April 1, 2025 • 46 mins
In today’s episode, we’ll dive deep into how to live in alignment with your true purpose—something we all crave but may not always know how to find. Whether you're feeling lost, stuck, or you're just ready to take your life to the next level, this episode is for you. So, if you're ready to start living with intention and clarity, stay tuned. Let’s dive in!
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The purpose is to support men and women while giving them the tools and space to heal emotionally, psychologically and physiologically.
Mental Health is a Lifestyle Podcast with Andrea Wise-Brown, is where we discuss practical strategies for managing mental health and wellbeing. Thank you for listening to this episode of Mental Health is a Lifestyle Podcast. We hope you found these practical tips helpful and encourage you to continue prioritizing your mental health and wellness.
If you have any questions or suggestions for future episodes, please email us at mhialpodcast@gmail.com.
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Follow The Podcast At @mentalhealthisalifestylepod Mhialpodcast@gmail.com I want to know your opinions…….
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
This podcast is not a substitute for our relationship with
your mental health professional. Hey, hey, hey, family, welcome back
to another episode of The Mental Health Is a lifestyle
podcast with your girl, Andrea wise Brown Family. Oh well,
(00:26):
thank you for coming back, family, And to those of
you who have not joined the family as of yet,
come on do so today. It doesn't cost you anything.
It's free. All you have to do is click this
little subscribe button. Like the podcast, share the podcast, and
(00:50):
I would love for you to put a comment under
the podcast. And if you are listening on Spotify, Apple Music,
then give us five stars because we I'm giving you
some good stuff, some good stuff. But like I said,
I would love for you to comment on the podcast
(01:11):
on a YouTube page. Okay, all right, so now we
did that. Hey family. To all of you newcomers and
and and my loyal ones, my loyal family, I am
here to check in again another week. And this week
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what I want to talk to you about is how
to live in alignment, how to live in the flow
of your life so that you can ward off a
lot of the fight that you believe that you have
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to fight in order to bring the things into your
life that you truly desire. It's not necessarily about a fight.
It's not you know, this is what society teaches us
is that you have to fight so hard to get
what it is that that you want in life, and
(02:15):
you really don't. You just should. I'm gonna encourage you
to to get into alignment, to align with what your
purpose is, to align with what your purpose is. And
once you start to align with your purpose, then you
will be getting into the flow of life and you
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don't have to fight life. And what fighting life looks
like is swimming upstream? Family? Why are we swimming upstream
just to find happiness, just to find a place of peace,
just to find contentment, just to find some fulfillment in
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the workplace, fulfillment in our relationships, for fulfillment with in
our family system, with our parents. Like, why are we
fighting and swimming upstream? Stop swimming upstream? Family, I am
telling you, stop fighting. Let go and float. Float, get
(03:22):
into the flow of life. And where the river, the ocean,
where it takes you is going to be where you
are going to find your peace, where you are going
to find your happiness. But you don't have to do
all of that work because you're going in the wrong direction. Okay,
(03:45):
So you know when people talk about getting alignment, let
me get in the flow. You know, as I was
talking to some clients this past week, this kept coming up.
So I was like, Okay, you know what, Andrea, I'm
gonna share this with the family because a lot of
my clients were trying to figure around, well, what does
that even look like?
Speaker 2 (04:02):
Like?
Speaker 1 (04:02):
I don't you know, I have a job every day
and I'm working and because I need to take care
of myself. So when you talk about getting in the flow,
what are you even talking about? Andria? And so of course,
you know, I would break it down for whoever I
was talking to in regards to whatever dysfunction or pain
(04:23):
that they were feeling, because they were in situations that
were painful, but yet and still they kept fighting it
swimming upstream and they was not going anywhere. So could
you imagine swimming upstream to get to the job that
you want? Swimming like where you're going because the stream
is holding you back. It's and then you get overwhelmed.
(04:45):
Now you're highly anxious. Sometimes you feel hopeless that you
can't get there, that you can't find a piece, that
you can't find a happiness when I'm telling you stop
swimming up, stop fighting, get in the flow. And so
here we're gonna go a different direction. You're gonna go
a different direction. So what you're gonna have to do
(05:06):
is just grab onto the bank, hold on to the side, okay,
because you're probably afraid to get in the flow because
you don't know where the flow is going to take you.
I get it. I understand you're afraid of the unknown.
I get it. Trust me. I understand. I have been
there before, and sometimes, you know, I find myself there.
(05:28):
But then Andre I have to talk myself back out
of it into how to relax and let go because
there's a current of life that has me and no
matter what goes on where I am what I am
going to be okay, because all things are happening for
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my good God says, So there you go. God is
the flow. Okay. Family, So here we go trying to
find your peace, trying to find happiness in all the
different situations. Just come with me, open your mind and
come with me on this. So I'm going to give
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you some steps as to how you are going to
do this thing. All right. So the first step is
going to be for you to get quiet, so you stop,
stop swimming upstream, stop fighting. Fighting in your relationships for
something that you just can't get and you can't find
peace and happiness. Fighting in the workplace because you can't
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get in this position that you want or or find
a better position. It's fighting in your friendships because you
feel one way and you're defensive and other people. To
stop fighting with your finances. You fighting against your finances
opposed to opening up and getting in the flow. So
(06:54):
let me let me go back to the steps. Okay.
So the first step is going to be to get quiet.
You need to hold on to that bank, y'all. Get
quiet and ask yourself what do I even want? So
when there's a situation that you're in and you find
like it's really causing you a lot of havoc and distress,
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hold on to the bank and just ask yourself to
the side of the river and say what do I want? Okay,
I want you to literally and doing so what you
may have to do, because if your mind is always
racing because you're like, I ain't got time to sit
here and think about this, Andrew, because I gotta think
about how to fix it, because I want to swim upstream.
(07:40):
I'm telling you, no, sit with your find some quiet
time during the day. I wouldn't if it was ten
fifteen minutes, I wouldn't care. If it was just before
you go to bed. I wouldn't care if it was
when you woke up. I wouldn't care if it was
in the bathroom, stall in the workplace. Okay, I need
you to get find some quiet time. And you can
even journal journal, get you a piece of paper, it
(08:03):
gets you a little cute book, or you can just
get you some paper in the pen and just write
right what am I feeling? What do I want? You know,
if I can create anything that I desire in life,
if I had no fear to ask God the universe
(08:26):
for what I wanted, if I didn't have any trauma
that was telling me that I couldn't do this, that
and the other, what would I order up? What do
I want in whatever situation that you are feeling disgruntled
or you're feeling like you're experiencing pain. What do I
(08:50):
want in the workplace? What do I want in this relationship?
What do I want my father? Okay, So once you
do that, that's the first step. Get quiet journal? What
is it that ian I want to get quiet? Okay, now,
family that you know, you know what you want. The
second step is is to create some goals. Don't overthink it.
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Fear is going to pop up in your head. Fear
is gonna say you can't do that. Oh that's too
big for you. Oh how you gonna leave this job?
Oh you can. I didn't ask you to do none
of that. Stay with me, family. So the second step
is do some goal setting. But your goals are going
to be based on your values, on your values, because
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you've already figured out what you want, and what you
want is usually aligned with very close to your values,
the things that you value, the things that you hold
in high regard. So let me just give you a
quick example of me. Let's just say when I decided
(09:57):
that I wanted to become a therapist to and honestly,
it wasn't a therapist that I actually wanted to become.
It was an empowerment speaker. So that was the thing
that was my thing is I knew that when I
got quiet and I realized, Okay, what is the thing
that I do if nobody pays me? You know, I
(10:19):
could wake up, go to sleep, like it's no sweat up,
Like it's the thing that I'm drawn to that I
love to do, and it was always to empower others.
I always had a gift to see people write and
see them where they were, and then to hear and
understand where they wanted to be, and then empower them
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to get there, Like I get visions of them being
there and visions of steps to help them get there.
It's the thing that God gave me, and it is
just my truth. And so I just knew. I always
had it before I became a therapist, but when I
drilled down, because at the time I didn't really know it.
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But what I knew was is that I love to
empower people. So that was the thing. Right, if I
could do anything that I wanted to do, it would
be be in front of a whole bunch of people
and just empower them to do all the things that
they desired in life. Empower them to live the life
that they want to live. You know, what is the
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least amount of chaos as possible? Like that is my thing.
That's who I am. Once I figured that out, now
I'm like, okay, so now I need to set some
goals and in me setting the goals had to figure Okay,
so how is it that I can do this and
make it make sense? And a part of me doing
that was going to school to learn everything there is
(11:44):
about the brain. I need to do everything is about
the brain and human behavior. Now that was my truth,
all right, So take what I'm saying and draw some
parallels to you and what you want in your life.
And so once I decided, okay, I'm going to go
to school, what that did was what I had to
do was now I had to push through fear. And
that's what I'm telling you. Fear is going to pop
(12:06):
up here, It's gonna pop up. Oh you can't do that.
Oh you know, You're not smart enough to do that.
Because that was my thought at the time, was I
wasn't smart enough to go to college. That was for
some other girls someplace else. Because I came from a
working class family and a working class neighborhood. So that
(12:27):
was my thing. Although you know, I always I've always
been a hustler. So I actually owned a hair salon,
you know what I'm saying, and I was licensed, so
I did that. But I thought that in going to
college was two different things. My ignorance. It wasn't It
wasn't just the same thing, right, apply yourself and your win.
Graduated at the top of my class. However, I had
(12:50):
to figure out, Okay, where do I want to be?
So have to look up. Okay, in five years, what
do I want to do? Okay, I want it speak
in front of people. So how do I do that
so that I make sure that the information that I'm
giving them is well studied information, that it's research base,
that it's science based. Well, okay, Andrew, you can't just
(13:10):
talk about your opinions. You can't just whirl around and
just be just empowering people with your opinions. We ain't
doing that. So I knew that I had to face
a fear and go to school. All right, So now
I have my goals. I'm writing my actionable goals down.
So how is it that I still run my salon,
still run my salon, still see my clients because I
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still need to bring money in, still need to keep
the lights and stuff on. And I had a baby
at the time, so I still need to make sure
that my baby gets to where she needs to be.
And you know, I pride myself on being an amazing mother,
So I have to be present in her life. So
now I have to structure some goals. Get my goals together.
What do I want this to look like? Map it
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out to whatever that thing is that I really want.
Although I'm still working every day, but as I'm working
every days, I'm not in the flow. You know, I'm
getting a little blip, a little blip, you know, because
I'm connecting with women that I love. I am inspiring
them and empowering them and people in my life. But
(14:13):
this ain't it, This is not it. I'm swimming upstream.
I'm hustling hard. So it's kind of like, oh, okay,
so you set your goals, right, So then when you
set your goals, you make them actionable. Like I said,
so I'm deciding what's what days that I'm going to
go to school, to classes? What classes am I going
to take? Who's gonna help me with my baby? When
(14:35):
when I'm in classes? What's gonna happen at the salon
while I'm not there? How do I structure my schedules
so that my clients are coming, you know? So setting goals,
setting actionable goals, goals with actionable steps, That's exactly what
I had to do, actionable steps. Okay, So now as
I'm working towards it, Yeah, sometimes it gets uncomfortable. Yes,
(15:01):
sometimes when we are getting in the flow, preparing to
get in the flow, right, the preparing to let go
of the side of the bank and stop swimming so
hard and trusting something different. As we get into the flow,
it feels a little uncomfortable. Feels uncomfortable, right, So me
trying to learn and pull all these pieces together, Yes,
(15:23):
it felt uncomfortable. However, it was starting to feel closer
to where I was supposed to be, closer to it,
closer to where I was supposed to be. And I'm
gonna tell you this, and so I'll say this. When
I decided that, you know, I wasn't living in the flow.
(15:43):
I was hustling and swimming upstream. And this lifestyle that
I live now was more in the flow. The person
that I would always see every day, and I've told
you all this before. If you're family, then you know
that I would have Oprah Winfrey on the television every
day at the handselt at four o'clock, she was coming on.
And so my goal was I'm like, I'm gonna meet
(16:05):
Oprah like, I need to get into this thing so
I can meet Oprah like something about this own network
and Oprah to all those things. So all that was
in the lofty goals that I had at first when
I was quiet in my mind. Okay, that was step one,
all right, So now step two, I have my goals together.
Now I'm going to school so that I can learn
(16:26):
more about the thing that it is that I want
to do. Starting to walk in that direction, I'm starting
to let go of the bank and I'm starting to
almost kind of move into the flow. Okay, as we're
making this analogy of the river of the ocean, right,
but let me tell you about number three. Number three,
you have to be consistent. So whatever it is that
(16:50):
you're doing, whatever it is that you're choosing to do,
you need to be consistent, be consistent with it. You
Understan saying, if you commit to it, you be consistent,
you show up consistently. You do not have to be perfect.
Don't worry about being perfect with anything in life, because
(17:14):
nothing is perfect. No, it's not about being perfect. It's
about being consistent. You just keep going and just keep
being consistent.
Speaker 2 (17:27):
You know.
Speaker 1 (17:29):
So me going to school and doing all of the
things and pulling all the things together. I was being
consistent and I wasn't stopping, and I would add more
classes and more classes and getting good grades and deans
liss and all that, and just being consistent. That's it.
Just being consistent helps you position yourself to get in
(17:51):
the flow sidebar if you want to even think about that.
It's just as I sit here now and I'm doing
this podcast with you, family, I'm doing this episode. This
right here is being consistent. I believe this is the
ninety seventh or the ninety eighth episode that I have
done while doing this podcast. And let me just tell
(18:15):
you something, family, Don't you ever ever ever be sidetracked
by what other people think? Don't you ever get sidetracked
by thinking or caring about what other people think? Because
I'm gonna tell you something. If I got sidetracked, okay,
(18:40):
about what other people think in regards to this podcast,
then no one would say it to me. But I
would have been in my head about, oh, how many
views are on YouTube and how many views is here,
and oh I'm gonna stop this, but no, no, no, no, no,
see people on the outside. I don't see everything. So
(19:02):
you may not see the views the viewership on the YouTube,
but my viewership, not my viewership, my listenership, okay, which
is where the dollars are. My listenership on podcast is
just rising and rising and rising all over the world.
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But it's because I am consistent, not perfect, okay. I
mean even with the podcast, I started off with a producer,
and then after I did that producer the first six weeks,
then I started going to a different company. I had
to go to a different company for them to kind
of do edits. Then I was like, all right, now
(19:49):
we're fifty five weeks in and okay, I did a year,
so maybe it's time for me to just take a break.
And then the whole thing about the people around me
who love me, who listen, it was like, what are
you talking about? Like, no, You're gonna have to find
another way. Encourage me to go back to what I
promised God to do. Right, this is what I'm doing,
getting in the flow, standing on the stage in front
(20:12):
of people, empowering people, and my purpose in alignment. So
then I had some good friends who taught me how
to do my own edits. They taught me how to
do my own edits. I'm like, so I'm paying all
this money to this company and all of the things
which I have no regrets for paying for the company.
(20:33):
I have no regrets. For my producer that did the
first six EPs, no regrets. I thank God. And I'm
very grateful for all of them because I needed them.
I needed them at the time because I didn't know
what I was doing. And I'm grateful for my friends
who taught me how to do things myself. But I'm
telling you this story because I'm trying to let you
know that I understand that it's not always perfect. I
(20:57):
understand that you know that my episodes may not be
edited totally perfectly. But if I waited for perfection, I
would never have done it. And I want you to
think about that in your life. What is holding you back?
What are you procrastinating about that because you are waiting
(21:17):
for it to be perfect, for it to ligne up
perfectly before you do it. Stop doing that. There is
no such thing as perfection hm hmm, except that failure. Falling,
hitting blips is a part of the journey of finding success.
(21:42):
It's a part of the journey. So getting back to
what I'm telling you about is. Number three is just
be consistent. So I show up every week. I show
up every week until I tell you that I'm gonna
take a break. Now, if I tell you I'm gonna
take a break and we're coming off the season and
we're gonna take a break, I ain't told you that yet.
So Andre is gonna show up every week. I'm going
(22:05):
to be consistent. Do you hear what I say? And
and my consistency is showing in my pod cast numbers.
I love it, y'all. Family, You loving it, and I'm
loving that you loving it, Honey, I am loving that
you are loving it makes me tingle. Y'all know I
like the tangle. Okay, So consistency, don't worry about perfection.
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Then number four, you gotta trust the process. You have
to trust the process, meaning don't overthinking, don't stop because
if things are not working outright, don't stop because you
can't see past a certain point. You know, you can't
(22:49):
see down the river, and so you don't trust really
letting go and going with the flow. No, I am
telling you that once you do the things you commit
to doing, what this is getting into alignment with what
it is that you desire. In life with what your
purpose is. You're gonna have to make a decision to
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trust the process, trust it, let go and stop over
thinking it. And don't care about what other people say,
because all the other people who are judging you or
may be talking about you or you may be afraid
that they have these smart things to say. What they
(23:31):
ain't doing nothing because they're afraid to do anything but
stay stagnant right where they are. So you don't listen
to other people. You never know what other people are
going through. And I will tell you this. Happy people
want of the people to be happy. Nasty people, judgmental people,
(23:55):
people who criticize, they're unhappy. So they want to cause
that same unhappy spirit in your life. So I say,
ignore them, give them the peace, pray for them, and
trust this process. Come on, follow me, jump, jump on
the bandwagon of getting into alignment with what it is
(24:19):
that God has for you for your life's purpose. You know,
ask yourself, what lights you up, what energizes you, what
makes you happy? Let's go forward. Come on, family, go
forward and trust the process. And then number five, Family,
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this is the last one, but it's a big one.
This is synchronicity. Want you let me tell y'all something
want you become consistent and then you trust the process
and that's like letting go and you decide to just
float and allow life. I say, God to just take you.
(25:07):
Allow life to just take you, because you already have
your goals. You got me, and so you're being consistent.
You're making the steps to what it's all you gotta
do is keep showing up. Be consistent, not perfect, but consistent.
And you are really trusting the process. You are letting
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go of the sides of the things that was holding you,
that you was holding on to for deal life. You
are letting go. You're trusting the process. Now you will
see a lot of synchronicities. And that is how God
shows up. That is the alignment, and it is happens
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when you are in flow. It is the moments when
you go, oh my goodness, I could never have a
imagine this and it feels good and I'm not even
fighting it, like this was so easy and I'm so happy.
I'm gonna give you all an example so you know
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of me personally and I'm getting some of someone else.
What here we go, real life stuff.
Speaker 2 (26:16):
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for keeping your.
Speaker 1 (26:29):
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of me. We are a family.
Speaker 2 (27:47):
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Speaker 1 (27:59):
Or you can wear them as your clothes with nothing
under them, which I like to do often. And when
you travel everywhere, I mean every time I wear them,
I'm moving around, people are always asking me whether I'm traveling,
going to the supermarket, what's that? Who's stay? And I'm like,
mental health is a lifestyle because see this is on
the back. Okay, they come in white and they come
in black. I'm like, join the family. Mental Health is
(28:21):
a lifestyle podcast. So there you go. Family. Don't you
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I got your goods. I got you. You don't have
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other side. I was working here at a job in Texas.
I was working with the police department, but I was
working for MHM MARV Terran County and I was working
in the police department. So AnyWho, one day I'm leaving
the police department and I'm going went home. I'm literally
pulling out of now, y'all just follow me on this story.
(29:05):
All of a sudden, I pull over at a light.
I didn't pull over at a light. Uh huh. I'm
gonna tell the whole story. I stopped at a light.
There we go, stopped at a light. And when I
was stopped at a light, I looked down at my
phone and I looked at my email. And as I
looked at my email, now I'm telling y'all, I didn't
reach out to no body. Okay, I look at my email,
(29:28):
and when I looked in my email, I saw an
email from the Oprah Winfrey Network. Producer from the Oprah
Winfrey Network. Okay, all right, So I'm like, huh, so
(29:48):
this was when I pulled over. So I pulled over,
and I remember it was Kentucky Fried Chicken that I
pulled into the parking lot of the Kentucky Fried Chicken.
I can see it now, I can visualize it because
it was smelling good. So I pull over and I
opened up the email, like are my eyes deceiving me?
And oh no, no, no no. It was a producer
(30:09):
that was saying that there was a show on the
Oprah Winfrey Network and that they needed a therapist in
the area in Texas and they needed them to come
on and be the expert. Well, I couldn't crash my car, y'all,
because I had already pulled over and I was parked.
But to like the Oprah like, all of this that
(30:31):
I'm doing now was because of the Oprah Winfrey Network
and the day that I dreamed that I could be
on the Oprah Wimfrey Network. I could not have planned it. Family,
This is what I'm telling you about synchronicity. This is
(30:52):
what I'm telling you about God. This is what I'm
telling you about being in a line, going with the
flow of life, instead of hustling and fighting against the current.
Instead of swimming upstream, going against the current, doing what
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you think you you should be doing. Go with what
you know for sure, follow that passion because it will
bring all things together. That is what being in alignment
looks like. So I could not have planned that thing.
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There was nothing that I could have done to make
that happen. Beside, do these steps that I'm telling you
to do today. Get in alignment, be consistent, trust the process,
and then synchronicity God shows up. Oh my God, yo,
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I have so many stories. So of course I go
on to do that show. And then after doing that show,
just for me, doing that show, other shows newspeople, they
started to uh, there was someone here on the news
in Texas was looking for a therapist, looking for a
therapist to come on and do an expert spot. And
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I didn't reach out to any one family, But this
is my dream. I need you to get it. It
was my dream. It was the thing that I dreamed
about when I was in that Hanslone and I felt like,
this ain't it. There's another purpose that is bigger for me,
for me, not for you. You know how, you know whatever,
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this is not for you, This is not That's why
I'm telling you check yourself. You ain't got to worry
about checking me because I'm good. But I am telling
you this is I could only dream of this years ago.
I didn't know how did. I just got in the
flow of life. So from that clip that I did
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with the Oprah Winfrey or network this network is a
show on her network, I did that and from that
then this news reporter finds me, and the news reporter
reaches out to me. So now I get another email,
okay from the news wanted me to be an expert
because something happened, you know, So from that, I do it.
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Boom do it. I'm in I'm an alignment. You hear
what I say, I'm in flow. Yes you want to
do it? Yep? Let me look at my schedule. I'm
gonna make it happen. And it all works. It's all
in sync because whenever you ready to do the recording,
you bring the cameras. I'm ready, okay. Then I do
that one. Then I'm called again to do another one.
Then I'm calling. I didn't reach out at this point.
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I didn't reach out to anyone, is what I'm trying
to tell you get and I could not have planned it.
And you know, I love my friends and a lot
of women who I've that on my journey, especially here
in Texas. And sometimes they'll ask me, okay, so you know, like,
so how'd you start doing these spots on TV? I
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tell them, listen, it wasn't me. They found me because
it was God. It was in sync. Oh my gosh. Okay,
So that's how that end. Then that snowballs and more
and more and more happens, and there you go. Now
I'm a trusted source Okay, when there's a catastrophe that happens, well, okay,
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you know what family I'm gonna tell you. Here's another
one that I want to tell you about. But before
I even tell you that one, it just makes me
think about some of the women who have been on
my podcast and who told me, told stories and told
you stories about just synchronicity and getting in flow. It
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makes me think about Martha. My interview with Martha, who
is the what is she? She's the home builder does
home reconstruction and construction designer ran how she started off
by during the pandemic, after losing everything. What she knew
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that she could do was to clean up. So she
would clean up in order to take care of her daughters.
And you should go back and watch this episode. So
she was doing some house cleaning and then when she
was doing house cleaning, she moved into meeting somebody and
they asked her to come clean a building. So she
went to clean a building. And while she's in a building,
there's a hole in a wall. So what she says is, well,
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they ask her, can you fix the hole in the wall.
She never fixed the hole in the wall before, but
she decides she was in flow. So she said, well,
if the wall needs to be fixed, it's the middle
of the pandemic. This is how feed my kids. I'm
doing that, so I can take on another. And she
figured out she found someone to fix the hole. That
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one job of fixing the hole in the wall, this
woman became huge. And now she redesigned homes okay, redesigned
homes for and gets paid tons and tons of money
to do so. In flow showing up being consistent inflow
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reminds me of Chanel who was just on him. Told
her story about you know her that she has a
sales tax company, multimillion dollar company, started off just being
in school. Just smart girl. Met her husband. He was
talking to her about it. Kept something that she knew.
Numbers easy for her, photographic memory, numbers easy. She just
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got in flow, didn't fight it, got in flow, went
from accounting to more number to now look at the
in flow in sink. God just comes and creates just things.
So let me just let me give you this last example.
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This last example just happened to me recently. So one
day my friend called me because she was doing some
kind of mentor. She was doing a mentorship thing, and
these were other women who owned businesses, and they were
kind of coming because she hosts these events where they
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come together. So she hosted these events. They came there
into this event and all of a sudden, out of
the blue, at the last minute, now, mem I'm in flow, y'all.
So I'm talking to my clients all day. This was
almost at the end of the day. She texts me
and she says, Sis, I need you what you need
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because I'm always gonna be there from a friends what
you need, Sis. So she said, I'm meeting with some
women later tonight and I asked them, you know, what
did they want the topic of discussion to be? And
she said, oh, they said that they want mental health.
And she said, so, since I know that that your expertise,
would you just come out and kind of just you know,
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be here and talk to them about, you know, mental
health and say no more, I don't swim upstream. You
feel me things getting to it. It was in alignment. Absolutely,
I get off at this time. What time you need
me to be, no problem, I'm in the flow. Any who, family,
I go there and as I'm there, I'm talking to
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the women. I meet some amazing powerful women. It was
a great meeting. But then there was someone else at
this meeting who actually was the one who sponsored, okay,
spend money on the event. And she heard me speak,
I guess, and we introduced ourselves to each other. She
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came up to me and she said, you know, I
like what you do. I want you to do something
else for me. So AnyWho, I did something else in
the flow family. Okay, did something else for her. Whatever
you need me to do. Whatever I'm in the flow family,
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I did it synchronicity. I can't. I could not have
told my friend call me on this day. You understand,
I couldn't orchestrate it. This is God in sync, being
in sync when you're in the flow. I'm consistent. I
do this work every day. I get on this podcast
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every week. I talk to my closet. I empowered them
every day. You and what I say in the flow
in the flow okay. So then from that situation, after
I do the thing that she has me do, then
she sends me a message. And this happened last week.
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She sent me a message. Oh this was a month ago,
and she said, oh, listen, I thought about you. There
is this event where they're asking for vendors of women
owned companies, and she said, you have products. Correct, absolutely, y'all.
I'm in the flow, you and me. Absolutely. So she said, okay, well,
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let's see. I want to see if I can get
you a table there. Family, I couldn't do this for myself.
Do you understand in the flow I could do in
a line, I couldn't do it for myself. I wouldn't
have known what to do. I wouldn't have who to
call how to She said, they have thirteen thousand employees.
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So whatever you have that you are selling, because she
believes in me, got me. She sees them because she
sees I know my stuff. You understand, she ain't ashamed
to send me nowhere. Okay, family, you hear That's what
I'm saying. In the flow, they got thirteen thousand employees,
and I'm gonna see if I can get you a
table there. Hallelujah, got me a table there? And family,
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when I tell you, let me tell you something. I
didn't stop it, you know, because years ago, when I
as a vendor, I haven't really did too much vendoring.
Maybe a few times before, but usually if I have
when I would have my book signings, I could always
you know, I always wanted to sell my stuff. Right
if I have book signings or if I'm speaking somewhere,
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you know, I can actually vend it, but actually means
just showing up by myself as a vendor. I've done
it maybe a few times before, and those times I've
always felt like I needed somebody else there. Okay, So
like let's say, if I'm talking to somebody I'm trying
to sell, you need somebody that's ringing up the stuff,
putting the stuff in bags and doing all those things. Well,
so let me tell you that's what fear is, right
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because on this time, okay, last week, all right, when
it was time for me to go and do this event,
when that little fear popped up, like oh my gosh,
you're gonna need to ask somebody else to come and
help you, there was nothing in my spirit that said, yeah,
that was swimming upstream, okay, because the second thought of
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well who and then who's gonna take off? Then how
much do I have to pay? That was swimming upstream. Family,
I said, oh no, no, no, no, no, Andrea, you
are going with the flow. And let me tell y'all
what Andrea did. She packed her stuff up. Okay, she
packed it all up, she made drove there two trips
into the building, and it was some far trips, and
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it was a little hot, and I was doing a
little sweat, and now I got a little moist. Okay, However,
nothing that a little legs and little paper towel and
pat down wasn't gonna fix. But I pulled up. You
hear me? And when I tell you the table that
God had me sitting at in position all right in
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the middle of the cafeteria by all the doors, so
I could not be missed. And this is I'm just
telling you what it feels like for me to be
in flow. I couldn't have called these people before and said,
oh put me here, put me. I wouldn't even have
known where and what God, in sync synchronicity, being in
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the Flow family, had me in position. Do you hear
what I say? And the two tables that were already
set up to be sitting right next to me, they
didn't even show up. So when I said I had
prime real estate okay in the floor, and here I go,
this is so important. And then I'm done. And usually
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when you're a vendor, you have to pay okay for
that real estate. So there's usually a fee. No fee.
Do you hear what? You hear what I'm talking about?
When you're in sync and you inflowing, goddessh showing you listen,
trust me. I didn't pay one fee. Do you hear me?
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And when I tell you I sold out of almost everything,
I sold out almost everything and I could not plan it. So, family,
I am encouraging you to get in your flow. Stop
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swimming upstream, get in alignment. Number one, Get quiet and
ask yourself, journal metal, meditate, ask yourself what is it
that I want? What is it that I dream of?
What is it? Get clear about it. Number two. Set
some goals with some actionable steps, and usually those goals
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should be aligned with your values. Number three. Once you
get those steps together, you start walking consistently. Be consistent.
Don't worry about being perfect. Be consistent. Number four. Don't
let fear come up. Don't let thinking about what other
people say and what they do fump all that. Trust
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the process. Let go stop swimming upstream and flow, let
go of the side, trust the flow of life. Trust
the process, and then you will see number five synchronicity.
You will see God show up Okay, family, I love
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this for you because I love it for me. So
I love it for you and I love me some youth.
So that is another episode. Up the Mental Health is
a lifestyle podcast with your Girl Andrea wise Brown and family.
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I will see you next week on the next episode.
This podcast is not a substitute for our relationship with
your mental health professional. Hey, hey, hey, family, welcome back
to another episode of The Mental Health Is a lifestyle
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on a YouTube page. Okay, all right, so now we
did that. Hey family. To all of you newcomers and
and and my loyal ones, my loyal family, I am
here to check in again another week. And this week
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what I want to talk to you about is how
to live in alignment, how to live in the flow
of your life so that you can ward off a
lot of the fight that you believe that you have
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to fight in order to bring the things into your
life that you truly desire. It's not necessarily about a fight.
It's not you know, this is what society teaches us
is that you have to fight so hard to get
what it is that that you want in life, and
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you really don't. You just should. I'm gonna encourage you
to to get into alignment, to align with what your
purpose is, to align with what your purpose is. And
once you start to align with your purpose, then you
will be getting into the flow of life and you
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don't have to fight life. And what fighting life looks
like is swimming upstream? Family? Why are we swimming upstream
just to find happiness, just to find a place of peace,
just to find contentment, just to find some fulfillment in
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the workplace, fulfillment in our relationships, for fulfillment with in
our family system, with our parents. Like, why are we
fighting and swimming upstream? Stop swimming upstream? Family, I am
telling you, stop fighting. Let go and float. Float, get
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into the flow of life. And where the river, the ocean,
where it takes you is going to be where you
are going to find your peace, where you are going
to find your happiness. But you don't have to do
all of that work because you're going in the wrong direction. Okay,
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So you know when people talk about getting alignment, let
me get in the flow. You know, as I was
talking to some clients this past week, this kept coming up.
So I was like, Okay, you know what, Andrea, I'm
gonna share this with the family because a lot of
my clients were trying to figure around, well, what does
that even look like?
Speaker 2 (04:02):
Like?
Speaker 1 (04:02):
I don't you know, I have a job every day
and I'm working and because I need to take care
of myself. So when you talk about getting in the flow,
what are you even talking about? Andria? And so of course,
you know, I would break it down for whoever I
was talking to in regards to whatever dysfunction or pain
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that they were feeling, because they were in situations that
were painful, but yet and still they kept fighting it
swimming upstream and they was not going anywhere. So could
you imagine swimming upstream to get to the job that
you want? Swimming like where you're going because the stream
is holding you back. It's and then you get overwhelmed.
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Now you're highly anxious. Sometimes you feel hopeless that you
can't get there, that you can't find a piece, that
you can't find a happiness when I'm telling you stop
swimming up, stop fighting, get in the flow. And so
here we're gonna go a different direction. You're gonna go
a different direction. So what you're gonna have to do
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is just grab onto the bank, hold on to the side, okay,
because you're probably afraid to get in the flow because
you don't know where the flow is going to take you.
I get it. I understand you're afraid of the unknown.
I get it. Trust me. I understand. I have been
there before, and sometimes, you know, I find myself there.
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But then Andre I have to talk myself back out
of it into how to relax and let go because
there's a current of life that has me and no
matter what goes on where I am what I am
going to be okay, because all things are happening for
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my good God says, So there you go. God is
the flow. Okay. Family, So here we go trying to
find your peace, trying to find happiness in all the
different situations. Just come with me, open your mind and
come with me on this. So I'm going to give
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you some steps as to how you are going to
do this thing. All right. So the first step is
going to be for you to get quiet, so you stop,
stop swimming upstream, stop fighting. Fighting in your relationships for
something that you just can't get and you can't find
peace and happiness. Fighting in the workplace because you can't
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get in this position that you want or or find
a better position. It's fighting in your friendships because you
feel one way and you're defensive and other people. To
stop fighting with your finances. You fighting against your finances
opposed to opening up and getting in the flow. So
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let me let me go back to the steps. Okay.
So the first step is going to be to get quiet.
You need to hold on to that bank, y'all. Get
quiet and ask yourself what do I even want? So
when there's a situation that you're in and you find
like it's really causing you a lot of havoc and distress,
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hold on to the bank and just ask yourself to
the side of the river and say what do I want? Okay,
I want you to literally and doing so what you
may have to do, because if your mind is always
racing because you're like, I ain't got time to sit
here and think about this, Andrew, because I gotta think
about how to fix it, because I want to swim upstream.
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I'm telling you, no, sit with your find some quiet
time during the day. I wouldn't if it was ten
fifteen minutes, I wouldn't care. If it was just before
you go to bed. I wouldn't care if it was
when you woke up. I wouldn't care if it was
in the bathroom, stall in the workplace. Okay, I need
you to get find some quiet time. And you can
even journal journal, get you a piece of paper, it
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gets you a little cute book, or you can just
get you some paper in the pen and just write
right what am I feeling? What do I want? You know,
if I can create anything that I desire in life,
if I had no fear to ask God the universe
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for what I wanted, if I didn't have any trauma
that was telling me that I couldn't do this, that
and the other, what would I order up? What do
I want in whatever situation that you are feeling disgruntled
or you're feeling like you're experiencing pain. What do I
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want in the workplace? What do I want in this relationship?
What do I want my father? Okay, So once you
do that, that's the first step. Get quiet journal? What
is it that ian I want to get quiet? Okay, now,
family that you know, you know what you want. The
second step is is to create some goals. Don't overthink it.
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Fear is going to pop up in your head. Fear
is gonna say you can't do that. Oh that's too
big for you. Oh how you gonna leave this job?
Oh you can. I didn't ask you to do none
of that. Stay with me, family. So the second step
is do some goal setting. But your goals are going
to be based on your values, on your values, because
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you've already figured out what you want, and what you
want is usually aligned with very close to your values,
the things that you value, the things that you hold
in high regard. So let me just give you a
quick example of me. Let's just say when I decided
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that I wanted to become a therapist to and honestly,
it wasn't a therapist that I actually wanted to become.
It was an empowerment speaker. So that was the thing
that was my thing is I knew that when I
got quiet and I realized, Okay, what is the thing
that I do if nobody pays me? You know, I
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could wake up, go to sleep, like it's no sweat up,
Like it's the thing that I'm drawn to that I
love to do, and it was always to empower others.
I always had a gift to see people write and
see them where they were, and then to hear and
understand where they wanted to be, and then empower them
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to get there, Like I get visions of them being
there and visions of steps to help them get there.
It's the thing that God gave me, and it is
just my truth. And so I just knew. I always
had it before I became a therapist, but when I
drilled down, because at the time I didn't really know it.
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But what I knew was is that I love to
empower people. So that was the thing. Right, if I
could do anything that I wanted to do, it would
be be in front of a whole bunch of people
and just empower them to do all the things that
they desired in life. Empower them to live the life
that they want to live. You know, what is the
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least amount of chaos as possible? Like that is my thing.
That's who I am. Once I figured that out, now
I'm like, okay, so now I need to set some
goals and in me setting the goals had to figure Okay,
so how is it that I can do this and
make it make sense? And a part of me doing
that was going to school to learn everything there is
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about the brain. I need to do everything is about
the brain and human behavior. Now that was my truth,
all right, So take what I'm saying and draw some
parallels to you and what you want in your life.
And so once I decided, okay, I'm going to go
to school, what that did was what I had to
do was now I had to push through fear. And
that's what I'm telling you. Fear is going to pop
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up here, It's gonna pop up. Oh you can't do that.
Oh you know, You're not smart enough to do that.
Because that was my thought at the time, was I
wasn't smart enough to go to college. That was for
some other girls someplace else. Because I came from a
working class family and a working class neighborhood. So that
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was my thing. Although you know, I always I've always
been a hustler. So I actually owned a hair salon,
you know what I'm saying, and I was licensed, so
I did that. But I thought that in going to
college was two different things. My ignorance. It wasn't It
wasn't just the same thing, right, apply yourself and your win.
Graduated at the top of my class. However, I had
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to figure out, Okay, where do I want to be?
So have to look up. Okay, in five years, what
do I want to do? Okay, I want it speak
in front of people. So how do I do that
so that I make sure that the information that I'm
giving them is well studied information, that it's research base,
that it's science based. Well, okay, Andrew, you can't just
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talk about your opinions. You can't just whirl around and
just be just empowering people with your opinions. We ain't
doing that. So I knew that I had to face
a fear and go to school. All right, So now
I have my goals. I'm writing my actionable goals down.
So how is it that I still run my salon,
still run my salon, still see my clients because I
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still need to bring money in, still need to keep
the lights and stuff on. And I had a baby
at the time, so I still need to make sure
that my baby gets to where she needs to be.
And you know, I pride myself on being an amazing mother,
So I have to be present in her life. So
now I have to structure some goals. Get my goals together.
What do I want this to look like? Map it
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out to whatever that thing is that I really want.
Although I'm still working every day, but as I'm working
every days, I'm not in the flow. You know, I'm
getting a little blip, a little blip, you know, because
I'm connecting with women that I love. I am inspiring
them and empowering them and people in my life. But
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this ain't it, This is not it. I'm swimming upstream.
I'm hustling hard. So it's kind of like, oh, okay,
so you set your goals, right, So then when you
set your goals, you make them actionable. Like I said,
so I'm deciding what's what days that I'm going to
go to school, to classes? What classes am I going
to take? Who's gonna help me with my baby? When
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when I'm in classes? What's gonna happen at the salon
while I'm not there? How do I structure my schedules
so that my clients are coming, you know? So setting goals,
setting actionable goals, goals with actionable steps, That's exactly what
I had to do, actionable steps. Okay, So now as
I'm working towards it, Yeah, sometimes it gets uncomfortable. Yes,
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sometimes when we are getting in the flow, preparing to
get in the flow, right, the preparing to let go
of the side of the bank and stop swimming so
hard and trusting something different. As we get into the flow,
it feels a little uncomfortable. Feels uncomfortable, right, So me
trying to learn and pull all these pieces together, Yes,
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it felt uncomfortable. However, it was starting to feel closer
to where I was supposed to be, closer to it,
closer to where I was supposed to be. And I'm
gonna tell you this, and so I'll say this. When
I decided that, you know, I wasn't living in the flow.
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I was hustling and swimming upstream. And this lifestyle that
I live now was more in the flow. The person
that I would always see every day, and I've told
you all this before. If you're family, then you know
that I would have Oprah Winfrey on the television every
day at the handselt at four o'clock, she was coming on.
And so my goal was I'm like, I'm gonna meet
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Oprah like, I need to get into this thing so
I can meet Oprah like something about this own network
and Oprah to all those things. So all that was
in the lofty goals that I had at first when
I was quiet in my mind. Okay, that was step one,
all right, So now step two, I have my goals together.
Now I'm going to school so that I can learn
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more about the thing that it is that I want
to do. Starting to walk in that direction, I'm starting
to let go of the bank and I'm starting to
almost kind of move into the flow. Okay, as we're
making this analogy of the river of the ocean, right,
but let me tell you about number three. Number three,
you have to be consistent. So whatever it is that
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you're doing, whatever it is that you're choosing to do,
you need to be consistent, be consistent with it. You
Understan saying, if you commit to it, you be consistent,
you show up consistently. You do not have to be perfect.
Don't worry about being perfect with anything in life, because
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nothing is perfect. No, it's not about being perfect. It's
about being consistent. You just keep going and just keep
being consistent.
Speaker 2 (17:27):
You know.
Speaker 1 (17:29):
So me going to school and doing all of the
things and pulling all the things together. I was being
consistent and I wasn't stopping, and I would add more
classes and more classes and getting good grades and deans
liss and all that, and just being consistent. That's it.
Just being consistent helps you position yourself to get in
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the flow sidebar if you want to even think about that.
It's just as I sit here now and I'm doing
this podcast with you, family, I'm doing this episode. This
right here is being consistent. I believe this is the
ninety seventh or the ninety eighth episode that I have
done while doing this podcast. And let me just tell
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you something, family, Don't you ever ever ever be sidetracked
by what other people think? Don't you ever get sidetracked
by thinking or caring about what other people think? Because
I'm gonna tell you something. If I got sidetracked, okay,
(18:40):
about what other people think in regards to this podcast,
then no one would say it to me. But I
would have been in my head about, oh, how many
views are on YouTube and how many views is here,
and oh I'm gonna stop this, but no, no, no, no, no,
see people on the outside. I don't see everything. So
(19:02):
you may not see the views the viewership on the YouTube,
but my viewership, not my viewership, my listenership, okay, which
is where the dollars are. My listenership on podcast is
just rising and rising and rising all over the world.
(19:26):
But it's because I am consistent, not perfect, okay. I
mean even with the podcast, I started off with a producer,
and then after I did that producer the first six weeks,
then I started going to a different company. I had
to go to a different company for them to kind
of do edits. Then I was like, all right, now
(19:49):
we're fifty five weeks in and okay, I did a year,
so maybe it's time for me to just take a break.
And then the whole thing about the people around me
who love me, who listen, it was like, what are
you talking about? Like, no, You're gonna have to find
another way. Encourage me to go back to what I
promised God to do. Right, this is what I'm doing,
getting in the flow, standing on the stage in front
(20:12):
of people, empowering people, and my purpose in alignment. So
then I had some good friends who taught me how
to do my own edits. They taught me how to
do my own edits. I'm like, so I'm paying all
this money to this company and all of the things
which I have no regrets for paying for the company.
(20:33):
I have no regrets. For my producer that did the
first six EPs, no regrets. I thank God. And I'm
very grateful for all of them because I needed them.
I needed them at the time because I didn't know
what I was doing. And I'm grateful for my friends
who taught me how to do things myself. But I'm
telling you this story because I'm trying to let you
know that I understand that it's not always perfect. I
(20:57):
understand that you know that my episodes may not be
edited totally perfectly. But if I waited for perfection, I
would never have done it. And I want you to
think about that in your life. What is holding you back?
What are you procrastinating about that because you are waiting
(21:17):
for it to be perfect, for it to ligne up
perfectly before you do it. Stop doing that. There is
no such thing as perfection hm hmm, except that failure. Falling,
hitting blips is a part of the journey of finding success.
(21:42):
It's a part of the journey. So getting back to
what I'm telling you about is. Number three is just
be consistent. So I show up every week. I show
up every week until I tell you that I'm gonna
take a break. Now, if I tell you I'm gonna
take a break and we're coming off the season and
we're gonna take a break, I ain't told you that yet.
So Andre is gonna show up every week. I'm going
(22:05):
to be consistent. Do you hear what I say? And
and my consistency is showing in my pod cast numbers.
I love it, y'all. Family, You loving it, and I'm
loving that you loving it, Honey, I am loving that
you are loving it makes me tingle. Y'all know I
like the tangle. Okay, So consistency, don't worry about perfection.
(22:27):
Then number four, you gotta trust the process. You have
to trust the process, meaning don't overthinking, don't stop because
if things are not working outright, don't stop because you
can't see past a certain point. You know, you can't
(22:49):
see down the river, and so you don't trust really
letting go and going with the flow. No, I am
telling you that once you do the things you commit
to doing, what this is getting into alignment with what
it is that you desire. In life with what your
purpose is. You're gonna have to make a decision to
(23:10):
trust the process, trust it, let go and stop over
thinking it. And don't care about what other people say,
because all the other people who are judging you or
may be talking about you or you may be afraid
that they have these smart things to say. What they
(23:31):
ain't doing nothing because they're afraid to do anything but
stay stagnant right where they are. So you don't listen
to other people. You never know what other people are
going through. And I will tell you this. Happy people
want of the people to be happy. Nasty people, judgmental people,
(23:55):
people who criticize, they're unhappy. So they want to cause
that same unhappy spirit in your life. So I say,
ignore them, give them the peace, pray for them, and
trust this process. Come on, follow me, jump, jump on
the bandwagon of getting into alignment with what it is
(24:19):
that God has for you for your life's purpose. You know,
ask yourself, what lights you up, what energizes you, what
makes you happy? Let's go forward. Come on, family, go
forward and trust the process. And then number five, Family,
(24:42):
this is the last one, but it's a big one.
This is synchronicity. Want you let me tell y'all something
want you become consistent and then you trust the process
and that's like letting go and you decide to just
float and allow life. I say, God to just take you.
(25:07):
Allow life to just take you, because you already have
your goals. You got me, and so you're being consistent.
You're making the steps to what it's all you gotta
do is keep showing up. Be consistent, not perfect, but consistent.
And you are really trusting the process. You are letting
(25:29):
go of the sides of the things that was holding you,
that you was holding on to for deal life. You
are letting go. You're trusting the process. Now you will
see a lot of synchronicities. And that is how God
shows up. That is the alignment, and it is happens
(25:51):
when you are in flow. It is the moments when
you go, oh my goodness, I could never have a
imagine this and it feels good and I'm not even
fighting it, like this was so easy and I'm so happy.
I'm gonna give you all an example so you know
(26:11):
of me personally and I'm getting some of someone else.
What here we go, real life stuff.
Speaker 2 (26:16):
So hey, family, come on over here, because I have
something for you, starting off with a go to guide
for keeping your.
Speaker 1 (26:29):
Minds healthy and strong. This right here is the Bible
to mental health. It's your mental health Bible. The name
of it is six Pillars to power up your mind
and make mental health a lifestyle. Everything that you need
to know about keeping your minds healthy and strong is
(26:50):
in this go to guide. Where you get it from?
Will you get it from awisebrown dot com backslash shop.
I guess you don't have to go anyplace else to
look for you aromatherapy because your girls got you. Okay,
you can get some aromatherapy here. This is a roma
therapy in this candle. This is called a slice of happiness.
(27:18):
It makes me tingle like literally makes me tingle a
slice of happiness. This is a cruelty free candle with
no parabins, no formaldehyde, and no known suspected carcinogenics. Now,
this one smells delicious and it's good for you. Made
with essential oils. It's a soy candle, all right, y'all.
(27:41):
And oh, I'm a part of you. You're a part
of me. We are a family.
Speaker 2 (27:47):
We got hoodies now and these are unus sex hoodies
and they wear well, they wash well, and they feel
so good. So you can wear them over your clothes,
you know what I'm saying, and look dope.
Speaker 1 (27:59):
Or you can wear them as your clothes with nothing
under them, which I like to do often. And when
you travel everywhere, I mean every time I wear them,
I'm moving around, people are always asking me whether I'm traveling,
going to the supermarket, what's that? Who's stay? And I'm like,
mental health is a lifestyle because see this is on
the back. Okay, they come in white and they come
in black. I'm like, join the family. Mental Health is
(28:21):
a lifestyle podcast. So there you go. Family. Don't you
ever say then I give you nothing. You get all
of these things from awisbrown dot com backslash shop. All right,
I got your goods. I got you. You don't have
to go into place else. I'll see you on the
(28:41):
other side. I was working here at a job in Texas.
I was working with the police department, but I was
working for MHM MARV Terran County and I was working
in the police department. So AnyWho, one day I'm leaving
the police department and I'm going went home. I'm literally
pulling out of now, y'all just follow me on this story.
(29:05):
All of a sudden, I pull over at a light.
I didn't pull over at a light. Uh huh. I'm
gonna tell the whole story. I stopped at a light.
There we go, stopped at a light. And when I
was stopped at a light, I looked down at my
phone and I looked at my email. And as I
looked at my email, now I'm telling y'all, I didn't
reach out to no body. Okay, I look at my email,
(29:28):
and when I looked in my email, I saw an
email from the Oprah Winfrey Network. Producer from the Oprah
Winfrey Network. Okay, all right, So I'm like, huh, so
(29:48):
this was when I pulled over. So I pulled over,
and I remember it was Kentucky Fried Chicken that I
pulled into the parking lot of the Kentucky Fried Chicken.
I can see it now, I can visualize it because
it was smelling good. So I pull over and I
opened up the email, like are my eyes deceiving me?
And oh no, no, no no. It was a producer
(30:09):
that was saying that there was a show on the
Oprah Winfrey Network and that they needed a therapist in
the area in Texas and they needed them to come
on and be the expert. Well, I couldn't crash my car, y'all,
because I had already pulled over and I was parked.
But to like the Oprah like, all of this that
(30:31):
I'm doing now was because of the Oprah Winfrey Network
and the day that I dreamed that I could be
on the Oprah Wimfrey Network. I could not have planned it. Family,
This is what I'm telling you about synchronicity. This is
(30:52):
what I'm telling you about God. This is what I'm
telling you about being in a line, going with the
flow of life, instead of hustling and fighting against the current.
Instead of swimming upstream, going against the current, doing what
(31:14):
you think you you should be doing. Go with what
you know for sure, follow that passion because it will
bring all things together. That is what being in alignment
looks like. So I could not have planned that thing.
(31:36):
There was nothing that I could have done to make
that happen. Beside, do these steps that I'm telling you
to do today. Get in alignment, be consistent, trust the process,
and then synchronicity God shows up. Oh my God, yo,
(31:56):
I have so many stories. So of course I go
on to do that show. And then after doing that show,
just for me, doing that show, other shows newspeople, they
started to uh, there was someone here on the news
in Texas was looking for a therapist, looking for a
therapist to come on and do an expert spot. And
(32:17):
I didn't reach out to any one family, But this
is my dream. I need you to get it. It
was my dream. It was the thing that I dreamed
about when I was in that Hanslone and I felt like,
this ain't it. There's another purpose that is bigger for me,
for me, not for you. You know how, you know whatever,
(32:40):
this is not for you, This is not That's why
I'm telling you check yourself. You ain't got to worry
about checking me because I'm good. But I am telling
you this is I could only dream of this years ago.
I didn't know how did. I just got in the
flow of life. So from that clip that I did
(33:01):
with the Oprah Winfrey or network this network is a
show on her network, I did that and from that
then this news reporter finds me, and the news reporter
reaches out to me. So now I get another email,
okay from the news wanted me to be an expert
because something happened, you know, So from that, I do it.
(33:23):
Boom do it. I'm in I'm an alignment. You hear
what I say, I'm in flow. Yes you want to
do it? Yep? Let me look at my schedule. I'm
gonna make it happen. And it all works. It's all
in sync because whenever you ready to do the recording,
you bring the cameras. I'm ready, okay. Then I do
that one. Then I'm called again to do another one.
Then I'm calling. I didn't reach out at this point.
(33:46):
I didn't reach out to anyone, is what I'm trying
to tell you get and I could not have planned it.
And you know, I love my friends and a lot
of women who I've that on my journey, especially here
in Texas. And sometimes they'll ask me, okay, so you know, like,
so how'd you start doing these spots on TV? I
(34:08):
tell them, listen, it wasn't me. They found me because
it was God. It was in sync. Oh my gosh. Okay,
So that's how that end. Then that snowballs and more
and more and more happens, and there you go. Now
I'm a trusted source Okay, when there's a catastrophe that happens, well, okay,
(34:30):
you know what family I'm gonna tell you. Here's another
one that I want to tell you about. But before
I even tell you that one, it just makes me
think about some of the women who have been on
my podcast and who told me, told stories and told
you stories about just synchronicity and getting in flow. It
(34:50):
makes me think about Martha. My interview with Martha, who
is the what is she? She's the home builder does
home reconstruction and construction designer ran how she started off
by during the pandemic, after losing everything. What she knew
(35:12):
that she could do was to clean up. So she
would clean up in order to take care of her daughters.
And you should go back and watch this episode. So
she was doing some house cleaning and then when she
was doing house cleaning, she moved into meeting somebody and
they asked her to come clean a building. So she
went to clean a building. And while she's in a building,
there's a hole in a wall. So what she says is, well,
(35:37):
they ask her, can you fix the hole in the wall.
She never fixed the hole in the wall before, but
she decides she was in flow. So she said, well,
if the wall needs to be fixed, it's the middle
of the pandemic. This is how feed my kids. I'm
doing that, so I can take on another. And she
figured out she found someone to fix the hole. That
(36:00):
one job of fixing the hole in the wall, this
woman became huge. And now she redesigned homes okay, redesigned
homes for and gets paid tons and tons of money
to do so. In flow showing up being consistent inflow
(36:29):
reminds me of Chanel who was just on him. Told
her story about you know her that she has a
sales tax company, multimillion dollar company, started off just being
in school. Just smart girl. Met her husband. He was
talking to her about it. Kept something that she knew.
Numbers easy for her, photographic memory, numbers easy. She just
(36:51):
got in flow, didn't fight it, got in flow, went
from accounting to more number to now look at the
in flow in sink. God just comes and creates just things.
So let me just let me give you this last example.
(37:11):
This last example just happened to me recently. So one
day my friend called me because she was doing some
kind of mentor. She was doing a mentorship thing, and
these were other women who owned businesses, and they were
kind of coming because she hosts these events where they
(37:32):
come together. So she hosted these events. They came there
into this event and all of a sudden, out of
the blue, at the last minute, now, mem I'm in flow, y'all.
So I'm talking to my clients all day. This was
almost at the end of the day. She texts me
and she says, Sis, I need you what you need
(37:52):
because I'm always gonna be there from a friends what
you need, Sis. So she said, I'm meeting with some
women later tonight and I asked them, you know, what
did they want the topic of discussion to be? And
she said, oh, they said that they want mental health.
And she said, so, since I know that that your expertise,
would you just come out and kind of just you know,
(38:13):
be here and talk to them about, you know, mental
health and say no more, I don't swim upstream. You
feel me things getting to it. It was in alignment. Absolutely,
I get off at this time. What time you need
me to be, no problem, I'm in the flow. Any who, family,
I go there and as I'm there, I'm talking to
(38:34):
the women. I meet some amazing powerful women. It was
a great meeting. But then there was someone else at
this meeting who actually was the one who sponsored, okay,
spend money on the event. And she heard me speak,
I guess, and we introduced ourselves to each other. She
(38:56):
came up to me and she said, you know, I
like what you do. I want you to do something
else for me. So AnyWho, I did something else in
the flow family. Okay, did something else for her. Whatever
you need me to do. Whatever I'm in the flow family,
(39:16):
I did it synchronicity. I can't. I could not have
told my friend call me on this day. You understand,
I couldn't orchestrate it. This is God in sync, being
in sync when you're in the flow. I'm consistent. I
do this work every day. I get on this podcast
(39:38):
every week. I talk to my closet. I empowered them
every day. You and what I say in the flow
in the flow okay. So then from that situation, after
I do the thing that she has me do, then
she sends me a message. And this happened last week.
(39:58):
She sent me a message. Oh this was a month ago,
and she said, oh, listen, I thought about you. There
is this event where they're asking for vendors of women
owned companies, and she said, you have products. Correct, absolutely, y'all.
I'm in the flow, you and me. Absolutely. So she said, okay, well,
(40:22):
let's see. I want to see if I can get
you a table there. Family, I couldn't do this for myself.
Do you understand in the flow I could do in
a line, I couldn't do it for myself. I wouldn't
have known what to do. I wouldn't have who to
call how to She said, they have thirteen thousand employees.
(40:46):
So whatever you have that you are selling, because she
believes in me, got me. She sees them because she
sees I know my stuff. You understand, she ain't ashamed
to send me nowhere. Okay, family, you hear That's what
I'm saying. In the flow, they got thirteen thousand employees,
and I'm gonna see if I can get you a
table there. Hallelujah, got me a table there? And family,
(41:12):
when I tell you, let me tell you something. I
didn't stop it, you know, because years ago, when I
as a vendor, I haven't really did too much vendoring.
Maybe a few times before, but usually if I have
when I would have my book signings, I could always
you know, I always wanted to sell my stuff. Right
if I have book signings or if I'm speaking somewhere,
(41:35):
you know, I can actually vend it, but actually means
just showing up by myself as a vendor. I've done
it maybe a few times before, and those times I've
always felt like I needed somebody else there. Okay, So
like let's say, if I'm talking to somebody I'm trying
to sell, you need somebody that's ringing up the stuff,
putting the stuff in bags and doing all those things. Well,
so let me tell you that's what fear is, right
(41:57):
because on this time, okay, last week, all right, when
it was time for me to go and do this event,
when that little fear popped up, like oh my gosh,
you're gonna need to ask somebody else to come and
help you, there was nothing in my spirit that said, yeah,
that was swimming upstream, okay, because the second thought of
(42:18):
well who and then who's gonna take off? Then how
much do I have to pay? That was swimming upstream. Family,
I said, oh no, no, no, no, no, Andrea, you
are going with the flow. And let me tell y'all
what Andrea did. She packed her stuff up. Okay, she
packed it all up, she made drove there two trips
into the building, and it was some far trips, and
(42:41):
it was a little hot, and I was doing a
little sweat, and now I got a little moist. Okay, However,
nothing that a little legs and little paper towel and
pat down wasn't gonna fix. But I pulled up. You
hear me? And when I tell you the table that
God had me sitting at in position all right in
(43:01):
the middle of the cafeteria by all the doors, so
I could not be missed. And this is I'm just
telling you what it feels like for me to be
in flow. I couldn't have called these people before and said,
oh put me here, put me. I wouldn't even have
known where and what God, in sync synchronicity, being in
(43:27):
the Flow family, had me in position. Do you hear
what I say? And the two tables that were already
set up to be sitting right next to me, they
didn't even show up. So when I said I had
prime real estate okay in the floor, and here I go,
this is so important. And then I'm done. And usually
(43:51):
when you're a vendor, you have to pay okay for
that real estate. So there's usually a fee. No fee.
Do you hear what? You hear what I'm talking about?
When you're in sync and you inflowing, goddessh showing you listen,
trust me. I didn't pay one fee. Do you hear me?
(44:11):
And when I tell you I sold out of almost everything,
I sold out almost everything and I could not plan it. So, family,
I am encouraging you to get in your flow. Stop
(44:36):
swimming upstream, get in alignment. Number one, Get quiet and
ask yourself, journal metal, meditate, ask yourself what is it
that I want? What is it that I dream of?
What is it? Get clear about it. Number two. Set
some goals with some actionable steps, and usually those goals
(44:58):
should be aligned with your values. Number three. Once you
get those steps together, you start walking consistently. Be consistent.
Don't worry about being perfect. Be consistent. Number four. Don't
let fear come up. Don't let thinking about what other
people say and what they do fump all that. Trust
(45:20):
the process. Let go stop swimming upstream and flow, let
go of the side, trust the flow of life. Trust
the process, and then you will see number five synchronicity.
You will see God show up Okay, family, I love
(45:44):
this for you because I love it for me. So
I love it for you and I love me some youth.
So that is another episode. Up the Mental Health is
a lifestyle podcast with your Girl Andrea wise Brown and family.
(46:11):
I will see you next week on the next episode.
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