October 16, 2025 • 48 mins
Have you been craving some inner peace amidst all the changes happening in your life and around the world? Especially if you are sensitive to energy, it's important to beef up your spiritual hygiene and self care to keep your sanity! Join author and intuitive healer, Diana Dorell for an exciting episode blending practical tools with spiritual sass that can help you navigate uncertain times and get grounded! Free 9-min meditation to help you release anxiety and reconnect) http://DianaDorell.com
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 2 (00:29):
Hey everyone, and welcome to Fifty Shades of Bullshit. I'm
your host, Christine Lalan, and this is the podcast where
we uncover the truth about online dating.
Speaker 3 (00:41):
Now let's begin. Hey everybody, I'm Christine and this is
fifty Shades of Bullshit. I hope everybody's doing great this week.
I'm so happy to be back, and I have an
extraordinary guest talking about a really important topic. Because with
their everything that's so chaotic these days, it's really good
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to know how and where and when to ground yourself.
So I'd like to introduce our guest today. Diana has
actually been on our show before. Here I am trying
to now scramble to find her stuff because you know,
as you know, we are going to be talking about
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stay great, staying grounded during uncertain times. Let's bring on Diana,
Diana Tourelle, how are you. I'm great, and I'm so
happy to see your beautiful, shiny face.
Speaker 4 (01:39):
Thank you so much for inviting me. I feel like
this is a very timely topic. You know, when you
asked me, it was like it just like came right
off the top of my head. And I feel like
so many people that I've spoken with are in some
kind of a transition, some kind of a change, either
you know, instigated by them or by the universe or
somebody else, you know, And it's like, if you've kind
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of been navigating a transition right now, if you feel lost,
if you feel uncertain, then these tips are for you people.
Speaker 3 (02:10):
Right while, I'm learning a lot with you know, listening
to the universe, because and people can call that whatever
they want. You know, a lot of people go universe.
Speaker 4 (02:21):
I don't.
Speaker 3 (02:23):
I'm talking about your God, spirit, your guides, your you know,
whatever you want to use as that terminology. To listen
to your heart, to listen to your soul, to listen
to the the the signs that are coming in.
Speaker 4 (02:41):
You know what I mean absolutely, And you know, for
those of you that are kind of new to my world,
I am an intuitive relationship coach. I'm also a healer
and a psychic, and so the tips I'm going to
share tonight are really kind of a blend of both worlds.
And I love keeping things simple. So if you're a
note taker and you're watching or listening to this, I
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want you to write down the acronym ground and that's
that's what we're gonna build off. I just love at
the stage.
Speaker 3 (03:11):
I love it well. I put some things together today
to kind of also, I wanted to think about it
from my perspective if I was struggling, which you know
everybody struggles, you know, even talking about my healing journey,
it is gonna take forever. It took forever to get here,
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you know, all the trauma happened years after years after years.
People think that a healing journey is just like boom,
you got it, You're done, and it's not. It's a
lifetime commitment. And I just wanted to think about, you know, how,
how are some of the ways that I want to know?
So I'm I put some things together for you too awesome.
Speaker 4 (03:52):
Awesome, So should we start with the first tip.
Speaker 3 (03:55):
Yes, let's do it.
Speaker 4 (03:56):
Okay, So the first one is about gathering. Okay, So
gathering can mean different things to different people, but for
our purposes, it's really about gathering with the people that
have your heart and conversely, right like spending less time
and less energy on the relationships that drain you, that
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make you feel less than in any way and that
no longer relign. And sometimes we you know, we don't
have a choice. We have to be around, like you know,
your boss or like your mom or whatever, and like
if they're one of your key people doesn't see you,
it's not that you have to completely erase them from
your life, but you know how to manage your energy
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and you spend more of your time with the people
that love you. So it sounds so simple, but I
like simple and effective. And when I was doing this myself,
you know, I'm like, who are the people that I
could call? You know, when the shit hits a fan
wardless of how often we see each other or talk
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and maybe it's like five people, maybe it's two people.
Maybe it's your dog or your cat, But really, when
we get intentional about filtering who we spend time with,
you will become less anxious, more grounded, and more connected
to your truth, which is going to help you feel
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good even when things around you seem to be swirling,
seem to be changing, because let's face it, change is
constant and change.
Speaker 3 (05:36):
Can be scary for those who don't know how to
handle that. By someone who struggles with grounding, change can
really frighten them absolutely.
Speaker 4 (05:46):
And so looking at your relationship, I think also to change. Right,
if you're around so many people that are talking about
how the change is bad and scary and how are
you going to do that and planting questions in your mind,
that's not going to be the most conducive psychic environment
for you to take the leap that your intuition is
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telling you to take. So it's really about being intentional
with who you are gathering with. And also gather is
gathering your energy. So like at the end of the day,
right like oftentimes we are walking around and our energy
is super open, and we get home and we're exhausted
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or angry or frustrated, and we're like, we didn't start
the day like this. What you know, barring being dehydrated, hungry,
or tired, like what else is there? There's energy, you
may have absorbed stuff from your environment. Oh, gathering your energy.
And this is a really cool visualization I share with
private clients, like I love old Hollywood and like the gowns,
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and so my metaphor for everyone adapt it is like,
imagine you're wearing this ball gown right, and you're literally
gathering gathering the whole skirt. Yes, like gathering your aura
in when you come home, or you step outside your
office or you you know, close out your business day.
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Have a ritual where you gather your energy back to you.
It's so simple, but if you do it, you will
notice you are happier, you are healthier, and you are
more likely to want to connect with people.
Speaker 3 (07:20):
Well how how how would you tell somebody to mentally
or physically do a ritual to gather that for themselves.
Speaker 4 (07:32):
Yeah, so literally closing your eyes, if you know, and
picturing yourself wearing like the most fabulous gown you can
think of. And I mean I love to just pretend
I'm grabbing it right, imagine that you just it's too
long for you. What do you do?
Speaker 3 (07:46):
Right?
Speaker 4 (07:46):
You grab the edges and you inhale and you pull
it in right, and like that's it, And it can
be as simple as that. Another way, right, is if
you imagine like you're yourself in a bubble. And I
know we've talked about bubbles on here before, but like
anything that's not the bubble gets to just like fall,
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like like oil around an egg off, it gets to
run off the bubble and just seeing it and using
the breath. So inhale is like I'm starting this exhale
is fear it, you take over. I don't need to
know who it is. I don't need to know what
it is. Eliminate it, let it go right, and that's it.
Speaker 3 (08:29):
Mickey asks, how can we get our energy on the
correct frequency for us?
Speaker 4 (08:35):
So first, right, like I would say, the right frequency
for you is the energy where you feel joy, where
you feel light, where you feel like yourself right, right,
And so first we have to identify, like what does
that even mean to me?
Speaker 3 (08:53):
Right?
Speaker 4 (08:53):
So step one is like identify what is the correct frequency,
like how do I want to feel in it? And
then two right is noticing if the things that you're
doing consistently are making you feel that way, like right,
is it more or less? And if it's less. Then
you need to do it differently, or you need to
stop doing it, or you need to delegate it out.
Speaker 3 (09:13):
Okay, right, so just.
Speaker 4 (09:15):
On like practical terms, on energetic terms like pay attention
to your inputs. If you're very sensitive to energy, maybe
you don't want to watch the news for four hours
a day, right, Or you know, if you tend to
be really sensitive and you already know you haven't gotten
enough sleep, maybe you don't take that girlfriend's call that's
going to be bitching for an hour and a half
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about you know, her breakup, like tell her you will
get back to her. So it's like practicing boundaries but
also self awareness to know where's my starting point today
because every day is different?
Speaker 3 (09:50):
Right?
Speaker 4 (09:50):
What do I need to get back to my baseline?
Speaker 3 (09:53):
Do you think that people confuse being grounded with being detached?
Speaker 4 (10:00):
I could see why that could happen. So in my definition,
grounded is where you are undeterred by other people's moods, opinions,
and energies. Okay, okay, So and then detached I guess
could be an element of grounded. But you can be
detached and also ungrounded true, which I mean you know
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you smoke enough pot you're detached and ungrounded as hell.
Speaker 3 (10:30):
True, yes, so yeah, grounded.
Speaker 4 (10:33):
I think of the body like are you in your body?
And then if you're in your body right, like, then
you can kind of discern the world around you. And
detached is a choice that we make when we see
an energy coming at us or within a conversation that
we really know is going to drain us to engage
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in further, or we feel like our energy is being
used or pulled. Okay, I kind of like a mental like,
oh okay, like I'm here with you, but like I
see what's happening, and I don't need to take that on.
So I'm going to listen, but I'm not going to
try to fix your problem.
Speaker 3 (11:12):
Okay, I can see that. So in your definition, you
know you're breaking down grounded.
Speaker 4 (11:20):
What is our r Yeah, let's go to number two.
So number two is ramp up physical movement. I love
that you talked about exercising and like just getting in
your body. So you know, it's really hard to stay
in a ton of fear and anxiety when we are
moving our bodies. It's like one focus or the other, right,
So tap into what helps you to stay in your
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body in the moment. For me, when I'm feeling that
like stress of the world, I take my little dog
for a walk, and I don't necessarily listen to a
lot of things while I'm walking, Like I try to
just take in nature and like the moment, and that
helps me to kind of manage any uncertainty that I
might be feeling. Oftentimes I'll also get a solution on
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my walk. It's like, oh, that thing I was worried
about three days ago, Like I know what to do.
I need to call this person or I need to
change this part of the copy or whatever. So ramping
up physical movement and even if like let's say you're
injured or you can't get outside because of the weather, like,
there's always something we can do. Shoulder rolls, neck rolls.
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I teach people this goddess goddess Sleep, So it's like
literally you take your wrists and you flick them out
all along your path.
Speaker 3 (12:36):
Oh I do that.
Speaker 4 (12:37):
I do that.
Speaker 3 (12:38):
I just didn't know that's what you called. Sometimes I'm like,
fucking get out of my mind.
Speaker 4 (12:42):
Yes, I call the goddess sleep and I do it
all the time, and it cleans off your aura and
it makes you feel better, and that is considered movement,
you know, so there's really no excuse. But the next one,
the O is one of my favorites, and it is
to own some obsidian. So for all my crystal people,
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obsidian is a black stone. It's totally you know, like
how do I say, like Matt right versus like glossy,
And it helps with spiritual protection and neutralizing energy. So
even just like keeping some by your workstation, in your pocket,
in your purse. I've seen some people have like a
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little sticker of obsidian and they stick it on the
back of their cell phone. There's so many different ways
that you can use it. But this is one of
my favorite stones for managing uncertainty. So if you're meditating
it all and you really want something to do or
something to hold, it's a great one. And I saw
a question come up.
Speaker 3 (13:43):
Yeah, I was just actually going to point that out.
So Anastasia says, is there a way to block negative
energy so it can't affect us? But I will tell
you my own solution first energy ahead, Yeah, and I
definitely want to hear from you, Diana. For me, I
was taught to do the white bubble, the white light,
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So when I do mine. When I have to clear
out the psychic friend that I used to take classes
from to learn more about my abilities and to grow
and stretch and practice. I feel a lot of my
anxiety and my solar plexus, and that is my what chakra?
Speaker 4 (14:23):
Is that?
Speaker 3 (14:24):
Sorry? Your third Yeah, I just drew a blank, thank
you much, and that gets anxiety that gets really nauseatingly
exhausting that feeling. And she told me to see it
as a portal and to take it. So this is
my solar plex here. And she told me to uh
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do a sweep counterclockwise to open it almost like you're
screwing the lid off of a jar left, you know,
unscrewing it and pull all of that shit out, anything
that makes me feel anxious, anything, any energy that makes
me feel overwhelmed, anxiety, whatever, And then she said, close it.
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Close that motherfucker back up. So I close it going
back clockwise now, so then I clock. I just hit
my mic. Sorry, folks, sure that loud. I close it up,
and then I protect myself with my white light. I
do the bubble around me, and that's the best way
that I can remove negative energy still in my own
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energy and protect myself with a white light my bubble. Basically,
what are ways that you say that other people can
possibly do some kind of exercise to protect yourselves negative energy?
Speaker 4 (15:41):
So you know, I feel like this is a natural
opportunity to let you guys know if you want to
do that fast and you don't necessarily like want to
go through a thousand steps because I know, like sometimes
they're busy. I have put together a clearing essentially for everybody,
and it's free and it's called the Grounded Goddess Activation.
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I actually use specific hurts frequency music to help you
let go, so you can go directly to my website.
It is totally free and it's instant access. So I
would just do that like tonight Anastasia, and notice how
you feel. It's a crazy fast shift.
Speaker 3 (16:21):
And those who are listening and not here what Yeah.
Speaker 1 (16:26):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (16:26):
Diana's website is her name, It's Diana Durrell d I
A N A D O R E L L dot com.
That is her website. You can go on there and
find that grounding.
Speaker 4 (16:40):
Yep, it's right on the homepage. You can't miss it.
But another thing, if you do have a little bit
more time and you're like I really just want to
kind of kick this negative energy out. Is similar to you, Christine,
So I learned it kind of like a like a
radio dial. So I'll literally take my hand and it
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doesn't matter what it is. We don't have to know
where it's coming from. But the same as you around
the solar plexus, even just above like two inches above
the belly button is where I was taught, and take
it right.
Speaker 3 (17:13):
And mine's here.
Speaker 4 (17:14):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, perfect, Yeah, you're literally going to take
it and like open, so turn.
Speaker 3 (17:19):
To the left. Oh, I see the same, Okay.
Speaker 4 (17:22):
And it's almost like okay, I'm opening the faucet, like
let the shit go out, and you're going to count
to five. So one, two, three, four five, take a
deep breath and exhale and turn it one to three
four five. And this is something that you can do
before you go out in public. Okay. So it's it's
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great if you've already been aware that you've absorbed something,
but I do it as a preventative, like if I
know I'm going to a concert or like the grocery
store and it's really busy and I'm tired, I want
to make sure that I do that so that when
I walk in, I'm not frazzled by people's stuff, right,
it's likely right, Like you, you are very intuitive yourself,
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and that maybe why you're asking.
Speaker 3 (18:10):
It's like, ah, that's definitely why she's asking. Yeah, I
think that if you are not aware that you are
an impath or a sensitive or can absorb people's energies
in some way, shape or form, you wouldn't be asking
the question.
Speaker 4 (18:26):
Yeah, exactly. So it's a gift, you know, your sensitivity
is a gift. And then also in the lines of
negative energy, I feel like it's something that you know,
we also kind of have to make friends with our
shadow because sometimes what we perceive is negative energy is
just right emotions that want to be witnessed and want
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to be brought up to the surf, and it's like,
why is this, Why is this triggering me so much? Oh?
Because I wish I had this or I didn't do this,
and I'm mad about it. Right, Like, when you can
name it, sometimes the negative energy is actually there to
help you to see something so that you can move on. So, yeah,
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that's just what I wanted to share there. But let's
go into the next one. So we've got gather with
people who see you ramp up physical movement right own
some obsidian. And then the next one is unwind your mind,
which I know is so easy to say, like great, ye,
I want to do that, right, but like, let's talk practicals,
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and I know that sometimes this might not always feel easy.
But turn off all your devices and stimulation an hour
before bed ideally, especially if you're empathic like I am,
and write down the top three things that are priorities
for the next day. Oftentimes we just have a lot
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of we don't have enough mental space, and so although
we've technically done everything for the day, like, we're still
thinking about what we have to do the next day.
So three three priorities, and if you got those three
things done in the next day, you would feel so
good about yourself. What this allows you to do the
next day is get to work and focus, and inevitably,
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when distractions come up or other stuff or people want
something from you, you run it against those three. Are
they going to help me get to those three? If not,
like I need to like bump it to the bottom.
Speaker 3 (20:27):
Of the list, right, that's a great idea.
Speaker 4 (20:29):
Okay, But unwind your mind can also be things like
the meditation right, like listening to high frequency music and
binural beats. I love alpha waves when I'm working. It
helps me focus data waves when I need to relax.
You can go on Spotify definitely download my free meditation.
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It will save you. But yeah, so those are kind
of two.
Speaker 3 (20:55):
I love the binary beats. There's several healing ones that
I use a lot yea for four thirty four thirty four,
if five one, I have five twenty seven? Is it
five twenty seven? I have them all saved, eight eighty eight.
I use eight inh a lot me too, a money
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one and it also calms me. Yeah, binary beats are
a great are a great way. Frequencies are really important
when you are talking about your energy. Your energy has
a frequency. What you bring into your body has a frequency,
and I think paying attention to that and calming your
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nerves with that type of thing is really important.
Speaker 4 (21:41):
Yes, and you know what, like you can do it
when when you're doing like the dishes or something. I
think oftentimes we're just like, oh, I have to have
this dedicated like one hour, and that's not always realistic.
So yeah, like even when you're getting in the shower,
let me just play, you know, play it on my
phone and leave the bone on the sink and just
have that like playing as you're letting the water just
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rush down on you. I mean, there's so many creative
ways you can do this, but unwinding your mind. Part
of that is discipline, right, decluttering what needs to get done.
And then the spiritual side is now i'd like some
support right to help me stay in that state, And
the next one is neutralized. This is one of my
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favorite ones. And I think I found that that the
Dollar store a little what's it called it called.
Speaker 3 (22:32):
Timer? Gosh, it's the sand timer.
Speaker 4 (22:38):
It's an hour glass.
Speaker 3 (22:39):
Yes, we're both mental. So what I love about the trouble.
Speaker 4 (22:45):
It's like when you're watching the sand go down, Like
the sand doesn't give a shit about what you think
of it. It's still going down, and it's going down
at the exact rate that it's supposed to go down.
So oftentimes, when we are an uncertainty, we're trying to
speed things up, and it's not time to speed things up.
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Sometimes it's not even time to know. And so neutrality
is the most powerful point that you can get to
emotionally when you're manifesting and when you're trying to ground right.
So often we are taught change your negative thought to
a positive thought and say that a thousand times, and I'm like,
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that's very like logical, But if the mind doesn't believe
that switch, then you are just reinforcing the fact that it's.
Speaker 3 (23:39):
Not there, right, And that can be frustrating for somebody
who doesn't understand why they're doing it wrong or whatever.
Speaker 4 (23:48):
Yeah, or the universe hates me. And I'm like, right, no,
because then we're still using the mind.
Speaker 1 (23:53):
Right.
Speaker 4 (23:53):
Words are great, but they're still using the mind. And
so instead, can you get yourself to a point of news?
And I like the hourglass as a metaphor, so I
will literally like, if there's something I'm worried about, I
will see that problem just going down, and I'm like, Okay,
I can worry about it if I really want to,
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But when that thing goes down, it is officially handled,
is not mine to worry about. I like that, and
I come like I can feel it right now, like
my energy is going from here to here here, taking.
Speaker 3 (24:29):
The focus off of the pain, the anxiety, the worry,
the trauma, the drama, that all the high intensity feelings
that you feel towards the problem or the situation. And
when you are taking that, well, what happens is is
that we're associating it with something in the past, and
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we're also concerning ourselves with something in the future with it.
And what you're saying basically is take that moment, to
be in the moment with it, yeah, and realize it
has no power over what you're doing in the motherfucking moment. No,
it's nothing to do with the past, has nothing to
do with the future. It is about now. And when
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you when you slow everything down and stop focusing on
the problem and just letting it just have its moment,
then you can start to see it in a different way. Oh,
how can I approach it now? How how Oh well,
it didn't it didn't kill me now, so you know,
maybe I shouldn't let it kill me tomorrow.
Speaker 4 (25:32):
Yes, And that is so funny because it becomes this
like non important thing, when before it was like the
most fixating, obsessive thought, right right, and so yeah, anything
like this is just mine. But like anything that gets
you to neutral is so powerful. And oftentimes all have
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clients tell me like I just like went and like
you know, decluttered like that annoying junk drawer in my
kid and listen to like rock music. And then I
came back and like that person emailed me or like
I got the text or like whatever, because temporarily you
forgot about it and you redirected your energy. Ye, so
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that also works. But this is for these are for
my obsessive folks, because I get you. And if you
want something to do and like you don't want to
let it go, It's like, okay, fine, stare at it
and think about it all you want as the thing
goes down.
Speaker 3 (26:29):
Yeah, because it is. It's very hard for people to
you know, I have this problem too. It's very hard
for people to stop and think. How can I live
in the moment. My brain is always thinking about fucking
shit that happened to me or the shit I have
to do. There's always something pulling my mind in one
direction or another. How do you focus down and just
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stay in the moment? And a lot of people can't
do that and I can't sometimes either. I like that
you're saying, take something that shows movement still and let
it just capture your attention, because it is in the moment.
Redirecting the attention is helpful. And I love that. I
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love that I have to figure out what it is
that I need. I'm sitting here looking around already, going
what can I use? Maybe I might get an hour glass,
because then it's almost like a timer almost. Do take
this moment to just stay in the moment.
Speaker 4 (27:29):
Yes, and like and don't beat yourself up when you
go out of the moment. Yeah, it's like, oh, okay,
this is just like, this is just a new way
of operating and I don't have to do it perfectly,
but I'm committed to doing it differently because I want
to feel differently. And so then the last one you, guys,
is decide what gets to have your focus.
Speaker 3 (27:49):
We have that choice. People don't think who we have
that choice. We have that choice.
Speaker 4 (27:53):
Yeah, decide what gets your focus. And just because somebody
pings you does not mean you have to respond right away.
I had to really, I mean it's something that I
still have to work on. I'm like, I want to
jump and like check it off my to do list
and like come up with a perfect answer in the moment.
And it's often like in the middle of a creative
work session, even though I put myself on do not
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disturb and I'm like, why, Like, this is my own
boundary with myself. Nobody else is making me respond right now.
So reminding yourself, I get a choice, I get to decide,
and that I'm not gonna like, the world's not gonna
fall apart if you decide to wait.
Speaker 3 (28:32):
I think that a lot of people are told in many,
many directions. I mean, I can relate to that. I'm
pulled in a hundred directions a day. Everybody wants something
from me, some attention from me, something, And I used
to feel like, and I was talking to somebody really
amazing today about this. I was talking about how we
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feel like we've got to always say yes if somebody
asks us for something or to do something for him
or I was like, oh, yeah, I feel like I couldn't.
I couldn't say no, you know, And we tend to
over extend ourselves by saying yes and then disappointing the
person or disappointing ourselves or not being able to follow through.
And and then there comes a time that that people
(29:16):
get really overstressed about that. And I was saying that
I've learned to be able to say no, and it's okay,
you're not you know, not a bad person if you
say no to something, and I only say yes to
things I really know that I can't follow through on,
you know, and making that decision is a lot of
(29:37):
how people can ground themselves. So I totally see what
you're saying here, because then we're not stretching ourselves so thin,
we're not putting ourselves in a place that we don't
want to be because we said yes because we feel
like we have to.
Speaker 4 (29:52):
And absolutely, and like I'm sure you've been in this
position where you, you know, like make a date with
a friend for sample, and like they said yes, they're
sitting across from you at Starbucks or whatever. They're not there.
They're sneaking on their phone, right, or they're just like
kind of looking around, or they're saying ahah, they're not
(30:14):
asking you a lot of questions about what you just shared,
and you're just like, why did you even fucking say yes? Like,
and so, what I realized or what helped me to
kind of get over that people pleasing part is like
we don't get to give the best of ourselves when
we're overstretched, when we are or scheduled, and so sometimes
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saying no is like the greatest gift you can give
the people that you care about, even if in the
moment temporarily you disappoint them, and during uncertain times when
your energy is already more likely to be pulled in
directions you don't want. Yeah, being the grounded, neutral force.
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When you're around somebody like that, it's it's amazing. You're
just like, oh my god, thank god, I don't have
to take care of you like you know what I'm saying, Like,
it's just a joy to be around people like that.
And so becoming that person yourself does require you to
say no and decide no, I'm only focused on these
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and I'm going to be an asshole to some people
that have gotten used to me saying yes, that's the
drop of a hat and that's okay.
Speaker 3 (31:26):
I had to learn to do that. It's been a
it's been a practice over the last four or five
months for me. This is new, being able to step
back and say, na, I can't. I just can't do that.
I you know, it's not something I can do right
now for you. I used to always felt like I
had to be there for everybody all the time, and
(31:50):
it just didn't serve me. It wasn't good for me,
and they weren't getting the best of me either, Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 4 (31:57):
And if they're not getting the best of you, it's
like it's not really a gift. It's kind of a
compromised gift, and it feels like there's strings there even
though you don't intend them to be right. But you know,
going back to uncertainty, you know, uncertainty can look like
so many things. It can be, you know, something more obvious,
like a death in the family, or it could be
(32:18):
like losing your job or losing a relationship, but also
just this underlying knowing that your life as you've known
it is not a life that you want, And then
what the fuck do you do?
Speaker 3 (32:32):
I'm in that spot right right now, are you right now?
Speaker 1 (32:36):
Yeah? Yeah?
Speaker 3 (32:37):
Yeah. My kid, my youngest one, just graduated. I have
no more kids in the house, I have no more responsibilities.
But myself, I find that a lot of things that
the universe is removing from my life and I had
no control over it, and I've had to learn to
let that go and trust that it's for a reason.
I'm not meant to be in that job, I'm not
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meant to do these things. It was a place holder
for something bigger, for something better, for a lesson I
needed to learn, for a growth I needed to grow,
and you know, you know, put myself in a in
the place I know. Oh god, So here's my problem.
I know what I want and I know I'm going
(33:20):
to go get it, but all these other things to
do that that fill the space before going to get this,
you know, like my career, my might what I really
want to do in my life. I feel like I've
got to fill it with all these other bullshits to
pay the bills, fill the time, take care of things,
(33:40):
and they're distracting me from what I need to do.
But what I need to do isn't paying me the
bills right now. So I'm in my fucking walls over here,
and the universe just said fuck that, let's just get
rid of it. And it did. And now I'm looking
at life going, oh my god, and I'm feeling chad challenged.
I'm feeling challenged. Universe is challenging me because I have
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the opportunity to go back to some of these other
jobs that I let go, and it's saying, oh, let's see,
let's see. Is she serious about moving forward or is
she serious about just being scared and hanging on to
this stuff. And it is a very brightening thing to
look at those things that could save me, But then
(34:26):
they could hurt me again. They could put me in
a place that I don't need to be in. It
is very difficult to look at all that work and
walk away from it and hear my granny's pictures are
falling down around me. She is saying, yes, okay, okay,
hear you, bench, I hear you. Ah, And yeah, see,
(34:50):
I'm getting all kinds of signs right now that it's true.
I'm being tested. I'm being you know, is she going
to go back to these things? Because we are presented
with those things again, a past relationship that is easy
to go back to, a job that is easy to
go back to. But what will it do. It will
fill the time in the space to prevent you from
moving forward in the place that you need to go.
(35:12):
And so I find myself in that right now, and
it's a little bit of a struggle, and I'm I
appreciate the struggle.
Speaker 4 (35:19):
I mean, it's it's such a vulnerable and magical place
to be. Yeah, you know, I've been there myself, and
I know that like kind of free fall vibe where
you're just like like, I'm at this crossroads and I
can like stay in this little tight thing that I know,
or I can fly and I don't know what the
fuck is going to happen, but it might be really awesome.
(35:42):
And so if you too, right, those of you that
are listening and watching, like are in a similar place.
One thing that's helped me is like daily making the
choice to focus more on the vision versus the current circumstance.
That's what I'm trying to do, Like, well, what is
the vision? Because oftentimes when we're like really freaking out,
(36:05):
it's because we've either forgotten what the vision is or
we haven't taken time to like really flesh it out.
It's like, how do I want to feel? You know,
who's there? What are the elements? What does my day
look like? And even if it's not right here in
real time right now, you wouldn't have those desires if
they weren't already out there in the field. So there's
(36:28):
just a delay. I call it like the spiritual waiting room.
And yeah, we got to do what we got to
do to pay the bills, Like no judgment on that,
but doing it in a way that is an integrity
with yourself, with your energy, and also not pretending that
it's something it isn't like, oh yeah, I'm just going
to do this because I absolutely love it. Universe like, no,
(36:48):
I really prefer to do this, but I have skill
sets over here and I need to pay the bills.
So I'm going to do this as joyfully as possible.
But please know, right like, they're not getting one thousand
and ten percent of me. I'm giving the energy that
I'm able to in integrity with the other projects that
(37:09):
I'm very passionate about, right And I think when we
can be honest with ourselves about that, it's like, Okay,
this is just a bridge. This is just like the
spiritual waiting room, and you're being responsible for your life.
So I you know, I think that's really brave and
I'm excited to see what comes on the other side.
Speaker 3 (37:32):
I'm excited too. I'm I know it's right here. It's
it's it's a it's a it's a practice in patience.
It is which I very little love in my past.
So I'm learning about patience and it is it is
a very calming thing to feel patient about something I
(37:52):
never knew that feeling before, and that is a big
growth for me. I learned something that is part of
some of the practical advice that I wrote down for
keeping grounded, and one of them was touched the present moment.
And I was trying to figure out ways to stay
like you said, in that moment, and I heard this
(38:14):
thing and I was like, oh god, I'm all about
the trees. So I tried it and it is really magical.
And it was go and take your shoes off, be
barefoot in the ground, in the grass, put your hands
on the tree, and just like as you do it.
(38:36):
And I didn't care if anybody was watching me. I
didn't care. I was like, eh, whatever, And it is.
It is a really magical thing. And I felt so connected,
so grounded, so moved, and I just felt I could
feel the energy presence of the tree, of the earth,
(38:57):
of the just it was amazing. I really love it.
Speaker 4 (39:00):
I love that. That's so funny because on my walk
today I was guided to just like touch a tree. Yeah,
while my dog was like sniffing around and I'm like
why am I doing this? But I'm like, who cares?
Like it feels really good?
Speaker 1 (39:13):
Right?
Speaker 4 (39:13):
My parents are dropping off their like elementary kids and
were like, what is this weird lady touching a tree
with her little dog, like staring at the tree.
Speaker 3 (39:22):
That's weird. I was at the house where that I
manage in Beverly Hills, and I was like, nobody's around,
it's the backyard. Nobody can see me from the house.
So I went out and I was like just holding
onto the tree, feeling the ground, enjoying the moment, feeling
the breeze, and and it's interesting when you start to
do the the branches start moving. It was like really incredible.
(39:48):
And then all of a sudden I realized that the
pool guy was out there, and.
Speaker 4 (39:53):
I was like, okay, Beverly Hills.
Speaker 3 (39:56):
Whatever whatever. I just like whatever, I don't care. I
just laughed, grab my shoes and walked back in the house.
It was funny.
Speaker 4 (40:04):
That's awesome though. I love that tip. And getting into
nature is such a quick way to get grounded or
I can't get outside. Like get a screensaver of nature,
Like you can get a little fountain from freaking Walmart
and like put it in your office. Like there's ways
to mimic nature and remind yourself. Like oh, like I
(40:25):
am of the earth, even though there's this crazy shit
happening around me, I can choose to cultivate an inner
and outer environment of peace.
Speaker 3 (40:35):
Yeah, my practical tips that I have was breathe before
you react. If you feel your body starting to react,
I don't care how many numbers of breath you take in.
Let's just say five, like you had said, my practice
is breathing in for five, holding it for five, and
(40:56):
letting everything relax during that hole of five, then blow
all of it out on five. And so I felt
like that that that hold and relax is just such
a soothing thing that touch the present moment like either
find your your your thing to ground you in the moment,
simplify your focus, And that just feels like when life
(41:20):
is impossible, things are overwhelming, the next step is crazy.
Think about only the next step and not the whole,
the whole picture, the whole staircase. I always use goals
as a as a like a ladder analogy, analogy. Whatever
each ring is leading you up. Stay focused on one
(41:41):
ring at a time. Don't look at what you know,
don't look up and go, oh shit, there's five hundred
other rings to get to you. Where I want to be.
Just focus on each ring, which is basically your next step.
Focus on it, don't look at the entire picture yet.
And the last one I have is disconnect to reconnect.
Speaker 4 (42:00):
I like that one.
Speaker 3 (42:02):
Yeah, so unplug for an hour, reduce the noise stimulation
which affects your nervous system and makes you feel grounded sooner.
You know, it's hard to ground when there's all this
pups and buzzes going on in your life.
Speaker 4 (42:18):
It's true. And we love, we love all the buzzing,
you know, like we're addicted to the buzzing. We're addicted
to the adrenaline rush of getting the pain or hearing
the thing. And it's like, okay, I've forgotten to just be.
Speaker 3 (42:31):
Yeah, yeah, yeah exactly. I actually I made a mistake.
There are others, but you touched on them. One of
them was use the senses of our anchors, which is
what you said about the hour glass. And yeah, move
your body, gentle movement, stretching, dancing, cleaning, walking, It discharges
that stress energy. I love that that you said that
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create a grounding ritual, which could be like lighting a candle,
doing journals, affirmations, listen to a song that reminds you
of who you are. Yes, and lean into nature. We
talked about that, speak your truth out loud. That's a
great way of saying, like, I feel anxious right now,
(43:15):
and it's okay for me. It's I don't know where
I'm going, I don't know what I'm doing, but it
is okay because I have me and I am. I
will be great. You know, I will find I will
land on my feet. I'm like a fucking cat. I
land on my feet every time, and my last one
actually is amazing. Remember that you are safe and that
(43:40):
this moment will pass. Yes, because grounding is an escapism.
It's about reminding that you are okay right now, right.
Speaker 4 (43:53):
And safety right. If we feel safe, we can create anything.
When we feel unsafe, we will create stories. Hijack are
good from coming in. So that's beautiful. And I wanted
to just also bring in a intuitive message for.
Speaker 3 (44:11):
Any I was gonna say, do any reading, any reading?
Speaker 4 (44:15):
Yeah, So I have my deck. You guys, your magical
intuition oracle.
Speaker 3 (44:19):
Yep, hold on, we are too good. I love your cards,
by the way, thank you.
Speaker 4 (44:29):
So yeah, what I'm gonna do is just pull three
cards and interpret.
Speaker 3 (44:33):
Them and if we have three minutes.
Speaker 4 (44:37):
Okay, so let's do one card. Yeah, we'll do one card.
So whatever you need to know, and this is for
everybody in all time zones, whenever you watch or see
this or listen, embracing differences. So it's a beautiful puzzle
piece of a heart, and it says your difference makes
you special. So looking at where are you trying to
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too hard to fit in and knowing that the thing
that makes you weird, the thing that maybe you feel
shame around, is actually your greatest source of power and
healing and magnetism. So trust that and know that you
are so loved and that you matter. It's been such
a pleasure to be here with you, guys. Please I'd
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love to keep in touch. I am on all the
socials under my name Deanna Darrell.
Speaker 3 (45:26):
I'm like, look what I pulled din timing. It's the
hour glass. Oh my god, you are exactly where you
need to be. Keep that in mind. Every day, you
are exactly where you need to be. I said something
earlier to somebody that was like I think. It was like,
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it's not about what I want anymore, because what I
want is a limited thought pattern of not knowing what
else there could be out there. What I need is
what the universe is giving me. That it's it's reminding me.
Oh my god. The second card was yours.
Speaker 4 (46:07):
Yes, I didn't tell you this, goddess, but before we
started and I had my deck. Yes, that one, the
timing one. Yes, it's one on top one boundaries.
Speaker 3 (46:20):
It's okay to choose you. It's okay to choose you.
I love your cards very much. I use them quite often.
I use them in conjunction with my original tarots love
It which I love these so much, but yours are
quite stunning. If anybody wants these cards, Diana sells them
(46:41):
on her website. These are really extraordinary and they come
with a beautiful purple bag I love. I carry all
my cards in it with together.
Speaker 4 (46:52):
I love that you do that and for anybody that
would like it too. You also get a bonus course
on how to give yourself all a super accurate reading.
So even if you're like, how do I do this? Like,
I break it down for you. I share my secrets.
But I would love to connect with everybody, So please
check out the website at Deannadirel dot com. Christine, thank
you so much for having me on.
Speaker 3 (47:14):
I love yousure here.
Speaker 4 (47:16):
I love you too.
Speaker 3 (47:18):
You're an extraordinary woman and I'm very grateful to have
you in my life. You've touched me, not in inappropriate ways,
but in wonderful ways. As soon as I said it,
I was like, that sounded fucked up, but yeah, you've
really touched my life in I know that people who
come to listen to the show value what you have
to say, and I'm so grateful for you to be here.
(47:39):
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Speaker 2 (00:29):
Hey everyone, and welcome to Fifty Shades of Bullshit. I'm
your host, Christine Lalan, and this is the podcast where
we uncover the truth about online dating.
Speaker 3 (00:41):
Now let's begin. Hey everybody, I'm Christine and this is
fifty Shades of Bullshit. I hope everybody's doing great this week.
I'm so happy to be back, and I have an
extraordinary guest talking about a really important topic. Because with
their everything that's so chaotic these days, it's really good
(01:03):
to know how and where and when to ground yourself.
So I'd like to introduce our guest today. Diana has
actually been on our show before. Here I am trying
to now scramble to find her stuff because you know,
as you know, we are going to be talking about
(01:24):
stay great, staying grounded during uncertain times. Let's bring on Diana,
Diana Tourelle, how are you. I'm great, and I'm so
happy to see your beautiful, shiny face.
Speaker 4 (01:39):
Thank you so much for inviting me. I feel like
this is a very timely topic. You know, when you
asked me, it was like it just like came right
off the top of my head. And I feel like
so many people that I've spoken with are in some
kind of a transition, some kind of a change, either
you know, instigated by them or by the universe or
somebody else, you know, And it's like, if you've kind
(02:02):
of been navigating a transition right now, if you feel lost,
if you feel uncertain, then these tips are for you people.
Speaker 3 (02:10):
Right while, I'm learning a lot with you know, listening
to the universe, because and people can call that whatever
they want. You know, a lot of people go universe.
Speaker 4 (02:21):
I don't.
Speaker 3 (02:23):
I'm talking about your God, spirit, your guides, your you know,
whatever you want to use as that terminology. To listen
to your heart, to listen to your soul, to listen
to the the the signs that are coming in.
Speaker 4 (02:41):
You know what I mean absolutely, And you know, for
those of you that are kind of new to my world,
I am an intuitive relationship coach. I'm also a healer
and a psychic, and so the tips I'm going to
share tonight are really kind of a blend of both worlds.
And I love keeping things simple. So if you're a
note taker and you're watching or listening to this, I
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want you to write down the acronym ground and that's
that's what we're gonna build off. I just love at
the stage.
Speaker 3 (03:11):
I love it well. I put some things together today
to kind of also, I wanted to think about it
from my perspective if I was struggling, which you know
everybody struggles, you know, even talking about my healing journey,
it is gonna take forever. It took forever to get here,
(03:31):
you know, all the trauma happened years after years after years.
People think that a healing journey is just like boom,
you got it, You're done, and it's not. It's a
lifetime commitment. And I just wanted to think about, you know, how,
how are some of the ways that I want to know?
So I'm I put some things together for you too awesome.
Speaker 4 (03:52):
Awesome, So should we start with the first tip.
Speaker 3 (03:55):
Yes, let's do it.
Speaker 4 (03:56):
Okay, So the first one is about gathering. Okay, So
gathering can mean different things to different people, but for
our purposes, it's really about gathering with the people that
have your heart and conversely, right like spending less time
and less energy on the relationships that drain you, that
(04:19):
make you feel less than in any way and that
no longer relign. And sometimes we you know, we don't
have a choice. We have to be around, like you know,
your boss or like your mom or whatever, and like
if they're one of your key people doesn't see you,
it's not that you have to completely erase them from
your life, but you know how to manage your energy
(04:41):
and you spend more of your time with the people
that love you. So it sounds so simple, but I
like simple and effective. And when I was doing this myself,
you know, I'm like, who are the people that I
could call? You know, when the shit hits a fan
wardless of how often we see each other or talk
(05:03):
and maybe it's like five people, maybe it's two people.
Maybe it's your dog or your cat, But really, when
we get intentional about filtering who we spend time with,
you will become less anxious, more grounded, and more connected
to your truth, which is going to help you feel
(05:26):
good even when things around you seem to be swirling,
seem to be changing, because let's face it, change is
constant and change.
Speaker 3 (05:36):
Can be scary for those who don't know how to
handle that. By someone who struggles with grounding, change can
really frighten them absolutely.
Speaker 4 (05:46):
And so looking at your relationship, I think also to change. Right,
if you're around so many people that are talking about
how the change is bad and scary and how are
you going to do that and planting questions in your mind,
that's not going to be the most conducive psychic environment
for you to take the leap that your intuition is
(06:06):
telling you to take. So it's really about being intentional
with who you are gathering with. And also gather is
gathering your energy. So like at the end of the day,
right like oftentimes we are walking around and our energy
is super open, and we get home and we're exhausted
(06:27):
or angry or frustrated, and we're like, we didn't start
the day like this. What you know, barring being dehydrated, hungry,
or tired, like what else is there? There's energy, you
may have absorbed stuff from your environment. Oh, gathering your energy.
And this is a really cool visualization I share with
private clients, like I love old Hollywood and like the gowns,
(06:48):
and so my metaphor for everyone adapt it is like,
imagine you're wearing this ball gown right, and you're literally
gathering gathering the whole skirt. Yes, like gathering your aura
in when you come home, or you step outside your
office or you you know, close out your business day.
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Have a ritual where you gather your energy back to you.
It's so simple, but if you do it, you will
notice you are happier, you are healthier, and you are
more likely to want to connect with people.
Speaker 3 (07:20):
Well how how how would you tell somebody to mentally
or physically do a ritual to gather that for themselves.
Speaker 4 (07:32):
Yeah, so literally closing your eyes, if you know, and
picturing yourself wearing like the most fabulous gown you can
think of. And I mean I love to just pretend
I'm grabbing it right, imagine that you just it's too
long for you. What do you do?
Speaker 3 (07:46):
Right?
Speaker 4 (07:46):
You grab the edges and you inhale and you pull
it in right, and like that's it, And it can
be as simple as that. Another way, right, is if
you imagine like you're yourself in a bubble. And I
know we've talked about bubbles on here before, but like
anything that's not the bubble gets to just like fall,
(08:08):
like like oil around an egg off, it gets to
run off the bubble and just seeing it and using
the breath. So inhale is like I'm starting this exhale
is fear it, you take over. I don't need to
know who it is. I don't need to know what
it is. Eliminate it, let it go right, and that's it.
Speaker 3 (08:29):
Mickey asks, how can we get our energy on the
correct frequency for us?
Speaker 4 (08:35):
So first, right, like I would say, the right frequency
for you is the energy where you feel joy, where
you feel light, where you feel like yourself right, right,
And so first we have to identify, like what does
that even mean to me?
Speaker 3 (08:53):
Right?
Speaker 4 (08:53):
So step one is like identify what is the correct frequency,
like how do I want to feel in it? And
then two right is noticing if the things that you're
doing consistently are making you feel that way, like right,
is it more or less? And if it's less. Then
you need to do it differently, or you need to
stop doing it, or you need to delegate it out.
Speaker 3 (09:13):
Okay, right, so just.
Speaker 4 (09:15):
On like practical terms, on energetic terms like pay attention
to your inputs. If you're very sensitive to energy, maybe
you don't want to watch the news for four hours
a day, right, Or you know, if you tend to
be really sensitive and you already know you haven't gotten
enough sleep, maybe you don't take that girlfriend's call that's
going to be bitching for an hour and a half
(09:37):
about you know, her breakup, like tell her you will
get back to her. So it's like practicing boundaries but
also self awareness to know where's my starting point today
because every day is different?
Speaker 3 (09:50):
Right?
Speaker 4 (09:50):
What do I need to get back to my baseline?
Speaker 3 (09:53):
Do you think that people confuse being grounded with being detached?
Speaker 4 (10:00):
I could see why that could happen. So in my definition,
grounded is where you are undeterred by other people's moods, opinions,
and energies. Okay, okay, So and then detached I guess
could be an element of grounded. But you can be
detached and also ungrounded true, which I mean you know
(10:24):
you smoke enough pot you're detached and ungrounded as hell.
Speaker 3 (10:30):
True, yes, so yeah, grounded.
Speaker 4 (10:33):
I think of the body like are you in your body?
And then if you're in your body right, like, then
you can kind of discern the world around you. And
detached is a choice that we make when we see
an energy coming at us or within a conversation that
we really know is going to drain us to engage
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in further, or we feel like our energy is being
used or pulled. Okay, I kind of like a mental like,
oh okay, like I'm here with you, but like I
see what's happening, and I don't need to take that on.
So I'm going to listen, but I'm not going to
try to fix your problem.
Speaker 3 (11:12):
Okay, I can see that. So in your definition, you
know you're breaking down grounded.
Speaker 4 (11:20):
What is our r Yeah, let's go to number two.
So number two is ramp up physical movement. I love
that you talked about exercising and like just getting in
your body. So you know, it's really hard to stay
in a ton of fear and anxiety when we are
moving our bodies. It's like one focus or the other, right,
So tap into what helps you to stay in your
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body in the moment. For me, when I'm feeling that
like stress of the world, I take my little dog
for a walk, and I don't necessarily listen to a
lot of things while I'm walking, Like I try to
just take in nature and like the moment, and that
helps me to kind of manage any uncertainty that I
might be feeling. Oftentimes I'll also get a solution on
(12:05):
my walk. It's like, oh, that thing I was worried
about three days ago, Like I know what to do.
I need to call this person or I need to
change this part of the copy or whatever. So ramping
up physical movement and even if like let's say you're
injured or you can't get outside because of the weather, like,
there's always something we can do. Shoulder rolls, neck rolls.
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I teach people this goddess goddess Sleep, So it's like
literally you take your wrists and you flick them out
all along your path.
Speaker 3 (12:36):
Oh I do that.
Speaker 4 (12:37):
I do that.
Speaker 3 (12:38):
I just didn't know that's what you called. Sometimes I'm like,
fucking get out of my mind.
Speaker 4 (12:42):
Yes, I call the goddess sleep and I do it
all the time, and it cleans off your aura and
it makes you feel better, and that is considered movement,
you know, so there's really no excuse. But the next one,
the O is one of my favorites, and it is
to own some obsidian. So for all my crystal people,
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obsidian is a black stone. It's totally you know, like
how do I say, like Matt right versus like glossy,
And it helps with spiritual protection and neutralizing energy. So
even just like keeping some by your workstation, in your pocket,
in your purse. I've seen some people have like a
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little sticker of obsidian and they stick it on the
back of their cell phone. There's so many different ways
that you can use it. But this is one of
my favorite stones for managing uncertainty. So if you're meditating
it all and you really want something to do or
something to hold, it's a great one. And I saw
a question come up.
Speaker 3 (13:43):
Yeah, I was just actually going to point that out.
So Anastasia says, is there a way to block negative
energy so it can't affect us? But I will tell
you my own solution first energy ahead, Yeah, and I
definitely want to hear from you, Diana. For me, I
was taught to do the white bubble, the white light,
(14:04):
So when I do mine. When I have to clear
out the psychic friend that I used to take classes
from to learn more about my abilities and to grow
and stretch and practice. I feel a lot of my
anxiety and my solar plexus, and that is my what chakra?
Speaker 4 (14:23):
Is that?
Speaker 3 (14:24):
Sorry? Your third Yeah, I just drew a blank, thank
you much, and that gets anxiety that gets really nauseatingly
exhausting that feeling. And she told me to see it
as a portal and to take it. So this is
my solar plex here. And she told me to uh
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do a sweep counterclockwise to open it almost like you're
screwing the lid off of a jar left, you know,
unscrewing it and pull all of that shit out, anything
that makes me feel anxious, anything, any energy that makes
me feel overwhelmed, anxiety, whatever, And then she said, close it.
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Close that motherfucker back up. So I close it going
back clockwise now, so then I clock. I just hit
my mic. Sorry, folks, sure that loud. I close it up,
and then I protect myself with my white light. I
do the bubble around me, and that's the best way
that I can remove negative energy still in my own
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energy and protect myself with a white light my bubble. Basically,
what are ways that you say that other people can
possibly do some kind of exercise to protect yourselves negative energy?
Speaker 4 (15:41):
So you know, I feel like this is a natural
opportunity to let you guys know if you want to
do that fast and you don't necessarily like want to
go through a thousand steps because I know, like sometimes
they're busy. I have put together a clearing essentially for everybody,
and it's free and it's called the Grounded Goddess Activation.
(16:04):
I actually use specific hurts frequency music to help you
let go, so you can go directly to my website.
It is totally free and it's instant access. So I
would just do that like tonight Anastasia, and notice how
you feel. It's a crazy fast shift.
Speaker 3 (16:21):
And those who are listening and not here what Yeah.
Speaker 1 (16:26):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (16:26):
Diana's website is her name, It's Diana Durrell d I
A N A D O R E L L dot com.
That is her website. You can go on there and
find that grounding.
Speaker 4 (16:40):
Yep, it's right on the homepage. You can't miss it.
But another thing, if you do have a little bit
more time and you're like I really just want to
kind of kick this negative energy out. Is similar to you, Christine,
So I learned it kind of like a like a
radio dial. So I'll literally take my hand and it
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doesn't matter what it is. We don't have to know
where it's coming from. But the same as you around
the solar plexus, even just above like two inches above
the belly button is where I was taught, and take
it right.
Speaker 3 (17:13):
And mine's here.
Speaker 4 (17:14):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, perfect, Yeah, you're literally going to take
it and like open, so turn.
Speaker 3 (17:19):
To the left. Oh, I see the same, Okay.
Speaker 4 (17:22):
And it's almost like okay, I'm opening the faucet, like
let the shit go out, and you're going to count
to five. So one, two, three, four five, take a
deep breath and exhale and turn it one to three
four five. And this is something that you can do
before you go out in public. Okay. So it's it's
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great if you've already been aware that you've absorbed something,
but I do it as a preventative, like if I
know I'm going to a concert or like the grocery
store and it's really busy and I'm tired, I want
to make sure that I do that so that when
I walk in, I'm not frazzled by people's stuff, right,
it's likely right, Like you, you are very intuitive yourself,
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and that maybe why you're asking.
Speaker 3 (18:10):
It's like, ah, that's definitely why she's asking. Yeah, I
think that if you are not aware that you are
an impath or a sensitive or can absorb people's energies
in some way, shape or form, you wouldn't be asking
the question.
Speaker 4 (18:26):
Yeah, exactly. So it's a gift, you know, your sensitivity
is a gift. And then also in the lines of
negative energy, I feel like it's something that you know,
we also kind of have to make friends with our
shadow because sometimes what we perceive is negative energy is
just right emotions that want to be witnessed and want
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to be brought up to the surf, and it's like,
why is this, Why is this triggering me so much? Oh?
Because I wish I had this or I didn't do this,
and I'm mad about it. Right, Like, when you can
name it, sometimes the negative energy is actually there to
help you to see something so that you can move on. So, yeah,
(19:09):
that's just what I wanted to share there. But let's
go into the next one. So we've got gather with
people who see you ramp up physical movement right own
some obsidian. And then the next one is unwind your mind,
which I know is so easy to say, like great, ye,
I want to do that, right, but like, let's talk practicals,
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and I know that sometimes this might not always feel easy.
But turn off all your devices and stimulation an hour
before bed ideally, especially if you're empathic like I am,
and write down the top three things that are priorities
for the next day. Oftentimes we just have a lot
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of we don't have enough mental space, and so although
we've technically done everything for the day, like, we're still
thinking about what we have to do the next day.
So three three priorities, and if you got those three
things done in the next day, you would feel so
good about yourself. What this allows you to do the
next day is get to work and focus, and inevitably,
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when distractions come up or other stuff or people want
something from you, you run it against those three. Are
they going to help me get to those three? If not,
like I need to like bump it to the bottom.
Speaker 3 (20:27):
Of the list, right, that's a great idea.
Speaker 4 (20:29):
Okay, But unwind your mind can also be things like
the meditation right, like listening to high frequency music and
binural beats. I love alpha waves when I'm working. It
helps me focus data waves when I need to relax.
You can go on Spotify definitely download my free meditation.
(20:51):
It will save you. But yeah, so those are kind
of two.
Speaker 3 (20:55):
I love the binary beats. There's several healing ones that
I use a lot yea for four thirty four thirty four,
if five one, I have five twenty seven? Is it
five twenty seven? I have them all saved, eight eighty eight.
I use eight inh a lot me too, a money
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one and it also calms me. Yeah, binary beats are
a great are a great way. Frequencies are really important
when you are talking about your energy. Your energy has
a frequency. What you bring into your body has a frequency,
and I think paying attention to that and calming your
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nerves with that type of thing is really important.
Speaker 4 (21:41):
Yes, and you know what, like you can do it
when when you're doing like the dishes or something. I
think oftentimes we're just like, oh, I have to have
this dedicated like one hour, and that's not always realistic.
So yeah, like even when you're getting in the shower,
let me just play, you know, play it on my
phone and leave the bone on the sink and just
have that like playing as you're letting the water just
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rush down on you. I mean, there's so many creative
ways you can do this, but unwinding your mind. Part
of that is discipline, right, decluttering what needs to get done.
And then the spiritual side is now i'd like some
support right to help me stay in that state, And
the next one is neutralized. This is one of my
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favorite ones. And I think I found that that the
Dollar store a little what's it called it called.
Speaker 3 (22:32):
Timer? Gosh, it's the sand timer.
Speaker 4 (22:38):
It's an hour glass.
Speaker 3 (22:39):
Yes, we're both mental. So what I love about the trouble.
Speaker 4 (22:45):
It's like when you're watching the sand go down, Like
the sand doesn't give a shit about what you think
of it. It's still going down, and it's going down
at the exact rate that it's supposed to go down.
So oftentimes, when we are an uncertainty, we're trying to
speed things up, and it's not time to speed things up.
(23:05):
Sometimes it's not even time to know. And so neutrality
is the most powerful point that you can get to
emotionally when you're manifesting and when you're trying to ground right.
So often we are taught change your negative thought to
a positive thought and say that a thousand times, and I'm like,
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that's very like logical, But if the mind doesn't believe
that switch, then you are just reinforcing the fact that it's.
Speaker 3 (23:39):
Not there, right, And that can be frustrating for somebody
who doesn't understand why they're doing it wrong or whatever.
Speaker 4 (23:48):
Yeah, or the universe hates me. And I'm like, right, no,
because then we're still using the mind.
Speaker 1 (23:53):
Right.
Speaker 4 (23:53):
Words are great, but they're still using the mind. And
so instead, can you get yourself to a point of news?
And I like the hourglass as a metaphor, so I
will literally like, if there's something I'm worried about, I
will see that problem just going down, and I'm like, Okay,
I can worry about it if I really want to,
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But when that thing goes down, it is officially handled,
is not mine to worry about. I like that, and
I come like I can feel it right now, like
my energy is going from here to here here, taking.
Speaker 3 (24:29):
The focus off of the pain, the anxiety, the worry,
the trauma, the drama, that all the high intensity feelings
that you feel towards the problem or the situation. And
when you are taking that, well, what happens is is
that we're associating it with something in the past, and
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we're also concerning ourselves with something in the future with it.
And what you're saying basically is take that moment, to
be in the moment with it, yeah, and realize it
has no power over what you're doing in the motherfucking moment. No,
it's nothing to do with the past, has nothing to
do with the future. It is about now. And when
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you when you slow everything down and stop focusing on
the problem and just letting it just have its moment,
then you can start to see it in a different way. Oh,
how can I approach it now? How how Oh well,
it didn't it didn't kill me now, so you know,
maybe I shouldn't let it kill me tomorrow.
Speaker 4 (25:32):
Yes, And that is so funny because it becomes this
like non important thing, when before it was like the
most fixating, obsessive thought, right right, and so yeah, anything
like this is just mine. But like anything that gets
you to neutral is so powerful. And oftentimes all have
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clients tell me like I just like went and like
you know, decluttered like that annoying junk drawer in my
kid and listen to like rock music. And then I
came back and like that person emailed me or like
I got the text or like whatever, because temporarily you
forgot about it and you redirected your energy. Ye, so
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that also works. But this is for these are for
my obsessive folks, because I get you. And if you
want something to do and like you don't want to
let it go, It's like, okay, fine, stare at it
and think about it all you want as the thing
goes down.
Speaker 3 (26:29):
Yeah, because it is. It's very hard for people to
you know, I have this problem too. It's very hard
for people to stop and think. How can I live
in the moment. My brain is always thinking about fucking
shit that happened to me or the shit I have
to do. There's always something pulling my mind in one
direction or another. How do you focus down and just
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stay in the moment? And a lot of people can't
do that and I can't sometimes either. I like that
you're saying, take something that shows movement still and let
it just capture your attention, because it is in the moment.
Redirecting the attention is helpful. And I love that. I
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love that I have to figure out what it is
that I need. I'm sitting here looking around already, going
what can I use? Maybe I might get an hour glass,
because then it's almost like a timer almost. Do take
this moment to just stay in the moment.
Speaker 4 (27:29):
Yes, and like and don't beat yourself up when you
go out of the moment. Yeah, it's like, oh, okay,
this is just like, this is just a new way
of operating and I don't have to do it perfectly,
but I'm committed to doing it differently because I want
to feel differently. And so then the last one you, guys,
is decide what gets to have your focus.
Speaker 3 (27:49):
We have that choice. People don't think who we have
that choice. We have that choice.
Speaker 4 (27:53):
Yeah, decide what gets your focus. And just because somebody
pings you does not mean you have to respond right away.
I had to really, I mean it's something that I
still have to work on. I'm like, I want to
jump and like check it off my to do list
and like come up with a perfect answer in the moment.
And it's often like in the middle of a creative
work session, even though I put myself on do not
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disturb and I'm like, why, Like, this is my own
boundary with myself. Nobody else is making me respond right now.
So reminding yourself, I get a choice, I get to decide,
and that I'm not gonna like, the world's not gonna
fall apart if you decide to wait.
Speaker 3 (28:32):
I think that a lot of people are told in many,
many directions. I mean, I can relate to that. I'm
pulled in a hundred directions a day. Everybody wants something
from me, some attention from me, something, And I used
to feel like, and I was talking to somebody really
amazing today about this. I was talking about how we
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feel like we've got to always say yes if somebody
asks us for something or to do something for him
or I was like, oh, yeah, I feel like I couldn't.
I couldn't say no, you know, And we tend to
over extend ourselves by saying yes and then disappointing the
person or disappointing ourselves or not being able to follow through.
And and then there comes a time that that people
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get really overstressed about that. And I was saying that
I've learned to be able to say no, and it's okay,
you're not you know, not a bad person if you
say no to something, and I only say yes to
things I really know that I can't follow through on,
you know, and making that decision is a lot of
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how people can ground themselves. So I totally see what
you're saying here, because then we're not stretching ourselves so thin,
we're not putting ourselves in a place that we don't
want to be because we said yes because we feel
like we have to.
Speaker 4 (29:52):
And absolutely, and like I'm sure you've been in this
position where you, you know, like make a date with
a friend for sample, and like they said yes, they're
sitting across from you at Starbucks or whatever. They're not there.
They're sneaking on their phone, right, or they're just like
kind of looking around, or they're saying ahah, they're not
(30:14):
asking you a lot of questions about what you just shared,
and you're just like, why did you even fucking say yes? Like,
and so, what I realized or what helped me to
kind of get over that people pleasing part is like
we don't get to give the best of ourselves when
we're overstretched, when we are or scheduled, and so sometimes
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saying no is like the greatest gift you can give
the people that you care about, even if in the
moment temporarily you disappoint them, and during uncertain times when
your energy is already more likely to be pulled in
directions you don't want. Yeah, being the grounded, neutral force.
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When you're around somebody like that, it's it's amazing. You're
just like, oh my god, thank god, I don't have
to take care of you like you know what I'm saying, Like,
it's just a joy to be around people like that.
And so becoming that person yourself does require you to
say no and decide no, I'm only focused on these
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and I'm going to be an asshole to some people
that have gotten used to me saying yes, that's the
drop of a hat and that's okay.
Speaker 3 (31:26):
I had to learn to do that. It's been a
it's been a practice over the last four or five
months for me. This is new, being able to step
back and say, na, I can't. I just can't do that.
I you know, it's not something I can do right
now for you. I used to always felt like I
had to be there for everybody all the time, and
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it just didn't serve me. It wasn't good for me,
and they weren't getting the best of me either, Yeah, exactly.
Speaker 4 (31:57):
And if they're not getting the best of you, it's
like it's not really a gift. It's kind of a
compromised gift, and it feels like there's strings there even
though you don't intend them to be right. But you know,
going back to uncertainty, you know, uncertainty can look like
so many things. It can be, you know, something more obvious,
like a death in the family, or it could be
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like losing your job or losing a relationship, but also
just this underlying knowing that your life as you've known
it is not a life that you want, And then
what the fuck do you do?
Speaker 3 (32:32):
I'm in that spot right right now, are you right now?
Speaker 1 (32:36):
Yeah? Yeah?
Speaker 3 (32:37):
Yeah. My kid, my youngest one, just graduated. I have
no more kids in the house, I have no more responsibilities.
But myself, I find that a lot of things that
the universe is removing from my life and I had
no control over it, and I've had to learn to
let that go and trust that it's for a reason.
I'm not meant to be in that job, I'm not
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meant to do these things. It was a place holder
for something bigger, for something better, for a lesson I
needed to learn, for a growth I needed to grow,
and you know, you know, put myself in a in
the place I know. Oh god, So here's my problem.
I know what I want and I know I'm going
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to go get it, but all these other things to
do that that fill the space before going to get this,
you know, like my career, my might what I really
want to do in my life. I feel like I've
got to fill it with all these other bullshits to
pay the bills, fill the time, take care of things,
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and they're distracting me from what I need to do.
But what I need to do isn't paying me the
bills right now. So I'm in my fucking walls over here,
and the universe just said fuck that, let's just get
rid of it. And it did. And now I'm looking
at life going, oh my god, and I'm feeling chad challenged.
I'm feeling challenged. Universe is challenging me because I have
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the opportunity to go back to some of these other
jobs that I let go, and it's saying, oh, let's see,
let's see. Is she serious about moving forward or is
she serious about just being scared and hanging on to
this stuff. And it is a very brightening thing to
look at those things that could save me, But then
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they could hurt me again. They could put me in
a place that I don't need to be in. It
is very difficult to look at all that work and
walk away from it and hear my granny's pictures are
falling down around me. She is saying, yes, okay, okay,
hear you, bench, I hear you. Ah, And yeah, see,
(34:50):
I'm getting all kinds of signs right now that it's true.
I'm being tested. I'm being you know, is she going
to go back to these things? Because we are presented
with those things again, a past relationship that is easy
to go back to, a job that is easy to
go back to. But what will it do. It will
fill the time in the space to prevent you from
moving forward in the place that you need to go.
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And so I find myself in that right now, and
it's a little bit of a struggle, and I'm I
appreciate the struggle.
Speaker 4 (35:19):
I mean, it's it's such a vulnerable and magical place
to be. Yeah, you know, I've been there myself, and
I know that like kind of free fall vibe where
you're just like like, I'm at this crossroads and I
can like stay in this little tight thing that I know,
or I can fly and I don't know what the
fuck is going to happen, but it might be really awesome.
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And so if you too, right, those of you that
are listening and watching, like are in a similar place.
One thing that's helped me is like daily making the
choice to focus more on the vision versus the current circumstance.
That's what I'm trying to do, Like, well, what is
the vision? Because oftentimes when we're like really freaking out,
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it's because we've either forgotten what the vision is or
we haven't taken time to like really flesh it out.
It's like, how do I want to feel? You know,
who's there? What are the elements? What does my day
look like? And even if it's not right here in
real time right now, you wouldn't have those desires if
they weren't already out there in the field. So there's
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just a delay. I call it like the spiritual waiting room.
And yeah, we got to do what we got to
do to pay the bills, Like no judgment on that,
but doing it in a way that is an integrity
with yourself, with your energy, and also not pretending that
it's something it isn't like, oh yeah, I'm just going
to do this because I absolutely love it. Universe like, no,
(36:48):
I really prefer to do this, but I have skill
sets over here and I need to pay the bills.
So I'm going to do this as joyfully as possible.
But please know, right like, they're not getting one thousand
and ten percent of me. I'm giving the energy that
I'm able to in integrity with the other projects that
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I'm very passionate about, right And I think when we
can be honest with ourselves about that, it's like, Okay,
this is just a bridge. This is just like the
spiritual waiting room, and you're being responsible for your life.
So I you know, I think that's really brave and
I'm excited to see what comes on the other side.
Speaker 3 (37:32):
I'm excited too. I'm I know it's right here. It's
it's it's a it's a it's a practice in patience.
It is which I very little love in my past.
So I'm learning about patience and it is it is
a very calming thing to feel patient about something I
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never knew that feeling before, and that is a big
growth for me. I learned something that is part of
some of the practical advice that I wrote down for
keeping grounded, and one of them was touched the present moment.
And I was trying to figure out ways to stay
like you said, in that moment, and I heard this
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thing and I was like, oh god, I'm all about
the trees. So I tried it and it is really magical.
And it was go and take your shoes off, be
barefoot in the ground, in the grass, put your hands
on the tree, and just like as you do it.
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And I didn't care if anybody was watching me. I
didn't care. I was like, eh, whatever, And it is.
It is a really magical thing. And I felt so connected,
so grounded, so moved, and I just felt I could
feel the energy presence of the tree, of the earth,
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of the just it was amazing. I really love it.
Speaker 4 (39:00):
I love that. That's so funny because on my walk
today I was guided to just like touch a tree. Yeah,
while my dog was like sniffing around and I'm like
why am I doing this? But I'm like, who cares?
Like it feels really good?
Speaker 1 (39:13):
Right?
Speaker 4 (39:13):
My parents are dropping off their like elementary kids and
were like, what is this weird lady touching a tree
with her little dog, like staring at the tree.
Speaker 3 (39:22):
That's weird. I was at the house where that I
manage in Beverly Hills, and I was like, nobody's around,
it's the backyard. Nobody can see me from the house.
So I went out and I was like just holding
onto the tree, feeling the ground, enjoying the moment, feeling
the breeze, and and it's interesting when you start to
do the the branches start moving. It was like really incredible.
(39:48):
And then all of a sudden I realized that the
pool guy was out there, and.
Speaker 4 (39:53):
I was like, okay, Beverly Hills.
Speaker 3 (39:56):
Whatever whatever. I just like whatever, I don't care. I
just laughed, grab my shoes and walked back in the house.
It was funny.
Speaker 4 (40:04):
That's awesome though. I love that tip. And getting into
nature is such a quick way to get grounded or
I can't get outside. Like get a screensaver of nature,
Like you can get a little fountain from freaking Walmart
and like put it in your office. Like there's ways
to mimic nature and remind yourself. Like oh, like I
(40:25):
am of the earth, even though there's this crazy shit
happening around me, I can choose to cultivate an inner
and outer environment of peace.
Speaker 3 (40:35):
Yeah, my practical tips that I have was breathe before
you react. If you feel your body starting to react,
I don't care how many numbers of breath you take in.
Let's just say five, like you had said, my practice
is breathing in for five, holding it for five, and
(40:56):
letting everything relax during that hole of five, then blow
all of it out on five. And so I felt
like that that that hold and relax is just such
a soothing thing that touch the present moment like either
find your your your thing to ground you in the moment,
simplify your focus, And that just feels like when life
(41:20):
is impossible, things are overwhelming, the next step is crazy.
Think about only the next step and not the whole,
the whole picture, the whole staircase. I always use goals
as a as a like a ladder analogy, analogy. Whatever
each ring is leading you up. Stay focused on one
(41:41):
ring at a time. Don't look at what you know,
don't look up and go, oh shit, there's five hundred
other rings to get to you. Where I want to be.
Just focus on each ring, which is basically your next step.
Focus on it, don't look at the entire picture yet.
And the last one I have is disconnect to reconnect.
Speaker 4 (42:00):
I like that one.
Speaker 3 (42:02):
Yeah, so unplug for an hour, reduce the noise stimulation
which affects your nervous system and makes you feel grounded sooner.
You know, it's hard to ground when there's all this
pups and buzzes going on in your life.
Speaker 4 (42:18):
It's true. And we love, we love all the buzzing,
you know, like we're addicted to the buzzing. We're addicted
to the adrenaline rush of getting the pain or hearing
the thing. And it's like, okay, I've forgotten to just be.
Speaker 3 (42:31):
Yeah, yeah, yeah exactly. I actually I made a mistake.
There are others, but you touched on them. One of
them was use the senses of our anchors, which is
what you said about the hour glass. And yeah, move
your body, gentle movement, stretching, dancing, cleaning, walking, It discharges
that stress energy. I love that that you said that
(42:55):
create a grounding ritual, which could be like lighting a candle,
doing journals, affirmations, listen to a song that reminds you
of who you are. Yes, and lean into nature. We
talked about that, speak your truth out loud. That's a
great way of saying, like, I feel anxious right now,
(43:15):
and it's okay for me. It's I don't know where
I'm going, I don't know what I'm doing, but it
is okay because I have me and I am. I
will be great. You know, I will find I will
land on my feet. I'm like a fucking cat. I
land on my feet every time, and my last one
actually is amazing. Remember that you are safe and that
(43:40):
this moment will pass. Yes, because grounding is an escapism.
It's about reminding that you are okay right now, right.
Speaker 4 (43:53):
And safety right. If we feel safe, we can create anything.
When we feel unsafe, we will create stories. Hijack are
good from coming in. So that's beautiful. And I wanted
to just also bring in a intuitive message for.
Speaker 3 (44:11):
Any I was gonna say, do any reading, any reading?
Speaker 4 (44:15):
Yeah, So I have my deck. You guys, your magical
intuition oracle.
Speaker 3 (44:19):
Yep, hold on, we are too good. I love your cards,
by the way, thank you.
Speaker 4 (44:29):
So yeah, what I'm gonna do is just pull three
cards and interpret.
Speaker 3 (44:33):
Them and if we have three minutes.
Speaker 4 (44:37):
Okay, so let's do one card. Yeah, we'll do one card.
So whatever you need to know, and this is for
everybody in all time zones, whenever you watch or see
this or listen, embracing differences. So it's a beautiful puzzle
piece of a heart, and it says your difference makes
you special. So looking at where are you trying to
(45:00):
too hard to fit in and knowing that the thing
that makes you weird, the thing that maybe you feel
shame around, is actually your greatest source of power and
healing and magnetism. So trust that and know that you
are so loved and that you matter. It's been such
a pleasure to be here with you, guys. Please I'd
(45:20):
love to keep in touch. I am on all the
socials under my name Deanna Darrell.
Speaker 3 (45:26):
I'm like, look what I pulled din timing. It's the
hour glass. Oh my god, you are exactly where you
need to be. Keep that in mind. Every day, you
are exactly where you need to be. I said something
earlier to somebody that was like I think. It was like,
(45:48):
it's not about what I want anymore, because what I
want is a limited thought pattern of not knowing what
else there could be out there. What I need is
what the universe is giving me. That it's it's reminding me.
Oh my god. The second card was yours.
Speaker 4 (46:07):
Yes, I didn't tell you this, goddess, but before we
started and I had my deck. Yes, that one, the
timing one. Yes, it's one on top one boundaries.
Speaker 3 (46:20):
It's okay to choose you. It's okay to choose you.
I love your cards very much. I use them quite often.
I use them in conjunction with my original tarots love
It which I love these so much, but yours are
quite stunning. If anybody wants these cards, Diana sells them
(46:41):
on her website. These are really extraordinary and they come
with a beautiful purple bag I love. I carry all
my cards in it with together.
Speaker 4 (46:52):
I love that you do that and for anybody that
would like it too. You also get a bonus course
on how to give yourself all a super accurate reading.
So even if you're like, how do I do this? Like,
I break it down for you. I share my secrets.
But I would love to connect with everybody, So please
check out the website at Deannadirel dot com. Christine, thank
you so much for having me on.
Speaker 3 (47:14):
I love yousure here.
Speaker 4 (47:16):
I love you too.
Speaker 3 (47:18):
You're an extraordinary woman and I'm very grateful to have
you in my life. You've touched me, not in inappropriate ways,
but in wonderful ways. As soon as I said it,
I was like, that sounded fucked up, but yeah, you've
really touched my life in I know that people who
come to listen to the show value what you have
to say, and I'm so grateful for you to be here.
(47:39):
So thank you, uh so all of you who God,
I keep hitting my mic. To all of you who
have come every week, who came today, thank you so
much for joining us. We love having you here, and
hopefully you got something from today, and we're going to
be here again next week, same time, same place, and
until then, you just keep that shit. If you enjoyed
(48:01):
this episode, please share with your friends, like and follow
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Speaker 2 (48:15):
Thanks so much for listening, and we really hope to
see you again next week
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