June 18, 2025 • 12 mins
***The Asha Christina Tapes***
In this classic episode of dating, love, and relationship advice, I will give you the five guaranteed ways to emotionally detach from someone. We can all detach from someone, but I will focus on the guaranteed ways to detach in this dating advice emotionally. If you want to detach yourself after a few dates, online dating, or a toxic relationship, this relationship advice has got you covered. Embrace these relationship tips to learn how to detach emotionally from someone. One of the most effective ways to detach emotionally is to take a step back and look at it from a third-person perspective. You can also detach emotionally from someone by engaging in activities and hobbies you like. Pay attention to this relationship advice for women to learn more about emotional wellbeing and how to detach emotionally. I dont want you to struggle to move on or detach emotionally. If you find yourself stuck in a relationship or situationship, this dating advice for women will help you detach emotionally. I would like you to learn how to detach emotionally, and this video will give you the different ways to detach. I'm Just a girl who's trying to build a longer table instead of a fence. My goal is to help you transform your life with my combination of personal development, human psychology, sophistication, and inner and outer beauty tips. This video will give you clarity if you are asking the following questions or looking for;
In this classic episode of dating, love, and relationship advice, I will give you the five guaranteed ways to emotionally detach from someone. We can all detach from someone, but I will focus on the guaranteed ways to detach in this dating advice emotionally. If you want to detach yourself after a few dates, online dating, or a toxic relationship, this relationship advice has got you covered. Embrace these relationship tips to learn how to detach emotionally from someone. One of the most effective ways to detach emotionally is to take a step back and look at it from a third-person perspective. You can also detach emotionally from someone by engaging in activities and hobbies you like. Pay attention to this relationship advice for women to learn more about emotional wellbeing and how to detach emotionally. I dont want you to struggle to move on or detach emotionally. If you find yourself stuck in a relationship or situationship, this dating advice for women will help you detach emotionally. I would like you to learn how to detach emotionally, and this video will give you the different ways to detach. I'm Just a girl who's trying to build a longer table instead of a fence. My goal is to help you transform your life with my combination of personal development, human psychology, sophistication, and inner and outer beauty tips. This video will give you clarity if you are asking the following questions or looking for;
- Guaranteed ways to emotionally detach
- Ways to emotionally detach
- How to emotionally detach
- How to detach
- Emotionally detach
- Detach emotionally
- Online dating
- Dating advice
- Detach emotionally from someone
- Detach
- Emotional support
- Emotional growth
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hello, beautiful, how are you. My name is Asha. Very
nice to meet you.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
I just want to point out that we are very
very close to ten k subscribers. This is insane. I
am so honored and happy. This is why I always
take my time to respond to all you guys comments
because it means so much to me and I'm just
so humbled by this whole journey. And I did promise
(00:26):
you guys that I would release a video about how
YouTube changed my life once I hit ten k, So
once we hit ten k, then I will release that video.
It's a very special video to me. It's very emotional
and I was documenting my journey to get to the
point where I am at right now, and it is
(00:46):
something that I would love to share with you guys, So.
Speaker 1 (00:51):
Definitely look forward to that.
Speaker 2 (00:53):
Another thing before we get into the video, of course,
you guys know the drill by Now, do not forget
to follow me on Instagram, which will be right here,
and also do not forget to subscribe to this channel
and also click on the bells that you're notified every
single time that I post. And without further ado, I
don't want to hold you guys any longer, so let's
just jump right.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
Into the video.
Speaker 2 (01:13):
So, as you guys can see from the title, this
is how to emotionally Detach is a very highly requested video.
Speaker 1 (01:21):
This is a question that I get so many times.
Speaker 2 (01:24):
These are things that I had to learn based off
my own experience, based off of things I've seen.
Speaker 1 (01:29):
Things I've heard, YadA, YadA, YadA.
Speaker 2 (01:31):
So we're going to jump right into tip number one,
and that is think with your head, not with your heart.
This is so important because we have to understand the
fact that despite what we're looking for, we can't jump
into this thinking, oh my god, this guy's the one.
Even if we may suspect that that may be the case,
(01:53):
you can't act on it because that's when you start
leading with emotion, and as you guys know, we don't
do that until it's earned.
Speaker 1 (02:03):
And then you're already.
Speaker 2 (02:04):
Starting to go backwards because in your head, you start
conditioning yourself naturally as a woman to accepts certain things
or overlook certain signs because you're just thinking, oh my gosh,
this guy is the one for me. So if I
have to deal with XX and X, and it's really
(02:24):
not that bad because at least I get him. No
lead with your head, not your heart, And if you
think about it, guys do that naturally all the time.
Speaker 1 (02:37):
They're very logical when it comes to dating. Let's do
the same.
Speaker 2 (02:42):
Tip number two, as I've mentioned before, do not ever
date just one person at a time. This is coming
from someone like myself who always used to just date
one person at a time, and based upon that experience,
I've quickly learned that why would I do something like that?
All it did was make me focus on that one person,
(03:04):
and that one person was not only focused on me,
so it made them, naturally, of course, way less detached.
They had more options, all of these things, and all
it did was make me sad. If I felt like
they pulled away, I would draw closer.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
We all do this.
Speaker 2 (03:19):
Come on, ladies, let's not act like we don't. And
it's just a recipe for disaster. And also, you don't
want to pour so much into one thing when you
don't even know if that is the thing. And nine
times out of ten, he's definitely seeing other people, so
you need to keep your options open as well.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
This is a.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
Major component in emotionally detaching, because there is no way
that you were out of the three people that you're dating,
or five people that you're dating, that you are emotionally.
Speaker 1 (03:51):
Attached to all of them. It's just not possible.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
And if you are someone that is smart and you
are playing the game, which you should be, you're not
going to yourself to have emotion for people that have
not proven anything to you yet.
Speaker 1 (04:04):
Why am I having emotion with you?
Speaker 2 (04:06):
You don't have any emotions to meet with me, You
don't have any emotion with me.
Speaker 1 (04:11):
So why am I giving you that?
Speaker 2 (04:13):
It's so easy for us as women to get emotionally detached.
Speaker 1 (04:17):
So wait till he gets there.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
Don't get there before he gets there. When he gets there,
we just synchronize. That's usually how it goes. It takes
nothing for us to do that. So don't just offer
that up because that's when they pounce on that vulnerability
and they do whatever they want to do because they
know that they have you. Do not date just one
person or as I've said in my other videos, have
(04:42):
a roster. Tip Number three is keep yourself busy, and
I mean legitimately busy, Okay, path to have a life,
and the more confident you are in having a life
and actually having a life, whether that's you know, hang
out with you girlfriend, taking some sort of fitness class, kickboxing,
(05:03):
whatever it is.
Speaker 1 (05:04):
Actually having hobbies and things to do.
Speaker 2 (05:08):
This will make you less available at all times. And
one thing I've also learned is never cancel your plans
for a guy. Continue on about your day. If you
have something legitimate to do. Do not cancel and make
way for him. I don't think so he can see
you another time. Continue on with your day. This also
will make him want to see you again because it's like, oh, dang,
(05:31):
I really want to see this girl today, but she
had something to do. I'll see what she's doing later
on this week. Don't be upset thinking, oh my gosh,
the fact that I just you know, that I told
him I had something to do. Now he's not gonna
want to see me anymore. No, that's not how it works.
You see what I'm saying. And I'm guilty of this too,
where I used to just make myself available all the.
Speaker 1 (05:52):
Time, and I feel like guys can easily.
Speaker 2 (05:55):
Sense that, and they're just like, every single time that
I ask this person out, they are always available for me.
It's not always translating to them as wow, she really
likes me.
Speaker 1 (06:06):
She's always available.
Speaker 2 (06:07):
It seems to translate to them as she must not
have that much to do. And then all of a sudden,
you take a back seat in their roster because they know, okay,
option A is always available, so let me bring in
option B because I know that at the end of
the day, more than likely option A is always available.
Speaker 1 (06:30):
So then they start rotating.
Speaker 2 (06:32):
Other people have ahead of you because they know that
you're always, no matter what, pretty much gonna say yes
and be there. No, I don't think, So have your
own life, have your own activities to do. And also,
even if you are someone that's in a relationship, men
don't always want you up under them, So have your
(06:53):
own things to do, have your own life. This also
makes you more attractive because it's like, Wow, she has
her own own thing going on.
Speaker 1 (07:01):
She takes this yoga.
Speaker 2 (07:02):
Class or pilates class and whatever she does like with
her girlfriends. You know, I'm talking about legitimate things. I'm
not talking about only going out and partying all day.
And this adds value to you and it shows Wow,
that's very attractive to know that you're not just waiting
on me to just come home, or you're not waiting
on me to call you and ask you out on
(07:22):
a date. You understand what I'm saying, which either way,
you shouldn't be waiting on him to ask you out
on a date anyway, because you have a roster, remember, okay.
Tip number four to help you get emotionally detached is
to literally remember all the times that you made the
mistake of becoming emotionally attached too soon and how that
(07:44):
ended up. Had that end up for you, babe? It
didn't end well?
Speaker 1 (07:49):
Right.
Speaker 2 (07:51):
Start reflecting on how it felt to be taken advantage of,
to have that feeling of giving more than you actually got.
Speaker 1 (07:58):
There was no reciprose.
Speaker 2 (08:00):
It's important to remember that feeling that enough should be
motivation to not allow something like that to happen again.
Do not surrender your control to somebody like that again,
especially so soon. And this is why all of these
tips are very important because they all synchronize with one another.
Speaker 1 (08:22):
So far, we've gone through one through four.
Speaker 2 (08:24):
If you don't think with your head, you're more than
likely not going to have a roster because you're attaching
yourself to one person who isn't even giving you that commitment,
at least not yet. If you date just one person, well,
then you're just you're emotionally attaching yourself, setting yourself up
for heartbreak and oversharing and spilling your feelings, getting emotionally
(08:47):
attached to someone for no reason. And if you date
just one person, then you're not following step one, which
was to think with your head and not with your heart.
Speaker 1 (09:00):
You're just rooting things for yourself, babe, you're working backwards.
If you're not.
Speaker 2 (09:04):
Doing tip number three keeping yourself busy, then you're always
going to be available, which how is that even possible?
That would insinuate that you weren't following the previous tips
that you shouldn't be making yourself available for just one
person only. You have to follow all of these see
how they all just go together. If you reflect on
how you retreated when you didn't follow these rules, it
(09:27):
would make it a lot easier to get attached to
someone that.
Speaker 1 (09:31):
Isn't giving you the same thing. Don't do it.
Speaker 2 (09:34):
And lastly, tip number five the take home until you
get a commitment, associate emotions with surrendering your control, and
that is what you don't want to do. So if
you associate emotions with surrounding your control, you're less prone
to do it because think about it. Let's say you
(09:55):
went on a date with a guy, right, this is
an extreme example, and he said to you, oh, how
about you drive my car? And when you were driving
his car, he goes, okay, now let me just steer
the wheel. You just sit there. You'd have to, of course,
surrender your control of the wheel and trust the fact
(10:20):
that he's not going to crash the car while you
are in the driver's seat.
Speaker 1 (10:26):
How does that work.
Speaker 2 (10:27):
I don't think you'd really do that, especially with someone
of course that you don't even know that well, you
wouldn't even put yourself in that position. So same goes
for dating. You do not surrender your control when you
don't know this person. You don't have trust in this person.
Vice versa.
Speaker 1 (10:46):
You don't do it.
Speaker 2 (10:48):
You don't have a commitment to this person. You have
no reason to actually just take every single thing. And
they're saying, you know, at face value, you don't have
a reason to. Does that make sense. That was a
really good example, by the way, So guys, those are
just five quick tips on how to emotionally detach. I
(11:09):
really hope that you guys actually implement these things and
let me know how it goes. When you do, because
these are legitimate rules that I personally follow myself by
now at this point, to me, it's second nature. So
it's a lot easier for me given the fact that
I have been implementing these for a while now. But
(11:30):
that being said, guys, if you have any suggestions of
any other videos that you would like me to do,
any other topics that you would like me to cover,
do not hesitate to let me know in the comment section.
Be low, And of course, if you haven't subscribed to
you already subscribe. And if you haven't clicked the vel,
already click the vel. Become a part of the eighteen.
We would love to have you. We're growing at such
(11:52):
a exponential rate. I just it's just exciting and it's
so mind blowing and I'm so grateful and I don't
want you, guys to forget that I love you and
God loves you.
Speaker 1 (12:02):
And I'll see you guys in my next video.
Speaker 2 (12:07):
M
Hello, beautiful, how are you. My name is Asha. Very
nice to meet you.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
I just want to point out that we are very
very close to ten k subscribers. This is insane. I
am so honored and happy. This is why I always
take my time to respond to all you guys comments
because it means so much to me and I'm just
so humbled by this whole journey. And I did promise
(00:26):
you guys that I would release a video about how
YouTube changed my life once I hit ten k, So
once we hit ten k, then I will release that video.
It's a very special video to me. It's very emotional
and I was documenting my journey to get to the
point where I am at right now, and it is
(00:46):
something that I would love to share with you guys, So.
Speaker 1 (00:51):
Definitely look forward to that.
Speaker 2 (00:53):
Another thing before we get into the video, of course,
you guys know the drill by Now, do not forget
to follow me on Instagram, which will be right here,
and also do not forget to subscribe to this channel
and also click on the bells that you're notified every
single time that I post. And without further ado, I
don't want to hold you guys any longer, so let's
just jump right.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
Into the video.
Speaker 2 (01:13):
So, as you guys can see from the title, this
is how to emotionally Detach is a very highly requested video.
Speaker 1 (01:21):
This is a question that I get so many times.
Speaker 2 (01:24):
These are things that I had to learn based off
my own experience, based off of things I've seen.
Speaker 1 (01:29):
Things I've heard, YadA, YadA, YadA.
Speaker 2 (01:31):
So we're going to jump right into tip number one,
and that is think with your head, not with your heart.
This is so important because we have to understand the
fact that despite what we're looking for, we can't jump
into this thinking, oh my god, this guy's the one.
Even if we may suspect that that may be the case,
(01:53):
you can't act on it because that's when you start
leading with emotion, and as you guys know, we don't
do that until it's earned.
Speaker 1 (02:03):
And then you're already.
Speaker 2 (02:04):
Starting to go backwards because in your head, you start
conditioning yourself naturally as a woman to accepts certain things
or overlook certain signs because you're just thinking, oh my gosh,
this guy is the one for me. So if I
have to deal with XX and X, and it's really
(02:24):
not that bad because at least I get him. No
lead with your head, not your heart, And if you
think about it, guys do that naturally all the time.
Speaker 1 (02:37):
They're very logical when it comes to dating. Let's do
the same.
Speaker 2 (02:42):
Tip number two, as I've mentioned before, do not ever
date just one person at a time. This is coming
from someone like myself who always used to just date
one person at a time, and based upon that experience,
I've quickly learned that why would I do something like that?
All it did was make me focus on that one person,
(03:04):
and that one person was not only focused on me,
so it made them, naturally, of course, way less detached.
They had more options, all of these things, and all
it did was make me sad. If I felt like
they pulled away, I would draw closer.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
We all do this.
Speaker 2 (03:19):
Come on, ladies, let's not act like we don't. And
it's just a recipe for disaster. And also, you don't
want to pour so much into one thing when you
don't even know if that is the thing. And nine
times out of ten, he's definitely seeing other people, so
you need to keep your options open as well.
Speaker 1 (03:38):
This is a.
Speaker 2 (03:38):
Major component in emotionally detaching, because there is no way
that you were out of the three people that you're dating,
or five people that you're dating, that you are emotionally.
Speaker 1 (03:51):
Attached to all of them. It's just not possible.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
And if you are someone that is smart and you
are playing the game, which you should be, you're not
going to yourself to have emotion for people that have
not proven anything to you yet.
Speaker 1 (04:04):
Why am I having emotion with you?
Speaker 2 (04:06):
You don't have any emotions to meet with me, You
don't have any emotion with me.
Speaker 1 (04:11):
So why am I giving you that?
Speaker 2 (04:13):
It's so easy for us as women to get emotionally detached.
Speaker 1 (04:17):
So wait till he gets there.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
Don't get there before he gets there. When he gets there,
we just synchronize. That's usually how it goes. It takes
nothing for us to do that. So don't just offer
that up because that's when they pounce on that vulnerability
and they do whatever they want to do because they
know that they have you. Do not date just one
person or as I've said in my other videos, have
(04:42):
a roster. Tip Number three is keep yourself busy, and
I mean legitimately busy, Okay, path to have a life,
and the more confident you are in having a life
and actually having a life, whether that's you know, hang
out with you girlfriend, taking some sort of fitness class, kickboxing,
(05:03):
whatever it is.
Speaker 1 (05:04):
Actually having hobbies and things to do.
Speaker 2 (05:08):
This will make you less available at all times. And
one thing I've also learned is never cancel your plans
for a guy. Continue on about your day. If you
have something legitimate to do. Do not cancel and make
way for him. I don't think so he can see
you another time. Continue on with your day. This also
will make him want to see you again because it's like, oh, dang,
(05:31):
I really want to see this girl today, but she
had something to do. I'll see what she's doing later
on this week. Don't be upset thinking, oh my gosh,
the fact that I just you know, that I told
him I had something to do. Now he's not gonna
want to see me anymore. No, that's not how it works.
You see what I'm saying. And I'm guilty of this too,
where I used to just make myself available all the.
Speaker 1 (05:52):
Time, and I feel like guys can easily.
Speaker 2 (05:55):
Sense that, and they're just like, every single time that
I ask this person out, they are always available for me.
It's not always translating to them as wow, she really
likes me.
Speaker 1 (06:06):
She's always available.
Speaker 2 (06:07):
It seems to translate to them as she must not
have that much to do. And then all of a sudden,
you take a back seat in their roster because they know, okay,
option A is always available, so let me bring in
option B because I know that at the end of
the day, more than likely option A is always available.
Speaker 1 (06:30):
So then they start rotating.
Speaker 2 (06:32):
Other people have ahead of you because they know that
you're always, no matter what, pretty much gonna say yes
and be there. No, I don't think, So have your
own life, have your own activities to do. And also,
even if you are someone that's in a relationship, men
don't always want you up under them, So have your
(06:53):
own things to do, have your own life. This also
makes you more attractive because it's like, Wow, she has
her own own thing going on.
Speaker 1 (07:01):
She takes this yoga.
Speaker 2 (07:02):
Class or pilates class and whatever she does like with
her girlfriends. You know, I'm talking about legitimate things. I'm
not talking about only going out and partying all day.
And this adds value to you and it shows Wow,
that's very attractive to know that you're not just waiting
on me to just come home, or you're not waiting
on me to call you and ask you out on
(07:22):
a date. You understand what I'm saying, which either way,
you shouldn't be waiting on him to ask you out
on a date anyway, because you have a roster, remember, okay.
Tip number four to help you get emotionally detached is
to literally remember all the times that you made the
mistake of becoming emotionally attached too soon and how that
(07:44):
ended up. Had that end up for you, babe? It
didn't end well?
Speaker 1 (07:49):
Right.
Speaker 2 (07:51):
Start reflecting on how it felt to be taken advantage of,
to have that feeling of giving more than you actually got.
Speaker 1 (07:58):
There was no reciprose.
Speaker 2 (08:00):
It's important to remember that feeling that enough should be
motivation to not allow something like that to happen again.
Do not surrender your control to somebody like that again,
especially so soon. And this is why all of these
tips are very important because they all synchronize with one another.
Speaker 1 (08:22):
So far, we've gone through one through four.
Speaker 2 (08:24):
If you don't think with your head, you're more than
likely not going to have a roster because you're attaching
yourself to one person who isn't even giving you that commitment,
at least not yet. If you date just one person, well,
then you're just you're emotionally attaching yourself, setting yourself up
for heartbreak and oversharing and spilling your feelings, getting emotionally
(08:47):
attached to someone for no reason. And if you date
just one person, then you're not following step one, which
was to think with your head and not with your heart.
Speaker 1 (09:00):
You're just rooting things for yourself, babe, you're working backwards.
If you're not.
Speaker 2 (09:04):
Doing tip number three keeping yourself busy, then you're always
going to be available, which how is that even possible?
That would insinuate that you weren't following the previous tips
that you shouldn't be making yourself available for just one
person only. You have to follow all of these see
how they all just go together. If you reflect on
how you retreated when you didn't follow these rules, it
(09:27):
would make it a lot easier to get attached to
someone that.
Speaker 1 (09:31):
Isn't giving you the same thing. Don't do it.
Speaker 2 (09:34):
And lastly, tip number five the take home until you
get a commitment, associate emotions with surrendering your control, and
that is what you don't want to do. So if
you associate emotions with surrounding your control, you're less prone
to do it because think about it. Let's say you
(09:55):
went on a date with a guy, right, this is
an extreme example, and he said to you, oh, how
about you drive my car? And when you were driving
his car, he goes, okay, now let me just steer
the wheel. You just sit there. You'd have to, of course,
surrender your control of the wheel and trust the fact
(10:20):
that he's not going to crash the car while you
are in the driver's seat.
Speaker 1 (10:26):
How does that work.
Speaker 2 (10:27):
I don't think you'd really do that, especially with someone
of course that you don't even know that well, you
wouldn't even put yourself in that position. So same goes
for dating. You do not surrender your control when you
don't know this person. You don't have trust in this person.
Vice versa.
Speaker 1 (10:46):
You don't do it.
Speaker 2 (10:48):
You don't have a commitment to this person. You have
no reason to actually just take every single thing. And
they're saying, you know, at face value, you don't have
a reason to. Does that make sense. That was a
really good example, by the way, So guys, those are
just five quick tips on how to emotionally detach. I
(11:09):
really hope that you guys actually implement these things and
let me know how it goes. When you do, because
these are legitimate rules that I personally follow myself by
now at this point, to me, it's second nature. So
it's a lot easier for me given the fact that
I have been implementing these for a while now. But
(11:30):
that being said, guys, if you have any suggestions of
any other videos that you would like me to do,
any other topics that you would like me to cover,
do not hesitate to let me know in the comment section.
Be low, And of course, if you haven't subscribed to
you already subscribe. And if you haven't clicked the vel,
already click the vel. Become a part of the eighteen.
We would love to have you. We're growing at such
(11:52):
a exponential rate. I just it's just exciting and it's
so mind blowing and I'm so grateful and I don't
want you, guys to forget that I love you and
God loves you.
Speaker 1 (12:02):
And I'll see you guys in my next video.
Speaker 2 (12:07):
M
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