November 26, 2025 • 16 mins
Hi my Angels !!!! In todays episode I discuss falling in love with yourself! This is so important in order for us to attract our ideal relationships! The relationship you have with yourself is very important and can be so beautiful!!!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hi, angels, Welcome back to my channel. Welcome to my
channel for all my new subscriptions. How's everybody doing today?
Speaker 2 (00:09):
Okay, little secret, I'm actually filming this very late at night,
but you probably can't tell that because I have the
best editor ever. Hello. Hi. Okay, guys, So today we're
going to be talking about falling in love with yourself
and how to attract mister Wright but Slayer roll. You
guys should know the drill by now, make sure that
you give this video.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
A big thumbs up. Okay, thank you.
Speaker 2 (00:32):
Make sure that you're subscribed to the channel, turn on
your pro centifications that you're notified every single time that
I post. Also, if you have not by now listened
to my podcast, it comes out every Wednesday.
Speaker 1 (00:43):
I don't know how it is that I'm still.
Speaker 2 (00:45):
Getting comments of people telling me that they had no
idea that I had a podcast.
Speaker 1 (00:49):
Where have you been?
Speaker 2 (00:50):
We are on season three okay of my podcast, so
make sure you check that out. Make sure that you
are following you on Instagram Aster Casina Foster over here.
And lastly, if you guys guys would like advice for me,
you guys.
Speaker 1 (01:02):
Can reach me on wizzio. I receive a lot of
dms from you guys as I need your vice for this.
Speaker 2 (01:07):
I need your help with this. There's a way to
reach me. It is called Wizzyo. It is down in
the description box click click. Also, it is on my
Instagram highlights where it says get advice for me.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
So let's get on into the citio.
Speaker 2 (01:18):
I first want to start off by saying that if
you are someone that is single, the first person that
you need to love is yourself. Now, I know that
that sounds super cliche, but it is very true. There
are many ways to be happy being single and to
embrace that singleness while being open to meeting.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
The right person.
Speaker 2 (01:40):
What I believe that life is about is being present
and enjoying your life until the right person comes along.
So I believe that there are a checklist of questions
to think of that I find important as it pertains
to falling in love with yourself and attracting the right partner.
Speaker 1 (01:58):
So one am I dating of boredom or loneliness?
Speaker 2 (02:02):
And this is important because if you don't identify this,
this can easily lead to desperation, and desperation is going
to lead you to compromise. Compromise means that you are
not going to have any boundaries as it pertains to
dating someone.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
And let me tell you something.
Speaker 2 (02:16):
Anyone can smell desperation from a mile away, and if
you are someone that's coming from a desperate standpoint, it's
going to be exploited. Do I respect my own boundaries?
Because if you don't, then no one else will. Am
I a good partner to myself?
Speaker 1 (02:31):
Meaning? Do you take yourself out?
Speaker 2 (02:33):
Do you invest in yourself which is mind, body, and soul? Right?
Speaker 1 (02:38):
If you are not doing this, how do you.
Speaker 2 (02:40):
Expect other people to want to take you out, to
want to enjoy experiencing things with you if you can't
even do it for yourself and with yourself? Have I
healed my past issues? Child to traumas healing from past relationships?
Speaker 1 (02:55):
Because if you do.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
Not, then these issues will bleed on into every dynamic
essentially all of your relationships. There's a quote that I
read one time that said people that are victims are
like they get cut and if they don't heal the wound,
it's going to like leed onto other people that like
haven't cut them or something like that.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
Has I ever heard that quote?
Speaker 2 (03:16):
If you have, like write it down in the comment
section below, because I'm butchering the quote, but I'm pretty
sure it's something.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
Along those lines.
Speaker 2 (03:22):
I want to add that if you leave these things unchecked,
meaning these past traumas, and you are not someone that
has done the work to heal, actually attracting a healthy
dynamic will not be sustainable for you because the toxic
part of you is able to identify with that toxic
part of another person. But if you were healed, you're
(03:43):
not going to be able to connect with that toxicity
in another individual. However, you will be able to identify
with it or identify it, but you're not going to
connect with it. So then you will decide, all right,
I see where that road's leading, and I'm going to
go the other way. Am I good friend?
Speaker 1 (04:01):
Personally? I think this is huge because.
Speaker 2 (04:03):
I, honestly I'm gonna be I don't believe that you
can be a good partner if you can't be a
good friend. Now, I don't know if that is an
unpopular opinion or not, but I don't believe that that's
kind of how life works. I mean, yes, platonic relationships
are different from romantic dynamics. However, being a good friend
(04:25):
should make you a good partner as well. Even though
they both do require different things, I think foundationally they
are synonymous as it pertains to your character, your morals,
your ethics, and things like that.
Speaker 1 (04:37):
Do I trust myself now?
Speaker 2 (04:39):
I always talk to you guys about intuition and leaning
into that intuition.
Speaker 1 (04:44):
Do you trust your decisions?
Speaker 2 (04:46):
And this is important because if you are not someone
that is in tune with your intuition, then you're not
really going to believe in divine timing. This is going
to make you super anxious everything happens in its own
divine timing. If you don't trust yourself and you're not
going to trust your decisions, as a result of that,
you're constantly going to put yourself in positions where you
(05:07):
are susceptible to becoming a victim to really anything, because
there's no threshold or boundary to set literally at all.
So you're going to fall victim essentially to guys that
have certain toxic traits or whatever the case is, because
you don't trust that one you deserve better, and you
don't trust that maybe what you're thinking could actually be reality,
(05:31):
whatever the case is. It's important to trust yourself so
that you can make more sound decisions and be more
sturdy in those decisions, and also remember that nothing that
is for you will miss you. That is definitely how
I live my life. Lastly, the question in the checklist
is what would my life look like if I was
showing up as the person that.
Speaker 1 (05:52):
I want to be.
Speaker 2 (05:53):
This is a really good question to ask yourself because
what would your day look like? What would that person
dress like? What would that person smell like? If you
were showing up as the person that you want to be.
Speaker 1 (06:04):
What time in the morning does that person wake up?
What does that person's routine look like?
Speaker 2 (06:08):
Very important questions to ask yourself as it pertains to
falling in love with yourself. Now, these things are very
exciting because it's, like I said, look at it from
the perspective of you basically dating yourself like you are
someone else. Have that same eagerness and interest in this
self discovery. Now, to fall in love with yourself, you
need to accept that your feelings are very powerful.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
Whatever your feeling.
Speaker 2 (06:33):
Is going to create thoughts, and those thoughts are going
to become your belief system. So if you're someone that
has this negative perception, oh, all men are the same Yeah,
they're all going to cheat on me all these things.
Then that's exactly what you're going to find to be true.
If you choose to feel happy and you are certain
that you know the right person is coming.
Speaker 1 (06:55):
It's like this in the universe.
Speaker 2 (06:57):
Right in life, you put out an order, you know
that that order is coming. Or if you're at a restaurant,
I should say, you know that order is coming. You're
not going to keep checking in with the waiter. Hey,
is the impossible burger on its way? You made the order,
you know that it's coming. That's how you should view
your life. Okay, you know what it is that you
want and you know that it's going to come to you.
(07:17):
Another thing that I think is important as it pertains
to falling in love with yourself, because this process is
going to require a lot of it's really all self discovery,
is to not focus only on the outcome.
Speaker 1 (07:29):
Sometimes when we focus too much on the goal.
Speaker 2 (07:31):
It can create this like resistance and anxiety because we
are trying so hard to like align ourselves with what
we want to be true for ourselves that we end
up not being able to surrender to whatever the flow is,
and that causes a lot of resistance in us and
makes the journey a lot harder.
Speaker 1 (07:50):
When you take.
Speaker 2 (07:50):
Things day by day, you do cultivate more peace. And
I think this is very important because when you are
someone that is coming from a peaceful place, that's going
to make you feel good. And again, if you guys
have been following me for you know, a decent amount
of time, at least within the last month, you would
know that I have read the book The Magic, which
has been magical in my life and I love it
(08:14):
so much and it really really taught me the power
of feelings and emotions and being on that vibration and
what that can do for me. And I want you
guys to experience that same joy. So, yes, you're on
this journey because you want to fall in love with
yourself and you want to attract you know, that person
that's going to do the same. But focusing on the
outcome is going to put you in the mind frame of, oh, yeah,
(08:37):
I just want to get this all over with so
that I can, like, you knowall love myself and that
I can get the person that I want, you know,
to attract. You have to enjoy it because it's not
a chore. It's a luxury is getting to know yourself
not a luxury, right, And I'm not saying that from
a toxic standpoint of like, yeah, it's a luxury to
get to know me. I'm talking like from the perspective
(08:58):
of you to you, it is a life luxury that
I get to know myself, that I'm taking the time
out to do all these things to love myself so
much of course I'm going to attract someone that's going
to love me a lot too.
Speaker 1 (09:09):
Like that.
Speaker 2 (09:09):
A lot of the times when we get objective, it
can cause a lot of anxiety, and that's simply because
we don't like the unknown. Nobody likes not knowing the
outcome of something, which is why you can't focus on
things that you don't have the end. When is this
process going to be done? And that's why I focus
a lot on the character aspects and I guess the
(09:31):
inner work more than I do a lot of the
physicalities of things, because this is what is going to
truly make a difference in you guys life. So, like
I said, a lot of the times we don't enjoy
not knowing what the outcome is going to be.
Speaker 1 (09:44):
But you have to just let it flow and just be, and.
Speaker 2 (09:48):
Let me tell you, I understand that that is way
easier said than done, because I am definitely somebody I
used to be someone that I'm like, I need to
know the who, the what, the when, the where, and
the am is it going down? And I've learned that
there is a balance in surrendering to the process and
sometimes kind of being a little bit more I guess
(10:11):
maybe like pushing more towards something that I really desire.
But to really be honest, as I just said that,
I'm realizing that that's actually never really a good idea.
So I guess what I've learned is to be okay
with's starting to the process. When I stopped having so
much resistance against things that were out of my control.
I remember, even in January, for no reason at all,
(10:32):
I was like mentally unwell, I don't know what was
in the water, don't want to go back, thank you Lord.
But I was just I felt very, very mentally fragile.
And it's even more scary when you don't know why.
I think that's way more scary, and it just was,
and I just was like screw it, like yeah.
Speaker 1 (10:50):
Like I know what's going on. I'm gonna cry it out.
Speaker 2 (10:52):
I'm gonna laugh it out, like I just I can't
take this serious.
Speaker 1 (10:55):
Like what am I going to do? You know what
I mean? So I just let it go. I let
it and boom.
Speaker 2 (11:00):
We are now in October and I'm back and I'm better.
Speaker 1 (11:03):
So you're picking up when I'm laying down.
Speaker 2 (11:05):
Don't make every day an audition for a life partner.
That is not what your entire existence is about. Like
I said, you were going to spend way more time
with someone than you are without someone, So enjoy this
time of being single and having the luxury of getting
(11:26):
to know yourself. I think a lot of the times,
if you have the perspective of every single person that
you're meeting, you're placing so much pressure on them. Believe me,
I get it because it kind of used to do
the same thing, because you are someone that's maybe as
more serious minded as it pertains to dating. But I've
learned in my experience of dating people and things not
really working out, that not only was it for the
(11:48):
better and the good for me, but that we meet
people for different reasons in different seasons, and it happens,
and it's an experience, and that is it. It doesn't
have to be this big project, this big to do,
this big significant lesson meaning, because what does that mean?
(12:09):
You can easily find yourself in situations where you won't
let go of something because you need something catastrophic to
happen in order for you to release and strender and
let that situation go. What are you going to do
when you have a situation where there's like barely any
data to collect from an individual and like you have
nothing to go off of and that person just poof disappeared,
what are you going to do? Go crazy? It's out
(12:31):
of your control, you know what I mean? And that's
what is at the end of the day.
Speaker 1 (12:34):
When you think thoughts that give you a feeling of relief.
Speaker 2 (12:38):
And peace, essentially you attract or queue up more experiences
that are just like that. Because all beliefs are imagined limitations.
The reason that I place so much emphasis on your
feelings is because our beliefs cause our experiences. There is
no step by step process without truly understanding these things
(13:02):
that I've discussed.
Speaker 1 (13:03):
You know, let me tell you something.
Speaker 2 (13:05):
A lot of people they want to come to you know,
videos and all these how tos because they want this
step by step tell me this ABCDD, and they're not
really doing the work. Like I said, without truly understanding
these things, you're going to try and align yourself to
the outcome without organically arriving there. Organically arriving there is
(13:27):
life actually happening and letting it do its own thing.
I also used to do that if somebody would tell
me something. How many times people say, oh my god,
I see you doing this, I see doing that, And
I realized these things are great things. And I found
myself in a position where it's like I was trying
so hard to align myself with that reality because I
(13:47):
know it's coming and I want those things to happen,
that I'm like, somehow I'm going off course with it
because I'm trying so hard to make it happen because
I want it and I know it's going to happen,
and now.
Speaker 1 (13:58):
I'm trying to like make it happen a little faster.
And I've also.
Speaker 2 (14:00):
Learned that that's why I don't need to know everything,
and I'm okay with that. Like I used to be
the type of person where it's like I wanted to
know everything, but like not that I find mystery fun
because that's not what I said. But I like not
knowing every single detail because I like for it to
happen organically, because when you hear certain things, you are
(14:21):
going to want to align yourself with the outcome and
you're not going to allow yourself the space for it
to happen organically.
Speaker 1 (14:27):
You know.
Speaker 2 (14:27):
It's kind of like researching a person very thoroughly before
you meet them. Of course, we want to make sure
they're not a serial killer or whatever the case is.
Speaker 1 (14:35):
But if you what are you going to talk about?
Speaker 2 (14:37):
If you already know what their mother's name is, Okay,
their ex girlfriend, where they went to school, you know
how long ago they you know, graduated, all these different things,
it almost becomes like robotic. You can't enjoy a person
for who they are because you already kind.
Speaker 1 (14:53):
Of know these things.
Speaker 2 (14:54):
So it's like, you know, it makes you feel very calculated.
I'm with this person because I know that they work
for Goldman Sachs. That's why I'm here. And it's like, mm,
like trust yourself that you're going to make the right decision,
that you're going to choose the right person without having
to be so calculated, because to me, like if you're
super calculated. I don't really think that means that you
trust yourself, but I don't know. That's just how I feel.
Speaker 1 (15:15):
At the end of the day, Angels.
Speaker 2 (15:17):
It starts with you. When you fall in love with yourself.
It's going to attract people to you that are going
to fall in.
Speaker 1 (15:23):
Love with you too. And I want to end with this.
Speaker 2 (15:26):
Let's do some affirmation So I think these affirmations specifically
are very important, so you can repeat them after me
if you want. Starting with this, I am loved and
I love myself now when I do affirmations, I also
want you guys to know I tend to put my
hand over my heart because.
Speaker 1 (15:45):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (15:45):
It makes me feel like I'm connecting deeper or you
can save them put your hand on your heart and
like breathe.
Speaker 1 (15:52):
So you're like feeling it. If that making sense.
Speaker 2 (15:57):
I am loved and I love myself. It is safe
for me to let love in. I am lovable and
worth knowing. And lastly, loving myself gets easier every day.
So I really highly suggest you guys get into affirmations.
It's super easy and it will make you feel really good.
(16:19):
And also I have a book suggestion the name of
The book is called Love Yourself, Heal Your Life by
Louis Hay. Highly suggest you guys check that book out.
I will probably pin.
Speaker 1 (16:31):
The comment down below.
Speaker 2 (16:32):
That is the end of his video, Angels. I hope
that you guys have enjoyed it. Do not forget that
I love you, and God loves you, and I see
your vehicle Angels in my next video.
Hi, angels, Welcome back to my channel. Welcome to my
channel for all my new subscriptions. How's everybody doing today?
Speaker 2 (00:09):
Okay, little secret, I'm actually filming this very late at night,
but you probably can't tell that because I have the
best editor ever. Hello. Hi. Okay, guys, So today we're
going to be talking about falling in love with yourself
and how to attract mister Wright but Slayer roll. You
guys should know the drill by now, make sure that
you give this video.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
A big thumbs up. Okay, thank you.
Speaker 2 (00:32):
Make sure that you're subscribed to the channel, turn on
your pro centifications that you're notified every single time that
I post. Also, if you have not by now listened
to my podcast, it comes out every Wednesday.
Speaker 1 (00:43):
I don't know how it is that I'm still.
Speaker 2 (00:45):
Getting comments of people telling me that they had no
idea that I had a podcast.
Speaker 1 (00:49):
Where have you been?
Speaker 2 (00:50):
We are on season three okay of my podcast, so
make sure you check that out. Make sure that you
are following you on Instagram Aster Casina Foster over here.
And lastly, if you guys guys would like advice for me,
you guys.
Speaker 1 (01:02):
Can reach me on wizzio. I receive a lot of
dms from you guys as I need your vice for this.
Speaker 2 (01:07):
I need your help with this. There's a way to
reach me. It is called Wizzyo. It is down in
the description box click click. Also, it is on my
Instagram highlights where it says get advice for me.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
So let's get on into the citio.
Speaker 2 (01:18):
I first want to start off by saying that if
you are someone that is single, the first person that
you need to love is yourself. Now, I know that
that sounds super cliche, but it is very true. There
are many ways to be happy being single and to
embrace that singleness while being open to meeting.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
The right person.
Speaker 2 (01:40):
What I believe that life is about is being present
and enjoying your life until the right person comes along.
So I believe that there are a checklist of questions
to think of that I find important as it pertains
to falling in love with yourself and attracting the right partner.
Speaker 1 (01:58):
So one am I dating of boredom or loneliness?
Speaker 2 (02:02):
And this is important because if you don't identify this,
this can easily lead to desperation, and desperation is going
to lead you to compromise. Compromise means that you are
not going to have any boundaries as it pertains to
dating someone.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
And let me tell you something.
Speaker 2 (02:16):
Anyone can smell desperation from a mile away, and if
you are someone that's coming from a desperate standpoint, it's
going to be exploited. Do I respect my own boundaries?
Because if you don't, then no one else will. Am
I a good partner to myself?
Speaker 1 (02:31):
Meaning? Do you take yourself out?
Speaker 2 (02:33):
Do you invest in yourself which is mind, body, and soul? Right?
Speaker 1 (02:38):
If you are not doing this, how do you.
Speaker 2 (02:40):
Expect other people to want to take you out, to
want to enjoy experiencing things with you if you can't
even do it for yourself and with yourself? Have I
healed my past issues? Child to traumas healing from past relationships?
Speaker 1 (02:55):
Because if you do.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
Not, then these issues will bleed on into every dynamic
essentially all of your relationships. There's a quote that I
read one time that said people that are victims are
like they get cut and if they don't heal the wound,
it's going to like leed onto other people that like
haven't cut them or something like that.
Speaker 1 (03:15):
Has I ever heard that quote?
Speaker 2 (03:16):
If you have, like write it down in the comment
section below, because I'm butchering the quote, but I'm pretty
sure it's something.
Speaker 1 (03:22):
Along those lines.
Speaker 2 (03:22):
I want to add that if you leave these things unchecked,
meaning these past traumas, and you are not someone that
has done the work to heal, actually attracting a healthy
dynamic will not be sustainable for you because the toxic
part of you is able to identify with that toxic
part of another person. But if you were healed, you're
(03:43):
not going to be able to connect with that toxicity
in another individual. However, you will be able to identify
with it or identify it, but you're not going to
connect with it. So then you will decide, all right,
I see where that road's leading, and I'm going to
go the other way. Am I good friend?
Speaker 1 (04:01):
Personally? I think this is huge because.
Speaker 2 (04:03):
I, honestly I'm gonna be I don't believe that you
can be a good partner if you can't be a
good friend. Now, I don't know if that is an
unpopular opinion or not, but I don't believe that that's
kind of how life works. I mean, yes, platonic relationships
are different from romantic dynamics. However, being a good friend
(04:25):
should make you a good partner as well. Even though
they both do require different things, I think foundationally they
are synonymous as it pertains to your character, your morals,
your ethics, and things like that.
Speaker 1 (04:37):
Do I trust myself now?
Speaker 2 (04:39):
I always talk to you guys about intuition and leaning
into that intuition.
Speaker 1 (04:44):
Do you trust your decisions?
Speaker 2 (04:46):
And this is important because if you are not someone
that is in tune with your intuition, then you're not
really going to believe in divine timing. This is going
to make you super anxious everything happens in its own
divine timing. If you don't trust yourself and you're not
going to trust your decisions, as a result of that,
you're constantly going to put yourself in positions where you
(05:07):
are susceptible to becoming a victim to really anything, because
there's no threshold or boundary to set literally at all.
So you're going to fall victim essentially to guys that
have certain toxic traits or whatever the case is, because
you don't trust that one you deserve better, and you
don't trust that maybe what you're thinking could actually be reality,
(05:31):
whatever the case is. It's important to trust yourself so
that you can make more sound decisions and be more
sturdy in those decisions, and also remember that nothing that
is for you will miss you. That is definitely how
I live my life. Lastly, the question in the checklist
is what would my life look like if I was
showing up as the person that.
Speaker 1 (05:52):
I want to be.
Speaker 2 (05:53):
This is a really good question to ask yourself because
what would your day look like? What would that person
dress like? What would that person smell like? If you
were showing up as the person that you want to be.
Speaker 1 (06:04):
What time in the morning does that person wake up?
What does that person's routine look like?
Speaker 2 (06:08):
Very important questions to ask yourself as it pertains to
falling in love with yourself. Now, these things are very
exciting because it's, like I said, look at it from
the perspective of you basically dating yourself like you are
someone else. Have that same eagerness and interest in this
self discovery. Now, to fall in love with yourself, you
need to accept that your feelings are very powerful.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
Whatever your feeling.
Speaker 2 (06:33):
Is going to create thoughts, and those thoughts are going
to become your belief system. So if you're someone that
has this negative perception, oh, all men are the same Yeah,
they're all going to cheat on me all these things.
Then that's exactly what you're going to find to be true.
If you choose to feel happy and you are certain
that you know the right person is coming.
Speaker 1 (06:55):
It's like this in the universe.
Speaker 2 (06:57):
Right in life, you put out an order, you know
that that order is coming. Or if you're at a restaurant,
I should say, you know that order is coming. You're
not going to keep checking in with the waiter. Hey,
is the impossible burger on its way? You made the order,
you know that it's coming. That's how you should view
your life. Okay, you know what it is that you
want and you know that it's going to come to you.
(07:17):
Another thing that I think is important as it pertains
to falling in love with yourself, because this process is
going to require a lot of it's really all self discovery,
is to not focus only on the outcome.
Speaker 1 (07:29):
Sometimes when we focus too much on the goal.
Speaker 2 (07:31):
It can create this like resistance and anxiety because we
are trying so hard to like align ourselves with what
we want to be true for ourselves that we end
up not being able to surrender to whatever the flow is,
and that causes a lot of resistance in us and
makes the journey a lot harder.
Speaker 1 (07:50):
When you take.
Speaker 2 (07:50):
Things day by day, you do cultivate more peace. And
I think this is very important because when you are
someone that is coming from a peaceful place, that's going
to make you feel good. And again, if you guys
have been following me for you know, a decent amount
of time, at least within the last month, you would
know that I have read the book The Magic, which
has been magical in my life and I love it
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so much and it really really taught me the power
of feelings and emotions and being on that vibration and
what that can do for me. And I want you
guys to experience that same joy. So, yes, you're on
this journey because you want to fall in love with
yourself and you want to attract you know, that person
that's going to do the same. But focusing on the
outcome is going to put you in the mind frame of, oh, yeah,
(08:37):
I just want to get this all over with so
that I can, like, you knowall love myself and that
I can get the person that I want, you know,
to attract. You have to enjoy it because it's not
a chore. It's a luxury is getting to know yourself
not a luxury, right, And I'm not saying that from
a toxic standpoint of like, yeah, it's a luxury to
get to know me. I'm talking like from the perspective
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of you to you, it is a life luxury that
I get to know myself, that I'm taking the time
out to do all these things to love myself so
much of course I'm going to attract someone that's going
to love me a lot too.
Speaker 1 (09:09):
Like that.
Speaker 2 (09:09):
A lot of the times when we get objective, it
can cause a lot of anxiety, and that's simply because
we don't like the unknown. Nobody likes not knowing the
outcome of something, which is why you can't focus on
things that you don't have the end. When is this
process going to be done? And that's why I focus
a lot on the character aspects and I guess the
(09:31):
inner work more than I do a lot of the
physicalities of things, because this is what is going to
truly make a difference in you guys life. So, like
I said, a lot of the times we don't enjoy
not knowing what the outcome is going to be.
Speaker 1 (09:44):
But you have to just let it flow and just be, and.
Speaker 2 (09:48):
Let me tell you, I understand that that is way
easier said than done, because I am definitely somebody I
used to be someone that I'm like, I need to
know the who, the what, the when, the where, and
the am is it going down? And I've learned that
there is a balance in surrendering to the process and
sometimes kind of being a little bit more I guess
(10:11):
maybe like pushing more towards something that I really desire.
But to really be honest, as I just said that,
I'm realizing that that's actually never really a good idea.
So I guess what I've learned is to be okay
with's starting to the process. When I stopped having so
much resistance against things that were out of my control.
I remember, even in January, for no reason at all,
(10:32):
I was like mentally unwell, I don't know what was
in the water, don't want to go back, thank you Lord.
But I was just I felt very, very mentally fragile.
And it's even more scary when you don't know why.
I think that's way more scary, and it just was,
and I just was like screw it, like yeah.
Speaker 1 (10:50):
Like I know what's going on. I'm gonna cry it out.
Speaker 2 (10:52):
I'm gonna laugh it out, like I just I can't
take this serious.
Speaker 1 (10:55):
Like what am I going to do? You know what
I mean? So I just let it go. I let
it and boom.
Speaker 2 (11:00):
We are now in October and I'm back and I'm better.
Speaker 1 (11:03):
So you're picking up when I'm laying down.
Speaker 2 (11:05):
Don't make every day an audition for a life partner.
That is not what your entire existence is about. Like
I said, you were going to spend way more time
with someone than you are without someone, So enjoy this
time of being single and having the luxury of getting
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to know yourself. I think a lot of the times,
if you have the perspective of every single person that
you're meeting, you're placing so much pressure on them. Believe me,
I get it because it kind of used to do
the same thing, because you are someone that's maybe as
more serious minded as it pertains to dating. But I've
learned in my experience of dating people and things not
really working out, that not only was it for the
(11:48):
better and the good for me, but that we meet
people for different reasons in different seasons, and it happens,
and it's an experience, and that is it. It doesn't
have to be this big project, this big to do,
this big significant lesson meaning, because what does that mean?
(12:09):
You can easily find yourself in situations where you won't
let go of something because you need something catastrophic to
happen in order for you to release and strender and
let that situation go. What are you going to do
when you have a situation where there's like barely any
data to collect from an individual and like you have
nothing to go off of and that person just poof disappeared,
what are you going to do? Go crazy? It's out
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of your control, you know what I mean? And that's
what is at the end of the day.
Speaker 1 (12:34):
When you think thoughts that give you a feeling of relief.
Speaker 2 (12:38):
And peace, essentially you attract or queue up more experiences
that are just like that. Because all beliefs are imagined limitations.
The reason that I place so much emphasis on your
feelings is because our beliefs cause our experiences. There is
no step by step process without truly understanding these things
(13:02):
that I've discussed.
Speaker 1 (13:03):
You know, let me tell you something.
Speaker 2 (13:05):
A lot of people they want to come to you know,
videos and all these how tos because they want this
step by step tell me this ABCDD, and they're not
really doing the work. Like I said, without truly understanding
these things, you're going to try and align yourself to
the outcome without organically arriving there. Organically arriving there is
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life actually happening and letting it do its own thing.
I also used to do that if somebody would tell
me something. How many times people say, oh my god,
I see you doing this, I see doing that, And
I realized these things are great things. And I found
myself in a position where it's like I was trying
so hard to align myself with that reality because I
(13:47):
know it's coming and I want those things to happen,
that I'm like, somehow I'm going off course with it
because I'm trying so hard to make it happen because
I want it and I know it's going to happen,
and now.
Speaker 1 (13:58):
I'm trying to like make it happen a little faster.
And I've also.
Speaker 2 (14:00):
Learned that that's why I don't need to know everything,
and I'm okay with that. Like I used to be
the type of person where it's like I wanted to
know everything, but like not that I find mystery fun
because that's not what I said. But I like not
knowing every single detail because I like for it to
happen organically, because when you hear certain things, you are
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going to want to align yourself with the outcome and
you're not going to allow yourself the space for it
to happen organically.
Speaker 1 (14:27):
You know.
Speaker 2 (14:27):
It's kind of like researching a person very thoroughly before
you meet them. Of course, we want to make sure
they're not a serial killer or whatever the case is.
Speaker 1 (14:35):
But if you what are you going to talk about?
Speaker 2 (14:37):
If you already know what their mother's name is, Okay,
their ex girlfriend, where they went to school, you know
how long ago they you know, graduated, all these different things,
it almost becomes like robotic. You can't enjoy a person
for who they are because you already kind.
Speaker 1 (14:53):
Of know these things.
Speaker 2 (14:54):
So it's like, you know, it makes you feel very calculated.
I'm with this person because I know that they work
for Goldman Sachs. That's why I'm here. And it's like, mm,
like trust yourself that you're going to make the right decision,
that you're going to choose the right person without having
to be so calculated, because to me, like if you're
super calculated. I don't really think that means that you
trust yourself, but I don't know. That's just how I feel.
Speaker 1 (15:15):
At the end of the day, Angels.
Speaker 2 (15:17):
It starts with you. When you fall in love with yourself.
It's going to attract people to you that are going
to fall in.
Speaker 1 (15:23):
Love with you too. And I want to end with this.
Speaker 2 (15:26):
Let's do some affirmation So I think these affirmations specifically
are very important, so you can repeat them after me
if you want. Starting with this, I am loved and
I love myself now when I do affirmations, I also
want you guys to know I tend to put my
hand over my heart because.
Speaker 1 (15:45):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (15:45):
It makes me feel like I'm connecting deeper or you
can save them put your hand on your heart and
like breathe.
Speaker 1 (15:52):
So you're like feeling it. If that making sense.
Speaker 2 (15:57):
I am loved and I love myself. It is safe
for me to let love in. I am lovable and
worth knowing. And lastly, loving myself gets easier every day.
So I really highly suggest you guys get into affirmations.
It's super easy and it will make you feel really good.
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And also I have a book suggestion the name of
The book is called Love Yourself, Heal Your Life by
Louis Hay. Highly suggest you guys check that book out.
I will probably pin.
Speaker 1 (16:31):
The comment down below.
Speaker 2 (16:32):
That is the end of his video, Angels. I hope
that you guys have enjoyed it. Do not forget that
I love you, and God loves you, and I see
your vehicle Angels in my next video.
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