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July 9, 2025 20 mins
***The Asha Christina Tapes***

Babes!!!!! I’m back again with another episode!!!! This video provides tips on how to implement SELF LOVE. 

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hello, babe, how are you guys? What is A It's
a beautiful day. I hope that you guys are all
having a wonderful day. I know I've been gone for
just a little bit of time, but I'm back again
with more content. So guys, of course you know the

(00:21):
drill By now. My name is Ashac. Nice to meet you.
Welcome to the A team if you are new. I
am just mind blown still, I really am. And I
always thank you guys so much for all of the
continued support. You guys are so awesome to me, and
not one day goes by that it goes unnoticed, and

(00:44):
I want you guys to know that, and that's why
I take so much pride in responding to all of
you guys' comments to the best of my ability, because
I'm just so thankful and I always want to interact
with you guys. So before we get into the video, oh,
I want you to of course follow me on Instagram,
which will be right here, and I also want you

(01:06):
to subscribe to the channel if you have not already,
and do not forget to turn on your postedifications so
that you're notified every single time that I post. And
let's not waste any more time. Let's get into the video.
So today's video, as you can see from the title,
is self love. Now, I want to point out that

(01:26):
all of the tips that I have included on this channel,
all of the advice that I have given on this channel,
not one thing matters until you have self love, not
one thing. I don't believe that you can successfully implement
any of these tips or any of the advice that

(01:49):
I give you guys until you have this, which is
self love. So let's jump right into tip number one.
For me, my number one thing is having a spiritual base.
So for me, I'm a Christian. So my spiritual base
God Jesus. That's whom I believe in, and I believe

(02:12):
that my identity is source in God, and that's my belief.
If you were someone that is not religious and you
have more of a spiritual approach with whatever that may
be or however that may be, it's very important to
have that grounding because based upon things that I've read,

(02:33):
it's almost, you know, innate in human nature that we
sort of crave some sort of belief system, some sort
of faith system, if you will, which motivates us positively,
or is there for us in times of need or
just gives us a certain standard to live by. So
it's very natural for you to have, you know, a

(02:56):
belief in something and for me and what I choose.
I choose to believe in God and Jesus, and I
choose to practice a Christian faith. Tip Number two is
identifying your what, how, and why? What do I want?
What do I desire? How can I get that? What

(03:17):
can I do to get that? What do I need
to make me love myself more? Do I need to
eat healthy? Do I need to work out more? Do
I need to go to bed earlier so that I
can wake up earlier so I can have a more
productive day. Do I need to go to bed earlier
so that I can wake up and have some breakfasts?
Make a healthy breakfast like whatever it is? Figure that out.

(03:40):
Ask yourself these questions. What can I do to improve
my life? Reading, watching different motivational YouTube videos, listening to
motivational podcasts. How can I be proactive in the pursuit
of success and happiness my life? Right? I find that

(04:03):
so many of us have these wants, desires, if you will,
and you know, aspirations. But many of the times when
we look back at what we're doing, or if we
look presently at what we're doing, we're doing absolutely nothing
to get there. You know, It's it makes no sense

(04:24):
to me. You know, how can what you want be
so separate from where you are right now that you
know that you're not being proactive in that pursuit. And
of course I'm speaking for the people that you know
are in their twenties, that you know, gone to college
and all that stuff in your life is beginning right now.

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You know, it's different from being you know, eighteen and
aspiring to be you know, a doctor. You still have
a ways to go to implement that. You have to
get through high school, you know first. But if you
are someone that's in your twenties and you know your
life is, you're ready to start life? Now are you
doing to be proactive in your life to get you

(05:07):
to where you need to be? What are you doing
every day that makes you one step closer to achieving
this goal? Right? I define self love as soul searching
and becoming whole. So in identifying this, another question you
can ask yourself is what is my passion? What sets

(05:30):
my soul on fire? You know what sparks joy inside
of me. And when you have the answer to these questions,
or you think you have the answer to these questions,
write them down. There's something really special about the simplicity
of a pen to paper. There's something so significant in that.

(05:52):
And in fact, studies do show that you have a
twenty percent chance of actually doing what you say going
to do when you write it down, as opposed to
maybe writing it in your phone or anything like that. And
of course, like I always say as a disclaimer, there
are always exceptions to the rule. Some people function very

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well by simply utilizing their phone, some people function well
by only writing things down, and then some people can
do both, so keep that in mind. But statistics do show,
or studies, i should say, do claim that writing things
down physically makes you more prone to actually doing what

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you wrote down. It's important to identify all of these things.
Ask yourself all of these questions and write them down.
Write them down so that you can always reflect on them.
If your mind changes, you can see how you were
thinking before you know Answering these questions are very thought provoking,

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and that's the point, because I want to get you
to think so that you can find the answers to
these things and be very specific and intentional in them
and work through them. Tip number three embrace being alone.
You know, I always tell people that you will spend

(07:20):
more time with someone than you are without, especially if
you are someone that aspires to get married, you know,
like myself included, So enjoy your time alone. Take advantage
of the fact that you are single, you are young,
You have your youth on your side. So it's not

(07:42):
to say, you know, I'm young, I'm just gonna do
any and everything. What it means is I'm taking advantage
of the fact that I'm young by exploring my options,
learning about myself, discovering my desires, discovering what I like,
what I dislike. All of these things matter. You want
to become the most whole you can possibly become. Become

(08:06):
whole period so that you are so fulfilled in life
that the only thing that's missing then is love. And
that's what I tell myself, that's what I aspire to have.
I want to be so whole and happy with myself
that the only thing that I'm missing is love from

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you know, another partner, And then that way I know
that I'm ready when the only thing missing is just
the love component that to me is what I define
as me being ready to actually settle down in a relationship.
So in my alone time, I'm taking time to date,

(08:50):
and aside from dating, I'm taking time to discover myself,
love myself, figure out who I am inside and out,
leveling up all of these things matter. And keep in mind,
you know, people can sense desperation and brokenness in people,

(09:12):
and that's why sometimes you tend to manifest the wrong
people around you because you're in a place where you
think you're ready to receive love, but you're not healed.
You still have, you know, pieces of yourself that need
to be sorted out, and you don't want to deal

(09:35):
with that. It's just easier and better for someone to
love you the way that you think you should, instead
of doing that for yourself first and then being an
asset to somebody else. Because I was even telling one
of my friends this, If you don't figure out who
you are, you don't find your voice, you're not adding

(09:56):
value to yourself. You're going to believe everything that everyone
ever tells you about yourself because you don't know yourself.
You know, until you figure out exactly who you are,
everything everyone says could possibly define you, because you don't

(10:16):
even know if that's true or not about yourself all
the time. Right. So with that being said, we're gonna
head right over into tip number four, which is heal yourself.
This is a crucial part of self love. Heal yourself.
Emotional baggage, insecurities, childhood traumas, depression, anxiety, all of these things.

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Face them and heal yourself. The best way that you
can pray about it, but faith with that works is dead,
So pray, be proactive in it. If you have to
speak to therapist, speak to a therapist. There's absolutely nothing
wrong with sharing your thoughts and hearing an outsider's perspective,

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a professional at that, and working out healthy ways on
how to deal with those issues, overcome those issues and
not allow them to manifest in other ways in your life.
A lot of the times, many people always think, oh
I got it, I'll figure it out, or they just
stay in their own heads and they're very they're not

(11:33):
proactive in trying to heal because they think, okay, just
more time, more time, more time. Okay, time does heal things.
But if you don't deal with it and you ignore
it and you allow time to pass. That's not really healing, right,
that's more of a band aid, that's not a cure.

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So we have to face our problems. We have to
face the fact and accept the fact. Hey, you know
what I'd love to, you know, see a therapist. It
doesn't mean that you're crazy. It actually means that you're
healthy and you want to seek a professional's help to
help you deal with situations in a healthy way. That's
all it is. You cannot have a healthy relationship with

(12:18):
yourself until you heal yourself. You cannot have a healthy
relationship with anyone else until you heal yourself. And this
is so important, And this made me think about and
reflect on let's say, even the last situation that I
was in when I stepped into that, I was not

(12:39):
in the best place mentally. I had a lot going on.
And you know, one of my subscribers, you know, pointed
out to me which was so obvious. She said, you
should never get into a relationship when you are not
in a good space, because what good could possible come

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from that. Yes, a person may help you, but you
have so much going on that you need to sort
out in yourself first. That having someone else enter into
that world and with all that they come with, whatever
that may be, and colliding it with yours can consume
you or just add to whatever it is that you're

(13:22):
bringing to the table. And it's just a big masquerade.
And I mean that like literally masks of never dealing
with your issues, you know, and the potential of, of
course it manifesting in other areas of your life. Heal yourself.

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Heal yourself. And lastly, tip number five, do something every
day towards your goal, in this particular case, self love,
which is, okay, what do I need to work on
about myself? What can I do to have a better day,

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what can I do to be more proactive, etc. Etc.
And as I've mentioned before, there's so much magic and
in writing things down. Don't skip that process. Don't skip
that step of writing down what you want to do.
A lot of success stories. Everyone has a similar story
of I had a vision board and I would look

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at it every day, and before I knew it, I
did most of the things that were on my vision board.
Or I woke up and I wrote down five things
that I was grateful for every day, and these things
came to me. I noticed that there's a similar story
with every successful person that they've sort of had this
you know, law of attraction belief, and they were proactive

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in doing something every day, whether that was writing down
what they were grateful for, you know, practicing positive affirmations,
praying you know about what it is that they want
faithfully and consistently. They all have this story that help

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shift the narrative and take them to the next level.
And I think it's so important that we are gentle
with ourselves, because myself included, I tend to be hard
on myself. You know, we are our worst critics and

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it's not easy, especially when you're someone that you know
is a perfectionist. But these tips are so important because
when you feel good, you do good. When you know better,
you do better. And with all of that in self discovery,
it's a fun journey. I am having the time of
my life right now because I've never felt so connected

(15:58):
ever in life. I feel so connected to God, to myself.
I feel so powerful. I know my value. I know
that I will not repeat certain mistakes ever in life
again because I know who I am in Christ, I
know who I am for myself, I know, and it's

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not going to take three seconds to just get over
it and heal yourself. Be realistic. And in this case,
this is where our youth benefits us because we have time,
especially when you're being proactive in it. The faster you
do this, then the faster you're able to heal and

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manifest and position yourself for all of the greatness in
your life that's to come. When you're confident, it adds
value to yourself. This is all a part of the
level up, by the way, right, takes dedication and work
and perseverance to get to a certain level, and that's

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why so few get there go there because it's one
of those roads that are less traveled. You know. That's
what separates hardworking people and successful people from other people
because they were willing to do what some people weren't.
They were willing to put in the dedication to become

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a better person, a successful person. They were willing to
do the work, and that is so much more attractive.
That makes you even more attractive. Instead of craving stability
and being unstable, I think it's very important to be

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stable yourself. And of course crave stability or desire stability.
It's a normal thing for women obviously, to you know,
want stability, but you cannot be a mess and expect
this to just fall in your lap. It doesn't work

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like that, Babe. Have your own interests and hobbies. Become
obsessed with self improvement, self discovery. It is so fun.
I literally feel like I'm dating myself and I'm very fun.
I'm just saying, so discover yourself. Who are you? You

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know what I mean. It's just I'm absolutely in love
with the process, one hundred percent in love with the process.
And I know for a fact that because this is
the route that I'm on, this is the path that
I'm on, that I am attracting greatness to me and
I'm manifesting that subconsciously. Even because I'm carrying myself in

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a different light, my aura is different. You know. Some
people could just look at you and say, I don't
know what it is, but something about you is just different. Yeah.
It's called self love, right, and the word is so

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overused that it almost loses its definition or we just
kind of don't even really know what it means. All
of these tips that I share with you guys, are
a part of implementing self love. So that is the
end of the video. Guys. I really hope that you
guys have enjoyed it. If you guys have any suggestions

(19:49):
of anything else that you guys would like me to
do a video on, please let me know in the
comment section. Be low, and of course, do not forget
to follow me on Instagram, subscribe to this channel and
tone on your post notifications so that you're notified every
single time that I post. And do not forget, of course,
my angels that I love you and God loves you.

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And I'll see you guys in my next video. Wow
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