October 15, 2025 • 18 mins
Hi my Angels !!!! Today's episode is about how we can be unbothered in our everyday life .
In this podcast episode, I discuss 5 ways to cultivate being unbothered as well.
In this podcast episode, I discuss 5 ways to cultivate being unbothered as well.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Create a plan to manage your stress, because life will
throw many twist turns at you and you will be
a little kimming your way through everything, trying to dodge
every little thing. What's happening here, Hi, angels, welcome back
(00:23):
to my channel.
Speaker 2 (00:24):
Welcome to my channel.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
We have gotten a couple more subscribers here. We are
very much in line with our next goal of two
hundred k.
Speaker 2 (00:36):
Guys.
Speaker 1 (00:37):
I know that we could do it because after one thirty,
it's like basically one fifty.
Speaker 2 (00:41):
YadA, YadA YadA.
Speaker 1 (00:42):
Thank you so much for taking time out of your
day to watch me today, to watch any of my
videos on any day. I love you, guys more than
you'll ever know. For those of you that don't know me, Hello,
my name is AISTERA Christina.
Speaker 2 (00:55):
Welcome to the A team, babe. Guys, this is Unbought
Part two.
Speaker 1 (01:01):
Unbothered Part one did beyond my expectations. I mean, wow,
I kind of had a twist to how I wanted
to discuss this.
Speaker 2 (01:11):
So this is the.
Speaker 1 (01:12):
Unbothered personal development approach. Five ways to be unbothered in
your everyday life.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
Because I know talk a lot about dating on here
and that will never change.
Speaker 1 (01:24):
But it's also important to know how to incorporate these
tips into.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
Your everyday life.
Speaker 1 (01:29):
So to begin with, there are many things in life
that we get all up in arms about. So I've
been thinking about unpacking what it takes to discover myself,
to help people discover theirselves and their purpose and things
of that nature, and also taking the time out to
prioritize the things that I am passionate about. And I
(01:51):
want to make note of the fact that when you
are in your passion and when you find your purpose,
you will find yourself to be unbothered in more ways
than none. So boom here we are going to discuss
how to cultivate being unbothered in your every day life.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
Determine what you can control.
Speaker 1 (02:14):
Take a minute to examine the things that you have
control over. There will be many situations, many things that
happen to you, just and unjust. Please believe me when
I tell you this process of self discovery is hard.
It's tedious for a reason. I say this a thousand times.
It's not easy, but you have to do it. You
(02:37):
cannot prevent a storm from coming, but you can prepare
for it. You can't control how someone else behaves, but
you can control how you react and recognize that sometimes
all you can control is your effort and your attitude.
So when you put your energy into things that you
can control, you will be more effective and proactive in
(02:59):
your life at being unbothered because think about a time
where you were busy. Someone may have called you with
some nonsense and you're just I don't have the bandwidth
nor the mental capacity to even tap in to what
it is that you're saying because I can't care. I
have a lot going on right now. I'm focused right now.
I don't want to I don't want to get into
(03:20):
the zone with that. Stop trying to fix people. Stop
trying to fix people. Please please take my advice on this.
There will be people that you love, the guys that
you want to be with, friends that you deeply care about.
You will see their issues, you will want to help
them because you are coming from a place of love.
(03:42):
We all, as human beings, want to see the people
that we care about that you know that we love,
do better, be better, be healthy. But we have to
have the understanding that everyone is on their own paths,
and it's difficult to really actually accept that all of
these things are easier said than done. Believe me when
I tell you, especially as it pertains to all of
(04:05):
our relationships, it's very difficult to not get so invested in.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
Someone else's issues.
Speaker 1 (04:13):
It's hard to unsubscribe to someone's issues when you care
about them, but you have your own stuff going on.
Think about this. I'm guaranteeing right now, if you're watching this,
it's for a reason. I'm guaranteeing that this is a
sign that you definitely need to see this. We need
to understand our influence. So yes, we can influence things
in a certain direction, in a certain way, but never
(04:37):
force things to go your way. Please believe me when
I tell you from experience, force tactics don't work. They
don't work on me, they don't work on you. Think
about a time where someone, a friend, a parent, anyone
has forced you to do something, whether that may be passive, aggressively,
(04:57):
or even you know, outright aggressively and coming. It doesn't
make you want to do it anymore, even if it's
something that you're supposed to be doing. Nobody likes forced tactics,
no one. And it's also equally as important to not
fix people that don't want to be fixed, because wahoho,
that is very huge. We get so sucked into other
(05:19):
people's problems and these people don't want help, they don't.
You could be absolutely one hundred percent right and someone
will still not see your perspective. That individual will still
have an opinion of you that is false and there's
nothing you can do to change it. And it's hurtful,
(05:43):
but it happens. So what be unbothered? I tried, I
gave it my all. I'm done, and be okay with that.
Part of growing into yourself, discovering yourself is having the
understanding that you may be right about something and it's
still not enough.
Speaker 2 (06:04):
You will really care.
Speaker 1 (06:05):
And put yourself out on a limb for someone and
it's still not enough. So all this give and give
and giving and investing that we're doing putting into other people,
and we're ignoring ourselves. We need to be unbothered in
our everyday lives by focusing on our purpose and our
passion and instantly dropping and aborting mission for whatever doesn't work,
(06:26):
and not trying to keep tapping in, continuously circling the
drain cause I get it. First time you learn it's
not enough. Second time you learn let's try it again.
Third time you learn. Okay, let's chill, let's rell it
in now six times to infinity and beyond. We have
to stop stop trying to fix people. This is major
(06:51):
in being unbothered in your everyday life. Let whoever do whatever,
Let people do what they want to do so you
could see what they would rap.
Speaker 2 (07:00):
You're not wrong for maybe.
Speaker 1 (07:02):
Wanting to share your perspective on something that somebody you
care about, maybe doing something that you don't approve of,
or maybe you want to help them. But also don't
demonize them for being differently or behaving differently than you do,
because we tend to do that too.
Speaker 2 (07:21):
Oh, I can't believe this person to do it.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
Even if the individual's wrong, let them be wrong. Let
life teach people. Life is the biggest teacher of all.
Speaker 2 (07:32):
Let life do it.
Speaker 1 (07:33):
If you know that you're right about something, whatever is
in the dark will come to the light. And people
that are victims, people that are extremely jaded, they always
always push away people that are more pure, and they
invite darkness into themselves. They invite chaos into themselves, and
(07:55):
they have an extreme cognitive dissonance from what it is
that the doing. They don't see it. They don't see
that they're repeating the pattern because what it does is
it enables them to continue to be jaded. And this
is why I act like this, and this is why
I believe this, and that they don't really want change,
because to cultivate change, you have to start at some
(08:17):
point with the clean slate.
Speaker 2 (08:19):
Stop trying to fix people.
Speaker 1 (08:21):
Identify your fears. What are you afraid of? What happens
if something doesn't go your way? Why are you so
emotionally invested in someone something to the point of it
controlling your every decision and taking up so much emotional
real estate. And again, I know that this is easier
(08:42):
said than done, but you have to stop. The only
way out is through almost all of the time. Identifying
these fears will allow you to strategize so that you
don't allow your emotions to control you and fold with
unfavorable outcomes. I mean to master this is something that I'm.
Speaker 2 (09:02):
Still working on.
Speaker 1 (09:04):
Being attached to nothing and connected to everything, Yes, attached
to nothing, connected to everything. Oh, that didn't really go
my way? Okay, that's fine, And at first you're not
really going to think of things that way. You're gonna
be like, no, that really bothered me.
Speaker 2 (09:24):
Is this and this and this. This is adulthood, baby,
this is growth. Honey.
Speaker 1 (09:28):
Do you want to be right or do you want
to be happy? It's up to you. Not everyone's going
to agree with your perspective. Not everyone's going to do
what you expect them to do. Everyone is in their
own head thinking of what they need to do for themselves.
And this is not to be pessimistic and say everyone
(09:49):
is selfish, but naturally people are more self serving because
we all are trying to do what's best for ourselves.
But of course there has to be a balance, and
all the things that we do, we shouldn't do everything
out of selfish gain. However, for the most part, fundamentally,
we are all trying to survive life, get through life,
(10:12):
and at best do it without.
Speaker 2 (10:15):
Hurting others, without stepping on other.
Speaker 1 (10:17):
People, without demonizing other people for not believing in what
we believe in, or doing things in the way that
we want, or not forgiving people because they didn't do
what we expected.
Speaker 2 (10:26):
Them to do.
Speaker 1 (10:28):
Because a lot of these things say way more about
us than it does of other people.
Speaker 2 (10:32):
People are going to disappoint you. It's life.
Speaker 1 (10:36):
You can't escape without these heartaches and heartbreaks. This is
where the character is built. This is where your self
esteem is built, because you need to be tried. You
need to be tested to see if you can endure.
This is how you become wise.
Speaker 2 (10:54):
What are you afraid of? Nobody likes rejection. Nobody. I
don't care who you are. Nobody likes rejection.
Speaker 1 (11:02):
No one wants to invest their time being friends with
someone and it doesn't work out. No One wants to
invest their time on a project and their manager doesn't
even give it the time of day. Nobody wants to
be in a relationship and figure out that this person
wasn't who they thought they were. Nobody wants to do that.
But all we can do is move forward and move on.
(11:25):
So ask yourself, what happens if this doesn't go my way?
How can I train my brain to genuinely be okay
with these unfavorable outcomes?
Speaker 2 (11:35):
If there are any?
Speaker 1 (11:36):
Create a plan to manage your stress, because life will
throw many twist turns at you and you will be
a little kimming your way through everything, trying to.
Speaker 2 (11:49):
Dodge every little thing. What's happening here?
Speaker 1 (11:52):
I'm scared exercising, eating healthy, getting plenty of sleep. These
are just a few easy, free things that you need
to do to take care of yourself. And I understand
we all channel our stress in different ways. For me,
exercise is a very emotional thing. I do enjoy exercising
and channeling my stress my frustrations in that way. Do
(12:14):
I do it one hundred percent of the time. No,
but I do resort to that most of the time.
Figure out how to manage your stress, because sometimes we
like to tap back on in to whatever is hurting us,
trying to analyze that when let's be honest here, we
have things that we need to work on for ourselves.
(12:35):
But it's all too easy and much more satisfying to
our ego to figure out, well, why did she say
that at the board meeting? I don't even understand what
she meant by that, And well I don't understand why
he's not texting me back, but he watched my story.
Speaker 2 (12:49):
Like all these things that don't what about you? What
about you?
Speaker 1 (12:53):
I think it's important to find healthy stress relievers like meditation,
learning a new hobby, or even spending time with your family,
your friends, and you have to make the time to
manage your stress so that you can operate more efficiently.
You have to because you never know when it's going
to happen. You never always know how it's going to happen,
but it will happen. Pay attention to your stress level,
(13:15):
and notice how you cope with distress. Do you resort
to overeating? Do you shut down? That's my method. I
tend to shut down, and I believe that's because I
in a happy state. I am so you know, extroverted
and you know, outgoing and things of that nature. So
(13:36):
when I am going through stress, I tend to shut
everything down and I just need.
Speaker 2 (13:42):
The solitude to myself.
Speaker 1 (13:43):
And you have to identify this so that you can
eliminate the unhealthy coping mechanisms like complaining or drinking too much.
What is your vice? Because you can't change it if
you don't address it. And a lot of the times
you're going to realize in this journey of self discovery
being a quality queen, being refined, that some people live
(14:08):
their lives permanently numbing themselves.
Speaker 2 (14:11):
They never tap in.
Speaker 1 (14:13):
And that just shows how deep their pain really is.
Speaker 2 (14:17):
Because I am.
Speaker 1 (14:19):
Such a reflective person and I love people and I'm
always trying to understand people and what makes them how
they are. I look at situations so much more different now.
I don't jump to anger initially because I'm able to
identify where this person is coming from, to the best
(14:39):
of my ability, on why they did what they did,
why they reacted the way that they did, why they
perceived a certain situation the way that they did, why
we are miscommunicating the way that we are. And you
start to separate that from what's actually being done, and
you start to almost I don't want to stay pity,
but you start to have more empathy for the individual
(15:02):
that created the offense. Figure out where you are giving
your energy. Where are you giving your energy that could
be placed elsewhere. So if you are someone that is
easily angered and annoyed.
Speaker 2 (15:16):
That usually stems from a deeper.
Speaker 1 (15:18):
Issue, and you will start to hate yourself and resent yourself,
and overall this is going to affect and be reflected
in all of your dynamics.
Speaker 2 (15:29):
It's so simple to go where you're.
Speaker 1 (15:31):
Celebrated and do things that you genuinely love to do.
But because life is full of twists and turns, what
is your reaction going to be like when you have
to do something that you don't want to do in
service of the bigger picture. All of these things matter
in how you become unbothered in your daily life because
(15:53):
to me, a lot of this stems from lack of
passion and purpose. When I think about where I am
specifically right now, certain things that I may have gone
through that may be similar to things that I've gone
through previously, my reaction is much different, and I'm able
to identify that because of the fact that.
Speaker 2 (16:15):
I have grown. So the same thing goes for you.
Speaker 1 (16:20):
If you were tested with the same situation, how are
you going to react differently?
Speaker 2 (16:24):
Where are you going to choose to expend your energy? Okay,
before you know.
Speaker 1 (16:30):
Let's say you spent all day stalking you know this
guy's ig, trying to figure out where he is, what
he's doing, what he's doing. All right, maybe you spend
half a day doing it. Okay, this is progress, this
is growth. You know something like that. Figure out where
you are expending your energy, because I can guarantee you
you were doing this as a coping mechanism and you
(16:50):
should be doing something else. Life goes on, no more
wasting it on people who don't want to be in
our lives. People that are determined to demonize us, people
that have fixed opinions on us, and we want to
change it, but we can't. Who cares? I don't care.
I don't care more than I'm cared for. I don't
care what this individual's opinion of me is. I know
(17:12):
who I am, I know what it is that I
would and wouldn't do. I know, my friends know people
that actually matter, They know, and that's on that. So
you always want to operate from a place of understanding
and tap into your passion and your purpose in order
to be unbothered in your everyday life.
Speaker 2 (17:35):
So, Angels, that is the end of this video. I
hope that you guys have enjoyed it.
Speaker 1 (17:40):
Let me know what other suggestions you guys have in
the comment section below. Again, thank you guys so much
for all my new subscribers. We are on the road
to two hundred k. With that being said, do not
forget that I love you and God loves you, and
I'll see angels and my next day. Ye No,
Create a plan to manage your stress, because life will
throw many twist turns at you and you will be
a little kimming your way through everything, trying to dodge
every little thing. What's happening here, Hi, angels, welcome back
(00:23):
to my channel.
Speaker 2 (00:24):
Welcome to my channel.
Speaker 1 (00:26):
We have gotten a couple more subscribers here. We are
very much in line with our next goal of two
hundred k.
Speaker 2 (00:36):
Guys.
Speaker 1 (00:37):
I know that we could do it because after one thirty,
it's like basically one fifty.
Speaker 2 (00:41):
YadA, YadA YadA.
Speaker 1 (00:42):
Thank you so much for taking time out of your
day to watch me today, to watch any of my
videos on any day. I love you, guys more than
you'll ever know. For those of you that don't know me, Hello,
my name is AISTERA Christina.
Speaker 2 (00:55):
Welcome to the A team, babe. Guys, this is Unbought
Part two.
Speaker 1 (01:01):
Unbothered Part one did beyond my expectations. I mean, wow,
I kind of had a twist to how I wanted
to discuss this.
Speaker 2 (01:11):
So this is the.
Speaker 1 (01:12):
Unbothered personal development approach. Five ways to be unbothered in
your everyday life.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
Because I know talk a lot about dating on here
and that will never change.
Speaker 1 (01:24):
But it's also important to know how to incorporate these
tips into.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
Your everyday life.
Speaker 1 (01:29):
So to begin with, there are many things in life
that we get all up in arms about. So I've
been thinking about unpacking what it takes to discover myself,
to help people discover theirselves and their purpose and things
of that nature, and also taking the time out to
prioritize the things that I am passionate about. And I
(01:51):
want to make note of the fact that when you
are in your passion and when you find your purpose,
you will find yourself to be unbothered in more ways
than none. So boom here we are going to discuss
how to cultivate being unbothered in your every day life.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
Determine what you can control.
Speaker 1 (02:14):
Take a minute to examine the things that you have
control over. There will be many situations, many things that
happen to you, just and unjust. Please believe me when
I tell you this process of self discovery is hard.
It's tedious for a reason. I say this a thousand times.
It's not easy, but you have to do it. You
(02:37):
cannot prevent a storm from coming, but you can prepare
for it. You can't control how someone else behaves, but
you can control how you react and recognize that sometimes
all you can control is your effort and your attitude.
So when you put your energy into things that you
can control, you will be more effective and proactive in
(02:59):
your life at being unbothered because think about a time
where you were busy. Someone may have called you with
some nonsense and you're just I don't have the bandwidth
nor the mental capacity to even tap in to what
it is that you're saying because I can't care. I
have a lot going on right now. I'm focused right now.
I don't want to I don't want to get into
(03:20):
the zone with that. Stop trying to fix people. Stop
trying to fix people. Please please take my advice on this.
There will be people that you love, the guys that
you want to be with, friends that you deeply care about.
You will see their issues, you will want to help
them because you are coming from a place of love.
(03:42):
We all, as human beings, want to see the people
that we care about that you know that we love,
do better, be better, be healthy. But we have to
have the understanding that everyone is on their own paths,
and it's difficult to really actually accept that all of
these things are easier said than done. Believe me when
I tell you, especially as it pertains to all of
(04:05):
our relationships, it's very difficult to not get so invested in.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
Someone else's issues.
Speaker 1 (04:13):
It's hard to unsubscribe to someone's issues when you care
about them, but you have your own stuff going on.
Think about this. I'm guaranteeing right now, if you're watching this,
it's for a reason. I'm guaranteeing that this is a
sign that you definitely need to see this. We need
to understand our influence. So yes, we can influence things
in a certain direction, in a certain way, but never
(04:37):
force things to go your way. Please believe me when
I tell you from experience, force tactics don't work. They
don't work on me, they don't work on you. Think
about a time where someone, a friend, a parent, anyone
has forced you to do something, whether that may be passive, aggressively,
(04:57):
or even you know, outright aggressively and coming. It doesn't
make you want to do it anymore, even if it's
something that you're supposed to be doing. Nobody likes forced tactics,
no one. And it's also equally as important to not
fix people that don't want to be fixed, because wahoho,
that is very huge. We get so sucked into other
(05:19):
people's problems and these people don't want help, they don't.
You could be absolutely one hundred percent right and someone
will still not see your perspective. That individual will still
have an opinion of you that is false and there's
nothing you can do to change it. And it's hurtful,
(05:43):
but it happens. So what be unbothered? I tried, I
gave it my all. I'm done, and be okay with that.
Part of growing into yourself, discovering yourself is having the
understanding that you may be right about something and it's
still not enough.
Speaker 2 (06:04):
You will really care.
Speaker 1 (06:05):
And put yourself out on a limb for someone and
it's still not enough. So all this give and give
and giving and investing that we're doing putting into other people,
and we're ignoring ourselves. We need to be unbothered in
our everyday lives by focusing on our purpose and our
passion and instantly dropping and aborting mission for whatever doesn't work,
(06:26):
and not trying to keep tapping in, continuously circling the
drain cause I get it. First time you learn it's
not enough. Second time you learn let's try it again.
Third time you learn. Okay, let's chill, let's rell it
in now six times to infinity and beyond. We have
to stop stop trying to fix people. This is major
(06:51):
in being unbothered in your everyday life. Let whoever do whatever,
Let people do what they want to do so you
could see what they would rap.
Speaker 2 (07:00):
You're not wrong for maybe.
Speaker 1 (07:02):
Wanting to share your perspective on something that somebody you
care about, maybe doing something that you don't approve of,
or maybe you want to help them. But also don't
demonize them for being differently or behaving differently than you do,
because we tend to do that too.
Speaker 2 (07:21):
Oh, I can't believe this person to do it.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
Even if the individual's wrong, let them be wrong. Let
life teach people. Life is the biggest teacher of all.
Speaker 2 (07:32):
Let life do it.
Speaker 1 (07:33):
If you know that you're right about something, whatever is
in the dark will come to the light. And people
that are victims, people that are extremely jaded, they always
always push away people that are more pure, and they
invite darkness into themselves. They invite chaos into themselves, and
(07:55):
they have an extreme cognitive dissonance from what it is
that the doing. They don't see it. They don't see
that they're repeating the pattern because what it does is
it enables them to continue to be jaded. And this
is why I act like this, and this is why
I believe this, and that they don't really want change,
because to cultivate change, you have to start at some
(08:17):
point with the clean slate.
Speaker 2 (08:19):
Stop trying to fix people.
Speaker 1 (08:21):
Identify your fears. What are you afraid of? What happens
if something doesn't go your way? Why are you so
emotionally invested in someone something to the point of it
controlling your every decision and taking up so much emotional
real estate. And again, I know that this is easier
(08:42):
said than done, but you have to stop. The only
way out is through almost all of the time. Identifying
these fears will allow you to strategize so that you
don't allow your emotions to control you and fold with
unfavorable outcomes. I mean to master this is something that I'm.
Speaker 2 (09:02):
Still working on.
Speaker 1 (09:04):
Being attached to nothing and connected to everything, Yes, attached
to nothing, connected to everything. Oh, that didn't really go
my way? Okay, that's fine, And at first you're not
really going to think of things that way. You're gonna
be like, no, that really bothered me.
Speaker 2 (09:24):
Is this and this and this. This is adulthood, baby,
this is growth. Honey.
Speaker 1 (09:28):
Do you want to be right or do you want
to be happy? It's up to you. Not everyone's going
to agree with your perspective. Not everyone's going to do
what you expect them to do. Everyone is in their
own head thinking of what they need to do for themselves.
And this is not to be pessimistic and say everyone
(09:49):
is selfish, but naturally people are more self serving because
we all are trying to do what's best for ourselves.
But of course there has to be a balance, and
all the things that we do, we shouldn't do everything
out of selfish gain. However, for the most part, fundamentally,
we are all trying to survive life, get through life,
(10:12):
and at best do it without.
Speaker 2 (10:15):
Hurting others, without stepping on other.
Speaker 1 (10:17):
People, without demonizing other people for not believing in what
we believe in, or doing things in the way that
we want, or not forgiving people because they didn't do
what we expected.
Speaker 2 (10:26):
Them to do.
Speaker 1 (10:28):
Because a lot of these things say way more about
us than it does of other people.
Speaker 2 (10:32):
People are going to disappoint you. It's life.
Speaker 1 (10:36):
You can't escape without these heartaches and heartbreaks. This is
where the character is built. This is where your self
esteem is built, because you need to be tried. You
need to be tested to see if you can endure.
This is how you become wise.
Speaker 2 (10:54):
What are you afraid of? Nobody likes rejection. Nobody. I
don't care who you are. Nobody likes rejection.
Speaker 1 (11:02):
No one wants to invest their time being friends with
someone and it doesn't work out. No One wants to
invest their time on a project and their manager doesn't
even give it the time of day. Nobody wants to
be in a relationship and figure out that this person
wasn't who they thought they were. Nobody wants to do that.
But all we can do is move forward and move on.
(11:25):
So ask yourself, what happens if this doesn't go my way?
How can I train my brain to genuinely be okay
with these unfavorable outcomes?
Speaker 2 (11:35):
If there are any?
Speaker 1 (11:36):
Create a plan to manage your stress, because life will
throw many twist turns at you and you will be
a little kimming your way through everything, trying to.
Speaker 2 (11:49):
Dodge every little thing. What's happening here?
Speaker 1 (11:52):
I'm scared exercising, eating healthy, getting plenty of sleep. These
are just a few easy, free things that you need
to do to take care of yourself. And I understand
we all channel our stress in different ways. For me,
exercise is a very emotional thing. I do enjoy exercising
and channeling my stress my frustrations in that way. Do
(12:14):
I do it one hundred percent of the time. No,
but I do resort to that most of the time.
Figure out how to manage your stress, because sometimes we
like to tap back on in to whatever is hurting us,
trying to analyze that when let's be honest here, we
have things that we need to work on for ourselves.
(12:35):
But it's all too easy and much more satisfying to
our ego to figure out, well, why did she say
that at the board meeting? I don't even understand what
she meant by that, And well I don't understand why
he's not texting me back, but he watched my story.
Speaker 2 (12:49):
Like all these things that don't what about you? What
about you?
Speaker 1 (12:53):
I think it's important to find healthy stress relievers like meditation,
learning a new hobby, or even spending time with your family,
your friends, and you have to make the time to
manage your stress so that you can operate more efficiently.
You have to because you never know when it's going
to happen. You never always know how it's going to happen,
but it will happen. Pay attention to your stress level,
(13:15):
and notice how you cope with distress. Do you resort
to overeating? Do you shut down? That's my method. I
tend to shut down, and I believe that's because I
in a happy state. I am so you know, extroverted
and you know, outgoing and things of that nature. So
(13:36):
when I am going through stress, I tend to shut
everything down and I just need.
Speaker 2 (13:42):
The solitude to myself.
Speaker 1 (13:43):
And you have to identify this so that you can
eliminate the unhealthy coping mechanisms like complaining or drinking too much.
What is your vice? Because you can't change it if
you don't address it. And a lot of the times
you're going to realize in this journey of self discovery
being a quality queen, being refined, that some people live
(14:08):
their lives permanently numbing themselves.
Speaker 2 (14:11):
They never tap in.
Speaker 1 (14:13):
And that just shows how deep their pain really is.
Speaker 2 (14:17):
Because I am.
Speaker 1 (14:19):
Such a reflective person and I love people and I'm
always trying to understand people and what makes them how
they are. I look at situations so much more different now.
I don't jump to anger initially because I'm able to
identify where this person is coming from, to the best
(14:39):
of my ability, on why they did what they did,
why they reacted the way that they did, why they
perceived a certain situation the way that they did, why
we are miscommunicating the way that we are. And you
start to separate that from what's actually being done, and
you start to almost I don't want to stay pity,
but you start to have more empathy for the individual
(15:02):
that created the offense. Figure out where you are giving
your energy. Where are you giving your energy that could
be placed elsewhere. So if you are someone that is
easily angered and annoyed.
Speaker 2 (15:16):
That usually stems from a deeper.
Speaker 1 (15:18):
Issue, and you will start to hate yourself and resent yourself,
and overall this is going to affect and be reflected
in all of your dynamics.
Speaker 2 (15:29):
It's so simple to go where you're.
Speaker 1 (15:31):
Celebrated and do things that you genuinely love to do.
But because life is full of twists and turns, what
is your reaction going to be like when you have
to do something that you don't want to do in
service of the bigger picture. All of these things matter
in how you become unbothered in your daily life because
(15:53):
to me, a lot of this stems from lack of
passion and purpose. When I think about where I am
specifically right now, certain things that I may have gone
through that may be similar to things that I've gone
through previously, my reaction is much different, and I'm able
to identify that because of the fact that.
Speaker 2 (16:15):
I have grown. So the same thing goes for you.
Speaker 1 (16:20):
If you were tested with the same situation, how are
you going to react differently?
Speaker 2 (16:24):
Where are you going to choose to expend your energy? Okay,
before you know.
Speaker 1 (16:30):
Let's say you spent all day stalking you know this
guy's ig, trying to figure out where he is, what
he's doing, what he's doing. All right, maybe you spend
half a day doing it. Okay, this is progress, this
is growth. You know something like that. Figure out where
you are expending your energy, because I can guarantee you
you were doing this as a coping mechanism and you
(16:50):
should be doing something else. Life goes on, no more
wasting it on people who don't want to be in
our lives. People that are determined to demonize us, people
that have fixed opinions on us, and we want to
change it, but we can't. Who cares? I don't care.
I don't care more than I'm cared for. I don't
care what this individual's opinion of me is. I know
(17:12):
who I am, I know what it is that I
would and wouldn't do. I know, my friends know people
that actually matter, They know, and that's on that. So
you always want to operate from a place of understanding
and tap into your passion and your purpose in order
to be unbothered in your everyday life.
Speaker 2 (17:35):
So, Angels, that is the end of this video. I
hope that you guys have enjoyed it.
Speaker 1 (17:40):
Let me know what other suggestions you guys have in
the comment section below. Again, thank you guys so much
for all my new subscribers. We are on the road
to two hundred k. With that being said, do not
forget that I love you and God loves you, and
I'll see angels and my next day. Ye No,
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