August 13, 2025 • 19 mins
***The Asha Christina Tapes***
Hi ANGELS!!!! I’m BACK again with a NEW episode.
In this episode, I discuss men not needing to like or love to you keep you around. I also talk about different situations where you may be just another compartment in his eyes and not the one you may be hoping for. I hope that you all enjoy this video, let me know what other kinds of videos you guys would like to see in the comment section below!!!!
Thumbs up for NEW amazing content!!!! 👸🏽
Hi ANGELS!!!! I’m BACK again with a NEW episode.
In this episode, I discuss men not needing to like or love to you keep you around. I also talk about different situations where you may be just another compartment in his eyes and not the one you may be hoping for. I hope that you all enjoy this video, let me know what other kinds of videos you guys would like to see in the comment section below!!!!
Thumbs up for NEW amazing content!!!! 👸🏽
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Speaker 1 (00:05):
Hello angels, Welcome back to my channel and welcome to
the backseat of my car. I tried to find a
good place to film the sun was not working with me.
Speaker 2 (00:17):
YadA ya YadA, You guys don't care.
Speaker 1 (00:19):
But before we jump right into this video, I want
you guys to follow me on Instagram, which will be
right here. And also, do not forget to subscribe to
this channel. Last night, guys, we hit eighty K and
I was actually on while it happened, and I was
so speechless. I literally started crying again on live. It
(00:41):
was just crazy to me. It was absolutely inexplicable. And
I'm just so grateful for all the support that you
guys have given me and that you are showing me.
I am forever grateful.
Speaker 2 (00:54):
So I just want you guys to know that.
Speaker 1 (00:56):
Of course, make sure your postentifications are turned on, because
as you guys know, I am uploading every day, so
I don't want you guys to miss out on this
good content without brother Ado.
Speaker 2 (01:07):
Less your friend into this video.
Speaker 1 (01:08):
So as you guys can see from the title, if
he doesn't want you, he will use you a show.
Speaker 2 (01:14):
What do you mean?
Speaker 1 (01:15):
Let me explain, men, Master compartmentalize I've said this time
and time again. It's easy for us as women to
confuse intimacy for like and love, right, because that's normally
what we do when we like or we love someone,
that is our way of expressing that to that individual.
Speaker 2 (01:38):
But here's the thing.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
Men do not need to like or love you in
order to be intimate with you, because it's a physiological need.
You can just simply be good enough, good enough to bang.
And that's just that men are simply hardwired this way.
So an interesting and scientific fact is that the the
(02:00):
back part of a male brain is dominant in perception
and the front part of a male brain is dominant
in action. So ideally they'll stick with an idea or
situation until it's just played out or they come to
(02:21):
the realization on their own.
Speaker 2 (02:23):
I hope that makes sense.
Speaker 1 (02:24):
Let's just talk about some circumstances in which men compartmentalize
and maybe using you as the benefit, because there's no
such thing as friends or benefits, because we are the
benefit and they're benefiting off of being intimate with you.
Speaker 2 (02:41):
And they are the friend.
Speaker 1 (02:43):
There is no other benefit you ever see in a
situation where a guy will be with what we call
like a butterface girl, where that means everything about her
is good looking, but her face. I mean, come on,
I mean, it might sound weird, it might sound mean,
it might sound harsh, but at the end of the day,
it's the truth. You know, in life, not everyone is
(03:07):
deemed as attractive, and yes, beauty is in the eye
of the beholder, but some people are just less attractive
than others. Some people are what I define as obviously pretty,
to where anyone pretty much thinks that that person is
a good looking person. So in this case, if someone
(03:27):
is with a butterface they are benefiting off of using
their body and they don't care that they don't like
or love this girl because at the end of the day,
they're not trying to be her boyfriend, and also they're
not trying to wipe her up in any way. As
we all know, men are also capable of being in
(03:48):
a full blown relationship and still cheating, and on top
of that, to add insult to injury, not even be remorseful. Now,
why is that I once heard this guy tell me
before that he loves his wife, but if he actually
had to be with her for the rest of his life,
(04:08):
meaning only be intimate with her, he wouldn't stay. And
he said he was perfectly capable of cheating on his
wife and going back home to her and loving her
because he already knows who he wants to spend the
rest of his life with. But sexually, he just cannot
commit to one woman. So that tells us a bunch
(04:31):
of things. Obviously, he's compartmentalizing. Okay, my wife is here,
but I'm going to do something that makes her seem
like she's here, and I'm going to go cheat on
her essentially, and I'm not going to have remorse for
about it, because I know who I actually want to
be with, I know who I chose to marry. But
(04:53):
for we know we as woman, it's just like, how
do you respect me? How can you say that you
love me if this is what you're doing. Men obviously
don't view it that way. Their emotions and you know,
their compartmentalization is just everything is in its own little box.
(05:14):
Guys are capable of staying with a woman for years
and years and years, and unfortunately, you know, if that
person is your boyfriend and he's with you for years
and years and years, of course you're not exempt from infidelity.
But even worse if you are someone that's not in
a relationship and you've been in a situationship for years
(05:38):
with someone and then he's conditioned you to accept his
ways and then has the audacity to actually guilt trip
you into feeling sad. Whenever you want to mention that
you want something more, you have these come to God
moments where you are like.
Speaker 2 (05:56):
H, I know I deserve more, like I deserve.
Speaker 1 (05:58):
Better, Like you know, I've only been with you, I've
been faithful to you, and you still won't even make
anything official. And then here he goes, you know, using
whatever it is to manipulate you, whether that's your age,
you know, Uh, sweetie, you know I.
Speaker 2 (06:11):
Really love you.
Speaker 1 (06:13):
I have love for you, I have done things for you,
but you know how I am. And then he knows
he got you by now, so he knows to you
he's been doing whatever he wanted to do from the jump,
so he knows that you are either going to do
one or two things. He's giving you a passive aggressive ultimatum.
(06:33):
Either you put up with what I've been doing because
you've been rocking with me for how long, or you leave,
and if you leave, it's not going to make me
a difference because I was never just with you anyway,
and boom, just like that, he checks off that box.
If you decide to leave, do you think he's gonna
hit you up and say, hey, really miss you, just
want to see how you're doing. If he ever even
(06:56):
does that, it's probably because his roster is running low
or he's really bored. Don't misread situations and give them
more meaning than they actually have.
Speaker 2 (07:07):
I think that's the worst thing that we can do
as women.
Speaker 1 (07:10):
You know, guys will rotate multiple girls within a week,
even worse in a day.
Speaker 2 (07:19):
I've seen it before. I've heard of instances where.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
A guy will literally sleep with one girl, she leaves
in the morning, Boom, the next chick comes over six
o'clock PM, like rotating them out like it is absolutely nothing.
And I can imagine what that does to your ego
or how that, you know, makes you feel, because it
(07:43):
is a hurtful thing. You know, no one is invincible
to getting their feelings hurt. But understand that's just how
they think, because to them, it's just that's not my girlfriend,
that's not my wife any category other than a commitment.
It's easy for guys to really just let you go.
And I'm being so serious, having love for you doesn't count. Okay,
(08:07):
any compartment that is not in the wife compartment or
the girlfriend compartment, you.
Speaker 2 (08:14):
Will easily get left. I mean seriously.
Speaker 1 (08:18):
And I think that what we do to kind of
cope with that pain is, you know, when a person
experiences some sort of serious rejection, because as human beings,
we don't like rejection. When we think that we're gonna
fail at something or there's the potential of being rejected,
what we do in our brains is we minimize the
(08:38):
significance of the situation or the event and become passive
and act like, oh, we didn't really care about it anyway.
For instance, when it comes to relationships, if your friends
are you know, kind of telling you, like, girl, come on,
like you know, he's playing you, like you should be
married by now, Like you have been wasting your time
with this man for like five years.
Speaker 2 (08:58):
And he's not even doing any thing with you.
Speaker 1 (09:01):
And you're just like, honestly, it's not even that serious
because we're still young, or if you guys are young,
or if the person's older, it's like, well, you know,
it doesn't even matter because he's been through a lot
of things and this works for us right now. And
to be honest, I don't even really want a relationship
right now anyway, you don't, Okay, then why are you
(09:23):
crying at night?
Speaker 2 (09:26):
Why do you cry over him? Why do you cry
to him?
Speaker 1 (09:30):
Why do you feel things so emotionally and deeply to
your core?
Speaker 2 (09:35):
If you really.
Speaker 1 (09:36):
Don't want to be in a relationship with this man,
let me tell you something. Stop lying to yourself, because
that's one of the worst things you could do. It
is not fundamentally normal, stereotypically for a woman to just
give her body away to someone in hopes of not
attaining a relationship in the end.
Speaker 2 (09:55):
Come on with the lies and deceit. You know better.
Speaker 1 (09:59):
You know woman is going to sleep around, sleep around
and hope that nothing comes out of it.
Speaker 2 (10:05):
Anyway, girl, who are you fooling yourself?
Speaker 1 (10:11):
So it's important to actually be truthful, be authentic to ourselves,
and stop trying to put on this mask of pretending
to not care. Baby, you care, honey, you care, sweetie,
you care. And you know I do consider myself to
be an end path. So when I do these videos
(10:35):
and you guys see how passionate I am, you know,
just even in my body language, like it makes me
so emotional sometimes to the point of tears where I
feel so sad reading the stuff that you guys send
to me, because it's just so heartbreaking the different things
that you guys go through and I haven't even been
through half of those things, and it's just so hurtful.
(10:58):
And that's why what I promote on my channel and
what I will always continue to promote is and raise
awareness too, is this whole dating game because we cannot
fall victim nor pray to any of these things anymore.
Speaker 2 (11:14):
And the more confident you are in.
Speaker 1 (11:15):
Yourself, the more you build yourself up, the more you know, okay,
you are able to handle situations. You are more equipped
to handle situations better.
Speaker 2 (11:26):
That's what I want to do.
Speaker 1 (11:27):
I don't want to hold you guys down in anything.
My responsibility here that I've taken upon myself is I
teach you guys these things, and I set you guys
free to do, you know with it what you will.
That's that's my obligation I feel. And you know, so
just be careful when guys are using reverse psychology.
Speaker 2 (11:49):
Oh what is your verse psychology?
Speaker 1 (11:51):
Well, here's an example, you know, sweetie, I don't I'm
not looking to sleep with you. Listen, there's no rush
with this. Listen, I'm not in any rush.
Speaker 2 (12:00):
You know.
Speaker 1 (12:00):
It's summertime. Now, let's just enjoy the summer. Let's just
you know, take things slow. Aka code for there's no
way I'm actually going to be in a relationship with you, babe.
It's actually summer. But what I would like is you
can certainly come over my house. We can totally bang
if you want. And then on top of that, well
(12:21):
they want to gaslight you. Look sweetie, you're gorgeous. You
can get any guy that you want. Okay, So I'm
not even gonna try. And you know, do what everyone
else does and say the same old thing as everyone else.
And what this does in our brain psychologically is it
translates to us as wow, someone that actually doesn't want
(12:45):
to bang me, or at least bang me like right now.
Speaker 2 (12:51):
And what does it do next? Thing?
Speaker 1 (12:52):
You know, you are completely disarmed, bingo, Now you let
your guard down. Now you don't know what angle this
clown is attacking you from any goatchu Oh yeah, trust
and believe these things happen. These scenarios are very real, okay,
very real, and the smarter the man.
Speaker 2 (13:15):
Which it totally sucks because I love it.
Speaker 1 (13:17):
I love to be intellectually stimulated, not manipulated, but stimulated
the more privy they are to you know, that sort
of you know, manipulation. But it works for me because
being with someone like that, because I also consider myself
to be very intelligent, so.
Speaker 2 (13:40):
I can see through.
Speaker 1 (13:41):
A lot of things, and you know, the pointless banter
here and there. I obviously I'm not invincible. There are
still things that I probably need to learn. I'm young,
you understand, But I know for the most part what's
going on here. Okay, guys are always going to use
the benefits of your convenient and consistent intimacy as long
(14:06):
as you're available, and then simultaneously go search beyond the
land for the next prospect.
Speaker 2 (14:16):
Now why is that now here you go?
Speaker 1 (14:18):
I understand, Like I honestly give him everything, Like I'm
there like three times a week, and like I even
have like a designated day. Like I don't understand, like
why he's treating me like this, Like I'm so.
Speaker 2 (14:32):
Done with him? Oh my god, hold on, he actually
texted me.
Speaker 1 (14:39):
Like I don't know, Like he's asking me if I'm
available on like Thursday now, like normally I come over
like on Wednesdays.
Speaker 2 (14:44):
Do you think he wants to see me like twice
this week, like two days in a row.
Speaker 1 (14:49):
Like you see, Like this is the type of stuff
that I'm talking about, Like he's totally playing with my feelings.
Stop like really, like I need you to wake up.
I need you to stop. Okay, stop letting these guys
and and stop letting yourself let these guys. Okay, let
me rephrase that, stop letting yourself let these guys do
(15:11):
these things to you. Because when we actually sit down
and understand, holy crap, I was just played irustated on
h Faine.
Speaker 2 (15:23):
It's Faine, I'm great, don't talk to me.
Speaker 1 (15:27):
The thing that we actually realize is, dang it, everything
I thought he was doing wrong.
Speaker 2 (15:35):
I was right.
Speaker 1 (15:37):
Then you start feeling stupid. So that's what comes afterwards.
It's not only you know this other clown, but it's
the fact that you allowed it to happen.
Speaker 2 (15:46):
It's the fact that you let it go on for
so long.
Speaker 1 (15:49):
It's the fact that you ignored your own intuition and
you put this other person's needs out of your desire
above your own. Meanwhile, the entire time he's compartmentalizing you,
whether you stay or go, he doesn't really care or
he just doesn't.
Speaker 2 (16:09):
Really care enough, and either or they're both bad.
Speaker 1 (16:16):
So you need to decide, Okay, today, tonight, right now?
Am I going to continue to let someone compartmentalize me
in anything other than the wife or the girlfriend? Am
I going to continue to do that? You know, because
(16:39):
I want you ladies to also start leaning into your
intuition because too many of us ignore it.
Speaker 2 (16:45):
You know when something is funny, you.
Speaker 1 (16:47):
Know when games are being played, You know when you
are being played. You know when things don't make sense.
You should not be spending majority of your day, okay,
on your Finsta account stalking the other girl to see
if she's hanging out with him that day, if she's
at the next event with him, if she's you know,
(17:08):
anything with him.
Speaker 2 (17:10):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (17:10):
You should not be checking his Instagram to see what
he added to his story to see if he's gonna
post her, because he hasn't posted you yet and you're
just trying to figure out who was that girl that
commented on his photo? Do you need the drama? I mean,
for God's sake. It's like, you know, when you're in
high school, like that's like the thing, that's like the
(17:31):
social norm, right, But when you're in your twenties, it's
kind of it gets old, and it gets old fast. Okay,
this situation is aging. Okay, do not mistake trust for truth.
I trust him. I know he wouldn't do this or
(17:51):
worst case scenario. Well, I've known him for so long.
I know that whatever he does, he's being safe. He
would never put me in a harmful position. Why are
you giving anyone that power over you? So you know
this guy's sleeping around, and you're gonna leave your health
up to his discretion. Well, he told me that he
(18:13):
doesn't sleep with girls that sleep with other guys. Oh wow,
you're really a different one, aren't you.
Speaker 2 (18:21):
Hmm?
Speaker 1 (18:22):
Okay, no, enough, it needs to stop. You don't feel
good when you go home at night. You don't feel
you're not happy, You're not happy enough enough with the lies.
It's so funny because fundamentally, men can't multitask and women can.
(18:42):
But men can multitask with women, and it's harder for
women to kind of multitask with men, so it's harder
to get a woman to date multiple people than it
is for a man. Essentially, and because men you know,
typically have the ability to look at things from an
objective perspective, they are able to just look at the
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logic
Hello angels, Welcome back to my channel and welcome to
the backseat of my car. I tried to find a
good place to film the sun was not working with me.
Speaker 2 (00:17):
YadA ya YadA, You guys don't care.
Speaker 1 (00:19):
But before we jump right into this video, I want
you guys to follow me on Instagram, which will be
right here. And also, do not forget to subscribe to
this channel. Last night, guys, we hit eighty K and
I was actually on while it happened, and I was
so speechless. I literally started crying again on live. It
(00:41):
was just crazy to me. It was absolutely inexplicable. And
I'm just so grateful for all the support that you
guys have given me and that you are showing me.
I am forever grateful.
Speaker 2 (00:54):
So I just want you guys to know that.
Speaker 1 (00:56):
Of course, make sure your postentifications are turned on, because
as you guys know, I am uploading every day, so
I don't want you guys to miss out on this
good content without brother Ado.
Speaker 2 (01:07):
Less your friend into this video.
Speaker 1 (01:08):
So as you guys can see from the title, if
he doesn't want you, he will use you a show.
Speaker 2 (01:14):
What do you mean?
Speaker 1 (01:15):
Let me explain, men, Master compartmentalize I've said this time
and time again. It's easy for us as women to
confuse intimacy for like and love, right, because that's normally
what we do when we like or we love someone,
that is our way of expressing that to that individual.
Speaker 2 (01:38):
But here's the thing.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
Men do not need to like or love you in
order to be intimate with you, because it's a physiological need.
You can just simply be good enough, good enough to bang.
And that's just that men are simply hardwired this way.
So an interesting and scientific fact is that the the
(02:00):
back part of a male brain is dominant in perception
and the front part of a male brain is dominant
in action. So ideally they'll stick with an idea or
situation until it's just played out or they come to
(02:21):
the realization on their own.
Speaker 2 (02:23):
I hope that makes sense.
Speaker 1 (02:24):
Let's just talk about some circumstances in which men compartmentalize
and maybe using you as the benefit, because there's no
such thing as friends or benefits, because we are the
benefit and they're benefiting off of being intimate with you.
Speaker 2 (02:41):
And they are the friend.
Speaker 1 (02:43):
There is no other benefit you ever see in a
situation where a guy will be with what we call
like a butterface girl, where that means everything about her
is good looking, but her face. I mean, come on,
I mean, it might sound weird, it might sound mean,
it might sound harsh, but at the end of the day,
it's the truth. You know, in life, not everyone is
(03:07):
deemed as attractive, and yes, beauty is in the eye
of the beholder, but some people are just less attractive
than others. Some people are what I define as obviously pretty,
to where anyone pretty much thinks that that person is
a good looking person. So in this case, if someone
(03:27):
is with a butterface they are benefiting off of using
their body and they don't care that they don't like
or love this girl because at the end of the day,
they're not trying to be her boyfriend, and also they're
not trying to wipe her up in any way. As
we all know, men are also capable of being in
(03:48):
a full blown relationship and still cheating, and on top
of that, to add insult to injury, not even be remorseful. Now,
why is that I once heard this guy tell me
before that he loves his wife, but if he actually
had to be with her for the rest of his life,
(04:08):
meaning only be intimate with her, he wouldn't stay. And
he said he was perfectly capable of cheating on his
wife and going back home to her and loving her
because he already knows who he wants to spend the
rest of his life with. But sexually, he just cannot
commit to one woman. So that tells us a bunch
(04:31):
of things. Obviously, he's compartmentalizing. Okay, my wife is here,
but I'm going to do something that makes her seem
like she's here, and I'm going to go cheat on
her essentially, and I'm not going to have remorse for
about it, because I know who I actually want to
be with, I know who I chose to marry. But
(04:53):
for we know we as woman, it's just like, how
do you respect me? How can you say that you
love me if this is what you're doing. Men obviously
don't view it that way. Their emotions and you know,
their compartmentalization is just everything is in its own little box.
(05:14):
Guys are capable of staying with a woman for years
and years and years, and unfortunately, you know, if that
person is your boyfriend and he's with you for years
and years and years, of course you're not exempt from infidelity.
But even worse if you are someone that's not in
a relationship and you've been in a situationship for years
(05:38):
with someone and then he's conditioned you to accept his
ways and then has the audacity to actually guilt trip
you into feeling sad. Whenever you want to mention that
you want something more, you have these come to God
moments where you are like.
Speaker 2 (05:56):
H, I know I deserve more, like I deserve.
Speaker 1 (05:58):
Better, Like you know, I've only been with you, I've
been faithful to you, and you still won't even make
anything official. And then here he goes, you know, using
whatever it is to manipulate you, whether that's your age,
you know, Uh, sweetie, you know I.
Speaker 2 (06:11):
Really love you.
Speaker 1 (06:13):
I have love for you, I have done things for you,
but you know how I am. And then he knows
he got you by now, so he knows to you
he's been doing whatever he wanted to do from the jump,
so he knows that you are either going to do
one or two things. He's giving you a passive aggressive ultimatum.
(06:33):
Either you put up with what I've been doing because
you've been rocking with me for how long, or you leave,
and if you leave, it's not going to make me
a difference because I was never just with you anyway,
and boom, just like that, he checks off that box.
If you decide to leave, do you think he's gonna
hit you up and say, hey, really miss you, just
want to see how you're doing. If he ever even
(06:56):
does that, it's probably because his roster is running low
or he's really bored. Don't misread situations and give them
more meaning than they actually have.
Speaker 2 (07:07):
I think that's the worst thing that we can do
as women.
Speaker 1 (07:10):
You know, guys will rotate multiple girls within a week,
even worse in a day.
Speaker 2 (07:19):
I've seen it before. I've heard of instances where.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
A guy will literally sleep with one girl, she leaves
in the morning, Boom, the next chick comes over six
o'clock PM, like rotating them out like it is absolutely nothing.
And I can imagine what that does to your ego
or how that, you know, makes you feel, because it
(07:43):
is a hurtful thing. You know, no one is invincible
to getting their feelings hurt. But understand that's just how
they think, because to them, it's just that's not my girlfriend,
that's not my wife any category other than a commitment.
It's easy for guys to really just let you go.
And I'm being so serious, having love for you doesn't count. Okay,
(08:07):
any compartment that is not in the wife compartment or
the girlfriend compartment, you.
Speaker 2 (08:14):
Will easily get left. I mean seriously.
Speaker 1 (08:18):
And I think that what we do to kind of
cope with that pain is, you know, when a person
experiences some sort of serious rejection, because as human beings,
we don't like rejection. When we think that we're gonna
fail at something or there's the potential of being rejected,
what we do in our brains is we minimize the
(08:38):
significance of the situation or the event and become passive
and act like, oh, we didn't really care about it anyway.
For instance, when it comes to relationships, if your friends
are you know, kind of telling you, like, girl, come on,
like you know, he's playing you, like you should be
married by now, Like you have been wasting your time
with this man for like five years.
Speaker 2 (08:58):
And he's not even doing any thing with you.
Speaker 1 (09:01):
And you're just like, honestly, it's not even that serious
because we're still young, or if you guys are young,
or if the person's older, it's like, well, you know,
it doesn't even matter because he's been through a lot
of things and this works for us right now. And
to be honest, I don't even really want a relationship
right now anyway, you don't, Okay, then why are you
(09:23):
crying at night?
Speaker 2 (09:26):
Why do you cry over him? Why do you cry
to him?
Speaker 1 (09:30):
Why do you feel things so emotionally and deeply to
your core?
Speaker 2 (09:35):
If you really.
Speaker 1 (09:36):
Don't want to be in a relationship with this man,
let me tell you something. Stop lying to yourself, because
that's one of the worst things you could do. It
is not fundamentally normal, stereotypically for a woman to just
give her body away to someone in hopes of not
attaining a relationship in the end.
Speaker 2 (09:55):
Come on with the lies and deceit. You know better.
Speaker 1 (09:59):
You know woman is going to sleep around, sleep around
and hope that nothing comes out of it.
Speaker 2 (10:05):
Anyway, girl, who are you fooling yourself?
Speaker 1 (10:11):
So it's important to actually be truthful, be authentic to ourselves,
and stop trying to put on this mask of pretending
to not care. Baby, you care, honey, you care, sweetie,
you care. And you know I do consider myself to
be an end path. So when I do these videos
(10:35):
and you guys see how passionate I am, you know,
just even in my body language, like it makes me
so emotional sometimes to the point of tears where I
feel so sad reading the stuff that you guys send
to me, because it's just so heartbreaking the different things
that you guys go through and I haven't even been
through half of those things, and it's just so hurtful.
(10:58):
And that's why what I promote on my channel and
what I will always continue to promote is and raise
awareness too, is this whole dating game because we cannot
fall victim nor pray to any of these things anymore.
Speaker 2 (11:14):
And the more confident you are in.
Speaker 1 (11:15):
Yourself, the more you build yourself up, the more you know, okay,
you are able to handle situations. You are more equipped
to handle situations better.
Speaker 2 (11:26):
That's what I want to do.
Speaker 1 (11:27):
I don't want to hold you guys down in anything.
My responsibility here that I've taken upon myself is I
teach you guys these things, and I set you guys
free to do, you know with it what you will.
That's that's my obligation I feel. And you know, so
just be careful when guys are using reverse psychology.
Speaker 2 (11:49):
Oh what is your verse psychology?
Speaker 1 (11:51):
Well, here's an example, you know, sweetie, I don't I'm
not looking to sleep with you. Listen, there's no rush
with this. Listen, I'm not in any rush.
Speaker 2 (12:00):
You know.
Speaker 1 (12:00):
It's summertime. Now, let's just enjoy the summer. Let's just
you know, take things slow. Aka code for there's no
way I'm actually going to be in a relationship with you, babe.
It's actually summer. But what I would like is you
can certainly come over my house. We can totally bang
if you want. And then on top of that, well
(12:21):
they want to gaslight you. Look sweetie, you're gorgeous. You
can get any guy that you want. Okay, So I'm
not even gonna try. And you know, do what everyone
else does and say the same old thing as everyone else.
And what this does in our brain psychologically is it
translates to us as wow, someone that actually doesn't want
(12:45):
to bang me, or at least bang me like right now.
Speaker 2 (12:51):
And what does it do next? Thing?
Speaker 1 (12:52):
You know, you are completely disarmed, bingo, Now you let
your guard down. Now you don't know what angle this
clown is attacking you from any goatchu Oh yeah, trust
and believe these things happen. These scenarios are very real, okay,
very real, and the smarter the man.
Speaker 2 (13:15):
Which it totally sucks because I love it.
Speaker 1 (13:17):
I love to be intellectually stimulated, not manipulated, but stimulated
the more privy they are to you know, that sort
of you know, manipulation. But it works for me because
being with someone like that, because I also consider myself
to be very intelligent, so.
Speaker 2 (13:40):
I can see through.
Speaker 1 (13:41):
A lot of things, and you know, the pointless banter
here and there. I obviously I'm not invincible. There are
still things that I probably need to learn. I'm young,
you understand, But I know for the most part what's
going on here. Okay, guys are always going to use
the benefits of your convenient and consistent intimacy as long
(14:06):
as you're available, and then simultaneously go search beyond the
land for the next prospect.
Speaker 2 (14:16):
Now why is that now here you go?
Speaker 1 (14:18):
I understand, Like I honestly give him everything, Like I'm
there like three times a week, and like I even
have like a designated day. Like I don't understand, like
why he's treating me like this, Like I'm so.
Speaker 2 (14:32):
Done with him? Oh my god, hold on, he actually
texted me.
Speaker 1 (14:39):
Like I don't know, Like he's asking me if I'm
available on like Thursday now, like normally I come over
like on Wednesdays.
Speaker 2 (14:44):
Do you think he wants to see me like twice
this week, like two days in a row.
Speaker 1 (14:49):
Like you see, Like this is the type of stuff
that I'm talking about, Like he's totally playing with my feelings.
Stop like really, like I need you to wake up.
I need you to stop. Okay, stop letting these guys
and and stop letting yourself let these guys. Okay, let
me rephrase that, stop letting yourself let these guys do
(15:11):
these things to you. Because when we actually sit down
and understand, holy crap, I was just played irustated on
h Faine.
Speaker 2 (15:23):
It's Faine, I'm great, don't talk to me.
Speaker 1 (15:27):
The thing that we actually realize is, dang it, everything
I thought he was doing wrong.
Speaker 2 (15:35):
I was right.
Speaker 1 (15:37):
Then you start feeling stupid. So that's what comes afterwards.
It's not only you know this other clown, but it's
the fact that you allowed it to happen.
Speaker 2 (15:46):
It's the fact that you let it go on for
so long.
Speaker 1 (15:49):
It's the fact that you ignored your own intuition and
you put this other person's needs out of your desire
above your own. Meanwhile, the entire time he's compartmentalizing you,
whether you stay or go, he doesn't really care or
he just doesn't.
Speaker 2 (16:09):
Really care enough, and either or they're both bad.
Speaker 1 (16:16):
So you need to decide, Okay, today, tonight, right now?
Am I going to continue to let someone compartmentalize me
in anything other than the wife or the girlfriend? Am
I going to continue to do that? You know, because
(16:39):
I want you ladies to also start leaning into your
intuition because too many of us ignore it.
Speaker 2 (16:45):
You know when something is funny, you.
Speaker 1 (16:47):
Know when games are being played, You know when you
are being played. You know when things don't make sense.
You should not be spending majority of your day, okay,
on your Finsta account stalking the other girl to see
if she's hanging out with him that day, if she's
at the next event with him, if she's you know,
(17:08):
anything with him.
Speaker 2 (17:10):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (17:10):
You should not be checking his Instagram to see what
he added to his story to see if he's gonna
post her, because he hasn't posted you yet and you're
just trying to figure out who was that girl that
commented on his photo? Do you need the drama? I mean,
for God's sake. It's like, you know, when you're in
high school, like that's like the thing, that's like the
(17:31):
social norm, right, But when you're in your twenties, it's
kind of it gets old, and it gets old fast. Okay,
this situation is aging. Okay, do not mistake trust for truth.
I trust him. I know he wouldn't do this or
(17:51):
worst case scenario. Well, I've known him for so long.
I know that whatever he does, he's being safe. He
would never put me in a harmful position. Why are
you giving anyone that power over you? So you know
this guy's sleeping around, and you're gonna leave your health
up to his discretion. Well, he told me that he
(18:13):
doesn't sleep with girls that sleep with other guys. Oh wow,
you're really a different one, aren't you.
Speaker 2 (18:21):
Hmm?
Speaker 1 (18:22):
Okay, no, enough, it needs to stop. You don't feel
good when you go home at night. You don't feel
you're not happy, You're not happy enough enough with the lies.
It's so funny because fundamentally, men can't multitask and women can.
(18:42):
But men can multitask with women, and it's harder for
women to kind of multitask with men, so it's harder
to get a woman to date multiple people than it
is for a man. Essentially, and because men you know,
typically have the ability to look at things from an
objective perspective, they are able to just look at the
(19:07):
logic
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