June 11, 2025 • 32 mins
***The Asha Christina Tapes***
Stop Being Emotional: Logic vs. Emotion… In this classic episode, Asha discusses dating, love, and relationship advice video, I will explore three different scenarios and how to stop being emotional when dating and in relationships. It's easy to get caught up in our emotions and make impulsive decisions based on attraction and chemistry alone. If you want to learn the differences between logic and emotion and how to stop being emotional, then you need to embrace this relationship advice. While emotions are important to dating, relying on them alone can lead us astray. Getting lost in our emotions is easy when dating or looking for a partner. However, if you embrace this relationship advice for women, you will learn how to be logical and balance logic and emotions in relationships. It is crucial to stop being emotional in relationships and learn to be logical. If you are tired of getting caught up in the excitement of a new relationship, only to be left heartbroken later, take heed of this dating advice and learn how to be logical. Watch this relationship advice to the end to learn how to switch from emotions to logic when dating. I'm Just a girl who's trying to build a longer table instead of a fence. My goal is to help you transform your life with my combination of personal development, human psychology, sophistication, and inner and outer beauty tips. This video will give you clarity if you are asking the following questions or looking for;
Stop Being Emotional: Logic vs. Emotion… In this classic episode, Asha discusses dating, love, and relationship advice video, I will explore three different scenarios and how to stop being emotional when dating and in relationships. It's easy to get caught up in our emotions and make impulsive decisions based on attraction and chemistry alone. If you want to learn the differences between logic and emotion and how to stop being emotional, then you need to embrace this relationship advice. While emotions are important to dating, relying on them alone can lead us astray. Getting lost in our emotions is easy when dating or looking for a partner. However, if you embrace this relationship advice for women, you will learn how to be logical and balance logic and emotions in relationships. It is crucial to stop being emotional in relationships and learn to be logical. If you are tired of getting caught up in the excitement of a new relationship, only to be left heartbroken later, take heed of this dating advice and learn how to be logical. Watch this relationship advice to the end to learn how to switch from emotions to logic when dating. I'm Just a girl who's trying to build a longer table instead of a fence. My goal is to help you transform your life with my combination of personal development, human psychology, sophistication, and inner and outer beauty tips. This video will give you clarity if you are asking the following questions or looking for;
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 1 (00:11):
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every single time that I post. At the moment, it's
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which you also should, which will be right here, then
you would know that I've been renovating my room.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
YadA, YadA, YadA.
Speaker 1 (00:38):
It's been a very difficult time trying to navigate my
filming schedule, cleaning up my room and all this stuff.
Speaker 2 (00:44):
Let's just jump right into the video.
Speaker 1 (00:46):
So, as you can see from the title, this video
is about logic versus emotion. As women, we are emotional, period,
that is just how we are.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
Men are very physical, so what drives us.
Speaker 1 (01:01):
Whether that be a similar situation, our reactions will be different.
Women are nurturers, men are hunters and providers. And with
that being said, as women, we just get so caught
up in our emotions a lot of the time that
we're not able to see clearly no matter how obvious
(01:23):
the answer may be, or no matter how silly the
situation that we're in may be, and until we check that,
it will always be our biggest downfall. So this is
kind of like a teaching episode, right. I like to
be as thorough and articulate as I can. So what
exactly does logic mean? Logic, according to the Cambridge English Dictionary,
(01:48):
is defined as a particular way of thinking, especially one
that is reasonable and based on good judgment. Now I
do not judge, genuinely, I do not, But the amount
of dms that I receive, countless, countless stories that my
heart sincerely goes out to all these ladies that are
(02:11):
experiencing these nightmare situations with.
Speaker 2 (02:15):
A lot of these guys that they're involved with.
Speaker 1 (02:17):
And I'm almost certain that if you ladies were to
read some of the dms that you send me out loud,
that you would see the simple solution to some of
the things that you're asking. But then, on the contrary,
I also know that you know we've all been there where.
No matter how obvious something is, it always helps to
sometimes have someone else state the obvious, no matter what
(02:40):
it is that we're going through, and the main issue
always remains that we're too caught up in our emotions
to see the blatant facts and we don't read actions
as they are. So with that being said, now that
we know the definition of logic, let's look at the
(03:02):
definition of emotion. The Google definition of emotion is a natural,
instinctive state of mind that derives from a person circumstances, mood,
or relationships with others. Feelings are temporary. I'm sure I've
said this in other videos before. Okay, feelings are temporary.
(03:24):
Feelings will set you back sometimes if you believe them.
Speaker 2 (03:29):
I know I've said that for sure in another video.
Speaker 1 (03:31):
Feelings are not always reliable, and that's the main issue.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
We have to accept that.
Speaker 1 (03:39):
And as women, of course, you know a part of
learning the game is to know your weakness and to
work around that.
Speaker 2 (03:49):
Makes sense.
Speaker 1 (03:50):
So I'm just going to give some examples of random situations,
some of them I've been DMed about. I'm only going
to give three main way though, because we can go
on and on and on about this subject forever and ever.
I'm going to explain how the person allowed emotion to
run the relationship or ruin the relationship, and I'm also
(04:14):
going to state the logical perspective of how that person
should have handled the situation. So this one actually is
a DM that I received, and basically the situation was
a girl had explained to me she was dating a
guy for about a month, I believe, she said, and
she happened to check his phone and she saw that
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he was dming other girls, and when she confronted him
about it, obviously, she stated that he felt so guilty
that he said, it's just a DM, like it's not
that serious, obviously minimizing the situation. Then she also goes
on to say that he liked an ex's photo, and
(04:57):
when she confronted him about that, he said, that's just
a picture, it's just Instagram. She proceeds to break up
with him, to get back with him two seconds later
because he apologized for it and allegedly claims that he
loves her. They are both in college and they when
(05:19):
they go on breaks. They live in two different states,
so they are inevitab They go to the same school,
so obviously they got together because they go to the
same school, but really they live in two different states.
And the girl who DMed me was saying, is she overthinking?
And is she being insecure? And my first initial thing
(05:40):
is me being older. Now, you know, there's certain things
that we have to go through in life. Like I
explain to you guys in some of my other videos,
you can't skip certain struggles in life. You can't skip
getting your heart broken or being disappointed in a relationship.
Speaker 2 (05:55):
At least one time.
Speaker 1 (05:57):
You cannot skip that process because you have to learn
from it.
Speaker 2 (06:02):
And that's just also a regular part of life.
Speaker 1 (06:05):
You're still very fairly young, so this situation from an
older perspective, me only being three years older, but being
very wise from my experiences, my friend's experiences.
Speaker 2 (06:18):
Off the bat, I will tell you that it is college. Okay.
Speaker 1 (06:23):
There is a very slim chance, especially if you got
you guys are clearly dormers there, you guys dorm He's
not going to only be talking to you amongst all
the girls in this school. He doesn't even live in
that state, neither do you. The party's going on his
guy friends, you know, telling him, bro, we get that girl.
Speaker 2 (06:43):
We get this girl, and then also him being young.
Speaker 1 (06:47):
Now I don't know your age, but I'm assuming you
are definitely in between the ages of eighteen to twenty
one for sure.
Speaker 2 (06:54):
And.
Speaker 1 (06:56):
Checking his phone a month in is kind of setting
yourself up for the inevitable of what you were gonna see.
All you saw was what he was exactly doing. He's
not sorry, he say he got caught. There's a difference
him saying that he loves you. How let's look at
the actions here right. The action is you saw that
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he was dming other girls. When you brought it up,
he said, it's just a picture, It's just a DM.
Then why would you feel the need to send a message.
And from your perspective, you're thinking, why would you feel
the need to send a message to another girl or
like your ex's photo?
Speaker 2 (07:39):
If you claim that you love me, if you claim
that you're only.
Speaker 1 (07:42):
With me, So your emotional mistake is one getting back
with him after you saw what you saw.
Speaker 2 (07:50):
The evidence was what it was. That will not change.
Speaker 1 (07:54):
I guarantee you if you go to his phone, go
on his phone right now, you're gonna see that he's
dming more girls. It just doesn't stop there. He doesn't
take you serious. Twenty one year old guys are not
really going to take you serious, unless if you're in
a relationship that stems out of high school. And I
mean if you guys go to different colleges. I mean, heck,
that thing's even going to end. Not to be pessimistic,
(08:16):
but to be realistic. Right, all of his actions, let's
look from a logical perspective. Now, all of his actions
are showing that he's not invested in you. If first
of all, he's you guys spend you know, four months,
this is a.
Speaker 2 (08:34):
Fairly new relationship.
Speaker 1 (08:35):
And then as soon as you guys leave, you guys
are spending four months, you know, away from each other.
Do you think that he's what waiting around for you?
I know that this is harsh, and we'd love to
think that. Oh yeah, well I FaceTime him every day.
There's no way that he's talking to other girls. Listen,
let's stop giving guys credit for simple things. It takes
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zero effort from a male perspective to shoot you a
text and say Hey, what's up, what are you doing?
Speaker 2 (09:03):
Hey are you free tonight? Hey are you available anytime
this week? It doesn't take any effort.
Speaker 1 (09:08):
Stop thinking and reading too much into the most minimal things.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
We've all been there.
Speaker 1 (09:13):
Let's be honest and thinking that, oh my gosh, he
must really care about me. Men are capable of saying
anything for any reason, right to get something that they want.
Let's say you guys have already been intimate with each other.
He could just feel like he could feel guilt and feel, oh, well,
I might as well keep her around because I kind
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of feel bad. Or he could think I might as
well keep her around because she's gonna stay regardless, because
that's the message that you sent to him instantly when
you took him back after he got caught doing what
he was doing. If he's liking an ex's photo, he's
not over the X. If he's dming a girl on Instagram,
he's not that invested in you, and he's certainly not
(09:56):
in love with you. He how could he be in
love with you? You guys have been together for what a month?
He's not in love with you? And I think also, Babe,
deep down, you instinctively know the truth, and you're undoing
it and using your emotion to deny what is obvious. Okay,
(10:16):
A logical perspective would say something like, Okay, we're young,
we're in college. Normal twenty one year old guys that
are away in school. The last thing they're thinking of
is I can't wait to go to school and get
a girlfriend. You know, Like, that's really not how it works.
The objective is how many girls can I get in
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this school?
Speaker 2 (10:38):
Bro?
Speaker 1 (10:38):
There's so many and I live here now, I live
with a bunch of different girls, and I have so
many options from freshmen all the way to senior.
Speaker 2 (10:47):
If I can where I could get in, I'm going
to fit in. Okay.
Speaker 1 (10:51):
So what I would have done if you still wanted
to entertain him being young, you do have the time.
Speaker 2 (10:57):
You could have saw that and played the game.
Speaker 1 (11:01):
Then from that point on, reciprocate the same behavior. Make
him chase you with that effort. If he does that,
if he follows suit with that, he's going to start
investing more on you, kind of seeing.
Speaker 2 (11:14):
How you feel.
Speaker 1 (11:15):
So if you would have saw the DMS and said, okay, well,
I'm just going to start distancing myself from him. Could
have done that and then gage his reaction towards you
doing that to start testing if he cares and it's
not going to come in a month okay, because it
barely even comes to twenty one year olds in the
beginning anyway, Right, certain things, like I said, are just unavoidable.
(11:37):
You just start doing your own thing simply, that's what
it is. And more than likely I would say that
it would eventually dissipate into a mutual cessation of interest
or he would just move on as if nothing really happened,
and you guys, weren't really a thing anyway, you know
what I mean?
Speaker 2 (11:54):
Because why his attention isn't clearly focused on just you?
Speaker 1 (12:00):
And you could have easily tested that before if you
saw what you saw.
Speaker 2 (12:04):
And you didn't say anything.
Speaker 1 (12:06):
And that's the bottom line, because a month in realistically,
is too early for anybody to expect anyone to just
drop all the people that they're involved with, because what
do I always say, where's the emotional insurance? He didn't
emotionally invest anything in you, but words, and those words
are catering to your emotions.
Speaker 2 (12:28):
So when you look back logically and you think.
Speaker 1 (12:31):
About his explanation, and his explanation was it's just a DM,
it's just a picture.
Speaker 2 (12:37):
Okay, Well I'm just gonna stop talking to you.
Speaker 1 (12:39):
Then let's see how you like that one, you know,
first mistake was going back?
Speaker 2 (12:45):
That was that? Another example I'm gonna give.
Speaker 1 (12:48):
So there was this guy that I knew and he
was seeing this girl and their relationship was off and
on numerous years, and when she wanted to finally commit
to him, they actually broke up because she wanted more
(13:08):
of a commitment. So obviously, saying this out loud, you
guys probably can't agree with me. Think they were together
for all of these years, then why would they break
up if all of a sudden she wanted a commitment.
Weren't they together anyway? Guys, this situation is ridiculous. I
can't even begin to understand. Like my brain, it just
(13:34):
it doesn't it doesn't you know. Anyway, about a month
went by, he was seeing other people, and she comes
back into the picture.
Speaker 2 (13:44):
Hey, I miss us, I miss all the fun times
that we had.
Speaker 1 (13:51):
I want to come over today to you know, hang
out like old times. Oh okay, Well, he's just going
to keep using you like old time. And unfortunately, in
her situation, whether she sees it or not, whether she
will ever come to this conclusion and stop wasting her
youth on someone who is wasting her time.
Speaker 2 (14:10):
Because I asked this person myself. I said, if you
know that this.
Speaker 1 (14:14):
Person, this girl loves you, clearly she loves you, do
you have any intention of marrying her? And he said no,
I don't, And to be honest, I wish that she
would find someone else, because I'd actually genuinely be happy
for her.
Speaker 2 (14:28):
That is called a placeholder chick.
Speaker 1 (14:32):
A placeholder chick, she is just holding a place for
someone else that if he ever does decide to settle down,
he'll be with the other girl because this girl over here,
the placeholder chick, has waited for him while he saw
other people this whole time. He told me, he was
seeing other people basically the entire duration of their relationship,
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and for six years at that. Ladies, do not ever
waste your time, your youth, six years with someone that
has zero commitment with you, meaning you are not their girlfriend.
They are not your boyfriend, but they're doing boyfriend things,
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going to meet your family, but they're not your boyfriend.
You guys call each other babe, but you're not actually together.
You guys go on vacation together, but he's not your boyfriend.
But if you check his phone it'll be an issue
because well, you already know how I am like.
Speaker 2 (15:38):
You know that I you know, I'm not really exclusive to.
Speaker 1 (15:41):
You, but it gets overshadowed and washed over because he's
doing boyfriend things, you're doing girlfriend things, and emotionally you're
just thinking, well, I'm assuming that we're together because we've
been together for all this time, and I accept the
fact that he's going to be talking to other people.
Speaker 2 (15:58):
But maybe if I.
Speaker 1 (15:59):
Wait around longer, maybe when I turn thirty, he'll finally
see that I've been here all this time, and I've
been waiting and I just want to be with him. Unfortunately, no,
there are chances are shot. If you had a real chance,
he wouldn't have been seeing other people, And if you
had any real self respect for yourself, you wouldn't accept
(16:22):
something like that. Right, harsh, somebody's got to say this thing.
You have to value yourself enough, ladies. Okay, I don't
know how many different times or different languages I could
say this thing. To not accept behavior like that, where
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you are a placeholder waiting for a grown man to
get his act together.
Speaker 2 (16:50):
Or waiting for a immature twenty one year old to
get their act together. They have a long way to go.
Speaker 1 (16:57):
Okay, and you're just wasting years on your life, wasting, wasting, wasting,
wishing and hoping, and then before you know it, you
don't even bring into question what are we because you
justified in your head, well I've been here this long,
so I mean I might as well say no, go
what's changing? When you text him what changed? Like, do
(17:23):
you think he's going to change his mind? And say,
you know what, I was thinking about it? And after
all these years of not actually being in love with you,
I think I actually want to commit.
Speaker 2 (17:33):
Now?
Speaker 1 (17:34):
How do you spend six years with someone that has
invested in you emotionally, financially and they still don't love you? Ladies,
Men are very capable. Men are very capable of pulling
stunts like that, and it fools us women because we
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are not that way innately, where it's like, Okay, the
longer I spend with you, you, the more I do for you,
I will you know, end up you know, loving you.
Speaker 2 (18:06):
For men, they will do regular.
Speaker 1 (18:09):
Boyfriend things, act like they're in a full blown relationship
with you and still not want to be with you,
keep you and whatever circumstances you're coming with, because they
already know they have the leverage and the upper hand
because they know that clearly you're just going to put
up with whatever and whoever and then leave you and
go for the chick that they actually really want. Don't
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let that be you, Okay, the logical standpoint of that,
as soon as she texted that message of hey, I
think we should talk. I want to kind of take
this to the next level. We've been together for a
long time now. It doesn't make sense for us to
not be at least considering marriage at this point. And
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he said, well, you should go find that because you know,
you know, that's not something that I wanted. So not
only did you know that he never wanted to get married,
but you also confirmed it. You just heard it come
out of his mouth, you saw him type that, and
you came back after that.
Speaker 2 (19:11):
Logically, you should have said.
Speaker 1 (19:13):
Okay, great, you know I will always have love for you,
but if you can't simply give me what I want,
I'm not wasting any more of my time.
Speaker 2 (19:23):
I don't care what the history is.
Speaker 1 (19:25):
Don't ever be afraid to leave, because guys will not
be afraid to leave you for who they actually really want.
I don't care if you were with that person for
ten years it happens, and that's just how they move.
You played the bob, the builder chick, the side chick,
the any chick that's not the girlfriend chick, okay, or
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the main.
Speaker 2 (19:49):
Chick as people call it these days, and you're playing
yourself the fifty to fifty chick, you know, the pick
me chick. Oh, I'm down for you. I'm right or
die for you.
Speaker 1 (20:03):
Let you do whatever, thinking that the more I yes
him to death, he'll stick around. He'll want to be
around me because I let him do whatever. I mean,
why wouldn't he.
Speaker 2 (20:12):
Want to pick me?
Speaker 1 (20:15):
He doesn't want to pick you because you're a pick
me chick. Men like challenges. You're not a challenge. The
expiration date is beyond expired. Beyond expiration. Give it up.
You're done, access denied, and you should leave, hands down.
Speaker 2 (20:39):
He's wasting your time. He's never going to marry you, okay.
Speaker 1 (20:43):
Next, the third example that I want to give is
a subscriber I believe dms me and she sent me
a bunch of voice notes and she was basically saying
that she was seeing this guy for six months and
say what she presumed were in a full born relationship.
He was intimate with him quite soon, sooner than she
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normally would be.
Speaker 2 (21:05):
I don't remember the timeframe of that.
Speaker 1 (21:07):
She saw certain things in his phone typical, and she
said on his birthday, she went to his house to
you know, surprise him at midnight, I believe, And when
she went to go knock on his door, he opened
the door shocked to see her and didn't want to
let her in. There was another girl in the house.
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He said, Oh, she's leaving now, so you can actually stay.
What is going on here?
Speaker 2 (21:41):
Okay?
Speaker 1 (21:42):
I remember she said that she stayed or she left,
But then she also proceeds to say that she went
over his house another time, just to, I guess, do
a drive by, and she saw his car in the
driveway and he was kissing another girl in his car.
She proceeds to say, Asha, what should I do, babe?
Speaker 2 (22:08):
Leave?
Speaker 1 (22:10):
But you're clearly so emotionally invested that your brain is
undoing what you're actually seeing. You saw he had a
girl in his home and then says, hey, she's leaving.
You can sleep over now. On his birthday, he was
surprised to see you. But you guys, were in an
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alleged relationship for six months. You also saw him kissing
another girl, you know, in his car, and the fact
that you're even doing drive bys to his house clearly
just means that you don't trust him anyways.
Speaker 2 (22:50):
The fact that you.
Speaker 1 (22:51):
Have to have that extra security and honestly do crazy
girlfriend tactics, that type of stuff doesn't win because men
don't really care about the subs you put on Facebook, Instagram,
you know, the heartbroken posts from these poet people on Instagram.
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They don't care about the you know, the drive buys
or anything like that, because they're still doing what it
is that they want to do. They're sending a clear
message of you can either accept this or you can
just leave.
Speaker 2 (23:26):
That's the message that he's sending across.
Speaker 1 (23:28):
So the second you try to get back with him
and you start questioning yourself, is it me? Is it
something that I did? How is it that men do
all these things to us? And we question ourselves asking
if it's because of us? Did I do something wrong?
Where did I go wrong? They just don't want to
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be with you except that reality.
Speaker 2 (23:53):
Move on. This is the thing.
Speaker 1 (23:55):
I have to post another video actually about emotional detachment.
That's an other video within itself. Because if he's not
invested in you. Like I said in another video emotional insurance.
You're investing in him for why now your heartbroken?
Speaker 2 (24:16):
For why breaking your own heart?
Speaker 1 (24:18):
Because why logically the second that you saw that he
had another girl you should have left ended it there
the fact that you had to go buy for confirmation
just to actually see another instance of him with another person.
There is no salvagingness. He doesn't care. Look at his actions.
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He doesn't care. Why should you?
Speaker 2 (24:45):
You know?
Speaker 1 (24:45):
At the end of the day, men like women who
control their emotions, instead of us thinking am I good enough?
Am I doing enough? That's what men need to feel.
They like to chase, They like to know.
Speaker 2 (24:59):
Am I going to be good for her?
Speaker 1 (25:00):
Does she want me? We have this whole thing wrong.
We're thinking this when this is how they're supposed to
be thinking. Okay, don't ever be afraid to walk away
from a situation that isn't serving you. I made a
promise to myself, and I said, you know, especially after
you know certain hardships, that I would never.
Speaker 2 (25:23):
Break my own heart, inflict.
Speaker 1 (25:26):
My own wound by letting my emotions get the best
of me and think that something means more than it doesn't.
If you're confused, if you don't know if your intuition
is trying to warn you about something, it is because
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what you're thinking is a reality. We have been given
this gift of intuition, and I always say you have
to trust that.
Speaker 2 (25:55):
You know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (25:56):
At the end of the day, ladies, we all know
what it feels like when a guy really likes us.
And you know, a lot of the times, you know,
we've all experienced those guys.
Speaker 2 (26:08):
That like us, but we don't really pay attention to them.
Speaker 1 (26:10):
They're not our type, YadA, YadA, YadA, but they relentlessly
pursue us.
Speaker 2 (26:15):
That is the same relentless.
Speaker 1 (26:17):
Pursuits that the person you're interested in needs to have
in you. Because where we go wrong is we compromise
and we forget that and what that feels like, and
we start doing the chasing to prove that we're worthy,
we're the good girlfriend, we're wifey material. All of these
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things ain't no, no more e enough.
Speaker 2 (26:44):
That is the man's job. He's providing, he's taking care
of you.
Speaker 1 (26:51):
He has to be emotionally invested or your emotions go nowhere.
Speaker 2 (26:56):
That's it.
Speaker 1 (26:57):
Keep it tight, keep it under control, Okay, you have
to because it is way easier for us to fall
than it is for men.
Speaker 2 (27:11):
And that's just science.
Speaker 1 (27:16):
So the next time you find yourself in a situation
where you're even confused when things go the right way,
it's because they're going the right way for a reason.
The second you find a bump in the road and
you're questioning, did that really mean that? Or you're leaving
his house and you're taking inventory of what he said
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if he meant it? Who you know, who's scrunchy? Was
that in the bathroom? I opened up his draw and
I saw a bracelet. Hello, these are all actual signs.
Do not let well, we've been together for like three months,
so that could be something old, or.
Speaker 2 (28:04):
Maybe he was gonna surprise me with that.
Speaker 1 (28:06):
Stop just stop. Don't ever be afraid to walk away.
Your quality, queen. Quality queens, do not behave like that.
Fifty to fifty chicks, Bob the Builder chicks, pick me chicks,
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masculine woman traits where you're you know.
Speaker 2 (28:31):
Misindependent and you don't need a man.
Speaker 1 (28:34):
And I want to add this into you can still
be establishing your career, ambitious, intelligent, all of these things
and still want someone that's going.
Speaker 2 (28:45):
To provide for you.
Speaker 1 (28:46):
You can still be independent in all of these things.
Why does you wanting someone to provide for you? To
translate as you don't you shouldn't be ambitious, you shouldn't
have a career. You're just waiting around for someone to
do something for you. That's not the case, because the
science of it all is I can have whatever I
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need to have that I'm coming with, But this is
your job. This is my job as a woman to nurture,
have children. I can still have my own, my own thing,
but it is a man's job to provide. If he
cannot do that, the rule switch. Things start getting confusing.
Speaker 2 (29:31):
Does that make sense?
Speaker 1 (29:33):
If you're splitting bills, it's emasculating for him. And while
he's splitting the bill with you getting his act together,
he's gonna build.
Speaker 2 (29:42):
Himself up to go be with someone else that he
can actually take care of. Why.
Speaker 1 (29:47):
Because it's innate for men to be providers. So stop
with the I don't need a man mantras.
Speaker 2 (29:56):
Enough be single in be single.
Speaker 1 (30:02):
But for the rest of us that want to be
good at this game, this is how you have to
play it. Remove emotion, Stop listening to what's being said
to you, and look at actions.
Speaker 2 (30:20):
I can't even stress this enough.
Speaker 1 (30:22):
How many different instances where the inevitables right there, their
actions are not lining up with their words. I really
like you so much, but you don't ask me out
on dates. You know, you don't pay ignitiative to see
me every week. You're not texting me, you know, on
a consistent basis, you're not calling me at all. You
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want to be pen pals all day and you think
that that somehow equates to caring and you know what
I mean, like, no, no, The.
Speaker 2 (30:56):
Answer is just no. Okay, guys. So that is the
end of this.
Speaker 1 (31:00):
I hope that you ladies, learned a lot from this video.
This is such a common instance that all of us
have faced, some of us are facing it.
Speaker 2 (31:13):
You know.
Speaker 1 (31:14):
The beautiful thing is it's never too late to change,
no matter the circumstance. If you're not happy, don't settle.
The worst thing you could do is settle for something
that you simply don't want. Why should you? There's a
million billion people in this universe. Don't we all deserve
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to know what happiness really feels like? Why do we
think that it's normal to accept struggle, love, it's not
that ends today, that ends right now.
Speaker 2 (31:50):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (31:52):
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Speaker 2 (00:44):
Let's just jump right into the video.
Speaker 1 (00:46):
So, as you can see from the title, this video
is about logic versus emotion. As women, we are emotional, period,
that is just how we are.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
Men are very physical, so what drives us.
Speaker 1 (01:01):
Whether that be a similar situation, our reactions will be different.
Women are nurturers, men are hunters and providers. And with
that being said, as women, we just get so caught
up in our emotions a lot of the time that
we're not able to see clearly no matter how obvious
(01:23):
the answer may be, or no matter how silly the
situation that we're in may be, and until we check that,
it will always be our biggest downfall. So this is
kind of like a teaching episode, right. I like to
be as thorough and articulate as I can. So what
exactly does logic mean? Logic, according to the Cambridge English Dictionary,
(01:48):
is defined as a particular way of thinking, especially one
that is reasonable and based on good judgment. Now I
do not judge, genuinely, I do not, But the amount
of dms that I receive, countless, countless stories that my
heart sincerely goes out to all these ladies that are
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experiencing these nightmare situations with.
Speaker 2 (02:15):
A lot of these guys that they're involved with.
Speaker 1 (02:17):
And I'm almost certain that if you ladies were to
read some of the dms that you send me out loud,
that you would see the simple solution to some of
the things that you're asking. But then, on the contrary,
I also know that you know we've all been there where.
No matter how obvious something is, it always helps to
sometimes have someone else state the obvious, no matter what
(02:40):
it is that we're going through, and the main issue
always remains that we're too caught up in our emotions
to see the blatant facts and we don't read actions
as they are. So with that being said, now that
we know the definition of logic, let's look at the
(03:02):
definition of emotion. The Google definition of emotion is a natural,
instinctive state of mind that derives from a person circumstances, mood,
or relationships with others. Feelings are temporary. I'm sure I've
said this in other videos before. Okay, feelings are temporary.
(03:24):
Feelings will set you back sometimes if you believe them.
Speaker 2 (03:29):
I know I've said that for sure in another video.
Speaker 1 (03:31):
Feelings are not always reliable, and that's the main issue.
Speaker 2 (03:36):
We have to accept that.
Speaker 1 (03:39):
And as women, of course, you know a part of
learning the game is to know your weakness and to
work around that.
Speaker 2 (03:49):
Makes sense.
Speaker 1 (03:50):
So I'm just going to give some examples of random situations,
some of them I've been DMed about. I'm only going
to give three main way though, because we can go
on and on and on about this subject forever and ever.
I'm going to explain how the person allowed emotion to
run the relationship or ruin the relationship, and I'm also
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going to state the logical perspective of how that person
should have handled the situation. So this one actually is
a DM that I received, and basically the situation was
a girl had explained to me she was dating a
guy for about a month, I believe, she said, and
she happened to check his phone and she saw that
(04:36):
he was dming other girls, and when she confronted him
about it, obviously, she stated that he felt so guilty
that he said, it's just a DM, like it's not
that serious, obviously minimizing the situation. Then she also goes
on to say that he liked an ex's photo, and
(04:57):
when she confronted him about that, he said, that's just
a picture, it's just Instagram. She proceeds to break up
with him, to get back with him two seconds later
because he apologized for it and allegedly claims that he
loves her. They are both in college and they when
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they go on breaks. They live in two different states,
so they are inevitab They go to the same school,
so obviously they got together because they go to the
same school, but really they live in two different states.
And the girl who DMed me was saying, is she overthinking?
And is she being insecure? And my first initial thing
(05:40):
is me being older. Now, you know, there's certain things
that we have to go through in life. Like I
explain to you guys in some of my other videos,
you can't skip certain struggles in life. You can't skip
getting your heart broken or being disappointed in a relationship.
Speaker 2 (05:55):
At least one time.
Speaker 1 (05:57):
You cannot skip that process because you have to learn
from it.
Speaker 2 (06:02):
And that's just also a regular part of life.
Speaker 1 (06:05):
You're still very fairly young, so this situation from an
older perspective, me only being three years older, but being
very wise from my experiences, my friend's experiences.
Speaker 2 (06:18):
Off the bat, I will tell you that it is college. Okay.
Speaker 1 (06:23):
There is a very slim chance, especially if you got
you guys are clearly dormers there, you guys dorm He's
not going to only be talking to you amongst all
the girls in this school. He doesn't even live in
that state, neither do you. The party's going on his
guy friends, you know, telling him, bro, we get that girl.
Speaker 2 (06:43):
We get this girl, and then also him being young.
Speaker 1 (06:47):
Now I don't know your age, but I'm assuming you
are definitely in between the ages of eighteen to twenty
one for sure.
Speaker 2 (06:54):
And.
Speaker 1 (06:56):
Checking his phone a month in is kind of setting
yourself up for the inevitable of what you were gonna see.
All you saw was what he was exactly doing. He's
not sorry, he say he got caught. There's a difference
him saying that he loves you. How let's look at
the actions here right. The action is you saw that
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he was dming other girls. When you brought it up,
he said, it's just a picture, It's just a DM.
Then why would you feel the need to send a message.
And from your perspective, you're thinking, why would you feel
the need to send a message to another girl or
like your ex's photo?
Speaker 2 (07:39):
If you claim that you love me, if you claim
that you're only.
Speaker 1 (07:42):
With me, So your emotional mistake is one getting back
with him after you saw what you saw.
Speaker 2 (07:50):
The evidence was what it was. That will not change.
Speaker 1 (07:54):
I guarantee you if you go to his phone, go
on his phone right now, you're gonna see that he's
dming more girls. It just doesn't stop there. He doesn't
take you serious. Twenty one year old guys are not
really going to take you serious, unless if you're in
a relationship that stems out of high school. And I
mean if you guys go to different colleges. I mean, heck,
that thing's even going to end. Not to be pessimistic,
(08:16):
but to be realistic. Right, all of his actions, let's
look from a logical perspective. Now, all of his actions
are showing that he's not invested in you. If first
of all, he's you guys spend you know, four months,
this is a.
Speaker 2 (08:34):
Fairly new relationship.
Speaker 1 (08:35):
And then as soon as you guys leave, you guys
are spending four months, you know, away from each other.
Do you think that he's what waiting around for you?
I know that this is harsh, and we'd love to
think that. Oh yeah, well I FaceTime him every day.
There's no way that he's talking to other girls. Listen,
let's stop giving guys credit for simple things. It takes
(08:56):
zero effort from a male perspective to shoot you a
text and say Hey, what's up, what are you doing?
Speaker 2 (09:03):
Hey are you free tonight? Hey are you available anytime
this week? It doesn't take any effort.
Speaker 1 (09:08):
Stop thinking and reading too much into the most minimal things.
Speaker 2 (09:12):
We've all been there.
Speaker 1 (09:13):
Let's be honest and thinking that, oh my gosh, he
must really care about me. Men are capable of saying
anything for any reason, right to get something that they want.
Let's say you guys have already been intimate with each other.
He could just feel like he could feel guilt and feel, oh, well,
I might as well keep her around because I kind
(09:34):
of feel bad. Or he could think I might as
well keep her around because she's gonna stay regardless, because
that's the message that you sent to him instantly when
you took him back after he got caught doing what
he was doing. If he's liking an ex's photo, he's
not over the X. If he's dming a girl on Instagram,
he's not that invested in you, and he's certainly not
(09:56):
in love with you. He how could he be in
love with you? You guys have been together for what a month?
He's not in love with you? And I think also, Babe,
deep down, you instinctively know the truth, and you're undoing
it and using your emotion to deny what is obvious. Okay,
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A logical perspective would say something like, Okay, we're young,
we're in college. Normal twenty one year old guys that
are away in school. The last thing they're thinking of
is I can't wait to go to school and get
a girlfriend. You know, Like, that's really not how it works.
The objective is how many girls can I get in
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this school?
Speaker 2 (10:38):
Bro?
Speaker 1 (10:38):
There's so many and I live here now, I live
with a bunch of different girls, and I have so
many options from freshmen all the way to senior.
Speaker 2 (10:47):
If I can where I could get in, I'm going
to fit in. Okay.
Speaker 1 (10:51):
So what I would have done if you still wanted
to entertain him being young, you do have the time.
Speaker 2 (10:57):
You could have saw that and played the game.
Speaker 1 (11:01):
Then from that point on, reciprocate the same behavior. Make
him chase you with that effort. If he does that,
if he follows suit with that, he's going to start
investing more on you, kind of seeing.
Speaker 2 (11:14):
How you feel.
Speaker 1 (11:15):
So if you would have saw the DMS and said, okay, well,
I'm just going to start distancing myself from him. Could
have done that and then gage his reaction towards you
doing that to start testing if he cares and it's
not going to come in a month okay, because it
barely even comes to twenty one year olds in the
beginning anyway, Right, certain things, like I said, are just unavoidable.
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You just start doing your own thing simply, that's what
it is. And more than likely I would say that
it would eventually dissipate into a mutual cessation of interest
or he would just move on as if nothing really happened,
and you guys, weren't really a thing anyway, you know
what I mean?
Speaker 2 (11:54):
Because why his attention isn't clearly focused on just you?
Speaker 1 (12:00):
And you could have easily tested that before if you
saw what you saw.
Speaker 2 (12:04):
And you didn't say anything.
Speaker 1 (12:06):
And that's the bottom line, because a month in realistically,
is too early for anybody to expect anyone to just
drop all the people that they're involved with, because what
do I always say, where's the emotional insurance? He didn't
emotionally invest anything in you, but words, and those words
are catering to your emotions.
Speaker 2 (12:28):
So when you look back logically and you think.
Speaker 1 (12:31):
About his explanation, and his explanation was it's just a DM,
it's just a picture.
Speaker 2 (12:37):
Okay, Well I'm just gonna stop talking to you.
Speaker 1 (12:39):
Then let's see how you like that one, you know,
first mistake was going back?
Speaker 2 (12:45):
That was that? Another example I'm gonna give.
Speaker 1 (12:48):
So there was this guy that I knew and he
was seeing this girl and their relationship was off and
on numerous years, and when she wanted to finally commit
to him, they actually broke up because she wanted more
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of a commitment. So obviously, saying this out loud, you
guys probably can't agree with me. Think they were together
for all of these years, then why would they break
up if all of a sudden she wanted a commitment.
Weren't they together anyway? Guys, this situation is ridiculous. I
can't even begin to understand. Like my brain, it just
(13:34):
it doesn't it doesn't you know. Anyway, about a month
went by, he was seeing other people, and she comes
back into the picture.
Speaker 2 (13:44):
Hey, I miss us, I miss all the fun times
that we had.
Speaker 1 (13:51):
I want to come over today to you know, hang
out like old times. Oh okay, Well, he's just going
to keep using you like old time. And unfortunately, in
her situation, whether she sees it or not, whether she
will ever come to this conclusion and stop wasting her
youth on someone who is wasting her time.
Speaker 2 (14:10):
Because I asked this person myself. I said, if you
know that this.
Speaker 1 (14:14):
Person, this girl loves you, clearly she loves you, do
you have any intention of marrying her? And he said no,
I don't, And to be honest, I wish that she
would find someone else, because I'd actually genuinely be happy
for her.
Speaker 2 (14:28):
That is called a placeholder chick.
Speaker 1 (14:32):
A placeholder chick, she is just holding a place for
someone else that if he ever does decide to settle down,
he'll be with the other girl because this girl over here,
the placeholder chick, has waited for him while he saw
other people this whole time. He told me, he was
seeing other people basically the entire duration of their relationship,
(14:55):
and for six years at that. Ladies, do not ever
waste your time, your youth, six years with someone that
has zero commitment with you, meaning you are not their girlfriend.
They are not your boyfriend, but they're doing boyfriend things,
(15:18):
going to meet your family, but they're not your boyfriend.
You guys call each other babe, but you're not actually together.
You guys go on vacation together, but he's not your boyfriend.
But if you check his phone it'll be an issue
because well, you already know how I am like.
Speaker 2 (15:38):
You know that I you know, I'm not really exclusive to.
Speaker 1 (15:41):
You, but it gets overshadowed and washed over because he's
doing boyfriend things, you're doing girlfriend things, and emotionally you're
just thinking, well, I'm assuming that we're together because we've
been together for all this time, and I accept the
fact that he's going to be talking to other people.
Speaker 2 (15:58):
But maybe if I.
Speaker 1 (15:59):
Wait around longer, maybe when I turn thirty, he'll finally
see that I've been here all this time, and I've
been waiting and I just want to be with him. Unfortunately, no,
there are chances are shot. If you had a real chance,
he wouldn't have been seeing other people, And if you
had any real self respect for yourself, you wouldn't accept
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something like that. Right, harsh, somebody's got to say this thing.
You have to value yourself enough, ladies. Okay, I don't
know how many different times or different languages I could
say this thing. To not accept behavior like that, where
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you are a placeholder waiting for a grown man to
get his act together.
Speaker 2 (16:50):
Or waiting for a immature twenty one year old to
get their act together. They have a long way to go.
Speaker 1 (16:57):
Okay, and you're just wasting years on your life, wasting, wasting, wasting,
wishing and hoping, and then before you know it, you
don't even bring into question what are we because you
justified in your head, well I've been here this long,
so I mean I might as well say no, go
what's changing? When you text him what changed? Like, do
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you think he's going to change his mind? And say,
you know what, I was thinking about it? And after
all these years of not actually being in love with you,
I think I actually want to commit.
Speaker 2 (17:33):
Now?
Speaker 1 (17:34):
How do you spend six years with someone that has
invested in you emotionally, financially and they still don't love you? Ladies,
Men are very capable. Men are very capable of pulling
stunts like that, and it fools us women because we
(17:54):
are not that way innately, where it's like, Okay, the
longer I spend with you, you, the more I do for you,
I will you know, end up you know, loving you.
Speaker 2 (18:06):
For men, they will do regular.
Speaker 1 (18:09):
Boyfriend things, act like they're in a full blown relationship
with you and still not want to be with you,
keep you and whatever circumstances you're coming with, because they
already know they have the leverage and the upper hand
because they know that clearly you're just going to put
up with whatever and whoever and then leave you and
go for the chick that they actually really want. Don't
(18:31):
let that be you, Okay, the logical standpoint of that,
as soon as she texted that message of hey, I
think we should talk. I want to kind of take
this to the next level. We've been together for a
long time now. It doesn't make sense for us to
not be at least considering marriage at this point. And
(18:54):
he said, well, you should go find that because you know,
you know, that's not something that I wanted. So not
only did you know that he never wanted to get married,
but you also confirmed it. You just heard it come
out of his mouth, you saw him type that, and
you came back after that.
Speaker 2 (19:11):
Logically, you should have said.
Speaker 1 (19:13):
Okay, great, you know I will always have love for you,
but if you can't simply give me what I want,
I'm not wasting any more of my time.
Speaker 2 (19:23):
I don't care what the history is.
Speaker 1 (19:25):
Don't ever be afraid to leave, because guys will not
be afraid to leave you for who they actually really want.
I don't care if you were with that person for
ten years it happens, and that's just how they move.
You played the bob, the builder chick, the side chick,
the any chick that's not the girlfriend chick, okay, or
(19:49):
the main.
Speaker 2 (19:49):
Chick as people call it these days, and you're playing
yourself the fifty to fifty chick, you know, the pick
me chick. Oh, I'm down for you. I'm right or
die for you.
Speaker 1 (20:03):
Let you do whatever, thinking that the more I yes
him to death, he'll stick around. He'll want to be
around me because I let him do whatever. I mean,
why wouldn't he.
Speaker 2 (20:12):
Want to pick me?
Speaker 1 (20:15):
He doesn't want to pick you because you're a pick
me chick. Men like challenges. You're not a challenge. The
expiration date is beyond expired. Beyond expiration. Give it up.
You're done, access denied, and you should leave, hands down.
Speaker 2 (20:39):
He's wasting your time. He's never going to marry you, okay.
Speaker 1 (20:43):
Next, the third example that I want to give is
a subscriber I believe dms me and she sent me
a bunch of voice notes and she was basically saying
that she was seeing this guy for six months and
say what she presumed were in a full born relationship.
He was intimate with him quite soon, sooner than she
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normally would be.
Speaker 2 (21:05):
I don't remember the timeframe of that.
Speaker 1 (21:07):
She saw certain things in his phone typical, and she
said on his birthday, she went to his house to
you know, surprise him at midnight, I believe, And when
she went to go knock on his door, he opened
the door shocked to see her and didn't want to
let her in. There was another girl in the house.
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He said, Oh, she's leaving now, so you can actually stay.
What is going on here?
Speaker 2 (21:41):
Okay?
Speaker 1 (21:42):
I remember she said that she stayed or she left,
But then she also proceeds to say that she went
over his house another time, just to, I guess, do
a drive by, and she saw his car in the
driveway and he was kissing another girl in his car.
She proceeds to say, Asha, what should I do, babe?
Speaker 2 (22:08):
Leave?
Speaker 1 (22:10):
But you're clearly so emotionally invested that your brain is
undoing what you're actually seeing. You saw he had a
girl in his home and then says, hey, she's leaving.
You can sleep over now. On his birthday, he was
surprised to see you. But you guys, were in an
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alleged relationship for six months. You also saw him kissing
another girl, you know, in his car, and the fact
that you're even doing drive bys to his house clearly
just means that you don't trust him anyways.
Speaker 2 (22:50):
The fact that you.
Speaker 1 (22:51):
Have to have that extra security and honestly do crazy
girlfriend tactics, that type of stuff doesn't win because men
don't really care about the subs you put on Facebook, Instagram,
you know, the heartbroken posts from these poet people on Instagram.
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They don't care about the you know, the drive buys
or anything like that, because they're still doing what it
is that they want to do. They're sending a clear
message of you can either accept this or you can
just leave.
Speaker 2 (23:26):
That's the message that he's sending across.
Speaker 1 (23:28):
So the second you try to get back with him
and you start questioning yourself, is it me? Is it
something that I did? How is it that men do
all these things to us? And we question ourselves asking
if it's because of us? Did I do something wrong?
Where did I go wrong? They just don't want to
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be with you except that reality.
Speaker 2 (23:53):
Move on. This is the thing.
Speaker 1 (23:55):
I have to post another video actually about emotional detachment.
That's an other video within itself. Because if he's not
invested in you. Like I said in another video emotional insurance.
You're investing in him for why now your heartbroken?
Speaker 2 (24:16):
For why breaking your own heart?
Speaker 1 (24:18):
Because why logically the second that you saw that he
had another girl you should have left ended it there
the fact that you had to go buy for confirmation
just to actually see another instance of him with another person.
There is no salvagingness. He doesn't care. Look at his actions.
(24:39):
He doesn't care. Why should you?
Speaker 2 (24:45):
You know?
Speaker 1 (24:45):
At the end of the day, men like women who
control their emotions, instead of us thinking am I good enough?
Am I doing enough? That's what men need to feel.
They like to chase, They like to know.
Speaker 2 (24:59):
Am I going to be good for her?
Speaker 1 (25:00):
Does she want me? We have this whole thing wrong.
We're thinking this when this is how they're supposed to
be thinking. Okay, don't ever be afraid to walk away
from a situation that isn't serving you. I made a
promise to myself, and I said, you know, especially after
you know certain hardships, that I would never.
Speaker 2 (25:23):
Break my own heart, inflict.
Speaker 1 (25:26):
My own wound by letting my emotions get the best
of me and think that something means more than it doesn't.
If you're confused, if you don't know if your intuition
is trying to warn you about something, it is because
(25:47):
what you're thinking is a reality. We have been given
this gift of intuition, and I always say you have
to trust that.
Speaker 2 (25:55):
You know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (25:56):
At the end of the day, ladies, we all know
what it feels like when a guy really likes us.
And you know, a lot of the times, you know,
we've all experienced those guys.
Speaker 2 (26:08):
That like us, but we don't really pay attention to them.
Speaker 1 (26:10):
They're not our type, YadA, YadA, YadA, but they relentlessly
pursue us.
Speaker 2 (26:15):
That is the same relentless.
Speaker 1 (26:17):
Pursuits that the person you're interested in needs to have
in you. Because where we go wrong is we compromise
and we forget that and what that feels like, and
we start doing the chasing to prove that we're worthy,
we're the good girlfriend, we're wifey material. All of these
(26:37):
things ain't no, no more e enough.
Speaker 2 (26:44):
That is the man's job. He's providing, he's taking care
of you.
Speaker 1 (26:51):
He has to be emotionally invested or your emotions go nowhere.
Speaker 2 (26:56):
That's it.
Speaker 1 (26:57):
Keep it tight, keep it under control, Okay, you have
to because it is way easier for us to fall
than it is for men.
Speaker 2 (27:11):
And that's just science.
Speaker 1 (27:16):
So the next time you find yourself in a situation
where you're even confused when things go the right way,
it's because they're going the right way for a reason.
The second you find a bump in the road and
you're questioning, did that really mean that? Or you're leaving
his house and you're taking inventory of what he said
(27:39):
if he meant it? Who you know, who's scrunchy? Was
that in the bathroom? I opened up his draw and
I saw a bracelet. Hello, these are all actual signs.
Do not let well, we've been together for like three months,
so that could be something old, or.
Speaker 2 (28:04):
Maybe he was gonna surprise me with that.
Speaker 1 (28:06):
Stop just stop. Don't ever be afraid to walk away.
Your quality, queen. Quality queens, do not behave like that.
Fifty to fifty chicks, Bob the Builder chicks, pick me chicks,
(28:28):
masculine woman traits where you're you know.
Speaker 2 (28:31):
Misindependent and you don't need a man.
Speaker 1 (28:34):
And I want to add this into you can still
be establishing your career, ambitious, intelligent, all of these things
and still want someone that's going.
Speaker 2 (28:45):
To provide for you.
Speaker 1 (28:46):
You can still be independent in all of these things.
Why does you wanting someone to provide for you? To
translate as you don't you shouldn't be ambitious, you shouldn't
have a career. You're just waiting around for someone to
do something for you. That's not the case, because the
science of it all is I can have whatever I
(29:08):
need to have that I'm coming with, But this is
your job. This is my job as a woman to nurture,
have children. I can still have my own, my own thing,
but it is a man's job to provide. If he
cannot do that, the rule switch. Things start getting confusing.
Speaker 2 (29:31):
Does that make sense?
Speaker 1 (29:33):
If you're splitting bills, it's emasculating for him. And while
he's splitting the bill with you getting his act together,
he's gonna build.
Speaker 2 (29:42):
Himself up to go be with someone else that he
can actually take care of. Why.
Speaker 1 (29:47):
Because it's innate for men to be providers. So stop
with the I don't need a man mantras.
Speaker 2 (29:56):
Enough be single in be single.
Speaker 1 (30:02):
But for the rest of us that want to be
good at this game, this is how you have to
play it. Remove emotion, Stop listening to what's being said
to you, and look at actions.
Speaker 2 (30:20):
I can't even stress this enough.
Speaker 1 (30:22):
How many different instances where the inevitables right there, their
actions are not lining up with their words. I really
like you so much, but you don't ask me out
on dates. You know, you don't pay ignitiative to see
me every week. You're not texting me, you know, on
a consistent basis, you're not calling me at all. You
(30:43):
want to be pen pals all day and you think
that that somehow equates to caring and you know what
I mean, like, no, no, The.
Speaker 2 (30:56):
Answer is just no. Okay, guys. So that is the
end of this.
Speaker 1 (31:00):
I hope that you ladies, learned a lot from this video.
This is such a common instance that all of us
have faced, some of us are facing it.
Speaker 2 (31:13):
You know.
Speaker 1 (31:14):
The beautiful thing is it's never too late to change,
no matter the circumstance. If you're not happy, don't settle.
The worst thing you could do is settle for something
that you simply don't want. Why should you? There's a
million billion people in this universe. Don't we all deserve
(31:35):
to know what happiness really feels like? Why do we
think that it's normal to accept struggle, love, it's not
that ends today, that ends right now.
Speaker 2 (31:50):
Okay.
Speaker 1 (31:52):
So with that being said, guys, do not forget to
thumbs up this video. If you enjoyed it, there's lots
more content to come out so exciting. I know that
you guys have been requesting to see a look book
from me, a makeup routine, skincare routine, hygiene routine, all
these different things, and they are definitely on the way
(32:14):
and in the works. I just am a perfectionist, and
I want to make sure that I, you know, have
it filmed, you know, the way that I want it
to be filmed, and that everything is just perfect of course,
So I don't want to hold you guys any longer.
Make sure that you are subscribed, okay if you were
not already.
Speaker 2 (32:33):
I love you and God loves you, and I'll see
you guys in my next video.
Speaker 1 (32:38):
Wow. See Scotti
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