October 14, 2024 • 24 mins
EP 86 Honor the Struggle
Join Brian Bowen as he delves into the importance of mindset and how to honor the struggle during challenging times in life. This episode of the 'All Things Good for You' podcast explores the concepts of personal growth, optimism, and adaptability. Brian shares personal experiences and insights on how to navigate struggles, differentiating between becoming the struggle and honoring it. He emphasizes the significance of maintaining a positive mindset, using the right language, and having a growth-oriented identity. Aimed at helping listeners shift from a place of overwhelm to one of empowerment, Brian encourages cultivating resilience and self-awareness on the journey to a well-lived life.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Welcome
00:21 Podcast Overview and Mission
02:01 Brian's Solo Episode and October Reflections
03:01 Mindset and Struggle
04:42 Honoring vs. Becoming the Struggle
07:44 Practical Tips for Managing Struggle
12:05 Personal Reflections and Encouragement
21:08 Conclusion and Call to Action
23:23 Disclaimer and Final Notes
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Join Brian Bowen as he delves into the importance of mindset and how to honor the struggle during challenging times in life. This episode of the 'All Things Good for You' podcast explores the concepts of personal growth, optimism, and adaptability. Brian shares personal experiences and insights on how to navigate struggles, differentiating between becoming the struggle and honoring it. He emphasizes the significance of maintaining a positive mindset, using the right language, and having a growth-oriented identity. Aimed at helping listeners shift from a place of overwhelm to one of empowerment, Brian encourages cultivating resilience and self-awareness on the journey to a well-lived life.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction and Welcome
00:21 Podcast Overview and Mission
02:01 Brian's Solo Episode and October Reflections
03:01 Mindset and Struggle
04:42 Honoring vs. Becoming the Struggle
07:44 Practical Tips for Managing Struggle
12:05 Personal Reflections and Encouragement
21:08 Conclusion and Call to Action
23:23 Disclaimer and Final Notes
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/all-things-good-for-you--4972263/support.
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Speaker 2 (00:05):
Where are you at? I can't say it enough.
Speaker 1 (00:07):
Are you somebody who honors the struggle during tough times
in your life and you can maintain that optimism that
you can get through it?
Speaker 2 (00:17):
Are you flexible? Can you adapt?
Speaker 3 (00:20):
Hey? Friends, thank you for listening to the All Things
Good for You Podcast. Join us as we explore ancient traditions,
modern tools and practices in the world of health, wellness,
and personal development. I'm Amy Christensen, your host and your
curated mind coach, and I'm your.
Speaker 4 (00:37):
Co host, Brian Bowen, founder of Integrative Health, Inc. And
Better Human Company High Performance Coaching. Are you ready to
take control of your life and start feeling enthusiastic, empowered,
and limitless each and every day for a life well lived?
Let your curiosity flow with.
Speaker 2 (00:54):
All Things Good for You?
Speaker 1 (00:59):
Hello, Hello, Hello, and thank you for listening to the
All Things Good for You Podcast. I don't know why
I always have to say hello so many times. It's
really hard to say hello once for some reason for me.
So maybe hello, howdy, good morning, good afternoon, good evening,
whatever time of the day it is for you, and
you're listening to this podcast, I'm grateful, grateful that you're
(01:21):
taking the time doing whatever you're doing and plugging us
into your day.
Speaker 2 (01:25):
I truly believe.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
This podcast has so much to offer. We are here
to talk about all things that are good for you.
Sometimes we talk about different services, Sometimes we talk about
mindset stuff. Sometimes we like to geek out and have
some fun interviews with people, and any variety of things.
Speaker 2 (01:44):
But it is always about all things that are good
for you.
Speaker 1 (01:48):
And we're trying to walk to walk and live these
things as well, and so a lot of times these
things are also teaching moments for us. It's always we
learn so much by talking about it and engaging with
you and teaching. So thank you for listening. I'm Brian Bowen.
My cost Amy Christiansen is not with us today, So
for those of you who are listening to this because
(02:08):
you love Amy's voice and all the wisdom that she drops,
I apologize. She's not on this podcast today. She's up
doing some mountainey stuff, I'm sure, and we are on
a mission to hit our hundredth podcast by the end
of the year, so we're going to be dropping some
little twenty minute thirty minute things independently and also doing
(02:30):
our longer ones together. So thank you for helping us
get to our hundred mark. Just like you guys. It
is a super busy world out there, and I don't
know about you, about October seems really extra special this October.
Obviously it's before the election or a month before, and
so I think there's a lot of I don't know,
(02:53):
just energy of sorts out there. That's crazy, that's a
crazy energy. What can I say? Oh, I'm just going
to speak today. I'm a mindset geek. I love thinking
about mindset. I love analyzing and paying attention to my
thoughts and how I'm thinking, catching old things popping into
(03:16):
my brain that aren't really helping me in life, and
so forth. And right now I'm in a time and
place for this last two weeks, I've felt my edge
of I am exhausted, I'm a little overwhelmed, and so
I have to take pause and reflect on that.
Speaker 2 (03:34):
And it's like, how am I like? What's happening? How
am I doing with that? And I was.
Speaker 1 (03:39):
Thinking the other day about struggle and have you ever
had a time in your life where you're like, Oh,
I just feel like just so many things are coming
at me at once and I can't catch a break. Right,
Maybe you're tired all the time, or it feels like
you're running on empty, you're barely holding on. Maybe you
catch yourself saying I'm so over this, or everything's piling up,
(04:02):
I feel like I'm drowning. So I've had some moments
of dipping my toe into those mental waters this past week,
and I realize, even though it's overwhelming, most of those
things I've honestly put on my plate. I launching a
bunch of stuff at once, and have some projects that
should have and this exciting energy. But sometimes even though
it's an exciting thing, you get behind. And then sometimes
(04:25):
you get piled up with surprises in life, right like
my car's been in the shop, and we got some
family kids stuff, and maybe there's some work stuff that's
piling up. So there's winds of life can throw us
all kinds of different things, and sometimes we catch ourselves struggling.
I want to talk about honoring the struggle and what's
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the difference between honoring the struggle and becoming the struggle,
because I feel like this is a space where we
can teeter toipe a little bit. So in the past
I felt like that I can't catch a break. I'm
just rolling with the punches.
Speaker 2 (05:07):
So this is in.
Speaker 1 (05:08):
Many lives of mine ago where it just felt like
I just it's always something right, it's always exhausting. Why
does it have to be so hard? Nothing ever goes
my way. I'm trying so hard, but it's never enough.
I just can't get over the finish line. It feels
like I'm spinning my wheels. Maybe some of that is
some language that's spin in your head from the failure.
Speaker 2 (05:30):
I dropped the ball on this, and I had to work.
Speaker 1 (05:35):
Really hard to see through and get through that and
realize that everything that I was doing at that time
that was hard gave me opportunities of growth to stop
and put together better processes. Look at how I'm doing things.
I had to become more adaptable, become more aware of
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when I needed to pivot things of that nature.
Speaker 2 (06:00):
And so struggle can be important.
Speaker 1 (06:04):
We need an evolutionary tension right to grow, to push
us forward, pull us forward, however it is that we
got to get moving forward. We got to get moving forward.
Sometimes I'm like, oh my god, I'm in this positive space,
and this was me in the last two weeks just
sharing where I'm like, I know this, I know.
Speaker 2 (06:24):
It's about the process. Trust the process. I'm growing from this,
I'm learning. You seem so on top of it.
Speaker 1 (06:30):
Then all of a sudden, one more thing hits you,
like just to surprise. From nowhere you are teetering on
the side of optimism and teetering on that side of
I got this, teetering on that side of heck, yeah,
I'm gonna kick ass and this is going to be
amazing once I get to the other side.
Speaker 2 (06:48):
And then all of a.
Speaker 1 (06:48):
Sudden, one more thing just lands on you, and it
just shifts that weight, shifts that mental momentum just enough
to want to teeter back into that world of becoming
the struggle. Right, It's really hard to catch It's really
hard to catch that sometimes. So this podcast today all
(07:10):
Things Good for You, I just want to highlight how
important it is for our mindset to be in a
positive space with struggle and what that means in some
language that we might tell ourselves or the way we
act or how we identify with it, and what is
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our energy doing in that space versus becoming the struggle.
Speaker 2 (07:37):
And if you're in that.
Speaker 1 (07:39):
Place where you've become the struggle, how do you get
out of that place. So this is just a mindset awareness,
like what is happening in that space for you. I
want to do another.
Speaker 2 (07:51):
Podcast about the space the.
Speaker 1 (07:54):
Transition, but today I really want to talk just about
the mindset piece of it. So if you are accepted
acceptance and have acceptance with growth, and you have more
of that growth mindset, that is a good place to
be coming from. Right, That is honoring the struggle. Maybe
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you viewed struggle as a natural part of personal growth
again and evolutionary tension pulling you forward.
Speaker 2 (08:23):
If you have more emotional.
Speaker 1 (08:25):
Experiences around around this as being like trusting and I'm
patient through the process, that's a beautiful place to be
with honoring the struggle. So these are types of feelings
or things we might think that show that we're in
a good place of honoring that struggle. Right, the struggle
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doesn't define you in this place by the hardships. It's
just showing your ability. You have the ability to pivot,
the ability to move through it, the ability to see beyond. Right,
that is a good place to be. Are you there?
Do you see it? Is your energy thinking about it
as being temporary and that you can navigate it, and
(09:05):
you are taking personal agency of it. This is something
I can get through. And sometimes it's what do I
have to cut loose to move forward to? What do
I have to become? What do I have to put
my focus on? What are some of the lessons here?
Is it the right thing? And not letting it feel overwhelming?
So when you start to feel that, you start to
(09:27):
hear that other language of I just can't cut a
break right. Things are just piling up on me. I'm overwhelmed.
Think about that language. So the honoring the struggle vibe
is what I just talked about, that language And so
if you catch yourself there, that's a really good place
to be.
Speaker 2 (09:45):
And sometimes we just don't know.
Speaker 1 (09:47):
We don't have those Hallelujah little tell Telle signs of
where we're at.
Speaker 2 (09:53):
So how can you stop, pause, take stock where you at?
What's the language that's being that's going through your head.
Speaker 1 (10:05):
If you feel like you're stuck in survival mode and
you don't have a clear path forward, that you're in
the struggle, you've become the struggle. If you feel consumed
and overwhelmed and not grounded and in self, you've become
the struggle. If you are always discouraged and you're in
(10:26):
that negative spiral, you've become the struggle. If you're using
language that's going through your head of why is this
always happening? What karmic debts do I have to pay?
I thought, I'm past all this. It's always something again.
That's the language of you've become the struggle. So if
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you start, if you've if your identity has shifted so much,
that's how you identify, like I am just that person
that stuff is always happening to me, I don't know why,
versus the identity of yeah, I have stuff come to
me all the time, like that's life, and I just
navigate through it. I'm gonna work through it. It's all good, right,
(11:11):
I'll get help, I'll get the support. That's you identifying
with somebody who honors the struggle, who can move through
the struggle, versus I've become the struggle.
Speaker 2 (11:23):
It's always me? Why me?
Speaker 1 (11:26):
And that energy of becoming the struggle versus honoring the
struggle is very draining. And we've talked many times before
in our podcast about cultivating energy versus leaking or draining energy.
And if you become the struggle, you are leaking energy, right,
You're gonna feel drained, You're gonna feel powerless, you're gonna
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feel lack of motivation. You're gonna stop trying as hard.
You're not gonna connect with purpose that's pulling you through
some of this stuff. That focus just is blurred. You
just don't have the clear you can't see the potential growth,
you can't see beyond. And if I can help one
person shift from somebody who's stuck in struggle, who has
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become that, and move them back to somebody a space
who can honor the struggle and start having a healthier
relationship with it a better language, that would be amazing.
So I don't know where you're at. I don't know
what language is coming in your head. I don't know
(12:32):
what's happening on your day to day, And it's really
hard not to take some of this stuff personal. Most
of the time it's not personal. Now, I know that
life has a lot of relative situations, so I'm not
going to get into all of those specifics, and I
know that they're at different level. So there is a
time where, of course, you need additional professional help to
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navigate some of these waters. And we're not going to
that space. I'm going I'm talking about the day to.
Speaker 2 (13:01):
Day life stuff. The day to day life stuff.
Speaker 1 (13:04):
And some people, for instance, get stuck on the highway
and the traffic's crazy. They're in a rush. Everybody's got
to be somewhere. We all have to be somewhere that
maybe they've had a lot of other things happen within
their morning and it's a compounding thing. And based off
their mindset and how the nervous system handles it is
(13:26):
how they're going to show up and how they're going
to respond to it, what their actions.
Speaker 2 (13:29):
Are going to be.
Speaker 1 (13:31):
So, how are you showing up? How can you not
take some of the life stuff so personally, how can
you pause and just take for a minute that we're
all going to have some struggles. We're all going to
have some challenges, and think about how can you be
more patient with this?
Speaker 2 (13:51):
Right?
Speaker 1 (13:53):
Maybe you need to spend time putting more processes together
so you can trust the process of the struggles you're
going through. Right, what are some things that I can do,
some systems I can have in place, some things that
can help me sit back and reflect versus.
Speaker 2 (14:11):
Feeling like I'm in the muck. That muck.
Speaker 1 (14:13):
This is an old metaphor that is weird that I
don't know why I still use it, but I like
it is that you're in the sewage of it, right,
You're just in the muck.
Speaker 2 (14:22):
You're in the sewage.
Speaker 1 (14:22):
It's all stank and gross, and you're stressed out and overwhelmed,
and you've become it. It's in there, and you want
to be like the shamp You want to be Champagne, right,
bubbly and fun and clear and.
Speaker 2 (14:37):
All that yummy sparkly stuff.
Speaker 1 (14:40):
But if you add champagne to sewage, to the muck
at sewage, right, So that's that that teeter totter my
mind says, I want to be over here.
Speaker 2 (14:52):
I want to be that Champagne.
Speaker 1 (14:54):
And that's where you're living, and that's where the past
two weeks like, I know my mindset wants to be
over here, and I know the I'm going to get
through it. I know I have the support, I have team.
I can pause things when I need to pause things.
I can move things to my bucket if I need
to move it to my bucket for those of you
have heard me talk about my bucket, a special bucket.
But then again then it's like you just get a
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couple extra things piled on top of you, and then
you just teeter and it's like something you just throw
your glass of champagne right into the sewage, right, and
now you have sewage. It's hard to maintain that space
sometimes and certainly when you have major life events happen.
So that's again the relativeness to some of the life circumstances.
(15:39):
So outside of those major life events, the day to day,
the mundane, how are you handling that struggle? So for
me the last two weeks, I have some businesses that
I'm working on.
Speaker 2 (15:55):
I have a couple of businesses.
Speaker 1 (15:57):
That are struggling right now, and it's a real challenge financially,
and I'm like, are you kidding me? This just happened again?
Or this happened? That compounding effect is real. But you
have to stop.
Speaker 2 (16:11):
And I'm like, okay, how can I There's I'm gonna
get through this. I'm growing.
Speaker 1 (16:15):
There's something here, right, I gotta trust it. But I
don't just set back. I have to stop. And I'm like, Okay,
what can I do to stimulate this? Where can we
cut back? Where can we add how can we market better?
Where are the vulnerabilities? Where are the opportunities, and so
that's getting into that honoring the struggle. If I just
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set back and deal with some of the stuff, or
not deal with some of this stuff in a way
where it's are you kidding me, I'm just gonna hide,
I'm just gonna like And don't get me wrong, there's
been a couple of times in the past.
Speaker 2 (16:48):
Couple of weeks where I was just ready to go
to a.
Speaker 1 (16:51):
Remote island somewhere and lay in a hammock and take
a month off and just sneak away for a while.
Speaker 2 (16:57):
But I have to pull We have to pull ourselves back.
Speaker 1 (16:59):
We have to pull ourselves back out of that space
because it's not good. We do need breaks, of course, yes,
we do need to recharge. We need to have self care,
self love. Absolutely, I support that. So that's why you
squeeze those things in when you can.
Speaker 2 (17:14):
But the reward when.
Speaker 1 (17:16):
You get through this stuff, when you get through that
transitional space of struggle and get on the other side
and not get stuck in that transitional space, that's a
beautiful place to be when you get to the other side, right,
the reward of self worth and just a hell yeah,
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hell yeah, you did this. Hell yeah, you got through.
Maybe you need to again, maybe you need to reach
out for people to that support you in your life
to get through some of the stuff.
Speaker 2 (17:50):
But just again, where are you at? I can't say
it enough.
Speaker 1 (17:53):
Are you somebody who honors the struggle during tough times
in your life and you can maintain that optimism that
you can get through it.
Speaker 2 (18:04):
Are you flexible? Can you adapt?
Speaker 1 (18:05):
Or are you somebody who is starting to adopt some
of the behavior and language and becoming that struggle? So
that's not a good place to grow from. And I
have been there one hundred percent. I've been in both places,
and I feel my foot sometimes with one foot in
one side and one foot in the other. But I
know I personally always feel so much better when I
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have both feet into the side of the honor and
the struggle side. I know it's helping me grow. I
know I can be a better person because of this.
I know that when I get through this, I've leveled up.
I've leveled up to that thing to another place, and
it helps build callouses because then you can handle those
struggles and you don't have as much fear engaging or
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taking on other challenges if you don't have somebody in
your life right now that can tell you you got
this and give you a big o' high five. I'm
gonna be your guy. I'll be the guy that tells
you have this. I've been known by many to be
the eternal optimist, and to maintain that space can.
Speaker 2 (19:15):
Be very hard. But I have had a lot.
Speaker 1 (19:19):
Of struggle in my life, just like you have had
a lot of struggle in your life.
Speaker 2 (19:23):
Right.
Speaker 1 (19:25):
We all have had those experiences. So I can tell
you got this right. Keep the mindset, keep that positivity,
keep the optimist. But yeah, hey, stuff happens. Don't take
it as personal. See if you can step back out
of the sewage, step back into the champagne and take
it on. See if you can get back to that
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place of being flexible. See if you can get back
to that place of being able to not let it
hit your nervous system, your sympathetic nervous system and put
you in fight or flight where you can be like, huh,
that sure is interesting. Didn't see that coming. What do
I have to do about that? It's okay, just is
what it is. How do I have to shift? Maybe
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it wasn't meant to be. Maybe I need to bring
somebody else in. Maybe I need to do this X,
Y and Z.
Speaker 2 (20:13):
What is it? But step back out.
Speaker 1 (20:15):
Let your nervous system be in a place of theta alpha,
that focused state right where you can see it clear
and you're not like er right into it. Okay, get
out of the barely holding on. Get out of the I'm.
Speaker 2 (20:28):
So over this. Get out of the I feel like
I'm drowning. Get ahead of it.
Speaker 1 (20:33):
In the place of honoring the struggle, in the place
of trusting the process, there's clarity. So if you're in
it and you feel like you don't have clarity, you're
in it. You're in the struggle. You've become the struggle.
Step out of it. Jump out out of it. You
have to pause and know there's a transition space that
you can move through to get through that. And sometimes
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we get stuck in that space, and that's where there
can be a lot frustration, a lot of pain, a
lot of anxiety, and a lot of things that just
don't feel good.
Speaker 2 (21:06):
Okay, So I'm.
Speaker 1 (21:09):
Going to be leaving you here. That's my stuff. I
hope there was something in here that helps you. Maybe
you're somebody who you just hit this podcast by accident,
and this is exactly what you needed to hear today.
I love it when that happens. But I'm here to
tell you got this. If you've connected with some of
the things I talked to earlier about as far as
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the energy, the vocabulary, the thoughts, the mindset, the language
or identity around, you've become the struggle versus honoring the struggle.
I'm telling you you don't have to be there. You
can be a person who can honor the struggle. You
can be a person who can be in that space
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where it is allowing you to grow and evolve. You
do not have to be stud you do not have
to be stagnant. You do not have to feel this
way anymore. I've been there, I've felt it. It's drownding,
it's exhausting, it's leaking energy.
Speaker 2 (22:11):
So shift to this other place.
Speaker 1 (22:13):
Take the challenge on, take the struggle on, and honor
that struggle of being somebody who can move from a
place of being the struggle to a place of honoring
the struggle. All Right, people, thank you so much for
listening to this. You got this. I want to thank everybody.
Amy I mischief today, hopefully, hopefully this does the job
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here people. I like talking about this stuff. I love mindset,
so I'm going to do another one on that. So
please please please, as always, if you found something you
loved here, if you found something that helped you, or
if you know somebody that is in that place of
becoming the struggle, if you know somebody who is in
that space that could use a little you got this
(22:58):
a little high five, Please send this podcast to them,
give us a like, download as many episodes as you can,
leave a review. We are all on this planet together,
living our lives and having these experiences. We can learn
from each other and we can all honor the struggle.
Speaker 2 (23:21):
Thank you and bye.
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Speaker 2 (24:02):
Love
Where are you at? I can't say it enough.
Speaker 1 (00:07):
Are you somebody who honors the struggle during tough times
in your life and you can maintain that optimism that
you can get through it?
Speaker 2 (00:17):
Are you flexible? Can you adapt?
Speaker 3 (00:20):
Hey? Friends, thank you for listening to the All Things
Good for You Podcast. Join us as we explore ancient traditions,
modern tools and practices in the world of health, wellness,
and personal development. I'm Amy Christensen, your host and your
curated mind coach, and I'm your.
Speaker 4 (00:37):
Co host, Brian Bowen, founder of Integrative Health, Inc. And
Better Human Company High Performance Coaching. Are you ready to
take control of your life and start feeling enthusiastic, empowered,
and limitless each and every day for a life well lived?
Let your curiosity flow with.
Speaker 2 (00:54):
All Things Good for You?
Speaker 1 (00:59):
Hello, Hello, Hello, and thank you for listening to the
All Things Good for You Podcast. I don't know why
I always have to say hello so many times. It's
really hard to say hello once for some reason for me.
So maybe hello, howdy, good morning, good afternoon, good evening,
whatever time of the day it is for you, and
you're listening to this podcast, I'm grateful, grateful that you're
(01:21):
taking the time doing whatever you're doing and plugging us
into your day.
Speaker 2 (01:25):
I truly believe.
Speaker 1 (01:27):
This podcast has so much to offer. We are here
to talk about all things that are good for you.
Sometimes we talk about different services, Sometimes we talk about
mindset stuff. Sometimes we like to geek out and have
some fun interviews with people, and any variety of things.
Speaker 2 (01:44):
But it is always about all things that are good
for you.
Speaker 1 (01:48):
And we're trying to walk to walk and live these
things as well, and so a lot of times these
things are also teaching moments for us. It's always we
learn so much by talking about it and engaging with
you and teaching. So thank you for listening. I'm Brian Bowen.
My cost Amy Christiansen is not with us today, So
for those of you who are listening to this because
(02:08):
you love Amy's voice and all the wisdom that she drops,
I apologize. She's not on this podcast today. She's up
doing some mountainey stuff, I'm sure, and we are on
a mission to hit our hundredth podcast by the end
of the year, so we're going to be dropping some
little twenty minute thirty minute things independently and also doing
(02:30):
our longer ones together. So thank you for helping us
get to our hundred mark. Just like you guys. It
is a super busy world out there, and I don't
know about you, about October seems really extra special this October.
Obviously it's before the election or a month before, and
so I think there's a lot of I don't know,
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just energy of sorts out there. That's crazy, that's a
crazy energy. What can I say? Oh, I'm just going
to speak today. I'm a mindset geek. I love thinking
about mindset. I love analyzing and paying attention to my
thoughts and how I'm thinking, catching old things popping into
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my brain that aren't really helping me in life, and
so forth. And right now I'm in a time and
place for this last two weeks, I've felt my edge
of I am exhausted, I'm a little overwhelmed, and so
I have to take pause and reflect on that.
Speaker 2 (03:34):
And it's like, how am I like? What's happening? How
am I doing with that? And I was.
Speaker 1 (03:39):
Thinking the other day about struggle and have you ever
had a time in your life where you're like, Oh,
I just feel like just so many things are coming
at me at once and I can't catch a break. Right,
Maybe you're tired all the time, or it feels like
you're running on empty, you're barely holding on. Maybe you
catch yourself saying I'm so over this, or everything's piling up,
(04:02):
I feel like I'm drowning. So I've had some moments
of dipping my toe into those mental waters this past week,
and I realize, even though it's overwhelming, most of those
things I've honestly put on my plate. I launching a
bunch of stuff at once, and have some projects that
should have and this exciting energy. But sometimes even though
it's an exciting thing, you get behind. And then sometimes
(04:25):
you get piled up with surprises in life, right like
my car's been in the shop, and we got some
family kids stuff, and maybe there's some work stuff that's
piling up. So there's winds of life can throw us
all kinds of different things, and sometimes we catch ourselves struggling.
I want to talk about honoring the struggle and what's
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the difference between honoring the struggle and becoming the struggle,
because I feel like this is a space where we
can teeter toipe a little bit. So in the past
I felt like that I can't catch a break. I'm
just rolling with the punches.
Speaker 2 (05:07):
So this is in.
Speaker 1 (05:08):
Many lives of mine ago where it just felt like
I just it's always something right, it's always exhausting. Why
does it have to be so hard? Nothing ever goes
my way. I'm trying so hard, but it's never enough.
I just can't get over the finish line. It feels
like I'm spinning my wheels. Maybe some of that is
some language that's spin in your head from the failure.
Speaker 2 (05:30):
I dropped the ball on this, and I had to work.
Speaker 1 (05:35):
Really hard to see through and get through that and
realize that everything that I was doing at that time
that was hard gave me opportunities of growth to stop
and put together better processes. Look at how I'm doing things.
I had to become more adaptable, become more aware of
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when I needed to pivot things of that nature.
Speaker 2 (06:00):
And so struggle can be important.
Speaker 1 (06:04):
We need an evolutionary tension right to grow, to push
us forward, pull us forward, however it is that we
got to get moving forward. We got to get moving forward.
Sometimes I'm like, oh my god, I'm in this positive space,
and this was me in the last two weeks just
sharing where I'm like, I know this, I know.
Speaker 2 (06:24):
It's about the process. Trust the process. I'm growing from this,
I'm learning. You seem so on top of it.
Speaker 1 (06:30):
Then all of a sudden, one more thing hits you,
like just to surprise. From nowhere you are teetering on
the side of optimism and teetering on that side of
I got this, teetering on that side of heck, yeah,
I'm gonna kick ass and this is going to be
amazing once I get to the other side.
Speaker 2 (06:48):
And then all of a.
Speaker 1 (06:48):
Sudden, one more thing just lands on you, and it
just shifts that weight, shifts that mental momentum just enough
to want to teeter back into that world of becoming
the struggle. Right, It's really hard to catch It's really
hard to catch that sometimes. So this podcast today all
(07:10):
Things Good for You, I just want to highlight how
important it is for our mindset to be in a
positive space with struggle and what that means in some
language that we might tell ourselves or the way we
act or how we identify with it, and what is
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our energy doing in that space versus becoming the struggle.
Speaker 2 (07:37):
And if you're in that.
Speaker 1 (07:39):
Place where you've become the struggle, how do you get
out of that place. So this is just a mindset awareness,
like what is happening in that space for you. I
want to do another.
Speaker 2 (07:51):
Podcast about the space the.
Speaker 1 (07:54):
Transition, but today I really want to talk just about
the mindset piece of it. So if you are accepted
acceptance and have acceptance with growth, and you have more
of that growth mindset, that is a good place to
be coming from. Right, That is honoring the struggle. Maybe
(08:16):
you viewed struggle as a natural part of personal growth
again and evolutionary tension pulling you forward.
Speaker 2 (08:23):
If you have more emotional.
Speaker 1 (08:25):
Experiences around around this as being like trusting and I'm
patient through the process, that's a beautiful place to be
with honoring the struggle. So these are types of feelings
or things we might think that show that we're in
a good place of honoring that struggle. Right, the struggle
(08:45):
doesn't define you in this place by the hardships. It's
just showing your ability. You have the ability to pivot,
the ability to move through it, the ability to see beyond. Right,
that is a good place to be. Are you there?
Do you see it? Is your energy thinking about it
as being temporary and that you can navigate it, and
(09:05):
you are taking personal agency of it. This is something
I can get through. And sometimes it's what do I
have to cut loose to move forward to? What do
I have to become? What do I have to put
my focus on? What are some of the lessons here?
Is it the right thing? And not letting it feel overwhelming?
So when you start to feel that, you start to
(09:27):
hear that other language of I just can't cut a
break right. Things are just piling up on me. I'm overwhelmed.
Think about that language. So the honoring the struggle vibe
is what I just talked about, that language And so
if you catch yourself there, that's a really good place
to be.
Speaker 2 (09:45):
And sometimes we just don't know.
Speaker 1 (09:47):
We don't have those Hallelujah little tell Telle signs of
where we're at.
Speaker 2 (09:53):
So how can you stop, pause, take stock where you at?
What's the language that's being that's going through your head.
Speaker 1 (10:05):
If you feel like you're stuck in survival mode and
you don't have a clear path forward, that you're in
the struggle, you've become the struggle. If you feel consumed
and overwhelmed and not grounded and in self, you've become
the struggle. If you are always discouraged and you're in
(10:26):
that negative spiral, you've become the struggle. If you're using
language that's going through your head of why is this
always happening? What karmic debts do I have to pay?
I thought, I'm past all this. It's always something again.
That's the language of you've become the struggle. So if
(10:49):
you start, if you've if your identity has shifted so much,
that's how you identify, like I am just that person
that stuff is always happening to me, I don't know why,
versus the identity of yeah, I have stuff come to
me all the time, like that's life, and I just
navigate through it. I'm gonna work through it. It's all good, right,
(11:11):
I'll get help, I'll get the support. That's you identifying
with somebody who honors the struggle, who can move through
the struggle, versus I've become the struggle.
Speaker 2 (11:23):
It's always me? Why me?
Speaker 1 (11:26):
And that energy of becoming the struggle versus honoring the
struggle is very draining. And we've talked many times before
in our podcast about cultivating energy versus leaking or draining energy.
And if you become the struggle, you are leaking energy, right,
You're gonna feel drained, You're gonna feel powerless, you're gonna
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feel lack of motivation. You're gonna stop trying as hard.
You're not gonna connect with purpose that's pulling you through
some of this stuff. That focus just is blurred. You
just don't have the clear you can't see the potential growth,
you can't see beyond. And if I can help one
person shift from somebody who's stuck in struggle, who has
(12:11):
become that, and move them back to somebody a space
who can honor the struggle and start having a healthier
relationship with it a better language, that would be amazing.
So I don't know where you're at. I don't know
what language is coming in your head. I don't know
(12:32):
what's happening on your day to day, And it's really
hard not to take some of this stuff personal. Most
of the time it's not personal. Now, I know that
life has a lot of relative situations, so I'm not
going to get into all of those specifics, and I
know that they're at different level. So there is a
time where, of course, you need additional professional help to
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navigate some of these waters. And we're not going to
that space. I'm going I'm talking about the day to.
Speaker 2 (13:01):
Day life stuff. The day to day life stuff.
Speaker 1 (13:04):
And some people, for instance, get stuck on the highway
and the traffic's crazy. They're in a rush. Everybody's got
to be somewhere. We all have to be somewhere that
maybe they've had a lot of other things happen within
their morning and it's a compounding thing. And based off
their mindset and how the nervous system handles it is
(13:26):
how they're going to show up and how they're going
to respond to it, what their actions.
Speaker 2 (13:29):
Are going to be.
Speaker 1 (13:31):
So, how are you showing up? How can you not
take some of the life stuff so personally, how can
you pause and just take for a minute that we're
all going to have some struggles. We're all going to
have some challenges, and think about how can you be
more patient with this?
Speaker 2 (13:51):
Right?
Speaker 1 (13:53):
Maybe you need to spend time putting more processes together
so you can trust the process of the struggles you're
going through. Right, what are some things that I can do,
some systems I can have in place, some things that
can help me sit back and reflect versus.
Speaker 2 (14:11):
Feeling like I'm in the muck. That muck.
Speaker 1 (14:13):
This is an old metaphor that is weird that I
don't know why I still use it, but I like
it is that you're in the sewage of it, right,
You're just in the muck.
Speaker 2 (14:22):
You're in the sewage.
Speaker 1 (14:22):
It's all stank and gross, and you're stressed out and overwhelmed,
and you've become it. It's in there, and you want
to be like the shamp You want to be Champagne, right,
bubbly and fun and clear and.
Speaker 2 (14:37):
All that yummy sparkly stuff.
Speaker 1 (14:40):
But if you add champagne to sewage, to the muck
at sewage, right, So that's that that teeter totter my
mind says, I want to be over here.
Speaker 2 (14:52):
I want to be that Champagne.
Speaker 1 (14:54):
And that's where you're living, and that's where the past
two weeks like, I know my mindset wants to be
over here, and I know the I'm going to get
through it. I know I have the support, I have team.
I can pause things when I need to pause things.
I can move things to my bucket if I need
to move it to my bucket for those of you
have heard me talk about my bucket, a special bucket.
But then again then it's like you just get a
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couple extra things piled on top of you, and then
you just teeter and it's like something you just throw
your glass of champagne right into the sewage, right, and
now you have sewage. It's hard to maintain that space
sometimes and certainly when you have major life events happen.
So that's again the relativeness to some of the life circumstances.
(15:39):
So outside of those major life events, the day to day,
the mundane, how are you handling that struggle? So for
me the last two weeks, I have some businesses that
I'm working on.
Speaker 2 (15:55):
I have a couple of businesses.
Speaker 1 (15:57):
That are struggling right now, and it's a real challenge financially,
and I'm like, are you kidding me? This just happened again?
Or this happened? That compounding effect is real. But you
have to stop.
Speaker 2 (16:11):
And I'm like, okay, how can I There's I'm gonna
get through this. I'm growing.
Speaker 1 (16:15):
There's something here, right, I gotta trust it. But I
don't just set back. I have to stop. And I'm like, Okay,
what can I do to stimulate this? Where can we
cut back? Where can we add how can we market better?
Where are the vulnerabilities? Where are the opportunities, and so
that's getting into that honoring the struggle. If I just
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set back and deal with some of the stuff, or
not deal with some of this stuff in a way
where it's are you kidding me, I'm just gonna hide,
I'm just gonna like And don't get me wrong, there's
been a couple of times in the past.
Speaker 2 (16:48):
Couple of weeks where I was just ready to go
to a.
Speaker 1 (16:51):
Remote island somewhere and lay in a hammock and take
a month off and just sneak away for a while.
Speaker 2 (16:57):
But I have to pull We have to pull ourselves back.
Speaker 1 (16:59):
We have to pull ourselves back out of that space
because it's not good. We do need breaks, of course, yes,
we do need to recharge. We need to have self care,
self love. Absolutely, I support that. So that's why you
squeeze those things in when you can.
Speaker 2 (17:14):
But the reward when.
Speaker 1 (17:16):
You get through this stuff, when you get through that
transitional space of struggle and get on the other side
and not get stuck in that transitional space, that's a
beautiful place to be when you get to the other side, right,
the reward of self worth and just a hell yeah,
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hell yeah, you did this. Hell yeah, you got through.
Maybe you need to again, maybe you need to reach
out for people to that support you in your life
to get through some of the stuff.
Speaker 2 (17:50):
But just again, where are you at? I can't say
it enough.
Speaker 1 (17:53):
Are you somebody who honors the struggle during tough times
in your life and you can maintain that optimism that
you can get through it.
Speaker 2 (18:04):
Are you flexible? Can you adapt?
Speaker 1 (18:05):
Or are you somebody who is starting to adopt some
of the behavior and language and becoming that struggle? So
that's not a good place to grow from. And I
have been there one hundred percent. I've been in both places,
and I feel my foot sometimes with one foot in
one side and one foot in the other. But I
know I personally always feel so much better when I
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have both feet into the side of the honor and
the struggle side. I know it's helping me grow. I
know I can be a better person because of this.
I know that when I get through this, I've leveled up.
I've leveled up to that thing to another place, and
it helps build callouses because then you can handle those
struggles and you don't have as much fear engaging or
(18:54):
taking on other challenges if you don't have somebody in
your life right now that can tell you you got
this and give you a big o' high five. I'm
gonna be your guy. I'll be the guy that tells
you have this. I've been known by many to be
the eternal optimist, and to maintain that space can.
Speaker 2 (19:15):
Be very hard. But I have had a lot.
Speaker 1 (19:19):
Of struggle in my life, just like you have had
a lot of struggle in your life.
Speaker 2 (19:23):
Right.
Speaker 1 (19:25):
We all have had those experiences. So I can tell
you got this right. Keep the mindset, keep that positivity,
keep the optimist. But yeah, hey, stuff happens. Don't take
it as personal. See if you can step back out
of the sewage, step back into the champagne and take
it on. See if you can get back to that
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place of being flexible. See if you can get back
to that place of being able to not let it
hit your nervous system, your sympathetic nervous system and put
you in fight or flight where you can be like, huh,
that sure is interesting. Didn't see that coming. What do
I have to do about that? It's okay, just is
what it is. How do I have to shift? Maybe
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it wasn't meant to be. Maybe I need to bring
somebody else in. Maybe I need to do this X,
Y and Z.
Speaker 2 (20:13):
What is it? But step back out.
Speaker 1 (20:15):
Let your nervous system be in a place of theta alpha,
that focused state right where you can see it clear
and you're not like er right into it. Okay, get
out of the barely holding on. Get out of the I'm.
Speaker 2 (20:28):
So over this. Get out of the I feel like
I'm drowning. Get ahead of it.
Speaker 1 (20:33):
In the place of honoring the struggle, in the place
of trusting the process, there's clarity. So if you're in
it and you feel like you don't have clarity, you're
in it. You're in the struggle. You've become the struggle.
Step out of it. Jump out out of it. You
have to pause and know there's a transition space that
you can move through to get through that. And sometimes
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we get stuck in that space, and that's where there
can be a lot frustration, a lot of pain, a
lot of anxiety, and a lot of things that just
don't feel good.
Speaker 2 (21:06):
Okay, So I'm.
Speaker 1 (21:09):
Going to be leaving you here. That's my stuff. I
hope there was something in here that helps you. Maybe
you're somebody who you just hit this podcast by accident,
and this is exactly what you needed to hear today.
I love it when that happens. But I'm here to
tell you got this. If you've connected with some of
the things I talked to earlier about as far as
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the energy, the vocabulary, the thoughts, the mindset, the language
or identity around, you've become the struggle versus honoring the struggle.
I'm telling you you don't have to be there. You
can be a person who can honor the struggle. You
can be a person who can be in that space
(21:56):
where it is allowing you to grow and evolve. You
do not have to be stud you do not have
to be stagnant. You do not have to feel this
way anymore. I've been there, I've felt it. It's drownding,
it's exhausting, it's leaking energy.
Speaker 2 (22:11):
So shift to this other place.
Speaker 1 (22:13):
Take the challenge on, take the struggle on, and honor
that struggle of being somebody who can move from a
place of being the struggle to a place of honoring
the struggle. All Right, people, thank you so much for
listening to this. You got this. I want to thank everybody.
Amy I mischief today, hopefully, hopefully this does the job
(22:36):
here people. I like talking about this stuff. I love mindset,
so I'm going to do another one on that. So
please please please, as always, if you found something you
loved here, if you found something that helped you, or
if you know somebody that is in that place of
becoming the struggle, if you know somebody who is in
that space that could use a little you got this
(22:58):
a little high five, Please send this podcast to them,
give us a like, download as many episodes as you can,
leave a review. We are all on this planet together,
living our lives and having these experiences. We can learn
from each other and we can all honor the struggle.
Speaker 2 (23:21):
Thank you and bye.
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