July 23, 2025 • 48 mins
Why do men seek sex when stressed, while women need to be relaxed first? In this powerful episode, Dr. Eldred Taylor explains the science, hormones, and spiritual truths behind male and female intimacy. Discover how cortisol, progesterone, testosterone—and ancient wisdom—shape connection, conflict, and healing in relationships. A must-watch for couples seeking deeper understanding.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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or guests should not be substituted for a doctor's advice.
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Speaker 2 (00:20):
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Here's your host, Doctor Eldred Taylors.
Speaker 3 (01:03):
Hello, Hello, good morning, and I am doctor Taylor. I
am the Spiritual MD, I am the hormone doctor, and
I am the creator of the Ageless Blueprint. And if
this is the first time you've been here, welcome, Welcome.
If you have seen this before, as you notice, I
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This is my extra bedroom. My wife is a night out.
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early and get my work done. So I didn't want
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So I got this backdrop. But anyway, I hope you
like it. You can comment on it and tell me
what you think. But anyway, this is a good episode.
This might be one that I have to say is
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eighteen or over because we're going to talk about sex,
and we're going to talk about sex and relationships and
why sex can be such a controversial Sometimes it can
cause problems in relationships, and primarily it's because we don't
understand the difference between what happens when a person gets
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to X chromosomes and when a person has an xcent
a Y chromosome. And what I'm trying to say is
that men and women approach sex differently, they think about
sex differently, and the outcome of conversations about sex end
up being very different, which can cause arguments and breakups.
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So I think this is really important. And the reason
why I'm doing this is that a patient, a cancer patient,
asked me, Hey, if I take this progesterone, will it
help my libido? And I said, look, it should because
progesterone helps you to relax, and we're going to talk
about that. But I told her, I said, look, men
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have sex so they can relax, and women have to
be relaxed in order to want to have sex. So
see that's where the problem goes. Where the problem lies
the men. If they have a stressful day, and if
they come home and their wife sees that he's stressed out,
she can say, come on, big boy, you know, let's
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go upstairs and let's take care of you. And they
have sex. And afterwards he's relaxed. He could fall asleep.
He doesn't care about what happened during that day. The
birds are singing, sweeter, the meal tastes better, everything is better. Now.
When a woman is stressed, she can't relax, okay, but
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she has to be relaxed in order to want to
have sex. But the problem is men think women are
like them. So a man comes home and his wife,
a wife is complaining about the kids, and how the
dinner was burnt, and how the contractor came and messed
up her yard and all these things. And he says,
all right, baby, come on, I'm gonna make you feel better.
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He starts rubbing on and she wants to hit him
over the head with a frying pant because she's like,
get away from me. Can't you see I'm stressed. I
don't want to have sex right now. So then he
goes off in poups and he's upset, and now we've
got a problem. Now, I'm going to tell you that
happens more than you think, and I'll tell you it
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used to happen to me before I began to understand
my wife and understand women. Now you have to understand
I was in OBGYN for fifteen sixteen years before I
started doing holistic medicine, so all I talked to was women.
So I won't say I know how women think that.
No man knows that, but I feel like I've heard
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a lot of the complaints from women, and that's the problem.
They are not interested in sex when they are stressed.
So let's try and understand this. You know, I'm a
scientist and I'm a spiritual medce. So I'm going to
talk about both of those, how science and physiology and
hardmones all of that create this system where men and
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women look at sex differently. All right, So let's go
to the first lab. So why men want sex when
they're stressed and women don't. I just kind of explained
it to you, But we're going to go a little
bit deeper. So by understanding the biological foundations of intimate relationships,
we can transform how we connect. In this presentation, we're
going to explore the fascinating hormone differences that drive men
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and women contrasting responses response to stress, and how these
differences impact desire and intimacy. And this is what I
tell people all the time. Men are men and women
are women, and that's how it's going to be. And
I men, Hey, if you don't like what your wife
is doing, then you're going to have to marry a man.
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If you want her to act like you, you're going
to have to marry a man because women are going
to behave like women, all right, because they have certain
innate things that are in them. In order to keep
civilization going. Okay, somebody has to be a nurturer. Somebody
has to be the actor person who goes out and provides.
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And this is how life is, This is how nature is.
If you look at the animal kingdom, male animals and
female animals have different roles. When we went to we
went to Africa, kingy in Tanzania like ten or twelve
years ago, and the lions the male they are one
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of the protectors and the women go out and hunt.
So different. You know, different animals may change those roles,
but different sexes in all nature, they have different roles,
all right. So through the next line, I think I
control it all right. So what we're gonna learn today
is a biological difference. Is how stress affects male and
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female libido differently through hormonal pathways, harmonal interactions, the critical
roles of testosteron, proges and cortisol and sexual desire. And
you know that's all I talk about is how hormones
they affect everything and especially cortisol. The stress connection is
definitely in play right here. So relationship impact, Why hormonal
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misunderstandings create conflict and how to restore the connection because
I will tell you know, why do men cheat? Why
do women stay home? And they take care of the
children most of the time, and they can they can
live without a man. Okay, they can live without a man.
There you see all these single mothers around who survive
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and thrive and their kids do well. And men can
do that, but they're not they're not open enough to
do it because both male and females, they have what
we call divine masculine and divine feminine quality. So that's
why you know, if if a wife dies, a man
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can take on the role of a nurturer. It's not
what has been developed in a man, because early on
we tell men this is what men do, and this
is what women do. But men and women have these
same what we call divine energies, this active energy which
is male, and then this nurturing, quiet uh energy that
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is called the feminine, the divine feminine. So by understanding
these biological differences and these spiritual differences, couples can move
from frustration to compassion and develop strategies that work with
and not against their hormonal reality. So if you know,
it's all about understanding, I mean, that's what marriage is about,
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is understanding the person and the differences in that person
and how those differences can actually enhance a relationship and
not cause conflict. You know the song by John Legend,
he's talking about you know, I love your perfect imperfections,
and you know he thinks it's an imperfection. The person
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is saying, this is just who I am. But you
have to love what you think are the perfect imperfections
in your mate. All right, let's go to this one.
All right, So in a male libido understress, Now I
showed you like this hormonal pathway. Now, when men are
under stress, testosterone doesn't go toward cortisol. Now progesterone does.
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Cortisol steals progesterone away, and it's a whole chemical form.
It's a whole chemical pathway that shows this. But the
funny thing is that when men are understressed, quortisol doesn't
there necessarily steal testosterone. But cortisol can cause a problem,
but usually it doesn't. But unlike female heart, male testosterone
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levels don't immediately drop during short term stress periods. Doing
short term stress periods. Now, if it's long term, testosterone
can drop, and I'll talk about that I think a
little bit later. So when you have this testosterone's it's spiritual.
It's like fire Okay, men have this energy that's considered
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to be active or it's like fire. And again, when
you look at these ancient philosophies, they looked at men
like the sun and women like the moon because women
had these cycles and men were like fire. They wanted
to go out and be active and do something and
create something. So how do you put out fire? It
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has to go to water, and women are like water.
So let me tell you. You know, I'm gonna get
into some of this because this is called ancient ageless blueprint,
and I went to Egypt to learn these ancient philosophies.
So what they look at that women are like water. Okay,
they cool the fire. And so that's what you got
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to think is that men have stress and they want
to go and be cooled off with water. And so
that's that's what happened. But the water has to be
steel and calm. You don't want to be cooled off
by our hurricane. Okay, you don't want to be cooled
off by a hurricane. You want the water to be
steel and quiet, and a woman has to feel like
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that in order to accept and cool off the fire. Okay,
that sounds deep, but it's really it's really beautiful, all right.
So sexual activity triggers dopamine and oxytocin release, and dopamine
is what gives you pleasure, and oxytocin makes you want
to be close to someone and that counteracts the corters
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all effects. So the man is looking to be cooled off.
He wants to feel some relief, he wants to be
close to you, but he's looking for or sex to
bring that closeness, all right. With women, it's the other
way around. They have to be close in order to
want to have sex. They have to feel the oxytocin first,
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they have to feel the dopamine first before they want
to have sex. And men they have sex so they
can feel the dopamine and they can feel the oxytocin,
and so for men it is a psychological escape. And
sex provides both mental distractions so they can forget about
the problems that they had at work or with you know,
(12:34):
with whoever, and the emotional release from stressful situations. So again,
a man can have an awful day and women you
know this, and if you allow them to have sex
with you, they forget about everything. If you want to
stop an argument with a man, just tell them. Come on, baby,
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I'll make it up to you. Let's go upstairs and
let's see what happens. He just immediately, just thinking about it,
he gets a smile on his face. Because men are
very visual. They can imagine, they can imagine, you know,
a sexual scene, and their body will respond to it.
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If you don't think that your body responds to your thoughts.
Ask a man if he thinks about sex, does his
body respond in a certain way? And I think you
know what I mean when you're talking about response. And
just like a woman, if she's her thoughts will control
her physiologic response. Okay, whether she becomes morshed and excited
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or whatever it can be, by the thought of feeling
close to the man, all right, to her, to her spouse,
or to her sexual partner, all right. The female libido understress,
corta is all blocks progesterone. In one of the other videos,
I showed you the hormonal pathway how hormones are rich
from cholesterol and then it goes down this pathway. But
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when stress is involved, it takes a left turn and
instead of making progesterone, it makes cortisol. Okay, so now
her progesterone is down. Now, why is that important? Because
stress hormones directly inhibited progesterone production, creating this hormonal imbalance.
The nervous system shifts because progesterone is a calming, relaxing hormone.
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That's why when you don't have enough of it the
two weeks before your period, you get anxious and depressed.
So the body enters automatically enters this fight or flight mode,
prioritizing survival over reproduction because it's saying, hey, look, I'm stressed.
I can't be stressed out trying to carry a baby.
Because remember, your body doesn't necessarily realize that there's birth
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control pills and condoms. It thinks that sex is for procreation,
all right, But we look at it due to recreation. Now,
I will tell you maybe as associated with recreation now,
before birth control pills. In ancient times or before birth
control pills, I mean, sex was very serious because it
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could always produce an offspring, so you had to look
at it differently. And women look at sex primarily as
pro creation.
Speaker 4 (15:21):
And when a woman is young, she is looking for
someone to procreate with, and she's looking for the strongest
person in the tribe, all right.
Speaker 3 (15:33):
That's why women are going toward athletes or whatever, because
they want to make sure that their offspring is strong
enough to survive. Okay, and so oh, I see we
have a question. But just hold on, rebel and I'll
get some questions. So they want to make sure that
their offspring is strong enough to survive. So they want
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to find the strongest male. And that's why athletes get
all the women. All ar can handsome get all the women.
They can't help it. It's their biology. Now, luckily, my
wife settled for me, you know. So maybe I had
some other characteristic that you know, that impressed her. But
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that's how that's how you have to understand. We are
a part of nature. Okay, you got to understand that
we are part of nature. So we act in a
way to preserve nature. All right, So safety becomes priority.
The female body requires feeling safe before sexual desire can activate. Again,
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they have to feel close to the man. They have
to feel safe or their body is not going to
respond when they have a hurricane going on. They don't.
They can't receive what the man is trying to give them,
all right, because you have to look at it is
that the man provides the seed and the woman provides
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the fertile soil, and when there's chaos, the soul is
not fertile, and the woman will actually stop ovulating to
make sure she doesn't have a baby when there is
a lot of chaos. And that's why women who go
through the infertility work up a lot of times they
don't get pregnant because it's so stressful. And once the
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infertility work up is over, then they have a baby
because now the stress is gone. Now they're calm, Now
the waters are still, and now they can accept the
seed and now the soil is fertile again. All right,
what do you think about that so far? Rebel?
Speaker 5 (17:34):
Oh my goodness, Oh my goodness, there's so many things
going on here. It's it's it's almost like contradicts, yous
are like a man has to be stressful or works
performs better under stress, and a woman has to be calm.
Well what if you're not matching up at that time?
I mean, like this one's stressed, this one's calm, and you.
Speaker 3 (17:57):
Know, well, now, now the thing is is short term
stress will make a man want to have sex. Now
I'll talk about it. Long term stress and when cortisol
is there. You know, consistently, a man's testosterone goes down
because you have to think, okay, in nature, all right,
if a man is fatigued and can't you know, be active,
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the body tries to conserve energy. So if it's a
long term stress, like even men at war, because they
have a long term stress, their testosterone goes down because
the body is saying, hey, look you're tired. You're in
this situation where you could be killed and you're not
going to be able to provide for this baby. So hey,
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look I don't want you running around chasing women. So
I'm going to take your testosterone away. So the jewel,
you know that you'll conserve energy and don't waste it
on sex, don't waste it on running around. So short
term stress makes the man want sex. Long term stress
takes away his testosterone. And I've seen many men come
in my office who are on testosterone and they say,
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but I, you know, I still I'm stressed out at work.
I got my wife is you know, it's all kinds
of things are going on. And they say, I don't know,
my libido is down, but this testosterone is working. I
test their cortisol. I guarantee you they're burnt out and
their body has shut down testosterone because their cortisol is low,
and in that case, their libido goes down. All right,
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So so you know, I also say it's almost like
God is like, uh made a had a joke. You know,
It's like, hey, look this will be funny. Let me
make men and women view sex differently, and let's see
what happens. But it almost it is. It's like, why
are you making a different wouldn't it be great if
both people saw sex as a stress reliever, But hey don't.
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I don't know why, but that is just the way
it is. Okay, So cortisol and progesterone tug of war
and these women all right, So the visible effects is
that they have less libido, and the surface cause is
either as high quart as all the stress. But the
underneath what it really is is they don't have enough progesterone. Okay,
and then that causes the harmony and balance that all
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I'm always talking about. Now they're estrogen dominant, and now
their nervous system is wholly disregulated, all right, so they're stress.
Then what happens is they lose the vaginal lubrication. They
don't their vagina's not relaxed. So now sex becomes painful now,
and now your body always tries to resist pain or
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flee pain and go toward pleasure. And once a woman
associates sex with pain, man, that's a tough thing to overcome.
You can overcome it, but you have to you have
to make it pleasurable. And if it's not pleasurable, I
don't care how much a woman loves her husband, she's
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not going to want to have want to have sex.
And that's more of a problem doing menopause. And I'll
talk about how you can overcome that also. All right,
so I know we have a couple of questions. Should
I let me go to the questions now and then
we'll move on.
Speaker 5 (21:09):
Okay, So the first question, what if a man has
no imagination? That came in when you talked about you know,
just mentioning, you know, and they go there, Well, what
happens if a man has no imagination?
Speaker 3 (21:25):
Well, then you know that's the problem. You know. What
I'm saying is men are very visual, whether it's a
true vision that they see. You know, if a man
sees an attractive woman with no clothes on or their
body responds to it. Most most men will, they will,
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they will desire her, and then certain things can happen,
and blood can go different places where it doesn't normally
go or usually go. But that's what I'm talking about.
Imagination is that a man can even imagine that, Hey,
I think my wife is going to have sex with me,
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and their body responds to it. So if a man
has no imagination, I don't know that's a problem because
that's how you create things. You have to imagine it first.
It has to be something in your man first in
order for it to actually materialize. So I think we
had one other candid woman's body make too much progesterone.
What happens if it's done. It's very hard for a
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woman to make too much progesterone. Now, you can take
too much progesterone. You can be prescribed too much progesterone.
But when you look at the minstral cycle, the progesterone
is made when you ovulate, and it's only made for
the two weeks right before your period because it's waiting
to see if it needs to promote a gestation or not.
So it waits around for two weeks to see, if
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you're going to get pregnant, it reaches a peak. If
you don't get pregnant, it goes away, and now you
have another mistrial cycle, and it's art. It's all over again.
Now a woman's body can make too much estrogen, or
it can be exposed to too much estrogen. If now
the ovaries don't necessarily make too much, but your fat
tissue can make estrogen. And then you're exposed to so
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much estrogen in the food that you eat, in some
of the cosmetics that you have, in the water that
you drink. So it's hard to make too much progesterone
or hard to be exposed to too much progesterone, but
it's easy to be exposed to too much estrogen. All right,
these thoughts of procreation, are they imagined or actual thoughts? No,
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it's an innate desire women. And I won't say any
I don't say all women. You can't say all about
anything because everybody's different. But the natural energy are blueprint
of women is to look at sex as procreation for procreation.
Men look at it as recreation. Okay, So that's the problem,
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all right, And so now here's the other issue. And men,
you need to understand this. Once a woman pro creates
and has a child, nurturing that child becomes her number
one priority. Hands down. Sex falls down right above mopping
the floor. That's how and men married men who have children,
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you can testify this, sex goes way down on the list.
And some men get upset. They were like, oh, ever,
since we had this baby, my wife, she doesn't seem
to be as interested in sex anymore. Well, join the club, homeboy.
I've been married for thirty nine years, and I had
to realize that when we had our first child. Now,
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when she's trying to pro create, hey, she may be
Johnny on the spot. Hey, let's go once she has
that baby, if she has true maternal instincts. Now not
every woman has overwhelming maternal instincts, but I'm just saying
in general, once she has a child, nurturing is number one.
And if that child is sick or that child needs anything,
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you are second fiddle. Just accept it, guys, Okay, the
children come first. That's why if there's a problem, the
woman says, hey, get out of here, I can do
it by myself. Now, men are going to say that
usually all right, and that's why you see all these
single mothers, they're number number one priority is nurturing, and
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they don't like to have other men in their house.
They don't need them. Okay, they don't need them all right. Now,
a man, even if his wife passes away against the
worse and now he's in the nurturing mode, he still
is going to look for that fire to be cooled,
whether he does it himself or he finds someone else
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who can cool the fire. That's what's going to happen,
all right.
Speaker 5 (26:00):
Of one here, Now this might turn into a whole
different show. Oh boy, Now we had someone ask this question.
If a man has never had his own children, like,
if he has the stepfather to children, do you feel
that they understand that they don't come first? The children
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still come first.
Speaker 3 (26:22):
At he better understand, he better understand. Okay. That's why
a lot of women will say, hey, look, I am
not thinking about remarrying. I don't want another boyfriend until
my children are out of the house. Okay, because they
don't want anything to disrupt they're nurturing. Okay. Now, a man,
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if he married, he marries a woman who has children,
he better accepts that those children are number one. She
may like you love you, you know, and and accept her,
accept you into the home. But hey, you start causing
a problem with her children. See what happens. Okay, I'm
just I'm just telling you what I know and what
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I've seen, and this is how these two sexes interact
with each other. All right, So hey, it's almost it's
tame for a commercial. This will be a good place
to stop, and then we're going to talk about how
we can fix this. All right.
Speaker 2 (27:21):
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Speaker 3 (28:32):
Okay, we're back. I'm doctor Taylor. We're back at the
Ageis Blueprint and we're talking about how men and women
approach sex when they are under stress. All right, So
hopefully we've moved on, and so how can we fix this?
How can we make this better and keep relationships together?
So here's what happens when men and women don't understand
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these differences. Now he thinks she's not interested in me anymore,
she doesn't find me attractive. Why does she always reject
me when I need connection? See, he looks for sex
to make the connection, and he feels rejected, unwanted, and disconnected.
Now again, I'm not making any excuses for men who
(29:16):
cheat on their wives. I'm not, but I'm saying this
is how he's thinking, and he's wanting connection. And if
he sees someone at the office or at a bar
and it fulfills this role. If he's not totally committed
and doesn't understand this, he even unconsciously. I told you
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ninety five percent of the things that you do are unconscious. Unconsciously,
he's drawn drawn to the woman who is providing that
connection for him, who's willing to have sex with him,
to cool that fire and give him that connection. And
you see how these men they will give up all
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their give up their family, their job, their career looking
for that connection. And they know it's going to they
know it's going to destroy their lives, and they still
do it. And we wonder why it is an unconscious,
subconscious desire that they have. Okay, So I'm not giving
(30:24):
you excuse, but I'm telling you you can't understand why
men will go and do this is because unconsciously they're
doing it. If you're conscious of what's going on, you
can control it. That's why it's so important to get
in touch with your unconscious thoughts and feelings so that
you don't destroy your life by having a mistress. And
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your wife takes you to the cleaners and tries to
destroy you in court. Okay, So her perspective is he
only wants physical intimacy. He doesn't see how overwhelmed I am.
I'm overwhelmed and he's talking about sex. What is wrong
with him? He's thinking from a man's point of view.
Why can't he connect with me in other ways? First?
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And stop making me feel pressured and misunderstood and resentful.
I'm telling you, if you guys can understand this, you
can save a lot of marriage. And if you hear this,
you can help your friends. Okay, this is so so, so,
so so important. And the reason why I'm like this
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is because I had to learn this myself. It was
almost ten years before I realized or I understood this.
I felt the same way I'm a man. Once we
had our first child thirty four years ago. This is
how I felt, and then I had to understand. Now
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now I understand. When my wife is upset, I sit
and I listen to her. I don't even think about sex.
I don't mention, I don't I don't wink at her.
I don't give her any indication that I'm thinking about
anything other than listening to her. And men, that takes
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a lot of practice. It takes a lot of practice,
and I'm just telling you if you don't, if you
don't innately do it, I understand, but it's important if
you want to maintain your relationship with your wife or
with your significant other. All right. So practical solutions for
couples to foster this connection. You can create emotional safety
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before physical intimacy. All right. So again, listen to her. Okay,
just listen, see what she needs. And let me tell
you another thing. Men, you can't build up browning points
with women. Okay, you say, well, you know what's wrong?
Last week? I brought you flowers? Well that was last week.
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What have you done for me lately? Who sang that
song Janet Jackson or whatever. That's how women think. It's
not about what you did in the past. It's about
what you're doing right now. Are you listening to me
right now? Did you give me flowers and a box
of candy and wine right now? I know you did
it two weeks ago, but that doesn't matter. See a man,
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he thinks, oh, hey, I did this, I built up this.
I took her on vacation you know last month? That
should you know? That should do me well for the
next two months. No, No, that was the vacation two
months ago. What have you done for me lately?
Speaker 5 (33:36):
All right?
Speaker 3 (33:36):
So help reduce her stress load. Practical support wash the dishes.
I heard one woman say it's nothing that there's no
better aphrodisiac than a clean kitchen that my husband provided
for me. All right, that's how that's how women think.
Help me not be overwhelmed, Help me with the kids. Okay,
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take them on, you know, uh out of the park
and let me relax for a little while. All right.
Understand that foreplay begins outside the bedroom. All right, Communicate
needs without creating pressure. Okay, you can kind of give
her a little subtle gesture that hey, you know, but
don't pressure her and don't be upset if she's not
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in the mood. Just say, hey, baby, I understand, what
what can I do for you? All right? That's how
you have to think. Support her hormonal balance through lifestyle. Again,
in that two weeks before her period. If she is not,
if she does not make enough projester o, you can.
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You need to understand that. Well, let me tell you
one thing. You don't say, and I learned this the
hard way. If you understand that it was two weeks
before a period, she's having PMS, you know, don't say
I think your hormones are out of balance. Don't say
that to a woman. Okay, she doesn't want. She doesn't
I want to hear that. I'm just going to save you.
I had to learn that the hard way. Now she
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can say, I think it's my hormones. But don't you
say it. Don't understand. I've been married for thirty nine years,
so I've made a lot of mistakes, and I try
to learn from my mistakes. And I'm telling you so
that it can help you out. Now, for women, advocate
for your needs and well being. You know you have
to tell. You have to tell the man what you
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want and what you don't want. Now you can track
your cycle and stress response patterns. You can say, hey, look, hey,
I know we could two before my period of two
or three days before my period. I feel like this
or I feel like that, and this is not the time,
and just let him know. Say okay, I understand. Hey
what do I need to do for you? I notice
that time, and let me do this for you. I
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consider hormone testing to identify imbalances. Now again, the woman
can say, I think I need to test my hormones.
Don't you say it, man, I'm telling you. I learned
the hard way communicate biological needs clearly. So the woman
needs to tell the man. The man it's communication. You
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know what do you always say couples need to communicate,
prioritize stress management and nervous system regulation. You need to
you know, for a woman, learn how to meditate. Now again,
meditate won't Meditation may not take away harmony and balances,
but it could help you to respond to your daily
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stress better. And women have a lot of stress. You know,
they are primarily responsible for the kids, and then they work,
and then they're supposed to take care of the home,
and then they have to make sure their husband is okay.
So they need that break from that stress or from
that fight or flight. So women, if you could learn
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how to meditate or just go away to your quiet
place and take some breaths, that would help also. And
then you want to educate your partner about your hormonal reality. Okay,
you have to tell them, hey, this is how I feel.
You know, women have endometriosis and fibroids, and they have
irregular bleeding and all of that. And you have to
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understand if a woman doesn't feel good about herself, if
she doesn't feel good about how she looks, if she
doesn't feel good because she's in pain from endometriosis or
cramps or whatever. They don't want to have sex. Now,
men are different. Men can be sick, dying, three hundred pounds, overweight, sweaty, nasty,
(37:35):
they still want to have sex. Okay, and you see,
you see it. You know men men don't care. Men
can be on their dying bed and if they can
foster up just enough energy to have an erection, they'll
consider having sex. Now, I hate to say it, but Rebel,
(37:57):
I don't know how much you've been around men or whatever,
but have you noticed that difference that men they don't care. Now,
women are very particular. Things aren't just right. Sex is
not even in the cards for them. So anyway, I
won't put you on.
Speaker 5 (38:14):
Men will just do it anywhere, any time, with anything
that's breathing.
Speaker 3 (38:21):
Okay, that's I know, it's it's but here's what I'm saying.
That's that's the problem with having a Y chromosome. It's
just it just is it's not necessarily good for relationships.
So you have to be you have to actively you
have to actively understand kind of those innate, unconscious, subconscious
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uh desires that men have and how women are different
from them. So if you're ready to take the next step.
You know, I actually I should have uploaded it. You know,
I wanted to talk about because I'm the spiritual MD,
and I had those slands. Well anyway, I know what,
I know what I was going to say about them. Now,
Back in ancient times, again, before there was birth control
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pills everything, sex was considered to be a sexual I'm sorry.
Sex was considered to be a spiritual activity, combining to
energies that feminine and masculine energy, and it was considered
to be uh. Sex was considered to be a gateway,
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a gateway to spiritual uh, spiritual enlightening. It was the
next uh that changed when we stopped connecting spirituality with
our physical body. See, when we separated physical or from
the spiritual, then sex just became a physical thing. It
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used to be physical and spiritual. It wasn't about having
a climax. It was about connecting to energies to create
something more beautiful. Just like what what sex is? Two
people get together and they bear fruit. Okay, that's what
the problem. And so it was that was to be uh,
to create this spiritual experience between two people two becoming one. See,
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that's a miracle when when your marriage is say two
become one. And that sexual experience was was allowing you
to experience being oneness. And that's what you know when
I get into spirituality, is always talking about oneness being
connected to that one source. So it was a spiritual experience.
And if you look at all ancient philosophies, Taoism, tabbalah, uh,
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cometic spirituality, it was a spiritual In ancient in Africa,
they used to pray before having sex, and what they
would pray for is that if an offspring was produced,
that God would bless them and would protect that offspring
and would bring them a healthy offspring. So it was
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always that they were thinking that, hey, look we might
bear fruit from this experience, and we need to make
sure that we have good fruit, that we create good fruit.
Speaker 5 (41:21):
What they're thinking nowadays.
Speaker 3 (41:23):
I know, I know. And that's that's why we have
such a problem with sex, is that we think it's
only a physical thing and so it doesn't carry it
doesn't bring that connection that it should. Now, when when
two people are are are connected spiritually and and they
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have sex or they're connected spiritually, sex is beautiful. They
don't have this missile because they're so connected that they
understand each other. They realize, hey, this is not the tank,
this is not this she I need something else else.
I need to do something else to make my partner
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feel whole again. It's not about us having sex. It's
other things. You know, what can I do for her
to support her? But yeah, when Descartes and I talked
about this in one of my first podcasts back in
the sixteen hundreds, says, hey, we're going to let the
church deal with the spiritual part and then we're going
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to let science deal with the physical part. And here's
what the church did with sex. It made it where
it was shameful, okay, is that you had to you know,
it was a taboo. You didn't talk about it, you
didn't say anything about it. They made it where it
was some type of you know, evil thing in order
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to you know, having sex. And so it made it
where it was a whole different connotation around sex. It
wasn't something sacred. It's not anything spiritual anymore. But I'm
going to tell you, if you can get to that point,
it is a beautiful thing. And I will tell you
is that it took me and my wife a long
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time to get to that point, to get to that realization.
And you say, and this is what I'll tell you.
Since I made this transformation, me and my wife have
the best relationship we've ever had this last year, after
thirty nine years, I'm understanding this. I'm telling you things
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now I knew about the men have sex to relax
and women have to be relaxed to have sex, but
to talk about the spiritual component of it, and how
these ancient traditions have gotten pushed to the past. This
is why I call this the ageless blueprint. We are
not the smartest people who've ever lived on this planet.
(43:54):
We are not the most connected people who have lived
on this planet. Ancient civilization they had knowledge that we have.
We have discarded wars and family. When a lot of
the invaders came to uh Africa and other places, they
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totally destroyed these traditions and these cultures and thinking that
they were outdated and they were pagan or whatever. No,
it was understanding how nature works. That they looked at
spirituality as a science. They looked at women like the moon,
men are like the sun, and they related everything. They
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they had scientific formulas that taught them how nature works,
how universal laws work. All of this was destroyed because
we think we're so smart and modern and look at
the chaos we're in and we think that we're more advanced.
I don't know, all right, that's just you know, that's
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just my point of view. So anyway, join our Asia's
Blueprint community. Okay, you can start off with our free
Hormone Clarity course to understand the unique hormonal patterns between
women and men. So you know, I was you say, well,
you're the hormone dark. There's a spiritual limity. What are you?
This is how I look at it. You cannot get
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your mind right if your hormones are out of fact. Okay,
so first we get your hormones right. Then we talk
about meditation and mindset. All right, Then you graduate to
the spiritual part, because it's hard to think about spirituality
when your hormones are when you're fatigued, when you don't
feel good, when you're you know, when you're irritable, when
(45:41):
you're having mood swings. You're you can't, you can't, you
can't advance, you can't look any deeper. You're in that survival.
You're like, but I feel bad, I'm trying to survive.
I can't think about changing, you know, my my subconscious
mind or my unconscious I can't think about it. So
that's why I say I'm the hormone doctor. Then we're
(46:03):
going to move into changing your mindset, how do you
think about yourself and how do you think about out
the world. Then we can talk about spiritual man. Then
we can go and try and get to our higher self.
So yeah, I've got two or three different names, but
it's a I hope you see the progression that I'm trying.
We can't start out at the highest level because you
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can't comprehend all of that when your hormones are are disrupted.
So that's kind of my thought process. That's what I'm
trying to lead you to. And we'll get more and
more into that spiritual part and that mindset part, and
I try to combine it, but always start out with
the basics, so we go from physical to mental the spiritual.
So we're going to keep climbing that ladder each week,
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and we're going to try our best to get as
close to the top or to the top if we can.
So I know we're almost out of time. Rebel any
other questions or anything I need to say or you
tell me, because we got like what thirty seconds left?
Speaker 5 (47:02):
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everybody just think about the things doctor Taylor has told
you today.
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Speaker 3 (01:03):
Hello, Hello, good morning, and I am doctor Taylor. I
am the Spiritual MD, I am the hormone doctor, and
I am the creator of the Ageless Blueprint. And if
this is the first time you've been here, welcome, Welcome.
If you have seen this before, as you notice, I
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have a new backdrop here. It's all on that side.
And I told you I want to try and improve
this every time. So I got a nice professional backdrop
so that I don't have to worry about blurring something
behind me, because this is kind of my sacred space.
This is my extra bedroom. My wife is a night out.
I'm an early bird, so I like to get up
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early and get my work done. So I didn't want
you to really see what my little sacred space looks like.
So I got this backdrop. But anyway, I hope you
like it. You can comment on it and tell me
what you think. But anyway, this is a good episode.
This might be one that I have to say is
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eighteen or over because we're going to talk about sex,
and we're going to talk about sex and relationships and
why sex can be such a controversial Sometimes it can
cause problems in relationships, and primarily it's because we don't
understand the difference between what happens when a person gets
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to X chromosomes and when a person has an xcent
a Y chromosome. And what I'm trying to say is
that men and women approach sex differently, they think about
sex differently, and the outcome of conversations about sex end
up being very different, which can cause arguments and breakups.
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So I think this is really important. And the reason
why I'm doing this is that a patient, a cancer patient,
asked me, Hey, if I take this progesterone, will it
help my libido? And I said, look, it should because
progesterone helps you to relax, and we're going to talk
about that. But I told her, I said, look, men
(03:12):
have sex so they can relax, and women have to
be relaxed in order to want to have sex. So
see that's where the problem goes. Where the problem lies
the men. If they have a stressful day, and if
they come home and their wife sees that he's stressed out,
she can say, come on, big boy, you know, let's
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go upstairs and let's take care of you. And they
have sex. And afterwards he's relaxed. He could fall asleep.
He doesn't care about what happened during that day. The
birds are singing, sweeter, the meal tastes better, everything is better. Now.
When a woman is stressed, she can't relax, okay, but
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she has to be relaxed in order to want to
have sex. But the problem is men think women are
like them. So a man comes home and his wife,
a wife is complaining about the kids, and how the
dinner was burnt, and how the contractor came and messed
up her yard and all these things. And he says,
all right, baby, come on, I'm gonna make you feel better.
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He starts rubbing on and she wants to hit him
over the head with a frying pant because she's like,
get away from me. Can't you see I'm stressed. I
don't want to have sex right now. So then he
goes off in poups and he's upset, and now we've
got a problem. Now, I'm going to tell you that
happens more than you think, and I'll tell you it
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used to happen to me before I began to understand
my wife and understand women. Now you have to understand
I was in OBGYN for fifteen sixteen years before I
started doing holistic medicine, so all I talked to was women.
So I won't say I know how women think that.
No man knows that, but I feel like I've heard
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a lot of the complaints from women, and that's the problem.
They are not interested in sex when they are stressed.
So let's try and understand this. You know, I'm a
scientist and I'm a spiritual medce. So I'm going to
talk about both of those, how science and physiology and
hardmones all of that create this system where men and
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women look at sex differently. All right, So let's go
to the first lab. So why men want sex when
they're stressed and women don't. I just kind of explained
it to you, But we're going to go a little
bit deeper. So by understanding the biological foundations of intimate relationships,
we can transform how we connect. In this presentation, we're
going to explore the fascinating hormone differences that drive men
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and women contrasting responses response to stress, and how these
differences impact desire and intimacy. And this is what I
tell people all the time. Men are men and women
are women, and that's how it's going to be. And
I men, Hey, if you don't like what your wife
is doing, then you're going to have to marry a man.
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If you want her to act like you, you're going
to have to marry a man because women are going
to behave like women, all right, because they have certain
innate things that are in them. In order to keep
civilization going. Okay, somebody has to be a nurturer. Somebody
has to be the actor person who goes out and provides.
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And this is how life is, This is how nature is.
If you look at the animal kingdom, male animals and
female animals have different roles. When we went to we
went to Africa, kingy in Tanzania like ten or twelve
years ago, and the lions the male they are one
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of the protectors and the women go out and hunt.
So different. You know, different animals may change those roles,
but different sexes in all nature, they have different roles,
all right. So through the next line, I think I
control it all right. So what we're gonna learn today
is a biological difference. Is how stress affects male and
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female libido differently through hormonal pathways, harmonal interactions, the critical
roles of testosteron, proges and cortisol and sexual desire. And
you know that's all I talk about is how hormones
they affect everything and especially cortisol. The stress connection is
definitely in play right here. So relationship impact, Why hormonal
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misunderstandings create conflict and how to restore the connection because
I will tell you know, why do men cheat? Why
do women stay home? And they take care of the
children most of the time, and they can they can
live without a man. Okay, they can live without a man.
There you see all these single mothers around who survive
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and thrive and their kids do well. And men can
do that, but they're not they're not open enough to
do it because both male and females, they have what
we call divine masculine and divine feminine quality. So that's
why you know, if if a wife dies, a man
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can take on the role of a nurturer. It's not
what has been developed in a man, because early on
we tell men this is what men do, and this
is what women do. But men and women have these
same what we call divine energies, this active energy which
is male, and then this nurturing, quiet uh energy that
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is called the feminine, the divine feminine. So by understanding
these biological differences and these spiritual differences, couples can move
from frustration to compassion and develop strategies that work with
and not against their hormonal reality. So if you know,
it's all about understanding, I mean, that's what marriage is about,
(08:55):
is understanding the person and the differences in that person
and how those differences can actually enhance a relationship and
not cause conflict. You know the song by John Legend,
he's talking about you know, I love your perfect imperfections,
and you know he thinks it's an imperfection. The person
(09:16):
is saying, this is just who I am. But you
have to love what you think are the perfect imperfections
in your mate. All right, let's go to this one.
All right, So in a male libido understress, Now I
showed you like this hormonal pathway. Now, when men are
under stress, testosterone doesn't go toward cortisol. Now progesterone does.
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Cortisol steals progesterone away, and it's a whole chemical form.
It's a whole chemical pathway that shows this. But the
funny thing is that when men are understressed, quortisol doesn't
there necessarily steal testosterone. But cortisol can cause a problem,
but usually it doesn't. But unlike female heart, male testosterone
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levels don't immediately drop during short term stress periods. Doing
short term stress periods. Now, if it's long term, testosterone
can drop, and I'll talk about that I think a
little bit later. So when you have this testosterone's it's spiritual.
It's like fire Okay, men have this energy that's considered
(10:23):
to be active or it's like fire. And again, when
you look at these ancient philosophies, they looked at men
like the sun and women like the moon because women
had these cycles and men were like fire. They wanted
to go out and be active and do something and
create something. So how do you put out fire? It
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has to go to water, and women are like water.
So let me tell you. You know, I'm gonna get
into some of this because this is called ancient ageless blueprint,
and I went to Egypt to learn these ancient philosophies.
So what they look at that women are like water. Okay,
they cool the fire. And so that's what you got
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to think is that men have stress and they want
to go and be cooled off with water. And so
that's that's what happened. But the water has to be
steel and calm. You don't want to be cooled off
by our hurricane. Okay, you don't want to be cooled
off by a hurricane. You want the water to be
steel and quiet, and a woman has to feel like
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that in order to accept and cool off the fire. Okay,
that sounds deep, but it's really it's really beautiful, all right.
So sexual activity triggers dopamine and oxytocin release, and dopamine
is what gives you pleasure, and oxytocin makes you want
to be close to someone and that counteracts the corters
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all effects. So the man is looking to be cooled off.
He wants to feel some relief, he wants to be
close to you, but he's looking for or sex to
bring that closeness, all right. With women, it's the other
way around. They have to be close in order to
want to have sex. They have to feel the oxytocin first,
(12:12):
they have to feel the dopamine first before they want
to have sex. And men they have sex so they
can feel the dopamine and they can feel the oxytocin,
and so for men it is a psychological escape. And
sex provides both mental distractions so they can forget about
the problems that they had at work or with you know,
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with whoever, and the emotional release from stressful situations. So again,
a man can have an awful day and women you
know this, and if you allow them to have sex
with you, they forget about everything. If you want to
stop an argument with a man, just tell them. Come on, baby,
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I'll make it up to you. Let's go upstairs and
let's see what happens. He just immediately, just thinking about it,
he gets a smile on his face. Because men are
very visual. They can imagine, they can imagine, you know,
a sexual scene, and their body will respond to it.
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If you don't think that your body responds to your thoughts.
Ask a man if he thinks about sex, does his
body respond in a certain way? And I think you
know what I mean when you're talking about response. And
just like a woman, if she's her thoughts will control
her physiologic response. Okay, whether she becomes morshed and excited
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or whatever it can be, by the thought of feeling
close to the man, all right, to her, to her spouse,
or to her sexual partner, all right. The female libido understress,
corta is all blocks progesterone. In one of the other videos,
I showed you the hormonal pathway how hormones are rich
from cholesterol and then it goes down this pathway. But
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when stress is involved, it takes a left turn and
instead of making progesterone, it makes cortisol. Okay, so now
her progesterone is down. Now, why is that important? Because
stress hormones directly inhibited progesterone production, creating this hormonal imbalance.
The nervous system shifts because progesterone is a calming, relaxing hormone.
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That's why when you don't have enough of it the
two weeks before your period, you get anxious and depressed.
So the body enters automatically enters this fight or flight mode,
prioritizing survival over reproduction because it's saying, hey, look, I'm stressed.
I can't be stressed out trying to carry a baby.
Because remember, your body doesn't necessarily realize that there's birth
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control pills and condoms. It thinks that sex is for procreation,
all right, But we look at it due to recreation. Now,
I will tell you maybe as associated with recreation now,
before birth control pills. In ancient times or before birth
control pills, I mean, sex was very serious because it
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could always produce an offspring, so you had to look
at it differently. And women look at sex primarily as
pro creation.
Speaker 4 (15:21):
And when a woman is young, she is looking for
someone to procreate with, and she's looking for the strongest
person in the tribe, all right.
Speaker 3 (15:33):
That's why women are going toward athletes or whatever, because
they want to make sure that their offspring is strong
enough to survive. Okay, and so oh, I see we
have a question. But just hold on, rebel and I'll
get some questions. So they want to make sure that
their offspring is strong enough to survive. So they want
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to find the strongest male. And that's why athletes get
all the women. All ar can handsome get all the women.
They can't help it. It's their biology. Now, luckily, my
wife settled for me, you know. So maybe I had
some other characteristic that you know, that impressed her. But
(16:14):
that's how that's how you have to understand. We are
a part of nature. Okay, you got to understand that
we are part of nature. So we act in a
way to preserve nature. All right, So safety becomes priority.
The female body requires feeling safe before sexual desire can activate. Again,
(16:34):
they have to feel close to the man. They have
to feel safe or their body is not going to
respond when they have a hurricane going on. They don't.
They can't receive what the man is trying to give them,
all right, because you have to look at it is
that the man provides the seed and the woman provides
(16:56):
the fertile soil, and when there's chaos, the soul is
not fertile, and the woman will actually stop ovulating to
make sure she doesn't have a baby when there is
a lot of chaos. And that's why women who go
through the infertility work up a lot of times they
don't get pregnant because it's so stressful. And once the
(17:18):
infertility work up is over, then they have a baby
because now the stress is gone. Now they're calm, Now
the waters are still, and now they can accept the
seed and now the soil is fertile again. All right,
what do you think about that so far? Rebel?
Speaker 5 (17:34):
Oh my goodness, Oh my goodness, there's so many things
going on here. It's it's it's almost like contradicts, yous
are like a man has to be stressful or works
performs better under stress, and a woman has to be calm.
Well what if you're not matching up at that time?
I mean, like this one's stressed, this one's calm, and you.
Speaker 3 (17:57):
Know, well, now, now the thing is is short term
stress will make a man want to have sex. Now
I'll talk about it. Long term stress and when cortisol
is there. You know, consistently, a man's testosterone goes down
because you have to think, okay, in nature, all right,
if a man is fatigued and can't you know, be active,
(18:19):
the body tries to conserve energy. So if it's a
long term stress, like even men at war, because they
have a long term stress, their testosterone goes down because
the body is saying, hey, look you're tired. You're in
this situation where you could be killed and you're not
going to be able to provide for this baby. So hey,
(18:40):
look I don't want you running around chasing women. So
I'm going to take your testosterone away. So the jewel,
you know that you'll conserve energy and don't waste it
on sex, don't waste it on running around. So short
term stress makes the man want sex. Long term stress
takes away his testosterone. And I've seen many men come
in my office who are on testosterone and they say,
(19:03):
but I, you know, I still I'm stressed out at work.
I got my wife is you know, it's all kinds
of things are going on. And they say, I don't know,
my libido is down, but this testosterone is working. I
test their cortisol. I guarantee you they're burnt out and
their body has shut down testosterone because their cortisol is low,
and in that case, their libido goes down. All right,
(19:24):
So so you know, I also say it's almost like
God is like, uh made a had a joke. You know,
It's like, hey, look this will be funny. Let me
make men and women view sex differently, and let's see
what happens. But it almost it is. It's like, why
are you making a different wouldn't it be great if
both people saw sex as a stress reliever, But hey don't.
(19:49):
I don't know why, but that is just the way
it is. Okay, So cortisol and progesterone tug of war
and these women all right, So the visible effects is
that they have less libido, and the surface cause is
either as high quart as all the stress. But the
underneath what it really is is they don't have enough progesterone. Okay,
and then that causes the harmony and balance that all
(20:11):
I'm always talking about. Now they're estrogen dominant, and now
their nervous system is wholly disregulated, all right, so they're stress.
Then what happens is they lose the vaginal lubrication. They
don't their vagina's not relaxed. So now sex becomes painful now,
and now your body always tries to resist pain or
(20:34):
flee pain and go toward pleasure. And once a woman
associates sex with pain, man, that's a tough thing to overcome.
You can overcome it, but you have to you have
to make it pleasurable. And if it's not pleasurable, I
don't care how much a woman loves her husband, she's
(20:55):
not going to want to have want to have sex.
And that's more of a problem doing menopause. And I'll
talk about how you can overcome that also. All right,
so I know we have a couple of questions. Should
I let me go to the questions now and then
we'll move on.
Speaker 5 (21:09):
Okay, So the first question, what if a man has
no imagination? That came in when you talked about you know,
just mentioning, you know, and they go there, Well, what
happens if a man has no imagination?
Speaker 3 (21:25):
Well, then you know that's the problem. You know. What
I'm saying is men are very visual, whether it's a
true vision that they see. You know, if a man
sees an attractive woman with no clothes on or their
body responds to it. Most most men will, they will,
(21:46):
they will desire her, and then certain things can happen,
and blood can go different places where it doesn't normally
go or usually go. But that's what I'm talking about.
Imagination is that a man can even imagine that, Hey,
I think my wife is going to have sex with me,
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and their body responds to it. So if a man
has no imagination, I don't know that's a problem because
that's how you create things. You have to imagine it first.
It has to be something in your man first in
order for it to actually materialize. So I think we
had one other candid woman's body make too much progesterone.
What happens if it's done. It's very hard for a
(22:28):
woman to make too much progesterone. Now, you can take
too much progesterone. You can be prescribed too much progesterone.
But when you look at the minstral cycle, the progesterone
is made when you ovulate, and it's only made for
the two weeks right before your period because it's waiting
to see if it needs to promote a gestation or not.
So it waits around for two weeks to see, if
(22:52):
you're going to get pregnant, it reaches a peak. If
you don't get pregnant, it goes away, and now you
have another mistrial cycle, and it's art. It's all over again.
Now a woman's body can make too much estrogen, or
it can be exposed to too much estrogen. If now
the ovaries don't necessarily make too much, but your fat
tissue can make estrogen. And then you're exposed to so
(23:15):
much estrogen in the food that you eat, in some
of the cosmetics that you have, in the water that
you drink. So it's hard to make too much progesterone
or hard to be exposed to too much progesterone, but
it's easy to be exposed to too much estrogen. All right,
these thoughts of procreation, are they imagined or actual thoughts? No,
(23:37):
it's an innate desire women. And I won't say any
I don't say all women. You can't say all about
anything because everybody's different. But the natural energy are blueprint
of women is to look at sex as procreation for procreation.
Men look at it as recreation. Okay, So that's the problem,
(24:00):
all right, And so now here's the other issue. And men,
you need to understand this. Once a woman pro creates
and has a child, nurturing that child becomes her number
one priority. Hands down. Sex falls down right above mopping
the floor. That's how and men married men who have children,
(24:25):
you can testify this, sex goes way down on the list.
And some men get upset. They were like, oh, ever,
since we had this baby, my wife, she doesn't seem
to be as interested in sex anymore. Well, join the club, homeboy.
I've been married for thirty nine years, and I had
to realize that when we had our first child. Now,
(24:46):
when she's trying to pro create, hey, she may be
Johnny on the spot. Hey, let's go once she has
that baby, if she has true maternal instincts. Now not
every woman has overwhelming maternal instincts, but I'm just saying
in general, once she has a child, nurturing is number one.
And if that child is sick or that child needs anything,
(25:08):
you are second fiddle. Just accept it, guys, Okay, the
children come first. That's why if there's a problem, the
woman says, hey, get out of here, I can do
it by myself. Now, men are going to say that
usually all right, and that's why you see all these
single mothers, they're number number one priority is nurturing, and
(25:32):
they don't like to have other men in their house.
They don't need them. Okay, they don't need them all right. Now,
a man, even if his wife passes away against the
worse and now he's in the nurturing mode, he still
is going to look for that fire to be cooled,
whether he does it himself or he finds someone else
(25:54):
who can cool the fire. That's what's going to happen,
all right.
Speaker 5 (26:00):
Of one here, Now this might turn into a whole
different show. Oh boy, Now we had someone ask this question.
If a man has never had his own children, like,
if he has the stepfather to children, do you feel
that they understand that they don't come first? The children
(26:20):
still come first.
Speaker 3 (26:22):
At he better understand, he better understand. Okay. That's why
a lot of women will say, hey, look, I am
not thinking about remarrying. I don't want another boyfriend until
my children are out of the house. Okay, because they
don't want anything to disrupt they're nurturing. Okay. Now, a man,
(26:42):
if he married, he marries a woman who has children,
he better accepts that those children are number one. She
may like you love you, you know, and and accept her,
accept you into the home. But hey, you start causing
a problem with her children. See what happens. Okay, I'm
just I'm just telling you what I know and what
(27:05):
I've seen, and this is how these two sexes interact
with each other. All right, So hey, it's almost it's
tame for a commercial. This will be a good place
to stop, and then we're going to talk about how
we can fix this. All right.
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Speaker 3 (28:32):
Okay, we're back. I'm doctor Taylor. We're back at the
Ageis Blueprint and we're talking about how men and women
approach sex when they are under stress. All right, So
hopefully we've moved on, and so how can we fix this?
How can we make this better and keep relationships together?
So here's what happens when men and women don't understand
(28:54):
these differences. Now he thinks she's not interested in me anymore,
she doesn't find me attractive. Why does she always reject
me when I need connection? See, he looks for sex
to make the connection, and he feels rejected, unwanted, and disconnected.
Now again, I'm not making any excuses for men who
(29:16):
cheat on their wives. I'm not, but I'm saying this
is how he's thinking, and he's wanting connection. And if
he sees someone at the office or at a bar
and it fulfills this role. If he's not totally committed
and doesn't understand this, he even unconsciously. I told you
(29:39):
ninety five percent of the things that you do are unconscious. Unconsciously,
he's drawn drawn to the woman who is providing that
connection for him, who's willing to have sex with him,
to cool that fire and give him that connection. And
you see how these men they will give up all
(30:01):
their give up their family, their job, their career looking
for that connection. And they know it's going to they
know it's going to destroy their lives, and they still
do it. And we wonder why it is an unconscious,
subconscious desire that they have. Okay, So I'm not giving
(30:24):
you excuse, but I'm telling you you can't understand why
men will go and do this is because unconsciously they're
doing it. If you're conscious of what's going on, you
can control it. That's why it's so important to get
in touch with your unconscious thoughts and feelings so that
you don't destroy your life by having a mistress. And
(30:48):
your wife takes you to the cleaners and tries to
destroy you in court. Okay, So her perspective is he
only wants physical intimacy. He doesn't see how overwhelmed I am.
I'm overwhelmed and he's talking about sex. What is wrong
with him? He's thinking from a man's point of view.
Why can't he connect with me in other ways? First?
(31:11):
And stop making me feel pressured and misunderstood and resentful.
I'm telling you, if you guys can understand this, you
can save a lot of marriage. And if you hear this,
you can help your friends. Okay, this is so so, so,
so so important. And the reason why I'm like this
(31:31):
is because I had to learn this myself. It was
almost ten years before I realized or I understood this.
I felt the same way I'm a man. Once we
had our first child thirty four years ago. This is
how I felt, and then I had to understand. Now
(31:51):
now I understand. When my wife is upset, I sit
and I listen to her. I don't even think about sex.
I don't mention, I don't I don't wink at her.
I don't give her any indication that I'm thinking about
anything other than listening to her. And men, that takes
(32:11):
a lot of practice. It takes a lot of practice,
and I'm just telling you if you don't, if you
don't innately do it, I understand, but it's important if
you want to maintain your relationship with your wife or
with your significant other. All right. So practical solutions for
couples to foster this connection. You can create emotional safety
(32:36):
before physical intimacy. All right. So again, listen to her. Okay,
just listen, see what she needs. And let me tell
you another thing. Men, you can't build up browning points
with women. Okay, you say, well, you know what's wrong?
Last week? I brought you flowers? Well that was last week.
(32:59):
What have you done for me lately? Who sang that
song Janet Jackson or whatever. That's how women think. It's
not about what you did in the past. It's about
what you're doing right now. Are you listening to me
right now? Did you give me flowers and a box
of candy and wine right now? I know you did
it two weeks ago, but that doesn't matter. See a man,
(33:21):
he thinks, oh, hey, I did this, I built up this.
I took her on vacation you know last month? That
should you know? That should do me well for the
next two months. No, No, that was the vacation two
months ago. What have you done for me lately?
Speaker 5 (33:36):
All right?
Speaker 3 (33:36):
So help reduce her stress load. Practical support wash the dishes.
I heard one woman say it's nothing that there's no
better aphrodisiac than a clean kitchen that my husband provided
for me. All right, that's how that's how women think.
Help me not be overwhelmed, Help me with the kids. Okay,
(34:00):
take them on, you know, uh out of the park
and let me relax for a little while. All right.
Understand that foreplay begins outside the bedroom. All right, Communicate
needs without creating pressure. Okay, you can kind of give
her a little subtle gesture that hey, you know, but
don't pressure her and don't be upset if she's not
(34:22):
in the mood. Just say, hey, baby, I understand, what
what can I do for you? All right? That's how
you have to think. Support her hormonal balance through lifestyle. Again,
in that two weeks before her period. If she is not,
if she does not make enough projester o, you can.
(34:42):
You need to understand that. Well, let me tell you
one thing. You don't say, and I learned this the
hard way. If you understand that it was two weeks
before a period, she's having PMS, you know, don't say
I think your hormones are out of balance. Don't say
that to a woman. Okay, she doesn't want. She doesn't
I want to hear that. I'm just going to save you.
I had to learn that the hard way. Now she
(35:04):
can say, I think it's my hormones. But don't you
say it. Don't understand. I've been married for thirty nine years,
so I've made a lot of mistakes, and I try
to learn from my mistakes. And I'm telling you so
that it can help you out. Now, for women, advocate
for your needs and well being. You know you have
to tell. You have to tell the man what you
(35:25):
want and what you don't want. Now you can track
your cycle and stress response patterns. You can say, hey, look, hey,
I know we could two before my period of two
or three days before my period. I feel like this
or I feel like that, and this is not the time,
and just let him know. Say okay, I understand. Hey
what do I need to do for you? I notice
that time, and let me do this for you. I
(35:47):
consider hormone testing to identify imbalances. Now again, the woman
can say, I think I need to test my hormones.
Don't you say it, man, I'm telling you. I learned
the hard way communicate biological needs clearly. So the woman
needs to tell the man. The man it's communication. You
(36:08):
know what do you always say couples need to communicate,
prioritize stress management and nervous system regulation. You need to
you know, for a woman, learn how to meditate. Now again,
meditate won't Meditation may not take away harmony and balances,
but it could help you to respond to your daily
(36:28):
stress better. And women have a lot of stress. You know,
they are primarily responsible for the kids, and then they work,
and then they're supposed to take care of the home,
and then they have to make sure their husband is okay.
So they need that break from that stress or from
that fight or flight. So women, if you could learn
(36:50):
how to meditate or just go away to your quiet
place and take some breaths, that would help also. And
then you want to educate your partner about your hormonal reality. Okay,
you have to tell them, hey, this is how I feel.
You know, women have endometriosis and fibroids, and they have
irregular bleeding and all of that. And you have to
(37:10):
understand if a woman doesn't feel good about herself, if
she doesn't feel good about how she looks, if she
doesn't feel good because she's in pain from endometriosis or
cramps or whatever. They don't want to have sex. Now,
men are different. Men can be sick, dying, three hundred pounds, overweight, sweaty, nasty,
(37:35):
they still want to have sex. Okay, and you see,
you see it. You know men men don't care. Men
can be on their dying bed and if they can
foster up just enough energy to have an erection, they'll
consider having sex. Now, I hate to say it, but Rebel,
(37:57):
I don't know how much you've been around men or whatever,
but have you noticed that difference that men they don't care. Now,
women are very particular. Things aren't just right. Sex is
not even in the cards for them. So anyway, I
won't put you on.
Speaker 5 (38:14):
Men will just do it anywhere, any time, with anything
that's breathing.
Speaker 3 (38:21):
Okay, that's I know, it's it's but here's what I'm saying.
That's that's the problem with having a Y chromosome. It's
just it just is it's not necessarily good for relationships.
So you have to be you have to actively you
have to actively understand kind of those innate, unconscious, subconscious
(38:47):
uh desires that men have and how women are different
from them. So if you're ready to take the next step.
You know, I actually I should have uploaded it. You know,
I wanted to talk about because I'm the spiritual MD,
and I had those slands. Well anyway, I know what,
I know what I was going to say about them. Now,
Back in ancient times, again, before there was birth control
(39:09):
pills everything, sex was considered to be a sexual I'm sorry.
Sex was considered to be a spiritual activity, combining to
energies that feminine and masculine energy, and it was considered
to be uh. Sex was considered to be a gateway,
(39:30):
a gateway to spiritual uh, spiritual enlightening. It was the
next uh that changed when we stopped connecting spirituality with
our physical body. See, when we separated physical or from
the spiritual, then sex just became a physical thing. It
(39:52):
used to be physical and spiritual. It wasn't about having
a climax. It was about connecting to energies to create
something more beautiful. Just like what what sex is? Two
people get together and they bear fruit. Okay, that's what
the problem. And so it was that was to be uh,
to create this spiritual experience between two people two becoming one. See,
(40:18):
that's a miracle when when your marriage is say two
become one. And that sexual experience was was allowing you
to experience being oneness. And that's what you know when
I get into spirituality, is always talking about oneness being
connected to that one source. So it was a spiritual experience.
And if you look at all ancient philosophies, Taoism, tabbalah, uh,
(40:44):
cometic spirituality, it was a spiritual In ancient in Africa,
they used to pray before having sex, and what they
would pray for is that if an offspring was produced,
that God would bless them and would protect that offspring
and would bring them a healthy offspring. So it was
(41:06):
always that they were thinking that, hey, look we might
bear fruit from this experience, and we need to make
sure that we have good fruit, that we create good fruit.
Speaker 5 (41:21):
What they're thinking nowadays.
Speaker 3 (41:23):
I know, I know. And that's that's why we have
such a problem with sex, is that we think it's
only a physical thing and so it doesn't carry it
doesn't bring that connection that it should. Now, when when
two people are are are connected spiritually and and they
(41:44):
have sex or they're connected spiritually, sex is beautiful. They
don't have this missile because they're so connected that they
understand each other. They realize, hey, this is not the tank,
this is not this she I need something else else.
I need to do something else to make my partner
(42:04):
feel whole again. It's not about us having sex. It's
other things. You know, what can I do for her
to support her? But yeah, when Descartes and I talked
about this in one of my first podcasts back in
the sixteen hundreds, says, hey, we're going to let the
church deal with the spiritual part and then we're going
(42:25):
to let science deal with the physical part. And here's
what the church did with sex. It made it where
it was shameful, okay, is that you had to you know,
it was a taboo. You didn't talk about it, you
didn't say anything about it. They made it where it
was some type of you know, evil thing in order
(42:47):
to you know, having sex. And so it made it
where it was a whole different connotation around sex. It
wasn't something sacred. It's not anything spiritual anymore. But I'm
going to tell you, if you can get to that point,
it is a beautiful thing. And I will tell you
is that it took me and my wife a long
(43:11):
time to get to that point, to get to that realization.
And you say, and this is what I'll tell you.
Since I made this transformation, me and my wife have
the best relationship we've ever had this last year, after
thirty nine years, I'm understanding this. I'm telling you things
(43:32):
now I knew about the men have sex to relax
and women have to be relaxed to have sex, but
to talk about the spiritual component of it, and how
these ancient traditions have gotten pushed to the past. This
is why I call this the ageless blueprint. We are
not the smartest people who've ever lived on this planet.
(43:54):
We are not the most connected people who have lived
on this planet. Ancient civilization they had knowledge that we have.
We have discarded wars and family. When a lot of
the invaders came to uh Africa and other places, they
(44:15):
totally destroyed these traditions and these cultures and thinking that
they were outdated and they were pagan or whatever. No,
it was understanding how nature works. That they looked at
spirituality as a science. They looked at women like the moon,
men are like the sun, and they related everything. They
(44:39):
they had scientific formulas that taught them how nature works,
how universal laws work. All of this was destroyed because
we think we're so smart and modern and look at
the chaos we're in and we think that we're more advanced.
I don't know, all right, that's just you know, that's
(44:59):
just my point of view. So anyway, join our Asia's
Blueprint community. Okay, you can start off with our free
Hormone Clarity course to understand the unique hormonal patterns between
women and men. So you know, I was you say, well,
you're the hormone dark. There's a spiritual limity. What are you?
This is how I look at it. You cannot get
(45:20):
your mind right if your hormones are out of fact. Okay,
so first we get your hormones right. Then we talk
about meditation and mindset. All right, Then you graduate to
the spiritual part, because it's hard to think about spirituality
when your hormones are when you're fatigued, when you don't
feel good, when you're you know, when you're irritable, when
(45:41):
you're having mood swings. You're you can't, you can't, you
can't advance, you can't look any deeper. You're in that survival.
You're like, but I feel bad, I'm trying to survive.
I can't think about changing, you know, my my subconscious
mind or my unconscious I can't think about it. So
that's why I say I'm the hormone doctor. Then we're
(46:03):
going to move into changing your mindset, how do you
think about yourself and how do you think about out
the world. Then we can talk about spiritual man. Then
we can go and try and get to our higher self.
So yeah, I've got two or three different names, but
it's a I hope you see the progression that I'm trying.
We can't start out at the highest level because you
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can't comprehend all of that when your hormones are are disrupted.
So that's kind of my thought process. That's what I'm
trying to lead you to. And we'll get more and
more into that spiritual part and that mindset part, and
I try to combine it, but always start out with
the basics, so we go from physical to mental the spiritual.
So we're going to keep climbing that ladder each week,
(46:48):
and we're going to try our best to get as
close to the top or to the top if we can.
So I know we're almost out of time. Rebel any
other questions or anything I need to say or you
tell me, because we got like what thirty seconds left?
Speaker 5 (47:02):
Yeah, we got about thirty seconds left. Just make sure
everybody just think about the things doctor Taylor has told
you today.
Speaker 3 (47:11):
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As Director of The Men’s Clinic at UCLA, Dr. Jesse Mills has spent his career helping men understand their bodies, their hormones, and their health. Now he’s bringing that expertise to The Male Room — a podcast where data-driven medicine meets common sense. Each episode separates fact from hype, science from snake oil, and gives men the tools to live longer, stronger, and happier lives. With candor, humor, and real-world experience from the exam room and the operating room, Dr. Mills breaks down the latest health headlines, dissects trends, and explains what actually works — and what doesn’t. Smart, straightforward, and entertaining, The Male Room is the show that helps men take charge of their health without the jargon.