September 24, 2024 • 28 mins
EP 82 What are you building?
In this episode of the All Things Good for You podcast, host Brian Bowen explores the significance of meaningful pursuits and building towards something in life. He delves into his personal struggles with addiction to building and creativity, emphasizes the essence of having a supportive community, and encourages listeners to find their building projects in various aspects of life. Brian also discusses the Chinese five elements model, highlighting how purpose, vision, creativity, and joy are interlinked in personal development. Tune in to discover how to nurture your purpose, gain self-worth, and build a life filled with joy and value.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Meaningful Pursuits
00:26 Welcome to All Things Good for You
02:12 Personal Reflections and Addictions
06:09 The Importance of Building
13:21 Chinese Five Elements and Building
17:05 Finding Joy and Value in Building
24:49 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
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In this episode of the All Things Good for You podcast, host Brian Bowen explores the significance of meaningful pursuits and building towards something in life. He delves into his personal struggles with addiction to building and creativity, emphasizes the essence of having a supportive community, and encourages listeners to find their building projects in various aspects of life. Brian also discusses the Chinese five elements model, highlighting how purpose, vision, creativity, and joy are interlinked in personal development. Tune in to discover how to nurture your purpose, gain self-worth, and build a life filled with joy and value.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Meaningful Pursuits
00:26 Welcome to All Things Good for You
02:12 Personal Reflections and Addictions
06:09 The Importance of Building
13:21 Chinese Five Elements and Building
17:05 Finding Joy and Value in Building
24:49 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/all-things-good-for-you--4972263/support.
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Speaker 1 (00:05):
One of the main things is cainingful pursuits, and that
is a foundation to what you're building. What is meaningful
to you? What are you pursuing? What are you actively pursuing.
Think about something you've pursued before that you were so
hungry for. You're just like I gotta have it.
Speaker 2 (00:27):
Hey, friends, thank you for listening to the All Things
Good for You Podcast. Join us as we explore ancient traditions,
modern tools and practices in the world of health, wellness,
and personal development. I'm Amy Christensen, your host and your
curated mind coach, and.
Speaker 3 (00:43):
I'm your co host, Brian Bowen, founder of Integrative Health, Inc.
And Better Human Company High Performance Coaching. Are you ready
to take control of your life and start feeling enthusiastic, empowered,
and limitless each and every day for a life well lived?
Speaker 1 (00:59):
Let you're curious flow with All Things Good for You. Hello,
all of you amazing people listening to this episode of
All Things Good for You. I know some of you
might be confused right now because this isn't a normal
little good morning intro with my co host, Amy Christensen,
so she's greatly missed. Today. I'm sitting here in front
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of a mic by myself and I'm in a blabor
for a bit, so we'll see how that turns out
without her, And those of you who thought you were
going to click on Joe Rogan's episode that you are
at the wrong place, So now's your time to sign
off unless you want to get some other golden nuggets
of wisdom around personal development that maybe Joe doesn't offer.
He's a great guy, but maybe the personal development's not
there as much. Who knows. We'll see, We'll see how
(01:45):
this turns out. Anyway. Holy crap, it's been a bit
and I got some things to say. First of all,
I really do appreciate you guys turning in and I've
missed doing this. Amy's busy and she's a couple podcasts
by yourself which are amazing, and we had a guest
on last week or the week before which was amazing.
(02:07):
So thank you for continuing to sign in and listen
to us. Much appreciated. Okay, so I've been gone because
I have a problem, a big problem. Right I'm an addict.
So I'm just gonna say it right now, saying it
out loud. I am an addict, and my addiction is
I am addicted to building things, and maybe potato chips.
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I definitely can't have potato chips in the house, but
I do love those sweet and salty and crunchy and spicy,
yummy deliciousness. Those of you listening to have that same thing.
I'm with you will support each other, but no, I
have been addicted. I have realized I have an addiction
to building things. Some people think that I like to
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take a lot of projects on, but it's not necessarily
a project. I have an addiction to building, and I
recently was talking to some people. I don't know if
you know this, but you are a very creative person
and you like to create. And I never really necessarily
thought of it in that way. I usually think of
like creativity as somebody who can paints a beautiful, amazing
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painting or play amazing music, which I wish I could.
And I actually took Spanish guitar lessons for four years
one time, and I think my guitar instructor, Aljave, who
is amazing if you guys need to listen to some
amazing Spanish guitar oljave dot com is he's ridiculous. But
I think he was happy when I quit playing I
think he's probably never seen somebody not grow in four
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years at all. And I'd love to pick it back up,
and I've been thinking about it, but I'm so scared
I'm going to pick it back up and not even
not remember one thing that's not my genius. But I try,
and ultimately it wasn't root in purpose for me, and
I with my creativity now that I know is expressed
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through creating things. So right now I'm trying to bring
a couple products to market, which is exciting, and I
have an entrepreneurial spirit, which I love, but sometimes it
can be overwhelming. And it's been a lot of lessons
to say no to certain things, and the things that
I am saying yes to are rooted in purpose. And
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some people know immediately what their purpose is, and some
people start with a mission statement or a purpose statement,
and I think that's amazing. For me, it was almost
like I'm building, creating, and then all of a sudden,
it's like you have these ten things that you've made,
and you look and all of a sudden, that thread
of commonality of that purpose just shows up throughout the
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whole thing. So for me, I always put the cart
before the horse most often. So that's the way I
operate pretty much everything in my life. Oftentimes I feel
it from the inside, don't know how to express it necessarily,
and I just start creating things. And so that's why
I've been out for a bit. I have been in
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that world, in that space, and I had to say
now and put something down for a minute. And luckily
Amy's passion and my passion for this is definitely here.
And hopefully that resonates with some of you listening that
maybe there's some things in your life where you feel
overwhelmed and you have to look at it and is
that thing like fitting with that mission, with that purpose,
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Like how can I put something down? You know what's
put it down forever? Right? Because this podcast is definitely
in line with my purpose and with my mission. But
sometimes you have to put it in a timeout. Sometimes
you just got to be like, Okay, we're gonna put
you over here in the corner for a little bit.
We're gonna bring you back out. And if you have
a team of people that support you in your life
and the support the things you do, then you can
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do that so much easier. So I highly recommend if
you don't have a team of people that support you
and your goals, your dreams and the things that you're doing.
Start looking at the people that you surround yourself with
and the people that are in your lives, and sometimes
you have to make some tough decisions and maybe you
got to put those people in a time out too.
I actually really wanted to go back to the building
piece as a theme for today and for me, it
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is critical and it is so important to have something
that you're building towards, something that you're building in your life.
It is critical. I want to pause, okay, and I
want you to close your eyes. If you're not driving
the car, if you have to stop light, you can
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you can close your eyes just for a second. Somebody
will hunk at you when the lights when the light turns.
When the light turns, great, And I promise, and just
ask yourself, what are you building in your life? Now?
Take this out of the business world. Okay. You don't
have to be building a wellness center. You don't have
to be building a giant, brand new business. You don't
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have to be building something that generates a revenue or
some monetary thing. It can be something as far as
building better relationships building a better relationship with your spouse,
not just with your friends, right, Building and working in
something in the community, Building and changing and manifesting something
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new with the identity of who you want to become.
Building a life filled with more things that support you
in your health and wellness goals, deeper awareness, and more
intellectual and emotional intelligence. So there can be so many
different levels at what you're building. But are you building something?
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We know statistically that when people retire from a profession
that if you don't have a you know, some people
say hobbies, but I think that important hobby passions against
something you're building, however you want to phrase it. There
are some minute differences within them that people don't often
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live a long life and to be they're able to
enjoy that retirement. So statistically we know that, so we're
not here, I'll be all doom and gloom, right, But
building something now why you are alive, helps to bring
a sense of vitality and vibrancy. That's unquestionable. When I
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meet people in my life, when I meet clients, when
I meet patients, when I meet friends that have something
they're building towards, whatever category of life it fits, they
always have this intensity or this presence, and this vibrancy
and this yumminess about them. There's just something yummy. And
then when I meet people who don't have something they're
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building towards. If you're not building towards something, then there's
usually stagnation. And when they're stagnation, it bottlenecks things on
a physical level, it creates inflammation. Right on a mental level,
it creates other things, anxiety, depressions, things like that. When
somebody's stagnant, they don't have that sense of ynginess, they
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don't have that sense of vibrancy. Maybe they're harder to
connect with, harder to connect to, feel a little lost,
don't feel here, don't feel present, don't feel grounded. We
have to be compassionate with ourselves, though, and compassionate to
other people in our lives. And maybe one of a
great purpose for everybody is just to help other people
identify that thing they need to be building towards. It's important.
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So what are you building towards? What is what category?
What thing could it be? And the more you build,
Like I've built some of the most ridiculous things in
my life, and I've spent time and energy in places
that we seem super silly, seems super ridiculous. But those things, ultimately,
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whether they felt important to some people, whether they felt
ridiculous not meaningful, whether they felt like failures, or whatever
it was, they still helped build a foundation of confidence
and self worth and help me learn new skills and
practice and refine and help create something more meaningful to
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get me to these things that I'm at now. And hey,
they don't always work out. You can put a lot
of energy and effort and maybe the relationship still fails. Right,
I've done all these things and it still didn't work out.
I'm never going to try again. Now, keep building, got
to keep building. You can't stop. You stop, you die
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statistically shown as statistically proven anyway. But it's interesting because
some people know their purpose in life right away. I've
always known this, this is who I am. I've always
wanted to I've always wanted to help people. I'm all
about justice. Right for some people, they just know I
want to I want to work in that. I'm a
heartfelt person. I want to do this whatever it is,
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and being able to make sure we're Sometimes your purpose
can transcend into your career, but also not taking over
your career as your identity of purpose if you're not
really rooted in that, Like sometimes we just got to
do the thing to pay the bills and do the stuff.
Sometimes you gotta do stuff you don't want to do.
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So this isn't about you looking for a new career,
although if you're not happy and you don't have purpose
in your career, you should probably should look for a
new career because I do think we have this one
life and everything we do we should have some joined vibrancy.
And if you're not rooted in a thread of purpose
in what you do, you are disconnected from you. So
I do think it is important to check in with that.
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All right, back, I gonna get back to what I'm
here now, So let's get back to building. So this
whole thing is what are you building in your life?
What are you building towards? And Brendan Burchard in one
of his in his Growth Triangle, he has one of
the main things is meaningful pursuits, and that is a
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foundation to what you're building. What is meaningful to you?
What are you pursuing, what are you actively pursuing. Think
about something you've pursued before, that you were so hungry for.
You're just like, I gotta have it. For some people,
maybe it was like I had a buddy of mine,
I want to qualify for the Iron Man Hawaii and
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he wouldn't stop you. He was just fricking crazy man,
just wouldn't stop. It probably took him fifteen years, but
guess what he qualified for that. But there was a hunger,
there was this thing that was a driving force. Maybe
for some of you, you resonate with or your partner
first time you saw them, laid eyes on him, and
you're like, oh my gosh, there's something here. There's something
magical sparkles. I need this, and there's a hunger and
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there's this desire and there's this passion and there's this
burning desire to go after it and you're giving it
your all and you're fixing your hair like you've never
fixed your hair before, and you're doing all the things right,
whatever those things. It could be what is something that
you've had that for, Because the meaningful pursuits are the
driving factors for the things that you're building. I'm gonna
go with Chinese five elements for you guys for a second.
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All right, five elements. The reason I bring this up
is we're talking about building, and in Chinese medicine there
there's five different elements. And I just love this model
because it just fits fricking everything in life. So the
wood element is where there's the vision and the insights.
You're just like, ah, I feel it, I see it,
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I need to do this, And then it goes into
the building. So there's a plan and you start building it.
But the element before the wood element that nurtures that
wood element is water, and water is about purpose and resources.
And so it's just interesting that philosophically, psychology, personal development,
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like these principles are still here too. Right, you have
to be rooted in purpose and things come from that
you might not be able to identify. You might be
like me, I do things backwards. I put the cart
before the horse. So the wood element gets its nourishment
and fuel from the purpose and the resources of that
of the water element. Okay, and so that nurtures your roots. Right,
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So the purpose is percolating up. It's percolating, percolating, percolating,
percolating and percolated. So ah, and all of a sudden
you start having this Wow, I just had this thought.
I just had this idea, this vision, this dream, I
just had this whatever it is, whatever, that thing that
just gotcha. Hey wait, And then neuropathways start creating this
building path of like how you're going to get it done?
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What do you see? And you start working on the
details of it, and so all of a sudden, you've
designed and built this whole amazing thing. But there's something
when it's fueled by purpose that you just can't stop.
You just can't stop it. You don't question it, you
feel it, but to be true to yourself, to your purpose,
and the vision is there and you start planning, and
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again you can't stop, and it just takes you. Right,
it's controlling and guiding and pulling you. But the cooling
is the element that's after the wood element is the
fire element. And the fire element is about desire, right,
It's got passion, it's got vitality, it's got that spark,
and it's got joy. And you're fueled by purpose and
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when it's pulling you into vision, creativity, planning and building,
and all of a sudden, you're like, oh my god,
I love this. There's that joy, there's that excitement, there's
a thrill. There's that vitality, there's an essence of yumminess
to start sparking out right, just lighten you up. People
see it on your face. Sometimes if you build too much,
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they also I'll see exact but it's so weird. I
can be really tired, but there's still this joy of
doing it and pulling me forward, even though sometimes you
can get stressed out because of all the mundane stuff
you have to do of emails or whatever it might be.
And that's when you stop and you're like, Okay, who
can help me with this part? Because this isn't the
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most joyful piece of this part. So when you're building, Yes,
you're building, it's like I was talking about earlier. Who's
around you to support you during that building process that
can bounce ideas off or that can be objective or
subjective to what you're building. Right, very important. You have
this purpose percolating, you have these resources you're developing. It's
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pulling you into vision, creativity, planet building. The wood element
growth is growing. Trees are growing. Where do they grow?
They reach? They reach towards the sunlight. Right, they reach
towards that energy, and that's what you're reaching to. Too.
When you're in the process, that's what naturally is pulling
you into that space. And then when you find that joy,
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and again, all of this is nurturing you. All of
this is creating meaningful experiences for you. But when you
find that joy, all of a sudden, the earth element
is the element that's after the fire, and that earth
element is about nurturing. I don't know about you guys,
but when I feel joy, that's some of the most
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nurturing energy for me. When I just feel just joy,
it's so yummy. It is so yummy, and there's so
many things out there yuck are yum with this, and
it's getting harder, I think, for people to find that.
So that's why we have to stop looking externally for
resources to nurture us and to bring us joy, and
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start reaching from inside and pulling it out of us, right,
pulling that creativity building towards something, building something in our lives.
So look at those categories. So anyway, going back to
the firemuse, you have this joy, you have this exciting
and energy, and then the earth element is nurturing and
it's oh, this feels so good. I feel so happy
to be me. I feel so grateful of the things
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I have. I feel this gratitude and it's nurturing and
you just have like you're so grounded in it. And
then the cool thing after that is in the metal
element is the fifth element that's after the earth element,
and it's about value. And when you feel joy and
you have this purpose, you have this growth, you have
this building, and you're building towards something and it's nurturing
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and fulfilling to this joy, and this joy is it
makes you feel excited, it makes you feel so nurtured
and grounded. And then the metal element is about value.
And when I feel that kind of energy, it makes
me just value myself a little bit more. And the
more you value yourself and the more you value the
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things around you, it's easier to let go of the ridiculous,
stupid stuff that we've done in our past, past experiences,
things that people have done to us in the past,
how they've impacted us. It's easier to let go of
all those things. And I want to have a whole
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podcast on struggle, but that's not for today, but just
to positive for a minute on the metal element. It
is easier to let go when you have more value
in your life. I want you to think about this.
I need to pause just for a second. How much
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value do you have in your life? And let's actually
ask this from a different way. Are you holding on
to something in your life that's holding you down, holding
you back, bogging you down? The second you're Joe out
yuck and you'r yum. If you are, I suggest thinking
about how much value you have of yourself the things
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around you, and then we're going to work this thing backwards.
And I'm just curious if you are somebody right now
who's talking to yourself and your mind and you answer
that question, yes, I'm holding onto things. Oh my god,
I have so many things I can't let go of
twenty years ago. You won't believe what this person did
twenty years ago. This, I can't believe I did this
in high school. I can't believe I did. Whatever it is,
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a family member, whatever it is, you can't let go of.
If the next question was that you don't feel as
much value for yourself or value for the things in
your life, or the value for people around you, go
back to that question, what are you building in your life?
What are you building in your life? And if the
answer is I'm not building anything, and you just feel
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that stagnation. Now's the time. Let's do it. Now's the time.
Step up, get up, stand up. Move. You don't even
need to know your purpose. Let it come out of
you naturally. Just start doing, start building, start creating. Pay
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attention to see if a little bit more joy pops
in there. See if that vision turns into creativity. See
if that creativity turns into a plan. See if that
plan turns into joy. See if that joy turns into nourishment.
See if that nourishment turns into value and the purpose.
You'll find the purpose. So you don't have to make this.
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You don't have to make a big purpose statement right away.
You don't have to do that. Just what is something
that hits you in your gut? What's something that said?
What is something maybe you've been wanting to do that
you haven't been doing or building towards? And is there
a certain category in your life that you need to
spend more time in and build that I got to
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tell you sometimes it's reinventing yourself. When I was eighteen, no,
when I was nineteen, I needed to hit a freaking
giant reset button. I did so many stupid, idiotic things
in my childhood I cannot even begin to tell you.
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Some day I will if you listen to all We're
trying to hit one hundred podcasts by the end of
the year. If you listened to all one hundred, I
will share Brian's most ridiculous, one hundred stupid things he
did in his childhood to entertain you, because I promise
it'll be entertaining. And there was so much guilt and
so much stuff I had around that, and I literally
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moved to a state where I didn't know anybody. I
didn't want to know anybody. I wanted to build a
new life. I wanted to build a new identity. I
wanted to build something new. I wanted to build towards
something bigger. I wanted to build towards something greater. So
it was freaking scary, and I moved to North Carolina,
didn't know anybody, thirteen hundred dollars in my pocket. First night,
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I stayed at a hotel that had roach traps under
the sink, and there was a light bulb hanging from
a chain, and I had my little puppy and I
had to keep him on the bed and I realized
that the bed had cigarette holes burnt in the sheets,
and my awesome girlfriend at the time parents I was
talking to her, They're like, hey, we're gonna call you
back in a minute. They helped me out and they
got me three nights at their residence. End. So I
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left my hotel underneath the freeway and ventured out and
that was the beginning of building something new. It was
freaking scary. I was driving in my jeep, Gray and
Cherokee with my little puppy. I'd feed him McDonald's hamburgers
because he had a hard carriot. He deserved some good,
yummy snacks. And I went on this adventure, moving to
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somewhere where I didn't know anybody, didn't have a job.
I had a plan, a little bit of a plan,
and so some time times it's scary building something new.
But again that stuff, those things you do create such
a foundation. There's a quote purpose is a foundation of life,
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and building upon it gives shape to our dreams, strength
to our efforts, and meaning to our existence. What are
you building? I would love to hear. I'd love to
hear some of those things. And again, just continue to
challenge yourself, like where's an area in my life I
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can put energy and effort in right, where I can
have vision and creativity, where I can find joy and
purpose and nurturing and value. What are you building? All right?
I had twenty other things to say, but I feel
like that is a pretty good place to leave. So
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hopefully I did not totally butcher this thing. Again, you
guys found some joint excitement. I don't even know how
long I've been talking for. I feel like it has
blacked out for a couple of minutes and it doesn't
woke up, and I'm like, what does happened? But that
was fun? And you know what, this podcast, me doing
this by myself, just decided to pause for a minute
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and think about something to talk about because and this
is something that's going on in my life, and all
things good for you is about doing things that are
good for you, right. But it was scary for me
just to jump in here and do that, and it
might not be perfect, and there might have been so
much more wisdom or so many more ideas I could
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have brought to it, but I learned, and this has
been really helpful for me too, So I appreciate the
opportunity for me to do this, and I feel more
confident now. It looks like it's some really crappy emails.
Don't yuck, my young people, and I'm gonna do it again.
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Part of that hesitance of not hearing from us, its fair.
We can't do it. I can't do it either. We
can't do it without each other because it's scary. Right.
It might not sound smart enough or be funny enough,
and that's okay, those are just those saboteur thoughts in
the head, right, but this is building something we're building.
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We're building, So one last time, what are you building?
What are you building? All right? Thank you, guys. I
appreciate you listening to this podcast, this episode of All
Things good for you. Really appreciate you, guys, taking the
time out of your busy day. I know you have
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like we all are, just like we are all here
for each other. So thank you very much. As my
son saying, right now, peace out.
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to stay informed, responsible along your health and wellness journey
One of the main things is cainingful pursuits, and that
is a foundation to what you're building. What is meaningful
to you? What are you pursuing? What are you actively pursuing.
Think about something you've pursued before that you were so
hungry for. You're just like I gotta have it.
Speaker 2 (00:27):
Hey, friends, thank you for listening to the All Things
Good for You Podcast. Join us as we explore ancient traditions,
modern tools and practices in the world of health, wellness,
and personal development. I'm Amy Christensen, your host and your
curated mind coach, and.
Speaker 3 (00:43):
I'm your co host, Brian Bowen, founder of Integrative Health, Inc.
And Better Human Company High Performance Coaching. Are you ready
to take control of your life and start feeling enthusiastic, empowered,
and limitless each and every day for a life well lived?
Speaker 1 (00:59):
Let you're curious flow with All Things Good for You. Hello,
all of you amazing people listening to this episode of
All Things Good for You. I know some of you
might be confused right now because this isn't a normal
little good morning intro with my co host, Amy Christensen,
so she's greatly missed. Today. I'm sitting here in front
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of a mic by myself and I'm in a blabor
for a bit, so we'll see how that turns out
without her, And those of you who thought you were
going to click on Joe Rogan's episode that you are
at the wrong place, So now's your time to sign
off unless you want to get some other golden nuggets
of wisdom around personal development that maybe Joe doesn't offer.
He's a great guy, but maybe the personal development's not
there as much. Who knows. We'll see, We'll see how
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this turns out. Anyway. Holy crap, it's been a bit
and I got some things to say. First of all,
I really do appreciate you guys turning in and I've
missed doing this. Amy's busy and she's a couple podcasts
by yourself which are amazing, and we had a guest
on last week or the week before which was amazing.
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So thank you for continuing to sign in and listen
to us. Much appreciated. Okay, so I've been gone because
I have a problem, a big problem. Right I'm an addict.
So I'm just gonna say it right now, saying it
out loud. I am an addict, and my addiction is
I am addicted to building things, and maybe potato chips.
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I definitely can't have potato chips in the house, but
I do love those sweet and salty and crunchy and spicy,
yummy deliciousness. Those of you listening to have that same thing.
I'm with you will support each other, but no, I
have been addicted. I have realized I have an addiction
to building things. Some people think that I like to
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take a lot of projects on, but it's not necessarily
a project. I have an addiction to building, and I
recently was talking to some people. I don't know if
you know this, but you are a very creative person
and you like to create. And I never really necessarily
thought of it in that way. I usually think of
like creativity as somebody who can paints a beautiful, amazing
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painting or play amazing music, which I wish I could.
And I actually took Spanish guitar lessons for four years
one time, and I think my guitar instructor, Aljave, who
is amazing if you guys need to listen to some
amazing Spanish guitar oljave dot com is he's ridiculous. But
I think he was happy when I quit playing I
think he's probably never seen somebody not grow in four
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years at all. And I'd love to pick it back up,
and I've been thinking about it, but I'm so scared
I'm going to pick it back up and not even
not remember one thing that's not my genius. But I try,
and ultimately it wasn't root in purpose for me, and
I with my creativity now that I know is expressed
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through creating things. So right now I'm trying to bring
a couple products to market, which is exciting, and I
have an entrepreneurial spirit, which I love, but sometimes it
can be overwhelming. And it's been a lot of lessons
to say no to certain things, and the things that
I am saying yes to are rooted in purpose. And
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some people know immediately what their purpose is, and some
people start with a mission statement or a purpose statement,
and I think that's amazing. For me, it was almost
like I'm building, creating, and then all of a sudden,
it's like you have these ten things that you've made,
and you look and all of a sudden, that thread
of commonality of that purpose just shows up throughout the
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whole thing. So for me, I always put the cart
before the horse most often. So that's the way I
operate pretty much everything in my life. Oftentimes I feel
it from the inside, don't know how to express it necessarily,
and I just start creating things. And so that's why
I've been out for a bit. I have been in
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that world, in that space, and I had to say
now and put something down for a minute. And luckily
Amy's passion and my passion for this is definitely here.
And hopefully that resonates with some of you listening that
maybe there's some things in your life where you feel
overwhelmed and you have to look at it and is
that thing like fitting with that mission, with that purpose,
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Like how can I put something down? You know what's
put it down forever? Right? Because this podcast is definitely
in line with my purpose and with my mission. But
sometimes you have to put it in a timeout. Sometimes
you just got to be like, Okay, we're gonna put
you over here in the corner for a little bit.
We're gonna bring you back out. And if you have
a team of people that support you in your life
and the support the things you do, then you can
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do that so much easier. So I highly recommend if
you don't have a team of people that support you
and your goals, your dreams and the things that you're doing.
Start looking at the people that you surround yourself with
and the people that are in your lives, and sometimes
you have to make some tough decisions and maybe you
got to put those people in a time out too.
I actually really wanted to go back to the building
piece as a theme for today and for me, it
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is critical and it is so important to have something
that you're building towards, something that you're building in your life.
It is critical. I want to pause, okay, and I
want you to close your eyes. If you're not driving
the car, if you have to stop light, you can
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you can close your eyes just for a second. Somebody
will hunk at you when the lights when the light turns.
When the light turns, great, And I promise, and just
ask yourself, what are you building in your life? Now?
Take this out of the business world. Okay. You don't
have to be building a wellness center. You don't have
to be building a giant, brand new business. You don't
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have to be building something that generates a revenue or
some monetary thing. It can be something as far as
building better relationships building a better relationship with your spouse,
not just with your friends, right, Building and working in
something in the community, Building and changing and manifesting something
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new with the identity of who you want to become.
Building a life filled with more things that support you
in your health and wellness goals, deeper awareness, and more
intellectual and emotional intelligence. So there can be so many
different levels at what you're building. But are you building something?
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We know statistically that when people retire from a profession
that if you don't have a you know, some people
say hobbies, but I think that important hobby passions against
something you're building, however you want to phrase it. There
are some minute differences within them that people don't often
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live a long life and to be they're able to
enjoy that retirement. So statistically we know that, so we're
not here, I'll be all doom and gloom, right, But
building something now why you are alive, helps to bring
a sense of vitality and vibrancy. That's unquestionable. When I
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meet people in my life, when I meet clients, when
I meet patients, when I meet friends that have something
they're building towards, whatever category of life it fits, they
always have this intensity or this presence, and this vibrancy
and this yumminess about them. There's just something yummy. And
then when I meet people who don't have something they're
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building towards. If you're not building towards something, then there's
usually stagnation. And when they're stagnation, it bottlenecks things on
a physical level, it creates inflammation. Right on a mental level,
it creates other things, anxiety, depressions, things like that. When
somebody's stagnant, they don't have that sense of ynginess, they
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don't have that sense of vibrancy. Maybe they're harder to
connect with, harder to connect to, feel a little lost,
don't feel here, don't feel present, don't feel grounded. We
have to be compassionate with ourselves, though, and compassionate to
other people in our lives. And maybe one of a
great purpose for everybody is just to help other people
identify that thing they need to be building towards. It's important.
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So what are you building towards? What is what category?
What thing could it be? And the more you build,
Like I've built some of the most ridiculous things in
my life, and I've spent time and energy in places
that we seem super silly, seems super ridiculous. But those things, ultimately,
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whether they felt important to some people, whether they felt
ridiculous not meaningful, whether they felt like failures, or whatever
it was, they still helped build a foundation of confidence
and self worth and help me learn new skills and
practice and refine and help create something more meaningful to
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get me to these things that I'm at now. And hey,
they don't always work out. You can put a lot
of energy and effort and maybe the relationship still fails. Right,
I've done all these things and it still didn't work out.
I'm never going to try again. Now, keep building, got
to keep building. You can't stop. You stop, you die
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statistically shown as statistically proven anyway. But it's interesting because
some people know their purpose in life right away. I've
always known this, this is who I am. I've always
wanted to I've always wanted to help people. I'm all
about justice. Right for some people, they just know I
want to I want to work in that. I'm a
heartfelt person. I want to do this whatever it is,
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and being able to make sure we're Sometimes your purpose
can transcend into your career, but also not taking over
your career as your identity of purpose if you're not
really rooted in that, Like sometimes we just got to
do the thing to pay the bills and do the stuff.
Sometimes you gotta do stuff you don't want to do.
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So this isn't about you looking for a new career,
although if you're not happy and you don't have purpose
in your career, you should probably should look for a
new career because I do think we have this one
life and everything we do we should have some joined vibrancy.
And if you're not rooted in a thread of purpose
in what you do, you are disconnected from you. So
I do think it is important to check in with that.
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All right, back, I gonna get back to what I'm
here now, So let's get back to building. So this
whole thing is what are you building in your life?
What are you building towards? And Brendan Burchard in one
of his in his Growth Triangle, he has one of
the main things is meaningful pursuits, and that is a
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foundation to what you're building. What is meaningful to you?
What are you pursuing, what are you actively pursuing. Think
about something you've pursued before, that you were so hungry for.
You're just like, I gotta have it. For some people,
maybe it was like I had a buddy of mine,
I want to qualify for the Iron Man Hawaii and
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he wouldn't stop you. He was just fricking crazy man,
just wouldn't stop. It probably took him fifteen years, but
guess what he qualified for that. But there was a hunger,
there was this thing that was a driving force. Maybe
for some of you, you resonate with or your partner
first time you saw them, laid eyes on him, and
you're like, oh my gosh, there's something here. There's something
magical sparkles. I need this, and there's a hunger and
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there's this desire and there's this passion and there's this
burning desire to go after it and you're giving it
your all and you're fixing your hair like you've never
fixed your hair before, and you're doing all the things right,
whatever those things. It could be what is something that
you've had that for, Because the meaningful pursuits are the
driving factors for the things that you're building. I'm gonna
go with Chinese five elements for you guys for a second.
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All right, five elements. The reason I bring this up
is we're talking about building, and in Chinese medicine there
there's five different elements. And I just love this model
because it just fits fricking everything in life. So the
wood element is where there's the vision and the insights.
You're just like, ah, I feel it, I see it,
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I need to do this, And then it goes into
the building. So there's a plan and you start building it.
But the element before the wood element that nurtures that
wood element is water, and water is about purpose and resources.
And so it's just interesting that philosophically, psychology, personal development,
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like these principles are still here too. Right, you have
to be rooted in purpose and things come from that
you might not be able to identify. You might be
like me, I do things backwards. I put the cart
before the horse. So the wood element gets its nourishment
and fuel from the purpose and the resources of that
of the water element. Okay, and so that nurtures your roots. Right,
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So the purpose is percolating up. It's percolating, percolating, percolating,
percolating and percolated. So ah, and all of a sudden
you start having this Wow, I just had this thought.
I just had this idea, this vision, this dream, I
just had this whatever it is, whatever, that thing that
just gotcha. Hey wait, And then neuropathways start creating this
building path of like how you're going to get it done?
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What do you see? And you start working on the
details of it, and so all of a sudden, you've
designed and built this whole amazing thing. But there's something
when it's fueled by purpose that you just can't stop.
You just can't stop it. You don't question it, you
feel it, but to be true to yourself, to your purpose,
and the vision is there and you start planning, and
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again you can't stop, and it just takes you. Right,
it's controlling and guiding and pulling you. But the cooling
is the element that's after the wood element is the
fire element. And the fire element is about desire, right,
It's got passion, it's got vitality, it's got that spark,
and it's got joy. And you're fueled by purpose and
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when it's pulling you into vision, creativity, planning and building,
and all of a sudden, you're like, oh my god,
I love this. There's that joy, there's that excitement, there's
a thrill. There's that vitality, there's an essence of yumminess
to start sparking out right, just lighten you up. People
see it on your face. Sometimes if you build too much,
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they also I'll see exact but it's so weird. I
can be really tired, but there's still this joy of
doing it and pulling me forward, even though sometimes you
can get stressed out because of all the mundane stuff
you have to do of emails or whatever it might be.
And that's when you stop and you're like, Okay, who
can help me with this part? Because this isn't the
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most joyful piece of this part. So when you're building, Yes,
you're building, it's like I was talking about earlier. Who's
around you to support you during that building process that
can bounce ideas off or that can be objective or
subjective to what you're building. Right, very important. You have
this purpose percolating, you have these resources you're developing. It's
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pulling you into vision, creativity, planet building. The wood element
growth is growing. Trees are growing. Where do they grow?
They reach? They reach towards the sunlight. Right, they reach
towards that energy, and that's what you're reaching to. Too.
When you're in the process, that's what naturally is pulling
you into that space. And then when you find that joy,
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and again, all of this is nurturing you. All of
this is creating meaningful experiences for you. But when you
find that joy, all of a sudden, the earth element
is the element that's after the fire, and that earth
element is about nurturing. I don't know about you guys,
but when I feel joy, that's some of the most
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nurturing energy for me. When I just feel just joy,
it's so yummy. It is so yummy, and there's so
many things out there yuck are yum with this, and
it's getting harder, I think, for people to find that.
So that's why we have to stop looking externally for
resources to nurture us and to bring us joy, and
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start reaching from inside and pulling it out of us, right,
pulling that creativity building towards something, building something in our lives.
So look at those categories. So anyway, going back to
the firemuse, you have this joy, you have this exciting
and energy, and then the earth element is nurturing and
it's oh, this feels so good. I feel so happy
to be me. I feel so grateful of the things
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I have. I feel this gratitude and it's nurturing and
you just have like you're so grounded in it. And
then the cool thing after that is in the metal
element is the fifth element that's after the earth element,
and it's about value. And when you feel joy and
you have this purpose, you have this growth, you have
this building, and you're building towards something and it's nurturing
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and fulfilling to this joy, and this joy is it
makes you feel excited, it makes you feel so nurtured
and grounded. And then the metal element is about value.
And when I feel that kind of energy, it makes
me just value myself a little bit more. And the
more you value yourself and the more you value the
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things around you, it's easier to let go of the ridiculous,
stupid stuff that we've done in our past, past experiences,
things that people have done to us in the past,
how they've impacted us. It's easier to let go of
all those things. And I want to have a whole
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podcast on struggle, but that's not for today, but just
to positive for a minute on the metal element. It
is easier to let go when you have more value
in your life. I want you to think about this.
I need to pause just for a second. How much
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value do you have in your life? And let's actually
ask this from a different way. Are you holding on
to something in your life that's holding you down, holding
you back, bogging you down? The second you're Joe out
yuck and you'r yum. If you are, I suggest thinking
about how much value you have of yourself the things
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around you, and then we're going to work this thing backwards.
And I'm just curious if you are somebody right now
who's talking to yourself and your mind and you answer
that question, yes, I'm holding onto things. Oh my god,
I have so many things I can't let go of
twenty years ago. You won't believe what this person did
twenty years ago. This, I can't believe I did this
in high school. I can't believe I did. Whatever it is,
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a family member, whatever it is, you can't let go of.
If the next question was that you don't feel as
much value for yourself or value for the things in
your life, or the value for people around you, go
back to that question, what are you building in your life?
What are you building in your life? And if the
answer is I'm not building anything, and you just feel
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that stagnation. Now's the time. Let's do it. Now's the time.
Step up, get up, stand up. Move. You don't even
need to know your purpose. Let it come out of
you naturally. Just start doing, start building, start creating. Pay
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attention to see if a little bit more joy pops
in there. See if that vision turns into creativity. See
if that creativity turns into a plan. See if that
plan turns into joy. See if that joy turns into nourishment.
See if that nourishment turns into value and the purpose.
You'll find the purpose. So you don't have to make this.
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You don't have to make a big purpose statement right away.
You don't have to do that. Just what is something
that hits you in your gut? What's something that said?
What is something maybe you've been wanting to do that
you haven't been doing or building towards? And is there
a certain category in your life that you need to
spend more time in and build that I got to
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tell you sometimes it's reinventing yourself. When I was eighteen, no,
when I was nineteen, I needed to hit a freaking
giant reset button. I did so many stupid, idiotic things
in my childhood I cannot even begin to tell you.
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Some day I will if you listen to all We're
trying to hit one hundred podcasts by the end of
the year. If you listened to all one hundred, I
will share Brian's most ridiculous, one hundred stupid things he
did in his childhood to entertain you, because I promise
it'll be entertaining. And there was so much guilt and
so much stuff I had around that, and I literally
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moved to a state where I didn't know anybody. I
didn't want to know anybody. I wanted to build a
new life. I wanted to build a new identity. I
wanted to build something new. I wanted to build towards
something bigger. I wanted to build towards something greater. So
it was freaking scary, and I moved to North Carolina,
didn't know anybody, thirteen hundred dollars in my pocket. First night,
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I stayed at a hotel that had roach traps under
the sink, and there was a light bulb hanging from
a chain, and I had my little puppy and I
had to keep him on the bed and I realized
that the bed had cigarette holes burnt in the sheets,
and my awesome girlfriend at the time parents I was
talking to her, They're like, hey, we're gonna call you
back in a minute. They helped me out and they
got me three nights at their residence. End. So I
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left my hotel underneath the freeway and ventured out and
that was the beginning of building something new. It was
freaking scary. I was driving in my jeep, Gray and
Cherokee with my little puppy. I'd feed him McDonald's hamburgers
because he had a hard carriot. He deserved some good,
yummy snacks. And I went on this adventure, moving to
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somewhere where I didn't know anybody, didn't have a job.
I had a plan, a little bit of a plan,
and so some time times it's scary building something new.
But again that stuff, those things you do create such
a foundation. There's a quote purpose is a foundation of life,
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and building upon it gives shape to our dreams, strength
to our efforts, and meaning to our existence. What are
you building? I would love to hear. I'd love to
hear some of those things. And again, just continue to
challenge yourself, like where's an area in my life I
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can put energy and effort in right, where I can
have vision and creativity, where I can find joy and
purpose and nurturing and value. What are you building? All right?
I had twenty other things to say, but I feel
like that is a pretty good place to leave. So
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hopefully I did not totally butcher this thing. Again, you
guys found some joint excitement. I don't even know how
long I've been talking for. I feel like it has
blacked out for a couple of minutes and it doesn't
woke up, and I'm like, what does happened? But that
was fun? And you know what, this podcast, me doing
this by myself, just decided to pause for a minute
(25:19):
and think about something to talk about because and this
is something that's going on in my life, and all
things good for you is about doing things that are
good for you, right. But it was scary for me
just to jump in here and do that, and it
might not be perfect, and there might have been so
much more wisdom or so many more ideas I could
(25:40):
have brought to it, but I learned, and this has
been really helpful for me too, So I appreciate the
opportunity for me to do this, and I feel more
confident now. It looks like it's some really crappy emails.
Don't yuck, my young people, and I'm gonna do it again.
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Part of that hesitance of not hearing from us, its fair.
We can't do it. I can't do it either. We
can't do it without each other because it's scary. Right.
It might not sound smart enough or be funny enough,
and that's okay, those are just those saboteur thoughts in
the head, right, but this is building something we're building.
(26:23):
We're building, So one last time, what are you building?
What are you building? All right? Thank you, guys. I
appreciate you listening to this podcast, this episode of All
Things good for you. Really appreciate you, guys, taking the
time out of your busy day. I know you have
(26:44):
a lot going on too, and please, as always, share
this podcast with somebody that you care about, right, help
spread the word like us, do all the things that
on social media you're supposed to do. You know what
you're supposed to do. I don't because I'm terrible at it,
but I just know that if you like it and
you leave a review, it somehow helps us and we
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are here to help people, and we're helping people through
our own trials, through own tribulations, through our own struggles,
through own pain, and through own successes through being human
like we all are, just like we are all here
for each other. So thank you very much. As my
son saying, right now, peace out.
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