The Myth of Being "Him" Even the Experts WON'T Tell You...

Season 9 opens with a bold solo episode that calls men to confront one question: Are you becoming the man you're projecting—or are you still wishing for the change you refuse to pursue? In Track 1 of "As a Man Vol 2" titled “As a Man, You’re Not Him (Yet),”

 Izzy Baker delivers an unfiltered message on what it means to be stuck in potential, performative masculinity, and the cultural obsession with being “Him.” Drawing inspiration from Deuteronomy 2:3 and cultural icons like Kendrick Lamar and LeBron, Izzy challenges listeners to stop circling the same emotional mountains and step into maturity, responsibility, and identity.

Izzy explores why so many men are obsessed with calling themselves “Him.” He explains how we’ve confused going viral for having value, comparing Zeus Network drama kings to Oscar winners, grown folks who pretend they don't want to celebrate their birthday for attention, and plenty of homemade quotes; this episode isn't one to miss.

He also calls out a growing mental health issue: men stuck in performance mode. When you avoid real growth, you end up faking confidence, chasing validation, and acting out. Izzy unpacks the man-child mindset using real research, expert YouTube videos, and real-life examples. If you’re always blaming others, still leaning on your parents, or blowing up over small things, this might hit close to home. 



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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:05):
That mixtape you scared to drop keep being scared. We
don't want to hear it, but you know what we
do want to hear doest episode of PSA, The Mental
Health Podcast and guess what we are back for season
nine and as we starting off season nine, we started
up with the first track which is the As a
Man Series Volume two Track one, which is titled as
a Man You're not him yet now if you know,

(00:28):
you know, I hate the phrase him right, hate it,
hate it, hate it, but I get the message behind
it that you know, you want to be that guy,
you know, the man whatever, and there are ways to
go about it, the right way and not the traditional
way what we thought. So we'll be talking about that.
We'll be talking about you know, the phrase or the
verse actually that talks about you know, you've worn around

(00:49):
the same mountain long enough. A lot of times people
be going around the same mountain trying to be trying
to get a different result, when in reality, if you
just stay consistent with what you're supposed to do, what
you know you're supposed to do, you'll get better results.
This episode also talks about a man child and the
difference between the person's striving to be him and then

(01:10):
stuck between a man child. We got a lot of
different videos we're using. I talk about hitting somebody with
a car. You gotta listen to it all the way
because it sounds crazy. But as always, lock in, let's go.

(01:46):
I've heard so many people out the years they me
say stuff like, you know, I celebrated my birthday this year. No,
not this year. I'm gonna save it for next year.
You could die tomorrow, and that's morbid, I know, but
I just feel like too many people are dying left
and right, and you over here like I'm gonna celebrate
my birthday next year. I don't wishing death on nobody,

(02:08):
I promise, But what I'm saying is you should be
excited to celebrate the fact that you're here again like
some people. And I got a point.

Speaker 2 (02:19):
I'm back and except PSA, I'm just slick to take
off my TSA.

Speaker 1 (02:30):
What's going on? Track one? As first of all, I'm
back right now. If you've been keeping up with the
live streams, I'm not really necessarily back because you've been
seeing me, but just not in the capacity of the
podcast like normal. So yeah, can you believe that we

(02:50):
are here for season nine. This is the season nine premiere.
Just to think about that, these are nine, nine seasons
of you know what I mean, and almost three hundred episodes.
It's crazy work. It's many podcasts that got many more
than me. But you know, because I take the months off,

(03:14):
it always kind of levels and then I can't quit.
Although it's like to ninety seven to ninety eight something
like that. I can't say three hundred because a lot
of those are the live streams too, although the live
streams are listed as bonus. But you're good what I mean.
So still but just organically, still over two hundred, probably
more not and probably but over over two fifty. Crazy

(03:38):
work in a good way, right, in a good way.
So let's get into today's topic. And I'm gonna kind
of touch back on some things when we get there.
But today's topic is going over a phrase. Now. When
I'm recording this, I'm literally recording this the day before
it's due. So usually it's the most of these episodes,
you see, they kind of like you know, weeke in

(04:01):
advanced three months in advance, four months in advance, two
weeks in advance. This one is the day before like
old school, like I used to do back in the day.
So if you've been keeping up with me on Instagram,
you've seen me on my what's it called notes on Instagram,
and I've been like him with thy him duncan him

(04:24):
John Emi John Him John, So trying to say like
Jimmy John's and I like him him t bow because
today we're talking about this, so let's get into the mean.
Being him and being hemmy turner are not the same.

(04:44):
When leads the other still wishes for change. Inspirations for
this video and for this podcast come from a few
different areas. So the first one is Deuteronomy two and three,
which we use in the carousel, which says that you
have circled this amount long enough, it's time to turn northward.
And then a quote which also was in the caurauster

(05:06):
about Kendrick Lamars says that I always thought it was
me against the world, that one day realized it's just
me against me. And finally, Lebron James, when you said
in the video, it says, I don't give an f
when nobody think about me. I am him all right,
sounding good, sounding good. Now let's go ahead and jump
into the first time of the season. Happy hour. All right, now,

(05:33):
the first thing I want to discuss this word about
being so obviously been doing the same stuff I've been
doing podcasting, well, live streaming. I technically have been podcasting because,
like I said, we got a bunch of episodes recorded
and I can't wait for you all to see them all.
Some people you've seen, you know, the trailer was good.
Everyone loved the trailer. If you haven't looked at the trailer,

(05:56):
it's on YouTube, it's been on Instagram. Didn't put it
on TikTok, and may put it on TikTok, but it
was on Instagram and you too, and they loved it.
Everybody loved. Everybody thought it was good. I thought it
was good. I went against the grain when I was
told like, oh, it's too long, you need to cut
this like thirty minutes thirty seconds to a minute. But see,
I don't agree because my stuff is based off of
what people on TV do. Inspirations come from television. So

(06:21):
most television trailers are two minutes or so, and mine
was two minutes. Now, if I ever do another one,
it might only be a minute and thirty seconds, but
still like I like, I like the whole you know,
it's inspired off TV, so I'm keeping it that way
and that's just what it is. And I'm setting trends

(06:42):
because I saw other podcast trailers and honestly, I was
not in person, and I'm not even though super critical person.
I was like, that's it. Like I didn't feel moved,
I didn't feel excited. I didn't feel like I want
to watch this. I forgot to show you out my shirt,
like you really can't see it, but it's it's from Boohoo.
I feel like it's like a fake polo, like Polo

(07:04):
Ralph Lawn fake polo anyway, So I just am thankful
that I didn't get caught up in what everyone told
me to do. I'm thankful that I did what I
wanted to do per usual and it worked. Like I said, y'all,
we have so many wonderful episodes that's gonna be happening,

(07:27):
and you know, a lot of great conversations and to
be starting off a podcast season with a series never
been done and we're back with it as a man series,
which like if you know, you know, But we were
supposed to actually end the season with the volume two,
but it just couldn't get around to it. And I
didn't want to be rushed, but I like the way
we're going about it with this, and so yeah, now

(07:49):
let me get into another let's go other things in order.
I need to go over oh accolades. So I've been
mentioned and they've been asking me to talk about it.
So feed Spot has recent lead shouted me out. Now,
I never shared my screen this early, but we're gonna
share my screen today because I want to show you
what they got or what happened with Psay. They wanted

(08:10):
me to share this, so I'm gonna share because I'm
actually in three categories. So I'm gonna share this with
you all, and I'm actually excited about it. Okay, a
shout out to feed Spot. Shout out to them. They'll
be linked in the bio for this episode. Okay, so
PSA and like I said, they're a smaller you know,

(08:33):
you know, they're smaller website and things. But that's okay
because small victories are still a thing. So I'm listed
in the fifty Blest Best Black Mental Health Podcast. Okay,
I'm listed at number two on this list, which you know,
I'm thankful for because the list that kind of skimmed

(08:53):
through and looked through. It was some good listeners on there.
Now that's that one. Now let's go to the next
one because I'm in another one to them in three
of they categories, and then I'm gonna give my take
on that. The next one is twenty best Educational Comedy Podcasts,
and I'm number one. Okay, okay, we love to see it.

(09:16):
And they have a few other ones as well, good stuff.
And finally I'm in another one of their mentions just
do it five best Millennial mental health podcast and I'm
number one here. So shout out to feed Spot for
mentioning me. And I didn't have to pay for that either,

(09:37):
so don't think like, oh, he paid. I ain't pay
for that. I ain't paying for that. I'm gonna pay
for it. I'm gonna give me a Grammy. And like
I said, no shade to feed Spot. I'm just saying
they upcoming. If I'm gonna spend my money on something,
I'm gonna get the highest thing possible. So shout out
to feed spot for recognizing me. And know we're not
sponsored by them, but I am going to shot them

(09:58):
out because yeah, now let's get into some topics. Another
thing I want to talk about with a happy hour,
and it's talking about being him, so as him or
you know, I still don't really like that phrase. I'm
trying to take on the persona for the episode, but
I really don't really like that phrase. But ask him
or as that guy, of that man or the one

(10:19):
however you want to refer to yourself. These type of
men celebrate their birthdays. Now, there is a stigma and
a stereotype that men don't celebrate their birthday as a man.
Why you celebrating your birthday as sass? You know, as
a man? Series? Right, And it's something that I want
to speak on because it's something that really grinds my gears.
So I want to speak on people my age, young

(10:41):
millennial me and really young millennials in general, and probably
older gen z but you know, just for the conversation.
People who think they are so grown because they don't
celebrate their birthday a thread now of an oral thread, right,
So this is my thing. I've heard so many people

(11:03):
out the years. They me say stuff like, you know,
I celebrate my birthday this year. No, not this year,
I'm gonna save it for next year. You could die tomorrow,
And that's morbid, I know, but I just feel like
too many people are dying left and right, and you
over here. It's like, I'm gonna celebrate my birthday next year.
I an't wishing death on nobody, I promise, But what

(11:25):
I'm saying is you should be excited to celebrate the
fact that you're here again, like some people. And I
got a point because I know your y'all gonna try
to say, but you know, it's just like you could
do a dinner, you could do something you ain't even
gotta do, no big olds extravagancea soiree. You could just
do like a little thing at the house, or you

(11:46):
could just do something you and your wife and you
and your kid, whatever, your friends whatever. Right, So you're
gonna say, well, everybody don't celebrate their birthday. I'm making
a point because this is to the people who say
every year, I'm not celebrating my birthday. We not gonna
have time to celebrate my birthday. I'm not gonna plan it. Then,
last many want to play something You should have just
did that in the first place. You wanted to do something,

(12:06):
you lied to yourself, Because now I'm gonna call you out.
You're a liar. You lied to yourself and made jo
trying to act like you didn't want to do nothing
for your birthday. Whole time you did. You just either
didn't have the money, there wasn't right at the time,
either you didn't feel like planning it or whatever. Then
you act like you want somebody to do it for you.
So that's your way. It be like I ain't gonna

(12:27):
do nothing. So then your friends, because you got good
friends or a good spouse or whoever decide, oh mom
and dad, whoever decided to plan it for you. Now
you're trying to play the role like, oh no, you
guys don't have to Oh no. And then now you're
in group message telling everybody we were my birthday. So
now after you did all that, I ain't celebrating, now
you celebrating. So that's who I'm talking to. It's some

(12:49):
people who legit don't celebrate their birthday, but it's something.
But I'm also talking to the people who act like
they ain't celebrating it this year. Just end up doing
it anyway. You're full of it if you do that,
if you decide that you want to do that, I
guess get a rise out of people, or to just

(13:09):
just play this role that you just unbothering. No, I
can just do try to play the cool cat, smooth
criminal that messages for you. And that's what ground my
gears because him celebrate because it's him gonna celebrate his
birthday every time, air time. All right, y'all, now, good stuff, now, Lis,
that was a great transition and great segment because now

(13:31):
we're moving into the next segment, which is the case study.
Court is now intension. Now, as we know, with the
case study, we're gonna investigate and analyze a few different things.
So I have two three videos today and we're gonna
analyze them and I'm gonna stop periodically to give my
take on them. And it's just kind of you know point.

(13:56):
There are several points made, and again we're not gonna
watch all of the videos. One of them is like
Instagram video, but the other ones are kind of long,
so we're not gonna watch them all. Now, as I
was doing research for this topic, I think I was
on the right track. Let me tell you why. Whenever
you're on doing something that's right and the Lord's work
and you see and you get a demonic attack, you

(14:17):
know you're on the right trick. Cause I was getting
my information for this episode. I saw a video pop
up talking about some tarot cards and I rebuked that
in Jesus name, I don't play with no Tarryt cards.
They Tarryt cards, and the lady was flipping them like
she was playing black jack. I said, nah, this, you
gotta go, you gotta go. I don't play with terry cards.

(14:39):
And it just popped up out of nowhere, and it
was like and the lady was just just playing with him.
I say, you witch, she get away from me. She lucky.
I couldn't reach through the screen, but once again they
showed me I was doing the Lord's work. All right, y'all,
so let's get into the first video for today. This
one is a when I'm gonna get into this one.

(14:59):
It's no, I'm gonna get into the first one, like
I said, and is on some steps on how to
be him. And this is a nobs guy. And remember, y'all,
don't get caught him in the phrase him because technically
I still hate it too. What is more so just
how to be that guy? All right, Let's watch.

Speaker 3 (15:18):
Change your identity. I want you close your eyes, right
now and visualize yourself as being the way you dress,
the way you walk, with great posture, clear glowing skin,
being present and so confident, smiling to people to the
point that you've become magnetic to people, especially girls. Now,
take a deep breath and open your eyes. Should you
feel the difference at this exact moment, you just experience
the feeling of being that guy. You need to see
it in your mind first, and then your mind will
find ways to become that person. Trust me, this is
the last video you're going to watch on this topic.

(15:39):
This video is not like the BS that you watched before,
so if you're watching it till the end, your life
will change. For a step one, physical attractiveness. The side
of hearing this advice, I know, bro, here's a NOBS
step by step guide and I'll be more attractive. The
first one is having an aesthetic body. Having an aesthetic
body is not normal body building. It's focusing on the
muscle groups that will make you look good. And the
V shaped look is how my body looks now. I
still have so much work to do, but it made
some good progress that I'm grateful for. So need to
train your back, shoulders, upper chest, before on traps and neck.

(16:01):
That's why I created a free workout program for you.
The targets these muscle groups, disease. I don't have a
gem next to me, and my mother won't let me go,
and I'm broken.

Speaker 4 (16:06):
I'm homeless. I'm a good home.

Speaker 3 (16:07):
Sugar processed food, eat inflammatory, single ingredient foods. Don't drink,
don't do drugs, avoid basic, heavy cheap dopamine. Like video games,
social media. This is all you need to succeed in
life if you do now.

Speaker 1 (16:17):
I'm musa start it there because I do want to
say something real quick, so I agree with the food.
Video games. Here's the thing. I actually have a PS
five and a switch right. I haven't played my games
for so long, and it's not even on purpose. I
actually want to. It gives me inspiration, especially creativity wise,
but I just haven't had a chance to play them.
I would say limited. I do struggle with social media.

(16:37):
Don't put myself on blast with that one.

Speaker 3 (16:39):
It's two weeks. We shocked how your personality, drive, and
energy shift if you just do those basics. Most people
poison themselves every single day. Makes it virtually impossible for
your brain to be motivated.

Speaker 4 (16:47):
And work.

Speaker 3 (16:48):
It's best If you avoid stupid and then show up
every day, you're probably just gonna crush life by default
most posture. Practicing a good posture is bringing your shoulders
back and then looking up. Don't look at the ground
and walking. It's gonna be weird at first, and then
you get used to it. The best way to have
a good posture is to hit the gym to strengthen
the must that will lead to a great posture. The
best exercise to improve posture is facebooks. Do that you
have great posture. Naturally have a strong eye contact when
practicing good posture. Try to make eye contact with everyone
on the street and smart at them.

Speaker 1 (17:08):
Trust me, they will I don't have good eye contact
at all. I don't have good eye contact at all.

Speaker 3 (17:16):
For having a purpose, to be him, you need to
discover your purpose that will make you feel a sense
of direction in your life. And if you watch till
this point, that means that you're special. Most people clicked off.

Speaker 1 (17:23):
You're here.

Speaker 3 (17:23):
I'm very proud of you. Bro To discover your purpose,
you need to ask yourself, what is the thing that
my mind does not stop thinking about every day? Maybe
it's making progress in the gym, improving your appearance, making
money so you can retire your family. The fastest way
to discover your purpose is just sit down for a
piece of paper and pen and just think. Ask yourself
hard questions and you'll discover it. My name is as easy.

Speaker 1 (17:39):
I say pray first. I agree with that, but I
definitely say pray first. Okay. So I like that video
like I said, and no BS guide, and again you
can study and go more in depth by watching the
whole thing. I just wanted those few parts. Now let
me go to this other video. This is from Instagram
and it's from a guy just started following and I
actually saw his page as a suggest or. He was

(18:01):
in my homeboy's story. So now let's watch his page
and watch this video, and then we're gonna unpack that. Okay,
So you saw that video real quick, just kind of
giving you yes to follow him on Instagram and just
how to rebrand yourself. Like I said, we are coming back,
and you know this season, you're gonna see a lot

(18:22):
of kind of rebranded. We have some additions, we have
some not really too many subtractions, but we are going
back to the roots of things and going back to
like the foundation of YPS even started to help out
with some you know, some things of that nature. Now
here's another thing. Now we're talking about being that guy,
being that person, being him dunk and being him t

(18:44):
bow him be hemmy Hendrix, be him hemmy neutron, be
Hemmy Turner or Heimy Turner. Wish for change. We don't
wish for change. We don't wish and hope we make
it happen. But if you're wishing typically and not doing
on your part, this be this sign that you are
a man child. So we'll be talking about that in
today's episode. And I actually guess what, I got a

(19:06):
video for that too. So let me share my screen
for the last time today, and let's talk about a
man child again. We're gonna be watching the whole video,
but we're gonna be watching it.

Speaker 2 (19:17):
I know this one's gonna be tough as hell for
some of y'all, excuse my friends, but I gotta keep
this one hundred percent real.

Speaker 1 (19:25):
Bro.

Speaker 4 (19:27):
If it's one thing I do, I gotta keep this
one hundred percent real.

Speaker 2 (19:33):
The first sign that you are a man child is
that you still blame people for the fact that you're
not where.

Speaker 4 (19:39):
You want to be in life and not just in life.
Let me correct that.

Speaker 2 (19:42):
The first sign that you are a man child is
the fact that you still point fingers and complain at
other people because you're not where you need to be
in your life. It's not just in life, it's your life.
And I think that's what men forget sometimes, is that
your life is your respon your life. You have to
be accountable for that one hundred percent.

Speaker 4 (20:02):
Man. Can't nobody do that work for you, y'all know,
can't nobody do it for you. You got to love
yourself enough. You gotta respect yourself enough.

Speaker 2 (20:14):
Another reason why you could be a man child, bro,
is that you are not working on having your own
in life.

Speaker 4 (20:21):
Elite. I'm eighteen, I still live with my parents.

Speaker 2 (20:23):
Is that okay? Of course that's okay. Of course that's okay.
As long as you're working towards getting out of there.
We have to work towards having our own. Here's why
it's important to be self sufficient. I just want you
guys to be self sufficient. I want you guys to
be able to be independent as a man, because top
man often you know what I'm saying.

Speaker 4 (20:43):
So I love y'all.

Speaker 2 (20:46):
I hope that y'all can take something from this, and
I'll see y'all in the next video piece.

Speaker 1 (20:51):
Now, I didn't watch the whole thing, but I did
zoom into the end because although we didn't watch all
of it, there was some parts where he was as
we saw, a little not necessarily harsh, definitely on you
about it, and the end up with saying I love y'all.
You know, I love us for real. So I want
to end it around then, just to prove that point,
just to say, like this is all from a place
of love. This is not a place to condemn you,

(21:11):
but it is more so from an area like hey,
step it up, Okay, step it up, step it up.
All right, y'all. Now let's move to my other and
I think this is my real favorite segment QTNA, which
is questions the need addressing question all right, So now
let's get into the first question for today. First question

(21:34):
asks why does every man refer to themselves as him?
Now we see it all the time, Lebron said it.
You know a lot of people say, you know, you'll
see you'll be at a spot, you know, people will
say I'm him. That's they captions, you know, on Instagram.
That's the favorite thing to go with. You know, I'm him,
I'm the one. You know, it's just a new way

(21:55):
of saying I'm that guy. I just think it's a little,
you know, a little sassy, a little a little bit
I ain't gonna hold you. And that's just me being honest,
Like obviously I'm jumping in the character for this video,
but I do think it's a little a little sad.
It was like I'm him. I'm like when girls be
like that, I'm her, I'm her, that makes sense, but
like I'm him and you know, Megan to Stay had
the song her right, who do you think would make

(22:18):
and they might already did I have to do it
look it up, But who would be the male version?
Not of her, but the male to make the male
version of that song? So you know, she got I'm heart.
He'd be like this song called him. I don't think
with all of this came the same cadence or the
same you know beat, because that beat is kind of
like a Vogue kind of song. So I don't think

(22:39):
a dude would do that. But you know what, what
would would you know, who do you think would do that?
That's a good conversation start. But I mean, it's just
something to say people like, yeah, I'm him, mom, him,
you know. And I love it for y'all, I guess,
but you know, I more so do it as satire
because personally, when I see a dude refer to himself

(22:59):
as him, I instantly, almost instantly, instantly think of him
from the pop up girls. That's what I think about.
That's what I think about. I do I do, I

(23:21):
do I do? And you know what, you know, if
you don't remember who him is, my god, he might
want to look it up. Okay, let's move to the
next question. What does it mean to go around the
same mountain? No, this is something I touched on at

(23:41):
the beginning, and then the man Child video touched on,
especially when he opened up. So first of all, in
the Bible, you know, the people went around the same
mountain which was supposed to take eleven days, and they
did it for what teen years? It wasn't supposed to
be there long, they kept going around the same mountain.
And that's one of my biggest pet peas with people
is you know, even with myself, like I had to

(24:02):
realize last year, like right now, on the scale I'm
around like two twenty eight right last year around the time,
I was around two forty, and I was at two
forty like for months, but I didn't finally clicked, like
you going around the same mound as something you're not
doing right, And for me, it was something simple ass
you needed to do. Incorporate rest days. I stopped taking resks,
you know, And even if it's just one day now,

(24:23):
I think to see may to extreme to see the
best results, I really need to do two. But for
sure i'mna have one. But yeah, I was. I was
not getting no rest days. I was just going doing
this and then body wasn't changing. Body plateau. Diet wasn't
the best. It was decent, it was cool, but it

(24:43):
wasn't you know, And I started to plateau. I started
to see it. But going around the same mound just
simply means you're doing the same thing over and over
again and seeing the same results, which is actually the
definition of insanity. Trying trying to do something different or
doing the same thing expecting a different outcome. That's insanity.

(25:05):
You're insane, you know what I mean. So that's something
we got to keep in mind. And even when he
talking with me and a man chat hisself. When I'm
blaming other people, you the problem. You need to be
blaming yourself while you're going around the same mountain six
months a year and you doing the same thing. It's
not working. That's not working. But hold on, I'm gonna
come back to that the third question. And then you know,

(25:26):
before I get to the third question, the thing. The
thing is, you know I was just accepted. You can't
save everybody. I don't even say nothing no more. My
goal is not to say nothing else. If you like that, cool,
because okay, my only response is I'll be waiting to
see the results. That's it. Because you can have all
these think pieces that sound good all you want to.
I don't get caught up in status. I don't believe

(25:48):
just because you, Daddy, you right. I don't believe just
because you Grandma you right. I don't believe that. I
don't believe that I go off results if I'm always
listening to you because you and right, if I'm always
hesitant to listen to these because you be wrong a
lot of the times. But you know that's just me
and not saying that a wrong person can't be right

(26:09):
some times because even a broken clock is right twice
a day. But I just I'm gonna be hesitant because
of history. He is what it is. When was that
moment you knew that you was him these questions? So

(26:30):
one of the times I knew was when I planned
my first trip as my first group trip. And now
I've been known for planning group trips. What inspired me
to plan this group trip was I went on the
trip right before the pandemic and it wasn't good. It
was very mid it was very it was annoying. It

(26:54):
was a lot of underlying tension. It was a lot
of unnecessary arguments. It was a lot of moments where
I felt uncomfortable, and from my understanding, all five of
us felt the same way. It was if you had
to you hate to, like click it up, but if
it was like these two, and it was like us
three and ever since then as the whole, we never

(27:14):
all traveled again. But it's funny though about that trip
is I get the most flack forward and I made comments,
for sure, but it was one person that made way
more comments than me, and wo win in way harder
than me, and they don't catch here, But I do.

(27:36):
I think people need to realize when I said, people
don't be blacking, not be free. And that's another time
I knew when I was that guy, when people hated me,
I ain't even did nothing. No, I don't get into us.
There's some things I deserve to be hated for. I
ain't gonna lie. But in some days I literally ain't
even did anything. I was just coming to room and
sit there or just come in to room and just
be there, and mugs just start saying this stuff. A

(27:58):
lot of times people do be jealous, and sometimes they're
not jealous, especially where I'm from and how I grew up,
like a lot of people around me was jealous because
they wasn't doing nothing with their life and still.

Speaker 4 (28:07):
Not, and.

Speaker 1 (28:11):
They used to be mad at me because I was.
You know, people will trying to make jokes and say
or not joke would kind of throw digs like, oh,
your parents do this for you. That's what they supposed
to do, and they positioned me to still do better
than the majority, So you tried to use that as
a dig. Whole time. It was work. They did what

(28:33):
they wanted. I'm not super dependent on my parents. I'm
very independent. Sometimes I feel like i'm a little too independent,
just saying Also, I knew I was him when I
could just I just create stuff out of nowhere. Like
my creativity is truly a blessing and I'm thankful for it.
And I'm excited to see where it's gonna go next,

(28:55):
because i know it's just gonna continue to just go up,
and I just have to do my part, stay consistent
and trusting the real creator, the creator of all creators,
because God creates right, So just staying consistent with that,
and I'm into us to see what's gonna happen. Next
question for they messy is that we thought you hated

(29:15):
the phrase him again, I do, but and I'm not
gonna I'm using this phrase just for content purposes only.
I'll never say that in real life unless I'm joking.
But I'm all for being confident in who you are.
I'm all for being that guy. I'm all for being
that ninja. And for me, even though I might not

(29:41):
necessarily like the phrase because it reminds me of him
off the Poppuff Girls, I can say that the message
I approve. We approved this message, just maybe not the phrase.
And then my final question, which will actually alluded to

(30:02):
and a few questions back was my favorite question to
ask the people is is that work?

Speaker 4 (30:08):
Now?

Speaker 1 (30:08):
It can be a little shady at times and especially
when asks because it's like I'm asking you in all
seriousness is that working? I know it's not, but I
want you to say, no, it's not. That's how I'm
trying to get you. I had an old boss years
ago when she wanted to see and she ate with
that when I ain't gonna lie and she was like,
she said, she asked me, was I doing something? And

(30:29):
she said I know that you're not. I want you
to verbally say it, and I'm like, and I was mad,
I'm like she when I be using that one. So
that's how i'd be like, like, I know it ain't working,
but I want you to say it's not working, but
you you don't want to lose the argument. And a
lot of times, especially with me, is that I don't
want him to be right. So it's like, no, know what,
I don't want him be right. I want to be right.
But then unfortunately if the person right is like I

(30:52):
just I don't know, but you know what? I say this,
and remember we talked about what love he ended off
my boy ended Up's purpose driven on YouTube said I
love y'all right, and I always end up saying I
love y'all for real, I love us for real. Same
thing I realized me personally in others. A lot of
people are scared of their potential. That's really what it is.
People are scared of things drastically changing. Calling myself up.

(31:16):
You scared to post that one clip of the podcast
because you know where to go viral and you know
to get attention. You scared of that attention. Not so
much now, but there was a time recent time. Actually
you scared to truly invest all the way because you
have a strong feeling you know it's gonna work, and
you're scared of all of us gonna come with it.
And you're okay with being cool, You're okay with being complacent.

(31:40):
You okay with being on You deserve to be on Stars.
You should be on Stars. You should be in getting
an oscar, getting a movie. Yet you overhear audition it
to be Onzeus's network. And that's no shade to the
network because they may making billions of dollars at this point. Zeus, However,

(32:03):
if your potential is to be winning an Oscar. Why
are you audition You should be auditioning for a movie
of that caliber version versus auditioning for a TV show
on the Zeus network. And I don't want to hear
the whole. Oh well, you gotta start somewhere. Yeah, but
you can't start everywhere. That's a good one. You can start.
You gotta start somewhere, but you can't start everywhere. I

(32:25):
like that. That wouldn't even playing. That wouldn't even playing.
We gonna end it on that, all right. Now, let's
get into some definitions. Okay, So I went ahead and
got a few definitions for him. These all come from
Urban Dictionary. It says nickname for that guy everyone secretly
loves aka not my words god, the mother effort with

(32:47):
the biggest set of nuts in town that is freaking
cracked at everything he does. This individual also gets an
insurd absurd amount of female dogs and then manchild. I
define that. Got that from distant Internet diff dictionary dot
comis is an adult man who exhibited who exhibits childlike

(33:08):
qualities or immaturity, often characterized by an inability to engage
in adult behavior. Don't worry, I know a few people
can't in mind with that. All right, let's transition. Let's
go into everyone's favorite what does this have to do
with mental health? Great question? All right, now let's get
into some points. So the first one says the mask

(33:30):
you live in, and this comes from the representation project,
the documentary and campaign. How like how boys day and
culture are taught to wear emotional masks to be tough, silent,
and stoic your episode this do we talk about these
masks by calling men out of performative masculinity into authenticity,
which is a core mental issue for millennium men today.

(33:52):
So now when I think of that, the first thing
that came to my mind is that mask. And I
think about that mask where the man his face is regular,
but he crying. That's what I think about. I think
about that, and I think about that because that's what
a lot of men do. Now again, I'm not necessary.

(34:12):
We've always talked about difference between highly sensitive and hyper
sensitive all the way back in season two. We may
need to revamp that episode and bring it up to today.
But hyper sensitivity is also walking in the fence and
you easily offend it. But like a lot of these
men today, they play the hard body hard gainst the
role because they're actually very sensitive, so they allow everything

(34:35):
their anger or their frustration to come out. And anger
which is fighting, brawling, punching, kicking, things of that nature, screaming,
easily irritable, that kind of thing. And I agree with
being stoic to an extent, but if you're bothered by something,
but then the same it's really a slippery slope because

(34:57):
if you bother by something, you should address it. But
in the same book, you can't be bothered by everything.
But some things I do believe, and people don't want
to hear this, but you really have to when it happens.
Great except but I brought this up actually last season.
I believe, but you have to take things to God first.
So I remember somebody said something to me, a good
friend of mine, and I was actually offended by it.

(35:19):
And it was this prayer that I have from Tiffany
Montgomery's The Year of the bridebook, and it talked about
a prayer of like forgiveness, right and like you insert
their name minutes, So the prayers I really fleshed out,
you just insert the name. And I remember I prayed
there per daily over that person because I was really
offended by something they did. And at this point I
don't even care no more like I think about it,

(35:40):
don't feel no way about the comment. But you have
to address things quickly. Sometimes it will require you to
speak or talk to that person, but in some cases
you just might need to just take it prayers. They
never even though I was offended by that phrase. I
might even bring it up to them later at one point,
they wouldn't even know. The second one is understanding the
stick of men's mental health. It says National Institutes of

(36:05):
Health outlines how so soide of expectations force men to
suppress emotions, leading to isolation and depressing depression. By naming passivitivity,
false identity, and stagnation, we are right now. It directly
chips away at that stigma and advice men to address
has been buried underneath their performance. And I think we
get caught up in performance and you know, being him,

(36:28):
you know there's a dark version of being him, and
there's the like the good side. So I know most
hymns think, oh I can get every girl in the room.
You know, I'm gonna smash all these women to night.
I'm gonna get you know, spending an absurd amount of money.
I'm going to you know, not have no discipline, nothing
I'm doing, but had of mindset, you know, spinner check,

(36:49):
get it right back. And that's a song. And that's
one of those phrases overlooked because them people probably have
financial advisors as well, not all of them, because I
do know, especially the rappers and then the teams that
you talk about, you hear them stories about them going
broke too. But a lot of them we having financial advisors.
And if you don't have one, looking to get in one,
or you know, look at it's reading some books on

(37:09):
some things. Now I will say, we will be talking
about that later in this series, so we prepared for
that now. The third one is what is identity distress?
It says, according to psychology today, identity confusion and lack
of purpose our major contributed to anxiety and depressive symptoms
and me and especially in the late twenties to mid thirties.
So we're pushing back that confusion and I'm asking you

(37:30):
to stop imitating, stop imitator who you think you are
who we actually want to become. Now again, I believe
purpose comes from God, but in that video it puts
you in the right track to where to go. To
find your purpose, you need to sit down and say,
what is it? I can't stop thinking about a lot
of times, y'all. Overlook itself, I ask you all the
time you talk up with this idea, that idea is great.

(37:52):
It's cool. We ain't even great, alight, it's cool? Okay?
Do you love doing that? We'll make a lot of money.
We're interested, y'all. Not answer the question, y'all dancing around
you ballet turning around the question? What is something you
can't stop thinking about? No matter? But see a lot
of people get caught up in what That sounds extreme,
But that sounds so out of reach. Do it anyway.

(38:15):
I'm not an advocate for doing it afraid. And I
say that only because doing it a fraise means that
you engage with us with being fearful, and I'm not
for being fearful. You shouldn't even be fearful at all. However, However,
I'd rather you do it afraid than not do it
at all. We got all the quotes, y'all, We got

(38:36):
all the quotes. Put me in a book. I already am.
But you know what I mean, all right? Also, you're
not lying. If you gotta lie, you're not lying. If
you gotta lie, put that on the book too. No,
but for real, you're not your real self if you
gotta lie, if you have to tell people, you know,
you lying about your money, anything you live in and

(38:56):
that's you're not a hundred I will say. Even with that,
like people the phrase of life where people like authenticity.
People like to hear. You know, one of my homeboys
from high school, I saw him. He made a post
about his gym one time and he talks about, you know,
there are months that I was laid on RNT for
my gym. There were months that you know, I was like,

(39:16):
I'm gonna just have to keep the you know, we
have to. We ain't gonna be open this day. Like
people like hearing that, especially with entrepreneurial journeys. So you
have a story. We all have a story. Like I said,
y'all know my situation I talk about all the time,
no job will hire me. I believe that God closed
those doors for a reason. And when I finally accepted
it is when it finally was just like took the

(39:37):
monkey off my back, because you know it was it
was just like it's nothing I can do. The fourth one,
which goes to the next point toxic achievement, culture and
mail mental health. So Harvard researchers note the millennium men
are underpressure to achieve without ever having to reflect, reset,
or heal. So we're go I wanna pause the pressure

(40:01):
that says you're not him, and that's okay, and it's
time to start that journey. That reset is essential. It's
for mental clarity. It's what's going to have you saying, okay,
this ain't working. Like I said my diet last year,
I said, okay, this ain't working. I'm now twelve pounds
down there from what I was last year. I didn't
take a year to get there, but just I'm just

(40:21):
thinking about where I was last year to this year
because I really didn't start losing it because I was
still around two forty through that rest of that whole year.
It really didn't hit until this year when I really
started resetting and reflecting change. The diet's drastic traged the
workouts drastically added some supplements I started at the beginning.
You're taking the oxy shred, the fat burner also not
responsible by them, but hey, let me throw it out there,

(40:42):
and I've seen results with that, so yeah, I love
that for me. Love that for me. Now, let's talk
about being a man child. She can't be him and
a man child. It can't be both. Just you can't
be him and a man child, just like you can't
be a Christian and an Aris just saying you don't
want to hear that, but I just went there. Don't care.

(41:04):
Argue with your mother. Astrology is witchcraft. I don't care.
Now let's talk about being a man child. Now, there's
a story of a person that I knew. Y'all know,
I'm quick to forget people, and this person me and
this person was cool, real cool. Met him. Dude was
really really cool. I seen when we got cool. He

(41:25):
didn't do anything to me. But a smart person learns
from them mistakes. A wise person learns from the mistakes
of us. And I watched how he did some of
his friends, Like I watched how one of his friends
called me one time. It was like, yeah, so and
so blocked me on everything, and I don't know what happened.
I watched him get into it with this girl one time.
He threatened to beat her up, and you lucky. It

(41:47):
was you had help, because if they wasn't there, I
would have banged your head up against the sidewalk. This
is a man saying this to a woman, and in
a group message, where if she wanted to screenshot that
and post that and you're a big consecret that she
could have ruined you. Wasn't thinking manchild right now. Me
and him didn't have no issues. But I'm the type

(42:08):
I'm like, at some point, you're gonna have issue with me.
So this person had a situation going on. I don't
know if this was why, but basically I felt I
think he felt that I took a side, which I
didn't because I still was cool with this other person
that he had issue with. I noticed I ended up.
I didn't notice he blocked me, but then he ended
up unblocking me and I saw his page. So originally

(42:30):
I had followed it because I thought, oh he'dne made
a new page whole time I put some together, Oh
he had blocked me, so I had DM him. I said, hey,
did you make a new page, and then he never responded.
We was cool. He was liking pictures and stuff. And
then I found out a few weeks ago he had
unfollowed me. Again, so I followed him back. Now was

(42:53):
I hurt by this?

Speaker 4 (42:54):
No?

Speaker 1 (42:54):
Was I kind of like annoyed in a moment. Yeah,
But I wasn't hurt by why because I had already
seen what's like person he was now is blocking and unfollowing.
We just keeps coming up. It's blocking and unfollowing. Childish
or man childish or sassy. It depends on the context.
I will block you if you texting me talking crazy.

(43:15):
One of my followers shout out to her love of
to death. These days we're good with great space now
she knows all about that. Don't block text my phone
something crazy. I don't care what happened. I don't care
if I ran you over with a car. Don't text
me talking crazy. I'm clearly wrong, but I don't care.
Don't text me say it. Talk about it in person.
But I ain't nobody with a car. But you know

(43:37):
what I'm saying. But you know I'm following. Though. There
have been times I unfollow people and I was kind
of like they'd probably be an emotional in the moment,
but it wasn't even in the argument. It was just
like on some lie, you know. But then sometimes I
don't feel bad about it either, because it's like it'd
be different if they was like actively engaged with my contents.
So it's kind of like I can blame it on that,
But then that's kind of lying a little bit, because
then you line by mischief, you're not telling the full story.

(44:02):
Jesus underrated life skill. Can I'm gonna ask you this?
And I should have asked this in QT and A.
Can people be wrong about you? Can't people be wrong
about you? Can somebody be able to say this is you?
And you be like, okay, not even engauge. If you can't,
you might be a man child? And that transition to

(44:25):
the next still in the mental health segment, Top five
signs you are a man child. Some of them was
mentioned in the videos, but let's get into it here.
The first one is avoiding responsibility. Says this comes from
Psychology Today and the article title can you spot ten?
Can you spot ten signs of a childish adult men

(44:48):
who routinely dodge basically the responsibilities and often display motional maturity.
The second one I see a lot in some people,
same source, blaming everyone but yourself when something goes wrong,
and man child will point before even looking in the mirror.
The kind of chronic blame game is where the dodge
accountability and delay growth. Third one, we kind of already
went over, same source. Emotional outbursts over small things. Tantrums

(45:11):
are just for childhood or talents grow Men who lash
out salt or shut down over minor conflict with the
lack of emotional regulation. Now with that, I'm gonna give
a twofold discussion before I go to the last two,
which actually, yeah, come from two different sources. The last
two there are instantly where people will say that I
was being emotionally immature because they're getting the talking and

(45:31):
going and I just get quiet. It's not that I
can't communicate, because I communicate very well. I wouldn't be
here if I wasn't. The issue is you now you're saying,
is it you're blaming people. Here's the thing I can observe.
When someone is an emotional tirade and they're just growing berserk,

(45:55):
they're angry and they've already made up their mind as
to what I do or what just happened. So no,
I'm not gonna go back and forth with you because
you made your mind up. You already you you you
made it up, So it's no point of me even
explaining it because you made your mind up, and you
have to know one when people when when people to
be wrong about you, all wrong about you, and two

(46:20):
being okay with understanding that some people when they made
their mind about you, just is what it is. So
I'm not even gonna waste my time because you're not
gonna hear me nowhere you want to hear a certain thing.
Fourth one I actually don't see too much of, but
we gotta throw out there overdependence on parents, so very
well mindset. Is your husband a man child still relying
on a mom and dad from money, directional decision making,
that's a red flag. Mature may knows how to sound
on his own even when they're comfortable. Now that's a

(46:41):
difference when times hard and you ask it for some money,
but just fully relying on them. The youngest millennials twenty nine.

Speaker 2 (46:50):
Jesus.

Speaker 1 (46:51):
The fifth one is fear of commitment. I think this
is a lot of people, he said Psychology day five.
Size you might betting a man child. It says, whether
it's ghosting, avoiding, like we're not able to commit to
a job. Fear of long term decisions offer sent from
a man never maturing past adolescent patterns, and you don't
necessarily you aren't necessarily fear of commitment in every area.

(47:13):
A lot of men are feel commitment when it comes
to marriage and of a committed relationship. But some people
say that about certain people, and then certain people is like,
you don't have a spouse or relationship, So it's like,
how can you be fear commitment if there's no one there?
Something to think about, something to think about? All right, y'all,

(47:33):
Now let's move to the final segment for today. We've
been rowing on the road, which is the weekly sabbatical,
and this sabbatical here we gotta talk about a few things.
Let's first go off with first comrent things thirteen and
electric and it says, when this is the ESB SUS,
When I was a child, I spoke like a child,
I thought like a child, I reason like a child.
When I became a man, I gave up childish ways.

(47:54):
So with that, you don't just give up childish way.
Some things you lose organically, Like I remember that, there's
an example of organic give up in this other thing.
You gotta stop so like growing up, like I love
playing U Gill. Right, I'm actually going back to my
roots and watching a lot of videos and video games

(48:15):
from childhood. Right, but I loved it. Still know how
to play compliably, play very well. I'm not about to
go buy no Ubio cards, Bro, But when I was
as I was growing up, I just kind of lost
the desire happen organically. Now let's do another one, where

(48:35):
will you give up childish ways? So say, for instance,
even if you live alone, it's just certain things you
don't do right, or certain things you outgrow. You could
easily be in this house and just let it look
a mess now when it comes down. Some people are
OCD and I don't have OCD with cleaning, but don't
get it twisted. I have to say, we gotta clean

(48:56):
up once a week, no excuses. And I ain't gonna
lie a point where I just kind of fell off
and just did it maybe every three weeks, so whenever
I felt like it. But I'm mandatory. You know, once
a week you have to clean. There's no excuses, and
ain't nobody here to tell me to do that. And
I'm not the person who likes to clean. Some people

(49:17):
they get they love to clean and so that's that's
easy for you do because that's something you.

Speaker 4 (49:22):
Like to do.

Speaker 1 (49:23):
I really don't, but I know I have to. And
it's just like look crazy. Granted, don't nobody live it,
don't nobody be over it. Like that I've learned a
while ago. You need once a week. It's no excuses.
So now when we have some tips. If you are
a man child and you want to be him, you
want to be that guy, there's certain things you gotta
do because the physical look, the money, the the the

(49:49):
the purpose. You know, a lot of that stuff is surface.
Purpose of course is God leed and all that, but
a lot of that stuff that we've mentioned and we've
seen it, it's surface. You really want to be that
guy internally as well. Here's some steps. So this comes
from an article called why does Paul say when I

(50:10):
was a child spoke like a child?

Speaker 3 (50:11):
Right?

Speaker 1 (50:13):
So why does he say that? Why does he say that?
So here's some steps, So let's analyze that. It says
that he used the analogy of transitioning from a childhood
from childhood to adultho to emphasize spiritual maturity. He encourages
believes to move beyond petty disputes and burns love as
a foundation of their interactions. Then it goes to the
second point. It says childish versus mature behaviors. It says

(50:34):
the Corinthians behavior marked by jealousy and strife are labeled
as children by Paul. Now remember he sent that letter
to the Corinthians and basically saying all the stuff that
they were doing wrong and incorrect. He contrasts with mature
approach to prioritizing love and unity within the community. Like
a person who is mature can often you know, you

(50:57):
seek peace. Now, when we think peace, we think record
there are some people who you can be at peace with.
But no, yeah, we'll never be cool like that again.
And that's okay, but you have to know the difference.
Then it gets into the application for personal growth. So
it says that the passage serves as a metaphor for
personal development, urge individuals to reflect on areas, whether it

(51:18):
be holding on the immature patterns and strive for growth
and love and understand it. So that's something you need
to see, That's something you need to analyze and see, like,
am I tripping? You know? Am I overreacted? Am I
the problem you know that if it isn't me, am
I drama, Like, yeah, it's you, But that's okay. You've
been going around the same mountain, You've been wanting something more.

(51:41):
You're tied of the same thing. I see y'all notes,
I see y'all threads, I see y'all tweets. I don't
see you'll tweets. I'm not on Twitter twitters full of
you know what, expirated content. And if you're trying to
live right, you keep going on there. It's just not
it's not good. It's some people who are going there
specifically for that, And I'm like, you're a Freakily people
be telling you they freaks. They do sidebar. So I

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saw a video before we end off. It was you
could tell this generation has been perverted, and you can
tell the generation was introduced to sex a little early.
I've seen the video. It was an old video of
an old Freddy Krueger video of Freddy Kruger movie, don't
know which one, and it was video where a girl
was on the phone and you know, when Freddy would
do the dream stuff in real life, people start to manifest.

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So she was on the phone and at the bottom
of the phone, A tongue came out and the girl
was like this, and she backed up. And when I
tell you, so many people was in those comments saying
them women were saying some outrageous and outlandish things. One
of the comments I will repeat the other ones is

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too too explicit. But the one comment she said was
I would have put that phone. No, She said, I
would have had Freddy running from me. I wish I
could show you all them comments. And I'll say I laughed,
but I was also disheartened. Is that the word I
want to use, I was that when I saw so

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many people that I knew liked it. If you've been
traveling around the same mountain going aer in circles and
you want direction, not only would this series be for you,
but from an article titled traveling around the same mountain
in your life too long with a question mark, here's

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some things that can kind of put you in the
right direction. Because, like I said, I don't want to
reveal too much because really, in short, this whole video,
this whole series is gonna kind of answer those different questions.
But this is the precursor to all of that. It says,
sometimes circumstances or events force us to look back and
take an inventory of life of our lives, or to
look forward to the near future to where we are
hitting the life. One of the situations the end of

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the year. Think about that, Think about the end of
the year so far we always first of all, we
are now what in April? Where are you with your goals?
You had all these goals? Where they at? Where they at? Dope,
where are at? You know what I'm saying. So that's
something I want you to ask yourself. And the Bible

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story does a great example of breaking that down. It
then says in Dude, around two and three, God told
the israelize, you've been traveling around this mountain country long enough.
And as a result, as a result of their lack
of faith and disobedience, they spent forty years instead of
a few weeks traveling from Egypt to the Promised Lamb.
At one juncture, they journey around about the same mount
in the desert for such a long time. The Lord

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himself told them it's enough. Don't let God have to
tell you it's been enough. Like what took a few
weeks took forty years. And sometimes disobedience is sneaky because
we think well, I'm gonna do this first and then
I'm gonna get to that. Great example, I was watching
Laura l Ross's interview last night, and anything you do

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I think is great. But she made a comment about
how her life is what it is now, and she said,
I thought this would have been the retirement move her
being on a breakfast club and journalist. She thought that
was gonna be her retirement dream. She thought she was
gonna be a big actress first and then that. So
sometimes we have to get out of what we think

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and we think sometimes we're doing what God wants us
to do, but we're actually in the way because we
didne curated what we think we're supposed to be doing
right now and how it's supposed to be, and we're
in error. And the biggest sign you're in error is
if you're not seeing no movement, if you seeing it,
Because sometimes people say, well I'm seeing a little bit
of movement. Let me say this. It don't take you

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no six months to lose five pounds. It don't take
six months to lose ten pounds. It really don't take
six months to lose twenty pounds. I'm gonna go back
to weight loss, because that's a good example. So if
you say you win six months, to be like, well
I lost three pounds, you're not doing something right and
you're going down the wrong way. You're not seeing the
proper results. I always shout out to her mcgirl, Brianna

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Brea change right. She was gonna consistent on TikTok doing
what she was supposed to be doing, being herself versus
trying all these other little things. But she was herself
and her instant, her TikTok blew up and was still grown.
That's an example for somebody. Obedience is marked by acceleration.
This obedience is marked by delay. Going back to the article,

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it says mountains and scriptures often symbolize challenges of problems
the Bible and our experience as teachers, that it's possible
to deal with the same problem issue for many years,
possibly for an entire lifetime. For example, Jesus once met
a man who has suffered from an infirmity, infirmity for
thirty eight years, and after meeting Gesz was healed. When
it's time for something, it ain't gonna take stuff ain't
gotta take long. We've been taught a lot that like

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I you think about forgiveness when it was like time
heals all know it, don't It's been stuff I had
been mad about twenty years later. And not for me,
not for a lot of people. Really, it's some people
who just be forgetting stuff. I ain't want to. I
ain't want to question. Challenge for the week. What steps

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are you taking to become heymathy? Now, let's get a
quick synopsis. Are you a man child? One of the
signs of man being a man child is blame game,
all this stuff, but also going around in the same amount,
going around in circles. Do you have what it takes
to be him? We all do, but you have to

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take into account what you're doing, and then also what
you're not doing. What are you doing? Too much of
you knows. It's a format here. It was a lot
to unpack. But don't fear because it's a lot here.
You can always rewind to go back. But also too,
we got a whole series. Every episode will feature somebody.
So I went to find the people and hopefully this

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series will help you and put you in the right
steps to say, you know what, dang like, let me
see what's up? Let me catch a vibe. Let me
see what's up all right, y'all. So I ain't hold y'all,
I hold you, yeah, yeah, whatever, It's okay. You love
it here hel y'all. We had a great episode today.
I'm thankful. I'm happy to be back for season nine,
a bunch of bunch of episodes, a bunch of great conversations,

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and I can't with for you to see it all.
So it's always PSA signed and now always remember, keep
your head up. Like your neck hurt, remember who you are,
make your mind up, don't let it make you. And
it's always always remember I love us for real