September 17, 2025 • 19 mins
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Today, let’s talk about the different types of guys to avoid. In this episode, I dive deep into the reasons why you should avoid these types of men!!!
Today, let’s talk about the different types of guys to avoid. In this episode, I dive deep into the reasons why you should avoid these types of men!!!
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That's not good for the camel. Hello, guys, welcome back
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(00:23):
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you guys, and without further ado, let's jump right on
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into this video. We are still in quarantine, ladies. Don't
let your loneliness get to you. I'm going to break
down the types of men that you guys should be avoiding.
This is in no particular order, but let's start with
number one. Late night Lance. Yes, always calling at dark
thirty because he knows that you are going to pick up.
We are more vulnerable at night. I mean seriously, that's why.
(01:27):
What did they say? Sometimes the best conversations do happen
at night, but for the most part, it's usually some
sort of hotline. If you will right, things get more
steamy easily at night. Our guards down, we're disarmed. Half
of us are in bed. No, make a pimple cream
on who knows which is more vulnerable? And then you
have Lance texting you yo you up? Hey? Yeah, it's
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a can't sleep. That's crazy because you know I was
saying about you all day, but oh no, I just
I don't want to go to sleep and not say
this up. And then here you go suck back down
the drain again. Oh my god, I can't leave. He's
thinking about me. It's such a it's this hour and
like girl, stop stay away from late night lamb. He's
taking advantage of the fact that he knows you're going
to answer him. He knows you're more vulnerable. Okay, it's
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dark thirty no more with that. Next we have chaos
and confusion. Chris does boyfriend thanks for you, but refuses
to make you his girlfriend. But you're upset because you
are always feeling uncomfortable to bring things up because you
know you're not his girlfriend yet. He says he's not ready,
but he doesn't want to lose you at the same time,
aka manipulating you, keeping a hold on you while not
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wanting to commit. In this type of dynamic, all you're
going to feel is confused with this person, and that
within itself is an answer. Ladies can't communicate Corey. It's
literally like talking to a wall with this guy. I mean,
emotionally unavailable is not even the word. You can't get
anything out of this guy. He dodges every conversation and
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he has mastered the art of being very vague. All
of his answers are seemingly just enough to answer your question.
But then once he's done talking to you, and snakes
his way out of the conversation. You feel emptier than
you did when you came, because I mean at least
when you were going to address whatever you were going
to address with him. At first you had a strong standpoint,
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but then he opened his mouth and you're just even
more confused. And what does this do? This type of
dynamic makes you work harder because whatever you chase runs,
and in that type of dynamic, you're going to find
yourself very tired and emotionally bankrupt by time he's done
with you and disposes of you, because you are working
to get something out of this man. Now, the issue
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with this type of individual is he doesn't see an
issue with his behavior or his communication style. And why
is that a problem? Because you can't change what you're
not acknowledging. If you don't think there's an issue, it's
not going to get solved. And then we have don't
define anything, Devin, Oh, how many of us have been
in a situation with this guy? And I say a
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situation because it's never a relationship. This guy is how
to get into a situationship one oh one. In this
type of dynamic, there's no red tape. There's no defining term,
and what does that allow? What does that enable? That
means no accountability all at the grand expense of your feelings.
Stay away from guys that refuse to define anything. When
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you don't have a definition for something, it is a
breeding ground for deceits and lies in any sort of dynamic.
This even goes with friendships. Oh, I don't really know
if that puts it my friend or not, but like
you know, like sometimes you're like a friend of me
to me, Like, no, no such thing. In relationships and relationally,
certain things are black and white when it comes to
defining things. Are we friends yes or no? That's it?
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There's no sometimes no. Are we together? Yes or no?
That is it? Are you interested? Yes or no? Okay,
to what degree? Let me know? Are we on the
same page? These all require answers. When you are with
someone who refuses to define anything, you were going to
run into a plethora of and this again will leave
you emotionally bankrupt. Because I'm gonna tell you how this
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is gonna go, Babe. You're gonna get frustrated. You're going
to be upset that you even let yourself get that
deep into it without defining anything. Because you think, okay, well,
first month in oh, I don't want to rush him,
but I do like him, And of course a month
goes in you feel like the vibes are aligned. You
guys are vibing on the same frequency, and then lo
and behold, you turn around. Six months has gone by
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and you're still not this guy's girlfriend. And I don't
know why it yeelds to us or it seems like
guys have mastered the art of being consistent enough to
hold us where we are, and then one day they
drop the ball because they can't keep the act up anymore,
and they naturally go find someone new and they feel
like they have you in a good enough position, which
they do actually, because now your emotions are at state
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where they can do whatever they want kind of and
get away with it while still potentially keeping you there.
It's not as high of a risk when you have
someone that refuses to define something with you. Don't try
to force someone to be in anything with you. They're
either going to want to or not once they are
addressed with the question, Hey, like, I'm just wondering, like,
what are we Whatever the case is, however you do it,
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however it comes about and they want to give you
the you know, I don't really believe in titles. I
feel like, let's just kind of see where things go
and keep things where they are because I feel like
we're fine, like we're good with where we are. And
I just feel like sometimes when you put titles on things,
it just for some reason, it just really messes things up. Yeah, okay,
these are the same types of guys that don't want
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to get married because it's a piece of paper. No,
it's a vow to God. You get a literal certificate
for it by the state. It is a very serious thing.
It is a vow. And if you are a human
being with some sort of moral integrity or understanding, even
if you do not want to get married, you have
that understanding even though you may not partake. That is
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not for you to minimize the significance of a marriage
license and getting married. I even wonder people that have
commitment issues have commitment issues in many different areas, and
be careful because it may not be in the areas
that you guys assume you will think, Oh, super successful guy,
I mean has to be committed to something. He does
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make it pretty decent living for himself. But then these
people are inconsistent in their own personal goals. Some people
just happen to be really good at making money, but
in otherwise they could have maybe wait issues that they
are very inconsistent with, and that is something that they
are not broadcasting, but it's very real to them. They
could be inconsistent in so many different variables and so
many different things in their life. Sometimes it's just so
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easy to look at an individual's success and sort of
assume that they have it all together. Next we have
playing or player Peter and understand this. People that are
not of value or do not consider themselves of value,
will never understand your value. It's just not possible because
if you don't value anything. It's just like some people
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like the idea of nice things, but they don't know
how to handle it, so they mistreat it, they misuse it,
they lose it because they can't handle what it is
that they thought that they wanted. When it comes to players,
it is impossible to get to know them on a
deeper level. They're not even connected with themselves. Nine times
out of ten, people that our players are going through
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hopefully a phase, and some men that are still doing
this into their fifties and even forties and up. That
tells you a lot about that person. I don't know
what this thing is. Sidebar of guys bragging about being
forty forty five years old and even older. How dare
they on these dating apps talking about never been married,
no kids? It's like, congratulations for literally broadcasting what a
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failure you possibly are. There's a disconnect there, Like a
guy even told me this one time, a guy over
thirty five that is literally not married, never been married
or anything. That's a red flag. And I'm talking to
the people that additionally believe in, you know, in marriage too.
What are you doing that is not something to broadcast
that tells me that there is something deficient in you?
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And it must be great. Have you been working on
a project for a majority of your life that you
were unable to settle down with one person? I mean literally,
for goodness sake, Mark Zuckerberg was able to literally create
Facebook while simultaneously maintaining having a girlfriend. I don't know
if he's still with her, but probably he is, Like,
I'm sure you can make it work. Aside from never
being able to know these people on a deeper level,
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these people don't even stick around long enough to even
open up. They form very artificial relationships with people because
what to form a genuine connection with someone? What do
you have to do? It takes time, It takes relationship building,
which is bonding, and these are things that people that
are emotionally deficient and emotionally unavailable. They are not capable
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of doing these types of things. They cannot participate in
that type of party. It is just simply too much
for their little peeni brain. They're not in the headspace,
especially now talking about younger guys, especially you know, late
teens into early twenties or twenties period. Okay, they are
not in the headspace to commit to one person all
the time. So what are they going to do. They're
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going to be here, there, everywhere, all around the square
because they don't want to form deeper bonds of people,
because they're not in a space where they're trying to
really uncover themselves. It takes true self work and realization,
and it's a sobering moment to sit with yourself. Stop
numbing yourself in the drugs, in the alcohol, in whatever
your vice is, in the sex, and sit with yourself
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and ask yourself, why am I this. I don't want
to run through. You know, these girls that is someone's sister, daughter,
whatever the case is, do you want it to happen
to you? It really just makes you call into question
these people that do these things that hurt people. They
are going through something, So a player that's in his twenties,
more than likely it is a phase and it will
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settle out. But you do not want to be in
the crossfire of this type of individual and expect more
out of them than they can give, because right now
they're running from you, and they're running from themselves. Players
are not focused, right They're not focused. They're just onto
the next, on, the next, on the neck. What can
I get today? They're living literally for the day hide
and seek. Harry Okay tells you he hates social media,
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refuses to let you put a picture of him. Every
picture that you upload of him always seems to be
blurry because he's always sort of in motion to something else,
because he didn't really want you to take that picture, girl,
He didn't really want to be in it. And every
time you upload him, you are uploading him to close friends.
He won't even let you do it on your regular profile.
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Probably doesn't even follow you on Instagram and you think
that this is literally your boyfriend. I see things like
this happen all the time, and I'm not judging, but
I genuinely feel bad for girls that are in situations
like this where it's so obvious what's going on from
the outside looking in. It's like, girl, he's playing you.
He's flipped bopping between you and the real girlfriend or
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the other girlfriend. He is playing the both of you.
I don't care what you think he's telling you. He's
either at his baby mother's house or he's at some
other girl's house. Like it's drama. For a reason. There's
a reason why you can't upload a regular picture of
him because he doesn't do social media and he doesn't
like broadcasting his business because he doesn't want people in it.
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There really is a difference between an individual who genuinely
just doesn't want to post their partner on social media,
like myself, like I'm very private in that aspect, I
would not post my partner on social media. However, I
know the difference and he would know the difference that
I'm not hiding you. This is just naturally how I am.
I'm a private person. But you can feel intuitively when
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that's not really the case, now, is it right, because
you're still uploading it. You're just uploading it to close friends.
Now why is that? And why can't he seem to
sit still long enough for you to get a still
picture of the both of you? Why is it always
him in motion or him looking at a completely like
he's never like there with you, He's never attempted to
take a photo with you. It is always out of course,
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some sort of coercion. And for those guys that want
to use that excuse, oh, social media doesn't matter. No,
here's why social media actually does matter. Social media is
a platform where people post their best lives. That's what
you want to show the world, your friends, your family.
So yeah, it actually does matter to a certain degree
because if you don't want to post, or you won't
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allow someone to post you that you are in a
legitimate relationship with, we have a problem. And it's not
in Houston. And also it's not Instagram either. Instagram isn't
your problem. It's just that you don't want to be
seen anywhere because you want to hide in the shadows,
because you don't want anyone tracking you and seeing Oh okay,
yesterday she posted a picture in your bathroom. Now, you
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don't want this girl to post another photo in your bathroom,
because you know, we have a woman. We're the FBI.
We have FBI and we want to be we put
two and two together. Why is the brick in the
back one of them's green? And I know, I know
that's his place. And she she posted that when I
was just there on Thursday, and she posted this on
Thursday night. I love Thursday morning is And then you
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do all this FBI work and it's like you two
are still with him, you three are still with him.
However many of there are you? You're all still with him,
fighting for you know, America's next top model with this guy.
Like I don't know what type of games you guys
are playing, but literally stop, it's ridiculous. Now I'm embarrassed
for you. All is not lost if you literally just
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put an end to it now, like an end to
that relationship, that situationship, because it's not a relationship. This
guy does not want to broadcast you for a reason.
Even be careful of being in a controlled environment all
the time where he knows who he's not going to
run into when he sees you. He's always dodging you
all the time. If you dare bring up any of
these sort of things, he's gonna do what ghosts to you,
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not speak to you for three days, okay maybe even
a week, make you feel crazy because he's manipulating you
so that you apologize for you being offended that he
won't even post you to begin with, and then it
turns now into you being upset legitimately at something and
him ignoring you to the point of crazy insanity where
you are apologizing for something that you did not even
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do when you were the one that was actually offended.
When someone isn't even asking you why you are behaving
a certain way, that is a sign someone that genuinely
cares for you and wants to be with you is
always going to approach a situation from a why. They're
not just going to say you're acting crazy. Honestly, I'm
done with you. If someone loved you and they're in
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love with you, they're going to say, why are you
acting like this? You know that I love you. How
can we make this work? It's not going to be
name calling and walking away and I'm so mad at you.
I'm not going to speak to you for a week,
because that just kind of means we're on a break
by default, and like we're not even really on a
break because I'm not even with you, Like it's just
you know what I mean. And lastly, we are going
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to about the typical cheating chase. This guy has a girlfriend,
he probably has a baby mother, and he complains to
you about how he's unsatisfied at home and how they're
breaking up, and they live like roommates. They don't even
sleep in the same bed anymore. He like sleeps on
the couch and like they barely even talk. They're just
living together and cohabitating for the baby, or they're just
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living together until their leases up. Save it. No man
is living in a home with a woman, and I'm
not saying it's impossible. So calm down, calm down over
there in the comments, settle down now, let me explain
the rest of my point. Thank you. Typically, these guys,
they may be having issues, but they're not going to leave.
Same for even married men, because cheating is cheating all
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across the boyd, wife, girlfriend, whatever, because that means that
you were in a commitment where you can be held accountable.
There is a line of red tape that says, is
this person found out that I was doing this, they
wouldn't be too happy. You wouldn't feel any ounce of
guilt or accountability for someone that you're not even with.
It's like ho ho ho, wait on, hold on a second,
I'm like not even with you, so I'm very confused
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her and what's going on. You feel more comfortable saying
that as opposed to, Yes, I literally just cheated on
you yesterday because I was bored and I was kind
of upset with you. And this is how I handle
my anger. I literally go and I splurge and I
deep dive into other girls lady parts, because I don't
know how else to deal with my emotions. I mean,
and even then, you kind of you would honestly be
lucky if you even got such an explanation, because not
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only is that the truth, but if someone's able to
reveal the truth, it means they're workable, They're a little pliable.
But let's be realistic here, nine times out of ten,
many times out of many, if that even makes sense.
These types of guys that are complaining to you about
their difficult situation with their girlfriend and she knows they're
not together, and she does her own thing too. They
are lying to you. Do not fall for it. Don't
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be the type of girl that's dating the guy who's
living with his girlfriend, his baby mother or his wife
and think that you are going to be an exception
to the rule. Your situation is oh so different. It
is not. I can't assure you, because let me tell
you something, sweetheart. If he's going to cheat with you,
he's going to cheat on you. And once you conquer
that individual and you feel like, yes, I knew he
loved me, finally got him to get with me, then
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guess what Now that worry that you were a part
of or the other girl is going to become your
main priority and your main concern. You're not going to
sell off into the sunset and never have the fear
that what you were a part of you are exempt from.
So never feel comfortable being in that sort of position.
And a lot of women who tried in their type
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is just whatever isn't theirs, whatever doesn't belong to them.
These people have serious issues. They love the idea of
taking from someone as opposed to feeling like they rightfully
earn that individual. Their perception of earning. An individual is
taking something from someone else and that's their type. You
can't build a solid foundation on something like that. It
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doesn't work like that. Has it happened? Probably? Of course,
everything is circumstantial, but for the majority, I don't think
anyone would choose to be in a situation like that. So, Angels,
that is the end of this video. I really hope
that you guys have enjoyed it. Let me know in
the comments below, what guy you have encountered out of
all these people that you learned your lesson from and
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that you are going to stay away from for the
rest of your life. I want to know in the
comments section below. With that being said, do not forget
that I love you and God loves you, and I'll
see you, beautiful angels in my next video.
That's not good for the camel. Hello, guys, welcome back
to my channel. Welcome to my channel. Okay, for all
of my new subscribers, all of my A Team ogs,
you guys already know what's up. I'm back at it
again with another video. Guys. As you could see, I've
been on a roll here. Yes, I've gotten in my
life together a little bit. Currently, we've got to hang
(00:23):
on things right now. For those of you that may
not notice, I am building a schedule where I am
going to be uploading on Sunday, Wednesdays and Fridays. That
is my current schedule for right now. Mix in with
some more fun content that I will be dropping as well,
but you won't know about them if you're not signed
up for my mailing list. So make sure that you
are signed up for the A list. The link for
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that will be in the description box below. Also, do
not forget to follow me on Instagram, and do not forget,
of course, if you are not subscribed and this is
the first video that you are seeing of mine. Hello,
how are you? My name is Asia Christina. Very nice
to meet you. Welcome to the A Team Angel Relax Binge,
watch my videos. I've made some great new content for
you guys, and without further ado, let's jump right on
(01:06):
into this video. We are still in quarantine, ladies. Don't
let your loneliness get to you. I'm going to break
down the types of men that you guys should be avoiding.
This is in no particular order, but let's start with
number one. Late night Lance. Yes, always calling at dark
thirty because he knows that you are going to pick up.
We are more vulnerable at night. I mean seriously, that's why.
(01:27):
What did they say? Sometimes the best conversations do happen
at night, but for the most part, it's usually some
sort of hotline. If you will right, things get more
steamy easily at night. Our guards down, we're disarmed. Half
of us are in bed. No, make a pimple cream
on who knows which is more vulnerable? And then you
have Lance texting you yo you up? Hey? Yeah, it's
(01:48):
a can't sleep. That's crazy because you know I was
saying about you all day, but oh no, I just
I don't want to go to sleep and not say
this up. And then here you go suck back down
the drain again. Oh my god, I can't leave. He's
thinking about me. It's such a it's this hour and
like girl, stop stay away from late night lamb. He's
taking advantage of the fact that he knows you're going
to answer him. He knows you're more vulnerable. Okay, it's
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dark thirty no more with that. Next we have chaos
and confusion. Chris does boyfriend thanks for you, but refuses
to make you his girlfriend. But you're upset because you
are always feeling uncomfortable to bring things up because you
know you're not his girlfriend yet. He says he's not ready,
but he doesn't want to lose you at the same time,
aka manipulating you, keeping a hold on you while not
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wanting to commit. In this type of dynamic, all you're
going to feel is confused with this person, and that
within itself is an answer. Ladies can't communicate Corey. It's
literally like talking to a wall with this guy. I mean,
emotionally unavailable is not even the word. You can't get
anything out of this guy. He dodges every conversation and
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he has mastered the art of being very vague. All
of his answers are seemingly just enough to answer your question.
But then once he's done talking to you, and snakes
his way out of the conversation. You feel emptier than
you did when you came, because I mean at least
when you were going to address whatever you were going
to address with him. At first you had a strong standpoint,
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but then he opened his mouth and you're just even
more confused. And what does this do? This type of
dynamic makes you work harder because whatever you chase runs,
and in that type of dynamic, you're going to find
yourself very tired and emotionally bankrupt by time he's done
with you and disposes of you, because you are working
to get something out of this man. Now, the issue
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with this type of individual is he doesn't see an
issue with his behavior or his communication style. And why
is that a problem? Because you can't change what you're
not acknowledging. If you don't think there's an issue, it's
not going to get solved. And then we have don't
define anything, Devin, Oh, how many of us have been
in a situation with this guy? And I say a
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situation because it's never a relationship. This guy is how
to get into a situationship one oh one. In this
type of dynamic, there's no red tape. There's no defining term,
and what does that allow? What does that enable? That
means no accountability all at the grand expense of your feelings.
Stay away from guys that refuse to define anything. When
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you don't have a definition for something, it is a
breeding ground for deceits and lies in any sort of dynamic.
This even goes with friendships. Oh, I don't really know
if that puts it my friend or not, but like
you know, like sometimes you're like a friend of me
to me, Like, no, no such thing. In relationships and relationally,
certain things are black and white when it comes to
defining things. Are we friends yes or no? That's it?
(04:43):
There's no sometimes no. Are we together? Yes or no?
That is it? Are you interested? Yes or no? Okay,
to what degree? Let me know? Are we on the
same page? These all require answers. When you are with
someone who refuses to define anything, you were going to
run into a plethora of and this again will leave
you emotionally bankrupt. Because I'm gonna tell you how this
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is gonna go, Babe. You're gonna get frustrated. You're going
to be upset that you even let yourself get that
deep into it without defining anything. Because you think, okay, well,
first month in oh, I don't want to rush him,
but I do like him, And of course a month
goes in you feel like the vibes are aligned. You
guys are vibing on the same frequency, and then lo
and behold, you turn around. Six months has gone by
(05:27):
and you're still not this guy's girlfriend. And I don't
know why it yeelds to us or it seems like
guys have mastered the art of being consistent enough to
hold us where we are, and then one day they
drop the ball because they can't keep the act up anymore,
and they naturally go find someone new and they feel
like they have you in a good enough position, which
they do actually, because now your emotions are at state
(05:49):
where they can do whatever they want kind of and
get away with it while still potentially keeping you there.
It's not as high of a risk when you have
someone that refuses to define something with you. Don't try
to force someone to be in anything with you. They're
either going to want to or not once they are
addressed with the question, Hey, like, I'm just wondering, like,
what are we Whatever the case is, however you do it,
(06:11):
however it comes about and they want to give you
the you know, I don't really believe in titles. I
feel like, let's just kind of see where things go
and keep things where they are because I feel like
we're fine, like we're good with where we are. And
I just feel like sometimes when you put titles on things,
it just for some reason, it just really messes things up. Yeah, okay,
these are the same types of guys that don't want
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to get married because it's a piece of paper. No,
it's a vow to God. You get a literal certificate
for it by the state. It is a very serious thing.
It is a vow. And if you are a human
being with some sort of moral integrity or understanding, even
if you do not want to get married, you have
that understanding even though you may not partake. That is
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not for you to minimize the significance of a marriage
license and getting married. I even wonder people that have
commitment issues have commitment issues in many different areas, and
be careful because it may not be in the areas
that you guys assume you will think, Oh, super successful guy,
I mean has to be committed to something. He does
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make it pretty decent living for himself. But then these
people are inconsistent in their own personal goals. Some people
just happen to be really good at making money, but
in otherwise they could have maybe wait issues that they
are very inconsistent with, and that is something that they
are not broadcasting, but it's very real to them. They
could be inconsistent in so many different variables and so
many different things in their life. Sometimes it's just so
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easy to look at an individual's success and sort of
assume that they have it all together. Next we have
playing or player Peter and understand this. People that are
not of value or do not consider themselves of value,
will never understand your value. It's just not possible because
if you don't value anything. It's just like some people
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like the idea of nice things, but they don't know
how to handle it, so they mistreat it, they misuse it,
they lose it because they can't handle what it is
that they thought that they wanted. When it comes to players,
it is impossible to get to know them on a
deeper level. They're not even connected with themselves. Nine times
out of ten, people that our players are going through
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hopefully a phase, and some men that are still doing
this into their fifties and even forties and up. That
tells you a lot about that person. I don't know
what this thing is. Sidebar of guys bragging about being
forty forty five years old and even older. How dare
they on these dating apps talking about never been married,
no kids? It's like, congratulations for literally broadcasting what a
(08:47):
failure you possibly are. There's a disconnect there, Like a
guy even told me this one time, a guy over
thirty five that is literally not married, never been married
or anything. That's a red flag. And I'm talking to
the people that additionally believe in, you know, in marriage too.
What are you doing that is not something to broadcast
that tells me that there is something deficient in you?
(09:07):
And it must be great. Have you been working on
a project for a majority of your life that you
were unable to settle down with one person? I mean literally,
for goodness sake, Mark Zuckerberg was able to literally create
Facebook while simultaneously maintaining having a girlfriend. I don't know
if he's still with her, but probably he is, Like,
I'm sure you can make it work. Aside from never
being able to know these people on a deeper level,
(09:30):
these people don't even stick around long enough to even
open up. They form very artificial relationships with people because
what to form a genuine connection with someone? What do
you have to do? It takes time, It takes relationship building,
which is bonding, and these are things that people that
are emotionally deficient and emotionally unavailable. They are not capable
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of doing these types of things. They cannot participate in
that type of party. It is just simply too much
for their little peeni brain. They're not in the headspace,
especially now talking about younger guys, especially you know, late
teens into early twenties or twenties period. Okay, they are
not in the headspace to commit to one person all
the time. So what are they going to do. They're
(10:12):
going to be here, there, everywhere, all around the square
because they don't want to form deeper bonds of people,
because they're not in a space where they're trying to
really uncover themselves. It takes true self work and realization,
and it's a sobering moment to sit with yourself. Stop
numbing yourself in the drugs, in the alcohol, in whatever
your vice is, in the sex, and sit with yourself
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and ask yourself, why am I this. I don't want
to run through. You know, these girls that is someone's sister, daughter,
whatever the case is, do you want it to happen
to you? It really just makes you call into question
these people that do these things that hurt people. They
are going through something, So a player that's in his twenties,
more than likely it is a phase and it will
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settle out. But you do not want to be in
the crossfire of this type of individual and expect more
out of them than they can give, because right now
they're running from you, and they're running from themselves. Players
are not focused, right They're not focused. They're just onto
the next, on, the next, on the neck. What can
I get today? They're living literally for the day hide
and seek. Harry Okay tells you he hates social media,
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refuses to let you put a picture of him. Every
picture that you upload of him always seems to be
blurry because he's always sort of in motion to something else,
because he didn't really want you to take that picture, girl,
He didn't really want to be in it. And every
time you upload him, you are uploading him to close friends.
He won't even let you do it on your regular profile.
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Probably doesn't even follow you on Instagram and you think
that this is literally your boyfriend. I see things like
this happen all the time, and I'm not judging, but
I genuinely feel bad for girls that are in situations
like this where it's so obvious what's going on from
the outside looking in. It's like, girl, he's playing you.
He's flipped bopping between you and the real girlfriend or
(12:02):
the other girlfriend. He is playing the both of you.
I don't care what you think he's telling you. He's
either at his baby mother's house or he's at some
other girl's house. Like it's drama. For a reason. There's
a reason why you can't upload a regular picture of
him because he doesn't do social media and he doesn't
like broadcasting his business because he doesn't want people in it.
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There really is a difference between an individual who genuinely
just doesn't want to post their partner on social media,
like myself, like I'm very private in that aspect, I
would not post my partner on social media. However, I
know the difference and he would know the difference that
I'm not hiding you. This is just naturally how I am.
I'm a private person. But you can feel intuitively when
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that's not really the case, now, is it right, because
you're still uploading it. You're just uploading it to close friends.
Now why is that? And why can't he seem to
sit still long enough for you to get a still
picture of the both of you? Why is it always
him in motion or him looking at a completely like
he's never like there with you, He's never attempted to
take a photo with you. It is always out of course,
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some sort of coercion. And for those guys that want
to use that excuse, oh, social media doesn't matter. No,
here's why social media actually does matter. Social media is
a platform where people post their best lives. That's what
you want to show the world, your friends, your family.
So yeah, it actually does matter to a certain degree
because if you don't want to post, or you won't
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allow someone to post you that you are in a
legitimate relationship with, we have a problem. And it's not
in Houston. And also it's not Instagram either. Instagram isn't
your problem. It's just that you don't want to be
seen anywhere because you want to hide in the shadows,
because you don't want anyone tracking you and seeing Oh okay,
yesterday she posted a picture in your bathroom. Now, you
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don't want this girl to post another photo in your bathroom,
because you know, we have a woman. We're the FBI.
We have FBI and we want to be we put
two and two together. Why is the brick in the
back one of them's green? And I know, I know
that's his place. And she she posted that when I
was just there on Thursday, and she posted this on
Thursday night. I love Thursday morning is And then you
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do all this FBI work and it's like you two
are still with him, you three are still with him.
However many of there are you? You're all still with him,
fighting for you know, America's next top model with this guy.
Like I don't know what type of games you guys
are playing, but literally stop, it's ridiculous. Now I'm embarrassed
for you. All is not lost if you literally just
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put an end to it now, like an end to
that relationship, that situationship, because it's not a relationship. This
guy does not want to broadcast you for a reason.
Even be careful of being in a controlled environment all
the time where he knows who he's not going to
run into when he sees you. He's always dodging you
all the time. If you dare bring up any of
these sort of things, he's gonna do what ghosts to you,
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not speak to you for three days, okay maybe even
a week, make you feel crazy because he's manipulating you
so that you apologize for you being offended that he
won't even post you to begin with, and then it
turns now into you being upset legitimately at something and
him ignoring you to the point of crazy insanity where
you are apologizing for something that you did not even
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do when you were the one that was actually offended.
When someone isn't even asking you why you are behaving
a certain way, that is a sign someone that genuinely
cares for you and wants to be with you is
always going to approach a situation from a why. They're
not just going to say you're acting crazy. Honestly, I'm
done with you. If someone loved you and they're in
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love with you, they're going to say, why are you
acting like this? You know that I love you. How
can we make this work? It's not going to be
name calling and walking away and I'm so mad at you.
I'm not going to speak to you for a week,
because that just kind of means we're on a break
by default, and like we're not even really on a
break because I'm not even with you, Like it's just
you know what I mean. And lastly, we are going
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to about the typical cheating chase. This guy has a girlfriend,
he probably has a baby mother, and he complains to
you about how he's unsatisfied at home and how they're
breaking up, and they live like roommates. They don't even
sleep in the same bed anymore. He like sleeps on
the couch and like they barely even talk. They're just
living together and cohabitating for the baby, or they're just
(16:23):
living together until their leases up. Save it. No man
is living in a home with a woman, and I'm
not saying it's impossible. So calm down, calm down over
there in the comments, settle down now, let me explain
the rest of my point. Thank you. Typically, these guys,
they may be having issues, but they're not going to leave.
Same for even married men, because cheating is cheating all
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across the boyd, wife, girlfriend, whatever, because that means that
you were in a commitment where you can be held accountable.
There is a line of red tape that says, is
this person found out that I was doing this, they
wouldn't be too happy. You wouldn't feel any ounce of
guilt or accountability for someone that you're not even with.
It's like ho ho ho, wait on, hold on a second,
I'm like not even with you, so I'm very confused
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her and what's going on. You feel more comfortable saying
that as opposed to, Yes, I literally just cheated on
you yesterday because I was bored and I was kind
of upset with you. And this is how I handle
my anger. I literally go and I splurge and I
deep dive into other girls lady parts, because I don't
know how else to deal with my emotions. I mean,
and even then, you kind of you would honestly be
lucky if you even got such an explanation, because not
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only is that the truth, but if someone's able to
reveal the truth, it means they're workable, They're a little pliable.
But let's be realistic here, nine times out of ten,
many times out of many, if that even makes sense.
These types of guys that are complaining to you about
their difficult situation with their girlfriend and she knows they're
not together, and she does her own thing too. They
are lying to you. Do not fall for it. Don't
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be the type of girl that's dating the guy who's
living with his girlfriend, his baby mother or his wife
and think that you are going to be an exception
to the rule. Your situation is oh so different. It
is not. I can't assure you, because let me tell
you something, sweetheart. If he's going to cheat with you,
he's going to cheat on you. And once you conquer
that individual and you feel like, yes, I knew he
loved me, finally got him to get with me, then
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guess what Now that worry that you were a part
of or the other girl is going to become your
main priority and your main concern. You're not going to
sell off into the sunset and never have the fear
that what you were a part of you are exempt from.
So never feel comfortable being in that sort of position.
And a lot of women who tried in their type
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is just whatever isn't theirs, whatever doesn't belong to them.
These people have serious issues. They love the idea of
taking from someone as opposed to feeling like they rightfully
earn that individual. Their perception of earning. An individual is
taking something from someone else and that's their type. You
can't build a solid foundation on something like that. It
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doesn't work like that. Has it happened? Probably? Of course,
everything is circumstantial, but for the majority, I don't think
anyone would choose to be in a situation like that. So, Angels,
that is the end of this video. I really hope
that you guys have enjoyed it. Let me know in
the comments below, what guy you have encountered out of
all these people that you learned your lesson from and
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that you are going to stay away from for the
rest of your life. I want to know in the
comments section below. With that being said, do not forget
that I love you and God loves you, and I'll
see you, beautiful angels in my next video.
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