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Speaker 1 (00:20):
Hello and welcome. My name is Frank and this is
my Mental Health Breakdown Podcast, Episode five here in season two.
It is the season finale. Thank you for joining me.
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For those that may be new to the podcast, this
podcast is a personal look at the mental health struggles
that I had and I still have, and the tips
and tricks I've learned along the way to help live
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a productive life with mental health. This is episode five.
This is the season finale. Thank you for joining here.
We go welcome to the season finale of my Mental
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Health Breakdown podcast. And this season finale is one where
I would like to recap all the things that I've
shared over the last few weeks and also to give
you the affirmation and motivation to continue doing all the
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great things that you are doing. You know, I've had
mental health my entire life. I've had it since probably
since I was a kid, right And when I got
into my adult years and I was learning around mental health,
I was learning what was working, what was not working
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in regards to therapy, in regards to medication, in regards
to you know, my steps, whether it was journaling or breathing.
What I learned the biggest thing was that you need
to find what works best for you. There are some
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people that work a combination right, little medication, little therapy.
There are some folks that just do therapy. There's some
that do it more holistically. Maybe they meditate, or maybe
they do yoga, or maybe they just journal. But the
point being is you're not alone. You're not alone. And
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the other point, which is probably the most important point
out of everything, out of everything, is it will be okay.
I think a lot of times when we're at our
lowest of lows, it doesn't feel that way right. It
doesn't feel like it's going to be okay. It feels
like the world is ending. Everything is on fire around me,
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and I have no control. But that is coming from
someone here who thought the same way me and you
will learn that you do have control and it will
be okay. Rough moments don't last, they don't. They don't.
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Over the last few weeks, I've taught some things that
I've learned now. Some of those things they may work
perfectly for you, others may not. Like I was saying
a few minutes ago, it is one of those things
where you need to find what works best for you.
But the tip I can give is always to have repetition. Right.
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What I learned the probably one of the biggest things
I learned besides that everything does turn out okay, is
that repeating something or repeating your steps not only gives
you the practice, but also helps train the brain like
all right, this person is doing this or this person
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is doing that. All right, here we go. This is
a normal function of everyday life now, and it helps
you kind of get in that rhythm. So the one
thing is always stick to your steps, right, stick to
your steps. If you have a routine of what you
do every day to get you mentally ready for the day,
or if you have a routine of when you have
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a bad episode of mental health, just stick to the steps.
Stick to the steps. And if you get you know,
discouraged that maybe your steps aren't working or please trust
the system. And now what I mean by that is
it is easily easily gives you the opportunity to give
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up when things are not working. Right. When things are
not working, you have that you know, low self esteem,
you have that low your discourage, You want to give up.
But trust me, if you stick to the steps and
you keep on pushing through, you're going to be on stoppable, unstoppable.
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Another thing is find your support system. Now, hell, if
you don't have a support system and you want me
to be that support system, I'd be more than happy
to be your support system, I really would. But find
your support system. Maybe it's a friend, maybe it's a parent,
maybe it's a you know, a grandma who knows, maybe
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it's a coworker. Just find that support system. One that
is going to encourage you. One is not one that
is not going to roll their eyes when something goes wrong.
One then it's going to keep pushing you to get better.
And that's a big thing. Keep on pushing, Keep on pushing.
I know I've said this, you know about five I
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was gonna say five minutes, but it seems like it's
about like two minutes ago. Keep on pushing, all right,
keep on pushing, don't give up on those steps, and
keep on moving forward. Trust me, when you combine that
you have a support system, you're gonna be unstoppable. You
got this, You got this, And this is not coming
from you know, someone who who lives a life that
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has no mental health. I have mental health and I
still have mental health issues, and there's some days that
are awesome, and there are other days that are not
so awesome. But all I've learned is to keep on
pushing because if you do, you will be unstoppable. And
another big key is be easy on yourself. Please be
easy on yourself when you're in the moment and then
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everything has settled and the dust has cleared. It is
just human of us to feel guilty about something, to say,
why why did I act that way or why was
the feeling that way? And that's not who I am?
And oh my gosh, do not do that. Do not
beat up yourself. Do not beat up yourself. The trick
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is to learn learn from it right now. You can
have a moment where you know it's not good, it's
not good, and then you learn from it. And then
the second time it happens and you have a dude again.
So there might be some trial and ear and that's okay,
but I always say, learn learn from those things. Right,
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take a look back, what could you have done differently?
Could you've got into those steps that you've been practicing earlier?
So just try to find that rhythm, Try to find
that way where you can keep on pushing yourself. That
seems to be the key message today, doesn't it keep
on pushing. Another big thing is try to eliminate your stressors.
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And I know this is difficult, and this is probably
one of the most uh, most of the things that
I probably struggle with is eliminate your stressors. So if
you have a negative person in your life that is
not a good support system, doesn't feel you know, like
your mental health is not important, you really don't want
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to be part of that stressor. Right now, I'm not
saying that you have a job and you wake up
one morning you're like, well, work is so stressful, I'm
going to quit. If you have the ability to eliminate
that stressor, that'd be great. But also we got to
think though that sometimes when we're eliminating one stressor, it
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adds on to another stressor. Right, So we all need
money and we all need to pay the bills. So
if we're quitting our job and we don't have anything
maybe backed up, that might cause another stressor. So be
careful when you're eliminating stressors that you don't add moore
stressors on. But try to eliminate those stressors. Maybe it's
stay off social media, right. Social media has a lot
of negativetivity, doesn't it? Okay? I was just thinking this
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on the kids and my wife. We were on our
way to the store, and I kept thinking, Wow, social
media is negative. I was scrolling through my phone. My
wife was very nice to drive us, she's the driver
of our family, and just growing through my phone and
seeing all the social media and how how negative it is,
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how negative it is, and yeah, that can drive you crazy.
It may not be out there in the front, right,
you might be likeh blah blah blah, but if it's
in that back right, it's in that back of your head,
and it continues. Yeah, those are those are not Those
are not things that you know you want. You want
because you're really really trying, and it's not going to
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be all the time because I know that's that's that's false,
right it is. Anybody that says they are positive one
hundred percent of the time two things, A they may
be a liar or B. If they are that, I
want to learn everything from them to soak up as
much positivity as one can, because that's the thing is,
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you really want to remain positive. You want to always look,
you know, look at the outside and pretend the sun
is shining and the rainbows and all that. And you
you want to try to be as positive as you can,
all right, And it's not always gonna be positive, It
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really really isn't. And with that too, living in the
moment now, this is another one that I tend to
struggle with. Our minds, for some reason, are always have
been adapted to think ahead or think behind. Right. We're
always thinking about the future, we're always thinking about the past,
and we're never thinking about that moment. And it's really
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hard to circle yourself and level set yourself to get
to that live in the moment. And I have to
have a great therapist, and she had a great point
and this was very helpful for me to live in
that moment, right. And what she said is, whatever you're doing.
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So let's say you're outside, right, you're sitting on your porch.
It's a beautiful summer day, your kids are playing. Focus
on your senses. Right, what do you smell? Do you
smell that freshly cut grass? What do you hear? Are
your kids playing and laughing? What do you see? Ah,
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we see out of the corner of your eye. Those
are two birds in the bird bath. Right, So you
really want to try to take your senses and put
them on another level to help keep you in that moment,
in that realm, right in that process, because it's really
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hard sometimes, it really is. You know, maybe you have
a big deadline at work, maybe you have a doctor
appointment coming up, and we're always thinking ahead. And sometimes
when we think ahead and we think, you know of
things that are you know, in the future, or we
even go backwards and we think about things that happened
in the past, right, that can cause super duper anxiety, right,
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that can cause super duper depression. I know, you know
the tendencies of folks that are like myself, introverted and
you know a little anxious, well a lot anxious on
my end, anxious when we have a conversation with somebody
and they were like, oh my god, what did I say?
Like five hours later, you're like thinking about it and
you're cringing. You got to think, think in the moment,
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live in the moment, live in the moment, and not
look backwards. Right. If you're looking backwards, then you're not
able to move forward. Right. And it's very hard because
I think that we're all probably built some way to
think negatively, to rehash things that have happened, and that
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is we're a lot of that mental health comes from
because those things cause anxiety, they cause that depression, they
cause that an obsessive compulsive. So it's really trying to
find that, find what works. That's really what it is.
Find what works to keep you into the moment, okay,
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and also have some fun. Okay, have some fun, have
some fun. You deserve to have fun. You deserve to
have fun. So, well, what makes you happy? Is it
watching the baseball game on TV? Is it going out
to a concert, is it, you know, watching your favorite
movie or reading your favorite book. Do what makes you happy?
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Because I am a true believer. If I'm having a
shitty moment or you know, one that I can't get
out of, if I do something that makes me happy
like doing my podcast or you know, talking to my
son about all the new technology out there, or talking
to my daughter about some of the pop culture, or
just sitting on the porch with my wife, do what
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makes you happy, because sometimes too, if you do that,
it may keep you in the moment. Right. So if
you're worried about something and you break that, they break
that stigma, so to speak. So if you break the cycle, okay,
break the cycle. Like if you say, you know you're
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like in a rut, you know, you're just having a
rough day. And if you continue, of course things are
going to pick up, things are going to expedite. You're
gonna get more anxious, more irritable, more depressed, more obsessive, more,
you know, just can't function. And if you take yourself out,
you know, you do something that's fun or something that
you enjoy, you will break that cycle. The cycle will
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have to start over, and hopefully by the time it
tries to start over, you're already on to the next thing. Now,
I'm going to teach you one trick and one tip
that I learned that I wanted to bring up in
a previous episode, and of course I probably forgot to share.
Now I'm gonna preface this. This is one thing that
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I learned for me. It wasn't working. What I mean
by that because what was happening is it was causing
more anxiety. And what they tip that I learned, and
this because the reason I'm sharing it is I've heard
it works for other people, right, And this kind of
goes back to what I was saying, you have to
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find what works for you. But if you have a
lot of anxiety or you know you just can't can't
function and things are always on your brain, take out
a piece of paper and you write down like okay,
big work project coming up, very stressed about it, viet
You write it down because sometimes what your brain does
is when you write things down, it goes on to
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the next step. Right, It's like, oh, okay, wrote it down,
I remember, bah blah, it goes on. Okay. I was
finding that I was writing these things down in my phone,
which is not really a good idea because everything is
saved right. So as I was getting out the worries
that were coming in, I would pull my phone up
and my notes would have it right. So you really
kind of want to, you know, just you know, throw
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out the paper or whatnot. But I know that it
wasn't wasn't working for me because it was becoming reminders.
But I wanted to share it because it was one
tip that I've heard from multiple people that it works.
So I wanted to share that with everyone. Last thing
I'm going to say before we end our season finale
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here two things actually two things left. Number one, it
doesn't end right now, right so I know the season ends,
there is another season coming up with even more information
that I'm very happy to share, and that is going
to be probably towards more of the holidays. I know
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I have suffered for years on this. We'll call it
quote unquote seasonal depression, meaning like when you get to
the fall and the holidays, things tend to really ramp up.
And also with our social media channels, I know, just
saying stay off social media, I could promise that my
mental health breakdown social medias are very positive. Continue through
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that and the website, the day Life offrank dot com.
You can go there, and just going to continue continue
this mission on really helping anyone out that may need it.
And I am so happy to share everything I've learned
and pass along, you know, the tips and the tricks
and to let you know you're not alone. And that
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leads right into the second thing. You got this, you
got this, you got this, you got this. Everything will
be okay. You're not alone. You're not alone. You're not alone.
Remember this. You are awesome person. You deserve to be here,
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and you're here because you're gonna kick ass. All right,
You're gonna kick ass if you need anything, my mental
health breakdown at gmail dot com. Also, you can DM
on one of the social channels. Please. I'm here to
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answer any questions, any tips, pass along anything you may need,
if you need recommendations or whatever. I'm here to help
any way that I can because I want to share
my story to help you pave your story. Thank you
for joining me the last five weeks. There's more to come.
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You guys, have a great, great rest of your week,
have a great rest of your summer. Enjoy the fall.
I love the fall, Pumpkin spice and football can't go
wrong with that. And I will talk to you soon.
Have a good one, Be safe, God bless and I'll
see everybody very soon. Bye.