you have the running backs doing some
fancy footwork. Some of the runningbacks that you may know include Ezekie Oh,
Elliott, Todd Gurley, Marshawn Lynch, and Lashawn McCoy. There's also
wide receivers making epic catches on thefield. These are men like aj Brown,
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Cooper Cup, Stefan Diggs, andTyreek Hill. Okay, we cannot
forget about the unsung heroes of thedance floor the offensive line. Some notable
offensive linemen are Creed Humphrey, QuentinNelson, and my all time favorite Jason
Kelcey of the Philadelphia Eagles. Nowthis is not to be confused with his
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brother Travis Kelcey, who plays tightend for the Kansas City Chiefs. Now
the offensive line that these are thetrue guardians of the quarterback. The offensive
linemen are the human wall, thebeefy bodyguards to make sure mister QB can
do his thing without getting tackled orhit. Before we start thinking about how
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to slot players into your dating roster, let's go ahead and do a true
breakdown of each player position on theoffensive line and the functions that they play.
Now, to start this all off, we have to begin with the
lead guy, the quarterback, misterQB. The quarterback slot is reserved for
a few select on your dating roster. These players h They are the playmakers.
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They are the leaders of the offense. They are agile, they know
how to think quick on their feet. The quarterback's accuracy, decision making,
and leadership skills are crucial for theirteam's success on the field and in your
relationship. Now, these are yourfranchise players, a highly coveted role in
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your life. Protect this player's positionat all calls. This QB in your
life may very well have the potentialto take you all the way way to
the Super Bowl of marriage and securethat championship ring. Next up are the
running backs rbs. On the field, the running back is the primary ball
carrier in the offense. They canreceive the ball from the quarterback, they
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can catch passes, and they're alsoresponsible for getting their asses down the field
and gaining yards on the ground.Running backs need a combination of speed,
agility, and strength to navigate throughthe defense. When it comes to dating,
these are the guys that make themove, honey. They are courting
you, my friend. They aremaking all the right moves to keep the
relationship moving forward. They are makingtheir presence known in your life, and
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you know exactly where you stand withthem. Wide receivers are the speedy,
agile players who catch the passes fromthe quarterback on the field. You may
most likely see them on the outsideof the player formation, using their speed
and running skills to get down thefield to catch the ball. This position
can look different from ea each playerbecause some wide receivers specialize in going deep.
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They go deep down the field tocatch the ball from the quarterback once
the quarterback throws the ball, whileother wide receivers are known for their agility
in staying a little closer to thequarterback to catch the ball and then make
quick moves down the field. Andthat's also how it is with dating and
slotting in a wide receiver into yourdating roster. There are going to be
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some wide receiver type guys that youdate who need a little bit more space
to get you to down the field, while there are other guys that hang
a little closer to you and they'reready to roll with the love interests and
progress things along quickly. Let's talkabout the tight end position. Tight Ends
are a hybrid of offensive linemen andwide receivers. They line up on the
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end of the offensive line and areversatile players who can block like linemen and
catch the ball like wide receivers.Now, these dudes are tricky game masters
because tight ends can camouflage themselves dueto their size and their athleticism, and
in the dating game you may comeacross some tight ends. They can present
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as multiple roles in the dating experience. It's kind of tricky, but navigating
tight ends is honestly part of thegame. They offer the ability to make
big plays, but they can alsobe in a blocking mentality and not focused
on moving further. They'll be thereby your side, but for them,
it's not their job to move therelationship forward. Now we're getting into the
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weeds with some other positions on theoffensive line that you may not know much
about, But these are just asimportant as the ones I mentioned take,
for instance, the offensive tackle positionthe OT. The offensive tackles are the
book ends of the offensive line.This means the left tackle protects the quarterbacks
blind side for the right hand quarterbacks, while the right tackle guards the other
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side and vice versa if they're lefthanded. Basically they're protecting their sides.
Now, tackle positions are crucial toprotect the ball when it's being passed,
and they also create room on thefield for running backs or wide receivers to
run the ball. Sis, youneed a good offensive tackle in your life,
even if they're not the ones makingthe big plays. When it comes
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to moving a relationship forward. Theyare your steady, faithful dating experiences.
Let's keep it real. They maynot even want a long term dating experience
or marriage, but they give youthe security of friendship, good conversations,
and maybe some you know, friendswith benefits moments along the way. Not
mad at that. So we allneed an offensive tackle at some point in
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our lives, but you have toknow when to hold them and when to
fold them. Some of this isalso true for the offensive guard position,
the ogs ogs. The guards consistof the left guard and the right guard,
who line up between the offensive tacklesand the center position. These are
power, full blockers responsible for protectingthe quarterback and opening up running lanes for
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the ball carriers. Here's where Isee the offensive guards being an issue.
These players on your dating roster canpotentially block you from your desired relationship if
your plans are to move forward intosomething more serious. The ogs, now,
these are the dudes who will keepyou around for years and be quite
content with getting the milk for freeand not buying the cow. These are
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the type of players that you knowyou can depend on to be there year
after year after year, but thenwhen you look up, you're like,
damn, where did the last fouryears go? And then you still don't
have a solid idea if this relationshipis going in the direction that you want.
Oh, that's so frustrating. Yeah, those ogs a little tricky.
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Let's cover one more important position onthe offensive side of the game. The
centers. The center position that thisis the anchor of the offensive line.
They get the ball to the quarterbackto start each play. They also play
a big role in blocking after theyget the ball to the quarterback. It
is really built around centers, period. This is going to be your anchor
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on your dating roster. Centers arewhere the play begins. Let's just keep
it real. At any given time, a person you're dating has the potential
to be a center, but soonyou'll learn after the ball takes off if
they are moving into a wide receiverposition, a guard position, running back,
or maybe even the potential for aquarterback position down the road. All
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right, I don't want to overwhelmyou with too many offensive positions, so
I'll just mention one more key position, and this is the fullbacks. These
guys are very versatile players and alsoslot receivers, so they're very valuable on
the field. I'll get into moreof the specifics of that position and also
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other positions and future episodes, butI really just wanted to give you kind
of a breakdown of the offensive lineand how it relates to slotting in the
guys who will be on your team. Once you understand your offensive line,
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this is where you will shine inyour dating experiences, and I truly want
you to shine. Now. Iwas thinking back on the concept of this
podcast and also soon a be bookedand how it even came to be now.
Back ten years ago after my divorce, I found myself in the deep,
mean streets of online dating. Andyou know, for a lot of
us, we know that the datingworld can be a scary place to navigate
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post divorce, because suddenly you areout of the comfort zone of wifey status
and now you are into the overwhelmingwaters full of all types of sea creatures,
including vicious sharks and electric eels,just waiting to shock you. I
was filling through my options on onlinedating and just being transparent here, swiping
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more times left and right, basicallysaying no to more men than I said.
Okay, let's see where this goes. You know, after a while,
I soon discovered that online dating forme was basically like building my NFL
fantasy football team. I was thinking, okay, based on h this dude's
profile, I know that he justwants short term fun. He has the
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potential maybe to be a wide receiver, but I can't throw the ball too
far because that's just not his thing. This guy right here, he wants
a short pass and will perform betterin maybe just a temporary space. Then
maybe I came across some potential runningbacks, these running backs of my online
dating world. They took the balland ran with it. Some okay,
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they ran further than others, butsome just did their best, you know,
give them credit. Then, overthe last decade of dating, I
found a few men who I trulythought were you know, they had quarterback
material. Thought that's what I wasworking with. And one of which,
one of those potential qbs, hetook it all the way to the championships
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and he proposed giving me that championshipring. Now, I soon figured out
that he wasn't the quarterback best suitedfor me and my team. So yeah,
I fired him. I didn't mentionhim, I straight up fired him
from the team. Over a decadelater, I still equate dating to football
strategy because you have to know whichposition a potential lover will play in your
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dating life. Does this person havelong term potential or should I not even
set myself up for thinking that they'reone position in my life only to realize
that they're actually more of a shortterm player. And listen, short gains
are important to the game, justas long term players are. You have
to practice on the field along theway, you have to make incremental steps
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to gain yards to get to thefirst down on the field. That's just
how the game is played. Allright, y'all, we have run out
of time and I still didn't getto the other side the defense. Okay,
let's save that for the next episode. I hope you're still getting the
big picture of how all of thiscomes together, how having a playbook for
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dating can help you not just fumbleyour way through heartbreak or dead end situationships.
I always say on my episodes,I'm your biggest cheerleader. I am
here, I am rooting you on, and I want you to take it
all the way. So I amhere building out all of this playbook for
you. Coming up in the nextepisode, we'll learn about the defensive players
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and where they can be slotted intoyour dating roster. As always, thank
you for listening to a woman's playbookfor dating. Share with your sister friends,
you can share with coworkers, girlfriends, whoever you feel can benefit from
this playbook for me. Okay.Stay tuned for episode six next week.