January 31, 2025 • 12 mins
In this 12-minute episode, I explore the delicate balance between prioritizing relationships and careers, inspired by a heartfelt conversation with my uncle. Drawing from personal anecdotes, including my grandparents’ daily rituals of connection, I reflect on how cultural differences, like the hustle culture of North America versus the slower, relationship-focused pace in the Middle East, impact our ability to nurture meaningful relationships.
I discuss the importance of quality over quantity in spending time with loved ones, how small rituals of connection can strengthen bonds, and why a healthy relationship can actually enhance career success. Whether you’re navigating long work hours, societal pressures, or simply trying to find harmony between your personal and professional life, this episode offers practical insights and a fresh perspective on why relationships deserve our attention.
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I discuss the importance of quality over quantity in spending time with loved ones, how small rituals of connection can strengthen bonds, and why a healthy relationship can actually enhance career success. Whether you’re navigating long work hours, societal pressures, or simply trying to find harmony between your personal and professional life, this episode offers practical insights and a fresh perspective on why relationships deserve our attention.
To purchase and download the guide https://mailchi.mp/8440b814977...
♾ In a fast-paced world like the one we live in, time is one of our most important assets. For a few minutes every episode, I, Tannaz Hosseinpour, will be discussing topics that aim to enhance the quality of your life, by helping you feel empowered to take inspired action on your personal growth journey.
Connect with me for daily insights on:
www.instagram.com/MinutesOnGro...
www.facebook.com/MinutesOnGrow...
More resources available on www.minutesongrowth.com
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Speaker 1 (00:04):
You're listening to them, then it sound Growth Podcast, the
show that brings you mindfully curated insights into relationships, spirituality,
personal development and everything in between with your hosts Tennas
the same for Hi Soul Friends. It's Tennas the same
for and Welcome back to another short solo episode of
(00:26):
the minutes on Growth Podcast. Today, I want to talk
about prioritizing our relationship versus our career. And this is
a conversation that was inspired by a chat that I
recently had with my uncle who's visiting from Iran, and
he told me that he noticed how the work culture
(00:48):
in North America looked so different from other parts of
the world, specifically in Iran, where he resides. And so
we were talking about how in North America there's this
constant hustle, the long working hours, and how like busyness
is almost worn as a badge of honor, whereas you
know in other countries, you know, in the middlest specifically
(01:10):
in Neuron, rest and connection are deeply embedded into daily life. So,
for example, in Neuron, it's very common to take an
extended break after lunch, very similar to Spanish siesta. In fact,
if you go to the city of Shiraz and go
to the grand bazaar during lunch hour, you'll notice that
(01:31):
all the stores are closed until like four or five
in the evening. And growing up, I saw this firsthand too,
you know, when I would visit in the summers, I
would notice that my grandpa, without an exception, would always
come home for lunch and he would spend lunch with
my grandmother and I don't think, actually ever in my
(01:55):
life did he miss at lunch. And so it was
like their daily ritual. They would sit together, they would eat,
they would talk about their day, and it might have
only lasted thirty minutes. I remember they would have lunch
and then he would have a little nap and then
go back to his store. But it created a sense
(02:17):
of connection that not only grounded their relationship, but I
feel like it grounded the whole family. And so looking back,
I realized how those small, intentional moments made a big difference.
And my uncle shared something that really stuck with me.
He heard from his friends in Canada that some of
(02:40):
the couples that he knew were separating, and one of
them had shared with my uncle that it wasn't because
you know, one party was you know, cheating on the other,
or that they didn't love each other, but because they
(03:00):
had started to feel disconnected and they had kind of
grown apart. And he had shared with my uncle that
he felt it was because they had both focused so
heavily on their careers and that they had kind of
pushed their relationship to the side. And I'm not here
(03:25):
to say that your career isn't important. It absolutely is.
But I want to explore today the idea that prioritizing
your career doesn't mean your relationship has to take a
back seat. In fact, when we give our relationships the
attention and care that they require, they can actually fuel
(03:48):
our success in other areas of our life, including our careers.
So research has shown that the quality of our relationships
directly impact the quality of our health, our life, or happiness.
We feel supportive, when we feel connected, when we feel loved,
it has a ripple effect on everything else. And for
me personally, I notice such a difference when Ash and
(04:09):
I are connected. When we spend quality time together, I
feel more grounded, I feel more creative, I feel more focused.
And by the way, when I say quality time, I
don't mean spending endless hours together it's not about the quantity,
it's about the quality. So it's those you know, even
(04:29):
if it's five minutes of uninterrupted time where we're not
on our phones, when you know, we're not watching TV
and we're just simply with each other and we are
seeing each other and we're creating space to be curious
with one another, that can make a huge difference. And
so for my grandparents, it was their daily lunch ritual.
(04:49):
They didn't have cell phones or distractions during that time.
I like trying to think back, and the TV wasn't on.
We were just sitting at the dining table and we
were just talking about our day and we were just
asking each other questions, you know, sharing thoughts and kind
of just reconnecting. And while they may have not realized
(05:12):
that that and I'm sure they didn't have, you know,
the relational terminology for it, but those moments really did
strengthen their bond and it provided the emotional grounding again
that not only that they needed as a couple but
as a family to face life's challenges together. And so
this idea of rituals of connection is something that the
Gottman Institute emphasizes in the research The small consistent habits
(05:35):
like having copy together in the morning or tea, checking
it at the end of the day, like how is
your day? Tell me about you know, your day, asking
these curious questions, or even just sharing a meal. It
can create a sense of stability and closeness in a relationship.
And again, these rituals, they don't have to be granted,
they just have to be intentional. And I know that
(05:58):
there's this common belief out there there that says I'll
focus on my relationship when I've established my career, or
I don't have time for both. But the truth is
you don't have to choose one over or the other.
A healthy, supportive relationship can actually enhance your career. It
(06:19):
gives you the sense of stability and clarity that allows
you to show up as your better self or even
your best self that set. On the flip side, I understand,
I've seen, I've experienced myself how an unhealthy relationship can
(06:40):
be so emotionally draining. If there's constant conflict, if there's
you know, unmet needs that are not communicated, if there
is the sense of you know, lack of safety, lack
of emotional security, it can take up so much mental
energy that it becomes hard to actually focus on anything else.
(07:02):
And that's why it's so, so so important. A to
be conscious of who it is that you're entertaining, so
entertaining people who have aligned values, align vision, aligned lifestyle,
who are emotionally available, and B to invest time and
effort into learning relational skills and tools so that you
(07:28):
can cultivate a healthy relationship. And so when both partners
are committed to supporting each other, it creates a foundation
that benefits every aspect of life for both of them.
So let's get practical. Let's talk about what prioritizing relationship
can look like in practical terms. First, it's important to
(07:51):
recognize that everyone's dynamic is different. Some people thrive in
traditional setups where one partner works while the other manages
the household. Others prefer, you know, dynamic where both partners
contribute financially and share responsibility. The key is to have
open conversations about what works for you and your partner. Then,
(08:13):
one of the most powerful ways to prioritize a relationship
is actually to set up rituals of connection. Again, they
don't have to be elaborate, they don't have to be
you know, time consuming it. It can be as simple
as taking a ten minute walk in the evening before dinner,
after dinner, having a phone free dinner together or Netflix
(08:36):
free dinner together, sending each other a thoughtful text during
the day. You know, for Ash and I, it's having
dinner together, phone free dinner, and he will call me
throughout the day and like our conversation will be like
thirty seconds or so, just checking in, how are you feeling,
do you need anything? And then on the weekends it's
(08:59):
you know, those those walks that we take by the
trail on the trail by our house, so, you know,
creating rituals of connection that work for both of you.
And the idea again is to create moments where you're
fully present with each other, even if it's just for
a few minutes or let's say when Ash calls me
(09:22):
for like thirty seconds. Another important aspect is understanding your
own money mindset and how it impacts your relationship. So
in my uncle's story about his friend, we also talked about,
you know, how financial stress often adds to relationship strain.
So if one partner feels pressure to work longer hours
(09:43):
to provide or if societal expectations create unrealistic comparisons like
what we see on social media. Sometimes it can lead
to feelings of inadequacy or resentment. And that's why it
is so, so so important to communicate openly about finances
and to create shared goals that align with your values.
(10:04):
This is something that Ash and I really had to
work on when we first got together because we had
such different money beliefs and beliefs around money, and so
we really had to sit down and have lots and
lots of uncomfortable conversations because for me, I didn't feel
(10:24):
comfortable talking about money and figure out a system that
works for both of us. And if you need help,
like how I needed help back then and navigating these conversations,
I really suggest that you check out my Couples and
Money Workbook, where I provide prompts and guidance on navigating
(10:47):
financial expectations, beliefs, patterns, share dreams because money is not
about just numbers. It's about the meaning that it holds
and how it influences our individual dreams and our shared dreams,
So definitely check that out. Finally, I want to emphasize
(11:07):
that success isn't just about achieving career milestones. It's about
living a life that feels meaningful and fulfilling, and relationships
play a huge role in that. Healthy relationships play a
huge role in that. So at the end of the day,
what's the point of career success if we don't have
(11:29):
someone to share with? So really, you know, taking the
time to invest in healthy dynamics. So, if you're feeling
like your relationship has been taking a backseat to your career,
I encourage you to take a step back and to
reflect what small, intentional actions can you take to reconnect
(11:55):
with your partner again. It doesn't have to be complicated.
Sometimes the simplest things have the biggest impact. Thank you
so much for joining me for this episode. I hope
you enjoyed this conversation and feel inspired to create a
(12:16):
more balanced approach between your relationship and your career. Thank
you for listening Speak Soon. Thank you for joining us
this week on Minutes on Growth. If you enjoyed today's episode,
and make sure you never miss a show by clicking
the subscribe button now.
You're listening to them, then it sound Growth Podcast, the
show that brings you mindfully curated insights into relationships, spirituality,
personal development and everything in between with your hosts Tennas
the same for Hi Soul Friends. It's Tennas the same
for and Welcome back to another short solo episode of
(00:26):
the minutes on Growth Podcast. Today, I want to talk
about prioritizing our relationship versus our career. And this is
a conversation that was inspired by a chat that I
recently had with my uncle who's visiting from Iran, and
he told me that he noticed how the work culture
(00:48):
in North America looked so different from other parts of
the world, specifically in Iran, where he resides. And so
we were talking about how in North America there's this
constant hustle, the long working hours, and how like busyness
is almost worn as a badge of honor, whereas you
know in other countries, you know, in the middlest specifically
(01:10):
in Neuron, rest and connection are deeply embedded into daily life. So,
for example, in Neuron, it's very common to take an
extended break after lunch, very similar to Spanish siesta. In fact,
if you go to the city of Shiraz and go
to the grand bazaar during lunch hour, you'll notice that
(01:31):
all the stores are closed until like four or five
in the evening. And growing up, I saw this firsthand too,
you know, when I would visit in the summers, I
would notice that my grandpa, without an exception, would always
come home for lunch and he would spend lunch with
my grandmother and I don't think, actually ever in my
(01:55):
life did he miss at lunch. And so it was
like their daily ritual. They would sit together, they would eat,
they would talk about their day, and it might have
only lasted thirty minutes. I remember they would have lunch
and then he would have a little nap and then
go back to his store. But it created a sense
(02:17):
of connection that not only grounded their relationship, but I
feel like it grounded the whole family. And so looking back,
I realized how those small, intentional moments made a big difference.
And my uncle shared something that really stuck with me.
He heard from his friends in Canada that some of
(02:40):
the couples that he knew were separating, and one of
them had shared with my uncle that it wasn't because
you know, one party was you know, cheating on the other,
or that they didn't love each other, but because they
(03:00):
had started to feel disconnected and they had kind of
grown apart. And he had shared with my uncle that
he felt it was because they had both focused so
heavily on their careers and that they had kind of
pushed their relationship to the side. And I'm not here
(03:25):
to say that your career isn't important. It absolutely is.
But I want to explore today the idea that prioritizing
your career doesn't mean your relationship has to take a
back seat. In fact, when we give our relationships the
attention and care that they require, they can actually fuel
(03:48):
our success in other areas of our life, including our careers.
So research has shown that the quality of our relationships
directly impact the quality of our health, our life, or happiness.
We feel supportive, when we feel connected, when we feel loved,
it has a ripple effect on everything else. And for
me personally, I notice such a difference when Ash and
(04:09):
I are connected. When we spend quality time together, I
feel more grounded, I feel more creative, I feel more focused.
And by the way, when I say quality time, I
don't mean spending endless hours together it's not about the quantity,
it's about the quality. So it's those you know, even
(04:29):
if it's five minutes of uninterrupted time where we're not
on our phones, when you know, we're not watching TV
and we're just simply with each other and we are
seeing each other and we're creating space to be curious
with one another, that can make a huge difference. And
so for my grandparents, it was their daily lunch ritual.
(04:49):
They didn't have cell phones or distractions during that time.
I like trying to think back, and the TV wasn't on.
We were just sitting at the dining table and we
were just talking about our day and we were just
asking each other questions, you know, sharing thoughts and kind
of just reconnecting. And while they may have not realized
(05:12):
that that and I'm sure they didn't have, you know,
the relational terminology for it, but those moments really did
strengthen their bond and it provided the emotional grounding again
that not only that they needed as a couple but
as a family to face life's challenges together. And so
this idea of rituals of connection is something that the
Gottman Institute emphasizes in the research The small consistent habits
(05:35):
like having copy together in the morning or tea, checking
it at the end of the day, like how is
your day? Tell me about you know, your day, asking
these curious questions, or even just sharing a meal. It
can create a sense of stability and closeness in a relationship.
And again, these rituals, they don't have to be granted,
they just have to be intentional. And I know that
(05:58):
there's this common belief out there there that says I'll
focus on my relationship when I've established my career, or
I don't have time for both. But the truth is
you don't have to choose one over or the other.
A healthy, supportive relationship can actually enhance your career. It
(06:19):
gives you the sense of stability and clarity that allows
you to show up as your better self or even
your best self that set. On the flip side, I understand,
I've seen, I've experienced myself how an unhealthy relationship can
(06:40):
be so emotionally draining. If there's constant conflict, if there's
you know, unmet needs that are not communicated, if there
is the sense of you know, lack of safety, lack
of emotional security, it can take up so much mental
energy that it becomes hard to actually focus on anything else.
(07:02):
And that's why it's so, so so important. A to
be conscious of who it is that you're entertaining, so
entertaining people who have aligned values, align vision, aligned lifestyle,
who are emotionally available, and B to invest time and
effort into learning relational skills and tools so that you
(07:28):
can cultivate a healthy relationship. And so when both partners
are committed to supporting each other, it creates a foundation
that benefits every aspect of life for both of them.
So let's get practical. Let's talk about what prioritizing relationship
can look like in practical terms. First, it's important to
(07:51):
recognize that everyone's dynamic is different. Some people thrive in
traditional setups where one partner works while the other manages
the household. Others prefer, you know, dynamic where both partners
contribute financially and share responsibility. The key is to have
open conversations about what works for you and your partner. Then,
(08:13):
one of the most powerful ways to prioritize a relationship
is actually to set up rituals of connection. Again, they
don't have to be elaborate, they don't have to be
you know, time consuming it. It can be as simple
as taking a ten minute walk in the evening before dinner,
after dinner, having a phone free dinner together or Netflix
(08:36):
free dinner together, sending each other a thoughtful text during
the day. You know, for Ash and I, it's having
dinner together, phone free dinner, and he will call me
throughout the day and like our conversation will be like
thirty seconds or so, just checking in, how are you feeling,
do you need anything? And then on the weekends it's
(08:59):
you know, those those walks that we take by the
trail on the trail by our house, so, you know,
creating rituals of connection that work for both of you.
And the idea again is to create moments where you're
fully present with each other, even if it's just for
a few minutes or let's say when Ash calls me
(09:22):
for like thirty seconds. Another important aspect is understanding your
own money mindset and how it impacts your relationship. So
in my uncle's story about his friend, we also talked about,
you know, how financial stress often adds to relationship strain.
So if one partner feels pressure to work longer hours
(09:43):
to provide or if societal expectations create unrealistic comparisons like
what we see on social media. Sometimes it can lead
to feelings of inadequacy or resentment. And that's why it
is so, so so important to communicate openly about finances
and to create shared goals that align with your values.
(10:04):
This is something that Ash and I really had to
work on when we first got together because we had
such different money beliefs and beliefs around money, and so
we really had to sit down and have lots and
lots of uncomfortable conversations because for me, I didn't feel
(10:24):
comfortable talking about money and figure out a system that
works for both of us. And if you need help,
like how I needed help back then and navigating these conversations,
I really suggest that you check out my Couples and
Money Workbook, where I provide prompts and guidance on navigating
(10:47):
financial expectations, beliefs, patterns, share dreams because money is not
about just numbers. It's about the meaning that it holds
and how it influences our individual dreams and our shared dreams,
So definitely check that out. Finally, I want to emphasize
(11:07):
that success isn't just about achieving career milestones. It's about
living a life that feels meaningful and fulfilling, and relationships
play a huge role in that. Healthy relationships play a
huge role in that. So at the end of the day,
what's the point of career success if we don't have
(11:29):
someone to share with? So really, you know, taking the
time to invest in healthy dynamics. So, if you're feeling
like your relationship has been taking a backseat to your career,
I encourage you to take a step back and to
reflect what small, intentional actions can you take to reconnect
(11:55):
with your partner again. It doesn't have to be complicated.
Sometimes the simplest things have the biggest impact. Thank you
so much for joining me for this episode. I hope
you enjoyed this conversation and feel inspired to create a
(12:16):
more balanced approach between your relationship and your career. Thank
you for listening Speak Soon. Thank you for joining us
this week on Minutes on Growth. If you enjoyed today's episode,
and make sure you never miss a show by clicking
the subscribe button now.
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