August 7, 2025 • 28 mins
***The Asha Christina Tapes***
ANGELS!!!! In this epsiode, I explain how to be a quality queen !!!
hope that you all enjoy this video, let me know what other kind of videos you guys would like to see in the comment section below!!!!
ANGELS!!!! In this epsiode, I explain how to be a quality queen !!!
hope that you all enjoy this video, let me know what other kind of videos you guys would like to see in the comment section below!!!!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
My loves. Hello, how are you okay?
Speaker 2 (00:05):
So for those of you that are new, Hi, my
name is Asha. Very nice to meet you on this channel.
We uplift, inspire, encourage, empower one another to level up,
to value ourselves, to know better.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
And to do better. So thank you for taking time.
Speaker 2 (00:27):
Out of your day to sit and watch me or
listen to me speak.
Speaker 1 (00:32):
I really appreciate it. It means so much to me,
more than you know. Before we jump into this video.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
Of course, you guys know the routine to follow me
on Instagram and that will be right over here. And
do not forget to subscribe to this channel and turn
on the post notifications that you guys know every single
time that I post. As you can see from the title,
this video is on how to be a quality queen.
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Let's the variety into it, okay, angels, So first and foremost,
I have three categories that I sort of divided this into.
Speaker 1 (01:07):
When I was writing my video treatment.
Speaker 2 (01:10):
And that is physically, emotionally and spiritually how to be
a quality queen. So category one, which is physically this
goes without saying you have to look good. Anything that
is quality is attractive, which means it has to have
the look or the aesthetic of something. So you have
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to keep up your appearance. Dress well all the time.
Close that fit. You know, when someone's wearing something that's
too tight. There's a difference between wearing something that's tight
versus wearing something that's too tight, where it sort of
just looks not well, It just doesn't look well, Like,
what are you doing?
Speaker 1 (01:48):
What's happening? No, it's fine, it is, it's not don't
do it.
Speaker 2 (01:52):
Put in the effort with your appearance, because when you
put an effort, it shows putting an effort show people
know that it doesn't take three seconds to have a
very nice hairstyle, your makeup's done, your clothes are well fitting,
your outfit is nice.
Speaker 1 (02:13):
People know that doesn't take three seconds.
Speaker 2 (02:16):
So naturally you get more respect when you're well put together,
and it obviously shows because you're putting in the work
that you are someone that values your pearance, and it
means that you are someone that is of quality. I
know that we all have lazy days, but I can
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promise you that so it's so worth it. You know,
me being really feminine my entire life. Of course, there
have been time periods, especially when I was like really
depressed for I only wanted to wear sweats.
Speaker 1 (02:49):
I never really wanted to wear heels, which was.
Speaker 2 (02:52):
Very alarming because I am someone that wears heels every day.
And I'm not exaggerating that's really wear heels every day.
And it's not because I feel like I have to,
but it's genuinely because I enjoy it.
Speaker 1 (03:06):
First of all, I'm a small girl. I'm only five
foot two.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
I like to, you know, have the height and then
take the shoes off and then be my height. I
love my height personally, and I also love the fact
that I can throw on shoes and I can be
like three inches five inches six inches tall. I don't know,
I could just be taller, you know. I really like
that option, you know. But what I'm saying is even
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in days where we don't necessarily want to and we
don't want to put in the effort, those are the
days that we especially should because watch, that'll be the
day where you go out. This is especially key if
you're single. If you're single, you're always on the prow Gabe.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
Even when you don't notice it.
Speaker 2 (03:48):
Always carry yourself in a certain way because you don't
know who you're going to attract. You don't know who
you're going to see when you go to that grocery store,
when you go to that when you go to that restaurant,
or when you go to the mall.
Speaker 1 (04:01):
You don't know who you're going to see.
Speaker 2 (04:03):
And that's why it's important to always look put together
and to always.
Speaker 1 (04:07):
Look the part. Really, it's important.
Speaker 2 (04:12):
And just you know, as a reference, one of my
favorite stores to get close from at the moment right
now is Zara or Zara as people say in fact,
like this blazer.
Speaker 1 (04:24):
Is from Zara, and I love this outfit. I love it. Okay.
Speaker 2 (04:28):
Next category, this one is the longest category.
Speaker 1 (04:32):
Sit tight. Okay.
Speaker 2 (04:34):
This is the emotional category of how to be a
quality queen. Number one is you're going to lead with femininity.
I don't know how many times languages, ways I can
say this, but this is so important, ladies, to lead
with your femininity. Men love to protect and provide, especially
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if they like you.
Speaker 1 (04:56):
That's their job, that's what they're supposed to do. That's
in their nature.
Speaker 2 (04:59):
That's in their biological makeup, physiological makeup, practically, I don't
know the right terminology, but it's in their makeup. So
with being feminine, being seft, spoken in tone, and being
a challenge and a mystery. These are all things that
are going to make use someone that is of quality.
Speaker 1 (05:22):
You know.
Speaker 2 (05:23):
I tend to like the fifties for some reason. I
really love the woman, how they dressed. I just think
it's so cute. I don't know why I'm naturally drawn
to the fifties. I feel like, as a nineties baby,
a lot of us have eras in time periods that
we really loved, and for me, it was definitely the fifties.
Speaker 1 (05:44):
I think that the women were so.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
Cute and feminine, and they dressed very well, and they
were very put together, and to me, it was a
time where there was a lot of traditional feminism going on,
where it was definitely the men's job to provide and work,
and the woman were stay at home mom's and got
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to just watch the kids. I just love that whole,
simple sort of tradition. And even in one of my
favorite movies, which was The Notebook, Rachel Adams, her character,
I don't remember the name of her character, but her
character basically I think that took place in the fifties.
And Noah, I think his name was Noah Calhoun which was.
Speaker 1 (06:31):
Sexy, gorgeous Ryan Gosling.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
He was playing the love interest basically where he was
the guy that was trying to get Rachel Adams or
Mick Adams, whatever her name is. And if you notice
in the movie, he had to figure out a whole
bunch of creative ways to get her to finally say
yes in allowing him to take her out on a date.
Speaker 1 (06:55):
And he just kept pursuing her and pursuing.
Speaker 2 (06:57):
Her, and she was saying like no, like I'm not
gonna go out a date with you.
Speaker 1 (07:01):
You gotta try harder than that.
Speaker 2 (07:03):
You know, still being flirtatious and cute and fun. But
she wasn't, you know, rejecting him like you're out of
my face. I don't want to talk to you, Like
why are you talking to me? You know, she wasn't
doing that. She was still being very feminine and still
letting him know like I think you're cute, but try again,
you know, like that sort of energy and stuff like
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that is what makes guys, you know, want to draw
to you even more because it's like, Okay, I think
she likes me, Does she like me?
Speaker 1 (07:32):
Not enough? I gotta try harder. So that's like a clue.
Speaker 2 (07:35):
You know, it's important to note that a man has
no incentive to be chivalrous. If you're leading with masculine energy,
if you're going to act like his equal in terms
of how you're treating each other, you're he's gonna be
you kind of like a male colleague or like a bro,
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you know, meaning he's gonna be confused of Listen, I
don't know if I open the door for her, she's
gonna open the door for me. I can't figure out
the dynamic here. We have to kind of play into
that role of oh, you know, very soft feminine to
let him open the door for you, let him.
Speaker 1 (08:16):
Do his job. Hello.
Speaker 2 (08:20):
This is very important because of how men are made
in nature.
Speaker 1 (08:25):
Right in our nature, we're.
Speaker 2 (08:27):
Supposed to be feminine, and men love women who are feminine.
Speaker 1 (08:34):
It's really that kind and dry.
Speaker 2 (08:36):
Don't be the woman who requires nothing of a man.
Don't be that woman where all you're requiring is just
a man physically, nothing else. Just so you could say, well,
I got a man, do you? Though sounds to me
like you have a son. You may have a friend,
you may have a roommate, you may have a buddy,
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have a bro, you don't have a man because men
pay the bills. Men provide, men take the lead. That's
what men do. What is your man doing? You guys
are buddies. You're the other half.
Speaker 1 (09:17):
Of the man.
Speaker 2 (09:18):
It hurts, I know, but it's true. Trust and love
and emotional support do not pay the bills. So please
spare me before you sit there and get carried away typing.
Speaker 1 (09:34):
Well, that's not all.
Speaker 2 (09:35):
It takes, no whatever, different things for different people, you
say over there. Like I said, I'm not going to
get upset at you for wanting to be with someone
who's the manager of Starbucks or Target. Your boyfriend is
a barista, he's forty five.
Speaker 1 (09:53):
That's great.
Speaker 2 (09:55):
I and a lot of other girls on this channel,
my angels, we require more.
Speaker 1 (10:03):
That's it.
Speaker 2 (10:04):
So don't get mad at us. Who are you really
mad at? Maybe you're mad at you. Maybe that's what
we really need to reel in to focus here. It's you, babe.
Speaker 1 (10:14):
You're mad at you. You're not mad at us. You're
not mad at me. What did I do?
Speaker 2 (10:19):
I'm just speaking my truth, my standards and what I
believe in, and a lot of people agree with me. Yeah,
when you lower and deplete and even delete your expectations
of a man, You lower your expectations for yourself. All
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it does is speak valumes for how you feel about you.
You instantly become a pick mey. You become a policeholder.
You become a pick mey, You become a polaceholder until
he finds someone that is a challenge, until he finds
the person that he actually wants to build with, the
person that he wants to provide for. You're just going
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to keep the seat warm until she gets there, right,
And you know, just overall, a woman who leads with
femininity because that's what they want. They don't want a
girl that's acting like a dude. They don't want that.
And if he does, he's just simply dusty. Right, Get
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the vacuum. Get the vacuum, please someone, anyone.
Speaker 1 (11:29):
Being a quality queen, you should always keep a man
on his toes.
Speaker 2 (11:35):
Be desirable with your femininity, beauty, your youth, because honestly,
without these things, you really can't real men in like that,
you really can't lure them in. Because why it's as
simple as I like that look. I like the way
you look. The first thing before you meet anybody is
you look at how they look.
Speaker 1 (11:56):
I like that look.
Speaker 2 (11:57):
I like your face, I like your eyes, I like
your lips, I like your tea. That's what you look at.
You're not seeing people's hearts and their inside and their
character and.
Speaker 1 (12:06):
All these other things.
Speaker 2 (12:07):
The first thing that you're noticing is those physical attributes
and being that in society, whether we want to accept
it or not, women are valued first through their beauty
and their youth. Men are valued in society through their
success and their wealth.
Speaker 1 (12:28):
I don't want to hear it, save it. It's true.
Speaker 2 (12:30):
And at the end of the day, you cannot be
a quality queen trying to be equal to men. It
just doesn't work like that. It just doesn't work like that.
I don't Yeah, no, I've got nothing trying to be
equal with men. Your ride or die mentality, I'm going nowhere.
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Your let's split the bill mentality. Your I feel bad.
I just want to help him. I know he's going
through a lot mental or Unfortunately, your PhD in physics
is not going to keep a man. At the end
of the day, men get women and lure them in
with sex. Women get men with relationships. Write it down,
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quote me, it's true. In in order for us to win
and get the relationship to reel them in. These things
have to be applied. Becoming a quality queen is a must.
You know what, I should write a book called the
Quality Queen Bible.
Speaker 1 (13:40):
That should be the title of my book, The Quality
Queen Bible. Who would buy it? Raise your hand? No, real?
Speaker 2 (13:46):
I know you guys are always telling me sidebar that
I should write a book. I think that's what it's
going to be called, the Quality Queen Bible.
Speaker 1 (13:53):
That's it. T q QB. Yeah, TQQB. That's gonna be
the name of the book, The Quality Queen Bible. Yeah.
This is what's going to do with babe.
Speaker 2 (14:04):
To sum it up, You're going to lure him in
with your charm, with your beauty, with your youth.
Speaker 1 (14:11):
And with your femininity.
Speaker 2 (14:13):
Honestly, and you know this goes without saying absolutely no
intimacy one if you're waiting for marriage, no intimacy.
Speaker 1 (14:22):
If you're waiting for marriage. I don't care how hot
he is.
Speaker 2 (14:26):
I don't care if he says, oh, well, you know,
I want to marry you anyways, So why can't we
just do it now? Because I feel like we're already
going to get married, so we might as well, just
do it now, because what's going to be the difference.
The difference is what I said. The difference is I
said no. The difference is I hold myself to a
certain standard and I'm not going to bend that for you.
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And if you want to stick around, great, If you don't,
even better, at least.
Speaker 1 (14:55):
I know what you're really here for.
Speaker 2 (14:58):
We can only hide from our true selves, but for
so long, and for others that are not practicing that,
no intimacy before monogamy. And keep in mind, don't be
fooled by someone trying to be monogamous with you within
a week because the younger they are.
Speaker 1 (15:17):
Because some guys will try it.
Speaker 2 (15:19):
You know, a lot of people have guts and gull
will be in a monogamous relationship with you just to
get that one thing and then bounce.
Speaker 1 (15:29):
But normally someone that's.
Speaker 2 (15:31):
More mature, that's more subtled, you know, they won't even
go the distance of waiting the three to four months,
like Steve Harvey suggested the ninety day rule, they won't
even go the distance.
Speaker 1 (15:40):
They'll leave well before then.
Speaker 2 (15:42):
But the ones that do, the ones that do, then
you can work out whatever you want to do. If
that's not your goal.
Speaker 1 (15:52):
Waiting until marriage.
Speaker 2 (15:54):
But by no means are you just busting it open
worldwide just because you like him. In fact, if you
like him, that's all the more incentive not to and
to remain neutral, because, like I said in my last video,
when you remain neutral and it's hard, I know what
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I'm saying. What I'm saying, by no means is easy, Guys.
I want you guys to know that. And I know
that I'm practicing these things myself. That's how I come
up with half this stuff. It's not easy, but it
has to be done. Because all this time that you're
investing in yourself, and you're investing in yourself physically, emotionally,
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and spiritually, it shows the way you carry yourself is
going to be different. Your aura is going to be different.
The people that approach you are going to be different. Now,
with that being said, that doesn't mean that another Dusty
won't ever try to confront you again, because babe who
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doesn't like nice things, so looking better is not going
to ward them off. It's going to lessen the chances
of a lot of them approaching you because they know
that they probably can't get you anyway. So I even
bother going the distance, but it's not going to eliminate them.
Speaker 1 (17:24):
You really are a quality queen.
Speaker 2 (17:28):
And I want you guys to feel this message and
to feel the self love of valuing yourself because you
will carry yourself differently. So many girls, so many dms
I get on a daily basis, Asia, How do I
have more confidence? How do I become a quality queen?
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How do I do all these things? Follow this Bible, babe,
all of this rule of thumb.
Speaker 1 (17:56):
That I'm creating.
Speaker 2 (17:58):
I'm sure this isn't going to be the first video
I make on this topic, and I genuinely will be
writing a book on this, the Quality Queen Bible, because
a lot of you need to hear it, and I
want to genuinely help you guys. I know it's not
easy out here. It's not easy in the dating world.
Whether you're sixteen or whether you're even thirty, it's not easy.
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And I get that, and I want you guys to
know that I get it. But at the end of
the day, no matter how honest and blunt I am,
and I don't believe in sugarcoating things. As many of
you can see, that doesn't mean that you still shouldn't
go the distance. It's the road less traveled for a reason.
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Anything worth having isn't easy, and people.
Speaker 1 (18:48):
Of substance and people of value will see that and
they'll meet you there. They will.
Speaker 2 (18:56):
I also want you, guys, to keep in mind before
we move on to the life last category of spirituality,
if a guy really wants you, it doesn't matter if
he's sleeping with Becca or whatever the case is, if
he simply wants you. So I receive a lot of
dms of girls saying I know you said to wait
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X amount of time. I'm not waiting for marriage, but
I do want to be with this guy. But I
feel like if I don't have sex with him, he's
going to have sex with someone else, sweetie.
Speaker 1 (19:31):
More than likely he already is.
Speaker 2 (19:33):
So while he's banging you know all those other girls,
let him and let him take the time out to
hang out with you emotionally getting invested in you, courting you,
doing all of these things for you without that, because
that way he actually will turn around and say, you
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know what, I've been hanging out with let's say myself,
Asha for the last four months, and oh my gosh,
like I really like her and I don't even need
those other girls that I was getting, you know, whatever from,
because I really like this girl and I haven't even
done anything with her yet, and I really really do
like her, so I think I want to be with her.
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I want to have that talk where I think I
want to be serious with Asia. No matter what someone
is offering, no matter how many girls are offering and
giving it up and busting it open worldwide, it doesn't
matter to a guy. If he wants it from you,
he wants the same thing he's getting from them. He
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wants it from you. It is not the same. It's
not about getting it in period. It's about the fact
that he wants that specific thing from you. So don't
be worried, don't worry about what other women are doing.
Speaker 1 (20:50):
If he really wants you. Does that make sense?
Speaker 2 (20:54):
Next category spirituality being a quality queen, especially someone like myself.
This is very important to me, very crucial to me,
because my spirituality is number one above anything and everything,
because that goes hand in hand with my identity, my
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emotional stability, mental stability, and any challenge that I face
in life. I root in my faith, in my belief
in God, in Jesus Christ.
Speaker 1 (21:33):
Spiritually.
Speaker 2 (21:34):
I believe if you are a Christian, you're going to
find your identity in Christ.
Speaker 1 (21:39):
You should find your identity in Christ. Asia. How do
I do that? I don't know where to start.
Speaker 2 (21:44):
Well, for me, it started with music, something as simple
as that. Yes, I grew up in church my entire life.
I've been going to church consistently since I was three
days old.
Speaker 1 (21:59):
For years.
Speaker 2 (22:00):
I still do go to church literally three times a week.
I'm not saying that makes me a saint. That doesn't
make me better than anyone. That doesn't mean that I
don't go through struggles. That doesn't mean that I'm perfect,
that doesn't mean anything. I'm just simply saying what I do,
how I grew up. That's just what I do at
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the current moment. When you become rooted in Christ, anchored
by Christ, certain things just can't bother you. There are
people that I've known in my life that I do
see still on a consistent basis, and I know that
they don't like me, and I know they do things.
Speaker 1 (22:42):
To bother me, to jeer me to do all of.
Speaker 2 (22:45):
These things, and I cannot get myself to react. For
some reason, I can't get myself to stoop to that
level with anyone with relationships with men, even though I
was only hurt really once annoyed. The rest of the times,
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I had so many different opportunities to out this person
and to kind of get back at them, but I
couldn't get myself to do it. I cannot get myself
to be a vengeful person. I can't get myself to
be a jaded person. And I think a lot of
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the time, you know, maybe it does have to do
with my personality, but I think also it has to
do with the fact that I just really believe that
God knows everybody, so he knows how to handle that
person that hurt me, hurt you way better than what
we can do on our own and our own human nature,
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our own human power. He can do way better. And
I would rather leave it to him than leave it
to me. And I've always thought that way. When you
are someone that is a quality queen, sometimes people just
see a certain light in you. They recognize a certain
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light in you, and they don't know what it is.
They can't put their finger on it. But it's literally
christ People say that to me all the time. I
don't know what it is.
Speaker 1 (24:19):
About you. But you're just different.
Speaker 2 (24:21):
You're just what are you? Just a girl that believes
in Jesus. That's what I am.
Speaker 1 (24:29):
And this, even though it's the last category.
Speaker 2 (24:34):
It's number one above everything because we need to be
anchored in Him so that we can do all the
things that we want to do. Dating someone that's successful,
marrying someone that's successful, having your dream life, your dream career,
whatever that may be. Put your faith in Jesus is
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gonna do it for you. And I know that when
I'm saying sounds very cliche, it may even sound inauthentic
to you. But all I can do is share my truth.
All I can do is help you based off of
things I've seen, maybe even things I've read, and things.
Speaker 1 (25:16):
That are based off of my own experience.
Speaker 2 (25:20):
When you are anchored in a higher power like Jesus,
you just won't compromise on certain things.
Speaker 1 (25:27):
You just can't.
Speaker 2 (25:29):
Of course, there's going to be times where you will
fall and you'll get up, and you'll make mistakes and
you'll learn that's a part of life. You will never
be perfect. I will never be perfect. That's okay, That
is okay.
Speaker 1 (25:44):
But what I'm.
Speaker 2 (25:45):
Saying is when it comes to being a vengeful person,
and all of these things, these negative things that some
people effortlessly do, you just won't be able to do them.
You just can't get yourself to reciprocate the negativity that
others are projecting on you.
Speaker 1 (26:01):
You just can't.
Speaker 2 (26:02):
I'm unfazed by the amount of people that I've met
in my life that have been so jaded. It has
never jaded me ever ever. You know, it hurts. I
get over it with time. It isn't easy at the
time when I'm dealing with it, but I do.
Speaker 1 (26:18):
I get over it. I'm here, I'm living, doing great.
Speaker 2 (26:23):
You want to be a quality queen because you want
to be respectable, and it's important to not let anyone
into your space and let everyone into your space and
take pieces of you because that's what you're doing. You're
sharing energy with people every time you encounter them, especially
exchanging energy with people when you're being intimate with them
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and you're letting them into your space. It's not just
something that's physical, it is spiritual. And if you look
at it from that aspect, do you want to be
a part of the people that you're letting into your
space like that?
Speaker 1 (27:06):
Do you want their qualities within you.
Speaker 2 (27:10):
Do you want to possess anything that they have When
you know that no good Noah.
Speaker 1 (27:16):
Is cheating on you constantly and you're sacrificing yourself.
Speaker 2 (27:22):
And your moral compass, you or even your intuitive feelings,
Is it worth it?
Speaker 1 (27:31):
Think about it? So, guys, that is the end of
this video. Thank you so much for watching.
Speaker 2 (27:39):
Of course, do not forget to leave any comments, concerns,
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and I'll see you guys, and my next Davie I
really loves
My loves. Hello, how are you okay?
Speaker 2 (00:05):
So for those of you that are new, Hi, my
name is Asha. Very nice to meet you on this channel.
We uplift, inspire, encourage, empower one another to level up,
to value ourselves, to know better.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
And to do better. So thank you for taking time.
Speaker 2 (00:27):
Out of your day to sit and watch me or
listen to me speak.
Speaker 1 (00:32):
I really appreciate it. It means so much to me,
more than you know. Before we jump into this video.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
Of course, you guys know the routine to follow me
on Instagram and that will be right over here. And
do not forget to subscribe to this channel and turn
on the post notifications that you guys know every single
time that I post. As you can see from the title,
this video is on how to be a quality queen.
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Let's the variety into it, okay, angels, So first and foremost,
I have three categories that I sort of divided this into.
Speaker 1 (01:07):
When I was writing my video treatment.
Speaker 2 (01:10):
And that is physically, emotionally and spiritually how to be
a quality queen. So category one, which is physically this
goes without saying you have to look good. Anything that
is quality is attractive, which means it has to have
the look or the aesthetic of something. So you have
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to keep up your appearance. Dress well all the time.
Close that fit. You know, when someone's wearing something that's
too tight. There's a difference between wearing something that's tight
versus wearing something that's too tight, where it sort of
just looks not well, It just doesn't look well, Like,
what are you doing?
Speaker 1 (01:48):
What's happening? No, it's fine, it is, it's not don't
do it.
Speaker 2 (01:52):
Put in the effort with your appearance, because when you
put an effort, it shows putting an effort show people
know that it doesn't take three seconds to have a
very nice hairstyle, your makeup's done, your clothes are well fitting,
your outfit is nice.
Speaker 1 (02:13):
People know that doesn't take three seconds.
Speaker 2 (02:16):
So naturally you get more respect when you're well put together,
and it obviously shows because you're putting in the work
that you are someone that values your pearance, and it
means that you are someone that is of quality. I
know that we all have lazy days, but I can
(02:37):
promise you that so it's so worth it. You know,
me being really feminine my entire life. Of course, there
have been time periods, especially when I was like really
depressed for I only wanted to wear sweats.
Speaker 1 (02:49):
I never really wanted to wear heels, which was.
Speaker 2 (02:52):
Very alarming because I am someone that wears heels every day.
And I'm not exaggerating that's really wear heels every day.
And it's not because I feel like I have to,
but it's genuinely because I enjoy it.
Speaker 1 (03:06):
First of all, I'm a small girl. I'm only five
foot two.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
I like to, you know, have the height and then
take the shoes off and then be my height. I
love my height personally, and I also love the fact
that I can throw on shoes and I can be
like three inches five inches six inches tall. I don't know,
I could just be taller, you know. I really like
that option, you know. But what I'm saying is even
(03:30):
in days where we don't necessarily want to and we
don't want to put in the effort, those are the
days that we especially should because watch, that'll be the
day where you go out. This is especially key if
you're single. If you're single, you're always on the prow Gabe.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
Even when you don't notice it.
Speaker 2 (03:48):
Always carry yourself in a certain way because you don't
know who you're going to attract. You don't know who
you're going to see when you go to that grocery store,
when you go to that when you go to that restaurant,
or when you go to the mall.
Speaker 1 (04:01):
You don't know who you're going to see.
Speaker 2 (04:03):
And that's why it's important to always look put together
and to always.
Speaker 1 (04:07):
Look the part. Really, it's important.
Speaker 2 (04:12):
And just you know, as a reference, one of my
favorite stores to get close from at the moment right
now is Zara or Zara as people say in fact,
like this blazer.
Speaker 1 (04:24):
Is from Zara, and I love this outfit. I love it. Okay.
Speaker 2 (04:28):
Next category, this one is the longest category.
Speaker 1 (04:32):
Sit tight. Okay.
Speaker 2 (04:34):
This is the emotional category of how to be a
quality queen. Number one is you're going to lead with femininity.
I don't know how many times languages, ways I can
say this, but this is so important, ladies, to lead
with your femininity. Men love to protect and provide, especially
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if they like you.
Speaker 1 (04:56):
That's their job, that's what they're supposed to do. That's
in their nature.
Speaker 2 (04:59):
That's in their biological makeup, physiological makeup, practically, I don't
know the right terminology, but it's in their makeup. So
with being feminine, being seft, spoken in tone, and being
a challenge and a mystery. These are all things that
are going to make use someone that is of quality.
Speaker 1 (05:22):
You know.
Speaker 2 (05:23):
I tend to like the fifties for some reason. I
really love the woman, how they dressed. I just think
it's so cute. I don't know why I'm naturally drawn
to the fifties. I feel like, as a nineties baby,
a lot of us have eras in time periods that
we really loved, and for me, it was definitely the fifties.
Speaker 1 (05:44):
I think that the women were so.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
Cute and feminine, and they dressed very well, and they
were very put together, and to me, it was a
time where there was a lot of traditional feminism going on,
where it was definitely the men's job to provide and work,
and the woman were stay at home mom's and got
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to just watch the kids. I just love that whole,
simple sort of tradition. And even in one of my
favorite movies, which was The Notebook, Rachel Adams, her character,
I don't remember the name of her character, but her
character basically I think that took place in the fifties.
And Noah, I think his name was Noah Calhoun which was.
Speaker 1 (06:31):
Sexy, gorgeous Ryan Gosling.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
He was playing the love interest basically where he was
the guy that was trying to get Rachel Adams or
Mick Adams, whatever her name is. And if you notice
in the movie, he had to figure out a whole
bunch of creative ways to get her to finally say
yes in allowing him to take her out on a date.
Speaker 1 (06:55):
And he just kept pursuing her and pursuing.
Speaker 2 (06:57):
Her, and she was saying like no, like I'm not
gonna go out a date with you.
Speaker 1 (07:01):
You gotta try harder than that.
Speaker 2 (07:03):
You know, still being flirtatious and cute and fun. But
she wasn't, you know, rejecting him like you're out of
my face. I don't want to talk to you, Like
why are you talking to me? You know, she wasn't
doing that. She was still being very feminine and still
letting him know like I think you're cute, but try again,
you know, like that sort of energy and stuff like
(07:24):
that is what makes guys, you know, want to draw
to you even more because it's like, Okay, I think
she likes me, Does she like me?
Speaker 1 (07:32):
Not enough? I gotta try harder. So that's like a clue.
Speaker 2 (07:35):
You know, it's important to note that a man has
no incentive to be chivalrous. If you're leading with masculine energy,
if you're going to act like his equal in terms
of how you're treating each other, you're he's gonna be
you kind of like a male colleague or like a bro,
(07:55):
you know, meaning he's gonna be confused of Listen, I
don't know if I open the door for her, she's
gonna open the door for me. I can't figure out
the dynamic here. We have to kind of play into
that role of oh, you know, very soft feminine to
let him open the door for you, let him.
Speaker 1 (08:16):
Do his job. Hello.
Speaker 2 (08:20):
This is very important because of how men are made
in nature.
Speaker 1 (08:25):
Right in our nature, we're.
Speaker 2 (08:27):
Supposed to be feminine, and men love women who are feminine.
Speaker 1 (08:34):
It's really that kind and dry.
Speaker 2 (08:36):
Don't be the woman who requires nothing of a man.
Don't be that woman where all you're requiring is just
a man physically, nothing else. Just so you could say, well,
I got a man, do you? Though sounds to me
like you have a son. You may have a friend,
you may have a roommate, you may have a buddy,
(09:00):
have a bro, you don't have a man because men
pay the bills. Men provide, men take the lead. That's
what men do. What is your man doing? You guys
are buddies. You're the other half.
Speaker 1 (09:17):
Of the man.
Speaker 2 (09:18):
It hurts, I know, but it's true. Trust and love
and emotional support do not pay the bills. So please
spare me before you sit there and get carried away typing.
Speaker 1 (09:34):
Well, that's not all.
Speaker 2 (09:35):
It takes, no whatever, different things for different people, you
say over there. Like I said, I'm not going to
get upset at you for wanting to be with someone
who's the manager of Starbucks or Target. Your boyfriend is
a barista, he's forty five.
Speaker 1 (09:53):
That's great.
Speaker 2 (09:55):
I and a lot of other girls on this channel,
my angels, we require more.
Speaker 1 (10:03):
That's it.
Speaker 2 (10:04):
So don't get mad at us. Who are you really
mad at? Maybe you're mad at you. Maybe that's what
we really need to reel in to focus here. It's you, babe.
Speaker 1 (10:14):
You're mad at you. You're not mad at us. You're
not mad at me. What did I do?
Speaker 2 (10:19):
I'm just speaking my truth, my standards and what I
believe in, and a lot of people agree with me. Yeah,
when you lower and deplete and even delete your expectations
of a man, You lower your expectations for yourself. All
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it does is speak valumes for how you feel about you.
You instantly become a pick mey. You become a policeholder.
You become a pick mey, You become a polaceholder until
he finds someone that is a challenge, until he finds
the person that he actually wants to build with, the
person that he wants to provide for. You're just going
(11:03):
to keep the seat warm until she gets there, right,
And you know, just overall, a woman who leads with
femininity because that's what they want. They don't want a
girl that's acting like a dude. They don't want that.
And if he does, he's just simply dusty. Right, Get
(11:25):
the vacuum. Get the vacuum, please someone, anyone.
Speaker 1 (11:29):
Being a quality queen, you should always keep a man
on his toes.
Speaker 2 (11:35):
Be desirable with your femininity, beauty, your youth, because honestly,
without these things, you really can't real men in like that,
you really can't lure them in. Because why it's as
simple as I like that look. I like the way
you look. The first thing before you meet anybody is
you look at how they look.
Speaker 1 (11:56):
I like that look.
Speaker 2 (11:57):
I like your face, I like your eyes, I like
your lips, I like your tea. That's what you look at.
You're not seeing people's hearts and their inside and their
character and.
Speaker 1 (12:06):
All these other things.
Speaker 2 (12:07):
The first thing that you're noticing is those physical attributes
and being that in society, whether we want to accept
it or not, women are valued first through their beauty
and their youth. Men are valued in society through their
success and their wealth.
Speaker 1 (12:28):
I don't want to hear it, save it. It's true.
Speaker 2 (12:30):
And at the end of the day, you cannot be
a quality queen trying to be equal to men. It
just doesn't work like that. It just doesn't work like that.
I don't Yeah, no, I've got nothing trying to be
equal with men. Your ride or die mentality, I'm going nowhere.
(12:52):
Your let's split the bill mentality. Your I feel bad.
I just want to help him. I know he's going
through a lot mental or Unfortunately, your PhD in physics
is not going to keep a man. At the end
of the day, men get women and lure them in
with sex. Women get men with relationships. Write it down,
(13:18):
quote me, it's true. In in order for us to win
and get the relationship to reel them in. These things
have to be applied. Becoming a quality queen is a must.
You know what, I should write a book called the
Quality Queen Bible.
Speaker 1 (13:40):
That should be the title of my book, The Quality
Queen Bible. Who would buy it? Raise your hand? No, real?
Speaker 2 (13:46):
I know you guys are always telling me sidebar that
I should write a book. I think that's what it's
going to be called, the Quality Queen Bible.
Speaker 1 (13:53):
That's it. T q QB. Yeah, TQQB. That's gonna be
the name of the book, The Quality Queen Bible. Yeah.
This is what's going to do with babe.
Speaker 2 (14:04):
To sum it up, You're going to lure him in
with your charm, with your beauty, with your youth.
Speaker 1 (14:11):
And with your femininity.
Speaker 2 (14:13):
Honestly, and you know this goes without saying absolutely no
intimacy one if you're waiting for marriage, no intimacy.
Speaker 1 (14:22):
If you're waiting for marriage. I don't care how hot
he is.
Speaker 2 (14:26):
I don't care if he says, oh, well, you know,
I want to marry you anyways, So why can't we
just do it now? Because I feel like we're already
going to get married, so we might as well, just
do it now, because what's going to be the difference.
The difference is what I said. The difference is I
said no. The difference is I hold myself to a
certain standard and I'm not going to bend that for you.
(14:49):
And if you want to stick around, great, If you don't,
even better, at least.
Speaker 1 (14:55):
I know what you're really here for.
Speaker 2 (14:58):
We can only hide from our true selves, but for
so long, and for others that are not practicing that,
no intimacy before monogamy. And keep in mind, don't be
fooled by someone trying to be monogamous with you within
a week because the younger they are.
Speaker 1 (15:17):
Because some guys will try it.
Speaker 2 (15:19):
You know, a lot of people have guts and gull
will be in a monogamous relationship with you just to
get that one thing and then bounce.
Speaker 1 (15:29):
But normally someone that's.
Speaker 2 (15:31):
More mature, that's more subtled, you know, they won't even
go the distance of waiting the three to four months,
like Steve Harvey suggested the ninety day rule, they won't
even go the distance.
Speaker 1 (15:40):
They'll leave well before then.
Speaker 2 (15:42):
But the ones that do, the ones that do, then
you can work out whatever you want to do. If
that's not your goal.
Speaker 1 (15:52):
Waiting until marriage.
Speaker 2 (15:54):
But by no means are you just busting it open
worldwide just because you like him. In fact, if you
like him, that's all the more incentive not to and
to remain neutral, because, like I said in my last video,
when you remain neutral and it's hard, I know what
(16:17):
I'm saying. What I'm saying, by no means is easy, Guys.
I want you guys to know that. And I know
that I'm practicing these things myself. That's how I come
up with half this stuff. It's not easy, but it
has to be done. Because all this time that you're
investing in yourself, and you're investing in yourself physically, emotionally,
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and spiritually, it shows the way you carry yourself is
going to be different. Your aura is going to be different.
The people that approach you are going to be different. Now,
with that being said, that doesn't mean that another Dusty
won't ever try to confront you again, because babe who
(17:01):
doesn't like nice things, so looking better is not going
to ward them off. It's going to lessen the chances
of a lot of them approaching you because they know
that they probably can't get you anyway. So I even
bother going the distance, but it's not going to eliminate them.
Speaker 1 (17:24):
You really are a quality queen.
Speaker 2 (17:28):
And I want you guys to feel this message and
to feel the self love of valuing yourself because you
will carry yourself differently. So many girls, so many dms
I get on a daily basis, Asia, How do I
have more confidence? How do I become a quality queen?
(17:50):
How do I do all these things? Follow this Bible, babe,
all of this rule of thumb.
Speaker 1 (17:56):
That I'm creating.
Speaker 2 (17:58):
I'm sure this isn't going to be the first video
I make on this topic, and I genuinely will be
writing a book on this, the Quality Queen Bible, because
a lot of you need to hear it, and I
want to genuinely help you guys. I know it's not
easy out here. It's not easy in the dating world.
Whether you're sixteen or whether you're even thirty, it's not easy.
(18:22):
And I get that, and I want you guys to
know that I get it. But at the end of
the day, no matter how honest and blunt I am,
and I don't believe in sugarcoating things. As many of
you can see, that doesn't mean that you still shouldn't
go the distance. It's the road less traveled for a reason.
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Anything worth having isn't easy, and people.
Speaker 1 (18:48):
Of substance and people of value will see that and
they'll meet you there. They will.
Speaker 2 (18:56):
I also want you, guys, to keep in mind before
we move on to the life last category of spirituality,
if a guy really wants you, it doesn't matter if
he's sleeping with Becca or whatever the case is, if
he simply wants you. So I receive a lot of
dms of girls saying I know you said to wait
(19:19):
X amount of time. I'm not waiting for marriage, but
I do want to be with this guy. But I
feel like if I don't have sex with him, he's
going to have sex with someone else, sweetie.
Speaker 1 (19:31):
More than likely he already is.
Speaker 2 (19:33):
So while he's banging you know all those other girls,
let him and let him take the time out to
hang out with you emotionally getting invested in you, courting you,
doing all of these things for you without that, because
that way he actually will turn around and say, you
(19:54):
know what, I've been hanging out with let's say myself,
Asha for the last four months, and oh my gosh,
like I really like her and I don't even need
those other girls that I was getting, you know, whatever from,
because I really like this girl and I haven't even
done anything with her yet, and I really really do
like her, so I think I want to be with her.
(20:15):
I want to have that talk where I think I
want to be serious with Asia. No matter what someone
is offering, no matter how many girls are offering and
giving it up and busting it open worldwide, it doesn't
matter to a guy. If he wants it from you,
he wants the same thing he's getting from them. He
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wants it from you. It is not the same. It's
not about getting it in period. It's about the fact
that he wants that specific thing from you. So don't
be worried, don't worry about what other women are doing.
Speaker 1 (20:50):
If he really wants you. Does that make sense?
Speaker 2 (20:54):
Next category spirituality being a quality queen, especially someone like myself.
This is very important to me, very crucial to me,
because my spirituality is number one above anything and everything,
because that goes hand in hand with my identity, my
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emotional stability, mental stability, and any challenge that I face
in life. I root in my faith, in my belief
in God, in Jesus Christ.
Speaker 1 (21:33):
Spiritually.
Speaker 2 (21:34):
I believe if you are a Christian, you're going to
find your identity in Christ.
Speaker 1 (21:39):
You should find your identity in Christ. Asia. How do
I do that? I don't know where to start.
Speaker 2 (21:44):
Well, for me, it started with music, something as simple
as that. Yes, I grew up in church my entire life.
I've been going to church consistently since I was three
days old.
Speaker 1 (21:59):
For years.
Speaker 2 (22:00):
I still do go to church literally three times a week.
I'm not saying that makes me a saint. That doesn't
make me better than anyone. That doesn't mean that I
don't go through struggles. That doesn't mean that I'm perfect,
that doesn't mean anything. I'm just simply saying what I do,
how I grew up. That's just what I do at
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the current moment. When you become rooted in Christ, anchored
by Christ, certain things just can't bother you. There are
people that I've known in my life that I do
see still on a consistent basis, and I know that
they don't like me, and I know they do things.
Speaker 1 (22:42):
To bother me, to jeer me to do all of.
Speaker 2 (22:45):
These things, and I cannot get myself to react. For
some reason, I can't get myself to stoop to that
level with anyone with relationships with men, even though I
was only hurt really once annoyed. The rest of the times,
(23:07):
I had so many different opportunities to out this person
and to kind of get back at them, but I
couldn't get myself to do it. I cannot get myself
to be a vengeful person. I can't get myself to
be a jaded person. And I think a lot of
(23:27):
the time, you know, maybe it does have to do
with my personality, but I think also it has to
do with the fact that I just really believe that
God knows everybody, so he knows how to handle that
person that hurt me, hurt you way better than what
we can do on our own and our own human nature,
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our own human power. He can do way better. And
I would rather leave it to him than leave it
to me. And I've always thought that way. When you
are someone that is a quality queen, sometimes people just
see a certain light in you. They recognize a certain
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light in you, and they don't know what it is.
They can't put their finger on it. But it's literally
christ People say that to me all the time. I
don't know what it is.
Speaker 1 (24:19):
About you. But you're just different.
Speaker 2 (24:21):
You're just what are you? Just a girl that believes
in Jesus. That's what I am.
Speaker 1 (24:29):
And this, even though it's the last category.
Speaker 2 (24:34):
It's number one above everything because we need to be
anchored in Him so that we can do all the
things that we want to do. Dating someone that's successful,
marrying someone that's successful, having your dream life, your dream career,
whatever that may be. Put your faith in Jesus is
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gonna do it for you. And I know that when
I'm saying sounds very cliche, it may even sound inauthentic
to you. But all I can do is share my truth.
All I can do is help you based off of
things I've seen, maybe even things I've read, and things.
Speaker 1 (25:16):
That are based off of my own experience.
Speaker 2 (25:20):
When you are anchored in a higher power like Jesus,
you just won't compromise on certain things.
Speaker 1 (25:27):
You just can't.
Speaker 2 (25:29):
Of course, there's going to be times where you will
fall and you'll get up, and you'll make mistakes and
you'll learn that's a part of life. You will never
be perfect. I will never be perfect. That's okay, That
is okay.
Speaker 1 (25:44):
But what I'm.
Speaker 2 (25:45):
Saying is when it comes to being a vengeful person,
and all of these things, these negative things that some
people effortlessly do, you just won't be able to do them.
You just can't get yourself to reciprocate the negativity that
others are projecting on you.
Speaker 1 (26:01):
You just can't.
Speaker 2 (26:02):
I'm unfazed by the amount of people that I've met
in my life that have been so jaded. It has
never jaded me ever ever. You know, it hurts. I
get over it with time. It isn't easy at the
time when I'm dealing with it, but I do.
Speaker 1 (26:18):
I get over it. I'm here, I'm living, doing great.
Speaker 2 (26:23):
You want to be a quality queen because you want
to be respectable, and it's important to not let anyone
into your space and let everyone into your space and
take pieces of you because that's what you're doing. You're
sharing energy with people every time you encounter them, especially
exchanging energy with people when you're being intimate with them
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and you're letting them into your space. It's not just
something that's physical, it is spiritual. And if you look
at it from that aspect, do you want to be
a part of the people that you're letting into your
space like that?
Speaker 1 (27:06):
Do you want their qualities within you.
Speaker 2 (27:10):
Do you want to possess anything that they have When
you know that no good Noah.
Speaker 1 (27:16):
Is cheating on you constantly and you're sacrificing yourself.
Speaker 2 (27:22):
And your moral compass, you or even your intuitive feelings,
Is it worth it?
Speaker 1 (27:31):
Think about it? So, guys, that is the end of
this video. Thank you so much for watching.
Speaker 2 (27:39):
Of course, do not forget to leave any comments, concerns,
suggestions in the comment section below, And of course, if
you haven't already and this is your first video that
you're watching of mine, or even if it's not, and
you have not subscribed yet, please subscribe. We are on
the road to thirty k and you are so close
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and I know that we can get there. And of course, guys,
do not forget that I love you and God loves you,
and I'll see you guys, and my next Davie I
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