December 16, 2024 • 35 mins
Ready to unlock the secrets to a joy-filled existence and cultivate an uplifted mindset that radiates positivity? In this captivating episode, Stacey Chillemi partners with the esteemed Elizabeth Jane to explore the profound art of finding happiness and experiencing pure joy.
Join us as we uncover invaluable insights, tips, and transformative inspiration to elevate your well-being and embrace the beauty of life. Get ready for an enlightening conversation that promises to brighten your day and deeply enrich your soul.
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Join us as we uncover invaluable insights, tips, and transformative inspiration to elevate your well-being and embrace the beauty of life. Get ready for an enlightening conversation that promises to brighten your day and deeply enrich your soul.
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hello everybody, and this is Stacy from the Advisor Today.
I'm very excited because we have a very special author
in the room today. She is an amazing author and
she has a book out that she's going to tell
you a little about that you're going to love. She
focuses on how to feel happy and how to bring
joy into your life, and she has lots of tools
and techniques in her book that show you how to
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bring happiness into your life. And today we're going to
talk about that because there's a lot of people out
there who want to feel happy, who want to feel
joy in their life, and they're at points in their
life where they may feel stuck. Things are happening and
they're not feeling the way they want to feel.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
Well, she's here today.
Speaker 1 (00:39):
She's going to talk about ways you could bring happiness
into your life and how you can turn your life
around so you could feel that joy that you deserve. Elizabeth,
it is a pleasure and an honor to have you
on the show. If you tell everybody a little about
yourself and what you do.
Speaker 3 (00:54):
Yes, Stacy, thanks for having me.
Speaker 4 (00:56):
Firstly, and yes, I'm living in Sydney, Australia and i
went through a challenging divorce about seven seven eight years ago,
and with that.
Speaker 3 (01:12):
I it was it was so challenging.
Speaker 4 (01:14):
In that I felt like I'd just lost me, you know,
because I had you know, I had four adult children
and a shock as a divorce where that I wasn't expecting.
Speaker 3 (01:27):
And all of us it was just sort of what
happens now.
Speaker 4 (01:31):
I mean, you know, I totally invested my time and
into my relationship and my kids, and now they were
else and I was in a bad way.
Speaker 3 (01:43):
I was in a lot of shock, and I was.
Speaker 4 (01:48):
Kept spiraling down into deep depression and had all all
the emotions, you know, roller coaster of emotions, and so
I really.
Speaker 3 (01:56):
Started I was determined.
Speaker 4 (01:58):
I think I had a determinedation to pick myself up, thankfully,
but I was.
Speaker 3 (02:05):
Looking everywhere for a manual. I was looking everywhere for
a manual.
Speaker 4 (02:08):
There must be a manual about how to how to
navigate this, because it was I it was unexpected, and
I just needed some signposts to get me.
Speaker 3 (02:21):
In a better place.
Speaker 4 (02:23):
And so that's when I started journaling, and thankfully I
started painting about the same time, encouraged by my children
who'd given me a voucher for a free painting class.
Speaker 3 (02:36):
And then as I started.
Speaker 4 (02:40):
To journal and paint, I realized that I was developing
tools to help me feel better and coupled with lots
of different modalities which I explored over that time, from
you know, living living away in our shrums to going
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heavily into Pundalini yoga to all different a lot of
different modalities.
Speaker 3 (03:09):
I started to.
Speaker 4 (03:13):
Work out what was working and what was not, and
my booked together. So yeah, so published by first book
last last October, free and first Unlocking Your Ultimate Life
and with with just simple tools and techniques to help people.
Speaker 3 (03:32):
Feel good if they're being.
Speaker 4 (03:34):
Challenged, which we all are in some probably you know,
in some area, whether it's you know, financial or relationship
based or health based.
Speaker 3 (03:47):
Yeah, so that's and so I'm just enjoying.
Speaker 4 (03:50):
Doing podcasts and helping people feel better.
Speaker 3 (03:55):
Yeah, I love it.
Speaker 1 (03:57):
You know, there's so many people out there that you know,
they go through so much in life, you know, and
they are struggling to overcome the trauma that they've experienced
in life, and they don't know how to get through
those negative emotions.
Speaker 2 (04:10):
That are locked inside of them.
Speaker 1 (04:12):
And so many people want to feel happy, They want
to be happy. They want to feel that joy when
they wake up in the morning. They want to have
a reason, a cause to go out and feel you know,
and ignition or you know, a feeling of you know, energy,
and they can't, you know.
Speaker 2 (04:29):
So you know, you have many tools.
Speaker 1 (04:32):
You know, tell us a little about some of the
advice that you can give people.
Speaker 4 (04:36):
Just when you were talking there in Stacy, I think
if I had to sort of put my number one
point for you're right, everyone wants to feel better, and
there's no doubt about that all around the world. You know,
what's your magic wish. I want to feel better. I
want to feel good. Everyone in the world wants to
feel good. And I think the biggest stumbling block I
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find is that we rush around.
Speaker 3 (05:00):
We're too busy.
Speaker 4 (05:01):
We don't give ourselves time out of the light off
the life hamster wheel. We need take time to stop
whatever we're doing, whether it's the partying, whether it's.
Speaker 3 (05:14):
The busy with the work, busy with the children, whatever
we're busy doing.
Speaker 4 (05:18):
We're you know, as Eckhart told you know, one of
my teachers says, you know, we're human beings, We're not
human doings.
Speaker 3 (05:29):
And the human part of us. Yes, we have our personality,
we have our you know.
Speaker 4 (05:34):
Our life situation and and everything that you know is
part and parcel to being on this planet.
Speaker 3 (05:40):
But we also the being part of us.
Speaker 4 (05:44):
And if that is not looked after, I think that
that's when we can get lost in our mind with
all our thoughts, and we can delve into the past
and shame and blame and and regret, and.
Speaker 3 (06:01):
It doesn't make us feel good, it just makes us
feel worse. And then we can our mind can play.
Speaker 4 (06:08):
Tricks on us too with our future, and we can
fatalize our future, and we can be kept up all
night with these fantasy thoughts of how bad my future
is going to look. But the reality is what I
found for me is that when I was feeling so bad,
I had lost myself in my thoughts and I was
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in the past or in the future. So the first
thing I do is bring myself back into the now.
And I couldn't do that unless I could take a
breather from my doing my busyness.
Speaker 3 (06:45):
I was running around driving the car.
Speaker 4 (06:47):
With the children, or you know, busy at work or
busy partying.
Speaker 3 (06:53):
I wasn't feeling the now. I wasn't in the now, I.
Speaker 4 (06:59):
Wasn't fully such, and so I'd always bring myself fully
back into the now, and I would immediately feel a
sense of no more of peace because you know, I think, well,
I'm safe.
Speaker 3 (07:11):
I'm not not going to be you know, I'm safe.
I've got a meal on the table, and right now,
I'm not.
Speaker 4 (07:19):
Going to let my thoughts get carried away and my thoughts. Yeah,
and that really helped ground me and align me with
feeling more peaceful.
Speaker 3 (07:30):
Yeah, I love it.
Speaker 1 (07:31):
I think that's one of the things people you know,
tend to not do, is they don't give them some
enough of time to renew themselves. And they need to
prioritize I believe their time because all you need is
a certain amount of time of day just to give
yourself a time to renew, whether it be exercise or
whether it be meditation or walk you know outside and
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just you know, observing nature. We need time to renew ourselves.
We need time to even sleep. And I think a
lot of people get so absorbed in their life and
what's going on now, especially people who are struggling with
certain issues, you know, whether it be work or whether
it be at home, and their personal lives you know,
they get so absorbed that they forget about the number
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one person themselves.
Speaker 2 (08:16):
How do you feel about that?
Speaker 3 (08:18):
Yes, no, I really think that it's right.
Speaker 4 (08:21):
I mean my book, you know, Free and First, it's
actually about putting yourself first. And I can probably hear
your listeners and your viewers going, now, I haven't put
myself first.
Speaker 3 (08:31):
I've got this and I've got that.
Speaker 4 (08:34):
But and or it feels selfish because you know a
lot of people think that's you know, that's been very
selfish putting myself first. But if we put ourselves first,
we lift our mood. And then everybody, children, now, relatives,
they all benefit from that.
Speaker 3 (08:52):
They all feel better as well. And so what better gift.
Speaker 4 (08:57):
Is simple by putting yourself first, following your joy for
ten minutes a day, playing like a child, whatever it is,
if it's putting a song on the on the radio
and having a bit of a dance, but just not
getting so eased with your life. If you can just
shock yourself and do something silly that you know doesn't
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hurt you or anyone else.
Speaker 3 (09:19):
But that's the vibe.
Speaker 4 (09:22):
And then when you when you're talking or thinking about
your friends, or thinking about your children or your parents,
they get your good vibes and your good vibes rather.
Speaker 3 (09:33):
Than oh, I'm in my not so good vibes. And
then your kids and well.
Speaker 4 (09:40):
Unfortunately they're they're often pulled down as well, which you know,
So if you can't put yourself first because you think
it's selfish, do it for your children, do it for
your friends, and do it for your your parents, if
that's easier to think of it that way.
Speaker 1 (10:00):
Love that, you know, I think one of the main
things that you hear it so many times you hear
it with women and mothers that you hear it even
with it adult. You know, males won't say it, but
you could tell they feel shameful, they feel you know,
they feel a sense, like you said, guilt, you know,
if they put others, you know, if they put themselves
before others, and really, you know, that's the if you
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can't help yourself, then how can you help others? And
people have to really realize they have to really give
themselves some type of self love or self care.
Speaker 2 (10:31):
You know, how do you feel about that?
Speaker 3 (10:33):
Yes?
Speaker 4 (10:34):
Yes, I mean you know, like I think Oprahs says,
you know about all, you know, we have to love
ourselves first, you know, have our self watering system of
self love happening big time, because you know, I think
it's a mirror. You know, if we don't love and
respect ourselves, well, we may not be loved and respected
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by others.
Speaker 3 (10:56):
You know, right, really big correlation.
Speaker 4 (10:59):
I ill so the first really early on in my book,
I say the importance of self nurture, spending some time
working out what your needs are and making sure not
looking for you know, your partner or your parents or
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your friends to help meet your needs, but actually working
out what you're what you're missing, what needs you're missing,
and taking steps speaking up to putting boundaries in place
so your needs are met.
Speaker 2 (11:35):
And and you.
Speaker 4 (11:37):
Know, you know, the A, B C of me, which
is a tool that I mentioned in my book, is
the A A is we can't do a before C.
Speaker 3 (11:48):
School teacher in me talking, but we A.
Speaker 4 (11:50):
The acknowledge, allow and accept how we feel is the A.
We have to do that first, acknowledge, allow and accept
how we feel.
Speaker 3 (12:00):
And then why do we do that?
Speaker 4 (12:01):
Because then we can work out our needs and then
we can keep the boundaries.
Speaker 3 (12:08):
And then but the boundaries.
Speaker 4 (12:10):
It depends on how we communicate, which is the C
communication of the boundaries. And so the A B C
of me is a really important tool that that if
we can follow through with that, when we when we
feel when we don't feel good, and we can actually
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stop and feel how we feel, the work needs are
whatever about boundaries in place, well, then we start to
free ourselves up because we're not locked into oh, you know,
I'm feeling. You know, a lot of people don't let
it themselves feel you know, like we're so busy, you know,
we can get business and then they don't even meet
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a you.
Speaker 3 (12:55):
Know, that's the problem.
Speaker 4 (12:57):
You know, if I had to say, the problem is
we're not off. We don't get off the life perhaps
to be enough.
Speaker 3 (13:02):
To feel our feelings.
Speaker 4 (13:04):
And I really need to feel our feelings first. And
a lot of people don't want to feel their uncomfortable feelings,
and me include it. I mean, who wants to feel
their uncomfortable feelings?
Speaker 3 (13:15):
That's a bit you dire.
Speaker 4 (13:17):
I mean, why can't just keep busy? Can't we just
keep busy with getting lost in our children or our work,
or our partying or a shopping or whatever it is
we get lost in. But it doesn't solve the problem
because I feel as a lot of writers, and that
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the feelings get contained within.
Speaker 3 (13:43):
Us and as the doctors are fationing onto.
Speaker 4 (13:46):
Those restrained emotions kept within our psyche or within our body.
Speaker 3 (13:54):
Can cause health issues.
Speaker 4 (13:55):
So I think it's really vital that we slow down,
find time to stop, feel how we're feeling, and.
Speaker 3 (14:04):
Have enough self love to go hang on.
Speaker 4 (14:09):
This matters to me, and I'm going to speak up
about it, and I'm going to put a boundary in
place and follow through with it, communicate it, and free
myself up, free myself up for feeling good. No, I
think it's you know, it's we have to take responsibility.
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I believe that every person needs to take responsibility for
this and that can't keep waiting or when you know,
like I think I think a few writers talk about
the waiting know when I when I retire, I'll be
happy ook, or when my when my perfect boyfriend comes along,
I'll be happy then.
Speaker 3 (14:51):
Or when I get my new car, or when I
go on my holiday. But I think the thing is.
Speaker 4 (14:58):
We're actually saying that, we're actually saying no to the now,
We're saying no present, and we have to be really
I believe that's the only thing we've.
Speaker 3 (15:11):
Got power over is the now right to get.
Speaker 5 (15:15):
Something happening, we have to sort of implement it now,
you know, we have to feel what we need and go, well,
I'm taking the reins of my life, and my mind's
not going to be the master anymore.
Speaker 4 (15:28):
You know, all that noise in my head about all
the no, you can't do that sort of thing right
activity that I'm just going to sort of go, I'm
not going to listen anymore to that.
Speaker 3 (15:40):
And that's what I decided.
Speaker 4 (15:42):
I decided, No, I'm going to be the leader of
my life and the master of my mind. And I
really got determined not to listen to any negativity as
to why I couldn't do something or anything that would
hold me back from finding joy and finding peace for me,
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because I think everyone deserves peace, everyone, everyone on this planet,
you know, including the animals. Every sentient being deserves you know,
joy and peace.
Speaker 3 (16:19):
And I really believe that it comes from within.
Speaker 4 (16:24):
You know, we have to stop feel how we feel
feel like inner being.
Speaker 3 (16:30):
You know, we're not human doings were human beings. And
I really feel when we can spend just even.
Speaker 4 (16:37):
If we set out our phones to just you know,
ten minutes every couple of hours to go, Okay, I.
Speaker 3 (16:44):
Have to go and feel how I feel.
Speaker 4 (16:46):
And just just breathe, you know, close my eyes and just.
Speaker 3 (16:51):
Just do some little breathing exercises.
Speaker 4 (16:53):
It's just amazing how you can feel so much more
peaceful and still very alert.
Speaker 3 (17:01):
And you know, with more you know, when it sort
of steps.
Speaker 4 (17:06):
Up to more meditation, well then intuitions improving and you
even you get so many health benefits which I could
talk all day about and I'm doing so I you know,
but you know, meditation is a big part of my
life and I wouldn't go a day without meditation because
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it's just it powers me up.
Speaker 3 (17:30):
It's a bit like charging my mobile phone.
Speaker 4 (17:33):
I'm not going to forget that, and I'm not going
to forget my meditation.
Speaker 3 (17:37):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (17:39):
I like what you said about really getting rid of,
you know, the negativity. You want to be around positive people.
You want to be around people that are going to
encourage you to be a better person, to encourage you
to be happy, to encourage you to follow your dream.
Speaker 2 (17:53):
You know, if you're.
Speaker 1 (17:54):
Around negative people and you're around people who discourage you,
you know that that's going to pull you down.
Speaker 2 (17:59):
And a lot of times, you find.
Speaker 1 (18:00):
That a lot of people who are having trouble being
happy and experience and joy are surrounded by people who
are actually pulling them down given you know, implementing negative
thoughts into their head, like why are you doing that?
Oh that's a waste of time. Oh it's not going
to work. You know, you know, it makes no sense
what you're doing. You know, you got to stop that,
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you know. And you know, people when they're around negative
energy and around people who are always thinking the worst
of the worst is going to happen.
Speaker 2 (18:29):
You know, how can you grow?
Speaker 1 (18:30):
You feel like a vacuum, like all the energy is
getting sucked out of you, you know, and I believe
you know, in order to grow, we need to surround
ourselves by positive people that have positive dreams, that want
to be better, you know, than they are ready and
they're looking for people that are higher than themselves so
they could get and elevate to those levels. You know.
Speaker 2 (18:50):
What's your intake on that?
Speaker 4 (18:52):
Yes, well, I sometimes talk about casually surfing, surfing surfing
in the way you know you want to you want
to hang around the people on a high vibe because
it's much better to catch onto their wave, onto onto.
Speaker 5 (19:08):
Their higher vibe than then if we're always around.
Speaker 4 (19:14):
Very depressed or people who were always looking at the
worst side of things, well, of course we we go down.
We we and and what I what is paramount is
that our state of consciousness or our vibe dictates how
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every situation unfolds in our life. So I realized that
I sort of had that a high moment myself when
I was negotiating the divorce settlement, and I thought, well, okay,
if I can get my vibe as high as through
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you know, through eating healthily, exercising, being around positive people and.
Speaker 3 (20:07):
Just ticking as many boxes as I could.
Speaker 4 (20:09):
To get my vibe higher, would mean that go in
to negotiate, you know, and the deal the biggest, biggest
deal of my life. You know, when you sort of
you know you've got your kids and you're trying to work,
you know, you want to be able to think clearly,
and you of course you want the most positive outcome.
So with anything in life, what I've realized is the
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high we can we can we can climb our vibe
up by ticking as many boxes as we can where
we're in a much better position.
Speaker 3 (20:42):
And then also are our children and our friends as.
Speaker 4 (20:46):
We we emanate a higher vibe and they can catch
the way, so to speak.
Speaker 1 (20:53):
Yeah, yes, definitely, definitely. Now in your book you have
like different access sizes and things you know, you mentioned
some already.
Speaker 2 (21:03):
You know, how can people you.
Speaker 1 (21:05):
Know, if they're feeling their emotions are repressed and they're starting,
you know, and they're going through they're not feeling that happiness,
they're not feeling that joy. And as we know that
when you have when you push your feelings down and
your feelings are repressed, after a while, you can go numb.
Speaker 2 (21:20):
You don't even know how.
Speaker 1 (21:21):
You feel anymore because you push your emotions down for
so long. And if you're around people who are negative
and all these things are happening. You know, what are
some of the things that you suggest for people you
know who.
Speaker 2 (21:34):
Want to feel happiness, who want to feel joy? You
know what you know you've.
Speaker 1 (21:38):
Mentioned a few are ready, But what are some powerful,
you know, points that you think people could use to
change their lives around.
Speaker 3 (21:46):
It's well, Stacy, I think it depends exactly how you know.
Speaker 4 (21:50):
Each person is going to be different, of course, to
what to what degree their pain is, their trauma is
where it's ash as to.
Speaker 3 (22:00):
Tools are appropriate for them.
Speaker 4 (22:02):
And I must say here I am not a health
professional here, so please don't change any of your health
regimes because I'm just speaking from experience what worked for
me through a traumatic event. So in the early days,
just finding my fun, that's all I could manage, just
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to just to look for not trying to bite off
more than I could chew, and just to get through
the next half hour, get through the next hour.
Speaker 3 (22:33):
And I'd have a list near the the on the
kitchen bridge or.
Speaker 4 (22:40):
Near my toothbrush about ways to bump me out of
my mood that would be very low. So whether that
was Paul a friend put the radio on, so that
was the that's sort of the critical list. I'd have
my critical list close at hand.
Speaker 3 (23:01):
As I started to.
Speaker 4 (23:04):
Want other tools, I explored other tools, which which was
then the idea of being present and letting go, of
allowing ourselves to be present and to feel into our
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feelings meant that allow the heavy emotions that hold us down.
Like you know, you can imagine a hot air balloon.
Everyone has got this idea of a hot air balloon.
You've got the sacks of sand, bags of sand holding
you down. So I really want to let go of my.
Speaker 3 (23:46):
Grudges with my.
Speaker 6 (23:49):
Husband, or with my employer, or whoever, whoever the person
is that you may subconsciously sometimes be harboring a grudge
against your pairs.
Speaker 3 (24:00):
It's you know, there's many and when we can look
at at.
Speaker 4 (24:07):
Forgiveness, even if we have to fake it until we
make it, When we can forgiveness, it lightens our load.
And guess what, we get to rise up, We get
to feel good. You know, non non forgiveness causes more havoc.
I believe with our physical health than the person we're
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not forgiving, you know, we can do ourselves more health harm,
more harm.
Speaker 3 (24:35):
To our health.
Speaker 4 (24:36):
Then, so it's it's it's better just to forgive, you know,
for your sake. You know, it doesn't mean we need
to condone what they've done, right, you know, like I think,
you know, I think it was I think it was
Jesus on the cross, and forgive them because they don't know,
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they know not meaning that they may not be that
level of understanding to know that they've done anything wrong.
So you could be you could be banging your head
against the wall trying to trying to get through to
people that have that you think have wronged you, But
you're never going to win because if they're at that
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consciousness that they don't understand that caused you, paying well,
you're not going to get very far. So so I
find that forgiveness for me, you know, forgiving and just
accepting where people are at. You know, we're all at
different stages on the rocky road called you know, the.
Speaker 3 (25:40):
Journey through life.
Speaker 4 (25:42):
Know, everyone's trying their best, every every I really believe
every person is trying their best and from the consciousness
that at the level of understanding that they're on this
planet with and and the shame and the blame, pointing
the finger at someone else is going to do you
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more harm and it's not going to help you feel
better and long term it could be play havoc.
Speaker 3 (26:11):
With your health.
Speaker 2 (26:13):
Right exactly, so true. Now, what inspired you to write
your book?
Speaker 4 (26:19):
Yes, well, I just didn't want any of my children
or my friends to go through what I went through.
Speaker 3 (26:25):
I was just determined.
Speaker 4 (26:29):
I've always enjoyed helping people, uplifting others, enriching others' lives
through whatever.
Speaker 3 (26:37):
You know, I'm a primary I'm a.
Speaker 4 (26:38):
Trained primary school teacher, and I what did voluntary work
for the Race Foundation, helping children from challenge homes as
men as a mentor, and I just always enjoyed it,
and so when something's working for me, I just really
love to share it to help everyone feel better, you know,
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like in this challenging world that we're in, I've just
really wanted to you know, I hold the vision my
book will be translated into different languages so as we
can help people.
Speaker 3 (27:13):
Around the world to be in a better place, because
there's a lot.
Speaker 4 (27:18):
Of suffering going on, and I really hold the vision
that we can dissolve the suffering with tools and techniques,
and really it starts with each individual person to make
this world a better.
Speaker 1 (27:34):
Place one hundred percent. And each if each individual could
acknowledge that and just put a small effort of kindness, hope, gratitude,
love into the world, the world could change so traumatically,
and that's all we need.
Speaker 4 (27:54):
And it doesn't have to be you know, like I think,
you know a lot of people think, oh.
Speaker 3 (27:57):
I can't do that, and then I can't write a
book or I can't.
Speaker 4 (28:00):
It's just baby baby steps, you know, like just even
smiling at the.
Speaker 3 (28:06):
Lady who serves your coffee every morning.
Speaker 4 (28:09):
Yeah, that will uplift someone, you know, like if we
can just take baby steps to bring more joy to
the people that we meet during our day.
Speaker 2 (28:19):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (28:20):
Huge.
Speaker 4 (28:20):
I mean if everyone just woke up and said, Okay,
well we're going to do that tomorrow, I'm just going
to every one I meet, I'm just going.
Speaker 3 (28:29):
To smile at Yeah. I think it would change the
whole flavor of the world quite quickly.
Speaker 1 (28:36):
Right, you know, yeah, one hundred, one hundred percent. Now,
where can people find your book?
Speaker 4 (28:45):
Yes, so the best the best way is just to
jump on my website, so it's Elizabeth Jane dot com.
But then I have dot au for Australia, so it's
Elizabeth Jane dot com dot au and you can go
down and join on my Facebook or my Instagram and
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listen to all the podcasts that I do around the
world and interviews with in Australia and overseas about how
to how to feel good fast because you know, life's
too short, life's too short, sort of take it on,
Take life on at a better angle than what a
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lot of people are, you know, suffering at the moment.
Speaker 2 (29:31):
One hundred percent.
Speaker 1 (29:32):
Now, if we had to take everything that you talked
about today, and you want to give a emphasize on
a couple of important factors. What are some things you'd
like to emphasize about today's conversation?
Speaker 4 (29:46):
Well, weld peace and well well put peace starts with
each each individual person. And we I mean, I don't
want to scare people, but we're responsible for everything in
you know, like if we can play our part just
with baby steps about getting our internal landscape happening, then
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it will, it will be reflected.
Speaker 3 (30:12):
We'll see the world through different eyes.
Speaker 4 (30:16):
Once we lift our vibe, Once each person lifts their vibe,
the world will unfold at a much more peaceful, more joyous,
more abundant in a more abundant way. And so everyone
can start today to really look at what's working and
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what's not to change whether that's okay, keep it simple,
what's working, what's not?
Speaker 3 (30:50):
Ten things not working?
Speaker 4 (30:52):
Okay, let's just drop these ten things and ten things
that are working, continue with them, you know, to look
at friends, as you said, look at your group of friends.
Are there any that I need to sort of like,
you know, defriend or whatever we do with the social media. Yes,
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just simple steps, just if everyone can lift up into
a higher vibe.
Speaker 3 (31:21):
The world will start to reflect that right starts with
each person playing their part.
Speaker 1 (31:29):
One hundred percent. One hundred percent. Now you said you
have some things that you're working on in the future.
What are some of those things that you plan on
doing in the future.
Speaker 3 (31:39):
Yes, well, I'm really excited because Stacy, because.
Speaker 4 (31:43):
I have got two children's books on my way which
I'm illustrating. So one is animating Australian Animals and it
sort of talking about uplifting children to teach how kids
can be.
Speaker 3 (32:01):
Empowered as well to be.
Speaker 4 (32:03):
Able to step into their full full superpowers. And so
it's not so I thought, well when the parents are
reading the children's books, that will help the parents as well,
because we can all all should be able to step
into our superpowers and our authenticity and to to so
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the kids.
Speaker 3 (32:26):
Books I'm doing and also.
Speaker 4 (32:29):
I hope very soon too one day have wellness centers
around the world to help people uplift into a better place,
to help them through their traumatic challenges that they're faced with,
no matter what, in what way they have, what's the word,
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what type of challenge they have, you know, whether it's
financial or relationship based or health based. We've all got challenges,
but you know they're all in different packages. But the
universe and you know everyone around the world have got
the same challenges on at.
Speaker 1 (33:12):
The moment, oh one hundred percent, we're not alone. All
this has been amazing. I really thank you so much
for coming on this show and sharing all your information
and sharing about your book and and the.
Speaker 2 (33:27):
Principles and the tools that are in those books.
Speaker 1 (33:29):
And I think it's so important you know that people,
you know, really focus on trying to be happy and
trying to reach their utmost joy in their lives.
Speaker 2 (33:39):
It's so important.
Speaker 1 (33:40):
You know, we live on this planet and the life
we have, we should really not waste it away and
not you know, and not feel miserable inside and and
have to live each life just dragging your feet. We
should try to work towards being happy and live in
a joyful life. And when you have happiness and joy life,
you know, good health and good mentality comes with it.
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And you know, if there was one thing you had
to say before we go, you know what would be
that one little piece of advice that you would want
to share people on how to be happy and really
be able.
Speaker 2 (34:15):
To you know, live your most joyous fulfillest life.
Speaker 1 (34:19):
You know, if you had to give that one little
piece of advice, what comes to your mind, Well.
Speaker 4 (34:25):
It would be to put yourself first. I've said it now,
to put yourself first, and not to keep making excuses
about why you can't.
Speaker 7 (34:35):
Because as you lift up, then your your friends, your family,
your parents, your colleagues, they'll all lived up if you
If you put yourself.
Speaker 3 (34:46):
Last, you're down in the dumps.
Speaker 4 (34:49):
Well your thinking of them, and you're you're giving them
your you're not so good vibes. So it's saying put
yourself first. It's self thing, it's not selfish.
Speaker 2 (35:00):
I love it. I love it.
Speaker 1 (35:02):
That's awesome, Elizabeth. This has been wonderful. Thank you so
much for coming on this show. I hope you'll come back.
This has been an amazing experience and it's a topic
that people are very interested in listening to.
Speaker 2 (35:13):
And you know, you gave such great advice.
Speaker 1 (35:16):
So I thank you so much for your time and
I really appreciate you.
Speaker 3 (35:20):
Yes, I'd love to come back with any stage. Stacey.
You're it's been wonderful. Thank you.
Speaker 2 (35:26):
Oh you're very welcome and you have a great day.
Speaker 3 (35:29):
Thank you you too.
Hello everybody, and this is Stacy from the Advisor Today.
I'm very excited because we have a very special author
in the room today. She is an amazing author and
she has a book out that she's going to tell
you a little about that you're going to love. She
focuses on how to feel happy and how to bring
joy into your life, and she has lots of tools
and techniques in her book that show you how to
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bring happiness into your life. And today we're going to
talk about that because there's a lot of people out
there who want to feel happy, who want to feel
joy in their life, and they're at points in their
life where they may feel stuck. Things are happening and
they're not feeling the way they want to feel.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
Well, she's here today.
Speaker 1 (00:39):
She's going to talk about ways you could bring happiness
into your life and how you can turn your life
around so you could feel that joy that you deserve. Elizabeth,
it is a pleasure and an honor to have you
on the show. If you tell everybody a little about
yourself and what you do.
Speaker 3 (00:54):
Yes, Stacy, thanks for having me.
Speaker 4 (00:56):
Firstly, and yes, I'm living in Sydney, Australia and i
went through a challenging divorce about seven seven eight years ago,
and with that.
Speaker 3 (01:12):
I it was it was so challenging.
Speaker 4 (01:14):
In that I felt like I'd just lost me, you know,
because I had you know, I had four adult children
and a shock as a divorce where that I wasn't expecting.
Speaker 3 (01:27):
And all of us it was just sort of what
happens now.
Speaker 4 (01:31):
I mean, you know, I totally invested my time and
into my relationship and my kids, and now they were
else and I was in a bad way.
Speaker 3 (01:43):
I was in a lot of shock, and I was.
Speaker 4 (01:48):
Kept spiraling down into deep depression and had all all
the emotions, you know, roller coaster of emotions, and so
I really.
Speaker 3 (01:56):
Started I was determined.
Speaker 4 (01:58):
I think I had a determinedation to pick myself up, thankfully,
but I was.
Speaker 3 (02:05):
Looking everywhere for a manual. I was looking everywhere for
a manual.
Speaker 4 (02:08):
There must be a manual about how to how to
navigate this, because it was I it was unexpected, and
I just needed some signposts to get me.
Speaker 3 (02:21):
In a better place.
Speaker 4 (02:23):
And so that's when I started journaling, and thankfully I
started painting about the same time, encouraged by my children
who'd given me a voucher for a free painting class.
Speaker 3 (02:36):
And then as I started.
Speaker 4 (02:40):
To journal and paint, I realized that I was developing
tools to help me feel better and coupled with lots
of different modalities which I explored over that time, from
you know, living living away in our shrums to going
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heavily into Pundalini yoga to all different a lot of
different modalities.
Speaker 3 (03:09):
I started to.
Speaker 4 (03:13):
Work out what was working and what was not, and
my booked together. So yeah, so published by first book
last last October, free and first Unlocking Your Ultimate Life
and with with just simple tools and techniques to help people.
Speaker 3 (03:32):
Feel good if they're being.
Speaker 4 (03:34):
Challenged, which we all are in some probably you know,
in some area, whether it's you know, financial or relationship
based or health based.
Speaker 3 (03:47):
Yeah, so that's and so I'm just enjoying.
Speaker 4 (03:50):
Doing podcasts and helping people feel better.
Speaker 3 (03:55):
Yeah, I love it.
Speaker 1 (03:57):
You know, there's so many people out there that you know,
they go through so much in life, you know, and
they are struggling to overcome the trauma that they've experienced
in life, and they don't know how to get through
those negative emotions.
Speaker 2 (04:10):
That are locked inside of them.
Speaker 1 (04:12):
And so many people want to feel happy, They want
to be happy. They want to feel that joy when
they wake up in the morning. They want to have
a reason, a cause to go out and feel you know,
and ignition or you know, a feeling of you know, energy,
and they can't, you know.
Speaker 2 (04:29):
So you know, you have many tools.
Speaker 1 (04:32):
You know, tell us a little about some of the
advice that you can give people.
Speaker 4 (04:36):
Just when you were talking there in Stacy, I think
if I had to sort of put my number one
point for you're right, everyone wants to feel better, and
there's no doubt about that all around the world. You know,
what's your magic wish. I want to feel better. I
want to feel good. Everyone in the world wants to
feel good. And I think the biggest stumbling block I
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find is that we rush around.
Speaker 3 (05:00):
We're too busy.
Speaker 4 (05:01):
We don't give ourselves time out of the light off
the life hamster wheel. We need take time to stop
whatever we're doing, whether it's the partying, whether it's.
Speaker 3 (05:14):
The busy with the work, busy with the children, whatever
we're busy doing.
Speaker 4 (05:18):
We're you know, as Eckhart told you know, one of
my teachers says, you know, we're human beings, We're not
human doings.
Speaker 3 (05:29):
And the human part of us. Yes, we have our personality,
we have our you know.
Speaker 4 (05:34):
Our life situation and and everything that you know is
part and parcel to being on this planet.
Speaker 3 (05:40):
But we also the being part of us.
Speaker 4 (05:44):
And if that is not looked after, I think that
that's when we can get lost in our mind with
all our thoughts, and we can delve into the past
and shame and blame and and regret, and.
Speaker 3 (06:01):
It doesn't make us feel good, it just makes us
feel worse. And then we can our mind can play.
Speaker 4 (06:08):
Tricks on us too with our future, and we can
fatalize our future, and we can be kept up all
night with these fantasy thoughts of how bad my future
is going to look. But the reality is what I
found for me is that when I was feeling so bad,
I had lost myself in my thoughts and I was
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in the past or in the future. So the first
thing I do is bring myself back into the now.
And I couldn't do that unless I could take a
breather from my doing my busyness.
Speaker 3 (06:45):
I was running around driving the car.
Speaker 4 (06:47):
With the children, or you know, busy at work or
busy partying.
Speaker 3 (06:53):
I wasn't feeling the now. I wasn't in the now, I.
Speaker 4 (06:59):
Wasn't fully such, and so I'd always bring myself fully
back into the now, and I would immediately feel a
sense of no more of peace because you know, I think, well,
I'm safe.
Speaker 3 (07:11):
I'm not not going to be you know, I'm safe.
I've got a meal on the table, and right now,
I'm not.
Speaker 4 (07:19):
Going to let my thoughts get carried away and my thoughts. Yeah,
and that really helped ground me and align me with
feeling more peaceful.
Speaker 3 (07:30):
Yeah, I love it.
Speaker 1 (07:31):
I think that's one of the things people you know,
tend to not do, is they don't give them some
enough of time to renew themselves. And they need to
prioritize I believe their time because all you need is
a certain amount of time of day just to give
yourself a time to renew, whether it be exercise or
whether it be meditation or walk you know outside and
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just you know, observing nature. We need time to renew ourselves.
We need time to even sleep. And I think a
lot of people get so absorbed in their life and
what's going on now, especially people who are struggling with
certain issues, you know, whether it be work or whether
it be at home, and their personal lives you know,
they get so absorbed that they forget about the number
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one person themselves.
Speaker 2 (08:16):
How do you feel about that?
Speaker 3 (08:18):
Yes, no, I really think that it's right.
Speaker 4 (08:21):
I mean my book, you know, Free and First, it's
actually about putting yourself first. And I can probably hear
your listeners and your viewers going, now, I haven't put
myself first.
Speaker 3 (08:31):
I've got this and I've got that.
Speaker 4 (08:34):
But and or it feels selfish because you know a
lot of people think that's you know, that's been very
selfish putting myself first. But if we put ourselves first,
we lift our mood. And then everybody, children, now, relatives,
they all benefit from that.
Speaker 3 (08:52):
They all feel better as well. And so what better gift.
Speaker 4 (08:57):
Is simple by putting yourself first, following your joy for
ten minutes a day, playing like a child, whatever it is,
if it's putting a song on the on the radio
and having a bit of a dance, but just not
getting so eased with your life. If you can just
shock yourself and do something silly that you know doesn't
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hurt you or anyone else.
Speaker 3 (09:19):
But that's the vibe.
Speaker 4 (09:22):
And then when you when you're talking or thinking about
your friends, or thinking about your children or your parents,
they get your good vibes and your good vibes rather.
Speaker 3 (09:33):
Than oh, I'm in my not so good vibes. And
then your kids and well.
Speaker 4 (09:40):
Unfortunately they're they're often pulled down as well, which you know,
So if you can't put yourself first because you think
it's selfish, do it for your children, do it for
your friends, and do it for your your parents, if
that's easier to think of it that way.
Speaker 1 (10:00):
Love that, you know, I think one of the main
things that you hear it so many times you hear
it with women and mothers that you hear it even
with it adult. You know, males won't say it, but
you could tell they feel shameful, they feel you know,
they feel a sense, like you said, guilt, you know,
if they put others, you know, if they put themselves
before others, and really, you know, that's the if you
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can't help yourself, then how can you help others? And
people have to really realize they have to really give
themselves some type of self love or self care.
Speaker 2 (10:31):
You know, how do you feel about that?
Speaker 3 (10:33):
Yes?
Speaker 4 (10:34):
Yes, I mean you know, like I think Oprahs says,
you know about all, you know, we have to love
ourselves first, you know, have our self watering system of
self love happening big time, because you know, I think
it's a mirror. You know, if we don't love and
respect ourselves, well, we may not be loved and respected
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by others.
Speaker 3 (10:56):
You know, right, really big correlation.
Speaker 4 (10:59):
I ill so the first really early on in my book,
I say the importance of self nurture, spending some time
working out what your needs are and making sure not
looking for you know, your partner or your parents or
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your friends to help meet your needs, but actually working
out what you're what you're missing, what needs you're missing,
and taking steps speaking up to putting boundaries in place
so your needs are met.
Speaker 2 (11:35):
And and you.
Speaker 4 (11:37):
Know, you know, the A, B C of me, which
is a tool that I mentioned in my book, is
the A A is we can't do a before C.
Speaker 3 (11:48):
School teacher in me talking, but we A.
Speaker 4 (11:50):
The acknowledge, allow and accept how we feel is the A.
We have to do that first, acknowledge, allow and accept
how we feel.
Speaker 3 (12:00):
And then why do we do that?
Speaker 4 (12:01):
Because then we can work out our needs and then
we can keep the boundaries.
Speaker 3 (12:08):
And then but the boundaries.
Speaker 4 (12:10):
It depends on how we communicate, which is the C
communication of the boundaries. And so the A B C
of me is a really important tool that that if
we can follow through with that, when we when we
feel when we don't feel good, and we can actually
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stop and feel how we feel, the work needs are
whatever about boundaries in place, well, then we start to
free ourselves up because we're not locked into oh, you know,
I'm feeling. You know, a lot of people don't let
it themselves feel you know, like we're so busy, you know,
we can get business and then they don't even meet
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a you.
Speaker 3 (12:55):
Know, that's the problem.
Speaker 4 (12:57):
You know, if I had to say, the problem is
we're not off. We don't get off the life perhaps
to be enough.
Speaker 3 (13:02):
To feel our feelings.
Speaker 4 (13:04):
And I really need to feel our feelings first. And
a lot of people don't want to feel their uncomfortable feelings,
and me include it. I mean, who wants to feel
their uncomfortable feelings?
Speaker 3 (13:15):
That's a bit you dire.
Speaker 4 (13:17):
I mean, why can't just keep busy? Can't we just
keep busy with getting lost in our children or our work,
or our partying or a shopping or whatever it is
we get lost in. But it doesn't solve the problem
because I feel as a lot of writers, and that
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the feelings get contained within.
Speaker 3 (13:43):
Us and as the doctors are fationing onto.
Speaker 4 (13:46):
Those restrained emotions kept within our psyche or within our body.
Speaker 3 (13:54):
Can cause health issues.
Speaker 4 (13:55):
So I think it's really vital that we slow down,
find time to stop, feel how we're feeling, and.
Speaker 3 (14:04):
Have enough self love to go hang on.
Speaker 4 (14:09):
This matters to me, and I'm going to speak up
about it, and I'm going to put a boundary in
place and follow through with it, communicate it, and free
myself up, free myself up for feeling good. No, I
think it's you know, it's we have to take responsibility.
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I believe that every person needs to take responsibility for
this and that can't keep waiting or when you know,
like I think I think a few writers talk about
the waiting know when I when I retire, I'll be
happy ook, or when my when my perfect boyfriend comes along,
I'll be happy then.
Speaker 3 (14:51):
Or when I get my new car, or when I
go on my holiday. But I think the thing is.
Speaker 4 (14:58):
We're actually saying that, we're actually saying no to the now,
We're saying no present, and we have to be really
I believe that's the only thing we've.
Speaker 3 (15:11):
Got power over is the now right to get.
Speaker 5 (15:15):
Something happening, we have to sort of implement it now,
you know, we have to feel what we need and go, well,
I'm taking the reins of my life, and my mind's
not going to be the master anymore.
Speaker 4 (15:28):
You know, all that noise in my head about all
the no, you can't do that sort of thing right
activity that I'm just going to sort of go, I'm
not going to listen anymore to that.
Speaker 3 (15:40):
And that's what I decided.
Speaker 4 (15:42):
I decided, No, I'm going to be the leader of
my life and the master of my mind. And I
really got determined not to listen to any negativity as
to why I couldn't do something or anything that would
hold me back from finding joy and finding peace for me,
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because I think everyone deserves peace, everyone, everyone on this planet,
you know, including the animals. Every sentient being deserves you know,
joy and peace.
Speaker 3 (16:19):
And I really believe that it comes from within.
Speaker 4 (16:24):
You know, we have to stop feel how we feel
feel like inner being.
Speaker 3 (16:30):
You know, we're not human doings were human beings. And
I really feel when we can spend just even.
Speaker 4 (16:37):
If we set out our phones to just you know,
ten minutes every couple of hours to go, Okay, I.
Speaker 3 (16:44):
Have to go and feel how I feel.
Speaker 4 (16:46):
And just just breathe, you know, close my eyes and just.
Speaker 3 (16:51):
Just do some little breathing exercises.
Speaker 4 (16:53):
It's just amazing how you can feel so much more
peaceful and still very alert.
Speaker 3 (17:01):
And you know, with more you know, when it sort
of steps.
Speaker 4 (17:06):
Up to more meditation, well then intuitions improving and you
even you get so many health benefits which I could
talk all day about and I'm doing so I you know,
but you know, meditation is a big part of my
life and I wouldn't go a day without meditation because
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it's just it powers me up.
Speaker 3 (17:30):
It's a bit like charging my mobile phone.
Speaker 4 (17:33):
I'm not going to forget that, and I'm not going
to forget my meditation.
Speaker 3 (17:37):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (17:39):
I like what you said about really getting rid of,
you know, the negativity. You want to be around positive people.
You want to be around people that are going to
encourage you to be a better person, to encourage you
to be happy, to encourage you to follow your dream.
Speaker 2 (17:53):
You know, if you're.
Speaker 1 (17:54):
Around negative people and you're around people who discourage you,
you know that that's going to pull you down.
Speaker 2 (17:59):
And a lot of times, you find.
Speaker 1 (18:00):
That a lot of people who are having trouble being
happy and experience and joy are surrounded by people who
are actually pulling them down given you know, implementing negative
thoughts into their head, like why are you doing that?
Oh that's a waste of time. Oh it's not going
to work. You know, you know, it makes no sense
what you're doing. You know, you got to stop that,
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you know. And you know, people when they're around negative
energy and around people who are always thinking the worst
of the worst is going to happen.
Speaker 2 (18:29):
You know, how can you grow?
Speaker 1 (18:30):
You feel like a vacuum, like all the energy is
getting sucked out of you, you know, and I believe
you know, in order to grow, we need to surround
ourselves by positive people that have positive dreams, that want
to be better, you know, than they are ready and
they're looking for people that are higher than themselves so
they could get and elevate to those levels. You know.
Speaker 2 (18:50):
What's your intake on that?
Speaker 4 (18:52):
Yes, well, I sometimes talk about casually surfing, surfing surfing
in the way you know you want to you want
to hang around the people on a high vibe because
it's much better to catch onto their wave, onto onto.
Speaker 5 (19:08):
Their higher vibe than then if we're always around.
Speaker 4 (19:14):
Very depressed or people who were always looking at the
worst side of things, well, of course we we go down.
We we and and what I what is paramount is
that our state of consciousness or our vibe dictates how
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every situation unfolds in our life. So I realized that
I sort of had that a high moment myself when
I was negotiating the divorce settlement, and I thought, well, okay,
if I can get my vibe as high as through
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you know, through eating healthily, exercising, being around positive people and.
Speaker 3 (20:07):
Just ticking as many boxes as I could.
Speaker 4 (20:09):
To get my vibe higher, would mean that go in
to negotiate, you know, and the deal the biggest, biggest
deal of my life. You know, when you sort of
you know you've got your kids and you're trying to work,
you know, you want to be able to think clearly,
and you of course you want the most positive outcome.
So with anything in life, what I've realized is the
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high we can we can we can climb our vibe
up by ticking as many boxes as we can where
we're in a much better position.
Speaker 3 (20:42):
And then also are our children and our friends as.
Speaker 4 (20:46):
We we emanate a higher vibe and they can catch
the way, so to speak.
Speaker 1 (20:53):
Yeah, yes, definitely, definitely. Now in your book you have
like different access sizes and things you know, you mentioned
some already.
Speaker 2 (21:03):
You know, how can people you.
Speaker 1 (21:05):
Know, if they're feeling their emotions are repressed and they're starting,
you know, and they're going through they're not feeling that happiness,
they're not feeling that joy. And as we know that
when you have when you push your feelings down and
your feelings are repressed, after a while, you can go numb.
Speaker 2 (21:20):
You don't even know how.
Speaker 1 (21:21):
You feel anymore because you push your emotions down for
so long. And if you're around people who are negative
and all these things are happening. You know, what are
some of the things that you suggest for people you
know who.
Speaker 2 (21:34):
Want to feel happiness, who want to feel joy? You
know what you know you've.
Speaker 1 (21:38):
Mentioned a few are ready, But what are some powerful,
you know, points that you think people could use to
change their lives around.
Speaker 3 (21:46):
It's well, Stacy, I think it depends exactly how you know.
Speaker 4 (21:50):
Each person is going to be different, of course, to
what to what degree their pain is, their trauma is
where it's ash as to.
Speaker 3 (22:00):
Tools are appropriate for them.
Speaker 4 (22:02):
And I must say here I am not a health
professional here, so please don't change any of your health
regimes because I'm just speaking from experience what worked for
me through a traumatic event. So in the early days,
just finding my fun, that's all I could manage, just
(22:23):
to just to look for not trying to bite off
more than I could chew, and just to get through
the next half hour, get through the next hour.
Speaker 3 (22:33):
And I'd have a list near the the on the
kitchen bridge or.
Speaker 4 (22:40):
Near my toothbrush about ways to bump me out of
my mood that would be very low. So whether that
was Paul a friend put the radio on, so that
was the that's sort of the critical list. I'd have
my critical list close at hand.
Speaker 3 (23:01):
As I started to.
Speaker 4 (23:04):
Want other tools, I explored other tools, which which was
then the idea of being present and letting go, of
allowing ourselves to be present and to feel into our
(23:24):
feelings meant that allow the heavy emotions that hold us down.
Like you know, you can imagine a hot air balloon.
Everyone has got this idea of a hot air balloon.
You've got the sacks of sand, bags of sand holding
you down. So I really want to let go of my.
Speaker 3 (23:46):
Grudges with my.
Speaker 6 (23:49):
Husband, or with my employer, or whoever, whoever the person
is that you may subconsciously sometimes be harboring a grudge
against your pairs.
Speaker 3 (24:00):
It's you know, there's many and when we can look
at at.
Speaker 4 (24:07):
Forgiveness, even if we have to fake it until we
make it, When we can forgiveness, it lightens our load.
And guess what, we get to rise up, We get
to feel good. You know, non non forgiveness causes more havoc.
I believe with our physical health than the person we're
(24:29):
not forgiving, you know, we can do ourselves more health harm,
more harm.
Speaker 3 (24:35):
To our health.
Speaker 4 (24:36):
Then, so it's it's it's better just to forgive, you know,
for your sake. You know, it doesn't mean we need
to condone what they've done, right, you know, like I think,
you know, I think it was I think it was
Jesus on the cross, and forgive them because they don't know,
(24:57):
they know not meaning that they may not be that
level of understanding to know that they've done anything wrong.
So you could be you could be banging your head
against the wall trying to trying to get through to
people that have that you think have wronged you, But
you're never going to win because if they're at that
(25:18):
consciousness that they don't understand that caused you, paying well,
you're not going to get very far. So so I
find that forgiveness for me, you know, forgiving and just
accepting where people are at. You know, we're all at
different stages on the rocky road called you know, the.
Speaker 3 (25:40):
Journey through life.
Speaker 4 (25:42):
Know, everyone's trying their best, every every I really believe
every person is trying their best and from the consciousness
that at the level of understanding that they're on this
planet with and and the shame and the blame, pointing
the finger at someone else is going to do you
(26:03):
more harm and it's not going to help you feel
better and long term it could be play havoc.
Speaker 3 (26:11):
With your health.
Speaker 2 (26:13):
Right exactly, so true. Now, what inspired you to write
your book?
Speaker 4 (26:19):
Yes, well, I just didn't want any of my children
or my friends to go through what I went through.
Speaker 3 (26:25):
I was just determined.
Speaker 4 (26:29):
I've always enjoyed helping people, uplifting others, enriching others' lives
through whatever.
Speaker 3 (26:37):
You know, I'm a primary I'm a.
Speaker 4 (26:38):
Trained primary school teacher, and I what did voluntary work
for the Race Foundation, helping children from challenge homes as
men as a mentor, and I just always enjoyed it,
and so when something's working for me, I just really
love to share it to help everyone feel better, you know,
(27:02):
like in this challenging world that we're in, I've just
really wanted to you know, I hold the vision my
book will be translated into different languages so as we
can help people.
Speaker 3 (27:13):
Around the world to be in a better place, because
there's a lot.
Speaker 4 (27:18):
Of suffering going on, and I really hold the vision
that we can dissolve the suffering with tools and techniques,
and really it starts with each individual person to make
this world a better.
Speaker 1 (27:34):
Place one hundred percent. And each if each individual could
acknowledge that and just put a small effort of kindness, hope, gratitude,
love into the world, the world could change so traumatically,
and that's all we need.
Speaker 4 (27:54):
And it doesn't have to be you know, like I think,
you know a lot of people think, oh.
Speaker 3 (27:57):
I can't do that, and then I can't write a
book or I can't.
Speaker 4 (28:00):
It's just baby baby steps, you know, like just even
smiling at the.
Speaker 3 (28:06):
Lady who serves your coffee every morning.
Speaker 4 (28:09):
Yeah, that will uplift someone, you know, like if we
can just take baby steps to bring more joy to
the people that we meet during our day.
Speaker 2 (28:19):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (28:20):
Huge.
Speaker 4 (28:20):
I mean if everyone just woke up and said, Okay,
well we're going to do that tomorrow, I'm just going
to every one I meet, I'm just going.
Speaker 3 (28:29):
To smile at Yeah. I think it would change the
whole flavor of the world quite quickly.
Speaker 1 (28:36):
Right, you know, yeah, one hundred, one hundred percent. Now,
where can people find your book?
Speaker 4 (28:45):
Yes, so the best the best way is just to
jump on my website, so it's Elizabeth Jane dot com.
But then I have dot au for Australia, so it's
Elizabeth Jane dot com dot au and you can go
down and join on my Facebook or my Instagram and
(29:06):
listen to all the podcasts that I do around the
world and interviews with in Australia and overseas about how
to how to feel good fast because you know, life's
too short, life's too short, sort of take it on,
Take life on at a better angle than what a
(29:26):
lot of people are, you know, suffering at the moment.
Speaker 2 (29:31):
One hundred percent.
Speaker 1 (29:32):
Now, if we had to take everything that you talked
about today, and you want to give a emphasize on
a couple of important factors. What are some things you'd
like to emphasize about today's conversation?
Speaker 4 (29:46):
Well, weld peace and well well put peace starts with
each each individual person. And we I mean, I don't
want to scare people, but we're responsible for everything in
you know, like if we can play our part just
with baby steps about getting our internal landscape happening, then
(30:10):
it will, it will be reflected.
Speaker 3 (30:12):
We'll see the world through different eyes.
Speaker 4 (30:16):
Once we lift our vibe, Once each person lifts their vibe,
the world will unfold at a much more peaceful, more joyous,
more abundant in a more abundant way. And so everyone
can start today to really look at what's working and
(30:43):
what's not to change whether that's okay, keep it simple,
what's working, what's not?
Speaker 3 (30:50):
Ten things not working?
Speaker 4 (30:52):
Okay, let's just drop these ten things and ten things
that are working, continue with them, you know, to look
at friends, as you said, look at your group of friends.
Are there any that I need to sort of like,
you know, defriend or whatever we do with the social media. Yes,
(31:14):
just simple steps, just if everyone can lift up into
a higher vibe.
Speaker 3 (31:21):
The world will start to reflect that right starts with
each person playing their part.
Speaker 1 (31:29):
One hundred percent. One hundred percent. Now you said you
have some things that you're working on in the future.
What are some of those things that you plan on
doing in the future.
Speaker 3 (31:39):
Yes, well, I'm really excited because Stacy, because.
Speaker 4 (31:43):
I have got two children's books on my way which
I'm illustrating. So one is animating Australian Animals and it
sort of talking about uplifting children to teach how kids
can be.
Speaker 3 (32:01):
Empowered as well to be.
Speaker 4 (32:03):
Able to step into their full full superpowers. And so
it's not so I thought, well when the parents are
reading the children's books, that will help the parents as well,
because we can all all should be able to step
into our superpowers and our authenticity and to to so
(32:26):
the kids.
Speaker 3 (32:26):
Books I'm doing and also.
Speaker 4 (32:29):
I hope very soon too one day have wellness centers
around the world to help people uplift into a better place,
to help them through their traumatic challenges that they're faced with,
no matter what, in what way they have, what's the word,
(32:54):
what type of challenge they have, you know, whether it's
financial or relationship based or health based. We've all got challenges,
but you know they're all in different packages. But the
universe and you know everyone around the world have got
the same challenges on at.
Speaker 1 (33:12):
The moment, oh one hundred percent, we're not alone. All
this has been amazing. I really thank you so much
for coming on this show and sharing all your information
and sharing about your book and and the.
Speaker 2 (33:27):
Principles and the tools that are in those books.
Speaker 1 (33:29):
And I think it's so important you know that people,
you know, really focus on trying to be happy and
trying to reach their utmost joy in their lives.
Speaker 2 (33:39):
It's so important.
Speaker 1 (33:40):
You know, we live on this planet and the life
we have, we should really not waste it away and
not you know, and not feel miserable inside and and
have to live each life just dragging your feet. We
should try to work towards being happy and live in
a joyful life. And when you have happiness and joy life,
you know, good health and good mentality comes with it.
(34:04):
And you know, if there was one thing you had
to say before we go, you know what would be
that one little piece of advice that you would want
to share people on how to be happy and really
be able.
Speaker 2 (34:15):
To you know, live your most joyous fulfillest life.
Speaker 1 (34:19):
You know, if you had to give that one little
piece of advice, what comes to your mind, Well.
Speaker 4 (34:25):
It would be to put yourself first. I've said it now,
to put yourself first, and not to keep making excuses
about why you can't.
Speaker 7 (34:35):
Because as you lift up, then your your friends, your family,
your parents, your colleagues, they'll all lived up if you
If you put yourself.
Speaker 3 (34:46):
Last, you're down in the dumps.
Speaker 4 (34:49):
Well your thinking of them, and you're you're giving them
your you're not so good vibes. So it's saying put
yourself first. It's self thing, it's not selfish.
Speaker 2 (35:00):
I love it. I love it.
Speaker 1 (35:02):
That's awesome, Elizabeth. This has been wonderful. Thank you so
much for coming on this show. I hope you'll come back.
This has been an amazing experience and it's a topic
that people are very interested in listening to.
Speaker 2 (35:13):
And you know, you gave such great advice.
Speaker 1 (35:16):
So I thank you so much for your time and
I really appreciate you.
Speaker 3 (35:20):
Yes, I'd love to come back with any stage. Stacey.
You're it's been wonderful. Thank you.
Speaker 2 (35:26):
Oh you're very welcome and you have a great day.
Speaker 3 (35:29):
Thank you you too.
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