October 23, 2025 • 24 mins
ANGELS!!!! I’m BACK again with a NEW episode as promised!!! Here I provide key questions on what to ask in a relationship. I split the questions into two categories which consist of personality questions and provider questions. I hope that you all enjo, let me know what other kinds of topics you guys would like to see in the comment section below!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hi to all my new subscribers. My name is Asha,
very nice to meet you. I want to jump right
into this topic, guys, because after yesterday I saw that
I got many many requests on first date questions. But
before we get into that, I want you guys to
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I post. I know that you guys really like when
I do the car you Know videos, but I could
not film outside today because they've been doing construction work
in my neighborhood all day long and it's super noisy.
So even if I sat in my car and closed
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the door, you guys would still be able to hear it.
So we are filming here today. First ay questions, what
to ask, how to go about it? We're going to
uncover that in this video. Let's get right into it.
So I want to make note of these ground rules.
Ground rules meaning identifying what you want, what is your
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exact goal when you are dating or going on a
date with this guy.
Speaker 2 (01:11):
So the reason why it's important to uncover.
Speaker 1 (01:14):
This is because if you walk in with no expectation
in terms of what this guy can bring, or a
certain standard or protocol, if you will, of what it
is that you would require of this guy, you're stepping
in on the wrong foot.
Speaker 2 (01:35):
Because when you're dating someone, you have to ask yourself,
what is.
Speaker 1 (01:38):
It that I want? Are you looking for something serious
or are you looking to date just for the experience
right now? Because you are focused on other things like
your career and things of that nature, This is very
crucial identifying what it is that you want because the
person that wants something serious, and of course, depending on
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your age, you may feel like you are on a
bit of a timeframe. As opposed to someone who's dating
just for the experience, you have arguably more leeway to
vet guys out and try different techniques if you feel
like you.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
Need to do so. Number two, you always want to
make sure.
Speaker 1 (02:17):
That a man is a provider, of course, because that's
what they do. You want to make sure that he's
not cheap. You want to make sure he actually has
a job. You know how you ask someone what it
is that they do, and you they answer the question,
and you still are confused, like, wait, what what is
it that he actually does? You have trouble articulating it
when you talk about it to your friends.
Speaker 2 (02:39):
I don't like that. I don't like when I'm asking.
Speaker 1 (02:42):
Someone what is that they do and I get the
strangest answer, Oh, I you know I do this, and
you know, back in the day I used to this.
Listen to how they're actually answering the question. You should
be able to have a solid answer of what this
person actually does. Also, I think a major point also
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that you want to note is do they have children?
Speaker 2 (03:07):
You can even ask, of.
Speaker 1 (03:08):
Course, if they're married or have a girlfriend, because the
way that guys are and the way that they function
is if you don't ask and they just won't tell you,
so you will end up in a situation with a
guy that has a whole entire girlfriend or a whole
entire wife, and when you find out, or by time
you find out, you may be already invested, or they
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may tell you, well, you never asked, and to you,
it's like, okay, that's something that you tell someone, But
in their eyes, especially if they're running the game, they're
obviously not going to want you to know that information.
So Basically I split this video into two categories, personality
questions and provider questions.
Speaker 2 (03:50):
Now, the personality questions.
Speaker 1 (03:52):
Are way more extensive than the provider questions because personality
you can gauge you know a lot more With you know,
more in depth questions. Provider questions, it's more of you know,
yes or no, very simple simple.
Speaker 2 (04:08):
So question number one.
Speaker 1 (04:09):
Also keep in mind that this is in no particular
order or anything, and there are, first of all, a
ton of different ways to vet guys, a ton of
different things that you can ask on a first date.
But for me, the way I think about things is
I want to know this person's personality because then I
can gauge how to go about, you know, whether or
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not I want.
Speaker 2 (04:30):
To see this person again.
Speaker 1 (04:31):
You say what I'm saying, So I actually everything that
I'm saying in this video from the beginning till the end,
I actually incorporate into my own life and my own
dating experience. But before we get into that, I want
to also note one last thing.
Speaker 2 (04:48):
Number three.
Speaker 1 (04:49):
Understand that this guy or whatever guy, all the guys
that you're dating, they want you, so you are there
for them to prove to you why they deserve to move.
Speaker 2 (05:03):
On to the next round. You understand what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (05:06):
I think we get that confused. You know, we as women,
we get that confused, and we tend to do the
role reversal where it's we start proving why we're worthy
of being with. No, it's their job. They sought you out.
You're on the date to collect data if you like him,
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that's how it goes. Question number one, what is your
concept of a partnership? This obviously will tell you how
he views relationships. It's just that simple. It's just that
kind and dry.
Speaker 2 (05:38):
What would you consider to be a deal breaker? Ah?
Good question. Why?
Speaker 1 (05:42):
This will tell you what he dislikes, so that obviously
you don't go and do that same thing. Or if
you do do that thing and that's just something that
you actually do, then you obviously know you guys may
not be a good match.
Speaker 2 (05:54):
Are you close with your family?
Speaker 1 (05:56):
Ah?
Speaker 2 (05:56):
Crucial because at the end of the day.
Speaker 1 (06:00):
Your family, your mother, your father, you know, your siblings.
Those are the first people that you have relationships with
you know, whether that may.
Speaker 2 (06:09):
Be with the opposite sex or not.
Speaker 1 (06:13):
And you know your father, you know, is the first
person that you you know love.
Speaker 2 (06:17):
If your father's presenting your life.
Speaker 1 (06:19):
Your mother the first woman that you love if your
mother's presenting your life.
Speaker 2 (06:23):
So gauging that sort of.
Speaker 1 (06:25):
Family dynamic is crucial to telling you a lot about
a person. Would you consider yourself to be an organized person?
I know, for me, I'm very organized. So I don't
really like untidy people because to me, being untidy and
being hygienic.
Speaker 2 (06:46):
They don't click.
Speaker 1 (06:47):
Obviously, if you are untidy, more than likely to me,
you're not going to be the most hygienic person, because
to me, it just goes hand in hand. Because if
you like things a certain way, then I would assume
you know, you take care.
Speaker 2 (06:59):
Of yourself in a certain way.
Speaker 1 (07:00):
Because some people they tend to do the whole thing
where they throw themselves together and look presentable, but everything
else is a wreck, and that kind of freaks me out.
I don't like people that just throw themselves together, but
then the foundation of everything is very shaky and doesn't
make sense. How are you raised? Did you have strict parents?
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What was that dynamic? Like? Yes, you want to understand
how he was raised, obviously, because that will give you
more context as to who he is as a person.
Sometimes people that are raised in strict households tend to
be extreme free spirits, completely polar opposite of how they
were raised, or they tend to follow that same sort
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of upbringing of being a strict person themselves, or the
best case scenario, they're just someone that's in the middle.
Speaker 2 (07:57):
Are you close with your siblings?
Speaker 1 (07:59):
You know, I think it's very telling when someone isn't
close with their siblings, especially the older You know that
we become in life and you realize how significant family is. Now, this,
of course is with a healthy family dynamic. You know,
it's just very telling how close someone is to you know,
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their parents, their siblings, things of that nature. Pay attention
to those things. Who was your role model or hero
growing up? Ah, that tells you a lot about him,
how because you can gauge, okay, if he looks up
to this person, you can easily figure out, okay, how
is this person presented to the world, What superpower did
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this hero sort of possess? And you can kind of
enter into his mind and gauge more of his personality.
Speaker 2 (08:50):
If he, you know, liked I'm just throwing this out there.
Speaker 1 (08:53):
Don't even take this that serious. If he likes Spider Man,
you know, back in the day. Then it's like, okay,
so he may you know, like saving people and damsels
in distress.
Speaker 2 (09:05):
I mean, every guy loves, you know, a damsel in distress.
Let's be real.
Speaker 1 (09:08):
But for the sake of this video, you know, you
can kind of correlate based on whom they look up
to how they modeled their life. If he looked up
to let's say, you know someone that's some CEO, billionaire CEO. Okay,
then you can gauge Okay, he's probably going to model
his life after that person because he really admires their work,
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ethic and the success in business that they had. So
keep in mind, I said, who is your role model
and or hero? It doesn't have to be a make
believe character. It can be an actual person. Preferably it
is an actual person. What kind of music do you like?
That also tells you a lot about a person, you know.
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I like people that like different types of music. They're
very versatile in their tastes. Because I am my. I
like you know, country music, I like pop music, I
like R and B music.
Speaker 2 (10:07):
I like a whole bunch of different things. You understand.
Speaker 1 (10:10):
So if somebody were to say to me, I only
listen to rap and hip hop. It's like, hmmm, I
mean you really genuinely not give other genres of music
a chance, Like I don't really, I don't really get that.
To me, that makes me feel like you are single
minded and you have sort of a narrow scope of
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the world, you understand, because people are multifaceted, so little
things like that are telling.
Speaker 2 (10:40):
Just like psychology says this.
Speaker 1 (10:41):
Also, when you're in the car with someone right and
they are constantly switching, switching, switching songs, meaning they can't
listen to one song fully without changing it to the next,
more than likely that person is someone that is very indecisive.
You know, they're always changing their mind They like one
thing and then change it to the next. Just indecisive,
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to say the least, very very indecisive.
Speaker 2 (11:06):
That's an actual thing.
Speaker 1 (11:07):
And I know that sounds so silly, but yes, it's
an actual thing. According to psychology, if someone cannot listen
to a full song on the radio and they're constantly switching, switching, switching,
they're always changing their minds. Hmm, yeah, think about that.
Another important question to ask them is what would they
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do if money wasn't a thing? Basically, what would they do?
You can gauge how generous this person is by asking
this question, because if it's something that's you know, helping.
Speaker 2 (11:45):
People, and I get it, I get it.
Speaker 1 (11:46):
People say people lie all the time, and they'll probably
give you, you know, you know, some cliche answer, but
you should be able to differentiate whether or not that's
the response that you're getting. So if he says something like,
you know, if money wasn't a thing, I would be
a professional race car driver, or I would open up
you know, twelve orphanages, you know, for kids in need.
Speaker 2 (12:10):
Whatever the answer is, you're an adult.
Speaker 1 (12:13):
You should be able to gauge how he is from
his response. What are your relationships like with your mom
with your dad? Now, I'm someone that believes we need
both our mother and our father present in our life. Okay,
I have been fortunate to where both my parents are
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in my life and have been in.
Speaker 2 (12:34):
My life all my life.
Speaker 1 (12:35):
And I see the difference between how I may perceive
certain things versus people that may have grown up in
single parent households. Now, that's not a throwoff to anyone
who has it's just the reality of the situation. How
you behave is there is a difference versus people that
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grew up in single parent households. So my mom plays
a role in a child's life, whether you know son
or daughter, and the same.
Speaker 2 (13:06):
Goes for a daughter.
Speaker 1 (13:09):
A dad plays a significant role in a daughter's life
as well, and you need both of them. If a
man is not close with his mother and healthily, I
don't mean a mom's boy, because you would be able
to tell that too.
Speaker 2 (13:23):
If a guy has.
Speaker 1 (13:24):
No relationship with his mother at all, how is he
supposed to know how to treat you? If he has
a very tarnished relationship with his mother. Remember what I
said earlier on in this video. Your parents are the
first people that you have relationships with, whether that is
single parent household or not. So if he doesn't get
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along with his mother or speak to his mother, he
can only treat you but so well because that first
relationship growing up was tarnished. If that person doesn't have
a guardian in their life that took the role of
a mother and he's close to that person, then you're
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gonna have the same issue, because sometimes it doesn't all
the time have to be the mother.
Speaker 2 (14:14):
If they have a guardian in their life that took
that role.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
Because maybe their parents were incapable of, you know, caring
for them, then that.
Speaker 2 (14:24):
Also can pass as well.
Speaker 1 (14:25):
He still has that mother relationship with that individual, but
if not, if there is no relationship dynamic going on,
I would not enter into a situation like that ever,
because even my you know, crazy ex boyfriend that I
told you guys about, he had no relationship with his mother.
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He was horrible to his mother, and him and his
mom did not get along at all. I mean, she
had her own demons that she was battling with and
ultimately it really really messed him up, and he treated
women like absolute garbage. How is your relationship with your father,
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the person that's supposed to teach you how to be
a man. It's important. And lastly, I would say, as
far as personality goes, what is the best compliment that
you feel that you have received. This is important because
this shows how they want to be recognized. So what
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obviously meant the most to them shows a quality inside
them that they like that people see that they feel
like people don't see on average.
Speaker 2 (15:41):
Does that make sense?
Speaker 1 (15:43):
And now we're going to talk about questions to ask
if he is a provider shortlist. Do you believe in
women having the option to work? And I know some
of you may be like, I don't want to ask
that question.
Speaker 2 (15:58):
No, ask that question. If you've comfortable asking that question,
then ask that question. I know I would.
Speaker 1 (16:03):
You know, depending on the climate you know of you
know the date because guys will go and ask you,
so how many guys have you slept with? And I
can't know your views, how you view relationships or women.
Speaker 2 (16:21):
What stop like? Instead, I'm saying, do you like shopping?
Easy question? Do you like it? I need to know
what your view is on that.
Speaker 1 (16:32):
You may have guys, there's different things you may have
guys that say, you know, I don't really do too
much shopping, but if my significant other wants to do it,
I'll go with them. Or I don't like to do
too much shopping for myself, but I do like going
with my significant other to pick out things for her.
I love to give surprises things like that. Do you
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like eating out at restaurants? Because eating out at restaurants
is an expensive habit. It gets pretty pricey because dating
in general, for men is an expensive thing. That's why
if they don't have it, they shouldn't do it, and
that's why it's your job to not let you know.
These guys that can barely afford to actually take you places,
you know, lowball you and you're just looking at the
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big picture of oh he took me out.
Speaker 2 (17:16):
Okay, But where? All right? Consider where? How important is
money to you? Now? For me?
Speaker 1 (17:24):
I think this is an important question because I know
to me it's very important to me.
Speaker 2 (17:28):
I consider myself to be the full package. So I'm
gonna need you to be too.
Speaker 1 (17:33):
If I'm bringing my youth, my beauty, having my own life,
being my own boss to the table, then what are
you offering, especially being older than me? Because I only
date guys that are older than me. It's a natural
attraction for me. So what are you bringing to this table?
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Because I'm bringing me? I think to me, money is
something that is important, and I like guys that possess
a lot of power.
Speaker 2 (18:07):
I find that very attractive.
Speaker 1 (18:08):
They can make things happen, make it move, make it disappear,
make it come back again.
Speaker 2 (18:15):
I love that.
Speaker 1 (18:17):
So yes, a guy will say, you know, money's not
that important to me, but I do, you know, like
nice things. I enjoy the finer things in life, but
it's not everything. Of course, an established person is gonna
give that answer, but you can gauge whether or not
they're cheap by that response because you can also get
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you know, a dusty saying money isn't everything because people
in life. There are so many people in life that
have money and they're unhappy. And listen to the tone
and how they're answering the question as well. You know
what I care about is not showing off and having
you know, a BMW when you could just you know,
save your money and get a toyota. I don't know
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why people feel like they have to show off. Yeah,
people like that. I steer clear from.
Speaker 2 (19:07):
I don't like that. I don't like how they said that.
I don't speak that. Don't get that. Not with that stop.
Speaker 1 (19:18):
Another question you can ask if you can go anywhere
in the world right now on vacation, where would you go?
Let him answer it, and then say, and what's stopping you? Ha,
what's stopping you from going and getting that vacation? Oh?
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You know, I got a lot going on right now? Huh,
A lot going on right now?
Speaker 2 (19:43):
Like what.
Speaker 1 (19:46):
Now you can gauge okay, like, what what is it
that you have going on right now, is it away?
Speaker 2 (19:53):
Is it a girlfriend?
Speaker 1 (19:54):
Is it past girls that you're not letting go of,
is it actual work related stress?
Speaker 2 (20:05):
Is it that you don't have enough money? What is
it all? Right?
Speaker 1 (20:12):
Now?
Speaker 2 (20:14):
You want someone that's gonna work hard, but you don't
want someone.
Speaker 1 (20:16):
That's completely incapable of actually taking a break when they
need to take a break.
Speaker 2 (20:20):
And guys will make excuses for anything. You know.
Speaker 1 (20:24):
I've seen a guy, you know, date multiple women and
takes one on vacation and never takes the other and
always talks about how he needs a vacation, but you're
taking the other girl and you're not taking the other one.
And he'll tell you the one that he's not taking. Yeah,
I know I do need a vacation, but you know,
I'm just so swamped as work.
Speaker 2 (20:45):
Really you are?
Speaker 1 (20:47):
Well, then why were you at that place, you know,
last month with like another chick if you're so swamped
with work?
Speaker 2 (20:58):
Lies? And I would say this is an interesting question.
Speaker 1 (21:03):
What is the most expensive gift that you've ever bought
for someone? Okay, and he's probably gonna say, well, what
do you mean, Well, what do you mean like my
mom or a a girlfriend? I would say, well, just
someone that means a lot to you leave it vague,
and then you can also add but yeah, I mean
both of them. If you want to answer that question,
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you understand I'm saying, because then you can see obviously
if he's going to be a cheapo or not. And
what is he willing to spend on someone that he
really really cares about, you know. And the more affluent
the man, I mean, they have the money to spend anyway,
so they don't even need to be so emotionally involved
in order to.
Speaker 2 (21:44):
Do something significant for you.
Speaker 1 (21:45):
So those are some questions that I feel like you
guys can ask on a first date. And again, like
I said, everything is circumstantial and there are plenty of
things that you can ask on a first date. Those
questions amongst the filler questions like what school did you
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go to?
Speaker 2 (22:07):
What time did you grow up in? You know, you
want to have a goal.
Speaker 1 (22:11):
Watch this video over and over and over again until
it gets ingrained in your head, because this is important.
Speaker 2 (22:20):
What is your goal? What do you want? What is
your intention?
Speaker 1 (22:24):
What are your non negotiables stepping into this date, your personality.
Speaker 2 (22:30):
Questions, your provider questions.
Speaker 1 (22:33):
You need a good data foundation to gauge whether or
not you want to move forward with.
Speaker 2 (22:38):
This next person.
Speaker 1 (22:40):
Okay, And also I have a little secret for you
ladies that one of my friends had told me about.
There's an app. I'm going to provide the link in
the description box below, but basically it allows you to
google someone once they provide you with their phone number.
So a lot of these guys that sometimes want to,
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you know, say, especially in online dating, guys always want
to say they have all this money and things of
that nature.
Speaker 2 (23:07):
And I know I get a ton of questions.
Speaker 1 (23:09):
About online dating, but I don't really like online.
Speaker 2 (23:13):
Dating that much.
Speaker 1 (23:14):
I personally have never really had luck with online dating,
so I am a little biased. But you can just
google their number and actually see where it is that
they live. Because if they're saying they're going to do
this and this for you, and they can provide XX
and X and you're living in a one bedroom apartment.
Speaker 2 (23:32):
In the woods.
Speaker 1 (23:32):
Somewhere, are you well like stop, like what are you saying?
Like why are you lying? And boom, you eliminate that
time waster right then and there. I mean, the thing
even goes as far as telling you that person's astrology sign.
It's miraculous. It's incredible. So I strongly suggest you guys
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download that app.
Speaker 2 (23:56):
For sure. I'm not getting, you know, paid for that.
Speaker 1 (23:59):
It's just me genuinely wanting to help you guys, and
I think it's an incredible, incredible resource, especially when it
comes to online dating, but dating in general. I highly
suggest you guys download that. And on top of that,
it's free, so it's not even like you guys have
to pay for anything. So that is the end of
this video, guys. So that is the end of this video.
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My angels, thank you for hanging out with me. Do
not forget that. I love you and God loves you.
And I'll see you, angels in my next video.
Hi to all my new subscribers. My name is Asha,
very nice to meet you. I want to jump right
into this topic, guys, because after yesterday I saw that
I got many many requests on first date questions. But
before we get into that, I want you guys to
of course follow me on Instagram, which you'll be right here.
And also do not forget to subscribe to this channel
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I post. I know that you guys really like when
I do the car you Know videos, but I could
not film outside today because they've been doing construction work
in my neighborhood all day long and it's super noisy.
So even if I sat in my car and closed
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the door, you guys would still be able to hear it.
So we are filming here today. First ay questions, what
to ask, how to go about it? We're going to
uncover that in this video. Let's get right into it.
So I want to make note of these ground rules.
Ground rules meaning identifying what you want, what is your
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exact goal when you are dating or going on a
date with this guy.
Speaker 2 (01:11):
So the reason why it's important to uncover.
Speaker 1 (01:14):
This is because if you walk in with no expectation
in terms of what this guy can bring, or a
certain standard or protocol, if you will, of what it
is that you would require of this guy, you're stepping
in on the wrong foot.
Speaker 2 (01:35):
Because when you're dating someone, you have to ask yourself,
what is.
Speaker 1 (01:38):
It that I want? Are you looking for something serious
or are you looking to date just for the experience
right now? Because you are focused on other things like
your career and things of that nature, This is very
crucial identifying what it is that you want because the
person that wants something serious, and of course, depending on
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your age, you may feel like you are on a
bit of a timeframe. As opposed to someone who's dating
just for the experience, you have arguably more leeway to
vet guys out and try different techniques if you feel
like you.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
Need to do so. Number two, you always want to
make sure.
Speaker 1 (02:17):
That a man is a provider, of course, because that's
what they do. You want to make sure that he's
not cheap. You want to make sure he actually has
a job. You know how you ask someone what it
is that they do, and you they answer the question,
and you still are confused, like, wait, what what is
it that he actually does? You have trouble articulating it
when you talk about it to your friends.
Speaker 2 (02:39):
I don't like that. I don't like when I'm asking.
Speaker 1 (02:42):
Someone what is that they do and I get the
strangest answer, Oh, I you know I do this, and
you know, back in the day I used to this.
Listen to how they're actually answering the question. You should
be able to have a solid answer of what this
person actually does. Also, I think a major point also
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that you want to note is do they have children?
Speaker 2 (03:07):
You can even ask, of.
Speaker 1 (03:08):
Course, if they're married or have a girlfriend, because the
way that guys are and the way that they function
is if you don't ask and they just won't tell you,
so you will end up in a situation with a
guy that has a whole entire girlfriend or a whole
entire wife, and when you find out, or by time
you find out, you may be already invested, or they
(03:30):
may tell you, well, you never asked, and to you,
it's like, okay, that's something that you tell someone, But
in their eyes, especially if they're running the game, they're
obviously not going to want you to know that information.
So Basically I split this video into two categories, personality
questions and provider questions.
Speaker 2 (03:50):
Now, the personality questions.
Speaker 1 (03:52):
Are way more extensive than the provider questions because personality
you can gauge you know a lot more With you know,
more in depth questions. Provider questions, it's more of you know,
yes or no, very simple simple.
Speaker 2 (04:08):
So question number one.
Speaker 1 (04:09):
Also keep in mind that this is in no particular
order or anything, and there are, first of all, a
ton of different ways to vet guys, a ton of
different things that you can ask on a first date.
But for me, the way I think about things is
I want to know this person's personality because then I
can gauge how to go about, you know, whether or
(04:29):
not I want.
Speaker 2 (04:30):
To see this person again.
Speaker 1 (04:31):
You say what I'm saying, So I actually everything that
I'm saying in this video from the beginning till the end,
I actually incorporate into my own life and my own
dating experience. But before we get into that, I want
to also note one last thing.
Speaker 2 (04:48):
Number three.
Speaker 1 (04:49):
Understand that this guy or whatever guy, all the guys
that you're dating, they want you, so you are there
for them to prove to you why they deserve to move.
Speaker 2 (05:03):
On to the next round. You understand what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (05:06):
I think we get that confused. You know, we as women,
we get that confused, and we tend to do the
role reversal where it's we start proving why we're worthy
of being with. No, it's their job. They sought you out.
You're on the date to collect data if you like him,
(05:26):
that's how it goes. Question number one, what is your
concept of a partnership? This obviously will tell you how
he views relationships. It's just that simple. It's just that
kind and dry.
Speaker 2 (05:38):
What would you consider to be a deal breaker? Ah?
Good question. Why?
Speaker 1 (05:42):
This will tell you what he dislikes, so that obviously
you don't go and do that same thing. Or if
you do do that thing and that's just something that
you actually do, then you obviously know you guys may
not be a good match.
Speaker 2 (05:54):
Are you close with your family?
Speaker 1 (05:56):
Ah?
Speaker 2 (05:56):
Crucial because at the end of the day.
Speaker 1 (06:00):
Your family, your mother, your father, you know, your siblings.
Those are the first people that you have relationships with
you know, whether that may.
Speaker 2 (06:09):
Be with the opposite sex or not.
Speaker 1 (06:13):
And you know your father, you know, is the first
person that you you know love.
Speaker 2 (06:17):
If your father's presenting your life.
Speaker 1 (06:19):
Your mother the first woman that you love if your
mother's presenting your life.
Speaker 2 (06:23):
So gauging that sort of.
Speaker 1 (06:25):
Family dynamic is crucial to telling you a lot about
a person. Would you consider yourself to be an organized person?
I know, for me, I'm very organized. So I don't
really like untidy people because to me, being untidy and
being hygienic.
Speaker 2 (06:46):
They don't click.
Speaker 1 (06:47):
Obviously, if you are untidy, more than likely to me,
you're not going to be the most hygienic person, because
to me, it just goes hand in hand. Because if
you like things a certain way, then I would assume
you know, you take care.
Speaker 2 (06:59):
Of yourself in a certain way.
Speaker 1 (07:00):
Because some people they tend to do the whole thing
where they throw themselves together and look presentable, but everything
else is a wreck, and that kind of freaks me out.
I don't like people that just throw themselves together, but
then the foundation of everything is very shaky and doesn't
make sense. How are you raised? Did you have strict parents?
(07:22):
What was that dynamic? Like? Yes, you want to understand
how he was raised, obviously, because that will give you
more context as to who he is as a person.
Sometimes people that are raised in strict households tend to
be extreme free spirits, completely polar opposite of how they
were raised, or they tend to follow that same sort
(07:45):
of upbringing of being a strict person themselves, or the
best case scenario, they're just someone that's in the middle.
Speaker 2 (07:57):
Are you close with your siblings?
Speaker 1 (07:59):
You know, I think it's very telling when someone isn't
close with their siblings, especially the older You know that
we become in life and you realize how significant family is. Now, this,
of course is with a healthy family dynamic. You know,
it's just very telling how close someone is to you know,
(08:22):
their parents, their siblings, things of that nature. Pay attention
to those things. Who was your role model or hero
growing up? Ah, that tells you a lot about him,
how because you can gauge, okay, if he looks up
to this person, you can easily figure out, okay, how
is this person presented to the world, What superpower did
(08:44):
this hero sort of possess? And you can kind of
enter into his mind and gauge more of his personality.
Speaker 2 (08:50):
If he, you know, liked I'm just throwing this out there.
Speaker 1 (08:53):
Don't even take this that serious. If he likes Spider Man,
you know, back in the day. Then it's like, okay,
so he may you know, like saving people and damsels
in distress.
Speaker 2 (09:05):
I mean, every guy loves, you know, a damsel in distress.
Let's be real.
Speaker 1 (09:08):
But for the sake of this video, you know, you
can kind of correlate based on whom they look up
to how they modeled their life. If he looked up
to let's say, you know someone that's some CEO, billionaire CEO. Okay,
then you can gauge Okay, he's probably going to model
his life after that person because he really admires their work,
(09:30):
ethic and the success in business that they had. So
keep in mind, I said, who is your role model
and or hero? It doesn't have to be a make
believe character. It can be an actual person. Preferably it
is an actual person. What kind of music do you like?
That also tells you a lot about a person, you know.
(09:52):
I like people that like different types of music. They're
very versatile in their tastes. Because I am my. I
like you know, country music, I like pop music, I
like R and B music.
Speaker 2 (10:07):
I like a whole bunch of different things. You understand.
Speaker 1 (10:10):
So if somebody were to say to me, I only
listen to rap and hip hop. It's like, hmmm, I
mean you really genuinely not give other genres of music
a chance, Like I don't really, I don't really get that.
To me, that makes me feel like you are single
minded and you have sort of a narrow scope of
(10:32):
the world, you understand, because people are multifaceted, so little
things like that are telling.
Speaker 2 (10:40):
Just like psychology says this.
Speaker 1 (10:41):
Also, when you're in the car with someone right and
they are constantly switching, switching, switching songs, meaning they can't
listen to one song fully without changing it to the next,
more than likely that person is someone that is very indecisive.
You know, they're always changing their mind They like one
thing and then change it to the next. Just indecisive,
(11:03):
to say the least, very very indecisive.
Speaker 2 (11:06):
That's an actual thing.
Speaker 1 (11:07):
And I know that sounds so silly, but yes, it's
an actual thing. According to psychology, if someone cannot listen
to a full song on the radio and they're constantly switching, switching, switching,
they're always changing their minds. Hmm, yeah, think about that.
Another important question to ask them is what would they
(11:29):
do if money wasn't a thing? Basically, what would they do?
You can gauge how generous this person is by asking
this question, because if it's something that's you know, helping.
Speaker 2 (11:45):
People, and I get it, I get it.
Speaker 1 (11:46):
People say people lie all the time, and they'll probably
give you, you know, you know, some cliche answer, but
you should be able to differentiate whether or not that's
the response that you're getting. So if he says something like,
you know, if money wasn't a thing, I would be
a professional race car driver, or I would open up
you know, twelve orphanages, you know, for kids in need.
Speaker 2 (12:10):
Whatever the answer is, you're an adult.
Speaker 1 (12:13):
You should be able to gauge how he is from
his response. What are your relationships like with your mom
with your dad? Now, I'm someone that believes we need
both our mother and our father present in our life. Okay,
I have been fortunate to where both my parents are
(12:33):
in my life and have been in.
Speaker 2 (12:34):
My life all my life.
Speaker 1 (12:35):
And I see the difference between how I may perceive
certain things versus people that may have grown up in
single parent households. Now, that's not a throwoff to anyone
who has it's just the reality of the situation. How
you behave is there is a difference versus people that
(12:56):
grew up in single parent households. So my mom plays
a role in a child's life, whether you know son
or daughter, and the same.
Speaker 2 (13:06):
Goes for a daughter.
Speaker 1 (13:09):
A dad plays a significant role in a daughter's life
as well, and you need both of them. If a
man is not close with his mother and healthily, I
don't mean a mom's boy, because you would be able
to tell that too.
Speaker 2 (13:23):
If a guy has.
Speaker 1 (13:24):
No relationship with his mother at all, how is he
supposed to know how to treat you? If he has
a very tarnished relationship with his mother. Remember what I
said earlier on in this video. Your parents are the
first people that you have relationships with, whether that is
single parent household or not. So if he doesn't get
(13:46):
along with his mother or speak to his mother, he
can only treat you but so well because that first
relationship growing up was tarnished. If that person doesn't have
a guardian in their life that took the role of
a mother and he's close to that person, then you're
(14:09):
gonna have the same issue, because sometimes it doesn't all
the time have to be the mother.
Speaker 2 (14:14):
If they have a guardian in their life that took
that role.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
Because maybe their parents were incapable of, you know, caring
for them, then that.
Speaker 2 (14:24):
Also can pass as well.
Speaker 1 (14:25):
He still has that mother relationship with that individual, but
if not, if there is no relationship dynamic going on,
I would not enter into a situation like that ever,
because even my you know, crazy ex boyfriend that I
told you guys about, he had no relationship with his mother.
(14:47):
He was horrible to his mother, and him and his
mom did not get along at all. I mean, she
had her own demons that she was battling with and
ultimately it really really messed him up, and he treated
women like absolute garbage. How is your relationship with your father,
(15:08):
the person that's supposed to teach you how to be
a man. It's important. And lastly, I would say, as
far as personality goes, what is the best compliment that
you feel that you have received. This is important because
this shows how they want to be recognized. So what
(15:31):
obviously meant the most to them shows a quality inside
them that they like that people see that they feel
like people don't see on average.
Speaker 2 (15:41):
Does that make sense?
Speaker 1 (15:43):
And now we're going to talk about questions to ask
if he is a provider shortlist. Do you believe in
women having the option to work? And I know some
of you may be like, I don't want to ask
that question.
Speaker 2 (15:58):
No, ask that question. If you've comfortable asking that question,
then ask that question. I know I would.
Speaker 1 (16:03):
You know, depending on the climate you know of you
know the date because guys will go and ask you,
so how many guys have you slept with? And I
can't know your views, how you view relationships or women.
Speaker 2 (16:21):
What stop like? Instead, I'm saying, do you like shopping?
Easy question? Do you like it? I need to know
what your view is on that.
Speaker 1 (16:32):
You may have guys, there's different things you may have
guys that say, you know, I don't really do too
much shopping, but if my significant other wants to do it,
I'll go with them. Or I don't like to do
too much shopping for myself, but I do like going
with my significant other to pick out things for her.
I love to give surprises things like that. Do you
(16:52):
like eating out at restaurants? Because eating out at restaurants
is an expensive habit. It gets pretty pricey because dating
in general, for men is an expensive thing. That's why
if they don't have it, they shouldn't do it, and
that's why it's your job to not let you know.
These guys that can barely afford to actually take you places,
you know, lowball you and you're just looking at the
(17:14):
big picture of oh he took me out.
Speaker 2 (17:16):
Okay, But where? All right? Consider where? How important is
money to you? Now? For me?
Speaker 1 (17:24):
I think this is an important question because I know
to me it's very important to me.
Speaker 2 (17:28):
I consider myself to be the full package. So I'm
gonna need you to be too.
Speaker 1 (17:33):
If I'm bringing my youth, my beauty, having my own life,
being my own boss to the table, then what are
you offering, especially being older than me? Because I only
date guys that are older than me. It's a natural
attraction for me. So what are you bringing to this table?
(17:56):
Because I'm bringing me? I think to me, money is
something that is important, and I like guys that possess
a lot of power.
Speaker 2 (18:07):
I find that very attractive.
Speaker 1 (18:08):
They can make things happen, make it move, make it disappear,
make it come back again.
Speaker 2 (18:15):
I love that.
Speaker 1 (18:17):
So yes, a guy will say, you know, money's not
that important to me, but I do, you know, like
nice things. I enjoy the finer things in life, but
it's not everything. Of course, an established person is gonna
give that answer, but you can gauge whether or not
they're cheap by that response because you can also get
(18:38):
you know, a dusty saying money isn't everything because people
in life. There are so many people in life that
have money and they're unhappy. And listen to the tone
and how they're answering the question as well. You know
what I care about is not showing off and having
you know, a BMW when you could just you know,
save your money and get a toyota. I don't know
(19:00):
why people feel like they have to show off. Yeah,
people like that. I steer clear from.
Speaker 2 (19:07):
I don't like that. I don't like how they said that.
I don't speak that. Don't get that. Not with that stop.
Speaker 1 (19:18):
Another question you can ask if you can go anywhere
in the world right now on vacation, where would you go?
Let him answer it, and then say, and what's stopping you? Ha,
what's stopping you from going and getting that vacation? Oh?
(19:39):
You know, I got a lot going on right now? Huh,
A lot going on right now?
Speaker 2 (19:43):
Like what.
Speaker 1 (19:46):
Now you can gauge okay, like, what what is it
that you have going on right now, is it away?
Speaker 2 (19:53):
Is it a girlfriend?
Speaker 1 (19:54):
Is it past girls that you're not letting go of,
is it actual work related stress?
Speaker 2 (20:05):
Is it that you don't have enough money? What is
it all? Right?
Speaker 1 (20:12):
Now?
Speaker 2 (20:14):
You want someone that's gonna work hard, but you don't
want someone.
Speaker 1 (20:16):
That's completely incapable of actually taking a break when they
need to take a break.
Speaker 2 (20:20):
And guys will make excuses for anything. You know.
Speaker 1 (20:24):
I've seen a guy, you know, date multiple women and
takes one on vacation and never takes the other and
always talks about how he needs a vacation, but you're
taking the other girl and you're not taking the other one.
And he'll tell you the one that he's not taking. Yeah,
I know I do need a vacation, but you know,
I'm just so swamped as work.
Speaker 2 (20:45):
Really you are?
Speaker 1 (20:47):
Well, then why were you at that place, you know,
last month with like another chick if you're so swamped
with work?
Speaker 2 (20:58):
Lies? And I would say this is an interesting question.
Speaker 1 (21:03):
What is the most expensive gift that you've ever bought
for someone? Okay, and he's probably gonna say, well, what
do you mean, Well, what do you mean like my
mom or a a girlfriend? I would say, well, just
someone that means a lot to you leave it vague,
and then you can also add but yeah, I mean
both of them. If you want to answer that question,
(21:25):
you understand I'm saying, because then you can see obviously
if he's going to be a cheapo or not. And
what is he willing to spend on someone that he
really really cares about, you know. And the more affluent
the man, I mean, they have the money to spend anyway,
so they don't even need to be so emotionally involved
in order to.
Speaker 2 (21:44):
Do something significant for you.
Speaker 1 (21:45):
So those are some questions that I feel like you
guys can ask on a first date. And again, like
I said, everything is circumstantial and there are plenty of
things that you can ask on a first date. Those
questions amongst the filler questions like what school did you
(22:06):
go to?
Speaker 2 (22:07):
What time did you grow up in? You know, you
want to have a goal.
Speaker 1 (22:11):
Watch this video over and over and over again until
it gets ingrained in your head, because this is important.
Speaker 2 (22:20):
What is your goal? What do you want? What is
your intention?
Speaker 1 (22:24):
What are your non negotiables stepping into this date, your personality.
Speaker 2 (22:30):
Questions, your provider questions.
Speaker 1 (22:33):
You need a good data foundation to gauge whether or
not you want to move forward with.
Speaker 2 (22:38):
This next person.
Speaker 1 (22:40):
Okay, And also I have a little secret for you
ladies that one of my friends had told me about.
There's an app. I'm going to provide the link in
the description box below, but basically it allows you to
google someone once they provide you with their phone number.
So a lot of these guys that sometimes want to,
(23:01):
you know, say, especially in online dating, guys always want
to say they have all this money and things of
that nature.
Speaker 2 (23:07):
And I know I get a ton of questions.
Speaker 1 (23:09):
About online dating, but I don't really like online.
Speaker 2 (23:13):
Dating that much.
Speaker 1 (23:14):
I personally have never really had luck with online dating,
so I am a little biased. But you can just
google their number and actually see where it is that
they live. Because if they're saying they're going to do
this and this for you, and they can provide XX
and X and you're living in a one bedroom apartment.
Speaker 2 (23:32):
In the woods.
Speaker 1 (23:32):
Somewhere, are you well like stop, like what are you saying?
Like why are you lying? And boom, you eliminate that
time waster right then and there. I mean, the thing
even goes as far as telling you that person's astrology sign.
It's miraculous. It's incredible. So I strongly suggest you guys
(23:54):
download that app.
Speaker 2 (23:56):
For sure. I'm not getting, you know, paid for that.
Speaker 1 (23:59):
It's just me genuinely wanting to help you guys, and
I think it's an incredible, incredible resource, especially when it
comes to online dating, but dating in general. I highly
suggest you guys download that. And on top of that,
it's free, so it's not even like you guys have
to pay for anything. So that is the end of
this video, guys. So that is the end of this video.
(24:21):
My angels, thank you for hanging out with me. Do
not forget that. I love you and God loves you.
And I'll see you, angels in my next video.
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