May 6, 2025 • 22 mins
What happens when the business you built no longer lights you up? In this raw, unscripted solo episode, Bri Seeley takes you behind the curtain of her own entrepreneurial midlife crisis. From confronting fears (like chickens) to questioning the very foundation of success, she shares how breaking her routine, stepping into the unknown, and asking bigger questions is reshaping her future. What You’ll Hear In This Episode:
- Why “not unhappy” isn’t good enough
- The truth about scaling from six to seven figures
- How routine can keep you stuck in small thinking
- The role of disruption, creativity, and support in personal evolution
- A powerful redefinition of success from hustle to fulfillment
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
This episode is about to get real interesting. I first
of all, have no plan for this episode. Usually I
come into these episodes with at the very least some
sort of bullet points or something to keep my squirrel
mind on track. I'm going to do that today. What
I want to share with you is part of the
(00:20):
reason if you're watching this on YouTube, you probably see
them in a very different setting. I am on a
bit of an adventure right now in the middle of
Arkansas for two weeks by myself, caring for a dog,
two cats, and sixteen chickens. We'll get into the chicken
thing later. Spoiler alert. I am flocking terrified of birds.
(00:40):
So why did I leave my husband in Tulsa, say,
BRB come to Arkansas for two weeks by myself in
a tiny house and take care of a bunch of
birds that scare the fuck out of me. Well, we're
going to talk about that in today's episode. And part
of the reason this episode. I don't know if I'd
(01:01):
ever really done an episode like this in the past,
but part of the reason I'm doing this is because
I am having so many conversations right now with fellow
entrepreneurs who I'll just tell you I feel like I'm
having a midlife crisis in my business. As you know,
I just hit my ten year anniversary in my business,
and almost all of the other entrepreneurs that I'm talking
(01:24):
with who have also had their businesses for ten years
are having a come to Jesus moment. They're having a
quote unquote midlife crisis in their business. I'm going to
tell you all about it. We're going to talk about it.
I'm going to tell you why I think it's happening.
I'm going to tell you what I'm doing about it,
and I'm just going to give you the perspective of
(01:44):
everything that's going on in my business right now in
the hopes that you don't have to go through this
at some point in the near future. Seth, Welcome to
Big Goal Energy. I'm Brie Seely, your hostess and tour
guide for the day. Please be sure if you enjoy
this episode to leave a rating orb you and I
will see you in the episode. You were never meant
(02:06):
for a small light. You have bold idea, audacious dreams
and visions that keep you up at night, But the
truth is big goals don't come a step by step
instruction and success doesn't come from doing more, It comes
from becoming more welcomed. Big Goal Energy a podcast for
high achieving women who are done shrinking, striving, and second
(02:27):
guessing and are ready to defy reality in pursuit of
the life they actually want. I'm your hostess, pre sealy,
goal architect, subconscious strategist, and your permission slip to want
what you want, showing me as we go beyond the
service level success to explore the mindset, identity, and inner
work required to bring your biggest, most delulu goals to life.
(02:50):
This is your space to be seen, to be expanded
and for remember that you are not alone on this journey.
Let's get into it. All of this truly began around
October November, which is interesting because October is when I
get married. November is when we had Success Becomes Me,
my annual women's conference for my nonprofit I Frozen Shoulders
(03:14):
started really kicking up at that time, lost a lot
of range of motion, was in pretty severe chronic spontaneous pain.
Things giving happened, Christmas happened, my sister had a baby,
The New Year happened, we went on our honeymoon. All
of these things were happening. Which also kind of distracted
me from being in my business. When I got back
(03:36):
to my business in January, I started realizing that I
wasn't particularly happy. Now, what's interesting about this is that
I also wasn't particularly unhappy. I was in this weird,
like middle purgatory state where there were good things happening,
(03:56):
but things weren't great, and there were not good things happening,
but things were terrible. And I feel like that state
for so many of us leads us to make excuses. Well,
there's nothing really wrong, so maybe I'm just making it up.
I shouldn't be feeling this way because nothing's wrong, and
(04:16):
we make a lot of justifications and a lot of excuses.
In the meantime, my shoulder was getting worse. I was
doing a lot of healing work. I was working with
an Akashak Records coach and a body worker and a
Reikie healer and all of these things. And I just
started to realize how the like, well, things aren't bad
was actually sabotaging me, because I never want to compromise
(04:40):
not bad for greatness or even for goodness. So in
January I started questioning everything. What do I love about
my business? What do I hate about my business, what's
going on in my day to day life. In the
midst of all of this, it also started to feel
like Groundhog's Day, which I do not do well with.
(05:01):
I just don't do well with. Maybe it's my ADHD brain,
maybe it's my creative brain. I don't know, but I
really started to feel like every day was wash Rin's repeat,
and I was not excited to get up in the mornings,
which is not me. So I started doing things. I
started a book club with some girlfriends. We started reading
The Artist's Way, and I started tapping into my creativity.
(05:24):
I learned how to open my own Acota records and
started meditating in them every single day. With The Artist's
Way comes morning pages, I started writing every morning. I
started reintegrating hypnosis daily hypnosis into my practice, and I
realized that while the last ten years of this business
(05:44):
have been good, they truly, truly, truly have been good.
I've been I was very blessed to build a six
bigger business almost immediately when I started this business. The
problem comes as a super super super ambitious souls that
I hit my first six figures and immediately moved the
(06:07):
mile marker to seven figures, and I just assumed that
because I had done six figures fairly relatively easily, I
would be able to fairly relatively easily do seven figures.
Those two pathways in those two journeys are not the same.
It's not just more of the six figure pathway to
get to seven figures. Year after year after year of
(06:29):
not accomplishing it and not achieving it, not being able
to check it off my bucket list, and then move
my goalpost again, started getting really frustrated, and in that frustration,
I started living more in the lack of the seven
figures rather than in the presence of the amazing six
figures that comes to me so easily every single year.
(06:54):
In the meantime, I'm wondering what's wrong with myself. I'm
a very smart individual. Everyone perceives me as having my
shit together. Why haven't I been able to do this?
And does this mean that I can't do it? Or
does this mean that I simply haven't done it yet?
I was facing a lot of questions, and in this
(07:16):
questioning where a lot of people around my age do
tend towards some sort of midlife crisis, because the questions
just kept getting bigger, What is the purpose of all
of this? Why am I doing all of this? If
I were to take these past forty two years and
(07:39):
replicate them to the next forty two years, would I
be satisfied? And when you start asking these questions of yourself,
you can't help but to answer them. And what I
realized was if I were to duplicate the last forty
two years to the next forty two years, I would
not be satisfied. I would be on my desk bed
(08:00):
wondering what the fuck was wrong with me and why
I didn't choose an easier path for myself to enjoy
it a little more. So I have all these questions,
I have these realizations that I'm not happy where I'm at.
I'm also not unhappy, but I'm also not happy. I'm
in this purgatory groundhog day state, and I am simply
(08:23):
the kind of person who can't stay there. Something has
to shift, because again, I'm not willing to repeat the
last forty two years for the next forty two years.
So what the fuck do I need to change? And
shift within myself, within my business, within the world around
me to understand what this next chapter of my life
(08:48):
looks like what the next decade of my business looks like.
If you heard the last week's episode Jen Rodriguez Brilliant,
Brilliant Soul. We were in book club one day and
I was kind of lamenting about some of these things,
and she looked at me and she said, if you
were the main character in a movie and your life
was this movie, and you now is watching this movie,
(09:12):
you're highly invested in the character in her life, in
what's going on as the viewer of this movie, what
would you want her to do next? Answer came immediately.
Immediately I heard, do not go back to Tulsa after Chicago.
So I was going to Chicago for a retreat and
then also to spend some time with a girlfriend, and
(09:34):
the universe was very clear, my higher self, whatever you
want to call it, my intuition, very clear, do not
go back to Tulsa after Chicago. If you're listening to
this and thinking, I wish I had more people in
my life who just get it, you're not alone. Big
Goal Energy women are rare. We're the ones dreaming big,
defying norms, and refusing to settle. And that is exactly
(09:57):
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(10:18):
content you won't get anywhere else, and yes, direct access
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join us inside the Big Goal Energy app and surround
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Download the app now or visit bre sealy dot com
(10:41):
slash community to learn more. So now, what well? First
things first, after having this realization that I was not
going back to Tulsa after Chicago, obviously I had to
sit with that and really digest what does that mean?
Because I can't go to my brand new husband of
(11:01):
six months and say I'm never coming home again, which
I didn't think was the message. But the clarity I
got was to go on Trusted House Sitters. If you've
never used it, it's a brilliant website. I used to
use it when I had Peaches. People would come and
take care of her I've now switched roles and now
I'm caring for other people's pets while they're on vacations.
(11:25):
And I applied to a house sit and I got
this house sit in Mountain Home, Arkansas. And what I
love about this house sit a few things. One, it's
obviously getting me out of my daily routine. If you
are someone who is feeling super stuck and you feel
like you're living in Groundhog Day, and you're facing the
same situations all day, every day, and your brain is
(11:45):
not facing any new information any on any given day,
you have to find a way to disrupt it. I
needed to find a way to immerse myself in the
unknown in situations, in circumstances, in places where my brain
wasn't already filling in the gaps of what was going
to happen based on old information, because I have no
(12:09):
old information about being here. I've never been to this
part of the country before, I've never been to this city.
I've never cared for chickens before because I'm fucking terrified
of them. And I had to remove everything about my
known life to access the possibilities to access new information,
(12:31):
to be able to see myself out of a box
that I was currently living in. So I was feeling
stuck and I knew that the only place to go.
Thank you, doctor Joe Despenza is the unknown. The other
thing that's been really helpful for me is being in
the present moment, being here in the absolute, complete, utter
(12:56):
simplicity of My only job every day is myself meditation, journaling, exercising,
feeding myself. Go, I'm going to the red light. There's
a tanning salon here. I'm not tanning. Don't worry, I'm
not tanning. I don't know if you've seen my skin.
I'm very white. I do not tan but they have
(13:17):
a red light booth there. And I'm having to get
out of my own way because I'm having to take
care of a dog, two cats, and sixteen chickens, y'all.
Which leads me to the last and final thing. I
have had to put myself face to face with something
that I deeply fucking fear. My friend call a message
mean was like, did something happen to you when you
(13:38):
were a child? Probably I have no recollection of it.
The only thing I can think of, yes, I have
seen the Birds movie, but I saw it when I'm sixteen.
That was not it. There was a movie when I
was a kid that I watched called Return to Oz,
and some of the characters in the movie are are
terrified of chickens. That's the only thing I can think.
I have no idea why I'm afraid of birds. I'm
(14:00):
putting myself face to face every single day with this crippling,
terrifying fear that I have. I'm a weekend my two
weeks here in Arkansas, and I can tell you that
I am starting to feel things loosen up. I'm starting
to get more clarity. I'm starting to have answers to
(14:20):
questions like who am I and what the fuck am
I here for? And what are my standards for my life?
Because the overworking and underliving thing that I really got
in the habit of in the first six ish years
of my business, I am no longer willing to live
like that. That is not a life nor an existence
(14:44):
that I am interested in perpetuating. That's not the vision
that I have for my business. It's not the vision
that I have for my life. I'm diving into things
like what is the frequency of how I want to
feel every single day? How do I remember to feel
that way every single day, what really truly is important,
(15:06):
the same questions that I ask my clients. If twenty
percent of my energy and effort is producing eighty percent
of my results, why am I doing the other eighty
percent of shit that's not getting me anywhere. I have
stopped and paused multiple times while recording this, which thankfully
descript is editing out so you don't have to hear
(15:26):
the long pauses, And I'm really sitting here asking myself, like,
who the fuck cares what you're going through right now, Brie,
Like why are you sharing this? Or what are people
even gonna take away from this? And I think the
thing that I want you to know more than anything
is that I realize that I come across as someone
who has all of their shit together all the time,
(15:49):
but I know what I'm doing, that I have a plan,
that everything's always working out for me, which it is,
but in a different way. And what I want to
say to you right now is is the biggest thing
that I have learned coming into adulthood is that we
are all just figuring it out as we go. We
are literally all doing the best we can with what
(16:11):
we have in any given moment, and personally, the only
thing that I have put together consistently in my life
are my puzzles. I am very confident, and very assured
and very able to guide a lot of people through
a lot of things, and that doesn't mean that I'm
(16:32):
also not questioning my path. And more than anything, these
are the moments where it is so important to have
the right people around us that can help us get
through these things as well. I've been working with an
akashak Records reader. I've been working with a body work
practitioner who's helping me release some of the physical attachments
(16:55):
to emotions, to experiences that I've had. I've been on
a I'm working with a nature path to help my
body let go of so much of what I've held
onto for the last forty years. I am not naive
nor stupid enough to think but I can do this
all alone. I also have an amazing community of really
(17:19):
powerful entrepreneurs, guides, and mentors around me who I have
been having copious conversations with around what is the point
of it all? How do we make change, truly make
change lasting change in our life? How do we build
the things we want to build without losing ourselves in
the process, Like really really, really fucking big questions. And
(17:43):
so at the end of it all, I guess I'm
sharing this with all of you to let you know
that if you are facing an entrepreneurial mid life crisis,
or if you are facing really big questions right now,
which I think just kind of like culturally and politically,
there are a lot of big questions being asked of
us right now in our worlds. What are our ethics are?
(18:05):
What is our integrity? What are our core values? Like,
there's a lot that a lot of people are really
sifting through right now in a world where we haven't
really had to sift through a lot of these things
up until this point in our journeys. So I share
all of this to tell you you're not alone, and if
you're facing any of these questions as well, I promise
(18:26):
that there are answers out there. Another Doctor Joe learning
is that you can't receive an answer if you're still
in the question. The question and the answer are too separate,
things that do not coexist. If you're in the energy
of the problem, you cannot also be in the energy
(18:48):
of the solution. The solution is out there, The answers
are out there. My work over the next week before
I go back to Tulsa is to sit and dwell
in the energy of the solution, the energy of the
vision I'm building, the energy of the life that I
want to be living, the impact I want to be making,
(19:09):
the legacy that I want to not only be living,
but also leaving in the world. I know there was
a lot in this episode. I hope that you found
value in it. Just remember, even the people that you
perceive to have it all together, we are also all
questioning things all the time. We are in the pursuit
of our own greatness and understanding what that means to us.
(19:33):
This is probably another pivotal point in my journey where
my definition of success is changing. I'm getting emotional. I
wasn't expecting to cry on this episode. Anyways, You're not alone.
The questions you're asking are not in vain, They're not
ridiculous questions. I personally think that some of the questions
I've been asking over the last week are some of
(19:54):
the most important questions that I will ever answer in
my life. And personally, I'm committed to this path and
committed to a path of greatness, and I'm just so
grateful to be with you, alongside you on this path
as well. If this episode resonated with you in any way,
please feel free to reach out to me. You can
(20:14):
find me on Instagram at Brisia Lead. Please come join
us on the Big Goal Energy app. You can tell
me and the community there all about what you're going through,
what you're facing, what you're experiencing, and we're all going
to get to the other side of this together. I
believe that we are at a very crucial pivotal time
(20:35):
in our world's history, and I just want to let
you know I am doing everything in my power to
elevate all of us, to find solutions for all of
us to rise and thrive together. And I'm just really,
really grateful that you're here with me. Please feel free
to share this episode with anyone you think might resonate
with it, and please, please please reach out if anything
in this episode resonated with you. I'm going to spend
(20:57):
the rest of today coloring and journaling and meditating and
answering more of these really big questions for myself and
for us. Maybe I'll come back with an updated episode
on this at some point. Until then, go live your
Big Goal Energy. Keep asking these beautiful questions, keep dwelling
in the energy of the solution, Get out of your
(21:20):
own way, go face a fear, get into the unknown,
do something unexpected, and I will see you on the
next episode. If this episode lit something up in you,
share it, text it to a friend, post it to
your stories, or leave a review. Because Big Goal Energy
is meant to be felt far and wide, and if
(21:42):
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and support. Because your vision deserves more than hustle, join
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your goals deserve alignment E and your fullest self behind
them Until next time, Trust yourself, dream bigger, and never
(22:06):
forget you are here for greatness.
This episode is about to get real interesting. I first
of all, have no plan for this episode. Usually I
come into these episodes with at the very least some
sort of bullet points or something to keep my squirrel
mind on track. I'm going to do that today. What
I want to share with you is part of the
(00:20):
reason if you're watching this on YouTube, you probably see
them in a very different setting. I am on a
bit of an adventure right now in the middle of
Arkansas for two weeks by myself, caring for a dog,
two cats, and sixteen chickens. We'll get into the chicken
thing later. Spoiler alert. I am flocking terrified of birds.
(00:40):
So why did I leave my husband in Tulsa, say,
BRB come to Arkansas for two weeks by myself in
a tiny house and take care of a bunch of
birds that scare the fuck out of me. Well, we're
going to talk about that in today's episode. And part
of the reason this episode. I don't know if I'd
(01:01):
ever really done an episode like this in the past,
but part of the reason I'm doing this is because
I am having so many conversations right now with fellow
entrepreneurs who I'll just tell you I feel like I'm
having a midlife crisis in my business. As you know,
I just hit my ten year anniversary in my business,
and almost all of the other entrepreneurs that I'm talking
(01:24):
with who have also had their businesses for ten years
are having a come to Jesus moment. They're having a
quote unquote midlife crisis in their business. I'm going to
tell you all about it. We're going to talk about it.
I'm going to tell you why I think it's happening.
I'm going to tell you what I'm doing about it,
and I'm just going to give you the perspective of
(01:44):
everything that's going on in my business right now in
the hopes that you don't have to go through this
at some point in the near future. Seth, Welcome to
Big Goal Energy. I'm Brie Seely, your hostess and tour
guide for the day. Please be sure if you enjoy
this episode to leave a rating orb you and I
will see you in the episode. You were never meant
(02:06):
for a small light. You have bold idea, audacious dreams
and visions that keep you up at night, But the
truth is big goals don't come a step by step
instruction and success doesn't come from doing more, It comes
from becoming more welcomed. Big Goal Energy a podcast for
high achieving women who are done shrinking, striving, and second
(02:27):
guessing and are ready to defy reality in pursuit of
the life they actually want. I'm your hostess, pre sealy,
goal architect, subconscious strategist, and your permission slip to want
what you want, showing me as we go beyond the
service level success to explore the mindset, identity, and inner
work required to bring your biggest, most delulu goals to life.
(02:50):
This is your space to be seen, to be expanded
and for remember that you are not alone on this journey.
Let's get into it. All of this truly began around
October November, which is interesting because October is when I
get married. November is when we had Success Becomes Me,
my annual women's conference for my nonprofit I Frozen Shoulders
(03:14):
started really kicking up at that time, lost a lot
of range of motion, was in pretty severe chronic spontaneous pain.
Things giving happened, Christmas happened, my sister had a baby,
The New Year happened, we went on our honeymoon. All
of these things were happening. Which also kind of distracted
me from being in my business. When I got back
(03:36):
to my business in January, I started realizing that I
wasn't particularly happy. Now, what's interesting about this is that
I also wasn't particularly unhappy. I was in this weird,
like middle purgatory state where there were good things happening,
(03:56):
but things weren't great, and there were not good things happening,
but things were terrible. And I feel like that state
for so many of us leads us to make excuses. Well,
there's nothing really wrong, so maybe I'm just making it up.
I shouldn't be feeling this way because nothing's wrong, and
(04:16):
we make a lot of justifications and a lot of excuses.
In the meantime, my shoulder was getting worse. I was
doing a lot of healing work. I was working with
an Akashak Records coach and a body worker and a
Reikie healer and all of these things. And I just
started to realize how the like, well, things aren't bad
was actually sabotaging me, because I never want to compromise
(04:40):
not bad for greatness or even for goodness. So in
January I started questioning everything. What do I love about
my business? What do I hate about my business, what's
going on in my day to day life. In the
midst of all of this, it also started to feel
like Groundhog's Day, which I do not do well with.
(05:01):
I just don't do well with. Maybe it's my ADHD brain,
maybe it's my creative brain. I don't know, but I
really started to feel like every day was wash Rin's repeat,
and I was not excited to get up in the mornings,
which is not me. So I started doing things. I
started a book club with some girlfriends. We started reading
The Artist's Way, and I started tapping into my creativity.
(05:24):
I learned how to open my own Acota records and
started meditating in them every single day. With The Artist's
Way comes morning pages, I started writing every morning. I
started reintegrating hypnosis daily hypnosis into my practice, and I
realized that while the last ten years of this business
(05:44):
have been good, they truly, truly, truly have been good.
I've been I was very blessed to build a six
bigger business almost immediately when I started this business. The
problem comes as a super super super ambitious souls that
I hit my first six figures and immediately moved the
(06:07):
mile marker to seven figures, and I just assumed that
because I had done six figures fairly relatively easily, I
would be able to fairly relatively easily do seven figures.
Those two pathways in those two journeys are not the same.
It's not just more of the six figure pathway to
get to seven figures. Year after year after year of
(06:29):
not accomplishing it and not achieving it, not being able
to check it off my bucket list, and then move
my goalpost again, started getting really frustrated, and in that frustration,
I started living more in the lack of the seven
figures rather than in the presence of the amazing six
figures that comes to me so easily every single year.
(06:54):
In the meantime, I'm wondering what's wrong with myself. I'm
a very smart individual. Everyone perceives me as having my
shit together. Why haven't I been able to do this?
And does this mean that I can't do it? Or
does this mean that I simply haven't done it yet?
I was facing a lot of questions, and in this
(07:16):
questioning where a lot of people around my age do
tend towards some sort of midlife crisis, because the questions
just kept getting bigger, What is the purpose of all
of this? Why am I doing all of this? If
I were to take these past forty two years and
(07:39):
replicate them to the next forty two years, would I
be satisfied? And when you start asking these questions of yourself,
you can't help but to answer them. And what I
realized was if I were to duplicate the last forty
two years to the next forty two years, I would
not be satisfied. I would be on my desk bed
(08:00):
wondering what the fuck was wrong with me and why
I didn't choose an easier path for myself to enjoy
it a little more. So I have all these questions,
I have these realizations that I'm not happy where I'm at.
I'm also not unhappy, but I'm also not happy. I'm
in this purgatory groundhog day state, and I am simply
(08:23):
the kind of person who can't stay there. Something has
to shift, because again, I'm not willing to repeat the
last forty two years for the next forty two years.
So what the fuck do I need to change? And
shift within myself, within my business, within the world around
me to understand what this next chapter of my life
(08:48):
looks like what the next decade of my business looks like.
If you heard the last week's episode Jen Rodriguez Brilliant,
Brilliant Soul. We were in book club one day and
I was kind of lamenting about some of these things,
and she looked at me and she said, if you
were the main character in a movie and your life
was this movie, and you now is watching this movie,
(09:12):
you're highly invested in the character in her life, in
what's going on as the viewer of this movie, what
would you want her to do next? Answer came immediately.
Immediately I heard, do not go back to Tulsa after Chicago.
So I was going to Chicago for a retreat and
then also to spend some time with a girlfriend, and
(09:34):
the universe was very clear, my higher self, whatever you
want to call it, my intuition, very clear, do not
go back to Tulsa after Chicago. If you're listening to
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slash community to learn more. So now, what well? First
things first, after having this realization that I was not
going back to Tulsa after Chicago, obviously I had to
sit with that and really digest what does that mean?
Because I can't go to my brand new husband of
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six months and say I'm never coming home again, which
I didn't think was the message. But the clarity I
got was to go on Trusted House Sitters. If you've
never used it, it's a brilliant website. I used to
use it when I had Peaches. People would come and
take care of her I've now switched roles and now
I'm caring for other people's pets while they're on vacations.
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And I applied to a house sit and I got
this house sit in Mountain Home, Arkansas. And what I
love about this house sit a few things. One, it's
obviously getting me out of my daily routine. If you
are someone who is feeling super stuck and you feel
like you're living in Groundhog Day, and you're facing the
same situations all day, every day, and your brain is
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not facing any new information any on any given day,
you have to find a way to disrupt it. I
needed to find a way to immerse myself in the
unknown in situations, in circumstances, in places where my brain
wasn't already filling in the gaps of what was going
to happen based on old information, because I have no
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old information about being here. I've never been to this
part of the country before, I've never been to this city.
I've never cared for chickens before because I'm fucking terrified
of them. And I had to remove everything about my
known life to access the possibilities to access new information,
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to be able to see myself out of a box
that I was currently living in. So I was feeling
stuck and I knew that the only place to go.
Thank you, doctor Joe Despenza is the unknown. The other
thing that's been really helpful for me is being in
the present moment, being here in the absolute, complete, utter
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simplicity of My only job every day is myself meditation, journaling, exercising,
feeding myself. Go, I'm going to the red light. There's
a tanning salon here. I'm not tanning. Don't worry, I'm
not tanning. I don't know if you've seen my skin.
I'm very white. I do not tan but they have
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a red light booth there. And I'm having to get
out of my own way because I'm having to take
care of a dog, two cats, and sixteen chickens, y'all.
Which leads me to the last and final thing. I
have had to put myself face to face with something
that I deeply fucking fear. My friend call a message
mean was like, did something happen to you when you
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were a child? Probably I have no recollection of it.
The only thing I can think of, yes, I have
seen the Birds movie, but I saw it when I'm sixteen.
That was not it. There was a movie when I
was a kid that I watched called Return to Oz,
and some of the characters in the movie are are
terrified of chickens. That's the only thing I can think.
I have no idea why I'm afraid of birds. I'm
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putting myself face to face every single day with this crippling,
terrifying fear that I have. I'm a weekend my two
weeks here in Arkansas, and I can tell you that
I am starting to feel things loosen up. I'm starting
to get more clarity. I'm starting to have answers to
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questions like who am I and what the fuck am
I here for? And what are my standards for my life?
Because the overworking and underliving thing that I really got
in the habit of in the first six ish years
of my business, I am no longer willing to live
like that. That is not a life nor an existence
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that I am interested in perpetuating. That's not the vision
that I have for my business. It's not the vision
that I have for my life. I'm diving into things
like what is the frequency of how I want to
feel every single day? How do I remember to feel
that way every single day, what really truly is important,
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the same questions that I ask my clients. If twenty
percent of my energy and effort is producing eighty percent
of my results, why am I doing the other eighty
percent of shit that's not getting me anywhere. I have
stopped and paused multiple times while recording this, which thankfully
descript is editing out so you don't have to hear
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the long pauses, And I'm really sitting here asking myself, like,
who the fuck cares what you're going through right now, Brie,
Like why are you sharing this? Or what are people
even gonna take away from this? And I think the
thing that I want you to know more than anything
is that I realize that I come across as someone
who has all of their shit together all the time,
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but I know what I'm doing, that I have a plan,
that everything's always working out for me, which it is,
but in a different way. And what I want to
say to you right now is is the biggest thing
that I have learned coming into adulthood is that we
are all just figuring it out as we go. We
are literally all doing the best we can with what
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we have in any given moment, and personally, the only
thing that I have put together consistently in my life
are my puzzles. I am very confident, and very assured
and very able to guide a lot of people through
a lot of things, and that doesn't mean that I'm
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also not questioning my path. And more than anything, these
are the moments where it is so important to have
the right people around us that can help us get
through these things as well. I've been working with an
akashak Records reader. I've been working with a body work
practitioner who's helping me release some of the physical attachments
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to emotions, to experiences that I've had. I've been on
a I'm working with a nature path to help my
body let go of so much of what I've held
onto for the last forty years. I am not naive
nor stupid enough to think but I can do this
all alone. I also have an amazing community of really
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powerful entrepreneurs, guides, and mentors around me who I have
been having copious conversations with around what is the point
of it all? How do we make change, truly make
change lasting change in our life? How do we build
the things we want to build without losing ourselves in
the process, Like really really, really fucking big questions. And
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so at the end of it all, I guess I'm
sharing this with all of you to let you know
that if you are facing an entrepreneurial mid life crisis,
or if you are facing really big questions right now,
which I think just kind of like culturally and politically,
there are a lot of big questions being asked of
us right now in our worlds. What are our ethics are?
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What is our integrity? What are our core values? Like,
there's a lot that a lot of people are really
sifting through right now in a world where we haven't
really had to sift through a lot of these things
up until this point in our journeys. So I share
all of this to tell you you're not alone, and if
you're facing any of these questions as well, I promise
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that there are answers out there. Another Doctor Joe learning
is that you can't receive an answer if you're still
in the question. The question and the answer are too separate,
things that do not coexist. If you're in the energy
of the problem, you cannot also be in the energy
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of the solution. The solution is out there, The answers
are out there. My work over the next week before
I go back to Tulsa is to sit and dwell
in the energy of the solution, the energy of the
vision I'm building, the energy of the life that I
want to be living, the impact I want to be making,
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the legacy that I want to not only be living,
but also leaving in the world. I know there was
a lot in this episode. I hope that you found
value in it. Just remember, even the people that you
perceive to have it all together, we are also all
questioning things all the time. We are in the pursuit
of our own greatness and understanding what that means to us.
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This is probably another pivotal point in my journey where
my definition of success is changing. I'm getting emotional. I
wasn't expecting to cry on this episode. Anyways, You're not alone.
The questions you're asking are not in vain, They're not
ridiculous questions. I personally think that some of the questions
I've been asking over the last week are some of
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the most important questions that I will ever answer in
my life. And personally, I'm committed to this path and
committed to a path of greatness, and I'm just so
grateful to be with you, alongside you on this path
as well. If this episode resonated with you in any way,
please feel free to reach out to me. You can
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find me on Instagram at Brisia Lead. Please come join
us on the Big Goal Energy app. You can tell
me and the community there all about what you're going through,
what you're facing, what you're experiencing, and we're all going
to get to the other side of this together. I
believe that we are at a very crucial pivotal time
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in our world's history, and I just want to let
you know I am doing everything in my power to
elevate all of us, to find solutions for all of
us to rise and thrive together. And I'm just really,
really grateful that you're here with me. Please feel free
to share this episode with anyone you think might resonate
with it, and please, please please reach out if anything
in this episode resonated with you. I'm going to spend
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the rest of today coloring and journaling and meditating and
answering more of these really big questions for myself and
for us. Maybe I'll come back with an updated episode
on this at some point. Until then, go live your
Big Goal Energy. Keep asking these beautiful questions, keep dwelling
in the energy of the solution, Get out of your
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own way, go face a fear, get into the unknown,
do something unexpected, and I will see you on the
next episode. If this episode lit something up in you,
share it, text it to a friend, post it to
your stories, or leave a review. Because Big Goal Energy
is meant to be felt far and wide, and if
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you're ready to go deeper, explore the tools, hypnosis, sessions
and support. Because your vision deserves more than hustle, join
us on the Big Goal Energy app by visiting your
app store and typing in Big Role Energy. Your vision,
your goals deserve alignment E and your fullest self behind
them Until next time, Trust yourself, dream bigger, and never
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forget you are here for greatness.
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