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Speaker 1 (00:00):
You need to give God as many chances as you
give that man and I and.
Speaker 2 (00:07):
Yeah like that.
Speaker 1 (00:09):
Hello everyone, how is everybody? Are we feeling as good
as I'm looking? My hairstylist is truly insane. This is
my own hair vendor that I'm wearing, so I don't know,
like maybe I might I don't know, maybe I might
be selling something.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (00:30):
I have no idea, and I'm being so serious. I'm
not even being sarcastic, but I'm obsessed with how the
hair came out. My stylus, Risha really.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
Slowed mey okay.
Speaker 1 (00:41):
Now, as you guys can see in today's Robert rant
I said to myself, I will not be filming at
night ever again, because I just looked like the lightning
just wasn't giving.
Speaker 2 (00:53):
It just looked so bad.
Speaker 1 (00:55):
Who even knows if I'm actually I'm actually gonna post
it or not.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
But it's fine. As you guys can see, we.
Speaker 1 (01:01):
Are legitimately in my Ova Ova and we are going
to be talking about being your own rescue. I think
it's so important to talk about this because, to be
transparent with you, there have been so many times in
my life where I feel like I have truly like
given over my power to circumstances and situations and kind
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of wanted a life best to come and save me.
Speaker 2 (01:31):
And I'm here to tell you.
Speaker 1 (01:33):
Fast forward that the real truth is that there there
really is no one coming to save you other than
our Lord and Savior. But you really have to take
control of your own life.
Speaker 2 (01:46):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (01:46):
Now, I also want to preface this by saying that
as I've gotten older and I have acquired more wisdom
and knowledge, I also know that God puts us in
situations so that we don't have to rely on our
own strength.
Speaker 2 (02:02):
And it is so easy to forget that.
Speaker 1 (02:04):
Being in our own human form, that we don't realize
that God doesn't want us to have to work things
out by ourselves. And I saw something that was so
inspirational to me and really resonated with MEA's this guy.
I don't remember what his name was, I'm sure I've
mentioned him before, but he was sharing his testimony and
basically saying that God wants us to rely on him.
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So whenever we say that we are making things happen
and that is our own doing, it's really not like
it's God that enables all of the good things to
happen in our lives. And that is something that I
really hold near and dear and true to my heart
because I absolutely know that. And once I had that revelation,
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it just really clicked so well for me that it's
almost difficult for me to articulate because I realized, Wow,
so many instances I'm thinking like I gotta do it,
like it's all on me, and it's not. And so
when I even say you are your own rescue, it's
basically me saying to get out of your own way,
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but allowing God to step into your life and also
recognizing that it is a partnership, right it really is.
You have to help yourself in the sense where you
reach out to Him only him for that life best
and not look to other people because you're always going
to be disappointed by people.
Speaker 2 (03:31):
So I think first.
Speaker 1 (03:32):
Tip when it comes to being your own rescue is
embracing your personal responsibility. I get it, things happen in
life you don't understand why it's happening to you.
Speaker 2 (03:45):
And this is another thing.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
Victims create more victims, they really really do. And so
if you're in a position where you're being you're feeling like,
oh my gosh, if it.
Speaker 2 (03:57):
Wasn't for this, then I would be able to do this.
Speaker 1 (03:59):
And although those things may very well seem and very
much feel like they actually are true, I'm telling you
that it may not be the road that you want
to take. But there always is a little light at
the end of the tunnel. There really always is. And
it's about understanding how your choices and understanding how your
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actions led to a certain outcome, instead of waiting for
someone else to step in and save the day and
relieve you of things. And this is really genuinely not
to be pessimistic at all. I find it to be
empowering to be your own hero in that sense and
to take charge of your decisions. That way, you're not
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walking by life feeling like it's happening to me. It's
happening to me. No, it's happening for you. It's happening
for your greater good. Everything happens for a reason, and
when you start to look at life from that perspective,
a lot more is going to make sense. It makes
you more of an intentional person, so you're not one
of those floaters in life numbing yourself through self medicating
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yourself with whatever it is to get through things instead
of actually going to what I believe is the only
real source, which is Jesus Christ himself. Next, it is
so important in these type situations to cultivate resilience. Life
is going to always throw so many challenges our way,
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but what really matters is how we handle those challenges
that we are presented with you many times, and I
have honestly that I wanted to just give up. I
didn't want to do YouTube anymore. So much stuff was
going on in the background for me. I felt so
defeated at so many different points. I felt like, why
did I come this far to only get this far?
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Why is this person trying to bring me down when
I'm not doing anything to them? What is the meaning
of this? All of these different thoughts are going through
my head. Why are people so odd and mean and
like vindictive for literally next to no reason?
Speaker 2 (06:00):
Why are people so miserable?
Speaker 1 (06:02):
I still don't even have the answers to that those questions.
The difference is I genuinely don't care. That's the difference.
Speaker 2 (06:10):
Now. I do not care because.
Speaker 1 (06:11):
I'm living my life for me and I'm telling you
this and sharing this with you.
Speaker 2 (06:16):
So that you don't have to make the mistakes that
I have.
Speaker 1 (06:19):
So that if you watch this and you're just maybe
thinking all whatever, like it is what it is, It's like,
uh no, no, because sometimes, yes, circumstances, they are unfortunate.
Speaker 2 (06:32):
Things are gonna happen to you in life.
Speaker 1 (06:34):
It is not possible to live your life and walk
away completely unscathed.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
It is not a possible thing.
Speaker 1 (06:41):
However, what I want you guys to understand is that
every test is to build that resilience and build that character.
I know for a fact, right here and right now,
at this point in my life, that there is no
way that anyone I don't care what's being said about me.
I don't care it's being done to me. You're not
You're not winning anything. Misery loves company, okay, people love
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talking about people. Miserable people do at the very least,
and I'm not a part of that vortex. We don't
live on the same planet. And there will be which
is even more painful. Right there will be circumstances in
your life that feel completely unwarranted.
Speaker 2 (07:21):
And they very well actually might be.
Speaker 1 (07:25):
The difference is we have to create our own lifeboat.
It is okay to ask for help, but I think
it's important to develop the skills to help ourselves weather
our own storm.
Speaker 2 (07:36):
And I personally believe in my answer that the only.
Speaker 1 (07:39):
Way to do that is an amalgam of anchoring myself
in my faith, in reading my Bible daily, no matter
what struggles that I go through.
Speaker 2 (07:48):
Because I told you guys, when I was.
Speaker 1 (07:50):
Going through so much spiritual warfare the first three years
of me being on YouTube. I've only been on YouTube
for like four and a half years only, and I
was going through so much stuff in the background, and
I just was like, why is this happening to me?
Speaker 2 (08:07):
I did nothing to warrant this.
Speaker 1 (08:09):
I almost wish I did, because then it would actually
make sense. But you ever have something happen to you
and you're just like, I'm scared because I genuinely didn't
do anything to warrant this. Yeah, those type of situations,
It's crazy.
Speaker 2 (08:25):
It is absolutely crazy, the lengths that people will go,
you know, to try and take your job.
Speaker 1 (08:31):
I'm sure corporate girlies can relate to this as well,
or maybe anywhere, I don't even care where you are
in life, anyone can relate to this. People trying to
take things from you, people feeling like you don't deserve
what it is that you have. Maybe even people feeling
like you know, they're just jealous.
Speaker 2 (08:46):
Like people, jealousy is.
Speaker 1 (08:48):
A real thing. Envy is a real thing. People feeling like, Oh,
I don't want you to talk to so and so
because you may steal this person from me. That's like jealousy.
Envy is I don't think you deserve what you have.
I think I should have it. So I'm gonna do
whatever it takes to getting your way so that you
don't get it. Can you imagine being that pathetic, because
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that's really what it is.
Speaker 2 (09:10):
It's called being pathetic.
Speaker 1 (09:12):
And so I want you guys to know people that
come into your life and they try to take things
from you, They try to dim your light, they try
to stir up confusion and all these different things because
they're very miserable.
Speaker 2 (09:24):
How is it you can't tell me that you're.
Speaker 1 (09:26):
Happy in life, you're thriving in life, but yet you have.
Speaker 2 (09:29):
Time to do miserable activities.
Speaker 1 (09:32):
That's why I say, when you're stalking your ex on
social media, I get it. Initially it happens. You want
to keep up, you want to see what's going on
with them. But after a while, it's like, all right,
you have to really cut that out because you're gonna
you're A whole year can go by and all you've
ever done is keep up with the joneses.
Speaker 2 (09:52):
A whole year can go by and that's all you've done.
Speaker 1 (09:55):
So my advice is to understand that you need to
build the coping skills, the emotional intelligence, the resilience to
weather your own storms by grace through faith. Next, set
realistic goals for yourself when it comes to being your
own rescue. People love doing this whole I'm gonna go
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from point A to Z.
Speaker 2 (10:19):
Sweetie. You don't work out.
Speaker 1 (10:23):
Literally at all, Like back it up and redo it.
You don't work out literally at all. What makes you think?
And I get it? Oooh, you're an overachiever? Go you
What makes you think you're gonna go from not doing anything?
Speaker 2 (10:38):
You're really eating.
Speaker 1 (10:39):
Burgers and fries every day and you think that going
from southern fried homicide, that you're gonna just turn into
like healthy, like superhapty being queen. I'm not saying that
it's impossible. What I'm saying is you have to get granular.
That Rome was not built in a day. It wasn't
built in a day, so it's not going to be
any different for you. You have to it is the
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small changes. I'm listening to Atomic Habits. Highly recommend that
book that you guys listen to it on audible or
you actually read the book. He talks about the fact
that small changes are what actually create the bigger ones.
Speaker 2 (11:17):
We as human beings always want.
Speaker 1 (11:20):
Drastic changes, drastic things to happen, because that means we're
really making progress. But when the goals are too big
and they are unrealistic from your starting point, and that's
not being negative, Okay, this is actual science, you're making
it harder for yourself to want to complete those things.
But if every day, let's say you want to be
a morning person, instead of saying I'm going to wake
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up an hour earlier, then say I'm going to wake
up five minutes earlier, then ten minutes earlier.
Speaker 2 (11:51):
That you keep going that. You know what I mean,
You can't you can't just go from A to Z.
Speaker 1 (11:56):
It wasn't a habit that was built in three seconds,
so why would it take necessarily three seconds to you know,
start something new? And then he also talks about James
Clear He talks about the two minute rule where anything
you do, just try and do it for two minutes,
one hundred and twenty seconds.
Speaker 2 (12:14):
That's all you have to do and then go on
to the next task.
Speaker 1 (12:17):
And this also corresponds to me when it comes to
the Pomadoro method, like if you have attention problems or
something like that and focusing on trying to get yourself
to focus on a task and you just can't do it,
the next best thing to do is to say, okay,
let me turn on Pomidora method on YouTube. You can
study with somebody and so every time they are studying,
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it's what you do twenty minutes of studying or completing
a task, and then you have a certain amount of
time that's that's going to be off and the timer's
already done for you.
Speaker 2 (12:49):
So it's super simple and easy to follow.
Speaker 1 (12:51):
And that is an example of a realistic goal you
could set for yourself. You have trouble focusing, you have
to say yourself, when I work, I work, when I play,
I play. That means when I'm working, I'm going to
be working for the ten minutes, for the fifteen minutes
to twenty minutes of that. Then I'm going to take
a five minute break. That way, when I'm on my
phone for five minutes, I'm on my phone for those
five minutes because i know I'm going to get a
break again after the next twenty minute session, and it's
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keeping everything flowing and going.
Speaker 2 (13:15):
Honey. Okay. So that's an example. Like you are.
Speaker 1 (13:18):
If you were sick and tired of being sick and
tired in life, I'm telling you, no one's gonna wake
up and be like, hey, girl, make sure you do this,
because even if your friends were to be calling you
and staying on top of you, you're not going to
want to do it because you think that you want
someone to go and tell you what to do every day.
But you're going to build up resistance against that too,
because at the end of the day, we have to
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build that character and that grit and that resilience by ourselves.
That means in order to implement those things, we have
to set realistic.
Speaker 2 (13:48):
Goals for ourselves.
Speaker 1 (13:49):
Set goals that align with your passions and your strengths.
That is what setting realistic goals are about. Okay, if
you cannot do a task, I'm not saying you could
never do it, But when I'm saying, is why are
we trying to kill ourselves over you know, you know,
things that we can't do, Like, for instance, I don't
enjoy editing. You guys know, I have like literally what
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one of the best editors, like literally in the universe,
Like JT does all my editing stuff for me. I'm
so grateful that I get to delegate that task to
him because I don't enjoy it.
Speaker 2 (14:20):
I tried it a million times.
Speaker 1 (14:22):
I love the idea of, you know, flirting with the
idea of wanting to get it done.
Speaker 2 (14:27):
But I just don't enjoy it.
Speaker 1 (14:28):
And now I've been fortunate enough that I've been able
to work with him for a couple of.
Speaker 2 (14:32):
Years now and I'm never going back.
Speaker 1 (14:35):
In the beginning, I had to get over their learning
curve before I was able to outsource and say, hey, like,
this is something I have to try and figure out
so I can at least get content out there.
Speaker 2 (14:46):
Next.
Speaker 1 (14:47):
As it pertains to being your own rescue is learning
and growing. As obvious as that may sound, life is
a continuous experience. Don't be afraid to expand your knowledge.
Some people people are so closed minded, they're so closed minded.
Speaker 2 (15:03):
Well, I don't like it takes all that. Okay, okay,
you ever heard of.
Speaker 1 (15:08):
If you can, you can, and if you can't, you're right,
you simply can't. Whatever you say that is a prophecy
for yourself. That's going to be a self fulfilled prophecy
for you. So when you're expanding your mind, this is
the time in your being, your own rescue journey to
start filling yourself up with so much knowledge podcasts, audio books, okay,
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informative YouTube channels like this one, really learning and growing
and expanding because.
Speaker 2 (15:40):
It's planting a seed. You want to fill your head.
Speaker 1 (15:43):
You want to fill your mind with things that are spiritually, emotionally,
even physically fulfilling.
Speaker 2 (15:49):
For yourself, for your soul.
Speaker 1 (15:51):
And when you learn new things, it can open new
doors for.
Speaker 2 (15:55):
You and it equips you with the tools to be
able to.
Speaker 1 (15:58):
Tackle any situation that may come your way because you
were building the emotional intelligence and resilience. There's no such
thing as listening to really informative and great podcasts and
then it just literally going nowhere in life.
Speaker 2 (16:12):
No, it's everything. No one can take away the knowledge
that you have.
Speaker 1 (16:17):
They can't copy your spirit though, right, and when you
work on yourself and you're working on yourself. I promise
you it's going to pay off. Help God help you, okay,
like like literally, just like God, like I need your help.
I cannot do this alone, Like I need to be
able to have someone that is stable, that's reliable, that
I know can help me on this journey.
Speaker 2 (16:38):
Can you help me?
Speaker 1 (16:39):
And I promise you, like you're going to be able
to get the answers as long as you put yourself
out there. You put yourself out there so for so
many different things. I saw a quote I think I've
posted on Instagram. It was saying, you need to give
God as many chances as you give that man, and
I and ah, yeah like that. Now this one is
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so important. Well, they're all important, but this is super important.
Prioritizing your self care and your well being is so fundamental.
I'm telling you because a lot of the times when
we are lost in life, we like to pour into
other people. Yeah right, it's not just me, Right, I
haven't been the only one that's been there.
Speaker 2 (17:21):
No, it's you too.
Speaker 1 (17:22):
Listen, you're sitting here trying to pour from an empty cup.
Speaker 2 (17:26):
You can't rescue anyone, not even yourself.
Speaker 1 (17:29):
If you're running on empty, so you have to prioritize
your well being.
Speaker 2 (17:34):
You have to be nourished.
Speaker 1 (17:36):
And I'm not saying that just because you may be
going through something in life that means that you can't
be of service to someone else. That is not what
it is that I'm saying. But if you find yourself
almost using rescuing other people or making an attempt to
and trying to save other people as a way to
not do the work for yourself, yeah, you know that
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you're the type of person that needs to make sure
that you're feel yourself up so that you can come
from a place of fulfillment. This one I love this tip.
This is about embracing change. Change is the only constant
we have in life. It is literally the only constant
that we have, and embracing this is an essential part
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of being your own rescue. Things are going to change,
things are not going to go as plan, But having
that adaptability is going to help you navigate through life's
changes and transitions more smoothly and turn them into opportunities
for growth.
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That's the difference.
Speaker 1 (18:35):
Between people who have a problem for every solution and
people who have a solution for every problem.
Speaker 2 (18:46):
There is a difference.
Speaker 1 (18:48):
People that cannot embrace change are people that will not
grow in life.
Speaker 2 (18:54):
These are going to be people that are miserable.
Speaker 1 (18:56):
They're stuck on what happened in two thousand and one.
Speaker 2 (19:00):
We don't care. We've had enough of you. Life has
to go on.
Speaker 1 (19:05):
Nobody gets to stay stuck in stucky land, right and gets.
Speaker 2 (19:13):
We don't.
Speaker 1 (19:14):
I'm sorry, we don't care. God cares, but we don't.
So with that being said, you have to say, Okay,
what are my options here?
Speaker 2 (19:23):
What can I do?
Speaker 1 (19:24):
Because nobody likes to be around professional victims, and.
Speaker 2 (19:28):
That's what some people are.
Speaker 1 (19:29):
So that's what some of you are, professional victims. Oh
but you don't get it. Really, I don't, girl. We're
so sick and tired of hearing it. We get it.
He did this to you, We get it. She did
this to you. How many times are you going to
talk about it? We don't care?
Speaker 2 (19:47):
Do better? Move on? What is a solution here? What
is a solution here?
Speaker 1 (19:52):
Talking talking, talking, and there's no walking walking walking. We've
had enough. There has to be action. Action is the
antidote for procrastination.
Speaker 2 (20:01):
That's another thing.
Speaker 1 (20:02):
Action behind things because some people they just want to
be heard I know people like that. There's this girl
that I once knew, and like all she wants to
do is complain about her problems. I listen to her like,
oh my gosh, like I'm really sorry that happened to you,
like genuinely, And then the next time I see her,
you just like wow, like you just don't understand like that,
and I'm like, okay, like I'm noticing a pattern here,
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like you just really don't you really just don't. You
don't want a solution. You want to be heard over
and over again. That feels good to you, huh, Because
why you want pity? You want pity from people because
you pity yourself. That's what you want. And you can't
pity yourself. If you're gonna grab life and get in
the driver's seat, you cannot pity yourself. And it is
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so easy to fall into that victim mentality. And let
me tell you this, victims create other victims. You need
to not be a victim. And lastly, I want to
say I elebrate your small victories, you know, all the
different milestones, and even sometimes still I struggle with realizing
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like wow, like having over two hundred thousand people subscribe
to my channel is a lot, and sometimes, in all transparency,
I look at it and I'm like, man, I grew
so fast at one point.
Speaker 2 (21:19):
I know what personally happened.
Speaker 1 (21:21):
I know the challenges and things like that that I
felt that I was faced with at the time that
contributed to me not wanting to show up in the
space anymore.
Speaker 2 (21:30):
However, I know that I have the potential.
Speaker 1 (21:32):
If I had the potential, you know, to get to
one hundred K, and I had the potential to double it,
I know I also have the potential to triple it,
quadruple it, you know, all these different things to infinity
and beyond, and it makes me whenever I think of it,
it's like, wow, I am so grateful. I was just
talking about this the other night. I am so grateful
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to even be where I am that even my problems
or the issues I face are the issues that.
Speaker 2 (21:58):
I get to face because there was a point in
time where I wished I would have wished that.
Speaker 1 (22:04):
I would have been dealing with the things that I'm
dealing with now, and so I just want to take
this time, even if you're still watching, to say thank
you for continuing to support my content. You know, I
have been consistent again for i'd say a.
Speaker 2 (22:17):
Little over a month.
Speaker 1 (22:18):
Now we're going with having the two uploads to my channel,
and it started out with me uploading frequently with my podcast.
And now here we are and we're going to grow,
We're going to get better, and I'm celebrating these small
victories because it is such a big accomplishment when you
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look at the bigger picture. There was at one point
I was struggling to show up here, and now I'm
uploading two uploads a week plus a podcast. You know,
I try to be as active as I can on Instagram,
and then it's so easy for me to look and
be like, oh my gosh, but.
Speaker 2 (22:53):
There's so much more than I want to do.
Speaker 1 (22:55):
Like all these different things, like even with now having
my video one on one video sessions and coachings, like
I would have wanted to have done that in the past,
like I meeting doing consoles for the past like three
and a half four years and now having that video element.
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It is also a victory that needs to be celebrated
because I know that it's helping people, and what I
care about is impact.
Speaker 2 (23:24):
And so when I think in my own desires, like
I want to do this. I want to do that.
Speaker 1 (23:29):
I always bring it back to okay. But whoever's watching
my content, are they growing? How is it making them feel?
Do they feel understood? Do they feel like, you know,
they can learn something from my content. I celebrate you.
I want you to celebrate you. I appreciate you, guys,
more than anything. I want you, guys, to celebrate yourself
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and your own victories, and more than anything, I want
you to keep going. I know that the going gets rough, tough,
whatever people call it, but I promise you the name
of the game is resilience. Don't give up. Don't give
up on yourself. You are worth all the chances you
try and give to other people. You are more than
whatever it is that people might try and say about you.
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People they will try and bring you down, spew lives
about you, all these different things because they're mad.
Speaker 2 (24:16):
They're very mad.
Speaker 1 (24:18):
And I never used to look at things that way,
because I always used to think, like, oh my gosh,
but I don't want to be like, you know, on
like the side of like people being mean and like
being ridiculed, all.
Speaker 2 (24:28):
These different things. And I feel like God.
Speaker 1 (24:30):
Has given me the strength and the resilience to be like, so,
what people talk about Jesus, why wouldn't.
Speaker 2 (24:36):
They talk about me?
Speaker 1 (24:37):
Now, I'm not comparing myself to Jesus, but principally think
about it. Jesus was a sinless person. Why wouldn't people
talk about us?
Speaker 2 (24:47):
Hello?
Speaker 1 (24:48):
So when I really think about that, I'm like, Okay,
Like I'm good, I'm good.
Speaker 2 (24:52):
Of course you're mad. Of course you're mad. H So
there's yeah. So in conclusion, you guys have so much
power within you.
Speaker 1 (25:04):
You have the power to overcome obstacles, chase your dreams,
and create a life that you are truly proud of.
I want you guys to watch my content and feel like,
oh yeah, I got this, or oh girl, yeah he
not gonna get overall me, or oh wow, I never
thought about it like that.
Speaker 2 (25:25):
I'm gonna implement that now. I want you to feel good.
Speaker 1 (25:28):
I want you to feel empowered when you come here.
That's what I want you to feel. So I want
us all to commit to being the heroes of our
own stories, anchored in faith and being a girls girl.
Speaker 2 (25:40):
Okay, that's what I want for you.
Speaker 1 (25:42):
So if you found this video inspiring, I want you
to give this video thumbs up. I want you to
share this video with a friend that you think could
use this pep talk, could use this rover rant. It
takes no time for you guys to just give the
video thumbs up. It really helps to push this further
in the algorithm because on this channel be our girls, girls,
and we want to help spread the word. We want
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people to catch on too this. We want people to
be able to be inspired. We don't want to gate
keep because we don't gate keep on this channel. Okay,
so stay positive, do not forget that I love you
and God loves you, and I will speak to you,
beautiful angels in my next video.