September 30, 2024 • 47 mins
EP 83 Letting Go
In this episode of the All Things Good for You podcast, hosts Amy Christensen and Brian Bowen delve into the empowering process of letting go. They discuss the importance of releasing control, flexible planning, and emotional freedom. Through personal anecdotes and practical advice, they explore how to align energetically with life, overcome childhood conditioning, and create a healthier mindset. Tune in for an insightful conversation on finding balance between tenacity and surrender, and creating more 'yum' moments by letting go of 'yuck' feelings. Whether it's shifting expectations, letting go of past stories, or simply living in the moment, this episode aims to help you achieve a stress-free and fulfilling life.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to the Podcast
00:52 Hosts' Casual Conversation
01:34 Setting the Theme: Letting Go
04:02 Exploring the Concept of Letting Go
07:49 Personal Stories and Reflections
11:20 Deeper Insights into Letting Go
18:36 Analyzing Personal Growth
20:26 Changing Personal Narratives
23:07 Balancing Drive and Letting Go
24:36 The Burden of Overthinking and Control
25:24 Embracing Uncertainty and Letting Go
28:22 The Power of Process Over Results
30:00 The Art and Struggle of Letting Go
31:43 Somatic Coaching Techniques
34:13 Aligning with Your True Self
37:14 Practical Steps to Letting Go
44:56 Final Thoughts and Encouragement
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In this episode of the All Things Good for You podcast, hosts Amy Christensen and Brian Bowen delve into the empowering process of letting go. They discuss the importance of releasing control, flexible planning, and emotional freedom. Through personal anecdotes and practical advice, they explore how to align energetically with life, overcome childhood conditioning, and create a healthier mindset. Tune in for an insightful conversation on finding balance between tenacity and surrender, and creating more 'yum' moments by letting go of 'yuck' feelings. Whether it's shifting expectations, letting go of past stories, or simply living in the moment, this episode aims to help you achieve a stress-free and fulfilling life.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to the Podcast
00:52 Hosts' Casual Conversation
01:34 Setting the Theme: Letting Go
04:02 Exploring the Concept of Letting Go
07:49 Personal Stories and Reflections
11:20 Deeper Insights into Letting Go
18:36 Analyzing Personal Growth
20:26 Changing Personal Narratives
23:07 Balancing Drive and Letting Go
24:36 The Burden of Overthinking and Control
25:24 Embracing Uncertainty and Letting Go
28:22 The Power of Process Over Results
30:00 The Art and Struggle of Letting Go
31:43 Somatic Coaching Techniques
34:13 Aligning with Your True Self
37:14 Practical Steps to Letting Go
44:56 Final Thoughts and Encouragement
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/all-things-good-for-you--4972263/support.
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Speaker 1 (00:05):
Letting those things go, allowing your body to actually energetically
align with the process. Man, it is so freeing and
healing and empowering.
Speaker 2 (00:17):
Hey, friends, thank you for listening to the All Things Good.
Speaker 1 (00:20):
For You Podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
Join us as we explore ancient traditions, modern tools and
practices in the world of health, wellness, and personal development.
I'm Amy Christensen, your host and your curated mind coach.
Speaker 3 (00:33):
And I'm your co host Brian Bowen, founder of Integrative Health, Inc.
And Better Human Company High Performance Coaching. Are you ready
to take control of your life and start feeling enthusiastic, empowered,
and limitless each and every day for a life well lived?
Let your curiosity flow with all.
Speaker 1 (00:52):
Things Good for You.
Speaker 3 (00:54):
Good morning, Brian, Good morning, and happy Tuesday. It's a
weird and then doing this on a Tuesday morning, but
how exciting.
Speaker 1 (01:05):
That's because somebody was so busy over the weekend. We
had to do it on Tuesday at the crack of dawn.
Speaker 3 (01:12):
That was me and my fault. I'm sorry. We go
to the mountains to hang out with a friend and
took one on a four wheel drive jeep trail and
the leaves were off the charts.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
Hey, I'm never gonna I'm never gonna give you guilt,
honest guilt about going to the mountains and having a getaway.
Speaker 3 (01:31):
That's amazing.
Speaker 1 (01:33):
Yeah. Yeah, So I think sometimes we have all these
We often plan, we have a set time, and we
have a vision and a dream, and we could say
maybe a soft expectation of what we'd like to see
done with our week and our schedule and our podcast,
and we try to record on particular days, and sometimes
it works out, and sometimes we have to be a
(01:55):
little flexible.
Speaker 3 (01:58):
I had my to do list of all kinds of things,
and I just had to put it down and let
go of that thing for the day to allow space
for something else to happen. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:07):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (02:07):
And to see how I'm working that maybe secret theme
in that we're going to talk about today.
Speaker 1 (02:12):
I see how I set us up really well for that.
Speaker 3 (02:16):
You did do that. You totally did tee that up
to get into my subconscious brain to then trigger that
next thing that's going to trigger your next thing.
Speaker 1 (02:26):
Because I have a plan and I'm sticking to it. No,
what is your plan to make you talk a lot
about what we're talking about today? No, I don't have
a plan. I'm not that I wish I was. There's
parts of my life where I probably would have been
more quote unquote successful at things if I was really
(02:46):
good at manipulating people. But I am not. Because one,
I don't think that's a healthy way to be. It's
just not a It's not a value of mine. And
I don't know that I like to put hard. I
don't want to say manipulation or even expectations, because I
do have expectations, but I don't like to shove people
(03:07):
all the time. Let me recreate rephrases.
Speaker 3 (03:10):
I think our podcast is turning get no, I don't
like that.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
I'm just saying that a lot of times we are
with the context of what we're going to talk about today,
it can come in a lot of different realms. And
I think the process of having these ideas and thoughts
and what we want to have happen and what we
want things to look like, whether that's life or a job,
(03:35):
or a conversation or a relationship or a career process,
I think turn out the way we pushed it to.
And I think that leads into just what we're talking
about today. And I'm just gonna I'm going to reveal
the secret the secret topic of today because nobody looked
at what it was before they listen to the podcast.
Speaker 3 (03:56):
But the topic of today, what's under the hood.
Speaker 1 (04:01):
Yeah, we got it. How do you let things go?
How do you work in the process of letting go
or putting things down and shifting those expectations. We've touched
on this a little bit before, but I think we're
going to take it a little deeper today.
Speaker 3 (04:18):
Yeah. Yeah, it's interesting because there are many layers to
that and working with people, whether it's working with acupuncture
and things like that, there's some common themes that show
up for people, like the majority of people are constantly overthinking,
over worrying. There's lots of psychological things going on, lots
(04:39):
of stresses, lots of stuff, and working with different therapists
around the idea of putting some things down, of letting go,
of working with mindset stuff where your mind's not over
controlling where who's driving the bus right, who's in charge,
the saboteurs, the thoughts of condition, all these things that
we've talked about. There's so many layers and working with
(05:01):
different therapists and hearing different perspectives. Sometimes I'm a firm
believer like epigenetics and genetics, where we have these condition
learned responses and then we have these deeper layers of stuff,
and even like energetically, and some people go back to
most of our things are built, and the stories that
we're telling ourselves go back to childhood and you have
(05:23):
to always go back there. But I also firmly believe
we are still creating stories and all the time. And
I think it's important to understand everything that's happening in
our lives right now. If we really look at it,
we can see on the surface what's really deeper, What
are some of these driving things underneath that surface layer?
(05:44):
So how we act, how we react, and how we
also take a non action. Those are three big things
to stop and pause and go, Okay, wait, is what's
going on here? And is there a story or is
there something story that I need to let go of
that I've told myself that it's driving this beaver And
sometimes we need to keep Sometimes the stories are really
(06:06):
great for us because we are learning and evolveve too,
So it gets tricky on what's going on, what do
we want to hold on to, what do we want
to let go of? And then yeah, we can. I'm
going to let you take it from that. I said
that some.
Speaker 1 (06:18):
Stuff out, but I think, yeah, so I like that
the three you're let's review those ours, the response, reaction,
and non action, right, and I all of this ties
into okay, you do have to create a practice of
self reflection and as far as letting go, right, when
(06:39):
do you know you should let go of something? Because
I learned from childhood to be very tenacious, and I
think sometimes my tenaciousness works out in my favor. How
do you balance that drive and assertiveness and gold driven
(07:01):
you know, space, how do you balance that with letting
things go when they're not working out, identifying when the
push has become a struggle too far? However, I and
that I don't believe life is just supposed to be
an easy floating river. I'm a big proponent or a
big supporter of resiliency and grit, digging in and working hard,
(07:22):
pushing through the uncomfortableness. How much of that do we know?
When do we recognize this is not aligning and moving forward?
It's time to just release this And that careful balance
of releasing the control during those moments of push through,
it's very tricky. It can be a struggle to recognize
(07:47):
that delicate balance.
Speaker 3 (07:50):
Yeah, I think there's I think going back to what
you were starting in your earlier part of this amazing
podcast of All Things Good for You, there was you know,
you're into some friction. And there's a term I've said
it over and over in many podcasts, wuwey and wuwey
is effortless movement, right, and in that space, you don't
(08:10):
have the friction. And I think we have to look
at our life experiences and I'm just going to break
it down. I'm going to steal something my wife mentioned.
In a different context. You would always say, don't yuck
my yum, and so I'm just going to take the
words yuck and yum and we're going to I think,
let's just simplify this. Whatever your situation is, wherever you
(08:32):
are currently at, does it feel like a yuck or
does it feel like a yum? And then in that
what noise what friction is there? So if you're feeling
a yuck, whether it's in a personal relationship, whether it
is the things you have to tackle in your day,
whether it is a conversation with a family member, whatever,
(08:54):
if there's a yak. There's often a friction. Again, you
can look at a situation. Let's say there's somebody need
to talk to and there's a yuck there. There's just
a general I don't want to talk to them for
whatever reason. So either a sometimes you make a choice
to not call that person. You're just like, I'm just
gonna avoid them because there's pain and discomfort in that yuck. Right,
(09:16):
there's suckiness, and so there's friction. Or you can be
reactive and not have the best form of communication towards
that person, right, or send them a nasty text or
whatever it issue might be doing, or there's action in it,
and so you have these different ways of engagement and
(09:37):
so it's okay, first of all, let's just recognize is
there a yuck in this circumstance, whatever that circumstance might be.
Then you can pause and go, okay, why is that?
Here's why. Let's sustainize a little bit more. Okay, how
does that make me feel?
Speaker 1 (09:51):
Oh?
Speaker 3 (09:52):
I just feel irritated because they never listen to me.
So that's why I don't want to call them, because
they just take over the airwaves and they're selfish and whatever.
Just this might be a real story that I'm telling
your real life experience, so you can make the choice.
Part of you might want to be not take non
action and just avoid them, and then you're like, wait,
why am I doing this? Okay, here's why I'm doing it,
(10:13):
Here's how it makes me feel. When did I experience
a feeling like that with this person? Or when can
I go back to a time where I felt that?
And then what am I going to do? Like? How
can I change the circumstance. I went from maybe my
personal story, maybe this is a true story on taking
non action of avoidance, realizing there was a yuck there,
realizing why, realizing how it made me feel when this started,
(10:38):
and then what am I going to do about it?
So I went from non action to action and decided
set my intention on having a good open communication with
this person and telling them, hey man, here's just one
of you know, we haven't talked for a while, and
I've just realized one of the reasons why is it
made me? I feel like I'm not being heard, there's
not engagement. I don't feel like you care about what's
(11:00):
going on in my world. I don't feel lead and
I would love I love our friendship. Here's how I'd
like to see this workout, Here's how I'd like to
see a change. But I could have easily have got
stuck in the yuck part, held onto it right, not
let go. And so letting go doesn't mean you just
quit it. I just let it go insturmenter to the
(11:22):
world and whatever may happen. That can be true for
sure in some circumstances. In this circumstance, I had to
let go of that really intense yuck scenario situation story,
I could have stayed stuck in that part and just
never took action and had the friendship dissolve. Right, Or
(11:44):
we can let go of those feelings I was having
let go and open up to the possibility of this
can work out. Let go of that stagnant emotion and
be like, hey, no, I still want this. I want
to find some joy in this, I want to reconnect,
I want to do this and allow that other stuff
to blossom, and then change your course of action to
make that happen. So there's not always non action in
(12:07):
letting go. There's still very much action in letting go
at least. And again, this can get very philosophical as well.
And depending on what therapy you might be doing or
not what therapy you might not be doing. We could
talk about this forever from different perspectives.
Speaker 1 (12:23):
Sure, there's so many levels of even just that conversation
of what aspect of control do you have? You cannot
control how another person behaves or reacts to a scenario.
What you can control is your level of participation in that,
(12:44):
and you can look at Okay, what you can control
the sphere of control is literally just you. You can let
go of your interaction with this person and your need
to have an interaction or friendship. You can let go
of that. You could like go of the need to
be expressed and say, you know what, this is just
the way this person works. I value this person in
(13:06):
so many other ways. Can I let go of mine
want to be heard? I'm just taking again this situation
that you explain. Can I let go of getting in
and expecting this person or wanting this person to give
me acknowledgment and time and space. Can I just love
them for who they are and just be like, all right,
I'm just gonna let go of that. Or can you
let go of the fear of if you express a
(13:29):
need to this person and they say no or they
don't honor it. Can you let go of that relationship
or that friendship? Can we let go of the deeper
level of Can I let go of what's coming up
for me in this space of the yuckiness of why
this person isn't hearing me? What emotions are coming up
in me? Is that I'm not validated, I'm not worthy,
(13:53):
I'm important, I'm not hurt enough. Me expressing and being
heard is going to make a difference for me? What
am I getting out of the need to be expressed
or heard in this person's scenario? If I let go
of that, if I let go of what is me
coming up in this scenario? Where do I go with
that relationship? So just to your point, like where do
(14:15):
you start? And really it starts with one like how
deep do you want to be in this what's your
long term expectation for this friendship and person? I literally
went through this scenario with a friend not very long ago,
and it's really been about an eight month process of
kind of me stepping back and going okay, I can
(14:37):
analyze maybe where they're coming from or not coming from,
and how they've continued to show up or not show
up in a relationship, a friendship and the interaction that's
happening around that, What is my part in that? What
am I needing or getting or thinking I was needing
or getting from that relationship? That if I let go
(14:59):
of those things, where does that leave me? And realizing
that there was an aspect of me that was getting
almost a codependent relationship in there, that if I let
that go and I let that person just be that person,
but also honor my boundaries and honor what I need
in a level of friendship that this was, and being
(15:22):
okay with the expectations even if it's sad, even if
it's a little hurtful, and then really truly just allowing
that person to be that person and loving them and
letting them be and recognizing there's maybe a season or
a time or that was a good friendship and we
were maybe building some unhealthy friendship relationship there, and then
(15:43):
giving some time and ends up slowly opening in the
door again and having honest, healthy communication, letting go of
the idea of controllable outcomes and controllable expectations of a friendship,
being able to be honest and kind and compassionate with
(16:04):
that person, but also honor what I was seeing and feeling.
That level of communication actually just rebuilt the friendship, giving
it time and not being attached to a forced relationship
with somebody, because was that space of how invested do
I need to be? And if this person can't show
(16:25):
up in this way, do I really need to be
constantly getting into the yuck? Right? Even if there was
a lot of young in our friendship, but the space
of letting all of that go allowed me to again
be self reflective of wow, I was probably getting a
little bit of an unhealthy attachment to this person was
(16:46):
like a little sister to me, and I found out
that over a long period of time I built somewhat
of an unhealthy not like an unkind er boss, but
I had felt like this dependency on her to be
the big sister, to be this voice of I hate
(17:06):
to say wisdom, but sharing an insight and advice and
dependability that she came to depend on me and I
became reliant on it. It made me feel very good
and important and needed, and the recognition of the slightly
codependency of that friendship was hard but also very freeing
(17:33):
for me to go, Okay, this is probably not where
this friendship needs to grow, and I need to let
go of that space and I need to let her
be her. And turns out eight months later there's some
stuff about me that needed to be expressed to her
and it was very receiving and there was some clarity
(17:53):
that came around, and I think now our friendship is
probably stronger than it's ever been, and it's a friendship,
not a me being a big sister and her leaning
into me, always looking for answers. So the process of
letting it go on all these different levels really led
to a more pure and yummy friendship. But it was
(18:21):
not easy. It was not easy, and it was not
without guilt or fear and sadness.
Speaker 3 (18:27):
So yeah, but there's a YOUTM now, Yeah, there absolutely,
And it's interesting because obviously we just went through a
circumstance in both of those scenaries of a relationship. But
I always think that the the letting go of things
within ourselves that are affecting or driving our emotions is
(18:49):
really intriguing. When we talk to people on a regular basis,
where we stopped to look at our own stuff, that's
some of the hard stuff. And it's so crazy how
a lot of it. You've heard many people talk about this,
it's like crazy stuff from your childhood. I still can't
let go of that, or there's still like this immense
guilt around things you did then, And as an adult,
(19:10):
we still create some of those stories and some of
those thoughts and emotions that we hang on to as well.
But I feel like I certainly process those, and I
think I'm equipped with more skills now and more knowledge
to handle some of those. But it is amazing what
people still carry forward from their stories that they have
(19:32):
our struggle with that is creating a lot of friction
currently still in their lives. And I know some of
those stories, like I said, can be amazing and drivers
for us and lessons that we've learned, but sometimes they
can be destructive and not the best situation for us.
And it's okay when we're ready to evolve. And I
like how you said again there's different layers of letting
(19:55):
go within those circumstances and those relationships that you were
talking about, And I do agree whether you take it
at the surface level first of maybe the action reaction
on action and just like look at it, how things
are showing up and is there friction or not versus
going deeper, and what is that story really about? Is
it not feeling worthy? Is it not feeling valued? Is
(20:18):
it not feeling loved? Is it not feeling safe? Is
it not feeling like all those things I think are
super critical, But you sometimes you got to start at
that other surface area. And I was telling you a
story earlier when my late teens and early twenties, I
definitely especially late teens, just made some poor choices and
felt a lot of shame and guilt and lack of
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accomplishments and just things for my life, lessons that I
think were built upon a foundation of life circumstances we
don't need to get into even before that, and so
it just seemed like there was a phase where it
was just like, oh my god, if something could happen,
I felt like it was happening to me when I
remember building the story literally verbiage around that story of
(21:01):
I'm just rolling with the punches, and so I was
like I was waiting and ready for the next thing
just to hit me. And so it was like I
became that went to that victim of self where all
this was that fricking stories that were built upon that
I wasn't letting go of, and I was just holding
and there was so much friction, and I was very
(21:23):
forceful in some of those decisions, and so that I
finally it was like emotionally rock bottom, if you will.
You just couldn't take anymore. And I changed my own
story and I was like, screw that, I'm not going
to roll with the punches anymore. And so I started
like really grinding and then started changing my storyline and
(21:44):
let go of some of that other stuff and kind
of built a new model that was working well for me.
That was, and I kept my motto was I'm not
done yet. I'm not done yet. I'm not done yet.
So that was I took something and turned it into
a driving force for me. But then you have to stop.
And I still like that kind of energy of I'm
not done yet. But then it's all Sometimes you still
feel like you're grinding. I'm not done yet, but it's
(22:07):
the fuck I'm getting. You get a little tired of grinding. Ay,
it's wait, can you put down that? Can you still
have the energy of something that you learn from the story,
you change it, You've turned it into a driver for yourself.
But then you realize, hey, this driver is still a
lot of energy and effort and maximum output. That is,
(22:29):
there's still like some friction in there, right, there's still
the yuck. Might not feel the same kind of yuk
as far as some of those thoughts or behaviors I
was having that maybe the yuck is just exhausted. Maybe
the u it's okay, wait, why is there not wuweh?
And you've probably met some people in your life that
it's just, oh my god, it just seems so effortless
(22:50):
for them. Every stroke of the brush turns into a
masterpiece and it looks so, you know, effortless. And I'm
sure again everybody's got their own struggles. But it's okay.
So where's there an uppportunity for me to put down?
Is it time for me to put down that I'm
not done yet story? Is it time for me to
let that go? And as Laotze said, when I let
go of what I am, I become what I might be.
(23:14):
So I built the story of this what I am now, right,
So is it time for me to let go of
that and just put it down and allow what I
can become what I might be just naturally evolve and
again I'm with you, I feel and again this is
a mindset. I feel like you have to have some grid.
I feel like you got to grind. And that's how
(23:34):
I was raised though too. I came from an environment
where I have had many step dads, and I had
many I didn't feel like I had a support system
in place. I didn't have some of those things I needed.
So I had the grind and create and not rely
on people and do my own stuff and figure it
out and work hard and just recap again, like where
(23:58):
the story can change? And is that story? When has
it scerbd you to a certain level? And then it's
wait a second, is it? Sometimes it holds a special
place and then it's okay, Now it's time for me
to evolve and move on. And I have to let
go of that to allow that becoming the next thing
to just be. And I feel like that's really where
I'm at in life, and I really need to actually
(24:21):
besides just talk about it. Maybe this is a therapy
session now for myself and need to like put it
down a little bit because I've been putting the things
in place, and it's in. Yes, you still have to
have action, Yes you still have to have these things,
but sometimes it's time to evolve into that next piece
and sometimes you have to put the other stuff down
(24:42):
on my co and people with clients again, when we
talk about people and you can just tell, oh, do
you overthink, you overworry? Just okay, Well, what are the
pause that doesn't feel great, that seems exhausting? Yes, okay,
there's some yuck there. What is it that is that
you're holding onto? And again a lot of that turns
to be in control in some other mechanisms. What is
(25:03):
it that isn't an opportunity for you to put something
down and just let go so you don't feel freaking
burnt out, exhausted, so you can get a better night sleeps,
Your mind's not racing, so your your sympathetic nervous systems
not freaking on fire all the time? Right, Like, how
can progress and move forward and find more yum in
your life?
Speaker 1 (25:21):
Everybody needs a little more yummy in their life. I
think there's it becomes a process of whatever your faith based,
whatever you put your rock on, your foundation on, it
does take a leap of faith to just go take
a breath and step back and say, what if all
(25:44):
that I'm fighting for in this thing that I want
or this idea that I had. What if it looks
very different? What if I let go of a dream?
What if I let go of how I thought something
should be done or how somebody else needs to behave
or what this job career was opposed to to look like,
or my success level is this? What if it's different?
(26:05):
What if you stop? And that can be very scary
for people, Like if you've spent your life having a
dream or an expectation or a want and something you've
really invested in and pushed for, and taking a minute
to let that go can be It really can be
a hard shocking space to your heart, to your knowing
(26:25):
of what's real. But I think, oh, just.
Speaker 3 (26:31):
Exactly what you're saying. That Cart totally said. Sometimes letting
things go is an act of far greater power than
defending or hanging on. Yeah, that's exactly what you're saying.
Speaker 1 (26:40):
Yeah, you really just have to look at who you
really are and who you really what you really believe
in and put your faith and trust and balance and
what is your foundation if everything goes away, if everything
if the marriage fails, Not ever wishing that on anybody
it's awful when love and trust diminishes and is gone,
(27:07):
if the career path that you've invested so much time
and effort money into is halted and you're left with nothing,
or the devastation of somebody who's lost their home, their health,
Like you've spent your whole life being one way and
then in a short period of time it suddenly becomes
something different with seemingly out of your control. What who
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are you when you show up in those moments? Who
do you choose to be? And where do you place
your worth and your level of success? Where is your
safety coming from? Ultimately, if everything financially is taken away
from you, if a person that you depended on for
something is gone, where and who are you? And that's
(27:51):
it is a very it can be in the moments,
very scary. But I think if we can allow ourself
to think that way and to get into those moments
and ask ourselves who are we going to choose to be?
That creates such a strength that none of those things,
scenarios or moments can give us reassurance. Those things are
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just outward experiences and reflections of moments in time. But
it doesn't necessarily mean it's who you are. If you
look at a real person of wealth and people who've
made millions of dollars and lost millions of dollars, and
then they just rebuild it again, because it's like they'll say,
it's not the business, it's not the money, it's the
knowing of the process. And once you know the system
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or the process, you can rebuild that over and over again,
so they don't lose their mind because their success and
their value wasn't placed in the end result of a
bank account number, or a house or an ideal image
of a marriage and relationship. It was the process of
what created it. And I think part of letting go
is trusting the process and it's not the end's result.
Speaker 3 (29:02):
Yeah, I think that struggle. It's so much of this
other stuff. We've put so much energy into building the
story of who we are, and even if you didn't
put the energy in something tragic happens, it's still very palpable.
And even from an early age, we spend so much
time and energy in our actions and things that we're
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doing to create who we are, and then you have
this big, palpable sense of things, these are real life
things that are here and then but the opposite of
that of letting go, it's like a destruction. It feels
like scary because the feels like a destruction or so
much time and energy and effort, and you've had these
real life circumstances happen, and then to have this other
(29:47):
side of it about what is letting go and what
am I going to lose? Or what am I going
to again Brendan talks about lost pain, what am I
giving up? And there's not a palpable sense of the
reward of that until, like you said, you have it.
It's like meditation. When you first start meditating, there's so
much friction, there's so much and then people typically when
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they start say, you know what, I can't do it.
I don't have those skills or I can't do that,
and it's oh no, it's a process. And once you
get there, you have a flagon in the ground and
you can always get there, and so then you have
the experience of what meditation can bring or what that
essence of it is, and then you always have that
process to get back there. Exactly what you're saying is
(30:30):
when you have an experience of letting go of something
and you see the reward of that and you see
what you gain a palpable sense of what's on the
other side. Then it's oh, I can do this, and
then I can work on something else to let go of,
and then it's just like anything, there's an art to
(30:51):
mastering it. Even though letting go just seems like we'll
just let go, and like, how do you just let go? Okay,
there is a process to you letting go. I think
we do over simplify it when we're when we hear
about it or we coach, we're coaching somebody, man, you
know you really need to let go of that. That's
not really great for you. Well, how do you let go? Okay?
Maybe we should need to spend more time in that process.
(31:13):
But when you do it, and there is the reward,
whether it's the reconnection with that relationship or moving beyond
some mental friction with yourself because you were able to
find peace and something that you are harboring, that skill
builds and you're like, okay, I can get there again.
I can do this. This is what the reward is.
This is what it's not necessary. Like a cart TOOLI
he doesn't let go of everything, and he's like, fully enlightened,
(31:36):
like that's there, but how do you do that? I
don't be home on a park bench.
Speaker 1 (31:41):
At bottom too. No. And I love this because it
literally came up in a coaching call and it was
the space of me walking somebody through. And a lot
of times when I'm doing coaching, I'll bring in the
somatic process of having them just close their eyes and
bring up the problem, talk about the anngst, the frustration,
(32:01):
the friction that they're feeling, what the scenario is around
and what they want that to be and what they're
looking for, and then to say, and if you just
if you didn't have that, if that relationship ended, if
that job didn't come through, what's the fear that comes
(32:22):
up around that? What's the thoughts that come up? And
then what is your Where do you feel it in
your body? Are you sick to your stomach? Are you
clenching your jaws? Are you raising up your shoulders? And
you've got all this like tightness in your chest and
your right around your throat. You can't say what you're
going to want to say because you're afraid of getting
hurt or losing a relationship that's important to you, or
(32:45):
offending somebody or being judged, or where is that showing
up in your body? And if you get to a
place where you let that expectation go, if that thing dissolved,
if you said the thing you were afraid of and
it didn't end you not saying that, there's not pain
(33:08):
or sadness or loss or a little bit of trepidation
about what do I do next? But what if you're
okay and if you get into this space of that
and you say, I get past the point of the
fear and the angst and just be able to take
a breath and go okay, I came out on the
other side and I have this or I can do
(33:29):
this and I do that and I can let that go.
Now where does your body feel? And it's most people
will say, I feel less tension in my neck, I
don't feel that frog in my throat. My stomach is settling.
And if you can be okay in that space, I
think it ties into a lot of things like a
cart and oh, what's the guy that says the no,
(33:51):
what's the guy that talks about letting go of you?
What's his name? I've lost him? Yeah, I came too,
But just that the place of not being in this
forced place and being okay actually creates this level of
energetic space that kind of allows you to get what
you really want and you can call it manifestation, breaking
(34:14):
the habit of being you. Joe Despenza, Well, Joe, yeah,
I always want to call in something else, but that
where you're able to actually start to resonate with this
actual true core of who you are and what you
really want, and it's not being placed on an expectation
of something else outside of you, actually allows you to
align with what you really do value and what you
(34:36):
really do want, and you take that control and power
when we let go of this fear. The control does
come from fear. When you let go of that, it
really opens up and reveals what we can and do
want and allows the space to open up to step
into what we wanted in a different pathway, but it
aligns more with really what we want, and that busyness
(35:00):
or that control space, or that need for somebody else
to validate you, or all of that being released. Letting
those things go allowing your body to actually energetically align
with the process. Man, it is so freeing and healing
and empowering. The stress level lets down. You're able to
(35:23):
see a partner that you're probably putting a lot of
pressure on to be something for you that they don't
want to be. You step up into who you are
and you know that job level changes or the idea
of what you need to do for success changes, and
the happiness is there. More of the yum comes in
and you can do those You can do all of
(35:43):
that in an honorable, respectful space and helping a client
just go man, how do you step in with that feeling? Okay,
that relaxed feeling. If you were to take another step
forward for what you want, but keep that feeling, what
does that step look like for you?
Speaker 3 (36:05):
I feel better already. I think just like you said,
just shifting and making a decision right now. If you're
somebody who's listening to this and you're not, you haven't
really thought about this or you haven't put action steps
into some of this. Just shifting into that space does
create again that energetic space, that place and going back
(36:27):
to our particular activating system, right it's a filter in
our brain and it's once you put something on the radar,
things start to happen. There's a trickle down effect. You
start to filter things out and you start to see
things in a different way and so then it changes
the neuroplasticity of the brain and rewires it. And so
this is all still gets down to some good sciencey stuff.
(36:47):
But yeah, it's not as easy as just always just
putting it down. So there's some work and there's a
process to it. But I think just you know, what
you're saying, is putting that effort into it, put in
your mind's eye out it, in making the decision that
you are going to do it right. Finding more young
just shifts that energetic platform for you to have a
(37:10):
better foundation from. And yeah, I think that's good. What
are you going to let go off? We should be
vulnerable and talk about something. What do you want to
what do you want to where do you want to
let go of?
Speaker 1 (37:22):
Man, I feel like the last five years of my
life is well probably my whole libe, but definitely in
the last four or five years and has been a
push in a direction of letting go. But then in
the last year I think we're always having to refine
ourselves and say, Okay, what do I want to what
(37:43):
what can I and what am I willing to remove
and let go of my life. What can I just
put down for a little bit and see how it
feels and then knowing that, hey, I could pick that
back up again if it doesn't work for me. Right,
like working with women who are maybe dealing with a
lot of stress and adrenal health issue and trying to
take my gals who are in their late thirties or
(38:03):
early forties and get them out of that mentality of
going to the gym five six, seven days a week
and I have to push through, and I have to
do all the things, and I have to get up
and live this life, and I have to get up
and do this and go aheare and do all these
and having them just, man, what if you just put
down a couple of the days and teaching them that
if they're actually treating their body and their brain better
(38:27):
and they'll actually be healthier. Something I wish somebody had
taught that I could have seen in my forties. If
you don't actually go to the gym and beat yourself
up five days a week, did you know your body
actually will be healthier. You'll lose more body fat, and
you'll have more energy and clarity of thought, Your homones
will be more balanced and regulated. If you just put
(38:49):
down this idea that you have to do it all
and the fear that comes up from gaining five pounds,
let's talk about that anyway, Like you can pick it
back up. If you go, oh, a few months and
you put on five or six pounds and that you
just you're miserable, you can pick it back up and
go to the gym. There's such this fear as if
(39:11):
I let go of this thing, I'm going down the
rabbit hole of I'm never going to get back and
I can ever be healthy again, and I can't ever
have this level of achievement again. No, you can put
stuff down and you can pick it back up again,
trusting that space of Okay, what would it feel like
if I didn't try to control this person's reaction, if
(39:32):
I didn't lean into this person or this life expectation.
What if I just let it go a little bit
today or this week or a couple months, and I
try it a different way. What shows up in you
and what shows up in other people when you're not
(39:52):
forcing something, not saying that you're not moving forward. It's
just there's less fists in the game maybe, and more
flow and that tends to sound woo from somebody who
struggles a lot with not fighting my way through things,
and yeah, letting things go their own direction, not letting
(40:17):
it completely dissolve. You can release the tight hold on something,
including judgment of self and judgment of success and all
the things that you've put these limiting because they are
a limit. Even if you have these high expectations, we're
going to bump up against that limiting wall. Day Hendrix
talks about this the I don't think it is. They
(40:39):
call it the self limit, the self ceiling, the upper yes,
your upper limit, which is hard to get to. We
think it's so easy. Oh, this isn't serving me. Let
me put that down. No, it's hard when you get
there and you are really used to doing something and
you find out that even if you've achieve this next
(41:00):
level and you start bumping up the next upper limit,
you're like, oh my gosh, I'm doing the thing that
reinforces the story that I told myself or I witnessed
and accepted as a child. I'm in another level of
bumping up to my limiting belief system. And it is
(41:20):
not easy. So that thing that you're afraid of, that
thing that you're resisting that thing that you're like, no,
I have to make this happen, and if I don't
do this, and if I'm not here and if I'm
not working out like this, or if I don't look
like this, or if I don't show up in this way,
it'll all fall apart. Like those are that those are
like those are your limiting ceilings, Like where do you
(41:42):
need to let go? That's not comfortable to let go?
Speaker 3 (41:47):
Helluoyjah, hell olujah.
Speaker 1 (41:50):
And it ain't easy. It might have to be a
revisiting and a little bit of letting go, picking up,
letting go, picking up maybe five rocks and you can
put down five rocks and you'll may pick up three
and then maybe next time you put down another one.
Trust yourself and that it's it's not a linear let go.
It's not a comfortable let go. If it's comfortable, great,
(42:11):
you've already processed it. You're like, no, I don't want that.
That's fine, I'll let it go. That's easy. But the
real stuff that makes you let go some of that
heavy and step into faith and stuff, into trust of
whatever it might be that you put your faith and
trust in.
Speaker 3 (42:28):
And maybe sometimes it's starting off really simple with one day.
So today I'm just going to allow myself to live
into the youm all day. I'm just going to be here,
and all the things that maybe you worry me, or
all the things that I get stuck on and thinking about,
I'm giving myself a break just for the day and
allowing them to flow. So maybe that's your first step,
(42:51):
is just permission for one day, just to allow it
to flow. Allow all those things that are eating up
your mind or that you're being mentally consumed with and
putting out energy. Maybe it's okay just for today to
put it all down, to slit the young flow, take
the barriers away, take the friction away, and just observe.
(43:12):
See what happens, and then does your world fall apart
by putting it down for one day?
Speaker 1 (43:17):
Exactly?
Speaker 3 (43:18):
Okay, it's okay? Is it gonna be okay, it's gonna
be okay.
Speaker 1 (43:22):
Yeah, all that stuff that you're in your all that
stuff that you're in your head about and you're stressed about,
and you're in angst and fear about, if you can
just say I'm gonna let it go for a day
and your world doesn't fall apart. And even if it does,
then what is that telling you? Maybe you're juggling too
many things and have placed way too many plates on
one side?
Speaker 3 (43:41):
Put down what's your carry? You put down what's your carrier?
Speaker 1 (43:47):
Maybe maybe we can end with is that. I don't
know what are the legal things on those songs. I
don't think we can end with that song because you
come into copyright, is right? That's such anoment.
Speaker 3 (44:01):
Again, Look, we're being yacked right now. We're being yacked
because of copyright issues.
Speaker 1 (44:06):
We're being yacked.
Speaker 3 (44:07):
Why is that happening? How does it make me feel? Frustrated? Irritated? React?
Speaker 1 (44:12):
What? What's the guy's name? Trevor Hall?
Speaker 3 (44:15):
Trevor Hall? Yeah, listen to that song.
Speaker 1 (44:17):
We love you singing it, but wouldn't it be better
to have Trevor Hall actually singing it so everybody could
hear our fabulous a song? Is So if you don't
know Trevor Hall, go listen to a little Trevor Hall.
Plug it in, Trevor Hall, put down what you're carrying?
Is that the name of the song?
Speaker 3 (44:31):
No, it's not like cant remember. Okay, it might be
it might be an old story and I'm just going
to say, really, nobody like I've put down and I've
let go that I my ability to sing is not there,
so we can move on from that. That is not
going to disturb my day. There's no yack there.
Speaker 1 (44:50):
I'm okay, it's totally fine.
Speaker 3 (44:52):
We don't.
Speaker 1 (44:52):
We like it all singing for us.
Speaker 3 (44:55):
You're welcome, all right, Amy, thank you so much, and
all of you amazing listeners right now that I've chosen
to take your time out of your day to listen
to this episode of all things good for you, and
you want to do more things that are good for you,
letting go a little bit, letting go and thinking about
it and putting your mind's eye on where's their yack,
(45:17):
where's their youngs? What can I put down? How is
this story serving me? And I know we don't like
that necessarily, but what's going on there? It's an amazing
thing to start implementing and start practicing and start thinking
about and start trying. There's a lot of friction, there's
a lot of stuff going on into the world, and
stress is the number one igniter for most health diseases
(45:41):
in your life. And so if this can be one
thing that can help calm your nervous system. A little
bit that can help give you a little peace, that
can help bring a little joy. I promise you it
is good for you.
Speaker 1 (45:53):
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Speaker 1 (00:52):
Things Good for You.
Speaker 3 (00:54):
Good morning, Brian, Good morning, and happy Tuesday. It's a
weird and then doing this on a Tuesday morning, but
how exciting.
Speaker 1 (01:05):
That's because somebody was so busy over the weekend. We
had to do it on Tuesday at the crack of dawn.
Speaker 3 (01:12):
That was me and my fault. I'm sorry. We go
to the mountains to hang out with a friend and
took one on a four wheel drive jeep trail and
the leaves were off the charts.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
Hey, I'm never gonna I'm never gonna give you guilt,
honest guilt about going to the mountains and having a getaway.
Speaker 3 (01:31):
That's amazing.
Speaker 1 (01:33):
Yeah. Yeah, So I think sometimes we have all these
We often plan, we have a set time, and we
have a vision and a dream, and we could say
maybe a soft expectation of what we'd like to see
done with our week and our schedule and our podcast,
and we try to record on particular days, and sometimes
it works out, and sometimes we have to be a
(01:55):
little flexible.
Speaker 3 (01:58):
I had my to do list of all kinds of things,
and I just had to put it down and let
go of that thing for the day to allow space
for something else to happen. Yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:07):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (02:07):
And to see how I'm working that maybe secret theme
in that we're going to talk about today.
Speaker 1 (02:12):
I see how I set us up really well for that.
Speaker 3 (02:16):
You did do that. You totally did tee that up
to get into my subconscious brain to then trigger that
next thing that's going to trigger your next thing.
Speaker 1 (02:26):
Because I have a plan and I'm sticking to it. No,
what is your plan to make you talk a lot
about what we're talking about today? No, I don't have
a plan. I'm not that I wish I was. There's
parts of my life where I probably would have been
more quote unquote successful at things if I was really
(02:46):
good at manipulating people. But I am not. Because one,
I don't think that's a healthy way to be. It's
just not a It's not a value of mine. And
I don't know that I like to put hard. I
don't want to say manipulation or even expectations, because I
do have expectations, but I don't like to shove people
(03:07):
all the time. Let me recreate rephrases.
Speaker 3 (03:10):
I think our podcast is turning get no, I don't
like that.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
I'm just saying that a lot of times we are
with the context of what we're going to talk about today,
it can come in a lot of different realms. And
I think the process of having these ideas and thoughts
and what we want to have happen and what we
want things to look like, whether that's life or a job,
(03:35):
or a conversation or a relationship or a career process,
I think turn out the way we pushed it to.
And I think that leads into just what we're talking
about today. And I'm just gonna I'm going to reveal
the secret the secret topic of today because nobody looked
at what it was before they listen to the podcast.
Speaker 3 (03:56):
But the topic of today, what's under the hood.
Speaker 1 (04:01):
Yeah, we got it. How do you let things go?
How do you work in the process of letting go
or putting things down and shifting those expectations. We've touched
on this a little bit before, but I think we're
going to take it a little deeper today.
Speaker 3 (04:18):
Yeah. Yeah, it's interesting because there are many layers to
that and working with people, whether it's working with acupuncture
and things like that, there's some common themes that show
up for people, like the majority of people are constantly overthinking,
over worrying. There's lots of psychological things going on, lots
(04:39):
of stresses, lots of stuff, and working with different therapists
around the idea of putting some things down, of letting go,
of working with mindset stuff where your mind's not over
controlling where who's driving the bus right, who's in charge,
the saboteurs, the thoughts of condition, all these things that
we've talked about. There's so many layers and working with
(05:01):
different therapists and hearing different perspectives. Sometimes I'm a firm
believer like epigenetics and genetics, where we have these condition
learned responses and then we have these deeper layers of stuff,
and even like energetically, and some people go back to
most of our things are built, and the stories that
we're telling ourselves go back to childhood and you have
(05:23):
to always go back there. But I also firmly believe
we are still creating stories and all the time. And
I think it's important to understand everything that's happening in
our lives right now. If we really look at it,
we can see on the surface what's really deeper, What
are some of these driving things underneath that surface layer?
(05:44):
So how we act, how we react, and how we
also take a non action. Those are three big things
to stop and pause and go, Okay, wait, is what's
going on here? And is there a story or is
there something story that I need to let go of
that I've told myself that it's driving this beaver And
sometimes we need to keep Sometimes the stories are really
(06:06):
great for us because we are learning and evolveve too,
So it gets tricky on what's going on, what do
we want to hold on to, what do we want
to let go of? And then yeah, we can. I'm
going to let you take it from that. I said
that some.
Speaker 1 (06:18):
Stuff out, but I think, yeah, so I like that
the three you're let's review those ours, the response, reaction,
and non action, right, and I all of this ties
into okay, you do have to create a practice of
self reflection and as far as letting go, right, when
(06:39):
do you know you should let go of something? Because
I learned from childhood to be very tenacious, and I
think sometimes my tenaciousness works out in my favor. How
do you balance that drive and assertiveness and gold driven
(07:01):
you know, space, how do you balance that with letting
things go when they're not working out, identifying when the
push has become a struggle too far? However, I and
that I don't believe life is just supposed to be
an easy floating river. I'm a big proponent or a
big supporter of resiliency and grit, digging in and working hard,
(07:22):
pushing through the uncomfortableness. How much of that do we know?
When do we recognize this is not aligning and moving forward?
It's time to just release this And that careful balance
of releasing the control during those moments of push through,
it's very tricky. It can be a struggle to recognize
(07:47):
that delicate balance.
Speaker 3 (07:50):
Yeah, I think there's I think going back to what
you were starting in your earlier part of this amazing
podcast of All Things Good for You, there was you know,
you're into some friction. And there's a term I've said
it over and over in many podcasts, wuwey and wuwey
is effortless movement, right, and in that space, you don't
(08:10):
have the friction. And I think we have to look
at our life experiences and I'm just going to break
it down. I'm going to steal something my wife mentioned.
In a different context. You would always say, don't yuck
my yum, and so I'm just going to take the
words yuck and yum and we're going to I think,
let's just simplify this. Whatever your situation is, wherever you
(08:32):
are currently at, does it feel like a yuck or
does it feel like a yum? And then in that
what noise what friction is there? So if you're feeling
a yuck, whether it's in a personal relationship, whether it
is the things you have to tackle in your day,
whether it is a conversation with a family member, whatever,
(08:54):
if there's a yak. There's often a friction. Again, you
can look at a situation. Let's say there's somebody need
to talk to and there's a yuck there. There's just
a general I don't want to talk to them for
whatever reason. So either a sometimes you make a choice
to not call that person. You're just like, I'm just
gonna avoid them because there's pain and discomfort in that yuck. Right,
(09:16):
there's suckiness, and so there's friction. Or you can be
reactive and not have the best form of communication towards
that person, right, or send them a nasty text or
whatever it issue might be doing, or there's action in it,
and so you have these different ways of engagement and
(09:37):
so it's okay, first of all, let's just recognize is
there a yuck in this circumstance, whatever that circumstance might be.
Then you can pause and go, okay, why is that?
Here's why. Let's sustainize a little bit more. Okay, how
does that make me feel?
Speaker 1 (09:51):
Oh?
Speaker 3 (09:52):
I just feel irritated because they never listen to me.
So that's why I don't want to call them, because
they just take over the airwaves and they're selfish and whatever.
Just this might be a real story that I'm telling
your real life experience, so you can make the choice.
Part of you might want to be not take non
action and just avoid them, and then you're like, wait,
why am I doing this? Okay, here's why I'm doing it,
(10:13):
Here's how it makes me feel. When did I experience
a feeling like that with this person? Or when can
I go back to a time where I felt that?
And then what am I going to do? Like? How
can I change the circumstance. I went from maybe my
personal story, maybe this is a true story on taking
non action of avoidance, realizing there was a yuck there,
realizing why, realizing how it made me feel when this started,
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and then what am I going to do about it?
So I went from non action to action and decided
set my intention on having a good open communication with
this person and telling them, hey man, here's just one
of you know, we haven't talked for a while, and
I've just realized one of the reasons why is it
made me? I feel like I'm not being heard, there's
not engagement. I don't feel like you care about what's
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going on in my world. I don't feel lead and
I would love I love our friendship. Here's how I'd
like to see this workout, Here's how I'd like to
see a change. But I could have easily have got
stuck in the yuck part, held onto it right, not
let go. And so letting go doesn't mean you just
quit it. I just let it go insturmenter to the
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world and whatever may happen. That can be true for
sure in some circumstances. In this circumstance, I had to
let go of that really intense yuck scenario situation story,
I could have stayed stuck in that part and just
never took action and had the friendship dissolve. Right, Or
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we can let go of those feelings I was having
let go and open up to the possibility of this
can work out. Let go of that stagnant emotion and
be like, hey, no, I still want this. I want
to find some joy in this, I want to reconnect,
I want to do this and allow that other stuff
to blossom, and then change your course of action to
make that happen. So there's not always non action in
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letting go. There's still very much action in letting go
at least. And again, this can get very philosophical as well.
And depending on what therapy you might be doing or
not what therapy you might not be doing. We could
talk about this forever from different perspectives.
Speaker 1 (12:23):
Sure, there's so many levels of even just that conversation
of what aspect of control do you have? You cannot
control how another person behaves or reacts to a scenario.
What you can control is your level of participation in that,
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and you can look at Okay, what you can control
the sphere of control is literally just you. You can let
go of your interaction with this person and your need
to have an interaction or friendship. You can let go
of that. You could like go of the need to
be expressed and say, you know what, this is just
the way this person works. I value this person in
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so many other ways. Can I let go of mine
want to be heard? I'm just taking again this situation
that you explain. Can I let go of getting in
and expecting this person or wanting this person to give
me acknowledgment and time and space. Can I just love
them for who they are and just be like, all right,
I'm just gonna let go of that. Or can you
let go of the fear of if you express a
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need to this person and they say no or they
don't honor it. Can you let go of that relationship
or that friendship? Can we let go of the deeper
level of Can I let go of what's coming up
for me in this space of the yuckiness of why
this person isn't hearing me? What emotions are coming up
in me? Is that I'm not validated, I'm not worthy,
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I'm important, I'm not hurt enough. Me expressing and being
heard is going to make a difference for me? What
am I getting out of the need to be expressed
or heard in this person's scenario? If I let go
of that, if I let go of what is me
coming up in this scenario? Where do I go with
that relationship? So just to your point, like where do
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you start? And really it starts with one like how
deep do you want to be in this what's your
long term expectation for this friendship and person? I literally
went through this scenario with a friend not very long ago,
and it's really been about an eight month process of
kind of me stepping back and going okay, I can
(14:37):
analyze maybe where they're coming from or not coming from,
and how they've continued to show up or not show
up in a relationship, a friendship and the interaction that's
happening around that, What is my part in that? What
am I needing or getting or thinking I was needing
or getting from that relationship? That if I let go
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of those things, where does that leave me? And realizing
that there was an aspect of me that was getting
almost a codependent relationship in there, that if I let
that go and I let that person just be that person,
but also honor my boundaries and honor what I need
in a level of friendship that this was, and being
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okay with the expectations even if it's sad, even if
it's a little hurtful, and then really truly just allowing
that person to be that person and loving them and
letting them be and recognizing there's maybe a season or
a time or that was a good friendship and we
were maybe building some unhealthy friendship relationship there, and then
(15:43):
giving some time and ends up slowly opening in the
door again and having honest, healthy communication, letting go of
the idea of controllable outcomes and controllable expectations of a friendship,
being able to be honest and kind and compassionate with
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that person, but also honor what I was seeing and feeling.
That level of communication actually just rebuilt the friendship, giving
it time and not being attached to a forced relationship
with somebody, because was that space of how invested do
I need to be? And if this person can't show
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up in this way, do I really need to be
constantly getting into the yuck? Right? Even if there was
a lot of young in our friendship, but the space
of letting all of that go allowed me to again
be self reflective of wow, I was probably getting a
little bit of an unhealthy attachment to this person was
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like a little sister to me, and I found out
that over a long period of time I built somewhat
of an unhealthy not like an unkind er boss, but
I had felt like this dependency on her to be
the big sister, to be this voice of I hate
(17:06):
to say wisdom, but sharing an insight and advice and
dependability that she came to depend on me and I
became reliant on it. It made me feel very good
and important and needed, and the recognition of the slightly
codependency of that friendship was hard but also very freeing
(17:33):
for me to go, Okay, this is probably not where
this friendship needs to grow, and I need to let
go of that space and I need to let her
be her. And turns out eight months later there's some
stuff about me that needed to be expressed to her
and it was very receiving and there was some clarity
(17:53):
that came around, and I think now our friendship is
probably stronger than it's ever been, and it's a friendship,
not a me being a big sister and her leaning
into me, always looking for answers. So the process of
letting it go on all these different levels really led
to a more pure and yummy friendship. But it was
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not easy. It was not easy, and it was not
without guilt or fear and sadness.
Speaker 3 (18:27):
So yeah, but there's a YOUTM now, Yeah, there absolutely,
And it's interesting because obviously we just went through a
circumstance in both of those scenaries of a relationship. But
I always think that the the letting go of things
within ourselves that are affecting or driving our emotions is
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really intriguing. When we talk to people on a regular basis,
where we stopped to look at our own stuff, that's
some of the hard stuff. And it's so crazy how
a lot of it. You've heard many people talk about this,
it's like crazy stuff from your childhood. I still can't
let go of that, or there's still like this immense
guilt around things you did then, And as an adult,
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we still create some of those stories and some of
those thoughts and emotions that we hang on to as well.
But I feel like I certainly process those, and I
think I'm equipped with more skills now and more knowledge
to handle some of those. But it is amazing what
people still carry forward from their stories that they have
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our struggle with that is creating a lot of friction
currently still in their lives. And I know some of
those stories, like I said, can be amazing and drivers
for us and lessons that we've learned, but sometimes they
can be destructive and not the best situation for us.
And it's okay when we're ready to evolve. And I
like how you said again there's different layers of letting
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go within those circumstances and those relationships that you were
talking about, And I do agree whether you take it
at the surface level first of maybe the action reaction
on action and just like look at it, how things
are showing up and is there friction or not versus
going deeper, and what is that story really about? Is
it not feeling worthy? Is it not feeling valued? Is
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it not feeling loved? Is it not feeling safe? Is
it not feeling like all those things I think are
super critical, But you sometimes you got to start at
that other surface area. And I was telling you a
story earlier when my late teens and early twenties, I
definitely especially late teens, just made some poor choices and
felt a lot of shame and guilt and lack of
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accomplishments and just things for my life, lessons that I
think were built upon a foundation of life circumstances we
don't need to get into even before that, and so
it just seemed like there was a phase where it
was just like, oh my god, if something could happen,
I felt like it was happening to me when I
remember building the story literally verbiage around that story of
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I'm just rolling with the punches, and so I was
like I was waiting and ready for the next thing
just to hit me. And so it was like I
became that went to that victim of self where all
this was that fricking stories that were built upon that
I wasn't letting go of, and I was just holding
and there was so much friction, and I was very
(21:23):
forceful in some of those decisions, and so that I
finally it was like emotionally rock bottom, if you will.
You just couldn't take anymore. And I changed my own
story and I was like, screw that, I'm not going
to roll with the punches anymore. And so I started
like really grinding and then started changing my storyline and
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let go of some of that other stuff and kind
of built a new model that was working well for me.
That was, and I kept my motto was I'm not
done yet. I'm not done yet. I'm not done yet.
So that was I took something and turned it into
a driving force for me. But then you have to stop.
And I still like that kind of energy of I'm
not done yet. But then it's all Sometimes you still
feel like you're grinding. I'm not done yet, but it's
(22:07):
the fuck I'm getting. You get a little tired of grinding. Ay,
it's wait, can you put down that? Can you still
have the energy of something that you learn from the story,
you change it, You've turned it into a driver for yourself.
But then you realize, hey, this driver is still a
lot of energy and effort and maximum output. That is,
(22:29):
there's still like some friction in there, right, there's still
the yuck. Might not feel the same kind of yuk
as far as some of those thoughts or behaviors I
was having that maybe the yuck is just exhausted. Maybe
the u it's okay, wait, why is there not wuweh?
And you've probably met some people in your life that
it's just, oh my god, it just seems so effortless
(22:50):
for them. Every stroke of the brush turns into a
masterpiece and it looks so, you know, effortless. And I'm
sure again everybody's got their own struggles. But it's okay.
So where's there an uppportunity for me to put down?
Is it time for me to put down that I'm
not done yet story? Is it time for me to
let that go? And as Laotze said, when I let
go of what I am, I become what I might be.
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So I built the story of this what I am now, right,
So is it time for me to let go of
that and just put it down and allow what I
can become what I might be just naturally evolve and
again I'm with you, I feel and again this is
a mindset. I feel like you have to have some grid.
I feel like you got to grind. And that's how
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I was raised though too. I came from an environment
where I have had many step dads, and I had
many I didn't feel like I had a support system
in place. I didn't have some of those things I needed.
So I had the grind and create and not rely
on people and do my own stuff and figure it
out and work hard and just recap again, like where
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the story can change? And is that story? When has
it scerbd you to a certain level? And then it's
wait a second, is it? Sometimes it holds a special
place and then it's okay, Now it's time for me
to evolve and move on. And I have to let
go of that to allow that becoming the next thing
to just be. And I feel like that's really where
I'm at in life, and I really need to actually
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besides just talk about it. Maybe this is a therapy
session now for myself and need to like put it
down a little bit because I've been putting the things
in place, and it's in. Yes, you still have to
have action, Yes you still have to have these things,
but sometimes it's time to evolve into that next piece
and sometimes you have to put the other stuff down
(24:42):
on my co and people with clients again, when we
talk about people and you can just tell, oh, do
you overthink, you overworry? Just okay, Well, what are the
pause that doesn't feel great, that seems exhausting? Yes, okay,
there's some yuck there. What is it that is that
you're holding onto? And again a lot of that turns
to be in control in some other mechanisms. What is
(25:03):
it that isn't an opportunity for you to put something
down and just let go so you don't feel freaking
burnt out, exhausted, so you can get a better night sleeps,
Your mind's not racing, so your your sympathetic nervous systems
not freaking on fire all the time? Right, Like, how
can progress and move forward and find more yum in
your life?
Speaker 1 (25:21):
Everybody needs a little more yummy in their life. I
think there's it becomes a process of whatever your faith based,
whatever you put your rock on, your foundation on, it
does take a leap of faith to just go take
a breath and step back and say, what if all
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that I'm fighting for in this thing that I want
or this idea that I had. What if it looks
very different? What if I let go of a dream?
What if I let go of how I thought something
should be done or how somebody else needs to behave
or what this job career was opposed to to look like,
or my success level is this? What if it's different?
(26:05):
What if you stop? And that can be very scary
for people, Like if you've spent your life having a
dream or an expectation or a want and something you've
really invested in and pushed for, and taking a minute
to let that go can be It really can be
a hard shocking space to your heart, to your knowing
(26:25):
of what's real. But I think, oh, just.
Speaker 3 (26:31):
Exactly what you're saying. That Cart totally said. Sometimes letting
things go is an act of far greater power than
defending or hanging on. Yeah, that's exactly what you're saying.
Speaker 1 (26:40):
Yeah, you really just have to look at who you
really are and who you really what you really believe
in and put your faith and trust and balance and
what is your foundation if everything goes away, if everything
if the marriage fails, Not ever wishing that on anybody
it's awful when love and trust diminishes and is gone,
(27:07):
if the career path that you've invested so much time
and effort money into is halted and you're left with nothing,
or the devastation of somebody who's lost their home, their health,
Like you've spent your whole life being one way and
then in a short period of time it suddenly becomes
something different with seemingly out of your control. What who
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are you when you show up in those moments? Who
do you choose to be? And where do you place
your worth and your level of success? Where is your
safety coming from? Ultimately, if everything financially is taken away
from you, if a person that you depended on for
something is gone, where and who are you? And that's
(27:51):
it is a very it can be in the moments,
very scary. But I think if we can allow ourself
to think that way and to get into those moments
and ask ourselves who are we going to choose to be?
That creates such a strength that none of those things,
scenarios or moments can give us reassurance. Those things are
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just outward experiences and reflections of moments in time. But
it doesn't necessarily mean it's who you are. If you
look at a real person of wealth and people who've
made millions of dollars and lost millions of dollars, and
then they just rebuild it again, because it's like they'll say,
it's not the business, it's not the money, it's the
knowing of the process. And once you know the system
(28:37):
or the process, you can rebuild that over and over again,
so they don't lose their mind because their success and
their value wasn't placed in the end result of a
bank account number, or a house or an ideal image
of a marriage and relationship. It was the process of
what created it. And I think part of letting go
is trusting the process and it's not the end's result.
Speaker 3 (29:02):
Yeah, I think that struggle. It's so much of this
other stuff. We've put so much energy into building the
story of who we are, and even if you didn't
put the energy in something tragic happens, it's still very palpable.
And even from an early age, we spend so much
time and energy in our actions and things that we're
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doing to create who we are, and then you have
this big, palpable sense of things, these are real life
things that are here and then but the opposite of
that of letting go, it's like a destruction. It feels
like scary because the feels like a destruction or so
much time and energy and effort, and you've had these
real life circumstances happen, and then to have this other
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side of it about what is letting go and what
am I going to lose? Or what am I going
to again Brendan talks about lost pain, what am I
giving up? And there's not a palpable sense of the
reward of that until, like you said, you have it.
It's like meditation. When you first start meditating, there's so
much friction, there's so much and then people typically when
(30:09):
they start say, you know what, I can't do it.
I don't have those skills or I can't do that,
and it's oh no, it's a process. And once you
get there, you have a flagon in the ground and
you can always get there, and so then you have
the experience of what meditation can bring or what that
essence of it is, and then you always have that
process to get back there. Exactly what you're saying is
(30:30):
when you have an experience of letting go of something
and you see the reward of that and you see
what you gain a palpable sense of what's on the
other side. Then it's oh, I can do this, and
then I can work on something else to let go of,
and then it's just like anything, there's an art to
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mastering it. Even though letting go just seems like we'll
just let go, and like, how do you just let go? Okay,
there is a process to you letting go. I think
we do over simplify it when we're when we hear
about it or we coach, we're coaching somebody, man, you
know you really need to let go of that. That's
not really great for you. Well, how do you let go? Okay?
Maybe we should need to spend more time in that process.
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But when you do it, and there is the reward,
whether it's the reconnection with that relationship or moving beyond
some mental friction with yourself because you were able to
find peace and something that you are harboring, that skill
builds and you're like, okay, I can get there again.
I can do this. This is what the reward is.
This is what it's not necessary. Like a cart TOOLI
he doesn't let go of everything, and he's like, fully enlightened,
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like that's there, but how do you do that? I
don't be home on a park bench.
Speaker 1 (31:41):
At bottom too. No. And I love this because it
literally came up in a coaching call and it was
the space of me walking somebody through. And a lot
of times when I'm doing coaching, I'll bring in the
somatic process of having them just close their eyes and
bring up the problem, talk about the anngst, the frustration,
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the friction that they're feeling, what the scenario is around
and what they want that to be and what they're
looking for, and then to say, and if you just
if you didn't have that, if that relationship ended, if
that job didn't come through, what's the fear that comes
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up around that? What's the thoughts that come up? And
then what is your Where do you feel it in
your body? Are you sick to your stomach? Are you
clenching your jaws? Are you raising up your shoulders? And
you've got all this like tightness in your chest and
your right around your throat. You can't say what you're
going to want to say because you're afraid of getting
hurt or losing a relationship that's important to you, or
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offending somebody or being judged, or where is that showing
up in your body? And if you get to a
place where you let that expectation go, if that thing dissolved,
if you said the thing you were afraid of and
it didn't end you not saying that, there's not pain
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or sadness or loss or a little bit of trepidation
about what do I do next? But what if you're
okay and if you get into this space of that
and you say, I get past the point of the
fear and the angst and just be able to take
a breath and go okay, I came out on the
other side and I have this or I can do
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this and I do that and I can let that go.
Now where does your body feel? And it's most people
will say, I feel less tension in my neck, I
don't feel that frog in my throat. My stomach is settling.
And if you can be okay in that space, I
think it ties into a lot of things like a
cart and oh, what's the guy that says the no,
(33:51):
what's the guy that talks about letting go of you?
What's his name? I've lost him? Yeah, I came too,
But just that the place of not being in this
forced place and being okay actually creates this level of
energetic space that kind of allows you to get what
you really want and you can call it manifestation, breaking
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the habit of being you. Joe Despenza, Well, Joe, yeah,
I always want to call in something else, but that
where you're able to actually start to resonate with this
actual true core of who you are and what you
really want, and it's not being placed on an expectation
of something else outside of you, actually allows you to
align with what you really do value and what you
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really do want, and you take that control and power
when we let go of this fear. The control does
come from fear. When you let go of that, it
really opens up and reveals what we can and do
want and allows the space to open up to step
into what we wanted in a different pathway, but it
aligns more with really what we want, and that busyness
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or that control space, or that need for somebody else
to validate you, or all of that being released. Letting
those things go allowing your body to actually energetically align
with the process. Man, it is so freeing and healing
and empowering. The stress level lets down. You're able to
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see a partner that you're probably putting a lot of
pressure on to be something for you that they don't
want to be. You step up into who you are
and you know that job level changes or the idea
of what you need to do for success changes, and
the happiness is there. More of the yum comes in
and you can do those You can do all of
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that in an honorable, respectful space and helping a client
just go man, how do you step in with that feeling? Okay,
that relaxed feeling. If you were to take another step
forward for what you want, but keep that feeling, what
does that step look like for you?
Speaker 3 (36:05):
I feel better already. I think just like you said,
just shifting and making a decision right now. If you're
somebody who's listening to this and you're not, you haven't
really thought about this or you haven't put action steps
into some of this. Just shifting into that space does
create again that energetic space, that place and going back
(36:27):
to our particular activating system, right it's a filter in
our brain and it's once you put something on the radar,
things start to happen. There's a trickle down effect. You
start to filter things out and you start to see
things in a different way and so then it changes
the neuroplasticity of the brain and rewires it. And so
this is all still gets down to some good sciencey stuff.
(36:47):
But yeah, it's not as easy as just always just
putting it down. So there's some work and there's a
process to it. But I think just you know, what
you're saying, is putting that effort into it, put in
your mind's eye out it, in making the decision that
you are going to do it right. Finding more young
just shifts that energetic platform for you to have a
(37:10):
better foundation from. And yeah, I think that's good. What
are you going to let go off? We should be
vulnerable and talk about something. What do you want to
what do you want to where do you want to
let go of?
Speaker 1 (37:22):
Man, I feel like the last five years of my
life is well probably my whole libe, but definitely in
the last four or five years and has been a
push in a direction of letting go. But then in
the last year I think we're always having to refine
ourselves and say, Okay, what do I want to what
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what can I and what am I willing to remove
and let go of my life. What can I just
put down for a little bit and see how it
feels and then knowing that, hey, I could pick that
back up again if it doesn't work for me. Right,
like working with women who are maybe dealing with a
lot of stress and adrenal health issue and trying to
take my gals who are in their late thirties or
(38:03):
early forties and get them out of that mentality of
going to the gym five six, seven days a week
and I have to push through, and I have to
do all the things, and I have to get up
and live this life, and I have to get up
and do this and go aheare and do all these
and having them just, man, what if you just put
down a couple of the days and teaching them that
if they're actually treating their body and their brain better
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and they'll actually be healthier. Something I wish somebody had
taught that I could have seen in my forties. If
you don't actually go to the gym and beat yourself
up five days a week, did you know your body
actually will be healthier. You'll lose more body fat, and
you'll have more energy and clarity of thought, Your homones
will be more balanced and regulated. If you just put
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down this idea that you have to do it all
and the fear that comes up from gaining five pounds,
let's talk about that anyway, Like you can pick it
back up. If you go, oh, a few months and
you put on five or six pounds and that you
just you're miserable, you can pick it back up and
go to the gym. There's such this fear as if
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I let go of this thing, I'm going down the
rabbit hole of I'm never going to get back and
I can ever be healthy again, and I can't ever
have this level of achievement again. No, you can put
stuff down and you can pick it back up again,
trusting that space of Okay, what would it feel like
if I didn't try to control this person's reaction, if
(39:32):
I didn't lean into this person or this life expectation.
What if I just let it go a little bit
today or this week or a couple months, and I
try it a different way. What shows up in you
and what shows up in other people when you're not
(39:52):
forcing something, not saying that you're not moving forward. It's
just there's less fists in the game maybe, and more
flow and that tends to sound woo from somebody who
struggles a lot with not fighting my way through things,
and yeah, letting things go their own direction, not letting
(40:17):
it completely dissolve. You can release the tight hold on something,
including judgment of self and judgment of success and all
the things that you've put these limiting because they are
a limit. Even if you have these high expectations, we're
going to bump up against that limiting wall. Day Hendrix
talks about this the I don't think it is. They
(40:39):
call it the self limit, the self ceiling, the upper yes,
your upper limit, which is hard to get to. We
think it's so easy. Oh, this isn't serving me. Let
me put that down. No, it's hard when you get
there and you are really used to doing something and
you find out that even if you've achieve this next
(41:00):
level and you start bumping up the next upper limit,
you're like, oh my gosh, I'm doing the thing that
reinforces the story that I told myself or I witnessed
and accepted as a child. I'm in another level of
bumping up to my limiting belief system. And it is
(41:20):
not easy. So that thing that you're afraid of, that
thing that you're resisting that thing that you're like, no,
I have to make this happen, and if I don't
do this, and if I'm not here and if I'm
not working out like this, or if I don't look
like this, or if I don't show up in this way,
it'll all fall apart. Like those are that those are
like those are your limiting ceilings, Like where do you
(41:42):
need to let go? That's not comfortable to let go?
Speaker 3 (41:47):
Helluoyjah, hell olujah.
Speaker 1 (41:50):
And it ain't easy. It might have to be a
revisiting and a little bit of letting go, picking up,
letting go, picking up maybe five rocks and you can
put down five rocks and you'll may pick up three
and then maybe next time you put down another one.
Trust yourself and that it's it's not a linear let go.
It's not a comfortable let go. If it's comfortable, great,
(42:11):
you've already processed it. You're like, no, I don't want that.
That's fine, I'll let it go. That's easy. But the
real stuff that makes you let go some of that
heavy and step into faith and stuff, into trust of
whatever it might be that you put your faith and
trust in.
Speaker 3 (42:28):
And maybe sometimes it's starting off really simple with one day.
So today I'm just going to allow myself to live
into the youm all day. I'm just going to be here,
and all the things that maybe you worry me, or
all the things that I get stuck on and thinking about,
I'm giving myself a break just for the day and
allowing them to flow. So maybe that's your first step,
(42:51):
is just permission for one day, just to allow it
to flow. Allow all those things that are eating up
your mind or that you're being mentally consumed with and
putting out energy. Maybe it's okay just for today to
put it all down, to slit the young flow, take
the barriers away, take the friction away, and just observe.
(43:12):
See what happens, and then does your world fall apart
by putting it down for one day?
Speaker 1 (43:17):
Exactly?
Speaker 3 (43:18):
Okay, it's okay? Is it gonna be okay, it's gonna
be okay.
Speaker 1 (43:22):
Yeah, all that stuff that you're in your all that
stuff that you're in your head about and you're stressed about,
and you're in angst and fear about, if you can
just say I'm gonna let it go for a day
and your world doesn't fall apart. And even if it does,
then what is that telling you? Maybe you're juggling too
many things and have placed way too many plates on
one side?
Speaker 3 (43:41):
Put down what's your carry? You put down what's your carrier?
Speaker 1 (43:47):
Maybe maybe we can end with is that. I don't
know what are the legal things on those songs. I
don't think we can end with that song because you
come into copyright, is right? That's such anoment.
Speaker 3 (44:01):
Again, Look, we're being yacked right now. We're being yacked
because of copyright issues.
Speaker 1 (44:06):
We're being yacked.
Speaker 3 (44:07):
Why is that happening? How does it make me feel? Frustrated? Irritated? React?
Speaker 1 (44:12):
What? What's the guy's name? Trevor Hall?
Speaker 3 (44:15):
Trevor Hall? Yeah, listen to that song.
Speaker 1 (44:17):
We love you singing it, but wouldn't it be better
to have Trevor Hall actually singing it so everybody could
hear our fabulous a song? Is So if you don't
know Trevor Hall, go listen to a little Trevor Hall.
Plug it in, Trevor Hall, put down what you're carrying?
Is that the name of the song?
Speaker 3 (44:31):
No, it's not like cant remember. Okay, it might be
it might be an old story and I'm just going
to say, really, nobody like I've put down and I've
let go that I my ability to sing is not there,
so we can move on from that. That is not
going to disturb my day. There's no yack there.
Speaker 1 (44:50):
I'm okay, it's totally fine.
Speaker 3 (44:52):
We don't.
Speaker 1 (44:52):
We like it all singing for us.
Speaker 3 (44:55):
You're welcome, all right, Amy, thank you so much, and
all of you amazing listeners right now that I've chosen
to take your time out of your day to listen
to this episode of all things good for you, and
you want to do more things that are good for you,
letting go a little bit, letting go and thinking about
it and putting your mind's eye on where's their yack,
(45:17):
where's their youngs? What can I put down? How is
this story serving me? And I know we don't like
that necessarily, but what's going on there? It's an amazing
thing to start implementing and start practicing and start thinking
about and start trying. There's a lot of friction, there's
a lot of stuff going on into the world, and
stress is the number one igniter for most health diseases
(45:41):
in your life. And so if this can be one
thing that can help calm your nervous system. A little
bit that can help give you a little peace, that
can help bring a little joy. I promise you it
is good for you.
Speaker 1 (45:53):
It's all good for you. Okay, thank you, Brian. I
will have a lovely day, and thanks you everybody for listening.
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Speaker 3 (46:31):
But we need you need to have five hundred IP
addresses too, right, the smart Wizard of Oz knows what's
going on.
Speaker 1 (46:38):
Yeah, that's true, all right, no cheating with no cheating.
We don't believe in that. Okay, everybody day, Bye bye.
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