October 24, 2025 • 23 mins
ANGELS!!!! I’m BACK again with a brand NEW episode!!! In this podcast I discuss the dark side of dating affluent men. I hope that you all enjoy this episode, let me know what else you guys would like to see in the comment section below!!!!
Mark as Played
Transcript
Episode Transcript
Available transcripts are automatically generated. Complete accuracy is not guaranteed.
Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hi, Oh my gosh, guys.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
First and foremost, let's address the elephant in the room,
the fact that my voice sounds very, very very very deep.
Speaker 1 (00:10):
It was my one of my really close.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
Friends birthdays, Angie, and that was on Friday, and I'm
assuming I yelled a lot, so my voice just left.
And so this is what we're working with right now. Nonetheless,
that's not going to stop me from making some bomb
content for you guys, because I have a lot. When
(00:33):
I say a lot, I have a lot of videos
to film for you guys. Got a lot of requests,
a lot of different content coming for you guys, including
a how I Style my hair video, which I know
you guys are super excited about. And I really just
want to offer, you know, different types of content for
you guys, because that's all part of me and also
(00:56):
leveling up and being a quality queen. So, as you
can see from this title, this video is the dark
side of dating affluent men. And right before you skip over, okay,
do not forget, of course, to follow me on Instagram
and that will be right here of course. And also
do not forget to subscribe to this channel if you
have not already. Yes, I do want to acknowledge another
(01:19):
elephant in the room that my uploading schedule has been
very scarce, and I want you guys to know that
I do see the DMS, and I do see that
I have been uploading very scarcely. I think once in
the last once a week in the past two weeks
or so, which is absolutely horrible considering I used to
upload every other day. I definitely am working on getting
(01:44):
back to that schedule of uploading every other day because
this is what I love to do. It's just that
I still am new at it and I haven't mastered,
you know, the pre filming technique and in the pre
vie as times when I tried to pre upload, it
just was a disaster. Something was wrong, or something was
(02:06):
wrong with my hair. YadA, YadA, YadA. You don't care.
Let's get right into this video, okay, guys. So I
know that I always talk about dating affluent men, dating
a man of means, and why it's important. It goes
way deeper than oh, she's a gold digger, she just
wants to use someone for money. That's not what I
(02:29):
am specifically promoting on my channel. If you are someone
that does classify yourself as a gold digger, whatever the
case is.
Speaker 1 (02:39):
So what, Yes, there's a very thin line.
Speaker 2 (02:41):
A lot of people have multiple misconceptions or their own
ideologies of what they feel I'm promoting, or maybe another
channel is promoting I welcome all women from all walks
of life. What I'm specifically promote voting is dating men
(03:02):
that can provide for you financially, physically, emotionally, and not
promoting struggle love, which seems to be very prevalent, especially
within certain communities or ethnic groups, I should say, to
be real.
Speaker 1 (03:21):
And some people have a problem with that.
Speaker 2 (03:24):
Some people have a problem with men providing for them,
whatever the case is. But on this channel, it's very
important to have that because that just goes back to
the days of science, the Caveman days, where women were
practicing you know, hypergamy, or they were practicing you know, well,
(03:44):
in the Caveman days, they weren't practicing hypergamy per se.
In the Caveman days, they were doing natural selection. Right
where it's a matter of this guy's strong, he's big.
Speaker 1 (03:56):
I feel protected by him.
Speaker 2 (03:57):
I know if I have children with him, will be
able to protect our children. You know, I'm going to
nurture he's going to protect and he's going to provide
what are you bringing to this table? And I'm going
to set the table with what you brought?
Speaker 1 (04:18):
Makes sense?
Speaker 2 (04:19):
So yes, and for anyone also curious, hypergame basically means
dating someone that's in upper level society. I really should
look up the actual definition to define it for you, guys,
I understand what the definition is, but it's dating you know,
above your class normally. That's basically what himpurgam me is.
(04:41):
So it's nothing bad or anything like that. The one
in the dark side of dating affluent men is they
can be very manipulative because men with money have power.
And if you're someone that doesn't have anything of her own,
you literally go from point A to B where all
of a sudden and you went from having nothing, you're
(05:02):
very new, you're very naive to this whole thing, and
you happen to get very lucky, and you fumble across
a man of means and you're dating a man of means.
One or two things can happen. You can either be
someone that it just doesn't really impress you. It doesn't
really come to your mind because you don't really care
because you didn't.
Speaker 1 (05:21):
Have it before.
Speaker 2 (05:22):
It doesn't really matter if you have it now, and
then you can be someone that doesn't have it and
you really want to have it, but you don't understand
all that it comes with. It's very easy to be manipulated,
especially by someone who you feel is providing everything for you.
So you need to look out for manipulating men or
(05:47):
situations where you can be manipulated because you don't have
much of anything to offer other than just being around
and being there for him or being his arm candy.
Speaker 1 (06:00):
Do you understand what I'm saying? Another thing is infidelity.
Speaker 2 (06:05):
Now, infidelity can happen whether you are Dusty Dan or
Athluent Adam.
Speaker 1 (06:11):
Infidelity is all across.
Speaker 2 (06:13):
The board, something that many guys practice, you know, not all,
but many. And of course, the more money you have,
the more power you have, the more success you have.
More women, a lot of women are naturally drawn to
something like that because who doesn't like or desire nice things.
(06:37):
Who doesn't desire to have an amazing lifestyle that seems
virtually effortless? Who doesn't want that? Men of means, of course,
tend to have more options than men that don't even
if because like I said in previous videos, women are
defined in society by and they're valued by their beauty.
(06:58):
Men are defined and valued by their success, money, which
comes to power, etc.
Speaker 1 (07:04):
Etc.
Speaker 2 (07:05):
When you only have literally beauty to offer, and I
mean really only, there's nothing, there's nothing of substance going
on in that little brain of yours, right, that's a problem.
That will be a problem, that will be your downfall.
You have to have more, You have to be someone
of substance because really, at the end of the day,
(07:26):
because I'm going to discuss this in another video, at
the end of the day, it really is about being
smart and being cunning in a good way to the
point where you are making this man think he's in charge,
he's getting his way all these things, where really you're
in charge. The art is letting him think that he's
in charge, but really it's you. In the words of
(07:49):
Kiki Palmer, what does she say? And the gag is
that's the gag. So women will of course be throwing
themselves at men that have a lot of money and success,
especially if it's someone that is well known, you know,
in the entertainment industry.
Speaker 1 (08:07):
All of these things. Be careful of things like that.
Speaker 2 (08:11):
Another thing to look out for that's very important is
losing your identity in these types of relationships. You know,
you get so caught up in their world, their life,
what they can bring to you, what they've shown you,
what they've helped.
Speaker 1 (08:28):
You discover that sometimes, depending on.
Speaker 2 (08:32):
Where you are in your life, you can lose your
identity and start to question, well, what do I want?
What do I desire? Do I really like this? Do
I like to go to those polo games that he
brings me to with the giant hats? And do I
like sitting next to you know, those judgmental.
Speaker 1 (08:52):
Women over there? I don't know whatever it is.
Speaker 2 (08:56):
Do I really like that? Am I comfortable being a
yes woman all the time? Am I comfortable just being
arm candy? And I know it? It's so unfulfilling, And
you're feeling the way you feel because that's a reality.
That's your intuition telling you, Hey, I don't like this.
(09:18):
This isn't my thing. I don't really feel good doing this,
I don't feel fulfilled.
Speaker 1 (09:23):
I need to figure out who I am? Who am I?
Speaker 2 (09:28):
And normally this can happen, you know, with any age range,
because age doesn't necessarily mean maturity, because we all go
through so many different things in our lives that can
be traumatizing, and when you have experienced some sort of
significant trauma. I was just telling one of my friends
(09:49):
this that I believe you stop aging at that moment.
Like you, you don't age past that traumatic event. So,
whether that traumatic event happen at thirteen or whether that
traumatic event happened at twenty two, every time something traumatic
happens to you, you sink back into the twenty two
(10:11):
year old mentality. You sink back into the thirteen year
old mentality because you never healed from that, from those
childhood traumas or those young adult traumas in your life.
So it's manifesting in your adulthood to where now all
of a sudden, let's say something significant happened to you
(10:32):
when you were thirteen or like I said, twenty two,
and it was issues with men, And now you're thirty
and you only date twenty two year olds, or you
only date men that are twenty five because you just
refuse to date older men because you don't trust what
they can bring from your childhood trauma. You had a
(10:52):
bad experience with someone that was older, and they may
have to take an advantage. Whatever the case is, or
maybe you had a experience, you know, with your father,
you had an experience with your mother, and these uneal
traumas will bleed onto your life. They will bleed into
your relationship.
Speaker 1 (11:11):
And when you are.
Speaker 2 (11:12):
Dating someone with means, someone that has money and power
and access. It is so important to be your own woman,
because I'm telling you in all honesty, babe, you will
get lost all in the sauce. You will, it's inevitable.
(11:32):
Be careful of losing your identity. And aside from even
dating affluent men, successful men, any man, be careful of that.
Young girls that are on this channel eighteen years old,
younger than that, don't lose your identity in your relationship.
(11:55):
You have to learn yourself. You have to know yourself,
know your worth, know what you're bringing to the table.
Or like I've mentioned in another video, anything anyone ever
tells you, you're gonna believe it because.
Speaker 1 (12:10):
You don't know you.
Speaker 2 (12:11):
So it's like if someone says something to you, it's like, Okay, well,
well maybe that might be true because I don't really
know myself all that well.
Speaker 1 (12:19):
Anyway, watch it.
Speaker 2 (12:22):
Another thing you should look out for, and this is
particularly for girls like myself who like to date guys
that are older. Be careful of guys dating you calling
you immature.
Speaker 1 (12:34):
It's like row row your boat. What.
Speaker 2 (12:38):
No, if someone is older than you, they should be
more mature than you. Stereotypically, they should be more.
Speaker 1 (12:46):
Mature than you.
Speaker 2 (12:48):
Sometimes guys like to pull that card of you're immature, sweetie.
You know you have a lot to learn, you have
a long way to go. And it's like, okay, you
must be immature than yourself because you chose to date me,
and you know I'm younger than you, whether that's five
years younger, whatever the case is, and you're calling me immature.
(13:10):
So I'm mature enough to be with but I'm immature
now because we're in an argument. How does that work?
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (13:20):
You know, it's that And I'm saying this from experience.
I was seeing this guy.
Speaker 2 (13:25):
It was the narcissist guy, and he had the nerve
to say that I am immature. But it's so funny though,
because I know he was just talking, you know, out
of his butt, because in the same breath, in a
different instance, He's told me how mature that I am,
and I'm gonna be great. All this stuff, YadA, YadA, YadA.
(13:46):
But because I decided to leave and I'm telling him
about himself and it hurts his little ego I'm immature now.
And it's like, okay, all right, I'm immature now and
you're so that's why you chose to be with me,
because you're just so mature. If I'm immature, then why
don't you go find someone more suitable? Right, maybe a
(14:09):
little closer to your age? How does that sound good?
Speaker 1 (14:13):
All right?
Speaker 2 (14:15):
You know a lot of the times men can be
controlling men in general, but especially men that have success
and wealth. They can almost keep you walking on eggshells.
You feel like at any moment they could possibly rip
the rug from right under you. And because of that,
because they instill that fear in you, it's like I
(14:38):
gotta say yes to this, and I gotta make sure
I do everything he says, or if he doesn't get
his way, he's gonna do this, or he's gonna take
this from me.
Speaker 1 (14:46):
He's gonna take.
Speaker 2 (14:46):
Back the car he bought me, the bag he bought me,
all of these things, he'll take it away. And you know,
when you're dating someone that will do something that petty
and immature that is not a normal circumstance. I'm sorry,
that's your not a five year old that needs to
be reprimanded and put in time out and have toys
taken away from you at recess.
Speaker 1 (15:06):
That's what are we doing here.
Speaker 2 (15:09):
If this is supposed to be a relationship. Everyone plays
their part as they should. You do not all of
a sudden one time. One day you're my dad, one
day you're my boyfriend, one day you're this, one day
you're No.
Speaker 1 (15:23):
It doesn't work like that.
Speaker 2 (15:27):
Be careful when you're in these relationships all across the
board of guys that are controlling. And the reason why
it's significant in this video is because it's more prominent
when a man has all this money and this success
and they're just dangling this great lifestyle in front of
you and you're just like, oh my god, yeah yeah, yeah, yeah,
(15:51):
you know, it's like no, you have to really and
they know when you're impressed by those things. That's why
all a part of of even seduction too unbothered by
that you carry yourself a class. They already know what
they had to bring to the table to even get you.
And now that's just trying to dangle a great lifestyle.
(16:13):
It's like, of course, you know it sounds great, we
want it, but you can't be so openly eager for that.
Remain neutral. If you remain at a neutral standpoint, they
can't attack you from any side. Remain neutral, and it's hard,
especially when you really really like someone. It's very difficult
(16:34):
to remain neutral. But a key in seduction is remaining
neutral so that you can familiarize yourself with that man's
shadows self, meaning what are parts of him that he
doesn't show that I know the world sees, The world
sees one side of him. What is on the other
(16:56):
side of him that I can cater to and tend
to as kind of like a weak spot. And this
is not coming from a negative standpoint of evilness trying
to like hurt someone.
Speaker 1 (17:10):
This is just all.
Speaker 2 (17:11):
About the game in a way of catering to that
soft side of him, so that he feels like you
see him, You see him, and you're seeing aside to
him that no one really sees, and you're catering to that,
and that's going to make him draw to you and
want to be with you even more so. On the contrary,
(17:34):
if a man sees that you're so eager for this.
Speaker 1 (17:39):
Whatever he's you know, dangling in front of you. It's like,
ah ah ah.
Speaker 2 (17:47):
Okay, here, ah be a good girl. What get out
of here?
Speaker 1 (17:55):
What is that?
Speaker 2 (17:57):
If you want to play games, go join Tristan Thompson's
basketball team. Another thing I find so interesting guys be
careful of condescending tones. It's not always as obvious as
you may think. When sometimes a guy will say the
words sweetheart or honey.
Speaker 1 (18:19):
Sometimes it's just code names for.
Speaker 2 (18:22):
The B word, like sweetheart, you're calling me too much, honey, Really, honey,
I can't believe you would do something like that. You'll
be surprised sometimes the way that some of these men
speak to you. They're just using code words that make
(18:43):
them feel better and how they're addressing you. I don't
really like being called sweetheart. You can tell in the
back of your mind. You can tell intuitively when someone
is calling you sweetheart or honey out of affection and adoration,
and when they're calling you sweetheart and honey as a
(19:03):
word filler, substitute for something else. That's another thing to
be careful of. This is why this all ties into
you knowing you so that even the dark side of
dating these men of means, it won't really affect you
because at the end of the day, it all boils
(19:25):
down to you knowing you, you valuing yourself genuinely, So
you can't fall for these chicks, because when you do
know yourself, it's not really that easy to penetrate your
head and infiltrate your head and you know, camp out
(19:45):
in your head with all of these garbage tactics. Once
you know, you know, you can't undo it, you can't
unknow it. So all in all, ladies, never let a man,
whether that's dusty Dan or affluent Adam, make you feel inadequate.
Speaker 1 (20:06):
That's how you get manipulated. They see a weak.
Speaker 2 (20:08):
Spot, they pray on it. They see sides of you
that you feel like you don't show the world, and
they cater to those sides, even though the situation may
be completely flawed and this person may be horrible for you,
but you feel like they see you. Let me tell
you something, We're not blind. If you're a book, there
(20:34):
are a lot of people that can read. It's easy
to be read, to be quite honest, and when you
show someone different sides of you, it's only because you
opened up the book.
Speaker 1 (20:47):
You let them see that, which.
Speaker 2 (20:49):
Means, on a positive note, there's another person in the
world that you can open that book for and they
can read you as well, and they have option of
seeing you the way that you feel that this person
sees you. But it's never worth your peace of mind,
your sanity, or even.
Speaker 1 (21:11):
Your youth at that. You always need to be in control.
Speaker 2 (21:17):
Like I said so skillfully that he thinks that he's
in control. Ah okay, guys, So that is the end
of this quick little video. I have a lot of
really good content coming for you guys this week.
Speaker 1 (21:34):
Okay. I am so.
Speaker 2 (21:35):
Excited, especially filming my first hair video.
Speaker 1 (21:39):
I am so excited.
Speaker 2 (21:41):
I'm definitely going to be doing a how to Straighten
my hair video with this hair, with this hair, and
I absolutely love this hair so much. It's my first
time even getting hair this long. Before all that stuff,
all those details will be in another video coming up
this week. Also, I want to give a shout out
(22:02):
to Stephanie, who is such a sweetheart. She gave me
these beautiful lashes. These lashes are definitely like Vava Vom lashes,
but sometimes, I mean, I have really big eyes, so
I really like long lashes.
Speaker 1 (22:18):
I know, some can argue.
Speaker 2 (22:20):
Oh, that doesn't look glassy, that doesn't look like this,
that doesn't look that.
Speaker 1 (22:23):
It's all about your preference and how you wear it.
Speaker 2 (22:25):
I feel personally that I like the way I look
when I wear it. These types of lashes. These are
mink lashes. They are so gorgeous. These are my favorite pair.
She sent me about three of them, and these are
my favorite out of the bunch, and I just really
feel like they open up my eyes and they're just
very pretty and making feel like a princess. Okay, guys,
(22:46):
so thank you so much for watching. Thank you so
much for your patience. Guys, we are still on the
road to thirty K.
Speaker 1 (22:53):
Don't forget that.
Speaker 2 (22:54):
M H. All right, guys, do not forget to check
the description box because I put a lot of effort
into my description box. If you have any questions, A
lot of the times I will put like the hair
that I'm wearing in the description box, I'm gonna put
splashes that I'm wearing in the description box, my lick color,
all of that stuff will be there. So do not
forget to check that out. And of course, do not
forget this. I love you, and God loves you and
(23:17):
I'll see you guys, and my next video
Hi, Oh my gosh, guys.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
First and foremost, let's address the elephant in the room,
the fact that my voice sounds very, very very very deep.
Speaker 1 (00:10):
It was my one of my really close.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
Friends birthdays, Angie, and that was on Friday, and I'm
assuming I yelled a lot, so my voice just left.
And so this is what we're working with right now. Nonetheless,
that's not going to stop me from making some bomb
content for you guys, because I have a lot. When
(00:33):
I say a lot, I have a lot of videos
to film for you guys. Got a lot of requests,
a lot of different content coming for you guys, including
a how I Style my hair video, which I know
you guys are super excited about. And I really just
want to offer, you know, different types of content for
you guys, because that's all part of me and also
(00:56):
leveling up and being a quality queen. So, as you
can see from this title, this video is the dark
side of dating affluent men. And right before you skip over, okay,
do not forget, of course, to follow me on Instagram
and that will be right here of course. And also
do not forget to subscribe to this channel if you
have not already. Yes, I do want to acknowledge another
(01:19):
elephant in the room that my uploading schedule has been
very scarce, and I want you guys to know that
I do see the DMS, and I do see that
I have been uploading very scarcely. I think once in
the last once a week in the past two weeks
or so, which is absolutely horrible considering I used to
upload every other day. I definitely am working on getting
(01:44):
back to that schedule of uploading every other day because
this is what I love to do. It's just that
I still am new at it and I haven't mastered,
you know, the pre filming technique and in the pre
vie as times when I tried to pre upload, it
just was a disaster. Something was wrong, or something was
(02:06):
wrong with my hair. YadA, YadA, YadA. You don't care.
Let's get right into this video, okay, guys. So I
know that I always talk about dating affluent men, dating
a man of means, and why it's important. It goes
way deeper than oh, she's a gold digger, she just
wants to use someone for money. That's not what I
(02:29):
am specifically promoting on my channel. If you are someone
that does classify yourself as a gold digger, whatever the
case is.
Speaker 1 (02:39):
So what, Yes, there's a very thin line.
Speaker 2 (02:41):
A lot of people have multiple misconceptions or their own
ideologies of what they feel I'm promoting, or maybe another
channel is promoting I welcome all women from all walks
of life. What I'm specifically promote voting is dating men
(03:02):
that can provide for you financially, physically, emotionally, and not
promoting struggle love, which seems to be very prevalent, especially
within certain communities or ethnic groups, I should say, to
be real.
Speaker 1 (03:21):
And some people have a problem with that.
Speaker 2 (03:24):
Some people have a problem with men providing for them,
whatever the case is. But on this channel, it's very
important to have that because that just goes back to
the days of science, the Caveman days, where women were
practicing you know, hypergamy, or they were practicing you know, well,
(03:44):
in the Caveman days, they weren't practicing hypergamy per se.
In the Caveman days, they were doing natural selection. Right
where it's a matter of this guy's strong, he's big.
Speaker 1 (03:56):
I feel protected by him.
Speaker 2 (03:57):
I know if I have children with him, will be
able to protect our children. You know, I'm going to
nurture he's going to protect and he's going to provide
what are you bringing to this table? And I'm going
to set the table with what you brought?
Speaker 1 (04:18):
Makes sense?
Speaker 2 (04:19):
So yes, and for anyone also curious, hypergame basically means
dating someone that's in upper level society. I really should
look up the actual definition to define it for you, guys,
I understand what the definition is, but it's dating you know,
above your class normally. That's basically what himpurgam me is.
(04:41):
So it's nothing bad or anything like that. The one
in the dark side of dating affluent men is they
can be very manipulative because men with money have power.
And if you're someone that doesn't have anything of her own,
you literally go from point A to B where all
of a sudden and you went from having nothing, you're
(05:02):
very new, you're very naive to this whole thing, and
you happen to get very lucky, and you fumble across
a man of means and you're dating a man of means.
One or two things can happen. You can either be
someone that it just doesn't really impress you. It doesn't
really come to your mind because you don't really care
because you didn't.
Speaker 1 (05:21):
Have it before.
Speaker 2 (05:22):
It doesn't really matter if you have it now, and
then you can be someone that doesn't have it and
you really want to have it, but you don't understand
all that it comes with. It's very easy to be manipulated,
especially by someone who you feel is providing everything for you.
So you need to look out for manipulating men or
(05:47):
situations where you can be manipulated because you don't have
much of anything to offer other than just being around
and being there for him or being his arm candy.
Speaker 1 (06:00):
Do you understand what I'm saying? Another thing is infidelity.
Speaker 2 (06:05):
Now, infidelity can happen whether you are Dusty Dan or
Athluent Adam.
Speaker 1 (06:11):
Infidelity is all across.
Speaker 2 (06:13):
The board, something that many guys practice, you know, not all,
but many. And of course, the more money you have,
the more power you have, the more success you have.
More women, a lot of women are naturally drawn to
something like that because who doesn't like or desire nice things.
(06:37):
Who doesn't desire to have an amazing lifestyle that seems
virtually effortless? Who doesn't want that? Men of means, of course,
tend to have more options than men that don't even
if because like I said in previous videos, women are
defined in society by and they're valued by their beauty.
(06:58):
Men are defined and valued by their success, money, which
comes to power, etc.
Speaker 1 (07:04):
Etc.
Speaker 2 (07:05):
When you only have literally beauty to offer, and I
mean really only, there's nothing, there's nothing of substance going
on in that little brain of yours, right, that's a problem.
That will be a problem, that will be your downfall.
You have to have more, You have to be someone
of substance because really, at the end of the day,
(07:26):
because I'm going to discuss this in another video, at
the end of the day, it really is about being
smart and being cunning in a good way to the
point where you are making this man think he's in charge,
he's getting his way all these things, where really you're
in charge. The art is letting him think that he's
in charge, but really it's you. In the words of
(07:49):
Kiki Palmer, what does she say? And the gag is
that's the gag. So women will of course be throwing
themselves at men that have a lot of money and success,
especially if it's someone that is well known, you know,
in the entertainment industry.
Speaker 1 (08:07):
All of these things. Be careful of things like that.
Speaker 2 (08:11):
Another thing to look out for that's very important is
losing your identity in these types of relationships. You know,
you get so caught up in their world, their life,
what they can bring to you, what they've shown you,
what they've helped.
Speaker 1 (08:28):
You discover that sometimes, depending on.
Speaker 2 (08:32):
Where you are in your life, you can lose your
identity and start to question, well, what do I want?
What do I desire? Do I really like this? Do
I like to go to those polo games that he
brings me to with the giant hats? And do I
like sitting next to you know, those judgmental.
Speaker 1 (08:52):
Women over there? I don't know whatever it is.
Speaker 2 (08:56):
Do I really like that? Am I comfortable being a
yes woman all the time? Am I comfortable just being
arm candy? And I know it? It's so unfulfilling, And
you're feeling the way you feel because that's a reality.
That's your intuition telling you, Hey, I don't like this.
(09:18):
This isn't my thing. I don't really feel good doing this,
I don't feel fulfilled.
Speaker 1 (09:23):
I need to figure out who I am? Who am I?
Speaker 2 (09:28):
And normally this can happen, you know, with any age range,
because age doesn't necessarily mean maturity, because we all go
through so many different things in our lives that can
be traumatizing, and when you have experienced some sort of
significant trauma. I was just telling one of my friends
(09:49):
this that I believe you stop aging at that moment.
Like you, you don't age past that traumatic event. So,
whether that traumatic event happen at thirteen or whether that
traumatic event happened at twenty two, every time something traumatic
happens to you, you sink back into the twenty two
(10:11):
year old mentality. You sink back into the thirteen year
old mentality because you never healed from that, from those
childhood traumas or those young adult traumas in your life.
So it's manifesting in your adulthood to where now all
of a sudden, let's say something significant happened to you
(10:32):
when you were thirteen or like I said, twenty two,
and it was issues with men, And now you're thirty
and you only date twenty two year olds, or you
only date men that are twenty five because you just
refuse to date older men because you don't trust what
they can bring from your childhood trauma. You had a
(10:52):
bad experience with someone that was older, and they may
have to take an advantage. Whatever the case is, or
maybe you had a experience, you know, with your father,
you had an experience with your mother, and these uneal
traumas will bleed onto your life. They will bleed into
your relationship.
Speaker 1 (11:11):
And when you are.
Speaker 2 (11:12):
Dating someone with means, someone that has money and power
and access. It is so important to be your own woman,
because I'm telling you in all honesty, babe, you will
get lost all in the sauce. You will, it's inevitable.
(11:32):
Be careful of losing your identity. And aside from even
dating affluent men, successful men, any man, be careful of that.
Young girls that are on this channel eighteen years old,
younger than that, don't lose your identity in your relationship.
(11:55):
You have to learn yourself. You have to know yourself,
know your worth, know what you're bringing to the table.
Or like I've mentioned in another video, anything anyone ever
tells you, you're gonna believe it because.
Speaker 1 (12:10):
You don't know you.
Speaker 2 (12:11):
So it's like if someone says something to you, it's like, Okay, well,
well maybe that might be true because I don't really
know myself all that well.
Speaker 1 (12:19):
Anyway, watch it.
Speaker 2 (12:22):
Another thing you should look out for, and this is
particularly for girls like myself who like to date guys
that are older. Be careful of guys dating you calling
you immature.
Speaker 1 (12:34):
It's like row row your boat. What.
Speaker 2 (12:38):
No, if someone is older than you, they should be
more mature than you. Stereotypically, they should be more.
Speaker 1 (12:46):
Mature than you.
Speaker 2 (12:48):
Sometimes guys like to pull that card of you're immature, sweetie.
You know you have a lot to learn, you have
a long way to go. And it's like, okay, you
must be immature than yourself because you chose to date me,
and you know I'm younger than you, whether that's five
years younger, whatever the case is, and you're calling me immature.
(13:10):
So I'm mature enough to be with but I'm immature
now because we're in an argument. How does that work?
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (13:20):
You know, it's that And I'm saying this from experience.
I was seeing this guy.
Speaker 2 (13:25):
It was the narcissist guy, and he had the nerve
to say that I am immature. But it's so funny though,
because I know he was just talking, you know, out
of his butt, because in the same breath, in a
different instance, He's told me how mature that I am,
and I'm gonna be great. All this stuff, YadA, YadA, YadA.
(13:46):
But because I decided to leave and I'm telling him
about himself and it hurts his little ego I'm immature now.
And it's like, okay, all right, I'm immature now and
you're so that's why you chose to be with me,
because you're just so mature. If I'm immature, then why
don't you go find someone more suitable? Right, maybe a
(14:09):
little closer to your age? How does that sound good?
Speaker 1 (14:13):
All right?
Speaker 2 (14:15):
You know a lot of the times men can be
controlling men in general, but especially men that have success
and wealth. They can almost keep you walking on eggshells.
You feel like at any moment they could possibly rip
the rug from right under you. And because of that,
because they instill that fear in you, it's like I
(14:38):
gotta say yes to this, and I gotta make sure
I do everything he says, or if he doesn't get
his way, he's gonna do this, or he's gonna take
this from me.
Speaker 1 (14:46):
He's gonna take.
Speaker 2 (14:46):
Back the car he bought me, the bag he bought me,
all of these things, he'll take it away. And you know,
when you're dating someone that will do something that petty
and immature that is not a normal circumstance. I'm sorry,
that's your not a five year old that needs to
be reprimanded and put in time out and have toys
taken away from you at recess.
Speaker 1 (15:06):
That's what are we doing here.
Speaker 2 (15:09):
If this is supposed to be a relationship. Everyone plays
their part as they should. You do not all of
a sudden one time. One day you're my dad, one
day you're my boyfriend, one day you're this, one day
you're No.
Speaker 1 (15:23):
It doesn't work like that.
Speaker 2 (15:27):
Be careful when you're in these relationships all across the
board of guys that are controlling. And the reason why
it's significant in this video is because it's more prominent
when a man has all this money and this success
and they're just dangling this great lifestyle in front of
you and you're just like, oh my god, yeah yeah, yeah, yeah,
(15:51):
you know, it's like no, you have to really and
they know when you're impressed by those things. That's why
all a part of of even seduction too unbothered by
that you carry yourself a class. They already know what
they had to bring to the table to even get you.
And now that's just trying to dangle a great lifestyle.
(16:13):
It's like, of course, you know it sounds great, we
want it, but you can't be so openly eager for that.
Remain neutral. If you remain at a neutral standpoint, they
can't attack you from any side. Remain neutral, and it's hard,
especially when you really really like someone. It's very difficult
(16:34):
to remain neutral. But a key in seduction is remaining
neutral so that you can familiarize yourself with that man's
shadows self, meaning what are parts of him that he
doesn't show that I know the world sees, The world
sees one side of him. What is on the other
(16:56):
side of him that I can cater to and tend
to as kind of like a weak spot. And this
is not coming from a negative standpoint of evilness trying
to like hurt someone.
Speaker 1 (17:10):
This is just all.
Speaker 2 (17:11):
About the game in a way of catering to that
soft side of him, so that he feels like you
see him, You see him, and you're seeing aside to
him that no one really sees, and you're catering to that,
and that's going to make him draw to you and
want to be with you even more so. On the contrary,
(17:34):
if a man sees that you're so eager for this.
Speaker 1 (17:39):
Whatever he's you know, dangling in front of you. It's like,
ah ah ah.
Speaker 2 (17:47):
Okay, here, ah be a good girl. What get out
of here?
Speaker 1 (17:55):
What is that?
Speaker 2 (17:57):
If you want to play games, go join Tristan Thompson's
basketball team. Another thing I find so interesting guys be
careful of condescending tones. It's not always as obvious as
you may think. When sometimes a guy will say the
words sweetheart or honey.
Speaker 1 (18:19):
Sometimes it's just code names for.
Speaker 2 (18:22):
The B word, like sweetheart, you're calling me too much, honey, Really, honey,
I can't believe you would do something like that. You'll
be surprised sometimes the way that some of these men
speak to you. They're just using code words that make
(18:43):
them feel better and how they're addressing you. I don't
really like being called sweetheart. You can tell in the
back of your mind. You can tell intuitively when someone
is calling you sweetheart or honey out of affection and adoration,
and when they're calling you sweetheart and honey as a
(19:03):
word filler, substitute for something else. That's another thing to
be careful of. This is why this all ties into
you knowing you so that even the dark side of
dating these men of means, it won't really affect you
because at the end of the day, it all boils
(19:25):
down to you knowing you, you valuing yourself genuinely, So
you can't fall for these chicks, because when you do
know yourself, it's not really that easy to penetrate your
head and infiltrate your head and you know, camp out
(19:45):
in your head with all of these garbage tactics. Once
you know, you know, you can't undo it, you can't
unknow it. So all in all, ladies, never let a man,
whether that's dusty Dan or affluent Adam, make you feel inadequate.
Speaker 1 (20:06):
That's how you get manipulated. They see a weak.
Speaker 2 (20:08):
Spot, they pray on it. They see sides of you
that you feel like you don't show the world, and
they cater to those sides, even though the situation may
be completely flawed and this person may be horrible for you,
but you feel like they see you. Let me tell
you something, We're not blind. If you're a book, there
(20:34):
are a lot of people that can read. It's easy
to be read, to be quite honest, and when you
show someone different sides of you, it's only because you
opened up the book.
Speaker 1 (20:47):
You let them see that, which.
Speaker 2 (20:49):
Means, on a positive note, there's another person in the
world that you can open that book for and they
can read you as well, and they have option of
seeing you the way that you feel that this person
sees you. But it's never worth your peace of mind,
your sanity, or even.
Speaker 1 (21:11):
Your youth at that. You always need to be in control.
Speaker 2 (21:17):
Like I said so skillfully that he thinks that he's
in control. Ah okay, guys, So that is the end
of this quick little video. I have a lot of
really good content coming for you guys this week.
Speaker 1 (21:34):
Okay. I am so.
Speaker 2 (21:35):
Excited, especially filming my first hair video.
Speaker 1 (21:39):
I am so excited.
Speaker 2 (21:41):
I'm definitely going to be doing a how to Straighten
my hair video with this hair, with this hair, and
I absolutely love this hair so much. It's my first
time even getting hair this long. Before all that stuff,
all those details will be in another video coming up
this week. Also, I want to give a shout out
(22:02):
to Stephanie, who is such a sweetheart. She gave me
these beautiful lashes. These lashes are definitely like Vava Vom lashes,
but sometimes, I mean, I have really big eyes, so
I really like long lashes.
Speaker 1 (22:18):
I know, some can argue.
Speaker 2 (22:20):
Oh, that doesn't look glassy, that doesn't look like this,
that doesn't look that.
Speaker 1 (22:23):
It's all about your preference and how you wear it.
Speaker 2 (22:25):
I feel personally that I like the way I look
when I wear it. These types of lashes. These are
mink lashes. They are so gorgeous. These are my favorite pair.
She sent me about three of them, and these are
my favorite out of the bunch, and I just really
feel like they open up my eyes and they're just
very pretty and making feel like a princess. Okay, guys,
(22:46):
so thank you so much for watching. Thank you so
much for your patience. Guys, we are still on the
road to thirty K.
Speaker 1 (22:53):
Don't forget that.
Speaker 2 (22:54):
M H. All right, guys, do not forget to check
the description box because I put a lot of effort
into my description box. If you have any questions, A
lot of the times I will put like the hair
that I'm wearing in the description box, I'm gonna put
splashes that I'm wearing in the description box, my lick color,
all of that stuff will be there. So do not
forget to check that out. And of course, do not
forget this. I love you, and God loves you and
(23:17):
I'll see you guys, and my next video
Popular Podcasts
Stuff You Should Know
If you've ever wanted to know about champagne, satanism, the Stonewall Uprising, chaos theory, LSD, El Nino, true crime and Rosa Parks, then look no further. Josh and Chuck have you covered.
Crime Junkie
Does hearing about a true crime case always leave you scouring the internet for the truth behind the story? Dive into your next mystery with Crime Junkie. Every Monday, join your host Ashley Flowers as she unravels all the details of infamous and underreported true crime cases with her best friend Brit Prawat. From cold cases to missing persons and heroes in our community who seek justice, Crime Junkie is your destination for theories and stories you won’t hear anywhere else. Whether you're a seasoned true crime enthusiast or new to the genre, you'll find yourself on the edge of your seat awaiting a new episode every Monday. If you can never get enough true crime... Congratulations, you’ve found your people. Follow to join a community of Crime Junkies! Crime Junkie is presented by audiochuck Media Company.
The Breakfast Club
The World's Most Dangerous Morning Show, The Breakfast Club, With DJ Envy, Jess Hilarious, And Charlamagne Tha God!