July 23, 2025 • 23 mins
***The Asha Christina Tapes***
This episode is about five real ways to get over a guy that you like. This video was highly requested and I hope you ladies enjoy it let me know what you think and also do not forget to leave your suggestions in the comments!!!!
This episode is about five real ways to get over a guy that you like. This video was highly requested and I hope you ladies enjoy it let me know what you think and also do not forget to leave your suggestions in the comments!!!!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hello, gorgeous, Welcome back to my channel and for my
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Speaker 2 (00:11):
Guys, it's been what a week if b I can't
believe it. I can't believe it.
Speaker 1 (00:17):
Like you guys are so awesome, it blows my entire
existence away. I also just want to say please excuse
my voice, because I was sick in my last video
and then it got worse after that. Now I'm actually
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and out.
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Speaker 2 (01:15):
Further ado, let's get into the video.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
Okay, guys, today's video is going to be five real
way how to get over a guy that you like?
And I know what you're thinking, why would I want
to get over a guy that I actually like? Well,
here's the thing, babe. You want to get over him
because obviously he doesn't like you back, or he doesn't
like you enough to reciprocate your feelings towards him.
Speaker 2 (01:39):
Okay, so I wrote down a list of five things.
Speaker 1 (01:42):
Because you guys know, I write down everything pretty much
and in no particular order per se. But this is
real advice, guys, So it may be harsh to some
you guys may not agree with it, but this is real.
Speaker 2 (01:56):
So Number one, start talking to other guys. Period. I
don't care, baby, I don't care how you're doing it.
Talk to other guys. You know.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
If you are the type of person that likes to
date you know, on an app, then go do that.
If you are the type of person that you know
you want to meet people in real life, then go
do that too. But you have to distract yourself so
that you're making yourself emotionally unavailable, so you're not thinking
about that Slee's ball that just is not reciprocating, you know,
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or matching your effort. You know, because, as you guys know,
on this channel, aside from valuing yourself and all of
these things, I also promote, you know, no more wasting
your time because people love to do that. Men love
to do that. They love to waste your time. So
we're not going to give them any more of that.
(02:49):
So don't waste your time another moment thinking about this
guy who doesn't like you, you know what I mean,
or isn't matching your effort, giving you those mixed signals,
all of those things, because honestly, for every one guy
that doesn't like you, there's gonna be one hundred where
that will, you know what I mean? Can I say
this thing? Tip number two, This is a physical thing.
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Start working out, level up babe. Okay, take pictures of
you in the gym. Oh love getting fit, you know,
twenty nineteen, gonna get fit.
Speaker 2 (03:22):
These are my new goals. Whatever.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
I don't care because obviously I assume you guys are
still following each other, you know, on Instagram. Oh and
here's another thing, unfollow him and have him still follow you.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
You know what I mean. Don't do it immediately, because
don't make it obvious. These are the.
Speaker 1 (03:39):
Things when you're leaving and you know that you want
to just you know, don't even grant them the you know,
satisfaction of letting.
Speaker 2 (03:49):
Them know you're just not gonna talk to them anymore.
Speaker 1 (03:51):
Literally, just act different, be different, because then that's when
they'll start to notice.
Speaker 2 (03:57):
Oh wow, like.
Speaker 1 (03:58):
She's not texting me as oll or she's not paying
attention to me at all. She's not even answering my
you know, my my calls or my text but I
see her posting on Instagram.
Speaker 2 (04:08):
I know that sounds like a petty game. But the
only reason why we're playing.
Speaker 1 (04:12):
Like this is because you lost your chance, right, You're over,
So I'm just going to be different and act different.
And now all of a sudden, you only want to
show me attention because I'm literally ignoring you. I don't
play that game. So you're done, you're over, but you
are going to watch me level up?
Speaker 2 (04:30):
Can I say this thing? Yeah? Just be healthy?
Speaker 1 (04:33):
Start posting healthy things that you're doing, Oh, trying to
drink sixty.
Speaker 2 (04:37):
Four ounces of water a day. Oh, I'll get there,
you know, twenty nineteen.
Speaker 1 (04:40):
I'm so excited to work on my goals. I don't know,
say anything. I don't care. Tip number three post literally
about how busy you are, babe, I don't care what
you're doing.
Speaker 2 (04:53):
You know, Okay, go to a dinner place and.
Speaker 1 (04:58):
You know, even go to a place that you guys
have went to together maybe before, right, and if you
girls have I'm talking about if you're at least over
the age of I'll even say twenty two, twenty one,
twenty two, and you haven't been on a solid date.
Speaker 2 (05:13):
Yet with a guy.
Speaker 1 (05:14):
In terms of, you know, going to a restaurant, I
mean a restaurant, not like Red Lobster, Applebee's. Uh not,
I'm not That's not what I'm talking about. Then these
people should be actually taking you out on dates.
Speaker 2 (05:28):
So go to a restaurant. Let's say you guys went
to Nobo.
Speaker 1 (05:34):
Nobu is in long it's in Manhattan, and it's also
there's one in La as well. It's a sushi place.
I'm just starting that out there. You guys went to Nobu.
Speaker 2 (05:42):
Go to Nobu with your friends. It doesn't even have
to be another guy.
Speaker 1 (05:47):
And literally just take a picture of your dinner or
take a boomerang, just post it on social media, because
he's gonna see it. He's gonna see your story. He's
gonna see that you posted this and you being out again.
This is all about wait, when did my nail break?
(06:08):
Oh my gosh, you guys, I just noticed my entire
nail broke. This has never happened to me before. I
didn't even feel it break, no whatever. So again, these
are all tips again to make your force yourself you
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have because you have to.
Speaker 2 (06:31):
You have to force yourself.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
Into the mentality of I'm going to fill my headspace
with everything possible but thinking about you. The only time
that your brain is slowing down where you should finally
come to the conclusion of, Eh, I'm you know, I'm
not with this, I don't like I don't I don't
want to like this person anymore. Is when you're going
to sleep at night, you know. And even then you
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should have a couple numbers, you know, if you don't
want to give out your real number, download those text
free numbers. You'd have to ge about your number. I know,
I don't like giving out my number. If you guys
personally know me. Whoever personally knows me that watches this
knows I change my number every year.
Speaker 2 (07:09):
I mean, can I say this thing? Maybe one day
that'll slow down.
Speaker 1 (07:13):
But you know, even the guy that I was seeing,
you know, recently, he was like, why did you change
your number?
Speaker 2 (07:19):
He just couldn't. He thought that I was changing it
because of a certain reason. But that's just me.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
I don't like a lot of people having my number
for some reason. It's just it's always how I've been,
you know. So anyways, you want to post a picture
or anything of you at dinner with your friends, even
order the same meal.
Speaker 2 (07:37):
I mean, you guys want to know something. I've done
this myself.
Speaker 1 (07:42):
I literally went out and I went to the same restaurant.
I went out, I went onto with this guy and
I I go I ordered the same meal that he
ordered for me, and I posted it on my Instagram.
Because did you think that life was going to slow
down because I left you?
Speaker 2 (08:01):
I don't think so, right, think again?
Speaker 1 (08:04):
You know, it's all about being proactive, ladys, thinking smarter,
working smarter. That's what it's about, you know. I just
I gotta tell you these are real facts, real things.
Tip Number four. I need you guys to read empowering books.
Speaker 2 (08:20):
Guys. This tip is so important.
Speaker 1 (08:24):
I was even reading in one of the books that
I'm gonna be one of the authors that I'm gonna
mention of these books that I really, really strongly encourage
you to read. She said, Listen to empowering songs. You know, Yes,
I do love you know, I love all types of music,
to be honest with you, guys, And yes, I am
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someone that loves, you know, very classy things, princess like things.
Speaker 2 (08:49):
I'm very feminine, I'm very girly.
Speaker 1 (08:51):
But if you're the type of person you know, I
also enjoy you know, some trap music here and there,
you know, a little.
Speaker 2 (08:58):
Tour here and there. You know, I'm not can I
say this thing. Whatever you do for fun, whatever your
vice is, you know what I mean, listen to empowering music.
Like what are those these two girls? There are these rappers.
I don't know if you girls have ever heard of them,
city girls.
Speaker 1 (09:16):
I mean, honestly, they're pretty ratchet, but their music it's
just so empowering.
Speaker 2 (09:21):
It makes you just want to be like, yeah, get
money forget these guys.
Speaker 1 (09:26):
Yeah, Like I don't know, at least that's how I
felt when I listened to their album what is that
song they have Where the Bag At? There's a song
that they literally have called where the Bag At? And
you guys should listen to that song. Okay, listen to
that song.
Speaker 2 (09:42):
Let me know what you think.
Speaker 1 (09:43):
And if you know the song, let me know if
you like the song. I personally, honestly, I think it's empowering.
And listen, babe, this is real stuff, right, So we're
gonna do whatever works. Because again, when you keep telling
yourself and you're forcing yourself into this mentality, because this
is not a breakup. This is not advice when you
break up with someone. This is just leaving someone that
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is not reciprocating, you know, matching your effort. So with
that being said, you have to move accordingly. You know,
it is what it is. So the authors of these
books are Bruce Bryan's and then the other one. Guys,
if anyone, I should have named this girl first Karen King. Now,
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I'm not gonna say the title of the book because.
Speaker 2 (10:30):
I'm just not.
Speaker 1 (10:31):
It's pretty, it's out there. I'll just say that the
title of the book. It's out there. It's called The
Power of Something, you know, and it's a very you know,
eye catching title. But more importantly, what's in the book
is actually of substance. Honestly, I highly recommend you ladies
(10:55):
read her book and thank me later.
Speaker 2 (10:58):
That's all I say. At that.
Speaker 1 (11:00):
I will also be providing the links to all of
these resources down below.
Speaker 2 (11:05):
Anytime I mentioned something, guys.
Speaker 1 (11:07):
I want you to know that it will always be
in the description box below, so you don't have to
worry about having to go back to this point in
the video. We're trying to remember what I said because
I will always be putting it in the description box.
Because I want you guys to have an easy time
navigating around.
Speaker 2 (11:25):
The resources that I mentioned.
Speaker 1 (11:26):
It's important that we educate ourselves too, right, because this
is doing what this is adding value to yourself. This
is making you more intelligent, and it's also giving you
another perspective so that you broaden your horizon and you're
being introduced to new things. This book, guys, and those
(11:47):
First of all, those two authors are just amazing. They
wrote incredible books. I actually have a lot of their books.
I have both of Karen's books I believe she wrote too,
and I have about four of Bruce Bryant's books are
on Kindle.
Speaker 2 (12:02):
So these books again, if you're not someone that wants
to listen to.
Speaker 1 (12:05):
The ratchet music, you know, to kind of get yourself
out of that bunk and get yourself out of that mode,
then I would definitely you know, read you know, those
books to help encourage yourself and you know, get over
that person you know not matching your efforts.
Speaker 2 (12:22):
And you know what.
Speaker 1 (12:22):
Lastly, tip number five, guys, don't ever allow your emotions
to cloud your judgment.
Speaker 2 (12:30):
Do not ever. We've all been there, we've all done it,
but han you are not going to do it again.
Can I say this thing?
Speaker 1 (12:41):
You are not going to let your emotions cloud your
judgment again because that's what got you here, right, But
we all have to start from somewhere. You know, if
you're you know young, if any of my subscribers are
younger than I am, you're I'm twenty four. If you're
younger than me, you know, you do have to make
some mistakes before you get to this step.
Speaker 2 (13:02):
Sometimes, you know, in life, we really can't.
Speaker 1 (13:05):
Skip certain things, right, you know, like you can't skip
your permit tests. If you want to drive, you can't
skip the driving lessons if you want to learn how
to drive, you can't skip the road tests. You know,
you can't skip at least getting your heartbroken once or twice.
I when I heard this, I thought to myself, Yeah right,
I don't have to ever in my life be hurt
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by a guy or get my heartbroken. But unfortunately, you
do have to experience a little bit of heartache.
Speaker 2 (13:31):
I don't know if I.
Speaker 1 (13:32):
Would ever say that I've been heartbroken before, but I've
had a couple disappointments, of course, you know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (13:38):
But I've never been.
Speaker 1 (13:41):
You know, really by definition, I believe heartbroken, but I
have been severely devastated. Yes, So tip number five, Like
I said, it's very important that we stay in control
of our emotions. Ladies, this will allow you to get
a we're that guy that is not matching your efforts. Why,
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because now you're thinking logically, Wait, Okay, I just spoke
to him on Monday, and it's Friday and he hasn't
spoken to me at all, or we go from speaking
every day pretty much and he's speaking to me.
Speaker 2 (14:15):
He hasn't spoken to me at all today. There is
no excuse for any guy that claims he likes you.
Speaker 1 (14:22):
Men or hunters. They're chasers. They go after what they want.
There's no excuse for him to not be taxing you.
If he's not taxing you, he's not thinking about you.
Do not overthink it, Do not over complicate it. Do
not make excuses for it.
Speaker 2 (14:37):
Do not. Don't you heard it from me?
Speaker 1 (14:45):
I wish I had someone to tell me this when
I was going through it. Babe, I mean, come on,
you got to stop ig during your intuition. You have
to stop making excuses for why these guys are not
reciprocating and matching your efforts. There is no excuse for it.
You are just not as you're not important enough. He
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just doesn't want you right now.
Speaker 2 (15:09):
He wants to play games, right that's what he wants
to do. Let him do it.
Speaker 1 (15:14):
He will watch the level up, he will you know
if this is not someone that you've broken up with,
of course, because this is not a what to do
after a breakup video? But if this, if the case
is where you guys are just friends and you guys
are talking and you feel like you've spent enough you know,
time with him for him to you know, at least
you know, match your effort and he's not doing that, Oh,
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unfollow because following you would indicate that I care about
what you're doing, right, and I don't.
Speaker 2 (15:43):
And if you do, babe, keep telling yourself you don't
unfollow him. Don't even think about it. Just literally unfollow him.
I know it's hard.
Speaker 1 (15:50):
I know it's hard, but I've done it, so I
can say it can be done.
Speaker 2 (15:54):
Okay, so you can do it.
Speaker 1 (15:57):
Unfollow him, and he'll be so confused because you won't
even see this thing coming, you know, So he's still
going to be following you, not anticipating that you even
unfollowed him.
Speaker 2 (16:06):
And then all of a sudden, you're just acting.
Speaker 1 (16:08):
You know, you're being happy, and eventually you genuinely you
know you're not heartbroken, like I said, so you will
easily overcome something like this. You're just you know, showing
out a little bit. So let him know, oh you
miss this, and I will always.
Speaker 2 (16:23):
Be the one that got away and I will never return. Okay,
that's all I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (16:28):
I want to stress the importance of how empowering it
feels to walk away from somebody that isn't matching your efforts.
It is such an empowering feeling. You know that person
probably thinks, oh, she'll be back, you know, she's not
gonna leave me.
Speaker 2 (16:48):
She likes me too much. No, I will, actually, yeah,
I will, and so will you.
Speaker 1 (16:56):
If a person, if a man is not ye giving
you what you think you deserve. And of course you've
probably hinted at it. He's not an idiot, He's not
an idiot.
Speaker 2 (17:09):
They know what's up.
Speaker 1 (17:10):
Guys know that eleven times out of ten, women always
want some sort of commitment, right, some sort of exclusivity,
not even some exclusivity period, right, And they know that
you're leaning towards that, and they want to act oblivious
and nonchalant, and they want to do whatever they want
to do. It's simply because they don't care and they're
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not regarding your feelings.
Speaker 2 (17:35):
That's it. You do not reward something like that.
Speaker 1 (17:38):
You don't reward those actions with more affection and annoying
them and hitting them up like, hey, how come you
haven't texted me, you know, in a whole day.
Speaker 2 (17:50):
Well, I'm letting you know.
Speaker 1 (17:51):
The answer to that, babe, before you send that text.
I'm telling you the answer. It's because he doesn't care.
It's hard. It hurts.
Speaker 2 (17:59):
I know.
Speaker 1 (18:00):
Oh, and I know how it feels, but he doesn't care.
And I'm not even laughing about it. But it's just
like it's funny to me because I've been there, and
I'm thinking to myself, like, wow, the answer was so simple,
and I unconvinced myself of it. The things we do
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and not even all the time for love at that right,
just for like, forfe's sake, don't save yourself the headache.
Speaker 2 (18:29):
Right.
Speaker 1 (18:29):
I was reading this quote actually on Instagram today and
it was saying, if the feeling was mutual, your efforts
will be matched or your efforts would be matched.
Speaker 2 (18:42):
I'm gonna repeat that again.
Speaker 1 (18:44):
If the feeling was mutual, your efforts will or would
be matched.
Speaker 2 (18:51):
Period. If you guys go to.
Speaker 1 (18:52):
My Instagram right now, you'll see that I posted that
in my ig story and it's so true.
Speaker 2 (18:59):
Don't ever forget that.
Speaker 1 (19:01):
In fact, I have a highlight section on my Instagram
that you guys can look at that I saved a
whole bunch of quotes that I think are amazing and
that I think is worthwhile you know.
Speaker 2 (19:13):
Looking at.
Speaker 1 (19:15):
I suggest you ladies look through them, because you know,
there's a lot of incredible quotes that I've.
Speaker 2 (19:19):
Saved and who doesn't love quotes. You know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (19:23):
I'm just saying, okay, guys, So now we are at
the end of this video. What I want you guys
to take home is this message.
Speaker 2 (19:30):
You can do this.
Speaker 1 (19:32):
You can walk away from any situation, any circumstance that
does not serve you because intuitively, you know what's going on.
You know that that guy is dating other people. You
know that that guy is sleeping with other people. If
he's your boyfriend, if he's the guy that you like,
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you know when a guy intuitively is playing games with you.
It is just something innate that we have a gift
from God. Actually, you know when they're playing games with you,
and the second you feel.
Speaker 2 (20:04):
That way, you are done. He is done.
Speaker 1 (20:09):
If anyone could ever play with you knowing the value
of yourself right, you will It's insulting. It's like, please,
I do not even want to deal with that, because
I know what it feels like to you know, ignore
my intuition. I know what it feels like when my
efforts are not reciprocated. There is no reciprocity. I love
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that word. There will always be a reciprocity. Effortlessly, if
somebody was on the same page as you. Right, It's
like going to dinner and you and your friend or
you and the guy are seeing you guys both want,
you know, Mexican food. It was easy, it was effortless.
You guys both wanted the same thing. It showed that
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kind and dry there really is. It's not as complex
as we make it out to be.
Speaker 2 (21:00):
Babes. It really isn't hone into that. Like I always
tell you, guys.
Speaker 1 (21:05):
Lean into your intuition, believe yourself. What you're feeling is real.
Speaker 2 (21:12):
As soon as you.
Speaker 1 (21:13):
Start to feel confused a disconnect, you can try and
mention it, gauge what he says.
Speaker 2 (21:18):
But there's a reason why you're feeling that. There's a
reason why you're feeling that he's playing games. Right. At
the end of the day, leave and do not ever
go back.
Speaker 1 (21:32):
I learned something, and you know I take my own
advice now, I really do. I will not and I
don't want you, guys to ever stick around in a
situation that just simply isn't for you.
Speaker 2 (21:48):
And you know it's not for you. Why are you
still there?
Speaker 1 (21:53):
I'm confused, You're breaking your own heart, You're inflicting your
own wounds. You have the answer and you choose to say,
why are you doing this?
Speaker 2 (22:03):
Right?
Speaker 1 (22:05):
I want you, guys to really follow these five tips.
You know, let's just go over them one more time.
Tip number one you're going to talk to other guys.
Tip number two you're gonna start working out, eating healthy.
That's very important. You will post about this. Number three
you're gonna post how busy you are? Oh, girls night out?
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Oh going out with the girls, you know what. Heck,
even take a picture with an attractive guy you know
and post it on your page too, to show like,
oh like with this cutie, so.
Speaker 2 (22:36):
Good to meet you. Anything right, because we're showing out
a little bit. Can I say this thing? Is this real?
Is it too real for you? I mean, I'm just saying.
Number four, read empowering books. Don't forget. It will be
in the discussion box below.
Speaker 1 (22:51):
Number five, do not ever let your emotions control you.
All right, and guys, that is the end of this video.
Thank you so much for watching. Guys again, turn on
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so much all many subscribers, Welcome.
Speaker 2 (23:15):
To the A team.
Speaker 1 (23:16):
Let's continue to grow, thrive, to power one another, uplift
one another.
Speaker 2 (23:22):
Okay, and I love you and God loves you. And
I'll see you guys in my next video. Oh god,
it's supposed to be
Hello, gorgeous, Welcome back to my channel and for my
new subscribers, thank you guys so much for subscribing. The
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Speaker 2 (00:11):
Guys, it's been what a week if b I can't
believe it. I can't believe it.
Speaker 1 (00:17):
Like you guys are so awesome, it blows my entire
existence away. I also just want to say please excuse
my voice, because I was sick in my last video
and then it got worse after that. Now I'm actually
feeling a little bit better, but my voice is in
and out.
Speaker 2 (00:34):
YadA, YadA, YadA.
Speaker 1 (00:35):
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Speaker 2 (01:15):
Further ado, let's get into the video.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
Okay, guys, today's video is going to be five real
way how to get over a guy that you like?
And I know what you're thinking, why would I want
to get over a guy that I actually like? Well,
here's the thing, babe. You want to get over him
because obviously he doesn't like you back, or he doesn't
like you enough to reciprocate your feelings towards him.
Speaker 2 (01:39):
Okay, so I wrote down a list of five things.
Speaker 1 (01:42):
Because you guys know, I write down everything pretty much
and in no particular order per se. But this is
real advice, guys, So it may be harsh to some
you guys may not agree with it, but this is real.
Speaker 2 (01:56):
So Number one, start talking to other guys. Period. I
don't care, baby, I don't care how you're doing it.
Talk to other guys. You know.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
If you are the type of person that likes to
date you know, on an app, then go do that.
If you are the type of person that you know
you want to meet people in real life, then go
do that too. But you have to distract yourself so
that you're making yourself emotionally unavailable, so you're not thinking
about that Slee's ball that just is not reciprocating, you know,
(02:28):
or matching your effort. You know, because, as you guys know,
on this channel, aside from valuing yourself and all of
these things, I also promote, you know, no more wasting
your time because people love to do that. Men love
to do that. They love to waste your time. So
we're not going to give them any more of that.
(02:49):
So don't waste your time another moment thinking about this
guy who doesn't like you, you know what I mean,
or isn't matching your effort, giving you those mixed signals,
all of those things, because honestly, for every one guy
that doesn't like you, there's gonna be one hundred where
that will, you know what I mean? Can I say
this thing? Tip number two, This is a physical thing.
(03:12):
Start working out, level up babe. Okay, take pictures of
you in the gym. Oh love getting fit, you know,
twenty nineteen, gonna get fit.
Speaker 2 (03:22):
These are my new goals. Whatever.
Speaker 1 (03:25):
I don't care because obviously I assume you guys are
still following each other, you know, on Instagram. Oh and
here's another thing, unfollow him and have him still follow you.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
You know what I mean. Don't do it immediately, because
don't make it obvious. These are the.
Speaker 1 (03:39):
Things when you're leaving and you know that you want
to just you know, don't even grant them the you know,
satisfaction of letting.
Speaker 2 (03:49):
Them know you're just not gonna talk to them anymore.
Speaker 1 (03:51):
Literally, just act different, be different, because then that's when
they'll start to notice.
Speaker 2 (03:57):
Oh wow, like.
Speaker 1 (03:58):
She's not texting me as oll or she's not paying
attention to me at all. She's not even answering my
you know, my my calls or my text but I
see her posting on Instagram.
Speaker 2 (04:08):
I know that sounds like a petty game. But the
only reason why we're playing.
Speaker 1 (04:12):
Like this is because you lost your chance, right, You're over,
So I'm just going to be different and act different.
And now all of a sudden, you only want to
show me attention because I'm literally ignoring you. I don't
play that game. So you're done, you're over, but you
are going to watch me level up?
Speaker 2 (04:30):
Can I say this thing? Yeah? Just be healthy?
Speaker 1 (04:33):
Start posting healthy things that you're doing, Oh, trying to
drink sixty.
Speaker 2 (04:37):
Four ounces of water a day. Oh, I'll get there,
you know, twenty nineteen.
Speaker 1 (04:40):
I'm so excited to work on my goals. I don't know,
say anything. I don't care. Tip number three post literally
about how busy you are, babe, I don't care what
you're doing.
Speaker 2 (04:53):
You know, Okay, go to a dinner place and.
Speaker 1 (04:58):
You know, even go to a place that you guys
have went to together maybe before, right, and if you
girls have I'm talking about if you're at least over
the age of I'll even say twenty two, twenty one,
twenty two, and you haven't been on a solid date.
Speaker 2 (05:13):
Yet with a guy.
Speaker 1 (05:14):
In terms of, you know, going to a restaurant, I
mean a restaurant, not like Red Lobster, Applebee's. Uh not,
I'm not That's not what I'm talking about. Then these
people should be actually taking you out on dates.
Speaker 2 (05:28):
So go to a restaurant. Let's say you guys went
to Nobo.
Speaker 1 (05:34):
Nobu is in long it's in Manhattan, and it's also
there's one in La as well. It's a sushi place.
I'm just starting that out there. You guys went to Nobu.
Speaker 2 (05:42):
Go to Nobu with your friends. It doesn't even have
to be another guy.
Speaker 1 (05:47):
And literally just take a picture of your dinner or
take a boomerang, just post it on social media, because
he's gonna see it. He's gonna see your story. He's
gonna see that you posted this and you being out again.
This is all about wait, when did my nail break?
(06:08):
Oh my gosh, you guys, I just noticed my entire
nail broke. This has never happened to me before. I
didn't even feel it break, no whatever. So again, these
are all tips again to make your force yourself you
(06:29):
have because you have to.
Speaker 2 (06:31):
You have to force yourself.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
Into the mentality of I'm going to fill my headspace
with everything possible but thinking about you. The only time
that your brain is slowing down where you should finally
come to the conclusion of, Eh, I'm you know, I'm
not with this, I don't like I don't I don't
want to like this person anymore. Is when you're going
to sleep at night, you know. And even then you
(06:53):
should have a couple numbers, you know, if you don't
want to give out your real number, download those text
free numbers. You'd have to ge about your number. I know,
I don't like giving out my number. If you guys
personally know me. Whoever personally knows me that watches this
knows I change my number every year.
Speaker 2 (07:09):
I mean, can I say this thing? Maybe one day
that'll slow down.
Speaker 1 (07:13):
But you know, even the guy that I was seeing,
you know, recently, he was like, why did you change
your number?
Speaker 2 (07:19):
He just couldn't. He thought that I was changing it
because of a certain reason. But that's just me.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
I don't like a lot of people having my number
for some reason. It's just it's always how I've been,
you know. So anyways, you want to post a picture
or anything of you at dinner with your friends, even
order the same meal.
Speaker 2 (07:37):
I mean, you guys want to know something. I've done
this myself.
Speaker 1 (07:42):
I literally went out and I went to the same restaurant.
I went out, I went onto with this guy and
I I go I ordered the same meal that he
ordered for me, and I posted it on my Instagram.
Because did you think that life was going to slow
down because I left you?
Speaker 2 (08:01):
I don't think so, right, think again?
Speaker 1 (08:04):
You know, it's all about being proactive, ladys, thinking smarter,
working smarter. That's what it's about, you know. I just
I gotta tell you these are real facts, real things.
Tip Number four. I need you guys to read empowering books.
Speaker 2 (08:20):
Guys. This tip is so important.
Speaker 1 (08:24):
I was even reading in one of the books that
I'm gonna be one of the authors that I'm gonna
mention of these books that I really, really strongly encourage
you to read. She said, Listen to empowering songs. You know, Yes,
I do love you know, I love all types of music,
to be honest with you, guys, And yes, I am
(08:44):
someone that loves, you know, very classy things, princess like things.
Speaker 2 (08:49):
I'm very feminine, I'm very girly.
Speaker 1 (08:51):
But if you're the type of person you know, I
also enjoy you know, some trap music here and there,
you know, a little.
Speaker 2 (08:58):
Tour here and there. You know, I'm not can I
say this thing. Whatever you do for fun, whatever your
vice is, you know what I mean, listen to empowering music.
Like what are those these two girls? There are these rappers.
I don't know if you girls have ever heard of them,
city girls.
Speaker 1 (09:16):
I mean, honestly, they're pretty ratchet, but their music it's
just so empowering.
Speaker 2 (09:21):
It makes you just want to be like, yeah, get
money forget these guys.
Speaker 1 (09:26):
Yeah, Like I don't know, at least that's how I
felt when I listened to their album what is that
song they have Where the Bag At? There's a song
that they literally have called where the Bag At? And
you guys should listen to that song. Okay, listen to
that song.
Speaker 2 (09:42):
Let me know what you think.
Speaker 1 (09:43):
And if you know the song, let me know if
you like the song. I personally, honestly, I think it's empowering.
And listen, babe, this is real stuff, right, So we're
gonna do whatever works. Because again, when you keep telling
yourself and you're forcing yourself into this mentality, because this
is not a breakup. This is not advice when you
break up with someone. This is just leaving someone that
(10:04):
is not reciprocating, you know, matching your effort. So with
that being said, you have to move accordingly. You know,
it is what it is. So the authors of these
books are Bruce Bryan's and then the other one. Guys,
if anyone, I should have named this girl first Karen King. Now,
(10:25):
I'm not gonna say the title of the book because.
Speaker 2 (10:30):
I'm just not.
Speaker 1 (10:31):
It's pretty, it's out there. I'll just say that the
title of the book. It's out there. It's called The
Power of Something, you know, and it's a very you know,
eye catching title. But more importantly, what's in the book
is actually of substance. Honestly, I highly recommend you ladies
(10:55):
read her book and thank me later.
Speaker 2 (10:58):
That's all I say. At that.
Speaker 1 (11:00):
I will also be providing the links to all of
these resources down below.
Speaker 2 (11:05):
Anytime I mentioned something, guys.
Speaker 1 (11:07):
I want you to know that it will always be
in the description box below, so you don't have to
worry about having to go back to this point in
the video. We're trying to remember what I said because
I will always be putting it in the description box.
Because I want you guys to have an easy time
navigating around.
Speaker 2 (11:25):
The resources that I mentioned.
Speaker 1 (11:26):
It's important that we educate ourselves too, right, because this
is doing what this is adding value to yourself. This
is making you more intelligent, and it's also giving you
another perspective so that you broaden your horizon and you're
being introduced to new things. This book, guys, and those
(11:47):
First of all, those two authors are just amazing. They
wrote incredible books. I actually have a lot of their books.
I have both of Karen's books I believe she wrote too,
and I have about four of Bruce Bryant's books are
on Kindle.
Speaker 2 (12:02):
So these books again, if you're not someone that wants
to listen to.
Speaker 1 (12:05):
The ratchet music, you know, to kind of get yourself
out of that bunk and get yourself out of that mode,
then I would definitely you know, read you know, those
books to help encourage yourself and you know, get over
that person you know not matching your efforts.
Speaker 2 (12:22):
And you know what.
Speaker 1 (12:22):
Lastly, tip number five, guys, don't ever allow your emotions
to cloud your judgment.
Speaker 2 (12:30):
Do not ever. We've all been there, we've all done it,
but han you are not going to do it again.
Can I say this thing?
Speaker 1 (12:41):
You are not going to let your emotions cloud your
judgment again because that's what got you here, right, But
we all have to start from somewhere. You know, if
you're you know young, if any of my subscribers are
younger than I am, you're I'm twenty four. If you're
younger than me, you know, you do have to make
some mistakes before you get to this step.
Speaker 2 (13:02):
Sometimes, you know, in life, we really can't.
Speaker 1 (13:05):
Skip certain things, right, you know, like you can't skip
your permit tests. If you want to drive, you can't
skip the driving lessons if you want to learn how
to drive, you can't skip the road tests. You know,
you can't skip at least getting your heartbroken once or twice.
I when I heard this, I thought to myself, Yeah right,
I don't have to ever in my life be hurt
(13:26):
by a guy or get my heartbroken. But unfortunately, you
do have to experience a little bit of heartache.
Speaker 2 (13:31):
I don't know if I.
Speaker 1 (13:32):
Would ever say that I've been heartbroken before, but I've
had a couple disappointments, of course, you know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (13:38):
But I've never been.
Speaker 1 (13:41):
You know, really by definition, I believe heartbroken, but I
have been severely devastated. Yes, So tip number five, Like
I said, it's very important that we stay in control
of our emotions. Ladies, this will allow you to get
a we're that guy that is not matching your efforts. Why,
(14:03):
because now you're thinking logically, Wait, Okay, I just spoke
to him on Monday, and it's Friday and he hasn't
spoken to me at all, or we go from speaking
every day pretty much and he's speaking to me.
Speaker 2 (14:15):
He hasn't spoken to me at all today. There is
no excuse for any guy that claims he likes you.
Speaker 1 (14:22):
Men or hunters. They're chasers. They go after what they want.
There's no excuse for him to not be taxing you.
If he's not taxing you, he's not thinking about you.
Do not overthink it, Do not over complicate it. Do
not make excuses for it.
Speaker 2 (14:37):
Do not. Don't you heard it from me?
Speaker 1 (14:45):
I wish I had someone to tell me this when
I was going through it. Babe, I mean, come on,
you got to stop ig during your intuition. You have
to stop making excuses for why these guys are not
reciprocating and matching your efforts. There is no excuse for it.
You are just not as you're not important enough. He
(15:07):
just doesn't want you right now.
Speaker 2 (15:09):
He wants to play games, right that's what he wants
to do. Let him do it.
Speaker 1 (15:14):
He will watch the level up, he will you know
if this is not someone that you've broken up with,
of course, because this is not a what to do
after a breakup video? But if this, if the case
is where you guys are just friends and you guys
are talking and you feel like you've spent enough you know,
time with him for him to you know, at least
you know, match your effort and he's not doing that, Oh,
(15:37):
unfollow because following you would indicate that I care about
what you're doing, right, and I don't.
Speaker 2 (15:43):
And if you do, babe, keep telling yourself you don't
unfollow him. Don't even think about it. Just literally unfollow him.
I know it's hard.
Speaker 1 (15:50):
I know it's hard, but I've done it, so I
can say it can be done.
Speaker 2 (15:54):
Okay, so you can do it.
Speaker 1 (15:57):
Unfollow him, and he'll be so confused because you won't
even see this thing coming, you know, So he's still
going to be following you, not anticipating that you even
unfollowed him.
Speaker 2 (16:06):
And then all of a sudden, you're just acting.
Speaker 1 (16:08):
You know, you're being happy, and eventually you genuinely you
know you're not heartbroken, like I said, so you will
easily overcome something like this. You're just you know, showing
out a little bit. So let him know, oh you
miss this, and I will always.
Speaker 2 (16:23):
Be the one that got away and I will never return. Okay,
that's all I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (16:28):
I want to stress the importance of how empowering it
feels to walk away from somebody that isn't matching your efforts.
It is such an empowering feeling. You know that person
probably thinks, oh, she'll be back, you know, she's not
gonna leave me.
Speaker 2 (16:48):
She likes me too much. No, I will, actually, yeah,
I will, and so will you.
Speaker 1 (16:56):
If a person, if a man is not ye giving
you what you think you deserve. And of course you've
probably hinted at it. He's not an idiot, He's not
an idiot.
Speaker 2 (17:09):
They know what's up.
Speaker 1 (17:10):
Guys know that eleven times out of ten, women always
want some sort of commitment, right, some sort of exclusivity,
not even some exclusivity period, right, And they know that
you're leaning towards that, and they want to act oblivious
and nonchalant, and they want to do whatever they want
to do. It's simply because they don't care and they're
(17:33):
not regarding your feelings.
Speaker 2 (17:35):
That's it. You do not reward something like that.
Speaker 1 (17:38):
You don't reward those actions with more affection and annoying
them and hitting them up like, hey, how come you
haven't texted me, you know, in a whole day.
Speaker 2 (17:50):
Well, I'm letting you know.
Speaker 1 (17:51):
The answer to that, babe, before you send that text.
I'm telling you the answer. It's because he doesn't care.
It's hard. It hurts.
Speaker 2 (17:59):
I know.
Speaker 1 (18:00):
Oh, and I know how it feels, but he doesn't care.
And I'm not even laughing about it. But it's just
like it's funny to me because I've been there, and
I'm thinking to myself, like, wow, the answer was so simple,
and I unconvinced myself of it. The things we do
(18:21):
and not even all the time for love at that right,
just for like, forfe's sake, don't save yourself the headache.
Speaker 2 (18:29):
Right.
Speaker 1 (18:29):
I was reading this quote actually on Instagram today and
it was saying, if the feeling was mutual, your efforts
will be matched or your efforts would be matched.
Speaker 2 (18:42):
I'm gonna repeat that again.
Speaker 1 (18:44):
If the feeling was mutual, your efforts will or would
be matched.
Speaker 2 (18:51):
Period. If you guys go to.
Speaker 1 (18:52):
My Instagram right now, you'll see that I posted that
in my ig story and it's so true.
Speaker 2 (18:59):
Don't ever forget that.
Speaker 1 (19:01):
In fact, I have a highlight section on my Instagram
that you guys can look at that I saved a
whole bunch of quotes that I think are amazing and
that I think is worthwhile you know.
Speaker 2 (19:13):
Looking at.
Speaker 1 (19:15):
I suggest you ladies look through them, because you know,
there's a lot of incredible quotes that I've.
Speaker 2 (19:19):
Saved and who doesn't love quotes. You know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (19:23):
I'm just saying, okay, guys, So now we are at
the end of this video. What I want you guys
to take home is this message.
Speaker 2 (19:30):
You can do this.
Speaker 1 (19:32):
You can walk away from any situation, any circumstance that
does not serve you because intuitively, you know what's going on.
You know that that guy is dating other people. You
know that that guy is sleeping with other people. If
he's your boyfriend, if he's the guy that you like,
(19:52):
you know when a guy intuitively is playing games with you.
It is just something innate that we have a gift
from God. Actually, you know when they're playing games with you,
and the second you feel.
Speaker 2 (20:04):
That way, you are done. He is done.
Speaker 1 (20:09):
If anyone could ever play with you knowing the value
of yourself right, you will It's insulting. It's like, please,
I do not even want to deal with that, because
I know what it feels like to you know, ignore
my intuition. I know what it feels like when my
efforts are not reciprocated. There is no reciprocity. I love
(20:32):
that word. There will always be a reciprocity. Effortlessly, if
somebody was on the same page as you. Right, It's
like going to dinner and you and your friend or
you and the guy are seeing you guys both want,
you know, Mexican food. It was easy, it was effortless.
You guys both wanted the same thing. It showed that
(20:55):
kind and dry there really is. It's not as complex
as we make it out to be.
Speaker 2 (21:00):
Babes. It really isn't hone into that. Like I always
tell you, guys.
Speaker 1 (21:05):
Lean into your intuition, believe yourself. What you're feeling is real.
Speaker 2 (21:12):
As soon as you.
Speaker 1 (21:13):
Start to feel confused a disconnect, you can try and
mention it, gauge what he says.
Speaker 2 (21:18):
But there's a reason why you're feeling that. There's a
reason why you're feeling that he's playing games. Right. At
the end of the day, leave and do not ever
go back.
Speaker 1 (21:32):
I learned something, and you know I take my own
advice now, I really do. I will not and I
don't want you, guys to ever stick around in a
situation that just simply isn't for you.
Speaker 2 (21:48):
And you know it's not for you. Why are you
still there?
Speaker 1 (21:53):
I'm confused, You're breaking your own heart, You're inflicting your
own wounds. You have the answer and you choose to say,
why are you doing this?
Speaker 2 (22:03):
Right?
Speaker 1 (22:05):
I want you, guys to really follow these five tips.
You know, let's just go over them one more time.
Tip number one you're going to talk to other guys.
Tip number two you're gonna start working out, eating healthy.
That's very important. You will post about this. Number three
you're gonna post how busy you are? Oh, girls night out?
(22:25):
Oh going out with the girls, you know what. Heck,
even take a picture with an attractive guy you know
and post it on your page too, to show like,
oh like with this cutie, so.
Speaker 2 (22:36):
Good to meet you. Anything right, because we're showing out
a little bit. Can I say this thing? Is this real?
Is it too real for you? I mean, I'm just saying.
Number four, read empowering books. Don't forget. It will be
in the discussion box below.
Speaker 1 (22:51):
Number five, do not ever let your emotions control you.
All right, and guys, that is the end of this video.
Thank you so much for watching. Guys again, turn on
the post notifications that you know every time that I post,
do not forget to subscribe to this channel, and of course,
also follow me on my Instagram. I love you, ladies
(23:12):
so much all many subscribers, Welcome.
Speaker 2 (23:15):
To the A team.
Speaker 1 (23:16):
Let's continue to grow, thrive, to power one another, uplift
one another.
Speaker 2 (23:22):
Okay, and I love you and God loves you. And
I'll see you guys in my next video. Oh god,
it's supposed to be
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