July 22, 2025 • 8 mins
In this 8-minute solo episode, I reflect on a powerful conversation sparked at a recent wedding, where mutual respect and emotional consideration in relationships were jokingly labeled as being "whipped." It opened the door to a much deeper discussion on devotion; what it really means to be devoted to your partner and your relationship.
Through stories from my own life, my sessions, and the lens of mental health, I explore how devotion builds interdependence, strengthens emotional safety, and nurtures the sacred “we” in partnership. This is for anyone wanting to love with more presence, care, and conscious intention.
And if you’re craving a space to go even deeper into these topics, I share more about our upcoming Tuscany Retreat: Self-Worth, Self-Care & Sisterhood happening August 18–23. Only 2 spots remain!
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Through stories from my own life, my sessions, and the lens of mental health, I explore how devotion builds interdependence, strengthens emotional safety, and nurtures the sacred “we” in partnership. This is for anyone wanting to love with more presence, care, and conscious intention.
And if you’re craving a space to go even deeper into these topics, I share more about our upcoming Tuscany Retreat: Self-Worth, Self-Care & Sisterhood happening August 18–23. Only 2 spots remain!
♾ In a fast-paced world like the one we live in, time is one of our most important assets. For a few minutes every episode, I, Tannaz Hosseinpour, will be discussing topics that aim to enhance the quality of your life, by helping you feel empowered to take inspired action on your personal growth journey.
Connect with me for daily insights on
TikTok
More resources available on www.minutesongrowth.com
This podcast is for educational purposes only. The host claims no responsibility to any person or entity for any liability, loss, or damage caused or alleged to be caused directly or indirectly as a result of the use, application, or interpretation of the information presented herein.
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Speaker 1 (00:04):
You're listening to The Minute Song Growth Podcast, the show
that brings you mindfully curated insights into relationships, spirituality, personal
development and everything in between, with your host Ten as
the same Poor. Hi, so friends, it's Sana's the same, poor,
and welcome back to another short solo episode of The
(00:24):
Minute Song Growth Podcast. Today's episode is a heartfelt reflection
on a word we don't often hear in modern conversations
about relationships, and that is devotion.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
So it starts with a story. The other night we
were at a wedding and one of our friends turned
over to Ash and said, you were so whipped. And
then you looked at me and said, actually you too,
You're both whipped.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
Now.
Speaker 2 (00:54):
He meant it in a joking way, but it sparked
a really interesting conversation because what does that even mean?
Why is mutual or respect or taking each other into
consideration so quickly labeled as being whipped? Why is sensitivity
(01:15):
to our partner's needs framed is weakness? So anytime any
one of us is invited somewhere or asked to make
a decision, Ash and I always respond with, let me
check with Ash or let me check with tenask first
and it's never honestly about seeking permission, but rather it's
(01:36):
about mutuality, partnership, and consideration. It's what the Gotman Institute
labels as accepting influence. But instead of naming that for
what it is, love and action, we reduce it to
slang that subtly shames emotional presence. And so I looked
(02:00):
at him and said, that is actually so interesting that
you would use the word whipped. I would actually call
it devoted, because to me, devotion isn't submission. It's not
about giving up your power. It's about using your power
consciously for the growth of the relationship. And so a
(02:23):
few days later I was having this exact same conversation
with a couple of my girlfriends, and I said something
that I truly believe with every part of my being,
every cell in my body, and that is a devotion
is one of the most important, if not the most important,
ingredient and a thriving, long term, healthy, safe, secure relationship.
(02:49):
And so for me, devotion looks like this, waking up
every morning to the same prayer, Dear Universe, please help
me earn the light of the relationship. Help me show
up not just for myself, but for the us for
(03:10):
the vision, for the sacred third space that exists between
us and that devotion. It's active. It means being willing
to learn how to fight better, to fight fear, to
communicate more effectively and clearly, to repair faster intentionally, to
(03:32):
soften instead of shut down, to actually sit with my
triggers and understand how they're shaping my reactions, but also
to see his wounds, to see his trauma, and to
not weaponize them but rather to hold them with tenderness.
(03:55):
And I'm going to be honest with you. It is
not always easy, but devotion is never passive. Just like
in couple's therapy, I often say to my clients, the
relationship is my client, not either of you. And that's
the mindset that I try my best to bring to
(04:15):
my own partnership, the us, the weanness. That's what I'm
showing up for. Because love isn't just a feeling, It
is a practice, and devotion is the daily choice to
keep showing up for that practice. I'll repeat that because
(04:36):
I think it's so powerful. Love is not just a feeling,
It is a practice, and devotion is the daily choice
to keep showing up for that practice. It is what
creates interdependence instead of codependence or hyperindependence. It allows us
(04:59):
to bring our unique strengths to the table and humbly
acknowledge our growth edges. And just like a plant, relationships
need tending. They need sunlight, water, encouragement, and we can't
take it for granted. Devotion is noticing when your partner
(05:20):
feels unseen and actually doing something about it. It's saying
thank you, often, even about the mundane things. It's celebrating
even the smallest of whens. It's knowing when to pause
and doing your best to pause and then repairing. It
(05:47):
is deep appreciation without performance. And honestly, devotion isn't just
romantic in my opinion, it's spiritual. It requires discipline, presence, humility,
and service. It's what the Gotmans referred to as building
emotional trusts through consistent bits for connection, turning towards one another,
(06:13):
and repairing well after ruptures, specifically micro ruptures. So now
being whipped isn't what this is. This is conscious love.
This is intentionality. It's two people choosing each other not
just in romance, but in responsibility to what they're co creating.
(06:36):
I think this is really important. We don't talk often
about it, the responsibility of being in a relationship and
realizing the role we play in it and being intentional
with that role, being intentional with the responsibility of that
(06:57):
co creation. And again, I know it's not easy, but
as long as we're willing to show up and do
the work to get up every time we fall, and
to just be honest with ourselves, is this my best?
And our best is going to look different every single day,
But holding ourselves to that standard, that's where the magic lies.
(07:20):
So today I invite you to reflect. What does devotion
look like in your relationships? Where can you be more present?
Where can you soften into mutuality? And how would it
feel to replace the language of shame with the language
of care. Because devotion isn't something to mock, it's something
(07:42):
to aspire to. And if this is the kind of
love you are cultivating or calling in, then you are
going to love our upcoming tescomy retreat, self worth, self care, sisterhood.
We are diving deep into relational dynamics, how to show
up as your most authentic self, how to cultivate secure
life love, and how to create intimacy that's both soft
(08:04):
and strong with self and with others. We only had
two spots left and I would be honored to witness
you and that sacred container. So if you're interested, check
out the show notes for more details. And to the
rest of you, may you show up with devotion to
your healing, to your truth, to your love, because love,
(08:26):
real love starts with intention. Speak soon.
Speaker 1 (08:32):
Thank you for joining us this week on Minutes on Growth.
If you enjoyed today's episode, and make sure you never
miss a show by clicking the subscribe button now.
You're listening to The Minute Song Growth Podcast, the show
that brings you mindfully curated insights into relationships, spirituality, personal
development and everything in between, with your host Ten as
the same Poor. Hi, so friends, it's Sana's the same, poor,
and welcome back to another short solo episode of The
(00:24):
Minute Song Growth Podcast. Today's episode is a heartfelt reflection
on a word we don't often hear in modern conversations
about relationships, and that is devotion.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
So it starts with a story. The other night we
were at a wedding and one of our friends turned
over to Ash and said, you were so whipped. And
then you looked at me and said, actually you too,
You're both whipped.
Speaker 1 (00:54):
Now.
Speaker 2 (00:54):
He meant it in a joking way, but it sparked
a really interesting conversation because what does that even mean?
Why is mutual or respect or taking each other into
consideration so quickly labeled as being whipped? Why is sensitivity
(01:15):
to our partner's needs framed is weakness? So anytime any
one of us is invited somewhere or asked to make
a decision, Ash and I always respond with, let me
check with Ash or let me check with tenask first
and it's never honestly about seeking permission, but rather it's
(01:36):
about mutuality, partnership, and consideration. It's what the Gotman Institute
labels as accepting influence. But instead of naming that for
what it is, love and action, we reduce it to
slang that subtly shames emotional presence. And so I looked
(02:00):
at him and said, that is actually so interesting that
you would use the word whipped. I would actually call
it devoted, because to me, devotion isn't submission. It's not
about giving up your power. It's about using your power
consciously for the growth of the relationship. And so a
(02:23):
few days later I was having this exact same conversation
with a couple of my girlfriends, and I said something
that I truly believe with every part of my being,
every cell in my body, and that is a devotion
is one of the most important, if not the most important,
ingredient and a thriving, long term, healthy, safe, secure relationship.
(02:49):
And so for me, devotion looks like this, waking up
every morning to the same prayer, Dear Universe, please help
me earn the light of the relationship. Help me show
up not just for myself, but for the us for
(03:10):
the vision, for the sacred third space that exists between
us and that devotion. It's active. It means being willing
to learn how to fight better, to fight fear, to
communicate more effectively and clearly, to repair faster intentionally, to
(03:32):
soften instead of shut down, to actually sit with my
triggers and understand how they're shaping my reactions, but also
to see his wounds, to see his trauma, and to
not weaponize them but rather to hold them with tenderness.
(03:55):
And I'm going to be honest with you. It is
not always easy, but devotion is never passive. Just like
in couple's therapy, I often say to my clients, the
relationship is my client, not either of you. And that's
the mindset that I try my best to bring to
(04:15):
my own partnership, the us, the weanness. That's what I'm
showing up for. Because love isn't just a feeling, It
is a practice, and devotion is the daily choice to
keep showing up for that practice. I'll repeat that because
(04:36):
I think it's so powerful. Love is not just a feeling,
It is a practice, and devotion is the daily choice
to keep showing up for that practice. It is what
creates interdependence instead of codependence or hyperindependence. It allows us
(04:59):
to bring our unique strengths to the table and humbly
acknowledge our growth edges. And just like a plant, relationships
need tending. They need sunlight, water, encouragement, and we can't
take it for granted. Devotion is noticing when your partner
(05:20):
feels unseen and actually doing something about it. It's saying
thank you, often, even about the mundane things. It's celebrating
even the smallest of whens. It's knowing when to pause
and doing your best to pause and then repairing. It
(05:47):
is deep appreciation without performance. And honestly, devotion isn't just
romantic in my opinion, it's spiritual. It requires discipline, presence, humility,
and service. It's what the Gotmans referred to as building
emotional trusts through consistent bits for connection, turning towards one another,
(06:13):
and repairing well after ruptures, specifically micro ruptures. So now
being whipped isn't what this is. This is conscious love.
This is intentionality. It's two people choosing each other not
just in romance, but in responsibility to what they're co creating.
(06:36):
I think this is really important. We don't talk often
about it, the responsibility of being in a relationship and
realizing the role we play in it and being intentional
with that role, being intentional with the responsibility of that
(06:57):
co creation. And again, I know it's not easy, but
as long as we're willing to show up and do
the work to get up every time we fall, and
to just be honest with ourselves, is this my best?
And our best is going to look different every single day,
But holding ourselves to that standard, that's where the magic lies.
(07:20):
So today I invite you to reflect. What does devotion
look like in your relationships? Where can you be more present?
Where can you soften into mutuality? And how would it
feel to replace the language of shame with the language
of care. Because devotion isn't something to mock, it's something
(07:42):
to aspire to. And if this is the kind of
love you are cultivating or calling in, then you are
going to love our upcoming tescomy retreat, self worth, self care, sisterhood.
We are diving deep into relational dynamics, how to show
up as your most authentic self, how to cultivate secure
life love, and how to create intimacy that's both soft
(08:04):
and strong with self and with others. We only had
two spots left and I would be honored to witness
you and that sacred container. So if you're interested, check
out the show notes for more details. And to the
rest of you, may you show up with devotion to
your healing, to your truth, to your love, because love,
(08:26):
real love starts with intention. Speak soon.
Speaker 1 (08:32):
Thank you for joining us this week on Minutes on Growth.
If you enjoyed today's episode, and make sure you never
miss a show by clicking the subscribe button now.
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