February 10, 2025 • 9 mins
This week we are talking di tings about self-love, personal growth, and the importance of knowing your worth—just in time for Valentine’s Day! Whether you're celebrating the holiday with a partner, friends, or embracing self love, this episode is meant to remind you that the most important love you can nurture is the one you give to yourself. From recognizing your value beyond external validation to setting healthy boundaries in relationships, Ash provides practical advice on how loving yourself paves the way for healthier relationships.
So grab your tea, coffee, or a glass of wine, and let’s talk di tings!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
If you're listening to the podcast on Apple Podcast, please
remember to rate and leave a comment below. Also, don't
forget to follow us on Instagram at Let's Talk the Things. Now,
grab your tea, coffee, or a glass of wine and
let's talk the Things. Hey guys, welcome back to another
(00:23):
episode of Let's Talk the Things, where we discuss personal growth, travel, music,
beauty and wellness while encouraging you to live fearlessly and fabulously.
I'm ash and this week we are talking to things
about love, relationships, and most importantly, remembering your worth. With
(00:49):
Valentine's Day right around the corner, I know a lot
of us are thinking about love and maybe feeling a
little bit of pressure to do it right, or you're
fomo fear of missing out. For those who aren't familiar,
if you don't have a Valentine and you're trying to
figure out how to navigate the holiday, I totally get it.
(01:13):
Let's start with the most important question. Do you know
your value? And I don't mean in the sense of
what your career is, or how much money you make,
or what your relationship status is. I mean do you
truly know deep down what you are worth? It's an
(01:34):
essential question to ask. Before you can love anyone else,
before you can show up in a relationship or even
celebrate Valentine's Day with anyone, you have to know that
you are a treasure. You are Uxdale with extra gravy.
One of the biggest mistakes I've seen women make is
(01:57):
placing their worth outside of themselves based on what someone
else thinks, or what society tells us we should be,
or you know how a romantic partner makes us feel.
Some of us tend to tie our value to external validation.
But here's a thing. You are not what you do
(02:19):
or what someone else says about you. You are not
defined by your past, or your mistakes or your relationships status.
You are inherently valuable, and that's something you need to
remind yourself of every day. So here's what I want
you to do. Take a moment and just think about
(02:42):
what makes you you. What are the things that light
you up inside, What are the passions that fuel your heart?
What qualities do you have that are unique and make
you truly happy? That is your value. The moment you
start stepping into your life with that understanding a promise
(03:06):
you everything changes. Love. We all want it right. But
the truth is love starts with you. We've all heard
it before. I know it's cliche, but it's the truth.
It starts with the love you give yourself. And the
(03:30):
beautiful thing about Valentine's Day is that it can be
a reminder that love is literally everywhere, not just romantic love,
the love that comes from your friends and family, and
the love where everything flows from, the love from within.
When you start loving yourself, you're not relying on someone
(03:52):
else to make you feel a whole. You start showing
up in the world with a level of confidence, grace,
and strength that attracts the right people and situations into
your life. We all have relationships that matter, whether it's
(04:12):
with family, friends, colleagues, and yes, romantic partners. But one
thing that I've learned, especially in the past few years,
is how important it is to set boundaries. I mean,
you need to become an atlas full of boundaries. Relationships
(04:32):
really work best when they're rooted in mutual respect and
healthy boundaries. I remember my dad telling me years ago
that the most important thing in any relationship, no matter
how old you are, is respect. It trumps love, It
trumps any other emotion. You have to have respect in
(04:54):
any and every relationship. And that's something that I try
to remain and I make sure that I implement in
my life because it's so true. So here's a little
piece of my own advice. Don't settle for less than
what you deserve. Whether you're in a romantic relationship or
(05:16):
it's a friendship, or even a relationship you've had with
a family member, If you don't feel seen, heard, or valued,
it's time to have a conversation. And if you have
that conversation and the behavior continues, or you continue to
feel invaluable, then it may be time to remove yourself.
(05:38):
At the end of the day, healthy relationships are built
on clear communication, and when you respect your own needs,
you set the tone for how others will treat you.
Here's the thing, You cannot control their reaction or their
response to your boundaries. So that's why I say, if
you explain your boundaries and then you're still not abided
(06:01):
by maybe that person just doesn't have the capacity to
do so. It doesn't make them a bad person, it
doesn't make them an evil person, but it just makes
them not your person. The most powerful thing you can
do for yourself is to choose to live your life unapologetically,
(06:24):
to step into your purpose and your truth without fear
of what others will think of you or it. You
have dreams, passions, and desires, and you have the right
to pursue them. So don't let anything or anyone make
you doubt that. And listen. If you're worried about being alone,
(06:46):
or like I said, fomo, being left out because of
a lack of romantic love, or maybe your boundaries were
disrespected or violated, remember you are whole just as you are.
The love that matters most is a love that you
give yourself, and eventually you will attract those people that
(07:09):
will respect your boundaries and that will make you feel
seen and valued. Don't wait for a partner or someone
else to validate who you are, or to validate your
dreams and your hopes and aspirations. Don't wait for someone
to tell you how amazing you are or how beautiful
you are. Start showing up for yourself in big and
(07:33):
small ways, and trust me, the world will take notice.
So I challenge you, especially as Valentine's Day quickly approaches,
to think, how can you show yourself love this week?
Maybe it's through a new self care ritual, a mask,
(07:57):
a little red light therapy, a confidence boost through a
wardrobe change or a new hairstyle, or maybe it's spending
time with people who truly make you feel seen. Whatever
it is, do it with intention. Don't wait for someone
else to tell you how special or how loved you are.
(08:19):
You are priceless, and it's about time that you recognize that.
I know this can be a hard time of year
for some people, with all the roses and the hearts,
and the social media videos of extravagant Valentine's Day proposals
(08:42):
or just anything that makes you feel left out if
you don't have that in your life. But I just
want you to remember, as hard as it may be,
you are amazing just as you are. You don't need
a partner, a fancy dinner, or even a single rose
to prove your worth. And trust me, those things are nice,
(09:03):
but if you don't have them, it's important that you
remember that the love, joy, and freedom you seek starts
from within you, and when you love yourself fully, everything
falls into place. So this Valentine's Day, I want you
to remember and be grateful for all of the friends
(09:24):
and family who love you, and, most importantly, reflect on
the love you have for yourself. If you love this
week's episode, don't forget to give us a five star
rating on Apple Podcasts and Spotify, and to share it
(09:46):
with someone who you think could use a little reminder
of their own worth.
If you're listening to the podcast on Apple Podcast, please
remember to rate and leave a comment below. Also, don't
forget to follow us on Instagram at Let's Talk the Things. Now,
grab your tea, coffee, or a glass of wine and
let's talk the Things. Hey guys, welcome back to another
(00:23):
episode of Let's Talk the Things, where we discuss personal growth, travel, music,
beauty and wellness while encouraging you to live fearlessly and fabulously.
I'm ash and this week we are talking to things
about love, relationships, and most importantly, remembering your worth. With
(00:49):
Valentine's Day right around the corner, I know a lot
of us are thinking about love and maybe feeling a
little bit of pressure to do it right, or you're
fomo fear of missing out. For those who aren't familiar,
if you don't have a Valentine and you're trying to
figure out how to navigate the holiday, I totally get it.
(01:13):
Let's start with the most important question. Do you know
your value? And I don't mean in the sense of
what your career is, or how much money you make,
or what your relationship status is. I mean do you
truly know deep down what you are worth? It's an
(01:34):
essential question to ask. Before you can love anyone else,
before you can show up in a relationship or even
celebrate Valentine's Day with anyone, you have to know that
you are a treasure. You are Uxdale with extra gravy.
One of the biggest mistakes I've seen women make is
(01:57):
placing their worth outside of themselves based on what someone
else thinks, or what society tells us we should be,
or you know how a romantic partner makes us feel.
Some of us tend to tie our value to external validation.
But here's a thing. You are not what you do
(02:19):
or what someone else says about you. You are not
defined by your past, or your mistakes or your relationships status.
You are inherently valuable, and that's something you need to
remind yourself of every day. So here's what I want
you to do. Take a moment and just think about
(02:42):
what makes you you. What are the things that light
you up inside, What are the passions that fuel your heart?
What qualities do you have that are unique and make
you truly happy? That is your value. The moment you
start stepping into your life with that understanding a promise
(03:06):
you everything changes. Love. We all want it right. But
the truth is love starts with you. We've all heard
it before. I know it's cliche, but it's the truth.
It starts with the love you give yourself. And the
(03:30):
beautiful thing about Valentine's Day is that it can be
a reminder that love is literally everywhere, not just romantic love,
the love that comes from your friends and family, and
the love where everything flows from, the love from within.
When you start loving yourself, you're not relying on someone
(03:52):
else to make you feel a whole. You start showing
up in the world with a level of confidence, grace,
and strength that attracts the right people and situations into
your life. We all have relationships that matter, whether it's
(04:12):
with family, friends, colleagues, and yes, romantic partners. But one
thing that I've learned, especially in the past few years,
is how important it is to set boundaries. I mean,
you need to become an atlas full of boundaries. Relationships
(04:32):
really work best when they're rooted in mutual respect and
healthy boundaries. I remember my dad telling me years ago
that the most important thing in any relationship, no matter
how old you are, is respect. It trumps love, It
trumps any other emotion. You have to have respect in
(04:54):
any and every relationship. And that's something that I try
to remain and I make sure that I implement in
my life because it's so true. So here's a little
piece of my own advice. Don't settle for less than
what you deserve. Whether you're in a romantic relationship or
(05:16):
it's a friendship, or even a relationship you've had with
a family member, If you don't feel seen, heard, or valued,
it's time to have a conversation. And if you have
that conversation and the behavior continues, or you continue to
feel invaluable, then it may be time to remove yourself.
(05:38):
At the end of the day, healthy relationships are built
on clear communication, and when you respect your own needs,
you set the tone for how others will treat you.
Here's the thing, You cannot control their reaction or their
response to your boundaries. So that's why I say, if
you explain your boundaries and then you're still not abided
(06:01):
by maybe that person just doesn't have the capacity to
do so. It doesn't make them a bad person, it
doesn't make them an evil person, but it just makes
them not your person. The most powerful thing you can
do for yourself is to choose to live your life unapologetically,
(06:24):
to step into your purpose and your truth without fear
of what others will think of you or it. You
have dreams, passions, and desires, and you have the right
to pursue them. So don't let anything or anyone make
you doubt that. And listen. If you're worried about being alone,
(06:46):
or like I said, fomo, being left out because of
a lack of romantic love, or maybe your boundaries were
disrespected or violated, remember you are whole just as you are.
The love that matters most is a love that you
give yourself, and eventually you will attract those people that
(07:09):
will respect your boundaries and that will make you feel
seen and valued. Don't wait for a partner or someone
else to validate who you are, or to validate your
dreams and your hopes and aspirations. Don't wait for someone
to tell you how amazing you are or how beautiful
you are. Start showing up for yourself in big and
(07:33):
small ways, and trust me, the world will take notice.
So I challenge you, especially as Valentine's Day quickly approaches,
to think, how can you show yourself love this week?
Maybe it's through a new self care ritual, a mask,
(07:57):
a little red light therapy, a confidence boost through a
wardrobe change or a new hairstyle, or maybe it's spending
time with people who truly make you feel seen. Whatever
it is, do it with intention. Don't wait for someone
else to tell you how special or how loved you are.
(08:19):
You are priceless, and it's about time that you recognize that.
I know this can be a hard time of year
for some people, with all the roses and the hearts,
and the social media videos of extravagant Valentine's Day proposals
(08:42):
or just anything that makes you feel left out if
you don't have that in your life. But I just
want you to remember, as hard as it may be,
you are amazing just as you are. You don't need
a partner, a fancy dinner, or even a single rose
to prove your worth. And trust me, those things are nice,
(09:03):
but if you don't have them, it's important that you
remember that the love, joy, and freedom you seek starts
from within you, and when you love yourself fully, everything
falls into place. So this Valentine's Day, I want you
to remember and be grateful for all of the friends
(09:24):
and family who love you, and, most importantly, reflect on
the love you have for yourself. If you love this
week's episode, don't forget to give us a five star
rating on Apple Podcasts and Spotify, and to share it
(09:46):
with someone who you think could use a little reminder
of their own worth.
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