Adam Tallamy – Is There a Secret Formula for Success? - Perfect Life Awakening

Episode Transcript
Available transcripts are automatically generated. Complete accuracy is not guaranteed.
Speaker 1 (00:08):
Welcome to the Perfect Life Awakening Show, hosted by Royce Morales.
Royce has been a transformational facilitator, teaching groundbreaking spiritually based
courses for more than four decades. She is the author
of three books about her teachings. Join Royce as she
takes you on a journey into how to live your
best life and find your true purpose through discovering the

(00:31):
origins of subconscious, disempowering notions and releasing them. She talks
with experts and inspiring people just like you who learned
to trust their intuitive inner wisdom, which led to life
changing shifts. Today, her guests live in empowered existence and
are helping change the world to a higher consciousness place

(00:52):
based on truth and love. You deserve to awaken, to
align with and embody your true self and live alone.
I've filled with love. Transform yourself from triggered to empowered
and create your perfect life. Here is your host, Royce Morales.

Speaker 2 (01:12):
Hello, Welcome everyone. I'm excited to be here as always
to share some really interesting information today with my guests.
Who's going to talk about manifestation and how to get
what you want in life. But before I introduce him,
I want to just do a little promo of myself.

(01:33):
And first of all, I do have a substack blog
that I've been working probably for a year, and it's
called Royce's Ramblings, So just find it on substack and
it's free to subscribe, So enjoy all my ramblings. And
the other really exciting thing that's happening is I was

(01:53):
invited to do a panel discussion and so I've joined
forces with three other amazing women and we are going
to talk about awakening. What does it mean to awaken?
That word is just bantered around all the time, but
what does it really mean. So the title of it,
which one of the speakers came up with, which I

(02:14):
just love, and the title is awakening or remembering haven't
we done this before? And that's really true. So we're
going to find out what it means, why we're afraid
of it, why we're trying for it, what is it
we're trying for, and maybe even some techniques or awakenings
to help awaken you. So that's all my promotion today.

(02:39):
I'd like to introduce my guest, Adam Tella. May tell me.
You already told me how to pronounce it, and I've
already done it. Wrong. Welcome Adam. I'm so glad you're here,
all the way from London.

Speaker 3 (02:56):
All the way from sunny London. I'm baking here today,
so it's a rare I get to say that.

Speaker 4 (03:01):
So I'm going to happen.

Speaker 2 (03:02):
Isn't it usually just foggy? That's the impression we all
get of London.

Speaker 4 (03:07):
It's not quite that bad. But yeah, there's a lot
of a lot of rain.

Speaker 3 (03:10):
It's not normally super hot, so yeah, we're enjoying it.

Speaker 2 (03:13):
Yeah, well it looks like a wonderful background or a
wonderful place to live behind you, So that's great.

Speaker 4 (03:20):
Thank you.

Speaker 2 (03:20):
So let me tell you a little bit about Adam.
He is a leading life coach, transformational speaker, and teacher
and for over a decade he's helped hundreds of clients
from all over the world get what they want. And
I think that's a pretty universal thing that we all
want something. But his work gets deeper, gets to the roots,

(03:43):
and helps you release those blocks getting in the way,
helps you overcome certain challenges to build a foundation capable
of receiving what you want, and part of it is
helping you discover your life purpose. So that's really awesome.
He's in the process of writing a book that should

(04:05):
be finished and out in the world in October. So
I find, and you know, you and I definitely are
on the same path. That's exactly what I do in
my work. I find that getting what you want is
an ongoing process, and many people give up, or the
struggle is too hard, or their parents say, oh, that's silly,

(04:28):
don't do that, or maybe they're not even clear about
what they do want. So I think it's really important
that we get to the root and we get to
resolve all of those things, all of those false notions
and false beliefs and fears and issues and all that stuff.
But first of all, before we even get into that,
tell us a little bit about how you started doing this.

(04:50):
Tell us your story.

Speaker 3 (04:53):
Okay, so my story, I guess my awakening started in
two thousand and eight and I was running a recruitment
company at the time in London, and it was just
after the crash, and I wasn't spiritual. If I'd have
told you I was going to be doing what I'm

(05:14):
doing now, I'd have probably laughed you out the room.
And one day I was going to a meeting up
in the north of England and I thought I was
having a heart attack, and did I stop and go
to hospital.

Speaker 2 (05:29):
No.

Speaker 3 (05:29):
I got on the train, went to the meeting, fell
asleep in the HR director's office of a major bank,
and at which point my colleague nudged me and woke
me up and said are you okay?

Speaker 4 (05:43):
And I was like, I'm really not okay.

Speaker 3 (05:45):
I had a breakdown at the local train station, started
crying in the middle of the station and I was like,
I think maybe I'm dying. So again, didn't go to hospital,
came back to London. It's like a three or four
hour journey and they basically it was pleurisy, which is
water on the lung, which has the same symptoms as

(06:06):
a heart attack. And so thank god I wasn't dying,
but it kept me off work for two.

Speaker 5 (06:12):
Years and I basically just had to keep going inside
and it made me stop and I had to start
asking some questions I'd never asked myself before.

Speaker 4 (06:23):
Why am I doing what I'm doing? What's this all about?
What's my purpose?

Speaker 3 (06:26):
And why haven't I had the success that I always wanted?
And those questions have been burning inside me ever since.
And those are the questions that I help other people
answer now and I believe that.

Speaker 4 (06:38):
I know I.

Speaker 3 (06:39):
Found the formula for success and it is a process,
but if you apply it to your life, you can
get what you want to.

Speaker 2 (06:50):
Yeay, Hey, yeah, curiosity, just on your story, Why did
you choose to not go to the hospital during all
that time?

Speaker 4 (07:00):
Do you know what?

Speaker 3 (07:02):
I was a smiled workaholic, and I was just determined
that I was going to go to these two important meetings.
And I think that shows you how kind of to
me that seemed pretty normal. But I think that shows
you how extreme, how extremely on the hard age I
was living.

Speaker 4 (07:21):
At the time. It was kind of crazy.

Speaker 3 (07:23):
I think if you wanted to show a mirror up
to someone and show them, actually, you think you're dying,
but you're going to go to the two meetings.

Speaker 2 (07:32):
Sounds like something I would have done too. Yeah, all right,
So you just jumped in and started helping other people
with what you've learned about yourself or how did that happen?

Speaker 4 (07:45):
Yes, there's a gradual process.

Speaker 3 (07:47):
I first of all, I knew I needed something, and
I said a prayer and I said send me someone
to help me, and I the word meditation came back,
So I did a Google search and found a meditation
lady who lived locally to my mother's which is where
i'd gone back to convalesce. And she was a miracle

(08:08):
worker and she worked with the soul. It wasn't just meditation.
And I was sitting in her classes because I could
just about get there and sit there and not do
too much else. And she just everything she was saying,
even though I'd never heard it before, it resonated with
me and I knew it was true. And then I
started from there. I just started learning lots of different

(08:30):
methodologies and tools and started helping a few other friends
and family out while I was off ill. And I thought,
I'm going to become a healer and that's my mission.
And then one day I had the intuition, no, you're
going back to recruitment. I was like, what do you mean,
Like no way? And I kept seeing this sign which
said be like water, my friend, as in go with

(08:52):
the flow, and I was like, I've struggled and fought
against it, and eventually I gave in, went back to recruitment,
had to shave my head and my beard off, it'd
all got a bit straggly. But what that helped me
do is get one foot back in the business world
and one foot in the spiritual which isn't that that common?

Speaker 4 (09:09):
You know? Yes?

Speaker 3 (09:11):
And then I work with I work with all sorts
of people, but I work with a lot of entrepreneurs
as well, So that's really helped me get into the
right state. I'm very focused on doing the deep inner work,
but with a purpose and if that's the bottom line,
or if it's happiness or a better relationship, then that's
my focus.

Speaker 4 (09:30):
So it's been been a journey.

Speaker 2 (09:33):
And so the technique that I'll have describe in a
few minutes, But the technique and the process that you use,
did it just arrive intuitively or how did that happen?

Speaker 3 (09:44):
I've kind of picked loads of things up as I've gone.
Some techniques have also come in intuitively, and I've mashed
it all together.

Speaker 4 (09:53):
I call it a Schmaugers board.

Speaker 3 (09:54):
So I've got a toolkit for any for a tool
and a lot a key that will unlock in eat lock.
And I really mean that, like I've yet to come
across the person that I haven't been able to get
to the root cause and if they're willing and to
be persistent and to keep showing up. We always get
to the bottom of it and that's what then changes

(10:15):
their life.

Speaker 2 (10:16):
Yeah. Yeah, And I think the word persistent is so
important because you know, we're such a fast food society.
You know, if it doesn't happen instantly, forget it. I'm
not going to do it. So, you know, take a
long time.

Speaker 3 (10:32):
It came and everyone wants to take the tablet, right.
I ask people to work with me for a minimum
two months. We work once a week for nineteen minutes,
and then I'm kind of in their corner giving them
homeworks and exercises to do. And in that two months
they can learn a lot of the tools so then
go on and do it themselves. And also they're going
to see some big shifts.

Speaker 2 (10:51):
Yeah.

Speaker 3 (10:52):
You know, it's like anything. You don't build a business
just in two months, right You the more you put
into it, the longer you're at it, the more you
chip away, the bigger and the more success you have.

Speaker 4 (11:01):
It's it's exactly the same as that.

Speaker 2 (11:03):
Yeah, yeah, yeah. I always give a silly metaphor. It's
not too city, it's silly. It's very true, and that
is we're kind of surrounded by a pile of that's
how we say, shit, what I give people as a
shovel and they start digging it up, but what they
end up doing is exposing the next level, the next layer.

Speaker 3 (11:26):
So yeah, yeah, and there's always another layer, as you know.
But also after a point, life starts getting better and better.
I kind of do this city, this strange graph, that's
my axis. Okay, it's like life is going in that
trajectory forty five degrees, but we go.

Speaker 4 (11:46):
Up and down, up and down, up and down.

Speaker 3 (11:47):
It's like we go up, then we get really triggered,
we come back down, then we go back up, we
get really triggered again. And that that's where the juice is.
That's where the next big jump comes from. It's not linear.
We should you know, if you can reframe all the
shit that happens to us in life and all the
stuff we have to deal with, those are the gifts.
And once you get that in your mind, it changes

(12:10):
your whole experience of living. Actually, and also for me,
it means that the universe always has your back. Yes,
the universe is.

Speaker 4 (12:17):
Always giving you the thing that you need, even if
it's horrible.

Speaker 2 (12:21):
Yes.

Speaker 4 (12:22):
Actually, in a really strange way.

Speaker 3 (12:24):
That's where the juice is for you, that's where the
healing is, that's what's going to eat, even if it's
just that you have to learn strength to find strength
and resilience.

Speaker 4 (12:33):
You know, some of the things.

Speaker 3 (12:34):
People go through are horrific, right, and you would never
choose it consciously, but your soul would because your soul
has that deeper love for you. It wants the very
very best for you. And the soul works over lifetime,
so you don't always see the full picture in one lifetime.

Speaker 2 (12:50):
Absolutely. Yeah. When my husband had a massive stroke and
I had to close everything, my healing center, my store, everything,
you know, all I kept thinking was, there's a bigger
reason for this. There's lessons, There's things I'm cleaning up
that I'm not even aware of. And it's been almost
eleven years now and there's still things that show up

(13:14):
for me that are supposed to be learned from this experience,
and it just is mind boggling. So even the most challenging,
shall we say, experiences, we've chosen on some level to
really assist our evolution.

Speaker 3 (13:29):
And they're the best ones that you know, again you'd
never wish it, but they're the biggest and the best
growth and I call those the gifts that keep on giving.

Speaker 2 (13:37):
Yeah, oh yeah, yes, yeah. In fact, I wrote a
book about it. So yeah, okay, so okay, So what
blocks do most people that you've worked with? What have
you noticed in terms of what prevents people from getting
what they want or from manifesting a life that they want.

(13:57):
What are those big ones?

Speaker 3 (14:00):
Well, I've been very fortunate that I've worked with people
from literally from every corner of life, from homeless people
right the way up to billionaires and some very wealthy
and big name families. And it's very interesting. It might
not be in that they all have a money issue
per se, but everyone has the same underlying set of issues,

(14:25):
and it's you know, typically it all boils down to
not feeling good enough, but you know, the surface level
above that is fear, insecurity, self doubt, wanting, not wanting
to be rejected. Those are the big ones that show
up time and time again, as I'm sure.

Speaker 2 (14:43):
You know, right, yes, yeah. What about the one that
I always find with my clients is I call it
deserving This there's a part of us that says, oh,
I just don't deserve And when you start looking back
for reasons for that, there are subconscious events that they
have done that they're still beating themselves up about or

(15:05):
feel guilty about, or have decided, oh, I'm just a
terrible human. Do you get to people on that level
as well?

Speaker 3 (15:12):
Yeah, that comes up sometimes. I mean most people watching
probably won't know that the healer or the coach attracts
the people that they.

Speaker 4 (15:19):
Need as well.

Speaker 3 (15:20):
Oh yeah, you know, I'm not saying I don't know
you that well, but maybe that's a pattern that you've had.
I've had that come up sometimes. Mine is mine is
often don't feel good enough, don't want to be seen,
But it can be anything. I mean, it's not like
you just get the specific issues that you've got to
work on. But that happens more than people would realize.
Most most healers don't share that little bit of information.

Speaker 2 (15:43):
Yeah, yeah, definitely. So tell us a little bit about
the process that you do with people. How does how
do you approach it? How do you start? What is
it about?

Speaker 4 (15:55):
Yes?

Speaker 3 (15:56):
So yeah, so, And the initial program is as we
do nineteen minutes a week, and people come in normally
with a set of challenges or a place that they
want to get to, and everyone a lot of people
want a structure, and I don't have a structure other
than to say it will all unfold perfectly in exactly

(16:18):
the way it's meant to, and it always does. And
what I mean by that is people will either come
each week with a specific issue. Something's just happened, a
friend of theirs has just really upset them. They've just
been made redundant from work, their relationship is in a

(16:39):
bad place, and we'll work through that in the session
and we'll get them by the end of the session,
we get them back to feeling good again, and we've
addressed it at that surface level. So let's say the
surface issue is fallen out with partner, so we heal that.
But then there's that's just this presenting surface issue to
help us see what's beneath it. Beneath any surface level issue,

(17:02):
i e. What's playing out day to day for us,
there's always a deeper truth going on, and it's the
deeper truth that the universe is trying to draw to
our attention by going, Hey, there's something here, and it
keeps happening.

Speaker 4 (17:13):
You've got to sort this out.

Speaker 3 (17:14):
And if you don't sort it out at that deeper level,
it will just keep happening okay, and.

Speaker 4 (17:18):
People go, why do I keep having the same issue?

Speaker 3 (17:22):
And so if it's a situation with a partner, it
could be something with mum or dad for example, often
goes back to childhood, not always often goes back to childhood.
So it might be well, actually, yeah, I didn't get
the love and attention that I wanted from my dad
because he was all busy and away a lot of
the time. And guess what sows my partner, for example,

(17:43):
It could be anything across the spectrum. But that's just
one example. So we deal at both the surface and
at the deeper level. And when you change it at
the deeper level, obviously there might be five different parts
or layers to it, but you keep chipping away, and
once it's gone, then guess what. That pattern doesn't play
out for you anymore. The partner will suddenly stop doing

(18:05):
that thing, or you'll split up with the partner and
you'll meet someone who doesn't do that. So it's quite miraculous.
Sometimes people can't quite believe it. I say, oh, yeah,
that hasn't happened so six months now since we worked
on it, I'm like, what a surprise.

Speaker 2 (18:19):
Yeah, So when you say you chip away and you
get deeper. Where do you go in terms of depth
with people.

Speaker 3 (18:27):
To wherever they need to get to, And it's we
start off with the emotions. How are you feeling about it?
And we'll clear the emotions. So, Okay, I'm feeling really
angry at my partner, I'm feeling really sad. Okay, we
work through that, We clear the emotions until they get
to a place right. I feel okay now, And that
can be all that's required, but sometimes you have to

(18:50):
get right down into doing like inner child work, where
you talk to the inner child. How's the inner child doing?
The inner child's really upset with my partner, but actually
she's really up set with dad, and we need to
heal that. We need to have a conversation with her,
and then you need to bring the inner child into
the heart because the child is just still playing out
the same patterns from childhood, when in reality it doesn't

(19:11):
need to continue to do that. And most people aren't
aware that they haven't in a child even but once
you've become aware, it will come up more and more
and you can start to do it. Once someone's showing
you how to do it, you can do a lot
of it for yourself, which is my goal with all
my clients is to teach them most of the tools
that I use so they can go away and do
this for themselves. I also work sometimes with past life regression,

(19:34):
and fifteen years ago I would have laughed you out
of the room the very idea of past lives.

Speaker 4 (19:40):
So I get it.

Speaker 3 (19:41):
You don't need to believe in it, but I can
promise you that once you experience it, it will start
to shift things in your life now, and you don't
need to believe it. I just actually finished a session
with a new client. We did a first past life
regression and he was like, this is really strange, but
he could he was in the life, he could tell
what was happening as things going on. There's people. He said,
this makes a lot of sense, but I don't really

(20:03):
believe in parstlves I said, that's fine. You don't need to.
You can just think of it in the way that
your mind is presenting the real issue to you in
a way that you can understand. And then we worked
on it and we changed it anyway, so it doesn't matter.
We will often also do ancestral patterns so I can
help people go back to maybe three, four, five, six

(20:25):
generations back where something might have happened, perhaps someone was attacked, abuse,
there was a rape, whatever it is, because all of
that stuff is still playing out in all of our
lives day to day. And there's a wonderful healing methodology
maybe you know it called family constellations, which is just phenomenal.

(20:46):
So I trained a little bit in family constellations and
business constellations, so that.

Speaker 4 (20:51):
Can be very revealing.

Speaker 3 (20:52):
It just kind of shows your relationship with your family
and how you are to them, how they are to you,
and then you can change those dynamics. You see it
very clearly in the three D. Yeah, those are the
main tools, but there's I mean, hey, there's loads more,
you know, whatever is needed.

Speaker 2 (21:10):
So do people just by understanding something logically they're able
to shift it? Or how does that work for you?
Because I find that, you know, I can talk till
I blue in the face with people and explain things
logically and it's like, well this is because of this
and that's because of that. But if they don't get
it experientially, it's just like mind chatter. How does that

(21:34):
work for you?

Speaker 4 (21:35):
Yeah?

Speaker 3 (21:36):
Absolutely, the same as you. I'll talk them through it,
but I won't go into too much detail because they
need to experience it. And once they connect with the emotion,
the feelings and the resistance or the pain, that's when
they really start to get it. And then when they
feel lighter at the end of the session or after
you've worked through that particular issue, that's when the light
bulbs go off. And you know, after the first session

(22:00):
or two, people start to get it and they kind
of relax a little bit and then Okay, I'm in
good hands here, and.

Speaker 4 (22:06):
We'll we'll try it.

Speaker 3 (22:07):
And they at the end of every session the end
up feeling better, and they keep coming back. You know,
I've got wonderful testimonial from someone who says exactly that.
He said, I was in a desperate place. I would
never have done this if I hadn't been desperate, But
each time I came, he sort of sorted me out
and I felt better.

Speaker 4 (22:22):
So I kept going back and and thank god I
did kind of you know, yeah.

Speaker 2 (22:27):
Yeah, I've had some students for decades. Yes, there's a
lot of a lot of shit to dig up, you know, yeah, exactly.
So going back to your example about the person that
didn't believe in past lives. I was one of those people.
When I first started my spiritual journey, I thought the

(22:47):
whole idea of reincarnation was one big crop, because to me,
it was, Oh, you're just you're afraid of death, so
you invented this whole thing so you don't have to
be afraid of death. That you're going to come back
and everything's going to be. I mean, that was my attitude.
And then I started experiencing past life memories and I
couldn't deny them because things would shift for me in

(23:07):
this life by locating things in the past. So I
just have this funny story to say. I had one
of my students, he was a lawyer, need I say more,
And it was very, very very logical and very left
brain and all of that, but he really enjoyed coming

(23:29):
to my program. And at one point he said, yeah,
but I don't believe in past lives. I said, that's okay,
just meditate and make one up. So I was working
with you and he had this full on story that
he told that he was quote making up, and everything

(23:49):
in his life shifted from making up that story. And
after the work that I did with him, he said,
so do you think I made that up, and I said, well,
it came from somewhere. You don't have to worry about it.
You just shifted your life and who cares through the
past life. So it was a handy little tool that
I developed and I used from that point on with

(24:09):
people that were skeptics.

Speaker 4 (24:11):
I love that. Yeah, that is a powerful and actually
remake the movie. We call that.

Speaker 3 (24:15):
I'm just going to shut this door because there's a
police helicopter hovering. Literally it took a while, but yes,
there we go, there we go. That's yeah, yeah, exactly that. Yeah,
remake them, remake the movie is super powerful. Words have

(24:39):
such power. As I'm writing this book, I'm writing a
book at the moment about manifestation that you mentioned, and
and and I was. I was really researching about words
and their meaning and their power and and going into
back some of the ancient myths and things.

Speaker 4 (24:54):
You know.

Speaker 3 (24:55):
Abracadabra, for example, literally means in Aramaic and in the
he it means speak it into existence.

Speaker 4 (25:03):
Interesting, I mean, the more you look at it.

Speaker 3 (25:06):
There are lots of examples of that. So the words
that you use every day, you have to really watch
your words, the things you repeat many Times. Even if
you repeat it as a joke, you have to really
watch those ones. It can be they can backfar on
you big time.

Speaker 2 (25:23):
Yeah. Well, it's just about the middle of our show
and we need to take a little bit of a
break and when we come back, I want you to
talk more specifically about manifestation and we'll get into some
more details about that. So I'm talking with Adam Tallamy
and we'll be right back.

Speaker 4 (25:41):
Thanks, Ris.

Speaker 1 (25:44):
Home Times TV. Do you crave joy but feel stuck?
Do you go through life feeling constantly triggered and frustrated?
Fear is likely the culprit and subconscious fear is likely
sabotaging you. Perfect Life Awakening is a time tested, spiritually

(26:07):
based approach to inner transformation created by Royce Morales. For
over forty years, she has helped people get to the
origins of subconscious fears and ultimately help them find their
true purpose and a life full of joy. Sign up
for Perfect Life Awakening today at roysmoraleis dot com. You

(26:27):
deserve to go from triggered to empowered, shifting your life
with Perfect Life Awakening. Imagine becoming a super influencer, reinvent yourself,
invest in your brand and then manifest your success with
a robust, spheric approach. Own Times Media and Broadcasting offers

(26:50):
a unique and multifaceted way to become the spiritual and
conscious influencer you deserve to be. By putting your message
across our powerful platform with its proven record of integrity
and excellence through our produced shows, Own Times offers the
opportunity to become a social media TV personality, a radio

(27:10):
show host, an Own Times magazine columnist, and a syndicated
podcaster all in one shot. By live streaming your show
on Home Times TV and broadcasting it across the extensive
Home Times Radio and TV networks, you become more than
a host. You become an ambassador and a force for
positive change. Own Times open yourself to the possibilities.

Speaker 5 (27:39):
I want to eat.

Speaker 2 (27:42):
As, I need to eat, eat, eat apples and bananas.
Why can I eat? Eat?

Speaker 4 (27:52):
Eat as?

Speaker 1 (27:56):
Support the Feeding American nationwide network of food banks to
help provide meals to those in need.

Speaker 2 (28:02):
Join us at Feedingamerica dot org. Welcome back. I'm talking
with Adam Talomy and we are talking about all kinds
of things. Manifestation is the direction I'd like to spend
the rest of the show talking about how how do

(28:22):
you explain manifestation. I know that every single spiritual training
or spiritual thought or whatever, they always talk about manifestation.
They know, you've got to visualize, you've got to you know,
you've got to affirm, you've got to make a vision
for all of that stuff. And sometimes it works for people,

(28:44):
sometimes it doesn't. I know in my own life, I've
done all kinds of manifestation things and I've had amazing results,
and sometimes it just falls flat. So tell us what
you think about manifestation. What does it mean to you?

Speaker 4 (28:59):
Great?

Speaker 3 (28:59):
Great, And I'd like to pick up on what you
just said that sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't, right,
and no one really seems to have too much of
an answer as to why that is.

Speaker 4 (29:09):
Either or what to do about it.

Speaker 3 (29:12):
Never Goddard, one of the most famous and one of
my favorite manifestation teachers, said, it depends on the degree
of naturalness that you feel having that thing would be,
or becoming that person would be. And he's right, But
the thing that he didn't have was an answer or
a methodology to then make it feel more natural for you.

(29:35):
And I know you talk a lot about the subconscious
and it really does come down to the subconscious. So
it's the requirement is that as well as doing the
visualization the affirmation, which is key, and that can be
enough for some people, but for the majority of people,
especially if you're reaching for something big, you're not going
to be in alignment to it. Okay, there's going to

(29:56):
be a gap between where you are now and where
you want to get to, and in the middle in
between the two, there are a series of blocks and
a series of actions that you're going to need to take. So, yes,
it's healing, and it's looking at the parts of you
that don't feel good enough, parts of you that aren't ready,
the parts that are fearful. What would happen if I

(30:16):
actually genuinely let that come in now? Look, all of
my clients always say no, no, no, I really want it,
and I'm like, no, you don't. You say you do,
and I've been there myself. We absolutely do want it
on one level, but there's at least one part of
us that doesn't want it. That part can often be

(30:36):
a very loud and upset and scared part, and that's
enough to take the ship in a completely different direction
and to block our manifestations and to lead to a sabotaging.
I liken it to an old Viking rowing ship with
one hundred oarsmen. Okay, so you can have your intention set,

(30:57):
you've got your hand at the tiller, but if you've
you've got even two or three people who are rowing
in the wrong direction, that's going to end up taking
you somewhere completely different. So you have to get all
of your oarsmen into alignment. And sometimes that's easy and quick,
and other times, depending how big it is what you

(31:17):
want and how persistent you are doing the work, it
can take a long time. So I've had things I'm
manifested within hours, haven't had to do any work. And
then I've had things that have taken literally years, almost
a decade for one or two of the bigger ones
to actually come to fruition. So it really just depends.

(31:38):
But one thing I will say is that it's an
amazing journey to take, regardless because ultimately I call it
the here it's the hero's journey. Really, that's the missing piece.
You have to you know, in the hero's journey, what
happens you have to go on your own personal mission.
It takes you massively outside your comfort zone. In it,
you have to face your dragons, the demons, you have

(31:59):
to overcome them, and then you become like the stronger
version of yourself. Then you go back to the shire,
to your kind of place. You're at peace and calm,
but you're a new person and you found the treasure,
and the treasure ultimately is within you, because it's only
you standing between what you want and what and what
you'll allow yourself to have. So there's no blocks externally,

(32:22):
it's only you. And if you haven't got it yet,
it's because part of you doesn't want it, and you
just have to keep digging and working on yourself until
it comes.

Speaker 2 (32:32):
Yeah, what about the issue of timing. I always I've
given it a title. I call it divine timing, And
we might want it today, but on a bigger, more
universal level, or on our own evolutionary level, there's a
part of us this isn't really it needs to happen
in twenty thirty, No, because that's when all the pieces

(32:55):
will come together and the right people will be there
and the world will be ready for it. What about
that timing.

Speaker 3 (33:02):
Issue, Well, first of all the world is definitely going
to be ready for it in twenty thirty.

Speaker 4 (33:06):
I'm pretty sure the timing is a big one.

Speaker 3 (33:13):
I once I remember in two thousand and fifteen being
really frustrated that a big thing I was manifesting hadn't
come to me yet, and I was like, God, say,
why won't this happened? This is so frustrating.

Speaker 4 (33:29):
I just want it now.

Speaker 3 (33:31):
Like you know, I'm struggling here, I could really do
with help. Come on, God, come on, Universe, let's do
it now. Today that thing still hasn't manifested. I'm still
focused on it. I'm still working on it. But I
can tell you I'm so glad that it didn't happen
in twenty fifteen, because I, in no way, shape or
form would I have been ready for it. I feel

(33:54):
pretty well equipped now, but clearly it hasn't yet happened.
But I think it could happen any time now. But
even if it's another year, I know I'll be that
much better prepared, that much stronger. And it's ultimately it's
about building the strong enough foundation within you that can
is strong enough to receive it and to let it
come in without self sabotaging, without you know, and self
sabotage can be anything. It can even just be actually

(34:17):
you're not doing a visualization, that's self sabotage.

Speaker 4 (34:19):
There's always a reason. So and then you've just got
to keep doing it.

Speaker 2 (34:26):
Yeah, and to remember that, you know, if you're asking
for something large like that, everything has to fall into place, you.

Speaker 3 (34:34):
Know, very true, and who knows who else is involved,
and if it's a partner, that partner might still be married,
you know, who knows, right, So there is a large
element of surrender required which a people struggle with. Sometimes
people also have lessons to learn along the way themselves,
so maybe they need to learn patience. So guess what,

(34:56):
I'm going to wait another few years until you really
learn patience and surrender. And so many times when a
person not giving up, but when a person fully surrenders,
so many times it then drops in like the next day,
I've seen that.

Speaker 2 (35:10):
Yeah. Yeah, And part of that I think is letting
go of an attachment to it. And they talk about
that in Buddhism, that you know, you have to let
go of your attachment. You have to let go of
needing this thing to make you happy. You know, do
you talk about that with your clients at all?

Speaker 4 (35:28):
I do?

Speaker 3 (35:29):
That is One of the insider secrets in my forthcoming
book is the need to let go and and where
to start with that because people don't quite understand that
so readily. So where to start with it is to
imagine that Let's say you want the dream relationship, okay,
So where you would start with that is you would
journal on how you would feel if you never ever

(35:51):
got that dream relationship.

Speaker 4 (35:52):
Okay.

Speaker 3 (35:53):
That's going to show you what your attachment and what's
underneath it. So if you never got it, for example,
might make you feel really rubbish. You might feel not
good enough, you might feel really sad. So straight away
all the emotions that are hidden away, they're coming to
the surface. Then what you do is you work through
each of those emotions until you feel get to a

(36:15):
place where you feel okay or ideally good about it.
You're like, yeah, i'd be okay, I feel good enough anyway,
So you know, what's the new partner. The difference with
a new partner make yeah, it'd be nice, but it's
not the end of the work. So I feel good already,
so I'd no longer need the partner for that.

Speaker 2 (36:29):
Now.

Speaker 3 (36:29):
By doing that and letting go, what you also do
is you change, You change your underlying frequency to a
frequency of actually, I feel good enough as I am.
Therefore someone can find you and meet you on the
level of your good enough as you are. Whereas if
you needed that because deep down you didn't feel good enough,
you're probably not going to attract the right sort of
partner anyway. So it's really multifaceted.

Speaker 4 (36:52):
But that letting go is it? Really?

Speaker 2 (36:54):
It's so important and nobody can make you feel good
about yourself except you.

Speaker 4 (37:00):
Yeah, totally, totally.

Speaker 2 (37:02):
Yeah. So what about action steps? Is that part of
the process that you have people do because I always
make sure that when I'm working with somebody and they
have these realizations and they let go of the blocks,
then I then have them focus on Okay, now, what
even a baby step? What do you need to do
as a statement to the universe that I'm doing this?

(37:25):
So how do you incorporate that?

Speaker 4 (37:28):
Yeah?

Speaker 3 (37:28):
That can that can be a part of it. Often
is depends on the person partly. So sometimes you'll get
people who really come to you specifically as a coach
and want you to kind of be giving them good
direction and to be chasing and to be having kind
of daily kind of WhatsApp, check ins how you're doing
with this, what's happening with that, just to keep them
on track. Other people absolutely do not want that, so

(37:50):
you have I tailor it personally. And what I do
always get people to do is check in with their
own hearts, their own inner guidance and to what the
heart wants of them?

Speaker 4 (38:01):
Do they need?

Speaker 3 (38:02):
And if you're not familiar with that, that might sound
a bit strange, but you can have a literal conversation
with your heart, with your heart chakra. You can go
inside closure eyes. I get people to imagine taking their
brain out of the head, put it on the table,
let go of thinking, and let the answer come from
somewhere deeper. So the question might be, what do I
need to do? Is this anything I need to do

(38:24):
first of all to move forward with this relationship? If
the answer is yes, and you ask, okay, great, what
do I need to do? Maybe you need to join
a dating website. Maybe you need to go and get
some photos taken. Maybe you just need to start smiling
at people that you're attracted to. That in itself can
bring up a ton of All of those things can
bring up a ton of resistance. And then the other

(38:46):
thing I do get people to do is I get
them to practice the healing tools that I use so
that they can do a lot of the work between
our sessions, because you can do a lot in one
session a week, but if you can get them working
on themselves every day, they're going to move forward, probably
ten times faster. So that empowerment piece is big.

Speaker 2 (39:10):
I read on I guess your website somewhere it says
that a lot of times you intuitively see whatever it
is that is unconsciously blocking them. How does that work
in what you do with people?

Speaker 4 (39:23):
Heaven knows how it works, But I just know things.

Speaker 3 (39:28):
I remember how long ago, fifteen years ago, when I
met that first meditation teacher I mentioned after I had
to burn out, and at the end of one of
her workshops, she said to me, you know, I think
you should do this, this and that, and I think
it's because of this. And I stood there with my
jaw on the floor because it felt so true what
she'd said, and I was like, how do you know

(39:49):
this stuff? And now I find that like, I'm doing
exactly what she did, and probably a bit more, and
people are similarly in awe. But I say, to be Hey,
you've got exactly the same gifts and powers as I have.
You just need to keep doing the work, keep chipping
away yourself. You become a clearer and clearer channel yourself,

(40:10):
and you'll start to know things as well if you
choose to tune in. Not that you should be scared
of that because you don't have to use those gifts,
but if you feel call to you can. And hey,
intuition can be a lifesaver, right, even if you're not
working as a coach or a healer. The other things
I would say if you want to develop that intuition

(40:31):
is change your toothpaste. This is some people will be
shocked by this, but get rid of the fluoride toothpaste.
It's calcifying your pinaal gland, which is the seat of
your intuition, So get rid of that. If you haven't already,
check your local water supply are they adding fluoride? If
they are, you need to get a really good filter,

(40:51):
ideally your whole house filter, so that you don't absorb
it in the bathroom, in the shower, and you're not
drinking it. You definitely don't want to be boiling fluorida
water because it creates fluorine, which is even worse for you.
So those two things alone will be huge for your
own intuition. Your intuition will go after a period of time,
it will start to increase. And the more you heal,

(41:12):
the more you work on yourself, your intuition will get
better because you become a clearer channel for the things
that want to come to you to come to you.
And that applies to both intuition and it applies to manifestation.
So that's a very little spoken about part of manifestation
is the clearer the channel you are based upon how
much inner work you've done, the easier it becomes to manifest.

(41:33):
You'll start to just manifest things that you've hardly even
focused on, and people would be like, how did you
do that?

Speaker 4 (41:40):
I'm not sure, but it's good. Yeah.

Speaker 2 (41:45):
So I just I feel the need to share this
amazing story of something that I manifested one time. It
just amazes me every time I think about it. My
husband and I that we just love whales one of
our passions, and we have gone on probably three or

(42:05):
four whale watching trips, one of which was in Maui,
the whale capital of the world, and no whales showed up.
Every time we've gone on a whale watching trip, no
whales have shown up. And it was just it got
to the point where we were laughing about it. It's
like we must scare them off or something. And so

(42:27):
we were driving down the coast in Malibu, we had
gone somewhere for the day, and we were talking about it, like,
you know, we'll never ever ever see whales, and we're
having this whole discussion, and all of a sudden, I
looked to my right and for those of you that
know the coast route in Malibu, it's probably maybe one
hundred feet away from the actual ocean. And I looked

(42:50):
to my right and a whale was coming out, and
I went, oh my god. I mean we stopped the car.
We didn't stop the car because there were behind us,
but we slowed down. And I said, oh my god.
So it's that kind of thing that it can happen
in really bizarre ways, you know. Just I always think
of that in terms of manifesting. It's like, yeah, who

(43:12):
knows when it's going to pop out of the ocean
and show itself to you, you know.

Speaker 4 (43:17):
Absolutely.

Speaker 3 (43:18):
One of one of my old teachers, he lives in
Canada and in an area where they don't really ever
have crop circles, and he was having He was sitting
in his hot tub behind his house with a few
friends one evening, So wouldn't it be great if we
had a crop circle here? The next morning in the
in the cornfield next to his house, there's a crop circle.

Speaker 4 (43:38):
All the local TV are there. He was blown even,
he was blown away, and he's manifested well.

Speaker 3 (43:45):
Well, just to reiterate that manifestations so often you have
to do the inner work and the healing. One of
the first examples I ever saw of this blew my
mind and I still use it with all my clients.

Speaker 4 (44:01):
Today.

Speaker 3 (44:02):
I was at a healing retreat, two day retreat, and
we did the end of the first day, a lady
went on to the front and she was being worked
on the teacher and he said, what's your What would
you like? And she said, well, I'm estranged from my brother.
Haven't seen him for twenty five years. All I know

(44:22):
I've lost contact with him, don't even have his number
or his email or anything. All I know is he
moved to Australia and we've lost touch. I can't even
remember what we argued about, okay, and I'd like to
get back in touch with them. So he did his work,
worked through the emotions and how it made her feel,
and the sadness and whatever else it was that came
up for about an hour. Then we went home for

(44:45):
the end of day one, come back in the morning
for the start of day two. The teacher says, anyone, everyone,
have a good night, any experience of anything you want
to share. She puts her hand up. She says, you're
not going to believe this. But when I got home
last night, I've been home half an hour and my brother.

Speaker 4 (45:00):
Called me out of the blue.

Speaker 2 (45:02):
Oh wow.

Speaker 4 (45:03):
I hadn't been in touch with him. He just called me.

Speaker 3 (45:06):
We had a lovely conversation and at the end of it,
I said, I just have to know why did you
call me tonight of all nights. It's been twenty five years?

Speaker 4 (45:15):
He said, do you know what?

Speaker 3 (45:16):
I had no intention to, But about an hour before
I called you, I just had a compulsion. I just felt, no,
I've got to call her right now.

Speaker 4 (45:23):
Wow.

Speaker 2 (45:26):
Wow.

Speaker 3 (45:27):
You know you change whatever it is within yourself, and
the universe changes and aligns itself to it, really does.

Speaker 2 (45:33):
I've had so many students have things like that, and
as well as myself happened that, it still blows my mind.
It really does.

Speaker 3 (45:40):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (45:41):
So we just have a few minutes left and I
want you to talk a little bit more about discovering
your life purpose. I talk about that a lot in
my program. What is your take on that? What is
your definition of life purpose?

Speaker 3 (45:55):
Okay, so you have people who give purpose to their
lives through work or family or church or something like that,
and that's one way of looking at purpose. But I
help people find their one and single, true, unique life purpose.
And my experience is that everyone has their own unique

(46:16):
life purpose, whether you have realized it yet or not.
And the process is kind of the same. I take
my clients all through. It's you have to deal with
whatever's playing out in the life right now. The fears,
doubts insecurity, is the problems with relationship, problems at work, this, that,
and the other. You build your foundation, you get to
a place where you feel strong enough that you could

(46:37):
go and do something bigger. And then often, sadly, when
I'm not talking to people, their life purpose drops in.
They might be on the loo, but they might be
on the bus or the tube or wherever it is.
And then I get these text messages going, oh my god,
I found my life purpose. You said it would happen
and it did, and I love the text, but I

(46:58):
wish I was there. And then obviously I can jump
on the phone with them as soon as I can
to find out what it is. And most of the
time it's things that they can kind of it kind
of makes a lot of sense. It often brings together
a lot of the things that they've been doing in
their lives, and they feel really they always feel excited

(47:24):
by it. And there are also rarer occasions when the
thing that comes through as their purpose is a little
bit left field.

Speaker 4 (47:32):
It's a little bit unexpected. It's a little bit like.

Speaker 3 (47:35):
Oh, I wasn't expecting that, but actually that sound really
interests me. Or I'm going to go and look into it,
you know.

Speaker 4 (47:43):
So.

Speaker 3 (47:44):
And then what I find is people typically have to grow,
so it's not too big. Everyone expects. That's the other thing.
Everyone expects it's going to be save the planet, save
the galaxy, right, It's very rarely that it normally comes
in small, bite sized amounts, big enough that it's going

(48:05):
to stretch and challenge you. But not so big that
you short circuit and never ever start. And then what
happens is, as you do the work and you take
the steps towards it, it brings up the fears, doubts, insecurities.
Then when you get to a point where you could
full not when you have done it, but when you
can fulfill your life purpose when you could when you

(48:25):
have the capability, then what happens is the next iteration
of your life purpose drops in. That also might happen
when you're on the bus or on the loop, okay,
And it normally builds upon what the first iteration was,
and then the next one will come in build on that.
I'm on about my seventh iteration gets bigger each time,
always triggers the begbis out of me. However, it moves

(48:50):
me in the right direction. And I'll give you an
example from my own life purpose. So the first iteration
dropped in fine enough when I was in New York
on a retreat, and it was let me remember the
morning to stand tall and proud in my light and
to spread love around the world. Now, my first thought

(49:10):
was that actually feels really a bit fluffy. However, I
knew at the same time that for me, it meant
I needed to get onto and overcome my not insignificant
fear of public speaking. So I joined toast Masters. If
you're familiar with that, the public speaking organization, highly recommend them,

(49:34):
and I started going to their weekly meetings and work
through all the fears, doubts, insecurities that brought up. I
went there for nine months and then it got to
a point where I was like, okay, I can do
this now. And then almost immediately, the next iteration came in.
It was and it was to help to help a
million people. So I was like, how am I going

(49:55):
to do that? So I started writing a book and
then I thought, okay what I was going to do? Okay,
I'll do a podcast. Started doing a podcast, started doing
a blog, started doing lots of posts and putting myself
out there, which felt very uncomfortable at the time, but
it was building to overcome my fear of being seen
of public speaking. And then I got to a point
where I was doing all those things. I've been doing

(50:16):
it forbout a year, eighteen months, and then it was
like boom, here's the next iteration. Okay, We're going to
help even more people. That triggered me again and saying like, ok,
how do I scale this?

Speaker 4 (50:25):
What do I have to do?

Speaker 3 (50:28):
Trigger work through all of that stuff, and it just
keeps building in that way, but not in such a
way that you get.

Speaker 4 (50:34):
Too overwhelmed and don't do anything. So yeah, that sorry,
long wintered answer, but that's my experience of life. Purpose.

Speaker 2 (50:41):
Yeah. I have a very short definition of life purpose
that I give people, which fits right along with what
you're saying. Are all of our purpose? We all have
the same purpose. It's to give and receive love in
the forum that it's meant to take for us. How yeah,
And it doesn't have to be huge. It doesn't have
to be saved the whales, it doesn't have to be

(51:04):
find the cure for cancer. It's just whatever your soul
is here to do, which is to give and receive
love in some form.

Speaker 4 (51:12):
I love that, and I'd say that's about right for you.
We find your poise. How about that?

Speaker 2 (51:22):
Oh God? I meant to mention for those of you
that don't speak British, the loo is the toilet, correct?

Speaker 4 (51:31):
Oh, that is correct? Sorry, guys, didn't think that we
should have.

Speaker 2 (51:36):
A little translating machine here, So okay, so tell us
how to reach you and what everybody wants to know
about you.

Speaker 3 (51:48):
Fill us in okay, So you can reach me via
my website. It's Adam Tallamy dot com. We'll hopefully put
a link in the buyer it's A D, A, M, T,
A L, lamformothery dot com. Or you can connect with
me on social media it's my name or some variation
of that across all the platforms and look, I'd like

(52:11):
to make an offer to your listeners today, for at
least for the next month, because who knows how long
this podcast will be out there. I'd like to offer
your listeners a free taster session, one to one coaching
session with me, zero obligation, if you feel called to
come and do the work or potentially interested to work

(52:33):
with me, and even if you're not, I'd love to
help you to move forward. So feel free to get
in touch. You can email me through the website or
DM me through Instagram or something, and let's see if
we can help you move forward. Whether it's with changing
your life, relationships, career manifestation, or life purpose, doesn't matter.

(52:53):
Whatever you need, whatever you're looking to get, whatever you want,
I will help you to do that.

Speaker 2 (53:00):
Wonderful and good luck on your book. I hope that
reaches a million people like it's supposed to do.

Speaker 4 (53:07):
Yes, absolutely well, I'm visualizing that with full focus.

Speaker 2 (53:13):
Well, thank you so much. Adam has been really delightful
having you here, and you just want to remind everybody
that I will be here next week Wednesday and tune in.
And I realized after I announced my wonderful panel discussion
about Awakening, I didn't give you a date. It's going

(53:35):
to be on August eighth at eight am. So there's
eight eight eight right there. And I'm not into astrology
at all, but I was told that it's the Lion's
Gate or something like that. I have no idea what
that means, but it's supposed to be a very powerful date.
So remember eight eight eight and we'll be sending out

(53:57):
a lot more information about that link to log on.
And I really appreciate all of you listening and go
out there and manifest find your purpose and give Adam
a call and get his wonderful work, and I will
see you all next week.

Speaker 3 (54:15):
Thank you again, Adam, Thank you guys, Thank you Royce
much appreciated, all the best, guys.

Speaker 4 (54:21):
Yes,

All Episodes

Adam Tallamy – Is There a Secret Formula for Success?

Episode Transcript

Popular Podcasts

On Purpose with Jay Shetty

Ruthie's Table 4

The Joe Rogan Experience

.css-15opob5{left:0;position:absolute;top:0.8rem;} All Episodes

.css-14f5ked{margin:0;word-break:break-word;display:-webkit-box;-webkit-box-orient:vertical;box-orient:vertical;-webkit-line-clamp:2;overflow:hidden;}Adam Tallamy – Is There a Secret Formula for Success?