September 10, 2025 • 34 mins
A groundbreaking study has sent shockwaves through the world of modern romance, revealing that couples who meet through online dating platforms may be missing out on the spark that fuels lasting love.
Analyzing data from 50 countries, those who find their partners via apps or websites report significantly lower relationship satisfaction and feelings of love compared to couples who meet offline.
The findings suggest that the convenience of swiping right comes at a cost, with online daters experiencing less emotional connection and weaker relationship quality.
The Internet has fundamentally reshaped how people meet and form romantic relationships. But how significant are these changes, and what do they mean for relationship quality? In a large-scale, cross-cultural study using nationally representative samples from 50 countries, we examined the prevalence of online partner meeting, the demographic correlates of this trend, and its association with relationship satisfaction and experienced love.
Analyzing data from 6,646 partnered individuals (Mage = 41.45, SDage = 13.81), we found that 16 % of participants met their partners online, with this figure rising to 21 % among those who initiated their romantic relationships after 2010.
Individuals in shorter relationships and those with lower socioeconomic status (SES) were more likely to have met their partners online. We found no significant differences in the likelihood of online relationship formation based on gender or age.
On average, participants who met their partners online reported lower relationship satisfaction and lower intensity of experienced love compared to those who met offline, with effect sizes ranging from small to medium.
Given that online dating continues to grow worldwide, our findings underscore the need to enhance support for improving relationship quality among all couples, particularly those who met their partners online.
From fleeting matches to fading passion, the data paints a sobering picture of digital romance, raising questions about whether algorithms can truly ignite the flame of true love.
Could the old-fashioned meet-cute still hold the key to lasting happiness, or are we doomed to scroll through lackluster love stories?
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Analyzing data from 50 countries, those who find their partners via apps or websites report significantly lower relationship satisfaction and feelings of love compared to couples who meet offline.
The findings suggest that the convenience of swiping right comes at a cost, with online daters experiencing less emotional connection and weaker relationship quality.
The Internet has fundamentally reshaped how people meet and form romantic relationships. But how significant are these changes, and what do they mean for relationship quality? In a large-scale, cross-cultural study using nationally representative samples from 50 countries, we examined the prevalence of online partner meeting, the demographic correlates of this trend, and its association with relationship satisfaction and experienced love.
Analyzing data from 6,646 partnered individuals (Mage = 41.45, SDage = 13.81), we found that 16 % of participants met their partners online, with this figure rising to 21 % among those who initiated their romantic relationships after 2010.
Individuals in shorter relationships and those with lower socioeconomic status (SES) were more likely to have met their partners online. We found no significant differences in the likelihood of online relationship formation based on gender or age.
On average, participants who met their partners online reported lower relationship satisfaction and lower intensity of experienced love compared to those who met offline, with effect sizes ranging from small to medium.
Given that online dating continues to grow worldwide, our findings underscore the need to enhance support for improving relationship quality among all couples, particularly those who met their partners online.
From fleeting matches to fading passion, the data paints a sobering picture of digital romance, raising questions about whether algorithms can truly ignite the flame of true love.
Could the old-fashioned meet-cute still hold the key to lasting happiness, or are we doomed to scroll through lackluster love stories?
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Podcasting since two thousand and five. This is the King
of Podcasts Radio Network, Kingopodcasts dot com. A new research
study tells us something about online dating that we already knew.
We're all a little depraved and debaucherous. Here is the
King of Podcasts. We all allowed to cover the night
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prayed the the Bodros King of Podcasts. Another great week
of prigaming courtesy of the King of Podcasts Radio Network.
And first thing I want to go and make a
mention of before you get things started to night, a
quick tribute someone that was pretty formidable when I first
started going to the podcasting some twenty years ago, just
(00:47):
shortly after I got into the business of podcasting. Todd Cochran,
who's the host of the New Media Show and was
the founder of Blueberry b l U b r r Y,
a very popular podcast hosting analytics service Raw Voice, passed
away at the age of sixty one and too soon
to see that happen, but he was crucial, very much
(01:11):
a podcasting pioneer in terms of helping podcasters like myself
get a wrap around the industry, the technology and the
equipment that we needed to be able to increate podcasts.
He was very important to podcasting. So if you haven't
a chance to go and catch a show he's done
loads of episodes, take a chance and look for his show,
(01:35):
The New Media Show on all major podcasts platforms and
find out about it. Because he did cool stuff. Stand
Up Guy, so Todd cogran, Rest in Peace, God's Pee
My Friend. Now coming up, I want to talk about
a study that came out regarding what we're learning from
(01:58):
meeting partners online and how it relates to lower relationship
satisfaction and love, and data from over fifty countries are
brought into this particular story, so you can give that
into you as well and you can learn all about it.
We're gonna talk about that in just a few moments,
but I want to go into some other things that
(02:18):
also came up as the week has gone along in
some of the commentary of past episodes, namely the one
about tattoos, because man, people just cannot let that go.
It's just there, it continues. It's gotten so many downloads.
I'm pretty happy about it. It's only three years ago
that I did a ten minute episode on why tat
(02:39):
Why Trauma leased with tons of tattoos and piercings, And
of course I've done other stories after this, but more
commentary coming in. First of all, there was a comment
responding back to Clipping Mclipper who said that tattoos it's
a socially accepted form of self harm. It's also a
way for people to identify issues to cope Nero dB Wrights. No,
(03:01):
it doesn't. You don't have to take your favorite shirt off.
It's not for attention. Make oh in nineteen ninety nine says,
imagine being so so bored with your life you have
to do a video trying your damns to psychologically profile
people do with tattoos. I mean, you could say that,
and you can make it a point of why I
decided to go and bring this up. But I mean
(03:23):
I justin go with the culture changes happened, and don't
tell me it's oh, you know you're getting older and
you know people were just changing. I get it, But
there was a time where you didn't see as rampant
of people going to the tattoo parl as you do now.
And again I always say, yes, there are absolutely reasons
for people to go and have it for some cultural identification,
(03:45):
or for family reasons or whatever it is, that's okay.
But I can tell that more women, specifically women are
getting more tattoos than ever, and it's not something that
just as naturally. I think I get more feedback from
a Kio in nineteen oh ninety says dog if you
don't like tattooed hot women, they just say that, swear
(04:06):
to gd it as to the beauty, and you're you're
entitled to that. And there's a lot of more people
that are probably more in majority thinking the way you
do Mcheo than I am. That's okay, but I'm gonna
point it out because this program it is something that
is as I call the show the Praid and the Botress,
it is depravity when you decide to say that as
(04:29):
to the beauty. But I'm the kind of person that
doesn't really necessity doesn't require me to go and see
women that's all dulled up and makeup and like in
a great dress. I don't need all that. I just
like a natural woman that just looks great in a
pair of jeans and casual looking. I mean, I like that.
(04:50):
It's a personal preference, so you can say what you
want about that, but that's where I'm at and then
somebody writes, basically, I coup here. It feels like this
is from Michael cursive E's twenty fifty seven. He says,
your skin is the largest organ of the body, is
designed to protect all your interior systems. I am not
(05:13):
blessed with the abilities of the chameleon. Perhaps the tattoos
are a submoinal need to hide or assimilate ones in
herself with the outside predatory world that we all come
to know is there. But that's again deep you all know.
I am right, No a shame either way. Just overcome
your trials, your own trials, and grow wiser than the serpent. Said, Lah,
(05:36):
you don't. That's a very interesting and insightful thought. A
lot of thought put into that and taking away that
one part right there, overcome your own trials, grow wiser
than the serpent. So I kind of interpret that that
is somebody that when people talk about tattoo regret during
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the point where they feel like, when you get it done,
at the time that you're doing it, how much time
you think about before you decide to go and put
on your body and then when you do it, are
you inebriated? Are you some kind of state of despaired
or you know, happiness or whatever your feelings are, you know, young, adventurous,
(06:20):
wild and free. We don't know. But what's the mindset
you have before you decide to go and do it?
And you ask yourself ten twenty thirty years down the line,
if you get married, if you have a relationship, if
you you know, become a professional, whatever it is you know,
is that something that you want to have represent you
for the rest of your life because people will put
it out forever unless you're getting at the casill And
(06:42):
then next to Lack nineteen seventy two writes, yep, be
aware of anyone with a lot of tax im pierces,
because each one is a reminder of something dramatic to
happen in her life, and you will have the rest
of her life to be reminded of all the mistakes
she's made. Stay the hell away, guys. Now, I'm not
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saying that at all about the thoughts of guys that
want to go ahead and be with girls because they
like girls with all the tattoos on them, or even
that there are certain things that identify with those tattoos.
We can talk about this in another show. So it's
okay to be however you feel about it, but in
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my opinion, I want it to be. And I say
this over and over that if a woman's going to
go ahead and get into that point, I was starting
to get multiple tattoos just constant, and there's a thing
where what led to her feeling that way. Some of them,
we're going to just do it just because it's gonna
do it. It's fine. But there's someone that I think
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they fall into a path of if they went through
something traumatic or psychological or horrific and they don't feel
beautiful anymore, they don't feel like they're feel comfortable in
their skin, and there's some mental trauma that has not
been worked out. Is that a way that is going
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to be healthy in order to go in for someone
to go overcome the trauma they went through. That's the question.
And I don't know if that's a good there's an
answer out there, But I've been looking for studies constantly
that support what I'm talking about, and I'm going to
continue to do that because people keep asking me to
do it, so I will. So that's going to go forward.
Studies we like here on this program. I like to
(08:33):
go and back it up with what is out there
by science. Why not I like to go and put
that out there now. In here this study from telematics
and informatics from the University of Rural Claw in Poland, and
there is a psychology. They put out a story about
(08:57):
relationships and the fact that people that are meeting through
online dating is related to lower relationship satisfaction and love.
So here's what we got out of this, and the
absolutely say that the Internet has fundamentally shaped reshaped how
people meet and form relationships. They did across cultural study
large scale fifty countries sampled. The prevalence of online partner
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meeting was examined, the democratic correlates of the trend and
his association with relationship satisfaction and experiencing love. They analyzed
data from over six thousand partnered individuals. The age is
first of all media age was forty one years old.
Sixteen percent of these participants meant their partners online and
(09:45):
the figure rose to twenty one percent among those who
initiated the romantic relationships after twenty ten. Now, those that
have a lower socioeconomic status were more likely to have
met their partners online. So if you don't have that
high the scretion income out there, then you might look
for someone online as supposed to going out and meeting
(10:05):
somebody in public because you don't have the means for it.
That makes sense. They found those significant differences in the
likelihood of online relationship information based on gender or age
that partners on average who met their partners online reported
lower relationship satisfaction and lower intensity of experienced love compared
to those who met offline. With the fact that size
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the regions from small to medium, and they underscore that
the need to enhance support for improving relationship quality among
all couples, particularly those who meet their partners online. So
it very interesting the fact that it's something we kind
of already knew that they talk about, the fact that
the ways that people findance use their partners have changed
(10:49):
dramatically over time and partner section for most of our
life times and most of the world was constrained by
one's immediate social environment because of individuals in close geographic proximity,
and the Internet has changed that meeting landscape and digital
technologies like social media now all individuals to connect, communicate,
(11:10):
and build a rhumgic relationships with people that might have
never encountered otherwise. And that's the point that's going to
be made here that everything has changed for people out
there that want to go ahead and find love because
online ditting is social media changed the whole down biographic Okay,
because when we're looking at trying to find someone that
(11:31):
fits what we're looking for. Okay, I'm talking about the
fact that when we met people in our lives. I mean,
I think about the fact that when I tried to
go and meet with somebody at the very beginning, and
I'm saying to myself, I look at the girls on TikTok,
I look at the girls on Instagram, I look at
the girls on social media in general, and I see
(11:53):
the beauty out there, and I see the women that
are so desirable and so beautiful and so lowly, and
I feel there's an abundance of women out there. Well,
now I talk about there's plenty of efficiency. The social
media and online ditting proves that point. We always knew
that was out there, but now we see it. And
although we're exposed to it for all these years, it's
taken away the whole idea of so whatever is in
(12:16):
our backyard, whoever we know around us, isn't good enough.
And I'll admit when I look at people and I'm
in South Florida where there's like so many attractive people here,
I me know. I do a lot of work as
an uber driver, and as an uber driver, I see
a lot of beautiful women regularly that might be passengers
that I'm driving from place to place or I'm driving
deliveries to whatever it is. And I say to myself
(12:40):
sometimes I look at what I see online of the
women that are on there, and I don't see as
many beautiful women as I see around me and around
my sphere as I would see online. So we are
creating a delusion for ourselves. Women get a delusion because
of social media because they see what other women are
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getting to experience, and because it is a competition out
there for some women to show they got it better
than everybody else. And so every guy that's out there,
there's only gonna be a certain amount they're gonna be
out there, So it's gonna just take away for men
out there that want to find more. They're not gonna
be able to go and find. They're not gonna be
noticed because the dynamic of a man who is attractive
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and well off. Before social media, it was easy for
men to be found because number one, we didn't have
to worry about the part of thinking there was gonna
be something better. They get something even more certificately better
than we thought, because remember, what we're trying to attain
too is almost impossible. So the women that men might
want to seek out and look for might not be
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a reality to find. The same thing for women is
obviously not that they're not working. They're not looking to
go and find some guy that just supports them and
could just be somebody that just you know, some hardline
physical labor type worker or somebody just white collar. It
doesn't matter where they come from, because they feel like
now there is this value that's been put on women
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because of how they are noticed and appreciated and perceived online.
There's a different persona for them that makes them feel like, well,
there's absolutely then something more for me that the old
way of thinking, well if I just find somebody that
lives right around me, I'm gonna just get lucky, or
the idea that when you have like one of those
long distance relationships, right, we used to have all those
(14:34):
where oh you meet somebody that's so far away and
like you feel connected to them penpals. Well, it's changed
now because now we're just getting that false sense of
fantasy that we can see somebody on a video screen
and we can see and communicate with each other so easily.
It's not as hard as it was to call long
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distance or to meet somebody in person, or you know,
or even just going to do vacations things like. It's
just much different. So that's what we're dealing with now
more than ever, and that's what's honestly very unfortunate. So
doctor Marta Kawal is the one that did the study
(15:16):
from the University of World Claw Universe Institute size at College.
He says that the differences are not dramatic, but the
market shift from studies a decade ago that there's a
changing major of online dating and earlier platforms emphasized compatibility
and long term relationships. Modern apps focused on rabbit selection,
often based on photos. Because of the short attention span
that we have on the internet, more and more the
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dating apps changed to what they were because remember the
early dating apps were fantastic. The early online dating was
exceptional because everybody kind of took it as okay. This
is the gateway to meet somebody that's near me that
I probably would never bump into or never run into normally.
And that was the good part. Love a AOL was
a great way to get on there. You didn't have
(16:00):
to go and pay for it. You'd go on the
instant Messenger, find that person's user name, and then you
hit them up and you could talk just like you
would do on Instagram. Slide into a DM. That's the
early slide into a DM as a matter of fact.
And then the other one that was really great was
e Harmony because that relationship quiz that they put you through,
(16:21):
they were really good at matching you with women that
you would absolutely match with, because I felt like, what, no,
not every ten times they picked somebody who was really good.
I really can say that, at least for me, I
probably wasn't exactly what the woman was looking for because
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I was I was not mature enough to read in
a relationship. But I could tell you that every girl
that was offered to me that responded to me on
e Harmony that matched was exceptional, beautiful, smart, lively, outgoing.
It just fit what I was looking for at the time.
(17:04):
And yeah, I struck out but it was different to
that point because we also made the connection, and you're
supposed to make that immediate point to get together. But
now we have these ridiculous standards that are out there
for guys that I mean, my biggest problem is I
(17:25):
don't talk to a girl these days anymore without thinking, Okay,
what is it going to cost me? Because I also
see what social media and online ditting has done where
women have found such a way to be so good
at finding the right wardrobe and putting the right makeup
on and looking their absolutely best, but also it costs
(17:46):
so much money from the going get to that point,
because it's one thing to go ahead and try to
put an investment in to try to look even more
beautiful or enhance your beauty, but not knowing what to
do or how to do it. But there's so many
beauty tips out there. Get rid of with me, segments
that are out there for women to go ahead really
know how to put on their makeup if they want
to do it, find the right products because you geting
(18:07):
good recommendations, and the good recommendations are expensive. So remember
guys that I look at when I see a woman
that is absolutely like made together put together. Even when
I was just going out and did a delivery for
at a Costco to day and I see a lady
that was coming across. She was middle aged, but she
had a nice dress on, a lot of makeup on,
(18:30):
and I'm saying to myself, okay, and she's a professional woman,
and I can tell you, like, all right, there's a
lot of money behind what she's doing to put herself together.
And like if I even had the thought of like
kind of ask ground on a day or just like
stop her, I was like she was walking past me
just to go ahead and say something, what kind of
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what kind of financial investment is going to be coming in?
Because I just think it that way. It's money minded.
You gotta be prepared for it. Like it's not like, oh,
money in anything, is in everything, right, But the thing
is that you have to really invest now more than ever.
And that's something I'm just I'm not willing to give
in because it will be one thing if I knew
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that the investment would actually pay off. If I knew
that I met with a woman and took the time
to go ahead and get together and meet them and realize, Okay,
something's going to come from this, because the woman is
going to be coming into this relationship opportunity with a
real chance at it. And I can't tell you how
many times where I've had a woman that will just
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feel like there's no enthusiasm, no excitement, know, anything into
meeting up for that first date, second date, third date,
and I'm like, well, why am I going to go
through that for and then meet other people? Or the
one thing I had was a girl that wanted to
meet together early as say, well, then she was gonna
go other friends later. No, no, no, no, all these
red flags would come across. I'm not even worrying about
(19:54):
that at all. No way. Now, the last few weeks,
I've been bringing up the book The Manipulated Man by
Estra Volar And as I say, every once in a while,
I like to go and bring up this book. This
is from the end of the book. Right here, there's
a section where she asked the question what is love?
And I want to read this passage to you because
it's very important what's being said here and the explanation
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of it, because it just feels like what she's saying
here in a good way, in somewhat everything. I'm not
gonna say that everything is absolutely accurate, but I think
what she's saying here kind of really works with what's
going on today. Again, this was some fifty five years ago,
(20:41):
this book was written. Now. She says here that man
has been manipulated by women to the point where he
cannot live with her without her, and therefore we'll do
anything she asks of him. He fights for his life
and calls it love. There are even men who will
threaten their idolized female with suicide unless she accepts him.
Not that this is much of a risk for them.
They have nothing to lose. Women, nevertheless, is incapable of
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living without a man. We're learning about that right now
more than anything. That women do not handle lonely thiss
very well. And even when we was trying to find
a relationship, now they're not satisfied. According to study, like
a queen Bee, Estrid goes on, she cannot survive on
her own. She too is fighting for her life, and
she too calls it love. And remember it's the primal
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dating thing that I've talked with tim Ash that women
are looking for someone to provide for them, to keep
them secure and safe, and to take care of them.
It's what this meant to be. Women are nurturers. Men
are supposed to be the providers and supporters, the strength,
the chivalry, all that stuff, the gentleman right. The cause,
nature and consequences of this sentiment, however, differ as much
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as do as the sexes. To a woman, love means
power to a man and slavement. Love provides women with
an excuse for financial exploitation, man with an emotionally charged excuse.
For the sake of love. Women will do things that
are of advantage only to herself, while man only does
things that will harm him. When a woman to marry,
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she gives up her career for the sake of love.
Quote unquote. When a man marries, he will have to
work for two for the sake of love. For both sexes,
love is a fight for survival, but the one that
survives only by being victorious, the other only by being defeated.
It's a paradox that women also can make their greatest
gains during moments of utter passivity, and that the word
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love endows them with a halo of selflessness even at
the moment of their most pitiless deception of man. As
a result of love quote unquote, man is able to
completely height is completely is cowardly, selfisceptanct excuse me. Behind
a smoke screen of sentiment. He is able to make
himself believe that his senseless disabilment the women and her
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hostages is more than an active honor. It has a
higher purpose. He is entirely happy in his role as
a slave and has arrived at the goal he has
so long desired. Since women gave it's nothing but one
of it after another. From the situation as it stands today,
things will never change. The system forces her to be corrupt,
but no one is going to worry about that, since
one can expect nothing from woman but love, it will
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remain the currency for any need she might have. Man,
her slave will continue to use his energies only according
to this conditioning, and never to its own advantage. He
will achieve greater goals, and the more he achieves, the
farther woman will become alienated from him. The more he
tries to sit in green sheet for himself with her,
the more demanding she will become. The more he desires her,
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the less she finds him desirable, The more comfort he
provides for her, the more indolent stupid and a human
she'll become, and man will grow lonelier as a result.
Only woman can break the vicious cycle of man's manipulation exploitation.
But she will not do it. There is absolutely no
compelling reason why she should. It is useless to appeal
to her feelings, for she is callous and knows no pity.
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And so the world will go on seeking deeper deeper
into this morass of kitsch, barbarism, and an inanity call femininity,
and man, that wonderful dreamer will never waken from his dream.
That's the point, the simping part of this scenario which
every guy goes through, which is what we have right now.
Social media, the Internet has ingratiated women with an insurmountal
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a lot of power seeking men seeking love with a
beautiful woman, with a special woman, a woman that they
want to be with the rest of your life. Women
could hold that over their head. They are using themselves
out there, their beauty, their assets, their looks, their youth,
(24:43):
their beauty as a carrot. It's a bait, it's a honeytrap,
and men will fall for it all the time. There
are still plenty of men that will, and that's where
I think sometimes where now that we're the point of
situation ships, that's where really young people are really feeling
(25:03):
comfortable with because they don't want to get involved with
this because they realize, well, the Internet has changed everything
the dynamic of just anybody somebody in person. By the wait,
that's the other thing that's gonna be pointed out right here,
quick here, because this is everybody going online dating finding
a less relationship satisfaction. So what we need to understand
(25:25):
is that we can go back to the way it was.
We don't have to go through online dating. We did
not have to let the internet dictate how we meet people,
how we interact, and how we meet women that we
want to be with, or men or women the men
you want to be with. Quit using the internet to
ingratiate yourself, to amplify yourself, give yourself a delusion of
(25:49):
a reality that's not true. When you really are not
paying attention to what how everything is in the world
around you outside, you don't see that. You don't see
it because you might be in the same city that
some of these people that are at that are influencers
or people that you look up to, and you're sitting
to yourself, well, if they can have it, why can't
I remember romantic relationship formation before all this some thirty
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years ago. Honestly, it's been thirty years ninety three to
thirty four. That's really when people really got a good
chance to start online dating. That's when it really started.
We might have had personalized before in the day, we
haven't had classifieds things like that, but no, that's what
it was. But we still had to meet each other
no matter what. You might have found a way to
get that initial contact through words, but still you had
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to meet that person. So what we had was the
immediate social network. Now that social network we have now
today and often involved individuals living in close geographic proximity.
People commonly met there's future spouses through family and friends
at school, work, religious crudities, or sourcial venues such as bars.
Well wheny long term partnerships were formed on the basis
of loved and various cultural context partners election was arranged
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by family members and got it are practical or familiar considerations.
Think about some people that you know that are older
that said, oh yeah, I got set up on a date.
Because then people had your best interests that you know
what this person could be matching with this person, they
could find compatibility. We didn't need match bakers. We'd have
people that were just match biggers of their own. For instance,
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I was an exceptional matchmaker because what I realized was
I had my affinity for certain women that were beautiful.
But you know what, I realized that we're not gonna
be for me. But you know when I when I
couldn't have them, I realized I could. I could introduce
them to somebody else because I found girls that were single,
and then I could get them set together. I did
that for several guys that I I was friends with,
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But then again I outside friends of mine that were
kind of moochers that also decided, well, I'm gonna go
ahead and hook up with a girl that you know,
I went out with. I had one guy that did
that more than once. There's a girl that I met,
didn't work out, only will take a first eight or
something like that, and then this guy that proceeds to
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go ahead and go out with her. As to the facts,
it's just one of those things. Retrospective data from the
United States illustrate how these patterns of partner selection changed
over time. So Remember this is before the internet. It
was very interesting. Those are the difference we have right now.
So let's say nineteen fifties, nineteen sixties, right people met
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through friends thirty percent of the time. They would meet
partners through family twenty seven percent of the time, at
school twenty four percent, bars and restaurants thirteen percent, through
or as neighbors, twelve percent, in church, nine percent, eight
percent at work six percent in college. They remember work,
it's like, yeah, you know, how are you supposed to
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be screwing around at work? But yeah, what happened? And
then in the two thousands and the even it's changed
because mini partners online have become the most common method
now of meeting thirty nine percent, surpassing all traditional meeting venues.
So bars and restaurants now are the highest percentage of
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how people might meet in person twenty percent through friends,
twenty percent, work, eleven percent. But now the other way
around for family, school, colleges, church, or neighborhoods is down
to under ten percent respectively in every category. Told you
a lot. We get a false sense of delusion and
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grandeur by what we see online, and it's hard to
go ahead and just not look at these thirst traps
out here, or to be simping for these thirst traps
and sitting yourself, man like, look who's beautiful out there?
And for goals that I know that I mean online
and that I'm very enamored with, that I'm attracted to,
and you know, I fantasize the fact that, you know,
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there's just some women that have met an encounter that
are just so beautiful that if I had them, if
they were here, I'd be the happiest man of the world.
I've said that before. But the thing is is that
it is true, but it's not how it was supposed
to be. Like, I'm not going to go to another country.
You know, if I wanted to go find some girls
that I met in Africa or in Latin America or
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in the Caribbean or wherever, or in Asia and try
to hook up, I mean, that's a big thing, That's
what I mean. Passport bros. Are trying to live out
the fantasy. Very difficult, but it's popular, and you know,
there are some people that were able to go and
do it. They have the means to do that and
go to on them for them to try anyway, it's
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a lot to be said, And the other thing they
saw was a shift to where this type of online
relationships and the way that people are feeling about themselves
that there's less that the shift might reduce homogamy. Let
me give the definition that term. It means similarity between
partners and education, socioeconomic status, or background factors linked to
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stronger relationships that couples meaning online also typically lack shared
social circles which could support relationships stability. Right, how many
guys do you know that are hanging around with a
bunch of other guys giving advice, or girls hanging around
with a bunch other girls giving advice or consulting on
somebody that debating. Not so much of that anymore, either.
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We don't have that kind of support like that anymore,
not as much as there was. And the whole thing
about that we did not care about being compatible with
somebody that is as smart as us lives the same
kind of means as us has the same kind of
cultural or ethnic or you know, religious background like all.
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That doesn't matter anymore, but those are factors that are
extra things that also bring us closer together because we're
not worry about that stuff anymore. The idea of not
meeting somebody through family or church or neighborhood organizations are
bars and restaurants like, it's all changed. It's definitely changed
a lot. There's a new study from Only Fans. I
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should bring this up now, and I'll probably if I
get a chance, I might just go ahead and follow
more into it. I don't know if we'll do the
next episode orf, I'll just table in the next week.
Only Fans becomes the alternative income source for US college
students amid rising tuition costs. The story comes out and
that Only Fans. For some college students, it's a means
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to supplement their income while navigating these storing costs of
higher education. Rising tuition costs now have compounded the platform's appeal.
According to the Education Data Initiative, the average cost of
attending college in the US is now about thirty two
hundred and twenty dollars per year twenty twenty five. I
remember more women go to college than men now and
student loan it's just also affected in the light time
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costs of a bachel's degree. Can it reached its high
as five hundred thousand dollars damn for any students. Only
Fans is offering a flexible way to earn money that
helps offset tuition and living expenses. Experts caution the decision
carries long term risks. And there's a person that's creating
a new documentary series called Lonely Fans names Rock Jacobs.
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He says that it's a payroll system. Quote. What creators
have been able to do is use sex to pray
on lonely people, and because of technology, anybody can have
a payroll. He goes on to say that there's some
people that really need money and this is such an
easy way to do it. It comes quick and you
know that you will make money. So this is a
series that's gonna be coming up soon call Lonely Fans,
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and I'm gonna learn more about it. If there's anything
else that pops up that I should go ahead and
bring to this program, I will, But as soon as
it happens, we'll give you more information about it. So,
as always talked about, maybe there's something more to the
fact that we need to get ourselves offline, offline once
again and enjoy ourselves, because maybe we can go ahead
(33:59):
and find somebody a bar, restaurant, just out and about
not worry about somebody we're gonna see online, we meet
somebody in person. We might get the hook up, we
might get to do something. Deframed and the Boers
Podcasting since two thousand and five. This is the King
of Podcasts Radio Network, Kingopodcasts dot com. A new research
study tells us something about online dating that we already knew.
We're all a little depraved and debaucherous. Here is the
King of Podcasts. We all allowed to cover the night
(00:24):
prayed the the Bodros King of Podcasts. Another great week
of prigaming courtesy of the King of Podcasts Radio Network.
And first thing I want to go and make a
mention of before you get things started to night, a
quick tribute someone that was pretty formidable when I first
started going to the podcasting some twenty years ago, just
(00:47):
shortly after I got into the business of podcasting. Todd Cochran,
who's the host of the New Media Show and was
the founder of Blueberry b l U b r r Y,
a very popular podcast hosting analytics service Raw Voice, passed
away at the age of sixty one and too soon
to see that happen, but he was crucial, very much
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a podcasting pioneer in terms of helping podcasters like myself
get a wrap around the industry, the technology and the
equipment that we needed to be able to increate podcasts.
He was very important to podcasting. So if you haven't
a chance to go and catch a show he's done
loads of episodes, take a chance and look for his show,
(01:35):
The New Media Show on all major podcasts platforms and
find out about it. Because he did cool stuff. Stand
Up Guy, so Todd cogran, Rest in Peace, God's Pee
My Friend. Now coming up, I want to talk about
a study that came out regarding what we're learning from
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meeting partners online and how it relates to lower relationship
satisfaction and love, and data from over fifty countries are
brought into this particular story, so you can give that
into you as well and you can learn all about it.
We're gonna talk about that in just a few moments,
but I want to go into some other things that
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also came up as the week has gone along in
some of the commentary of past episodes, namely the one
about tattoos, because man, people just cannot let that go.
It's just there, it continues. It's gotten so many downloads.
I'm pretty happy about it. It's only three years ago
that I did a ten minute episode on why tat
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Why Trauma leased with tons of tattoos and piercings, And
of course I've done other stories after this, but more
commentary coming in. First of all, there was a comment
responding back to Clipping Mclipper who said that tattoos it's
a socially accepted form of self harm. It's also a
way for people to identify issues to cope Nero dB Wrights. No,
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it doesn't. You don't have to take your favorite shirt off.
It's not for attention. Make oh in nineteen ninety nine says,
imagine being so so bored with your life you have
to do a video trying your damns to psychologically profile
people do with tattoos. I mean, you could say that,
and you can make it a point of why I
decided to go and bring this up. But I mean
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I justin go with the culture changes happened, and don't
tell me it's oh, you know you're getting older and
you know people were just changing. I get it, But
there was a time where you didn't see as rampant
of people going to the tattoo parl as you do now.
And again I always say, yes, there are absolutely reasons
for people to go and have it for some cultural identification,
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or for family reasons or whatever it is, that's okay.
But I can tell that more women, specifically women are
getting more tattoos than ever, and it's not something that
just as naturally. I think I get more feedback from
a Kio in nineteen oh ninety says dog if you
don't like tattooed hot women, they just say that, swear
(04:06):
to gd it as to the beauty, and you're you're
entitled to that. And there's a lot of more people
that are probably more in majority thinking the way you
do Mcheo than I am. That's okay, but I'm gonna
point it out because this program it is something that
is as I call the show the Praid and the Botress,
it is depravity when you decide to say that as
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to the beauty. But I'm the kind of person that
doesn't really necessity doesn't require me to go and see
women that's all dulled up and makeup and like in
a great dress. I don't need all that. I just
like a natural woman that just looks great in a
pair of jeans and casual looking. I mean, I like that.
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It's a personal preference, so you can say what you
want about that, but that's where I'm at and then
somebody writes, basically, I coup here. It feels like this
is from Michael cursive E's twenty fifty seven. He says,
your skin is the largest organ of the body, is
designed to protect all your interior systems. I am not
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blessed with the abilities of the chameleon. Perhaps the tattoos
are a submoinal need to hide or assimilate ones in
herself with the outside predatory world that we all come
to know is there. But that's again deep you all know.
I am right, No a shame either way. Just overcome
your trials, your own trials, and grow wiser than the serpent. Said, Lah,
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you don't. That's a very interesting and insightful thought. A
lot of thought put into that and taking away that
one part right there, overcome your own trials, grow wiser
than the serpent. So I kind of interpret that that
is somebody that when people talk about tattoo regret during
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the point where they feel like, when you get it done,
at the time that you're doing it, how much time
you think about before you decide to go and put
on your body and then when you do it, are
you inebriated? Are you some kind of state of despaired
or you know, happiness or whatever your feelings are, you know, young, adventurous,
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wild and free. We don't know. But what's the mindset
you have before you decide to go and do it?
And you ask yourself ten twenty thirty years down the line,
if you get married, if you have a relationship, if
you you know, become a professional, whatever it is you know,
is that something that you want to have represent you
for the rest of your life because people will put
it out forever unless you're getting at the casill And
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then next to Lack nineteen seventy two writes, yep, be
aware of anyone with a lot of tax im pierces,
because each one is a reminder of something dramatic to
happen in her life, and you will have the rest
of her life to be reminded of all the mistakes
she's made. Stay the hell away, guys. Now, I'm not
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saying that at all about the thoughts of guys that
want to go ahead and be with girls because they
like girls with all the tattoos on them, or even
that there are certain things that identify with those tattoos.
We can talk about this in another show. So it's
okay to be however you feel about it, but in
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my opinion, I want it to be. And I say
this over and over that if a woman's going to
go ahead and get into that point, I was starting
to get multiple tattoos just constant, and there's a thing
where what led to her feeling that way. Some of them,
we're going to just do it just because it's gonna
do it. It's fine. But there's someone that I think
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they fall into a path of if they went through
something traumatic or psychological or horrific and they don't feel
beautiful anymore, they don't feel like they're feel comfortable in
their skin, and there's some mental trauma that has not
been worked out. Is that a way that is going
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to be healthy in order to go in for someone
to go overcome the trauma they went through. That's the question.
And I don't know if that's a good there's an
answer out there, But I've been looking for studies constantly
that support what I'm talking about, and I'm going to
continue to do that because people keep asking me to
do it, so I will. So that's going to go forward.
Studies we like here on this program. I like to
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go and back it up with what is out there
by science. Why not I like to go and put
that out there now. In here this study from telematics
and informatics from the University of Rural Claw in Poland, and
there is a psychology. They put out a story about
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relationships and the fact that people that are meeting through
online dating is related to lower relationship satisfaction and love.
So here's what we got out of this, and the
absolutely say that the Internet has fundamentally shaped reshaped how
people meet and form relationships. They did across cultural study
large scale fifty countries sampled. The prevalence of online partner
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meeting was examined, the democratic correlates of the trend and
his association with relationship satisfaction and experiencing love. They analyzed
data from over six thousand partnered individuals. The age is
first of all media age was forty one years old.
Sixteen percent of these participants meant their partners online and
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the figure rose to twenty one percent among those who
initiated the romantic relationships after twenty ten. Now, those that
have a lower socioeconomic status were more likely to have
met their partners online. So if you don't have that
high the scretion income out there, then you might look
for someone online as supposed to going out and meeting
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somebody in public because you don't have the means for it.
That makes sense. They found those significant differences in the
likelihood of online relationship information based on gender or age
that partners on average who met their partners online reported
lower relationship satisfaction and lower intensity of experienced love compared
to those who met offline. With the fact that size
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the regions from small to medium, and they underscore that
the need to enhance support for improving relationship quality among
all couples, particularly those who meet their partners online. So
it very interesting the fact that it's something we kind
of already knew that they talk about, the fact that
the ways that people findance use their partners have changed
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dramatically over time and partner section for most of our
life times and most of the world was constrained by
one's immediate social environment because of individuals in close geographic proximity,
and the Internet has changed that meeting landscape and digital
technologies like social media now all individuals to connect, communicate,
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and build a rhumgic relationships with people that might have
never encountered otherwise. And that's the point that's going to
be made here that everything has changed for people out
there that want to go ahead and find love because
online ditting is social media changed the whole down biographic Okay,
because when we're looking at trying to find someone that
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fits what we're looking for. Okay, I'm talking about the
fact that when we met people in our lives. I mean,
I think about the fact that when I tried to
go and meet with somebody at the very beginning, and
I'm saying to myself, I look at the girls on TikTok,
I look at the girls on Instagram, I look at
the girls on social media in general, and I see
(11:53):
the beauty out there, and I see the women that
are so desirable and so beautiful and so lowly, and
I feel there's an abundance of women out there. Well,
now I talk about there's plenty of efficiency. The social
media and online ditting proves that point. We always knew
that was out there, but now we see it. And
although we're exposed to it for all these years, it's
taken away the whole idea of so whatever is in
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our backyard, whoever we know around us, isn't good enough.
And I'll admit when I look at people and I'm
in South Florida where there's like so many attractive people here,
I me know. I do a lot of work as
an uber driver, and as an uber driver, I see
a lot of beautiful women regularly that might be passengers
that I'm driving from place to place or I'm driving
deliveries to whatever it is. And I say to myself
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sometimes I look at what I see online of the
women that are on there, and I don't see as
many beautiful women as I see around me and around
my sphere as I would see online. So we are
creating a delusion for ourselves. Women get a delusion because
of social media because they see what other women are
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getting to experience, and because it is a competition out
there for some women to show they got it better
than everybody else. And so every guy that's out there,
there's only gonna be a certain amount they're gonna be
out there, So it's gonna just take away for men
out there that want to find more. They're not gonna
be able to go and find. They're not gonna be
noticed because the dynamic of a man who is attractive
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and well off. Before social media, it was easy for
men to be found because number one, we didn't have
to worry about the part of thinking there was gonna
be something better. They get something even more certificately better
than we thought, because remember, what we're trying to attain
too is almost impossible. So the women that men might
want to seek out and look for might not be
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a reality to find. The same thing for women is
obviously not that they're not working. They're not looking to
go and find some guy that just supports them and
could just be somebody that just you know, some hardline
physical labor type worker or somebody just white collar. It
doesn't matter where they come from, because they feel like
now there is this value that's been put on women
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because of how they are noticed and appreciated and perceived online.
There's a different persona for them that makes them feel like, well,
there's absolutely then something more for me that the old
way of thinking, well if I just find somebody that
lives right around me, I'm gonna just get lucky, or
the idea that when you have like one of those
long distance relationships, right, we used to have all those
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where oh you meet somebody that's so far away and
like you feel connected to them penpals. Well, it's changed
now because now we're just getting that false sense of
fantasy that we can see somebody on a video screen
and we can see and communicate with each other so easily.
It's not as hard as it was to call long
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distance or to meet somebody in person, or you know,
or even just going to do vacations things like. It's
just much different. So that's what we're dealing with now
more than ever, and that's what's honestly very unfortunate. So
doctor Marta Kawal is the one that did the study
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from the University of World Claw Universe Institute size at College.
He says that the differences are not dramatic, but the
market shift from studies a decade ago that there's a
changing major of online dating and earlier platforms emphasized compatibility
and long term relationships. Modern apps focused on rabbit selection,
often based on photos. Because of the short attention span
that we have on the internet, more and more the
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dating apps changed to what they were because remember the
early dating apps were fantastic. The early online dating was
exceptional because everybody kind of took it as okay. This
is the gateway to meet somebody that's near me that
I probably would never bump into or never run into normally.
And that was the good part. Love a AOL was
a great way to get on there. You didn't have
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to go and pay for it. You'd go on the
instant Messenger, find that person's user name, and then you
hit them up and you could talk just like you
would do on Instagram. Slide into a DM. That's the
early slide into a DM as a matter of fact.
And then the other one that was really great was
e Harmony because that relationship quiz that they put you through,
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they were really good at matching you with women that
you would absolutely match with, because I felt like, what, no,
not every ten times they picked somebody who was really good.
I really can say that, at least for me, I
probably wasn't exactly what the woman was looking for because
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I was I was not mature enough to read in
a relationship. But I could tell you that every girl
that was offered to me that responded to me on
e Harmony that matched was exceptional, beautiful, smart, lively, outgoing.
It just fit what I was looking for at the time.
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And yeah, I struck out but it was different to
that point because we also made the connection, and you're
supposed to make that immediate point to get together. But
now we have these ridiculous standards that are out there
for guys that I mean, my biggest problem is I
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don't talk to a girl these days anymore without thinking, Okay,
what is it going to cost me? Because I also
see what social media and online ditting has done where
women have found such a way to be so good
at finding the right wardrobe and putting the right makeup
on and looking their absolutely best, but also it costs
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so much money from the going get to that point,
because it's one thing to go ahead and try to
put an investment in to try to look even more
beautiful or enhance your beauty, but not knowing what to
do or how to do it. But there's so many
beauty tips out there. Get rid of with me, segments
that are out there for women to go ahead really
know how to put on their makeup if they want
to do it, find the right products because you geting
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good recommendations, and the good recommendations are expensive. So remember
guys that I look at when I see a woman
that is absolutely like made together put together. Even when
I was just going out and did a delivery for
at a Costco to day and I see a lady
that was coming across. She was middle aged, but she
had a nice dress on, a lot of makeup on,
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and I'm saying to myself, okay, and she's a professional woman,
and I can tell you, like, all right, there's a
lot of money behind what she's doing to put herself together.
And like if I even had the thought of like
kind of ask ground on a day or just like
stop her, I was like she was walking past me
just to go ahead and say something, what kind of
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what kind of financial investment is going to be coming in?
Because I just think it that way. It's money minded.
You gotta be prepared for it. Like it's not like, oh,
money in anything, is in everything, right, But the thing
is that you have to really invest now more than ever.
And that's something I'm just I'm not willing to give
in because it will be one thing if I knew
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that the investment would actually pay off. If I knew
that I met with a woman and took the time
to go ahead and get together and meet them and realize, Okay,
something's going to come from this, because the woman is
going to be coming into this relationship opportunity with a
real chance at it. And I can't tell you how
many times where I've had a woman that will just
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feel like there's no enthusiasm, no excitement, know, anything into
meeting up for that first date, second date, third date,
and I'm like, well, why am I going to go
through that for and then meet other people? Or the
one thing I had was a girl that wanted to
meet together early as say, well, then she was gonna
go other friends later. No, no, no, no, all these
red flags would come across. I'm not even worrying about
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that at all. No way. Now, the last few weeks,
I've been bringing up the book The Manipulated Man by
Estra Volar And as I say, every once in a while,
I like to go and bring up this book. This
is from the end of the book. Right here, there's
a section where she asked the question what is love?
And I want to read this passage to you because
it's very important what's being said here and the explanation
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of it, because it just feels like what she's saying
here in a good way, in somewhat everything. I'm not
gonna say that everything is absolutely accurate, but I think
what she's saying here kind of really works with what's
going on today. Again, this was some fifty five years ago,
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this book was written. Now. She says here that man
has been manipulated by women to the point where he
cannot live with her without her, and therefore we'll do
anything she asks of him. He fights for his life
and calls it love. There are even men who will
threaten their idolized female with suicide unless she accepts him.
Not that this is much of a risk for them.
They have nothing to lose. Women, nevertheless, is incapable of
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living without a man. We're learning about that right now
more than anything. That women do not handle lonely thiss
very well. And even when we was trying to find
a relationship, now they're not satisfied. According to study, like
a queen Bee, Estrid goes on, she cannot survive on
her own. She too is fighting for her life, and
she too calls it love. And remember it's the primal
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dating thing that I've talked with tim Ash that women
are looking for someone to provide for them, to keep
them secure and safe, and to take care of them.
It's what this meant to be. Women are nurturers. Men
are supposed to be the providers and supporters, the strength,
the chivalry, all that stuff, the gentleman right. The cause,
nature and consequences of this sentiment, however, differ as much
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as do as the sexes. To a woman, love means
power to a man and slavement. Love provides women with
an excuse for financial exploitation, man with an emotionally charged excuse.
For the sake of love. Women will do things that
are of advantage only to herself, while man only does
things that will harm him. When a woman to marry,
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she gives up her career for the sake of love.
Quote unquote. When a man marries, he will have to
work for two for the sake of love. For both sexes,
love is a fight for survival, but the one that
survives only by being victorious, the other only by being defeated.
It's a paradox that women also can make their greatest
gains during moments of utter passivity, and that the word
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love endows them with a halo of selflessness even at
the moment of their most pitiless deception of man. As
a result of love quote unquote, man is able to
completely height is completely is cowardly, selfisceptanct excuse me. Behind
a smoke screen of sentiment. He is able to make
himself believe that his senseless disabilment the women and her
(22:50):
hostages is more than an active honor. It has a
higher purpose. He is entirely happy in his role as
a slave and has arrived at the goal he has
so long desired. Since women gave it's nothing but one
of it after another. From the situation as it stands today,
things will never change. The system forces her to be corrupt,
but no one is going to worry about that, since
one can expect nothing from woman but love, it will
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remain the currency for any need she might have. Man,
her slave will continue to use his energies only according
to this conditioning, and never to its own advantage. He
will achieve greater goals, and the more he achieves, the
farther woman will become alienated from him. The more he
tries to sit in green sheet for himself with her,
the more demanding she will become. The more he desires her,
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the less she finds him desirable, The more comfort he
provides for her, the more indolent stupid and a human
she'll become, and man will grow lonelier as a result.
Only woman can break the vicious cycle of man's manipulation exploitation.
But she will not do it. There is absolutely no
compelling reason why she should. It is useless to appeal
to her feelings, for she is callous and knows no pity.
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And so the world will go on seeking deeper deeper
into this morass of kitsch, barbarism, and an inanity call femininity,
and man, that wonderful dreamer will never waken from his dream.
That's the point, the simping part of this scenario which
every guy goes through, which is what we have right now.
Social media, the Internet has ingratiated women with an insurmountal
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a lot of power seeking men seeking love with a
beautiful woman, with a special woman, a woman that they
want to be with the rest of your life. Women
could hold that over their head. They are using themselves
out there, their beauty, their assets, their looks, their youth,
(24:43):
their beauty as a carrot. It's a bait, it's a honeytrap,
and men will fall for it all the time. There
are still plenty of men that will, and that's where
I think sometimes where now that we're the point of
situation ships, that's where really young people are really feeling
(25:03):
comfortable with because they don't want to get involved with
this because they realize, well, the Internet has changed everything
the dynamic of just anybody somebody in person. By the wait,
that's the other thing that's gonna be pointed out right here,
quick here, because this is everybody going online dating finding
a less relationship satisfaction. So what we need to understand
(25:25):
is that we can go back to the way it was.
We don't have to go through online dating. We did
not have to let the internet dictate how we meet people,
how we interact, and how we meet women that we
want to be with, or men or women the men
you want to be with. Quit using the internet to
ingratiate yourself, to amplify yourself, give yourself a delusion of
(25:49):
a reality that's not true. When you really are not
paying attention to what how everything is in the world
around you outside, you don't see that. You don't see
it because you might be in the same city that
some of these people that are at that are influencers
or people that you look up to, and you're sitting
to yourself, well, if they can have it, why can't
I remember romantic relationship formation before all this some thirty
(26:14):
years ago. Honestly, it's been thirty years ninety three to
thirty four. That's really when people really got a good
chance to start online dating. That's when it really started.
We might have had personalized before in the day, we
haven't had classifieds things like that, but no, that's what
it was. But we still had to meet each other
no matter what. You might have found a way to
get that initial contact through words, but still you had
(26:38):
to meet that person. So what we had was the
immediate social network. Now that social network we have now
today and often involved individuals living in close geographic proximity.
People commonly met there's future spouses through family and friends
at school, work, religious crudities, or sourcial venues such as bars.
Well wheny long term partnerships were formed on the basis
of loved and various cultural context partners election was arranged
(27:00):
by family members and got it are practical or familiar considerations.
Think about some people that you know that are older
that said, oh yeah, I got set up on a date.
Because then people had your best interests that you know
what this person could be matching with this person, they
could find compatibility. We didn't need match bakers. We'd have
people that were just match biggers of their own. For instance,
(27:22):
I was an exceptional matchmaker because what I realized was
I had my affinity for certain women that were beautiful.
But you know what, I realized that we're not gonna
be for me. But you know when I when I
couldn't have them, I realized I could. I could introduce
them to somebody else because I found girls that were single,
and then I could get them set together. I did
that for several guys that I I was friends with,
(27:45):
But then again I outside friends of mine that were
kind of moochers that also decided, well, I'm gonna go
ahead and hook up with a girl that you know,
I went out with. I had one guy that did
that more than once. There's a girl that I met,
didn't work out, only will take a first eight or
something like that, and then this guy that proceeds to
(28:07):
go ahead and go out with her. As to the facts,
it's just one of those things. Retrospective data from the
United States illustrate how these patterns of partner selection changed
over time. So Remember this is before the internet. It
was very interesting. Those are the difference we have right now.
So let's say nineteen fifties, nineteen sixties, right people met
(28:32):
through friends thirty percent of the time. They would meet
partners through family twenty seven percent of the time, at
school twenty four percent, bars and restaurants thirteen percent, through
or as neighbors, twelve percent, in church, nine percent, eight
percent at work six percent in college. They remember work,
it's like, yeah, you know, how are you supposed to
(28:53):
be screwing around at work? But yeah, what happened? And
then in the two thousands and the even it's changed
because mini partners online have become the most common method
now of meeting thirty nine percent, surpassing all traditional meeting venues.
So bars and restaurants now are the highest percentage of
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how people might meet in person twenty percent through friends,
twenty percent, work, eleven percent. But now the other way
around for family, school, colleges, church, or neighborhoods is down
to under ten percent respectively in every category. Told you
a lot. We get a false sense of delusion and
(29:38):
grandeur by what we see online, and it's hard to
go ahead and just not look at these thirst traps
out here, or to be simping for these thirst traps
and sitting yourself, man like, look who's beautiful out there?
And for goals that I know that I mean online
and that I'm very enamored with, that I'm attracted to,
and you know, I fantasize the fact that, you know,
(30:00):
there's just some women that have met an encounter that
are just so beautiful that if I had them, if
they were here, I'd be the happiest man of the world.
I've said that before. But the thing is is that
it is true, but it's not how it was supposed
to be. Like, I'm not going to go to another country.
You know, if I wanted to go find some girls
that I met in Africa or in Latin America or
(30:25):
in the Caribbean or wherever, or in Asia and try
to hook up, I mean, that's a big thing, That's
what I mean. Passport bros. Are trying to live out
the fantasy. Very difficult, but it's popular, and you know,
there are some people that were able to go and
do it. They have the means to do that and
go to on them for them to try anyway, it's
(30:46):
a lot to be said, And the other thing they
saw was a shift to where this type of online
relationships and the way that people are feeling about themselves
that there's less that the shift might reduce homogamy. Let
me give the definition that term. It means similarity between
partners and education, socioeconomic status, or background factors linked to
(31:08):
stronger relationships that couples meaning online also typically lack shared
social circles which could support relationships stability. Right, how many
guys do you know that are hanging around with a
bunch of other guys giving advice, or girls hanging around
with a bunch other girls giving advice or consulting on
somebody that debating. Not so much of that anymore, either.
(31:30):
We don't have that kind of support like that anymore,
not as much as there was. And the whole thing
about that we did not care about being compatible with
somebody that is as smart as us lives the same
kind of means as us has the same kind of
cultural or ethnic or you know, religious background like all.
(31:51):
That doesn't matter anymore, but those are factors that are
extra things that also bring us closer together because we're
not worry about that stuff anymore. The idea of not
meeting somebody through family or church or neighborhood organizations are
bars and restaurants like, it's all changed. It's definitely changed
a lot. There's a new study from Only Fans. I
(32:14):
should bring this up now, and I'll probably if I
get a chance, I might just go ahead and follow
more into it. I don't know if we'll do the
next episode orf, I'll just table in the next week.
Only Fans becomes the alternative income source for US college
students amid rising tuition costs. The story comes out and
that Only Fans. For some college students, it's a means
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to supplement their income while navigating these storing costs of
higher education. Rising tuition costs now have compounded the platform's appeal.
According to the Education Data Initiative, the average cost of
attending college in the US is now about thirty two
hundred and twenty dollars per year twenty twenty five. I
remember more women go to college than men now and
student loan it's just also affected in the light time
(32:56):
costs of a bachel's degree. Can it reached its high
as five hundred thousand dollars damn for any students. Only
Fans is offering a flexible way to earn money that
helps offset tuition and living expenses. Experts caution the decision
carries long term risks. And there's a person that's creating
a new documentary series called Lonely Fans names Rock Jacobs.
(33:18):
He says that it's a payroll system. Quote. What creators
have been able to do is use sex to pray
on lonely people, and because of technology, anybody can have
a payroll. He goes on to say that there's some
people that really need money and this is such an
easy way to do it. It comes quick and you
know that you will make money. So this is a
series that's gonna be coming up soon call Lonely Fans,
(33:38):
and I'm gonna learn more about it. If there's anything
else that pops up that I should go ahead and
bring to this program, I will, But as soon as
it happens, we'll give you more information about it. So,
as always talked about, maybe there's something more to the
fact that we need to get ourselves offline, offline once
again and enjoy ourselves, because maybe we can go ahead
(33:59):
and find somebody a bar, restaurant, just out and about
not worry about somebody we're gonna see online, we meet
somebody in person. We might get the hook up, we
might get to do something. Deframed and the Boers
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