Real Estate Riches & Marriage Goals w/ Krystal & Dedric Polite

Hey Angels!

Want to build wealth AND a thriving marriage? In this juicy episode of Quality Queen Control, Asha Christina sits down with Krystal and Dedric Polite, stars of Hulu and A&E’s 50/50 Flip. 

This power couple shares their journey to real estate millions, the secrets to balancing a hit docu-series, and the keys to a rock-solid marriage while raising a family. They drop gems on creating generational wealth, tackling challenges, and keeping the spark alive.

Ready to level up your life and love? Tune in for inspiration to chase your dreams without compromising what matters most!

• What You’ll Learn: How to build wealth through real estate, tips for a successful marriage, and strategies to raise a family while creating a legacy.
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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
You were shooting a scene and I was like, and

(00:03):
They're like, what's she doing? I told you all the
time we had to leave. We'll see y'all tomorrow. Make
sure y'all lock up behind your sales. Okay, yeah, let's go.

Speaker 2 (00:11):
Heyviab, it's Asia Christina. This is Quality Queen Control.

Speaker 3 (00:20):
What is happening? Hello?

Speaker 4 (00:23):
Everyone?

Speaker 2 (00:24):
Happy Wednesday? How is everybody feeling? I have a very
special episode today And Okay, like I know I probably
always say that, but I really really mean it.

Speaker 3 (00:35):
This time.

Speaker 2 (00:36):
We have Dedrick and Crystal Polite here. These are amazing
people in the real estate game. These are amazing men
and women okay, that are in the business arena. And
I'm telling you, guys, you are going to want to
tune into this episode because there are so many gems
that they are definitely going to drop. And honestly, they

(00:58):
have an amazing show called fifty fifty Flip on A
and E on Hulu.

Speaker 3 (01:03):
So make sure that you guys check this out.

Speaker 2 (01:06):
And I'm very excited to bring none other than Dedrick
and Crystal Polite to Quality Pink Control.

Speaker 3 (01:12):
Welcome.

Speaker 5 (01:13):
Thanks for having.

Speaker 3 (01:15):
Us, guys.

Speaker 2 (01:16):
Where do I even begin? There are so many questions
let's just start from the beginning.

Speaker 3 (01:22):
Where did you two actually meet?

Speaker 4 (01:25):
A great question.

Speaker 1 (01:26):
So we actually met at a gas station, okay, right,
And it was a gas station that neither one of
us really ever went to because we both thought it
was like a front for drugs or something, because anytime
you went, they never had any gas ever ever. And
it was in the midpoint between his house and my house,
so it was very close to both of us, and

(01:48):
at the time we didn't know we lived down the
street from each other, but we never stopped there. And
then this day, of course, I was on e like
I always am. Deduick was probably on a half a
tank or more because you know, he don't really let
his car get below half a tank.

Speaker 4 (02:04):
I was on Deddy. I couldn't make it nowhere else.

Speaker 3 (02:07):
Guys never do that. We always do that as wee man.

Speaker 1 (02:09):
We always force it, you know what I'm saying. So
I had to stop. He didn't even get gased that
day after we met, and so we met pump six
at this state gas station. He saw me then I
noticed him had on a nice little sup you know
how women are with a man in the suit. He

(02:31):
came over to talk to me, and I was pumping
my gas. He asked, we exchanged words. We then we
exchanged business cards, and you know, back then, you could
have easily been like, hey, okay, well you know, here's
my number, put it in your phone.

Speaker 4 (02:46):
And he would give me his business card.

Speaker 1 (02:48):
So I let him know by giving him my business
card what type of woman he was dealing with, right,
not just that all here, put it in your phone.

Speaker 4 (02:56):
So we exchaged business cards. He asked me to take
off my shades.

Speaker 6 (03:00):
So she had on glasses and she was stunning beautiful,
but she had on sunglasses, so I said her take
off her shades. I just wanted to see her eyes.
I just want to make sure she didn't have a
wandering eye.

Speaker 5 (03:10):
Everything else was perfect, right, So yeah, that's okay.

Speaker 4 (03:13):
And I didn't know at this time that's why he asked.

Speaker 1 (03:15):
But I was just like, oh, he wanted to see
my eyes, you know, pretty, I said, okay. Then later
he told me he's like, yeah, I just wanted to
make sure one wasn't sleepy.

Speaker 4 (03:23):
You know, it's nothing personal.

Speaker 1 (03:25):
But when he started talking, I was just like, oh hmm, wow.
And I did that because I heard his voice and
for ten fifteen years. I've been dreaming about this guy,
this one particular guy. I had never seen his face,
but I knew what his hands looked like, I knew

(03:46):
what his calv muscles looked like. I knew what his
body looked like, his hair, everything, but his face. His
voice was very distinct. I knew it as if I
hear it every day. And as soon as he started talking,
I was just like I went from this too, hmm.
So when I left, I called my best friend and

(04:06):
I was like, Yo, craziest thing just happened. And she's
like what. I was like, dude, I just met the
guy I'm going to marry. She's like what Now, I'd
already been proposed to multiple.

Speaker 4 (04:15):
Times and it's always been a.

Speaker 1 (04:17):
No okay period, And so for me to say that
to any of my friends, they're like, I know you lying.
So when I told her, I said, no, craziest thing,
She's like what what Wait, let's back up. Where did
you meet him at?

Speaker 3 (04:30):
I was like the.

Speaker 4 (04:31):
Gas station and then she was like, oh lord, She's.

Speaker 1 (04:34):
Like wait and see, I've never drank in my life,
never smoked in my life, so you can't blame it
on an alcohol ray.

Speaker 4 (04:41):
And I told her. I said, it's the craziest thing.

Speaker 1 (04:43):
I said, this has been the guy I've been dreaming
of ten plus years. I said, I just met him.
She's like, why did you know what's up? I said,
I know his voice like I know my own. And
she's like, are you serious?

Speaker 4 (04:55):
And I was like yes. She's like what does he
look like?

Speaker 1 (04:57):
And I had to explain to her. I was like,
gir he fine, no, but I said, it's some crazy
I finally met him and literally we met and then
what did you do after you met?

Speaker 4 (05:07):
I know what you did, but what did you do?

Speaker 5 (05:09):
Yeah?

Speaker 6 (05:09):
I called one of my good friends and I was like,
I just met the most beautiful woman I've ever seen.
She dropped that gorgeous and I'm telling him all about her,
and then he goes and looks her up on Facebook
and friend requests.

Speaker 5 (05:21):
Her, and I'm like, what are you doing to do?

Speaker 6 (05:24):
When I found out she told me, she was like,
do you know this guy named so and so?

Speaker 7 (05:28):
So.

Speaker 5 (05:28):
I was like yeah, and I was like, are you
kidding me?

Speaker 1 (05:31):
Yeah, because I thought it was his brother, but I
don't accept people that I don't know, so I was
just like, hey, I think your brother might a friend
requested me, you know, you want me to go ahead
accept it?

Speaker 4 (05:40):
And he was like, what's his name? And I said the.

Speaker 1 (05:42):
Name and he was like, no, do not accept that
friend request. And I was like, oh, he's like, dude,
what is he doing? No, that's just a friend of mine.
I'm so sorry about that, I said, little ain't no
sweat off my bag, Like, I just wanted to run
it by you, accepting randoms.

Speaker 2 (06:00):
The bas we met that is, And honestly it's so
it's honestly refreshing to hear something like that, because I mean,
nowadays people are meeting each other on apps and I
don't know, and also through referral through a friend too.
How are people even meeting people anyways these days?

Speaker 3 (06:19):
Like I have no.

Speaker 6 (06:20):
We've been out the dating pool for fifteen years before
dating apps, so none of that stuff was around before.

Speaker 4 (06:27):
I tell you, I stay trying to hook up one
of my girlfriends with some.

Speaker 5 (06:32):
Match maker. Oh s, I do.

Speaker 1 (06:35):
I stay trying to hook somebody up, but I will
literally be on I have girlfriends that's on like Hinge
and certain dating apps. They get on it and then
I'm the one they have communicating with guys that's amazing
because they don't know how to communicate.

Speaker 5 (06:51):
With the relationship whisperer.

Speaker 4 (06:53):
So I literally had and it's great.

Speaker 1 (06:55):
I have to tell him because I don't want him
get on my phone and be like yo.

Speaker 4 (06:59):
What.

Speaker 6 (07:01):
She was like, I'm messaging for my girlfriend because they
don't know how to communicate.

Speaker 1 (07:05):
With three apps that and then they'll call me like
or text me like I have some messages. You haven't
based at what I say, Like, I'm only filming right
now and you talk about somebody that text message you
if I could get back to them. But I love it,
and I love seeing people in love in relationships.

Speaker 4 (07:25):
So I don't have a problem with it.

Speaker 2 (07:26):
I just really love you guys partnership, and I think
that when you know, you genuinely know. And I love
hearing stories like this where there was instant synergy because.

Speaker 5 (07:39):
I don't know.

Speaker 2 (07:40):
I feel like a lot of the times there tend
to be stories where it's like I don't really.

Speaker 3 (07:44):
Like him at first, and then he kind of grew on.

Speaker 1 (07:47):
Me once I found out he had eight million in
the baby. Yeah, And I just love hearing that. It's like, no,
we we both knew like.

Speaker 6 (07:55):
Love at first, which I didn't believe in before I
met her because our first date when we say down
and she was like, you know, our first date was
like an interview.

Speaker 5 (08:03):
She was grilling me.

Speaker 6 (08:04):
It was a business meeting, and we got all the
little pleasantries out the way real quickly and got down
to brass tacks, and it was like, you know, it
was very refreshing just meeting a woman that knew what
she wanted and who was straight to the point.

Speaker 4 (08:17):
But it was a business meeting.

Speaker 1 (08:19):
It was when we sat down those pleasantries was more like, oh, so,
where are you originally from? Oh I'm from South Carolina. Okay,
I'm from North Carolina. Oh okay, I'm an assistant brothers.
Do you have those pleasantries? Then it got down to
I said, okay, what's your one year ago? He's like,
oh okay. I said, okay, well what are you doing
in the next three years? What is your three year?

(08:39):
Then it went to five year So I'm like.

Speaker 6 (08:41):
Whoa, this isn't a typical first date, like usually you
got the bubble gum stuff you go over in the
first date.

Speaker 5 (08:45):
And she was getting right to it.

Speaker 6 (08:46):
So then I started asking her the same questions and
I found like, man, she's ambitious, she's driven, just like me.
So some men, I feel like a lot of my
friends we turned off by that, Like, man, why is
this woman asking me all these questions? We just met,
Like she even asked me my score. Yeah, I said,
what's your credit scored?

Speaker 5 (09:01):
On our first date? I see your eyes, she was like,
what's your credit score? And people are like you you
asked them that that's personal.

Speaker 1 (09:07):
And I tell people full disclaimer though, I asked them
that not not as a disqualifier, yes, not as a disqualifier,
but as a he could have had a five.

Speaker 4 (09:20):
Hundred credit score. I wanted to know so I know
how we are to move going forward.

Speaker 1 (09:26):
Right, if he had a five hundred, I'd have been like, okay,
so that means we're gonna do about a year, year
and a half of some credit repair. That's not a problem.
I had to do my own credit repair, so I
got you there. But now it's like, Okay, we ain't
gonna be able to invest in this or get down
to business with that, or start this business immediately. We're
gonna do this credit repair. Then we're gonna move from
here to there. That's why I asked him, Right, most

(09:47):
people wait two years in and now you want to
get down to the stuff. You should have asked the
first date so that you know where you are. Asked him,
are your entrepreneur? He said, absolutely, Okay, what do you
done in the entrepreneurial room? Let's talk about it?

Speaker 5 (10:03):
Why?

Speaker 1 (10:03):
Because I'm an entrepreneur and I know it's going to
take a special person to understand the entrepreneur's mind. So
if I said, hey, listen, I need let's drop ten
thousand on this education course to help us get further along,
He's going to be like, okay, bet I see the vision.
I see where you're going with that.

Speaker 4 (10:21):
Let's do it.

Speaker 1 (10:21):
Versus someone who is strictly w two And there's nothing
wrong with that, But where they're seeing they don't see
the upside to that.

Speaker 4 (10:30):
They don't see the benefit.

Speaker 1 (10:31):
Why would we waste ten thousand for something that's a
maybe that may not paying out. So I had to
get that out of the way. Ain no need for
me to wait until I fall in love.

Speaker 6 (10:41):
With him to find out that you're not equally yoked.
H happens at times.

Speaker 4 (10:46):
So we found out all of that. First.

Speaker 1 (10:48):
Daid, hey, are there any underlying medical conditions in your family.
Why is that important because couples get together all the time,
wait till they follow in love to find out and
then talk to each other about, Hey, well we're both
we both have the sickle cell trade. Right now, you
want to have children, and now your children have full
blown sickle cell Like. It's just certain stuff you really

(11:10):
want to get out the way. And I know it's
uncomfortable at first, but it'll save you a lot of
discomfort later. You get this stuff out the way early
and not when all of a sudden you just all
in love and now you figure out that you really
aren't a match made in heaven?

Speaker 3 (11:26):
Are I absolutely love that. I see that we definitely
have that in common, Crystal.

Speaker 2 (11:31):
Because I say, you get all these things out the
way while the bond is shallow you you know. And
the thing is, I think people attach themselves so much,
no matter what the phase is, that they just don't
care about whatever else comes later on. And it's like, no,
you need to ask these hard things right now so

(11:52):
that you can make harder decisions when you have less feelings.

Speaker 5 (11:56):
Yes, that's true.

Speaker 2 (11:57):
So I like that you approach it very you know, practically,
but it seems like you automatically had this very entrepreneurial
mindset when you already met him. What were you doing
when you guys met.

Speaker 1 (12:10):
When we met, I had three jobs and a nonprofit
and trying to start a nightclubreneurs Yes, I was, My
mother said, since I was four years old, I would
tell people I'm going to I wanted to be a
lawyer my whole life, and she says, she, I tell people,
I want to be an attorney. I'm going to own

(12:31):
my own law firm, and I'm going to hire homeless
people and train them. And I've known since I knew
what it. Before I knew what it was called, I
knew I had to own my own business.

Speaker 4 (12:44):
Period.

Speaker 1 (12:44):
So I my first business I started at eighteen, and
that was throwing parties and had my own little business
cards made up and everything like throwing parties. Eighteen, went
to college, I directed and produced a stage play, took
that on tour at eighteen.

Speaker 4 (13:02):
Didn't know what I was doing, but it was a
successful play. But I got robbed because you didn't know.
I didn't know the business side of that.

Speaker 5 (13:10):
But you also lost a lot of money exactly on the.

Speaker 1 (13:13):
Business side, because I had a partner new about the money.

Speaker 4 (13:16):
I didn't and I'm in good.

Speaker 1 (13:18):
Faith, like, okay, yeah, just excited that I have a
play that I'm taking on the road. But I was
very much so and still am. I Dedrick and I
first date. He knew I'm a hardcore entrepreneur and that
is the that is where I'm headed period. Could he

(13:40):
have been a W two mindset individual only and I
would have dated him, Yes, as long as he would
have understood my mindset of saying, Hey, Okay, my wife
is going to be the one who's wanting to really
get an entrepreneurship. I'm gonna want to support her in this.
Whatever you need me to do, baby, I'm there. I'm
tin to's in. So I tell people, it's nothing wrong
with people who are entrepreneurs who are married to people

(14:02):
who are really who love their W two's, as long
as you're supporting each.

Speaker 4 (14:06):
Other right in it.

Speaker 3 (14:08):
I love that.

Speaker 2 (14:09):
So what would you say partnership means to you guys
individually and also as a couple.

Speaker 5 (14:18):
I mean, to me, it means that you're equally yoked. Right.

Speaker 6 (14:21):
You don't have to agree on everything, but your overall vision,
your goals are aligned. So you're going in the same
direction versus I mean, you've all seen two people who
are like oil and water, and you're like, they're in
a relationship, they're partners, and how's that even work because
they're going like this. So you have to be aligned
in your values, I think to have a true, a
really good partner.

Speaker 1 (14:41):
Yeah, I think you also need to understand whether you
have a teammate or an opponent. Ooh, I like that
early on in the relationship understanding for me, I think
in a partnership, understanding that you have a teammate in
this relationship and someone who who may not understand everything.

(15:02):
When we got into real estate, this is Degick's dreams.
It wasn't mine. I didn't know anything about it. But
I'm a teammate. So whatever he loves, I love, and
whatever he loves, I'm willing to learn. And that's what
I ended up having to do, was learn it and
not through duress. Right, it wasn't like he was making
me get into real estate because I loved him and

(15:23):
I believed in what we could build together. At the
end of the day, we wanted to build something that
outlived both of us, and I was ten toes in
for that as long as his dreams and my dreams
got accomplished, it didn't matter who's went first. It was
because why we were teammates. We weren't opponents, we weren't
in competition with each other. It wasn't like, okay, you

(15:44):
got one Okay, we got one house. Now let's do
my thing right now. It was let's build this.

Speaker 5 (15:51):
Yeah, and I found out what her goal was.

Speaker 6 (15:52):
So her dream is to own a chain of family
entertainment centers. She's very passionate about giving and giving experiences
families and kids and enjoy so she wants to own
a chain of those. The way I got her to
buy into my vision, which is being a real estate
investor entrepreneur, will say, hey, let us do this real
estate thing. We both came from nothing, so we need
to build up some assets, some cash flow, and then

(16:14):
once we do that, we'll leverage the real estate to
pursue your dream, which is owning a chain of family
entertainment centers.

Speaker 5 (16:20):
And that's exactly what we've done.

Speaker 3 (16:22):
Wow, I absolutely love that.

Speaker 2 (16:24):
So how would you guys, How do you guys divide
your roles and responsibilities in marriage and in business?

Speaker 5 (16:36):
So in business, in real estate, there's four key areas.

Speaker 6 (16:40):
There's marketing, there's sales, there's operations, and there's administration. So
when we first got into it, we had a chart,
an organizational chart, and we literally sat down had a meeting.

Speaker 5 (16:49):
It was like, hey, what am I good at? What
are you good at?

Speaker 6 (16:52):
I'm going to pick the things off the chart that
are my strong suits, and then you're going to pick
the ones that are your strong suits, and let's see
how they align. So she handles certain parts of the business,
more of the operations and admin. I handle more the sales.
She actually does the marketing. So we kind of divided
up the responsibilities. So it's very rare that will but
heads because we know, like, hey, that's her lane, let

(17:13):
me not step on her toes, this is my lane,
and we're accountable to each other.

Speaker 4 (17:16):
Yep. And as time went on, our roles would change.

Speaker 1 (17:19):
Right Like when I first got started, Dedget was doing
the marketing.

Speaker 4 (17:23):
But when I went into the business full time and.

Speaker 1 (17:25):
He still had his W two job, I had to
take the biggest part of the business off of his plate,
which is marketing. That's the biggest part of your business
in real estate. And then I had to learn marketing
and for me in order for me to want to
learn it and not be like, oh my god, right,
I had to make it interesting to me, and it
became like a puzzle.

Speaker 4 (17:46):
I love puzzles. That's like my happy place.

Speaker 1 (17:48):
So if I could sit down and just do a puzzle,
that's how I block out kids, block out husband, no phone.

Speaker 5 (17:56):
Block out husbands.

Speaker 1 (17:58):
Everybody that's her hobby is doing puzzles. That's kind of
how I find my center. So I made that marketing
a puzzle to me, and that's how I was able
to take it off his plate and really dive into it.

Speaker 4 (18:13):
But I would say.

Speaker 1 (18:14):
As far as a relationship and how we divvy up
that it's kind of like.

Speaker 4 (18:20):
In a marriage. Hats that is kind.

Speaker 5 (18:24):
Of mom, dad, husband, wife.

Speaker 4 (18:27):
Right, you know what the moms is. You're the doctor,
you're the teacher, you're the.

Speaker 1 (18:34):
Cleaner, you're uh, you are literally fifty hats as mom
like my kids.

Speaker 5 (18:40):
She's super mom like my wife.

Speaker 2 (18:42):
No, I definitely can tell you're super everything.

Speaker 1 (18:45):
Yeah, I mean, I just I tell people I'm very
intentional about everything. So even when I had my kids,
I would tell people I'm not having children before I'm thirty, right,
because I wanted to make sure I can enjoy them.
And I knew I wasn't done with really being out
in the streets and having fun, and so I said,

(19:07):
I'm not having children U til I'm thirty. So as
soon as I had my first son, I was about
thirty two thirty three, yep, and I have from that
point forward, I've never looked back. Best job in the world.
I am ten toes in. Everything shuts down when it
comes to them. It doesn't matter, and I enjoy it

(19:28):
like I enjoyed. Most people are like, oh my god,
I gotta get up at one two o'clock in the morning.
I loved every bit of it, getting up, feeding, It
didn't matter what it is. I didn't realize to my
second child that he never even changed diapers until I
was in the hospital with the second child and I
had to tell him. I was like, baby, just change
his diaper, just born.

Speaker 6 (19:50):
He was like, she was so protective over the first one.
She wouldn't allow me to change the dip.

Speaker 1 (19:54):
I didn't even realize that. But I found joy in
every bit of it. And that's highing with my kids.

Speaker 5 (20:00):
And I'm super incredible, incredible mom.

Speaker 1 (20:03):
Thank supermom, super active like, so I tell people I'm
intentional about everything.

Speaker 5 (20:11):
Justly weighted. We both did.

Speaker 6 (20:13):
We were in our early thirties before we had kids
because I wasn't ready for a kid before thirty two
thirty three when we had one.

Speaker 1 (20:18):
Really, I told her when I met him, and I said,
when do you see yourself getting married?

Speaker 5 (20:26):
What did I say?

Speaker 1 (20:27):
He said, yeah, probably like when I'm sixty sixty five.

Speaker 6 (20:32):
I had no plan to get married until I met her,
and I was like, oh, okay. But she didn't try
to like most women would try to. She said that
turn of red light green, right, so I'm gonna turner green.
You're gonna you're gonna get right.

Speaker 3 (20:44):
Right ultimate up.

Speaker 4 (20:45):
Yeah.

Speaker 6 (20:46):
She didn't try to force me. She didn't even like
clap back or respond back. She just said, okay, right,
just let me sit and.

Speaker 4 (20:52):
Moved on with the conversation like ok.

Speaker 1 (20:54):
And I tell people because listen, a man is gonna
get married when he finds a woman he wants to marry,
and not a moment sooner. And it's no different from
a woman. A woman is going to get married when
she feels this time. The only problem is women, and
not all women, but a lot of us tend to
overlook a lot of things, and we tend to turn

(21:18):
red lights green. I wasn't going to do that with
him and no other man, because I know the type
of woman I am.

Speaker 4 (21:24):
You just can't play in my.

Speaker 1 (21:25):
Face, period, So I'm not going to pretend like I
don't know, you're not ready. So when we met, even
when I met him at the gas station, I was like, Oh,
he's the one I know.

Speaker 4 (21:37):
I'm going to marry him. This is the guy.

Speaker 1 (21:39):
I never said that with anyone. And I am great
friends with all of my exits, am I not. Some
of them were at our wedding. But when I met him,
I knew he wasn't ready. So I sent him off
for a year and I said, go off for a year,

(22:00):
enjoy your life, travel, show your royal oats. I said,
just like coming to America, I said, so, she said early.

Speaker 4 (22:09):
I said, go sleep with the bunch of other women. Enjoy.

Speaker 5 (22:13):
My jaw dropped when I was hearing this. I'm like,
you're lying.

Speaker 6 (22:17):
I didn't believe her, right because a lot of times
women will give a guide test. They'll ask him a
question and they'll say, depending on how you into this,
he intoed the wrong way.

Speaker 5 (22:25):
It could be it could be over.

Speaker 6 (22:26):
So I'm like, nah, she's playing it like she's trying
to try to trick me here. So but no, she
was really like she knew I wasn't ready, right, I'm like,
I'm saying, oh, no, I'm ready.

Speaker 5 (22:36):
She knew I wasn't ready. I was still.

Speaker 6 (22:37):
I was in my late twenties, I had a good job.
How exactly, I'm not promoting parties. I'm in the night life.
I just bought the more. I'm living my best life, right.
But I knew she was a quality woman and she
was the one I wanted. But I just wasn't ready
to settle down, and she was smart enough to know
that and to push me away. I didn't want to
go do my thing. I went kicking and screamings. But

(22:58):
I had fun exactly for that year. And then when
I came back, she was actually in a relationship with
someone else, relationship.

Speaker 4 (23:06):
I was just dating still.

Speaker 1 (23:08):
I was just dating so And I told him at
the end of the day, I knew if I would
have forced us, if I had have forced it, where
he'd be like I did to say, Okay, yeah, you're
ready to crash and burn because he's still been all
in the street.

Speaker 6 (23:24):
And ultimatum, which a lot of people do. They get
that ultimatum and then the guy feels like, oh, I
got to it. So many people come up to us
at conferences and reach out to us, and so many
men after they hear our story, they'll be like, man,
I felt the same way, like if my wife would
have just give me a little more time to mature.

Speaker 5 (23:40):
But they felt like they were forced into it.

Speaker 6 (23:41):
They really loved that person, want to be with them,
but they weren't mature enough ready yet.

Speaker 1 (23:45):
Time and we've been to and I didn't realize how
much the story resonated with people until we were in
a conference. We were speaking at a conference in Charlotte and
a guy came up to me and he was emotional
and he was like he was like tearing up and
I ain't want to just go and you know, be

(24:06):
hugging him like baby, it's okay, because I was like,
my husband is here and he can't see me just
hugging some random.

Speaker 4 (24:12):
So I was like and he was like, man, it's just.

Speaker 1 (24:19):
He was like, I heard your story and I heard
the podcast you did tell your story, and he said
he had got his wife and four of his friends.

Speaker 4 (24:28):
They get together for Easter.

Speaker 1 (24:30):
He was like, and I made everyone sit down and
watch the podcast that he and I did, and he
was like, for the first time we were all able
to have a genuine conversation. And he was like, when
I told my wife, he was like, what did y'all think?
He said at first, people was like, we ain't about
to watch no more real estate conference. He was like, no,

(24:53):
this is not about real estate. I think we all
need to watch this together. They watched it. He was like,
he told his wife, he said, I I wasn't ready
when we got together. She was like, yes, you were.
He was like, I'm trying to tell you I wasn't.
This is why we had so many problems starting out.
He was like, but it wasn't until I heard this
podcast where I said, man, if I would have just

(25:16):
been given a little extra time, he was like, I
loved you, but if I'd have just been given some
more time, we wouldn't have had all the issues that
we had in the beginning. Because he was like, we
went through in fidelity, we went through all of this.
He was like, when all I needed was what you
gave your husband. He said, and then it turned out
all of his friends, all of his boys.

Speaker 4 (25:38):
Started saying it felt the same way, and felt the.

Speaker 1 (25:40):
Same way, and started saying it to their wives, and
it created He was like.

Speaker 4 (25:46):
You know, they didn't want to hear it. They were upset.

Speaker 1 (25:49):
But then it started real conversations and stuff, and then
they started to realize how true this was.

Speaker 4 (25:56):
And they was like, oh, well, she her face would
have been crying.

Speaker 1 (25:58):
He was like, you know, and of course it was like, oh,
she'd have been mad if he didn't come back. And
I said no, because it had been Michael, steven A, Craig,
whoever it was, it's who y'all would have been meeting.

Speaker 3 (26:07):
Someone's son is going to get it done. Someone's son
is going to get it done.

Speaker 5 (26:11):
That's all.

Speaker 4 (26:11):
I don't get it done like that girl. Yeah, that's it.
And I told him, no.

Speaker 5 (26:17):
It's meant to be, will be.

Speaker 4 (26:18):
That's it. I tell people what.

Speaker 1 (26:19):
God has for me is for me. But I wasn't
going to make this young man ready when I know
he was.

Speaker 6 (26:26):
You know what, I think it's the way women are socialized, right,
It's socialized in a certain way. You need to find
a man with lock him down I don't blame women
for it's just how our society socializes young women.

Speaker 5 (26:39):
Right.

Speaker 6 (26:39):
It's not necessarily a bad thing, but it's something that
we got to be real about.

Speaker 4 (26:42):
You know, when you're thirty, hit that thirty and your
aunts and them was like.

Speaker 1 (26:44):
Oh girl, you you ain't mad wrong, what's wrong with you?

Speaker 4 (26:51):
Yeah?

Speaker 3 (26:52):
I definitely agree. It's definitely a lot of societal pressure.

Speaker 2 (26:57):
And then also in your thirties, it's a while while
wess like, I'm in my thirties now and I'm like,
life looks so drastically different for everybody where It's like
you have some people that are getting married, they're having kids,
they're on their second baby, and then you have other
people where it's like they're trying to figure out, should
I stay in this career, how do I increase my income?

Speaker 5 (27:19):
You know?

Speaker 2 (27:19):
What am I doing with my life? And you're all
experiencing this like at the same time, So it's easy
to give into those societal pressures. Yes, And I think
when you intrinsically know your value and your identity, which
it seems like you you always did, and I really

(27:41):
resonate with that a lot.

Speaker 3 (27:43):
You to me, it's like whatever comes comes, whatever goes go.
It's like I'm very much okay with that. Yeah, I'm
genuinely okay with it.

Speaker 2 (27:51):
And I think the thing is like people really think
like I have to stay here, it does not get
better than this.

Speaker 3 (27:58):
I don't want to start over or what have you.

Speaker 2 (28:00):
But I also think that that comes from my spiritual
belief as well, like being a Christian for me, like
knowing where my value comes from. I just know, like
Jeremiah twentynine eleven, like I know that God has amazing
plans for me.

Speaker 4 (28:17):
Absolutely.

Speaker 3 (28:18):
So if not this something better, here you go. Okay. Period.
So I love that you did that. I really commend you.

Speaker 2 (28:24):
And switching gears he I want to get into me
and been saying, I am about this TV show fifty fifty.
I want to know how you guys even have this opportunity.

Speaker 3 (28:34):
How did this come about?

Speaker 1 (28:36):
Well, the networks had Well, it started from a mastermind
we were in and in that mastermind, my husband's like, listen,
we're trying to really get more private investors to invest
in our real estate deals. And the director of that
mastermind was like, hey, you guys need to start documenting
your journey.

Speaker 4 (28:55):
You need to start pulling out your.

Speaker 1 (28:57):
Camera, recording everything you're doing, going in and out these houses,
these deals, and I was like, God, it brought stress
to me because I'm super private.

Speaker 4 (29:07):
Dedrick has no problem with that.

Speaker 1 (29:09):
So I was like, okay, fine, you can do it recording,
and so he was like, okay. We just started documenting
our journey, putting everything good, bad, indifferent, you name it,
putting it on social media to show people that we
were doing this, and it got a lot of attention
from network. So they had been in our DM for

(29:30):
about two years and we look at it and be like, uh, yeah,
these people be scamming all the time.

Speaker 4 (29:36):
I wasn't interested.

Speaker 1 (29:37):
We had two small kids and then A and E
had been in idms for about a year and I
never looked at them.

Speaker 4 (29:49):
I knew a.

Speaker 1 (29:50):
Bunch of people were coming in, but I never opened
them because I just be like, oh, they can see
if you read them, so I'm just not going to
read them. Yeah, And I didn't even know if it
was true, but I felt that's what happens.

Speaker 4 (29:59):
If you read them, they probably know you can read them.
I ain't gonna read them.

Speaker 1 (30:03):
And it wasn't until they got a hold of our
one eight hundred number called it our secretary answer. They
made her promise to get us the message and for
us to call them back. So when I came into
the office that day, our secretary Militia was like, Hey,
this lady from A and E U the network called
and she said she's been trying to reach you guys

(30:24):
for a long time in your DM but she hadn't
gotten a response, and she made me promised it for
you guys to give her a call back.

Speaker 4 (30:30):
And I was just like, oh, okay, and.

Speaker 1 (30:31):
I went walk and she was like no, she made
me promise that you guys would call her back.

Speaker 4 (30:37):
I said, why would you do that.

Speaker 1 (30:40):
She's like, I know, but she was so nice, Please
just call her back and I said, yeah, that's fine.
So I called her back and she was like, listen,
I just want to start off by saying we are
actually ane.

Speaker 4 (30:52):
We are not a casting company in house working for
A and E and we ain't know what that meant.
It's like, okay, how can we help you?

Speaker 1 (31:03):
And then she went to explain that they're looking to
start three new shows, flipping shows, and they've been following us,
they love what we do.

Speaker 4 (31:12):
And then we was like yeah, well, we're not flippers.

Speaker 1 (31:15):
They was like what we was like, what we do
on our TV ship, on our social media is those
are our properties that we own, so don't we don't
actually flip houses. And it was like, oh, okay, well
we don't care. We just love what you guys are doing.
We love you, We love everything about you guys. But
they were looking for three and they were interviewing like thousands.

Speaker 6 (31:35):
And they wanted couples who had their own following already
on social media, who were doing real estate.

Speaker 1 (31:40):
Yes, so they ended up we ended up doing interview
after interview.

Speaker 7 (31:45):
After after soon after during covide, and we were like,
you know, we never even dreamed of like getting a
TV show, Like of course you're dream of it, but
you don't think it's actually going to happen.

Speaker 5 (31:56):
And we were like, let's just see how far we
can take it.

Speaker 4 (31:59):
We ain't gonna do it.

Speaker 5 (32:00):
We didn't think they were going to pick us, but we.

Speaker 1 (32:02):
Also was like, yeah, we're not going to do it,
but let's just see how far we're gonna get to go,
just so we could tell people like, yeah, we got
to the final round, like and then it we had
that final zoom call and it was like, hey, we
wanted to offer you guys one of the slots, one
of the three slots, and both of us at the time,
we were on the zoom and we just turned to
each other.

Speaker 5 (32:22):
Like, look at godspected it?

Speaker 4 (32:28):
Okay, all right?

Speaker 1 (32:32):
Can we get back to yoh, because at that point
he didn't want to do it. And then I was
kind of like now. When we started, it was like
I was like, yeah, we're not doing a TV show
and he was like, well, babe, I mean it would
be kind of fun. I was like, yeah, we're not
doing it. We can see how far we go, but
we're gonna do it. And then when it we got it,

(32:53):
he was like, yeah, we ain't doing no TV show.

Speaker 5 (32:55):
All right, Look they offered it to us. We kind
of have to.

Speaker 1 (32:59):
Yeah, they don't want you thousands and got down to
three and we were one we can't go back on
that word, and he was like, oh my gosh.

Speaker 4 (33:07):
So we actually did it.

Speaker 1 (33:09):
Season one was a nightmare, like you don't know what
you don't know.

Speaker 4 (33:14):
Going into TV.

Speaker 5 (33:15):
And you're filming is a full time job.

Speaker 6 (33:17):
Filming a TV show full It takes a lot of time,
it's a lot of pressure, a lot of energy. And
people don't realize they see you flipping houses on TV,
so they think that like the network is paying for
these houses and pain for the repairs. No, no, they're
just they're filming and documenting everything you do. But we
have to buy all the houses, we have to fix them,
and we were doing you know, four or five projects
at a time, and doing one flip at a time

(33:39):
is intense.

Speaker 5 (33:39):
It's a lot of pressure, a lot of work. But
doing like five at a time.

Speaker 6 (33:42):
Is like we got a lot of gray hairs from
the pressure and dealing with all the contractors and the problems,
the issues you got to overcome.

Speaker 1 (33:49):
The Season one definitely stretched us and it is what
we needed. So by the time we came back for
season two, we had built a system.

Speaker 5 (33:57):
And our capacity had grown.

Speaker 1 (33:58):
Oh yeah, because the season one the first time and
we tell people first time we ever flipped the houses
on national TV. So when they saw that first house
being flipped, our first first.

Speaker 5 (34:10):
So we weren't selling.

Speaker 6 (34:10):
We were buy property, renovated and they rented out to
a long term tenant.

Speaker 4 (34:14):
We never really sold, We didn't sell it.

Speaker 6 (34:16):
It's different when you renovate the property to sell it's
a different process.

Speaker 1 (34:20):
Yes, So for us we had to learn the flipping
process on television. So that added an immense amount of
pressure on that.

Speaker 5 (34:31):
You can't mess up. Are you a national TV?

Speaker 1 (34:33):
And they are documenting it? Because A and E shoots
documentary style. HGTV is more scripted. A and E is
just there. They documented what you're doing, everything that happens,
good the bad. When when water mains break, they right there.
When the contractor screws up, they right there. One of
our contractors first season started a little fire.

Speaker 4 (34:56):
They were rushing in to catch it. Like he was like, no,
I don't want I don't want that film. They don't care.

Speaker 1 (35:03):
You have signed their document when they he flooded our
whole basement. When they don't hit a pipe flooded the basement,
the front lawn flooded for TV. We're pulling up, don't
know have a clue. And as we're pulling up, they're
rushing to get us mixed up. We don't know why,

(35:23):
and no one could tell us why because they want
real reactions.

Speaker 4 (35:28):
We're pulling up, We're like, what is going on?

Speaker 6 (35:30):
So our visitory is kind of their entertainment, right the
audience entertainment sounds.

Speaker 1 (35:37):
And it's it's documentary style, so they're shooting, which I
love that because it's not fake. And when people saw
our YouTube channel and our videos, they saw that it
wasn't fake. That's who we were Instagram, that's who we are.
So the TV show gives them an extension of that.
They still get to see us, they see our kids,
they see our business model, the differences. We're also educating

(35:59):
people on whold holding these properties and not like most
people where they're like, oh, we're flipping this house for
two point five million and we acquired it for one
point one Most people will never in a million years
get that under and get to understand how to buy
a one point one million dollar house to flip it
for two point one million.

Speaker 4 (36:19):
Never. But we're doing starter price points, starterhouse price.

Speaker 5 (36:23):
So yeah, I'm market in North Carolina. It's very affordable.

Speaker 6 (36:26):
So the average single family houses like two hundred and
fifty thousand sale price. So we're buying houses for like
seventy five to one hundred and twenty five thousand, putting
fifty thousand renovations into it, and selling them for two
fifty to three hundred, which is affordable right, compared to
New York City Boston. It's a starter home, so it's
more attainable to the average person. So when people watch
our show, they're like, man, I work at Dwayne Reed,

(36:47):
I work at CBS.

Speaker 5 (36:48):
I can actually do that.

Speaker 6 (36:49):
It's not like a two million dollar property that I
can never afford out.

Speaker 1 (36:52):
And we break down how we acquire it, how we
found the house, how we get the financing for it
without using our own money. We break this down to
show people you can literally do that. Person do what
we're doing, and it doesn't matter. You can work at
Wegman's or Kroger's, a grocery store. You can do exactly
what we're doing. And we were doing it. We started

(37:14):
doing it part time. Well, both of us were still
working full time jobs.

Speaker 3 (37:17):
Wow, that is like the first of all those prices.
It's kind of like York.

Speaker 4 (37:23):
Could never exactly.

Speaker 3 (37:25):
New York could never do it.

Speaker 2 (37:27):
I mean, just even a backtrack a little bit. So
because I did my research too. So you guys both
were working your W two jobs still and then I
remember seeing that you mentioned that you quit your job first.
But you guys made a very strategic departure from your

(37:49):
W two jobs that you would know what it's like
to live off of one income first, yes.

Speaker 4 (37:54):
Through your research.

Speaker 2 (37:55):
Okay, I'm here, and then you guys got into hosts sailing.
So I need you to elaborate a little bit more
on that because I don't even think I'm not even
sure my audience knows this because I'm still new to this,
but I actually am a realtor myself, and so my
license obviously is out here in New York City, and

(38:15):
I'm just exploring what the different avenues really are. And
so can you explain whosletsaling and how that went, because
I believe that's how you guys started to generate income.

Speaker 6 (38:27):
So we got a wholesaling first. So wholesaleing is kind
of like the pawn shop of real estate. Right, So
if you have a Rolex watch or whatever, and you
go to the pawn shop and you spend thirty thousand
on your Rolex brand new. When you go to the
pawn shop, they're not going to give you thirty thousand,
right because they got to still make money, so they
might give you twelve thousand for it. You may really
need money fast because you have an emergency. You got

(38:48):
to liquidate something, so they'll give you twelve thousand for it,
then they'll turn around and sell it for fifteen and
that they're wholesaling your watch. It's the same thing with houses, right,
people go through deaths, divorce, they it was their job
and life happens everyone. So so at any one point
one to two percent of property owners are going through
some type of distress, a life situation where they can't

(39:09):
wait for six months for it to sit on the market,
listing in with an agent, or maybe it's an ugly
house and it's falling down and it needs a lot
of repairs. Those are the properties that are distressed, either
physical distress or financial distress that the owner's going through
where a wholesaler or an investor would be the best buyer.
Somebody who can give them cash money quickly thirty sixty
ninety days will buy as is, no questions asked, you know.

(39:32):
So that's what we started doing. We did that to
build up cash, big chunks of cash. We use that
cash to buy rental properties. Right, so wholesale flip make
quick chunks of cash, put that into income reducing assets,
which are buying hold rental properties income properties. So that
was our strategy and The goal was to escape the
rat race, right. Neither one of us wanted to work

(39:52):
for the next thirty forty years and try to, you know,
depend on a pension or retirement to support us. We
wanted to own our own time. So we were making
ten twenty thirty thousand dollars a month wholesaling. So at
a certain point we're like, all right, well one of
us needs to go full time. So we actually fired
her boss first. Once we were consistently making that type
of income for a few months, we strategically lived off

(40:13):
for just my salary, and the first quarter we lived
off of my salary and seventy five percent of her salary.
The second quarter of that year we lived off of
my salary and then fifty percent of her salary, right,
And then the third quarter was twenty five percent of
her salary plus my full salary. Then the fourth quarter
we just lived off my salary. So we can get
used to living off for one income. We're still doing
real estate, but now were like, all right, we can

(40:33):
live off of one w two job plus our real
estate income, and we're like, oh, it's time to fire
your boss. So she went full time in the business
first and then I still kept my job for another
like twelve to twenty four months later. The only reason
I kept my job is because I was making over
six figures and I wanted to be able to qualify
for mortgages. So mortgage companies and loan officers will more

(40:53):
readily give you a mortgage loan if you have a
nine to five job than if you're an entrepreneur, because
they see that nine to five income is more steady
and more stable. Right, So that's kind of the strategy
we used.

Speaker 2 (41:05):
Wow, you guys broke that down. It was very palatable
to me, So thank you for that. So all right,
on reality TV usually it actually has like an impact
sometimes a lot of the times negative impact on relationships.
How would you guys say that reality TV impacted your relationship?

Speaker 6 (41:25):
We spoke to a bunch of reality TV stars before
we got into it hand, and one of the advice
that people, I can't name the name, but it was
a couple and they were like, look, you were married
before this TV show.

Speaker 5 (41:38):
Make sure you married after the TV show.

Speaker 6 (41:41):
So don't let these cameras in this TV show come
between what you guys have. Always remember that the foundation
is your relationship yep.

Speaker 4 (41:48):
Man.

Speaker 1 (41:48):
I made it very clear though to them beforehand it was,
you know the same Bravo, this.

Speaker 5 (41:55):
Aint Housewives and I know love my hip Hop New York.

Speaker 1 (42:01):
And I used to watch them when I had time.
But I told them this is not that so and
we control our narrative. So if I say turn this
mic off, turn it off, turn it off, and I
don't mean from here, turn it off from there, so
it's not being fed anymore. It's from here, and they

(42:29):
can still use any of that audio. So and then
I would tell and we had an amazing, amazing We
have such an amazing team that they understand us very clearly,
and if we have to discuss something, we'll say, okay,
stop for a second. We got to discuss something. But

(42:50):
it is always about us first, and we don't really
have too many instances where we step on each other.
So it's because we both play a different role within
our business and things like that.

Speaker 4 (43:03):
But if we're having to.

Speaker 1 (43:06):
Read lines on something and I'll be like, no, you're no,
maybe you're not gonna say that.

Speaker 4 (43:11):
I don't like how to read say that differently in
this way.

Speaker 1 (43:16):
Even if it's something that I might find someone else
may find offensive.

Speaker 4 (43:21):
I'll be like, yeah, no, we're not gonna say that.

Speaker 1 (43:22):
Maybe say let's say something different and say it in
a different way.

Speaker 4 (43:26):
Like we control our narrative and.

Speaker 1 (43:29):
That is a huge part of us being on the
same page. And A and E is great with understanding that,
like we've never had an issue with them. And then
you know, of course with A and E, Hulu bought
the rights to our second season. So that's how we
actually ended up huge platforms. It was a partnership that

(43:52):
any had been trying to get happened for like five
ten years. Hulu was like, no, no, no, we have
two different audiences, so they would never entertain it. Then
they finally said, okay, submit all the shows you want
us to consider.

Speaker 4 (44:06):
We'll look at them and.

Speaker 1 (44:07):
Then we'll tell you if there's anyone that we like. Well,
they submitted I think they said, he said a little
over fifty shows and they chose three to go. Who
to go onto Hulu's platform That Big Boys RV show,
Rachel Ray one of her cooking shows, and then our
show were the three shows that they chose. So that's

(44:30):
how we actually ended up on Hulu. And this was
only after our first season with only six episodes.

Speaker 5 (44:38):
Season two, we did ten episodes.

Speaker 1 (44:39):
Season two we ended up doing ten episodes and that
one aired last year, so that's how it ended up.
But for us, it's always about family first. Right when
we got to discuss something, we excuse me, y'all, we
need to sake it with our kids.

Speaker 6 (44:57):
We have two kids, so they know whenever we have
something with our kids. And at certain cutoff time, production
stops and we're going to pick up our kids practice.

Speaker 1 (45:06):
And I tell them, if I say four thirty, we
have to leave. It don't mean for thirty, y'all start
to unmike us.

Speaker 4 (45:15):
It means for thirty. I'm in the car right.

Speaker 1 (45:18):
Now, y'all can stay here look at each other. If
you won't before thirty, Me and Degen's in the car.
So you better wrap up at the time that you
know you could wrap up, because the first season they
didn't understand that, and it took one time for us
to be at the table and we were shooting a
scene and I was like, I looked at Detric and

(45:38):
they were shooting and I.

Speaker 3 (45:39):
Was like, I'm done, Yeah, come on, let's go back.

Speaker 1 (45:44):
Yeah, And I'm unmiking. I'm like and they're like, what's
she doing? I told you all the time we had
to leave. Our son has a performance. Yeah yeah, we'll
see y'all tomorrow. Make sure y'all lock up behind yourselves. Okay, yeah,
let's go. I love that. I love that you really
stand in it. So with the first season, I know
you mentioned it was like a little bit of a nightmare.

(46:07):
So did you feel at any point any pressure to
like portray any certain image, especially because there are a
lot of shows, you know, that Showcase, you know, uh,
just the behind the scenes of you know, real estate
things like that, and a lot of them. Typically real
estate shows tend to be highly like produced and highly scripted.

(46:31):
So I know you mentioned that yours isn't scripted really,
but did you feel any pressure at any moment, like, okay, like,
how do I kind of make this interesting?

Speaker 5 (46:40):
How do I know?

Speaker 6 (46:42):
That was a great thing about A and E is
that they were just like, hey, be yourselves, you know,
like the reason we chose you guys, and you know,
we're not paid actors, so the only thing we can
be is ourselves.

Speaker 5 (46:52):
Right. I'm not Denzel, even though I wish I was,
But you know, I appreciate that. But yeah, just so
it's like you can you can just play yourself and
that's the best thing about it.

Speaker 6 (47:03):
And when you're flipping houses, if something can go wrong,
it will will. When you're renovating, soon as you open
up those walls, you don't know what you're gonna find.
So they don't even have to manufacture the drama is
just in the business of flipping houses.

Speaker 5 (47:14):
There's always stuff that's gonna go wrong.

Speaker 6 (47:17):
There's always money you're gonna have to spend that you
didn't account for, so that's what makes it entertaining.

Speaker 1 (47:21):
We felt the pressure more so of trying to stop
stuff from going wrong.

Speaker 4 (47:25):
It was just so much.

Speaker 5 (47:27):
It was kind of like like whack a mole, Like
which problem.

Speaker 4 (47:30):
Are you doing this on? Purpose? Like at this point,
like what are y'all doing?

Speaker 1 (47:34):
It got to the point where we was like they
had so much footage of so much stuff going wrong.
It was kind of like they just had to pick
what not to show at this point, like it was
like if it can't go wrong, it went wrong doing.

Speaker 5 (47:48):
That's why nothing scares us. Now we renovate house, We're
like we've seen it all.

Speaker 2 (47:51):
Like literally like I did I did hear you guys
sharing a story about there was like poop everywhere and
one of the houses, Oh yeah, Like I don't even
know how it got there.

Speaker 1 (48:04):
Girl, be neither, especially when it's up walls and stuff
and you're like, oh my god, like when you and
crazy as season finale, House of Season two.

Speaker 4 (48:15):
Season finale was the biggest transformation we've.

Speaker 1 (48:17):
Done today, and it was a full gut but when
you walked in it and you walked into the bathroom,
it was Dodo everywhere, like and it's crazy because I
didn't walk into that one first. Edric did and he
let us walk into it not knowing, knowing that it

(48:39):
would do everywhere. Yeah, and I'm walking into it just
like yeah, so he was.

Speaker 6 (48:45):
He's seeing it for the first time on camera after
we already bought the property, and she's seeing that it
has poop all over the walls, and we got to.

Speaker 4 (48:51):
I'm walking in and you really don't even want to walk.

Speaker 1 (48:54):
In with your shoes, right, because at that point I
was already yeah, I'm not bringing these home. And we
walk in and that's just like when y'all go into
that unit, we'll go Because it was a duplex that
we converted into a single family. He was like, y'all
go into that unit, We'll go into this one. And
I was like great, because that one was it had
a lot of stuff on the I never went to

(49:14):
the bathroom.

Speaker 4 (49:15):
I looked in the door like okay, yep, all right,
and that's it.

Speaker 1 (49:20):
So I really didn't walk a lot in properties until
the camera we went into that bathroom. I was thoroughly
disgusted and I was like, deadreck, I know you lying,
I know you.

Speaker 4 (49:34):
It was due I was like, oh, no, sense, it
was due.

Speaker 8 (49:39):
To every on the walls near the mirror, like but
and that's what they love, like when they season one.

Speaker 4 (49:50):
I didn't.

Speaker 1 (49:51):
I'd never been into a house after it was demo,
like freshly demo. So I'm in the bathroom we're filming,
and there's this uh what do they call it?

Speaker 5 (50:02):
They took the toilet up, they took the floors.

Speaker 4 (50:06):
Always be filming.

Speaker 1 (50:08):
So we had filmed the scene and then they cut
and so we started talking while we were still in
the bathroom. All was just talking and I had looked
on the ground and I was like, oh, the cement.
I was looking at some cement and I'm asking Dejak
some questions and we're in with our contractor, and I'm
very nosy.

Speaker 4 (50:28):
You're putting it lightly. I'm very nosy.

Speaker 6 (50:30):
So I bent down and like, don't leave her in
the bathroom because she's gonna go into medicine cabinet.

Speaker 5 (50:38):
Box car.

Speaker 4 (50:41):
And I bent down and I put my hand in
a hole and came up and I.

Speaker 5 (50:45):
Was like, what is it?

Speaker 6 (50:49):
And everybody's looking around and the cameras they said they stopped,
but they were still.

Speaker 4 (50:53):
It was still rolling because that's what they do.

Speaker 1 (50:55):
They say this a BF baby, this is always be filming,
so they don't stop filming.

Speaker 5 (51:00):
So she has this substance and it was poop on
her head.

Speaker 3 (51:04):
Oh my god.

Speaker 5 (51:06):
The funnier moments.

Speaker 1 (51:07):
Nobody wanted to stop me because everybody saw me going down.
Our showrunner was like, he was like, this is gonna
give me my emmy.

Speaker 4 (51:15):
Oh my god.

Speaker 6 (51:16):
Oh.

Speaker 4 (51:17):
I was like, please go down, please grab it. Oh
she's really grabbing it, Oh my goodness. And he's watching.
And I literally went home and I was like, what
semen are they putting cement down here?

Speaker 1 (51:28):
And everyone The showrunner was like and cut and everyone
fell out, and I'm like, where are you laughing about?

Speaker 4 (51:38):
What is going on and that's just like, Babe.

Speaker 6 (51:40):
She learned that day, don't put your hand down a
hole in the bathroom that's been I had no.

Speaker 4 (51:45):
Idea that's where the toilet was.

Speaker 3 (51:47):
Oh my gosh, you.

Speaker 1 (51:49):
Know what I'm saying, Like, so whatever will happened on
the show is going to happen that we ain't got
the manufacturer any Wow.

Speaker 2 (51:55):
Well, that's actually really amazing too, because it's nice where
things just flow naturally and organically. That's what also makes
it more fun too. You don't have to go and
manufacture anything. I honestly think that's where probably a lot
of the Bravo shows tend to go wrong, is there's
no limit in boundaries when you're having to fabricate.

Speaker 5 (52:16):
Yes, the fake fight.

Speaker 2 (52:18):
Yeah, okay, so you guys, I genuinely feel represent such
strong black love on screen.

Speaker 5 (52:28):
So thank you.

Speaker 3 (52:29):
What would you say that visibility means to you?

Speaker 6 (52:33):
I mean, I think the representation is just important. And
you know, we realized there's not a lot of people
who look like us on TV in general, so we're like, hey,
we got to have a positive representation showing that, you know,
there's folks who look like us who are about empowerment,
bettering our people, putting a positive image out there.

Speaker 5 (52:49):
So that was important to us.

Speaker 1 (52:50):
Yeah, you can't be what you don't see, right, And
for me, it's always been about representation from when I
even started dating Dendrick and he was like, yeah, I'm
in a.

Speaker 4 (53:03):
I work in a nonprofit.

Speaker 1 (53:04):
It's helping you know, young inner city use show them,
you know what you can do. And there was all
these successful black men like him, uh, positive representation of them.
And then I went to a meeting and I'm looking
at it and I'm watching it and I just told them,
even with feedback, I said, listen, all of you guys
are super successful. Every single one of you guys are

(53:24):
suited and booted, and you look good. How can these
guys relate to you now, I said, because in their minds,
I said, every single one of them had the baggy pants,
the hoodies, leg.

Speaker 6 (53:40):
And we were going into a meeting wearing three piece suits,
right because we're all successful businessman. And she was like,
these kids can't relate to you because you know how
you're dressed.

Speaker 4 (53:47):
You're so far right.

Speaker 6 (53:48):
So then I started coming and dressing down and regular
and wearing my baseball cap and they're like, Okay, Now
they can relate to you better because they see you
as like, all right, he comes where I come from.

Speaker 1 (53:56):
Now you can say, yeah, I'm from Roxbury, which is
exact where a lot of them live. Look, I'm from Rockburn,
I'm from the Bury. I came from here, I lived
on this street. This is where I'm from. And I
told them, don't get me wrong, yes, wear your suits,
but you also got to meet them where they're at
and sometimes just come in dress down and let them
know that you are not that far removed.

Speaker 4 (54:15):
Right, you are from two streets over from where they lived.

Speaker 1 (54:19):
You lived there your whole life, even though you went
to private schools, you had to go from one environment
to the other. You had the code switch every day
of your life.

Speaker 4 (54:28):
Let them know that.

Speaker 1 (54:28):
So for us, even on TV, it's about representation, showing
them that no matter what your circumstances are, you can
achieve whatever it is you set out to as long
as you put in that work. So for us, it's
extremely important for us to show that one a couple,
minority couple can work together and not be fighting on

(54:53):
the show to get it done, but can work together
and lift as we rise others up as we rise
yes and help.

Speaker 4 (55:04):
Others see themselves even in what we're doing.

Speaker 1 (55:07):
So that's really what the show has been. It's been
a blessing to us as well to be able to
show people that and then also hear how the show
is helping other people.

Speaker 6 (55:17):
Yeah, I mean, I couldn't have imagined how many people
just reach out to us, like, man, I saw your
TV show, thank you.

Speaker 5 (55:23):
You inspired me to do this.

Speaker 6 (55:25):
You inspired me to see, you know, greater in myself
just from watching.

Speaker 5 (55:28):
And I didn't realize we had that impact.

Speaker 4 (55:30):
But from prison. Every every other week.

Speaker 1 (55:35):
Somebody from prison is writing those letters how the show.
They watched the show, so apparently we big in the
penal system, big.

Speaker 4 (55:44):
In the prison.

Speaker 1 (55:44):
They was like, they don't They wrote us like, yo,
they know not to change the show with fifty fifty
flip come on. Of course, Degic is like, that's because
the tight genies you be wearing like that show. I'm like,
don't wait me like that. They are here for the education.

Speaker 6 (55:58):
Ain't no watching you And I'm not mad at it.
It's good, good I candy. But ye a, guys in
they write us and say, hey, I'm in prison, but
I want to rehabilitate myself and you guys get me
hope when I get out, I want to get into
real estate because of watching you.

Speaker 1 (56:13):
Yeah, one guy had said one of the most powerful
letters we just read, and he said that for the
first time, watching that show made him realize that he
was in prison by.

Speaker 4 (56:26):
His own doing his own choices.

Speaker 1 (56:29):
Because to be able to see a young man that
is his age talk about Dedric and that looks like
me make different choices, he was like, it wasn't until
he saw this show that made him truly come face
to face and finally realize that through his own actions
is why he is in the situation that he's in.
And now for the first time, he's wanting to do

(56:51):
something different in his life and wanting to do real estate.
He was like, I had never seen someone who truly
look like me same is me. Do what what Dedrick
is doing where you look at him and be like, oh, yeah,
he should be doing it. He was like, but this
brother looks like me, he talks like me. He was like,

(57:14):
for the first time he's had to come face to
face with that. He was like, So, I'm just wanted
to let you guys know is there any books you
would recommend.

Speaker 5 (57:20):
Or and bailed him a bunch of books.

Speaker 1 (57:24):
A bunch of books and totally look us up when
you get out, lift as you rise.

Speaker 2 (57:31):
I love that that is so important. And what would
you say your advice is to other couples that are
looking to build big dreams together, start how you want
to finish.

Speaker 5 (57:46):
How you want to finish well.

Speaker 6 (57:47):
We talked about earlier, having those upfront conversations, those asking
the tough questions earlier to know where is that person's
head at, where they where do they see themselves going?

Speaker 5 (57:55):
And are you aligned? And I think you don't have
to have the same exact.

Speaker 6 (57:59):
YEP goals because the individuals different, but be on a
similar path and have a similar end result. I think
that's important as a couple when you get in together.
And again both both don't have to be entrepreneurs right
because not everyone is meant to be entrepreneurs. Some people
should be an employee, right and some people love their
their work or their worker for someone else. I think,

(58:19):
you know, my entrepreneurs should have another spouse that has
a stable job because there's stability in that. Any other
partner can take a little more risk because they have
stability in their partner having a job.

Speaker 5 (58:30):
I think that's important as well.

Speaker 1 (58:31):
I would definitely say mentally being aligned as well as
spiritually right. So when Dedick and I got together, Dedrick
knew he had to He knew I was very much
into the church still am, and in order for him
for the first year, in order for him to even
see me, he had to go where If she.

Speaker 6 (58:53):
Wasn't at work, she was at the church, and she
was over several ministries, you know, over the liturgical minuity,
the street.

Speaker 4 (59:02):
And arts ministry. So I was there.

Speaker 1 (59:03):
If I went at one of my three jobs, because
I had three jobs, I was at church.

Speaker 4 (59:09):
And he understood that.

Speaker 1 (59:10):
And one of that conversations that we had was when
we first sat down.

Speaker 4 (59:14):
Was where he was spiritually as well.

Speaker 1 (59:16):
There's no need to try and get it fall in
love with someone when you know you're a Christian and
he Muslim all of a sudden, Like one of my
girlfriends did. She Seventh Day Adventists, and she goes out
on a date with a guy like twenty dates before
she finds out he's Muslim.

Speaker 4 (59:33):
What were we doing here? And I was and she
was like, what is gonna work? You don't think y'all
should have had that conversation.

Speaker 1 (59:42):
They want that you don't go out on Saturdays, and
he partied on Saturday, Like what we're doing? Y'all wasted
all this time with that. So for us, we we
I wanted to make sure spiritually, I knew we were
going to one day want to have children. Spiritually, are
we aligned as well as mentally? We people know it's
a physical attraction all the time when you meet someone,

(01:00:05):
but are we equally yoked mentally, physically, spiritually?

Speaker 5 (01:00:10):
Yeah?

Speaker 3 (01:00:11):
And so what would you say?

Speaker 2 (01:00:14):
Do you have any tips or advice for people that
maybe struggle to feel connected throughout being in business together
and being in you know, a marriage, navigating fame, Like
I feel like sometimes things can feel mundane. So how
do you keep that connection and strong, you know, fire

(01:00:37):
with each other?

Speaker 3 (01:00:38):
Yeah?

Speaker 1 (01:00:40):
I would definitely say regular date nights because Ika is
really great with just all of a sudden, I see
popped up on the calendar date night, date night, date night,
date night. So he is very big on this mark
scheduling random date nights every other week. So making sure

(01:01:00):
that and it's very hard when you have two children,
two small children, two small children, that are super active.
So every weekend we're traveling for.

Speaker 6 (01:01:09):
A travel travel sports schedule, hold on home boy date.

Speaker 4 (01:01:14):
So we schedule around that.

Speaker 1 (01:01:16):
We'll come back from a weekend long tournament and he'll
have a date on the on the calendar for like
Sunday night, and we'll run to a comedy show or something.
So being able to pivot, and I think for us
it's always about one making sure that the little things
don't get ignored. Like I don't like flowers. I've never

(01:01:38):
been a flower girl. I'm not going to water them.

Speaker 4 (01:01:44):
So I told him early on.

Speaker 1 (01:01:45):
I was like, I don't want you to waste your
money on those, because you can spend one hundred dollars
on some roses, two hundred dollars some roses. So I'd
rather you get me something that lasts right. But he
will come in every now and then in every two
three weeks, he'll come in with like a orchid, and

(01:02:06):
it'll be purple, my favorite color, and it'll be beautiful,
and he will water it because you know, I'm not
gonna water But it's just the fact that he thought, like, oh,
this is a beautiful flower for my wife and my
kids get to see that because they'll be like, Daddy,
why you buy a flower?

Speaker 4 (01:02:24):
You got flowers?

Speaker 1 (01:02:25):
And he was like, because it's for mommy, And then
they'll be like for what he was like, just because
he was like, you, guys, when you get married, you're
gonna have to bring in flowers just because they do
so much for you throughout the day and the week.
You want to show them how much you love them
and just bring them something pretty just like them and
a flower, and for them to start to see that

(01:02:46):
and now understand that for later on in life. It's
really just the small things for us.

Speaker 4 (01:02:54):
And you know, when you.

Speaker 1 (01:02:54):
Get married and you get our age, when he do
the laundry, I'm like, oh, thank you Jesus, Well he
do it, Like if he does that and we outsource
our laundry now with a life.

Speaker 4 (01:03:07):
Hack, so somebody else do it.

Speaker 1 (01:03:09):
But if he just goes in and be like, ye,
I'm gonna just do this load real quick, or just
when I tell you girls, just the small things, like
if he pick up from behind the kids in the
living room, it gets noticed. Ye I'm usually the one
who's having to do it, and even for him when

(01:03:31):
I be like, oh, the cleaners are coming and he'll
but Okay, he knows what that means.

Speaker 4 (01:03:36):
That means we got to clean.

Speaker 5 (01:03:38):
Yep, yeah, that means we got clean the house because.

Speaker 6 (01:03:43):
Yeah, if it was just me, the cleaners are coming.

Speaker 3 (01:03:48):
No, you have to make sure, like to make it easier.

Speaker 2 (01:03:50):
Certain things need to be removed there you to get
in certain places.

Speaker 3 (01:03:54):
You can't just leave everything as is.

Speaker 4 (01:03:58):
There you go.

Speaker 2 (01:04:00):
So my last question for you guys would be how
has your definition of success changed over the years.

Speaker 3 (01:04:07):
Has it changed over the years.

Speaker 1 (01:04:08):
Mine has definitely changed over the years. When I was younger,
I thought being measured in success would be how much
financially you have and how many people knew who you were, like,
how popular are you? How much money do you have
in the bank, and how many people are connected to you.

(01:04:32):
As I've gotten older, it's more about how many people
can have I helped, how many people have been have
I been a blessing to how many people have I
been able to rise.

Speaker 4 (01:04:46):
Out of their circumstances.

Speaker 1 (01:04:47):
And I tell people all the time, it's not about
how many doors Dedrick and I own. It's about how
many doors we've been able to open for another family
to be able to come through and change the trajectory
of their family tree. So now I measure success based
off of how many lives and people can we touch,
and how my kids are taken care of.

Speaker 4 (01:05:09):
I tell people true generational.

Speaker 1 (01:05:11):
Wealth will be when you get sixty and seventy and
your kids come back and want to be around you. Still, Yes,
that is true generational wealth. Because my mother can't get
rid of her kids because she's done so much for us.
I don't think there's been a day in my life
since I've hit my twenties that I don't talk to

(01:05:34):
her multiple times a day. Same thing with my brother.
I'll call her and she'll go like, all right, well
your brother called it. Well tell them to call you back.

Speaker 4 (01:05:41):
My life, my waw.

Speaker 1 (01:05:44):
It is literally, that's true generational wealth when I know
my kids will be able to come back home, will
want to come back home, because you know, there's a
lot of kids who and we know because we buy
properties from a lot of these people who kids don't
come to visit. Grandkids don't come to visit. That's why
they're not leaving.

Speaker 4 (01:06:01):
Them any die loan.

Speaker 1 (01:06:03):
They're selling off their portfolio could care less because no
one ever comes back. So I think that's A true
measure of success is are your kids happy, healthy, and
willing to come back when you hit your fifties and
sixties and take care of you. Now that's generational wealth.

Speaker 7 (01:06:26):
I love that.

Speaker 5 (01:06:27):
Yeah for me.

Speaker 6 (01:06:29):
I read a book recently it's called Die with Zero,
and it really kind of reframed my mind about success.
Like Chris said, you know, most people think, oh, it's
about how much money you make and how much money
you have, But the concept of this book was like, Okay,
you can make money, but you can't take it with
you when you die. So there's a lot of people
who die with millions of dollars, even billions of dollars,

(01:06:50):
but what did they do for someone else? So this
book was like the concept is like, all right, it's
okay to do well financially, but it's why don't you
give it away?

Speaker 5 (01:06:59):
You use that money in.

Speaker 6 (01:07:01):
Your lifetime for experiences and memories with the people that
you love, because you can't take the money, but you
can take those memories, right, and even when you die,
your friends and your family will remember those great times
they had with you.

Speaker 5 (01:07:13):
Right.

Speaker 6 (01:07:13):
And then also not waiting until you pass to give
your money and your resources a way give it now,
so you can actually see the impact of what you're
giving and helping other people. So that really it kind
of changed my thinking on a lot. So I follow
some of those principles and die with zero and that's
how we're kind of planning things.

Speaker 5 (01:07:30):
Wow.

Speaker 2 (01:07:30):
Actually, I'm actually going to give that book a read
because that sounds really amazing. And I don't know if
you guys have ever heard of that quote that says
people may forget what you said, but they won't forget
how you made the movie feel. Yeah, so that's why
experiences are so they're so incredible where they really really
you know, permeate people's soul. There's spirit, and so I

(01:07:53):
really do agree with that. So what is next for
you guys? What are the poet going to be?

Speaker 4 (01:07:58):
Up to God? Everything?

Speaker 1 (01:08:00):
So I would say we're definitely working on my dreams
now as well. So we still do in real estate,
of course, we're waiting on now green light for season three.
We are working on my dream of opening up a
family entertainment center. So we bought a sky Zone franchise

(01:08:21):
through UH real Estate bought a franchise, so we are
now trying to lock in a location in our hometown
for sky Zone and I want to chain so I
want anywhere from twenty thirty different forty different FECs. And
we're finally we finally actually just put another loi out

(01:08:42):
on a building, so hopefully this one will be it
for the forty thousand square foot sky Zone, so it's
probably one of the largest ones that they have out there.
It's about forty two thousand square feet. Then we start
a production company called Pump six Productions where.

Speaker 4 (01:09:03):
Do not get that name?

Speaker 8 (01:09:05):
Wow?

Speaker 3 (01:09:08):
I love that yep.

Speaker 1 (01:09:10):
So we're going to I've always wanted to get into
producing and directing. That has been like a love of
mine since college. So we're finally, I'm finally wanting to
get into that. So we have about two shows that
we're looking at now. Starting one is has to do
with AAU basketball Yeah, and because that's such a huge

(01:09:33):
part of our life. It's literally it feels like it's
the only part of our life.

Speaker 4 (01:09:39):
When we leave here.

Speaker 1 (01:09:40):
We're flying back as soon as we leave here because
we both had both of our sons have tournaments this weekend.
So it is literally a huge part of our life.
But our production company, what else did we have?

Speaker 5 (01:09:53):
We just launched a book.

Speaker 6 (01:09:55):
So we have a book on wholesaling, so we teach
anyone who it's interested in learning how to wholesale real estate,
whether it's New York anywhere nationwide, how to get into
wholesaling without having a real estate license and without having
a lot of money or cash. So it's called the
Ultimate Wholesaling Book. And we have a whole kit. So
it's a book, it's a marketing playbook on how to

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find motivated sellers. And we have a cash offered calculator.
So we'll send you a link. You can put it
in the show notes to anyone who wants to pick
up that book.

Speaker 2 (01:10:23):
Absolutely well, ladies and gentlemen, there you have it. The Polites,
Dedrick and Crystal, thank you so much for coming to
Quality Queen Control. Everything that you guys need to know
about the Polites are going to be in the show
notes down below so that you can check them out,
and do not forget to check out their show fifty

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to fifty Flip on Hulu. And with that being said,
do not forget that I love you and God loves you,
and I'll see you guys in my next podcast episode.

Speaker 4 (01:10:52):
Yeah,