April 2, 2025 • 41 mins
Are you tired of feeling lost and uncertain about your place in the world? Do you want to unlock the secret to attracting real happiness into your life? The answer lies in discovering your true self!
Join host Lisa Urbanski in a profound conversation with the esteemed guest Elizabeth Jane as they delve deep into the concept that we attract what we are, not what we want. In this episode, we'll explore the importance of self-awareness and how it can help you unlock your full potential. Learn how to quiet your mind, listen to your heart, and tap into your inner wisdom to reveal the authentic you.
By embracing your true self, you'll attract positive relationships, opportunities, and experiences that bring you joy and fulfillment. Get ready to embark on a journey of self-discovery and unlock the door to a happier, more authentic you!
Explore Elizabeth Jane's world of empowerment and art at elizabethjane.com.au
Listeners can embark on their journey to unlocking their ultimate life with Elizabeth Jane's inspiring book, "FREE and FIRST - Unlocking Your Ultimate Life," available for purchase on her website.
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/free-to-be-me-self-discovery-authentic-living-empowerment--6448259/support.
Join host Lisa Urbanski in a profound conversation with the esteemed guest Elizabeth Jane as they delve deep into the concept that we attract what we are, not what we want. In this episode, we'll explore the importance of self-awareness and how it can help you unlock your full potential. Learn how to quiet your mind, listen to your heart, and tap into your inner wisdom to reveal the authentic you.
By embracing your true self, you'll attract positive relationships, opportunities, and experiences that bring you joy and fulfillment. Get ready to embark on a journey of self-discovery and unlock the door to a happier, more authentic you!
Explore Elizabeth Jane's world of empowerment and art at elizabethjane.com.au
Listeners can embark on their journey to unlocking their ultimate life with Elizabeth Jane's inspiring book, "FREE and FIRST - Unlocking Your Ultimate Life," available for purchase on her website.
Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/free-to-be-me-self-discovery-authentic-living-empowerment--6448259/support.
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hello everyone, and welcome back to the Advisor. I am
Lisa Urbanski, co host of the show Super Pumped. I've
got Elizabeth Jane back with me today. If you didn't
check out our last episode, we talked about forgiveness and
how forgiveness will actually set you free. It was amazing.
Elizabeth Jane is the author of Free and First Unlocking
Your Ultimate Life. You can pick that up on Amazon.
(00:25):
You can pick that up in our show notes, because
I'm going to have a link to that for you below.
After the show today we are going to be talking
about this amazing topic. I just love this stuff so much.
It's like part of who I am. So I'm so
fired up right now. We don't attract what we want,
we attract what we are. So how the interstate is
(00:47):
the foundation for manifestation and happiness in how happiness is
essentially an inside job and the key to abundance. Before
I give Elizabeth the floor, I just want to say
thank you to Speaker and iHeart Radio for the sponsorship.
Speaker 2 (01:03):
We love you. Without you, this would not be possible.
How's it going, Elizabeth, It's wonderful.
Speaker 3 (01:09):
Thanks Lisa. There's no head of lovely morning. Yes, yeah,
in Australia.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
You said you already went for your morning walk, you
got your Vitamin D, you were meditating.
Speaker 2 (01:20):
You must be just feeling on top of the world
right now.
Speaker 3 (01:24):
Yes, I did have that one coffee. I should be
I should be on tea, should like green tea or
Hevil tea. Love my, my, my one coffee in the mornings.
Speaker 2 (01:36):
M Well, we'll talk.
Speaker 1 (01:38):
We'll talk off off air, but I should tell you
about my mushrooms.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
That might help you out too. Holistic stuff.
Speaker 1 (01:46):
But I'm really excited to talk to you today about
this topic about being on the frequency of happiness and
abundance and how when we're trying to manifest, how we
can confuse why things are happening to us because of
we're not actually manifesting, because it's how we're feeling and
how we're processing emotions. Do you want to start talking
(02:08):
about that?
Speaker 3 (02:09):
Yeah, well, I think I think the trickiest thing is
it's you know, I think people understand that you know,
to get your inner state, is it on track? Is
what we need to be able to attract in abundance
and joy and.
Speaker 4 (02:25):
Peace into our life.
Speaker 3 (02:26):
We have to, but often we don't know how to
tap into that peaceful, in a state that is our
authentic self, and we can we can get lost because
our thoughts can you know, our thoughts can take us
down into a die and we're not even aware of
(02:49):
our thoughts. I mean, someone told me the other day,
We've got sixty thousand thoughts a day. I can't keep
track of sixty thousand thoughts. So I think the only
way we can keep track of our thoughts and how
we are in turn, you know, how we actually really feel,
you know, is through our emotions, you know.
Speaker 4 (03:11):
And so but how do we tap into our emotions
when we.
Speaker 3 (03:14):
Get so busy, I don't know, we get busy with life,
you know, we're busy running around you know, jobs or
family or and if we don't, I feel the really
important thing is so as we can tap into our
inner happy or into our inner peace and attract more
(03:37):
of that, is that we need to take time out
during the day, you know, like two minutes here and there.
It doesn't really matter at the traffic lights, you know,
in that queue when we're waiting, oh god, you know,
waiting in that shopping queue at the supermarket.
Speaker 4 (03:53):
It doesn't really matter where it is. If we take
that time run and get frustrated. Oh gosh, I should be.
Speaker 3 (04:00):
You know, I'm not going to get all my jobs done,
Like to do list is just crazy. If we just
take that time and go, oh okay, I'm here, I
mean waiting mode, I'm going to use that time to
power up.
Speaker 4 (04:15):
I'm going to use that time to just feel in,
to be.
Speaker 3 (04:21):
Fully present, just to feel into my feelings. To belly breathe,
none of this shadow breathing, you know, stick how stomach's out,
and really breathe in like we're a big balloon, and
then breathe out slowly.
Speaker 4 (04:37):
Which will calm us naturally.
Speaker 3 (04:39):
You know, if we've been running on adrenaline, job, job, job, this, this, this,
that two minutes, doesn't.
Speaker 4 (04:45):
Matter where it is. We can just breathe, and then
we can.
Speaker 3 (04:50):
Really feel into what we need and let go of
the things that are holding us back. Because if we're
feeling anger, we acknowledge it, it gets a chance to
move on. But often we just get so busy it
just gets stuck in us. You know, our emotions don't
(05:12):
get a chance to be felt, and then they can't
and no one, i mean no one really likes to
feel those unpopular emotions as I say, you know, like
it's so easy just to go Okay, no, I'm just
going to really I'm not unhappy, I'm not angry.
Speaker 4 (05:33):
No, I'm fine. I'm fine.
Speaker 3 (05:34):
I really am fine, And we can continue on on
life's hamster wheel without acknowledging how we feel.
Speaker 4 (05:46):
And that's the trap. That's the trap.
Speaker 3 (05:49):
It's a really really big trap because unless we can stop.
I really don't believe that those feelings, those heavy emotions
that hold us back from tapping into our truth, our
authentic self.
Speaker 4 (06:06):
They hold us back.
Speaker 1 (06:09):
Yeah, is that where the disconnects between what we're trying
to manifest and what we're getting into our life is
actually happening? Because I know, sometimes like how I feel
and what I want aren't in alignment. Truly, Like, it
takes it takes a real is it. I mean, it
(06:29):
takes a sophisticated level of self awareness to be able
to feel your truth, rid of your ego and say
this is how I'm actually feeling and face it and
process it. So how does someone get to that point?
Speaker 2 (06:45):
Yeah, it took me a long time.
Speaker 3 (06:47):
Think, Yes, Lisa, that's a really good question because like
in the early days, when I you know, like you know,
everyone in life can be a rollercoaster, as we all know. No,
you have your really downtimes, and you know you don't
want too many rules. When you're really feeling bad, like
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you can't get yourself out of bed, you really just
need to. In the early days, I would just look
at anything, breaking down my day into very small steps
and just what I needed in that moment, in that
half an hour, and only doing the things that I
had to do in that day, and looking for had
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my sort of list on the fridge of things that
brought me joy.
Speaker 4 (07:36):
Because anything, if you can just take two.
Speaker 3 (07:40):
Minutes a day or ten minutes a day to do
something that brings you joy, play like a child, just
go okay, okay, I need to snap myself out of
this because this is just not doing me any favors.
This heaviness of life is just not working for me,
(08:00):
because I know.
Speaker 4 (08:02):
Because according to the podcasts I just listened to.
Speaker 3 (08:05):
If I don't snap myself out, I potentially can attract
more of those challenging energies.
Speaker 4 (08:12):
And I don't want to do that.
Speaker 3 (08:14):
So if I'm feeling sad and bad doesn't mean that
I ignore that. No, it means that in the short term,
I might need to distract myself with putting the radio
on and singing or dancing to a funny song, anything
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to distract myself and bump myself.
Speaker 4 (08:37):
Up into a higher vibe, because if you.
Speaker 3 (08:41):
Hang down in the lower vibe, it's you know, we
need to lift ourselves up. So in the early days,
anything that will bump yourself up into the higher vibe
is a good thing. But then as we sort of
then the second step would be, Okay, right now, I
don't want to ignore these these heavy emotions that I'm feeling,
(09:06):
so I if I then I need to acknowledge them
and then say hello, anger, how are you doing? Thanks
for showing up. Because if we don't welcome those popular emotions,
they get stuck in us and they just they're ignored,
and they go, okay, well, I'll keep you down heavy,
(09:29):
you know, that's okay if you choose to, you know,
keep the sadness, keep it down contained within, restrained contained.
You can't you can't move on. So we need we
The second step is that, okay, we did in that bath,
or we sit down on a garden banch or whatever.
(09:51):
When we get that time at two minutes at ten minutes.
Speaker 4 (09:57):
We just go how do I feel? How do I
really feel right now? How do I how do I
really feel? And if you feel anger, just welcome that.
Welcome it. If you feel sadness, go hello sadness. Thanks
for showing up. Because guess what.
Speaker 3 (10:16):
You might feel a bit bumpy for a moment, you
may cry, you may want to punch a pillow, but
you're acknowledging it. And that's the first step in the
ABC and ME that I talk about in my book.
Speaker 4 (10:31):
We need to do A. We need to do B,
we need to do C. To be free.
Speaker 3 (10:37):
A is acknowledge, allow, and accept how we feel. Most people,
it's hard because we get so busy on that life
perhaps to wiel that we don't feel how we feel.
Speaker 4 (10:49):
We can't do A. We can we do it.
Speaker 3 (10:54):
Then we know what we need because we're feeling we're
feeling angry, are I'm feeling sad? Then we know what
we can we need what we feel.
Speaker 4 (11:04):
We can set a B boundary.
Speaker 3 (11:07):
And C is the communication of the boundaries, and then
we can be free.
Speaker 4 (11:12):
But it doesn't happen overnight.
Speaker 3 (11:13):
It requires determination, it requires practice, and it requires vulnerability,
requires but all is worth it and baby steps vulnerability
to feel how we feel, because it'd be so much
easier just to keep busy, wouldn't it. I mean, we
can just keep busy off. But if we can feel
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how we feel and then set our boundaries, well, then
we can be free those emotions most importantly that weigh
us down and hold us back from reaching being free
and happy and joyful and healthy and all those wonderful
(11:57):
things that we all all should enjoy. No, that's our
birth right. It's really our birth right, and we need
to learn remember how to tap into our true authentic
self because it is our true authentic self, our it's
(12:17):
our that's how we are.
Speaker 4 (12:20):
Born onto this planet.
Speaker 3 (12:22):
But we just we get lost in the noise sometimes,
you know, we all do the past shaming and blaming
and regretting. We get caught in our thoughts and they
drain our energy in the past, and then they drain.
Speaker 4 (12:38):
Our energy when we fear the future.
Speaker 3 (12:41):
No, so many times we go into our imagination and
we go, oh, gosh, you don't like it.
Speaker 4 (12:47):
Yes, good things could happen, but all this could happen.
Jun chung chung chung.
Speaker 3 (12:51):
And when our mind goes in to negative thoughts, we're draining.
Speaker 4 (12:58):
But when we.
Speaker 3 (12:59):
Come into the present and we're mindful, we take that
deep breath, we recharge, we recharge, and then our inner
state gets lifted and then we get at tracked according
to our in a state. So it's really a matter
of finding those ladders to let lift us and going, Okay,
(13:24):
I acknowledge all those slippery snakes, I acknowledge, but I
am going to let them move on, and I'm going
to keep climbing ladders, climbing ladders. You know, everyone knows
healthy eating exercise. People are getting into this breastwork, you know,
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mantra meditation.
Speaker 4 (13:47):
There's so many snakes. Sorry, there's so many ladders that
we can take to lift us.
Speaker 3 (13:55):
And then when we lift, we radiate and we assist others.
You know, every time we think of our friends, we
think of our families, they get a higher vibe. Whereas
if we're putting is I say in the title of
my book, we're putting ourselves fast.
Speaker 4 (14:14):
And not first.
Speaker 3 (14:16):
Well, we tend to wear ourselves out and we're in
the lower vibe area, and we think of our families,
they get our lower vibe. So we're very powerful in
that we are one hundred percent responsible for what we attract.
We are, it's only us. We're not responsible for others actions.
(14:41):
We can never be responsible for others actions. We wouldn't
want to be.
Speaker 4 (14:45):
They're on their own path, they're doing their best that
they can. So all we can control.
Speaker 3 (14:53):
Is our reaction or how we respond to their action. Absolutely,
and that's and if we if we get lost, if
we you know, someone comes to us and they're angry
and we are angry back. There's a big negative energy bomb,
(15:13):
and we are giving a power away.
Speaker 4 (15:18):
We are giving a power away. Our decision.
Speaker 3 (15:22):
We had choice, or we could go, oh this is interesting.
This is angry person coming towards me. Hm, right, Okay,
maybe I attracted this because somewhere within me there's a little,
tiny in sequency bit of anger.
Speaker 1 (15:42):
Well, there's evidence, there's evidence that emotions have a measurable
vibration vibrational frequency, and we're all operating on frequency. So
when we are going through that, we're putting that frequency
of anger, and that's attracting that back into our life.
Speaker 2 (16:00):
So if we.
Speaker 1 (16:01):
Talk about that, even on a deeper level, we can
get into the reticular activating system, which builters reality based
on a dominant interstate. So whatever is happening and here
in our hearts, we're actually attracting back. So what we're
actually thinking and feeling is attracting what we're getting back.
Speaker 2 (16:20):
It's so interesting.
Speaker 4 (16:23):
I think they call they call it the law of attraction.
Speaker 3 (16:25):
I've never read a book on it least, but you know,
I think it's the law of attraction, you know, the
vibration that you're sort of that you tend to sort
of attract into your life.
Speaker 1 (16:36):
Absolutely, But it's but what you were saying about the emotion,
about the anger, It's like if we feel that on
a level and we're not processing it, it's not being
cleared of our system. We're still emitting that frequency of anger,
which thus is attracting another person with that frequency. And
that's why we notice it, because what we focus our
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energy on is what we attract and what we see.
Speaker 3 (17:01):
Yes, and life's the mirror, and another way of looking
at life's the mirror.
Speaker 4 (17:05):
So if you're getting angry people.
Speaker 3 (17:09):
Maybe look within our internal landscape see whether we can
sort of spot the anger.
Speaker 4 (17:16):
Which sometimes sometimes it's.
Speaker 3 (17:18):
Really tricky, you know, because you know, I wouldn't like
to think that I'm an angry person.
Speaker 4 (17:22):
But you know, in the early days.
Speaker 3 (17:24):
When I was clearing out all these heavy emotions, you know,
there would be you know, the kids or you know
that which.
Speaker 4 (17:33):
Are a really good mirror. Your children are a really
good mirror to what you might need to look at.
Speaker 3 (17:39):
They'd come and then sometimes be disrespecting me or crossing
over boundaries. And that that was when I started to go, Aha,
this is a clue. This is a clue into something
that I might need to look at to be able
to step up within me.
Speaker 4 (18:00):
So so I don't have that coming into my energy field.
Speaker 3 (18:07):
So and that was, you know, it was wonderful to have,
well sometimes not so wonderful, but to.
Speaker 5 (18:13):
Have four kids mirroring a back at me what I
need to look at. And you know, you know they say,
you know, teenagers can be tricky, tricky creatures, but you
know sometimes they would be very challenging m.
Speaker 2 (18:31):
For sure, for sure.
Speaker 1 (18:32):
So do you want to talk to us a little
bit about some of the unconscious, unconscious patterns that sabotage us?
So what are some of the things that we don't
even know we're doing that are sabotaging our own happiness
and manifestations?
Speaker 4 (18:48):
Yes, Well, see, we we're.
Speaker 3 (18:54):
I think someone said that we're only sort of like
we're ninety five percent of our thoughts we're not even
aware of because there's subconscious thoughts.
Speaker 4 (19:02):
So we're really so we're not even aware of these sorts.
Speaker 3 (19:07):
So if we're not aware of these thoughts, we don't
really know what we're projecting because.
Speaker 4 (19:17):
You know, we're too busy.
Speaker 3 (19:19):
So how do we keep track of these sixty thousand thoughts?
As we've said before, we can't keep track of that.
So the only way we can keep track is how
we feel. And if we if we do a little
check during the day of how we feel, that is
a good.
Speaker 4 (19:40):
Signal as to how what we're projecting.
Speaker 3 (19:44):
So if we go, okay, so we do a little
with the traffic lights, or we're about to go into
a meeting or whatever we're doing, we're about to pick
up children from school, whatever the situation, we just go okay,
kind of stopped for a minute to two minutes, and
then we can feel how we're feeling.
Speaker 4 (20:03):
Well, then we.
Speaker 3 (20:03):
Know what we're what emotion, and what our frequency frequency
is that we're projecting out there and what we can
expect back boomeranging back at us, as we'd say in Australia,
coming back towards us is what we project. So so yeah,
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so I don't think we can ever subconscious thoughts.
Speaker 4 (20:29):
You know, when we go deep into meditation, when we
when we're when we're sleeping, we we can actually go.
Speaker 3 (20:36):
Into into our thought programs really deeply. But most the
reality is we're busy with life. We're on planet Earth.
We know we've got families, jobs to do. If we're
busy creatures, so we haven't got that. But all we
can do is just during the day, do do a check,
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do a check, mindful minutes, whatever you want to call it,
set you set.
Speaker 4 (21:01):
Your phone to just pick on your where you're at,
what vibe you're at.
Speaker 3 (21:08):
Oh gosh, I'm at an angry vibe, interesting, or I'm
a sad vibe.
Speaker 4 (21:13):
Oh gosh, I'm up there, I'm joy. I'm just you know,
I've just done a little dance. I'm being a bit silly.
You know, where what what vibe are you on?
Speaker 3 (21:25):
Because that's I believe that's what we're predicting and what
we'll get back thrown at us.
Speaker 1 (21:33):
Absolutely, And you know what's so important is like to
realize that we do need to work on these things.
So trauma, emotional wounds, and past addictions like self doubt,
limiting beliefs, all of these things keep us stuck in
low frequency low vibe. So people need to be open
to dealing with those things. They're not just running from them,
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like you talk about sitting with our feelings and I'm
and processing them, but they run so incredibly deep and
emotional trauma stays in the body and until you address
that properly, you can't actually move through that. So there's
there's so many different things that we can do to
process those things in different ways. What are your thoughts
(22:18):
on that?
Speaker 3 (22:19):
Yes, well, just just while we touched on that, you know,
additions and you know, like if if your listeners are
in a situation where they're not coping. I'm not a
medical professional, and I don't think Lisa you're not a
medical professional either, so so yes, so like please please
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seek seek professional.
Speaker 4 (22:45):
Medical advice. But with with when we are sorry, what
was your question? Your question was?
Speaker 1 (22:55):
So, I was just asking about how deep rooted traumas,
emotional wounds keep us stuck in low frequency vibe, and
I wanted to know what you thought about that.
Speaker 3 (23:03):
Yes, yes, well, yeah, our emotions do keep us down
and we we we tend to numb ourselves because we
don't want to look at those those those those emotions,
those unpopular emotions, and we try the hardest not to
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look at them, which is counterproductive. So so addictions, I believe,
you know, as as books have been written, addictions are
when we're trying to mask how we feel. So we
don't want to look at what we what we feel.
So you know, I, you know, I've come back from
(23:47):
you dates that haven't worked, and you know, you grab
the you know, you go to the fridge and you
grab that ice cream, you know, pulnett just into the
ice cream, you know, like and we will do anything
to not look at those heavy emotions, which is our downfall,
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which is our downfall long term, because if they can't
be looked at, they're not going to move on. They're
going to get stuck within us and keep us, hold
us back from reaching our true potential. So so, but
on that note, some trauma is so deep that you know,
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antidepressants I believe have.
Speaker 4 (24:37):
A place because you know, if you need to.
Speaker 3 (24:42):
Look self care is the most important thing, and we
can't sometimes we can't look down in that well, oh
look at those deep dark emotions unless we've got a
little bit of assistance to actually pick in, have a
look at them. Okay, because and so the antidepressants.
Speaker 4 (25:03):
Allow you to go, okay, we might.
Speaker 6 (25:06):
Have a little pick in that sadness, might have a
little pick and you can because until it's felt acknowledged, allowed, accepted,
we can't move on.
Speaker 2 (25:21):
And so.
Speaker 3 (25:23):
It's a tricky one because we can. The self care
is so important. You know, self care is paramount because
we can't do the ABC if we don't believe we're
worthy to. We can't acknowledge set boundaries and communicate our boundaries.
Speaker 7 (25:45):
If we think, oh I'm not worthy of that, We're
not going to have the courage to We're not going
to have the courage to stand up, We're not going
to be vulnerable enough to express our feelings.
Speaker 4 (25:58):
So our self care is so paramount.
Speaker 3 (26:03):
And then also another thing that holds us back, a
really really big thing that is a big sand bank
for us, sand bag to stopping us rising up, is
when we have resentment, we get stuck in victim mentality
and we go, oh, well, if I could just you know,
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once I change my boss once. My boss has gone once,
My ex is out of my life once once once.
Speaker 8 (26:35):
But these people they may go, but you'll get another
bad boss or potentially another bad an annoying husband or partner.
Speaker 4 (26:50):
Why if we haven't.
Speaker 3 (26:54):
Done the inside job, we haven't worked on ourselves to
unwrapped our truths, our authentic self and looked at all
those feelings that sort of we need to move on,
We still got disrespect sort of hiding in the corner
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in our psyche. Well guess what our next partner? You
know they say about you know the cycle. You know,
you leave one partner and then you go into another.
Speaker 4 (27:24):
Partner, and oh my gosh, how does this happen? There
is disrespecting me or happen? How did that happen?
Speaker 3 (27:32):
Why am I still getting abuse? I had that in
my last relationship?
Speaker 4 (27:38):
Let go of that?
Speaker 3 (27:40):
What now it's happening again? Because we attract what we
put out. We attract what we put out. We remember
just that one thing. Okay, we attracted what we put out,
and so each day make time to play, you know,
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like each day wake up and be in gratitude. Gratitude.
You know, you hear that, you know gratitude diaries. People
going thank you, thank you, thank you a good reason
because it lifts. We're grateful for the air, we really
we're grateful for having fresh food and water available to us.
Speaker 4 (28:28):
We're grateful for the simple things.
Speaker 3 (28:30):
We attract more abundance into our lives, more of the
good stuff. Whereas if we hang in victim mentality, we're
judging too, we're judging.
Speaker 4 (28:45):
Well, then we're going and we're getting plugged down. It's
a snake. It's taking us down into a Laura vibe.
Speaker 3 (28:52):
So we really need to go have our list on
the fridge of the ladders you're going to climb today?
How am I going to lift my vibe? So as
I radiate high vibe and get that back. No, like
if we just everyone woke up and go okay today,
I don't choose because it is a choice thing. I
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am going to choose joy. I'm going to choose forgiveness.
I'm not going to hold onto that resentment. You do you, boss, partner,
you do you. I can't change you. You do you,
and I'm going to do me.
Speaker 2 (29:31):
No.
Speaker 3 (29:33):
Once we decide, we make the decision that we're not
going to allow everyone else to hold us down.
Speaker 2 (29:42):
We can't.
Speaker 3 (29:42):
We're not responsible for what they projected us. It is
just a projection, and that we're only responsible for what
we project what we can do, what we choose, then
life starts. That's when my life started to sort of
bump up and from the rollercoaster that I experienced.
Speaker 4 (30:07):
For probably you know, five or six years, you know,
three years.
Speaker 3 (30:12):
Quite after the shock of my divorce, you know, with
four children, twenty five year.
Speaker 4 (30:18):
Marriage, not knowing why what did I What had I
done to deserve this? No, I was a totally in
victim mentality what had I done?
Speaker 2 (30:32):
And so.
Speaker 3 (30:34):
It's once we can move out of that and go, Okay,
this obstacle, this challenge, Oh, it could be an opportunity.
Speaker 4 (30:46):
Let me think about that.
Speaker 3 (30:48):
If this obstacle's coming to me, it's something that I
can look at to it could be the kindlewood to
lift me up. Okay, so oh right, Okay, there's a
lot of anger coming more. Well, there's a lot of sadness,
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I don't know, shock, all those emotions that we feel
when we go through a trauma. I mean, some psychochiatrists
and where they say that seven seven sort of stages
you go through when you're with grief, and then there's anger,
and then there's you know, we we blame ourselves and
oh wash, if I'd done this and then this wouldn't.
Speaker 4 (31:31):
Have happened and blah. But when we get caught in
our dramas, We're always going to have dramas. But if
we can just go Okay, it's a drama, it's I
can just I.
Speaker 3 (31:43):
Can spend all day talking about it, living it, reliving it.
Speaker 4 (31:49):
But is that going to be good for me? Let
me think about that. Is that going to Is that
going to lift me? Or is that going to take
me down and drain my energy?
Speaker 3 (32:01):
We realized, oh wow, it's a drama. I don't think
I'm going to go over this drama anymore. I'm going
to leave that. I'm going to just let it, just
let it go, let it go, and I'm going to
choose joy, and I'm going to choose fun, and I'm
going to choose spontaneity, and I'm going to choose and
I'm just going to let all the heaviness imagine it
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just moving out in a way, acknowledging it, though not
ignoring it.
Speaker 4 (32:32):
We ignore it. It's gets stuck. QUNLINI yoga.
Speaker 3 (32:36):
I did a lot of Kundlini yoga and nearly became
an instructor in Kundolini yoga.
Speaker 4 (32:42):
And it really goes into how.
Speaker 3 (32:46):
These these emotions need to be processed and so how
we can process them in a lot of time talking
about how to stop it too mindful moments, mindful moments
where we're fully present. But another way, if we don't
want to do that way, there's other ways. And that's
one way is to have hobbies.
Speaker 4 (33:07):
Hobbies that we enjoy. We enjoy them, we get a
buzz up. But also hobbies keep us present and keep
us present. It doesn't matter of a stack. I don't
care what it is. It doesn't matter.
Speaker 3 (33:22):
But when we're focused on our hobby, we're not in
our mind, we're not in past future, draining our energy.
We're powering up, we're recharging, we're resetting, we're resetting our energy.
We plug our phone in, let's plug us in. Let's
do ten minutes of a hobby. Flower range some flowers,
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Go and pick some flowers in the garden, put them
in a vase.
Speaker 4 (33:50):
That's ten minutes that we've powered up.
Speaker 3 (33:55):
Go and feed the fish in the pond, Go for
a walk, hugo, try whatever nature's good, because that the nature.
Speaker 4 (34:05):
Is emanating a high vibe peace vie such.
Speaker 3 (34:10):
Weick know as the you know, the Hindus would say
it nature emanates peace. And so we're you know, we
we're permeable beings of seventy two thousand energy channels.
Speaker 4 (34:27):
And when we're in you know they.
Speaker 3 (34:29):
Talk about forest bathing. We put ourselves, immerse ourselves in nature.
We're immersing ourselves in a higher vibe.
Speaker 4 (34:39):
We have to go up.
Speaker 3 (34:42):
So like take your shoes off, getting if you're in
an office, take your shoes off.
Speaker 4 (34:47):
And having your lunch in the past, put your feed in.
Speaker 3 (34:51):
The grass, just you know, little simple changes, little tweaks
we can do each day.
Speaker 4 (34:59):
To make us feel good.
Speaker 1 (35:04):
And how important is the food we put in our bodies?
Speaker 4 (35:08):
Yes, well, of course it's very important.
Speaker 3 (35:12):
But as when I learned, what I learned also in
India and from my journeys in India, was it's not
only the food, but if food. Of course, healthy fresh
food is so important, but it's how.
Speaker 4 (35:32):
How we digest it or not digest it.
Speaker 3 (35:35):
If we're busy, if we're standing up and eating eating
standing up or on the go, or if we're in
our mind and we're not mindful when we're eating. The
reality is the food isn't digested as well, and it
needs to be digested to fuel us. So what I
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learned is also very tricky. You know, even if we're
talking at one hundred miles an hour, we've sort of
you know, throwing down our food at one hundred miles
an hour, it's not The reality is it's not going
to be digested. So even that healthy sandwich, we can
just you know, eat it mindfully. It does help us
(36:16):
as well. So healthy eating, sleep, you know, all these
wonderful things that people know. I think, no exercise, no sweating,
you know, having sweating each day.
Speaker 2 (36:29):
You know, like getting your body moving right.
Speaker 3 (36:34):
Getting your body moving in any way that suits you,
no rules, no rules. I think the thing is wake
up and don't feel into what you need.
Speaker 4 (36:44):
Feel into me. That's the key. Feel into our feelings,
you know.
Speaker 3 (36:49):
Charlie Chapman's quoted in my book Problem with Humanity. We
think too much and feel too little. Feeling is the key.
Feeling is the key to unlocking out authentic, powerful self,
our true self.
Speaker 4 (37:11):
It's the key. But we we but there's so much
with so many things that we choose.
Speaker 9 (37:18):
Not to feel that somehow we feel some how we
feel through you of course, alcohol, partying, busyness, addictions.
Speaker 4 (37:29):
I mean, the list is very long.
Speaker 3 (37:32):
We're very we're very clever in disguising how we feel
because we're even society.
Speaker 4 (37:40):
You know, it's not respectable.
Speaker 3 (37:44):
For someone just to have it anger fit or crying fit.
A toddler can get away with it, you know, a
toddler can be in the supermarket and have a wonderful
time having a tantrum or.
Speaker 4 (37:58):
But the reality is that's not respectable. You know, society
doesn't really allow that, you know, endorse that. So we
really need.
Speaker 3 (38:10):
To take that, find that quiet time to feel how
we feel so as we can be free.
Speaker 1 (38:17):
Mm hmm, you know a little bit. We're running at
a time today. But I love how you how you
just ended that sentence with You need to, you know,
set your feel how we feel, how we feel, to
set ourselves free. Do you want to tell our audience
a little bit about your book and your services and
then I'll let you leave them with a really really
(38:38):
powerful last word.
Speaker 3 (38:41):
Yes, Well, I think feel how we feel to set
ourselves free would be might be a really simple way
of looking at that, because I think that's the key.
The key is to stop feel how we feel and
follow through with that feelings. And we can't follow through
with that feelings and set boundaries if we're not feeling
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good about ourselves. So feel how we feel and bump
up yourself care so as you can stand up for
what's bothering you and be free.
Speaker 4 (39:15):
So my book.
Speaker 3 (39:18):
Free and First Unlocking Your Ultimate Life is available on
my website Elizabeth Jane dot com dot au have dot
au for Australia Elizabeth Jane dot com dot au and
it's about I'm about to launch a second.
Speaker 4 (39:34):
Edition of the book, which will be so.
Speaker 3 (39:37):
It's going to be a bright yellow cover and has
it's similar content. But that should be coming out very soon,
and I think that's about all. You can also tap
into all my podcasts and interviews that I do around
(39:58):
the world and within Australia by looking on Elizabeth Jane
dot life that's my Instagram, or through my Facebook, which
is you can get through my website amazing.
Speaker 1 (40:13):
We'll have all those links in the show notes as
well for all of our listeners. But what a really
great topic today, and it's been really great.
Speaker 2 (40:21):
It was really good to see you again.
Speaker 3 (40:23):
Oh thank you, Lisa. It was wonderful to be here
and to spread the joy. And you know, so as
everyone can feel good, because that's our birth fight feel.
Speaker 2 (40:32):
Good and be free.
Speaker 1 (40:36):
I love that, and with that we shall let everyone go.
Thank you again so much for being here with us.
You're an amazing guest. And to all of you, thanks
for tuning in. Stay tuned for the next episode. I'm
sure we'll be going even deeper on these topics of
you know, attraction, manifestation and you know how to regulate
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our nervous systems. So thanks again, Elizabeth, you take care
and who are listeners?
Speaker 2 (41:02):
Until next time, yes
Speaker 3 (41:07):
M hm
Hello everyone, and welcome back to the Advisor. I am
Lisa Urbanski, co host of the show Super Pumped. I've
got Elizabeth Jane back with me today. If you didn't
check out our last episode, we talked about forgiveness and
how forgiveness will actually set you free. It was amazing.
Elizabeth Jane is the author of Free and First Unlocking
Your Ultimate Life. You can pick that up on Amazon.
(00:25):
You can pick that up in our show notes, because
I'm going to have a link to that for you below.
After the show today we are going to be talking
about this amazing topic. I just love this stuff so much.
It's like part of who I am. So I'm so
fired up right now. We don't attract what we want,
we attract what we are. So how the interstate is
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the foundation for manifestation and happiness in how happiness is
essentially an inside job and the key to abundance. Before
I give Elizabeth the floor, I just want to say
thank you to Speaker and iHeart Radio for the sponsorship.
Speaker 2 (01:03):
We love you. Without you, this would not be possible.
How's it going, Elizabeth, It's wonderful.
Speaker 3 (01:09):
Thanks Lisa. There's no head of lovely morning. Yes, yeah,
in Australia.
Speaker 1 (01:15):
You said you already went for your morning walk, you
got your Vitamin D, you were meditating.
Speaker 2 (01:20):
You must be just feeling on top of the world
right now.
Speaker 3 (01:24):
Yes, I did have that one coffee. I should be
I should be on tea, should like green tea or
Hevil tea. Love my, my, my one coffee in the mornings.
Speaker 2 (01:36):
M Well, we'll talk.
Speaker 1 (01:38):
We'll talk off off air, but I should tell you
about my mushrooms.
Speaker 2 (01:41):
That might help you out too. Holistic stuff.
Speaker 1 (01:46):
But I'm really excited to talk to you today about
this topic about being on the frequency of happiness and
abundance and how when we're trying to manifest, how we
can confuse why things are happening to us because of
we're not actually manifesting, because it's how we're feeling and
how we're processing emotions. Do you want to start talking
(02:08):
about that?
Speaker 3 (02:09):
Yeah, well, I think I think the trickiest thing is
it's you know, I think people understand that you know,
to get your inner state, is it on track? Is
what we need to be able to attract in abundance
and joy and.
Speaker 4 (02:25):
Peace into our life.
Speaker 3 (02:26):
We have to, but often we don't know how to
tap into that peaceful, in a state that is our
authentic self, and we can we can get lost because
our thoughts can you know, our thoughts can take us
down into a die and we're not even aware of
(02:49):
our thoughts. I mean, someone told me the other day,
We've got sixty thousand thoughts a day. I can't keep
track of sixty thousand thoughts. So I think the only
way we can keep track of our thoughts and how
we are in turn, you know, how we actually really feel,
you know, is through our emotions, you know.
Speaker 4 (03:11):
And so but how do we tap into our emotions
when we.
Speaker 3 (03:14):
Get so busy, I don't know, we get busy with life,
you know, we're busy running around you know, jobs or
family or and if we don't, I feel the really
important thing is so as we can tap into our
inner happy or into our inner peace and attract more
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of that, is that we need to take time out
during the day, you know, like two minutes here and there.
It doesn't really matter at the traffic lights, you know,
in that queue when we're waiting, oh god, you know,
waiting in that shopping queue at the supermarket.
Speaker 4 (03:53):
It doesn't really matter where it is. If we take
that time run and get frustrated. Oh gosh, I should be.
Speaker 3 (04:00):
You know, I'm not going to get all my jobs done,
Like to do list is just crazy. If we just
take that time and go, oh okay, I'm here, I
mean waiting mode, I'm going to use that time to
power up.
Speaker 4 (04:15):
I'm going to use that time to just feel in,
to be.
Speaker 3 (04:21):
Fully present, just to feel into my feelings. To belly breathe,
none of this shadow breathing, you know, stick how stomach's out,
and really breathe in like we're a big balloon, and
then breathe out slowly.
Speaker 4 (04:37):
Which will calm us naturally.
Speaker 3 (04:39):
You know, if we've been running on adrenaline, job, job, job, this, this, this,
that two minutes, doesn't.
Speaker 4 (04:45):
Matter where it is. We can just breathe, and then
we can.
Speaker 3 (04:50):
Really feel into what we need and let go of
the things that are holding us back. Because if we're
feeling anger, we acknowledge it, it gets a chance to
move on. But often we just get so busy it
just gets stuck in us. You know, our emotions don't
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get a chance to be felt, and then they can't
and no one, i mean no one really likes to
feel those unpopular emotions as I say, you know, like
it's so easy just to go Okay, no, I'm just
going to really I'm not unhappy, I'm not angry.
Speaker 4 (05:33):
No, I'm fine. I'm fine.
Speaker 3 (05:34):
I really am fine, And we can continue on on
life's hamster wheel without acknowledging how we feel.
Speaker 4 (05:46):
And that's the trap. That's the trap.
Speaker 3 (05:49):
It's a really really big trap because unless we can stop.
I really don't believe that those feelings, those heavy emotions
that hold us back from tapping into our truth, our
authentic self.
Speaker 4 (06:06):
They hold us back.
Speaker 1 (06:09):
Yeah, is that where the disconnects between what we're trying
to manifest and what we're getting into our life is
actually happening? Because I know, sometimes like how I feel
and what I want aren't in alignment. Truly, Like, it
takes it takes a real is it. I mean, it
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takes a sophisticated level of self awareness to be able
to feel your truth, rid of your ego and say
this is how I'm actually feeling and face it and
process it. So how does someone get to that point?
Speaker 2 (06:45):
Yeah, it took me a long time.
Speaker 3 (06:47):
Think, Yes, Lisa, that's a really good question because like
in the early days, when I you know, like you know,
everyone in life can be a rollercoaster, as we all know. No,
you have your really downtimes, and you know you don't
want too many rules. When you're really feeling bad, like
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you can't get yourself out of bed, you really just
need to. In the early days, I would just look
at anything, breaking down my day into very small steps
and just what I needed in that moment, in that
half an hour, and only doing the things that I
had to do in that day, and looking for had
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my sort of list on the fridge of things that
brought me joy.
Speaker 4 (07:36):
Because anything, if you can just take two.
Speaker 3 (07:40):
Minutes a day or ten minutes a day to do
something that brings you joy, play like a child, just
go okay, okay, I need to snap myself out of
this because this is just not doing me any favors.
This heaviness of life is just not working for me,
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because I know.
Speaker 4 (08:02):
Because according to the podcasts I just listened to.
Speaker 3 (08:05):
If I don't snap myself out, I potentially can attract
more of those challenging energies.
Speaker 4 (08:12):
And I don't want to do that.
Speaker 3 (08:14):
So if I'm feeling sad and bad doesn't mean that
I ignore that. No, it means that in the short term,
I might need to distract myself with putting the radio
on and singing or dancing to a funny song, anything
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to distract myself and bump myself.
Speaker 4 (08:37):
Up into a higher vibe, because if you.
Speaker 3 (08:41):
Hang down in the lower vibe, it's you know, we
need to lift ourselves up. So in the early days,
anything that will bump yourself up into the higher vibe
is a good thing. But then as we sort of
then the second step would be, Okay, right now, I
don't want to ignore these these heavy emotions that I'm feeling,
(09:06):
so I if I then I need to acknowledge them
and then say hello, anger, how are you doing? Thanks
for showing up. Because if we don't welcome those popular emotions,
they get stuck in us and they just they're ignored,
and they go, okay, well, I'll keep you down heavy,
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you know, that's okay if you choose to, you know,
keep the sadness, keep it down contained within, restrained contained.
You can't you can't move on. So we need we
The second step is that, okay, we did in that bath,
or we sit down on a garden banch or whatever.
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When we get that time at two minutes at ten minutes.
Speaker 4 (09:57):
We just go how do I feel? How do I
really feel right now? How do I how do I
really feel? And if you feel anger, just welcome that.
Welcome it. If you feel sadness, go hello sadness. Thanks
for showing up. Because guess what.
Speaker 3 (10:16):
You might feel a bit bumpy for a moment, you
may cry, you may want to punch a pillow, but
you're acknowledging it. And that's the first step in the
ABC and ME that I talk about in my book.
Speaker 4 (10:31):
We need to do A. We need to do B,
we need to do C. To be free.
Speaker 3 (10:37):
A is acknowledge, allow, and accept how we feel. Most people,
it's hard because we get so busy on that life
perhaps to wiel that we don't feel how we feel.
Speaker 4 (10:49):
We can't do A. We can we do it.
Speaker 3 (10:54):
Then we know what we need because we're feeling we're
feeling angry, are I'm feeling sad? Then we know what
we can we need what we feel.
Speaker 4 (11:04):
We can set a B boundary.
Speaker 3 (11:07):
And C is the communication of the boundaries, and then
we can be free.
Speaker 4 (11:12):
But it doesn't happen overnight.
Speaker 3 (11:13):
It requires determination, it requires practice, and it requires vulnerability,
requires but all is worth it and baby steps vulnerability
to feel how we feel, because it'd be so much
easier just to keep busy, wouldn't it. I mean, we
can just keep busy off. But if we can feel
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how we feel and then set our boundaries, well, then
we can be free those emotions most importantly that weigh
us down and hold us back from reaching being free
and happy and joyful and healthy and all those wonderful
(11:57):
things that we all all should enjoy. No, that's our
birth right. It's really our birth right, and we need
to learn remember how to tap into our true authentic
self because it is our true authentic self, our it's
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our that's how we are.
Speaker 4 (12:20):
Born onto this planet.
Speaker 3 (12:22):
But we just we get lost in the noise sometimes,
you know, we all do the past shaming and blaming
and regretting. We get caught in our thoughts and they
drain our energy in the past, and then they drain.
Speaker 4 (12:38):
Our energy when we fear the future.
Speaker 3 (12:41):
No, so many times we go into our imagination and
we go, oh, gosh, you don't like it.
Speaker 4 (12:47):
Yes, good things could happen, but all this could happen.
Jun chung chung chung.
Speaker 3 (12:51):
And when our mind goes in to negative thoughts, we're draining.
Speaker 4 (12:58):
But when we.
Speaker 3 (12:59):
Come into the present and we're mindful, we take that
deep breath, we recharge, we recharge, and then our inner
state gets lifted and then we get at tracked according
to our in a state. So it's really a matter
of finding those ladders to let lift us and going, Okay,
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I acknowledge all those slippery snakes, I acknowledge, but I
am going to let them move on, and I'm going
to keep climbing ladders, climbing ladders. You know, everyone knows
healthy eating exercise. People are getting into this breastwork, you know,
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mantra meditation.
Speaker 4 (13:47):
There's so many snakes. Sorry, there's so many ladders that
we can take to lift us.
Speaker 3 (13:55):
And then when we lift, we radiate and we assist others.
You know, every time we think of our friends, we
think of our families, they get a higher vibe. Whereas
if we're putting is I say in the title of
my book, we're putting ourselves fast.
Speaker 4 (14:14):
And not first.
Speaker 3 (14:16):
Well, we tend to wear ourselves out and we're in
the lower vibe area, and we think of our families,
they get our lower vibe. So we're very powerful in
that we are one hundred percent responsible for what we attract.
We are, it's only us. We're not responsible for others actions.
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We can never be responsible for others actions. We wouldn't
want to be.
Speaker 4 (14:45):
They're on their own path, they're doing their best that
they can. So all we can control.
Speaker 3 (14:53):
Is our reaction or how we respond to their action. Absolutely,
and that's and if we if we get lost, if
we you know, someone comes to us and they're angry
and we are angry back. There's a big negative energy bomb,
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and we are giving a power away.
Speaker 4 (15:18):
We are giving a power away. Our decision.
Speaker 3 (15:22):
We had choice, or we could go, oh this is interesting.
This is angry person coming towards me. Hm, right, Okay,
maybe I attracted this because somewhere within me there's a little,
tiny in sequency bit of anger.
Speaker 1 (15:42):
Well, there's evidence, there's evidence that emotions have a measurable
vibration vibrational frequency, and we're all operating on frequency. So
when we are going through that, we're putting that frequency
of anger, and that's attracting that back into our life.
Speaker 2 (16:00):
So if we.
Speaker 1 (16:01):
Talk about that, even on a deeper level, we can
get into the reticular activating system, which builters reality based
on a dominant interstate. So whatever is happening and here
in our hearts, we're actually attracting back. So what we're
actually thinking and feeling is attracting what we're getting back.
Speaker 2 (16:20):
It's so interesting.
Speaker 4 (16:23):
I think they call they call it the law of attraction.
Speaker 3 (16:25):
I've never read a book on it least, but you know,
I think it's the law of attraction, you know, the
vibration that you're sort of that you tend to sort
of attract into your life.
Speaker 1 (16:36):
Absolutely, But it's but what you were saying about the emotion,
about the anger, It's like if we feel that on
a level and we're not processing it, it's not being
cleared of our system. We're still emitting that frequency of anger,
which thus is attracting another person with that frequency. And
that's why we notice it, because what we focus our
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energy on is what we attract and what we see.
Speaker 3 (17:01):
Yes, and life's the mirror, and another way of looking
at life's the mirror.
Speaker 4 (17:05):
So if you're getting angry people.
Speaker 3 (17:09):
Maybe look within our internal landscape see whether we can
sort of spot the anger.
Speaker 4 (17:16):
Which sometimes sometimes it's.
Speaker 3 (17:18):
Really tricky, you know, because you know, I wouldn't like
to think that I'm an angry person.
Speaker 4 (17:22):
But you know, in the early days.
Speaker 3 (17:24):
When I was clearing out all these heavy emotions, you know,
there would be you know, the kids or you know
that which.
Speaker 4 (17:33):
Are a really good mirror. Your children are a really
good mirror to what you might need to look at.
Speaker 3 (17:39):
They'd come and then sometimes be disrespecting me or crossing
over boundaries. And that that was when I started to go, Aha,
this is a clue. This is a clue into something
that I might need to look at to be able
to step up within me.
Speaker 4 (18:00):
So so I don't have that coming into my energy field.
Speaker 3 (18:07):
So and that was, you know, it was wonderful to have,
well sometimes not so wonderful, but to.
Speaker 5 (18:13):
Have four kids mirroring a back at me what I
need to look at. And you know, you know they say,
you know, teenagers can be tricky, tricky creatures, but you
know sometimes they would be very challenging m.
Speaker 2 (18:31):
For sure, for sure.
Speaker 1 (18:32):
So do you want to talk to us a little
bit about some of the unconscious, unconscious patterns that sabotage us?
So what are some of the things that we don't
even know we're doing that are sabotaging our own happiness
and manifestations?
Speaker 4 (18:48):
Yes, Well, see, we we're.
Speaker 3 (18:54):
I think someone said that we're only sort of like
we're ninety five percent of our thoughts we're not even
aware of because there's subconscious thoughts.
Speaker 4 (19:02):
So we're really so we're not even aware of these sorts.
Speaker 3 (19:07):
So if we're not aware of these thoughts, we don't
really know what we're projecting because.
Speaker 4 (19:17):
You know, we're too busy.
Speaker 3 (19:19):
So how do we keep track of these sixty thousand thoughts?
As we've said before, we can't keep track of that.
So the only way we can keep track is how
we feel. And if we if we do a little
check during the day of how we feel, that is
a good.
Speaker 4 (19:40):
Signal as to how what we're projecting.
Speaker 3 (19:44):
So if we go, okay, so we do a little
with the traffic lights, or we're about to go into
a meeting or whatever we're doing, we're about to pick
up children from school, whatever the situation, we just go okay,
kind of stopped for a minute to two minutes, and
then we can feel how we're feeling.
Speaker 4 (20:03):
Well, then we.
Speaker 3 (20:03):
Know what we're what emotion, and what our frequency frequency
is that we're projecting out there and what we can
expect back boomeranging back at us, as we'd say in Australia,
coming back towards us is what we project. So so yeah,
(20:25):
so I don't think we can ever subconscious thoughts.
Speaker 4 (20:29):
You know, when we go deep into meditation, when we
when we're when we're sleeping, we we can actually go.
Speaker 3 (20:36):
Into into our thought programs really deeply. But most the
reality is we're busy with life. We're on planet Earth.
We know we've got families, jobs to do. If we're
busy creatures, so we haven't got that. But all we
can do is just during the day, do do a check,
(20:57):
do a check, mindful minutes, whatever you want to call it,
set you set.
Speaker 4 (21:01):
Your phone to just pick on your where you're at,
what vibe you're at.
Speaker 3 (21:08):
Oh gosh, I'm at an angry vibe, interesting, or I'm
a sad vibe.
Speaker 4 (21:13):
Oh gosh, I'm up there, I'm joy. I'm just you know,
I've just done a little dance. I'm being a bit silly.
You know, where what what vibe are you on?
Speaker 3 (21:25):
Because that's I believe that's what we're predicting and what
we'll get back thrown at us.
Speaker 1 (21:33):
Absolutely, And you know what's so important is like to
realize that we do need to work on these things.
So trauma, emotional wounds, and past addictions like self doubt,
limiting beliefs, all of these things keep us stuck in
low frequency low vibe. So people need to be open
to dealing with those things. They're not just running from them,
(21:57):
like you talk about sitting with our feelings and I'm
and processing them, but they run so incredibly deep and
emotional trauma stays in the body and until you address
that properly, you can't actually move through that. So there's
there's so many different things that we can do to
process those things in different ways. What are your thoughts
(22:18):
on that?
Speaker 3 (22:19):
Yes, well, just just while we touched on that, you know,
additions and you know, like if if your listeners are
in a situation where they're not coping. I'm not a
medical professional, and I don't think Lisa you're not a
medical professional either, so so yes, so like please please
(22:40):
seek seek professional.
Speaker 4 (22:45):
Medical advice. But with with when we are sorry, what
was your question? Your question was?
Speaker 1 (22:55):
So, I was just asking about how deep rooted traumas,
emotional wounds keep us stuck in low frequency vibe, and
I wanted to know what you thought about that.
Speaker 3 (23:03):
Yes, yes, well, yeah, our emotions do keep us down
and we we we tend to numb ourselves because we
don't want to look at those those those those emotions,
those unpopular emotions, and we try the hardest not to
(23:26):
look at them, which is counterproductive. So so addictions, I believe,
you know, as as books have been written, addictions are
when we're trying to mask how we feel. So we
don't want to look at what we what we feel.
So you know, I, you know, I've come back from
(23:47):
you dates that haven't worked, and you know, you grab
the you know, you go to the fridge and you
grab that ice cream, you know, pulnett just into the
ice cream, you know, like and we will do anything
to not look at those heavy emotions, which is our downfall,
(24:10):
which is our downfall long term, because if they can't
be looked at, they're not going to move on. They're
going to get stuck within us and keep us, hold
us back from reaching our true potential. So so, but
on that note, some trauma is so deep that you know,
(24:35):
antidepressants I believe have.
Speaker 4 (24:37):
A place because you know, if you need to.
Speaker 3 (24:42):
Look self care is the most important thing, and we
can't sometimes we can't look down in that well, oh
look at those deep dark emotions unless we've got a
little bit of assistance to actually pick in, have a
look at them. Okay, because and so the antidepressants.
Speaker 4 (25:03):
Allow you to go, okay, we might.
Speaker 6 (25:06):
Have a little pick in that sadness, might have a
little pick and you can because until it's felt acknowledged, allowed, accepted,
we can't move on.
Speaker 2 (25:21):
And so.
Speaker 3 (25:23):
It's a tricky one because we can. The self care
is so important. You know, self care is paramount because
we can't do the ABC if we don't believe we're
worthy to. We can't acknowledge set boundaries and communicate our boundaries.
Speaker 7 (25:45):
If we think, oh I'm not worthy of that, We're
not going to have the courage to We're not going
to have the courage to stand up, We're not going
to be vulnerable enough to express our feelings.
Speaker 4 (25:58):
So our self care is so paramount.
Speaker 3 (26:03):
And then also another thing that holds us back, a
really really big thing that is a big sand bank
for us, sand bag to stopping us rising up, is
when we have resentment, we get stuck in victim mentality
and we go, oh, well, if I could just you know,
(26:26):
once I change my boss once. My boss has gone once,
My ex is out of my life once once once.
Speaker 8 (26:35):
But these people they may go, but you'll get another
bad boss or potentially another bad an annoying husband or partner.
Speaker 4 (26:50):
Why if we haven't.
Speaker 3 (26:54):
Done the inside job, we haven't worked on ourselves to
unwrapped our truths, our authentic self and looked at all
those feelings that sort of we need to move on,
We still got disrespect sort of hiding in the corner
(27:15):
in our psyche. Well guess what our next partner? You
know they say about you know the cycle. You know,
you leave one partner and then you go into another.
Speaker 4 (27:24):
Partner, and oh my gosh, how does this happen? There
is disrespecting me or happen? How did that happen?
Speaker 3 (27:32):
Why am I still getting abuse? I had that in
my last relationship?
Speaker 4 (27:38):
Let go of that?
Speaker 3 (27:40):
What now it's happening again? Because we attract what we
put out. We attract what we put out. We remember
just that one thing. Okay, we attracted what we put out,
and so each day make time to play, you know,
(28:05):
like each day wake up and be in gratitude. Gratitude.
You know, you hear that, you know gratitude diaries. People
going thank you, thank you, thank you a good reason
because it lifts. We're grateful for the air, we really
we're grateful for having fresh food and water available to us.
Speaker 4 (28:28):
We're grateful for the simple things.
Speaker 3 (28:30):
We attract more abundance into our lives, more of the
good stuff. Whereas if we hang in victim mentality, we're
judging too, we're judging.
Speaker 4 (28:45):
Well, then we're going and we're getting plugged down. It's
a snake. It's taking us down into a Laura vibe.
Speaker 3 (28:52):
So we really need to go have our list on
the fridge of the ladders you're going to climb today?
How am I going to lift my vibe? So as
I radiate high vibe and get that back. No, like
if we just everyone woke up and go okay today,
I don't choose because it is a choice thing. I
(29:15):
am going to choose joy. I'm going to choose forgiveness.
I'm not going to hold onto that resentment. You do you, boss, partner,
you do you. I can't change you. You do you,
and I'm going to do me.
Speaker 2 (29:31):
No.
Speaker 3 (29:33):
Once we decide, we make the decision that we're not
going to allow everyone else to hold us down.
Speaker 2 (29:42):
We can't.
Speaker 3 (29:42):
We're not responsible for what they projected us. It is
just a projection, and that we're only responsible for what
we project what we can do, what we choose, then
life starts. That's when my life started to sort of
bump up and from the rollercoaster that I experienced.
Speaker 4 (30:07):
For probably you know, five or six years, you know,
three years.
Speaker 3 (30:12):
Quite after the shock of my divorce, you know, with
four children, twenty five year.
Speaker 4 (30:18):
Marriage, not knowing why what did I What had I
done to deserve this? No, I was a totally in
victim mentality what had I done?
Speaker 2 (30:32):
And so.
Speaker 3 (30:34):
It's once we can move out of that and go, Okay,
this obstacle, this challenge, Oh, it could be an opportunity.
Speaker 4 (30:46):
Let me think about that.
Speaker 3 (30:48):
If this obstacle's coming to me, it's something that I
can look at to it could be the kindlewood to
lift me up. Okay, so oh right, Okay, there's a
lot of anger coming more. Well, there's a lot of sadness,
(31:09):
I don't know, shock, all those emotions that we feel
when we go through a trauma. I mean, some psychochiatrists
and where they say that seven seven sort of stages
you go through when you're with grief, and then there's anger,
and then there's you know, we we blame ourselves and
oh wash, if I'd done this and then this wouldn't.
Speaker 4 (31:31):
Have happened and blah. But when we get caught in
our dramas, We're always going to have dramas. But if
we can just go Okay, it's a drama, it's I
can just I.
Speaker 3 (31:43):
Can spend all day talking about it, living it, reliving it.
Speaker 4 (31:49):
But is that going to be good for me? Let
me think about that. Is that going to Is that
going to lift me? Or is that going to take
me down and drain my energy?
Speaker 3 (32:01):
We realized, oh wow, it's a drama. I don't think
I'm going to go over this drama anymore. I'm going
to leave that. I'm going to just let it, just
let it go, let it go, and I'm going to
choose joy, and I'm going to choose fun, and I'm
going to choose spontaneity, and I'm going to choose and
I'm just going to let all the heaviness imagine it
(32:24):
just moving out in a way, acknowledging it, though not
ignoring it.
Speaker 4 (32:32):
We ignore it. It's gets stuck. QUNLINI yoga.
Speaker 3 (32:36):
I did a lot of Kundlini yoga and nearly became
an instructor in Kundolini yoga.
Speaker 4 (32:42):
And it really goes into how.
Speaker 3 (32:46):
These these emotions need to be processed and so how
we can process them in a lot of time talking
about how to stop it too mindful moments, mindful moments
where we're fully present. But another way, if we don't
want to do that way, there's other ways. And that's
one way is to have hobbies.
Speaker 4 (33:07):
Hobbies that we enjoy. We enjoy them, we get a
buzz up. But also hobbies keep us present and keep
us present. It doesn't matter of a stack. I don't
care what it is. It doesn't matter.
Speaker 3 (33:22):
But when we're focused on our hobby, we're not in
our mind, we're not in past future, draining our energy.
We're powering up, we're recharging, we're resetting, we're resetting our energy.
We plug our phone in, let's plug us in. Let's
do ten minutes of a hobby. Flower range some flowers,
(33:46):
Go and pick some flowers in the garden, put them
in a vase.
Speaker 4 (33:50):
That's ten minutes that we've powered up.
Speaker 3 (33:55):
Go and feed the fish in the pond, Go for
a walk, hugo, try whatever nature's good, because that the nature.
Speaker 4 (34:05):
Is emanating a high vibe peace vie such.
Speaker 3 (34:10):
Weick know as the you know, the Hindus would say
it nature emanates peace. And so we're you know, we
we're permeable beings of seventy two thousand energy channels.
Speaker 4 (34:27):
And when we're in you know they.
Speaker 3 (34:29):
Talk about forest bathing. We put ourselves, immerse ourselves in nature.
We're immersing ourselves in a higher vibe.
Speaker 4 (34:39):
We have to go up.
Speaker 3 (34:42):
So like take your shoes off, getting if you're in
an office, take your shoes off.
Speaker 4 (34:47):
And having your lunch in the past, put your feed in.
Speaker 3 (34:51):
The grass, just you know, little simple changes, little tweaks
we can do each day.
Speaker 4 (34:59):
To make us feel good.
Speaker 1 (35:04):
And how important is the food we put in our bodies?
Speaker 4 (35:08):
Yes, well, of course it's very important.
Speaker 3 (35:12):
But as when I learned, what I learned also in
India and from my journeys in India, was it's not
only the food, but if food. Of course, healthy fresh
food is so important, but it's how.
Speaker 4 (35:32):
How we digest it or not digest it.
Speaker 3 (35:35):
If we're busy, if we're standing up and eating eating
standing up or on the go, or if we're in
our mind and we're not mindful when we're eating. The
reality is the food isn't digested as well, and it
needs to be digested to fuel us. So what I
(35:55):
learned is also very tricky. You know, even if we're
talking at one hundred miles an hour, we've sort of
you know, throwing down our food at one hundred miles
an hour, it's not The reality is it's not going
to be digested. So even that healthy sandwich, we can
just you know, eat it mindfully. It does help us
(36:16):
as well. So healthy eating, sleep, you know, all these
wonderful things that people know. I think, no exercise, no sweating,
you know, having sweating each day.
Speaker 2 (36:29):
You know, like getting your body moving right.
Speaker 3 (36:34):
Getting your body moving in any way that suits you,
no rules, no rules. I think the thing is wake
up and don't feel into what you need.
Speaker 4 (36:44):
Feel into me. That's the key. Feel into our feelings,
you know.
Speaker 3 (36:49):
Charlie Chapman's quoted in my book Problem with Humanity. We
think too much and feel too little. Feeling is the key.
Feeling is the key to unlocking out authentic, powerful self,
our true self.
Speaker 4 (37:11):
It's the key. But we we but there's so much
with so many things that we choose.
Speaker 9 (37:18):
Not to feel that somehow we feel some how we
feel through you of course, alcohol, partying, busyness, addictions.
Speaker 4 (37:29):
I mean, the list is very long.
Speaker 3 (37:32):
We're very we're very clever in disguising how we feel
because we're even society.
Speaker 4 (37:40):
You know, it's not respectable.
Speaker 3 (37:44):
For someone just to have it anger fit or crying fit.
A toddler can get away with it, you know, a
toddler can be in the supermarket and have a wonderful
time having a tantrum or.
Speaker 4 (37:58):
But the reality is that's not respectable. You know, society
doesn't really allow that, you know, endorse that. So we
really need.
Speaker 3 (38:10):
To take that, find that quiet time to feel how
we feel so as we can be free.
Speaker 1 (38:17):
Mm hmm, you know a little bit. We're running at
a time today. But I love how you how you
just ended that sentence with You need to, you know,
set your feel how we feel, how we feel, to
set ourselves free. Do you want to tell our audience
a little bit about your book and your services and
then I'll let you leave them with a really really
(38:38):
powerful last word.
Speaker 3 (38:41):
Yes, Well, I think feel how we feel to set
ourselves free would be might be a really simple way
of looking at that, because I think that's the key.
The key is to stop feel how we feel and
follow through with that feelings. And we can't follow through
with that feelings and set boundaries if we're not feeling
(39:03):
good about ourselves. So feel how we feel and bump
up yourself care so as you can stand up for
what's bothering you and be free.
Speaker 4 (39:15):
So my book.
Speaker 3 (39:18):
Free and First Unlocking Your Ultimate Life is available on
my website Elizabeth Jane dot com dot au have dot
au for Australia Elizabeth Jane dot com dot au and
it's about I'm about to launch a second.
Speaker 4 (39:34):
Edition of the book, which will be so.
Speaker 3 (39:37):
It's going to be a bright yellow cover and has
it's similar content. But that should be coming out very soon,
and I think that's about all. You can also tap
into all my podcasts and interviews that I do around
(39:58):
the world and within Australia by looking on Elizabeth Jane
dot life that's my Instagram, or through my Facebook, which
is you can get through my website amazing.
Speaker 1 (40:13):
We'll have all those links in the show notes as
well for all of our listeners. But what a really
great topic today, and it's been really great.
Speaker 2 (40:21):
It was really good to see you again.
Speaker 3 (40:23):
Oh thank you, Lisa. It was wonderful to be here
and to spread the joy. And you know, so as
everyone can feel good, because that's our birth fight feel.
Speaker 2 (40:32):
Good and be free.
Speaker 1 (40:36):
I love that, and with that we shall let everyone go.
Thank you again so much for being here with us.
You're an amazing guest. And to all of you, thanks
for tuning in. Stay tuned for the next episode. I'm
sure we'll be going even deeper on these topics of
you know, attraction, manifestation and you know how to regulate
(40:57):
our nervous systems. So thanks again, Elizabeth, you take care
and who are listeners?
Speaker 2 (41:02):
Until next time, yes
Speaker 3 (41:07):
M hm
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