August 5, 2025 • 37 mins
Finding your passion is a journey of self-discovery, and while there’s no one-size-fits-all approach, here are some practical steps you can take to uncover what truly excites and energizes you. Stay patient and curious along the way!
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Mental Health is a Lifestyle Podcast with Andrea Wise-Brown, is where we discuss practical strategies for managing mental health and wellbeing.
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The purpose is to support men and women while giving them the tools and space to heal emotionally, psychologically and physiologically.
Mental Health is a Lifestyle Podcast with Andrea Wise-Brown, is where we discuss practical strategies for managing mental health and wellbeing.
Thank you for listening to this episode of Mental Health is a Lifestyle Podcast. We hope you found these practical tips helpful and encourage you to continue prioritizing your mental health and wellness.
If you have any questions or suggestions for future episodes, please email us at mhialpodcast@gmail.com.
See you next time!
Find Andrea: awisebrown.com
Follow The Podcast At @mentalhealthisalifestylepod Mhialpodcast@gmail.com I want to know your opinions…….
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
This podcast is not a substitute for a relationship with
your mental health professional. Hey hey, hey family, Welcome back
to the Mental Health is a lifestyle podcast with your girl,
Andrea wise Brown. Hey, family, I am so excited to
(00:28):
see you again this week on this episode. Oh and
if you have not joined the family and you're just
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Speaker 2 (00:41):
Join the family. I would love for you to stay.
Speaker 1 (00:45):
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then jump and leave a comment. You can comment on
(01:05):
YouTube and you know, give your opinions of this episode
or any other episode that you've watched. All right, family,
let's get into it. So today's family, I want to know,
as yep, we are the second week into the new year.
Speaker 2 (01:23):
I want to know, have you found your purpose?
Speaker 1 (01:28):
Your purpose in life, the thing that you are passionate about.
Have you connected to your purpose? My belief is that
everyone has plenty of talents to serve plenty of purposes,
but the purpose is rooted in connecting to someone else.
Speaker 2 (01:52):
In some other way.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
Now, the reason why I am asking you have you
actually found what you're passionate about or what your purpose
is is a lot of times people will form businesses
that support their purpose, their work and doing things that
they are passionate about. So for me, this is an example.
(02:16):
I'm already start off by talking about me. The example
is what I do in life as a psychotherapist.
Speaker 2 (02:24):
You know, I have a private practice and.
Speaker 1 (02:26):
I see clients and I am obsessed with what I do.
Speaker 2 (02:32):
When I tell you, I love it.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
I am so passionate about what it is that I do,
what it is that I do every single day. I
am passionate and I am serving purpose because I am
helping people get to the core of their issues, the
core of the reasons why they have barriers in life,
(02:57):
so that we can eradicate those barriers so that they
can live the lives that they deserve, the lives that
they yearn, the lives that they desire.
Speaker 2 (03:07):
And I love it. I love it.
Speaker 1 (03:09):
I love it when I can help a person meet
them wherever they are and help them.
Speaker 2 (03:17):
To identify a space in.
Speaker 1 (03:20):
Their life where they feel like they aren't really being fulfilled,
and I can help them to identify whatever that thing is,
and once we identify it, and I kind of show
it to them and I teach them where it came
from and how it got there and how they got there,
and then they go from the cloudiness.
Speaker 2 (03:44):
Of the unknown to the harm moment.
Speaker 1 (03:48):
When people my clients get that aha moment that I
help them find, that's just like, oh my goodness, oh aha,
Like that's it, Like that's the and now why I
can switch the light on change my life in that
way and go from darkness into light. That moment for
(04:10):
me is everything. Like family, I live for that moment.
Speaker 2 (04:16):
So the work that I'm doing now, I am serving purpose.
Speaker 1 (04:21):
I know this is a part of the purpose that
I'm here on this earth. But I'm also very passionate
about it. I love what I do and I get
paid for it. So this is a job that I
do even when I'm not even in the office getting
paid because I am so passionate about it.
Speaker 2 (04:42):
However, I will tell you and.
Speaker 1 (04:45):
You guys know, I believe you know that this is
a second career for me. So initially, when I first
started my work career, I started off as a licensed
cosmetologist and I owned a hair salon. And I owned
a hair salon in New Jersey for eleven years.
Speaker 2 (05:03):
Now. This is a thing.
Speaker 1 (05:05):
This is what I tell you when I say to you,
God will give us many talents. And you know, I
do believe that our purpose can change over our lifespan
plenty of different times, you know, because depending on what
stage of life you're in, you could be serving one
purpose at one time, and then you know, the next
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part of life that you're in, then life span that
you're in or experiencing, you could then have another purpose.
Right because while we're here on this earth, we should
be expanding, we shall be we should be thriving, and
we should also be adapting to all of the things
that we learn and all of the things that we experience.
(05:51):
So we should not actually be the same person who
we were at sixteen eighteen when we're thirty, you know,
And we shouldn't be the same at forty that we
were at thirty, and then we shouldn't be the same
at fifty that we were at thirty. You know, you
get the idea. So the changing and finding purpose and
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different purposes during.
Speaker 2 (06:16):
Our lifespan is healthy, it really is.
Speaker 1 (06:20):
So getting back to my story, when I first started
to work in my work career, I mean, I've done
side jobs. However, I was a licensed cosmetologist and I
was really good at doing hair. Hair was my thing.
So you know, as a cosmetologist, at least in New Jersey,
you learn skin when you're licensed, depending on the license
(06:41):
that you go for. But as a cosmetologist, you know
you can do skin, you know, facials, all of those
things you could do, you know, nails and feet, you know, manicures, pedicures,
all of those things, and then you can do hair.
And so yes, I was license to do all of
those things, waxing, all of that, but my specialty was
(07:05):
hair and it was something that I was really really.
Speaker 2 (07:08):
Good at, very good at doing hair.
Speaker 1 (07:11):
And thank god, I had a lot of clients, a
lot of clientele who I loved, who were like family
to me. Some of them do listen to the podcast
I Love y'all Drea's unique image. I love you, love you,
love you. But they were like family to me. But
I mean, you know what I mean, I did that
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hair and it was amazing. I loved doing hair at
that time because I was creative, and it also fed
me and my family, right. It also provided a place
for other women to work with me who were also
my family, who I love so much. It also provided
a community, you know, for women to get together, so
(07:55):
that we can come together and we could talk, and
we could build and we could learn. So the salon
was very purposeful and my job was purposeful because it
helped to pull women together so that they all they
felt beautiful, they looked beautiful, and it added to their
sense of self esteem and well being.
Speaker 2 (08:15):
So I was serving a purpose then, and as I
keep saying, I.
Speaker 1 (08:19):
Was good at it and it took care of me
financially at that time. But as I was doing the work,
I realized at some point that I was not being fulfilled.
I wasn't being fulfilled. So yeah, I was being purposeful,
but I Andrea, I wasn't being fulfilled because it changed
(08:42):
from me actually doing the hair and you know, learning
new hairstyles and you know, going to you know, hair
shows so that I could sharpen my craft. So it
was going from that to really for me just keeping
and building the relations and ships with my family, with
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my client tele like the client tell for me was
the best part of the experience. So it really had
gotten to a place where just the women coming in
and we knew each other by names.
Speaker 2 (09:15):
I mean, we'd go on you know.
Speaker 1 (09:17):
I remember there's a casino in Jersey and the casinos
were in Atlantic City, and that was like a thing
that we would do, was, you know, we would.
Speaker 2 (09:26):
Charter a bus go to Atlantic City. We would have
card parties at the salon.
Speaker 1 (09:33):
We would bring food on certain days, we'd be we'd
have we'd have the music.
Speaker 2 (09:38):
It'd be great.
Speaker 1 (09:40):
Even in addition to that, you know, I'm just sitting
back and thinking, you know, you know, just my brothers
in the community. You know, people would always just stop by.
It could be family members and they always knew what
my salon was and sometimes just out of the blue
because I was always working, just like now, I'm always working,
but they would stop by. So it was just really
(10:02):
a place that I had that just supported community. So
it was amazing and I was loving that more so
than loving hair. So at that point I realized, Andrea,
there's something else that you need to be doing. And
this also was at the time when Oprah Winfrey would
(10:24):
come on and many of you may know this story.
Oprah Winfrey would come on the television it was the
Oprah Winfrey Show, and it would be she would come
on at four o'clock.
Speaker 2 (10:33):
You know, every day, well, in my salone at four.
Speaker 1 (10:36):
O'clock, Connie, I don't care what we was watching all day,
because sometimes we watch movies, but I don't care what
was going on. It was gonna stop at four o'clock
because we were gonna watch Oprah. And then there was
this series that Oprah had where Eon lavan Zant was on,
and she would always be talking about your life's purpose,
and so, you know, I just became enlightened about ooh, okay,
(11:01):
you know I'm doing well at what I'm doing, you know,
you know, I mean, I'm pretty good, but but I'm.
Speaker 2 (11:12):
Just not I'm not passionate, like I lost a passion.
Speaker 1 (11:15):
You know, I should be loving the thing that I do,
opposed to just loving the women that I'm serving.
Speaker 2 (11:22):
And so as I started to think about, well.
Speaker 1 (11:25):
What is the thing that I would really love to do,
what would my new what would my new purpose be?
You know what else am I passionate about? And it
took me some time to figure it out. And that's
why I want to help you a family, to figure
that out.
Speaker 2 (11:42):
I really want to know.
Speaker 1 (11:43):
Have you ever asked yourself if the job that you're
doing now. Is that what you're passionate about. Do you
feel like you are serving your purpose? Do you feel
like you're serving a purpose? Are you connecting to others
in some way? I'm just wondering.
Speaker 2 (12:02):
Have you ever asked yourself, like, you know, family, are
any of you?
Speaker 1 (12:08):
Are you a baker and you love to bake cookies
or you love to you know, baked cakes, you know,
do little specialty things where when you bake for a person,
not only does it taste good, but it makes a
person feel good, like they light up, they smile when
they receive something that you've baked, or when you when
they tasted something that you. You know, are you a baker?
(12:31):
Is it something that you love to do? You know,
I'm just wondering, what is something that you love to do?
Or maybe cooking is that something that you love to do?
Like you just, you know, no matter what, you could
have a hard day at work and when you come
home and it doesn't matter what you went through during
the day, when you come home and you get in
(12:51):
that kitchen, you can cut your music on and then
you really will just go into cooking and then you
literally you're so passionate about it that you can't wait
for somebody else to taste your cooking. I'm wondering, huh, Family,
have you ever thought about what you could be passionate
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about or if you are actually serving your purpose right now? Well,
if you haven't done so already, I am going to
encourage you to do so, because when you align with
whatever your purpose is and what you're passionate about, you
will expand on your happiness and your quality of life.
Speaker 2 (13:38):
Your quality of life.
Speaker 1 (13:39):
And you know other people have come to me before
and said to me, you know, Andrea, I really do
want to find what my purpose is.
Speaker 2 (13:48):
You know what my purpose is? And how do I
even find it?
Speaker 1 (13:52):
So the first thing, Family, here we go, because I'm
gonna give you all the tools to do so.
Speaker 2 (13:57):
I'm gonna just give you four little things.
Speaker 1 (13:58):
So the first thing I would ask you, if you're
trying to find your purpose in life and what you're
passionate about, is I would ask.
Speaker 2 (14:08):
What do you love to do? So, yeah, I want
you to take time and ask yourself what is it?
You know, what is it that I love to do?
Just love to do?
Speaker 1 (14:23):
Okay, So then you might come up with a lot
of different things that you love to do.
Speaker 2 (14:27):
You know, someone just recently told me that they love
riding the bike.
Speaker 1 (14:32):
Okay, so if you don't want to, or maybe you
do want to own a bicycle shop, or maybe you
want to teach people how to ride bikes.
Speaker 2 (14:42):
Or whatever it is, you know, or maybe you want
to start.
Speaker 1 (14:45):
A bike riding club where it's not really that you
want to earn money, but you just really want to
do what you're passionate about. I mean, it could be that,
but so that was something that they told me that
they love to do. So with this now, as I'm saying,
I just want you to kind of have this knowing
so that you create more happiness and joy in your life.
(15:09):
But it doesn't necessarily mean that you have to start
a business. However, I am going to encourage you to
start a business. Why not start a business doing whatever
the thing is that you do that you love to do.
Speaker 2 (15:25):
And if you start a.
Speaker 1 (15:26):
Business doing whatever it is that you love to do,
then working is always a.
Speaker 2 (15:32):
Piece of cake. Do y'all feel what I'm saying? You know,
when you're working, it just doesn't kill.
Speaker 1 (15:41):
You just to be working because it's something that you
enjoy and something that you love to do, so let
me skirt on over to Okay, So I had this
actualization about the hair thing. Didn't want to do that,
but I love people and I had to ask myself.
Is an e on the way say back then? She
(16:01):
said at the time, honey, get on your belly, get
on the ground, and roll around in the dirt on your.
Speaker 2 (16:07):
Belly and just ask yourself.
Speaker 1 (16:08):
Well, I mean I rolled around on the ground and
I rolled around in the dirt and it just didn't
come up for me. But then I do remember sitting
with one of my good friends and we were going
through this together because I'm asking her and she's asking me,
because we were always on this.
Speaker 2 (16:24):
Trail of personal groom.
Speaker 1 (16:26):
And one day another question that helped me clarify what
I love.
Speaker 2 (16:33):
To do that came to me was if I had.
Speaker 1 (16:37):
All of the money in the world. So I'm gonna
ask you family. I want you all to listen. If
you have all of the money in the world, meaning
your bills are paid for so you don't have to
worry about you know, the roof over your head, you
know the shoes on your feet, clothes on your back,
you know the.
Speaker 2 (16:56):
Car that you do. All that is taken care of
then what.
Speaker 1 (17:00):
Would you do with your time because you're going to
gravitate towards what you love to do, what you enjoy doing.
Speaker 2 (17:09):
And when I ask.
Speaker 1 (17:10):
Myself that, I said, okay, if I took all the
bills off the table, honey, what is it that I
would love to do?
Speaker 2 (17:17):
And family, do you know what came up? For me?
It was in power others. It was always to empower others,
to show them all.
Speaker 1 (17:32):
Of the beauty and the power, the brilliance, the intelligence,
the strength that they have inside of themselves, to help
them identify that because I know I can see it and.
Speaker 2 (17:48):
Then turn it up so that they can use.
Speaker 1 (17:51):
That to get anything that they desired in life. Like
that is Andrea, that is what I would do if
I was getting paid for or if I was not,
because I realized that that was something that I was
always doing. So you know, even when clients were sitting
in my chair every week, they would always come back
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to tell me, you know, things that were going.
Speaker 2 (18:14):
On in their lives.
Speaker 1 (18:15):
And you probably have this experience when you go if
you're a man and you go to the barbershop or
your woman and you go to the beauty salon or
get your nails done, man, woman, whatever it is. But
you usually, I don't know, for some reason, you find
safety in this person who's not in your family, who's
outside your family, and for some reason you assume that
they're not gonna tell nobody else your business.
Speaker 2 (18:36):
I just don't know.
Speaker 1 (18:37):
But AnyWho, my clients would always come and talk to
me about some of the deepest stuff, and you know,
and they would always ask me for my advice, and
I would give them my advice at the time, just
because that's who I am. It was not studied advice.
It was not advice rooted in research, okay, like now
(19:00):
my advice is. But it was really just me as
a lay person. But it was because it was a
gift that God had already given me. If I went
a little bit deeper, I also realized that you know,
even as a little girl, you know, before I even
became a teenager, as a little girl, I was always
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the little girl or the friend that everybody would ask
advice to. They'd always ask me for my advice, and
I'd always give it. It wasn't studied, but it wasn't
be I'm sorry. It wasn't research base, okay, but I
would give.
Speaker 2 (19:39):
My opinions all the time and people wanted it.
Speaker 1 (19:42):
So at this point I'm like, okay, Andrea, I got it,
Like this is what this is who you are, and
this is something that you would love to do.
Speaker 2 (19:52):
This is what you love to do. Is you love
to give advice? Okay? All right?
Speaker 1 (19:57):
So family, I'm asking you, what is it that you
love to do? Identify the things that you love to do.
Please identify it. And even if all of your bills
were covered and you was just you know, the days
would just go by because you'd get bored of this
because you'd probably your first instinct would you probably would
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say to me that if all my bills was covering, Andrea,
I wouldn't do nothing.
Speaker 2 (20:22):
I would just lay around all day.
Speaker 1 (20:24):
Well, I'm going to challenge that thought because I think
at some point you will get bored. And when you
get bored with what would you do with your time?
And it's gonna be something you love to do. And
for me, it would be people would be calling me
and I'd be given advice or I'd be encouraging.
Speaker 2 (20:39):
Them to live bigger, you know, to do more to
get out of there.
Speaker 1 (20:44):
But all of the things I do now, I would
be encouraging them to do. So that was pretty much
how I For me, I found the thing that I
love to do serving my purpose.
Speaker 2 (20:54):
What I was passionate about. Number two.
Speaker 1 (20:57):
The second thing family that I would ask you to
do is I would ask you to ask yourself, what
are you willing to sacrifice for?
Speaker 2 (21:06):
What are you willing to sacrifice for?
Speaker 1 (21:09):
So, just going back to me and my story, you know,
when I thought about this, it may be the thing.
Speaker 2 (21:15):
That I want to do, okay, is give advice. And
I also realized that when I would give.
Speaker 1 (21:22):
Advice to some people, you know, they would be in
some situations that weren't really favorable.
Speaker 2 (21:29):
They didn't like being in a situation. That's why they
talked to me about it.
Speaker 1 (21:32):
And then when I would talk to them about it,
I would validate that, yeah, that wasn't a healthy situation.
Speaker 2 (21:37):
You might want to do this now or not that.
Speaker 1 (21:39):
But I couldn't understand back then at the time why
people would come back to me get in my chair again,
whether it was one week or two weeks. Every two
weeks so every week, and they would still be in
the same situation.
Speaker 2 (21:52):
So we would still talk about that same situation over
and over. Again. So for me, I just couldn't understand
what is dad? What was the thing? Why is it
that people don't change behavior?
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Speaker 2 (23:46):
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(24:20):
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Speaker 2 (24:27):
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Speaker 1 (24:28):
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Speaker 1 (25:13):
So now for me that I have this new awakening
while still owning the salon, having a brand new baby,
I owning a home. I really was trying to figure out, Okay,
if I give advice.
Speaker 2 (25:30):
Why you said that the people don't take advice.
Speaker 1 (25:33):
Then what am I going to have to do so
that I can get really good at this purpose, at
this passion?
Speaker 2 (25:41):
Like what am I What do I need to do?
Speaker 1 (25:44):
What sacrifices do I need to make in order to
do whatever this new thing is? Give advice to do
it and to do it well? To do it well?
Because this is another thing that I'm going to take.
Tell you that I realized about myself at age nineteen,
is that I am an entrepreneur.
Speaker 2 (26:06):
So I know for sure.
Speaker 1 (26:08):
I know for sure that whatever business it is that
I am going to be in, when I am going
to be working every day, I'm going to have to
own it.
Speaker 2 (26:18):
I am going to have to own this business.
Speaker 1 (26:20):
But before I can own a business, I need to
know every single thing that is to know about the business,
which is exactly what I did before I owned my
hair salon. So coming back to the second question, what
are you willing to sacrifice for?
Speaker 2 (26:38):
And for me? I was willing to sacrifice my time.
Speaker 1 (26:43):
I was willing to sacrifice hours and clients at the salon.
I was willing to sacrifice the fact that I needed
to get a loan to go to school. I was
willing to sacrifice evenings by going to college so that
I could learn everything that there was to learn about
(27:04):
the brain and human behavior because I needed to get
that what is that thing?
Speaker 2 (27:11):
Why is it that people don't change their behavior?
Speaker 1 (27:14):
So I was willing to sacrifice a lot, Okay, but
for this thing that I was passionate about because I
wanted to know, I really wanted to understand it. And
so I'm just going to ask you, what are you
willing to sacrifice for, Like, is there something that you
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want to sacrifice for?
Speaker 2 (27:37):
You know, I don't know what is it? What could
it be?
Speaker 1 (27:42):
So I think you could ask yourself that what would
you sacrifice for? So let's just say if you have
this passion to design, you know, to do home designs,
like you have a passion to do it, you could
walk in the room and you could look at things
and identify what needs to go here, what needs to
go there, Like you really want to design, you know,
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spaces and homes. So if that's something that you just
do just generally, and it's something that you know, you
really found out that you love to do it, But
I'm gonna ask you would you sacrifice for it? Like
sacrifice maybe is money to buy magazines?
Speaker 2 (28:20):
You know?
Speaker 1 (28:21):
Is it sacrifice? And is it going to design school?
Is it joining some design groups? Is it getting a
mentor and using spending some of your time with a mentor?
Is this something that you would be willing to sacrifice for?
You have the answer to that, family, come on now,
I'm waking you up.
Speaker 2 (28:39):
And if so, I'd be like, oh, okay, I might
be passionate about this.
Speaker 1 (28:46):
This might be maybe a purpose that I'm supposed to
be serving number three family, I would ask you what
energizes you the same thing?
Speaker 2 (28:58):
What is the thing that energized you?
Speaker 1 (29:00):
So going back to my story, I told you earlier
that when a person has is sitting in a space
of turmoil and darkness, I'll just say that figuratively darkness.
And you know, in a space of turmoil, and obviously
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on the route that they're going, they.
Speaker 2 (29:22):
Keep creating more turmoil.
Speaker 1 (29:24):
And more darkness, Honey, when they come to me and
I can help them to stop that turmoil, help to
pull them out of that, help them to pull themselves
out of it, and I can help them click the
light on, baby, it energizes me. That makes me so happy,
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you know, I tingle from my toes all the way
up to my head. When I can help somebody out
of a dark space and walk into their own light,
that for me is everything. It gives me energy, and
then I'm inspired to go on and to do it
again and to do it again. See, this wasn't happening
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for hair when I first started hair. And you could
come in looking like y'all, remember Martin what he would say,
You want to come in, You want to look like
I don't know, halle Berry, but you come in here
looking like Shannae.
Speaker 2 (30:23):
Well, when you came into me in the early days
and you was looking like Shane Nee and then your
girl me Andrea would do you all.
Speaker 1 (30:32):
Up and then turn you around to the mirror, and
you got up feeling like I'm a quotations halle Berry.
That for me used to energize me. But then that
only served a purpose for a certain amount of time.
That got real old. Wasn't a big deal. I'm like, okay, yeah, okay,
that was too easy for me. But this thing, this
new thing, honey, a psychology, you know, human behavior, the
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mind shift, being empowered.
Speaker 2 (30:59):
Created, Helping people to create that and their lives gives
me so much energy.
Speaker 1 (31:04):
So I'm gonna ask you, family, if it's bike riding
and somebody keeps falling off of a bike, they don't
know how to get stay up on the bike and
balance themselves. But after they finished with you and then
they realize, oh my god, I found my balance and
they could literally stay on the bike and go on
the trail and feel confident and.
Speaker 2 (31:26):
Ride all over the world. Does that energize you and
make you feel good? Because you were a part of that.
Speaker 1 (31:32):
You serving purpose if you know, you sacrifice and you
learn about design and you start designing rooms and homes
and when people walk in after the home that they've
seen before or that they've had before that they really
didn't like or they were over, but you help them
to create something new. You did with your creation, with
what you knew, and then when they walk in and
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they like they have the aha, does that energize you?
That might be a passion that serving purpose. The same
thing about you bakers out.
Speaker 2 (32:04):
There, when you bake something and somebody.
Speaker 1 (32:07):
Tastes it and they go m mmmm, like it just
makes them so happy?
Speaker 2 (32:14):
Does that energize you?
Speaker 1 (32:16):
Or if you cook a meal and then a person
gets happy when they eat it or they put up
those reviews or they tell other people, does that make
you happy?
Speaker 2 (32:26):
That might be a passion of yours where you.
Speaker 1 (32:29):
Could serve purpose and like me, be an entrepreneur and
create a business where you're getting paid for something that
you love to do. Come on, family, and then this
is the last one I'm going to drop, and I'm
gonna reiterate.
Speaker 2 (32:45):
This during this process.
Speaker 1 (32:48):
First, you're gonna ask yourself when you're trying to figure
out what is my purpose? How do I serve purpose here?
What is my passion? What am I passionate about? Because
I really might want to make that a career or
if it's not my primary career, maybe a secondary career
where it still expands on my quality of life? So
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what is that thing? And you can't figure it out?
That's what I'm giving you the steps for. First, you're
gonna ask yourself what is it that I love to do?
What do I love to do? Then when you identify
what is it that you love the thing that you
love to do or the things that you love to do,
then you're gonna ask yourself because I want you to
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confirm it. Here's another question because maybe that one doesn't
hit you in the same way. You're gonna ask yourself,
what am I willing to sacrifice for? What is the
thing that I'm willing to put my energy in that
I'm gonna sacrifice other things for? What is that thing?
But it makes me happy? It fills me up? Then
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if you don't get it there, you can ask yourself.
This third question is what energizes you? What gives me energy?
Like once I do it and it's done, Like, what
is the thing that just it just makes me happy?
And I just feel like my body just feels zesty
after I do it? What gives me energy? You know,
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it could be I'm just thinking about nursing. One of
my best friends, Like, she's a nurse and she loves nursing.
She loves taking care of people.
Speaker 2 (34:22):
She loves it.
Speaker 1 (34:23):
She loves it when you come in to the facility
that she works at and you may not be doing
so well, but after she cares for you, she likes
to see your progression over the days that you're there
in her care. That lightens her up, that gives her energy.
So she is serving a purpose by doing something she's
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passionate about. But number four, it's trusting God through this process.
Y'all know this is the big one. It's to trust
God because God has given you so many gifts and
your work here on this earth doesn't just have to
be this one thing that's hum drum and so mundane,
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and it's the thing that you hate to do so
and even when you're doing it, you feel unfulfilled.
Speaker 2 (35:15):
Like no, God is miraculous.
Speaker 1 (35:19):
God created you to do miraculous things and to find
happiness and joy in your doings. So he gives you
many talents, gives us all many talents. He gives us
many passions, and he gives us these passions so that
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we serve purpose. So, family, I am asking you to
do some in a work this year. Come on, now
we in this new year, and I want you to
really ask yourself because I am here to encourage you
to expand your quality of life life so that you
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can have joy while we are here on this earth,
were only here for a certain amount of years. What
are you passionate about? What is your purpose? Come on, family,
let's do some inner work and we're gonna show it
in an outer way, and your family, I'm gonna tell
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you when you think about it in Another one of
my passions that.
Speaker 2 (36:28):
I serve purpose with is this podcast.
Speaker 1 (36:32):
And it's really just me talking, inspiring, uplifting because my
goal and the intention here is to empower you, to
enlighten you and to educate you so that you live
your best life, so that you live the life that
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you desire.
Speaker 2 (36:55):
So, family, thank you for showing up here with me
again for another episode.
Speaker 1 (37:03):
Honey, as I serve my purpose with this passion of mine,
another episode of The Mental Health is a lifestyle podcast
with Me, your girl, Andrea Wise Brown and family. Come on,
do this work and I Am going to see you
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next week on the next episode you I want you
to always remember I love you.
This podcast is not a substitute for a relationship with
your mental health professional. Hey hey, hey family, Welcome back
to the Mental Health is a lifestyle podcast with your girl,
Andrea wise Brown. Hey, family, I am so excited to
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see you again this week on this episode. Oh and
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Speaker 2 (00:41):
Join the family. I would love for you to stay.
Speaker 1 (00:45):
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YouTube and you know, give your opinions of this episode
or any other episode that you've watched. All right, family,
let's get into it. So today's family, I want to know,
as yep, we are the second week into the new year.
Speaker 2 (01:23):
I want to know, have you found your purpose?
Speaker 1 (01:28):
Your purpose in life, the thing that you are passionate about.
Have you connected to your purpose? My belief is that
everyone has plenty of talents to serve plenty of purposes,
but the purpose is rooted in connecting to someone else.
Speaker 2 (01:52):
In some other way.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
Now, the reason why I am asking you have you
actually found what you're passionate about or what your purpose
is is a lot of times people will form businesses
that support their purpose, their work and doing things that
they are passionate about. So for me, this is an example.
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I'm already start off by talking about me. The example
is what I do in life as a psychotherapist.
Speaker 2 (02:24):
You know, I have a private practice and.
Speaker 1 (02:26):
I see clients and I am obsessed with what I do.
Speaker 2 (02:32):
When I tell you, I love it.
Speaker 1 (02:35):
I am so passionate about what it is that I do,
what it is that I do every single day. I
am passionate and I am serving purpose because I am
helping people get to the core of their issues, the
core of the reasons why they have barriers in life,
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so that we can eradicate those barriers so that they
can live the lives that they deserve, the lives that
they yearn, the lives that they desire.
Speaker 2 (03:07):
And I love it. I love it.
Speaker 1 (03:09):
I love it when I can help a person meet
them wherever they are and help them.
Speaker 2 (03:17):
To identify a space in.
Speaker 1 (03:20):
Their life where they feel like they aren't really being fulfilled,
and I can help them to identify whatever that thing is,
and once we identify it, and I kind of show
it to them and I teach them where it came
from and how it got there and how they got there,
and then they go from the cloudiness.
Speaker 2 (03:44):
Of the unknown to the harm moment.
Speaker 1 (03:48):
When people my clients get that aha moment that I
help them find, that's just like, oh my goodness, oh aha,
Like that's it, Like that's the and now why I
can switch the light on change my life in that
way and go from darkness into light. That moment for
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me is everything. Like family, I live for that moment.
Speaker 2 (04:16):
So the work that I'm doing now, I am serving purpose.
Speaker 1 (04:21):
I know this is a part of the purpose that
I'm here on this earth. But I'm also very passionate
about it. I love what I do and I get
paid for it. So this is a job that I
do even when I'm not even in the office getting
paid because I am so passionate about it.
Speaker 2 (04:42):
However, I will tell you and.
Speaker 1 (04:45):
You guys know, I believe you know that this is
a second career for me. So initially, when I first
started my work career, I started off as a licensed
cosmetologist and I owned a hair salon. And I owned
a hair salon in New Jersey for eleven years.
Speaker 2 (05:03):
Now. This is a thing.
Speaker 1 (05:05):
This is what I tell you when I say to you,
God will give us many talents. And you know, I
do believe that our purpose can change over our lifespan
plenty of different times, you know, because depending on what
stage of life you're in, you could be serving one
purpose at one time, and then you know, the next
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part of life that you're in, then life span that
you're in or experiencing, you could then have another purpose.
Right because while we're here on this earth, we should
be expanding, we shall be we should be thriving, and
we should also be adapting to all of the things
that we learn and all of the things that we experience.
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So we should not actually be the same person who
we were at sixteen eighteen when we're thirty, you know,
And we shouldn't be the same at forty that we
were at thirty, and then we shouldn't be the same
at fifty that we were at thirty. You know, you
get the idea. So the changing and finding purpose and
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different purposes during.
Speaker 2 (06:16):
Our lifespan is healthy, it really is.
Speaker 1 (06:20):
So getting back to my story, when I first started
to work in my work career, I mean, I've done
side jobs. However, I was a licensed cosmetologist and I
was really good at doing hair. Hair was my thing.
So you know, as a cosmetologist, at least in New Jersey,
you learn skin when you're licensed, depending on the license
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that you go for. But as a cosmetologist, you know
you can do skin, you know, facials, all of those
things you could do, you know, nails and feet, you know, manicures, pedicures,
all of those things, and then you can do hair.
And so yes, I was license to do all of
those things, waxing, all of that, but my specialty was
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hair and it was something that I was really really.
Speaker 2 (07:08):
Good at, very good at doing hair.
Speaker 1 (07:11):
And thank god, I had a lot of clients, a
lot of clientele who I loved, who were like family
to me. Some of them do listen to the podcast
I Love y'all Drea's unique image. I love you, love you,
love you. But they were like family to me. But
I mean, you know what I mean, I did that
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hair and it was amazing. I loved doing hair at
that time because I was creative, and it also fed
me and my family, right. It also provided a place
for other women to work with me who were also
my family, who I love so much. It also provided
a community, you know, for women to get together, so
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that we can come together and we could talk, and
we could build and we could learn. So the salon
was very purposeful and my job was purposeful because it
helped to pull women together so that they all they
felt beautiful, they looked beautiful, and it added to their
sense of self esteem and well being.
Speaker 2 (08:15):
So I was serving a purpose then, and as I
keep saying, I.
Speaker 1 (08:19):
Was good at it and it took care of me
financially at that time. But as I was doing the work,
I realized at some point that I was not being fulfilled.
I wasn't being fulfilled. So yeah, I was being purposeful,
but I Andrea, I wasn't being fulfilled because it changed
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from me actually doing the hair and you know, learning
new hairstyles and you know, going to you know, hair
shows so that I could sharpen my craft. So it
was going from that to really for me just keeping
and building the relations and ships with my family, with
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my client tele like the client tell for me was
the best part of the experience. So it really had
gotten to a place where just the women coming in
and we knew each other by names.
Speaker 2 (09:15):
I mean, we'd go on you know.
Speaker 1 (09:17):
I remember there's a casino in Jersey and the casinos
were in Atlantic City, and that was like a thing
that we would do, was, you know, we would.
Speaker 2 (09:26):
Charter a bus go to Atlantic City. We would have
card parties at the salon.
Speaker 1 (09:33):
We would bring food on certain days, we'd be we'd
have we'd have the music.
Speaker 2 (09:38):
It'd be great.
Speaker 1 (09:40):
Even in addition to that, you know, I'm just sitting
back and thinking, you know, you know, just my brothers
in the community. You know, people would always just stop by.
It could be family members and they always knew what
my salon was and sometimes just out of the blue
because I was always working, just like now, I'm always working,
but they would stop by. So it was just really
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a place that I had that just supported community. So
it was amazing and I was loving that more so
than loving hair. So at that point I realized, Andrea,
there's something else that you need to be doing. And
this also was at the time when Oprah Winfrey would
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come on and many of you may know this story.
Oprah Winfrey would come on the television it was the
Oprah Winfrey Show, and it would be she would come
on at four o'clock.
Speaker 2 (10:33):
You know, every day, well, in my salone at four.
Speaker 1 (10:36):
O'clock, Connie, I don't care what we was watching all day,
because sometimes we watch movies, but I don't care what
was going on. It was gonna stop at four o'clock
because we were gonna watch Oprah. And then there was
this series that Oprah had where Eon lavan Zant was on,
and she would always be talking about your life's purpose,
and so, you know, I just became enlightened about ooh, okay,
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you know I'm doing well at what I'm doing, you know,
you know, I mean, I'm pretty good, but but I'm.
Speaker 2 (11:12):
Just not I'm not passionate, like I lost a passion.
Speaker 1 (11:15):
You know, I should be loving the thing that I do,
opposed to just loving the women that I'm serving.
Speaker 2 (11:22):
And so as I started to think about, well.
Speaker 1 (11:25):
What is the thing that I would really love to do,
what would my new what would my new purpose be?
You know what else am I passionate about? And it
took me some time to figure it out. And that's
why I want to help you a family, to figure
that out.
Speaker 2 (11:42):
I really want to know.
Speaker 1 (11:43):
Have you ever asked yourself if the job that you're
doing now. Is that what you're passionate about. Do you
feel like you are serving your purpose? Do you feel
like you're serving a purpose? Are you connecting to others
in some way? I'm just wondering.
Speaker 2 (12:02):
Have you ever asked yourself, like, you know, family, are
any of you?
Speaker 1 (12:08):
Are you a baker and you love to bake cookies
or you love to you know, baked cakes, you know,
do little specialty things where when you bake for a person,
not only does it taste good, but it makes a
person feel good, like they light up, they smile when
they receive something that you've baked, or when you when
they tasted something that you. You know, are you a baker?
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Is it something that you love to do? You know,
I'm just wondering, what is something that you love to do?
Or maybe cooking is that something that you love to do?
Like you just, you know, no matter what, you could
have a hard day at work and when you come
home and it doesn't matter what you went through during
the day, when you come home and you get in
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that kitchen, you can cut your music on and then
you really will just go into cooking and then you
literally you're so passionate about it that you can't wait
for somebody else to taste your cooking. I'm wondering, huh, Family,
have you ever thought about what you could be passionate
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about or if you are actually serving your purpose right now? Well,
if you haven't done so already, I am going to
encourage you to do so, because when you align with
whatever your purpose is and what you're passionate about, you
will expand on your happiness and your quality of life.
Speaker 2 (13:38):
Your quality of life.
Speaker 1 (13:39):
And you know other people have come to me before
and said to me, you know, Andrea, I really do
want to find what my purpose is.
Speaker 2 (13:48):
You know what my purpose is? And how do I
even find it?
Speaker 1 (13:52):
So the first thing, Family, here we go, because I'm
gonna give you all the tools to do so.
Speaker 2 (13:57):
I'm gonna just give you four little things.
Speaker 1 (13:58):
So the first thing I would ask you, if you're
trying to find your purpose in life and what you're
passionate about, is I would ask.
Speaker 2 (14:08):
What do you love to do? So, yeah, I want
you to take time and ask yourself what is it?
You know, what is it that I love to do?
Just love to do?
Speaker 1 (14:23):
Okay, So then you might come up with a lot
of different things that you love to do.
Speaker 2 (14:27):
You know, someone just recently told me that they love
riding the bike.
Speaker 1 (14:32):
Okay, so if you don't want to, or maybe you
do want to own a bicycle shop, or maybe you
want to teach people how to ride bikes.
Speaker 2 (14:42):
Or whatever it is, you know, or maybe you want
to start.
Speaker 1 (14:45):
A bike riding club where it's not really that you
want to earn money, but you just really want to
do what you're passionate about. I mean, it could be that,
but so that was something that they told me that
they love to do. So with this now, as I'm saying,
I just want you to kind of have this knowing
so that you create more happiness and joy in your life.
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But it doesn't necessarily mean that you have to start
a business. However, I am going to encourage you to
start a business. Why not start a business doing whatever
the thing is that you do that you love to do.
Speaker 2 (15:25):
And if you start a.
Speaker 1 (15:26):
Business doing whatever it is that you love to do,
then working is always a.
Speaker 2 (15:32):
Piece of cake. Do y'all feel what I'm saying? You know,
when you're working, it just doesn't kill.
Speaker 1 (15:41):
You just to be working because it's something that you
enjoy and something that you love to do, so let
me skirt on over to Okay, So I had this
actualization about the hair thing. Didn't want to do that,
but I love people and I had to ask myself.
Is an e on the way say back then? She
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said at the time, honey, get on your belly, get
on the ground, and roll around in the dirt on your.
Speaker 2 (16:07):
Belly and just ask yourself.
Speaker 1 (16:08):
Well, I mean I rolled around on the ground and
I rolled around in the dirt and it just didn't
come up for me. But then I do remember sitting
with one of my good friends and we were going
through this together because I'm asking her and she's asking me,
because we were always on this.
Speaker 2 (16:24):
Trail of personal groom.
Speaker 1 (16:26):
And one day another question that helped me clarify what
I love.
Speaker 2 (16:33):
To do that came to me was if I had.
Speaker 1 (16:37):
All of the money in the world. So I'm gonna
ask you family. I want you all to listen. If
you have all of the money in the world, meaning
your bills are paid for so you don't have to
worry about you know, the roof over your head, you
know the shoes on your feet, clothes on your back,
you know the.
Speaker 2 (16:56):
Car that you do. All that is taken care of
then what.
Speaker 1 (17:00):
Would you do with your time because you're going to
gravitate towards what you love to do, what you enjoy doing.
Speaker 2 (17:09):
And when I ask.
Speaker 1 (17:10):
Myself that, I said, okay, if I took all the
bills off the table, honey, what is it that I
would love to do?
Speaker 2 (17:17):
And family, do you know what came up? For me?
It was in power others. It was always to empower others,
to show them all.
Speaker 1 (17:32):
Of the beauty and the power, the brilliance, the intelligence,
the strength that they have inside of themselves, to help
them identify that because I know I can see it and.
Speaker 2 (17:48):
Then turn it up so that they can use.
Speaker 1 (17:51):
That to get anything that they desired in life. Like
that is Andrea, that is what I would do if
I was getting paid for or if I was not,
because I realized that that was something that I was
always doing. So you know, even when clients were sitting
in my chair every week, they would always come back
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to tell me, you know, things that were going.
Speaker 2 (18:14):
On in their lives.
Speaker 1 (18:15):
And you probably have this experience when you go if
you're a man and you go to the barbershop or
your woman and you go to the beauty salon or
get your nails done, man, woman, whatever it is. But
you usually, I don't know, for some reason, you find
safety in this person who's not in your family, who's
outside your family, and for some reason you assume that
they're not gonna tell nobody else your business.
Speaker 2 (18:36):
I just don't know.
Speaker 1 (18:37):
But AnyWho, my clients would always come and talk to
me about some of the deepest stuff, and you know,
and they would always ask me for my advice, and
I would give them my advice at the time, just
because that's who I am. It was not studied advice.
It was not advice rooted in research, okay, like now
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my advice is. But it was really just me as
a lay person. But it was because it was a
gift that God had already given me. If I went
a little bit deeper, I also realized that you know,
even as a little girl, you know, before I even
became a teenager, as a little girl, I was always
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the little girl or the friend that everybody would ask
advice to. They'd always ask me for my advice, and
I'd always give it. It wasn't studied, but it wasn't
be I'm sorry. It wasn't research base, okay, but I
would give.
Speaker 2 (19:39):
My opinions all the time and people wanted it.
Speaker 1 (19:42):
So at this point I'm like, okay, Andrea, I got it,
Like this is what this is who you are, and
this is something that you would love to do.
Speaker 2 (19:52):
This is what you love to do. Is you love
to give advice? Okay? All right?
Speaker 1 (19:57):
So family, I'm asking you, what is it that you
love to do? Identify the things that you love to do.
Please identify it. And even if all of your bills
were covered and you was just you know, the days
would just go by because you'd get bored of this
because you'd probably your first instinct would you probably would
(20:18):
say to me that if all my bills was covering, Andrea,
I wouldn't do nothing.
Speaker 2 (20:22):
I would just lay around all day.
Speaker 1 (20:24):
Well, I'm going to challenge that thought because I think
at some point you will get bored. And when you
get bored with what would you do with your time?
And it's gonna be something you love to do. And
for me, it would be people would be calling me
and I'd be given advice or I'd be encouraging.
Speaker 2 (20:39):
Them to live bigger, you know, to do more to
get out of there.
Speaker 1 (20:44):
But all of the things I do now, I would
be encouraging them to do. So that was pretty much
how I For me, I found the thing that I
love to do serving my purpose.
Speaker 2 (20:54):
What I was passionate about. Number two.
Speaker 1 (20:57):
The second thing family that I would ask you to
do is I would ask you to ask yourself, what
are you willing to sacrifice for?
Speaker 2 (21:06):
What are you willing to sacrifice for?
Speaker 1 (21:09):
So, just going back to me and my story, you know,
when I thought about this, it may be the thing.
Speaker 2 (21:15):
That I want to do, okay, is give advice. And
I also realized that when I would give.
Speaker 1 (21:22):
Advice to some people, you know, they would be in
some situations that weren't really favorable.
Speaker 2 (21:29):
They didn't like being in a situation. That's why they
talked to me about it.
Speaker 1 (21:32):
And then when I would talk to them about it,
I would validate that, yeah, that wasn't a healthy situation.
Speaker 2 (21:37):
You might want to do this now or not that.
Speaker 1 (21:39):
But I couldn't understand back then at the time why
people would come back to me get in my chair again,
whether it was one week or two weeks. Every two
weeks so every week, and they would still be in
the same situation.
Speaker 2 (21:52):
So we would still talk about that same situation over
and over. Again. So for me, I just couldn't understand
what is dad? What was the thing? Why is it
that people don't change behavior?
Speaker 1 (22:06):
Hey, family, come on over here, because I have something
for you. Starting off with a go to guide for
keeping your minds healthy and strong. This right here is
the Bible.
Speaker 2 (22:22):
To mental health. It's your mental health Bible. The name
of it is six Pillars to power up your mind
and make mental health a lifestyle. Everything that you need
to know about keeping your minds healthy and strong is
in this go to guide. Where you get it from?
Speaker 1 (22:41):
Will you get it from awisbrown dot com backslash shop.
But in this go to guide, honey, in this mental
health Bible, you know what you're gonna find out. You're
gonna find out the benefits of aromatherapy and how it
can shift your mood. But guess what, you don't have
to go anyplace else to look for you aromatherapy because
(23:05):
your girls got you. Okay, you can get some aromatherapy here.
This is a roma therapy. In this candle, this is
called a slice of happiness. It makes me tingle, like
literally makes me tingle a slice of happiness. This is
a cruelty free candle with no parabins, no formaldehyde, and
(23:30):
no known suspected carcinogenics. Now, you know, you go out
here and you find these candles that smell good, But
are they good for you? Are they good for your brain?
Come on, now, get real with yourself. Well, this one
smells delicious.
Speaker 2 (23:46):
And it's good for you. Made with essential oils. It's
a soy candle. Amazing. You can burn it or you
can just walk by and smell it. Lord, have mercy.
Speaker 1 (23:58):
It's so good so that you can do your romotherapy
which raises the dopamine in your brain, that your natural
feel good, no transmitters in your brain. All right, y'all.
And oh, I'm a part of you. You're a part
of me. We are a family. We got hoodies now,
and these are unus sex hoodies and they wear well,
(24:20):
they wash well, and they feel so good. So you
can wear them over your clothes, you know what I'm saying,
and look dope.
Speaker 2 (24:27):
Or you can wear them.
Speaker 1 (24:28):
As your clothes with nothing under them, which I like
to do often. And when you travel everywhere, I mean
every time I wear them, I'm moving around, people are
always asking me whether I'm traveling, going to the supermarket.
Speaker 2 (24:39):
What's that?
Speaker 1 (24:40):
Who's that? And I'm like, mental health is a lifestyle
because see this is on the back. Okay, they come
in white and they come in black. I'm like, join
the family. Mental health is a lifestyle podcast. So there
you go.
Speaker 2 (24:52):
Family. Don't you ever say then I ain't give you nothing.
You get all of these.
Speaker 1 (24:58):
Things from awisebrown dot com backslash shop.
Speaker 2 (25:04):
All right, I got your goods. I got you. You
don't have to go any place else. I'll see you
on the other side.
Speaker 1 (25:13):
So now for me that I have this new awakening
while still owning the salon, having a brand new baby,
I owning a home. I really was trying to figure out, Okay,
if I give advice.
Speaker 2 (25:30):
Why you said that the people don't take advice.
Speaker 1 (25:33):
Then what am I going to have to do so
that I can get really good at this purpose, at
this passion?
Speaker 2 (25:41):
Like what am I What do I need to do?
Speaker 1 (25:44):
What sacrifices do I need to make in order to
do whatever this new thing is? Give advice to do
it and to do it well? To do it well?
Because this is another thing that I'm going to take.
Tell you that I realized about myself at age nineteen,
is that I am an entrepreneur.
Speaker 2 (26:06):
So I know for sure.
Speaker 1 (26:08):
I know for sure that whatever business it is that
I am going to be in, when I am going
to be working every day, I'm going to have to
own it.
Speaker 2 (26:18):
I am going to have to own this business.
Speaker 1 (26:20):
But before I can own a business, I need to
know every single thing that is to know about the business,
which is exactly what I did before I owned my
hair salon. So coming back to the second question, what
are you willing to sacrifice for?
Speaker 2 (26:38):
And for me? I was willing to sacrifice my time.
Speaker 1 (26:43):
I was willing to sacrifice hours and clients at the salon.
I was willing to sacrifice the fact that I needed
to get a loan to go to school. I was
willing to sacrifice evenings by going to college so that
I could learn everything that there was to learn about
(27:04):
the brain and human behavior because I needed to get
that what is that thing?
Speaker 2 (27:11):
Why is it that people don't change their behavior?
Speaker 1 (27:14):
So I was willing to sacrifice a lot, Okay, but
for this thing that I was passionate about because I
wanted to know, I really wanted to understand it. And
so I'm just going to ask you, what are you
willing to sacrifice for, Like, is there something that you
(27:35):
want to sacrifice for?
Speaker 2 (27:37):
You know, I don't know what is it? What could
it be?
Speaker 1 (27:42):
So I think you could ask yourself that what would
you sacrifice for? So let's just say if you have
this passion to design, you know, to do home designs,
like you have a passion to do it, you could
walk in the room and you could look at things
and identify what needs to go here, what needs to
go there, Like you really want to design, you know,
(28:05):
spaces and homes. So if that's something that you just
do just generally, and it's something that you know, you
really found out that you love to do it, But
I'm gonna ask you would you sacrifice for it? Like
sacrifice maybe is money to buy magazines?
Speaker 2 (28:20):
You know?
Speaker 1 (28:21):
Is it sacrifice? And is it going to design school?
Is it joining some design groups? Is it getting a
mentor and using spending some of your time with a mentor?
Is this something that you would be willing to sacrifice for?
You have the answer to that, family, come on now,
I'm waking you up.
Speaker 2 (28:39):
And if so, I'd be like, oh, okay, I might
be passionate about this.
Speaker 1 (28:46):
This might be maybe a purpose that I'm supposed to
be serving number three family, I would ask you what
energizes you the same thing?
Speaker 2 (28:58):
What is the thing that energized you?
Speaker 1 (29:00):
So going back to my story, I told you earlier
that when a person has is sitting in a space
of turmoil and darkness, I'll just say that figuratively darkness.
And you know, in a space of turmoil, and obviously
(29:20):
on the route that they're going, they.
Speaker 2 (29:22):
Keep creating more turmoil.
Speaker 1 (29:24):
And more darkness, Honey, when they come to me and
I can help them to stop that turmoil, help to
pull them out of that, help them to pull themselves
out of it, and I can help them click the
light on, baby, it energizes me. That makes me so happy,
(29:47):
you know, I tingle from my toes all the way
up to my head. When I can help somebody out
of a dark space and walk into their own light,
that for me is everything. It gives me energy, and
then I'm inspired to go on and to do it
again and to do it again. See, this wasn't happening
(30:11):
for hair when I first started hair. And you could
come in looking like y'all, remember Martin what he would say,
You want to come in, You want to look like
I don't know, halle Berry, but you come in here
looking like Shannae.
Speaker 2 (30:23):
Well, when you came into me in the early days
and you was looking like Shane Nee and then your
girl me Andrea would do you all.
Speaker 1 (30:32):
Up and then turn you around to the mirror, and
you got up feeling like I'm a quotations halle Berry.
That for me used to energize me. But then that
only served a purpose for a certain amount of time.
That got real old. Wasn't a big deal. I'm like, okay, yeah, okay,
that was too easy for me. But this thing, this
new thing, honey, a psychology, you know, human behavior, the
(30:56):
mind shift, being empowered.
Speaker 2 (30:59):
Created, Helping people to create that and their lives gives
me so much energy.
Speaker 1 (31:04):
So I'm gonna ask you, family, if it's bike riding
and somebody keeps falling off of a bike, they don't
know how to get stay up on the bike and
balance themselves. But after they finished with you and then
they realize, oh my god, I found my balance and
they could literally stay on the bike and go on
the trail and feel confident and.
Speaker 2 (31:26):
Ride all over the world. Does that energize you and
make you feel good? Because you were a part of that.
Speaker 1 (31:32):
You serving purpose if you know, you sacrifice and you
learn about design and you start designing rooms and homes
and when people walk in after the home that they've
seen before or that they've had before that they really
didn't like or they were over, but you help them
to create something new. You did with your creation, with
what you knew, and then when they walk in and
(31:54):
they like they have the aha, does that energize you?
That might be a passion that serving purpose. The same
thing about you bakers out.
Speaker 2 (32:04):
There, when you bake something and somebody.
Speaker 1 (32:07):
Tastes it and they go m mmmm, like it just
makes them so happy?
Speaker 2 (32:14):
Does that energize you?
Speaker 1 (32:16):
Or if you cook a meal and then a person
gets happy when they eat it or they put up
those reviews or they tell other people, does that make
you happy?
Speaker 2 (32:26):
That might be a passion of yours where you.
Speaker 1 (32:29):
Could serve purpose and like me, be an entrepreneur and
create a business where you're getting paid for something that
you love to do. Come on, family, and then this
is the last one I'm going to drop, and I'm
gonna reiterate.
Speaker 2 (32:45):
This during this process.
Speaker 1 (32:48):
First, you're gonna ask yourself when you're trying to figure
out what is my purpose? How do I serve purpose here?
What is my passion? What am I passionate about? Because
I really might want to make that a career or
if it's not my primary career, maybe a secondary career
where it still expands on my quality of life? So
(33:10):
what is that thing? And you can't figure it out?
That's what I'm giving you the steps for. First, you're
gonna ask yourself what is it that I love to do?
What do I love to do? Then when you identify
what is it that you love the thing that you
love to do or the things that you love to do,
then you're gonna ask yourself because I want you to
(33:30):
confirm it. Here's another question because maybe that one doesn't
hit you in the same way. You're gonna ask yourself,
what am I willing to sacrifice for? What is the
thing that I'm willing to put my energy in that
I'm gonna sacrifice other things for? What is that thing?
But it makes me happy? It fills me up? Then
(33:50):
if you don't get it there, you can ask yourself.
This third question is what energizes you? What gives me energy?
Like once I do it and it's done, Like, what
is the thing that just it just makes me happy?
And I just feel like my body just feels zesty
after I do it? What gives me energy? You know,
(34:12):
it could be I'm just thinking about nursing. One of
my best friends, Like, she's a nurse and she loves nursing.
She loves taking care of people.
Speaker 2 (34:22):
She loves it.
Speaker 1 (34:23):
She loves it when you come in to the facility
that she works at and you may not be doing
so well, but after she cares for you, she likes
to see your progression over the days that you're there
in her care. That lightens her up, that gives her energy.
So she is serving a purpose by doing something she's
(34:44):
passionate about. But number four, it's trusting God through this process.
Y'all know this is the big one. It's to trust
God because God has given you so many gifts and
your work here on this earth doesn't just have to
be this one thing that's hum drum and so mundane,
(35:08):
and it's the thing that you hate to do so
and even when you're doing it, you feel unfulfilled.
Speaker 2 (35:15):
Like no, God is miraculous.
Speaker 1 (35:19):
God created you to do miraculous things and to find
happiness and joy in your doings. So he gives you
many talents, gives us all many talents. He gives us
many passions, and he gives us these passions so that
(35:39):
we serve purpose. So, family, I am asking you to
do some in a work this year. Come on, now
we in this new year, and I want you to
really ask yourself because I am here to encourage you
to expand your quality of life life so that you
(36:01):
can have joy while we are here on this earth,
were only here for a certain amount of years. What
are you passionate about? What is your purpose? Come on, family,
let's do some inner work and we're gonna show it
in an outer way, and your family, I'm gonna tell
(36:22):
you when you think about it in Another one of
my passions that.
Speaker 2 (36:28):
I serve purpose with is this podcast.
Speaker 1 (36:32):
And it's really just me talking, inspiring, uplifting because my
goal and the intention here is to empower you, to
enlighten you and to educate you so that you live
your best life, so that you live the life that
(36:54):
you desire.
Speaker 2 (36:55):
So, family, thank you for showing up here with me
again for another episode.
Speaker 1 (37:03):
Honey, as I serve my purpose with this passion of mine,
another episode of The Mental Health is a lifestyle podcast
with Me, your girl, Andrea Wise Brown and family. Come on,
do this work and I Am going to see you
(37:27):
next week on the next episode you I want you
to always remember I love you.
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